Fighting for Sexual Purity: My Sons Share their Biggest Lessons | Moms of Men | Lisa Bevere

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  • Our children face all kinds of sexual temptations. How can we equip them to protect their purity in a culture of compromise?
    In this discussion, my sons and I dive into a critical discussion on how parents can help their boys navigate sexuality well and create a culture of open conversation around a topic rife with secrecy and shame.
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    Chapters:
    0:00 - Lesson Teaser
    0:13 - Building a Vision for Purity
    6:07 - Combatting a Culture of Compromise
    8:10 - Making Purity Practical
    11:15 - Open the Conversation
    15:11 - Equipping Your Children
    18:00 - Be Pre-emptive & Start Early
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 569

  • @joeym24
    @joeym24 Рік тому +1050

    "People lower their standards when they lose hope. When we have hope we raise our standards"

    • @aaronbrooks4091
      @aaronbrooks4091 Рік тому +12

      I just did a bible study on that! Where we have hope, it's the harbinger of our victory! Once you lose hope, you give up, you let go. Good one! Don't lose hope folks. Our Hope rests in our joy, and the Joy of the Lord is our strength! 👍👏

    • @pamodzichitsonga6901
      @pamodzichitsonga6901 Рік тому +7

      I agree, and we must remember that we are holding onto Christ as our standard and hope, because when we hold onto our own standards and hope, which is very possible, even as a Christian, we will lose our hope and standards easily.

    • @strawberry_lemony
      @strawberry_lemony Рік тому +6

      Exactly, you should just tell God in your mind what your looking for in man/woman and wait every now in then go back and check the list. Because the enemy will send an a imitation. Also if you are waiting till marriage , definitely dont settle. Oh yeah and dont be like well we engage so now i can sleep with him /her , because i ve seen circumstances where the people get engaged have sex with partner , and they dont wind up married. So now you got this soul tie, that is extremely hard to get over and these urges you never really had before. I mean think about it all the time and not experience it , its very easy to abstain . But once you get an unholy soul tie , it gonna be so hard its like being a drug addict. So definitely wait for marriage, and ask God for help in getting married and waiting.

    • @ya__basic
      @ya__basic Рік тому +1

      Precisely. ❤

    • @daughteroftheking3220
      @daughteroftheking3220 Рік тому +1

      Yes exactly our hope is Jesus Christ that is why our standard is so high!!

  • @masego3152
    @masego3152 Рік тому +1459

    As a young Christian woman who’s waiting on God, it’s so inspiring and refreshing that men are so convicted to wait on God! Y’all just restored my hope of finding a Godly man

    • @pamodzichitsonga6901
      @pamodzichitsonga6901 Рік тому +76

      Can I tell you sis, there are so many men who take waiting on God seriously, I know many who I call my friends. Its just that the media bombards us with the other side of the story. Another thing is men express purity differently to women but they exist. Pray to God to be surrounded by them.

    • @BearingMySeoul
      @BearingMySeoul Рік тому +6

      @@pamodzichitsonga6901 Interesting! Are they in your church? I can only think of one ministry I've ever been involved in where men out numbered women. In all the others it's been a 2:1 ratio at best!

    • @TaylorKWH
      @TaylorKWH Рік тому +53

      I'm a 29 year old man who's been waiting on God and waiting until marriage practically my whole life. We are still here and around. I've faced some temptations to pull away and do my own way, cuz sometimes the waiting and longing can be a bit unbearable. But I fear God and I don't want to hurt the person I love so much.

    • @koolsmoothfan
      @koolsmoothfan Рік тому +28

      You would be surprised fam, I have run into a good amount of men who are virgins and waiting until marriage to have sex. It's just that mainstream media makes it look like everybody is participating in hookup culture and that is not true.

    • @koolsmoothfan
      @koolsmoothfan Рік тому +14

      @@pamodzichitsonga6901 facts, I also have run into a good amount of men who are saving themselves for marriage

  • @tinameyers3064
    @tinameyers3064 Рік тому +587

    She rose up some sharp arrows. Bravo mama. It’s amazing that they could talk about something like this so comfortably with their mom

    • @linak7155
      @linak7155 Рік тому +11

      Yes, amazing family! Hat's off to them for raising such men. 💐

    • @mannysamson4091
      @mannysamson4091 Рік тому

      @theamberheardplaylist6768 no. The other way around.

    • @YasminMahnaz
      @YasminMahnaz Рік тому

      The mother is dressed very inappropriate for older woman or woman... and she looks tacky.. like dirty, grimy, cigarette smoker.. she looks evil not like her sons.... deceptive and that haircut, Booby cut shirt not helping her. She not 20.. doesn't dress with class either

  • @kyrythkessler1316
    @kyrythkessler1316 Рік тому +89

    When my son was confirmed at age 14, he asked the pastor to witness for him after the service as he knelt at the altar and pledged his purity to God. He promised to wait until his wedding night. And he kept that vow! He also married a virgin. Their first anniversary is tomorrow and I've never seen such a happy, committed couple! God truly blessed their union! I am so proud of him!

