"Nobody knows (what you should do) better than you, and it's a horrible realization, because what the hell do you know?" I got a real kick out of that. Well done!
@@Book11011011 It's such a paradox... The more you know, the less you know. I guess because we are all finite creatures that is part of infinity. It doesn't matter how much you know about infinity, you still got infinity left to know.
^ Obviously combat the 'faulty logic' with logic that makes sense to you in your mind. None of us agree with Jordan 100% on everything he says I'm sure lol.
I used to have extreme agoraphobia. I started to avoid going to the places that made me feel anxious, and I ended up not being able to get out of bed. It's difficult for me talk about this, because I always feel ashamed of that part of my life. But if it can help anyone reading this, Jordan is absolutely right. We are way stronger than we think we are. It's not about minimizing the threat, it's about making yourself stronger than any potential threat. I remember the first time I got out of my appartment after a few years of total isolation. I felt like I was an alien discovering planet earth. My legs were shaking, my heart was beating out my chest. And I thought "Alright, what you have to do is go from point A to point B. Just do it. Don't run away and hide like you used to. You know where it leads : nowhere. So just do it, and you'll be proud".
not sure if the reason why i don't leave my room is agoraphobia or any other kind of phobia. i think i just don't have a reason to go outside, to work my ass off or to deal with manipulative and spiteful people. as long as i can financially afford to not go outside i will continue to do so, and i don't think it is something shameful.
+BlueLumi, Thank you very much! +Trying to Figure Life Out, It was a very long process. I realized that the problem was not outside, it was inside of me. So even if I stayed home, the "threat" would still be here, because since I was becoming weaker, the "threat" appeared to get bigger proportionally to my weakness. It's a vicious circle. Once you understand that principle, it's easier to reason with fear. Then I developped self-discipline. I set myself a goal, stopped all the unhealthy habits that I had, woke up earlier, exercised, etc.. so I can't say it happened overnight. But I definitely CHOSE it. Yes, "enough is enough", all that. Sometimes people with mental illness hate the idea that you can "choose" to change your life. Because they're convinced they can't overcome their pain, and as Dr. Peterson said, they also take advantage of that. +Jan409, Ha! I know that feeling. "There's no reason to go outside anyway". Well, if you're happy that way, there's nothing shameful about that indeed. But I'd suggest you try to change your routine sometimes. Just to see what happens.
I have been through this, making yourself weaker and less intimidating to serve the person who is stronger and more intimidating, the reward is comfort and protection but the price you pay is complete dependence.
@@thetrianglewaffle When I become a math teacher in the future, I have promised myself to make those lectures as interesting as possible. One of my former physics teachers would always do some funny experiment and be totally spontaneous and joke around when he got a good chance to do it, and that is kind of what I am aiming at as well.
Its a blessing and a curse. Free knowledge is great if you search for it but this entire (Professionally offended) problem is a direct result of the internet also.
I spent year fighting depression and anxiety. Nothing helped. Oddly enough it was when I was at my lowest and had a failed suicide attempt that I finally got the answers I needed. My heart stopped 3 times in the ambulance and twice in the ER. But I learned exactly what Jordan describes at 5:35. I learned to withstand the threat of death. I lost my fear of dying. It was the worst case scenario up to that point and I survived it. I'm not really "afraid" of anything any longer. In fact what I found was that what I was TRULY afraid of was being rejected. Now I don't care what people think. Their thoughts and perceptions of me aren't important. It took almost dying to learn how to live. My heart stopping set me free.
Georgeous. Having a emotional needy day where you must troll someone who has the courage to open up? You must desperately crave attention, even negative attention, by saying such things. Shows your immaturity. Anyone who never struggled with inner demons is either a liar or a psychopath incapable of empathy. Which are you?
This is exactly what I needed to hear today. I've had debilitating anxiety for my entire life, I was always hiding from the world and it was a terrible feeling. I've been pushing myself more and more over this past year, done things I never thought I could do. Today I'm leaving everything behind to move across country by myself, which I never would have thought possible. Listening to Jordan Peterson has really helped me sort my thoughts and feelings out about these things, and given me courage. He's spot on.
Angela B You sound incredibly brave & strong & I appreciate you sharing your story. Just curious-how did the move go? I hope you're fully settled in & thriving.
Face your fears, hell yeah. I had severe social phobia once. I hid myself from the world and stayed in that hole, until i decided it was enough. Then I made a decision which i can say without any doubt that it has been the best decision in my life. I decided to become a waiter. With such a great social phobia, i metaphorically threw myself in front of the beast. I've stopped hiding, I took a job that threw me literally in the middle of people and so I started interacting with them. My life has gone uphill since. Stop hiding and face the beast, and everything will go uphill, everything will straighten up.
I have social phobia, worse than that is i developed it in a school in my village. i was a teacher in that school so nearly every one i know in my village knows my situation that makes my anxiety even worser, cause my students spread the rumor about me and say this guy is stupid and that hits me so hard and start sweating again, i dont know what to do.
I wouldn't have thought so - I'm quite the recalcitrant - but 'authority' is being used here in terms of 'protection' and there might be some truth in that.
My sister died of cancer 2 and a half years ago. During that time I was on my last month of school (studying for finals), I had a pregnant fiancée (now my wife), and on top of that I gave the eulogy for both of my grandparents only a couple months prior. Needless to say my family and I were not only devastated, but just exhausted. During this time I realized I was stronger than I thought. While most of my family was overcome with grief. My father made all the funeral arrangements and again I wrote and gave the eulogy for the 3 time in 5 months. At the same time I was looking for a place to raise my soon to be family and the look for a job (I was only working part-time during school). I'm not going to lie. My wife and I went through hell for the next year and a half. And I made a lot of choices that I regret, but I learned that all things good and bad must come to an end. More importantly, I now know that I have what it takes when the next set of trials come my way. I now have a beautiful family and my dream job. All this to say, Jordan Peterson isn't kidding. You would be amazed at what you can endure when you have to. Who knows, you might even be stronger once all is said and done.
Man am I happy that Peterson got in trouble for deciding not to say those pronouns. What started as a a political issue for me has escalated into such wisdom from this great man. Dr. Peterson, you may have a harder time now that everyone is looking over your shoulder constantly, but I mean it when I say the teachings you have shared have a far better effect on humanity and outweigh the cons by far.
