😂😂😂 I love the way people say Zulu is wise. He sure is but has gone through his share of relationship pain definitely to be able to give such advice. It's just life.
Benji I am forced to comment after I couldn't hold back to the too much wisdom you're imparting in us as women. Thank you and may The most High God bless you. We need Benjamins as men.
Sometimes I ghost not because I was fake or anything but it is the realization of lack of mutual effort and clarity is obscured from the woman. So I save myself from the emotional breakdown because I would have well articulated my intentions and clarified them but still they seem not to be reaching the right ears. On the other side I'm generally an overthinker so a woman who can't communicate clearly put's me in an emotional rollercoaster so to avoid this I pull back because I expect the same clarity from here be it rejection or acceptance.
Ladies also ghost when a man is not defining the relationship we are afraid to invest our emotions too much and then head nowhere we prefer to quit now that being a lady you cant explain you leaving because they are not opening up & this ghosting thing is inhuman someone mature should communicate.
Some of what Benjamin reveals about men is very difficult for women to accept, but unfortunately that is how some men think. Women take this opportunity to learn. As he says, play your role as a goalkeeper very well so you are not left holding the loss of the team
I think the chemistry between two people who shared sex, secrets and alot ...its just hard to know what really eats them up... relationships are different... ✌ all we need is be wise and respect ourselves
I had an ex who literally disguised himself to be what I said I was looking for. Upon parting ways, the true him came out....let me say he wasn't who he claimed to be, the animal came of the cage. 🤓🤓🤓🤓 So, don't give off your cards.
Coz men have several options to juggle if you start playing too hard to get he will drop you and focus on the other options at this point the guy is not looking for a girl to marry
I think men ghost sometimes to keep the door open. He wont come out with it and tell a girl he is leaving for such such a reason so he can come back if whatever hes leaving her for dosent work out.
thanks benjamin. you have just answered my long time question. Joyce have this topic " why do they leave and then few months later come back?" after the complex damage already done
Some ghost you to seek attention to remind you they still exist after you severally ignore them 😂😂😂...so they waiting for you to notice and say something.
Me Zulu I envie you my request from you is to organize a women conference a special single ladies who are looking forward into a permanent relationship
There are men who prey on single mothers and have bad intentions when it comes to their children. So, keeping a child a secret in the very beginning might not be a bad thing. That way child predators will be less likely to pursue someone who doesn’t appear to be a good target.
Hi peace Where did you get this from? How can you hide a child because you are afraid the man can have bad intentions toward the child? Doesn't make sense to me. I don't know what type of men you been dealing but that is nonsense.
Why would a man worth his salt ask how many men a girl has slept with? It does not matter unless it has an influence in your relationship like if there are children
Benjamin has explained well. Let me add you some more reasons as I know them based on experience in therapy and marriage as well. Men leave with self reasons 1. Not compatible 2. Not ready to settle 3. His X coming back 4. Low sperms count 5. Ghosts of the past-Fear 6. His parents/siblings pressure 7. Mum's boy 8. Living a lie 9. Age factor-inferiority complex 10. Sickness Men leave, caused by the woman 1. She wants to settle he is not ready 2. He discovers that she slept with his brother or best friend or relative 3. She has refused to change her attitude, particular recurrent trait etc 4. Not improving on bed delivery 5. Keeps referring on his X in comparison to the incumbent 6. Discovers that she is after what he has not who he is 7. Dressing and grooming styles he doesn't like 8. Drinking/Clubbing habits 9. Weak Morals not ready to change 10. Hard to change or improve in future If you need any specific item expounded, please ask I will respond with details.
Mama yao OK. Is it 7 of men or seven of women? Cheating or separation could be caused by one or several of these reasons especially when addressed severally but no change
Ooh, OK. It is one of the major causes by the way. Often it is the boy who refuses to grow out of the mama and take responsibility as an independent person. He never focuses to his own destiny but relies on his mother to shape it, sadly
Think about it. If he cares so much about ur past then is he the real one for u? Iwould have a problem if u are dwelling on my past if it is negative. Gods grace abounds and it is God u looking at when i now change to a better version. He also has my future. Man can go sit down if he is perturbed by my x life.
