@@PancakesforEveryone I think WheatWaffles did a video on how valuable cold approach is depending on your attractiveness. TLDR; Unless you are a solid 7 or above, you're almost certainly wasting your time. As an average guy, you are going to have to do a HUGE number of cold pproaches to get a tiny number of dates. A really poor return on time/effort invested. Oh, and because you will have been unselective in such a relentless mass numbers approach the chances are the few girls that say yes will be mid/unattractive. Imagine grinding away long term on cold approach, finally getting a date and realising you dont actually fancy her anyway! I think cold apporach is great at overcoming approach anxiety, building unshakeable will and becoming indifferent to rejection. The skills you develop in cold approach will help you in social circle game and in night game. So there's that. But unless you are good looking its going to give you a very low strike rate.
It's honestly easy for women to say we should be the ones approaching. At the end of the day they aren't the ones who have the fear of being rejected or being called weird.
You're right; most women can't stand being rejected and appreciate that societal norms often place the onus on men to make the first move. Women typically have more options, as they are often approached, while men usually don't have much choice in the matter. It is what it is.
Who cares. Grow a pair and get over the fear of rejection and being called weird. You think you’re going to get anywhere worried about what could happen?
They like to say that, but then if you're nice and approach them they'll probably appreciate it. Never listen to a girls advice about approaching girls, they don't know what they want most of the time 😆
Yeah I think you still could approach and say I don't mean to interrupt but I just had to stop and tell you that I thought you look great in that outfit. But I do think women use the phone as a block as a defense mechanism. But then one of these days they probably wish they would have not been doing it because they want to have been approached
Because of the Dating apps guys have all the options 😅 yeah right! He doesn’t approach you in a cafe cause he doesn’t wanna look like a fool if you reject him. Girls these days.. they just don’t live in reality
@@Dillonkg1 well way more than you, you literaly think the world revolves around you to the point you take rejection personally talk about being DELUSIONAL🤡🤡🤡🤣
I’ve respectfully gone up to girls, being a perfect gentleman and on one or two occasions in my college days I literally had a girl look at me with disgust and say “ewwww you’re gross” and walk away. I’ll never forget how that made me feel, she was super mean to me for no reason when I had put myself in a vulnerable place and tried to approach her. I don’t fear getting rejected, but it’s horrible to be treated like dirt for no reason. If she had just said no thanks, or I have a boyfriend or anything else it wouldn’t have been something I’ll remember forever. Every time I think of approaching a girl I always wonder if she’s going to say “ewww you’re gross”.
She was just a bitch bruh. A better girl would have said no thanks or no,sorry! Can't generalize on a single interaction. I get the experience was bad but u gotta keep going and learning and perform better approaches each next time.
"I know if they're lying about their height or not." Yeah every woman wants to date a guy who is over 6 feet. So I am over 6 feet so this isn't a problem for me but the vast majority of guys aren't over 6 feet. Most men are disqualified for approaching women. They're not hot or they're too short or they're too broke. Women just don't like most men.
@@mickaellandry9726 I have approached women in the past but more importantly I have a lot of women who are friends and clients and yes they typically think the majority of men are ugly. Furthermore there have been surveys and studies which have come to the same conclusion as well. Now do most women find me ugly? I can only conclude no they don't but I have my own problems with dating. But that's a completely different topic. But look at dating apps where the top percentile of men are the ones getting all the matches and average men get overlooked. Frankly women don't find men attractive all that often. I mean they have the right to their preferences but the average man has a difficult time getting the average woman to talk to him. Meanwhile she's more than willing to get taken advantage of by a really attractive man who sees her as just a little fun. He uses her and discards her but she now thinks that's her standard. So she will always compare men to that guy and other guys will never measure up. So is the normal dating scene for average men? Certainly not. Average men can't compete with what these women can get access to. But out of curiosity how many women have you approached? How many women have you talked to? How many women have you talked with as just people and gotten unguarded and honest opinions from?
@@darrenskjoelsvoldi’m 6’1 light skinned and get called handsome all the time and I’m still getting rejected in person lol Instagram seems to be more effective tbh
Summary. If you want to approach a girl. First make an eye contact. Then smile. When you receive a smile back, only then make the first move. Tip to not loose your confidence.
Lowkey, i agree with the % of how much women want to be approached. Yesterday, i was at the mall, and i was giving small compliments . im 5'3 , but the Compliments were welcomed, and some even wanted to chat a little more. Now im starting to realise that yes, as a guy, i need to approach. If yall are wondering how im able to go up and talk, i tell myself this "either you approach her or you'll die alone"
I love this! I’ve been approaching women in person this past week and I’ve enjoyed how fun it is to talk to someone. I do admire how you seek the ones of your type rather any random girl. I’ll put this into practice the next I go out. I know what I like 😌
@@marvin2678 by reading books on how to talk to people. It’s your social skills that’ll make you a man of high value. You can begin by going to the mall and saying hi. Doesn’t matter if they say hi back or not. The point is for you to be the one saying it- getting over any anxieties. (Sorry it took so long to reply)
Cool video man! I’m 6’1 as well. Whenever I’m in NYC I definitely do cold approaches with friends of mine. For me I definitely get the weird nervous feels but after a few approaches you kinda just get the “oh I didn’t die and nothing bad happened” feels. Highly encourage people to try and do approaches especially with a buddy or someone who can try and push you when you don’t feel like doing it
Well I lived in NYC too, 6', educated, even been called good looking, etc... and I never got any good results from attempting cold approaches. Finally just gave up ever trying that, and hoped for a more normal way I might ever meet a female. I really got the feeling that, if you are going to succeed with cold approaches, you really need to be quite a bullsh***er, or even an outright jerk of sorts. I just couldn't deal with purposely trying to become superficial. And I don't dance.
a handsome guy who's 6 ft tall, got also rejected and it took him almost 1 hour to get 2 succesful approaches! Could you imagine what happened to an average guy?
The obvious prerequisite for approaching women, or dating women in general, is that you should have some drip on, looking fresh, got a stylish haircut, beard neatly trimmed, smelling good, and be fit. Have your looks maximized first. Otherwise, you may have bad experiences and you’ll forever use that one time as a reason to never approach again. The second thing is touched on in this video and it’s using your damn brain. Use your social skills and emotional intelligence to discern when it’s the right time. This is extremely important to women for so many reasons. Such as: Knowing when it’s the right time to be vulnerable. Knowing when it’s the optimal time to go for the physical escalation. Knowing how to read her moods/energy(even through text) to tell when your connection with her is building momentum, so that way you can discern when it’s appropriate to move things forward or to just let it flow a bit more first. It also allows you to be more sensual with her, having that ability to pull her into your frame, to bring her out of her head, and into the moment with you. This results in time seeming to slow down, every time you touch her, it heightens her senses to the absolute max. Idk what you call that, I guess just sensuality? Being connected with your own emotions as well, because if you aren’t, you couldn’t do this. So, with all of that in mind, if you show her that you don’t have that feel for the subtle energies/vibes of a room or situation, she will be turned off and react accordingly. I kind of understand why women sort of expect me. To just “read their minds”, because if you’re connected with your own feelings and you’re highly self aware, you almost can read their minds, at least, read their subtle energies and feelings, which is essentially the same as reading their mind. Women operate on an emotional wavelength, rather than a logical one. This is something I have a hard time articulating to people, but it’s definitely a thing. Maybe Ben can explain it, idk. But I’m fairly certain when women say they want a man who’s vulnerable and is in touch with his femininity and emotions, that’s what they’re talking about. Side note: Watch Ben. That’s how you handle rejection, with humor. Brush that shit off and keep going. Can’t get all butthurt and let it ruin your day or even the rest of your life, holding onto that one moment forever.
