this video was so hard to film but I literally felt 100x better after. I’m someone who is very much an open book, so just being able to have this stripped down and honest conversation with you guys really helped me, and I hope it can help you understand me a little bit more too.
My body has changed so so much after battling breast cancer last year. I'm now 25+ pounds over weight watching your channels has really been very helpful and meaningful to me. Love you girl. 💜💜💜
Hannah McCormick I just said this to myself while watching this video. I was saying to my phone “Sierra you don’t owe nobody an explanation on what’s going on with your body” Sierra is amazing and I love watching her and skylar
I agree with Hannah. You might be an amazing youtuber but honey you don't owe the internet an explanation. Love watching your videos no matter your size so keep being your awesome self Sierra!!
@@cryssie25977 u sure that's u... I mean all babies look a like.. so far all we know is that ur mom did in fact have a baby... but that baby could be any baby... ijs...
Yes you are so right! when my dad died I lost a lot of weight and people legit were like, I'm sorry for your loss but you look amazing! I was like that's fucking cold.
Maryanne that’s pretty deep and reminds me of a time in my life when I was doing drugs daily and it was literally the worst time of my life....everybody couldn’t stop telling me how amazing I looked because I became underweight which confused the shit out of my mental health at the time
Maryanne I had the exact opposite in my life when my dad was diagnosed and ultimately passed from cancer. I gained 75lbs over 5yrs and it took a toll on my life. I have taken measures to lose the weight that worked for me, but I still have a mental connection to cope with food when I am sad. It is going to be a life long battle. Like any illness it is a journey not a one time battle.
I feel this. I was severely depressed and stopped eating properly. I lost a lot of weight n dropped to a size 4/6. I got those compliments too. It's like I have no emotions those comments r unnecessary.
My wife was diagnosed with this and assumed she would never be pregnant. We conceived after the first couple months of marriage. It can be done. Hang in there.
I got diagnosed like 3 or so years ago and not sure if I’ll be able to have kids or not. I always tell myself even if I never end up conceiving or get in a relationship that I’ll adopt a child or two one day
@Elizabeth Knutson: I feel very compelled to respond to this. I went through a similar experience earlier this year when I received a new diagnosis of a chronic illness and dropped 40+ lbs. I had to take time off work and when I returned, all people could talk about was “how good I looked”. It is awful and a very invalidating experience and doesn’t speak to how you’ve struggled and are currently struggling. Just letting you know you are seen and you are not alone 💕
I lose (a lot) weight when I go into a depression. Every.single.time. I get the "omg what are you doing you look great" comments.. I'm just like hey thanks I'm living on the creamer in my coffee but thanks.. people don't get how many ways commenting on someone's weight is effed up
Right? When I'm the thinnest I am the most unhealthy. But I "look" the right size so no one sees the pain and suffering. Dont with all that. Happy and healthy at size 12 :)
That happened to me too. I had always been a little chubby and when I started losing weight because of depression and mostly anxiety I got so many comments and compliments for being skinny that I started hating my body on top of everything. Now my self worth is strongly tied to my weight and I hate that. Not a single person asked whether I was okay or not. Everyone applauded. That can be so dangerous.
@@briannahatcher9422 It's very kind of you to ask. I'm struggling with a lot of things right now and it's hard but I know I can do this. I really hope you are alright and doing okay :) I know we can all get through this!
Wow I love this. It perfectly shows how horrible our society is. “Oh meth? Whatever you look good because you’re skinny so it’s cool!” So sad, people should be so happy you’re healthy now. Even if you’re not a twig
I'm three times your age and never loved myself or my body until I started watching young people like you. Thank you for being so open and honest about your "self love" journey. Thank you for pointing out to people who don't have issues that their judgments are unjustified. Just thank you, for being you. I appreciate you and what you have brought to my consciousness.
Same! I've been to the fertility specialists and doctors and every other kind of specialist you can imagine. The best answer I received was "We're not sure what is causing you infertility. It could be weight related, we're not sure. All we know is your eggs will not grow or release on their own". I was given that response nearly 7 years ago. It sucks and it hurts more than anything in this world! But I refuse to give up!
Same thing with my mom, they told her she could never have kids and now she has 5, ages ranging from 10-24. I’ll second to never give up on what you want ❤️❤️
Yeah my great grandma was told after she had her first child, that if she ever had another kid she would die, 10 years later my grandma was born and her mother didn't die until my grandma had kids of her own :)
Have faith ya but dont have blind faith. Its important to be realistic. I have pcos and was told at 19 I'd probably never have kids. We have been trying for over 4 years. Everyone tells me to keep the faith, keep trying etc etc etc. But there comes a time when you have to be realistic with yourself. A good percentage of women who have infertility, never go on to have children. It's a very real possibility for a lot of us. I know you were just trying to be helpful. But comments like this give a lot of women false hope. I surely hope it does happen for everyone who wants it but the truth is, it often doesnt.
@@angieeemmmarie I'm sorry for you. I'm on board with the hopeful comments because Sierra just got diagnosed. She didn't get any fertility treatments yet. I think right now she should educate herself and do everything she can to better her chances. But of course after several years it's probably best to look into other options to start a family.
Me and my husband just really started. Its really upsetting trying so hard when women and teens out there get pregnant with no issues. It seems like why us.
I HATE HATE when people bring up "what if they have a medical condition" and when you said "what if they don't!?" Yes girl yesss 🙌🏻 nobody has the right to an explanation as to WHY someone has gained/lost weight. Ridiculous! You're so awesome!
I was once obese... and a vegetarian. I remember visiting a friend when her dad said to me “I thought vegetarians were supposed to be skinny?” I didn’t even know what to say. People just suck.
I’m a vegetarian and I HATE when people say that. Vegetarian just means you don’t eat meat, it doesn’t mean you’re automatically healthy. Hell, you can even be vegan, and just eat Oreos and fries all day. How thin do you think THAT vegan would be?
@@akilahposh I'm vegan and get comments like that often 🤷♂️ 'ypu don't look like you're vegan' 😒 I guess I need to pose another 20kg, wear tie dye and dread my hair or something....
Sunny ❤️ I have PCOS as well. And this gives me hope. Doctors mostly don’t know much about pcos Bc it’s a hormonal disorder. People who think it’s an excuse to be lazy are severely ignorant even people who claim their version of pcos is the only type. There are at least 5 types of pcos. I’m proud of Sierra for being so open!
My sister has pcos, and her and her husband tried for so long to conceive. Now she is a mother of a beautiful four month old boy. Stay strong Sierra. We are here for you.
I really love this video being a girl who has PCOS. No one online really talks about the struggle that comes with it and I would love if you would continue to share your story struggling to conceive because it will really help out the community of girls who really struggle with this as well. Thank you for being so real and honest
I was also diagnosed at 16 with PCOS. I'm almost 30 now and am so grateful it was diagnosed when I was young. It's much easier to start treating the symptoms in your teens to minimize the physical effects of the disorder. At this point in my life, I barely think about the fact that I have PCOS. It definitely does not have to run your life :)
I almost started crying when you said "how can I love my body when my body is stopping me from being a Mom?" so raw and real. I can only imagine how that feels. I usually don't comment on videos, but I watch yours every week and you've always inspired me to love myself and my body. Thinking of you and praying for you - you've got this girl
Yeah I teared up as well. Like I'm 20 and I don't see myself having children at all but your body not allowing you to do stuff must be incredibly frustrating and difficult and I really feel for her.
I got crohns and lost 30% of my body weight. Everyone asked what my secret was and they said I was looking good and healthier. I had a disease the entire time and even after I said it was Crohns disease, a lot of women said "man maybe I should get that". It's disturbing
I used to be quite obese, then was diagnosed with thyroid cancer, and after the throidectomy lost a few Kg quite quickly (still obese, but it brought me under 40BMI). I then that RIA, where you’re made radioactive, fundamentally). I did get some comments from acquaintances... saying “the cancer diet” brought on reactions that I found very amusing.
"I don't like how my body functions". Honestly made my tear up because the past few years my body feels like it's turned against me. Thank you for addressing that aspect of self love
I thought I couldn’t get pregnant because I had severe pcos where I actually have gone a year or more without a period. My oopsie son determined that was false lol although having another one may or may not be as easy
When I suffered from depression, I lost 30+ lbs (never been overweighted so it was a huge amount of weight for me). I looked super skinny. People around me were saying "oh my God, You look so sexy now!" or "You look bomb girl!". They didn't notice what I was struggling with. All that mattered was how "fit I looked". I honestly hated when people where pointing that out. Because the reason of my "phenomenal" weightloss was a serious illness that was literally killing me from the inside. Now I gained all the weight back, and I've never been happier- because I got better! For me one of the first signs of getting better was regaining my appetite and ability to eat anything. Such a great feeling to be alive and take care of myself. I might be a bit chubby, but I'm alive. I'm human being. I love myself. I adore my life. I care for myself. Please, never let yourself become a number on a scale. It doesn't define You as a human being. And never will
I don't think all that mattered was "how fit you are", they were just trying to compliment you. I hope you're still doing better but there is nothing wrong with being skinny or curvy.
Depression is a very serious thing and I honestly wish people talked about it more. It really does affect the way people see themselves and sometimes, it goes unnoticed. However, it is nice to hear when someone is doing well after pressing though that dark time.
I have PCOS, at 38, after giving up on ever having my own, found out at Christmas that I was 11 weeks pregnant!! It will happen. NOW the real part of this...you handled this a lot better than I would have. It is absolutely NONE of anyone's business about your body. Your entire premise to your media is trying on and informing us of products!! You're full of courage, my dear. Bless you!
Oh Sierra... when you said “I don’t know why I’m getting upset” I just about lost it myself. It’s OKAY to be upset about this and I don’t think it’s fair to yourself to feel like you have to be strong 24/7. So many women suffer from PCOS (as you said) and many women still conceive. God has got this in His hands and in His timing, your body will be ready. As somebody who’s suffered from cysts and struggle with weigh loss, THANK YOU for speaking out about your story and your journey. ❤️
I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was 18 years old. My doctor always said that I'd need treatment to get pregnant. I got pregnant with no treatment at all when I was 25. My son is 20 now, and I have another boy, 16 and a girl 13.
I have a similar story. Married at 26 got pregnant at 37. Had treatments somewhere in the middle that did not work. There is always hope. To get pregnant. My son is now 23. Sierra you are so inspiring. I needed your spirit 40 years ago.
Feel free to ignore my question, but how did you get diagnosed at 18? I basically got shoved from one BC to another from age 12 to about 23 (~ 2 years ago) because of some SERIOUS problems with my menstrual cycle and only now is my current OB/GYN willing to even address the potential of PCOS or something else and even then, she's told me I'd have to go off the BC that is basically the only reason I can function to even find out....
@@Trish0978 hi! when i was diagnosed last year my doctor asked for a transvaginal ultrasound scan and found the cysts.. I had done a regular abdominal ultrasound scan before but turns out my cysts were very small so they weren't able to see it (??) I think this is the only way to actually confirm you have PCOS. other than that, i had some "symptoms" that made my doctor suspicious, like extremely irregular menstrual cycle (I'd only get my period 3~4 times a year), terrible cramps, hormonal acne, hair loss, weight gain, etc.
@@TaRa0350 She mentioned it's a treatment for PCOS, but said I'd have to go off it in order to be tested for PCOS. Given my period problems and the fact that I was already on the prescribed correct medication for PCOS if I have it, she thought it wouldn't be worth it unless I was interested in having kids. I was tested when I was a teen for hormonal imbalances, among other potential concerns (before I was put on Nexplanon -- nothing since then), but I agree I probably need to see an endocrinologist. Especially since I have concerning issues with weight/weight loss (I only lose weight at a slow rate and it only happens if I'm effectively over exercising/at a net caloric intake of ~700-900 Cal/day regardless of diet). Unfortunately, given the pandemic, I'm not comfortable setting up an appointment at this time
As I'm only 15 I don't really understand your difficulties with PCOS/wanting to be a mom. But as a girl who was adopted and is much better off for it it made me really happy to hear that you immediately mentioned adoption and even if you want to have a kid biologically didn't talk about it as a lesser option. Good luck💜
Labinzel 3712 This made me very happy too. I was also adopted into an amazing family a couple years ago with my brother and I am always happy to know that someone would choose to adopt because it has helped so many children in the world.
Labinzel. I'm so happy you have had a good adoption experience! It's not always rainbows and butterflies for all of us adoptees though. I actually cringed when she mentioned adoption because, well it fucked me up....funny how it can be two ends of the spectrum eh? It just has to be handled properly and openly I think. But I do agree with you too and like how she didn't mention it as a lesser option. That one always hurts.
@@lindzriddb I'm so sorry that you didn't have an experience like mine and I strongly agree that there are things about the system that need to be changed. I hope that eventually you are able to fully heal from whatever you experienced.
Yes!! “Healthy” doesn’t have one look. One of my best friends has PCOS. The girl works out 5 times a week, tracks here calories, and eats way better than I do. She’s about a size 14/16. I, on the other hand, am a size 4/6, and I’ll be the first to admit I do not treat my body well. But has anyone ever made negative comments about my “health”? No. Because I’m skinny.
Lydia Fr! I rarely workout and have a super fast metabolism and can’t gain weight for the life of me but it’s not like ppl point out my unhealthy eating because they think it’s good for me
healthy has a general look. fit and toned. for example: a women who weighs 230 and is 5’ 4” is not healthy. that is not the optimal weight for their body to function at unless that extra weight is muscle.
