What Men REALLY Want in a Woman

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  • Опубліковано 28 чер 2024
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  • @SwitchTVKenya
    @SwitchTVKenya  4 роки тому +63

    Do not forget to subscribe to our UA-cam channel.. Click here to subscribe -- ua-cam.com/users/switchtvkenya

    • @thapisu
      @thapisu 4 роки тому +1

      This is still a very valid discussion now as it was earlier in the year. Thank you Joyce

    • @sthembileprecious7045
      @sthembileprecious7045 3 роки тому +1

      I think I need help,my man says I have mood swing how to deal with them.

    • @barbz-maz9628
      @barbz-maz9628 3 роки тому +7

      Please can we have subtitles when you speak in your language. I enjoy your shows bt get lost when you switch to your language. Im Zimbabwean.

    • @finashilongo2922
      @finashilongo2922 3 роки тому +1

      please speak english throughout or at least put subtitles

    • @thefashionmechanic
      @thefashionmechanic 3 роки тому

      Please can you speak English please? Or please you can add a subtitle please. This is your Nigerian fan Benjamin Zulu

  • @TimothyMusumba
    @TimothyMusumba 4 роки тому +399

    My answer is date with a purpose. Your relationship with God will define which partner you have.

  • @lailaempressoftheeast9171
    @lailaempressoftheeast9171 4 роки тому +133

    He's right ladies .... Do not tell a man what you want in a man.

  • @Alehsam
    @Alehsam 3 роки тому +149

    Good girls are not flattered by your achievements.😊
    we look for character and integrity.

    • @amosleonard1652
      @amosleonard1652 3 роки тому

      2021 ..you said it.. 😍😍😍😍

    • @joycekiarie417
      @joycekiarie417 3 роки тому +1

      Well no that's wrong achievement is what makes men attractive because high status means He will be able to provide for the family

    • @fatmaabdallaadventure
      @fatmaabdallaadventure 3 роки тому

      True

    • @a.muchemi4360
      @a.muchemi4360 3 роки тому +2

      Yes money we make it ourselves, for more than two decade I HV done it

    • @Tia-hc6db
      @Tia-hc6db 3 роки тому +2

      Unfortunately character and integrity alone don’t pay the bills

  • @anne-mariekosh5010
    @anne-mariekosh5010 3 роки тому +209

    This man is so hilarious yet so wise. I could listen to him all day.

    • @nyaxx38
      @nyaxx38 3 роки тому +1

      Insecurities when a man tracks you and where you are going. And when they judge how you are looking. Woooza

  • @TheLilly
    @TheLilly 3 роки тому +123

    After having watched a couple of videos of him here, I can confidently say that this guy is LEGIT!! His advice is very relevant and applicable to both men and women equally. I also like how he goes straight to the point with whatever he has to say🎯. I'm gonna keep listening.

  • @pamojaness2007
    @pamojaness2007 3 роки тому +49

    "True love is jealous but not possessive" good one indeed 👍👌

  • @sallykimaru953
    @sallykimaru953 4 роки тому +191

    Don't give exclusivity to a man who hasn't earned it.Well taken in.
    Really inspired to start my own UA-cam Channel:)

  • @ronnyc3886
    @ronnyc3886 3 роки тому +22

    As a man, I am motivated to be the best version of myself for myself and for my queens.

  • @Busi_Mbasa
    @Busi_Mbasa 3 роки тому +125

    I disovered this channel recently and have been binge watching. I am loving Benjamin's teachings.

  • @soledadwangui2921
    @soledadwangui2921 4 роки тому +59

    Ati we have learned fools😂😂 this man has wisdom

  • @ShiaGirl18
    @ShiaGirl18 3 роки тому +24

    I went on a date with a young man. He knew I have a vehicle the first time we met. We met at the restaurant, but for the rest of the date I parked my car and rode with him in his car to the next location.

  • @harrietacquah2545
    @harrietacquah2545 3 роки тому +142

    When a guy asks me what I'm looking for in a man my answer is "he should be who he is"

  • @trishtrish2349
    @trishtrish2349 4 роки тому +297

    AND THAT IS WHY WOMEN ARE ADVISED NOT TO SLEEP WITH MEN UNTIL THEY GET MARRIED.

    • @missliz_
      @missliz_ 4 роки тому +6

      💯💯

    • @sallykimaru953
      @sallykimaru953 4 роки тому +5

      I agree

    • @Austin_ka
      @Austin_ka 4 роки тому +18

      This is a terrible idea

    • @trishtrish2349
      @trishtrish2349 4 роки тому +1

      @@Austin_ka why do you say it is a terrible idea?

