10 Things Introverts Need in a Relationship
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- Опубліковано 9 лип 2024
- It’s already difficult for introverts to find their niche in a world that predominantly values extroverted tendencies. As a result, introverts’ needs don’t get enough attention and aren’t talked about as much. This includes the way that they function in the love department. Are you dating an introvert? Here are 10 things that we need in relationships for you to consider.
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I feel like 99% of the people who click on this are introverted.
U find me qwp
Dont call me out
and i thought i was under the radar for once
Erik Babonis I’m a very very extroverted person, but I just started dating someone who is quite introverted. This video was so, so eye opening
Cupid I do my best never to assume anything or do any kind of accusing towards someone. I always try to learn as much as I can in order to treat someone right- in the way that they want to be treated. I think it’s amazing to get to know people for who they truly are, rather than forcing them into someone they’re not. This video provided me with a lot of information in order for me to look at this with a new light and reach a clearer understanding
As an introvert I feel like a different species and this is how other humans learn about us like on the discovery channel 😂
I wonder if the Netflix Documentary on Introverts is on it's way :D That's a surefire sign we're alien to the world!
@@drunkenchords3370 😂😂
YESH IM NOT ALONE XD
Honestlyyyy i felt this
honestly same!
Have you guys ever had this feeling like all of a sudden you become all moody for no reason and you want your own space and no attention from anyone and so you start shutting people out.. But then when the people around you notice that and when they ask you what's wrong, you become even more irritated and sometimes you wanna say, ' just don't mind me and do your own business! don't bother me, let me be in peace! '
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Awww.... Thank you so much for stopping by even for a moment and replying back. Didn't expect so many likes and feedbacks.Really, it feels so nice and comforting to see all the replies and to know that there are people who actually understands and feel you. Hope you all are doing fine. :)
I visble kid metallica loled
This is one of the signs that you have a depression.
that's me, especially during quarentine when my family wouldn't leave me alone in my bedroom with myself only
As an introvert, this happens to me whenever I don't get enough ME time, I get very moody and just want everyone to leave me alone.
Yes me too!
“... because ‘better’ somehow translates to ‘extroversion’, which is pretty dehumanizing.” 👏🏼 👏🏼👏🏼
This whole video feels like it says "introverts are better people and have an excuse to be an asshole."
@@mulluckbrot6569 introverts are not assholes so why do they need an excuse? you just see us as one. moreover the video did not once say that introverts are better people but finally is showing what they need
That and not wanting to feel like a project resonated with me on a deep level.
Being an introvert I completely agree with these things. We introverts can have unstopable conversation with the person we are comfortable with and the one who don't judges us.
You are totally right! I used to date a very shy and introvert girl and after we both felt comfortable with each other we could talk for hours every time while walking. And there was never any judging either. It felt great to understand and be understood.
very true
@@nefelovamon It's not my business, but can I ask why did you stop dating?
@@balazskungazda3805 She had a fear of commitment and not enough feelings, so she wanted to stop. But she came back a few months later. We are a couple now :)
@@nefelovamon Thanks for your answer! Glad to hear that! I wish you all the best! :-)
1. A relationship to begin with
Mr. Potatobadger 2. A REAL PERSON
NOT FROM A FICTIONAL WORLD
your right hand saves time and money
Yeah...
Some (damm lucky) introverts are incredibulously independent of someone else! I have never seen one... But it's humans, there always is one
not as sad as possibly being arrested
because she got drunk had sex with you
left you or you broke up
5 years later you won't take her back
so she accuses you of rape
and because she was drunk
she couldn't consent
so you're guilty
"Everyone dating or in a relationship with an introvert should see this video."
-From an introvert
I agree totally, at this point of time my relationship is crushing down cuz my bf doesn't understand me a bit, I wish he could see this video for him to know me well since I can't explain better
@@dianagyimah3607 show him the video
@@dianagyimah3607 oh geez that's bullshit. He doesn't even know that he's lucky to have a introvert girlfriend.
@@urestruly I guess am unlucky when it comes to love
@@dianagyimah3607 don't say that, sooner or later you will meet the right person, just wait hehe, like me I'm waiting for almost 2 years, and till now i don't have a boyfriend hahaha
1. meaningful conversation
2. less stimulation environments
3. take it slow
4. be understanding
5. provide mental support (play the best friend role)
6. read between the lines
7. Respect their space
8. spend quality time together (it's crucial)
9. Fully accept them (assure them you love them for who they are)
10. don't assume
Couldn't agree to it more!! ♥️💯
@Prlhad Maid yess
This is exactly what I need I just realized that I'm introvert too.
The main issue with being an introvert in an extroverted world, especially in 2017 is that not only is the expectation for you to be extroverted, but also extroverts don't have the time or patience to get to know you in the first place.. Everything is so fast paced, and if you can't conform or be open immediately, you're cast aside.. Yet extroverts complain that nobody will take the time to understand them, yet they don't take the time to understand us..
Yeah, it's not one way for sure. Hopefully, this video will be a 4:43 min way for an extrovert to understand better the needs of introverts. We might make one for extroverts as well. So if you're an extrovert watching this, feel free to send us in your needs!
interesting i never thought of it that way, makes sense
I agree.
My main issue with the school right now. Thank you for reflecting my thoughts in this comment.
There's also this issue where people will take the time to know you, they will be understanding and you'll be opened up to them but then they'll just push you aside and hang out with other extroverts leaving you alone again.
I find there is a shortage of people who can hold a meaningful conversation nowadays.
yah, they only like to talk about other person's business especially lovelife...
People talk so much about celebrities and their drama, leads to nothing but I guess that's entertaining to them
Sadly, true.