Wow that's so sad and I feel bad for your friend if people are saying this stuff to her. Not trying to hate on you at all I just feel bad that our generation has become so twisted
It hurts when my friends constantly are eating candy and never have thought about losing weight before cause they have such high metabolisms and I'm just here walking all the way to the larges and xlarges cause i have trouble losing weight
"It's hard to love my body when my body is the one thing that's keeping me from [goal]." Couldn't have put it more succinctly myself. I'm a chronic illness sufferer and my life is plagued with things my body simply won't do anymore. Sometimes I'm in so much pain a hug feels more like a gunshot. Currently, it is too painful to clap, applaud, it hurts too much. At a family birthday party I was unable to cheer "Happy Birthday" with my three year old niece due to the pain. As a plus-sized woman myself, I have felt this "congratulatory confusion" recently over a massive weight loss of nearly 70 pounds. A weight loss I did nothing for as I have been mostly confined to my home and bed, save for maybe one day a month to leave and buy groceries. Everyone was complimenting me, congratulating me, cheering me on, so to speak. But I didn't "try" for this weight loss and I didn't ask for it; it's happening *to me* because I'm sick. Basically, at times, it feels as though people are cheering for my illness because it makes my body size more socially acceptable. And that's painful. Thank you so much for your willingness to openly share your journey and experiences, for giving the rest of us a feeling of community, and a platform from which to begin a dialogue about how truly painful an issue something as personal as weight can be. Love and Hugs.
adelaamarante This is literally my life. I feel for you. After a car accident, I now suffer from multiple chronic conditions, including CRPS, gastroparesis, autonomic neuropathy, POTS, and SVT to start. I also ended up with Lyme disease. So many things are entirely out of my control now. And that can be absolutely maddening on its own; forget about when people who know nothing of your situation pile on. But what I love about this community here is that we get to meet so many amazing people to share and bond with. And to learn from! The wealth of naturopathic and homeopathic information that I’ve gathered after having other folks make reading suggestions and topical suggestions to me concerning shared health conditions has really changed my life. I truly wish nothing but love and healing for you, and if you ever need an ear, well.... you know what comment section to find me in!! Lolol Much love and light, 💖🌈✨😘
adelaamarante I just commented something similar about my chronic illness affecting my relationship with my body. I hope you can find some relief soon. Chronic illness sucks!
Also a lot of people brush their teeth and still get cavities, while others don’t brush/ floss nearly as much but don’t have any dental issues. Same with health, some people exercise every day and eat very healthy but still gain weight. Others don’t eat healthy and don’t exercise but are “skinny” so never judge ❤️ sometimes it’s genetics too and unfortunately people don’t understand that 😢
Jen Ross so so true!! this is such a frustrating concept the people cannot seem to wrap around their head! it is so hurtful whenever people assume i feed my body crap. i fuel my body. i eat well. and obviously sometimes i might have an unhealthy treat every once in a while. but i am overweight and most people make arrogant assumptions and it is a struggle. so thank you so much for pointing this out and understanding some people pain
Delaney Niswonger that’s terrible that people think that! Personally I am a pretty skinny girl and I am quite active as well. However, I don’t ALWAYS eat the best. I know people who eat a pop tart and just automatically gain weight and get shamed. It hurts my heart bc everyone is different.
Congratulations!!!!!!! If you don’t mind me asking. What medication did they give you. I was diagnosed 10 years ago with pcos for 10 years and all they gave me was birth control which I do not like taking.
I definitely saw a reduction in my PCOS symptoms when I went low carb (keto specifically). The acne that flared up when I went off birth control cleared right up after cutting out the sugar. It was amazing. Our PCOS/Keto baby is a month away from arriving and I have little doubt that the low carb played a part. I went off the low carb after conceiving but I'll be back on it a few months after baby arrives. I have a long way to go on my weight loss and I felt so much better while on It.
Tessa Red Swolenormous has been making videos about Sierra targeting her weight gain and using it as proof that she is manipulating her audience to promote “obesity”
Right?? Like I just read that somebody is actually making videos about Sierra and that she is intentionally doings this in your comments and that makes me so angry! Good grief who do you think you are??
my older sister went through the same thing, they were telling her wouldn’t be able to conceive. She’s about to have baby #2 in like a month haha. I trust the universe to help you with your struggle girl
I understand what you mean I’m a size 14 and I’m starting to go to the gym and I hate telling people I’m going to the gym because if I don’t loose weight... they’ll be like, “you go to the gym and don’t loose weight... and just make me feel bad about it
Personally I found that when I was losing weight it was really important to not tell most people when I started, I only really told my mom and my sister. I found that it was more effective to tell a few very close people that could be supportive and keep you accountable rather than tell a lot of people because it can create a lot of pressure. I recommend that you find some youtube channels focused on fitness like Every Damn Day Fitness, My Thoughts will Probably Offend You, or Swolnormous, basically any channel that you can watch in order to keep motivated. Also you can find beginner's yoga 20 min videos if you want a recovery from the gym but still want a light exercise. Best of Luck!!!
I've been working on losing weight after gaining 60 pounds over the past 6 years. The only person that knows is my boyfriend. But I don't like hearing my mom tell me I'm losing weight because she keeps tabs on my weight. I just wish it didn't matter so much. I don't want any of the comments even if they're positive
Cynthia A Yes 👏 ugh why do people think they’re giving you a gift by telling you how great they think you look after losing weight? It’s almost like they have stars in their eyes 🤩, too. Some people don’t even know how to contain their legit joy at seeing you trim down. It’s too much. We don’t need to know how excited you are about our bodies. It shouldn’t matter this much to you. It’s uncomfortable all the time and almost hurtful sometimes.
My ex-boyfriend's sister has been wanting a child since her diagnosis with PCOS fifteen years ago. She realised she was never going to be a mother, came to terms with it, accepted it and loved her life as much as she could knowing this. She just recently gave birth to her daughter, whom she considers a 'miracle baby'. Because miracles DO happen and you can be anything you want to be. You can do this, Sierra. Your positivity shines from you but even the most positive people need that little extra push sometimes. You were destined to be a mother and you should never give up hope. You will make such an amazing mum!
I know you mean well, but the "miracles can always happen" line is actually hurtful to most people with fertility issues. A plan for a baby shouldn't be basically hoping to win the jackpot in the lottery. It hurts like fucking hell when you know your chances are so diminished. I finally started cutting people out of my life. Well-meaning or not, these words were hurting me so deeply that I started having trouble getting out of bed. I finally had IVF and have a daughter, but not everyone is so lucky. Fertility issues suck, and people who have them need to be told that it sucks and that it's okay for them to cry. Telling them to look on the bright side, life can be jut as fulfilling, miracles happen, etc. really says to them that they shouldn't be hurting, and infertility hurts enough without having your feelings belittled. So please rethink telling infertile people that they need t keep their chins up since miracles can happen. Winning the lottery is a miracle, but no one says to rely on that as a retirement plan.
Oh man! This really touched my heart. I have the exact same label because of my mother's PCOS, so it's so touching to read the exact same thing happened to another woman.
@@authoralysmarchand4737 - I'm sorry you feel that way. My post wasn't meant to belittle anyone or hurt anyone or control anyone's feelings by saying they shouldn't be hurting. I feel very bad now and like I've said an awful thing, but if that's how you feel then I can't really change that. Sorry that I've offended you. That really wasn't my intention at all.
@@courtneycunningham8819 - I'm sorry if that comment came across as rude and disrespectful. It was meant to be a positive comment to inspire hope, that's all. I honestly meant no disrespect.
"How do I love my body when it isn't functioning the way I want it to?" That frustration is something that goes beyond fat- and body-shaming, so thank you for being vulnerable about it.
“‘What it it’s a medical condition?’ What if it’s not?!?” This is perfect. Your mentality and this video helped with the perspective I have of myself in my own weight gain, medically caused or not.
Jessica Hart Maybe tell people to talk to their doctor before recommending a diet that consistently causes high cholesterol and heart disease for obese people. I lost 40 lbs on keto, but I’m not gonna recommend it to people because you’re supposed to be monitored by a doctor. You can really hurt yourself if you’re dieting incorrectly.
I initially watched this video because I love body positivity even though it's usually adressed to people on the opposite side of the spectrum from me. Seeing other women thrive and flourish in their own bodies always makes me happy, but I wasn't expecting this to have an effect on how I view my body since I have completely different body insecurity issues. I am very thin, and always have been. Noticeably thin. I have always wanted "meat on my bones" or curves. In high school I was called "disgustingly skinny" someone said I looked like I had "just walked out of a concentration camp" I've been told by a cashier "double zero isn't a size, eat a hamburger." In high school people started rumors that I had an eating disorder, and that I was stupid because i would look so much better if I just put on some weight. Anytime I expressed insecurity about my body I was always shut down because "skinny is the ideal, you're lucky." People didn't realize that the ideal is skinny with thighs, skinny with a perfect waist, skinny with (insert ideal here). I have a hard time wearing shorts because my sticks for legs are on full show, I hide behind pants. But, I always had hope that when I was older I would "fill out." Then in the last year I was diagnosed with Hyperthyroidism. I was told I would always be like this and nothing would "fix" it. I would never be feminine and womanly. But this video has completely shifted my view point. Why should I let other people dictate how I feel about myself? What authority do they have? It's my body, my life, my health. Not theirs. Why should other people limit what I feel I can where, and prevent me from wearing things I enjoy. Why is a passing stranger's 5 seconds of judgment more valuable than my happiness? It's not. And the only reason it felt like that, was because I gave them power over my feelings. Thank you so much for opening up about this topic, because most women are afraid to and those are the ones who need this message the most. You are a beacon of light for women.
Your issues are valid and although I'd say I fall on the other side of the spectrum and would love to lose weight, I genuinely hear you out and I hope you can come to love yourself just the way you are and take great care of yourself
So true, I hate how people constantly assume that skinny people aren’t allowed to feel insecure and constantly crap on them just bc “they are the beauty standard” that just losses me off, NOBODY deserves to be body shamed
I’m only a few minutes in, and girl... I just want to hug you. I have it and was told I couldn’t have kids... I GOT PREGNANT ON BIRTH CONTROL AND WITH PCOS. It was crazy.. unexpected and emotional. I’m a single momma, so I wasn’t trying. I had tons of tests and confusion about it... at 4 months along, I found out I was pregnant.... What I’m saying is, don’t give up, because it’s possible. I LOVE YOU GUYS! Take care of yourselves. ♥️ P.S. I don’t have a period. I hadn’t had one for 7 years because of birth control. And I got pregnant. Just remember that it’s possible. ♥️♥️♥️
And Sierra, this was by more than 1 doctor. I was told I couldn’t have kids. I was on birth control to help my cysts... and I got pregnant. It was shocking. He’s 15 months old now, and my world. I can’t wait for this to happen for you guys, and I truly believe it will.
Apparently women with PCOS have a higher risk of falling pregnant on birth control. I don't know the ins and outs but my fertility consultant told me that years sgo. Something to do with it leveling out the hormones x
Bexy Wexy interesting. Never heard of that! So interesting... makes sense, for my experience at least. Maybe Sierra should take birth control, lol! (Kidding of course)
Bexy Wexy That’s so neat! I also hadn’t had a period for 7 years, because of birth control, so I for sure thought I wasn’t pregnant. Lol. Went to the doctor for a cold at 4 months pregnant, and he asked if I had known I was pregnant. That was a big NOOOOPE. I’m so grateful now! it was a whirlwind.
Honestly I love her weight gain talks because its life. I've gained weight and it helps hearing and seeing her love herself. In this world we need more ppl like her
This hits. Recently lost 50 pounds due to my autoimmune disease. Everyone asks what "My secret " was. The moment I speak of my illness, so much awkwardness follows. You are speaking for so many.
Rebecca Rice completely understand you. I was a 105 lb model stick in the past and boy were people envious. Unfortunately they had no idea that I had an eating disorder, was addicted to exercise and eventually found out I had an autoimmune disease that kept me from gaining weight. You just don’t know what anyone is going through by looking at them. Skinny doesn’t necessarily mean healthy, it’s more important to be understanding of others. Hopefully you’re doing better now with your health.
Zofia Janeczek So true. I had friends and coworkers make comments to me, not knowing how badly I wanted to gain weight but couldn’t. I was so self conscious being so small and then I got on good meds and gained so fast that i am now self conscious again 🙃
kaaat I’m no longer stick thin either. Age, genetics, a gluten free diet, along with a hard life have put on the lbs for me also. I’m somewhat self conscious but that’s because I went from an impossible to keep size 2 to 12 over the decades.
So this is the second time I watched this video since this is the only one I've found that makes me feel like I'm beautiful just as I am. I was always told by my family and the doctors that I was too "fat" or that I had too much weight on my bones. My family always told me "haven't you eaten enough today?" or "should you really eat that". I've gained depression, anxiety and I've had multiple different eating disorders because of it. Even though no one knows. It was just recently when I went to my doctor and she told me I was too overweight. Even though I don't look like it. My mum and dad just realised what I've been going through, and what I feel. Calling an emotionally unstable teenager "fat" won't solve the problem. I am beautiful the way I am. I eat healthy, I work out almost every day and I finally feel alright with myself.
