Sexual Desire and Non-Duality

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  • @consciousnessbasedcosmos
    @consciousnessbasedcosmos Рік тому +12

    Being full and yet wants to share means there is another. That in turn means separation. So it contradicts the fullness mentioned earlier.
    When there is no I, there is no you. Then there is only Love in "I love you". That is true intimacy.

  • @MindCanTroll
    @MindCanTroll Рік тому +96

    It's important from a spiritual perspective that people don't see sex as impure or just being seen as lust if not having it for reproduction only, or even being shamed for having sexual feelings. It's something normal for a human. We shouldn't obsess over it, but we shouldn't repress it either.

    • @helvete_ingres4717
      @helvete_ingres4717 Рік тому +14

      all sexual pursuit is ultimately an investment into the world. What you call 'repression' is simply not giving your energy to the world - when you look away from the world, the only place to look is inward (ultimately to God). There's reason and wisdom in virtually all true spiritual communities in all times and places emphasising celibacy - espousing cheap hedonistic liberalism in its place is feeble pseudo-spirituality

    • @MindCanTroll
      @MindCanTroll Рік тому +11

      @@helvete_ingres4717 That is your opinion, and you have all the right to have it. If living by that code grants you the personal realization that you seek, more power to you.

    • @helvete_ingres4717
      @helvete_ingres4717 Рік тому +6

      @@MindCanTroll I don't live by it myself, I never claimed to be a very spiritual person . 'That is your opinion' - you speak in platitudes and are not a person of any substance or deep experience at all, you shouldn't be trying to dictate what is or isn't important 'from a spiritual perspective'. I don't mean to sound like an asshole, it worries me when I see people espouse basically the ego-indulging message society already gives you in every advertisement and every TV show it makes you to capture your attention and and calls it 'spiritual', when what we rightly call 'spiritual' is the EXCEPTION to all that, you say the RULE and pretend it's an exception. The ultimate conclusion of this is that speaking real 'spirituality' becomes impossible - that makes your message very evil and worth fighting

    • @Anti79Hero
      @Anti79Hero Рік тому +11

      🍿

    • @RobbeyT1
      @RobbeyT1 Рік тому +1

      @@helvete_ingres4717 There's always someone who knows better than you, or think they know better than you. When you write comments, never reply back to those who want to stand contrary to your own truth.

  • @innerlight617
    @innerlight617 Рік тому +13

    9.28 "going for a walk together without saying anything is the same..."
    THANKS Rupert!

  • @lionspirit1111
    @lionspirit1111 Рік тому +12

    A person who has the words to describe the different impulses. Wow.

  • @الحياةالسحرية
    @الحياةالسحرية Рік тому +5

    So beautiful, thank you

  • @AlejandroMS67
    @AlejandroMS67 Рік тому +44

    I just turned 56 this month, and crazily I am having the best "sex" of my life just recently. I'm not sure I want to call it "sex" because it really is all about "making love" to and with my partner whom I love very much. And I say crazily because I never in my wildest dreams thought that I'd be having the best love-making of my life in my 50s. In my 20s or 30s I would've been either doubtful or incredulous at such a thought. And yet here I am, here we are. When I think about it now, I realize that I am involving both wanting immensely just to please and pleasure and give to her as much as I can, as long as I can etc, without "taking" from her. But for me there is much receiving in giving too. Giving = receiving. And so I think about the physical act in the same way, I don't think of it as "me penetrating her", I think more about it like her wrapping herself around me, and letting her control more of the process in a way, and I find that this really changes my mindset and I seem to last a whole lot longer with this approach. I think she also feels more honored and respected somehow. She is also multi-orgasmic but she has neither been promiscuous nor has she been able to find the right partner with whom she could delve deeper into her capacity for multiple O's. Before she'd never had more than 3 or 4. With me she has surpassed any prior experiences several times over, MANY times over. With us it is very much the motion of the ocean and not the size of the ship (however it is also the FIT of the ship within THE particular ocean and add creativity to that as well). I don't believe this would have happened for her had I not approached her with the mind/love/physical approach that I wanted to bring and offer her. I also believe that she is a natural giver as well, and so when we come together (no pun intended), when we join together, it is wildly satisfying and beautiful because we both are such givers. In the way that there is slow food and slow wine, this is slow lovemaking. This is of course very private but I'm hoping that by sharing here, other people will take these comments to improve their intimacy with their partners, as these comments can apply to all regardless of age or gender.