    • @givenmichael6177
      @givenmichael6177 Рік тому +5

      Woooow incredible , proud of him its so inspiring and congratulations to raise him rightly

    • @givenmichael6177
      @givenmichael6177 Рік тому +1

      Woooow incredible , proud of him its so inspiring and congratulations to raise him rightly

    • @willygraphics360
      @willygraphics360 Рік тому +2

      Wooww he is so inspirational!

    • @kyrythkessler1316
      @kyrythkessler1316 Рік тому +3

      @@willygraphics360 thank you ALL OF YOU. He is an incredible man. It wouldn't surprise me if he received a Call one day.

    • @Vlindertjeab
      @Vlindertjeab 11 місяців тому

      😍😍😍😍😍

  • @Helen.Sekitoleko
    @Helen.Sekitoleko Рік тому +208

    As a women who has struggled with lust since childhood.. it is so important to have these conversations with not just your sons but also your daughters, and from a young age!
    God help us! 🙏🏼

    • @nettiemarie2556
      @nettiemarie2556 Рік тому +12

      I struggled with a lust addiction starting at 3 yrs old until about 45 to various degrees via a curse thru the womb on my father's side, I wish my family would have been more accepting and open to purity and these convos, it was taboo...

    • @debpeterson1343
      @debpeterson1343 Рік тому +1

      I agree!

    • @alluringbliss4165
      @alluringbliss4165 Рік тому +2

      I have struggled with list too but once I turned to God and Jesus, the spirit of lust fled.

    • @Utubemm01
      @Utubemm01 11 місяців тому

      Women can have a problem with lust? Who knew?

    • @MariaJennyAbad
      @MariaJennyAbad 10 місяців тому +2

      @Utubemm01 Lust problem knows no gender and age 😔

  • @michaelabester5565
    @michaelabester5565 Рік тому +159

    As a single lady in her early 20s these are notes I took. Thank you!
    1. I dont want either one of us to compromise our marriages.
    2. I want to give as much of myself to my husband as possible. ( ps an untackeled and untouched Michaela) - I want to protect my heart.
    3. God please show me what it can look like to have a beautiful and pure relationship with my husband.

    • @indi2174
      @indi2174 Рік тому

      Hi .. We are in 2023 now.. are you still the same category. If your still single . I mean strictly single . Then please come let us and reason together.

    • @ambassadorkees
      @ambassadorkees Рік тому +9

      ​@@indi2174 What's 2023 to do with it? Celibacy until marriage has proven benificial to many. As a man, I was celibate also.

    • @stevemacinnis5000
      @stevemacinnis5000 Рік тому

      Hey Michaela! I'm 25 and waiting for marriage. I'd love to know more about you because I'm looking for my future wife now. If you're interested, I'll give you my email, and from there I can add you on WhatsApp, sound good? God bless 🙏❤

  • @Retroglamamour
    @Retroglamamour Рік тому +188

    9:44 _”I chose not to kiss a girl in high school, and my brothers gave me crap for that.”_ 🤣😂
    Hahaha yeeesss, this is the authentic sibling callouts and banter 😁

    • @kassi4837
      @kassi4837 Рік тому +27

      One of my best friends is entering his 40s and he still has this standard. I am so proud of him. He is a fire ball for God the keeping of your purity really does enhance your connection in relationship with God. It’s a pain, but it’s worth it.

    • @FuyereIdedevwo
      @FuyereIdedevwo Рік тому +9

      @@kassi4837 May God strengthen him🙏🏼

    • @Missramy100
      @Missramy100 Рік тому

      @@kassi4837 Praise God. It seems like more and more Christians are now accepting even sex before marriage as something 'ok.' I'm 44, not married, but the Bible is still valid, no matter what society says (or even some Christians.)

  • @esthermoananu6786
    @esthermoananu6786 Рік тому +200

    Making sex a sensitive topic won't help but build rebellion in the kids. Kids at a certain age needs to be taught about this topic as it will give them awareness of what is coming. Thank you for this, I wish I had the same convo with my parents when I was young but glad Jesus set me free from all the struggles.

  • @phenomenonto328
    @phenomenonto328 Рік тому +294

    I love how respectful they all are to each other’s perspectives. What a beautiful family dynamic ❤

    • @cristinaxo
      @cristinaxo Рік тому +12

      Yes, I picked up on that as well - so beautiful to see such a wonderful close family❤

    • @nettiemarie2556
      @nettiemarie2556 Рік тому +5

      I noticed this rare trait too. All families would benefit from this...