When God says " no sex bfore marriage" it's because he knows there's unwanted pregnancies as one of the consequences. God's rules are there to protect us as a society and as a nation but majority have never understood it.
What if this man just realised you probably aren't interested or he feels his energy is not being reciprocated, always replying to messages late (even when online) and perhaps even being blueticks? Why should I not just pick up my pride and go?
Any woman who does that is not healthy enough for a relationship and they should work on themselves but instead of ghosting you can break up with her respectfully but firmly don't let her try to trap you with fake ptomises of change ghosting is not the answer
Ghosting doesn't have to be a relationship partner also friends in a period of two years I got ghosted by some guy we were getting to know each other he vanished I never bothered him again then this year my two female friends ghosted me one just vanished after I had posted a video on my whatsaap and I I never tagged she just overreacted and came back and texted me on FB asking if we could go out for lunch I never responded to her text and she unfriended me on FB my second female friend she was more like my bff ghosted me and came back calling me telling me her boyfriend cheated on her and she was depressed and then the last person was a guy I met online in a span of two years I ghosted by 4 people whom I cared for the most that made me learn a lesson that I should stop caring for people that much some people do not deserve my love and kindness
Say that again. It happened to me. The first question was...do you still love?.Really...thats being a narcissist. Always wanna make someone feel guilty. I dont play those kind of games with the dead. My heart was already at peace that you are left me😁😁😁😁. To Benjie our therapist...big up!!!!!
Why not pay attention to the spiritual side because before the run something must have happened in the spirit and it could on either side. Also spiritual spouses will definitely make one run or even kill.
That is another topic altogether. I watched one past TK i will look for it and try to share but if u have a partner in the spirit u never marry in physical. ua-cam.com/video/nyNQoDA2WDA/v-deo.html
Tell that to God because he is the one causing conception. A lot of married women washed out their fetus when they were single and now their wombs cant bare a child ...so u tell me about should or shouldnt. Jesus loves childrenhe didnt single out the ones born in wedlock from one night stands...
It is a big disservice to both men and women to say that men always ghosts women because of their own fault and that women are completely innocents angels. Good women are well aware of other women's faults and strive not to be like them. Making such a bold statement not only will make gullible men think that they are always at fault but also it will make women who have a really nasty behavior continue the way they are without any self-awareness or accountability.
Wapi likes za Benjamin Nzulu
Don’t allow a man to reject you twice!!
Ladies If you give them a second chance after ghosting you, you are telling them they can always go and come back as they like. That is so true.
@Nickolas Samir You should feel ashamed of yourself for doing such a bad thing. You are a bad boy Nickolas.
AM FROM UGANDA BUT GUYZ I LOVE THIS MAN.HE NEVER DISAPOINT US.ALWAYS FULL OF WISDOM🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗MUCH LOVE FROM🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬
Me too..
I just don't know how God brought this clip to me
Okitgela @jackietusiime
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Ugandan too
I support wat u r saying
OK I love him too..
I like this man
His daughters are really lucky
We are too, to have you
😂😂😂 I love the way people say Zulu is wise. He sure is but has gone through his share of relationship pain definitely to be able to give such advice. It's just life.
bana...lol...people appreciate the wisdom but forget there's a kabackstory that was full of mistakes and pain but hey cha muhimu ni growth
@@barbaramacharia2493 😂😂😂"cha muhimu"
@@barbaramacharia2493 true lakini
Yeah and he’s mistakes made him wiser and him giving the advices make us not to make the mistake he made.
Wisdom comes with experience and from God.
Some men ghost you when it becomes obvious to him 1. You are not going to have sex with him.
2. When he realise you are too much for him.
I like the first one!!