    • @Austin_ka
      @Austin_ka 4 роки тому +24

      @@trishtrish2349 How can you tell if you are sexually compatible to your partner? Sometimes its either you are compatible or not.

  • @bethiekitui1920
    @bethiekitui1920 3 роки тому +7

    Wooow "true love is jealous but not possessive" I love it

  • @crochetwithcharity
    @crochetwithcharity 4 роки тому +50

    A driven man looks for a driven woman..
    Full of energy in this discussion

  • @MsKanyi
    @MsKanyi 3 роки тому +65

    Here representing the "self contained" women 🙋🏻‍♀️ with no apologies. Men should be confident enough to accommodate accomplished women who are go getters but also be ambitious in their own selves. Not trying to downgrade the woman a.k.a #enemiesofprogress 😒

    • @dikeledijane8186
      @dikeledijane8186 3 роки тому +1

      Maybe this man will be an answer to African countries, cause the mindset of most African men are so limited and they are so self-centered, power eager, stereotypes, selfish autocratic etc.

    • @petma5551
      @petma5551 3 роки тому

      Wah, Kali Ms Kanyi, am raising my daughter to be a bit self contained. This life you never know.

    • @TheTabbym
      @TheTabbym 3 роки тому +2

      been this unapologetic self contained women. i got married to a man who tried to change who i am n downgrade me, i had to drop his sorry ass

    • @elishafry476
      @elishafry476 Рік тому

      I guess according to you women are perfect and changing needs to happen to men only and you call us selfish nkt!! Education needs to happen to both

  • @loicembogo9793
    @loicembogo9793 4 роки тому +117

    I have been listening to advise about relationship from foreigners I am glad finally we have sharp mind in Kenya. I thank God for you sir, keep going.

  • @bulelwamthembu8839
    @bulelwamthembu8839 3 роки тому +72

    much love Benjamin from South Africa🇿🇦

    • @pastorkingsleyokonkwo2218
      @pastorkingsleyokonkwo2218 3 роки тому +1

      Beloved, I don't know you in person but God knows you. God ministered to me in a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, and with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford or give to these motherless foundation (Godstime MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help them call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on +2347049035529) tell him I sent an you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you........

  • @ifeanyimaduegbuna4455
    @ifeanyimaduegbuna4455 4 роки тому +333

    Could you please carry on the conversation in English. Non Swahili speakers are missing out on vital information. Much love.

  • @AtabongMillie
    @AtabongMillie 3 роки тому +83

    I like this guy. Kenyan men describe a wife as a house help.

    • @dikeledijane8186
      @dikeledijane8186 3 роки тому +8

      They are running mad,is there any parents that can raise a daughter to become a nanny,those men they need psychologists

    • @nakamijunic5844
      @nakamijunic5844 3 роки тому +7

      All African men not only Kenyans

    • @nabulyasumayya5502
      @nabulyasumayya5502 3 роки тому +4

      @@nakamijunic5844 not only Africans most men in saudi they have just allowed them to drive a car

    • @dikeledijane8186
      @dikeledijane8186 3 роки тому +3

      Ag xem!!! That's more African men's small mind set.that's women abuse.

    • @mbrilliB
      @mbrilliB 3 роки тому

      💯

  • @nancyndichu8088
    @nancyndichu8088 3 роки тому +36

    I have become regular here. Learning each day. Now i know mistakes i have made before. Narcissistic people suffocate you within the 1st week of dating..

  • @isaacwangai254
    @isaacwangai254 4 роки тому +25

    Shine as the Noonday Sun Sir!!
    You are brilliant!
    May thy rising be evident to all and sundry!!

  • @MaiWarie05
    @MaiWarie05 3 роки тому +69

    I am from Zimbabwe, I looooove this show. But I feel I loose a lot of important information when you switch from English 😭😭😭

  • @mariangorety3280
    @mariangorety3280 4 роки тому +49

    Your sense of humour kills me Benjamin. Anyway may God bless you for your teachings.
    Joyce,, I just love how calm you are always. Baraka

  • @baryl3969
    @baryl3969 2 роки тому +3

    So true. “Be blank but polite so that you can study him.” I do this all the time, give men space to be himself and I just observe and the answers are always there.

  • @gideonalechebichy4732
    @gideonalechebichy4732 3 роки тому +33

    When did relationship discussions become this interesting and fun. Lol Benjamin Zulu.