    • @PaulHanson-zo5qj
      @PaulHanson-zo5qj 10 місяців тому

      Conservative family value's or as joe would sAy far rigHt extremist

  • @christinenamatovu1984
    @christinenamatovu1984 Рік тому +61

    I have been celibate for the last 3 years.. as a Christian I dedicated my whole life to God,.... I joined church doing Gods works I interceded for singles in the same state I was in I preached the gospel and still doing these things,.... righteousness and holiness Next month will be my introduction ceremony and October my wedding ... to a godly man . Thank God 💃🏿♥️

  • @ashleyramos3182
    @ashleyramos3182 Рік тому +71

    I'm a mom of young girls ONLY (10, 8, 6) . How you are equipping your sons with the amour of God is a beautiful testament of your genuine trust in the Lord.

    • @chorusfrog2548
      @chorusfrog2548 Рік тому +2

      Know as a mother of 2 sons, they look and look for girls who dress appropriate...hard to find. My boys are great looking and it is a rare girl that dresses right to start a relationship off to begin with. Hard to find no drama...hard to find Godly girls these days...pray your 3 walk in His ways.

    • @nanaaddae8623
      @nanaaddae8623 11 місяців тому

      My girls are 11, 9 n 6 n i worry for the generation of boys these days. This has so much restored my faith that godly boys do exist in this generation. I wish i saw more of these. I wisk young people are taught how to guard their sexuality. ❤ Going to the bathroom with the door open. Thats new, but thats accountability.

  • @BreenyLee
    @BreenyLee Рік тому +138

    “You can run from something for only so long eventually you need to run TO something” beautiful.
    VISION is so important!!!!

    • @indi2174
      @indi2174 Рік тому

      Breeny .. thank you for been real. Yes I appreciate you for telling it like it is. Your comment says it all. Your comment is short but it definitely speak louder than most of what am hearing and reading. Sooo thank you for been a real one . I celebrate you. And I celebrate this comment in fullness of the firm foundation of wisdom.

    • @zeenkosis
      @zeenkosis Рік тому

      Breeeeny!!!!❤ love seeing you here

  • @moodsofkiwi9285
    @moodsofkiwi9285 Рік тому +67

    I’m a married woman to a man that repented of pornography in the midst of our dating relationship. I’m so glad you guys brought up the fact that it destroys your marriage before you’re even in it. My husband and I have had to work through so much and still struggle at times to stay above the rubble left behind. Protect your marriage from the start! I have a son, and I love the open communication lines you had with your sons.

    • @MrChasCullen
      @MrChasCullen Рік тому +2

      I hope that your husband talks honestly & freely with your son.

    • @deh.2196
      @deh.2196 11 місяців тому +1

      I was in the same boat except he was in it before our marriage from the age of 7 and when we first got married. It lead to cheating which eventually got revealed. It was a hard time but him seeing how devastating it was on me and our marriage lead to him seeking repentance and deliverance from spirits of lust and perversion brought on him from molestation and exposure at a young age. What was a trial turned into a testimony for our marriage and for him. I'm currently 6 months pregnant with a boy and it's so encouraging to see how open and productive this discussion is, I pray that we carry this in our lives to be open and honest with our child 🙏 prayers for you and your family as well ❤❤

    • @moodsofkiwi9285
      @moodsofkiwi9285 11 місяців тому +2

      @@deh.2196 congratulations on your son, and Praise God that He has used a terrible trial to His redemption and glory! I’m sorry for the pain you experienced for your husband’s sin. It hurts my heart thinking about the pain you must have experienced. Thank God you have surpassed it and had victory♥️

    • @deh.2196
      @deh.2196 11 місяців тому

      @moodsofkiwi9285 thank you those kind words mean so much! 😊 🙏 it definitely took alot of healing on both parts but God is so so good even when it looks so bad! Trusting in Him is always worth it!

  • @Chara12
    @Chara12 Рік тому +174

    I’m not a mum but this was so good and really encouraging. Thank you Lisa for modeling that it’s possible to raise sons that are wholly given to God in the area of purity❤️

  • @AranelEruvyreth
    @AranelEruvyreth Рік тому +84

    This video actually gave me a lot of hope. I’m a woman who has struggled with pornography (mostly erotica) and has only recently (within the last year) been set free so I know the damage it can cause. I have never been in a relationship and I was beginning to despair that I wouldn’t ever find a man with this kind of strength, that “all the good ones” were already gone. I have been having more hope as of late and waiting in patience on the Lord to fully heal me and bring someone into my life, and this conversation has helped convict me that there may still be a man out there and that I shouldn’t lose hope and settle out of fear for someone who doesn’t show me the proper respect and love that God has revealed to me I am worth. Thank you very much for having this conversation and posting it and I wish you all the best in your lives and future relationships. Your future wives will be lucky women for sure!