    • @nataliaromero7760
      @nataliaromero7760 Рік тому +6

      Wow, what a beautiful message. It’s amazing to read these words from such a conscious man. I wish every man and woman could experience something just like this. I just turned 29 and seeing that a couple I’m their 50’s are having such sexual experiences is really inspiring and something I look forward to in my life ❤🙏

    • @erin3292
      @erin3292 Рік тому +1

      Beautiful 🙏🌸✨

    • @jacoda
      @jacoda Рік тому +3

      And you described all of that without mentioning her age… I’m genuinely curious if you are impressed that you are enjoying this in your 50’s, or if the both of you are 😊

    • @mavis3916
      @mavis3916 Рік тому +2

      😐

    • @Vuchica2012
      @Vuchica2012 Рік тому +2

      I understand this although never experienced it. In my understanding the giving aspect and feeling totally comfortable with each other is one key aspect. There should be a chemical i.e.phisical compatibility too. But what resonated with me the most was this word SLOW. I'm sure that true love making is super slow. Like yin yoga. The slower the more pleasurable.

  • @AllGoodLongchenRabjam108
    @AllGoodLongchenRabjam108 Рік тому +24

    I’ve found within this particular mind the ego will constantly seek (for a long time without any awareness of this process) to find a spiritualized way to satisfy sexual cravings. The arguments in the mind get very sophisticated and the mind will find like arguments through various sources so it can feel more validated.
    All I can say is that there is a 360 difference when my mind is steeped in sexualized thought vs semen retention and thoughts of mantra, service, Vedanta, prayer ext.
    I am a separate alone and incomplete body is such a deep false flag program in the mind, sex CAN be one of the biggest targets in the Mind to solve this seemingly deeply jarring problem. It’s wired so deeply biologically and in seeking pleasure

  • @MP-rv8yb
    @MP-rv8yb 3 місяці тому +1

    So beautiful… and so clear ! Thank you very much

  • @gireeshneroth7127
    @gireeshneroth7127 Рік тому +9

    Consciousness is having its way about itself.

  • @johnanthonycafe2993
    @johnanthonycafe2993 Рік тому +1

    Well put.

  • @pilargarcia6724
    @pilargarcia6724 Рік тому +1

    Muchísimas gracias!!!❤🙏😊

  • @johnphillips3835
    @johnphillips3835 5 місяців тому +3

    so many words that go in circles

  • @MattyLiam333
    @MattyLiam333 Рік тому +1

    I think this was the most lovely thing I've ever heard described in my entire life.

  • @tonyhayes9827
    @tonyhayes9827 Рік тому

    The second form is rightly ordered

  • @yog.prachar
    @yog.prachar Рік тому +1

    so insightful. thank you

  • @shirinvenkat
    @shirinvenkat Рік тому +2

    Although this is understood but why then is one selective for sexual intimacy. Is it ok for a realised being to have intercourse with one and all?
    Obviously this is a mind question but it is troublesome having seen several Gurus excusing themselves for what would be termed promiscuity to say the least.

  • @margemaple6091
    @margemaple6091 Рік тому +5

    to be truly free , is to be free of desires and not enslaved to them. this is not easy but the process is liberating in itself. true oneness is found within , to unify mind , body and soul with the true source of all creation. if you are seeking happiness from satisfaction of the physical, the cycle will be un ending and tormenting. Good luck with your journey !

  • @hemanthjha3080
    @hemanthjha3080 Рік тому +2

    Little did I know, is it helpful or obstacle to non duality.

  • @yngvesognen1092
    @yngvesognen1092 Рік тому +6

    You want to manifest the union with the other and also give what you can, not thinking about what you'll receive.