@sharon .. This is nothing but the Truth
You ladies keep lying to yourselves. Sad
Too much for him 😂😂😂
Too much in what tense?like does one become too handy for him to handle or emotional?
Benji I am forced to comment after I couldn't hold back to the too much wisdom you're imparting in us as women. Thank you and may The most High God bless you. We need Benjamins as men.
You let a ghost remain a ghost..... don't associate with the "dead"!
😂😂
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This guy knows the bible so well, he clearly get this wisdom from God
Sometimes I ghost not because I was fake or anything but it is the realization of lack of mutual effort and clarity is obscured from the woman. So I save myself from the emotional breakdown because I would have well articulated my intentions and clarified them but still they seem not to be reaching the right ears. On the other side I'm generally an overthinker so a woman who can't communicate clearly put's me in an emotional rollercoaster so to avoid this I pull back because I expect the same clarity from here be it rejection or acceptance.
If this topic was there like 6years ago I’d be in a better place and made better choices. Full of Wisdom
Ugandan here.......
I always follow both Switch TV and Benjamin
He sure is experienced and open and that's so amazing .
Ladies also ghost when a man is not defining the relationship we are afraid to invest our emotions too much and then head nowhere we prefer to quit now that being a lady you cant explain you leaving because they are not opening up & this ghosting thing is inhuman someone mature should communicate.
Shes such a Lovely interviewer , jst perfect fo this talk show...
Veeery good job she does
In England, Benjamin keep educating us, I like the way you connect real life experiences with biblical stories, Asante!
She’s so beautiful
Don’t give people trust on credit! May I always remember!😅
Amen Sister!
Yaani am a kenyan na sijawahi fika huku ....am disappointed at myself 😑💔💔 and their are Uganda people here ❤
Benjamin Zulu needs to come to Namibia after COVID-19, wisdom
Namibian here,asseblief tog,he needs to
He belongs to Kenya
😂 very true, the struggle is real here
Some of what Benjamin reveals about men is very difficult for women to accept, but unfortunately that is how some men think. Women take this opportunity to learn. As he says, play your role as a goalkeeper very well so you are not left holding the loss of the team
When i saw ghosting..... i was scared to hear it... then booom!!! facts as always. love this show. Thanks Benjamin for empowering us with knowldge.
All the way from south africa...I love khenya
This show and this man is a gem!
This man is Amazing, I can listen to him over and over again,
I think the chemistry between two people who shared sex, secrets and alot ...its just hard to know what really eats them up... relationships are different... ✌ all we need is be wise and respect ourselves
I had an ex who literally disguised himself to be what I said I was looking for. Upon parting ways, the true him came out....let me say he wasn't who he claimed to be, the animal came of the cage. 🤓🤓🤓🤓
So, don't give off your cards.
Oh God !I wish I came upon this sometime back.am blessed by this show
Am from Uganda but I love you guys coz I learnt a lot from you guys
Mr Zulu ...l am Tanaka ...when are you going to come to ZIMBABWE 🇿🇼.....#l like your sense of humour.....
Excellent show,so much wisdom on both Joyce and Benjamin.
Benjamin you are so informed and educated about love. Thanks
I was ghosted and I did exactly what Benjamin said. Trust me it helps
Coz men have several options to juggle if you start playing too hard to get he will drop you and focus on the other options at this point the guy is not looking for a girl to marry
Excellent show ma'am Joyce
Sending you lots of love from Nigeria
Seeeema... 👏👏👏 Benjamin
Your wisdom is always ooozing , looking forward to hear from you again and again 🔥🔥🔥🔥
Joyce looks so good in specks
I think men ghost sometimes to keep the door open. He wont come out with it and tell a girl he is leaving for such such a reason so he can come back if whatever hes leaving her for dosent work out.
You get what you tolerate that was huge!!!
Mr Benjamin is very wise. Love this show.