    • @koolsmoothfan
      @koolsmoothfan Рік тому +14

      Don't settle fam, stay true to your value and beliefs. I have run into quite a few men who are virgins and waiting for marriage to have sex. You just continue to draw closer to God and ask Him to make you over into His image. And spend much time in prayer and ask God to send you a God fearing man.
      The Bible says that the more time you spend in prayer with God the more you become like Him and the stronger you get to overcome your sinful nature. Double up, even triple up if you need to during your prayer life. And watch God do a wonderful work in you. God bless you

    • @Hesavedmeamen
      @Hesavedmeamen Рік тому +3

      Please read Redeeming Love by Francine Rivers......such an excellent book on the topic. God bless

  • @paulaglenn388
    @paulaglenn388 Рік тому +21

    I love the statement "walking with God as you're studying the word it changes your desires." That is awesome.

  • @ForestWW
    @ForestWW Рік тому +63

    YES! MORE OF THIS! As a 23 year old young man, this inspires me! I love hearing from other young men about their battles and faith.

  • @fayeg3026
    @fayeg3026 Рік тому +116

    Proud mom.... blessing to have such sons. Parents must have put in a lot to lay the foundation for their sons considering they were travelling . It does not automatically happens. Parents take heed!

    • @jareya
      @jareya Рік тому +2

      So true… this is the fruit of God’s favor, their efforts in intentional parenting, strong communication with their sons, grounded in lots of travail in prayer over the years. It doesn’t just happen.

  • @nettiemarie2556
    @nettiemarie2556 Рік тому +18

    My family never emphasized purity and sexual talk was taboo. Kudos to these saints!

  • @Dan_The_Man77
    @Dan_The_Man77 Рік тому +14

    I’m 17 year old male and I’ve been suffering with this shit from 13 but now I see the true path 🙏

  • @glenda7846
    @glenda7846 Рік тому +32

    This is beautiful and so rare that men actually make this decision. There are some men who are raised with a Christian upbringing who don’t make the choice of sexual purity. The transparency of all of you is blessing, especially since this topic still seems to be taboo in the church. There needs to be more discussions about this topic.

  • @mony2934
    @mony2934 Рік тому +21

    It's shocking how beautiful these men and their mother are!! ❤️ Wow! A healthy holy family 🙏 Respect and much love to all of you 🤗

  • @meganvictoria7
    @meganvictoria7 Рік тому +19

    I think it's very admirable that Alec waited on kissing. Not many people can say that and it's often looked down upon. It's refreshing to hear someone else is committed and waiting on God. Young men of God seem scarce these days. Seeing these men gives me hope. I'll keep waiting on God's timing.

  • @chocortez23
    @chocortez23 Рік тому +29

    So refreshing to hear men speaking of this and seeing the beauty in staying pure for your future spouse. As a single young lady in the Lord, I feel so encouraged and feel like, there ARE men out there who love God, love their future spouse, and want to have good morals. The thing about the balloon, soooo good! I grew up with very similar illustration. How beautiful! Thanks guys for sharing and encouraging so many of us girls.

  • @pamgessler5923
    @pamgessler5923 Рік тому +19

    Godly parents, especially a good father who lives out His faith in front of His children, teaching them every day about Life and walking with God are the most important thing children can have. I thank God often that my children had that. I wish everyone did.

  • @whatjojothinks
    @whatjojothinks Рік тому +41

    Listening to them speak, you can tell that she’s done such a great job! Bravo Lisa Bevere, you’re an inspiration !

  • @aminaamrar4959
    @aminaamrar4959 Рік тому +30

    a great mom who has raised 4 great men, bless them, it's so refreshing and hopeful to see a family discuss ethics and values in a world where promecuity is becoming the new norm.

  • @roshi8955
    @roshi8955 Рік тому +40

    It makes me sad because as a boy raised in a Christian family I was never exposed to pornography inside the home, and it wasn't talked about either. The first time I heard about stuff like that was at school, classmate were watching porn IN CLASS (during lesson) and I was 13 too(currently 23). So the fact that other people's children can pollute the minds of kids unbeknownst to parents is sad and quite scary. I fell into masturbation during the same period and was too ashamed to talk about it with anyone, until God delivered me from it 4 years ago.
    I will make sure to educate my children on sex rather early so that I can tell them all there is to know, and so they feel comfortable coming to me for advices. Because when my mom got the courage to ask if I was practicing it, I was already 1/2 years clean…so a bit too late imo...

    • @angelabroere781
      @angelabroere781 Рік тому +1

      "Fell into masturbation in the same period." The same class period?
      "...Until God delivered me from it 4 years ago."
      So you haven't sought self-pleasure in masturbation since you were 19 now?

    • @roshi8955
      @roshi8955 Рік тому +5

      @@angelabroere781 no, not in the same classe period but in the same year, several months later.
      And no, I haven't touched myself since May 2018

    • @willygraphics360
      @willygraphics360 Рік тому +3

      ​@@roshi8955you have come along way brother Keep it up man!

    • @richardf.6430
      @richardf.6430 11 місяців тому +1

      ​@@roshi8955 🎉🎉🎉 way to go. Doing the same.