So many people talk about politics meaninglessly, in a way to just push their point forward rather than allow for a reconsidering of their standpoint. It's conversation, but is fruitless.
that has happened to me plenty of times as well, I understand exactly how you feel. There have been a few girls who apparently had crushes on me, but the one that asked me to prom got a nasty rejection (I said “I’ll inject botulinum toxin before I go out with ANYONE” notice I said “anyone” not “you” is specific). From that I was kinda humiliated in from of the class by her and people were talking about me in other classes. So I don’t like the idea of being in a relationship right now.
I have an introvert boyfriend and he doesn't wanna talk to me rn, so i decided to watch this kind of educational videos to understand him more. ❤️ It helps alot. Thanks.
Please understand him.. Its very hard for us introverts if even our partners dont understand us 🥺
Same here!
This helps me alot ♥️
I have an introverted husband. Been together for 10 years. I’ve been doing it all wrong. Idk how he has tolerated me this long.
Same here :)
My introverted bf never shared what he expected. Which caused many fights. Even guys don't seem to be open about what they want. So, I started playing couple quiz games like "Lovify" with him. Where I can guess what he wants, and if I'm wrong, I now know exactly what he wants from me. It was a fun and easy way for us to get closer ❤
I'm an introvert and humans ask me "Why are you so quiet and why don't you go out in public?" like tf
That actually happened to me today.... *yay*
I bet your cat says stay in
Grandmaツ literally everyone I know acts like I'm crazy or there's something wrong with me just because im not as social as them or I don't think like an extrovert all my relationships we're like that except one
Behold fellow humans, I suspect this post was written by an alien.
Grandmaツ yeah people ask me why i’m so quiet in class sometimes. I just can’t get myself to tell them i’m an introvert or judt a quiet person. Once i told someone and they just had this weird expression on their face.
This video knew what I wanted in a relationship before I did.
Edit: Thanks for the likes
Help So true.
And this is exactly why i broke up with my gf :p
Same
Help same tho
Help same
Indeed i'm an introvert and my lover is an extrovert.
I am thankful he is very caring and understandinh towards me. He would tell me to not listen his friend's tease as I am very overwhelmed by it a lot and told them to be quiet. He is always there for me. Buys me food and easily catches up what i'm feeling or what's happening inside my mind. He is extrovert but he tries to be an introvert when we are together.
He's kind of popular in school when it comes to friends .. mine was in academics.
Whenever we have a free time, he would always stay close to me and pat my head if I'm alright. He would put up a gentle smile when I look at him. Eveytime when school hours ends, he would carry my bag and get me to the bus station. Even in lunch time, he would carry my bag and knows that he cant stare at me while im eating since i would be embarrassed so he would look away until I finished eating my lunch.
By entering again the classroom, he would let me sit beside him while he massages my hands and kisses them from time to time.. kind of like making it his hobby. He would also put his head on my shoulder.
To some, he is like a badboy kind of vibe, but inside he's very angelic. He may be a naughty boy but when it is me. He would always consider me as his priority and would always value my words.
I never thought I would have such a man! 😊😄
He's every girl's dreams' type however he is mine anyway. 😜😅
To my beloved Dave❤
Haha sounds like a Netflix movie
Sounds really sweet!^^ Don‘t forget to be there for him too :)
So, how did your extroverted boyfiiee started your conversation back then when you're an introverted? I have a crush and I think she's introverted.Don't know what to do
@@AniGal Well we we're classmates since at the 8th grade, doesn't like him that much at that time cuz he was very naughty.. but then he made efforts on the 10th grade, his friend was also an admirer of mine so he was hesitating..in the end, he surprised me with flowers and done a lot of sincere things.. he would approach me first even tho he was very awkwarded while i silently laughed at him.. i think u should really invest in trust, time and efforts..do small simple things.. not act that grand, just simple.. we tend to like simple but memorable stuffs .. be genuine too, if ur extroverted then be extroverted.. but u have to be gentle when it comes to her, dont be noisy as we get really upset by noise 😁😂.. anyways .. be genuine when u put your hearts out to her.
@@ondongkarylle1637 Aww, that love story of yours was beautiful and cute at the same time. Looks like I'm limited to do some stuff 'coz you know, we're still in quarantine. Anyways, thank you! I really appreciate it! Stay strong for the both of you!
Im an Extroverted guy Who's inlove with an Introvert, its all thanks to Psychtogo that i learned how to Understand an Introvert. Now we're together
Sanaol
People mistake us as loners. We value relationship with people with whom we can have deep meaningful conversation . We want to be with people infront of whom we can open up without being judged. We can be the most talkative people with people we are comfortable with . And the pleasure we get being left alone with our thoughts...wish you extoverts could feel it.
monsur habib i feel you as a fellow introvert.
monsur habib We want to be judged fairly, by being given a fair chance.
monsur habib PRAISE!
Relatable
Im a Introvert
Its hard for me to easily open up to a new place with new people but when I find someone that is kind I can get a little more talkative heheh.......~
I dont understand why Extrotverts think we're Emos T^T
I'm an introvert and I mostly realise it, when I'm in a room and people are arriving. The more people are there, the more uncomfortable I get.
same i don‘t like going to birthday parties too or having my own.
Same here
Same bro, same
Same.
(Y) Same
I *cried* watching this video. I'm an introvert, and now I understood that it's the extroverted world that's not understanding me, and I *was* trying to express myself in all the ways I could.
Same with me. The first step for me was to accept that I am introverted
Same it's so hard , this is probably why my relationship didn't work out
Everything will be fine.... Just love ur self n don't let ur self feel down..... I am also an introvert u don't always have to try making ppl understand whoever understands let them n those who don't ignore it okieee 🥰❤
dude i'm introverted, and i was like damn this is literally me. i thought about it and realized my girlfriend has been fulfilling all of this... damn she's a good ass girlfriend. it's like she prob watched this video before
hello my bf is an introvert, any tips for how i can start a meaningful convo with him? or how i can ask him what he wants, he only wants to do but i want but i want to do what he wants bc we never do what he wants...
