I am currently an intern working on my masters for clinical mental health counseling. I sought out additional resources in preparation for working with co-parenting clients. I found this presentation incredibly insightful. Thank you for your time and enthusiasm!
This. Is. Gold!!!! Thank you sir, you’re a master. I look forward to practice these amazing techniques and implementing them! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️ I’ll practice this myself and hopefully I can be an example to him
Im in a high conflict situation. As much as I say im not the issue idk anymore.... i need help and advice. Very happy i found your video. I bark back and i neeeeeeed to try not to let him push my buttons... its hard
My significant other and I have been dealing with his histrionic ex for several years and its nothing but chaos, drama and unfortunately lots of inappropriate behavior with his son. I truly blame the family court system and CPS for failing children. We paid for her diagnosis and she admitted to sexually assaulting his son in court and still she gets overnight visits.
Actually he's spot on in dealing with a covert. He's diffusing the high conflict situations that narcs like with the methods he's suggesting. His ideas help u not get dragged into the games. It's emotionless contact, the next best thing to No Contact.
With all due respect, as there is a lot of good info in here for "normal" people who are just dealing with normal anger and resentment after a divorce, this is not appropriate for situations involving one parent who is disordered (e.g., narcissism). The people targeted by narcissists are (generally) highly empathetic, and advising that they ask themselves "might I be the problem here?" is not only counterproductive, but harmful to their recovery. We've already asked if we're the problem, probably for years. As someone who DOES specialize in high-conflict (it's all we deal with), the targeted parent doesn't need this advice and the abusive parent won't listen to it.
What can be done when you were (long story short) manipulated into fatherhood, are a single child to elderly parents with no immediate family around so most time is used taking care of them, and the other coparent from what I read is highly likely a covert narc? There are no resources or information to help figure out what can be done in this situation.
you're probably the targeted parent in parental alienation syndrome - hope you have a good attorney and a proper custody order that limits the amount of actual cooperation that is requried between you and the narcissist parent. This video won't be helpful. Try this one instead: ua-cam.com/video/AHL_A0kodlY/v-deo.html
This is great information, but I think its utterly useless. The personality disordered aggressive people are not capable of addressing these behaviors.
How can you possibly categorize 'high conflict parents' as one and the same?! Are you familiar with domestic violence?! If you are not part of the solution YOU are part of the problem. I sound angry? maybe you say? LOL How did I guess? Have you ever considered it's not BOTH people involved in the situation? I know EXACTLY how to terminate all conflict forever in my situation. The ONLY way to even minimize the conflict would be for me, the normal range and emotionally available parent, to COMPLETELY surrender ALL custody and decision making to the other parent, who is very far from normal range of mental functioning(according to our psychological testing). When I've asked in the past to be shown HOW I'm just as much the problem in this situation, I have been told that I exist, and consider myself a mother to this child, that is the real problem. ----PLEASE take into consideration that "I" statements are offensive to MANY of these high conflict PERSONS, not couples. The basis of offense is that the other person is claiming to have a feeling that should be considered as valid. Therefore your suggestion to use "I" statements is laughable. ----Maybe the reason the high conflict couple think s they have agreed on it is because one of them insists, using the child's well being for leverage, that 'we could always agree to whatever we want outside of the agreement' but then when it comes time, WHOOPS they don't remember. But could you imagine the persecution if it was insisted upon that they put their agreement in writing?!?!? I'm sure I sound some very offensive way not intended, so I reassure you that I am INTENT on breaking this cycle in my own family and hopefully MANY others. I only write this comment in hopes of a response. You have all this training and certifications, I'm curios what school of thought and philosophies your generalizations are based on.
The term “high conflict” is bullshit and allows the toxic parent to continue their abuse while avoiding all accountability and assigning blame to the victimized parent.
I find all this information helpful if you’re dealing with two humans who are actually engaged in the welfare of their children - but you are encouraging victims of coercive control to gas light themselves by questioning their own feelings and instincts to protect themselves and their children vs dealing with a toxic abusive individual based on a long history of behavior of them proving over and over who they are
I am currently an intern working on my masters for clinical mental health counseling. I sought out additional resources in preparation for working with co-parenting clients. I found this presentation incredibly insightful. Thank you for your time and enthusiasm!
This. Is. Gold!!!! Thank you sir, you’re a master. I look forward to practice these amazing techniques and implementing them! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️ I’ll practice this myself and hopefully I can be an example to him
Im in a high conflict situation. As much as I say im not the issue idk anymore.... i need help and advice. Very happy i found your video. I bark back and i neeeeeeed to try not to let him push my buttons... its hard
Valuable information !!! Thank you
My significant other and I have been dealing with his histrionic ex for several years and its nothing but chaos, drama and unfortunately lots of inappropriate behavior with his son.