This video leads me to conclude Peterson is not the sort of institutional or religious educator whose first purpose is to propagate the culture he works within. I was never seriously suspicious that he is so. But now I see he is the type to set you free, by telling all he knows (or at least all he can say) about how we work, and how our societies work. In any case, even were that not so, I find that Peterson is the fucking water at Lourdes. Often I listen to him and find there is nothing bothering me, and that nothing ever was bothering me, now that I think about it clearly. Think of the thousands and millions of people Peterson will help, directly and indirectly, by spreading his recordings about. (Many thanks to this channel and others, too.)
Yes he is on point and not frightend to say the truth. He will go down as one of the great minds. But more importantly he could explain it all to us dummies. And his videos are going to be priceless when the human race catches up with him.
@@BMTHxxx100 Elevators have lots of safety mechanisms, like counterweights to decrease its falling speed, high friction from the supports and feathers that catch it when it crashes. Elevators also usually have emergency phones.
This man has given me more understanding and strength than any single person in my life. That is a pretty big deal. What he does well is explain things you see and feel everyday in a way that I can relate to and understand. What that does for me is strengthen the moral compass my parents gave me but were not good at explaining its importance. On a personal level, I really needed his guidance at this time in my life.
I was raised by a single a mother that was overly overprotective of during childhood. Whenever a problem arose she will be there to solve the whole thing without me having to intervene. I remember that I didn't care about solving my own problems because I could easily tell my mom or an authority figure and the problem will usually disappear. This worked fine during my childhood but as the years passed on I had to painfully realize that reality just doesn't work that way and I need to confront problems face to face.
Jordan Peterson reminds me of Richard Feynman. Simplifying abstract and complex ideas into clear and manageable pieces, only Peterson's focus is more about self awareness, improvement, and the furthering of the individual - the mind, the way we think, what we pay attention to, etc. Very grateful for the contributions from both these greats.
I'm currently taking steps to beat my fears, beat my social anxiety. I started early this year, and to say it's going slow.. well I'm not sure. I wasn't able to talk to someone, or start a conversation before I started, and now I do it without someone encouraging me to. Every day, I overthink, I get anxious, I build it up in my head and by the time I confront it, it is equal to death. But during it, I survive. Then I come home, cry, panic, then look in the mirror and I see that I'm still here, that nothing horrible happened, nothing I thought would happen did happen. And I got through it. It's the first time I've ever felt proud of myself.
Jordan your videos has helped me more than any other videos on youtube, I would just like to say thank you so much for posting. You're doing lots of good things for people around the world
Exactly what I realised this week! Years ago I got a fortune cookie that said 'don't take anyone to be wiser than yourself' and only now I really know what that means
This is a great description of what happens to people who enter into this mindset within a large bureaucracy. I keep coming back to the military, especially enlisted service. When stepping out of line could result in felony charges, alcoholism and mental dissonance is pretty common. Guys who choose to play the game for their 20 often seem to have this mindset, and they front their service as a means of escaping the reality that they were so subservient for so long.
he tells us something we have felt so often but could not articulate and express. it's such a relief to finally find ways to deal with our problems that we so willingly ignore or are afraid to approach
When my husband left me, I was taken through one fear after another. Horrible. But afterwards, I could see that the fear itself was torture, was much worse than the actual things I feared. Those things/situations lost their power over me. Praise God!
Two years ago I had a really bad out of body panic attack and ever since I’ve been trying to do exposure therapy by myself. Going to events, concerts, places but always having a few crutches so I can feel safe. Like knowing where the exit is, bringing snacks, having my keys with me etc. it helps a lot and most of the time I forget I’m anxious. I am becoming braver and it’s so nice to feel like I’m not alone. And to hear his words about it. He is a genius and we’re all becoming braver!!! I survived 100% of every day.
Fuck this hit home so much. I’m just realizing how spoiled and protected I’ve been at home all my life. I’m gonna make an effort to face my fears head on now to make me stronger. Once I’ve accepted this, and I know I’m gonna do it, I now feel very powerful
Wow Peterson just articulated what happened to me a couple of months ago. I am a female in my late 20s (thank the heavens not as late as 40) and I started getting panic attacks out of the blue in all sorts of places. Elevators, subways, the office, everywhere. It wasn't until I gained some self respect and stopped letting the ppl I love protect me from the realities of life (no shade, it takes 2 to tango) that I gained the ultimate freedom. Long story short, I walked through what for me was the fire and flames of the judgment on the subway, the streets, and the office. After a couple of times doing this, I felt like I could face death and ride through the fire, my greatest fear. What he mentioned about the great Mother & Father is so true. You cannot hide behind them, you must fight to be a true person. I hope that all of those who suffered like I did just rip off the damn band-aid because you know in your heart of hearts that freedom is right after. It is so worth it!!
Brilliant. That agoraphobia part reminded me that sometimes even without being agoraphobic we avoid places we feel bad in, selectively, even when we know we can become better by going there. Like to avoid the library because the librarian is intimidating or to stop going to college because you feel depressed the second you walk in because your grades dropped for X reasons, etc...
6:58 I had that realization when I was a senior in high school. It was so freeing, I have not thought about that moment since seeing this video. I love my parents and know they are a good source of wisdom and advise, but I also knew I had to start making those major life decisions on my own, even if the mentors in my life did not fully agree. Think it through, go with your gut, take risks and enjoy the game of life.
I had panic attacks, few months ago. Till now. I'm amazed with what Mr.Jordan just said in this video. I totally have seen this happened to me, and it's still happening to me, but less than before. I'm facing it alone. Good luck to anyone facing it! Thanks for sharing!
I went through a phase where I was having anxiety attacks. I had a symptom trigger it. I thought something was wrong, that frightened me, and fear created more symptoms. I managed to get past this by convincing myself that it was all in my head. I became an expert on heart attack and stroke symptoms. And the most important thing I did was accept my worst fear. I told myself, if it happens, it happens. After that I was fine, all my symptoms were gone. From time to time I would have the anxiety return. I would just tell myself that nothing ever happens. I also resist reading medical symptoms. Sometimes I'll do it, but usually I avoid it. When I was a child, if I felt like there was something wrong, my mother would tell me I was OK. I would believe her and then never stressed. When I became older, my mom was getting too old to be the support she used to be. I had to learn what kind of symptoms I have when I'm having anxiety and I also had to accept death. Now I'm usually fine. I've cured my anxiety without medication. I rarely stress now.