I cried watching this, I’ve never felt so understood
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Yeessz!!! Compelling
Poor you.. 😕
Same
RIGHT
i’m an introvert and this is true
Ryan Smith wtf you're everywhere
Introverts unite! :)
Dominic Sanders i agree lol
Ryan Smith I can SO agree
The thing is that I'm SUPER introvert but I do like to tale every now and then
Ryan Smith you're a narcissist
I'm an introvert and so is my husband, I appreciate and love him so much for being patient and understanding ❤
The best thing is when you make friends with another introvert and u can spend time with them without feeling completely exhausted
I'm an introvert and damn, this is all so true
Happy to hear!
Hybrid Person heck yea
11. Text memes.
This method of communication lets them know you're thinking about them and as a bonus does not require lengthy communication from your introvert.
Memes do nothing :l plus dear meme liker this is NOWHERE near memes
this is so true HAHAHAHA
dkc YESSSSSS
Youre sooooo damn right... whenever a girl tags me in really nice quality memes I instantly fall in love with her...
Yes i stan
I wish everyone would watch this. Being an introvert, this is exactly what I want in a relationship.
Any introverts watching in 2021??
Oh only me... OK !
Yes
Here I am
yeaaah
Yee
we always come back!
10. Don’t assume.
Amen.
Crimson Dragath ikr amen indeed
Yes
Nah bro, sometimes I am incapable of expressing my thoughts. I don't know how to say what I am trying to say, and then when I do say it I end up saying what I wasn't thinking. I hope this makes some kind of sense
I relate spiritually to this man. It always comes out wrong and I end up feeling even more misunderstood after.
I do the same thing, it can be extremely frustrating because people either think I mean something I don't or I don't make any sense. It's especially hard expressing emotions towards people you care about because it's like you almost panic if you're unsure what to expect
I get that yeah. I want to open up, but u just can't I have so many things I want to say, but I don't have anyone I feel comfortable opening up to.
I totally understand your situation . Just recently I had been through this same thing . I was talking with my boyfriend and something came up , I didn't know what to say and ended up saying something really stupid and something that I didn't mean to and that resulted in a big fight . My mouth and my mind never gets along , I guess .
It does make sense to me....
It's something I end up doing most of the time.....
And then I regret it later.....
I've never dated my whole life and I'm wondering how a (restrained) introvert could start a relationship.
Couples usually like to make phone/video calls, come to gatherings, going out often and doing small things together. Well I don't.
In relationships, communication is the key. When you feel moody or tired, your partner will asks or even demands you to tell them what the problem is. If it's me, that makes me more irritated when I just want to be with just me, myself, and I.
I can relate 100%
Yeah... An introvert like us can understand and love will be easy and safe with them
I am an introvert. How to start a relationship? I have no idea. Every day I think about one of my colleague, who is very kind to me, but I do not know how to ask her out. I'm waiting for Sadies, but I know it will not happen. So I have to make a leap of faith.
@@davidcsik9761 start small. Ask her to have lunch together. Or take a walk outside during breaks. Talk about interests. Try to find a common interest of what you could do together. For example: attend a (creative) workshop together. Don’t focus too much on the relationship goal. Become good friends first (though don’t hesitate to flirt if you feel like it).
@@MegaChriz we had a drink and I asked her, but unfortunately she has a boyfriend. It's broken my heart.
I'm a little more extraverted than introverted and introverts seem to naturally gravitate towards me. I always could understand them since we share a lot of traits but at the end of the day, this gave me a whole lot more insight in like the relationship aspect (since I work a little differently in that area) Thanks for sharing 💕
As a full-on introvert, I can confirm that this video is very VERY accurate 😊
How do you know a introvert man's display of affection? I'm an extrovert. I'm dating a introvert man. We've seen each other for two mos now, but I'm the only one who is verbal about how they feel. He doesn't even like for me to buy gifts which I still do as it is deserving for him.
I have noticed it seems as though he goes out of his way, but I'm not sure if that's just being a polite person or if that is him liking me. In a sense I'm confused pertaining how to tell his feelings.
@@firecrackerbaby3364 Speaking as an introvert, I believe him going out of his way is a sign he likes you. I hate going the extra mile for anyone, unless I'm particularly fond of, or loyal to, them.
@@firecrackerbaby3364 think about that extra mile he goes with you is extra time he likes to spend with you. I don't do that with anyone
I totally agree ... I also will borrow your "full-on Introvert" - I hope that's ok with you ..
Treasure that extra mile, that he can do for you. And make sure give him time to recharge after going that extra mile, if he distances, do something alone, or even do nothing alone. That is his time recharging, dont confuse it as he doesnt want to be with you. If he will see you respecting and accepting and understanding he will open up to you eventually. Especially he is a man, we dont usually tell other people our problem and thoughts, much more for an introvert man, dont lose patience asking him "you can tell me everything but no pressure i will listen."
My SO is a huge introvert. Listening to these tips just fills my heart with joy. I feel as if i've approached her the right way. I really love her and do not want her to change for me. She's perfect the way she is. Took me a bit of time to read her body language and understand her on a deeper and personal level.
But now that I can read her emotions, I've started getting closer and closer to her. I've never been more grateful to have such a loving and caring partner by my side.