@@graywolfairsoft7968 To be fair, I don’t know what the fuck I was talking about either. Lmao. Sheesh. Must’ve been sleep posting or something. Yes, I actually do that sometimes. I’ll be responding to someone on UA-cam or texting someone back and I’ll fall asleep while still texting. The result of this is usually hilarious or it just makes no sense at all. I sent a long message to my ex once, rebuking her, calling her names, was being a dick the whole time. Towards the end of the message, it made zero sense. I was rambling and said something like this at the very end after roasting her basically: “*beep, beep* *honk, honk* 🤡 I’m fucking GOD bitch!” 😂 🤷♂️ Damn I wish I could find the text I’d copy and paste it. It’s ridiculous and hilarious. I think I called her a Narcissist a few times too, which is ironic lol I’m wondering.. the 47 people who liked my comment.. What are they smoking, bro? 😂 They’re like “woahhhh, that’s like.. totally deep dudeee” I legitimately couldn’t understand what I was saying when I read over it just now lol
The girl commenting men don't approach because we have 'options' online has it backwards. Thats like saying a poor person has lots of options at a luxury car dealership. Most average men don't have options on online dating women however do, even if they are just average. The reality is most recognize the effort necessary to get women has little return compared to any other risk a man can take. Unless you are a Chad and looking to just do 1 nightstands; trying to know modern women on a deeper level is not worth it. Unless there is a change in cultural norms it will continue to be this way.(and no I'm not saying 1950s strict gender roles, but the hyper-feminist anti-male bias of today is an extreme overcorrection for past injustices.)
They really have no idea and probably look at it from the perspective of her attractive fwb who does get matches online. There are videos on youtube where girls create a dating profile as a guy and only then they somewhat scratch the surface of what it's like for the average joe. One girl even said "I'm going to try one of my opening lines.. wait you can't message unless you have a match?". She didn't even know lol Whenever they get asked to give men advice in the end, it's just "be confident".
A couple weeks ago I smiled at this cute girl in the grocery store. She smiled back so I decided to take a shot and approach her. I asked her what she thought about all the girls on tik tok complaining about guys never approaching them in public and she was like "I don't know" I then asked her if she would be upset if I told her I liked her and wanted to get to know her and she nodded her head and said "extremely". Girls (American Girls I mean) DON'T want more average guys approaching them, they want more rich guys who look like you and Henry Caville to approach them more. I think your methods are like singing. Anyone can sing but only a select few have the talent to actually be successful with them.
Thanks for making this video Benjamin! Earlier today I saw this cute girl at a restaurant sitting by herself. I got my food and starting walking towards the tables near her. She looked up at me a smiled, and I smiled back. I wanted to stop and ask her if she wouldn't mind if I sat with her, but instead I just kept walking and found another table to sit by myself. I instantly regretted it and I've been kicking myself all day because I knew I really should have approached her, and now I'll probably never see her again. This video really helped reinforce that women want to be approached and I'll try not to chicken out next time!
Great work on the street. It was funny because at first you were rushed due to the timer and the girls didn't know why you were so rushed. I like when you improvised that 1 line on the spot in the open. Having a pimped out IG is really a cheat code because other guys still have to put in work after that. Fair play if you have it, use it. I personally don't want a woman whose on IG regularly. This is why bars are superior for approaching volume
I think more women are into being approached by a guy who is handsome and tall especially. I had a buddy who tried to do the cold approach thing like this. He's 5'5 goes to the gym has muscles but he's not huge. He has a good sense of style, his hairline is receding a bit so he keeps it really short and he's a bit shy. I'm hanging out with him one day as we were going to get something to eat and he approaches a couple girls while we are on our way. A couple ignored him or gave him like these mean girl disgusted glances but this one particular girl was absolutely brutal. We walk by and he see's this one girl who was like maybe an inch or 2 taller than him. He goes, "Hey excuse me? I thought you were very beautiful and I wanted to introduce myself and ask you your name." She looks at him up and down smiles and goes, "Brooo get the fuck away from me. You're waaaaay too short for me go bother somebody your own size." She shakes her head laughs and just walks away. I was a little bit ahead against a building waiting on my phone and I was completely stunned. I looked at my friend and I asked him if he's good. And all he said was yeah that happens a lot but gotta keep trying. He's currently in a relationship right now with a girl he met from work who's like 5'0 or like 4'11 and treats him really good.
@@RobbeRecords The girl will get it back in a way she never expected. It might not be in a relationship but it will be just as brutal. These things even themselves up.
The woman at 4:15 said to have genuine conversation with them and then make a approach (in a sense ask for number). I don't think that matters a lot, if she decides that you aren't attractive enough, nothing you say will matter.. that's just the truth.
Believe me, they get approached to a whole lot, you have no idea. Who approaches them is the key. And yes, your attitude counts, not just to make them get interested in you but to go out there and prove yourself you can do it no matter the result.
The idea of proving it to yourself is the easiest way to push out fear, because it takes away the pressure of the random results of the girl's approval. The pressure is now on the completely manageable outcome of you controlling yourself. If the girl likes you, bonus.
The guy at 7:20 completely missed his opportunity as she even opened up and held the metaphorical door for the guy and he still didn't walk in, and she's a nice looking girl with a down to earth personality.
That womannhad a very masculine personality. I dont think most masculine and very high status and succesful men would want a long term relationship with someone like that.
1:51: I feel it’s the other way around with girls (at least on the apps) having too many options because there are so many guys in their feed and the competition is massive but that’s my situation. I can never make a dent on the dating apps. I got professional photos with a photographer on the apps, I have a decent bio introducing who I am. I’m using multiple apps. Nothing but cold silence, Snapchat premium girls or sex bots. I don’t act creepy or text creepy things…. 🤷🏻♂️ I’ve literally stopped doing dating apps and instead just do cold approaches in public
noticed the confidence part is true, because you could kind of hear a not so confident approach at first and as he gained confidence it started working. I watched this because i want to start trying this soon since i am now off social media and dating apps :)
The affectation in the Chanel girl's voice tells you everything you need to know she has a fold app shovel that she breaks out whenever she's ready to dig for gold
She said it was her preference actually. Also both men and women incorrectly state their requirements when it's their preference all the time. The reality is people are way more likely to bend these things if they like the person, don't get hung up on this stuff. Pretty much every person with dating experience will have had previous partners who did not match within their range of acceptable or preferable qualities
Huge piece of advice: start a natural conversation about what’s happening around you, or with the girl. And be a good conversationalist. Once a conversation is going you can tell if they are cool with you. Then move the conversation to some common interest or something and based on how they’re responding to you ask them out immediately or get their social media.
I grew up primarily around women and have a decent amount of friends that are women and it’s constant “I hate when guys approach like this..” or “that made me uncomfortable and now I don’t wanna be here” So it instilled a fear in me that I would be the reason someone isn’t enjoying their night, but at the same time I’m beginning to recognize there are normal ways to approach women and ways that are gross. So I’ll definitely put myself out there more, I’ve also grown more confident in myself than I’ve ever been. 🤙 wish me luck
@7.31 a quote comes to mind I read once and it's happened to me on more than one occasion (the latter part). Goes something like this: ''Trying to figure out if a girl is looking at you because she wants you to approach her or whether she is getting ready to mace you in the eyes can be a very fine line''.
This is incredible content! Thank you Benjamin! The commentary from 9:35 onward about the process and looking at the journey as being fun is really great! Appreciate the encouragement from women here to approach and show confidence! I think next question is: what exactly shows confidence in an approach?
I’d agree that most women want to be approached in person, I was just talking to a friend about this yesterday. I would recommend asking for their number vs their IG. Asking for their IG comes off a little like asking for their snap.
Cold approaches are not that good to avoid being turned down.. Try the Hot approach. Which means you only move when the girl does some kind of a choosing signal. Then you go like a Pro! 🎉
I knew those answers would be all over the place from the women. A woman can "look" at you and not be labeled as creepy, but if a guy does it, it's considered creepy.
