At the first few moments of this video I was surprised, then he started explaining, and I said an audible "Ohhh I see what he's saying now. Yes I agree with this so far . . . now to listen to the rest of this,"
Was telling you it's not true if you save yourself before marriage and you don't have sex before marriage okay your you're pure because you haven't had sex yet before a marriage but if you messed up already and you already had sex before marriage it isn't pure but you can redo that and make it right ask God to give you turn away from that and just don't do it again to married so he's not exactly telling you all that's true
Exactly and it’s really sad that the most disgusting and vile pornography along with the narratives and the plots are lies that people are believing! my son is in love with his first girlfriend and let’s face it. He has seen most likely every type of porn porn online. What is that going to do to a man who is in love with the woman and finds out he’s cheating on her I’ll walk in on it? don’t tell me that won’t lead to alcoholism or drug use self-destruction that will change the neurons of that person so that they know about good and evil someone’s good to point out that this is the reason why people are glamorizing everything that’s fake
It has been so hard to feel like I would be damaged goods if I wasn’t a virgin when I got married. Perfection for humans is an illusion. We can never be perfect. What I’ve realized is that when we repent and turn from our sexual sin, God makes us pure again and doesn’t hold shame over our head. Parents and family often don’t get the memo, and will always think of a person differently.
Marriage is not an institution for having sex freely. Catholic church beleive in sexual abstinence. Christian love is above your waist. If you are not virgin please do not marry a virgin boy. I see you are not pure in your heart and that will not be right in the end. I have had boyfriends who were not pure and I suffered a lot.
you are a damaged goods mam,God didnt intend a woman to be "one flesh" with more than 0 person before marriage,you cant give a "firsts" (which is valued in bible) to your man,you are less in self worth,its in bible,Remember Jesus marry virgin church,paul says church is virgin
Repent & find God is good ~ going to church to seek the cancellation of promiscuity & to search for a man is a shitty agenda, though Going to church thinking it's a place to find a gormless man might be a modern thing for those with bcp ~ body clock panic ~ but those women are easily detected by the congregation ~ it is wrong for reformed prostitutes to see the church as an opportunity to hook a decent man who doesn't deserve the consequences of overindulging in debauchery that inescapably impact such a woman who wants the best of both worlds The church should never be used as a dating strategy for men or women that have high body count to the detriment of those who had more dignity.
1 - Marriage doesn't give purity 2 - Losing your purity isn't an irreversable mistake 3 - Making the mistake of pre-merital sex doesn't ruin your sexual life in marriage forever 4 - Virgins doesn't necessary makes the best spouse 5 - A lot of times people look for the perfect person to fill something that only God can Y'all welcome
yes its a irreversable mistake because you will stay with consequence you got from sinning,becoming one flesh,it wont change,no matter how much you cry to Jesus,people who are r4ped are also going to become one flesh with people that r4pe them,and it would happen to them too,but still you wickedness leaves permanent mistake,a body count,God never intended woman to have more than 0 body count before marrying,you are a broken goods
Statistically speaking having multiple sex partners before getting married is very much correlated to divorce. This video dangerously minimizes this. If you’ve ever had sex with someone other than your spouse, you need a significant a mount of counseling and work. If you ignore this, you will most likely divorce within a decade.
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger so, not Mary? not Holy ghost? only jesus? What about God? Shouldn't he be more sure way to heaven? Even Jesus is God also... Im kinda confused
@@mihajlosinka277 Jesus is the way to the father You cannot have a relationship with God without believing in Christ Take it this way Man+God(before sin) Man God (Sin separated us from God) Man JESUS God Jesus came to restore that relationship and so we cannot say that we worship God or have a relationship with him if we do not believe in the finished work of the cross.
@@mihajlosinka277 Jesus is the way to the father You cannot have a relationship with God without believing in Christ Take it this way Man+God(before sin) Man God (Sin separated us from God) Man JESUS God Jesus came to restore that relationship and so we cannot say that we worship God or have a relationship with him if we do not believe in the finished work of the cross.
For most of my adult life, I have struggled with many of these lies. Believing these lies has caused much depression, anxiety and hopelessness in my life. Thank you so much for unveiling the truth! Even though this video was made in 2018, it was exactly what I needed to hear today in 2021.
If you are VIRGIN, praise God, stay like that don’t even change until marriage but that doesn’t make you a better Christian what makes you a better Christian is JESUS. 1 jean 1:9 and other verses mentioned in this video. Very good video.
You are very correct Ma'am/Sir, being a virgin does not make you a better Christian but it offers a better chance of becoming a better spouse than some.
Sex is marriage. How is it so many can't understand that? Update, searching scriptures you will find in the books of the prophets that marriage is a covenant between two. Henceforth, we see Joseph was married to Mary before sex.
If a woman is a virgin yeah it doesn't make you a better christian ... But hello it really matters for woman's value... To be honest guys would choose a virgin if they have a choice over non virgin. Who among guys would want to feast over left overs anyway.
This was for me. Your videos have been bringing so much clarity and healing into my life. Your books are amazing. I’m blessed by them every time I read them. Thank you so much for what you do.
"A man should go to a woman to OFFER his strength, not to FIND his strength." Where's that Facebook clap emoji because this, dear sir, deserves three. Well said! And it concurs with the idea that John Eldredge presents in 'Wild At Heart' (a Christian book about masculinity and how to restore it in this pro-feminine culture.) And in 'Captivating' also by John Eldredge and his wife Stasi, as they unpack the issue of Christian femininity in the Biblical sense, and how we have strayed from it and how to get back. Wonderful job, Mr. Ballenger! You've truly done your research and have a heart for God that is easy to see with how you treat the flock. Blessings!
Hannah Miller thanks so much for your encouragement. And that's so cool that you noticed John Eldridge's influence on me. Its hard to reference where I get everything but I definitely learned that from John. Wild at Heart was a big part of my story as a young man. I should do a video on validation.
You're very welcome! I believe that is a wonderful idea. I know I myself personally, (though I am still quite young--college age) was really influenced by 'Captivating', although I personally own the revised and expanded edition, which has brought me so much insight and encouragement through reading it. Along with other sources, but I'm not going to list those here, as the video above does not pertain to specifically women and that of relationships. Keep up the good work, sir! We're all behind you and what you are doing for the Kingdom. *thumbs up* (P.S. If anyone reading this conversation would like a list of books that have most influenced me, please message me and I'll be happy to give you the list. Blessings to everyone!)
THANK YOU Mark for exposing the lie that a "ruined" sex life pre-marriage = ruined sex life forever... I thought because of my masturbation addiction I'm doomed for anything remotely decent in future. thank You Jesus, You heal, You save, You redeem & You restore!!! God bless you Mark :D
Brother please help me, I’ve been struggling with this, I’m a fairly attractive guy and get attention everywhere it’s getting really hard, and it makes me bitter, my head tells me not too and then tell me too do it and that’s there’s nothing wrong since Christ died for I strength, and I know that if I do it I know I committed a sin willingly
For anyone who is still a virgin and plans to remain pure until marriage, I highly recommend you marry someone who is also a virgin. From my experience, the thought of your spouse’s promiscuous past, despite change and repentance, will always get under your skin and ruin your inner peace
Im still a virgin technically but I ddi mess around with a woman at my church. We kissed on the lips and were touching each other but no s3x I ended up cutting her off out of fear and guilt. Im still kinda longing for female love and affection so I dont care too much if she is a virgin. Just hope she wasnt super promiscuous.
This is true. If you strive for something and that is not reciprocated it sucks. Also, he pretends that human jealousy and comparison will not take hold but this will wreak havoc on a marriage. Even two non-virgins struggle with this.
I don't care anymore. As long as they're std free. It's difficult to find a born again Christian who is single, if you throw in must be a virgin, well......good luck.
Let's just face the facts: We are flawed. I know people who save themselves for marriage, and I know people like me who are making mistakes. It takes a lot of courage to admit our sins, and the most important thing is to go to God and confess our sins, and repent and change for the better.
If you really cared about Jesus bleeding body on the Cross you had stopped long ago. You can love a man like you love a Child. You don't seduce a Child. Your heart is helpless.
Just had that Bible Study this past week. Thank you. Shout it from the mountain top. OUTSIDE OF GOD NOTHING IS SACRED. ONLY HE CAN SAVE US.. SANCTIFY US..RESTORE US.. KEEP US..... all that and so much more. His Grace is sufficient..... Glory to God 🙏
Wow! I’m a 42 year old virgin that has sinned so many other ways. I need JESUS IN EVERYTHING! You are touching topics sir that lots of pastors and preachers are afraid to touch! You reach many this way bc you speak to things that many might be afraid tobb b speak to Sorry my eyes... I can’t see
God bless you for this upload ❤️🙌🏾 it took me years to finally let all this truth to sink in. The world really doesn’t make it easy for us to live in this truth, especially as a woman
My innocents was lost at 9. Was sexually abused. It kept happening until I was 16 and finally told. It messed me up for a long time. Not everyone gets the chance to save themselves for marriage. So for some people it's just not possible to be a Virgin on their wedding night.