Do you guys think that Dr. Peterson could possibly go down in history with a legacy that matches or excedes different minds such as Hegel, Neitzsche , Kant, Solzhenitsyn etc.? I would be curious to hear viewer thoughts.
he's more of a collective intellectual, where others have their own theories and do something with it. he more or less got everyone elses legacy and added it all together
A better statement would be "If you don't know what to do, and your head is empty, you can get ideas and answers if you believe that those ideas and answers will come". To put it simpler, there may not be any strength inside you, BUT it can arrive if you let it.
Sometimes it’s not so much that a person is protected that creates the gullibility. It is the lack of guidance from authority figures on how to evolve as a person. I was in no way sheltered. If anything, neglected. Some of that made me stronger, but some part of neglect is a lack of guidance. When I think of the struggles and crap that I went through as a kid, and young woman, with no parental figure to say, “hey! We all struggle with this,” or “we all have to learn this,” it is no wonder I faltered so many times.
I am deeply sorry that you were over protected. Have you managed to get beyond that past and find ways to stand up for yourself and the injustices? This question is mostly rhetorical... I hope you have found new and good ways to deal with those situations.
Hi Dr. Peterson! Greetings from Brazil, You are a super smart man. Thanks for helping us to discover where most of our fears comes from! you know... Most of our habits and sensations comes from affections which is labeled at our subconscious and we have no idea when it started. I am already a adult, and sometimes I am so afraid of things in life. To overcome this fears is a hard task. Thanks for helping us. Cheers, Estevão
OMG!!! You had me at 40 year old woman with panic attacks!!apparently I was a stereotype! Thanks for talking about this and shining a light in it for those going thru this now
I turned 18, dropped out of high school, and my dad died. This is part of my problem. Not giving myself enough credit and not thinking I’m as tough as I am.
Right right. Growing up is not a matter of overcoming anxiety and fear. It is a matter of learning to be stronger and tougher in the presence of our anxiety and fear. Thanks for all of your shared wisdom Jordan. 🙂
I had agoraphobia in my 20's and early 30's (younger than the average apparently) and though the reasoning behind it is different than his example, but the basic premise behind it and the way to heal from it are right on. I'm really impressed with how well he grasps the concept of agoraphobia - much better than some of my previous therapists. I am, by the way pretty much completely over it and I found my way out by the concepts that he is talking about.
My father did not know how to educate me, he only knew YELLING, my mother was over protective : I'm 23 now and it's very hard for me to get my act togheter and be an autonomous adult (I take psych meds to help me function because I have mental illnesses) I don't want your pity = I know theres alot worse out there; just felt the need to share my story (many can probably relate)
You're not alone. Although my family are lovely. I developed social anxiety as a child. Im 22 now still suffering from it. Im too agreeable and can't stand up for myself. Im working to change that but you're never alone. There's always people suffering and who survived to have a better lives
You know the beautiful thing about this is its gotten me thinking. I'm battling a case of agoraphobia that I've just really recently came to grips with, but its not the only thing I'm afraid of. When he said the quote about exposure making people braver, it really gave me hope. Because I realize that bravery isn't one dimensional. I can apply it to every facet of my life. In being terrified right now, I could potentially become unafraid of everything.
I was sheltered as a child and I thank god that I fell on my face so hard as a fresh adult. I failed so hard and it taught me how to be strong and take my failures and make them into my strength!
Wow. I am absolutely stunned for words. I drew so many comparisons in my life where I have to improve. If only every human being could have the talent of speaking the words of the mind without human speech and language being a barrier.
Wow. He just explained why my older sister is so dependent on my dad and why its crippled her in every way possible, she can't do anything on her own. No wondered I'm the total opposite. Growing up I use to envy all the attention and over protection she got, after hearing this I now feel sorry for her.
Sometimes spotting others weaknesses helps us ignore are own! sometimes people have friends in there life that are messed up to keep the focus off of there own weaknesses it’s as Leary’s easier to focus on them turn that eye inside and see what you have avoiding
Whoa! 😓 I finally understand why I've been so f*cked up for most of my life. Seriously, thank you for posting this 🙏 You have saved me from prolonging my unnecessary suffering. I've actually found hope and direction for the first time in years 💙👍 Holy cr*p though! This message hit me like a rock to the stomach 😫😐👀👀
“No one actually knows what you should do, more than you do” 7:05 My advance calculus professor said that to us in the class 👍🏻 omg i just remembered him He also said no one knows what is the best for you more than yourself 👍🏻
Povijest Povijest ha ha... don't worry I went through the same hell for about ten years throughout most of my thirties. Which was really strange for me as I have always lived bravely and risky, perhaps with a naive sense of industructibility. A close call with death paralysed me with fear and panic attacks for years afterwards. I got great treatment and spent a lot of time listening and learning from great people like Dr Peterson for example that brought me back to normality. But it's the worst and impossible to explain to family members and friends that think you are just being erratic or overly dramatic.
Okay but like did he literally just describe me and my thought processes the last year 100%? Yes. He did. Because he’s a genius. And I’m so grateful to him. His videos and wisdom have saved my life
My future self kept warning me to change. My present self ignored it for my own “safety”. Now my present is in turmoil. So I reflected on my past to my present. Realized my changes to make in the present for a better future. Ready for the sacrifices.
Something I thought of upon rewatching this: over protectiveness can come from yourself. It is built on avoidance, denial and sometimes dogma. And it's part of a very common self-trickering process orchestrated by the self in order to preserve the self, which goes alongwith preserving comfort and stability on the short-term. Logically it strips you away from the conditioning and the weaponry to properly face chaos, when it invites itself in a way the old smoke and mirrors don't work anymore. The Actualized dot org channel has an insight on that, it's a video called "How you lie"
I realised that I knew better than anyone else what was best for my life from the age of 6, and cosequenty authority figures have treated me on the whole very harshly. They banned me from doing things granted to other children, such as being on sports teams, a big production of oliver (big for a little school any way), I was taken out of class many times to speak with child psycoligists, all because I refused to do work which I wasn't intrested in, or didn't feel would be of benfit to my learing. I felt some teachers positivly hated me, even though I was always polite to them, and wasn't particularly disruptive. At all levels of education the pupils should be able to choose what work they do and which work they don't. Each child is embude with the holy spirit, and it will guide you in the right direction.