Okay, good pointers and all but... Thing is, most people seem unavailable nowadays. Take a girl who gets your attention because she rides in the same bus or train daily, you would like to approach her, but she is wearing earphones, looks tired and is glued to her damn phone. There's no way you can't help but feel it would be intrusive just to attempt approaching her.
"Personality is hot to women" Oh yeah, that's why women are matching with guys on dating apps that share their interests and beliefs, and not guys who look like models or have money. Whole lotta "personality" helping those guys out.
All these interviewed women are more or less dishonest - because they don‘t mention WHY MEN NOWADAYS DON‘T APPPROACH WOMEN! The answer was actually given at the very beginning of the video… Woman: „I want to be approached as long as he‘s hot.“ THAT‘S EXACTLY THE PROBLEM from what consequences follow. HOW DOES A GUY KNOW THAT SHE FINDS HIM HOT??
I think the cold approach to meeting women is being above average in height being more than 5’8” tall and above average in looks being an 8 or above. I am 5’4” so no matter what I would be deemed as the creepy guy!
Over the years, our staunchest critics and most vociferous opponents to seduction advice have been not women but.... *men who are sexually inexperienced.* They maintain generalities like: "Women don’t like random strangers bothering them!” “Women only want [some specific thing, usually looks, money, height, race, or status]” “Women are really all [some specific trait - dominating, submissive, born liars, born trustworthy unless/until corrupted by evil seducer men]” “You can’t get a woman if you [some alleged handicap - aren’t of the same culture, are N years older or younger than her, aren’t willing to do some certain act like pay for meals, etc.] Any man who lacks sufficient field experience* , of course, will tend to get bogged down in friction - or to conjure up lopsided or dogmatic views about “what really works”, *without ever field testing his theories and biases.* The field is where cluelessness goes to die, and true understanding blossoms May I ask how many girls have you randomly and genuinely approached in your life before coming to your conclusion? 🤔
Super interesting, but I'd watch RSD Owen, RSD Julien, Todd Valentine over anything these beautiful women are saying. You can't take what she says literally here is the translation: *approaching a woman on the street* 1. Be disarming and respectful at first because you're intimidating to small women 2. Say a witty line that you came up with in that moment (or comment on her style choice) to show her your personality 3. Have good eye contact 4. Give her a chance to invest (or leave) 5. If she's not doing anything now, you can get coffee/smoothie GL fellas.
1:34 With all due respect, why didn't the girls get up and go talk to the guys, especially if they were all single and looking to meet someone that night? I mean no offense by any means, but I'm curious. Why is it expected that a man must have the courage to get up, walk across the whole bar, and talk to someone he doesn't know, in front of every goddamn person? Why do women also refuse to do this? And why complain that men don't do it, if the women themselves never do it? And why on earth is it a bad thing for guys to have more options on dating apps?? *Great video, btw.
This mostly applies only to guys who are good looking 7+/10. When the girls say they want men to approach them they think of hot men, not the average, Just saying, take the video's message lightly
The girl is right about the app but it works both ways. Also, girls are often on their phone e.g. in the metro, street or train. A girl could potentially be interested in you but when she is totally immersed in some (unimportant) online conversation then that makes it harder for men to approach.
Way harder at nighttime Benjamin , def less women willing to talk to a stranger. I had to laugh , you are a young version of me! It lasted until I was in my 40s met an incredible girl in her 20s and now 20 years later very happy with 2 kids. Its true back in my time we had to be more aggressive , glad it was like that for me. Had fun!
Not related much to your content, but all these girls are so gorgeous, love their styles also. Hope can live NYC in a while someday. Back to the point, personally I think that men nowadays have too many options because of us (women get easily attached to a man) And it not important how you approach, but after that process do you have enough patience to know her more or just asap to satisfy your ego. Got some men asked my number randomly, but they just need a date right away, and of course they look somewhere else when I said "not ready" to them.
Heard of the study that found 66% of men age 18-29 are single, havent been on any dates, or has sex in the past year. A lot of men go years and decades even without going on any dates or having any sex. Women are out of touch with reality.
you're tripping girl, most men has zero options, only the good looking guys you see, the rest is so invisible it's scary the reality you're living in is so different from the average guy. Most of my friend, not specially good looking but not ugly neither, has actually 1 or 2 options in a year maybe! The amont of work you have to do on yourself, your hygiene (of course that's a minimum I would say), your culture your money, your intelligence, your social skills (that you have to train by actually dealing with many people and many girls, not everyone has this chance cuz you can't practice, during this phase you're just creepy so no one wants to deal with your practice). You don't realize in my opinion what's the life of the average guy.
"Women get easily attached to a Man"...lady idk where you live, but seems like a totally different place from the entire world. Like a paradise for men ngl...😂 "Men have too many options" idk what people you are with, especially guys...but trust me, most DON'T. Not 3, not 2, not 1...ZERO...0. I mean I guess you have some chad looking guy friends who talk about how sone girl's mad for em...but the average guy living an average life in a city has like 1 or 2 girls, whom he talks to occasionally. AND THAT'S IT. Maybe try talking to some guy outta your group, you'll know what the scene really is. And I don't mean its miserable for guys...many guys don't approach voluntarily, but more often than not get rejected when they do. And lemme tell you (in case you have never been rejected), rejection hurts. Like hell. Lowers the confidence exponentially. And also, why would a guy "wait" for you when you said you weren't ready? Like if you and me are talking for a while, and you ask me to go on a date, and I say I am not ready...would you legitimate still wait for me, or go for that other guy you found cute at the mall or in the parking lot...?? 8/10 people (men or women) would move forward in today's times. Its 2024, people hardly prove themselves worthy of your time. Don't have time for all that "not ready" BS...🤷🏻♀️
"Men nowadays have too many options..." Idk what kind of guy friends you have, maybe some chad exquisite looking ones, but trust me when I say this, an average looking guy, who lives an average life in a city like NY (or any other) DOESN'T HAVE MANY OPTIONS. Maybe 1 or 2 girls whom he talks to occasionally, but thats about it. I'd suggest try to talking to some guy outta your friend group, and you'll know how it really is. "Women get easily attached to a Man" lady, you making me feel like you live in a heaven or smtg. That too a heaven for Men...😂 I mean I understand that when you genuinely connect to someone (man or woman) on an emotional level, you'll get attached obv...but the thing is, in today's times when Social Media has boasted an average girl to think she's a super model or smtg, NO guy except a Billionaire who looks no less than a Hollywood Star can fill up her "standards" (I like to call them delusions btw...✌🏻). And its not always like guys are all miserable (some are, but a small proportion...), but rejection hurts. A LOT. And it also lowers your confidence to approach someone again, which is why guys find it convenient on dating apps rather than irl. Maybe tell the mean ones to be a little subtle and direct while rejecting a guy, and maybe...I say maybe, you'll see it improving somehow...🤷🏻♀️ And what do you really mean by "satisfy your ego"..?? Like a hookup or smtg? And if so, did he or you not make it clear in the first place what you guys really wanted? If No, that's honestly on you...🤷🏻♀️ Also, why would a guy "wait" for you when you already said you are "not ready"..?? Like do you intentionally wanna waste his time, or is it some attachment issues you bringing up? Ain't no one got time for that "not ready" BS...Man or Woman, everyone's hella busy in today's world, and if you are "not ready"... I'll probably look for someone who is...🤷🏻♀️
My reality is shattering, it honestly feels surprising to hear women say they want men to come up to them. How did such a radical minority get so much traction in western culture?