It's a constant fight against hormones and Satan, like trying to run up a down escalator. To make it to your wedding night a virgin you have to win every battle with temptation. Satan only has to win once.
Its a blessing to a marriage to wait for sex till married. But grace is enough for all of us and all our sins. If you sin, you can repent. You are given a chance with Christ to start over. I am divorced with three kids. God still blesses me, and I have a chance still to not sin. I can still wait for marriage to be with someone. Its ok to repent and try to be better. God blesses us in our imperfection. This is a really good video. Thank you for encouraging. God bless.
@@jesuschristsonofgod9709 You do not know the reason why she is divorced. God will find her someone at the right time, that kind of mentality is sickening and you should be ashamed. In Christ Jesus, there is no condemnation, who are you to judge someone Christ has redeemed? You are not presenting a very good side of Christianity. Not all people must stay in a marriage - God knows best
@@AA-de8mf I read few of your comments and wow I really like you. You seem to be a beautiful person with a great understanding of what christianity truly is. Take care
Absolutely great advice here. Isaiah 54: 13- All of your children shall be taught by the Lord and great shall be the peace of your children. Notice "all." That means all who have taken Jesus as our Lord and Savior and " all, " including ones who have sinned shall have peace and continually be taught. All no matter what our past can be and have a good spouse through Jesus Christ
Thanks for preaching the truth about this. God heals, reconciles and restores. Some Christians / churches views the prodigal as a second class Christian like the older brother who criticizes the father for receiving the prodigal back home again.
This video was great! I grew up with that same wrong church mentality ever since my youth group days. I am now 39 years old and God is beginning to uproot that wrong thinking. It is a painful process because I am not a virgin, having had multiple girlfriends and an ex-wife. I just recently met the most amazing God-sent woman and we are in a wonderful relationship, but she too has had a sexual past. Both my and her past haunts me and I am finding it difficult to cope with all of that as well as saving sex for marriage. But God is good and His plans are perfect!
Sex is not even a human activity. It is a Demonic activity. People do not get married to fornicate freely. Catholic church never proposed that. Just stay friends and not more.
Sex outside of marriage is still a sin and it is immoral in Christianity, yes you yourself cannot save yourself, but the saying "save myself for marriage" is not the same as saying you can save yourself from everything, it's all about context and you have to take it literaly in the way they say it, it isn't a broad term that you make it to be
I agree. We get the context of what it means when someone says they are "saving themselves for marriage." Perhaps, to avoid the word confusion that was brought up in this vid, it's better to say that we "sexually reserve ourselves for marriage" instead.
I came to the point of wanting a relationship, intimacy and real interaction rather than to just settle for porn, when it comes to sexual arena. Thank the Lord for Christ, who gives us the opportunity to choose freedom and to choose holy desire, over sin and sinful desires.
@@ketchupking9972 Not all women are born with hymens, and many girls' break before their first time. Did you know only 50% of girls bleed their first time? You are not representing Jesus well brother - what would Christ say on that day when you look back at what you said? Who are you to judge someone who Christ has forgiven? A woman who says she is a virgin is a virgin, if you cannot go by what she says you shouldn't be with her in the first place because clearly you are insecure and your trust issues are showing.
Ketchup King dude, you preach venom and posion. He is not above anyone else. Ofc its great that he saved himself, and understand the point you want a virgin girl to as you saved yourself. But to Call other dogs is just wrong.
Appreciated this video! I know many guys who are into their 30s and beyond, avoiding dating and trying to remain “pure”... in the hope of holding out for the one, the Cinderella... all the while struggling with very impure loneliness and porn addiction. It’s epidemic.
Because no body explained to is that sex was never part of life but of brothels. Performance is not important. Sex is a social constructor. Ask people living up in the mountins at the Tibet about sex. They do not know. They have intercourse to procreate children and that is all.
Thank you for this perspective. I'm on the opposite path and I'm struggling with trusting my future partner. I've kept myself chaste throughout my life and turned down a few opportunities in high school even to just date and I'm now 24 and I expect my partner to be chaste as I am. But the likelihood of that happening is very slim with the current dating market and on top of it, I don't know if my future partner could be hiding that from me and lying for whatever reason since that seems to be a trend nowadays. Sometimes I think maybe I should just get it over with and lose my virginity just so I can be on the same playing field as the rest of the market but I don't want to sacrifice my morals. On the other hand, I feel like I can't trust my future partner if they are non-virgins and it would feel like my whole chastity was pointless to begin with. Lot of insecurity I guess but what can I say, that's my life.
Feel like many of us are in the same boat, its a struggle. I always see it as if I give in im just like the rest of the world. The right path is normally the one most are not taking
I love how he made clear that God is forgiving. I think its a shame that folk who slip up on this sort of thing carry the guilt about with them thinking thats it for them. Thats just not what God is about. 😅
This is good stuff! I struggled with the lie of “I am damaged goods” because of my sexual trauma which led to hyper sexuality. However I am starting to realize my purity is in Christ. My claim to righteousness is based on what Jesus has already done not what I’ve done or what I’ve been through.
That was a word right there! "A man has to go to a woman and offer his strength not find it..." I choose not to believe or entertain the lies that my marriage is going to suffer in _any_ way because of my mistakes!
Character is different from virginity. A wise virgin should know that Bible always talks about one being respectful, obedience, humble, meek, sober and peaceful. Lest he or she becomes foolish. Like you rightly said that there's grace for someone who engaged in sexual sin in the past; that it is not the end of road for that person, yes. But after that, the person should continue in Chasity. Then shall he/she become a disciple indeed.
There may be grace with the Lord for whores, but do not conflate this with a happy life or acceptance from men - men want virginal brides its nothing new, its Biblical and beyond hard wired into our very masculine network - No man wants used goods.
@@ketchupking9972 and no woman want a man who has trialled it all before marriage. that standard works both ways. Both men and women are called to be pure and not have soul ties from past experiences.
Ketchup King a woman is not a commodity, females are not just a warm hole to use, she's a human being with rights and character and morals; guess what? sexual inexperience/repression/celibacy/extreme rigid views, viewing sexuality as inherently sinful or as an immoral temptation is not the definition of a moral good girl, nor is it necessarily indicative of trashyness, promiscuity, low self worth, ungodlyness, or of low moral character to embrace sexual chemistry and desire and experience the pleasures God provided for us. A female who has experienced love and intimacy and mutual sexual pleasure is not "used good", she is comfortable with her body and communicating sexual desires and expressing pleasure, she loved and cared for someone enough to make a mature and private choice and knows what she likes and wants and is a good and giving lover.
Stay bless bro. Our lord is coming soon,please keep on praying and fast always may God strength you all in Jesus name Amen. See you all In heaven soon in Jesus Name Amen
Your teaching helped me greatly. So many of us suffered from 'Spiritual Abuse' in the church. I let myself believe for 20 yrs of marriage that I ruined my sex life and 'Set the Tone' by having sex before marriage with my husband. A 'Self fulfilling Prophesy'. I think subconsciously, I tried to punish myself because I believed my sin ruined things forever. Praise God. I now understand it is not my own righteousness . It is best for us to Not have sex before marriage. But I am free now and see how God works verses our own religious legalistic righteousness.
Continue speaking God's Word and interpreting and applying it to our times. Very matter of fact yet deeply wise and consistent with our Lord's heart and Spirit. Thank you Sir Mark!
Don't forget sexual abuse is also in people's past and sexual abuse within marriage as well. I don't think this topic is discussed often enough in churches if at all. This type of abuse makes the victims feel dirty even though it wasn't their fault. Just thought I'd bring this up to start getting some awareness for people who may have this in their past. Coming from someone who has experienced this, I personally pray for anyone who has gone through this. ❤️
Mark it’s a huge loss for me. I’ve been in relationships and lived not a pure life and the person I’m now with is a virgin so I want to wait until marriage. Luckily God is helping us stay pure through people. We met a young lady the other night who was on drugs talking about some pretty disgusting things that happened to her. Made me realize that I’m happy to wait until marriage. The world is crazy right now. No young woman should be wondering the streets on a Monday night at 9pm and on drugs cursing her ex fiancé. 🤷♀️🤔
I don't think she deserves such a bad deal. I have had impure boyfriends and they are a Waste. They are single as they are not marriage material. She is settling for less. She was faithful. She deserves someone like her. Your past sins will not be erased. I know how it works. You have a sexual sin. And the Devil pray on your sexual wickedness. Set her free.
@@loanicastillo3327you underestimate the power of our Lord, He also teaches forgiveness. are you saying anyone that is not a virgin should never get married? we all have our own sins, just because he is not a virgin doesn’t mean that should be a deal breaker, he has also lied before, so has she, we have all fallen short and sinned.
Thank you for letting God use you as his instrument through making these videos. These videos have changed my life and God has made me see things differently. All praise and worship be to the Almighty.
Very good! I think it is great to teach on sexual purity but we can not fail to preach and teach the grace and mercy of God and the fact that HE makes us holy, not we ourselves!