Good for you Nana, That is amazing! Good for you! I'm really proud of you. I have dealt with all of the same things as you & more, so I know how you are feeling.. Just do what you can each day and anytime you have a harder day than usual, try really hard not to beat yourself up about it because there's always tomorrow... And never forget that YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL & AMAZING JUST THE WAY YOU ARE! IT'S NOT ABOUT HOW YOU LOOK IT'S ABOUT WHAT'S IN YOUR HEART.. God is an INCREDIBLE place to run to anytime it is hard. He ONLY wants & cares about your heart..unlike this world we live in. God ALWAYS excepts you and is always longing for you to be close to Him. If you're not or have never been close to Him you don't have to make any commitments just talk to Him..Pray your beautiful heart out..Keep your head up high pretty girl XOXO
It's literally the worst thing people can do. I am overweight and I am trying to lose it. One entire week I literally ate 100 calories a day, when I should have been eating 1880. So, on Sunday, I ate a bag of crisps, since I was literally eating salads and water and my mom saw it and said "you shouldn't eat that, that's so unhealthy, you'll get even fatter". MY OWN MOM😭 and I literally broke down crying and ran to the toilet to puke it all out. Looking back, I shouldn't have done that, but I was just so down😔 people have no idea what their words can do to a person
I lost 30 pounds in a month once when I sick enough to be hospitalized with a severe stomach ulcer that made it impossible for me to function. I felt hopeless and horrendous, thinking I might never go back to work and needing IV fluids because I literally could not even drink water without extreme stomach pain and vomiting. It was awful. Yet I've never had more compliments in my life. Even when I told people I was thinner from being terribly ill, they cracked jokes about how they wished they could get sick, too. It was probably the most physically and emotionally painful and miserable time in my life but all anybody seemed to care about was that my belly didn't jiggle as much. It was very eye opening. Those people don't care about your health. They care about how much space you take up. You will get through this battle!
I’m kind of in this boat right now. Thankfully I’m not in any physical pain, and I am SO sorry that happened to you. :( I started taking Wellbutrin because I got depressed to where I couldn’t handle it myself anymore. A common side effect is weight loss because it just kills your appetite. So I’ve lost about 25 pounds in the last month because I just can’t eat. I try but pretty quick I feel like I’m going to puke I’m so full. And everyone is like wow congratulations! And it’s like thanks. I haven’t eaten a full meal in a month. I wish people would just freaking keep to themselves.
Melissa Stephan something similar to this happened to me! I had lost between 50-65 lbs in a 6-7 week span due to what I now am diagnosed with is ulcerative colitis. I stopped eating more than maybe a bowl of oatmeal because of massive pain and internal bleeding in my intestines. I ended up being hospitalized and getting home with proper medications and so many people started complimenting me and saying “what’s your secret” to which I would explain extreme illness and they’d say the same thing “oh what I’d give to be sick for a week just to loose these remaining 15 lbs” and Id be shocked because I never wanted to be so sick I couldn’t even choke down food my body was rejecting it so often. It’s so eye opening but it taught me a good lesson on those “innocent comments” people make on appearance that can make more of a lasting impression good or bad that is none of my business.
I experienced so many compliments when I had liver issues causing me to lose a huge amount of weight fast. No-one cared about the health issue, just the weight loss. When I gained weight due to a different health issue, suddenly everyone was "concerned" about my health. They still didn't care about the reason, just about getting it fixed so I could be "healthy" again...
Maci Bookout from teen mom is the same way! i also know a couple ppl in real life who have it, have children AND are slim. i don't understand it, but have always been intrigued/jelly.
This... I am a size 14ish and have struggled to lose it. I do not have a medical condition to "explain it away ". I am so proud of you for speaking up. I love your body positivity. My heart breaks for your journey to motherhood. I pray you will eventually succeed. I think you will be a fabulous mom.
This hits home. I'm in my 50's. When I started losing weight as a teen through NOT EATING-- I got such Positive reinforcement it was crazy. I'll never forget that feeling that I was worth more if I was thinner. I smoked, did certain drugs and didn't eat in hopes to keep my weight low and off. I even ended up at the neurologist and no one made the connection. I was killing myself because people made me feel great being 'skinner'. Getting older (and frankly, having a baby) changed that so much. I still struggle with health vs weight. As you get older things change again. Life is a cycle. I hope things work out for you. xxoo thx for being so brave
TheCherroes Cheese i commented about women not having to make these videos because sierra is a WOMAN making this video. if i seen a man on youtube making a video like this (which i never do) then i would comment this same thing but for men. i always see young girls and older girls making videos as to why they are overweight or underweight and i dont think people in general should have to make a video like this. im not trying to offend you or anything lol but you really need to get your facts straight
TheCherroes Cheese did i say men were commenting on her weight? no. if men were, that would just be disgusting. all im saying is that not human in general should have to feel the need to explain themselves for having their body
TheCherroes Cheese ik that her channel is based off that and that is why im subscribed! i love watching her videos because they make me want to try to be more confident with myself, but she still no matter what should have to explain her weight. her channel is based off looks and fashion, and about being a PLUS SIZED body confident woman. that should be enough, she has vocalized her opinion on being a plus sized confident woman. she shouldnt feel the need to explain herself period
Thank you in advance to anyone who reads this. When Sierra said “let’s make this a two sided conversation” I literally scrambled to find my phone (watching on the tv lol) because I have a few things to say about my relationship with my own body. I have a past history, well not too past as it’s a regular cycle for me, of disordered eating and I am currently having a heavy relapse into my old habits. It started when I was about 18 and I was changing birth controls and my weight went up a little (naturally being I was growing into a woman, and hormones etc), but I couldn’t fathom the idea of gaining 5 or 10 pounds from where I was used to being. That led me into a cycle of extreme calorie restricting and seeing literally no results. I eventually accepted my fate that I am growing for the better, and I started accepting my body as it is. I do go out to restaurants and enjoy life and all of the food in it, although I feel immense guilt knowing “if I eat this it’s keeping me from my ideal body.” Yes it’s a very unhealthy way of thinking. Now I am 23 and I’ve been going through the ups and downs of acceptance and starvation. I am literally mentally and physically exhausted from the disordered patterns of my eating for the last 5 years. I suppose I needed to tell somebody about this, I’ve kept it a secret from everyone. Once again thank you, anyone, for reading this.
Chelsea Daniels I recently set an alarm on my phone for every morning that says, “You deserve nutrition”. It really helped me to push forward while struggling with the same thoughts. You can do this! Life is about so much more than looks and you deserve a healthy body.
Everybody, every BODY, deserves to be loved and more importantly, deserves to love themself!!! A healthy body doesn't have to be a size 2, 4, or 6, or any other size. Love yourself, love your body, and hopefully the rest of life will be better. As someone who also struggles with disordered eating and eating habits and hate-filled thoughts about myself, I know that when I'm feeling the most self love, I also feel the most love and happiness from the world around me.
Chelsea Daniels you are so welcome. People who don’t struggle with this don’t understand, but it takes a lot of willpower to even eat when we’re feeling this way. We’re all brave for making it this far! And hopefully we can become even better with time 💕
I’m 35, about to turn 36, and I’ve been told I would need fertility meds to have a baby because of pcos since I was in my 20s. Just found out I was pregnant last Thursday without any meds, just got my body to the healthiest place I could.
Okay WHAT kind of comment is “you’re lying about being a vegetarian” I’m heated. Like that is so unrelated and I’m so angry for you with dealing with all the crappy people. You are so much stronger than anything life can throw at you ❤️ thank you for always encouraging your viewers, now we can be there for you!
I need to comment on this because I am vegan and I get this kind of comment so so so often! My body is a size 10-12 but because I am rather short I don't look thin, this is not a problem for me at all but it seems that the rest of the universe cannot cope with the idea that my body isn't thinner considering ''I only eat vegetables''. I always say the same: crisps and chips are vegan and high in calories, same as nuts, avocado, sweetcorn, vegan cookies, wine or anything battered and fried. And guess what, I eat all of those things when I want them. We really need to change this image of 'vegan= thin= healthy' because it's so wrong...
As a 19 year old girl who just barely got diagnosed with PCOS- it is SO nice to see an example of someone who knows exactly what I am going through, and to have someone to relate to! ❤️ thank you for being brave enough to share :)
Funny thing about the vegetarian part is that, being vegetarian doesn't equal to diet and weight loss. People are just twisted, they judge things that are not there business.
Exactly! I eat 98% plant-based, I go to the gym, and I have a very normal weight (bmi 22). If I only ever ate vegetables and fruit, sure, I probably would be super skinny, but I aside from the fact that I don't eat animal products, I literally eat completely normal. Vegan sweets are easily available, and chips usually are vegan as well. I could eat 5 kg fries every day and it would not be healthy BUT it would be vegan/vegetarian 🤷♀️
It's a fundamental misunderstanding of vegetarianism and veganism. Most people think all they can eat are salads and cucumbers and that they're constantly malnourished.
sadly, I've had too many doctors tell me I'm fat because of my lifestyle and that my weight caused my pain. Turns out I was right and I probs have PCOS. Don't be afraid to doctor shop!
I don't know how to love my body when it's out of my control. I'm just trying for body neutrality now. Weight and eating are often tied to morality in our society. "Omg, I was SO bad this weekend" "Oh, no thanks, I'm trying to be good" "Wow, this recipe is DANGEROUS!" 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ It's dumb and actually dangerous. Last year I had some GI issues. Ulcers and other things that made eating physically painful. In 7 days, I ate a quarter up of white rice, and that was ALL I could stomach. A coworker asked me if I "felt skinny." NAH, BITCH, I FELT ILL.
My favorite quote to say is “skinny doesn’t always mean healthy, and being fat doesn’t always mean unhealthy.” As a girl who has been 270 pounds at my highest and now 140 pounds. I have always been a big girl but holy hell have I noticed how different people treat me now or how guys now suddenly realize I am pretty. And now I say fuck them if you didn’t love me when I was fat fuck your love now that I’m skinny. I have watched one video of yours before so I know nothing of your back story aside from what you have said here, but I wish you nothing but health, happiness and love on this journey you and your family are on. As a cancer survivor (AML) having a positive mindset moves mountains! Stay strong and lean on Heavenly Father when you need a extra push.
I have been all the way from 100lbs to 230lbs. I totally agree how different it is. I actually have more healthy habits now that I'm bigger yet everyone thought I was more healthy when I was skinny. I only ate junk food and drank soda none stop then. Now I eat all kinds of foods. I love grilled chicken and veggies and all that and drink tons of water. Yet everyone thinks I'm so unhealthy.
I was morbidly obese since puberty, 316 lbs at my heaviest in high school, which was in part due to depression that stemmed from horrible life events. It was SO BRUTALLY HEARTBREAKING going through high school at multiple schools and being excluded from just about everything because I was seen as disgusting. After college I made several massive lifestyle changes and dropped 140 lbs. The shift in people’s attitude towards me (male and female) was SHOCKING and APPALLING. I noticed even people meeting me for the first time, it was so much different than people’s meeting me at 300+ lbs, just right off the bat friendlier. It took a long time to not be bitter about the way people are. And most people aren’t conscious of how they view people differently based on weight, but it just shows even more that we need the societal mindset shift that’s starting to take off. That was really long, but I felt your comment in a real way!
My mom has PCOS and she was told her whole life that she would never have kids she is also a very small person 4ft7 and she was blessed with me and my sister
My mom was told that she couldn’t have children, and once she gave up, after years of trying she got pregnant... and here I am ❤️ Don’t lose hope, and I hope you can appreciate your body regardless of what you are going through
Same with me. me and my husband been trying for another baby but no luck because of my eating. When I conceived my son, I was eating very healthy and going to the gym. PCOS feeds off of bad food
i agree w that, and she did mention that but there is a difference when u adopt or do ANY other way possible rather than being pregnant. im guessing having that full experience is important to her.
Completely understand! I had the opposite issue a number of years ago. I was loosing a ton of weight, because of cancer. And I heard constantly was hearing, "oh, my god you look so great!" i was quiet about my diagnose, and these comments made me so angry! At my complete worse health, people were complimenting me!!! One day i had a girl I hadn't seen in some time walk up to me and compliment my weight loss, Within my anger I smiled and said thanks I have cancer, but thanks for thinking I look good, now. Darlin, you are beautiful!! Keep going!!!
This world makes me so angry & so sad at the same time!... I'm so sorry this happened to you, that is so so awful.. I genuinely hope that you are doing much better now.. It seems so since you said it's been a number of years but I didn't want to assume.. God bless Jamay Ann
It was the same for my mother. She had cysts which had to be removed. Therefore her uterus was scarred and every doctor told her that the chances of getting pregnant were 0. She had to accept that they would probably never have children. Bur little did they know: she fell pregnant with my sister at age 40 and with me at age 42. Everything went fine and my parents were just happy. Sometimes when you do not try, things will turn out just the way you wanted them to.
I was told I'd never be able to conceive. I've delivered 6, including naturally conceived fraternal twins, never having any fertility assistance. We lost one son, who was stillborn, but have 5 living children. Also had 2 early losses, so without help, conceived 7 pregnancies with 8 babies, with the last one conceiving at 41 with only one Fallopian tube left.
Girl you are so beautiful. I am a personal trainer and whenever my clients have some issues with their body I tell them to go to your channel because weight has nothing to do with how beautiful you are
Wow that's a really beautiful thing to say! Specially coming form a personal trainer! I've struggled with my weight all my life and sometimes trainers and nutriocionists treat you so horribly that you give up because you're ashamed of yourself...
@@ginacervantes7535 Don't give up on yourself, you're beautiful either way! If you want to lose a couple pounds for confidence reasons I am here to help on any questions you may have and don't be ashamed, everyones process is different. But health is within. You first need to learn how to speak to yourself kindly : )
I teared up a bit when you mentioned how hard it is to love your body when it is keeping you from the thing you want most in life. I don't have PCOS but I cannot get pregnant for another reason. It is so hard to love myself and my body sometimes because I feel like it is failing me in a way. Thank you for talking so openly about all of this. Although our situations are really different, I feel less alone after listening to this
Thank you. I've gained so much weight for the last two years and as I've gotten higher, I've definitely been judged more and been constantly asked if I was pregnant. It's so nice to hear someone more positive about it. Thank you.
I have PCOS too. It's so hard, girl. As I watch this video, I'm feeding my newborn son. Don't lose hope. Your journey to becoming a mom might look different than mine, but I believe you will still become a mom somehow. Sending love!