  • @esthermungai9332
    @esthermungai9332 Рік тому +22

    People lower their standards when they loose hope...so powerful 🙌🙌🙌

  • @JesusLovesYou423
    @JesusLovesYou423 Рік тому +15

    I have 5 kids, one boy and 4 girls, I'm just starting to listen to these videos, but mine are all still little, so I'm praying these will help as my children grow!
    We have a Jesus loving household, so this is so important!!

  • @blissfulanddivine3101
    @blissfulanddivine3101 Рік тому +53

    This is so deep. Thanks guys. And more to mama and dad for being such an example of leadership. So blessed.

  • @nancydubuk1768
    @nancydubuk1768 Рік тому +23

    My daughter loves Jesus and is staying pure until marriage. She has found it so difficult to find men that want the same thing. She goes to church, is in small groups etc…. And the men are nit serious about their purity. It makes me so sad! She is a gorgeous ( not by my standards, but anyone’s standards) young lady. 23 years old . Very smart ( of course all moms think their child is beautiful and smart). If I didn’t think my daughter would be horrified, I would post a picture here 😆
    I keep praying that God will have a godly man for her that values Gods ways in all he does…. Just like my daughter…..but, I get discouraged sometimes.
    It was lovely to hear your young men speak so confidently and honestly.

    • @Utubemm01
      @Utubemm01 Рік тому +1

      The men are "nit" serious? Oh, you meant the men are "not" serious. Makes sense to me.

    • @koolsmoothfan
      @koolsmoothfan Рік тому +4

      Don't give up fam. You continue to lift your daughter up before the Lord. Sometimes we have to increase our prayer life to get them answered sometimes. You and your daughter continue to pray and ask God to send her a strong, God fearing man, and ask God to give you guys patience as you wait on Him to answer.

    • @nancydubuk1768
      @nancydubuk1768 Рік тому +4

      @@koolsmoothfan yes, you are right. Thank you!

    • @julietruesdell.371
      @julietruesdell.371 Рік тому +2

      I don't understand why a person would only comment to correct someone's spelling instead of responding to the message..

    • @Utubemm01
      @Utubemm01 Рік тому +1

      @@julietruesdell.371 Well clearly I was bored when i read it. Or maybe I'm just a stickler for details. In any event, my response to the overall posting is below.

  • @krispyxtine
    @krispyxtine Рік тому +24

    I have a son and I’m expecting another boy in September so it’s encouraging to hear this from different perspectives. I think that sexual purity doesn’t stop once you get married and some men still struggle with pornography and sexual immorality even in marriage, so I think talking about sexual purity within a context of marriage is still important. Would love to hear about that!

  • @gowx
    @gowx Рік тому +53

    This was such a blessing ❤ Lisa, thank you for bringing your sons on and having them voice their fight for purity and ultimately for what the Lord has called them to.

  • @marlanabeasley1790
    @marlanabeasley1790 Рік тому +10

    This made my heart so happy seeing men talk about this

  • @janey9932
    @janey9932 Рік тому +6

    oh God I just want a christian home like this; I mean look how loving, enlightened, respectful they are to each other

    • @MrChasCullen
      @MrChasCullen Рік тому

      It can happen when we go God's way.

  • @dededinah2
    @dededinah2 Рік тому +35

    What a good thing to do, Lisa. So good to hear your son's speak so openly. Proud of you, Lisa, and John for the way you have raised them!

  • @blessedsuburbanmamma7062
    @blessedsuburbanmamma7062 Рік тому +5

    Idk how to explain it but I can see in their faces and eyes the purity they have 🥹🥹 when it comes to this topic even if they’re already married or whatever. Have you ever noticed how heavy and burdened ppl become and the sorrows you can almost see in one’s face when they have been used and manipulated and heartbroken. That’s a huge part of keeping yourself pure… protecting your heart at all costs bc everything u do flows from it ! Proverbs 4:23

  • @jaimepiano1985
    @jaimepiano1985 Рік тому +22

    I have four young sons, I’m so excited to see this. Thank you!

  • @bridgetg2661
    @bridgetg2661 Рік тому +12

    What a blessing to have four beautiful sons who demonstrate such Godly beliefs and intentions - They will all be/become such wonderful husbands - well done on raising them like this! ❤ from Australia 🇦🇺 x

  • @togodbetheglory1842
    @togodbetheglory1842 Рік тому +13

    As a single mom with a 15 yr old son, thank you for sharing this info to give me talking points with my son. I love the Ballon analogy. I plan on checking into Passport to Purity

  • @jenkilburnart3746
    @jenkilburnart3746 Рік тому +27

    Wow!! Thank you for raising godly sons!!

  • @donnamorgan2313
    @donnamorgan2313 Рік тому +11

    Lisa you are so blessed. 2 of my 3 grown children are still pure. Not out of honor for God, but they have always been very shy of the opposite sex. The one who is not suffers terribly with mental illness. I just pray that they all turn to walk with the Lord, and find Godly spouses some day.