Ivonne Vadi Let it go, trust God & ask Him to help you move on. All of us have sinned, one way or another. That sense of condemnation is not from the Lord. It's there to hold you down & keep you from being your best self. Remember: There is NO condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. The Lord is your strength. Stay blessed!
L. Patrick yes that is exactly what it feels like happens, I was so used to feeling this way I got used to it. I definitely have to meditate on this scripture, thank you!
he's not saying it isn't a sin. he's saying it isn't going to ruin your potential marriage life because of your past sin. if you're truly forgiven by god, you can be repaired.
FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD THAT HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON THAT WHOSOEVER SHALL BELIEVETH UNTO HIM SHALL NOT PERISH BUT HAVE EVERLASTING LIFE JOHN 3:16
Grace restores our souls not necessarily our earthly feelings & daily lives. There’s a reason why sexual immorality is highlighted over and over again as a sin to avoid-it cripples us. God forgives & redeems us from our mistakes. We no longer face eternal consequence but that doesn’t mean our sin doesn’t have a lasting consequence here on earth. I think the message in this video might promote people think they eventually recover from future sexual sin so why not do it & overcome it after? Also, what about the people who truly honor God with their bodies by not committing sexual immorality? I pray those people know there is a real reward for obeying God’s word that they will reap here on earth and in heaven. Takeaway: glorify God with your bodies by His grace & reap the rewards. Deal with the consequence of not honoring God by His grace knowing it might be like that until heaven.
@A M Well said sister, exactly my thoughts as well! It really sounds like they're saying that waiting for the right one is a waste of time and our own sacrifices are good for nothing. These are the times we are living in where there will be apostacy within the church. Where some churches will depart from the old ways to doctrines more easily digested by worldly people. Stay strong in faith and true to yourself. Bless you! 🙏🏻💖
This whole video is approaching the subject from the perspective of catering to the exception, while ignoring the beauty of purity in a believers life. Purity is the standard. Impurity is not death, but it does reduce the value one presents to their spouse and it usually affects the marriage relationship adversely. Big thumbs down.
It’s not Only about what you think you lose… nor is it individual thoughts on “saving yourself”People save themselves for their true love by the power of the Lord… Immorality is also about damaging others as well thinking and believing a lie and that one has the right to touch another without being married. This causes other very serious mental health issues for many and is tied to other more serious matters. No one has a right to sex and touching another unless married. Be a gentleman or woman and lovingly show your strength by respecting each other keeping your hands to yourself respecting the dreams hopes and very real spirit of the person you’re considering or with. Building your TRUST for one another in the process taking that with you into marriage.
Ive heard testimonies of virgins who had horrible jealousy issues, trust issues, and pride with high entitlement attitudes and expectations. And they had great relationships with their dads. And I've met sisters in the faith with horrible pasts who have truly repented and sought healing and deliverance. And they have some of the best characters you can find on this earth.
Sexual purity still is the best policy. Ppl who indulged in sexual practices whatever they might have been: lesbianism, bisexuality, threesomes, sucking several cocks at once, or high body count, drinking semen, fisting, inserting dildos in every single hole, watching tons of pornography, even bestialism, etc before marriage are def gonna have a tough time during marriage, whether they want to admit or not
"If you're a virgin when you marry ... yeah that's good." What the hell? Yeah, that's good?? It's far beyond good. If a man or woman comes to me struggling with staying abstinent, I'd share God's truth about sexual immorality. If the same man or woman comes back to me the following day, repentant that they committed that very sin, I would share the grace of God and His willingness to forgive. The problem today is that we don't encourage young Christians to marry early. Everyone's more interested in encouraging them to get a college degree above all else. That's an example of how the lies of the world have seeped into the church.
It’s nice that you’re trying to help people. Hope is more powerful than fear. Our God is alive and Co Creating with us through the Spirit. Pure hearts and renewed minds for all who ask. Sanctification is real- glory to God
A lot of people use 1st Corinthians 7:2 to talk about purity, when in fact the passage is talking about how Christians should have sex while married, which apparently was a contested idea.
Many virgin Christians won't marry a person who lost their virginity . But only those Christians who is filled with God's love can truly accept someone who lost their virginity . That's call Grace!
Its about trust not about being holier than though. Those that respect themselves love themselves. People who freely have sex before marriage do not love themselves
First of all those lukewarm Christians you speak of don’t represent the religion, some of us don’t want to put our body at risk to be with somebody that is promiscuous and continues to hop from person to person .
Nonsense. Virgin Christians who have saved themselves for marriage have every right to not feel comfortable marrying those who didn't save themselves for marriage. Premarital sex is adultery committed on your future spouse. I would never want to marry someone who cheated on me. Also, studies have shown that the more people you slept with, the less likely you will be faithful. God's standard of marriage is a virgin man and a virgin woman. Anything different than that is not the standard that God has. If you can't respect that, then it looks like you have a lukewarm view on premarital sex.
I believe God gives us the desires of our hearts on the condition that we do as he asks.If you kept yourself a virgin and want a virgin ,God will give you!!!!
All these high standards they have might make them miss on a good person. Become we are redeemed through christ.. You might miss an very anointed one with wisdom. There is no perfect person. Being virgin is not a title or something to boast about. Its beautiful but what we must be looking at is character and real repentence from sin. Amen
@@robertomontanez1163 yeah woman must be proud of this. And for a man to find a virgin and mary her its a blessing. Me im just saying that for a woman being a virgin that doesnt only define her. Their is more to that.
Helpful video thank you. I didn’t save my virginity for marriage and although God helps me with my regret, the scars are still there and I have also wounded my husband. When my husband said to me that losing my virginity meant nothing to the guy I lost it to but would have meant everything to him it really broke me. Thank you for reminding me that God restores but for anyone else please wait as it easier not having to deal with this burden. God knows what’s good for us that’s why his instructions ring true and he will sanctify us of sin but it’s best not to have that sin to be sanctified of in the first place. As you say, we all have sin of some sort that we need to be cleansed of so none of us can say we are truly pure 🙏
Why would your husband make you feel that way? He shouldn't bring up your past, it's gone and he needs to get over it! It's the work of the enemy to condemn you and constantly remind you for your past sins. God forgives. He forgets.
In these days it seems unrealistic to think you might marry a virgin. In the Bible times it was the norm! A newlywed woman would take the bloodied sheet to her parents for preservation. If she was later accused by her husband of not having been a virgin at marriage, she would retrieve the sheet from her parents. Then, it would be prohibited for the husband to ever divorce her. Great video!
ThisisMy Username Many- if not most- Christians aren't virgins. This isn't to say that virgins should abandon their course; but, for a man to "hold-off" from courting because the Christian female isn't a virgin, in these modern day realities, would yeild very rare to non-existent opportunities. The older the more rare.
Michael E. O'Donnell I know where your coming from, but It depends on age heavily. I know many people in their early 20’s still virgins, unmarried. (Including myself) So I can say with certainty that it’s still possible and not all that rare.
ThisisMy Username OK. Fair's fair. I'm about 2 &1/2 times your age. I think it could be a mistake for you to discard all non virgins as possible spouses.
The man doesn’t know what he’s talking about. There’s a difference between sexual purity and spiritual purity. Sexual purity is found in abstinence and in a God ordained marriage that is monogamous for life. Once a person loses their virginity, they do in fact, lose their sexual purity, unless they lose it by way of marriage that is scripturally right. You can never undo your sexual mistakes you can only repent of them and find forgiveness and you will always have to deal with your bad choices that you made in the past, and yes they will affect your marriage going forward if your spouse isn’t up to par with your former lovers in which you will gauge them on. If a woman has been promiscuous and has been with multiple men and she married in the church and he isn’t as fulfilling to her sexually because she discovers he isn’t as capable as her lovers she had in the world, she is going to struggle with that lack of fulfillment because of her promiscuity. This isn’t her husband’s fault this is her’s for her life of promiscuity. She may make him feel insecure about himself and then she will blame him for his lack of confidence and see him less attractive and less of a man all because of her past life of promiscuity. These are problems that men and women who have slept around before marriage bring into their marriages. Sorry it’s just a reality. God’s way is the best, celibacy unto marriage both for the man and the woman and then monogamy during the whole marriage until one of the partners die. This is one the main ways to keep a fulfilling sexual marriage. These are some of the issues that she will bring into her marriage because of her life of sin. This is why God’s way is the best. Again this man is off. He is trying to link sexual purity to spiritual purity. You can be spiritually pure after coming to Christ and remaining in Him, but once you lose your sexual purity you can never get it back unless you enter into a scripturally correct God ordained marriage and remain faithful to that partner for life never leaving the marriage bond to find sexual fulfillment with another physical person.
Thx for this comment bro u help me a lot everything u said here is what I thought of too ,he almost lost me ,he made me start planning to have sex because god will still forgive me ,thx a lot .
I have been trying to look for this kind of information… but I have discovered it’s never discussed like this …. I realize the more we set people free from self righteousness the more we find healing in so many areas the devil has held us captive … the more we settle in our hearts that are the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus and it’s a gift we receive it by faith …, does that mean going to sin willingly no ,.. it means once you know the truth, you mature to the level of that truth …..