I was too overprotected by my overbearing mother because of my autism and I suffer alot from anxiety but now I force myself to be more selfrelient and challenge myself to do things myself.
Phobias and anxiety disorders for many people have a physical cause, infections. Lyme disease, other bacterial infections in the brain -- actually anything that causes brain inflammation (the brain swells up). That includes infections, auto-immune, heavy metals in the brain, and exposure to mold in water-damaged buildings, estimated to be about half of buildings in the US, (the mold toxins called mycotoxins cause massive brain inflammation). This causes changes in the fear-center of the brain due to the swelling and not being able to get enough blood flow to the right areas from that swelling. Many people have traumatic things happen without developing phobias or anxiety disorders. And many people also develop these disorders out of the blue, with ZERO psychological changes or things happening. Exposure won't work if it's a physical cause. If the cause is purely psychological, the problem should be able to go away with exposure pretty quickly, or simply learning new facts or changing thoughts. But that won't be possible if it's physical swelling.
Yeah i agree with this, I am 25 and have had panic attacks and other phobias. I do try to expose myself to that of which i'm afraid though i don't get to do it all the time or everyday. i started practicing yoga and meditation as a mean to help me cope, to help me accept these are just negative feelings and to move forward. The panic attacks have lessened in frequency and duration over time through this practice. And now i am more able to stay instead of just fleeing. My anxiety sort of started off weird because my mom was the one protecting me from things, she'd encourage avoidance and taking the easy road because she too had anxiety and knew how it felt. She was overly sympathetic to my issues but thus reaffirmed them in my life. My dad on the other hand wanted to throw me out to the wolves lol. He always did say the only way to get over it is to go through it and deal with it otherwise it'll just make it harder for the next time. I even went to a friend's wedding where i was involved in it. I had walked down the isle, slowly panicking because everyone was looking at me and i was being filmed. My heart was beating so fast, and i had no sleep the previous night thinking about all the ways i could screw this video up/ the synchronicity of walking down with the other maids. I sat down. Just remembering to feel it out and remember what it looked like to see two of my friends getting married. I just stayed in the moment into the next moment and I eventually made it out of many tough photoshoots and interactions lol. That day sort of made me realize I can make it. each time i panic or feel nervous and then it goes away i feel a little stronger and more confident in my emotional intelligence and in myself.
Thanks God i found this man, First bruce lipton then this guy, Lipton is for HOPE AND FAITH AND BELIEF and this GUY is like talking on how to really deal things in life. THANKS
"Nobody knows (what you should do) better than you, and it's a horrible realization, because what the hell do you know?"
I got a real kick out of that. Well done!
The Jackanapes - just picked up on the same before seeing your post 👍
The Jackanapes I have just come to this realization
well same here bud! this realization gave me goosebumps!
@@Book11011011 It's such a paradox... The more you know, the less you know. I guess because we are all finite creatures that is part of infinity. It doesn't matter how much you know about infinity, you still got infinity left to know.
Me too
Jordan Peterson is like a life coach for people who can't stand life coaches
Haha
Lmao perfect statement
Ahahah shit, you bloody hit the nail on the head.
He's a life coach for people who can't stand L I F E
Hell yes! And this is one of the best comments I've read on a JP video.
I'm addicted to Peterson's reasoning.
That's nice/funny to say, but what do you do when he's wrong?
^ Obviously combat the 'faulty logic' with logic that makes sense to you in your mind. None of us agree with Jordan 100% on everything he says I'm sure lol.
L.S Kattenberg this clip of his talk, explains the benefits of BJJ in someone's life.
L.S Kattenberg martial arts in general?
Same.
I used to have extreme agoraphobia. I started to avoid going to the places that made me feel anxious, and I ended up not being able to get out of bed. It's difficult for me talk about this, because I always feel ashamed of that part of my life. But if it can help anyone reading this, Jordan is absolutely right. We are way stronger than we think we are. It's not about minimizing the threat, it's about making yourself stronger than any potential threat.
I remember the first time I got out of my appartment after a few years of total isolation. I felt like I was an alien discovering planet earth. My legs were shaking, my heart was beating out my chest. And I thought "Alright, what you have to do is go from point A to point B. Just do it. Don't run away and hide like you used to. You know where it leads : nowhere. So just do it, and you'll be proud".
meili sixela I am really happy for you for being able to overcome your agoraphobia!
not sure if the reason why i don't leave my room is agoraphobia or any other kind of phobia. i think i just don't have a reason to go outside, to work my ass off or to deal with manipulative and spiteful people. as long as i can financially afford to not go outside i will continue to do so, and i don't think it is something shameful.
meili sixela What made you finally do it? Was it a moment of enough is enough? Was it nothing, you just CHOSE it? Did something push or pull you?
+BlueLumi, Thank you very much!
+Trying to Figure Life Out, It was a very long process. I realized that the problem was not outside, it was inside of me. So even if I stayed home, the "threat" would still be here, because since I was becoming weaker, the "threat" appeared to get bigger proportionally to my weakness. It's a vicious circle. Once you understand that principle, it's easier to reason with fear.
Then I developped self-discipline. I set myself a goal, stopped all the unhealthy habits that I had, woke up earlier, exercised, etc.. so I can't say it happened overnight. But I definitely CHOSE it. Yes, "enough is enough", all that. Sometimes people with mental illness hate the idea that you can "choose" to change your life. Because they're convinced they can't overcome their pain, and as Dr. Peterson said, they also take advantage of that.
+Jan409, Ha! I know that feeling. "There's no reason to go outside anyway". Well, if you're happy that way, there's nothing shameful about that indeed. But I'd suggest you try to change your routine sometimes. Just to see what happens.
If this is legit, kudos to you dear sir!
I have been through this, making yourself weaker and less intimidating to serve the person who is stronger and more intimidating, the reward is comfort and protection but the price you pay is complete dependence.
obey me bitch
I relate so damn much
All women go through this with their mate. It's just part of being a female.
shiet, can I go through you?
@@kennedykiser557 this is really naive of you... you should date more
It's weird to hear a professor speaking so freely.