I truly blame the family court system and CPS for failing children.
We paid for her diagnosis and she admitted to sexually assaulting his son in court and still she gets overnight visits.
So true, the courts completely ignored the abuse my children have received. It's so damaging
Actually he's spot on in dealing with a covert. He's diffusing the high conflict situations that narcs like with the methods he's suggesting. His ideas help u not get dragged into the games. It's emotionless contact, the next best thing to No Contact.
I agree.
Really appreciate this information. Thank you.
Appreciate your platform
I am in FloridaMy divorce is in a different County, no one has been equipped to stop my ex who is not a US citizen.
AMAZING
Useless if you are dealing with a narc or a psychopath.
With all due respect, as there is a lot of good info in here for "normal" people who are just dealing with normal anger and resentment after a divorce, this is not appropriate for situations involving one parent who is disordered (e.g., narcissism). The people targeted by narcissists are (generally) highly empathetic, and advising that they ask themselves "might I be the problem here?" is not only counterproductive, but harmful to their recovery. We've already asked if we're the problem, probably for years. As someone who DOES specialize in high-conflict (it's all we deal with), the targeted parent doesn't need this advice and the abusive parent won't listen to it.
What can be done when you were (long story short) manipulated into fatherhood, are a single child to elderly parents with no immediate family around so most time is used taking care of them, and the other coparent from what I read is highly likely a covert narc? There are no resources or information to help figure out what can be done in this situation.
you're probably the targeted parent in parental alienation syndrome - hope you have a good attorney and a proper custody order that limits the amount of actual cooperation that is requried between you and the narcissist parent. This video won't be helpful. Try this one instead: ua-cam.com/video/AHL_A0kodlY/v-deo.html
Wear a condom or get a vasectomy, stop blaming the mother for getting pregnant
If you listen to Rebecca sing she helps
Thank you.
Where have you been all my parent hood🙌🏽❤️❤️❤️🙏🏽
Ok apparently this guy hasn't had any personal experience with a covert narcissist.
amen to that. well said
That’s what I was looking for too smh.
You saved me from watching this video
I was already 6:00 in lol
Your a god
Was thinking the SAME thing!!!
Yup. +1 to this.
Or I’m taking you back to court
This is great information, but I think its utterly useless. The personality disordered aggressive people are not capable of addressing these behaviors.
The point is to document evidence using these techniques. Eventually lead to a court room where you can show best interest of child
How can you possibly categorize 'high conflict parents' as one and the same?! Are you familiar with domestic violence?! If you are not part of the solution YOU are part of the problem. I sound angry? maybe you say? LOL How did I guess? Have you ever considered it's not BOTH people involved in the situation?
I know EXACTLY how to terminate all conflict forever in my situation. The ONLY way to even minimize the conflict would be for me, the normal range and emotionally available parent, to COMPLETELY surrender ALL custody and decision making to the other parent, who is very far from normal range of mental functioning(according to our psychological testing).
When I've asked in the past to be shown HOW I'm just as much the problem in this situation, I have been told that I exist, and consider myself a mother to this child, that is the real problem.
----PLEASE take into consideration that "I" statements are offensive to MANY of these high conflict PERSONS, not couples. The basis of offense is that the other person is claiming to have a feeling that should be considered as valid. Therefore your suggestion to use "I" statements is laughable.
----Maybe the reason the high conflict couple think s they have agreed on it is because one of them insists, using the child's well being for leverage, that 'we could always agree to whatever we want outside of the agreement' but then when it comes time, WHOOPS they don't remember. But could you imagine the persecution if it was insisted upon that they put their agreement in writing?!?!?
I'm sure I sound some very offensive way not intended, so I reassure you that I am INTENT on breaking this cycle in my own family and hopefully MANY others.
I only write this comment in hopes of a response. You have all this training and certifications, I'm curios what school of thought and philosophies your generalizations are based on.
The term “high conflict” is bullshit and allows the toxic parent to continue their abuse while avoiding all accountability and assigning blame to the victimized parent.
My ex is a #Jezebel...!
I find all this information helpful if you’re dealing with two humans who are actually engaged in the welfare of their children - but you are encouraging victims of coercive control to gas light themselves by questioning their own feelings and instincts to protect themselves and their children vs dealing with a toxic abusive individual based on a long history of behavior of them proving over and over who they are