One day people will hear a message and will not jump to twisting what they heard into negativity , this woman is not coming out of malice or being judgemental . She is speaking from love and from her knowledge as a woman . She is not trying to kick any body down for their decision instead she is attempting to educate so that woman take back control of their bodies , lives and birthing experiences. I recently had an unassisted homebirth and because I had faith in my temple , in my baby and of course my creator, it was beyond beautiful . I regret nothing and feel empowerd more than ever before. Why ?? Because what I did took strength that I didn't know I had , courage , patience ,and faith .This is something my ancestors took part in before they were colonized by invaders from European countries . I am bringing back our independence and freedom from Babylon so that my children know that we do not need to depend on those who tried to enslave us for anything. We only need to be in tune and in alignment with the Almighty creator . Because we were made to birth nations.
There is more money and less time involved in a C-Section so doctors take advantage of those two things if they can. Every woman of child bearing age should watch this video. Thank you for the message, it's very important.
I agree. It's so sad how doctors take advantage of women. Some doctors have a 70% c section rate. It's for the doctors own gain. If there are any complications from the c scection, doctors rarely get in trouble.
A very pleasant and intelligent woman, on stage and in real life. Feel blessed to know her. A father since April and can say that my son is the best thing I've accomplished so far...... Note:due to mental problems my wife had to have a C section. She was more than happy with it. . ❤️👶🇩🇪
If you've had a c-section, don't let this affect you. I truly believe that natural birth is a terrific experience, because I had one. And I think everyone should push for a natural birth if it's right for them. But c-sections are necessary sometimes. It's not often that they are necessary with the help of a midwife or doula, but they ARE there for a reason. C-sections are life saving medicine. Having a c-section doesn't mean that you will love your baby any less. It doesn't mean that your baby will develop life long complications. It means that you and your baby both get to live, when you may not have otherwise.
Speeches like this that encourage natural birth aren't meant to shame people who have had to have c-section births. It's to empower women and have them understand that they are strong enough to try for a natural birth. If it wasn't for c-sections I wouldn't be alive right now because I had my neck over the opening of my moms cervix and the cord tightly around my neck. When I came out I was blue and limp. The wonderful thing is that this isn't usually the case
And then there are people like me who were born by c-section, even though a natural birth was possible. My mom didn't feel her braxton hicks contractions so the doctors thought she needed a cesarean. Smh
then why are most hospitals now in the USA and Brazil and more are up to 50% cesarean rates? Hardly emergencies. and 99% of the time (literally) that people think they were "saved" because of the surgery, they were in danger because of the interventions and ignorance in the first place. The C-section rate is more like fear induced choices, and uneducated professionals who know nothing about birth, our bodies and babies and women who have no clue, havent been taught, haven't searched for the truth on their own. The truth about birth and the way this all works get to be shown, talked about, and the women who come together to learn and decide to share forward all this information, regardless of how they gave birth, is the only way we can SHIFT. xo
The rate of c-sections that are not needed far exceeds those that are life saving. That's a fact. Women decide to have a c-section often before trying natural labor. Or they are generally led to believe natural labor is a horrible experience they are to fear and that in itself causes complications. C-section is just what it is. How we get to a c-section is what matters. We shouldn't be stopped from exposing the lack of empowerment towards women as capable of giving birth naturally.
Thanks for this. I am 37 weeks now and have a determined high risk birth so trying to go through deciding what is best medically and intuitively. I was finding it so hard to break through the confusion that the consultants plans were making me feel but have now found my courage to trust myself and also take medical advise instead of being overwhelmed. Truly, thanks
And I was born naturally and do not have a great relationship with my mother. So yeah, you're right, this is not an accurate gauge of mother-child relationships.
I’m not so sure how I feel about this. It’s like you are implying that induction and assisted deliveries are choices? I had a traumatic birth after a long IVF journey which involved 4 miscarriages. I was induced at 41 weeks and 1 day because I was huge and on the brink of preeclampsia. I tried to push baby out after a 24 hour labour but she wouldn’t come out. They advised forceps which we went onto try but they were still unable to get her out so we moved to emergency c-section. My baby was 10lbs6oz (4.8kg). She was rushed away shortly after birth as she didn’t breathe when she was born. It was a pretty awful experience but it certainly wasn’t my choice! Please be mindful when praising ‘natural births’ - those are still incredibly testing births but remain in the ‘lucky’ category. I left hospital with a tear, horrific c-section wound and kidney failure. 9 months later, I’m still recovering. Again, this was situational and not choice - and, even if it had been choice, that choice should be respected. Telling me my baby will have bad health outcomes later in life adds another unnecessary layer of stress to the story.