I can understand to a certain extent! I may look “healthy” and I may have the “ideal” body, I am losing weight like crazy. I am currently weighing as much as I did in the 8th grade and people are assuming that I have an eating disorder but I have serious health issues. My bf and I are also TTC but it’s extremely hard to have a baby when I have little to no fat to help sustain a healthy pregnancy and I’m so anemic that I need a blood transfusion and I have a heart condition but no one cares about what’s going on internally. They only care about what they can see and judge from afar and I don’t need to tell you that it SUCKS! I am so so so proud of you for not only staying strong through this video and sharing your story but also being such an encouragement and inspiration for others! You are loved! ❤️
I was diagnosed with PCOS back when I was in my early 20s. Two years ago, I got married and we started talking about conceiving. After a few months of trying, nothing happened so I got on a mission to lose weight (i lost 70lbs). It’s tough with PCOS but not impossible. I now have a 6 week old baby girl that I adore. Best of luck to you! Also totally didn’t notice weight gain on you, you’re gorgeous!
Giiiiiiiiirl, I can relate. “How can you love your body when your body is stopping you from being a mom.” I am much older than you (34) and my husband and I have been trying to conceive for 9 years. Nine. Years. It’s so so so so hard to love yourself when you feel like your body is damaged in a way. Honestly, it comes in waves. Sometimes I have the mindset of, “God wanted my life this way. He’s in control. My life is still very much blessed.” And then BAM it can shift in a blink of an eye to nothing but self doubt, pity, and hatred. I hope and pray that you have much better luck than me. Hang in there and try to stay hopeful even in the hardest times.
Carina , hugs honey! We tried for 10 years. Finally brought home a beautiful baby boy we adopted 10 years ago. I had to grieve the child I could never have first, but I could not have loved my son more than I do.
"How do I love my body when it's not functioning the way I want it to.." is so real and damning, and also so important. I think it's important you said the way you WANT it to, instead of the way it SHOULD. Everybody and every body is differently abled, skilled, functioning. And regardless of where you are on that spectrum, you still have value and are a wonderfully amazing creation. Like you've said before, what you weigh does not define your worth and your abilities to achieve love or purpose. Just as long as you're being kind to yourself and to your body... That's being body positive. To take what you CAN DO and CAN CONTROL and take inspiration from those things, rather than focusing on what you currently can not do or can not control. There's no one way to be or do anything. Cheers to you for being honest and open about this. I believe you and Stephan will end up where you're meant to end up, supporting each other and remaining positive.
I was skinny my whole life, was diagnosed with PCOS and you wouldn’t believe the comments I got. Even if it’s medical, even if it’s not, no one needs to be rude, comment or say anything about another persons weight. Period.
I have PCOS and am a vegetarian as well. The number of people that are like "how are YOU a vegetarian?" because I'm not thin is amazing. I've also been told over and over "hormonal problems aren't an excuse to be fat." It's frustrating. Just know you're lovely. Don't let the haters get you down (easier said than done, I know). I totally relate to hating the way my body functions, the no periods, the stubborn weight, the inability to conceive, etc. Going through fertility treatments right now and it's a struggle. PCOS is rough!
My husband and I have struggled with infertility because of endometriosis. And this past September we had the honor of adopting our son. Don’t get too discouraged because God is bigger. No matter how you come into parenthood, God is still good 😘💖
This is so inspiring. Congratulations to you and your husband! My fiancé and I want to adopt kids too. Do you have any advice? Was the process really difficult?
@@ladycaticorn2950 People will try to discourage you because they have a very narrow view of what family is. But it's a shame that so many can only love what comes out of their own bodies (and some of them are hardly fit to be called parents anyway). It's a long and expensive process- no different than ivf or surrogacy. My adoption was finalized a year after my parents brought me home at 10 days old. Your experience will vary depending on the state you live in, if you're a same sex couple, your living situation, and other factors. Do you want an open or closed adoption? Foster first? So many variables! But there are also a lot resources available to your family.
Lady Caticorn my biggest advice is to not get discouraged during the process. There are bumps and turns on the road but in the end it all works out. And don’t let people sway your heart for this. Family members aren’t always understanding in the pre child placement process because there is the potential to get hurt but as soon as the meet the child God had perfect designed for you to parent, they change their tune. And lastly, adopt out of the system. It takes longer but those kiddos so desperately need parents.
@@miikoshka Thanks for the information! As someone who was adopted, do you feel connected with your adoptive parents? Have you had struggles because they could have done better with helping you navigate your identity as an adoptee? I'm in a heterosexual relationship and won't be adopting for some time; however, my fiancé and I would definitely like to adopt exclusively in the future. We don't want bio kids for this reason. Personally, I would prefer a closed adoption. We are definitely open to foster care, adopting siblings, kids with disabilities, or older kids (it'll depend on how old we are when we adopt as to how old we can adopt) as well.
“It feels like my body is revolting against me” I literally said the same thing to my husband when I was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s, hypothyroidism, and pernicious anemia a year ago. I felt so disconnected from my body. I still struggle with it, but I’ve gotten so much better. I think finding doctors you are comfortable with and trust is key! You got this!
lizardq23 I know! I gained a lot too. I was able to lose a lot after I got my medication figured out, but I’m still struggling with the depression and energy issues. I hope everything works out for you.
I also have Hashimoto’s and I feel this so hard. I gained about 40 lbs in the blink of an eye and I was already a bigger girl. I have been able to lose some, like 10 lbs, but mostly I am just maintaining, no matter what I do. Always tired. Always achey.
Heather L I’ve lost 100 lbs so far (low carb & working with my doctors), but the exhaustion and the mood swings are really hard right now! Also my hair is falling out so that’s been hard.
I dont have PCOS but Endometriosis, which can have similar Symptoms. I feel all you girls who struggle with these things. Its a lifelong journey about getting to know your body, but you got this !
You are a beautiful person and the people telling you things like “your not good enough because of your weight” when they have no right. You are a kind amazing person.
Imagine being such a sad nasty person that you dm someone and attack them for their weight. Imagine havingnothing else better to do than putting people down to feel better about yourself.
I literally had someone send me a rude dm today because I have dyed blue hair in my twitter profile pic. Some people just want to be rude and mean for no reason and I don't get why, it sucks.
Theres apparently a disgusting youtuber who goes by "swolenormous" (excuse me while I puke) who has been making videos talking shit about her weight gain and claiming that she is manipulating her fans and promoting obesity... He needs a hard smack in the face. With a bus.
Yeah my old ADHD meds suppressed my appetite, so for a while I was only eating the bare minimum for lunch at school, because I would literally just forget to eat breakfast and dinner because I wasn't hungry. I was steadily losing weight, and I went from weight 125 lbs to 110 lbs, and being 5'3 people would tell me "omg you're so tiny" or "you are so gorgeous, I wish I looked like you" meanwhile I was thinking, "thanks its because I literally have to choose between being able to function day to day or eating normally". Anyway, I got off of those meds so let's hope the next ones go better
this video was so hard to film but I literally felt 100x better after. I’m someone who is very much an open book, so just being able to have this stripped down and honest conversation with you guys really helped me, and I hope it can help you understand me a little bit more too.
Sending love to you Sierra! So proud to call myself a viewer
girl youre perfect just the way you are
We’re behind ya, always ❤️
My body has changed so so much after battling breast cancer last year. I'm now 25+ pounds over weight watching your channels has really been very helpful and meaningful to me. Love you girl. 💜💜💜
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Does anyone else think that Sierra's weight should be none of our business? No disrespect to Sierra, but girl, you owe NO ONE an explanation
I think it's because her channel is kinda build around her weight and body
Hannah McCormick I just said this to myself while watching this video. I was saying to my phone “Sierra you don’t owe nobody an explanation on what’s going on with your body” Sierra is amazing and I love watching her and skylar
Agree 💕👍🏻
@Unified Pulse ok, so yeah what if she is almost every UA-camr monetizes story time videos like this.
I agree with Hannah. You might be an amazing youtuber but honey you don't owe the internet an explanation. Love watching your videos no matter your size so keep being your awesome self Sierra!!
My mom had PCOS and doctors told her she’d never be able to have children, yet here I am!!! Don’t give up!
Baby Im Sorry to tell u this.... Ur adopted
MrJreed1000 baby I’m sorry to tell you this, but I’ve seen the video of me coming out of my mom’s body so 🤔
@@cryssie25977 u sure that's u... I mean all babies look a like.. so far all we know is that ur mom did in fact have a baby... but that baby could be any baby... ijs...
MrJreed1000 thanks for your input! I appreciate it
MrJreed1000 what does it matter to you just stop lmao, I’m sure she probably would be able to tell she’s adopted
Yes you are so right! when my dad died I lost a lot of weight and people legit were like, I'm sorry for your loss but you look amazing! I was like that's fucking cold.
Maryanne that’s pretty deep and reminds me of a time in my life when I was doing drugs daily and it was literally the worst time of my life....everybody couldn’t stop telling me how amazing I looked because I became underweight which confused the shit out of my mental health at the time
@@Amy-gp7ek damn I'm so sorry to hear that.. how ignorant some people are.. l hope you are clean and healthy now!!
Maryanne I had the exact opposite in my life when my dad was diagnosed and ultimately passed from cancer. I gained 75lbs over 5yrs and it took a toll on my life. I have taken measures to lose the weight that worked for me, but I still have a mental connection to cope with food when I am sad. It is going to be a life long battle. Like any illness it is a journey not a one time battle.
@@NurseMickiLea I'm so sorry to hear that. You're so right, emotions and food are very connected for me too.
I feel this. I was severely depressed and stopped eating properly. I lost a lot of weight n dropped to a size 4/6. I got those compliments too. It's like I have no emotions those comments r unnecessary.
My wife was diagnosed with this and assumed she would never be pregnant. We conceived after the first couple months of marriage. It can be done. Hang in there.
Omg congrats!
Randy Compton congratulations 🥺🤩🎉
congrats :)
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My sister has it and I now have a 3 year old niece! So there is hope!
I have pcos I was diagnosed when I was 11. They told me i would never have children. I have two. So dont give up.
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Kelley Harmon I have the same thing , I don’t know if I will be able to have kids some day , but with god all things are possible .
I feel like a lot of people have pcos
God bless you ❤️
I got diagnosed like 3 or so years ago and not sure if I’ll be able to have kids or not. I always tell myself even if I never end up conceiving or get in a relationship that I’ll adopt a child or two one day
I got cancer lost 27 lbs and everyone focused on my weight loss ... I feel your pain
So basically losing weight is more important to people than cancer?... that sucks 😥
Are u okay?
Oh wow 😕😕 people suck. I hope you are doing ok!
@Elizabeth Knutson: I feel very compelled to respond to this. I went through a similar experience earlier this year when I received a new diagnosis of a chronic illness and dropped 40+ lbs. I had to take time off work and when I returned, all people could talk about was “how good I looked”. It is awful and a very invalidating experience and doesn’t speak to how you’ve struggled and are currently struggling. Just letting you know you are seen and you are not alone 💕
My dad just got diagnosed with cancer I hope you're okay and you're in my prayers because I know how difficult this Journey can be
I lose (a lot) weight when I go into a depression. Every.single.time. I get the "omg what are you doing you look great" comments.. I'm just like hey thanks I'm living on the creamer in my coffee but thanks.. people don't get how many ways commenting on someone's weight is effed up
Right? When I'm the thinnest I am the most unhealthy. But I "look" the right size so no one sees the pain and suffering. Dont with all that. Happy and healthy at size 12 :)
@@brooketriplett4156 I feel it girl. Glad you're healthly 💜💜💜💋💋💋
That happened to me too. I had always been a little chubby and when I started losing weight because of depression and mostly anxiety I got so many comments and compliments for being skinny that I started hating my body on top of everything. Now my self worth is strongly tied to my weight and I hate that.
Not a single person asked whether I was okay or not. Everyone applauded. That can be so dangerous.
@@blau6273 well, let me ask, are you ok? Times are tough right now boo but brighter days are always ahead. 💗💗💗
@@briannahatcher9422 It's very kind of you to ask. I'm struggling with a lot of things right now and it's hard but I know I can do this. I really hope you are alright and doing okay :) I know we can all get through this!
People always comment how hot i was when i was skinny (cause of drugs) Its like "thanks, i was on meth"
thereal shock lmaoooo
Wow I love this. It perfectly shows how horrible our society is. “Oh meth? Whatever you look good because you’re skinny so it’s cool!” So sad, people should be so happy you’re healthy now. Even if you’re not a twig
It’s sad how common this is. People need to learn to stop commenting on people’s bodies and equating weight to attractiveness full stop
@@VOLcOmgurl365 so true. And sad. I do have a small group of people who are just happy im sober now :)
@@user-et9mc6gv3y actually i know its hard to believe but ive been told i should get back on it by multiple people because "u look better on it"
I'm three times your age and never loved myself or my body until I started watching young people like you. Thank you for being so open and honest about your "self love" journey. Thank you for pointing out to people who don't have issues that their judgments are unjustified. Just thank you, for being you. I appreciate you and what you have brought to my consciousness.
I second this! I am probably close to your parents ages. I love your messages! Thank you Sierra.
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Myself as well ! I wish we would have had the body positivity examples back in my younger days!
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as someone who wants to be a mom more than anything in the world, i cried along with you. im sending you so much love and im so grateful for you.
Charley Ann I was about to comment the same. 💙
Same! I've been to the fertility specialists and doctors and every other kind of specialist you can imagine. The best answer I received was "We're not sure what is causing you infertility. It could be weight related, we're not sure. All we know is your eggs will not grow or release on their own". I was given that response nearly 7 years ago. It sucks and it hurts more than anything in this world! But I refuse to give up!
Watching this after baby Grace was born makes my heart so happy. I'm so happy you were able to make a perfect little human.
