Being an introvert I completely agree with these things. We introverts can have unstopable conversation with the person we are comfortable with and the one who don't judges us.
You are totally right! I used to date a very shy and introvert girl and after we both felt comfortable with each other we could talk for hours every time while walking. And there was never any judging either. It felt great to understand and be understood.
@@balazskungazda3805 She had a fear of commitment and not enough feelings, so she wanted to stop. But she came back a few months later. We are a couple now :)
not as sad as possibly being arrested because she got drunk had sex with you left you or you broke up 5 years later you won't take her back so she accuses you of rape and because she was drunk she couldn't consent so you're guilty
Have you guys ever had this feeling like all of a sudden you become all moody for no reason and you want your own space and no attention from anyone and so you start shutting people out.. But then when the people around you notice that and when they ask you what's wrong, you become even more irritated and sometimes you wanna say, ' just don't mind me and do your own business! don't bother me, let me be in peace! ' Edited : Awww.... Thank you so much for stopping by even for a moment and replying back. Didn't expect so many likes and feedbacks.Really, it feels so nice and comforting to see all the replies and to know that there are people who actually understands and feel you. Hope you all are doing fine. :)
The main issue with being an introvert in an extroverted world, especially in 2017 is that not only is the expectation for you to be extroverted, but also extroverts don't have the time or patience to get to know you in the first place.. Everything is so fast paced, and if you can't conform or be open immediately, you're cast aside.. Yet extroverts complain that nobody will take the time to understand them, yet they don't take the time to understand us..
Yeah, it's not one way for sure. Hopefully, this video will be a 4:43 min way for an extrovert to understand better the needs of introverts. We might make one for extroverts as well. So if you're an extrovert watching this, feel free to send us in your needs!
There's also this issue where people will take the time to know you, they will be understanding and you'll be opened up to them but then they'll just push you aside and hang out with other extroverts leaving you alone again.
So many people talk about politics meaninglessly, in a way to just push their point forward rather than allow for a reconsidering of their standpoint. It's conversation, but is fruitless.
that has happened to me plenty of times as well, I understand exactly how you feel. There have been a few girls who apparently had crushes on me, but the one that asked me to prom got a nasty rejection (I said “I’ll inject botulinum toxin before I go out with ANYONE” notice I said “anyone” not “you” is specific). From that I was kinda humiliated in from of the class by her and people were talking about me in other classes. So I don’t like the idea of being in a relationship right now.
I have an introvert boyfriend and he doesn't wanna talk to me rn, so i decided to watch this kind of educational videos to understand him more. ❤️ It helps alot. Thanks.
Cupid I do my best never to assume anything or do any kind of accusing towards someone. I always try to learn as much as I can in order to treat someone right- in the way that they want to be treated. I think it’s amazing to get to know people for who they truly are, rather than forcing them into someone they’re not. This video provided me with a lot of information in order for me to look at this with a new light and reach a clearer understanding
@@mulluckbrot6569 introverts are not assholes so why do they need an excuse? you just see us as one. moreover the video did not once say that introverts are better people but finally is showing what they need
People mistake us as loners. We value relationship with people with whom we can have deep meaningful conversation . We want to be with people infront of whom we can open up without being judged. We can be the most talkative people with people we are comfortable with . And the pleasure we get being left alone with our thoughts...wish you extoverts could feel it.
Im a Introvert Its hard for me to easily open up to a new place with new people but when I find someone that is kind I can get a little more talkative heheh.......~ I dont understand why Extrotverts think we're Emos T^T
11. Text memes. This method of communication lets them know you're thinking about them and as a bonus does not require lengthy communication from your introvert.
My introverted bf never shared what he expected. Which caused many fights. Even guys don't seem to be open about what they want. So, I started playing couple quiz games like "Lovify" with him. Where I can guess what he wants, and if I'm wrong, I now know exactly what he wants from me. It was a fun and easy way for us to get closer ❤
How do you know a introvert man's display of affection? I'm an extrovert. I'm dating a introvert man. We've seen each other for two mos now, but I'm the only one who is verbal about how they feel. He doesn't even like for me to buy gifts which I still do as it is deserving for him. I have noticed it seems as though he goes out of his way, but I'm not sure if that's just being a polite person or if that is him liking me. In a sense I'm confused pertaining how to tell his feelings.
@@firecrackerbaby3364 Speaking as an introvert, I believe him going out of his way is a sign he likes you. I hate going the extra mile for anyone, unless I'm particularly fond of, or loyal to, them.
Treasure that extra mile, that he can do for you. And make sure give him time to recharge after going that extra mile, if he distances, do something alone, or even do nothing alone. That is his time recharging, dont confuse it as he doesnt want to be with you. If he will see you respecting and accepting and understanding he will open up to you eventually. Especially he is a man, we dont usually tell other people our problem and thoughts, much more for an introvert man, dont lose patience asking him "you can tell me everything but no pressure i will listen."
1. meaningful conversation 2. less stimulation environments 3. take it slow 4. be understanding 5. provide mental support (play the best friend role) 6. read between the lines 7. Respect their space 8. spend quality time together (it's crucial) 9. Fully accept them (assure them you love them for who they are) 10. don't assume Couldn't agree to it more!! ♥️💯
Grandmaツ literally everyone I know acts like I'm crazy or there's something wrong with me just because im not as social as them or I don't think like an extrovert all my relationships we're like that except one
Grandmaツ yeah people ask me why i’m so quiet in class sometimes. I just can’t get myself to tell them i’m an introvert or judt a quiet person. Once i told someone and they just had this weird expression on their face.
Nah bro, sometimes I am incapable of expressing my thoughts. I don't know how to say what I am trying to say, and then when I do say it I end up saying what I wasn't thinking. I hope this makes some kind of sense
I do the same thing, it can be extremely frustrating because people either think I mean something I don't or I don't make any sense. It's especially hard expressing emotions towards people you care about because it's like you almost panic if you're unsure what to expect
I totally understand your situation . Just recently I had been through this same thing . I was talking with my boyfriend and something came up , I didn't know what to say and ended up saying something really stupid and something that I didn't mean to and that resulted in a big fight . My mouth and my mind never gets along , I guess .
@@soupertlh2674 I agree with you. I am an introvert, but the problem is... we tend to shy away from talking... we try to get to know a person first. we take time to gain trust. I understand where you're coming from though!
I agree totally, at this point of time my relationship is crushing down cuz my bf doesn't understand me a bit, I wish he could see this video for him to know me well since I can't explain better
@@dianagyimah3607 don't say that, sooner or later you will meet the right person, just wait hehe, like me I'm waiting for almost 2 years, and till now i don't have a boyfriend hahaha
As a guy with an introverted girlfriend I found this very helpful. She likes to distance herself and take time to think which I mistake as her being upset. I greatly appreciate knowing that she could just be taking it slow and trying to collect more information.
as an introvert married to an extrovert, it took a very long time for her to understand what my alone time meant, lol. if i may make a recommendation, something that helped us. if she is off alone, make a small effort to show you're still thinking about her while she is recharging. and i do mean small, lol. just stopping and asking if she's thirsty or wants a snack can open up an opportunity to help her brainstorm. and if she doesn't need anything, remind her that you're still there if she does. it lets her know you are still putting in the effort and that can make a huge difference in how things play out.
Go get 'er buddy, wouldn't want to disappoint her if I were you since I am an introvert myself and I know all too well how terrible it is to have a lover who doesn't understand your personality
I've been dating an introvert for almost a year now. And somehow, intuitive, I do all those things mentioned in the video. And you're right. Ever since I became softer and more understanding towards my girlfriend, she kept showing more and more gratitude and love towards me. I wish all of you, introverts and others, meaningful life and a lot of love ♡
Waa you are an amazing bf , am an introvert and ma ex boyfriend was super extrovert, he used to force me to socialize more , when I ask him i wanna alone time, he used to laugh and say are u human , when I tell him I don't wanna anyone to know anything about our relationship he will get mad and say what is wrong with y , he used to called me cold, bossy , too much independent we use to fight but i used to ignore him , but i finally broke up with him god he was such an a** anyway good luck to you and your gf
I will do this from now on thankyou so much for this hope i have faith in our relationship if i knew she’s introvert in early stage i immediately adjust and study a lot of things for our good😊❤ communication still have time to make this happened i hope God will guide me as well again thank you for this wonderful words i will do this and making a lot of perseverance🙏
Yeah I am Introvert. It is hard for me to get into relationships. In fact, I never even dated a guy before and I am almost 25 years old. Never Dated. Never been in a sexual relationship.I haven't found the right person and It's been pretty hard lately. It gets to the point when I see my older sister who is engaged, my mom who is now with her childhood sweetheart and with pressure , especially from my other family members (Puerto Rican ) I at times feel like giving up. This video does speak true to what I want in a partner and then some but I just feel at times it is impossible.
HerDark Majesty dood, relationships are an awful lot like wine or cheese or a good wall, it takes time to be good, it may take long, but when it comes... It's the best thing ever
HerDark Majesty I myself am 20 and have only been in 1 true relationship (which was sexual). She was on the plates of both personality traits, very quiet and loathed in alone time, but was very much so a party animal. Maybe partially because she's 18, and her introverted tendancies maybe linked to her depression. At the end I think she wanted to 'be one' with her extrovert side to move past the hurt of her past and move on with herself in life (hence why she broke up with me). We did alot of solely couple things with not so much going out and stuff like that which may have contributed. I can't change who I am, introvert in and out. But I did found love after 20 years, 1st girlfriend, 1st love etc. The wait is agonising. But if you remain yourself and open up to meeting new people, regardless of personality style, it might help in bettering you and finding that person. Note: I can't get along with pure extroverts, they need some introvert in them. Maybe that's what you desire and need? :)
HerDark Majesty I feel pretty much tne same. I'm 28 and never had a date *or* girlfriend. I'm trying to find the right person for me, but may need to widen the search. I haven't given up.
Indeed i'm an introvert and my lover is an extrovert. I am thankful he is very caring and understandinh towards me. He would tell me to not listen his friend's tease as I am very overwhelmed by it a lot and told them to be quiet. He is always there for me. Buys me food and easily catches up what i'm feeling or what's happening inside my mind. He is extrovert but he tries to be an introvert when we are together. He's kind of popular in school when it comes to friends .. mine was in academics. Whenever we have a free time, he would always stay close to me and pat my head if I'm alright. He would put up a gentle smile when I look at him. Eveytime when school hours ends, he would carry my bag and get me to the bus station. Even in lunch time, he would carry my bag and knows that he cant stare at me while im eating since i would be embarrassed so he would look away until I finished eating my lunch. By entering again the classroom, he would let me sit beside him while he massages my hands and kisses them from time to time.. kind of like making it his hobby. He would also put his head on my shoulder. To some, he is like a badboy kind of vibe, but inside he's very angelic. He may be a naughty boy but when it is me. He would always consider me as his priority and would always value my words. I never thought I would have such a man! 😊😄 He's every girl's dreams' type however he is mine anyway. 😜😅 To my beloved Dave❤
So, how did your extroverted boyfiiee started your conversation back then when you're an introverted? I have a crush and I think she's introverted.Don't know what to do
@@AniGal Well we we're classmates since at the 8th grade, doesn't like him that much at that time cuz he was very naughty.. but then he made efforts on the 10th grade, his friend was also an admirer of mine so he was hesitating..in the end, he surprised me with flowers and done a lot of sincere things.. he would approach me first even tho he was very awkwarded while i silently laughed at him.. i think u should really invest in trust, time and efforts..do small simple things.. not act that grand, just simple.. we tend to like simple but memorable stuffs .. be genuine too, if ur extroverted then be extroverted.. but u have to be gentle when it comes to her, dont be noisy as we get really upset by noise 😁😂.. anyways .. be genuine when u put your hearts out to her.