TheWhoMe123 I find it incredible how he's giving such amazing life advice in a university lecture. I'm just used to boring engineering lectures.
style
refreshing
@@thetrianglewaffle
When I become a math teacher in the future, I have promised myself to make those lectures as interesting as possible.
One of my former physics teachers would always do some funny experiment and be totally spontaneous and joke around when he got a good chance to do it, and that is kind of what I am aiming at as well.
Yeah 😀
all of this golden information free of charge
Thank you,Internet!
Boss Kiang and JP, who doesn’t copyright strike these!
Its a blessing and a curse. Free knowledge is great if you search for it but this entire (Professionally offended) problem is a direct result of the internet also.
its not free of charge gb cost money wifi costs money but alot cheaper yes
It's free for now. Never take it for granted
I spent year fighting depression and anxiety. Nothing helped. Oddly enough it was when I was at my lowest and had a failed suicide attempt that I finally got the answers I needed. My heart stopped 3 times in the ambulance and twice in the ER. But I learned exactly what Jordan describes at 5:35. I learned to withstand the threat of death. I lost my fear of dying. It was the worst case scenario up to that point and I survived it. I'm not really "afraid" of anything any longer. In fact what I found was that what I was TRULY afraid of was being rejected. Now I don't care what people think. Their thoughts and perceptions of me aren't important. It took almost dying to learn how to live. My heart stopping set me free.
Thanks. I'm glad I used small words enough so that you were able to follow along.
you did use small enough words. in fact, for a 'Boring Old white Guy', you type with all of the angst of a teenage girl.
Loosen the helmet sweetheart. Your soft spot is bulging.
Still doing that
Georgeous. Having a emotional needy day where you must troll someone who has the courage to open up? You must desperately crave attention, even negative attention, by saying such things. Shows your immaturity. Anyone who never struggled with inner demons is either a liar or a psychopath incapable of empathy. Which are you?
This is exactly what I needed to hear today. I've had debilitating anxiety for my entire life, I was always hiding from the world and it was a terrible feeling. I've been pushing myself more and more over this past year, done things I never thought I could do. Today I'm leaving everything behind to move across country by myself, which I never would have thought possible. Listening to Jordan Peterson has really helped me sort my thoughts and feelings out about these things, and given me courage. He's spot on.
That is lovely to hear. You are stronger than you think. I wish you all the best. :)
good luck, i traveled when I had anxiety and if anything it helped it
Oh thats so inspiring
Angela B You sound incredibly brave & strong & I appreciate you sharing your story. Just curious-how did the move go? I hope you're fully settled in & thriving.
Bet u failed!!
His students must be alpha human beings at this point
😂😂
I was thinking , how fortunate those students must be.
That is if they pay proper attention.
@@averageasian5462 Agreed, probably most of these saps are just taking his class to fulfill some stupid psychology credit.
Depends what actions they take
Face your fears, hell yeah. I had severe social phobia once. I hid myself from the world and stayed in that hole, until i decided it was enough. Then I made a decision which i can say without any doubt that it has been the best decision in my life. I decided to become a waiter. With such a great social phobia, i metaphorically threw myself in front of the beast. I've stopped hiding, I took a job that threw me literally in the middle of people and so I started interacting with them. My life has gone uphill since. Stop hiding and face the beast, and everything will go uphill, everything will straighten up.
Leon Lototchi, that’s awesome! God bless you.
You gave me an inspiration to go into industry i like but my social phobia kept stopping me
@@gosiama480 it's better that others think bad of you than you having a mental problem.
Leon Lototchi Mad respect bro
I have social phobia, worse than that is i developed it in a school in my village. i was a teacher in that school so nearly every one i know in my village knows my situation that makes my anxiety even worser, cause my students spread the rumor about me and say this guy is stupid and that hits me so hard and start sweating again, i dont know what to do.
6:58 adulthood = realization that no one knows any better than you what to do
Appreciated that just a little too much. Now reminding myself not to hide behind the authority figure of Dr Peterson.
I wouldn't have thought so - I'm quite the recalcitrant - but 'authority' is being used here in terms of 'protection' and there might be some truth in that.
How's that going?
My sister died of cancer 2 and a half years ago. During that time I was on my last month of school (studying for finals), I had a pregnant fiancée (now my wife), and on top of that I gave the eulogy for both of my grandparents only a couple months prior. Needless to say my family and I were not only devastated, but just exhausted. During this time I realized I was stronger than I thought. While most of my family was overcome with grief. My father made all the funeral arrangements and again I wrote and gave the eulogy for the 3 time in 5 months. At the same time I was looking for a place to raise my soon to be family and the look for a job (I was only working part-time during school). I'm not going to lie. My wife and I went through hell for the next year and a half. And I made a lot of choices that I regret, but I learned that all things good and bad must come to an end. More importantly, I now know that I have what it takes when the next set of trials come my way. I now have a beautiful family and my dream job. All this to say, Jordan Peterson isn't kidding. You would be amazed at what you can endure when you have to. Who knows, you might even be stronger once all is said and done.
rock on brother
So happy for your success in your personal flourishing. It was a long, hard battle.
Man am I happy that Peterson got in trouble for deciding not to say those pronouns. What started as a a political issue for me has escalated into such wisdom from this great man. Dr. Peterson, you may have a harder time now that everyone is looking over your shoulder constantly, but I mean it when I say the teachings you have shared have a far better effect on humanity and outweigh the cons by far.
poisonsquid37, Amen! Peterson was a real launching point for me.
I think that a lot of ppl already said no to that he’s not special for disagreeing
@cockstrong3333 you're an idiot.
This video leads me to conclude Peterson is not the sort of institutional or religious educator whose first purpose is to propagate the culture he works within. I was never seriously suspicious that he is so. But now I see he is the type to set you free, by telling all he knows (or at least all he can say) about how we work, and how our societies work. In any case, even were that not so, I find that Peterson is the fucking water at Lourdes. Often I listen to him and find there is nothing bothering me, and that nothing ever was bothering me, now that I think about it clearly. Think of the thousands and millions of people Peterson will help, directly and indirectly, by spreading his recordings about. (Many thanks to this channel and others, too.)
Yes he is on point and not frightend to say the truth. He will go down as one of the great minds. But more importantly he could explain it all to us dummies. And his videos are going to be priceless when the human race catches up with him.