  • @Biernat82
    @Biernat82 Рік тому +4

    my God !!! 🙏💟 thank you thank you thank you!!! 🙏, beauty beauty beauty💟!!!
    all my life just feels this way 🕉

  • @Suzisart
    @Suzisart Рік тому +5

    Divine beings make divine love ❤️

    • @Suzisart
      @Suzisart Рік тому +1

      @thx 1138 upon reflection its cringe but.....I don't care 😅💞

    • @Suzisart
      @Suzisart Рік тому +1

      @thx 1138 well let's see....anyone comment creeping is considered banal so... takes allsorts to make a world you be best just being cool 😎

  • @lingeshsawanth253
    @lingeshsawanth253 7 місяців тому +1

    'Sense of Separation' causes 'pain/pleasure' and 'pain/pleasure' causes 'sense of separation', it's a LOOP!,
    As long as there's 'sense of separation' any amount of accumulation of pleasures caused by objects will not bring fulfilment, contentment.
    To let go the 'sense of separation' is the only permanent solution!
    LET GO n REJOICE! 🙂

  • @ximenafuentes3522
    @ximenafuentes3522 Рік тому

    Beautiful, thank you so much ♥

  • @agnieszkag.5170
    @agnieszkag.5170 Рік тому +10

    This is what I practice now, total letting go of sexual desire. This is easy when sex promised enjoyment of intimasy, sexuality and turned out to never make it true. My sexual partners didn't even wanted hold me in their arms, never, not only in bed, what for to do such a things with someone who is used for a moment of pleasure, but is not loved. This is obvious for me I wasn't loved in my relationships, that's why I don't need sexual desire anymore. I am surrendering those energies as these never had any good purpose in my life.

    • @kevinmai2947
      @kevinmai2947 Рік тому

      Well said ❤

    • @kolarz2128
      @kolarz2128 Рік тому

      Milosc powinna byc podstawą dla energii seksualnych, bez niej one nie sa satysfakcjonujace a raczej wywoluja pustke w naszych wnetrzach :)

    • @agnieszkag.5170
      @agnieszkag.5170 Рік тому

      @@kolarz2128 Podczas ostatniej relacji miałam aktywne kundalini w swoim ciele. Właściwie nadal mam i tak juz od 10 lat. Po stosunku z partnerem czułam 10minutowy paraliż ciała. Nie było to jakoś przyjemne. Po masturbacji nigdy nie doświadczyłam czegoś takiego. Może dlatego, ze jego energia jakoś przechodziła na mnie. Trudno jest czuć pustkę jak się stosuje medytację uważności w codziennym życiu. Mimo to zawsze interesowali się mną faceci egoistyczni, którzy mnie nie kochali, ewentualnie tylko trochę mnie wyr...ali.

    • @kolarz2128
      @kolarz2128 Рік тому

      @@agnieszkag.5170 rozumiem. A to że przez 10 lat Ci tak zostało prawdopodobnie coś w Tobie się zamknęło, jakbyś straciła nadzieję, że inaczej być nie może, a może! ;)

    • @agnieszkag.5170
      @agnieszkag.5170 Рік тому

      @@kolarz2128 Nie chce już nic. Mam nareszcie swój dom, czuję sie bezpiecznie i dbam i troszcze się o siebie i czasami całymi dniami nic nie robię. Dobrze mi jest. Śpiewam, tańczę, sadzę kwiaty i nie golę się i nie stroję i mam te relacyjne bzdety daleko gdzieś. W relacjach byłam zmęczona i sfrustrowana oczekiwaniami, którym nie umiałam sprostać. W ostatnią relację weszłam, bo wierzyłam, że już tak jestem wymedytowana i oświecona, że stworzę piękna relację, pełną zaufania, miłości i szacunku, ale byłam naiwna.
      A z kundalini to jest tak, że czasem kundalini, a czasami energetyczne centra się otwierają. Różne są te energie i wibracje w ciele. Kundalini lubię najmniej. Chyba najbardziej lubię jak serce się otwiera i umysł cichnie i sama obecność i taka harmonia. Kundalini się pojawia jak jakieś dysharmonie się dzieją z tego co zauważyłam.

  • @121withtom3
    @121withtom3 5 місяців тому

    Dont forget the importance of instincts and the processes and activities within awareness that have led us to arrive here today so that we can be aware of being aware.
    Relate well with the dynamic biological processes and activities within awareness.
    Our localised unit of micro awareness within the macro awareness and our self-concept is just as important to know as Awareness by itself.

  • @epicfreakshow
    @epicfreakshow Рік тому

    excellent 🙏🏼

  • @Neti-Netti
    @Neti-Netti Рік тому

    Putting in words what I feel deeply connected to perception
    Thank you

  • @mmrebelo55
    @mmrebelo55 Рік тому +1

    Is Rupert speaking about karezza? What do you think?