Doctors told my sister she couldn’t have kids. The oldest of the 4 just turned 25. Always believe ❤️
Same thing with my mom, they told her she could never have kids and now she has 5, ages ranging from 10-24. I’ll second to never give up on what you want ❤️❤️
Yeah my great grandma was told after she had her first child, that if she ever had another kid she would die, 10 years later my grandma was born and her mother didn't die until my grandma had kids of her own :)
Have faith ya but dont have blind faith. Its important to be realistic. I have pcos and was told at 19 I'd probably never have kids. We have been trying for over 4 years. Everyone tells me to keep the faith, keep trying etc etc etc. But there comes a time when you have to be realistic with yourself. A good percentage of women who have infertility, never go on to have children. It's a very real possibility for a lot of us. I know you were just trying to be helpful. But comments like this give a lot of women false hope. I surely hope it does happen for everyone who wants it but the truth is, it often doesnt.
@@angieeemmmarie I'm sorry for you. I'm on board with the hopeful comments because Sierra just got diagnosed. She didn't get any fertility treatments yet. I think right now she should educate herself and do everything she can to better her chances. But of course after several years it's probably best to look into other options to start a family.
I have pcos and went through ivf, I am now a mother to twin 1.5 year olds.
Eboni Awww i love this so much!
Me and my husband just really started. Its really upsetting trying so hard when women and teens out there get pregnant with no issues. It seems like why us.
Eboni congrats beautiful
Same here mama! 8mo twins courtesy of love and science
Crazy how many woman end up having twins when they go through IVF!!!!
Seeing sierra crying just makes me want to just hug her tightly😭
It honestly broke my heart 💔
oh my gosh i know i started tearing up too ;( shes such a strong amazing woman
I HATE HATE when people bring up "what if they have a medical condition" and when you said "what if they don't!?" Yes girl yesss 🙌🏻 nobody has the right to an explanation as to WHY someone has gained/lost weight. Ridiculous! You're so awesome!
I was once obese... and a vegetarian. I remember visiting a friend when her dad said to me “I thought vegetarians were supposed to be skinny?” I didn’t even know what to say. People just suck.
Lol, same. Like, have those people never heard of calories? Chocolate & Chips are vegetarian FFS.
Fat vegetarian here! 😢 Treats are my weakness.
I’m a vegetarian and I HATE when people say that. Vegetarian just means you don’t eat meat, it doesn’t mean you’re automatically healthy. Hell, you can even be vegan, and just eat Oreos and fries all day. How thin do you think THAT vegan would be?
@@akilahposh I'm vegan and get comments like that often 🤷♂️ 'ypu don't look like you're vegan' 😒 I guess I need to pose another 20kg, wear tie dye and dread my hair or something....
That’s sooo true . I’ve gotten the same comments too .
I have PCOS And never thought I could have children.
My partner and I weren’t even trying and we have a beautiful healthy baby boy. Keep your head up.
Same here! He is almost 4 months now.
Sunny Johnson congratulations on your healthy baby boy!❤️
I have pcod and I don’t want a kid. The only reason I like pcod
Sunny ❤️ I have PCOS as well. And this gives me hope. Doctors mostly don’t know much about pcos Bc it’s a hormonal disorder. People who think it’s an excuse to be lazy are severely ignorant even people who claim their version of pcos is the only type. There are at least 5 types of pcos. I’m proud of Sierra for being so open!
@@buxombaby08 i have 5 beautiful kids there is lots of hope for us with pcos
My sister has pcos, and her and her husband tried for so long to conceive. Now she is a mother of a beautiful four month old boy. Stay strong Sierra. We are here for you.
“I took more hell for being fat than I did for being an absolute raging drug addict.” -Kelly Osbourne
My friend has PCOS and has a three year old son. It is difficult, but not impossible. You will be a mom one day, Sierra!
I really love this video being a girl who has PCOS. No one online really talks about the struggle that comes with it and I would love if you would continue to share your story struggling to conceive because it will really help out the community of girls who really struggle with this as well. Thank you for being so real and honest
Her getting emotional when talking about how much she wants to be a mother really got me
Hey Hello yessss, I feel this so hard after an early loss in August 😞
Same. Because I know exactly how she feels. Hope it works out for her soon.
@@SigridUSA I feel her, because in my case, I am never going to be able to have a baby:(
lovelyvegan princess I’m so sorry. I hope an alternative option will be available to you (if that’s what you want).
I felt it too, on so many levels
I am 16 years old. I was diagnosed with PCOS and Hoshimotos in July. Sierra’s videos have really helped my confidence grow. I wish her the best.
Same
I've been going through this for the past year and a half.
I'm 15 and I have hypothyroidism. Keep it up😀
I was also diagnosed at 16 with PCOS. I'm almost 30 now and am so grateful it was diagnosed when I was young. It's much easier to start treating the symptoms in your teens to minimize the physical effects of the disorder. At this point in my life, I barely think about the fact that I have PCOS. It definitely does not have to run your life :)
I got diagnosed with both of these things last week.
I almost started crying when you said "how can I love my body when my body is stopping me from being a Mom?" so raw and real. I can only imagine how that feels. I usually don't comment on videos, but I watch yours every week and you've always inspired me to love myself and my body. Thinking of you and praying for you - you've got this girl
Yeah I teared up as well. Like I'm 20 and I don't see myself having children at all but your body not allowing you to do stuff must be incredibly frustrating and difficult and I really feel for her.
I did too!!
I got crohns and lost 30% of my body weight. Everyone asked what my secret was and they said I was looking good and healthier. I had a disease the entire time and even after I said it was Crohns disease, a lot of women said "man maybe I should get that". It's disturbing
Extremely sad. Like being thin is the most important thing.
The world would be a better place if we didn't make other people's bodies our business.
@@dianamcmullen3659 Also, if people listened more than running their mouths.
It's sad. I have heard women talking about how being sick was so good for them because they lost weight. What?????????
I used to be quite obese, then was diagnosed with thyroid cancer, and after the throidectomy lost a few Kg quite quickly (still obese, but it brought me under 40BMI).
I then that RIA, where you’re made radioactive, fundamentally). I did get some comments from acquaintances... saying “the cancer diet” brought on reactions that I found very amusing.
The way you validated yourself after saying "I don't know why I'm getting upset" yes queen! Let yourself feel what you feel!
"I don't like how my body functions". Honestly made my tear up because the past few years my body feels like it's turned against me. Thank you for addressing that aspect of self love
I have pcos, diagnosed when I was 22. I'm 31 now with 3 kids.
I have it as well and I am pretty sure she will have kids too. It will take a bit longer to get pregnant the first time, but I am sure she will. =)
She Who Reads happy for you!
Tell me your journey. 32 no kids PCOS
I thought I couldn’t get pregnant because I had severe pcos where I actually have gone a year or more without a period. My oopsie son determined that was false lol although having another one may or may not be as easy
When I suffered from depression, I lost 30+ lbs (never been overweighted so it was a huge amount of weight for me). I looked super skinny. People around me were saying "oh my God, You look so sexy now!" or "You look bomb girl!". They didn't notice what I was struggling with. All that mattered was how "fit I looked". I honestly hated when people where pointing that out. Because the reason of my "phenomenal" weightloss was a serious illness that was literally killing me from the inside. Now I gained all the weight back, and I've never been happier- because I got better! For me one of the first signs of getting better was regaining my appetite and ability to eat anything. Such a great feeling to be alive and take care of myself.
I might be a bit chubby, but I'm alive. I'm human being. I love myself. I adore my life. I care for myself. Please, never let yourself become a number on a scale. It doesn't define You as a human being. And never will
Yep. I've known people who develop a drug habit and lose weight and everyones positively reinforcing it by saying how great they look. Priorities!
Malwina Pietrzyk been there with you.
I don't think all that mattered was "how fit you are", they were just trying to compliment you. I hope you're still doing better but there is nothing wrong with being skinny or curvy.
Depression is a very serious thing and I honestly wish people talked about it more. It really does affect the way people see themselves and sometimes, it goes unnoticed. However, it is nice to hear when someone is doing well after pressing though that dark time.
This! 👏🏼
my mom has pcos as well and she had 4 kids !!!! never think it’s impossible
I have pcos.. And I do gain weight even if I drink water... ;-;
This video is so relatable for me 😣😣😔😕
I have PCOS, at 38, after giving up on ever having my own, found out at Christmas that I was 11 weeks pregnant!! It will happen. NOW the real part of this...you handled this a lot better than I would have. It is absolutely NONE of anyone's business about your body. Your entire premise to your media is trying on and informing us of products!! You're full of courage, my dear. Bless you!
Oh Sierra... when you said “I don’t know why I’m getting upset” I just about lost it myself. It’s OKAY to be upset about this and I don’t think it’s fair to yourself to feel like you have to be strong 24/7. So many women suffer from PCOS (as you said) and many women still conceive. God has got this in His hands and in His timing, your body will be ready. As somebody who’s suffered from cysts and struggle with weigh loss, THANK YOU for speaking out about your story and your journey. ❤️
when u said that ur body is the only thing stopping u from having a baby so how can u love it made me cry
Me too! Me too! 😢
mariam dolan same 😭😭😭😭
mariam dolan same 💕
I felt that on a deep level because I’m the same way ):
Same, I’m at work, I have to stop
I just like to have a chat with the people who thought it was appropriate to DM Sierra about her weight 😤
A chat followed by a slap!
It made me so angry. Nobody has that right
Ikr she is it hurting anyone and her weight shouldn’t be your business
@@myouki2280 I agree with you.
Seriously!! I'm ready to fight somebody.
I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was 18 years old. My doctor always said that I'd need treatment to get pregnant. I got pregnant with no treatment at all when I was 25. My son is 20 now, and I have another boy, 16 and a girl 13.
I have a similar story. Married at 26 got pregnant at 37. Had treatments somewhere in the middle that did not work. There is always hope. To get pregnant. My son is now 23. Sierra you are so inspiring. I needed your spirit 40 years ago.
Feel free to ignore my question, but how did you get diagnosed at 18? I basically got shoved from one BC to another from age 12 to about 23 (~ 2 years ago) because of some SERIOUS problems with my menstrual cycle and only now is my current OB/GYN willing to even address the potential of PCOS or something else and even then, she's told me I'd have to go off the BC that is basically the only reason I can function to even find out....
@@Trish0978 hi! when i was diagnosed last year my doctor asked for a transvaginal ultrasound scan and found the cysts.. I had done a regular abdominal ultrasound scan before but turns out my cysts were very small so they weren't able to see it (??) I think this is the only way to actually confirm you have PCOS.
other than that, i had some "symptoms" that made my doctor suspicious, like extremely irregular menstrual cycle (I'd only get my period 3~4 times a year), terrible cramps, hormonal acne, hair loss, weight gain, etc.
Good for you
@@TaRa0350 She mentioned it's a treatment for PCOS, but said I'd have to go off it in order to be tested for PCOS. Given my period problems and the fact that I was already on the prescribed correct medication for PCOS if I have it, she thought it wouldn't be worth it unless I was interested in having kids. I was tested when I was a teen for hormonal imbalances, among other potential concerns (before I was put on Nexplanon -- nothing since then), but I agree I probably need to see an endocrinologist. Especially since I have concerning issues with weight/weight loss (I only lose weight at a slow rate and it only happens if I'm effectively over exercising/at a net caloric intake of ~700-900 Cal/day regardless of diet). Unfortunately, given the pandemic, I'm not comfortable setting up an appointment at this time
As I'm only 15 I don't really understand your difficulties with PCOS/wanting to be a mom. But as a girl who was adopted and is much better off for it it made me really happy to hear that you immediately mentioned adoption and even if you want to have a kid biologically didn't talk about it as a lesser option.
Good luck💜
Labinzel 3712 As someone who wants to adopt one day - I was so happy to hear that as well!
Labinzel 3712 This made me very happy too. I was also adopted into an amazing family a couple years ago with my brother and I am always happy to know that someone would choose to adopt because it has helped so many children in the world.
Labinzel. I'm so happy you have had a good adoption experience! It's not always rainbows and butterflies for all of us adoptees though. I actually cringed when she mentioned adoption because, well it fucked me up....funny how it can be two ends of the spectrum eh? It just has to be handled properly and openly I think. But I do agree with you too and like how she didn't mention it as a lesser option. That one always hurts.
@@lindzriddb I'm so sorry that you didn't have an experience like mine and I strongly agree that there are things about the system that need to be changed. I hope that eventually you are able to fully heal from whatever you experienced.
@@Labinzel
Yes!! “Healthy” doesn’t have one look. One of my best friends has PCOS. The girl works out 5 times a week, tracks here calories, and eats way better than I do. She’s about a size 14/16. I, on the other hand, am a size 4/6, and I’ll be the first to admit I do not treat my body well. But has anyone ever made negative comments about my “health”? No. Because I’m skinny.
Lydia Fr! I rarely workout and have a super fast metabolism and can’t gain weight for the life of me but it’s not like ppl point out my unhealthy eating because they think it’s good for me
healthy has a general look. fit and toned. for example: a women who weighs 230 and is 5’ 4” is not healthy. that is not the optimal weight for their body to function at unless that extra weight is muscle.
Wow that's so sad and I feel bad for your friend if people are saying this stuff to her. Not trying to hate on you at all I just feel bad that our generation has become so twisted
God girl03 it’s actually usually people of an older age :/ but yeah it makes me so upset. She’s so beautiful
It hurts when my friends constantly are eating candy and never have thought about losing weight before cause they have such high metabolisms and I'm just here walking all the way to the larges and xlarges cause i have trouble losing weight
"It's hard to love my body when my body is the one thing that's keeping me from [goal]."
Couldn't have put it more succinctly myself.
I'm a chronic illness sufferer and my life is plagued with things my body simply won't do anymore. Sometimes I'm in so much pain a hug feels more like a gunshot. Currently, it is too painful to clap, applaud, it hurts too much. At a family birthday party I was unable to cheer "Happy Birthday" with my three year old niece due to the pain.