@@leandro6925 I'd say i'm like a six out of ten. I go to the gym, and dress well, but I'm short. I have like a 30% success rate of getting numbers and instagrams, but I only meet up with like 5% of that initial 30. It's all about confidence and the way you carry yourself. It gets easier the more you do it! Alnother part Is actually the actual DMing / texting, but that's also all about practise. All the women I've talked to have been super nice though. Everyone loves being approached. It's a nice gesture if nothing else.
75% of women want to be approached more by tall muscular chads, not out of shape guys. That's what that statistic means. It doesn't mean "ooh 75% of want to be approached by ALL guys"
Most Men in here don't even need to question your confidence or attractiveness... I trully believe that. Only like 10% of Men in here actually need work in their confidence or attractivness... First of all, its not about confidence, its about discipline. You can have all the confidence in the world - if you don't have discipline in yourself you have nothing. And attractiveness can only be created not gained. Women don't jerk off to photos of Men. Attractiveness is a meaningless word for Women. What really matters is not attractiveness - is prowess. Women don't like Men - they like Males. So you need to be a dominant, disciplined, male with a lot of prowess - to simply walk up to a girl that's already looking at you and tell her, "Hey! Hello, what's your name?" "Zoe" "Hi Zoe I'm Nuke, I noticed you from back there and I like you a lot :) I want to get to know you if you! Can I have your number?" or "Hi Zoe I'm Nuke, I like your smile! You are cute! :) Can I have your number?" Or you know... the different romantic or interesting things that you can say are endless... To say those things, it requires not confidence and not being yourself... It requires eye contact discipline, social dominance, and masculine prowess. Obviously Women have no idea that these words even exist... So they say "cOnFiDenCe" and "bEinG yOuRsElf"...
i know i'm not the only guy in the world that has always been angry about this, but it angers me that guys, men, always have to do the approaching and that women for all time, women normally never approach men, never understood why it makes a man weak if he doesn't approach a woman, why does it make a guy weak? he won't be able to protect her? why does approaching indicating being able to protect?
*Approaching Women* If it's an attractive man: a confident guy approaching a girl If it's average man: "Please approach me so I can reject you and feel desired at your expense!" It's a win-win situation for these women. Don't be fooled by them.
Other problem meeting women randomly is you don't know if they're single mom, penniless, dodgy past; even then they want a rich good looking guy to approach them even if they aren't either; I stick with swiping and hope for a match; the Western world will die off soon; tax the dating apps for social problems they are creating
Bro I got the course and it’s 💎
Would love to get it, but i'm a student so can't afford them. I'll have to stick to the videos for now. Also getting in the practise every day
@@danielmella4927 I got it like a week or 2 ago when it was 144 for both but ya the yt videos are still really good
@@danielmella4927 how much is it ?
they are assuming the topic of conversation is the top 2% man
lol
“Did you know that over 100% of MEN wish that they were approached more?” That should be the fucking quote for the ladies!
Women aren’t wired to have rizz. Besides, they don’t need it.
You're the one that wants to meet her. You need to approach her.
Start working out taking care of yourself and u will sense if girls are noticing you, if so then just approach and score
@@Joseph_M1 plz calm down
Step 1: be attractive
Step 2: don’t be unattractive
Remember it’s not harassment if you’re attractive
😂😂 excuses
@@1ledluverjlp Attraction is relative. Look around you. Plenty of men have women.
Lmao
"By hot men, yes"
Thats the key!
Rule 1: be attractive
Rule 2: Don’t be Unattractive
@@PancakesforEveryone
I think WheatWaffles did a video on how valuable cold approach is depending on your attractiveness.
TLDR; Unless you are a solid 7 or above, you're almost certainly wasting your time.
As an average guy, you are going to have to do a HUGE number of cold pproaches to get a tiny number of dates.
A really poor return on time/effort invested.
Oh, and because you will have been unselective in such a relentless mass numbers approach the chances are the few girls that say yes will be mid/unattractive.
Imagine grinding away long term on cold approach, finally getting a date and realising you dont actually fancy her anyway!
I think cold apporach is great at overcoming approach anxiety, building unshakeable will and becoming indifferent to rejection.
The skills you develop in cold approach will help you in social circle game and in night game. So there's that.
But unless you are good looking its going to give you a very low strike rate.
Always has been
That one lady will give it up for a Chanel bag
@@PancakesforEveryone Rule 3: Buy her a Channel LOL
It's honestly easy for women to say we should be the ones approaching. At the end of the day they aren't the ones who have the fear of being rejected or being called weird.
Or falsely called for harassment
You're right; most women can't stand being rejected and appreciate that societal norms often place the onus on men to make the first move. Women typically have more options, as they are often approached, while men usually don't have much choice in the matter. It is what it is.
@@mightysavage459 I wish these women were rejected more often. Maybe, they wouldn't be as stuck up and bitchy.
they are assuming the topic of conversation is the top 2% man
Who cares. Grow a pair and get over the fear of rejection and being called weird. You think you’re going to get anywhere worried about what could happen?
Don't approach "if she's busy on the phone", meaning, all the time. Then, they wonder why they don't get approached.
They like to say that, but then if you're nice and approach them they'll probably appreciate it. Never listen to a girls advice about approaching girls, they don't know what they want most of the time 😆
I feel like she more meant talking to someone, if she is looking down at her phone shes most likely bored and occupying herself
Yeah I think you still could approach and say I don't mean to interrupt but I just had to stop and tell you that I thought you look great in that outfit. But I do think women use the phone as a block as a defense mechanism. But then one of these days they probably wish they would have not been doing it because they want to have been approached
"by hot men". As in the one percenters. Otherwise you're creepy.
"by hot men". As in the one percenters. Otherwise you're creepy.
I always do the whole:
"Hey I think you're cute I was wondering if you'd wanna.."
*throws a net over them*
..works nearly every time
Whats the continuation?
Not a cop, dude. Not into dragnets.
Make sure your trunk has louvers or at least drill holes for air.
basically be over 6ft and handsome.
if you are not: you are a creep.
"nearly" is a rather interesting word, what happened to the one that escap....i mean rejected you 😂
Because of the Dating apps guys have all the options 😅 yeah right!
He doesn’t approach you in a cafe cause he doesn’t wanna look like a fool if you reject him.
Girls these days.. they just don’t live in reality
That has always been the case, its called appraoch anxiety.
The issue is people are less social in general
That's assuming they ever did live in reality.
@@Dillonkg1 well way more than you, you literaly think the world revolves around you to the point you take rejection personally talk about being DELUSIONAL🤡🤡🤡🤣
@@Dillonkg1 It’s hard to believe but there are actually a few who have some self awareness about what’s happening
@@Fiazco there are always exceptions to the rule.
I’ve respectfully gone up to girls, being a perfect gentleman and on one or two occasions in my college days I literally had a girl look at me with disgust and say “ewwww you’re gross” and walk away.
I’ll never forget how that made me feel, she was super mean to me for no reason when I had put myself in a vulnerable place and tried to approach her.
I don’t fear getting rejected, but it’s horrible to be treated like dirt for no reason.
If she had just said no thanks, or I have a boyfriend or anything else it wouldn’t have been something I’ll remember forever.
Every time I think of approaching a girl I always wonder if she’s going to say “ewww you’re gross”.
She was just a bitch bruh.
A better girl would have said no thanks or no,sorry!
Can't generalize on a single interaction.
I get the experience was bad but u gotta keep going and learning and perform better approaches each next time.
yeah, that never happened
@@benaffleckisanokayactorI disagree, it sounds realistic
It takes guts man, continue trying💪
@@nachovazquez007 I’m working out, eating healthier and trying to get to a point where they’ll approach me instead lol.
Tldr if your attractive they want you to approach if your average they don't, and if you're below average it's harassment.
literally the first girl said if u hot so u right
👍
Yeah but even if you’re an attractive guy and pull the “my name is Jeff” they will see you as an average man as well 😂
No
Not how it works
They want to be approached by "hot men"...otherwise, break out the grape whistles and call the " ugly police."