  • @fatmanasir6691
    @fatmanasir6691 3 роки тому +6

    Here for the first time and I love Benjamin's advice, tips.. and Joyce's discussions. You are talking to the 40s too. Learning never ends

  • @estherannemacharia8282
    @estherannemacharia8282 3 роки тому +9

    Am so getting inspired, am glad I came across this, Benjamin you're so right, thank you for this!

  • @princessmk6552
    @princessmk6552 3 роки тому +12

    Wisdom in this interview is priceless.

  • @rebsjoy6892
    @rebsjoy6892 3 роки тому +6

    Im so happy listening to this topic, cause my husband left me when i started making money and we went for counselling but his response was he want a divorce cause everything is done by my wife , the councillor from Zambia asked him did your wife ever say bad things about you he replied he just feel that way. Remember most women have higher positions then men now in Africa ! Please men of Africa accept us.

  • @phidiamaingi399
    @phidiamaingi399 4 роки тому +7

    🤣🤣🤣 this Zulu is so hilarious and too real!I love it!

  • @KenyanAtHeart
    @KenyanAtHeart 4 роки тому +17

    🤣🤣🤣🤣very educational and funny!! I can hear Mr Zulu for hours and hours....👍👍

  • @josephinekimaro761
    @josephinekimaro761 4 роки тому +18

    😂😂😂😂😂😂uuuh! This man though! My ribs are not safe right now

  • @richild3967
    @richild3967 4 роки тому +34

    I need this guy as my mentor 😩❤️😂

  • @harrietacquah2545
    @harrietacquah2545 3 роки тому +10

    I can listen to this man all day

  • @patsyaspinall-urrows3836
    @patsyaspinall-urrows3836 3 роки тому +5

    I love listening to Benjamin Zulu. A valuable message to all, humorous too!

  • @mwametallic7668
    @mwametallic7668 4 роки тому +13

    I like this man already...

  • @jkedmondjuniormd3708
    @jkedmondjuniormd3708 3 роки тому +15

    Ugandan here too
    Benjamin is just too obsessive
    Cant stop watching, he is someone really inspiring and awareness awakening.

    • @KenyanAtHeart
      @KenyanAtHeart 3 роки тому +2

      Obsessive or Addictive?

    • @jkedmondjuniormd3708
      @jkedmondjuniormd3708 3 роки тому +1

      @@KenyanAtHeart I think its obsessive
      Addiction not exactly
      Tsup Peris

  • @tinnahflower3720
    @tinnahflower3720 3 роки тому +7

    Benjamin is everything I swear🤣🤣🤣🤣 thanks Joyce en Zulu for ths educative topic

  • @marywambua8795
    @marywambua8795 3 роки тому +31

    I used to dislike Benjamin but my opinion changed after a heartbreak and I realized what he was saying was right. I was just blinded ...

  • @annalisekathomi2336
    @annalisekathomi2336 3 роки тому +3

    This man says it as it is! I love it

  • @PhiloLutta
    @PhiloLutta 3 роки тому +5

    My goodness listening to Benjamin is like therapy for me..thanks sooo much for this program and your expertise in relationships.

  • @wendydiana9347
    @wendydiana9347 3 роки тому +5

    I am so in love with Benjamin Zulu,I am glad I found you just when am preparing for this journey may God bless you and continue giving you wisdom.

  • @Aritul
    @Aritul 3 роки тому +12

    12:24-12:25 When you want to know what a man wants, don't describe what you want yourself. Sound advice! Steve Harvey said something similar on his talk show. You have to observe the man to see what his true character is.

  • @tosinoyegunsen
    @tosinoyegunsen 3 роки тому +48

    I love how they switch from English and Swahili even though I dont understand a word from the later.

  • @annnjambi6811
    @annnjambi6811 3 роки тому +3

    New sub ..I can’t get enough of Benjamin

  • @joyceoyedele3705
    @joyceoyedele3705 3 роки тому +7

    Love the hair Joyce! Yasssss!!! On the topic though, be very aware of narcissists and sociopaths! Insecurity hubs.
    Loving the conversation... more English please for your audience in England 🙏🏾

  • @caramel9244
    @caramel9244 3 роки тому +3

    I just love this show. Thank u Benjamin...so much truth here!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👌🏾

  • @DandyKenny
    @DandyKenny 4 роки тому +38

    Zulu mentored me when was in form four and since then have liked the guy..Zulu we emea vau

  • @joskyshams4758
    @joskyshams4758 4 роки тому +11

    My goodness thanks for this show.