As a plus-sized woman myself, I have felt this "congratulatory confusion" recently over a massive weight loss of nearly 70 pounds. A weight loss I did nothing for as I have been mostly confined to my home and bed, save for maybe one day a month to leave and buy groceries.
Everyone was complimenting me, congratulating me, cheering me on, so to speak. But I didn't "try" for this weight loss and I didn't ask for it; it's happening *to me* because I'm sick. Basically, at times, it feels as though people are cheering for my illness because it makes my body size more socially acceptable. And that's painful.
Thank you so much for your willingness to openly share your journey and experiences, for giving the rest of us a feeling of community, and a platform from which to begin a dialogue about how truly painful an issue something as personal as weight can be.
Love and Hugs.
Saying a prayer right now for healing and peace. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this.
adelaamarante This is literally my life. I feel for you. After a car accident, I now suffer from multiple chronic conditions, including CRPS, gastroparesis, autonomic neuropathy, POTS, and SVT to start. I also ended up with Lyme disease. So many things are entirely out of my control now. And that can be absolutely maddening on its own; forget about when people who know nothing of your situation pile on. But what I love about this community here is that we get to meet so many amazing people to share and bond with. And to learn from! The wealth of naturopathic and homeopathic information that I’ve gathered after having other folks make reading suggestions and topical suggestions to me concerning shared health conditions has really changed my life. I truly wish nothing but love and healing for you, and if you ever need an ear, well.... you know what comment section to find me in!! Lolol Much love and light, 💖🌈✨😘
adelaamarante I just commented something similar about my chronic illness affecting my relationship with my body. I hope you can find some relief soon. Chronic illness sucks!
I felt this. Ive got fibromyalgia and rheumatoid arthritis. Along with many mental health issues. So sad than so many can relate. Hang in there
Health and fitness is like brushing your teeth: everybody needs to do it. It shouldn't just be about looking a certain way.
Preach 👏🙌👏👏👏👏
Love this ❤️👍
Also a lot of people brush their teeth and still get cavities, while others don’t brush/ floss nearly as much but don’t have any dental issues. Same with health, some people exercise every day and eat very healthy but still gain weight. Others don’t eat healthy and don’t exercise but are “skinny” so never judge ❤️ sometimes it’s genetics too and unfortunately people don’t understand that 😢
Jen Ross so so true!! this is such a frustrating concept the people cannot seem to wrap around their head! it is so hurtful whenever people assume i feed my body crap. i fuel my body. i eat well. and obviously sometimes i might have an unhealthy treat every once in a while. but i am overweight and most people make arrogant assumptions and it is a struggle. so thank you so much for pointing this out and understanding some people pain
Delaney Niswonger that’s terrible that people think that! Personally I am a pretty skinny girl and I am quite active as well. However, I don’t ALWAYS eat the best. I know people who eat a pop tart and just automatically gain weight and get shamed. It hurts my heart bc everyone is different.
I was diagnosed with pcos in September. I was put on medication and started a low carb diet. Im currently 8 weeks pregnant. Just keep praying ❤
Congratulations!
Congratulations!!!!!!! If you don’t mind me asking. What medication did they give you. I was diagnosed 10 years ago with pcos for 10 years and all they gave me was birth control which I do not like taking.
spironolactone most doctors use it for acne or facial hair but it also lowers testosterone
Keto/low carb is supposed to be great for pcos
I definitely saw a reduction in my PCOS symptoms when I went low carb (keto specifically). The acne that flared up when I went off birth control cleared right up after cutting out the sugar. It was amazing. Our PCOS/Keto baby is a month away from arriving and I have little doubt that the low carb played a part. I went off the low carb after conceiving but I'll be back on it a few months after baby arrives. I have a long way to go on my weight loss and I felt so much better while on It.
imagine being a person who thinks its okay to DM someone criticizing them for there weight. smh
Tessa Red Swolenormous has been making videos about Sierra targeting her weight gain and using it as proof that she is manipulating her audience to promote “obesity”
@@clairedixon5471 never heard of her lol. Guess her hatred hasnt helped her relevance
Danielle Bailey he’s a guy lol. He’s a fitness UA-camr. Not defending or anything, just clarifying lol
Right?? Like I just read that somebody is actually making videos about Sierra and that she is intentionally doings this in your comments and that makes me so angry! Good grief who do you think you are??
People are sad and there is 100% wrong with someone who is that angry to do that
my older sister went through the same thing, they were telling her wouldn’t be able to conceive. She’s about to have baby #2 in like a month haha. I trust the universe to help you with your struggle girl
I understand what you mean I’m a size 14 and I’m starting to go to the gym and I hate telling people I’m going to the gym because if I don’t loose weight... they’ll be like, “you go to the gym and don’t loose weight... and just make me feel bad about it
Personally I found that when I was losing weight it was really important to not tell most people when I started, I only really told my mom and my sister. I found that it was more effective to tell a few very close people that could be supportive and keep you accountable rather than tell a lot of people because it can create a lot of pressure. I recommend that you find some youtube channels focused on fitness like Every Damn Day Fitness, My Thoughts will Probably Offend You, or Swolnormous, basically any channel that you can watch in order to keep motivated. Also you can find beginner's yoga 20 min videos if you want a recovery from the gym but still want a light exercise.
Best of Luck!!!
I've been working on losing weight after gaining 60 pounds over the past 6 years. The only person that knows is my boyfriend. But I don't like hearing my mom tell me I'm losing weight because she keeps tabs on my weight. I just wish it didn't matter so much. I don't want any of the comments even if they're positive
Cynthia A Yes 👏 ugh why do people think they’re giving you a gift by telling you how great they think you look after losing weight? It’s almost like they have stars in their eyes 🤩, too. Some people don’t even know how to contain their legit joy at seeing you trim down. It’s too much. We don’t need to know how excited you are about our bodies. It shouldn’t matter this much to you. It’s uncomfortable all the time and almost hurtful sometimes.
FELT.
yes that's the same reasopn why I don't want to go to the gym. I don't want to be judged
My ex-boyfriend's sister has been wanting a child since her diagnosis with PCOS fifteen years ago. She realised she was never going to be a mother, came to terms with it, accepted it and loved her life as much as she could knowing this. She just recently gave birth to her daughter, whom she considers a 'miracle baby'. Because miracles DO happen and you can be anything you want to be. You can do this, Sierra. Your positivity shines from you but even the most positive people need that little extra push sometimes. You were destined to be a mother and you should never give up hope. You will make such an amazing mum!
I know you mean well, but the "miracles can always happen" line is actually hurtful to most people with fertility issues. A plan for a baby shouldn't be basically hoping to win the jackpot in the lottery. It hurts like fucking hell when you know your chances are so diminished. I finally started cutting people out of my life. Well-meaning or not, these words were hurting me so deeply that I started having trouble getting out of bed. I finally had IVF and have a daughter, but not everyone is so lucky.
Fertility issues suck, and people who have them need to be told that it sucks and that it's okay for them to cry. Telling them to look on the bright side, life can be jut as fulfilling, miracles happen, etc. really says to them that they shouldn't be hurting, and infertility hurts enough without having your feelings belittled. So please rethink telling infertile people that they need t keep their chins up since miracles can happen. Winning the lottery is a miracle, but no one says to rely on that as a retirement plan.
Oh man! This really touched my heart. I have the exact same label because of my mother's PCOS, so it's so touching to read the exact same thing happened to another woman.
@@authoralysmarchand4737 - I'm sorry you feel that way. My post wasn't meant to belittle anyone or hurt anyone or control anyone's feelings by saying they shouldn't be hurting. I feel very bad now and like I've said an awful thing, but if that's how you feel then I can't really change that. Sorry that I've offended you. That really wasn't my intention at all.
Author Alys Marchand I hear what you’re saying. She didn’t say miracles can always happen, she said miracles DO happen.
@@courtneycunningham8819 - I'm sorry if that comment came across as rude and disrespectful. It was meant to be a positive comment to inspire hope, that's all. I honestly meant no disrespect.
"How do I love my body when it isn't functioning the way I want it to?"
That frustration is something that goes beyond fat- and body-shaming, so thank you for being vulnerable about it.
“‘What it it’s a medical condition?’ What if it’s not?!?”
This is perfect. Your mentality and this video helped with the perspective I have of myself in my own weight gain, medically caused or not.
Samantha Abeyta Keto diet honestly changed my life. Give it a go 🤟🏼
Jessica Hart Maybe tell people to talk to their doctor before recommending a diet that consistently causes high cholesterol and heart disease for obese people. I lost 40 lbs on keto, but I’m not gonna recommend it to people because you’re supposed to be monitored by a doctor. You can really hurt yourself if you’re dieting incorrectly.
I initially watched this video because I love body positivity even though it's usually adressed to people on the opposite side of the spectrum from me. Seeing other women thrive and flourish in their own bodies always makes me happy, but I wasn't expecting this to have an effect on how I view my body since I have completely different body insecurity issues. I am very thin, and always have been. Noticeably thin. I have always wanted "meat on my bones" or curves. In high school I was called "disgustingly skinny" someone said I looked like I had "just walked out of a concentration camp" I've been told by a cashier "double zero isn't a size, eat a hamburger." In high school people started rumors that I had an eating disorder, and that I was stupid because i would look so much better if I just put on some weight. Anytime I expressed insecurity about my body I was always shut down because "skinny is the ideal, you're lucky." People didn't realize that the ideal is skinny with thighs, skinny with a perfect waist, skinny with (insert ideal here). I have a hard time wearing shorts because my sticks for legs are on full show, I hide behind pants. But, I always had hope that when I was older I would "fill out." Then in the last year I was diagnosed with Hyperthyroidism. I was told I would always be like this and nothing would "fix" it. I would never be feminine and womanly. But this video has completely shifted my view point. Why should I let other people dictate how I feel about myself? What authority do they have? It's my body, my life, my health. Not theirs. Why should other people limit what I feel I can where, and prevent me from wearing things I enjoy. Why is a passing stranger's 5 seconds of judgment more valuable than my happiness? It's not. And the only reason it felt like that, was because I gave them power over my feelings. Thank you so much for opening up about this topic, because most women are afraid to and those are the ones who need this message the most. You are a beacon of light for women.
Your issues are valid and although I'd say I fall on the other side of the spectrum and would love to lose weight, I genuinely hear you out and I hope you can come to love yourself just the way you are and take great care of yourself
Period!
A lot of stuff you said here hits home for me.
So true, I hate how people constantly assume that skinny people aren’t allowed to feel insecure and constantly crap on them just bc “they are the beauty standard” that just losses me off, NOBODY deserves to be body shamed
I’m only a few minutes in, and girl... I just want to hug you. I have it and was told I couldn’t have kids... I GOT PREGNANT ON BIRTH CONTROL AND WITH PCOS. It was crazy.. unexpected and emotional. I’m a single momma, so I wasn’t trying. I had tons of tests and confusion about it... at 4 months along, I found out I was pregnant....
What I’m saying is, don’t give up, because it’s possible. I LOVE YOU GUYS! Take care of yourselves. ♥️
P.S. I don’t have a period. I hadn’t had one for 7 years because of birth control. And I got pregnant. Just remember that it’s possible. ♥️♥️♥️
And Sierra, this was by more than 1 doctor. I was told I couldn’t have kids. I was on birth control to help my cysts... and I got pregnant. It was shocking. He’s 15 months old now, and my world. I can’t wait for this to happen for you guys, and I truly believe it will.
Apparently women with PCOS have a higher risk of falling pregnant on birth control. I don't know the ins and outs but my fertility consultant told me that years sgo. Something to do with it leveling out the hormones x
Bexy Wexy interesting. Never heard of that! So interesting... makes sense, for my experience at least. Maybe Sierra should take birth control, lol! (Kidding of course)
I Am on a PCOS support group and there are a few on there that have in same situation x
Bexy Wexy That’s so neat! I also hadn’t had a period for 7 years, because of birth control, so I for sure thought I wasn’t pregnant. Lol. Went to the doctor for a cold at 4 months pregnant, and he asked if I had known I was pregnant. That was a big NOOOOPE. I’m so grateful now! it was a whirlwind.
Honestly I love her weight gain talks because its life. I've gained weight and it helps hearing and seeing her love herself. In this world we need more ppl like her
This hits. Recently lost 50 pounds due to my autoimmune disease. Everyone asks what "My secret " was. The moment I speak of my illness, so much awkwardness follows.
You are speaking for so many.
Rebecca Rice completely understand you. I was a 105 lb model stick in the past and boy were people envious. Unfortunately they had no idea that I had an eating disorder, was addicted to exercise and eventually found out I had an autoimmune disease that kept me from gaining weight. You just don’t know what anyone is going through by looking at them. Skinny doesn’t necessarily mean healthy, it’s more important to be understanding of others. Hopefully you’re doing better now with your health.
Zofia Janeczek So true. I had friends and coworkers make comments to me, not knowing how badly I wanted to gain weight but couldn’t. I was so self conscious being so small and then I got on good meds and gained so fast that i am now self conscious again 🙃
kaaat I’m no longer stick thin either. Age, genetics, a gluten free diet, along with a hard life have put on the lbs for me also. I’m somewhat self conscious but that’s because I went from an impossible to keep size 2 to 12 over the decades.
So this is the second time I watched this video since this is the only one I've found that makes me feel like I'm beautiful just as I am.
I was always told by my family and the doctors that I was too "fat" or that I had too much weight on my bones. My family always told me "haven't you eaten enough today?" or "should you really eat that". I've gained depression, anxiety and I've had multiple different eating disorders because of it. Even though no one knows.
It was just recently when I went to my doctor and she told me I was too overweight. Even though I don't look like it. My mum and dad just realised what I've been going through, and what I feel.