@@ondongkarylle1637 Aww, that love story of yours was beautiful and cute at the same time. Looks like I'm limited to do some stuff 'coz you know, we're still in quarantine. Anyways, thank you! I really appreciate it! Stay strong for the both of you!
1. Hold meaningful conversation 2. Less stimulating environments 3. Take it slow 4. Be understanding 5. Provide mental support 6. Read between the lines 7. Respect their space 8. Spend quality time together 9. Fully accept them 10. Don't assume
I think introverts are interesting people, most of my close friends are, I don't think they need to be more "extroverted," my wife is the most introvert person i know, she often saying things like " sorry dear, I'm not really good at communicating," "sorry that I'm too shy," or "sorry that I'm boring" (in contrast that people keep telling me I talk too much and like to butt in on every conversation I think interesting), but the fact is I don't see any problem regarding her not talking as much as I do (thanks God that she isn't), I always think that she is so interesting even when she is not saying anything, I mostly talk about ideas and opinions but most people will soon not paying enough attention when I try to talk a bit deeper, but not the case with her, she remembers details more than I do, although she get frustrated a lil bit easier lol, well I don't know about other ppl, but I could not ask for better partner
I'm an introvert and I can honestly relate. My mom and older brother are extroverts and my mom always tells me to go hang out with my friends more or go outside more or just stop sitting inside. But she just doesn't get it. We have had a few arguments about this. But I just need my alone time, I would rather read a great book than go and talk about the same stuff with my friends. Of course I go outside, just not that often. My dad is an introvert and I'm so glad he is, because I would go insane if I wouldn't know another introvert! And mostly all of my friends (don't have alot of those) are extroverts! Well, the rant is over!!!
I feel like my family is made up of extroverts and I'm the only introvert. So I get what you mean. My aunt is the one who realises this. I still hang out with good friends from time to time, but I don't go out often. Even an old teacher I'm still in contact with understands and has been a helping hand.
Yeah, I get what you mean. Not trying to be mean, just saying facts, but my mom has issues with nerves. She can get annoyed and angry really quickly and that just adds up to the 'me staying home alot' argument. Sorry, for giving you all my problems, but I just wanna rant and tell someone. So... I kinda also have depression. I haven't been diagnosed by a doctor, because I sure as hell ain't telling my parents, but I have taken alot and ALOT of tests online. And all of them say that I have depression, so I'm just gonna assume I have atleast a little bit of depression. And the whole situation just breaks me. Being an introvert, having depression and to top it all of a mom that judges me for not going outside and just not being happy with me no matter what I do is hard. Oh and lets not forget I'm quite young. I have barely any friends, because they try to make plans with me and I sometimes just don't want to go, so after that happens most of the time, they drift away. All the pressure from school topping all of my problems off. And that just makes me wanna cut myself, but I'm too big of a softie to do anything (too deep, moving on).I just sometimes wish I would have someone to talk to. And I know my mom just wants the best for me (for me to go out and make friends, breath fresh air and have fun with others), but it really hurts me when she yells at me for being lazy and stuff. Oh, how could I forget, I'm also very emotional. So I just kinda always am in a dark place and all I'm asking for is happines! Great, I'm crying while writing this. So sorry again for pushing my problems to you, you can just ignore this. I just needed to let it all out!
AliceWonderland No, no, it's okay, really. My mom has her issues too, and over the years the three of us (me, Mom and aunt) have had to adjust our eating habits and are trying to help out the others. My aunt was the first one of us to go gluten free, then me, and Mom went let's say voluntarily. So now I'm anxious about eating with others since not many know I don't eat certain things. I may eat mostly raw, but meat isnt completely off the table. Mom also stresses out, but I try to help her through it, despite our many differences and the fact she also gets on my nerves. I have the worst allergies in my family and I'm the only one on the spectrum. I may not have the same conditions you have, but you seem really nice. Great, I'm getting shaky writing this. I haven't even told my friends about me being introverted, but the teacher I mentioned might already know. Now, I'm ranting almost...
Quentin Ellis Well, you are learning from the best about ranting, so I expect some rezults, honey💁🏼😂 I actually know quite alot of people who always joke about people (vegetarians, vegans etc) about being really choosy (idk if that is a word, oh well) eaters, but I never really got their point. Like the person chooses what he (she etc) wants to eat and that is their buisness, not yours (the judgemental people). And I think you should embrace it and not care about other persons opinions. I think its amazing (at first I wrote amazongs, am so gonna use that instead of 'amazing' from now on) that you control what you eat. 'Caus we all know that there are alot, like alot of people who can't and they eat alot of unhealthy snacks and junk food. And if other people pick (judge) your eating choices, then they can mind their own damn buisness! Also thanks for reading that god damn long comment. You get a star sticker for that⭐️
I *cried* watching this video. I'm an introvert, and now I understood that it's the extroverted world that's not understanding me, and I *was* trying to express myself in all the ways I could.
Everything will be fine.... Just love ur self n don't let ur self feel down..... I am also an introvert u don't always have to try making ppl understand whoever understands let them n those who don't ignore it okieee 🥰❤
My boyfriend is an introvert and I can say that it’s the best relationship I have ever had and I’m so happy with him. I feel incredibly lucky for having him in my life ❤️
as an introvert other introverts attract me, but because I am an introvert I cant talk to them and they wont so it's gonna take forever to find my introverted love lol
It happens more than you think, introverts meeting each other! I'm introvert and in a couple with an introvert, and it's perfect! We're on the same beat, we want the same things, we understand each other. I think an extrovert would totally exaust me. But my introvert is like an oasis of calm and safety in a stressful, overwhelming world :) You're wise to be attracted to other introverts, as they would very likely suit you! It will happen for you too :)
I have always been an introvert since my childhood and yes I agree with this video. Introverts are not accepted and recognised in this world because it's all about being an extrovert especially when applying for "That job" It's all about having a specific personality and competing with other big characters that we have to adopt a false personality in order to qualify or become successful! Us introverts have special, unique and interesting qualities but it's soo damn difficult for others to see that because some people do not take the time and patience to actually get to know that shy individual. They only see what is on the surface and not the person as a whole and deep down what they are very capable of doing! It's sad really.
Jenny Snaps Respectfully, I disagree that introverts aren't accepted. Plenty of admired and influential people are introverts, from artists to analysts. Maybe they are less likely to be recognised with Mexican waves, fame and packed stadiums, but that's not the type of appreciation I assume most introverts would like anyway.
Jenny Snaps what upsets me is people actually frown upon introverts and act as tho introverts dont exist and everyone should just act like an extrovert because that is what society calls "Normal" they expect everyone to act and think the same. I hate it. that's why i avoid people and you know what i like it less peope less b.s.
I'm also an introvert but actually the world used to think that extroverts were always better workers but now have noticed that introverts can be better because they don't waste as much time socializing :)
Jenny Snaps my boss still doesn't know I'm an introvert. Aced thed job interview talk to clients on really empathetic personal levels. But that's only my work face. gone so far that the company needs me or everything falls appart. But doesn't understand that I don't do company parties, events etc. I'm much happier with my cat at home :)
Jenny Snaps fuck so true im currently to find a new job and i have to put so damn efforts to be dynami amd comfortable not bc you are introvert that you can’t do the job
This may as well have been "the 10 things missing from all my past relationships" 😂 great video, I'll definitely sending this to the next person I date
Recently I asked a girl to be my girlfriend ( I'm an introvert ) and it was really hard for me... She refused. 2 months later at her b day party she and her friends and I were talking and suddenly they started talking about " how men should act towards women " and she happily said what she liked in a man not caring about the fact I was there... She described exactly the opposite of me. Since then I quit trying, I can't make someone like me, I must invest in who likes me the way I already am.
Alexander Patrick Don't bother with women in the first place bro, it's just a Hassel that's unnecessary. I suggest you look up MGTOW, it's helped me see the truth in women. Cheers
I asked a girl to the homecoming dance once and she told me she'd think about it, then didn't mention it until I asked her until my last moment until seeing her till the dance and she said no because she wasn't going to the dance. I felt so heartbroken and then she showed up to the dance with my best friend. She made me wait until the last moment to tell me no by avoiding the situation and then went with my best friend. Still friends with both of them tho. Now every time I see her it's incredibly awkward.
My boyfriend is highly extroverted and I don't know how he does it! One time I brought him with me when I went to register for classes at my college and I left him in the waiting room for an hour. When I came back he was exchanging Xbox gamertags with the guy sitting next to him. It can take me weeks before I ask someone sitting next to me in class if they want a piece of gum.
While I am an Introvert, I'm glad I'm not shy as well. I can't socialize too much, or I'll just get tired and unbearable. But talking to people is “fairly easy“, if you just stay polite/pleasant most people are satisfied. I just hardly ever get close and personal with someone. On the other hand I know quite a few extroverts, who while they considerably often have trouble getting into a conversation, at least what feels like instantly become best friends. Somehow I feel like it's kind of reversed in my/ my friends case(s) haha
natasha kalebwe you are not alone. I do this but can't help it. It's actually annoying cos i just can't think about what to say! My brain is silly but I've come to accept that it's just the way I am. Taken along time to come to that though as I spent a lot of time thinking I'm not "normal" 🤯
@@chosen573 well, almost all the extrovert person I know have rude personality... Sometyms pushy but they made a good friend tht give u positive energy.
Dating an introvert is quite interesting to be honest. Compared to my boyfriend I am an extrovert. I was to one who started the relationship. By asking him out. He would have never and we were best friends. We are opposite. I love to go out and met new people. While by boyfriend rader stay home with me. Which is flattering but I am the type of person who needs to socialize. Be out and explore and he like to explore too. Just not with people which I find cute and frustrating. I love him though. I do try to push him to get out of his safe zone and he does the same for me. Makes me sit down and relax. It seems so simple. Yet it quite difficult for me. His actions have surprised me. Making him talk about his emotions is hard but we work on it every day. He talks with my friends and family. I also made him talk more with his own family. We are 2 years and 2 months now.
Think the most important thing is to be okay with silence. Lots of introverts don't say much if it doesn't concern something they're particularly passionate about. That doesn't mean they don't like things or are ignoring you. Forcing introverts to constantly talk is incredibly draining especially on a regular basis.