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger if I may ask, do you cover the subject of being in a sex-less or unconsumated marriage in any video? EDIT: Added the "unconsumated" part.
Could you do a video on whether luke warm christians are saved and how to find out if your a lukewarm christian? And then maybe some tips to avoid lukewarm-ness
This isMY username i found a great youtube minister "disciple Robert" He has many videos and had one about how to know if your lukewarm. i havent seen that one yet but all the ones of his i watched are great.
As long as I’m not legally married to anyone, I’m not having sex. Period. Whatever you use, it still boils down to not having sex with anyone you’re not married to. Period.
Does someone have to be legally married for God to honor it, what if they been in committed relationship for years with children but not married by state
@@LovePatience32 I want to know that too. I have been with a great Muslim guy for over 2 years. We can only marry legally in the US. I feel like when we meet, we want to have a ceremony and exchange vows and rings. But it won't be legal. I could not be any more committed to him with or without a paper from the government. I am a committed Christian. Can we morally commit our fidelity and love?
@@juliesmock7614 hi, I’m just wondering how you can justify marrying someone who is not a Christian 😬 please consider the Bible verse about not being unequally yoked with an unbeliever 🙏
REPENT FOR THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN IS AT HAND TURN FROM SIN AND TURN TOWARDS RIGHTEOUSNESS THROUGH CHRIST JESUS JESUS CHRIST IS COMING BACK SOON AND WE MUST BE READY FOR WHEN HE COMES BACK
Ok. 68-year-old woman who has been saving herself for a marriage that looks less and less likely to happen with each passing year. I think I've heard just about every lie that there is on this subject and 99% of them came from people who were married and had been married for quite a long time, or from vowed celibates like priests, monks, and nuns. There is a lot I could say about waiting for marriage that never comes. But I'm going to focus on one. Why is it that having premarital sex ruins you for marriage because now you will be comparing your previous experiences to your current spouse but if you were previously married and that marriage ends in either death or divorce, all of a sudden now that's a clean slate and there's no memories interfering with your present enjoyment? Is there something magical about saying "I do" and putting on a ring that makes the difference? If you've been married before or your current partner has been married before, neither one of you are virgins. But we hear so much about experience, especially experience with multiple partners being detrimental to the health of your marriage. What is the difference between someone having had sex with five different people that they are not married to, and someone who has been married five times? They both have the same body count. Why is one problematic and the other not? Are we making a fetish of virginity here? Save yourself for marriage, you won't regret it, you will have an absolutely fantastic experience. Just don't have sex before you get married. You have to come to the marriage bed pure or it won't work. But we do not say anything even remotely like that to people who remarry after divorce or death of a spouse. Why is that? Is it because on some level, even though that person's sexual experience has been within the bonds of marriage, they are still "used goods"? So we don't say anything about second marriages. We don't approach that in the same way. Because it's not "new" anymore. That precious virginity has long gone out the door. Once you've lost it, it apparently does not matter what you do afterwards. Why do I ask this? It is because, at my age, there are very few men who have not been married at least once. So I'd be going into a marriage with someone who has had sexual experience. Meanwhile, I've had none. I've saved myself. I have to be satisfied with "second-hand goods" while he gets to experience "brand-new goods". But I don't want "second-hand goods". I want the same level of innocence and purity and virginity from my partner as they are getting with me. Good luck, you might say. I have to face reality, and the reality is there isn't going to be anyone around my age that has not been married at least once, and certainly no virgins (and if they are, I hate to say it, but there might be a really good reason--as in red flag reason--why they still are that way). What I am getting at is that all this focus on virginity and sexual purity can cause some real harm later on in life. Especially when it starts looking like the old double standard. I can tell you that had I not been taught all this stuff as a young woman it wouldn't bother me if a man had prior sexual experience due to being married; but when you start talking purity and saving yourself, and you've done so, it kinda galls to find out that you're going to have to settle for someone who did not unless you want to spend your life alone.
Most girls and boys today are too superficial. In fact, I have moved recently to Poland. While it is claimed that it's a Christian country, only so on paper apparently. There is an emerging trend of couples moving in together prior to marriage. Frequent fornication and adultery have become the norm. It's poignant to see this happening. Girls and married women are groomed into this on the street, in bars and nightclubs. I have encountered a Hindu. He's no stranger to such sexual escapades. It's really sad that sometimes I think to resign myself to remain single rather than marry someone whose innocence has been defiled
No one ever told me purity is saving myself I know I need God. I’m practicing abstinence because I know how God feels about sexual sins. But if I fall short I know if I’m sincere he forgives me. It’s more than just sex it’s about honoring God. God is our full focus always and we are never without sin but you pick up your cross daily and follow God to the best of your ability with an open heart.
Hold on! So if you wait till marriage for Christ! You’re pure. Once you lose that you’re never pure! Yes you’re living now for God but you’re not pure just a fyi
"You don't have a purity without Christ."
That's true
Amen to that!🙏
Yes I agree
At the first few moments of this video I was surprised, then he started explaining, and I said an audible "Ohhh I see what he's saying now. Yes I agree with this so far . . . now to listen to the rest of this,"
True,,,this cannot be overemphasized
And you won't go to heaven if you don't acknowledge that pre-marital sex is a very serious mortal sin.
"A lie doesn't have power over you until you believe it!" Wow! So good
Was telling you it's not true if you save yourself before marriage and you don't have sex before marriage okay your you're pure because you haven't had sex yet before a marriage but if you messed up already and you already had sex before marriage it isn't pure but you can redo that and make it right ask God to give you turn away from that and just don't do it again to married so he's not exactly telling you all that's true
Exactly and it’s really sad that the most disgusting and vile pornography along with the narratives and the plots are lies that people are believing! my son is in love with his first girlfriend and let’s face it. He has seen most likely every type of porn porn online. What is that going to do to a man who is in love with the woman and finds out he’s cheating on her I’ll walk in on it? don’t tell me that won’t lead to alcoholism or drug use self-destruction that will change the neurons of that person so that they know about good and evil someone’s good to point out that this is the reason why people are glamorizing everything that’s fake
It has been so hard to feel like I would be damaged goods if I wasn’t a virgin when I got married. Perfection for humans is an illusion. We can never be perfect. What I’ve realized is that when we repent and turn from our sexual sin, God makes us pure again and doesn’t hold shame over our head. Parents and family often don’t get the memo, and will always think of a person differently.
So true
That’s it …
Marriage is not an institution for having sex freely. Catholic church beleive in sexual abstinence. Christian love is above your waist. If you are not virgin please do not marry a virgin boy. I see you are not pure in your heart and that will not be right in the end. I have had boyfriends who were not pure and I suffered a lot.
you are a damaged goods mam,God didnt intend a woman to be "one flesh" with more than 0 person before marriage,you cant give a "firsts" (which is valued in bible) to your man,you are less in self worth,its in bible,Remember Jesus marry virgin church,paul says church is virgin
Repent & find God is good ~ going to church to seek the cancellation of promiscuity & to search for a man is a shitty agenda, though
Going to church thinking it's a place to find a gormless man might be a modern thing for those with bcp ~ body clock panic ~ but those women are easily detected by the congregation ~ it is wrong for reformed prostitutes to see the church as an opportunity to hook a decent man who doesn't deserve the consequences of overindulging in debauchery that inescapably impact such a woman who wants the best of both worlds
The church should never be used as a dating strategy for men or women that have high body count to the detriment of those who had more dignity.
1 - Marriage doesn't give purity
2 - Losing your purity isn't an irreversable mistake
3 - Making the mistake of pre-merital sex doesn't ruin your sexual life in marriage forever
4 - Virgins doesn't necessary makes the best spouse
5 - A lot of times people look for the perfect person to fill something that only God can
Y'all welcome
yes its a irreversable mistake because you will stay with consequence you got from sinning,becoming one flesh,it wont change,no matter how much you cry to Jesus,people who are r4ped are also going to become one flesh with people that r4pe them,and it would happen to them too,but still you wickedness leaves permanent mistake,a body count,God never intended woman to have more than 0 body count before marrying,you are a broken goods
yo can you guys chill😮😯
Statistically speaking having multiple sex partners before getting married is very much correlated to divorce. This video dangerously minimizes this. If you’ve ever had sex with someone other than your spouse, you need a significant a mount of counseling and work. If you ignore this, you will most likely divorce within a decade.
" A true man offers strength and not find strength in his woman" Awesome
Cuckold simp degenerates
@Herrickt39227Or take and never give…
Depends upon the man, and the situation
Jesus is the only to way to heaven
Janessa Tosh amen!
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger so, not Mary? not Holy ghost? only jesus? What about God? Shouldn't he be more sure way to heaven? Even Jesus is God also... Im kinda confused
True
@@mihajlosinka277 Jesus is the way to the father
You cannot have a relationship with God without believing in Christ
Take it this way
Man+God(before sin)
Man God
(Sin separated us from God)
Man JESUS God
Jesus came to restore that relationship and so we cannot say that we worship God or have a relationship with him if we do not believe in the finished work of the cross.