Only downside is that she isn't as passionate and direct as I am when it comes to showing affection. But I've told her that I she doesn't need to tell me. That I know that she cares about me and loves me, by looking into her eyes or facial expressions
After a conversation with someone last night, i let them know I really like spending time alone, I need it to refill my cup, to work on myself, to love on myself and to rest. Now it all makes sense. I honestly prefer my own company over anyone else's. That were a little offended, but I hope over time they'll accept me as I am. I just would prefer to be alone ALOT OF THE TIMES
Whenever I try talking to someone it's like brain stops functioning and all I say is "um um" and I look stupid.
natasha kalebwe you are not alone. I do this but can't help it. It's actually annoying cos i just can't think about what to say! My brain is silly but I've come to accept that it's just the way I am. Taken along time to come to that though as I spent a lot of time thinking I'm not "normal" 🤯
Same! I always rehearse the words in my brain a billion times but still start with "um..." *Facepalm*
I feel it lol introvert life headass
Same omg
Okay, that's so relatable!
I'm an introvert and I feel like if more people knew this things would be less awkward for both sides
It'd also be less awkward if introverts decided to get to know our needs too (just saying...)
@@soupertlh2674 I agree with you. I am an introvert, but the problem is... we tend to shy away from talking... we try to get to know a person first. we take time to gain trust. I understand where you're coming from though!
That's the problem in 2019's hyperfast society, where most don't give another thought about is introverts
This is so accurate,being an intovert can be quite challenging so we need a partner who'll value and love us for who we are.
As an introvert and dating an ambivert (maybe), I've to say these are some of the basic and very apt observations. I do have grown a lot from anxious introvert towards opening up more and my work requires so but it always is helpful knowing yourself better than jumping to help others. Thanks for this channel. Keep it going
Yeah I am Introvert. It is hard for me to get into relationships. In fact, I never even dated a guy before and I am almost 25 years old. Never Dated. Never been in a sexual relationship.I haven't found the right person and It's been pretty hard lately. It gets to the point when I see my older sister who is engaged, my mom who is now with her childhood sweetheart and with pressure , especially from my other family members (Puerto Rican ) I at times feel like giving up.
This video does speak true to what I want in a partner and then some but I just feel at times it is impossible.
HerDark Majesty I would wait until you find the right person and make efforts to start a relation ship. Don't feel forced to do so, though!
HerDark Majesty dood, relationships are an awful lot like wine or cheese or a good wall, it takes time to be good, it may take long, but when it comes...
It's the best thing ever
HerDark Majesty I myself am 20 and have only been in 1 true relationship (which was sexual). She was on the plates of both personality traits, very quiet and loathed in alone time, but was very much so a party animal. Maybe partially because she's 18, and her introverted tendancies maybe linked to her depression. At the end I think she wanted to 'be one' with her extrovert side to move past the hurt of her past and move on with herself in life (hence why she broke up with me). We did alot of solely couple things with not so much going out and stuff like that which may have contributed. I can't change who I am, introvert in and out. But I did found love after 20 years, 1st girlfriend, 1st love etc. The wait is agonising. But if you remain yourself and open up to meeting new people, regardless of personality style, it might help in bettering you and finding that person.
Note: I can't get along with pure extroverts, they need some introvert in them. Maybe that's what you desire and need? :)
You just gotta wait ^^ they will come around eventually, even if it doesn’t seem rather soon
HerDark Majesty I feel pretty much tne same. I'm 28 and never had a date *or* girlfriend. I'm trying to find the right person for me, but may need to widen the search. I haven't given up.
THE WORLD IS ACTUALLY LEAD BY INTROVERTS; extroverts are just more visible.
Preach
Because most of us are at home at any given time. The extroverted world out there is loud.
Stupidity is always more visible and immortal
@@MrDoom159 extravert does not equal to intelligence and vice versa, so comparing those two isn't fair.
This could be possible.
1- Meaningful Conversation
2- Less stimulating environments (Small Gathering)
3- Take it slow
4- Be understanding (Bottled Up Emotions)
5- Provide mental support
6- Read between lines (Pay attenion what they say)
7- Respect their space
8- Spend QUALITY time together (Not every day)
9- fully accept them
10- Don't assume (Ask questions)
I'm introvert in a relationship & this describes me, perfectly.
This may as well have been "the 10 things missing from all my past relationships" 😂 great video, I'll definitely sending this to the next person I date
For sure! This can apply to all relationship context, but more so for introverts. And sounds like a good plan ;)
Minty Bliss DAN *Starts tearing up thinking about today's new video*
Prob shouldn't do that
Minty Bliss yes same here. These are things i crave for
A dated an extrovert and she did the exact opposite steps
But most of all, as an introvert, trust and stability is what we seek the most....
Yeah trust is definitely something we need time to build, but are craving for.
exactly... going for fifty y.o. …. still looking.
True
Factsss!
Trust broken once in a lifetime = Never Trust Again. Introvert life.
Dating an introvert, it's like hell. Always feel like I said/did something wrong, I have a tendency to be really high energy and I think this video helped me realize what I am doing.
Me and bf are going through a extremely tough time right now and watching this literally just helped me learned the man I thought I knew these last two years. Needless to say I will definitely be talking notes from this
As a guy with an introverted girlfriend I found this very helpful. She likes to distance herself and take time to think which I mistake as her being upset. I greatly appreciate knowing that she could just be taking it slow and trying to collect more information.
How is your relationship now?
as an introvert married to an extrovert, it took a very long time for her to understand what my alone time meant, lol. if i may make a recommendation, something that helped us. if she is off alone, make a small effort to show you're still thinking about her while she is recharging. and i do mean small, lol. just stopping and asking if she's thirsty or wants a snack can open up an opportunity to help her brainstorm. and if she doesn't need anything, remind her that you're still there if she does. it lets her know you are still putting in the effort and that can make a huge difference in how things play out.