I found out I wasn't just a "shy" person, but a social introvert through this channel, and it's been so important to me. It's like I'm finally able to understand and accept myself after years trying to be more extrovert when it obviously never was for me
I’m in introvert and my gf is also an introvert and the best way i’ve found for us to get closer is simply hugging or being close to each other for long periods of time. Although this could also be due to us both being super clingy, But who knows?
dude i'm introverted, and i was like damn this is literally me. i thought about it and realized my girlfriend has been fulfilling all of this... damn she's a good ass girlfriend. it's like she prob watched this video before
hello my bf is an introvert, any tips for how i can start a meaningful convo with him? or how i can ask him what he wants, he only wants to do but i want but i want to do what he wants bc we never do what he wants...
I'm an introvert and this is so true! This girl and I stopped talking and hanging out and I think it's because she thought I didn't like her. I did but it just takes time for me to show a lot of physical affection
TheMoldyPotato oh my God is this story of my life right there cause I had a crush on an introvert and I was the one who'd always talk and he just always seemed to reply with short answers and I stopped talking to him
TheMoldyPotato I try to give as much little hints as possible (like sitting near them even if there is someone I hate is there too or saying something nice about their clothes)
Sometimes when a woman is interested in me, in my brain start endless amounts of questions like "what does she want from me?", "Why me?" or "this can't be true, can it?".
I'm dating an introvert. Just try to enjoy it as it is. Your heart decides who we love, so there is no answer to questions like that. Also sometimes opposites atract. And last but no least, every person is valuable and unique and deserving of love! Good luck with the dates!
Now that’s just being paranoid bro, why don’t you think you deserve a good girl? PS I know your comment is 5 months old, but this popped up in my recommendations today-stay safe!🤗
This video makes me feel like introverts are some species, and everyone is just trying to learn about us, because we aren't clear. WE ARE RARE SPECIES.
It doesn't matter whether you're extraverted or introverted, I think we as humans should take the time to understand each other and be patient with one another to make those more meaningful connections. I could be speaking nonsense though. - shrug -
The only nonsense that you mentioned would be that you assumed your idea as "nonsense" But sadly I have to say (prepare for memes).... Sounds good doesn't work. :/
No dear! It's not nonsense at all. I absolutely agree. All of us should have the factor of understanding all people in society whether introvert or extrovert we have quite unique traits and personalities but we should appreciate and support each other and respect one another with our own individuality and well-being
Agreed. Can't believe people are fighting over which side is better. Introvert and extrovert is just a personality. Most people share that which is not wrong. A person is a person. In a unique way.
For the people who start overthinking and questions whether they are high maintenance or will have a difficult time finding someone because of the video, try not to worry about it (ironic coming from an introvert who overthinks everything too lol rip) If someone loves you, they will love you for who you are, they will try and make an effort and make things easier for you. If they don’t even make the effort to help you out, don’t be with someone who won’t try and make things work. That’s doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be the same both ways, but if you aren’t getting the equal amount of effort you’re putting in, I don’t think they are the right one. If you feel like this hope this makes your feel better!
I'm a little more extraverted than introverted and introverts seem to naturally gravitate towards me. I always could understand them since we share a lot of traits but at the end of the day, this gave me a whole lot more insight in like the relationship aspect (since I work a little differently in that area) Thanks for sharing 💕
I agree with everything they say, I'm even surprised that it's so accurate ! Number 10 was "don't assume", and I was startled because the one thing that has angered me for so many years are the people around me who ALWAYS assume things about me but never ask to understand better !!
Oh wow... I have never known a video to explain me so well. Everything was pretty much spot on. I wish I could show this to everyone I know and just have them understand. Being an introvert ain't easy😥 Who's with me?
It's most definitely not easy, feels like a curse and it's ruining my relationship because my gf thinks I don't Love her cause I like to be alone quite often & have trouble expressing my feelings. Sigh.
@@hitokiribattousai7703 idk how are you two doing now that its 5 months later, but um... let her understand. I'm an introvert and having an extrovert gf is like a bunny-hamster couple: they're both small animals in people's eyes, but you two are mentally built very differently. And she actually wants it to be that you remain alone sometimes because of other reasons (but not you don't like her). So... explain it. Someday she would regret not asking you about this if you don't tell her. I mean, that's gonna solve your problems on your relation.
My SO is a huge introvert. Listening to these tips just fills my heart with joy. I feel as if i've approached her the right way. I really love her and do not want her to change for me. She's perfect the way she is. Took me a bit of time to read her body language and understand her on a deeper and personal level. But now that I can read her emotions, I've started getting closer and closer to her. I've never been more grateful to have such a loving and caring partner by my side. Only downside is that she isn't as passionate and direct as I am when it comes to showing affection. But I've told her that I she doesn't need to tell me. That I know that she cares about me and loves me, by looking into her eyes or facial expressions
Being an introvert makes me feel like I’m not human. Like I’m from another universe. I agree with all of these the things you said in the video. Thank you for making these types of videos.
Hoshi's Wife I feel the same and I think all introverts feel the same, but we have to get through it. We live in an extrovert world and we have to adept. It’s sad but we can’t do anything about it.
Being an introvert, I’m not that type of person that can express their feelings willingly which makes my classmates think I don’t care about what they say, but in reality, I’m like shocked or whatever.
This is what's killing my relationship, my gf doesn't think I Love her because I have trouble expressing my feelings, being romantic & spending more time with her. I'm 28 and she's literally my first gf and I try to make up for what i lack in by spoiling her with material things & make Love to her like it's my last day on Earth every single time till she climaxes but it's not enough anymore.
I'm an extrovert and my girlfriend is an introvert, I know how to treat her and we spend a lot of time talking about politics, religion, philosophy, the human nature etc. Patience is one of the keys to win an introvert's heart, patient, love, care and sincerety are very important.
It’s really hard, especially in comments on videos like this, to address all introverted people without coming across as not normal or understanding. It’s pretty difficult, we live in a world full of labels and stereotypes. So sometimes we address people as “LGBTQ are like this....” or “Republicans do this...” So we say, “Oh introverts do this....” it’s not that we mean to dehumanize you, it’s more like we might not fully comprehend how to address you, or we’re a little bit ignorant. It’s more like analyzing, even though we don’t go about it the best way.
I am an extrovert (enfp) and I dated an introvert recently, who was one of the extreme cases (infj). I found his quiet, mystical yet intelligent personality very attractive. I actually came across this channel during the time because I wanted to understand and accommodate him, and be that one girl that accepts and loves him despite being different. My experience with him probably does not apply to all introverts but I found it to be such an unhealthy dynamic. I felt taken for granted. I was always reaching out, making sure he was alright while he would socially withdraw and hibernate in his cave sooo frequently, shunning me for days to even a week. Before we ended things, I wrote a long message about how I felt towards him and our relationship and he did not reply, not even an 'i'll get back to you later' until 4 days later, after I prompted him to do so. I was constantly fixating on my phone, awaiting the response, unable to function, sleep or eat properly and was on the verge of crazy in the 4 days and maybe every time he withdrew during the relationship. This was despite me having told him how I got anxiously I'd behave when he shunned me. Granted, he did write a long, beautiful, genuinely heartfelt and emotionally intelligent reply afterwards (which reminded me why I was attracted and stuck through the difficulties with him). I think he is a beautiful person and believe it is rare to find someone that would match up to his level of authenticity and kindness, but it was just so unfair for my part to have to accept and understand him prioritising his alone time over my mental well being. Introverts, if you're reading this, don't just expect other people to accept you and use your introversion as a selfish excuse to mistreat other people. Relationship is a two way thing. While you're getting pleasure from your recharge, your SO is going crazy. If you're not willing to meet half way and care about what the other person wants too then just don't date.
I am an introvert, but I feel like I understand your position on some level (I also find close relationships with other introverts rather draining at times). If you're putting in more work than what they are giving you, and you're constantly waiting for a response while they take time, I don't think that's fair. If you have to go out of your way to let your partner have recharging time, I feel like it's fair that they should at least extend themselves enough for a short message to give you peace of mind. hugs
kwunnkzz I'm an introvert to, but I have to side with you here. I like my alone time, but that's just a little to extreme and, as you said, unable to meet you halfway. Maybe I'm just a little more social, but I can't imagine taking that long to even acknowledge something like that written by someone I like.
I'm an introvert and dating a introvert from more than three years and gonna date him for rest of my life! ❤ Enough for each other... But needed this information🧿
same it happens to me even in my school a teacher said when i asked her a question ....she was like "oh so you finally got a tongue "....it annoyed me so much :(
I really wish this video had been posted 2 years ago when I was in a relationship with another introvert. We didn't know how to deal with each other, and so eventually the relationship went very much downhill. Thankfully after a year apart, we are back together and going strong. We are trying to relearn each other and that involves finding out when the other is too tired of social interaction and is time to quit or relearning social cues telling the other something is wrong and the simple things introvert do to subtlely express their feelings. Thank you so much for this. I just sent this to my boyfriend, and he completely agrees. Introvert ^2 approved!
One thing you forgot is being mindful sometimes when we go hide we either place a lot of blame on ourselves and self-hate but won't show it so you should always be watching out for signs that they're sad because we don't want to bother you with it
Facts. And then I can't communicate that issue as being something I'm prone to... which got me into trouble in my last relationship. When I did try to explain this (albeit late and after I broke up with him), he thought I was lying, said that kind of thing didn't exist, and that I was purposefully trying to hurt him and that I never cared... needless to say, his insensitive response killed the self-hatred I had for breaking up. But this will be something I'm going to try to communicate better in the future for sure. Just nice I only had to lose a narcissitic asshole to learn it and not someone meaningful and important.
That’s how introverts usually work. Once they’re comfortable with people, they get along easily and well in small groups. You could also be an ambivert though.
Kevin i guess I can. I absolutely hate people talking to me in public with no worthy purpose, but then I get bored and want to talk to people. But in smaller towns everyone says good morning to eachother even if they are randos, then I become less of a bitch. Idky
IDKevin it's not hard to figure out why, when you are with friends you tend to care less about what people think about you and you also feel protected by them depending on which type of friend you are with.
I'm 55 and an introvert, but not by choice. I'd say bang on the button with your assessment. Every word goes through the emotional part of our brain, unlike extroverts who skip that part. We feel every word. It's not a choice but how we are made up. It can be bloody tiring.
I'm a introvert and it's honestly really hard for me to imagine myself being in a relationship at all..I'm only 16 now but I rly don't see it happening
Don't worry. Is ok to be single. I've had a lot of relationships for an introvert (altough they only last a few months) and decided 2 years ago I'm out. I don't want to do it anymore and I've been so happy ever since. For me at least, relationships bring a lot of anxiety and paranoia and you are always either going into or gettig out of a conflict. Nah, I'm done. I'm so happy and calm and just having a great quality of life without relationships. If you guys find someone, that's awesome. If not, you really don't need it. Trust me.
Do you want more confidence? Better social skills? Tips to feel more comfortable? I make videos on all that! No, I'm not some scam life coach! *Just head to my channel*
I’m dating one. And I just found out that so much of what I do might be the reason we are having problems. Ah I feel so bad. I didn’t understand. Hopefully but doing theses things we will work some stuff out.