Calling an emotionally unstable teenager "fat" won't solve the problem. I am beautiful the way I am. I eat healthy, I work out almost every day and I finally feel alright with myself.
Good for you Nana, That is amazing! Good for you! I'm really proud of you. I have dealt with all of the same things as you & more, so I know how you are feeling.. Just do what you can each day and anytime you have a harder day than usual, try really hard not to beat yourself up about it because there's always tomorrow... And never forget that YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL & AMAZING JUST THE WAY YOU ARE! IT'S NOT ABOUT HOW YOU LOOK IT'S ABOUT WHAT'S IN YOUR HEART.. God is an INCREDIBLE place to run to anytime it is hard. He ONLY wants & cares about your heart..unlike this world we live in. God ALWAYS excepts you and is always longing for you to be close to Him. If you're not or have never been close to Him you don't have to make any commitments just talk to Him..Pray your beautiful heart out..Keep your head up high pretty girl XOXO
@@meganfairweather958 thank you so much darling! ❤️ I always try to keep positive!
It's literally the worst thing people can do. I am overweight and I am trying to lose it. One entire week I literally ate 100 calories a day, when I should have been eating 1880. So, on Sunday, I ate a bag of crisps, since I was literally eating salads and water and my mom saw it and said "you shouldn't eat that, that's so unhealthy, you'll get even fatter". MY OWN MOM😭 and I literally broke down crying and ran to the toilet to puke it all out. Looking back, I shouldn't have done that, but I was just so down😔 people have no idea what their words can do to a person
@@RealAngelOfMusic Awe I feel that pain, I hope the best for you ❤️ don't let anyone bring you down
@@dogewolf6761 thank you so much 😍🥺 I wish the same for you ❤️❤️❤️
I lost 30 pounds in a month once when I sick enough to be hospitalized with a severe stomach ulcer that made it impossible for me to function. I felt hopeless and horrendous, thinking I might never go back to work and needing IV fluids because I literally could not even drink water without extreme stomach pain and vomiting. It was awful. Yet I've never had more compliments in my life. Even when I told people I was thinner from being terribly ill, they cracked jokes about how they wished they could get sick, too. It was probably the most physically and emotionally painful and miserable time in my life but all anybody seemed to care about was that my belly didn't jiggle as much. It was very eye opening. Those people don't care about your health. They care about how much space you take up.
You will get through this battle!
I’m kind of in this boat right now. Thankfully I’m not in any physical pain, and I am SO sorry that happened to you. :(
I started taking Wellbutrin because I got depressed to where I couldn’t handle it myself anymore. A common side effect is weight loss because it just kills your appetite. So I’ve lost about 25 pounds in the last month because I just can’t eat. I try but pretty quick I feel like I’m going to puke I’m so full.
And everyone is like wow congratulations!
And it’s like thanks. I haven’t eaten a full meal in a month.
I wish people would just freaking keep to themselves.
Melissa Stephan something similar to this happened to me! I had lost between 50-65 lbs in a 6-7 week span due to what I now am diagnosed with is ulcerative colitis. I stopped eating more than maybe a bowl of oatmeal because of massive pain and internal bleeding in my intestines. I ended up being hospitalized and getting home with proper medications and so many people started complimenting me and saying “what’s your secret” to which I would explain extreme illness and they’d say the same thing “oh what I’d give to be sick for a week just to loose these remaining 15 lbs” and Id be shocked because I never wanted to be so sick I couldn’t even choke down food my body was rejecting it so often. It’s so eye opening but it taught me a good lesson on those “innocent comments” people make on appearance that can make more of a lasting impression good or bad that is none of my business.
@@brookeb2227 All my best wishes to you - I've struggled with depression and I know the immense pain of it.
@@xxbluestars11xx I hope you're feeling much better and have found a treatment plan! UC is no joke
I experienced so many compliments when I had liver issues causing me to lose a huge amount of weight fast. No-one cared about the health issue, just the weight loss. When I gained weight due to a different health issue, suddenly everyone was "concerned" about my health. They still didn't care about the reason, just about getting it fixed so I could be "healthy" again...
WHEN YOU SAID YOU ARE TRYING I LITERALLY STARTED CRYING! I really hope you are able to conceive ❤️😭
She and her husband would be amazing parents :D
My husband and I got pregnant and was super happy when we found out I was pregnant. But, the pregnancy was an ectopic pregnancy. I end losing my baby.
Pamela Idontknowyou i am so sorry for your loss! i can only imagine the pain
sameeee
kat i know me too _ omg - praying for her
I have PCOS, and have had 3 kids naturally! God has got this!
Me too i have pcos
Maci Bookout from teen mom is the same way! i also know a couple ppl in real life who have it, have children AND are slim. i don't understand it, but have always been intrigued/jelly.
I have pcos too and been trying naturally for almost 2 years
This... I am a size 14ish and have struggled to lose it. I do not have a medical condition to "explain it away ". I am so proud of you for speaking up. I love your body positivity. My heart breaks for your journey to motherhood. I pray you will eventually succeed. I think you will be a fabulous mom.
This hits home. I'm in my 50's. When I started losing weight as a teen through NOT EATING-- I got such Positive reinforcement it was crazy. I'll never forget that feeling that I was worth more if I was thinner. I smoked, did certain drugs and didn't eat in hopes to keep my weight low and off. I even ended up at the neurologist and no one made the connection. I was killing myself because people made me feel great being 'skinner'. Getting older (and frankly, having a baby) changed that so much. I still struggle with health vs weight. As you get older things change again. Life is a cycle. I hope things work out for you. xxoo thx for being so brave
no woman should EVER have to make an explanation to why they are “bigger” or “smaller”
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TheCherroes Cheese i commented about women not having to make these videos because sierra is a WOMAN making this video. if i seen a man on youtube making a video like this (which i never do) then i would comment this same thing but for men. i always see young girls and older girls making videos as to why they are overweight or underweight and i dont think people in general should have to make a video like this. im not trying to offend you or anything lol but you really need to get your facts straight
TheCherroes Cheese did i say men were commenting on her weight? no. if men were, that would just be disgusting. all im saying is that not human in general should have to feel the need to explain themselves for having their body
TheCherroes Cheese ik that her channel is based off that and that is why im subscribed! i love watching her videos because they make me want to try to be more confident with myself, but she still no matter what should have to explain her weight. her channel is based off looks and fashion, and about being a PLUS SIZED body confident woman. that should be enough, she has vocalized her opinion on being a plus sized confident woman. she shouldnt feel the need to explain herself period
Thank you in advance to anyone who reads this. When Sierra said “let’s make this a two sided conversation” I literally scrambled to find my phone (watching on the tv lol) because I have a few things to say about my relationship with my own body.
I have a past history, well not too past as it’s a regular cycle for me, of disordered eating and I am currently having a heavy relapse into my old habits. It started when I was about 18 and I was changing birth controls and my weight went up a little (naturally being I was growing into a woman, and hormones etc), but I couldn’t fathom the idea of gaining 5 or 10 pounds from where I was used to being. That led me into a cycle of extreme calorie restricting and seeing literally no results. I eventually accepted my fate that I am growing for the better, and I started accepting my body as it is. I do go out to restaurants and enjoy life and all of the food in it, although I feel immense guilt knowing “if I eat this it’s keeping me from my ideal body.” Yes it’s a very unhealthy way of thinking.
Now I am 23 and I’ve been going through the ups and downs of acceptance and starvation. I am literally mentally and physically exhausted from the disordered patterns of my eating for the last 5 years. I suppose I needed to tell somebody about this, I’ve kept it a secret from everyone. Once again thank you, anyone, for reading this.
Chelsea Daniels I recently set an alarm on my phone for every morning that says, “You deserve nutrition”. It really helped me to push forward while struggling with the same thoughts.
You can do this! Life is about so much more than looks and you deserve a healthy body.
B EJ thank you. This means a lot to me and will be very helpful 💕
Everybody, every BODY, deserves to be loved and more importantly, deserves to love themself!!! A healthy body doesn't have to be a size 2, 4, or 6, or any other size. Love yourself, love your body, and hopefully the rest of life will be better. As someone who also struggles with disordered eating and eating habits and hate-filled thoughts about myself, I know that when I'm feeling the most self love, I also feel the most love and happiness from the world around me.
Chelsea Daniels you are so welcome. People who don’t struggle with this don’t understand, but it takes a lot of willpower to even eat when we’re feeling this way. We’re all brave for making it this far! And hopefully we can become even better with time 💕
Also, I didn’t even look at you’re picture until right now, but wow! You’re gorgeous! And I hope you can start to see yourself that way too! 💕
When you have your baby you’re gonna be the best mom ever 🥺🥺 good luck
This aged well
I have PCOS and have a two and a half year old ♥️ never lose hope
Thank you
I’m 35, about to turn 36, and I’ve been told I would need fertility meds to have a baby because of pcos since I was in my 20s. Just found out I was pregnant last Thursday without any meds, just got my body to the healthiest place I could.
ohbrandyjune 💕💕💕 that’s so amazing
Ali Ashland it was the happiest day of my life, so far. 💓 we are proof that you can’t let pcos diagnosis stop you from believing your body is amazing.
ohbrandyjune YEEES ♥️♥️♥️
Okay WHAT kind of comment is “you’re lying about being a vegetarian” I’m heated. Like that is so unrelated and I’m so angry for you with dealing with all the crappy people. You are so much stronger than anything life can throw at you ❤️ thank you for always encouraging your viewers, now we can be there for you!
I know right? Even vegetarians and vegans can gain a lot of weight...
I agree made me want to roll up my sleeves and be like who said that? PEOPLE ARE EVIL
also uhh vegetarian does not automatically mean healthy or skinny lmao..you can be a vegetarian eating mcdonald's fries 24/7
@@ThimbleFox350 exactly!! There's a ton of vegan junk out there.
I need to comment on this because I am vegan and I get this kind of comment so so so often! My body is a size 10-12 but because I am rather short I don't look thin, this is not a problem for me at all but it seems that the rest of the universe cannot cope with the idea that my body isn't thinner considering ''I only eat vegetables''. I always say the same: crisps and chips are vegan and high in calories, same as nuts, avocado, sweetcorn, vegan cookies, wine or anything battered and fried. And guess what, I eat all of those things when I want them. We really need to change this image of 'vegan= thin= healthy' because it's so wrong...
I totally agree with the “switch flip” everytime someone is judging my weight and I tell them I’ve got PCOS they change their statement immediately
As a 19 year old girl who just barely got diagnosed with PCOS- it is SO nice to see an example of someone who knows exactly what I am going through, and to have someone to relate to! ❤️ thank you for being brave enough to share :)
Totally! There are so many women out there with PCOS. You are not alone!
my mum has PCOS and she had three children so don't give up hope!!
I've seen a few mommy vloggers here on YT that also have PCOS and children.
Funny thing about the vegetarian part is that, being vegetarian doesn't equal to diet and weight loss. People are just twisted, they judge things that are not there business.
A bag of sugar is technically vegetarian. I like pointing that out to people who think vegetarian means must-be-healthy.
Exactly! I eat 98% plant-based, I go to the gym, and I have a very normal weight (bmi 22). If I only ever ate vegetables and fruit, sure, I probably would be super skinny, but I aside from the fact that I don't eat animal products, I literally eat completely normal. Vegan sweets are easily available, and chips usually are vegan as well. I could eat 5 kg fries every day and it would not be healthy BUT it would be vegan/vegetarian 🤷♀️
It's a fundamental misunderstanding of vegetarianism and veganism. Most people think all they can eat are salads and cucumbers and that they're constantly malnourished.
"The only person I will take advice from is my doctor" THANK YOU!! So much misinformation and doubt out there, its truly scary!
sadly, I've had too many doctors tell me I'm fat because of my lifestyle and that my weight caused my pain. Turns out I was right and I probs have PCOS. Don't be afraid to doctor shop!
I don't know how to love my body when it's out of my control. I'm just trying for body neutrality now.
Weight and eating are often tied to morality in our society.
"Omg, I was SO bad this weekend"
"Oh, no thanks, I'm trying to be good"
"Wow, this recipe is DANGEROUS!"
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It's dumb and actually dangerous.
Last year I had some GI issues. Ulcers and other things that made eating physically painful. In 7 days, I ate a quarter up of white rice, and that was ALL I could stomach.
A coworker asked me if I "felt skinny." NAH, BITCH, I FELT ILL.
This was important for me to hear as someone who hates their body
I’m sorry about that. Not being able to eat due to GI issues is so awful.
when sierra started tearing up i started crying…
Jasmine Kennedy me too
Same🥺
My favorite quote to say is “skinny doesn’t always mean healthy, and being fat doesn’t always mean unhealthy.”
As a girl who has been 270 pounds at my highest and now 140 pounds. I have always been a big girl but holy hell have I noticed how different people treat me now or how guys now suddenly realize I am pretty. And now I say fuck them if you didn’t love me when I was fat fuck your love now that I’m skinny. I have watched one video of yours before so I know nothing of your back story aside from what you have said here, but I wish you nothing but health, happiness and love on this journey you and your family are on. As a cancer survivor (AML) having a positive mindset moves mountains! Stay strong and lean on Heavenly Father when you need a extra push.
I have been all the way from 100lbs to 230lbs. I totally agree how different it is. I actually have more healthy habits now that I'm bigger yet everyone thought I was more healthy when I was skinny. I only ate junk food and drank soda none stop then. Now I eat all kinds of foods. I love grilled chicken and veggies and all that and drink tons of water. Yet everyone thinks I'm so unhealthy.
Girl exactly i fluctuate between 215-230 lbs, but im healthy, my job is super physical and I work hard, I rarely get sick and im happy♥️
What an incredible story! Keep on being positive beautiful!
IKR?! My chronic depression resulted in me losing 8 pounds in the first 2 months of university and my weight has been dropping steadily since then.