    • @cristinaxo
      @cristinaxo Рік тому +3

      Praying that your boys find their way to God 🙏❤️

  • @VictoriaD10001
    @VictoriaD10001 Рік тому +9

    As a soon-to-be first time mom of a son, this part of raising godly boys intimidates me most… this was a super helpful and encouraging video. Many thanks!!!

  • @charlesgatesjr4264
    @charlesgatesjr4264 7 місяців тому +2

    I love the openness and transparency in your family. It really sets a standard for those of us who are preparing for marriage and family and illustrates how we can be open without shaming about even the harder topics. Purity is probably the most attacked topic in America, and the Church doesn't know how to handle it. I'll be watching your other videos, too, because I got a lot out of this!

  • @mgiii
    @mgiii Рік тому +12

    This is Powerful. I’m awestruck. Don’t have words. Great job Mom. I’m a man and 31. Great powerful example of kingdom family

  • @Dahmiekay
    @Dahmiekay Рік тому +20

    Thank you so much mama lisa, its so nice to have men talk about this topic and share their convictions about purity

  • @leahingraham5509
    @leahingraham5509 Рік тому +13

    This is so encouraging. Got three sons and I'm definitely gonna be proactive to have things conversations

  • @genepsullivan
    @genepsullivan 5 місяців тому

    Thank you for these video's to pass to other young people

  • @faithrosebhizai5645
    @faithrosebhizai5645 Рік тому +8

    "When we have hope we raise our stands" well said..and it applies to every aspect of our lives..
    Thankyou

  • @moldovaniulia5488
    @moldovaniulia5488 Рік тому +2

    This is so good! Thank you all for sharing all these with us.

  • @nwanyibuifeobiako162
    @nwanyibuifeobiako162 Рік тому +13

    Such a beautiful family! Thank you Lisa for this open and necessary discussion with your sons🤎

  • @susanking5008
    @susanking5008 Рік тому +3

    This is such an impactful podcast. Thank you Lisa! Cheers to these mighty men & the truth they share

  • @saraherrick4675
    @saraherrick4675 4 місяці тому

    It’s good that you guys are talking about and addressing these issues.

  • @jforbesprd
    @jforbesprd Рік тому +1

    Great, honest conversation in fellowship -- so important to have these conversations amongst family and in churches. Awesome you guys - God bless.

  • @hannahb.2984
    @hannahb.2984 Рік тому +4

    Wow, this is so good! Very timely for me since I have a 12 year old son. I'm so thankful that God had me stumble upon this video and your channel!

  • @AM-hh2kg
    @AM-hh2kg 11 місяців тому

    This is the BEST! Love the open forum with all of your sons, love the practical, love it all!!!😊

  • @natalieohlsson7777
    @natalieohlsson7777 Рік тому +2

    These talks with your sons are profoundly powerful!! Please keep it up❤❤❤

  • @makaylacraven9300
    @makaylacraven9300 Рік тому +4

    Thank y’all so much for talking about these things. These are things that our society really needs to talk about. Our world is so confused, and so many people think that what’s wrong is right and what’s right is wrong. I am so glad that y’all are talking about what truly is right.

  • @britt_bh2021
    @britt_bh2021 Рік тому +10

    Wish more than anything I had someone pouring this into me teaching me along the way, the shame and regret and guilt is suffocating I wish I could go back and do everything right 😢❤ thank you Lord for forgiveness it’s hard to forgive yourself and the ballon analogy was spot on it makes you feel so empty when you give yourself away to people

    • @hellefreude5086
      @hellefreude5086 Рік тому +7

      I understand where you're coming from. Believe me. But Jesus didn't come for the healthy saint, He came for the sick in sin...and there are more who need His healing then not. Sadly enough! From my own experience, the closer your relationship gets to Jesus Christ, following His leading, taking up the Truth in scripture, the more healing you will experience 💛
      As to the guilt and shame and emptiness, the feeling of haven given your worth away...I just thought about the encounter of Jesus with the Samaritan woman at the well. (John 4:26) She was a foreigner, to that a woman and had quite a bit of sexual impurity in her life....and Jesus approached this broken woman and shared the first time openly that He was the Messiah💛 Can it get more beautiful, more loving and more hopeful. There is no hint of accusation or shaming from Jesus to this woman...He came for such a broken soul and life as she had! .... although of course she needed to turn her life around....
      I was like this broken woman and Jesus has absolutely transformed my life!!! It's taken time, but I am not who I was!
      Be blessed💛 If we walk close to Jesus, leaning on His strength and guidance, we will overcome all sin, death and satan! Because Jesus IS already victor! He loves us so much! 💛🙏

    • @koolsmoothfan
      @koolsmoothfan Рік тому +4

      If you confess your sin, God is faithful and just to forgive your sin. 1 John1:9. Don't beat yourself up, we all have sinned. Now, look to God and ask Him to come into your heart and to make you into His image. Increase your prayer life tenfold and study your Bible more. Doing these things bring peace to the soul.
      I find the more time I spend in prayer and studying the Bible the more peace and comfort comes over me. And before you study the Bible, pray and ask God to send the Holy Spirit to give you discernment and understanding before you study it. Ask God to give you the strength to not look back at your past failures, but ask Him to give you the strength and power and desire to put God first in your life. If you put God first in your life, then He will take care of the rest.
      trust me fam, you just start to spend more time in prayer and studying the Bible and watch God move in your life in wonderful ways. I am a living witness to that, ever since I gave my heart too and invited God into my life. He has done some wonderful and miraculous things for me and my family.