After a conversation with someone last night, i let them know I really like spending time alone, I need it to refill my cup, to work on myself, to love on myself and to rest. Now it all makes sense. I honestly prefer my own company over anyone else's. That were a little offended, but I hope over time they'll accept me as I am. I just would prefer to be alone ALOT OF THE TIMES
i want someone who appreciates the fact that i'm an introvert and have my own special values that those highly valued extroverts out there don't have, not just someone who "accepts" and thinks of it as a weakness they're willing to overlook. I know we're hard to deal with but the price is worth it.
just started dating a introverted lady i really like her too and offer her any kind of support and help she needs. im educating myself on videos like this to make sure im not overstepping any boundaries. this video nailed our relationship spot on. at first when she first began to pull away i was very concerned but i know now thats just how they can be especially when overscheduled and stressed.
one thing that needs to be said, most introverts are dense as all hell, don't drop subtle hints, we're too busy trying to work out how the conversation is going, what to say, etc etc and often miss subtle clues that last for a second or so because we overthink everything to begin with, straight to the point is best.
The one thing my girlfriend does as an introvert, is we'd be in a long call (LDR) and suddenly like a switch she'll stop talking and just turn on music. We call it "Chill time" so she can recharge and we enjoy some music together after talking too much
Bc Atypical how is a introverted girl no pretty So shy in most cases but when in a relationship loyal asf, even if just s friend, so nice to be with More likely to be casual and real with you vs normal American people who act like jack asses doing dumb shit and posting it online Legit a girl is so much more beautiful if she is one to talk vs tryna act hard then posting it on insta or some shit (which most girls do these days)
I've never dated my whole life and I'm wondering how a (restrained) introvert could start a relationship. Couples usually like to make phone/video calls, come to gatherings, going out often and doing small things together. Well I don't. In relationships, communication is the key. When you feel moody or tired, your partner will asks or even demands you to tell them what the problem is. If it's me, that makes me more irritated when I just want to be with just me, myself, and I.
I am an introvert. How to start a relationship? I have no idea. Every day I think about one of my colleague, who is very kind to me, but I do not know how to ask her out. I'm waiting for Sadies, but I know it will not happen. So I have to make a leap of faith.
@@davidcsik9761 start small. Ask her to have lunch together. Or take a walk outside during breaks. Talk about interests. Try to find a common interest of what you could do together. For example: attend a (creative) workshop together. Don’t focus too much on the relationship goal. Become good friends first (though don’t hesitate to flirt if you feel like it).
Ps I can totally relate to the being misunderstood part. It frustrates me and makes me pull away from interacting with others. Half the time dealing with others and how insensitive and self sentered they can be honestly isn't worth the time or effort.
I know I'm an introvert. I recently met a man who has done all these things and I feel like I can let myself be me. He knows when to give me space, when I want to talk about things I have trouble saying and he just gets me. For him being an extrovert I don't know how I managed to be so blessed.
Being an introvert I completely agree with these things. We introverts can have unstopable conversation with the person we are comfortable with and the one who don't judges us.
You are totally right! I used to date a very shy and introvert girl and after we both felt comfortable with each other we could talk for hours every time while walking. And there was never any judging either. It felt great to understand and be understood.
very true
@@nefelovamon It's not my business, but can I ask why did you stop dating?
@@balazskungazda3805 She had a fear of commitment and not enough feelings, so she wanted to stop. But she came back a few months later. We are a couple now :)
@@nefelovamon Thanks for your answer! Glad to hear that! I wish you all the best! :-)
1. A relationship to begin with
Mr. Potatobadger 2. A REAL PERSON
NOT FROM A FICTIONAL WORLD
your right hand saves time and money
Yeah...
Some (damm lucky) introverts are incredibulously independent of someone else! I have never seen one... But it's humans, there always is one
not as sad as possibly being arrested
because she got drunk had sex with you
left you or you broke up
5 years later you won't take her back
so she accuses you of rape
and because she was drunk
she couldn't consent
so you're guilty
As an introvert I feel like a different species and this is how other humans learn about us like on the discovery channel 😂
I wonder if the Netflix Documentary on Introverts is on it's way :D That's a surefire sign we're alien to the world!
@@drunkenchords3370 😂😂
YESH IM NOT ALONE XD
Honestlyyyy i felt this
honestly same!
Have you guys ever had this feeling like all of a sudden you become all moody for no reason and you want your own space and no attention from anyone and so you start shutting people out.. But then when the people around you notice that and when they ask you what's wrong, you become even more irritated and sometimes you wanna say, ' just don't mind me and do your own business! don't bother me, let me be in peace! '
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Awww.... Thank you so much for stopping by even for a moment and replying back. Didn't expect so many likes and feedbacks.Really, it feels so nice and comforting to see all the replies and to know that there are people who actually understands and feel you. Hope you all are doing fine. :)
I visble kid metallica loled
This is one of the signs that you have a depression.
that's me, especially during quarentine when my family wouldn't leave me alone in my bedroom with myself only
As an introvert, this happens to me whenever I don't get enough ME time, I get very moody and just want everyone to leave me alone.
Yes me too!
The main issue with being an introvert in an extroverted world, especially in 2017 is that not only is the expectation for you to be extroverted, but also extroverts don't have the time or patience to get to know you in the first place.. Everything is so fast paced, and if you can't conform or be open immediately, you're cast aside.. Yet extroverts complain that nobody will take the time to understand them, yet they don't take the time to understand us..
Yeah, it's not one way for sure. Hopefully, this video will be a 4:43 min way for an extrovert to understand better the needs of introverts. We might make one for extroverts as well. So if you're an extrovert watching this, feel free to send us in your needs!
interesting i never thought of it that way, makes sense
I agree.
My main issue with the school right now. Thank you for reflecting my thoughts in this comment.
There's also this issue where people will take the time to know you, they will be understanding and you'll be opened up to them but then they'll just push you aside and hang out with other extroverts leaving you alone again.
I find there is a shortage of people who can hold a meaningful conversation nowadays.
yah, they only like to talk about other person's business especially lovelife...
People talk so much about celebrities and their drama, leads to nothing but I guess that's entertaining to them
Sadly, true.
So many people talk about politics meaninglessly, in a way to just push their point forward rather than allow for a reconsidering of their standpoint. It's conversation, but is fruitless.
that has happened to me plenty of times as well, I understand exactly how you feel. There have been a few girls who apparently had crushes on me, but the one that asked me to prom got a nasty rejection (I said “I’ll inject botulinum toxin before I go out with ANYONE” notice I said “anyone” not “you” is specific). From that I was kinda humiliated in from of the class by her and people were talking about me in other classes. So I don’t like the idea of being in a relationship right now.
i’m an introvert and this is true
Ryan Smith wtf you're everywhere
Introverts unite! :)
Dominic Sanders i agree lol
Ryan Smith I can SO agree
The thing is that I'm SUPER introvert but I do like to tale every now and then
Ryan Smith you're a narcissist
I have an introvert boyfriend and he doesn't wanna talk to me rn, so i decided to watch this kind of educational videos to understand him more. ❤️ It helps alot. Thanks.
Please understand him.. Its very hard for us introverts if even our partners dont understand us 🥺
Same here!
This helps me alot ♥️
I have an introverted husband. Been together for 10 years. I’ve been doing it all wrong. Idk how he has tolerated me this long.
Same here :)
I feel like 99% of the people who click on this are introverted.
U find me qwp
Dont call me out
and i thought i was under the radar for once
Erik Babonis I’m a very very extroverted person, but I just started dating someone who is quite introverted. This video was so, so eye opening
Cupid I do my best never to assume anything or do any kind of accusing towards someone. I always try to learn as much as I can in order to treat someone right- in the way that they want to be treated. I think it’s amazing to get to know people for who they truly are, rather than forcing them into someone they’re not. This video provided me with a lot of information in order for me to look at this with a new light and reach a clearer understanding
I cried watching this, I’ve never felt so understood
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Yeessz!!! Compelling
Poor you.. 😕
Same
RIGHT
I'm an introvert and I mostly realise it, when I'm in a room and people are arriving. The more people are there, the more uncomfortable I get.
same i don‘t like going to birthday parties too or having my own.
Same here
Same bro, same
Same.
(Y) Same
“... because ‘better’ somehow translates to ‘extroversion’, which is pretty dehumanizing.” 👏🏼 👏🏼👏🏼
This whole video feels like it says "introverts are better people and have an excuse to be an asshole."
@@mulluckbrot6569 introverts are not assholes so why do they need an excuse? you just see us as one. moreover the video did not once say that introverts are better people but finally is showing what they need
That and not wanting to feel like a project resonated with me on a deep level.
This video knew what I wanted in a relationship before I did.
Edit: Thanks for the likes
Help So true.
And this is exactly why i broke up with my gf :p
Same
Help same tho
Help same
People mistake us as loners. We value relationship with people with whom we can have deep meaningful conversation . We want to be with people infront of whom we can open up without being judged. We can be the most talkative people with people we are comfortable with . And the pleasure we get being left alone with our thoughts...wish you extoverts could feel it.
monsur habib i feel you as a fellow introvert.
monsur habib We want to be judged fairly, by being given a fair chance.
monsur habib PRAISE!
Relatable
Im a Introvert
Its hard for me to easily open up to a new place with new people but when I find someone that is kind I can get a little more talkative heheh.......~
I dont understand why Extrotverts think we're Emos T^T
11. Text memes.
This method of communication lets them know you're thinking about them and as a bonus does not require lengthy communication from your introvert.
Memes do nothing :l plus dear meme liker this is NOWHERE near memes
this is so true HAHAHAHA
dkc YESSSSSS
Youre sooooo damn right... whenever a girl tags me in really nice quality memes I instantly fall in love with her...
Yes i stan
My introverted bf never shared what he expected. Which caused many fights. Even guys don't seem to be open about what they want. So, I started playing couple quiz games like "Lovify" with him. Where I can guess what he wants, and if I'm wrong, I now know exactly what he wants from me. It was a fun and easy way for us to get closer ❤
As a full-on introvert, I can confirm that this video is very VERY accurate 😊
How do you know a introvert man's display of affection? I'm an extrovert. I'm dating a introvert man. We've seen each other for two mos now, but I'm the only one who is verbal about how they feel. He doesn't even like for me to buy gifts which I still do as it is deserving for him.
I have noticed it seems as though he goes out of his way, but I'm not sure if that's just being a polite person or if that is him liking me. In a sense I'm confused pertaining how to tell his feelings.
@@firecrackerbaby3364 Speaking as an introvert, I believe him going out of his way is a sign he likes you. I hate going the extra mile for anyone, unless I'm particularly fond of, or loyal to, them.
@@firecrackerbaby3364 think about that extra mile he goes with you is extra time he likes to spend with you. I don't do that with anyone
I totally agree ... I also will borrow your "full-on Introvert" - I hope that's ok with you ..
Treasure that extra mile, that he can do for you. And make sure give him time to recharge after going that extra mile, if he distances, do something alone, or even do nothing alone. That is his time recharging, dont confuse it as he doesnt want to be with you. If he will see you respecting and accepting and understanding he will open up to you eventually. Especially he is a man, we dont usually tell other people our problem and thoughts, much more for an introvert man, dont lose patience asking him "you can tell me everything but no pressure i will listen."