I was morbidly obese since puberty, 316 lbs at my heaviest in high school, which was in part due to depression that stemmed from horrible life events. It was SO BRUTALLY HEARTBREAKING going through high school at multiple schools and being excluded from just about everything because I was seen as disgusting.
After college I made several massive lifestyle changes and dropped 140 lbs. The shift in people’s attitude towards me (male and female) was SHOCKING and APPALLING. I noticed even people meeting me for the first time, it was so much different than people’s meeting me at 300+ lbs, just right off the bat friendlier.
It took a long time to not be bitter about the way people are. And most people aren’t conscious of how they view people differently based on weight, but it just shows even more that we need the societal mindset shift that’s starting to take off.
That was really long, but I felt your comment in a real way!
My mom has PCOS and she was told her whole life that she would never have kids she is also a very small person 4ft7 and she was blessed with me and my sister
I think both of you were blessed with your mom :))
Good for her!
My mom was told that she couldn’t have children, and once she gave up, after years of trying she got pregnant... and here I am ❤️ Don’t lose hope, and I hope you can appreciate your body regardless of what you are going through
Sierra WILL be a great mom. Speaking it into existence.
I have PCOS and I was able to have a baby after 4 years of trying and eating well you can do it
Same with me. me and my husband been trying for another baby but no luck because of my eating. When I conceived my son, I was eating very healthy and going to the gym. PCOS feeds off of bad food
Matty Rebeca yes! Limit carbs. My doctor asked me to limit my carbs to 120 a day to help me ovulate. It worked! I have a six month old 💛
There are so many ways to be a mom. Giving birth is only one of them.
This. 100% this.
didn't she say this?
did you even watch the video lol she literally said all the ways
i agree w that, and she did mention that but there is a difference when u adopt or do ANY other way possible rather than being pregnant. im guessing having that full experience is important to her.
Madison Comegna Maybe she commented this before she finished the video? Don’t be a brat. She’s being nice, maybe you should read a page from her book.
Completely understand! I had the opposite issue a number of years ago. I was loosing a ton of weight, because of cancer. And I heard constantly was hearing, "oh, my god you look so great!" i was quiet about my diagnose, and these comments made me so angry! At my complete worse health, people were complimenting me!!! One day i had a girl I hadn't seen in some time walk up to me and compliment my weight loss, Within my anger I smiled and said thanks I have cancer, but thanks for thinking I look good, now.
Darlin, you are beautiful!! Keep going!!!
This world makes me so angry & so sad at the same time!... I'm so sorry this happened to you, that is so so awful.. I genuinely hope that you are doing much better now.. It seems so since you said it's been a number of years but I didn't want to assume.. God bless Jamay Ann
I’m so sorry 😞 * don’t take the Lord’s name in vein *
I was told I'd never have children. I have 2. Anything is possible. Stay positive!
It was the same for my mother. She had cysts which had to be removed. Therefore her uterus was scarred and every doctor told her that the chances of getting pregnant were 0. She had to accept that they would probably never have children. Bur little did they know: she fell pregnant with my sister at age 40 and with me at age 42. Everything went fine and my parents were just happy. Sometimes when you do not try, things will turn out just the way you wanted them to.
Same! I had completely accepted that I would never have a baby and now I have a 1 year old.
Kathy Smith I’m 13 and I’ve known since I was 2 that I can’t have kids:((
I was told I'd never be able to conceive. I've delivered 6, including naturally conceived fraternal twins, never having any fertility assistance. We lost one son, who was stillborn, but have 5 living children. Also had 2 early losses, so without help, conceived 7 pregnancies with 8 babies, with the last one conceiving at 41 with only one Fallopian tube left.
I was told I'd probably never have children too. So far, I havent. Not for lack of trying.
Girl you are so beautiful. I am a personal trainer and whenever my clients have some issues with their body I tell them to go to your channel because weight has nothing to do with how beautiful you are
Wow that's a really beautiful thing to say! Specially coming form a personal trainer! I've struggled with my weight all my life and sometimes trainers and nutriocionists treat you so horribly that you give up because you're ashamed of yourself...
@@ginacervantes7535 Don't give up on yourself, you're beautiful either way! If you want to lose a couple pounds for confidence reasons I am here to help on any questions you may have and don't be ashamed, everyones process is different. But health is within. You first need to learn how to speak to yourself kindly : )
@@kamilakapel thanks cutie!! ❤
I teared up a bit when you mentioned how hard it is to love your body when it is keeping you from the thing you want most in life. I don't have PCOS but I cannot get pregnant for another reason. It is so hard to love myself and my body sometimes because I feel like it is failing me in a way. Thank you for talking so openly about all of this. Although our situations are really different, I feel less alone after listening to this
Thank you. I've gained so much weight for the last two years and as I've gotten higher, I've definitely been judged more and been constantly asked if I was pregnant. It's so nice to hear someone more positive about it. Thank you.
Ok haters this never ok to comment on someone's weight.
I don’t understand why people care so much about other people’s bodies. It’s not your body so don’t share your opinion.
Andrea Esparza well said 👏👏👏
Andrea Esparza yes!! 👏
Andrea Esparza IKR! I think it’s a way of projecting their own insecurities on everyone else🙄
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My step mom can’t have children of her own. The first time my sister called her mom she started to cry
Ok sad but sweet story
I have PCOS too. It's so hard, girl. As I watch this video, I'm feeding my newborn son. Don't lose hope. Your journey to becoming a mom might look different than mine, but I believe you will still become a mom somehow. Sending love!
I want this to be trending. So many people need to see this. Everything you said is SO true and Im glad you said it!!!! ❤
I can understand to a certain extent! I may look “healthy” and I may have the “ideal” body, I am losing weight like crazy. I am currently weighing as much as I did in the 8th grade and people are assuming that I have an eating disorder but I have serious health issues. My bf and I are also TTC but it’s extremely hard to have a baby when I have little to no fat to help sustain a healthy pregnancy and I’m so anemic that I need a blood transfusion and I have a heart condition but no one cares about what’s going on internally. They only care about what they can see and judge from afar and I don’t need to tell you that it SUCKS! I am so so so proud of you for not only staying strong through this video and sharing your story but also being such an encouragement and inspiration for others! You are loved! ❤️
I was diagnosed with PCOS back when I was in my early 20s. Two years ago, I got married and we started talking about conceiving. After a few months of trying, nothing happened so I got on a mission to lose weight (i lost 70lbs). It’s tough with PCOS but not impossible. I now have a 6 week old baby girl that I adore. Best of luck to you!
Also totally didn’t notice weight gain on you, you’re gorgeous!
Giiiiiiiiirl, I can relate. “How can you love your body when your body is stopping you from being a mom.” I am much older than you (34) and my husband and I have been trying to conceive for 9 years. Nine. Years. It’s so so so so hard to love yourself when you feel like your body is damaged in a way. Honestly, it comes in waves. Sometimes I have the mindset of, “God wanted my life this way. He’s in control. My life is still very much blessed.” And then BAM it can shift in a blink of an eye to nothing but self doubt, pity, and hatred. I hope and pray that you have much better luck than me. Hang in there and try to stay hopeful even in the hardest times.
Carina , hugs honey! We tried for 10 years. Finally brought home a beautiful baby boy we adopted 10 years ago. I had to grieve the child I could never have first, but I could not have loved my son more than I do.
Sandi Carroll Thank you so much! It’s comforting hearing your story. Thanks again!
God loves you and is there with you through it all. It’s all for a reason - don’t lose heart!
Brittany Thank you so much for this. It’s so nice to reminded of this. You are so right! Thank you again!
"How do I love my body when it's not functioning the way I want it to.." is so real and damning, and also so important. I think it's important you said the way you WANT it to, instead of the way it SHOULD. Everybody and every body is differently abled, skilled, functioning. And regardless of where you are on that spectrum, you still have value and are a wonderfully amazing creation. Like you've said before, what you weigh does not define your worth and your abilities to achieve love or purpose. Just as long as you're being kind to yourself and to your body... That's being body positive. To take what you CAN DO and CAN CONTROL and take inspiration from those things, rather than focusing on what you currently can not do or can not control.
There's no one way to be or do anything. Cheers to you for being honest and open about this. I believe you and Stephan will end up where you're meant to end up, supporting each other and remaining positive.
As someone who gained a tremendous amount of weight due to PCOS and then lost a significant portion through an eating disorder, thank you.
I was skinny my whole life, was diagnosed with PCOS and you wouldn’t believe the comments I got. Even if it’s medical, even if it’s not, no one needs to be rude, comment or say anything about another persons weight. Period.
Paige Madison preach it sister yasss
I have PCOS and am a vegetarian as well. The number of people that are like "how are YOU a vegetarian?" because I'm not thin is amazing. I've also been told over and over "hormonal problems aren't an excuse to be fat." It's frustrating. Just know you're lovely. Don't let the haters get you down (easier said than done, I know). I totally relate to hating the way my body functions, the no periods, the stubborn weight, the inability to conceive, etc. Going through fertility treatments right now and it's a struggle. PCOS is rough!
My husband and I have struggled with infertility because of endometriosis. And this past September we had the honor of adopting our son. Don’t get too discouraged because God is bigger. No matter how you come into parenthood, God is still good 😘💖
This is so inspiring. Congratulations to you and your husband! My fiancé and I want to adopt kids too. Do you have any advice? Was the process really difficult?
I love this comment!
@@ladycaticorn2950 People will try to discourage you because they have a very narrow view of what family is. But it's a shame that so many can only love what comes out of their own bodies (and some of them are hardly fit to be called parents anyway). It's a long and expensive process- no different than ivf or surrogacy. My adoption was finalized a year after my parents brought me home at 10 days old. Your experience will vary depending on the state you live in, if you're a same sex couple, your living situation, and other factors. Do you want an open or closed adoption? Foster first? So many variables! But there are also a lot resources available to your family.
Lady Caticorn my biggest advice is to not get discouraged during the process. There are bumps and turns on the road but in the end it all works out. And don’t let people sway your heart for this. Family members aren’t always understanding in the pre child placement process because there is the potential to get hurt but as soon as the meet the child God had perfect designed for you to parent, they change their tune. And lastly, adopt out of the system. It takes longer but those kiddos so desperately need parents.
@@miikoshka Thanks for the information! As someone who was adopted, do you feel connected with your adoptive parents? Have you had struggles because they could have done better with helping you navigate your identity as an adoptee?
I'm in a heterosexual relationship and won't be adopting for some time; however, my fiancé and I would definitely like to adopt exclusively in the future. We don't want bio kids for this reason. Personally, I would prefer a closed adoption. We are definitely open to foster care, adopting siblings, kids with disabilities, or older kids (it'll depend on how old we are when we adopt as to how old we can adopt) as well.
“It feels like my body is revolting against me”
I literally said the same thing to my husband when I was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s, hypothyroidism, and pernicious anemia a year ago. I felt so disconnected from my body. I still struggle with it, but I’ve gotten so much better. I think finding doctors you are comfortable with and trust is key! You got this!
i have hashimotos too! it is the suck. i've gained so much weight, and people are so mean about it..they just don't understand.
lizardq23 I know! I gained a lot too. I was able to lose a lot after I got my medication figured out, but I’m still struggling with the depression and energy issues. I hope everything works out for you.
I also have Hashimoto’s and I feel this so hard. I gained about 40 lbs in the blink of an eye and I was already a bigger girl. I have been able to lose some, like 10 lbs, but mostly I am just maintaining, no matter what I do. Always tired. Always achey.
Heather L I’ve lost 100 lbs so far (low carb & working with my doctors), but the exhaustion and the mood swings are really hard right now! Also my hair is falling out so that’s been hard.
@@hl6765 maintaining is still a victory, though. Dont get discouraged!! Treat your body right!! You're not alone!
Who the hell comments on someones weight, or even worse, DM them about it??
Sarah in the Suburbs the majority of the population, unfortunately 😢
A bitter, sad soul.
Sad sad people
I did a friends nails and she tagged me on FB and some random DMed me asking what was wrong with her fingers. People are assholes.
Um yeah pretty much a lot of people
I dont have PCOS but Endometriosis, which can have similar Symptoms. I feel all you girls who struggle with these things. Its a lifelong journey about getting to know your body, but you got this !
I have PCOS thought I’d never have children. Without planning I had my miracle little girl, it IS possible. Stay positive girl!
You are a beautiful person and the people telling you things like “your not good enough because of your weight” when they have no right. You are a kind amazing person.
Agree with this 100%
Imagine being such a sad nasty person that you dm someone and attack them for their weight. Imagine havingnothing else better to do than putting people down to feel better about yourself.
I literally had someone send me a rude dm today because I have dyed blue hair in my twitter profile pic. Some people just want to be rude and mean for no reason and I don't get why, it sucks.
@@sarahfrench113 i had blue hair blue hair is awesome!!!!! Some people have nothing better to do i assume.
Theres apparently a disgusting youtuber who goes by "swolenormous" (excuse me while I puke) who has been making videos talking shit about her weight gain and claiming that she is manipulating her fans and promoting obesity... He needs a hard smack in the face. With a bus.
@@lindseynobody4865 there will always be haters! but anyone who watches Sierra knows the kind, funny and gorgeous person she is 🙂
@@sarahfrench113 i wish I had the courage to add color to my hair. Good for you!
Yeah my old ADHD meds suppressed my appetite, so for a while I was only eating the bare minimum for lunch at school, because I would literally just forget to eat breakfast and dinner because I wasn't hungry. I was steadily losing weight, and I went from weight 125 lbs to 110 lbs, and being 5'3 people would tell me "omg you're so tiny" or "you are so gorgeous, I wish I looked like you" meanwhile I was thinking, "thanks its because I literally have to choose between being able to function day to day or eating normally". Anyway, I got off of those meds so let's hope the next ones go better