He has spend his whole life figuring this stuff out... don’t put yourself down. He started out just where we did :)
Richard Longmore I agree 100%!!! He makes sooooooooo much sense!!! ❤❤❤
Human race will catch up fast.
As soon as he decided to shit on MGTOW, I disregarded almost everything he said from that point on.
Richard Longmore this this and this!!!
"you don't make them less afraid, you make them *braver* !"
Sig worthy statement right there.
chaos & order, same coin.
jordan always gets me i fucking hate elevators
Elevators in the winter will get you a bad case of the flu, every time.
@@BMTHxxx100
Elevators have lots of safety mechanisms, like counterweights to decrease its falling speed, high friction from the supports and feathers that catch it when it crashes. Elevators also usually have emergency phones.
Honestly, I am blown away by Dr Peterson. What a bright mind and an outstanding communicator!
This man has given me more understanding and strength than any single person in my life. That is a pretty big deal. What he does well is explain things you see and feel everyday in a way that I can relate to and understand. What that does for me is strengthen the moral compass my parents gave me but were not good at explaining its importance. On a personal level, I really needed his guidance at this time in my life.
I was raised by a single a mother that was overly overprotective of during childhood. Whenever a problem arose she will be there to solve the whole thing without me having to intervene. I remember that I didn't care about solving my own problems because I could easily tell my mom or an authority figure and the problem will usually disappear.
This worked fine during my childhood but as the years passed on I had to painfully realize that reality just doesn't work that way and I need to confront problems face to face.
Jordan Peterson reminds me of Richard Feynman. Simplifying abstract and complex ideas into clear and manageable pieces, only Peterson's focus is more about self awareness, improvement, and the furthering of the individual - the mind, the way we think, what we pay attention to, etc. Very grateful for the contributions from both these greats.
I'm currently taking steps to beat my fears, beat my social anxiety. I started early this year, and to say it's going slow.. well I'm not sure. I wasn't able to talk to someone, or start a conversation before I started, and now I do it without someone encouraging me to. Every day, I overthink, I get anxious, I build it up in my head and by the time I confront it, it is equal to death. But during it, I survive. Then I come home, cry, panic, then look in the mirror and I see that I'm still here, that nothing horrible happened, nothing I thought would happen did happen. And I got through it. It's the first time I've ever felt proud of myself.
I’m so happy for you :) it sounds as if your slowly taking your baby steps and that’s better than none. I hope you continue doing great progress
i am confident this is one of the best videos i've ever seen, of any kind. what an absolute gem.
Totally!
Jordan your videos has helped me more than any other videos on youtube, I would just like to say thank you so much for posting. You're doing lots of good things for people around the world
Only a few people impressed me as much as Mister Peterson in my whole life so far.
Who spells out "mister"? LOOL
Exactly what I realised this week! Years ago I got a fortune cookie that said 'don't take anyone to be wiser than yourself' and only now I really know what that means
I just became an adult watching this.
How are things going one year later? Still an adult? 😊
cute
Ahahaha puberty kicked in 3x faster
Damn!!
He had 3 children, left all kinds of social media and owns a farm now.
This is a great description of what happens to people who enter into this mindset within a large bureaucracy. I keep coming back to the military, especially enlisted service. When stepping out of line could result in felony charges, alcoholism and mental dissonance is pretty common. Guys who choose to play the game for their 20 often seem to have this mindset, and they front their service as a means of escaping the reality that they were so subservient for so long.
he tells us something we have felt so often but could not articulate and express. it's such a relief to finally find ways to deal with our problems that we so willingly ignore or are afraid to approach
When my husband left me, I was taken through one fear after another. Horrible. But afterwards, I could see that the fear itself was torture, was much worse than the actual things I feared. Those things/situations lost their power over me. Praise God!
Two years ago I had a really bad out of body panic attack and ever since I’ve been trying to do exposure therapy by myself. Going to events, concerts, places but always having a few crutches so I can feel safe. Like knowing where the exit is, bringing snacks, having my keys with me etc. it helps a lot and most of the time I forget I’m anxious. I am becoming braver and it’s so nice to feel like I’m not alone. And to hear his words about it. He is a genius and we’re all becoming braver!!! I survived 100% of every day.
This guy is very articulate... he could be a psychology professor.
LOL
But he is?
@Jimmy Beauman r/woooosh
Bro
I extremely love his resolved and confident talk, it’s like he’s speaking to each one in the room as his eyes catching the eyes of others continually.
Fuck this hit home so much. I’m just realizing how spoiled and protected I’ve been at home all my life. I’m gonna make an effort to face my fears head on now to make me stronger. Once I’ve accepted this, and I know I’m gonna do it, I now feel very powerful
Wow Peterson just articulated what happened to me a couple of months ago. I am a female in my late 20s (thank the heavens not as late as 40) and I started getting panic attacks out of the blue in all sorts of places. Elevators, subways, the office, everywhere. It wasn't until I gained some self respect and stopped letting the ppl I love protect me from the realities of life (no shade, it takes 2 to tango) that I gained the ultimate freedom. Long story short, I walked through what for me was the fire and flames of the judgment on the subway, the streets, and the office. After a couple of times doing this, I felt like I could face death and ride through the fire, my greatest fear. What he mentioned about the great Mother & Father is so true. You cannot hide behind them, you must fight to be a true person. I hope that all of those who suffered like I did just rip off the damn band-aid because you know in your heart of hearts that freedom is right after. It is so worth it!!
Brilliant. That agoraphobia part reminded me that sometimes even without being agoraphobic we avoid places we feel bad in, selectively, even when we know we can become better by going there. Like to avoid the library because the librarian is intimidating or to stop going to college because you feel depressed the second you walk in because your grades dropped for X reasons, etc...
6:58 I had that realization when I was a senior in high school. It was so freeing, I have not thought about that moment since seeing this video. I love my parents and know they are a good source of wisdom and advise, but I also knew I had to start making those major life decisions on my own, even if the mentors in my life did not fully agree. Think it through, go with your gut, take risks and enjoy the game of life.
I so appreciate Jordan Peterson’s lectures. He puts the truth out there in plain English & I feel I can stand up straight again !!