@@jonathanblair5920 thanks for your experience!
Kudos to you Logan for taking the time to understand her.
Go get 'er buddy, wouldn't want to disappoint her if I were you since I am an introvert myself and I know all too well how terrible it is to have a lover who doesn't understand your personality
as an introvert other introverts attract me, but because I am an introvert I cant talk to them and they wont so it's gonna take forever to find my introverted love lol
It happens more than you think, introverts meeting each other! I'm introvert and in a couple with an introvert, and it's perfect! We're on the same beat, we want the same things, we understand each other. I think an extrovert would totally exaust me. But my introvert is like an oasis of calm and safety in a stressful, overwhelming world :) You're wise to be attracted to other introverts, as they would very likely suit you! It will happen for you too :)
Jule Sparkle the struggle is real :D
I agree I find the people who interest me are introverts because I know they will not want to spend every second of the say with me.
well, we're in the same situation... and i think we are not the lasts xD
I know that feeling that why i make sport so i can even talk to other people. Sport make me more cofident.
I have a introvert for a fiance, soon-to-be wife, and we have been seeing each other for almost four years. There have been some ups and downs mainly attributed to my not understanding how to best serve her and take care of her needs since I am an A type personality and an extrovert, some days it's a little difficult for me to get my head around things and this video was so awesome and empowering for me to understand her needs and how to best position myself to make her feel much more loved in our relationship.
Really good video, needed this. My bf is introverted but I simply forget and when watching this it explains his reactions and the way he is at certain times. I’m learning to love the little things as an extrovert dating an introvert. Always learning the little ways that he shows love and expresses his feelings.
Introvert : **bottles their emotions**
Extrovert : **watches this video**
**breaks the bottle**
Introvert to Extrovert: Repair the bottle or I fkin kick your ass.
@@wolframxx5580 no man, it's not sad, some things i just want to keep to myself and not share..
AKshay Raut extrovert are rude and reckless most of the Time ..
@@chosen573 well, almost all the extrovert person I know have rude personality... Sometyms pushy but they made a good friend tht give u positive energy.
Amghannam Hahahahahhahaha well said. But the bottle is plastic. It can’t be broken🙃 So you don’t have to use your energy in kicking the guy’s ass
1. Hold meaningful conversation
2. Less stimulating environments
3. Take it slow
4. Be understanding
5. Provide mental support
6. Read between the lines
7. Respect their space
8. Spend quality time together
9. Fully accept them
10. Don't assume
acs ver 👍
Check everything for me! I already do this, even before this vid
1-Yes, 2- Yeesssss......10- Yes, please !! 😔😔😔
I AGREE!!! YES!! FINALLY SOMEONE GETS ME!!! :D
Thank you!
Exclusively Dating this introverted girl right now and it’s soo interesting that I get a “playbook” in how to ingratiate myself with her. Unique thing about this playbook video is that It all demands authenticity and sincerity in my behavior and thinking, Which I appreciate because that’s what I want to be, as opposed to being misunderstood.
This video is making me also realize how wonderfully patient she is in allowing me to adjust to her, as she’s adjusted to me. I “lean extrovert” but now I’m seeing that I definitely need to be more conscious in the nuances of this sort of relationship.
Thanks for the video.
Totally been there in terms of dating my ex-girlfriend who was what I remembered an kind of a extrovert up to an extent. I am naturally an introvert not gonna lie but when I was dating my ex-girlfriend, at first I thought she was understanding that I needed space from time to time. However let's just say that she interpreted that as me not wanting to spend time with her. It became a point where sometimes she would guilt trip me and on top of that even when I spent time with her, I would feel emotionally exhausted after spending time with her. That's why I had to break up with her and started to focus on myself before I am ready to date a new girl that will be understanding let alone love me for who I am.
My Gf is highly extroverted and i'm the reverse, i'm gonna show this to her in the hope she can learn more about me. Thanks Psych2Go
Azante tell us how it goes
My boyfriend is highly extroverted and I don't know how he does it! One time I brought him with me when I went to register for classes at my college and I left him in the waiting room for an hour. When I came back he was exchanging Xbox gamertags with the guy sitting next to him. It can take me weeks before I ask someone sitting next to me in class if they want a piece of gum.
While I am an Introvert, I'm glad I'm not shy as well. I can't socialize too much, or I'll just get tired and unbearable. But talking to people is “fairly easy“, if you just stay polite/pleasant most people are satisfied. I just hardly ever get close and personal with someone. On the other hand I know quite a few extroverts, who while they considerably often have trouble getting into a conversation, at least what feels like instantly become best friends. Somehow I feel like it's kind of reversed in my/ my friends case(s) haha
I'm really extroverted and my boyfriend is introverted. Using this video to learn more about him. Lol.
Opposites truly do attract.
I think introverts are interesting people, most of my close friends are, I don't think they need to be more "extroverted," my wife is the most introvert person i know, she often saying things like " sorry dear, I'm not really good at communicating," "sorry that I'm too shy," or "sorry that I'm boring" (in contrast that people keep telling me I talk too much and like to butt in on every conversation I think interesting), but the fact is I don't see any problem regarding her not talking as much as I do (thanks God that she isn't), I always think that she is so interesting even when she is not saying anything, I mostly talk about ideas and opinions but most people will soon not paying enough attention when I try to talk a bit deeper, but not the case with her, she remembers details more than I do, although she get frustrated a lil bit easier lol, well I don't know about other ppl, but I could not ask for better partner
Justinus K Novarianto this is so warming to read. God bless you both :)
This video is something that is applicable to both extroverts and introverts ...