IVF moms are supposed to have c-section delivery for the safety of that miracle baby. But you're very strong mom for trying natural birth with 4.8 kg baby.
I have never commented on a talk before but feel that I have to with this one. I went into labour naturally, my contractions were intense from the start and 38 hours later I was still at 2cm because my body wasn't working. At that point I demanded a C section for the safety of my child. We have the strongest bond that I can imagine. Mothers should not be made to feel bad for decisions that they make for the best of reasons. I would have loved to have had a natural birth. If I ever have another child I will have an elected section because I would not risk putting my child in danger again if my body were to respond in the same way. Mothers get a hard enough time with stories that constantly make us feel guilty without the medical profession adding to this. I'm sure that very few sections are carried out without there being a need to do so.
My labor was 60 hours long, had a healthy 10lb baby, VBA2C. Long labors are not uncommon nor require csections. Its fine to own your choice, but dont spread false fear that a long labor requires csection for the health of your baby.
@@coreysmith7379 it's not false fear. There are plenty of times a C-section is necessary when the labor is long, the baby is too big, the heart rate drops..these things do happen.
@@valmacclinchy what statistics do you have to support this claim? Just because c-sections are happening, doesn’t mean it’s necessary. There is so much depth to birth. Please do not support fear mongering when you have not read the research or studied the reality of birth.
Great message, except i wish her last sentence would be directed at medical professionals instead of women. It seems like it is women's choices that are driving the extremely high cesarean rates, but it is not. It is the culture of birth in the medical setting that is driving unnecessary interventions, which are leading to the cascade of interventions that cause cesarean to become the only option. And it is mothers who want to have a natural birth who are left disappointed and scarred.
I can tell you right now that induced pregnancy and anesthetics do nothing to limit this bond between mother and child. My mom had both and we are very close and she is actually kinda overbearing at times, but I don't think that we don't have a strong bond. Plus, I don't even remember being born, so how could such a thing possibly have an affect?
This woman, an experienced midwife, is telling us that it does have an effect. Who are you to flatly deny this effect? With absolutely no evidence given apart from anecdotal? The mucus isn’t pushed out of the baby’s lungs in Caesarean sections, for one thing. Breathing, therefore, is harder. These babies also have more trouble with breastfeeding. Please do some research before stating opinion as fact next time.
What do you say to someone who is 6ft tall, partner is 6'7 and our baby is 10lbs. In the womb right now... In the 99th percentile. I have a history of blood clots.. I'm 36weeks pregnant w my 1st baby and my Dr. are medically recommending a cesarian section? I follow a holistic lifestyle my goal was to have a water birth at home but I'm told it's too risky with my medical history. What do you suggest? I plan to wait until labor kicks in naturally but I just feel sad already because I don't see myself being able to push out a 12-13lb. Baby.
So what happened for you? I was regrettably induced but do not regret my c section. Sometimes drs are wrong about weight also. They told me at 37 weeks that my son was 8 lbs. He was born 1 day shy of 42 weeks at 6.5 lbs.
I planned a lovely safe home birth. I HAD to have a section. So I've negatively impacted my childs life at the moment of birth? Thanks for that, as if mum's didn't have it hard enough!
Laura downing please do not take offense to the speaker. At 5:07 she did state that there are complications that cannot be avoided, which leads to a C-section. The speaker is referring to how inducing, c-sections are the norm nowadays and how that affects the baby. Please watch 'the business of being born' and you'll get a deeper understanding of where the speaker is coming from.
Why did you even plan for a "lovely, safe home birth" if you didn't feel there were benefits to your child entering the world that way? These days, the rate of C-sections is triple what it needs to be. This is about unnecessary C-sections, inductions and other interventions, not necessary ones.
It's sad that once you have 2 c sections your at risk when you have a natural child birth . If it was medically unnecessary to begin with if she ever wants more kids runs her chances of a natural birth .
Yeah offcoarse a midwife would say these things...😖 I have had terrible experiences with midwifes. This woman should not be lecturing women about c-sections. She’s not even a doctor! Íf something should happen a a woman will die because she cant do anything really...