I had panic attacks, few months ago. Till now. I'm amazed with what Mr.Jordan just said in this video. I totally have seen this happened to me, and it's still happening to me, but less than before. I'm facing it alone.
Good luck to anyone facing it!
Thanks for sharing!
*Stands up straight, with shoulders back*
I went through a phase where I was having anxiety attacks. I had a symptom trigger it. I thought something was wrong, that frightened me, and fear created more symptoms. I managed to get past this by convincing myself that it was all in my head. I became an expert on heart attack and stroke symptoms. And the most important thing I did was accept my worst fear. I told myself, if it happens, it happens. After that I was fine, all my symptoms were gone. From time to time I would have the anxiety return. I would just tell myself that nothing ever happens. I also resist reading medical symptoms. Sometimes I'll do it, but usually I avoid it. When I was a child, if I felt like there was something wrong, my mother would tell me I was OK. I would believe her and then never stressed. When I became older, my mom was getting too old to be the support she used to be. I had to learn what kind of symptoms I have when I'm having anxiety and I also had to accept death. Now I'm usually fine. I've cured my anxiety without medication. I rarely stress now.
described my life, makes sense now.
Do you guys think that Dr. Peterson could possibly go down in history with a legacy that matches or excedes different minds such as Hegel, Neitzsche , Kant, Solzhenitsyn etc.? I would be curious to hear viewer thoughts.
this
he's more of a collective intellectual, where others have their own theories and do something with it. he more or less got everyone elses legacy and added it all together
If I were the Pope, I'd grant him sainthood.
Blake Place ... That's a very interesting and apt perspective. I'm enjoying learning from all of these replies.
The message is more important than the man, or should be.
A better statement would be "If you don't know what to do, and your head is empty, you can get ideas and answers if you believe that those ideas and answers will come".
To put it simpler, there may not be any strength inside you, BUT it can arrive if you let it.
Sometimes it’s not so much that a person is protected that creates the gullibility. It is the lack of guidance from authority figures on how to evolve as a person.
I was in no way sheltered. If anything, neglected. Some of that made me stronger, but some part of neglect is a lack of guidance.
When I think of the struggles and crap that I went through as a kid, and young woman, with no parental figure to say, “hey! We all struggle with this,” or “we all have to learn this,” it is no wonder I faltered so many times.
Sunday Sermon with Jordan B. Peterson.
My parents never taught me, or let me fight my own battles.
I am deeply sorry that you were over protected. Have you managed to get beyond that past and find ways to stand up for yourself and the injustices?
This question is mostly rhetorical... I hope you have found new and good ways to deal with those situations.
Hi Dr. Peterson! Greetings from Brazil,
You are a super smart man. Thanks for helping us to discover where most of our fears comes from!
you know... Most of our habits and sensations comes from affections which is labeled at our subconscious and we have no idea when it started. I am already a adult, and sometimes I am so afraid of things in life. To overcome this fears is a hard task.
Thanks for helping us.
Cheers,
Estevão
OMG!!! You had me at 40 year old woman with panic attacks!!apparently I was a stereotype!
Thanks for talking about this and shining a light in it for those going thru this now
I turned 18, dropped out of high school, and my dad died. This is part of my problem. Not giving myself enough credit and not thinking I’m as tough as I am.
How are you doing bro?
Rewatching these videos high...his words feel so profound. I love it. I love Dr. Peterson!
I’m so glad this man is influencing young people today. This gives me hope.
Right right. Growing up is not a matter of overcoming anxiety and fear. It is a matter of learning to be stronger and tougher in the presence of our anxiety and fear. Thanks for all of your shared wisdom Jordan. 🙂
I love how he explains everything
I had agoraphobia in my 20's and early 30's (younger than the average apparently) and though the reasoning behind it is different than his example, but the basic premise behind it and the way to heal from it are right on. I'm really impressed with how well he grasps the concept of agoraphobia - much better than some of my previous therapists. I am, by the way pretty much completely over it and I found my way out by the concepts that he is talking about.
My father did not know how to educate me, he only knew YELLING, my mother was over protective : I'm 23 now and it's very hard for me to get my act togheter and be an autonomous adult (I take psych meds to help me function because I have mental illnesses)
I don't want your pity = I know theres alot worse out there; just felt the need to share my story (many can probably relate)
You're not alone. Although my family are lovely. I developed social anxiety as a child. Im 22 now still suffering from it.
Im too agreeable and can't stand up for myself. Im working to change that but you're never alone. There's always people suffering and who survived to have a better lives
This incredible. Sometimes hearing the cold hard truth is exactly what you need to hear. Build Strength not protection.
I love this video. I just found out about Jordan Peterson's videos today, and they are a godsend!
"You don't make them less afraid, you make them braver." Wow, that was a really great motivation line. Thank you Dr. Peterson
Jordan Peterson gets me every time
You know the beautiful thing about this is its gotten me thinking. I'm battling a case of agoraphobia that I've just really recently came to grips with, but its not the only thing I'm afraid of. When he said the quote about exposure making people braver, it really gave me hope. Because I realize that bravery isn't one dimensional. I can apply it to every facet of my life. In being terrified right now, I could potentially become unafraid of everything.
Heroin was my shield from chaos. Getting clean is alot of exposure therapy. Exposure being something small as just buying a pack of cigarettes sober.
"Nobody knows what to do more than you do. I mean it's a horrible realization because what do you know?" so true lol
**I FIND MYSELF CHECKING MY REASONING and SANITY at TIMES with Jordan's videos just to see where I'm at with the mind state**
😄
Man-o-man. I with I could have listened to this in my teens.
It’s crazy but this man is changing my life he’s a genius
its so true, thank you for all the wisdom shown by youtube!!!!!
Feel the fear and do it anyway
No
I was sheltered as a child and I thank god that I fell on my face so hard as a fresh adult. I failed so hard and it taught me how to be strong and take my failures and make them into my strength!
Wow. I am absolutely stunned for words. I drew so many comparisons in my life where I have to improve. If only every human being could have the talent of speaking the words of the mind without human speech and language being a barrier.
every word a pearl of wisdom. time to stop hiding.
Wow. He just explained why my older sister is so dependent on my dad and why its crippled her in every way possible, she can't do anything on her own. No wondered I'm the total opposite. Growing up I use to envy all the attention and over protection she got, after hearing this I now feel sorry for her.