@@mihajlosinka277 Jesus is the way to the father
You cannot have a relationship with God without believing in Christ
Take it this way
Man+God(before sin)
Man God
(Sin separated us from God)
Man JESUS God
Jesus came to restore that relationship and so we cannot say that we worship God or have a relationship with him if we do not believe in the finished work of the cross.
For most of my adult life, I have struggled with many of these lies. Believing these lies has caused much depression, anxiety and hopelessness in my life. Thank you so much for unveiling the truth! Even though this video was made in 2018, it was exactly what I needed to hear today in 2021.
Woooow …. It has been me for so many things …. But am free… and whoever the son sets free is free in deed
If you are VIRGIN, praise God, stay like that don’t even change until marriage but that doesn’t make you a better Christian what makes you a better Christian is JESUS. 1 jean 1:9 and other verses mentioned in this video. Very good video.
You are very correct Ma'am/Sir, being a virgin does not make you a better Christian but it offers a better chance of becoming a better spouse than some.
Doesn’t make you a better Christian
Sex is marriage. How is it so many can't understand that?
Update, searching scriptures you will find in the books of the prophets that marriage is a covenant between two. Henceforth, we see Joseph was married to Mary before sex.
@ChristinaW280 Sup😎
If a woman is a virgin yeah it doesn't make you a better christian ... But hello it really matters for woman's value... To be honest guys would choose a virgin if they have a choice over non virgin. Who among guys would want to feast over left overs anyway.
Humility is better than Chasity" -Luke 18
I just read Luke 18. What verse are you talking about? I don't see it.
@@joel4960 18:9-14
@@sirlearn yes there is something arrogant about sexual immorality
But pound for pound humility is better than chastity
Where are you guys getting "humility is better than chastity"?
@@joel4960 from my original post
The way you break principles down so that even someone that doesn’t fully grasp your subjects understand them is truly amazing.
Ditty C wow, thank you for that. It's encouraging to hear how God is using AGW to bless others. Thanks for sharing!
This was for me. Your videos have been bringing so much clarity and healing into my life. Your books are amazing. I’m blessed by them every time I read them. Thank you so much for what you do.
Kale Lover so glad God is using AGW to bless you! Thanks again for the encouragement:)
"A man should go to a woman to OFFER his strength, not to FIND his strength."
Where's that Facebook clap emoji because this, dear sir, deserves three. Well said!
And it concurs with the idea that John Eldredge presents in 'Wild At Heart' (a Christian book about masculinity and how to restore it in this pro-feminine culture.) And in 'Captivating' also by John Eldredge and his wife Stasi, as they unpack the issue of Christian femininity in the Biblical sense, and how we have strayed from it and how to get back.
Wonderful job, Mr. Ballenger! You've truly done your research and have a heart for God that is easy to see with how you treat the flock. Blessings!
Hannah Miller thanks so much for your encouragement. And that's so cool that you noticed John Eldridge's influence on me. Its hard to reference where I get everything but I definitely learned that from John. Wild at Heart was a big part of my story as a young man. I should do a video on validation.
You're very welcome! I believe that is a wonderful idea. I know I myself personally, (though I am still quite young--college age) was really influenced by 'Captivating', although I personally own the revised and expanded edition, which has brought me so much insight and encouragement through reading it. Along with other sources, but I'm not going to list those here, as the video above does not pertain to specifically women and that of relationships.
Keep up the good work, sir! We're all behind you and what you are doing for the Kingdom. *thumbs up*
(P.S. If anyone reading this conversation would like a list of books that have most influenced me, please message me and I'll be happy to give you the list. Blessings to everyone!)
@@hannahbell4388 I want the list
Men these days want to freeload off women. Lol
@@hannahbell4388 i need the list girlll 🙏🏽
THANK YOU Mark for exposing the lie that a "ruined" sex life pre-marriage = ruined sex life forever... I thought because of my masturbation addiction I'm doomed for anything remotely decent in future. thank You Jesus, You heal, You save, You redeem & You restore!!! God bless you Mark :D
Amen, we need to always repent but God's grace is always enough!
God bless you
You are doomed man. Marriage is not a free way to sex. SEX is not a natural activity.
Brother please help me, I’ve been struggling with this, I’m a fairly attractive guy and get attention everywhere it’s getting really hard, and it makes me bitter, my head tells me not too and then tell me too do it and that’s there’s nothing wrong since Christ died for I strength, and I know that if I do it I know I committed a sin willingly
@@daddypfp734 Stop watching porn and read the Bible instead, then you'll meet truth and truth will build a barrier between you and sin.
For anyone who is still a virgin and plans to remain pure until marriage, I highly recommend you marry someone who is also a virgin. From my experience, the thought of your spouse’s promiscuous past, despite change and repentance, will always get under your skin and ruin your inner peace
I can tell you from experience this is true. Always subconsciously a feeling of loss, of being cheated.
Im still a virgin technically but I ddi mess around with a woman at my church. We kissed on the lips and were touching each other but no s3x I ended up cutting her off out of fear and guilt. Im still kinda longing for female love and affection so I dont care too much if she is a virgin. Just hope she wasnt super promiscuous.
This is true. If you strive for something and that is not reciprocated it sucks. Also, he pretends that human jealousy and comparison will not take hold but this will wreak havoc on a marriage. Even two non-virgins struggle with this.
this is not a healthy way to look at it
I don't care anymore. As long as they're std free. It's difficult to find a born again Christian who is single, if you throw in must be a virgin, well......good luck.
Let's just face the facts: We are flawed. I know people who save themselves for marriage, and I know people like me who are making mistakes. It takes a lot of courage to admit our sins, and the most important thing is to go to God and confess our sins, and repent and change for the better.
If you really cared about Jesus bleeding body on the Cross you had stopped long ago. You can love a man like you love a Child. You don't seduce a Child. Your heart is helpless.
Just had that Bible Study this past week. Thank you. Shout it from the mountain top.
OUTSIDE OF GOD NOTHING IS SACRED. ONLY HE CAN SAVE US.. SANCTIFY US..RESTORE US.. KEEP US..... all that and so much more. His Grace is sufficient.....
Glory to God 🙏
Wow!
I’m a 42 year old virgin that has sinned so many other ways. I need JESUS IN EVERYTHING!
You are touching topics sir that lots of pastors and preachers are afraid to touch! You reach many this way bc you speak to things that many might be afraid tobb b speak to
Sorry my eyes... I can’t see
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If you are still a virgin I think you did the most important part. That was the most important obligation to God.
Very well said! I've never heard it broken down this way you are awesome! God bless you!🤗💚
Eva Kelley so glad this was helpful!
God bless you for this upload ❤️🙌🏾 it took me years to finally let all this truth to sink in. The world really doesn’t make it easy for us to live in this truth, especially as a woman
I'm so glad it was helpful! All glory to God!
Happy for you …
My innocents was lost at 9. Was sexually abused. It kept happening until I was 16 and finally told. It messed me up for a long time. Not everyone gets the chance to save themselves for marriage. So for some people it's just not possible to be a Virgin on their wedding night.
sexual purity isn't an easy task!!! whoever managed was truely walking in the light
It's a constant fight against hormones and Satan, like trying to run up a down escalator. To make it to your wedding night a virgin you have to win every battle with temptation. Satan only has to win once.
Its a blessing to a marriage to wait for sex till married. But grace is enough for all of us and all our sins. If you sin, you can repent. You are given a chance with Christ to start over. I am divorced with three kids. God still blesses me, and I have a chance still to not sin. I can still wait for marriage to be with someone. Its ok to repent and try to be better. God blesses us in our imperfection. This is a really good video. Thank you for encouraging. God bless.
Valerie Hodson well said, obedience produces blessings but God's grace covers our sins too. Thanks for sharing :)
You are given these gifts by God, but men do not have to - or want to accept a whore as a wife.
Good luck finding a man when you have kids. Should have stayed with your husband and worked things out.
@@jesuschristsonofgod9709 You do not know the reason why she is divorced. God will find her someone at the right time, that kind of mentality is sickening and you should be ashamed. In Christ Jesus, there is no condemnation, who are you to judge someone Christ has redeemed? You are not presenting a very good side of Christianity. Not all people must stay in a marriage - God knows best
@@AA-de8mf I read few of your comments and wow I really like you. You seem to be a beautiful person with a great understanding of what christianity truly is. Take care
“A wicked woman is given as a portion to a wicked man: but a godly woman is given to him that feareth the Lord.”
-Ecclesiasticus --26:23-
Absolutely great advice here. Isaiah 54: 13- All of your children shall be taught by the Lord and great shall be the peace of your children. Notice "all." That means all who have taken Jesus as our Lord and Savior and " all, " including ones who have sinned shall have peace and continually be taught. All no matter what our past can be and have a good spouse through Jesus Christ
Thanks for preaching the truth about this. God heals, reconciles and restores. Some Christians / churches views the prodigal as a second class Christian like the older brother who criticizes the father for receiving the prodigal back home again.