I. Live strong I think it's more towards unnecessary intervention, not necessary csections. I don't think ANY reasonable healthcare professional would imply that a mother should not have a necessary intervention. The fact is birth has been medicalised and treated like a disease, when thatvis not always necessary.
For the majority of women, childbirth is a natural process and not a sickness or emergency that needs the presence of a doctor. If that were the case, the human species wouldn't have survived. The presence of a midwife or doula has a statistically significant benefit.
Natural birth is super traumatic for the baby in comparison with a c-section. I don’t think it is a needed preparation for the world. I agree with natural, but I actually consider c-section to be safer for the baby.
Stadistics mix the emergency C-sections with the planned ones. Even from my small circle I know a few moms that went for a planned C-S because it was their preference and the doctors encountered undetected complications that would have risked the baby, had they try natural. On the other hand, I don’t know anyone who had a bad experience for the baby with a C-S. I was born naturally even though my mom didn’t fully dilate and the outcome was traumatic for both of us. The safety of the mother is another topic, but since you didn’t contribute with any information, I still consider a C-S to be safer for the baby 🤷♀️ change my mind!
Party of the psychology of c-section babies is that they don't know how to finish things themselves; they expect someone else to finish things up, do the last mile (so to speak), etc. They can get angry when someone doesn't meet their expectations and accuse that person of not doing "their" job. They don't take responsibility for the whole thing of whatever is their responsibility.
One day people will hear a message and will not jump to twisting what they heard into negativity , this woman is not coming out of malice or being judgemental . She is speaking from love and from her knowledge as a woman . She is not trying to kick any body down for their decision instead she is attempting to educate so that woman take back control of their bodies , lives and birthing experiences. I recently had an unassisted homebirth and because I had faith in my temple , in my baby and of course my creator, it was beyond beautiful . I regret nothing and feel empowerd more than ever before. Why ?? Because what I did took strength that I didn't know I had , courage , patience ,and faith .This is something my ancestors took part in before they were colonized by invaders from European countries . I am bringing back our independence and freedom from Babylon so that my children know that we do not need to depend on those who tried to enslave us for anything. We only need to be in tune and in alignment with the Almighty creator . Because we were made to birth nations.
There is more money and less time involved in a C-Section so doctors take advantage of those two things if they can. Every woman of child bearing age should watch this video. Thank you for the message, it's very important.
pretty heavy statement you made here,
I really hope you are aware of what you are saying
You are so right in your statement @TheMinnie419
I agree. It's so sad how doctors take advantage of women. Some doctors have a 70% c section rate. It's for the doctors own gain. If there are any complications from the c scection, doctors rarely get in trouble.
I love this talk. ♡ I had a natural home birth with my midwife and doula. I Love being at home. I will have home births for all my babies ♡♡♡
I was super blessed to have a 100% natural birth. Best experience of my life.
A very pleasant and intelligent woman, on stage and in real life. Feel blessed to know her. A father since April and can say that my son is the best thing I've accomplished so far...... Note:due to mental problems my wife had to have a C section. She was more than happy with it. . ❤️👶🇩🇪
If you've had a c-section, don't let this affect you. I truly believe that natural birth is a terrific experience, because I had one. And I think everyone should push for a natural birth if it's right for them. But c-sections are necessary sometimes. It's not often that they are necessary with the help of a midwife or doula, but they ARE there for a reason. C-sections are life saving medicine. Having a c-section doesn't mean that you will love your baby any less. It doesn't mean that your baby will develop life long complications. It means that you and your baby both get to live, when you may not have otherwise.
Speeches like this that encourage natural birth aren't meant to shame people who have had to have c-section births. It's to empower women and have them understand that they are strong enough to try for a natural birth. If it wasn't for c-sections I wouldn't be alive right now because I had my neck over the opening of my moms cervix and the cord tightly around my neck. When I came out I was blue and limp. The wonderful thing is that this isn't usually the case
And then there are people like me who were born by c-section, even though a natural birth was possible. My mom didn't feel her braxton hicks contractions so the doctors thought she needed a cesarean. Smh
then why are most hospitals now in the USA and Brazil and more are up to 50% cesarean rates? Hardly emergencies. and 99% of the time (literally) that people think they were "saved" because of the surgery, they were in danger because of the interventions and ignorance in the first place. The C-section rate is more like fear induced choices, and uneducated professionals who know nothing about birth, our bodies and babies and women who have no clue, havent been taught, haven't searched for the truth on their own. The truth about birth and the way this all works get to be shown, talked about, and the women who come together to learn and decide to share forward all this information, regardless of how they gave birth, is the only way we can SHIFT. xo
The rate of c-sections that are not needed far exceeds those that are life saving. That's a fact. Women decide to have a c-section often before trying natural labor. Or they are generally led to believe natural labor is a horrible experience they are to fear and that in itself causes complications. C-section is just what it is. How we get to a c-section is what matters. We shouldn't be stopped from exposing the lack of empowerment towards women as capable of giving birth naturally.