10. Don’t assume.
Amen.
Crimson Dragath ikr amen indeed
Yes
I'm an introvert and damn, this is all so true
Happy to hear!
Hybrid Person heck yea
1. meaningful conversation
2. less stimulation environments
3. take it slow
4. be understanding
5. provide mental support (play the best friend role)
6. read between the lines
7. Respect their space
8. spend quality time together (it's crucial)
9. Fully accept them (assure them you love them for who they are)
10. don't assume
Couldn't agree to it more!! ♥️💯
@Prlhad Maid yess
This is exactly what I need I just realized that I'm introvert too.
I'm an introvert and humans ask me "Why are you so quiet and why don't you go out in public?" like tf
That actually happened to me today.... *yay*
I bet your cat says stay in
Grandmaツ literally everyone I know acts like I'm crazy or there's something wrong with me just because im not as social as them or I don't think like an extrovert all my relationships we're like that except one
Behold fellow humans, I suspect this post was written by an alien.
Grandmaツ yeah people ask me why i’m so quiet in class sometimes. I just can’t get myself to tell them i’m an introvert or judt a quiet person. Once i told someone and they just had this weird expression on their face.
Nah bro, sometimes I am incapable of expressing my thoughts. I don't know how to say what I am trying to say, and then when I do say it I end up saying what I wasn't thinking. I hope this makes some kind of sense
I relate spiritually to this man. It always comes out wrong and I end up feeling even more misunderstood after.
I do the same thing, it can be extremely frustrating because people either think I mean something I don't or I don't make any sense. It's especially hard expressing emotions towards people you care about because it's like you almost panic if you're unsure what to expect
I get that yeah. I want to open up, but u just can't I have so many things I want to say, but I don't have anyone I feel comfortable opening up to.
I totally understand your situation . Just recently I had been through this same thing . I was talking with my boyfriend and something came up , I didn't know what to say and ended up saying something really stupid and something that I didn't mean to and that resulted in a big fight . My mouth and my mind never gets along , I guess .
It does make sense to me....
It's something I end up doing most of the time.....
And then I regret it later.....
I'm an introvert and I feel like if more people knew this things would be less awkward for both sides
It'd also be less awkward if introverts decided to get to know our needs too (just saying...)
@@soupertlh2674 I agree with you. I am an introvert, but the problem is... we tend to shy away from talking... we try to get to know a person first. we take time to gain trust. I understand where you're coming from though!
That's the problem in 2019's hyperfast society, where most don't give another thought about is introverts
"Everyone dating or in a relationship with an introvert should see this video."
-From an introvert
I agree totally, at this point of time my relationship is crushing down cuz my bf doesn't understand me a bit, I wish he could see this video for him to know me well since I can't explain better
@@dianagyimah3607 show him the video
@@dianagyimah3607 oh geez that's bullshit. He doesn't even know that he's lucky to have a introvert girlfriend.
@@urestruly I guess am unlucky when it comes to love
@@dianagyimah3607 don't say that, sooner or later you will meet the right person, just wait hehe, like me I'm waiting for almost 2 years, and till now i don't have a boyfriend hahaha
As a guy with an introverted girlfriend I found this very helpful. She likes to distance herself and take time to think which I mistake as her being upset. I greatly appreciate knowing that she could just be taking it slow and trying to collect more information.
How is your relationship now?
as an introvert married to an extrovert, it took a very long time for her to understand what my alone time meant, lol. if i may make a recommendation, something that helped us. if she is off alone, make a small effort to show you're still thinking about her while she is recharging. and i do mean small, lol. just stopping and asking if she's thirsty or wants a snack can open up an opportunity to help her brainstorm. and if she doesn't need anything, remind her that you're still there if she does. it lets her know you are still putting in the effort and that can make a huge difference in how things play out.
@@jonathanblair5920 thanks for your experience!
Kudos to you Logan for taking the time to understand her.
Go get 'er buddy, wouldn't want to disappoint her if I were you since I am an introvert myself and I know all too well how terrible it is to have a lover who doesn't understand your personality
I've been dating an introvert for almost a year now.
And somehow, intuitive, I do all those things mentioned in the video.
And you're right. Ever since I became softer and more understanding towards my girlfriend, she kept showing more and more gratitude and love towards me.
I wish all of you, introverts and others, meaningful life and a lot of love ♡
Waa you are an amazing bf , am an introvert and ma ex boyfriend was super extrovert, he used to force me to socialize more , when I ask him i wanna alone time, he used to laugh and say are u human , when I tell him I don't wanna anyone to know anything about our relationship he will get mad and say what is wrong with y , he used to called me cold, bossy , too much independent we use to fight but i used to ignore him , but i finally broke up with him god he was such an a** anyway good luck to you and your gf
I will do this from now on thankyou so much for this hope i have faith in our relationship if i knew she’s introvert in early stage i immediately adjust and study a lot of things for our good😊❤ communication still have time to make this happened i hope God will guide me as well again thank you for this wonderful words i will do this and making a lot of perseverance🙏
Yeah I am Introvert. It is hard for me to get into relationships. In fact, I never even dated a guy before and I am almost 25 years old. Never Dated. Never been in a sexual relationship.I haven't found the right person and It's been pretty hard lately. It gets to the point when I see my older sister who is engaged, my mom who is now with her childhood sweetheart and with pressure , especially from my other family members (Puerto Rican ) I at times feel like giving up.
This video does speak true to what I want in a partner and then some but I just feel at times it is impossible.
HerDark Majesty I would wait until you find the right person and make efforts to start a relation ship. Don't feel forced to do so, though!
HerDark Majesty dood, relationships are an awful lot like wine or cheese or a good wall, it takes time to be good, it may take long, but when it comes...
It's the best thing ever
HerDark Majesty I myself am 20 and have only been in 1 true relationship (which was sexual). She was on the plates of both personality traits, very quiet and loathed in alone time, but was very much so a party animal. Maybe partially because she's 18, and her introverted tendancies maybe linked to her depression. At the end I think she wanted to 'be one' with her extrovert side to move past the hurt of her past and move on with herself in life (hence why she broke up with me). We did alot of solely couple things with not so much going out and stuff like that which may have contributed. I can't change who I am, introvert in and out. But I did found love after 20 years, 1st girlfriend, 1st love etc. The wait is agonising. But if you remain yourself and open up to meeting new people, regardless of personality style, it might help in bettering you and finding that person.
Note: I can't get along with pure extroverts, they need some introvert in them. Maybe that's what you desire and need? :)
You just gotta wait ^^ they will come around eventually, even if it doesn’t seem rather soon
HerDark Majesty I feel pretty much tne same. I'm 28 and never had a date *or* girlfriend. I'm trying to find the right person for me, but may need to widen the search. I haven't given up.
Indeed i'm an introvert and my lover is an extrovert.
I am thankful he is very caring and understandinh towards me. He would tell me to not listen his friend's tease as I am very overwhelmed by it a lot and told them to be quiet. He is always there for me. Buys me food and easily catches up what i'm feeling or what's happening inside my mind. He is extrovert but he tries to be an introvert when we are together.
He's kind of popular in school when it comes to friends .. mine was in academics.
Whenever we have a free time, he would always stay close to me and pat my head if I'm alright. He would put up a gentle smile when I look at him. Eveytime when school hours ends, he would carry my bag and get me to the bus station. Even in lunch time, he would carry my bag and knows that he cant stare at me while im eating since i would be embarrassed so he would look away until I finished eating my lunch.
By entering again the classroom, he would let me sit beside him while he massages my hands and kisses them from time to time.. kind of like making it his hobby. He would also put his head on my shoulder.
To some, he is like a badboy kind of vibe, but inside he's very angelic. He may be a naughty boy but when it is me. He would always consider me as his priority and would always value my words.
I never thought I would have such a man! 😊😄
He's every girl's dreams' type however he is mine anyway. 😜😅
To my beloved Dave❤
Haha sounds like a Netflix movie
Sounds really sweet!^^ Don‘t forget to be there for him too :)
So, how did your extroverted boyfiiee started your conversation back then when you're an introverted? I have a crush and I think she's introverted.Don't know what to do
@@AniGal Well we we're classmates since at the 8th grade, doesn't like him that much at that time cuz he was very naughty.. but then he made efforts on the 10th grade, his friend was also an admirer of mine so he was hesitating..in the end, he surprised me with flowers and done a lot of sincere things.. he would approach me first even tho he was very awkwarded while i silently laughed at him.. i think u should really invest in trust, time and efforts..do small simple things.. not act that grand, just simple.. we tend to like simple but memorable stuffs .. be genuine too, if ur extroverted then be extroverted.. but u have to be gentle when it comes to her, dont be noisy as we get really upset by noise 😁😂.. anyways .. be genuine when u put your hearts out to her.
@@ondongkarylle1637 Aww, that love story of yours was beautiful and cute at the same time. Looks like I'm limited to do some stuff 'coz you know, we're still in quarantine. Anyways, thank you! I really appreciate it! Stay strong for the both of you!
1. Hold meaningful conversation
2. Less stimulating environments
3. Take it slow
4. Be understanding
5. Provide mental support
6. Read between the lines
7. Respect their space
8. Spend quality time together
9. Fully accept them
10. Don't assume
acs ver 👍
Check everything for me! I already do this, even before this vid
1-Yes, 2- Yeesssss......10- Yes, please !! 😔😔😔
I AGREE!!! YES!! FINALLY SOMEONE GETS ME!!! :D
Thank you!
I think introverts are interesting people, most of my close friends are, I don't think they need to be more "extroverted," my wife is the most introvert person i know, she often saying things like " sorry dear, I'm not really good at communicating," "sorry that I'm too shy," or "sorry that I'm boring" (in contrast that people keep telling me I talk too much and like to butt in on every conversation I think interesting), but the fact is I don't see any problem regarding her not talking as much as I do (thanks God that she isn't), I always think that she is so interesting even when she is not saying anything, I mostly talk about ideas and opinions but most people will soon not paying enough attention when I try to talk a bit deeper, but not the case with her, she remembers details more than I do, although she get frustrated a lil bit easier lol, well I don't know about other ppl, but I could not ask for better partner
Justinus K Novarianto this is so warming to read. God bless you both :)
I'm an introvert and I can honestly relate. My mom and older brother are extroverts and my mom always tells me to go hang out with my friends more or go outside more or just stop sitting inside. But she just doesn't get it. We have had a few arguments about this. But I just need my alone time, I would rather read a great book than go and talk about the same stuff with my friends. Of course I go outside, just not that often. My dad is an introvert and I'm so glad he is, because I would go insane if I wouldn't know another introvert! And mostly all of my friends (don't have alot of those) are extroverts! Well, the rant is over!!!
I feel like my family is made up of extroverts and I'm the only introvert. So I get what you mean. My aunt is the one who realises this. I still hang out with good friends from time to time, but I don't go out often. Even an old teacher I'm still in contact with understands and has been a helping hand.