This video was great! I grew up with that same wrong church mentality ever since my youth group days. I am now 39 years old and God is beginning to uproot that wrong thinking. It is a painful process because I am not a virgin, having had multiple girlfriends and an ex-wife. I just recently met the most amazing God-sent woman and we are in a wonderful relationship, but she too has had a sexual past. Both my and her past haunts me and I am finding it difficult to cope with all of that as well as saving sex for marriage. But God is good and His plans are perfect!
Sex is not even a human activity. It is a Demonic activity. People do not get married to fornicate freely. Catholic church never proposed that. Just stay friends and not more.
That is why it is best to save sex for marriage. Comparisons will always exist now.
Sex outside of marriage is still a sin and it is immoral in Christianity, yes you yourself cannot save yourself, but the saying "save myself for marriage" is not the same as saying you can save yourself from everything, it's all about context and you have to take it literaly in the way they say it, it isn't a broad term that you make it to be
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Lol
I agree. We get the context of what it means when someone says they are "saving themselves for marriage." Perhaps, to avoid the word confusion that was brought up in this vid, it's better to say that we "sexually reserve ourselves for marriage" instead.
I came to the point of wanting a relationship, intimacy and real interaction rather than to just settle for porn, when it comes to sexual arena. Thank the Lord for Christ, who gives us the opportunity to choose freedom and to choose holy desire, over sin and sinful desires.
Thats fine, but do not settle for a non-virginal woman, no hymen = no diamond my brother do not let these whores and beta males lead you astray.
@@ketchupking9972 Not all women are born with hymens, and many girls' break before their first time. Did you know only 50% of girls bleed their first time? You are not representing Jesus well brother - what would Christ say on that day when you look back at what you said? Who are you to judge someone who Christ has forgiven? A woman who says she is a virgin is a virgin, if you cannot go by what she says you shouldn't be with her in the first place because clearly you are insecure and your trust issues are showing.
Amen
@@AA-de8mf wow well said :))
Porn is more healthy than sex. At least you are not getting anyone impregnated. Life is about love not about sharing body secretions.
I’m all with you Mark. I’m still a virgin man and it’s been difficult.
Антон РУС that's amazing brother ❤️ God bless you xx
Keep it up and never give in to marry used goods - no hymen, no diamond, you're above the dogs my brother.
Ketchup King dude, you preach venom and posion. He is not above anyone else. Ofc its great that he saved himself, and understand the point you want a virgin girl to as you saved yourself. But to Call other dogs is just wrong.
@@ketchupking9972 you're disgusting.
@@ketchupking9972 used goods?!?!🥴🥴🥴🤣🤣🤣 Dogs?!?!?💀💀💀 You don't have Christ in your heart and it shows💀💀💀
Appreciated this video! I know many guys who are into their 30s and beyond, avoiding dating and trying to remain “pure”... in the hope of holding out for the one, the Cinderella... all the while struggling with very impure loneliness and porn addiction. It’s epidemic.
Exactly, which is why I ain't waiting. As soon as I move out, I'm dating.
This is really tragic. There has to be a healthy balance.
I'm a virgin. I struggle with loneliness...I've encountered guys like this and it's heartbreaking and sad.
What is impure loneliness?
Because no body explained to is that sex was never part of life but of brothels. Performance is not important. Sex is a social constructor. Ask people living up in the mountins at the Tibet about sex. They do not know. They have intercourse to procreate children and that is all.
Thank you for this perspective. I'm on the opposite path and I'm struggling with trusting my future partner. I've kept myself chaste throughout my life and turned down a few opportunities in high school even to just date and I'm now 24 and I expect my partner to be chaste as I am. But the likelihood of that happening is very slim with the current dating market and on top of it, I don't know if my future partner could be hiding that from me and lying for whatever reason since that seems to be a trend nowadays.
Sometimes I think maybe I should just get it over with and lose my virginity just so I can be on the same playing field as the rest of the market but I don't want to sacrifice my morals. On the other hand, I feel like I can't trust my future partner if they are non-virgins and it would feel like my whole chastity was pointless to begin with. Lot of insecurity I guess but what can I say, that's my life.
Same.
Feel like many of us are in the same boat, its a struggle. I always see it as if I give in im just like the rest of the world. The right path is normally the one most are not taking
I’m right where you are now
I really feel this.
Don’t lose it because you are scared you won’t find the same. I lost mine and trust me it’s not worth it. Two wrong won’t make a right.
I love how he made clear that God is forgiving. I think its a shame that folk who slip up on this sort of thing carry the guilt about with them thinking thats it for them. Thats just not what God is about. 😅
This is good stuff! I struggled with the lie of “I am damaged goods” because of my sexual trauma which led to hyper sexuality. However I am starting to realize my purity is in Christ. My claim to righteousness is based on what Jesus has already done not what I’ve done or what I’ve been through.
That was a word right there! "A man has to go to a woman and offer his strength not find it..." I choose not to believe or entertain the lies that my marriage is going to suffer in _any_ way because of my mistakes!
Character is different from virginity. A wise virgin should know that Bible always talks about one being respectful, obedience, humble, meek, sober and peaceful. Lest he or she becomes foolish. Like you rightly said that there's grace for someone who engaged in sexual sin in the past; that it is not the end of road for that person, yes. But after that, the person should continue in Chasity. Then shall he/she become a disciple indeed.
There may be grace with the Lord for whores, but do not conflate this with a happy life or acceptance from men - men want virginal brides its nothing new, its Biblical and beyond hard wired into our very masculine network - No man wants used goods.
@@ketchupking9972 and no woman want a man who has trialled it all before marriage. that standard works both ways. Both men and women are called to be pure and not have soul ties from past experiences.
@@ketchupking9972 You do realise that a man shouldn't be a "used good" either?
Ketchup King a woman is not a commodity, females are not just a warm hole to use, she's a human being with rights and character and morals; guess what? sexual inexperience/repression/celibacy/extreme rigid views, viewing sexuality as inherently sinful or as an immoral temptation is not the definition of a moral good girl, nor is it necessarily indicative of trashyness, promiscuity, low self worth, ungodlyness, or of low moral character to embrace sexual chemistry and desire and experience the pleasures God provided for us. A female who has experienced love and intimacy and mutual sexual pleasure is not "used good", she is comfortable with her body and communicating sexual desires and expressing pleasure, she loved and cared for someone enough to make a mature and private choice and knows what she likes and wants and is a good and giving lover.
Stay bless bro. Our lord is coming soon,please keep on praying and fast always may God strength you all in Jesus name Amen. See you all In heaven soon in Jesus Name Amen
Your teaching helped me greatly. So many of us suffered from 'Spiritual Abuse' in the church. I let myself believe for 20 yrs of marriage that I ruined my sex life and 'Set the Tone' by having sex before marriage with my husband. A 'Self fulfilling Prophesy'. I think subconsciously, I tried to punish myself because I believed my sin ruined things forever. Praise God. I now understand it is not my own righteousness . It is best for us to Not have sex before marriage. But I am free now and see how God works verses our own religious legalistic righteousness.
Continue speaking God's Word and interpreting and applying it to our times. Very matter of fact yet deeply wise and consistent with our Lord's heart and Spirit. Thank you Sir Mark!
Don't forget sexual abuse is also in people's past and sexual abuse within marriage as well. I don't think this topic is discussed often enough in churches if at all. This type of abuse makes the victims feel dirty even though it wasn't their fault. Just thought I'd bring this up to start getting some awareness for people who may have this in their past. Coming from someone who has experienced this, I personally pray for anyone who has gone through this. ❤️
Mark it’s a huge loss for me. I’ve been in relationships and lived not a pure life and the person I’m now with is a virgin so I want to wait until marriage. Luckily God is helping us stay pure through people. We met a young lady the other night who was on drugs talking about some pretty disgusting things that happened to her. Made me realize that I’m happy to wait until marriage. The world is crazy right now. No young woman should be wondering the streets on a Monday night at 9pm and on drugs cursing her ex fiancé. 🤷♀️🤔
I don't think she deserves such a bad deal. I have had impure boyfriends and they are a Waste. They are single as they are not marriage material. She is settling for less. She was faithful. She deserves someone like her. Your past sins will not be erased. I know how it works. You have a sexual sin. And the Devil pray on your sexual wickedness. Set her free.
@@loanicastillo3327you underestimate the power of our Lord, He also teaches forgiveness. are you saying anyone that is not a virgin should never get married? we all have our own sins, just because he is not a virgin doesn’t mean that should be a deal breaker, he has also lied before, so has she, we have all fallen short and sinned.
Thank you for letting God use you as his instrument through making these videos. These videos have changed my life and God has made me see things differently. All praise and worship be to the Almighty.
Wao! This is anti-religiosity video, it's amazing! And it's truth we have made an idol of virginity
I believe I was meant to find your channel. Thank you and praise the LORD!
Glad you found the channel Bree!
-Mark
Me too. I think being a virgin doesn't necessarily mean that person is perfect, totally agree.
Very good! I think it is great to teach on sexual purity but we can not fail to preach and teach the grace and mercy of God and the fact that HE makes us holy, not we ourselves!