Every relationship need deeper understanding as well as some space ...🎀
Makes sense but the sad reality is that you will get deep conversations mainly from introverts
just started dating a introverted lady i really like her too and offer her any kind of support and help she needs. im educating myself on videos like this to make sure im not overstepping any boundaries. this video nailed our relationship spot on. at first when she first began to pull away i was very concerned but i know now thats just how they can be especially when overscheduled and stressed.
Dear future husband,.......
Do what this video says.🙂
I'm a very shy guy XD
@@justalpha9138 no ur not
@@realcartoongirl Yes I am. XD How can you say I'm not when you don't know me?
@@justalpha9138 idk
JustAlpha Arent we all?
Introvert? Relationship?
…that won't be hard at all! (I'm an introvert)
I sense the sarcasm in this. XD
Said no one ever, I am an introvert so I relate to this
Do you want more confidence? Better social skills? Tips to feel more comfortable? I make videos on all that! No, I'm not some scam life coach! *Just head to my channel*
xD
Spider Pig lol me to
thank you 🤍🤍🤍 i really wants to keep this relationship work, he is an introvert and he is far away ... its really challenging for me to makes him feel comfort with me ...hopefully we can make it through 😇
i like it whenever he goes "you look nice today" when we're literally just wearing the school uniform 🥺 it's cute how he's just was so shy to talk to me first, sometimes it makes me worried about how he actually feels about me tho. but eversince i gave him a letter saying its okay to be shy, he's been more open. now, im in a very nice relationship and i've been with him for almost 6 months, to more time together !
Recently I asked a girl to be my girlfriend ( I'm an introvert ) and it was really hard for me... She refused. 2 months later at her b day party she and her friends and I were talking and suddenly they started talking about " how men should act towards women " and she happily said what she liked in a man not caring about the fact I was there... She described exactly the opposite of me. Since then I quit trying, I can't make someone like me, I must invest in who likes me the way I already am.
Man, that sucks. But at least you had the courage to ask her... I didn't have it...
Alexander Patrick Don't bother with women in the first place bro, it's just a Hassel that's unnecessary. I suggest you look up MGTOW, it's helped me see the truth in women. Cheers
I like quiet dudes.. and I’m an introverted girl lol
I asked a girl to the homecoming dance once and she told me she'd think about it, then didn't mention it until I asked her until my last moment until seeing her till the dance and she said no because she wasn't going to the dance. I felt so heartbroken and then she showed up to the dance with my best friend. She made me wait until the last moment to tell me no by avoiding the situation and then went with my best friend. Still friends with both of them tho. Now every time I see her it's incredibly awkward.
Maybe she wanted to change you, which is no good
My boyfriend is an introvert and I can say that it’s the best relationship I have ever had and I’m so happy with him.
I feel incredibly lucky for having him in my life ❤️
Melissa Beltran , but are you an introvert too?
Please Love Him More Cos Introverts Just Seek More Love
This video really help me to understand everything about my special amazing friend introvert. Thank you much for sharing. Now I know how to understand and support him anything. And I won't over thinking about his behavior from now on.
Think the most important thing is to be okay with silence. Lots of introverts don't say much if it doesn't concern something they're particularly passionate about. That doesn't mean they don't like things or are ignoring you. Forcing introverts to constantly talk is incredibly draining especially on a regular basis.
True. I can't talk about weather and rain.
What is your experience with dating an introvert
Dating? *HA* Good one
It's easier for one to love than being loved by some one that doesn't understand the one he loves
Im dating one and he is beautifull I love him the way he is
HA HA HA
Ha good joke none of us date
As an introvert, Dating is something Never happen to me
I have always been an introvert since my childhood and yes I agree with this video.
Introverts are not accepted and recognised in this world because it's all about being an extrovert especially when applying for "That job" It's all about having a specific personality and competing with other big characters that we have to adopt a false personality in order to qualify or become successful!
Us introverts have special, unique and interesting qualities but it's soo damn difficult for others to see that because some people do not take the time and patience to actually get to know that shy individual. They only see what is on the surface and not the person as a whole and deep down what they are very capable of doing!
It's sad really.
Jenny Snaps Respectfully, I disagree that introverts aren't accepted. Plenty of admired and influential people are introverts, from artists to analysts.
Maybe they are less likely to be recognised with Mexican waves, fame and packed stadiums, but that's not the type of appreciation I assume most introverts would like anyway.
Jenny Snaps what upsets me is people actually frown upon introverts and act as tho introverts dont exist and everyone should just act like an extrovert because that is what society calls "Normal" they expect everyone to act and think the same. I hate it. that's why i avoid people and you know what i like it less peope less b.s.
I'm also an introvert but actually the world used to think that extroverts were always better workers but now have noticed that introverts can be better because they don't waste as much time socializing :)
Jenny Snaps my boss still doesn't know I'm an introvert. Aced thed job interview talk to clients on really empathetic personal levels. But that's only my work face. gone so far that the company needs me or everything falls appart. But doesn't understand that I don't do company parties, events etc. I'm much happier with my cat at home :)
Jenny Snaps fuck so true im currently to find a new job and i have to put so damn efforts to be dynami amd comfortable not bc you are introvert that you can’t do the job
My husband is an introvert and whatever you just explained in the video is absolutely true. I am facing lot of issues in understanding him. But I love him a lot and I can't live without him under any circumstances. Hence, I will change myself to make him happy.
Thank you for this share.
This video is so educational and helpful! I like a guy who is a major introvert and it is hard to understand him which is why I am watching these videos to try to understand him better. I am learning so much! Thanks a lot for these videos! They truly help!
Introverts unite! Now, I’m going home!
DeepForestRex lol lol lol lol
xD
Accurate
DeepForestRex hi
hi .. *pokes*
Sometimes when a woman is interested in me, in my brain start endless amounts of questions like "what does she want from me?", "Why me?" or "this can't be true, can it?".