  • @ntitlme
    @ntitlme 10 місяців тому +2

    At 2’58 Rupert mixes up the word ‘celebration’ with the word ‘separation’. Freud would have been amused.

  • @parvaji
    @parvaji Рік тому +2

    "No sex please. We are British."
    Can't remember where this phrase comes from (must be a movie). But i am glad that this obviously doesn't seem to apply to our dear friend Rupert. Since i see sex as something totally natural. And therefore an essential part of spirituality = conscious loving and living.

  • @123benjah
    @123benjah 5 місяців тому

    desire is desire... there is no such thing as spiritual desire...

  • @atmannityananda-autognosia
    @atmannityananda-autognosia Рік тому +6

    Desire for sex pleasure doesn't come from the fullness of the being. It is the lusty lascivious ego that wants sexual.pleasure and especially orgasmic pleasure.
    Lust can take also the face of an angel, but is only lust.
    Only through Purification of the mind, increase of the sattva guna in the mind and the weakening of lust sexual union can be a meditative union.
    Theories of Non-Duality or any other spiritual path do not count in this process. Only rigorous, sincere systematic practice and strong will, determination, patience and perseverance to get rid of lust and craving is what really matters.

    • @pug7053
      @pug7053 Рік тому +1

      appreciate the hard truth.

  • @lewisliew6479
    @lewisliew6479 Рік тому +2

    Non duality= we as a human species, Desire = the individual being.

    • @DrummerJay74
      @DrummerJay74 Рік тому +1

      non-duality is neither this or that. That's still duality.

  • @openresearch
    @openresearch 4 місяці тому +1

    Guessing your way in answers is an insult to listeners. Rather just say you don’t know.

  • @GemDentith
    @GemDentith Рік тому +4

  • @leighcecil3322
    @leighcecil3322 Рік тому +3

    Spiritual healing...sexual in tantric intimacy with another of the opposite sex is love in motion a closeness that continues in just making a cup of tea.. the beauty of creation.. namista to all 🙏

  • @Beingnessing
    @Beingnessing Рік тому +6

    Tantric union with your loved one

  • @JohnMartim-sy9yf
    @JohnMartim-sy9yf 8 місяців тому +1

    So, in a perfect body there is no sexual desire and yet, the pleasure might be much greater. Is that so?

  • @sunisagotirat1332
    @sunisagotirat1332 Рік тому +1

    🙏💞🫂💝

  • @geetapatil9837
    @geetapatil9837 Рік тому +2

    🙏🏼✨🙌

  • @shinji5967
    @shinji5967 Рік тому

    Present at the beginning,

  • @michaelbuhlmann6167
    @michaelbuhlmann6167 Рік тому +2

    🙏❤️🙏

  • @Herkimerdiamond
    @Herkimerdiamond Рік тому

    🙏

  • @atmannityananda-autognosia
    @atmannityananda-autognosia Рік тому +5

    Sexual lust is like fire and whoever plays with it is very difficult (if not impossible) not to get burned.!

  • @Jy3pr6
    @Jy3pr6 4 місяці тому

    Sex naturally leads to children. Children require a total sacrifice of one's life to raise properly. We will never feel full blown love with partners who just want to use our bodies to please their own. If someone really cares about someone as a human being, they never get around to even thinking about getting sex out of them. Married couples who truly love each other would sooner look upon sex with some skepticism than excitement, since they, especially the man, would fear that their partner would feel objectified. They would also go into the act with the full knowledge that in less than a year their entire lives will become a sacrifice. That is true self transcendence and love.
    One obvious biproduct of knowing with absolute certainty that one's partner doesn't objectify them and is ready to sacrifice everything to raise a child, and that they are mature and ready to make difficult, unpleasant and self sacrificial decisions for the good of the family, is much more intense sexual satisfaction, since the bodily is only meant to be a confirmation of the spiritual. Traditional Christianity was right all along and those who have truly lived it are even rewarded by God with precisely that which they are mocked for supposedly lacking, more intense sexual pleasure. New age gurus are just twisting themselves into pretzels to try to avoid ending up at that inevitable conclusion and still seem profound.
    To be fair though, men have bern turned into predators and women into beings that either only value their looks or that hate and resent their feminity, by pop culture, so the solution isn't easy. People need to start raising thr standards for themselves and those who that might be candidates for giving one's whole life to. No sex before marriage. Serious talks before engagement about what not to expose the children to, how to parent without screens, how to involve them in adult activities from the earliest ages and deal with rebelliousness etc.