  • @Africangyal
    @Africangyal 4 роки тому +55

    Wow. I am immensely impressed by Benjamin. He is life smart and manages to deliver serious psychological truths with a sense of humour. I need to binge watch his other interviews.

  • @kihiuwanjira6921
    @kihiuwanjira6921 3 роки тому +4

    This is so DEEEEP!!! Wow! Wisdom at its best, more blessings Zulu.

  • @marionchebet3770
    @marionchebet3770 3 роки тому +3

    This is dooope meeeen!How was i so blind that i couldn't see this channel long ago.Anyways, it isn't late at all,infact the right time to learn.Thank you for this lessons.

  • @mercynjunge8428
    @mercynjunge8428 4 роки тому +4

    Wow!wow! Incredible wisdom there

  • @rahabnyambura2459
    @rahabnyambura2459 3 роки тому +2

    I love this guy for free, he is so real.

  • @shawnrandallbutler33
    @shawnrandallbutler33 3 роки тому +11

    He's is so refreshing!

  • @lucieserero7475
    @lucieserero7475 3 роки тому +4

    Gatta love this talk.. Wow.. Wish I knew this 20 years ago🤔It is well. Thank you Benjamin 🙏

  • @auneabed6982
    @auneabed6982 3 роки тому +2

    I like this kid of talk, this is gorgeous, thanks for being not selfish🤗be blessed guys🇳🇦 from Namibia.

  • @hellengitahi8979
    @hellengitahi8979 3 роки тому +3

    🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 “even on earth 🌍 you can’t tell who is for real , who is fake” Benjamin Zulu is here to keep it real. This been a fun show👍👍👍

  • @irenemaina7197
    @irenemaina7197 4 роки тому +40

    Joyce, how are you not rolling on the floor laughing....😂😂

    • @vivianmurania9459
      @vivianmurania9459 4 роки тому +2

      I wonder ,the way this man is funny and wise😄😄😄😄😄

  • @dianeat_the_beach3741
    @dianeat_the_beach3741 3 роки тому +12

    I love what you are saying, brimming with wisdom and sound advice, THANK YOU!!!

  • @sandrakasina5214
    @sandrakasina5214 3 роки тому +3

    M nw obsessed about watching yo interviews....Mr Benjamin....great advicer....love frm Zimbabwe🇿🇼

  • @elizabethmuoki4455
    @elizabethmuoki4455 4 роки тому +7

    Great wisdom..I really love it

  • @speciozaayieko59
    @speciozaayieko59 3 роки тому

    Everytime I come to UA-cam I must watch benjamin speak...pure wisdom.

  • @gracemohaulegwale1351
    @gracemohaulegwale1351 3 роки тому +23

    Im first listening here, I'm learning a lot thank you, please translate down with English when you speak your language so we can understand everything please thanx, Benjamin Zulu and everyone thank You

  • @suenjuki468
    @suenjuki468 4 роки тому +2

    Am so enlightened... thank you guys

  • @pollynkirote9097
    @pollynkirote9097 3 роки тому +1

    Wow... Good point,my goodness am glad to be here❤ God bless you guys

  • @FM-bk4mg
    @FM-bk4mg 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for being so informative ,you are the best .

  • @sikhengamlana1610
    @sikhengamlana1610 3 роки тому +2

    I love this programme. Thank you Benjamin

  • @howoriginal1986
    @howoriginal1986 3 роки тому +8

    I've watched 3 interviews of Benjamin in a row. This man is very wise

    • @Terryn_Wangui
      @Terryn_Wangui 3 роки тому

      Am literally watching every video I see his right now

  • @jovybaky6848
    @jovybaky6848 Рік тому

    I can say that all people who have come a cross your teachings are so so blessed.....am blessed too 👍👍👍👍

  • @truemindstv142
    @truemindstv142 3 роки тому +5

    Jst lestening to this dude once, i cant stop lestening to u. Find aman not a bull 🤣🤣🤣
    Philosophical very realistic articulative and so intelligent etc❤❤

  • @blessedmercy3036
    @blessedmercy3036 3 роки тому

    Benjamin.. I love your wisdom!!! Taking notes for the future.
    I love this show!

  • @beforeido6265
    @beforeido6265 3 роки тому +5

    Thank you for blessing us with such wisdom

  • @daphnekemunto8420
    @daphnekemunto8420 3 роки тому +1

    Benjamin and Joyce thank you so much

  • @sylviahmbithi4683
    @sylviahmbithi4683 4 роки тому +3

    so educative.kip it up,honestly have learned something

  • @heiditemba314
    @heiditemba314 4 роки тому +7

    This man is great

  • @bobbygi4929
    @bobbygi4929 4 роки тому +12

    Wow!! This guy is really enlightened he talks with a lot of Zeal and he totally makes sense.