Thanks for this. I am 37 weeks now and have a determined high risk birth so trying to go through deciding what is best medically and intuitively. I was finding it so hard to break through the confusion that the consultants plans were making me feel but have now found my courage to trust myself and also take medical advise instead of being overwhelmed.
Truly, thanks
Rhoda Campbell best of luck! Hope you'll have a nice time with your newborn ;)
I'm a c-section baby and my relationship with my mother is amazing, we couldn't be closer.
yes, but you are a bit awkward aren't you Athena 😉
And I was born naturally and do not have a great relationship with my mother. So yeah, you're right, this is not an accurate gauge of mother-child relationships.
absolutely love this talk
Thanku so much for sharing your experience, midwife bettina
thank you so much!
you are a smart lady
I’m not so sure how I feel about this. It’s like you are implying that induction and assisted deliveries are choices? I had a traumatic birth after a long IVF journey which involved 4 miscarriages. I was induced at 41 weeks and 1 day because I was huge and on the brink of preeclampsia. I tried to push baby out after a 24 hour labour but she wouldn’t come out. They advised forceps which we went onto try but they were still unable to get her out so we moved to emergency c-section. My baby was 10lbs6oz (4.8kg). She was rushed away shortly after birth as she didn’t breathe when she was born. It was a pretty awful experience but it certainly wasn’t my choice! Please be mindful when praising ‘natural births’ - those are still incredibly testing births but remain in the ‘lucky’ category. I left hospital with a tear, horrific c-section wound and kidney failure. 9 months later, I’m still recovering. Again, this was situational and not choice - and, even if it had been choice, that choice should be respected. Telling me my baby will have bad health outcomes later in life adds another unnecessary layer of stress to the story.
IVF moms are supposed to have c-section delivery for the safety of that miracle baby. But you're very strong mom for trying natural birth with 4.8 kg baby.
I was hoping this was going to be longer! It was just starting to get good.
I have never commented on a talk before but feel that I have to with this one. I went into labour naturally, my contractions were intense from the start and 38 hours later I was still at 2cm because my body wasn't working. At that point I demanded a C section for the safety of my child. We have the strongest bond that I can imagine. Mothers should not be made to feel bad for decisions that they make for the best of reasons. I would have loved to have had a natural birth. If I ever have another child I will have an elected section because I would not risk putting my child in danger again if my body were to respond in the same way. Mothers get a hard enough time with stories that constantly make us feel guilty without the medical profession adding to this. I'm sure that very few sections are carried out without there being a need to do so.
That's why she says at 4:58 that we all know there are situations where interventions are necessary or a cesarean section is the only option.
Mine was 58 hours... mine was super slow as well but i was still able to have a natural birth.
My labor was 60 hours long, had a healthy 10lb baby, VBA2C. Long labors are not uncommon nor require csections. Its fine to own your choice, but dont spread false fear that a long labor requires csection for the health of your baby.
@@coreysmith7379 it's not false fear. There are plenty of times a C-section is necessary when the labor is long, the baby is too big, the heart rate drops..these things do happen.
@@valmacclinchy what statistics do you have to support this claim? Just because c-sections are happening, doesn’t mean it’s necessary. There is so much depth to birth. Please do not support fear mongering when you have not read the research or studied the reality of birth.
Thanku so much for sharing your experience, midwife bruttina
This was beautiful and very informative thank you!
Loved the speech.
Great message, except i wish her last sentence would be directed at medical professionals instead of women. It seems like it is women's choices that are driving the extremely high cesarean rates, but it is not. It is the culture of birth in the medical setting that is driving unnecessary interventions, which are leading to the cascade of interventions that cause cesarean to become the only option. And it is mothers who want to have a natural birth who are left disappointed and scarred.
wonderful! 😊 Great speech!