Grape whistles... 😅😅😅
@@dadsapp 😀
Well when was the last time you approached a girl?
@@xMckingwill The Late Jurassic period, lol!
@@eriksturdevant8589damn bro you got the whole squad laughing 😐😐😐😐😐😐😐
"By hot men yes." Which disqualifies most men since women think we're ugly.
"I know if they're lying about their height or not." Yeah every woman wants to date a guy who is over 6 feet. So I am over 6 feet so this isn't a problem for me but the vast majority of guys aren't over 6 feet.
Most men are disqualified for approaching women. They're not hot or they're too short or they're too broke. Women just don't like most men.
@@darrenskjoelsvold
I'm curious, how many women have you randomly and genuinely approached in your life before coming to your conclusion? 🤔
@@mickaellandry9726 I have approached women in the past but more importantly I have a lot of women who are friends and clients and yes they typically think the majority of men are ugly.
Furthermore there have been surveys and studies which have come to the same conclusion as well. Now do most women find me ugly? I can only conclude no they don't but I have my own problems with dating. But that's a completely different topic.
But look at dating apps where the top percentile of men are the ones getting all the matches and average men get overlooked. Frankly women don't find men attractive all that often. I mean they have the right to their preferences but the average man has a difficult time getting the average woman to talk to him. Meanwhile she's more than willing to get taken advantage of by a really attractive man who sees her as just a little fun. He uses her and discards her but she now thinks that's her standard. So she will always compare men to that guy and other guys will never measure up.
So is the normal dating scene for average men? Certainly not. Average men can't compete with what these women can get access to.
But out of curiosity how many women have you approached? How many women have you talked to? How many women have you talked with as just people and gotten unguarded and honest opinions from?
It's proven women only find around 1 out of 5 men attractive, yet you still have all these people with objections.
@@darrenskjoelsvoldi’m 6’1 light skinned and get called handsome all the time and I’m still getting rejected in person lol
Instagram seems to be more effective tbh
Summary.
If you want to approach a girl. First make an eye contact. Then smile. When you receive a smile back, only then make the first move.
Tip to not loose your confidence.
That's like a big signal or a good opportunity to do so, tho can't say that would happen a lot.
Yeah no my smile is my worst feature
@@fabioooh sad view because i am sure it is not.
@@Adonis-cu3bu It's a safe way to do it, but doesn't mean you can't get results if they don't notice you first.
I'm no good at smiling.
Lowkey, i agree with the % of how much women want to be approached. Yesterday, i was at the mall, and i was giving small compliments . im 5'3 , but the Compliments were welcomed, and some even wanted to chat a little more. Now im starting to realise that yes, as a guy, i need to approach. If yall are wondering how im able to go up and talk, i tell myself this "either you approach her or you'll die alone"
I know what you mean but friendly advice “complaints” would be they hate you. “Compliments” is to like.
@@rainydayz2447 🤣🤣 bro i appreciate that
Nice whatever works for you
i have social anxiety and been a masturbating addict since 13, will something like nofap help my confidence with women and overall approaching them?
I don't want to die socially either
I love this! I’ve been approaching women in person this past week and I’ve enjoyed how fun it is to talk to someone.
I do admire how you seek the ones of your type rather any random girl.
I’ll put this into practice the next I go out. I know what I like 😌
how did you start ?
@@marvin2678 by reading books on how to talk to people. It’s your social skills that’ll make you a man of high value. You can begin by going to the mall and saying hi. Doesn’t matter if they say hi back or not. The point is for you to be the one saying it- getting over any anxieties. (Sorry it took so long to reply)
@@JackTheLivingSkeletonCalaveraName of the Book???
"Do girls like ego boosts?" Yes. Will they be nice about it? Results may vary.
If you're not attractive they make a tic tok about it...
Cool video man! I’m 6’1 as well. Whenever I’m in NYC I definitely do cold approaches with friends of mine. For me I definitely get the weird nervous feels but after a few approaches you kinda just get the “oh I didn’t die and nothing bad happened” feels. Highly encourage people to try and do approaches especially with a buddy or someone who can try and push you when you don’t feel like doing it
Sure sounds exciting to fill the egos of random ass women 😂😂
Well I lived in NYC too, 6', educated, even been called good looking, etc... and I never got any good results from attempting cold approaches. Finally just gave up ever trying that, and hoped for a more normal way I might ever meet a female. I really got the feeling that, if you are going to succeed with cold approaches, you really need to be quite a bullsh***er, or even an outright jerk of sorts. I just couldn't deal with purposely trying to become superficial. And I don't dance.
NYC is trash, full of superficial crazies.
@@KpxUrz5745 what are you up to now?
It’s not just dating apps being the reason why these guys aren’t approaching them, they probably have an AI girlfriend by now.
No people are just less social
That's not true lol
Its not even about that
Lol, I hope it's not that bad yet.
Mee 2 movement
Its only creepy till you get good at it. Once you pass that line, it wont matter that much if you met the same girl through mutuals or by approaching.
a handsome guy who's 6 ft tall, got also rejected and it took him almost 1 hour to get 2 succesful approaches! Could you imagine what happened to an average guy?
A life like hell.
My opinion, if he was at a good bar/club he would have done better.
The videos just keep getting better genuinely 🌪️
The obvious prerequisite for approaching women, or dating women in general, is that you should have some drip on, looking fresh, got a stylish haircut, beard neatly trimmed, smelling good, and be fit. Have your looks maximized first. Otherwise, you may have bad experiences and you’ll forever use that one time as a reason to never approach again.
The second thing is touched on in this video and it’s using your damn brain. Use your social skills and emotional intelligence to discern when it’s the right time. This is extremely important to women for so many reasons. Such as:
Knowing when it’s the right time to be vulnerable. Knowing when it’s the optimal time to go for the physical escalation. Knowing how to read her moods/energy(even through text) to tell when your connection with her is building momentum, so that way you can discern when it’s appropriate to move things forward or to just let it flow a bit more first.
It also allows you to be more sensual with her, having that ability to pull her into your frame, to bring her out of her head, and into the moment with you. This results in time seeming to slow down, every time you touch her, it heightens her senses to the absolute max. Idk what you call that, I guess just sensuality? Being connected with your own emotions as well, because if you aren’t, you couldn’t do this.
So, with all of that in mind, if you show her that you don’t have that feel for the subtle energies/vibes of a room or situation, she will be turned off and react accordingly. I kind of understand why women sort of expect me. To just “read their minds”, because if you’re connected with your own feelings and you’re highly self aware, you almost can read their minds, at least, read their subtle energies and feelings, which is essentially the same as reading their mind. Women operate on an emotional wavelength, rather than a logical one.
This is something I have a hard time articulating to people, but it’s definitely a thing. Maybe Ben can explain it, idk. But I’m fairly certain when women say they want a man who’s vulnerable and is in touch with his femininity and emotions, that’s what they’re talking about.
Side note: Watch Ben. That’s how you handle rejection, with humor. Brush that shit off and keep going. Can’t get all butthurt and let it ruin your day or even the rest of your life, holding onto that one moment forever.
they are assuming the topic of conversation is the top 2% man
don't forget to take a shower and grow to above 6ft
I have not understand one thing what you wanted to say…..
@@graywolfairsoft7968 To be fair, I don’t know what the fuck I was talking about either. Lmao. Sheesh. Must’ve been sleep posting or something. Yes, I actually do that sometimes. I’ll be responding to someone on UA-cam or texting someone back and I’ll fall asleep while still texting. The result of this is usually hilarious or it just makes no sense at all.