Agree xD
I'm dating an introvert. Just try to enjoy it as it is. Your heart decides who we love, so there is no answer to questions like that. Also sometimes opposites atract. And last but no least, every person is valuable and unique and deserving of love! Good luck with the dates!
Exactly
That's not introverted, that's insecure. Of course many introverts ARE insecure, but it's important not to confuse the two.
Now that’s just being paranoid bro, why don’t you think you deserve a good girl? PS I know your comment is 5 months old, but this popped up in my recommendations today-stay safe!🤗
I recently learned that I am a ambivert. Understanding that now has really helped me cope with my relationship with introverts and extroverts. I have always been attracted to extrovert women but have always had more meaningful relationships with introverts. The difficulty of falling dead center has always made it difficult to connect at every level. I find your short videos to be very accurate. Thank you for your content.
My dad is a major introvert and my mom is an extrovert and I've witnessed so many conflicts because of the things explained here. My dad can be too hard to handle but I think my mom never understood how to handle his introvertedness. I'll try to hint her stuff From this video, thanks, love you guys!
Everyone talks about introverts like we’re animals or a thing
.... kinda pisses me off with that.
They kinda do but yet again we are more sensible and delicate that doesn't mean it's bad it just means we're different and Special
It’s really hard, especially in comments on videos like this, to address all introverted people without coming across as not normal or understanding. It’s pretty difficult, we live in a world full of labels and stereotypes. So sometimes we address people as “LGBTQ are like this....” or “Republicans do this...” So we say, “Oh introverts do this....” it’s not that we mean to dehumanize you, it’s more like we might not fully comprehend how to address you, or we’re a little bit ignorant. It’s more like analyzing, even though we don’t go about it the best way.
Alva Saari I know right?! It’s so frustrating!! we are persons 😡😡 we have feelings too
Righttt
This video makes me feel like introverts are some species, and everyone is just trying to learn about us, because we aren't clear. WE ARE RARE SPECIES.
We are shiny humans
Ultra_Oof55 you are 💯 percent correct.
Yess
We are the mysterious species of mankind that the world still tries to understand XD
Yes 👍
Oh wow, this is so much like my life.... thanks!
So many people do all the "don't do/think" from this video in my life!
Made me cry a bit... wow, someone i don't know, knows better than people i DO know!
Very helpful!! Tysm for making this, it really helped!
I'm an introvert and I can honestly relate. My mom and older brother are extroverts and my mom always tells me to go hang out with my friends more or go outside more or just stop sitting inside. But she just doesn't get it. We have had a few arguments about this. But I just need my alone time, I would rather read a great book than go and talk about the same stuff with my friends. Of course I go outside, just not that often. My dad is an introvert and I'm so glad he is, because I would go insane if I wouldn't know another introvert! And mostly all of my friends (don't have alot of those) are extroverts! Well, the rant is over!!!
I feel like my family is made up of extroverts and I'm the only introvert. So I get what you mean. My aunt is the one who realises this. I still hang out with good friends from time to time, but I don't go out often. Even an old teacher I'm still in contact with understands and has been a helping hand.
Yeah, I get what you mean. Not trying to be mean, just saying facts, but my mom has issues with nerves. She can get annoyed and angry really quickly and that just adds up to the 'me staying home alot' argument. Sorry, for giving you all my problems, but I just wanna rant and tell someone. So... I kinda also have depression. I haven't been diagnosed by a doctor, because I sure as hell ain't telling my parents, but I have taken alot and ALOT of tests online. And all of them say that I have depression, so I'm just gonna assume I have atleast a little bit of depression. And the whole situation just breaks me. Being an introvert, having depression and to top it all of a mom that judges me for not going outside and just not being happy with me no matter what I do is hard. Oh and lets not forget I'm quite young. I have barely any friends, because they try to make plans with me and I sometimes just don't want to go, so after that happens most of the time, they drift away. All the pressure from school topping all of my problems off. And that just makes me wanna cut myself, but I'm too big of a softie to do anything (too deep, moving on).I just sometimes wish I would have someone to talk to. And I know my mom just wants the best for me (for me to go out and make friends, breath fresh air and have fun with others), but it really hurts me when she yells at me for being lazy and stuff. Oh, how could I forget, I'm also very emotional. So I just kinda always am in a dark place and all I'm asking for is happines! Great, I'm crying while writing this. So sorry again for pushing my problems to you, you can just ignore this. I just needed to let it all out!
Oh God, I didn't expect that commet to be so long!!!
AliceWonderland No, no, it's okay, really. My mom has her issues too, and over the years the three of us (me, Mom and aunt) have had to adjust our eating habits and are trying to help out the others. My aunt was the first one of us to go gluten free, then me, and Mom went let's say voluntarily. So now I'm anxious about eating with others since not many know I don't eat certain things. I may eat mostly raw, but meat isnt completely off the table. Mom also stresses out, but I try to help her through it, despite our many differences and the fact she also gets on my nerves. I have the worst allergies in my family and I'm the only one on the spectrum. I may not have the same conditions you have, but you seem really nice. Great, I'm getting shaky writing this. I haven't even told my friends about me being introverted, but the teacher I mentioned might already know. Now, I'm ranting almost...