  • @antoniodomene
    @antoniodomene Рік тому +3

    Why Do We Desire Sex?
    As a man, sexual desire is connected to the pure instinct to create life and at the same time to obtain satisfaction/pleasure. Normally, the desire for sex is connected with the production of sperm and prostatic fluid, when our "reservoirs" are full the mind creates a " series of mental experiences " in order to discharge the sperm. At the age of 12 or earlier, we awake in the morning with our underpants tinted with sperm.
    When we are mature and sexual desire arises with our wife/partner, then we are not " here and now" with her, we are repeating the experiences of the past with our partner or with somebody else.
    So, men, we are looking always to repeat the most gratifying experience that we had in the past and not in the present moment.
    A simple example is that we are always in a state of Like & Dislike, meaning that if I eat Cherries now, immediately the taste memory will compare these cherries with the ones that were the best in the past.

    • @Truthshouldalwaysbetold
      @Truthshouldalwaysbetold Рік тому +1

      A much more simple explanation is that we desire sex because we desire intimacy. Intimacy is why we are here, intimacy is how we come to know anything. We are literally dying to love each other, death is that longing, intimacy is to get lost in other as we cannot truly find ourselves until we do. Death is the orgasm

    • @antoniodomene
      @antoniodomene Рік тому

      @@Truthshouldalwaysbetold You have to find your own experience and understanding based on your experience, NOT on conceptual knowledge. It has no sense to talk about the sex of the angels.

    • @Truthshouldalwaysbetold
      @Truthshouldalwaysbetold Рік тому

      @@antoniodomene And you are not an angel right now so it does you no good to talk from the lofty space like you are one.

    • @antoniodomene
      @antoniodomene Рік тому

      No comments..:-)))

    • @Truthshouldalwaysbetold
      @Truthshouldalwaysbetold Рік тому

      @@antoniodomene Also all words are conceptual knowledge, which is why trying to use them to describe ourselves keeps us running in circles. When we try we think we know something someone else does not, that is when we speak from that lofty place.

  • @MrMafiaboss1234
    @MrMafiaboss1234 Рік тому +19

    God is Greater than non-duality.

    • @spelunkerofbutts6136
      @spelunkerofbutts6136 Рік тому +26

      I dont see the difference

    • @markhenry2726
      @markhenry2726 Рік тому +47

      @@spelunkerofbutts6136 dear, Spelunker of Butts, thou sage and wiseman, I must say that I agree entirely. Whether one is exploring the caverns of anal cavities, enjoying an ice cream or chopping down a tree, perfect unity is the reality of every experience. Keep uncovering the secrets of the brown star and rest eternally in the heart of God.
      P.S. Religious zealots begone. If you cannot see the divine in a butt, how then can you see the divine anywhere else? All is one, God's being is my being and the being of butts everywhere. Namaste 🙏
      P.S. P.S. if it is not yet clear, Divinity is present in everything, even in the ridiculous and, canst thou imagine, even in the seemingly sacrilegious. Don't take yourself too seriously, it doesn't exist after all.

    • @eoincoogan4241
      @eoincoogan4241 Рік тому +7

      @@markhenry2726 you are a legend! That comment made my day.

    • @Anti79Hero
      @Anti79Hero Рік тому +4

      @@eoincoogan4241 made my year

    • @dipper888bp
      @dipper888bp Рік тому

      @@markhenry2726 the brown star?

  • @mountainjay
    @mountainjay 5 місяців тому +1

    Nonsense mumbojumbo.

  • @mra4955
    @mra4955 3 місяці тому +1

    lol, this is so terrible

  • @jameswaterhouse-brown6646
    @jameswaterhouse-brown6646 3 місяці тому

    I disagree.
    It’s also just the body being horny.

  • @Paul1239193
    @Paul1239193 Рік тому +1

    nonsense

    • @chadkline4268
      @chadkline4268 Рік тому

      👍 non duality is BS. Every teenager on UA-cam has attained non duality.

  • @ИннаПарфенчук-н4н