I sent a long message to my ex once, rebuking her, calling her names, was being a dick the whole time. Towards the end of the message, it made zero sense. I was rambling and said something like this at the very end after roasting her basically: “*beep, beep* *honk, honk* 🤡 I’m fucking GOD bitch!”
😂 🤷♂️ Damn I wish I could find the text I’d copy and paste it. It’s ridiculous and hilarious. I think I called her a Narcissist a few times too, which is ironic lol
I’m wondering.. the 47 people who liked my comment.. What are they smoking, bro? 😂 They’re like “woahhhh, that’s like.. totally deep dudeee” I legitimately couldn’t understand what I was saying when I read over it just now lol
Sorry if she thinks you’re not good looking enough you’re definitely gonna get rejected no matter how confident you’re.
Would it be any different for a woman approaching a man?
@@pyrosniper6431If Halle Berry or Katy Perry approached you and was interested, you'd entertain it and go for the number. Let's not kid ourselves.
So what? That just means that you two aren’t compatible. On to the next one.
@@pyrosniper6431they only approach if they find you good looking.
@@pyrosniper6431way different...
The girl commenting men don't approach because we have 'options' online has it backwards. Thats like saying a poor person has lots of options at a luxury car dealership. Most average men don't have options on online dating women however do, even if they are just average. The reality is most recognize the effort necessary to get women has little return compared to any other risk a man can take. Unless you are a Chad and looking to just do 1 nightstands; trying to know modern women on a deeper level is not worth it. Unless there is a change in cultural norms it will continue to be this way.(and no I'm not saying 1950s strict gender roles, but the hyper-feminist anti-male bias of today is an extreme overcorrection for past injustices.)
They really have no idea and probably look at it from the perspective of her attractive fwb who does get matches online. There are videos on youtube where girls create a dating profile as a guy and only then they somewhat scratch the surface of what it's like for the average joe. One girl even said "I'm going to try one of my opening lines.. wait you can't message unless you have a match?". She didn't even know lol
Whenever they get asked to give men advice in the end, it's just "be confident".
Lot of women lack self-awareness, her response was a great example of that
The only valid answer here is „by hot guys, yes“ cause after all that’s all it matters in a realistic viewpoint.
Man, that girl with the brown coat with the sheepskin collar is a complete knockout
😂
What’s real on her, lol
A couple weeks ago I smiled at this cute girl in the grocery store. She smiled back so I decided to take a shot and approach her. I asked her what she thought about all the girls on tik tok complaining about guys never approaching them in public and she was like "I don't know" I then asked her if she would be upset if I told her I liked her and wanted to get to know her and she nodded her head and said "extremely". Girls (American Girls I mean) DON'T want more average guys approaching them, they want more rich guys who look like you and Henry Caville to approach them more. I think your methods are like singing. Anyone can sing but only a select few have the talent to actually be successful with them.
Unfortunate you had to endure such
rudeness.
Brutal ...but very true.
If you are not her cup of tea looks wise they can sometimes be very rude/hostile
they are assuming the topic of conversation is the top 2% man
hahaha your comment made me laugh. Don't give up bro. A no is better than a what if.
Don't give up and try to not be resentful due to one interaction with that girl 👍
I’d like you to do this interview asking girls in other countries this same question.
It's the same everywhere I can assure you. Unless the culture is vastly different
It's pretty much the same in the western countries at least
Women aren't different in other countries. They still want mostly the same things
they are assuming the topic of conversation is the top 2% man
Women are the same everywhere when it comes to what they like in men. Confidence being the number one thing.
"you wanna chanel bag?" had me lol'in . Great video man, your content is really solid and helpful for all the non-whiners that follow you
Indeed
She went straight in for the gold digging kill.
"Finish him!"
Thanks for making this video Benjamin! Earlier today I saw this cute girl at a restaurant sitting by herself. I got my food and starting walking towards the tables near her. She looked up at me a smiled, and I smiled back. I wanted to stop and ask her if she wouldn't mind if I sat with her, but instead I just kept walking and found another table to sit by myself. I instantly regretted it and I've been kicking myself all day because I knew I really should have approached her, and now I'll probably never see her again. This video really helped reinforce that women want to be approached and I'll try not to chicken out next time!
Great work on the street. It was funny because at first you were rushed due to the timer and the girls didn't know why you were so rushed. I like when you improvised that 1 line on the spot in the open. Having a pimped out IG is really a cheat code because other guys still have to put in work after that. Fair play if you have it, use it. I personally don't want a woman whose on IG regularly. This is why bars are superior for approaching volume
I think more women are into being approached by a guy who is handsome and tall especially. I had a buddy who tried to do the cold approach thing like this. He's 5'5 goes to the gym has muscles but he's not huge. He has a good sense of style, his hairline is receding a bit so he keeps it really short and he's a bit shy. I'm hanging out with him one day as we were going to get something to eat and he approaches a couple girls while we are on our way. A couple ignored him or gave him like these mean girl disgusted glances but this one particular girl was absolutely brutal. We walk by and he see's this one girl who was like maybe an inch or 2 taller than him. He goes, "Hey excuse me? I thought you were very beautiful and I wanted to introduce myself and ask you your name." She looks at him up and down smiles and goes, "Brooo get the fuck away from me. You're waaaaay too short for me go bother somebody your own size." She shakes her head laughs and just walks away. I was a little bit ahead against a building waiting on my phone and I was completely stunned. I looked at my friend and I asked him if he's good. And all he said was yeah that happens a lot but gotta keep trying. He's currently in a relationship right now with a girl he met from work who's like 5'0 or like 4'11 and treats him really good.
Thats indeed absolutly brutal... i guess life as a manlet is hard
@@RobbeRecords The girl will get it back in a way she never expected. It might not be in a relationship but it will be just as brutal. These things even themselves up.
The woman at 4:15 said to have genuine conversation with them and then make a approach (in a sense ask for number). I don't think that matters a lot, if she decides that you aren't attractive enough, nothing you say will matter.. that's just the truth.
I like how authentic the video is 👍
All staged
Believe me, they get approached to a whole lot, you have no idea. Who approaches them is the key. And yes, your attitude counts, not just to make them get interested in you but to go out there and prove yourself you can do it no matter the result.
The idea of proving it to yourself is the easiest way to push out fear, because it takes away the pressure of the random results of the girl's approval. The pressure is now on the completely manageable outcome of you controlling yourself.
If the girl likes you, bonus.
The guy at 7:20 completely missed his opportunity as she even opened up and held the metaphorical door for the guy and he still didn't walk in, and she's a nice looking girl with a down to earth personality.
He just walked away lol
Maybe age was an issue for him. She is like 38, he is about 21.
For all you know, it could be because she wasn't his type. Guys can have choices too
That womannhad a very masculine personality. I dont think most masculine and very high status and succesful men would want a long term relationship with someone like that.
One of the first videos I've seen in a while of someone doing pickup where you can tell it's actually real.
1:51: I feel it’s the other way around with girls (at least on the apps) having too many options because there are so many guys in their feed and the competition is massive but that’s my situation. I can never make a dent on the dating apps. I got professional photos with a photographer on the apps, I have a decent bio introducing who I am. I’m using multiple apps. Nothing but cold silence, Snapchat premium girls or sex bots.
I don’t act creepy or text creepy things…. 🤷🏻♂️
I’ve literally stopped doing dating apps and instead just do cold approaches in public
noticed the confidence part is true, because you could kind of hear a not so confident approach at first and as he gained confidence it started working. I watched this because i want to start trying this soon since i am now off social media and dating apps :)
The affectation in the Chanel girl's voice tells you everything you need to know she has a fold app shovel that she breaks out whenever she's ready to dig for gold
y'all already know this, it's all about confidence and the energy you bring to the interaction. Build confidence, not techniques.
8:42 this woman first says she wouldn't date under 6'0 and then says a guy should be confident, even if he's 5'7. Wouldn't she reject him anyway?