I can tell you right now that induced pregnancy and anesthetics do nothing to limit this bond between mother and child. My mom had both and we are very close and she is actually kinda overbearing at times, but I don't think that we don't have a strong bond. Plus, I don't even remember being born, so how could such a thing possibly have an affect?
The effects of trauma aren't limited to what you can remember. That is basic psychology.
This woman, an experienced midwife, is telling us that it does have an effect. Who are you to flatly deny this effect? With absolutely no evidence given apart from anecdotal?
The mucus isn’t pushed out of the baby’s lungs in Caesarean sections, for one thing. Breathing, therefore, is harder. These babies also have more trouble with breastfeeding. Please do some research before stating opinion as fact next time.
Fabulous!
thank you!)
What do you say to someone who is 6ft tall, partner is 6'7 and our baby is 10lbs. In the womb right now... In the 99th percentile. I have a history of blood clots.. I'm 36weeks pregnant w my 1st baby and my Dr. are medically recommending a cesarian section? I follow a holistic lifestyle my goal was to have a water birth at home but I'm told it's too risky with my medical history.
What do you suggest? I plan to wait until labor kicks in naturally but I just feel sad already because I don't see myself being able to push out a 12-13lb. Baby.
So what happened for you? I was regrettably induced but do not regret my c section. Sometimes drs are wrong about weight also. They told me at 37 weeks that my son was 8 lbs. He was born 1 day shy of 42 weeks at 6.5 lbs.
I planned a lovely safe home birth. I HAD to have a section. So I've negatively impacted my childs life at the moment of birth? Thanks for that, as if mum's didn't have it hard enough!
Laura downing please do not take offense to the speaker. At 5:07 she did state that there are complications that cannot be avoided, which leads to a C-section. The speaker is referring to how inducing, c-sections are the norm nowadays and how that affects the baby. Please watch 'the business of being born' and you'll get a deeper understanding of where the speaker is coming from.
Not if the expectant Mothers has severe preeclampsia. Try a little research, Jack.
Most c-sections are avoidable. Even with certain maneuvers during birth. Google "spinning babies ". But SOME are not.
Why did you even plan for a "lovely, safe home birth" if you didn't feel there were benefits to your child entering the world that way? These days, the rate of C-sections is triple what it needs to be. This is about unnecessary C-sections, inductions and other interventions, not necessary ones.
Laura Greenbank ok, now you're just looking to be insulted
Were did she get her numbers? 50%.......
Michelle Bennett it depends on the country.. If I remember correctly Brazil has a really high c section rate. 80-90% in private hospitals.
It's sad that once you have 2 c sections your at risk when you have a natural child birth . If it was medically unnecessary to begin with if she ever wants more kids runs her chances of a natural birth .
its me ms holly
Well no one just chooses to have a c section. You only have one if you need one for whatever reason, often life threatening.
Yeah offcoarse a midwife would say these things...😖 I have had terrible experiences with midwifes. This woman should not be lecturing women about c-sections. She’s not even a doctor! Íf something should happen a
a woman will die because she cant do anything really...
I. Live strong I think it's more towards unnecessary intervention, not necessary csections. I don't think ANY reasonable healthcare professional would imply that a mother should not have a necessary intervention. The fact is birth has been medicalised and treated like a disease, when thatvis not always necessary.
For the majority of women, childbirth is a natural process and not a sickness or emergency that needs the presence of a doctor. If that were the case, the human species wouldn't have survived. The presence of a midwife or doula has a statistically significant benefit.
Natural birth is super traumatic for the baby in comparison with a c-section. I don’t think it is a needed preparation for the world. I agree with natural, but I actually consider c-section to be safer for the baby.
This is just. So wrong
Stadistics mix the emergency C-sections with the planned ones. Even from my small circle I know a few moms that went for a planned C-S because it was their preference and the doctors encountered undetected complications that would have risked the baby, had they try natural. On the other hand, I don’t know anyone who had a bad experience for the baby with a C-S. I was born naturally even though my mom didn’t fully dilate and the outcome was traumatic for both of us. The safety of the mother is another topic, but since you didn’t contribute with any information, I still consider a C-S to be safer for the baby 🤷♀️ change my mind!
Party of the psychology of c-section babies is that they don't know how to finish things themselves; they expect someone else to finish things up, do the last mile (so to speak), etc. They can get angry when someone doesn't meet their expectations and accuse that person of not doing "their" job. They don't take responsibility for the whole thing of whatever is their responsibility.