Sometimes spotting others weaknesses helps us ignore are own! sometimes people have friends in there life that are messed up to keep the focus off of there own weaknesses it’s as Leary’s easier to focus on them turn that eye inside and see what you have avoiding
Title that fits the content.. no unnecessary editing.. video ends as the topic ends.. great work. Thanks
Whoa! 😓
I finally understand why I've been so f*cked up for most of my life. Seriously, thank you for posting this 🙏
You have saved me from prolonging my unnecessary suffering. I've actually found hope and direction for the first time in years 💙👍
Holy cr*p though! This message hit me like a rock to the stomach 😫😐👀👀
“No one actually knows what you should do, more than you do” 7:05
My advance calculus professor said that to us in the class 👍🏻 omg i just remembered him
He also said no one knows what is the best for you more than yourself 👍🏻
JP is the most intense speaker in the world
He literally summed-up my whole life within nine minutes. Thanks for the video! A lot of new insight.
Oh no, I'm a 40 year old woman in menopause in a body of 28 year old guy.
Povijest Povijest ha ha... don't worry I went through the same hell for about ten years throughout most of my thirties. Which was really strange for me as I have always lived bravely and risky, perhaps with a naive sense of industructibility. A close call with death paralysed me with fear and panic attacks for years afterwards. I got great treatment and spent a lot of time listening and learning from great people like Dr Peterson for example that brought me back to normality. But it's the worst and impossible to explain to family members and friends that think you are just being erratic or overly dramatic.
Same here Bro but I'm a 34 year old guy!
Frankly, not surprising at this point.
swear to goooooddd
I'm a 40-odd years old woman with a 28 years old guy inside)) thank goodness we have Dr.Peterson!))
Okay but like did he literally just describe me and my thought processes the last year 100%? Yes. He did. Because he’s a genius. And I’m so grateful to him. His videos and wisdom have saved my life
Every time he mentions Tiamat, I can't help but think of Darksiders, lol. xD
My future self kept warning me to change. My present self ignored it for my own “safety”. Now my present is in turmoil. So I reflected on my past to my present. Realized my changes to make in the present for a better future. Ready for the sacrifices.
6:57 By god. He's so right.
Something I thought of upon rewatching this: over protectiveness can come from yourself. It is built on avoidance, denial and sometimes dogma. And it's part of a very common self-trickering process orchestrated by the self in order to preserve the self, which goes alongwith preserving comfort and stability on the short-term. Logically it strips you away from the conditioning and the weaponry to properly face chaos, when it invites itself in a way the old smoke and mirrors don't work anymore. The Actualized dot org channel has an insight on that, it's a video called "How you lie"
Gold!!
So grateful we have the internet today, so that I can listen Jordan Peterson sharing the great ideas.
I realised that I knew better than anyone else what was best for my life from the age of 6, and cosequenty authority figures have treated me on the whole very harshly. They banned me from doing things granted to other children, such as being on sports teams, a big production of oliver (big for a little school any way), I was taken out of class many times to speak with child psycoligists, all because I refused to do work which I wasn't intrested in, or didn't feel would be of benfit to my learing. I felt some teachers positivly hated me, even though I was always polite to them, and wasn't particularly disruptive. At all levels of education the pupils should be able to choose what work they do and which work they don't. Each child is embude with the holy spirit, and it will guide you in the right direction.
truth is a sharp knife.
Jordan Peterson gathering a thought : looks to the sky
Me gathering a thought : silly blank face
This guy's way of calmly dissecting all the bs ppl go thru saved my life geez
This man is lit🔥🔥
I was too overprotected by my overbearing mother because of my autism and I suffer alot from anxiety but now I force myself to be more selfrelient and challenge myself to do things myself.
This perspective is from his slaying the dragon lecture from 2002
The way he articulates these issues is incredible. I have no idea how people hate this guy
This video just made me scared of elevators
Phobias and anxiety disorders for many people have a physical cause, infections. Lyme disease, other bacterial infections in the brain -- actually anything that causes brain inflammation (the brain swells up). That includes infections, auto-immune, heavy metals in the brain, and exposure to mold in water-damaged buildings, estimated to be about half of buildings in the US, (the mold toxins called mycotoxins cause massive brain inflammation). This causes changes in the fear-center of the brain due to the swelling and not being able to get enough blood flow to the right areas from that swelling. Many people have traumatic things happen without developing phobias or anxiety disorders. And many people also develop these disorders out of the blue, with ZERO psychological changes or things happening. Exposure won't work if it's a physical cause. If the cause is purely psychological, the problem should be able to go away with exposure pretty quickly, or simply learning new facts or changing thoughts. But that won't be possible if it's physical swelling.
Life is so short, in the scheme of things depression and anxiety is pure selfishness is blown up self importance
Yeah i agree with this, I am 25 and have had panic attacks and other phobias. I do try to expose myself to that of which i'm afraid though i don't get to do it all the time or everyday. i started practicing yoga and meditation as a mean to help me cope, to help me accept these are just negative feelings and to move forward. The panic attacks have lessened in frequency and duration over time through this practice. And now i am more able to stay instead of just fleeing.
My anxiety sort of started off weird because my mom was the one protecting me from things, she'd encourage avoidance and taking the easy road because she too had anxiety and knew how it felt. She was overly sympathetic to my issues but thus reaffirmed them in my life. My dad on the other hand wanted to throw me out to the wolves lol. He always did say the only way to get over it is to go through it and deal with it otherwise it'll just make it harder for the next time.
I even went to a friend's wedding where i was involved in it. I had walked down the isle, slowly panicking because everyone was looking at me and i was being filmed. My heart was beating so fast, and i had no sleep the previous night thinking about all the ways i could screw this video up/ the synchronicity of walking down with the other maids. I sat down. Just remembering to feel it out and remember what it looked like to see two of my friends getting married. I just stayed in the moment into the next moment and I eventually made it out of many tough photoshoots and interactions lol. That day sort of made me realize I can make it. each time i panic or feel nervous and then it goes away i feel a little stronger and more confident in my emotional intelligence and in myself.
helps me realize how fucked up i am and what needs to change lol
Thanks God i found this man, First bruce lipton then this guy, Lipton is for HOPE AND FAITH AND BELIEF and this GUY is like talking on how to really deal things in life. THANKS