She said it was her preference actually. Also both men and women incorrectly state their requirements when it's their preference all the time. The reality is people are way more likely to bend these things if they like the person, don't get hung up on this stuff. Pretty much every person with dating experience will have had previous partners who did not match within their range of acceptable or preferable qualities
Yeah she was being contradictory here. She advices guys to be confident but I'm 99% sure if you look at her dating history, most of them will be tall
Huge piece of advice: start a natural conversation about what’s happening around you, or with the girl. And be a good conversationalist. Once a conversation is going you can tell if they are cool with you. Then move the conversation to some common interest or something and based on how they’re responding to you ask them out immediately or get their social media.
bros doing gods work
We speak each other's unspoken language. You know what I'm going to say without me having to say it. I love you.😂
I grew up primarily around women and have a decent amount of friends that are women and it’s constant “I hate when guys approach like this..” or “that made me uncomfortable and now I don’t wanna be here”
So it instilled a fear in me that I would be the reason someone isn’t enjoying their night, but at the same time I’m beginning to recognize there are normal ways to approach women and ways that are gross. So I’ll definitely put myself out there more, I’ve also grown more confident in myself than I’ve ever been. 🤙 wish me luck
now this is a well put together video. Long enough to learn and short enough to see how simple it is.
hahaha bro dayyyymm!! Definitly giving us hope!!! thanks!!!
The girl at 5:28 is a keeper. I hope you got a number or Ig my guy.
@7.31 a quote comes to mind I read once and it's happened to me on more than one occasion (the latter part). Goes something like this: ''Trying to figure out if a girl is looking at you because she wants you to approach her or whether she is getting ready to mace you in the eyes can be a very fine line''.
This is incredible content! Thank you Benjamin! The commentary from 9:35 onward about the process and looking at the journey as being fun is really great! Appreciate the encouragement from women here to approach and show confidence!
I think next question is: what exactly shows confidence in an approach?
Your body language, voice tonality, and ability to hold eye contact.
I’d agree that most women want to be approached in person, I was just talking to a friend about this yesterday. I would recommend asking for their number vs their IG. Asking for their IG comes off a little like asking for their snap.
Cold approaches are not that good to avoid being turned down.. Try the Hot approach. Which means you only move when the girl does some kind of a choosing signal. Then you go like a Pro! 🎉
i go to college parties,18+ clubs & parks,bus stops its easier than n person where baddies r out n about but i will practice those places more
A lady told me they “ always “ get hit on and it’s exhausting…and getting contact info doesn’t mean getting contact.
Appreciate you visiting where alot of women live
I knew those answers would be all over the place from the women. A woman can "look" at you and not be labeled as creepy, but if a guy does it, it's considered creepy.
They want to be approach not because they want to find love and partner , they just want validation
EXACTLY!
Okay, good pointers and all but... Thing is, most people seem unavailable nowadays. Take a girl who gets your attention because she rides in the same bus or train daily, you would like to approach her, but she is wearing earphones, looks tired and is glued to her damn phone. There's no way you can't help but feel it would be intrusive just to attempt approaching her.
"If you are hot..." is most likely the answer to the question, whether or not your approach is appreciated. ... Thankfully, man can work on this.
"Personality is hot to women" Oh yeah, that's why women are matching with guys on dating apps that share their interests and beliefs, and not guys who look like models or have money. Whole lotta "personality" helping those guys out.
2:44 the girl in the back 😂
Benjamin doing what it takes to get the win!
All these interviewed women are more or less dishonest - because they don‘t mention WHY MEN NOWADAYS DON‘T APPPROACH WOMEN!
The answer was actually given at the very beginning of the video…
Woman:
„I want to be approached as long as he‘s hot.“
THAT‘S EXACTLY THE PROBLEM from what consequences follow.
HOW DOES A GUY KNOW THAT SHE FINDS HIM HOT??
bro the chick wit the crazy strong eye contact was gorgeous bro holy shit. her voice is beautiful i ain’t gonna front 😭
Which one lol
@@realbenjaminsedathe chick at 5:28
@@realbenjaminsedaWhen you make approach please don't mute the conversation. With this, we can get an idea what to talk about when approaching a gurl
I think the cold approach to meeting women is being above average in height being more than 5’8” tall and above average in looks being an 8 or above. I am 5’4” so no matter what I would be deemed as the creepy guy!
Over the years, our staunchest critics and most vociferous opponents to seduction advice have been not women but.... *men who are sexually inexperienced.*
They maintain generalities like:
"Women don’t like random strangers bothering them!”
“Women only want [some specific thing, usually looks, money, height, race, or status]”
“Women are really all [some specific trait - dominating, submissive, born liars, born trustworthy unless/until corrupted by evil seducer men]”
“You can’t get a woman if you [some alleged handicap - aren’t of the same culture, are N years older or younger than her, aren’t willing to do some certain act like pay for meals, etc.]
Any man who lacks sufficient field experience* , of course, will tend to get bogged down in friction - or to conjure up lopsided or dogmatic views about “what really works”, *without ever field testing his theories and biases.*
The field is where cluelessness goes to die, and true understanding blossoms
May I ask how many girls have you randomly and genuinely approached in your life before coming to your conclusion? 🤔
Super interesting, but I'd watch RSD Owen, RSD Julien, Todd Valentine over anything these beautiful women are saying. You can't take what she says literally here is the translation:
*approaching a woman on the street*
1. Be disarming and respectful at first because you're intimidating to small women
2. Say a witty line that you came up with in that moment (or comment on her style choice) to show her your personality
3. Have good eye contact
4. Give her a chance to invest (or leave)
5. If she's not doing anything now, you can get coffee/smoothie
GL fellas.
1:34 With all due respect, why didn't the girls get up and go talk to the guys, especially if they were all single and looking to meet someone that night? I mean no offense by any means, but I'm curious. Why is it expected that a man must have the courage to get up, walk across the whole bar, and talk to someone he doesn't know, in front of every goddamn person? Why do women also refuse to do this? And why complain that men don't do it, if the women themselves never do it?
And why on earth is it a bad thing for guys to have more options on dating apps??
*Great video, btw.
To show her you have initiative and are not some incel that whines on UA-cam about having to act like a man.
ay bro, really digging the different types of videos. Very fun to watch. Keep it up playa
Content is great. Love the mentality of approaching women and how genuine this is.
Bro you are the best, it feels much more organic way of doing, no tactics or physiological tricks. Excellent 👏🏿💯
This mostly applies only to guys who are good looking 7+/10.
When the girls say they want men to approach them they think of hot men, not the average,
Just saying, take the video's message lightly
They say they want to be approached then call you a creep for asking them to dinner after having a small talk conversation.
The girl is right about the app but it works both ways. Also, girls are often on their phone e.g. in the metro, street or train. A girl could potentially be interested in you but when she is totally immersed in some (unimportant) online conversation then that makes it harder for men to approach.
Way harder at nighttime Benjamin , def less women willing to talk to a stranger. I had to laugh , you are a young version of me! It lasted until I was in my 40s met an incredible girl in her 20s and now 20 years later very happy with 2 kids. Its true back in my time we had to be more aggressive , glad it was like that for me. Had fun!
I can't remember when was the last time a girl looked at me more than 2 seconds....
Not related much to your content, but all these girls are so gorgeous, love their styles also. Hope can live NYC in a while someday.
Back to the point, personally I think that men nowadays have too many options because of us (women get easily attached to a man)
And it not important how you approach, but after that process do you have enough patience to know her more or just asap to satisfy your ego. Got some men asked my number randomly, but they just need a date right away, and of course they look somewhere else when I said "not ready" to them.