    • @koolsmoothfan
      @koolsmoothfan Рік тому +2

      @@hellefreude5086 amen fam, I am happy for you. You are correct we need to spend even more time in prayer and studying the Bible now then ever before to make it in these last and evil days. The more time we spend with God the more we become like Him.

    • @britt_bh2021
      @britt_bh2021 11 місяців тому

      @@hellefreude5086 thank you 💜 May God bless you always !!!

  • @Mr1persevering
    @Mr1persevering Рік тому +14

    Lisa, thank you so much for this much needed ministry. I was literally just asking God for such a resource and happened upon this today. Thanking God that He cares about every aspect of our children’s lives.

  • @TMarieJful
    @TMarieJful Рік тому +1

    Thank you all for this resource

  • @mercynawila4440
    @mercynawila4440 Рік тому +6

    This is so inspiring hearing it from the men that have made decisions on what they want purity,not that it's easy but because its worthy it, vision. love you Lisa and the men

  • @imforeva6019
    @imforeva6019 Рік тому +10

    This was wonderful. So encouraging to see and hear especially from men.

  • @erwinh847
    @erwinh847 Рік тому

    Wow, this is powerful stuff! I never had any talk about this with my parents, at least not that I can remember. Openness was not part of the familyculture I grew up in. So you guys are setting a GREAT example with this conversation! Thank you so much. God bless!

  • @laurabennet7693
    @laurabennet7693 Рік тому +3

    Great discussion! Thank you so much. My sons are grown and as a mom I tried to instill these things and communicate with them. I think dads or trusted other men are so crucial in this situation. I'm glad there are believers are becoming more open to share this topic.

  • @linak7155
    @linak7155 Рік тому +5

    This was beautiful! A rare n candid conversation between a mom and her sons. Scripture speaks of 144,000 young virgins (men) who will be preserved during the worst time on esrth. God is always watching us to see what's in our hearts.

  • @christinafashanu
    @christinafashanu Рік тому +2

    Wow! This is refreshing to watch and listen to. God bless you guys.

  • @salomekalu9032
    @salomekalu9032 4 місяці тому

    This is sooo beautiful to watch!

  • @lorriwalker3180
    @lorriwalker3180 11 місяців тому

    What a refreshingly great conversation

  • @Krystal_Speaks
    @Krystal_Speaks Рік тому +3

    Thank you for this video & transparency

  • @sandrasanso001
    @sandrasanso001 Рік тому +5

    Awesome conversation!! Thank God for you guys. I shared it with my youth group. I feel blessed to have found these conversations. I have saved myself for my future husband and wear my purity ring 💍. I’m so grateful with God for helping me stay pure in mind and body . May God continue to use you for his glory 😊🙏

  • @tiffanychandler3
    @tiffanychandler3 Рік тому +3

    I love this so much. Young men standing for what's right and sharing. We need more of these men in the world. Great job Mom and Dad.

  • @JDk22
    @JDk22 Рік тому +17

    I'm so happy I stumbled upon this video. It's inspiring 🙌 and motivating. truth be told I'm a single 35 yrs old christian male who have be struggling with sexual purity over the yrs. While I don't physically engage in sexual practices with other persons, I have been constantly bombarded by the pressures of giving in hence I find myself from time to time engaging in masturbation to help ease that build of of sexual tension. I'm not perfect and I'm trying my hardest to keep pure each day.

    • @debpeterson1343
      @debpeterson1343 Рік тому +1

      No shame,ask God for a natural release He will give at night. He loves you and knows the struggle.

    • @abesheilibocasulla278
      @abesheilibocasulla278 Рік тому

      do you consider masturbation as a sin also?

    • @markobazu4348
      @markobazu4348 11 місяців тому +1

      ​@@abesheilibocasulla278of course it's a sin. Dont forget your body represents the temple of the holy spirit. And when u pollute your body he walks out and your life becomes miserable

    • @ivonnerojas7002
      @ivonnerojas7002 9 місяців тому

      ⁠@@markobazu4348Are there any verses on masturbation? Just curious

  • @tlaly
    @tlaly Рік тому +3

    Argh! Love this so much. I don't have kids yet but I look forward to being this open with my sons and even daughters❤

  • @estherdalo6001
    @estherdalo6001 Рік тому +1

    It's a blessing you're talking about this openly.