Yeah, I get what you mean. Not trying to be mean, just saying facts, but my mom has issues with nerves. She can get annoyed and angry really quickly and that just adds up to the 'me staying home alot' argument. Sorry, for giving you all my problems, but I just wanna rant and tell someone. So... I kinda also have depression. I haven't been diagnosed by a doctor, because I sure as hell ain't telling my parents, but I have taken alot and ALOT of tests online. And all of them say that I have depression, so I'm just gonna assume I have atleast a little bit of depression. And the whole situation just breaks me. Being an introvert, having depression and to top it all of a mom that judges me for not going outside and just not being happy with me no matter what I do is hard. Oh and lets not forget I'm quite young. I have barely any friends, because they try to make plans with me and I sometimes just don't want to go, so after that happens most of the time, they drift away. All the pressure from school topping all of my problems off. And that just makes me wanna cut myself, but I'm too big of a softie to do anything (too deep, moving on).I just sometimes wish I would have someone to talk to. And I know my mom just wants the best for me (for me to go out and make friends, breath fresh air and have fun with others), but it really hurts me when she yells at me for being lazy and stuff. Oh, how could I forget, I'm also very emotional. So I just kinda always am in a dark place and all I'm asking for is happines! Great, I'm crying while writing this. So sorry again for pushing my problems to you, you can just ignore this. I just needed to let it all out!
Oh God, I didn't expect that commet to be so long!!!
AliceWonderland No, no, it's okay, really. My mom has her issues too, and over the years the three of us (me, Mom and aunt) have had to adjust our eating habits and are trying to help out the others. My aunt was the first one of us to go gluten free, then me, and Mom went let's say voluntarily. So now I'm anxious about eating with others since not many know I don't eat certain things. I may eat mostly raw, but meat isnt completely off the table. Mom also stresses out, but I try to help her through it, despite our many differences and the fact she also gets on my nerves. I have the worst allergies in my family and I'm the only one on the spectrum. I may not have the same conditions you have, but you seem really nice. Great, I'm getting shaky writing this. I haven't even told my friends about me being introverted, but the teacher I mentioned might already know. Now, I'm ranting almost...
Quentin Ellis Well, you are learning from the best about ranting, so I expect some rezults, honey💁🏼😂 I actually know quite alot of people who always joke about people (vegetarians, vegans etc) about being really choosy (idk if that is a word, oh well) eaters, but I never really got their point. Like the person chooses what he (she etc) wants to eat and that is their buisness, not yours (the judgemental people). And I think you should embrace it and not care about other persons opinions. I think its amazing (at first I wrote amazongs, am so gonna use that instead of 'amazing' from now on) that you control what you eat. 'Caus we all know that there are alot, like alot of people who can't and they eat alot of unhealthy snacks and junk food. And if other people pick (judge) your eating choices, then they can mind their own damn buisness! Also thanks for reading that god damn long comment. You get a star sticker for that⭐️
I *cried* watching this video. I'm an introvert, and now I understood that it's the extroverted world that's not understanding me, and I *was* trying to express myself in all the ways I could.
Same with me. The first step for me was to accept that I am introverted
Same it's so hard , this is probably why my relationship didn't work out
Everything will be fine.... Just love ur self n don't let ur self feel down..... I am also an introvert u don't always have to try making ppl understand whoever understands let them n those who don't ignore it okieee 🥰❤
My boyfriend is an introvert and I can say that it’s the best relationship I have ever had and I’m so happy with him.
I feel incredibly lucky for having him in my life ❤️
Melissa Beltran , but are you an introvert too?
Please Love Him More Cos Introverts Just Seek More Love
as an introvert other introverts attract me, but because I am an introvert I cant talk to them and they wont so it's gonna take forever to find my introverted love lol
It happens more than you think, introverts meeting each other! I'm introvert and in a couple with an introvert, and it's perfect! We're on the same beat, we want the same things, we understand each other. I think an extrovert would totally exaust me. But my introvert is like an oasis of calm and safety in a stressful, overwhelming world :) You're wise to be attracted to other introverts, as they would very likely suit you! It will happen for you too :)
Jule Sparkle the struggle is real :D
I agree I find the people who interest me are introverts because I know they will not want to spend every second of the say with me.
well, we're in the same situation... and i think we are not the lasts xD
I know that feeling that why i make sport so i can even talk to other people. Sport make me more cofident.
I think the hardest part of being an introvert is the flirting.
We have a video on 10 signs an introvert likes you. Maybe an introvert can use those as tips? Or should we do a separate video for flirting?
thank you~~ I could really relate to it, and i'll definitely use those as tips
Well idk bout u but my ex was kn extrovert and he could flirt😂
Michelle Castro oh my god yes!!!
Michelle Castro True!
Im an Extroverted guy Who's inlove with an Introvert, its all thanks to Psychtogo that i learned how to Understand an Introvert. Now we're together
Sanaol
But most of all, as an introvert, trust and stability is what we seek the most....
Yeah trust is definitely something we need time to build, but are craving for.
exactly... going for fifty y.o. …. still looking.
True
Factsss!
Trust broken once in a lifetime = Never Trust Again. Introvert life.
I have always been an introvert since my childhood and yes I agree with this video.
Introverts are not accepted and recognised in this world because it's all about being an extrovert especially when applying for "That job" It's all about having a specific personality and competing with other big characters that we have to adopt a false personality in order to qualify or become successful!
Us introverts have special, unique and interesting qualities but it's soo damn difficult for others to see that because some people do not take the time and patience to actually get to know that shy individual. They only see what is on the surface and not the person as a whole and deep down what they are very capable of doing!
It's sad really.
Jenny Snaps Respectfully, I disagree that introverts aren't accepted. Plenty of admired and influential people are introverts, from artists to analysts.
Maybe they are less likely to be recognised with Mexican waves, fame and packed stadiums, but that's not the type of appreciation I assume most introverts would like anyway.
Jenny Snaps what upsets me is people actually frown upon introverts and act as tho introverts dont exist and everyone should just act like an extrovert because that is what society calls "Normal" they expect everyone to act and think the same. I hate it. that's why i avoid people and you know what i like it less peope less b.s.
I'm also an introvert but actually the world used to think that extroverts were always better workers but now have noticed that introverts can be better because they don't waste as much time socializing :)
Jenny Snaps my boss still doesn't know I'm an introvert. Aced thed job interview talk to clients on really empathetic personal levels. But that's only my work face. gone so far that the company needs me or everything falls appart. But doesn't understand that I don't do company parties, events etc. I'm much happier with my cat at home :)
Jenny Snaps fuck so true im currently to find a new job and i have to put so damn efforts to be dynami amd comfortable not bc you are introvert that you can’t do the job
This may as well have been "the 10 things missing from all my past relationships" 😂 great video, I'll definitely sending this to the next person I date
For sure! This can apply to all relationship context, but more so for introverts. And sounds like a good plan ;)
Minty Bliss DAN *Starts tearing up thinking about today's new video*
Prob shouldn't do that
Minty Bliss yes same here. These are things i crave for
A dated an extrovert and she did the exact opposite steps
I'm an introvert and so is my husband, I appreciate and love him so much for being patient and understanding ❤
Recently I asked a girl to be my girlfriend ( I'm an introvert ) and it was really hard for me... She refused. 2 months later at her b day party she and her friends and I were talking and suddenly they started talking about " how men should act towards women " and she happily said what she liked in a man not caring about the fact I was there... She described exactly the opposite of me. Since then I quit trying, I can't make someone like me, I must invest in who likes me the way I already am.
Man, that sucks. But at least you had the courage to ask her... I didn't have it...
Alexander Patrick Don't bother with women in the first place bro, it's just a Hassel that's unnecessary. I suggest you look up MGTOW, it's helped me see the truth in women. Cheers
I like quiet dudes.. and I’m an introverted girl lol
I asked a girl to the homecoming dance once and she told me she'd think about it, then didn't mention it until I asked her until my last moment until seeing her till the dance and she said no because she wasn't going to the dance. I felt so heartbroken and then she showed up to the dance with my best friend. She made me wait until the last moment to tell me no by avoiding the situation and then went with my best friend. Still friends with both of them tho. Now every time I see her it's incredibly awkward.
Maybe she wanted to change you, which is no good
My Gf is highly extroverted and i'm the reverse, i'm gonna show this to her in the hope she can learn more about me. Thanks Psych2Go
Azante tell us how it goes
My boyfriend is highly extroverted and I don't know how he does it! One time I brought him with me when I went to register for classes at my college and I left him in the waiting room for an hour. When I came back he was exchanging Xbox gamertags with the guy sitting next to him. It can take me weeks before I ask someone sitting next to me in class if they want a piece of gum.
While I am an Introvert, I'm glad I'm not shy as well. I can't socialize too much, or I'll just get tired and unbearable. But talking to people is “fairly easy“, if you just stay polite/pleasant most people are satisfied. I just hardly ever get close and personal with someone. On the other hand I know quite a few extroverts, who while they considerably often have trouble getting into a conversation, at least what feels like instantly become best friends. Somehow I feel like it's kind of reversed in my/ my friends case(s) haha
I'm really extroverted and my boyfriend is introverted. Using this video to learn more about him. Lol.
Opposites truly do attract.
Whenever I try talking to someone it's like brain stops functioning and all I say is "um um" and I look stupid.
natasha kalebwe you are not alone. I do this but can't help it. It's actually annoying cos i just can't think about what to say! My brain is silly but I've come to accept that it's just the way I am. Taken along time to come to that though as I spent a lot of time thinking I'm not "normal" 🤯
Same! I always rehearse the words in my brain a billion times but still start with "um..." *Facepalm*
I feel it lol introvert life headass
Same omg
Okay, that's so relatable!
I wish everyone would watch this. Being an introvert, this is exactly what I want in a relationship.
Introvert : **bottles their emotions**
Extrovert : **watches this video**
**breaks the bottle**
Introvert to Extrovert: Repair the bottle or I fkin kick your ass.
@@wolframxx5580 no man, it's not sad, some things i just want to keep to myself and not share..
AKshay Raut extrovert are rude and reckless most of the Time ..
@@chosen573 well, almost all the extrovert person I know have rude personality... Sometyms pushy but they made a good friend tht give u positive energy.
Amghannam Hahahahahhahaha well said. But the bottle is plastic. It can’t be broken🙃 So you don’t have to use your energy in kicking the guy’s ass
THE WORLD IS ACTUALLY LEAD BY INTROVERTS; extroverts are just more visible.
Preach
Because most of us are at home at any given time. The extroverted world out there is loud.
Stupidity is always more visible and immortal
@@MrDoom159 extravert does not equal to intelligence and vice versa, so comparing those two isn't fair.
This could be possible.
Dating an introvert is quite interesting to be honest. Compared to my boyfriend I am an extrovert. I was to one who started the relationship. By asking him out. He would have never and we were best friends. We are opposite. I love to go out and met new people. While by boyfriend rader stay home with me. Which is flattering but I am the type of person who needs to socialize. Be out and explore and he like to explore too. Just not with people which I find cute and frustrating. I love him though. I do try to push him to get out of his safe zone and he does the same for me. Makes me sit down and relax. It seems so simple. Yet it quite difficult for me. His actions have surprised me. Making him talk about his emotions is hard but we work on it every day. He talks with my friends and family. I also made him talk more with his own family. We are 2 years and 2 months now.