Wooow! Very intelligent conversation.
thanks benjamin. you have just answered my long time question. Joyce have this topic " why do they leave and then few months later come back?" after the complex damage already done
Never date before you know yourself as a woman... Eiiish... Especially at 22 or something...eiiish. how sometimes life can be messy!
Surely Bejamin & Joyce, thanks for this topic. Every thing is on point, God bless you.
Personally i ghosted her coz she kept mentioning her exes all the time, I got bored
😂😂😂
Wow powerful Mr Zulu...much love from Zambia 🇿🇲🇿🇲
I love the show that Zulu Benjamin is blessed with wisdom .Joyce u too are the best presenter.i love u
Some ghost you to seek attention to remind you they still exist after you severally ignore them 😂😂😂...so they waiting for you to notice and say something.
But thats sort of cowardice
🤣 🤣 🤣 Then you totally loss the little interest you had and you block and move on. Speak your mind.
Lol they forever remain as ghosts
Wao i love your show am glad you answered my question at last
Me Zulu I envie you my request from you is to organize a women conference a special single ladies who are looking forward into a permanent relationship
There are men who prey on single mothers and have bad intentions when it comes to their children. So, keeping a child a secret in the very beginning might not be a bad thing. That way child predators will be less likely to pursue someone who doesn’t appear to be a good target.
Hi peace
Where did you get this from? How can you hide a child because you are afraid the man can have bad intentions toward the child? Doesn't make sense to me. I don't know what type of men you been dealing but that is nonsense.
This episode is just too funny ......there is no register. I wasn’t counting 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😢I really needed this ...thanks
Watching from United Arab Emirates.
I love this guy. Truth bombs all the way.
Why would a man worth his salt ask how many men a girl has slept with? It does not matter unless it has an influence in your relationship like if there are children
Don't wonder ask men if they ask that question
I needed to hear this...
Covered quite everything really
I love this show thank you.
Always good messages
Man you are more than right
Zulu never disappoint. I love the show
Great show, thanx Zulu n wangeci
Wangeci is who?
Joyce Omondi is her name
@@wanjirukarago9308 hahahaha 😂😂😂
Wanjiru Karago 🤣🤣🤣
I understand why you'd think her name is wangeci... Wangeci is the lady that asked.. the interviewer is Joyce
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Very very very extremely 100% right.
Benjamin has explained well. Let me add you some more reasons as I know them based on experience in therapy and marriage as well.
Men leave with self reasons
1. Not compatible
2. Not ready to settle
3. His X coming back
4. Low sperms count
5. Ghosts of the past-Fear
6. His parents/siblings pressure
7. Mum's boy
8. Living a lie
9. Age factor-inferiority complex
10. Sickness
Men leave, caused by the woman
1. She wants to settle he is not ready
2. He discovers that she slept with his brother or best friend or relative
3. She has refused to change her attitude, particular recurrent trait etc
4. Not improving on bed delivery
5. Keeps referring on his X in comparison to the incumbent
6. Discovers that she is after what he has not who he is
7. Dressing and grooming styles he doesn't like
8. Drinking/Clubbing habits
9. Weak Morals not ready to change
10. Hard to change or improve in future
If you need any specific item expounded, please ask I will respond with details.
1,2,3 and 4
7 touched me
Mama yao OK. Is it 7 of men or seven of women? Cheating or separation could be caused by one or several of these reasons especially when addressed severally but no change
@@balancedviewpoint7418 7 for men
Ooh, OK. It is one of the major causes by the way. Often it is the boy who refuses to grow out of the mama and take responsibility as an independent person. He never focuses to his own destiny but relies on his mother to shape it, sadly
Think about it. If he cares so much about ur past then is he the real one for u? Iwould have a problem if u are dwelling on my past if it is negative. Gods grace abounds and it is God u looking at when i now change to a better version. He also has my future. Man can go sit down if he is perturbed by my x life.