  • @oluwaseunodunsi8142
    @oluwaseunodunsi8142 3 роки тому +12

    I used to feel bad when I turned down short guys. I'm relatively tall as a lady so I've always wanted someone taller than me so thank you Zulu for not making me feel bad about this.

    • @durbansaladyinaccra2173
      @durbansaladyinaccra2173 3 роки тому +5

      My dear dont ever feel bad cos men dont feel bad about whatever they prefer in women, whether it is a particular complexion, breast size, bum size etc 😂😂 1,65 meter which is not short and also not so tall but I want to be able to wear heels and still not look down on a man.

    • @oluwaseunodunsi8142
      @oluwaseunodunsi8142 3 роки тому +2

      @@durbansaladyinaccra2173 yes o thank you ma. This so so true and I can totally relate.

    • @shodapad07
      @shodapad07 2 роки тому

      Me I like tall girl ladies o. Where are you based in fine tall lady?

    • @sharonbenson8120
      @sharonbenson8120 Рік тому

      ​@@shodapad07 😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @b.m709
    @b.m709 3 роки тому +31

    I really enjoy what I learn from these conversations! I even love it when you switch to Swahili, it reminds me of the power of being African, our languages are so beautiful. I personally don’t understand Swahili but I feel like I understand 🤣 when you talk, I make up my understanding as I go along!

    • @Terryn_Wangui
      @Terryn_Wangui 3 роки тому +1

      Swahili is so beautiful

    • @DevotionsWithSiwe
      @DevotionsWithSiwe 3 роки тому

      Me too 🤣🤣🤣 I'm even willing to learn Swahili through UA-cam tutorials

  • @kevinwanyama5820
    @kevinwanyama5820 3 роки тому +2

    wow i have learned alot just from benjamin's conversation

  • @faglaha388
    @faglaha388 4 роки тому +4

    Choose you ruler that's powerful

  • @fayahmummahafrika9188
    @fayahmummahafrika9188 4 роки тому +5

    True talk...

  • @marywambui9132
    @marywambui9132 3 роки тому +1

    Congratulations Mr Benjamin for good teaching I cant get enough for your teaching may God continue giving more wisdom

  • @masebabatsoinnocentia176
    @masebabatsoinnocentia176 3 роки тому +19

    "date a person who fulfills your appetite" Wow

  • @ruthmimi2364
    @ruthmimi2364 4 роки тому +38

    I should HV learnt to listen to you like immediately I was a teen.nevertheless its never too late!

  • @gladysngami9685
    @gladysngami9685 4 роки тому +7

    Sooo educative

  • @mosepro.1423
    @mosepro.1423 4 роки тому +14

    Wow Benjamin Zulu, good job. i will never forget the first day i met you and the time you took me to a mission in kitui. Good job bro. KUDOS

  • @charitykawira8927
    @charitykawira8927 4 роки тому +6

    Am loving this lol.. Ati prey ikichanuka itatoroka hahahahha lol

  • @everlynemose9477
    @everlynemose9477 4 роки тому +3

    Wooow your words are full of facts and wisdom

  • @irenemueni2187
    @irenemueni2187 4 роки тому +6

    I have learnt a lot from this conversation.

  • @bevss9222
    @bevss9222 3 роки тому +1

    This is an eye-opener! I hope they did this video 4 years ago, the time before I entered a relationship.

  • @dorothynamukwaya682
    @dorothynamukwaya682 3 роки тому

    Perfect show I really love both of u guys, u inspire us so much

  • @kirui5
    @kirui5 4 роки тому +7

    Wow! Truth with humour 😁

  • @marykibunja1912
    @marykibunja1912 3 роки тому

    We need more of this to our singles aki ....this is really educational

  • @noreenduke8410
    @noreenduke8410 3 роки тому +2

    I love this topic very good advice God bless you my brother

  • @paulinekamau7618
    @paulinekamau7618 4 роки тому +28

    Eti 70% is the Best you can get in this WORLD. Very TRUE 🤣😂

  • @emillykyokusiima9531
    @emillykyokusiima9531 Рік тому

    I wish I watched this like two years back. Thanks Benjamin .

  • @annetsanjo
    @annetsanjo 3 роки тому +1

    😂😂😂😂 Benjamin wow my ribs.... Joyce i just love your show