Evelyn Serrano , he will appreciate your understanding although he might not say it out.
Sorry you won't last
@@dresdenwinterknight9553 Sorry but you dont know whether relationships will last or not.
"Making him talk about his emotion is hard." It makes me laugh. Coz i can relate, i'm an introvert btw.
It sounds like you are really i love him 😉😊😁 that is so sweet ❤️ ❤️♥️..
Think the most important thing is to be okay with silence. Lots of introverts don't say much if it doesn't concern something they're particularly passionate about. That doesn't mean they don't like things or are ignoring you. Forcing introverts to constantly talk is incredibly draining especially on a regular basis.
True. I can't talk about weather and rain.
Dear future husband,.......
Do what this video says.🙂
I'm a very shy guy XD
@@justalpha9138 no ur not
@@realcartoongirl Yes I am. XD How can you say I'm not when you don't know me?
@@justalpha9138 idk
JustAlpha Arent we all?
I found out I wasn't just a "shy" person, but a social introvert through this channel, and it's been so important to me. It's like I'm finally able to understand and accept myself after years trying to be more extrovert when it obviously never was for me
I’m in introvert and my gf is also an introvert and the best way i’ve found for us to get closer is simply hugging or being close to each other for long periods of time. Although this could also be due to us both being super clingy, But who knows?
The sexy milk man Argh, thats pretty much my dream/main fantasy xD
Little chance of that happening to me one day but maybe
You're an introvert an your name is the sexy milk man.. 🙈🙈😂😂
Jaana EnKerro hell yeah.
Elliot Rodger we were original only friends for years, but then we found interest in each other romantically so we started dating.
Same, my bf and I are introverts too, and we are both super clingy and we love contact with each other
dude i'm introverted, and i was like damn this is literally me. i thought about it and realized my girlfriend has been fulfilling all of this... damn she's a good ass girlfriend. it's like she prob watched this video before
hello my bf is an introvert, any tips for how i can start a meaningful convo with him? or how i can ask him what he wants, he only wants to do but i want but i want to do what he wants bc we never do what he wants...
I'm an introvert and this is so true!
This girl and I stopped talking and hanging out and I think it's because she thought I didn't like her. I did but it just takes time for me to show a lot of physical affection
TheMoldyPotato oh my God is this story of my life right there cause I had a crush on an introvert and I was the one who'd always talk and he just always seemed to reply with short answers and I stopped talking to him
Smart Geek I know it can be frustrating but if you are sure he likes you then keep trying! He will probably open up eventually!
lol this happened to me literally a week ago. I told her that we could complement each other. She understood and finally agreed.
TheMoldyPotato I try to give as much little hints as possible (like sitting near them even if there is someone I hate is there too or saying something nice about their clothes)
Sometimes when a woman is interested in me, in my brain start endless amounts of questions like "what does she want from me?", "Why me?" or "this can't be true, can it?".
Agree xD
I'm dating an introvert. Just try to enjoy it as it is. Your heart decides who we love, so there is no answer to questions like that. Also sometimes opposites atract. And last but no least, every person is valuable and unique and deserving of love! Good luck with the dates!
Exactly
That's not introverted, that's insecure. Of course many introverts ARE insecure, but it's important not to confuse the two.
Now that’s just being paranoid bro, why don’t you think you deserve a good girl? PS I know your comment is 5 months old, but this popped up in my recommendations today-stay safe!🤗
This video makes me feel like introverts are some species, and everyone is just trying to learn about us, because we aren't clear. WE ARE RARE SPECIES.
We are shiny humans
Yess
We are the mysterious species of mankind that the world still tries to understand XD
Yes 👍
I appreciate da likes
The best thing is when you make friends with another introvert and u can spend time with them without feeling completely exhausted
It doesn't matter whether you're extraverted or introverted, I think we as humans should take the time to understand each other and be patient with one another to make those more meaningful connections. I could be speaking nonsense though. - shrug -
The only nonsense that you mentioned would be that you assumed your idea as "nonsense"
But sadly I have to say (prepare for memes)....
Sounds good doesn't work. :/
No dear! It's not nonsense at all. I absolutely agree. All of us should have the factor of understanding all people in society whether introvert or extrovert we have quite unique traits and personalities but we should appreciate and support each other and respect one another with our own individuality and well-being
Agreed. Can't believe people are fighting over which side is better. Introvert and extrovert is just a personality. Most people share that which is not wrong. A person is a person.
In a unique way.
Yur mom gay (jk I think you're right)
We need patience
All 10 applies to me. That's a great analysis. I wonder how much research they would have done to collect this data. Good job guys ...Keep it up.
For the people who start overthinking and questions whether they are high maintenance or will have a difficult time finding someone because of the video, try not to worry about it (ironic coming from an introvert who overthinks everything too lol rip) If someone loves you, they will love you for who you are, they will try and make an effort and make things easier for you. If they don’t even make the effort to help you out, don’t be with someone who won’t try and make things work. That’s doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be the same both ways, but if you aren’t getting the equal amount of effort you’re putting in, I don’t think they are the right one.
If you feel like this hope this makes your feel better!
I'm a little more extraverted than introverted and introverts seem to naturally gravitate towards me. I always could understand them since we share a lot of traits but at the end of the day, this gave me a whole lot more insight in like the relationship aspect (since I work a little differently in that area) Thanks for sharing 💕
As an introvert, I can confirm the authenticity of this video.
I agree with everything they say, I'm even surprised that it's so accurate ! Number 10 was "don't assume", and I was startled because the one thing that has angered me for so many years are the people around me who ALWAYS assume things about me but never ask to understand better !!
Oh wow... I have never known a video to explain me so well. Everything was pretty much spot on. I wish I could show this to everyone I know and just have them understand. Being an introvert ain't easy😥 Who's with me?
I'm introvert too
Yes same.
Video is so relatable.
It's just helps me to know about myself more
Send it to another introvert they'll understand
It's most definitely not easy, feels like a curse and it's ruining my relationship because my gf thinks I don't Love her cause I like to be alone quite often & have trouble expressing my feelings. Sigh.
@@hitokiribattousai7703 idk how are you two doing now that its 5 months later, but um... let her understand. I'm an introvert and having an extrovert gf is like a bunny-hamster couple: they're both small animals in people's eyes, but you two are mentally built very differently. And she actually wants it to be that you remain alone sometimes because of other reasons (but not you don't like her). So... explain it. Someday she would regret not asking you about this if you don't tell her. I mean, that's gonna solve your problems on your relation.
My SO is a huge introvert. Listening to these tips just fills my heart with joy. I feel as if i've approached her the right way. I really love her and do not want her to change for me. She's perfect the way she is. Took me a bit of time to read her body language and understand her on a deeper and personal level.
But now that I can read her emotions, I've started getting closer and closer to her. I've never been more grateful to have such a loving and caring partner by my side.
Only downside is that she isn't as passionate and direct as I am when it comes to showing affection. But I've told her that I she doesn't need to tell me. That I know that she cares about me and loves me, by looking into her eyes or facial expressions
Being an introvert makes me feel like I’m not human. Like I’m from another universe. I agree with all of these the things you said in the video. Thank you for making these types of videos.
Hoshi's Wife I feel the same and I think all introverts feel the same, but we have to get through it. We live in an extrovert world and we have to adept. It’s sad but we can’t do anything about it.
Same for me. I feel like i wasn't born in the right world.
Being an introvert, I’m not that type of person that can express their feelings willingly which makes my classmates think I don’t care about what they say, but in reality, I’m like shocked or whatever.
Same here
This is what's killing my relationship, my gf doesn't think I Love her because I have trouble expressing my feelings, being romantic & spending more time with her. I'm 28 and she's literally my first gf and I try to make up for what i lack in by spoiling her with material things & make Love to her like it's my last day on Earth every single time till she climaxes but it's not enough anymore.
We think our emotions, not express them
Introverts unite! Now, I’m going home!
DeepForestRex lol lol lol lol
xD
Accurate
DeepForestRex hi
hi .. *pokes*
This is so accurate,being an intovert can be quite challenging so we need a partner who'll value and love us for who we are.
I'm an extrovert and my girlfriend is an introvert, I know how to treat her and we spend a lot of time talking about politics, religion, philosophy, the human nature etc.
Patience is one of the keys to win an introvert's heart, patient, love, care and sincerety are very important.
Everyone talks about introverts like we’re animals or a thing
.... kinda pisses me off with that.
They kinda do but yet again we are more sensible and delicate that doesn't mean it's bad it just means we're different and Special
It’s really hard, especially in comments on videos like this, to address all introverted people without coming across as not normal or understanding. It’s pretty difficult, we live in a world full of labels and stereotypes. So sometimes we address people as “LGBTQ are like this....” or “Republicans do this...” So we say, “Oh introverts do this....” it’s not that we mean to dehumanize you, it’s more like we might not fully comprehend how to address you, or we’re a little bit ignorant. It’s more like analyzing, even though we don’t go about it the best way.
Alva Saari I know right?! It’s so frustrating!! we are persons 😡😡 we have feelings too
Righttt
I am an extrovert (enfp) and I dated an introvert recently, who was one of the extreme cases (infj). I found his quiet, mystical yet intelligent personality very attractive. I actually came across this channel during the time because I wanted to understand and accommodate him, and be that one girl that accepts and loves him despite being different. My experience with him probably does not apply to all introverts but I found it to be such an unhealthy dynamic. I felt taken for granted. I was always reaching out, making sure he was alright while he would socially withdraw and hibernate in his cave sooo frequently, shunning me for days to even a week. Before we ended things, I wrote a long message about how I felt towards him and our relationship and he did not reply, not even an 'i'll get back to you later' until 4 days later, after I prompted him to do so. I was constantly fixating on my phone, awaiting the response, unable to function, sleep or eat properly and was on the verge of crazy in the 4 days and maybe every time he withdrew during the relationship. This was despite me having told him how I got anxiously I'd behave when he shunned me. Granted, he did write a long, beautiful, genuinely heartfelt and emotionally intelligent reply afterwards (which reminded me why I was attracted and stuck through the difficulties with him). I think he is a beautiful person and believe it is rare to find someone that would match up to his level of authenticity and kindness, but it was just so unfair for my part to have to accept and understand him prioritising his alone time over my mental well being. Introverts, if you're reading this, don't just expect other people to accept you and use your introversion as a selfish excuse to mistreat other people. Relationship is a two way thing. While you're getting pleasure from your recharge, your SO is going crazy. If you're not willing to meet half way and care about what the other person wants too then just don't date.
kwunnkzz the same thing happened to me! I needed this so much omg thanks
Kimberly Hernandez sorry to hear that someone else had to go through what I did ;( wanna share your experience? (To make me feel better as well haha)
I am an introvert, but I feel like I understand your position on some level (I also find close relationships with other introverts rather draining at times). If you're putting in more work than what they are giving you, and you're constantly waiting for a response while they take time, I don't think that's fair. If you have to go out of your way to let your partner have recharging time, I feel like it's fair that they should at least extend themselves enough for a short message to give you peace of mind. hugs
kwunnkzz I'm an introvert to, but I have to side with you here. I like my alone time, but that's just a little to extreme and, as you said, unable to meet you halfway. Maybe I'm just a little more social, but I can't imagine taking that long to even acknowledge something like that written by someone I like.