Thank you for your channel joyce, u r amazing ❤
Mara where was Zulu during my young and stupid phase. I really needed his wisdom, maybe I wouldn't have made the mistakes I made.
When God says " no sex bfore marriage" it's because he knows there's unwanted pregnancies as one of the consequences. God's rules are there to protect us as a society and as a nation but majority have never understood it.
Very true. Amen sister.
But do you know you can wait and get legally married and still be left.in this life no formula.God has the script of our lives
Nn
This is awesome 😂😂😂thank you for sharing ❤
Lovely natural hair!
Loving this show
Am learning thanks guys
What if this man just realised you probably aren't interested or he feels his energy is not being reciprocated, always replying to messages late (even when online) and perhaps even being blueticks? Why should I not just pick up my pride and go?
Any woman who does that is not healthy enough for a relationship and they should work on themselves but instead of ghosting you can break up with her respectfully but firmly don't let her try to trap you with fake ptomises of change ghosting is not the answer
It's not a Diploma???!!!! Omg!
So good...
all this hes saying has happened to me. no need for closures
I can't stand seeing a Hae in my inbox😂😂😂😂. That was funny though
Ghosting doesn't have to be a relationship partner also friends in a period of two years I got ghosted by some guy we were getting to know each other he vanished I never bothered him again then this year my two female friends ghosted me one just vanished after I had posted a video on my whatsaap and I I never tagged she just overreacted and came back and texted me on FB asking if we could go out for lunch I never responded to her text and she unfriended me on FB my second female friend she was more like my bff ghosted me and came back calling me telling me her boyfriend cheated on her and she was depressed and then the last person was a guy I met online in a span of two years I ghosted by 4 people whom I cared for the most that made me learn a lesson that I should stop caring for people that much some people do not deserve my love and kindness
Thank you,,,Watch Pastor chris oyakhilome
Some men have insecurity issues.
Zulu would u to discus about ghosting by narsist person ,and do we have spirit of rejection
U finished all Benjamin n I love this show more than any others
thank you for the truth!
Thank u Mr Zulu
Wow such wisdom from Zulu
And for this ghosting guys normally comes back after 3 month
Say that again. It happened to me. The first question was...do you still love?.Really...thats being a narcissist. Always wanna make someone feel guilty. I dont play those kind of games with the dead. My heart was already at peace that you are left me😁😁😁😁. To Benjie our therapist...big up!!!!!
So interesting am hear to Learn more...
Goal keeper 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Why not pay attention to the spiritual side because before the run something must have happened in the spirit and it could on either side. Also spiritual spouses will definitely make one run or even kill.
That is another topic altogether. I watched one past TK i will look for it and try to share but if u have a partner in the spirit u never marry in physical. ua-cam.com/video/nyNQoDA2WDA/v-deo.html
@@colleenchanner8540 🤔🤔🤔
@@colleenchanner8540 true. I'm having delay in marriage because of Spirit husband
Am here from the baninas face book post
Wise words @benjamin 👌👌👌
Thanks for sharing.
Why don't you allow your vedios to be saved offline
A baby should come after the marriage not before...
'Should!' how about when it does
JOYCE UR BLESSED WITH A BEAUTIFUL VOICE I LOVE IT.
Tell that to God because he is the one causing conception. A lot of married women washed out their fetus when they were single and now their wombs cant bare a child ...so u tell me about should or shouldnt. Jesus loves childrenhe didnt single out the ones born in wedlock from one night stands...
You mean "sex" not the baby because people are getting raped and get pregnant.
@@thulisilemaphanga1732 Both
Holy Ghost fire 🔥
He is so good
You get what you tolerate
It is a big disservice to both men and women to say that men always ghosts women because of their own fault and that women are completely innocents angels. Good women are well aware of other women's faults and strive not to be like them. Making such a bold statement not only will make gullible men think that they are always at fault but also it will make women who have a really nasty behavior continue the way they are without any self-awareness or accountability.
Dope
Highest level of simping