  • @MrTorbern75
    @MrTorbern75 Рік тому

    So good! I got so happy that you can sit down as a family and speak so openly about a HUGE problem in our society today

  • @thats_guip
    @thats_guip Рік тому +3

    What a nice talk! Thank you for this video 😊

  • @niceyenuf1
    @niceyenuf1 Рік тому +1

    Great discussions, thanks for sharing your family experience

  • @christinachandy2801
    @christinachandy2801 Рік тому

    I've recently had my second baby and my older one just started his preschool. I'm more than ever excited about motherhood and I'm so glad to have come across this channel

  • @littlematchgirlproductions
    @littlematchgirlproductions Рік тому +1

    This is so important and powerful! Thank you so much!

  • @simplebeautybysusie5251
    @simplebeautybysusie5251 Рік тому +5

    Thanks all! What a refreshing drink of water and you are all such lights 🌟🌟🌟🌟 Well done parents ✝️🫶🙏 and good on your God centered sons 🙌🤗🫶❤️✝️ love your teachings Miss Lisa 🫶

  • @kellybertoni2005
    @kellybertoni2005 11 місяців тому

    God bless you all - such a beautiful family! Thank you for shedding light on such an important topic.

  • @isaacatima89
    @isaacatima89 4 місяці тому

    This is one of the best interview I've seen

  • @marlynfana6679
    @marlynfana6679 Рік тому +2

    Thank you for this…. I’m happy to see man who hold purity at this standard… God be praised.. Thank you Lisa for raising your sons this way..

  • @paigeferguson7648
    @paigeferguson7648 Рік тому

    That was incredible. Thank you for sharing.

  • @debbyrene
    @debbyrene Рік тому

    I completely agree! Love, love, this conversation!

  • @Hopelb
    @Hopelb Рік тому +18

    This is so helpful. I also have 4 boys (and 1 girl) and honestly, raising 4 boys to be pure in this culture terrifies me. My boys are 5 and under but I have already started talking to my children about sex. I heard about sex in first grade from a neighbor! And that was in the early 90s.

    • @moodsofkiwi9285
      @moodsofkiwi9285 Рік тому +1

      I am so nervous as well. I only have one son but God willing I could have more. And sexual purity is what intimidates me.

    • @koolsmoothfan
      @koolsmoothfan Рік тому +6

      Nowadays, in this society we must invite God into our hearts to guide us and our children. Everyday lift your kids up to the Lord in the morning and ask Him to protect them and guide them throughout the day. Also dedicate your children to the Lord and ask Him to Use them for His will and purpose. Ask the Lord to put a protective hedge around them everyday, and keep them safe from the Devil.
      I dedicated my daughter to the Lord when she was a little girl and the Lord has done so many wonderful things in her life and mine. He has provided and protected us in this wicked world, and has done miraculous things for us. He will do the same for you and your kids if you invite Him to come into your hearts and abide with you.
      God says, behold, I stand at the door and knock, if any man opens it, I will come in and abide with him and he with Me. So open up your hearts to God and ask Him to lead and guide your paths, only God can lead you and your family safely in this world. With little prayer comes little power, but with much prayer comes much power. God bless you.

  • @salsabilammar12
    @salsabilammar12 Рік тому +6

    What was said aboud lowering standards is amazing, this is exactly what happens!

  • @motsa5343
    @motsa5343 Рік тому +1

    This is so necessary to see and hear and have represented.

  • @audrinemukisa16
    @audrinemukisa16 11 місяців тому

    Really helpful, God bless y'all

  • @onelisiwenombila1492
    @onelisiwenombila1492 Рік тому +2

    This is such a beautiful representation of godly parenting and man the fruits are beautiful to watch ❤

  • @jcnithyahere
    @jcnithyahere Рік тому +19

    Can't even begin to explain how good this conversation is and how much this is needed these days!! God bless you all!

  • @tri-tide-ripples
    @tri-tide-ripples Рік тому

    Thanks alot for such a wonderful discussion Lisa,. will use this in another platform some shores afar.🙏💫💫💫

  • @maudanim6200
    @maudanim6200 Рік тому +2

    This so so great. I have 3 little boys and am glad I've seen your videos. God bless you all.

  • @lisaw3636
    @lisaw3636 Рік тому +2

    Thank you so much, I sent this to my 23 year old son. Thank you again… so important

  • @eleanorgathright605
    @eleanorgathright605 Рік тому +1

    This is AMAZING!!!! Thank You Lord for these young men and their their brave and courageous mom.

  • @TheFoyinsayemi
    @TheFoyinsayemi Рік тому +9

    I’d love to be a boy mom someday, just like you and I pray God helps me to raise them right, raise them as kings that invade cities and takeover kingdoms for God. Amen!

  • @jareya
    @jareya Рік тому

    This is really beautiful. Thank you to the Beveres. God bless you

  • @donnamarsh3474
    @donnamarsh3474 Рік тому +1

    This was amazing and extremely needed. Thank you!