Can't agree more! I think understanding extroverts heart is also important as introvert being understood by others. - one introvert's opinion
I'm an introvert and dating a introvert from more than three years and gonna date him for rest of my life! ❤
Enough for each other... But needed this information🧿
As I open my mouth and talk.
All the people who know me will be like "wow he actually talking".
Thing get harder for introvert
Honestly, if a friend says it, they’re probably joking.
smile and laugh a little and continue talking. that's what i do and it works.
I tend to shut up when they notice me talking cause I felt really awkward, i felt like they're expecting me to say some great things
Jahahhahahahaha same
same it happens to me even in my school a teacher said when i asked her a question ....she was like "oh so you finally got a tongue "....it annoyed me so much :(
You translated my "just leave me alone - but also not entirely" into facets of needs and approaches
Beautifully done 💝
What is your experience with dating an introvert
Dating? *HA* Good one
It's easier for one to love than being loved by some one that doesn't understand the one he loves
Im dating one and he is beautifull I love him the way he is
HA HA HA
Ha good joke none of us date
As an introvert, Dating is something Never happen to me
Any introverts watching in 2021??
Oh only me... OK !
Yes
Here I am
yeaaah
Yee
we always come back!
I really wish this video had been posted 2 years ago when I was in a relationship with another introvert. We didn't know how to deal with each other, and so eventually the relationship went very much downhill. Thankfully after a year apart, we are back together and going strong. We are trying to relearn each other and that involves finding out when the other is too tired of social interaction and is time to quit or relearning social cues telling the other something is wrong and the simple things introvert do to subtlely express their feelings. Thank you so much for this. I just sent this to my boyfriend, and he completely agrees. Introvert ^2 approved!
One thing you forgot is being mindful sometimes when we go hide we either place a lot of blame on ourselves and self-hate but won't show it so you should always be watching out for signs that they're sad because we don't want to bother you with it
Nicole The Fire Fox Fire Hoort Yep, that’s me
Self blame and self hate is me in a nutshell.
That is me. I guess I am mainly an introverted.... I am really talkative when it comes to my close close friends, because I trust them.
Facts. And then I can't communicate that issue as being something I'm prone to... which got me into trouble in my last relationship. When I did try to explain this (albeit late and after I broke up with him), he thought I was lying, said that kind of thing didn't exist, and that I was purposefully trying to hurt him and that I never cared... needless to say, his insensitive response killed the self-hatred I had for breaking up. But this will be something I'm going to try to communicate better in the future for sure. Just nice I only had to lose a narcissitic asshole to learn it and not someone meaningful and important.
@@yazzyxx that fully explains me
i’m an introvert in public but a complete extrovert with friends, can anyone relate?
Kevin
So ur an ambivert?
That’s how introverts usually work. Once they’re comfortable with people, they get along easily and well in small groups. You could also be an ambivert though.
Kevin i guess I can. I absolutely hate people talking to me in public with no worthy purpose, but then I get bored and want to talk to people. But in smaller towns everyone says good morning to eachother even if they are randos, then I become less of a bitch. Idky
Kevin That's Normal. We Are Usually Quiet And Stuff But If We're Comfortable With Friends We Can Talk Off A Storm
IDKevin it's not hard to figure out why, when you are with friends you tend to care less about what people think about you and you also feel protected by them depending on which type of friend you are with.
I'm 55 and an introvert, but not by choice. I'd say bang on the button with your assessment. Every word goes through the emotional part of our brain, unlike extroverts who skip that part. We feel every word. It's not a choice but how we are made up. It can be bloody tiring.
I'm a introvert and it's honestly really hard for me to imagine myself being in a relationship at all..I'm only 16 now but I rly don't see it happening
I'm already 22 and I'm having the same problem lol
Don't worry. Is ok to be single. I've had a lot of relationships for an introvert (altough they only last a few months) and decided 2 years ago I'm out. I don't want to do it anymore and I've been so happy ever since. For me at least, relationships bring a lot of anxiety and paranoia and you are always either going into or gettig out of a conflict. Nah, I'm done. I'm so happy and calm and just having a great quality of life without relationships. If you guys find someone, that's awesome. If not, you really don't need it. Trust me.
Im 16... I feel the same. I tried imagining it but the bubble never forms.
cranberrywb100 I'm exactly the same
Yeah, it's really weird, when all of those 13 years get into a relationship, and you don't... well, I'm happy being alone, no need that dramas tho
Introvert? Relationship?
…that won't be hard at all! (I'm an introvert)
I sense the sarcasm in this. XD
Said no one ever, I am an introvert so I relate to this
Do you want more confidence? Better social skills? Tips to feel more comfortable? I make videos on all that! No, I'm not some scam life coach! *Just head to my channel*
xD
Spider Pig lol me to
I’m dating one. And I just found out that so much of what I do might be the reason we are having problems. Ah I feel so bad. I didn’t understand. Hopefully but doing theses things we will work some stuff out.
I hope things are good between you guys!
ACrustacean nope. We broke up & a whole bunch of crap went down. 🤷🏻♀️
suzyduhh
Don't feel bad, just use what you've learned now that you understand a little better.
suzyduhh
Oh... lol... sorry about your break up... live and learn though.
After a conversation with someone last night, i let them know I really like spending time alone, I need it to refill my cup, to work on myself, to love on myself and to rest. Now it all makes sense. I honestly prefer my own company over anyone else's. That were a little offended, but I hope over time they'll accept me as I am. I just would prefer to be alone ALOT OF THE TIMES
How does this channel keep making videos I can relate to?
Maybe we are more alike than we think! We tend to make videos based on stuff we relate to or want to share.
It's called psychology... 😁
because introverts are very common
Good points ! I am an introvert too so I needed this entire week to post this and open up my feelings..
The amount of times I've written a text to someone, looked at it, and then deleted it without ever sending it. Too many times to count...
Craig Kogan literally me
Je suis Parte wow
same here its crazy hard for me o be with anyone
Je suis Parte
Lol
i want someone who appreciates the fact that i'm an introvert and have my own special values that those highly valued extroverts out there don't have, not just someone who "accepts" and thinks of it as a weakness they're willing to overlook. I know we're hard to deal with but the price is worth it.
just started dating a introverted lady i really like her too and offer her any kind of support and help she needs. im educating myself on videos like this to make sure im not overstepping any boundaries. this video nailed our relationship spot on. at first when she first began to pull away i was very concerned but i know now thats just how they can be especially when overscheduled and stressed.
The hardest one to deal with is space, especially when you're really into the relationship, ....
true but omg i cant like i need 2 keep it at 69 likes
When I told my friend that she looked good in her outfit and that I liked her shoes.... I meant so much more than what was probably perceived
Chris Jordan I know that feeling. Care to talk about it?
Ryuunosuke Akasaka that was literally HALF A YEAR AGO he most likely forgot about it
AverageGamer and I would have reminded him through my reply
Ryuunosuke Akasaka no he probably forgot about that entire situation he was in that was literally HALF A YEAR AGO
AverageGamer I don't GIVE A SHIT and you don't need to reiterate yourself twice.
Everytime I flirt it looks like I am having a seizure
ale Solís I’m glad I’m not the only one:)
Hahaha! you are soo funny... thats nice...
I want that on a tshirt LMAO
That's really creepy and startling. Maybe work on it bit? Say you look pretty/handsome.
How do you have the everything to flirt with someone?
I’m also an introvert and I agree with your list.
one thing that needs to be said, most introverts are dense as all hell, don't drop subtle hints, we're too busy trying to work out how the conversation is going, what to say, etc etc and often miss subtle clues that last for a second or so because we overthink everything to begin with, straight to the point is best.
PREACH.
Not dense; mentally preoccupied.
BloodShield975 exactly
AMEN PREACH IT
Yea pretty much. Unless the person isn't someone I like like that, then I just play dense.
Y'all just like exposing me
Sorry!
Psych2Go it's okay! Great video as always!!!!
Dante Auditore39 **internalizes the emotion**
Dante Auditore39 what would happen if I loose an introvert? Would I get back
ikr
The one thing my girlfriend does as an introvert, is we'd be in a long call (LDR) and suddenly like a switch she'll stop talking and just turn on music. We call it "Chill time" so she can recharge and we enjoy some music together after talking too much
Petty? How so?
Same thing I do in my LDR 😊
Bc Atypical how is a introverted girl no pretty
So shy in most cases but when in a relationship loyal asf, even if just s friend, so nice to be with
More likely to be casual and real with you vs normal American people who act like jack asses doing dumb shit and posting it online
Legit a girl is so much more beautiful if she is one to talk vs tryna act hard then posting it on insta or some shit (which most girls do these days)
Desere Saumure yaaaay, you understand her! I wish I could do something like that with a future relationship. Or even with my
non-understanding family.
I've never dated my whole life and I'm wondering how a (restrained) introvert could start a relationship.
Couples usually like to make phone/video calls, come to gatherings, going out often and doing small things together. Well I don't.
In relationships, communication is the key. When you feel moody or tired, your partner will asks or even demands you to tell them what the problem is. If it's me, that makes me more irritated when I just want to be with just me, myself, and I.
I can relate 100%
Yeah... An introvert like us can understand and love will be easy and safe with them
I am an introvert. How to start a relationship? I have no idea. Every day I think about one of my colleague, who is very kind to me, but I do not know how to ask her out. I'm waiting for Sadies, but I know it will not happen. So I have to make a leap of faith.
@@davidcsik9761 start small. Ask her to have lunch together. Or take a walk outside during breaks. Talk about interests. Try to find a common interest of what you could do together. For example: attend a (creative) workshop together. Don’t focus too much on the relationship goal. Become good friends first (though don’t hesitate to flirt if you feel like it).
@@MegaChriz we had a drink and I asked her, but unfortunately she has a boyfriend. It's broken my heart.
Ps I can totally relate to the being misunderstood part. It frustrates me and makes me pull away from interacting with others. Half the time dealing with others and how insensitive and self sentered they can be honestly isn't worth the time or effort.
This channel is highly intelligent!!
lol. Thanks! You as well!
To be fair
not all the time
it depends what the subject is and who wrote the script
just look at their video about 'emotional intelligence'
Yes! It's very intelligent and very good for people, it's like to eat fruits
Yeah, we're working an overall quality control.
I always get attracted to extroverts which makes things way more difficult for me lmao
same
Same, and is frustrating that I can't express all that I want and that they can't notice the little hints I leave ;-;
Ryleigh Boyer
Same
Omgggg same
Saaaaame!
I know I'm an introvert. I recently met a man who has done all these things and I feel like I can let myself be me. He knows when to give me space, when I want to talk about things I have trouble saying and he just gets me. For him being an extrovert I don't know how I managed to be so blessed.