Gosh Amen, thank you for telling me this, I always live with this condemnation over my head
Ivonne Vadi Romans 8:1 "There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus."
Ivonne Vadi Let it go, trust God & ask Him to help you move on. All of us have sinned, one way or another. That sense of condemnation is not from the Lord. It's there to hold you down & keep you from being your best self. Remember: There is NO condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. The Lord is your strength. Stay blessed!
L. Patrick yes that is exactly what it feels like happens, I was so used to feeling this way I got used to it. I definitely have to meditate on this scripture, thank you!
ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger yes true, Thank you
Ivonne Vadi You're welcome! That's what we're here for, to encourage one another.
Pre-Marital sex is still a sin. Jesus and Paul said it's better to single. Marriage is an idol in modern culture
he's not saying it isn't a sin. he's saying it isn't going to ruin your potential marriage life because of your past sin. if you're truly forgiven by god, you can be repaired.
FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD THAT HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON THAT WHOSOEVER SHALL BELIEVETH UNTO HIM SHALL NOT PERISH BUT HAVE EVERLASTING LIFE
JOHN 3:16
Grace restores our souls not necessarily our earthly feelings & daily lives. There’s a reason why sexual immorality is highlighted over and over again as a sin to avoid-it cripples us. God forgives & redeems us from our mistakes. We no longer face eternal consequence but that doesn’t mean our sin doesn’t have a lasting consequence here on earth. I think the message in this video might promote people think they eventually recover from future sexual sin so why not do it & overcome it after? Also, what about the people who truly honor God with their bodies by not committing sexual immorality? I pray those people know there is a real reward for obeying God’s word that they will reap here on earth and in heaven. Takeaway: glorify God with your bodies by His grace & reap the rewards. Deal with the consequence of not honoring God by His grace knowing it might be like that until heaven.
@A M Well said sister, exactly my thoughts as well! It really sounds like they're saying that waiting for the right one is a waste of time and our own sacrifices are good for nothing. These are the times we are living in where there will be apostacy within the church. Where some churches will depart from the old ways to doctrines more easily digested by worldly people. Stay strong in faith and true to yourself. Bless you! 🙏🏻💖
Didn't know Jake Gyllenhaal was doing biblical videos .... GOOOD VIDEO ;D
This whole video is approaching the subject from the perspective of catering to the exception, while ignoring the beauty of purity in a believers life. Purity is the standard. Impurity is not death, but it does reduce the value one presents to their spouse and it usually affects the marriage relationship adversely. Big thumbs down.
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I am not attracted to non virgin men
It’s not Only about what you think you lose… nor is it individual thoughts on “saving yourself”People save themselves for their true love by the power of the Lord…
Immorality is also about damaging others as well thinking and believing a lie and that one has the right to touch another without being married.
This causes other very serious mental health issues for many and is tied to other more serious matters.
No one has a right to sex and touching another unless married.
Be a gentleman or woman and lovingly show your strength by respecting each other keeping your hands to yourself respecting the dreams hopes and very real spirit of the person you’re considering or with.
Building your TRUST for one another in the process taking that with you into marriage.
Ive heard testimonies of virgins who had horrible jealousy issues, trust issues, and pride with high entitlement attitudes and expectations. And they had great relationships with their dads. And I've met sisters in the faith with horrible pasts who have truly repented and sought healing and deliverance. And they have some of the best characters you can find on this earth.
Sexual purity still is the best policy. Ppl who indulged in sexual practices whatever they might have been: lesbianism, bisexuality, threesomes, sucking several cocks at once, or high body count, drinking semen, fisting, inserting dildos in every single hole, watching tons of pornography, even bestialism, etc before marriage are def gonna have a tough time during marriage, whether they want to admit or not
😂another guy trying to cope and pamper so you downplay waiting till marriage what the lord himself say what a clown world.
"If you're a virgin when you marry ... yeah that's good." What the hell? Yeah, that's good?? It's far beyond good.
If a man or woman comes to me struggling with staying abstinent, I'd share God's truth about sexual immorality.
If the same man or woman comes back to me the following day, repentant that they committed that very sin, I would share the grace of God and His willingness to forgive.
The problem today is that we don't encourage young Christians to marry early. Everyone's more interested in encouraging them to get a college degree above all else.
That's an example of how the lies of the world have seeped into the church.
College degrees aren't even what they're cracked up to be. Charles Stanley once talked about all the debt people get into also
What do you mean get married early? 🤨
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Once of legal age, early would be before succumbing to powerful desire to engage in sexual intercourse out of wedlock.
@@Ransomhandsome isn't wedlock a bad thing? 🤔
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Not if you're a Christian.
It’s nice that you’re trying to help people. Hope is more powerful than fear. Our God is alive and Co Creating with us through the Spirit. Pure hearts and renewed minds for all who ask. Sanctification is real- glory to God
A lot of people use 1st Corinthians 7:2 to talk about purity, when in fact the passage is talking about how Christians should have sex while married, which apparently was a contested idea.
Clearly he’s done the hokey pokey before marriage. Christian’s tend to talk their own book.
Many virgin Christians won't marry a person who lost their virginity . But only those Christians who is filled with God's love can truly accept someone who lost their virginity .
That's call Grace!
Those bunch of lot is a category of 'Holier than Thou' people.
Its about trust not about being holier than though. Those that respect themselves love themselves. People who freely have sex before marriage do not love themselves
First of all those lukewarm Christians you speak of don’t represent the religion, some of us don’t want to put our body at risk to be with somebody that is promiscuous and continues to hop from person to person .
Obviously we want you to bond to us. You might still be bonded to the peopoe you had sex with
Nonsense. Virgin Christians who have saved themselves for marriage have every right to not feel comfortable marrying those who didn't save themselves for marriage. Premarital sex is adultery committed on your future spouse. I would never want to marry someone who cheated on me. Also, studies have shown that the more people you slept with, the less likely you will be faithful. God's standard of marriage is a virgin man and a virgin woman. Anything different than that is not the standard that God has. If you can't respect that, then it looks like you have a lukewarm view on premarital sex.
Thank you. This continues to set me free.
I believe God gives us the desires of our hearts on the condition that we do as he asks.If you kept yourself a virgin and want a virgin ,God will give you!!!!
I hope this is right cause I personally have not seen it and started to have serious doubts.
Thank you so much brother. May you always follow GOD's guidance
Thank you for the clarification 🙏.
All these high standards they have might make them miss on a good person. Become we are redeemed through christ.. You might miss an very anointed one with wisdom. There is no perfect person. Being virgin is not a title or something to boast about. Its beautiful but what we must be looking at is character and real repentence from sin. Amen
@@robertomontanez1163 yeah woman must be proud of this. And for a man to find a virgin and mary her its a blessing. Me im just saying that for a woman being a virgin that doesnt only define her. Their is more to that.
2 things can be true at once
One truth does not take away from another
Such a great video, full of God’s grace ✨
Thank You So Much For This Excellent Presentation. It is honest, authentic and healing.
So glad it was helpful! All glory to God!
Helpful video thank you. I didn’t save my virginity for marriage and although God helps me with my regret, the scars are still there and I have also wounded my husband. When my husband said to me that losing my virginity meant nothing to the guy I lost it to but would have meant everything to him it really broke me. Thank you for reminding me that God restores but for anyone else please wait as it easier not having to deal with this burden. God knows what’s good for us that’s why his instructions ring true and he will sanctify us of sin but it’s best not to have that sin to be sanctified of in the first place. As you say, we all have sin of some sort that we need to be cleansed of so none of us can say we are truly pure 🙏
If you're husband truly loved you unconditionally, he wouldn't have put that guilt on you to hurt you even more.
Why would your husband make you feel that way? He shouldn't bring up your past, it's gone and he needs to get over it! It's the work of the enemy to condemn you and constantly remind you for your past sins. God forgives. He forgets.
I am a muslim and I like this video
Jesus is God. Jesus is not a prophet
In these days it seems unrealistic to think you might marry a virgin. In the Bible times it was the norm! A newlywed woman would take the bloodied sheet to her parents for preservation. If she was later accused by her husband of not having been a virgin at marriage, she would retrieve the sheet from her parents. Then, it would be prohibited for the husband to ever divorce her. Great video!
Michael E. O'Donnell God bless!
Michael E. O'Donnell
Its unrealistic for the world, but not for us!
ThisisMy Username Many- if not most- Christians aren't virgins. This isn't to say that virgins should abandon their course; but, for a man to "hold-off" from courting because the Christian female isn't a virgin, in these modern day realities, would yeild very rare to non-existent opportunities. The older the more rare.
Michael E. O'Donnell
I know where your coming from, but
It depends on age heavily. I know many people in their early 20’s still virgins, unmarried.
(Including myself) So I can say with certainty that it’s still possible and not all that rare.
ThisisMy Username OK. Fair's fair. I'm about 2 &1/2 times your age. I think it could be a mistake for you to discard all non virgins as possible spouses.