Heard of the study that found 66% of men age 18-29 are single, havent been on any dates, or has sex in the past year. A lot of men go years and decades even without going on any dates or having any sex. Women are out of touch with reality.
you're tripping girl, most men has zero options, only the good looking guys you see, the rest is so invisible it's scary the reality you're living in is so different from the average guy. Most of my friend, not specially good looking but not ugly neither, has actually 1 or 2 options in a year maybe! The amont of work you have to do on yourself, your hygiene (of course that's a minimum I would say), your culture your money, your intelligence, your social skills (that you have to train by actually dealing with many people and many girls, not everyone has this chance cuz you can't practice, during this phase you're just creepy so no one wants to deal with your practice). You don't realize in my opinion what's the life of the average guy.
"Women get easily attached to a Man"...lady idk where you live, but seems like a totally different place from the entire world. Like a paradise for men ngl...😂
"Men have too many options" idk what people you are with, especially guys...but trust me, most DON'T. Not 3, not 2, not 1...ZERO...0.
I mean I guess you have some chad looking guy friends who talk about how sone girl's mad for em...but the average guy living an average life in a city has like 1 or 2 girls, whom he talks to occasionally. AND THAT'S IT.
Maybe try talking to some guy outta your group, you'll know what the scene really is.
And I don't mean its miserable for guys...many guys don't approach voluntarily, but more often than not get rejected when they do.
And lemme tell you (in case you have never been rejected), rejection hurts. Like hell. Lowers the confidence exponentially.
And also, why would a guy "wait" for you when you said you weren't ready?
Like if you and me are talking for a while, and you ask me to go on a date, and I say I am not ready...would you legitimate still wait for me, or go for that other guy you found cute at the mall or in the parking lot...??
8/10 people (men or women) would move forward in today's times. Its 2024, people hardly prove themselves worthy of your time. Don't have time for all that "not ready" BS...🤷🏻♀️
"Men nowadays have too many options..." Idk what kind of guy friends you have, maybe some chad exquisite looking ones, but trust me when I say this, an average looking guy, who lives an average life in a city like NY (or any other) DOESN'T HAVE MANY OPTIONS. Maybe 1 or 2 girls whom he talks to occasionally, but thats about it.
I'd suggest try to talking to some guy outta your friend group, and you'll know how it really is.
"Women get easily attached to a Man" lady, you making me feel like you live in a heaven or smtg. That too a heaven for Men...😂
I mean I understand that when you genuinely connect to someone (man or woman) on an emotional level, you'll get attached obv...but the thing is, in today's times when Social Media has boasted an average girl to think she's a super model or smtg, NO guy except a Billionaire who looks no less than a Hollywood Star can fill up her "standards" (I like to call them delusions btw...✌🏻).
And its not always like guys are all miserable (some are, but a small proportion...), but rejection hurts. A LOT. And it also lowers your confidence to approach someone again, which is why guys find it convenient on dating apps rather than irl. Maybe tell the mean ones to be a little subtle and direct while rejecting a guy, and maybe...I say maybe, you'll see it improving somehow...🤷🏻♀️
And what do you really mean by "satisfy your ego"..?? Like a hookup or smtg? And if so, did he or you not make it clear in the first place what you guys really wanted? If No, that's honestly on you...🤷🏻♀️
Also, why would a guy "wait" for you when you already said you are "not ready"..?? Like do you intentionally wanna waste his time, or is it some attachment issues you bringing up?
Ain't no one got time for that "not ready" BS...Man or Woman, everyone's hella busy in today's world, and if you are "not ready"... I'll probably look for someone who is...🤷🏻♀️
8:04
"What did they say to start the conversation?"
"I honestly don't remember."
Wow. Those guys really left an impression on you.
🤭
My reality is shattering, it honestly feels surprising to hear women say they want men to come up to them. How did such a radical minority get so much traction in western culture?
That's the thing with cold approach. You just need that 1 good experience to gain momentum.
"By hot men, yes"
my confidence just got shattered
The John wick but when his wife still lives fit is amazing 😂
Genuinely
BY HOT GUYS YES make sure you replay that and get your market value up
Let the butterflies come to the garden.
9:59 "Oh no, she's old" 🤣🤣
This man is the reason i approach girls everywhere now! Owe him my life
And how are you doing? What's your experience?
@@leandro6925 I'd say i'm like a six out of ten. I go to the gym, and dress well, but I'm short. I have like a 30% success rate of getting numbers and instagrams, but I only meet up with like 5% of that initial 30. It's all about confidence and the way you carry yourself. It gets easier the more you do it! Alnother part Is actually the actual DMing / texting, but that's also all about practise. All the women I've talked to have been super nice though. Everyone loves being approached. It's a nice gesture if nothing else.
@@leandro6925more like whats his appearance 😂😂😂😂😂
Man I saw you filming this, I was taking off my headphones just about to talk to the girl at 0:52 after seeing her at chipotle. Crazy
75% of women want to be approached more by tall muscular chads, not out of shape guys. That's what that statistic means. It doesn't mean "ooh 75% of want to be approached by ALL guys"
Man it's a lot easier to approach when they aren't walking. I had best results in parks and bus stops when they are not that busy
Also at night I think you could be perceived as more suspicious
Too many men making excuses in the comments.
GO OUT AND APPROACH
If you are not confident or attractive enough, then do the work to level up.
Most Men in here don't even need to question your confidence or attractiveness... I trully believe that. Only like 10% of Men in here actually need work in their confidence or attractivness...
First of all, its not about confidence, its about discipline. You can have all the confidence in the world - if you don't have discipline in yourself you have nothing.
And attractiveness can only be created not gained. Women don't jerk off to photos of Men. Attractiveness is a meaningless word for Women.
What really matters is not attractiveness - is prowess.
Women don't like Men - they like Males. So you need to be a dominant, disciplined, male with a lot of prowess - to simply walk up to a girl that's already looking at you and tell her,
"Hey! Hello, what's your name?"
"Zoe"
"Hi Zoe I'm Nuke, I noticed you from back there and I like you a lot :) I want to get to know you if you! Can I have your number?"
or
"Hi Zoe I'm Nuke, I like your smile! You are cute! :) Can I have your number?"
Or you know... the different romantic or interesting things that you can say are endless...
To say those things, it requires not confidence and not being yourself... It requires eye contact discipline, social dominance, and masculine prowess.
Obviously Women have no idea that these words even exist... So they say "cOnFiDenCe" and "bEinG yOuRsElf"...
(Feb 2024)
“74% of women wished they were approached more”
0:23 0:45 0:50
“There was a group of 3 guys”1:17 1:30
1:44 6:32
Boys boys6:43 6:59 7:10 7:22 7:25
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2:54
“I always admire a guy thats brave”3:28
5:11
If the blonde lady from 2:53 ever get to see this comment, let her know that she stole my heart!
She had the balls to say "whatever works for you I guess" 😂😂😂😂😂😂
WHATEVER WORKS FOR YOU 😂😂😂😂
1:30 that means 1-2 of your friends was fat, sorry.
i know i'm not the only guy in the world that has always been angry about this, but it angers me that guys, men, always have to do the approaching and that women for all time, women normally never approach men, never understood why it makes a man weak if he doesn't approach a woman, why does it make a guy weak? he won't be able to protect her? why does approaching indicating being able to protect?
This was really dope
*Approaching Women*
If it's an attractive man: a confident guy approaching a girl
If it's average man: "Please approach me so I can reject you and feel desired at your expense!"
It's a win-win situation for these women. Don't be fooled by them.
Your approaches are smooth as silk… get it? Seda…Silk, aaah never mind 😢
Epic work bro 🎉🎉
Thanks bro 🔥
Other problem meeting women randomly is you don't know if they're single mom, penniless, dodgy past; even then they want a rich good looking guy to approach them even if they aren't either; I stick with swiping and hope for a match; the Western world will die off soon; tax the dating apps for social problems they are creating