Thanks Mark for this excellent advice which is freeing and healing, amen 🙏😀💯
My pleasure!
We should still encourage Christians who are virgins to remain celibate until marriage. It is a good thing. Do not believe the lies of the world.
Totally agree with you Pastor Mark.....preach the word!!!!!
S M thanks for the encouragement and God bless!
That's the Truth. Amen. God bless you always
Queen devi likewise!
Oh this has been of much help to me. Bless you brother!
Glad to hear it!
The man doesn’t know what he’s talking about. There’s a difference between sexual purity and spiritual purity. Sexual purity is found in abstinence and in a God ordained marriage that is monogamous for life. Once a person loses their virginity, they do in fact, lose their sexual purity, unless they lose it by way of marriage that is scripturally right. You can never undo your sexual mistakes you can only repent of them and find forgiveness and you will always have to deal with your bad choices that you made in the past, and yes they will affect your marriage going forward if your spouse isn’t up to par with your former lovers in which you will gauge them on.
If a woman has been promiscuous and has been with multiple men and she married in the church and he isn’t as fulfilling to her sexually because she discovers he isn’t as capable as her lovers she had in the world, she is going to struggle with that lack of fulfillment because of her promiscuity. This isn’t her husband’s fault this is her’s for her life of promiscuity. She may make him feel insecure about himself and then she will blame him for his lack of confidence and see him less attractive and less of a man all because of her past life of promiscuity. These are problems that men and women who have slept around before marriage bring into their marriages. Sorry it’s just a reality. God’s way is the best, celibacy unto marriage both for the man and the woman and then monogamy during the whole marriage until one of the partners die. This is one the main ways to keep a fulfilling sexual marriage.
These are some of the issues that she will bring into her marriage because of her life of sin. This is why God’s way is the best.
Again this man is off. He is trying to link sexual purity to spiritual purity. You can be spiritually pure after coming to Christ and remaining in Him, but once you lose your sexual purity you can never get it back unless you enter into a scripturally correct God ordained marriage and remain faithful to that partner for life never leaving the marriage bond to find sexual fulfillment with another physical person.
Thx for this comment bro u help me a lot everything u said here is what I thought of too ,he almost lost me ,he made me start planning to have sex because god will still forgive me ,thx a lot .
I have been trying to look for this kind of information… but I have discovered it’s never discussed like this …. I realize the more we set people free from self righteousness the more we find healing in so many areas the devil has held us captive … the more we settle in our hearts that are the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus and it’s a gift we receive it by faith …, does that mean going to sin willingly no ,.. it means once you know the truth, you mature to the level of that truth …..
Your message here is refreshing.
So glad it was timely!
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger if I may ask, do you cover the subject of being in a sex-less or unconsumated marriage in any video?
EDIT: Added the "unconsumated" part.
God said No! No sex before marriage. I think this is enough to cover the topic
Think some more.
Could you do a video on whether luke warm christians are saved and how to find out if your a lukewarm christian? And then maybe some tips to avoid lukewarm-ness
ThisisMy Username that's a great idea. I did write an article on that which you may enjoy applygodsword.com/the-danger-of-lukewarm-christianity/
C Jeis
I hope so but there’s lots of confusion as to whether they have a saving faith or not.
actually they dont have any Jesus sed he would spew them out..
This isMY username i found a great youtube minister "disciple Robert" He has many videos and had one about how to know if your lukewarm. i havent seen that one yet but all the ones of his i watched are great.
Every man dumped me after not getting sex while dating. Nuff said
You're better off without them. They wouldn't have just used you
You are already used up.
As long as I’m not legally married to anyone, I’m not having sex. Period. Whatever you use, it still boils down to not having sex with anyone you’re not married to. Period.
Amen, its straight forward in the Bible.
Does someone have to be legally married for God to honor it, what if they been in committed relationship for years with children but not married by state
@@LovePatience32 I want to know that too. I have been with a great Muslim guy for over 2 years. We can only marry legally in the US. I feel like when we meet, we want to have a ceremony and exchange vows and rings. But it won't be legal. I could not be any more committed to him with or without a paper from the government. I am a committed Christian. Can we morally commit our fidelity and love?
@@juliesmock7614 Seek your heavenly Father with all your heart and He will answer. He loves you more than you can fathom and ask for His best for you.
@@juliesmock7614 hi, I’m just wondering how you can justify marrying someone who is not a Christian 😬 please consider the Bible verse about not being unequally yoked with an unbeliever 🙏
wow, you are such a blessing. Please can you talk on biblical truth about jewel and make up for christian women.Thanks!
REPENT FOR THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN IS AT HAND TURN FROM SIN AND TURN TOWARDS RIGHTEOUSNESS THROUGH CHRIST JESUS
JESUS CHRIST IS COMING BACK SOON AND WE MUST BE READY FOR WHEN HE COMES BACK
Ok. 68-year-old woman who has been saving herself for a marriage that looks less and less likely to happen with each passing year. I think I've heard just about every lie that there is on this subject and 99% of them came from people who were married and had been married for quite a long time, or from vowed celibates like priests, monks, and nuns. There is a lot I could say about waiting for marriage that never comes. But I'm going to focus on one.
Why is it that having premarital sex ruins you for marriage because now you will be comparing your previous experiences to your current spouse but if you were previously married and that marriage ends in either death or divorce, all of a sudden now that's a clean slate and there's no memories interfering with your present enjoyment? Is there something magical about saying "I do" and putting on a ring that makes the difference? If you've been married before or your current partner has been married before, neither one of you are virgins. But we hear so much about experience, especially experience with multiple partners being detrimental to the health of your marriage. What is the difference between someone having had sex with five different people that they are not married to, and someone who has been married five times? They both have the same body count. Why is one problematic and the other not? Are we making a fetish of virginity here? Save yourself for marriage, you won't regret it, you will have an absolutely fantastic experience. Just don't have sex before you get married. You have to come to the marriage bed pure or it won't work. But we do not say anything even remotely like that to people who remarry after divorce or death of a spouse. Why is that? Is it because on some level, even though that person's sexual experience has been within the bonds of marriage, they are still "used goods"? So we don't say anything about second marriages. We don't approach that in the same way. Because it's not "new" anymore. That precious virginity has long gone out the door. Once you've lost it, it apparently does not matter what you do afterwards. Why do I ask this? It is because, at my age, there are very few men who have not been married at least once. So I'd be going into a marriage with someone who has had sexual experience. Meanwhile, I've had none. I've saved myself. I have to be satisfied with "second-hand goods" while he gets to experience "brand-new goods". But I don't want "second-hand goods". I want the same level of innocence and purity and virginity from my partner as they are getting with me. Good luck, you might say. I have to face reality, and the reality is there isn't going to be anyone around my age that has not been married at least once, and certainly no virgins (and if they are, I hate to say it, but there might be a really good reason--as in red flag reason--why they still are that way). What I am getting at is that all this focus on virginity and sexual purity can cause some real harm later on in life. Especially when it starts looking like the old double standard. I can tell you that had I not been taught all this stuff as a young woman it wouldn't bother me if a man had prior sexual experience due to being married; but when you start talking purity and saving yourself, and you've done so, it kinda galls to find out that you're going to have to settle for someone who did not unless you want to spend your life alone.
We are all sinners and fall far from the Grace of God.
This is too personal and its between God & the individual.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 to go with what you said on number one. We are to keep ourselves from sexual sin by the strength of the Holy Spirit.
Thanks So Much Mark!! This video has really helped me so much!
"Flee fornication"
Most girls and boys today are too superficial. In fact, I have moved recently to Poland. While it is claimed that it's a Christian country, only so on paper apparently. There is an emerging trend of couples moving in together prior to marriage. Frequent fornication and adultery have become the norm. It's poignant to see this happening. Girls and married women are groomed into this on the street, in bars and nightclubs. I have encountered a Hindu. He's no stranger to such sexual escapades. It's really sad that sometimes I think to resign myself to remain single rather than marry someone whose innocence has been defiled
No one ever told me purity is saving myself I know I need God. I’m practicing abstinence because I know how God feels about sexual sins. But if I fall short I know if I’m sincere he forgives me. It’s more than just sex it’s about honoring God. God is our full focus always and we are never without sin but you pick up your cross daily and follow God to the best of your ability with an open heart.
Such a refreshing video thank you Mark!
So true !! thank you Mark God bless
This is amazing content with an eye-opening perspective.
Thanks. This was really helpful.
So glad it was helpful!
Thank you for making this video.
My pleasure!
Thank you that helped clear a lot of stuff up for me. At least now I understand or will try to understand what is in front of me.
This is really eye opening and also inspiring, i was really blessed. God bless you richly and abundantly
Wooowww this video was so necessary for me thank you! God is good.
Hold on! So if you wait till marriage for Christ! You’re pure. Once you lose that you’re never pure! Yes you’re living now for God but you’re not pure just a fyi
Preach brother!!! Kudos to you for having such a thinking. Preach with a bright light❤️🔥
amen brother only CHRIST JESUS
CAN MAKE YOU PURE AMEN AMEN AMEN !
girle me amen and God bless!