Quentin Ellis Well, you are learning from the best about ranting, so I expect some rezults, honey💁🏼😂 I actually know quite alot of people who always joke about people (vegetarians, vegans etc) about being really choosy (idk if that is a word, oh well) eaters, but I never really got their point. Like the person chooses what he (she etc) wants to eat and that is their buisness, not yours (the judgemental people). And I think you should embrace it and not care about other persons opinions. I think its amazing (at first I wrote amazongs, am so gonna use that instead of 'amazing' from now on) that you control what you eat. 'Caus we all know that there are alot, like alot of people who can't and they eat alot of unhealthy snacks and junk food. And if other people pick (judge) your eating choices, then they can mind their own damn buisness! Also thanks for reading that god damn long comment. You get a star sticker for that⭐️
I've been dating an introvert for almost a year now.
And somehow, intuitive, I do all those things mentioned in the video.
And you're right. Ever since I became softer and more understanding towards my girlfriend, she kept showing more and more gratitude and love towards me.
I wish all of you, introverts and others, meaningful life and a lot of love ♡
Waa you are an amazing bf , am an introvert and ma ex boyfriend was super extrovert, he used to force me to socialize more , when I ask him i wanna alone time, he used to laugh and say are u human , when I tell him I don't wanna anyone to know anything about our relationship he will get mad and say what is wrong with y , he used to called me cold, bossy , too much independent we use to fight but i used to ignore him , but i finally broke up with him god he was such an a** anyway good luck to you and your gf
I will do this from now on thankyou so much for this hope i have faith in our relationship if i knew she’s introvert in early stage i immediately adjust and study a lot of things for our good😊❤ communication still have time to make this happened i hope God will guide me as well again thank you for this wonderful words i will do this and making a lot of perseverance🙏
This video understands me so well in a world of feeling misunderstood.
OMFG as an introvert who has had nothing but problems with close relationships this is absolutely true. I wish I knew about this video before because it explains things in ways I haven't been able to articulate with other people about introversion. Thanks for the video!
I’m in introvert and my gf is also an introvert and the best way i’ve found for us to get closer is simply hugging or being close to each other for long periods of time. Although this could also be due to us both being super clingy, But who knows?
The sexy milk man Argh, thats pretty much my dream/main fantasy xD
Little chance of that happening to me one day but maybe
You're an introvert an your name is the sexy milk man.. 🙈🙈😂😂
Jaana EnKerro hell yeah.
Elliot Rodger we were original only friends for years, but then we found interest in each other romantically so we started dating.
Same, my bf and I are introverts too, and we are both super clingy and we love contact with each other
Me: *is scared of people and over analyzes what I'm going to say*
My mom: go ask them for help or your grounded and I take your phone away
Alexis Avila The struggles.
Then people get frustrated because you aren’t making it easy and they don’t understand why you’re so hesitant and that just makes you more stressed. :(
This answers many of questions. Thank you so much
I know I'm an introvert. I recently met a man who has done all these things and I feel like I can let myself be me. He knows when to give me space, when I want to talk about things I have trouble saying and he just gets me. For him being an extrovert I don't know how I managed to be so blessed.
Y'all just like exposing me
Sorry!
Psych2Go it's okay! Great video as always!!!!
Dante Auditore39 **internalizes the emotion**
Dante Auditore39 what would happen if I loose an introvert? Would I get back
ikr
Dating an introvert is quite interesting to be honest. Compared to my boyfriend I am an extrovert. I was to one who started the relationship. By asking him out. He would have never and we were best friends. We are opposite. I love to go out and met new people. While by boyfriend rader stay home with me. Which is flattering but I am the type of person who needs to socialize. Be out and explore and he like to explore too. Just not with people which I find cute and frustrating. I love him though. I do try to push him to get out of his safe zone and he does the same for me. Makes me sit down and relax. It seems so simple. Yet it quite difficult for me. His actions have surprised me. Making him talk about his emotions is hard but we work on it every day. He talks with my friends and family. I also made him talk more with his own family. We are 2 years and 2 months now.
Evelyn Serrano , he will appreciate your understanding although he might not say it out.
Sorry you won't last
@@dresdenwinterknight9553 Sorry but you dont know whether relationships will last or not.
"Making him talk about his emotion is hard." It makes me laugh. Coz i can relate, i'm an introvert btw.
It sounds like you are really i love him 😉😊😁 that is so sweet ❤️ ❤️♥️..
I'm an introvert and if you meet me online you wouldn't probably guessed it because I talk a lot there because its not that exhausting for me, its a different story when it comes to personal interaction. Sometimes I'm with my friends and I'm just... There... I'm just in a corner reading😂. It was fun watching these kinds of videos because I really think that this will open the world's eyes to who we really are.
Hey, Psych2Go! Thank you very muchhhh!! for all the videos you've made, especially this video. It literally describes me. I felt very understood and free to express my feelings because of this, and because of your videos. So, thank youuuuu veryyyyy much!!💜💜 Pleaseee, continue making videos. Best of luckkkk! We love y'allllll
As I open my mouth and talk.
All the people who know me will be like "wow he actually talking".
Thing get harder for introvert
Honestly, if a friend says it, they’re probably joking.
smile and laugh a little and continue talking. that's what i do and it works.
I tend to shut up when they notice me talking cause I felt really awkward, i felt like they're expecting me to say some great things
Jahahhahahahaha same
same it happens to me even in my school a teacher said when i asked her a question ....she was like "oh so you finally got a tongue "....it annoyed me so much :(
It doesn't matter whether you're extraverted or introverted, I think we as humans should take the time to understand each other and be patient with one another to make those more meaningful connections. I could be speaking nonsense though. - shrug -
The only nonsense that you mentioned would be that you assumed your idea as "nonsense"
But sadly I have to say (prepare for memes)....
Sounds good doesn't work. :/
No dear! It's not nonsense at all. I absolutely agree. All of us should have the factor of understanding all people in society whether introvert or extrovert we have quite unique traits and personalities but we should appreciate and support each other and respect one another with our own individuality and well-being
Agreed. Can't believe people are fighting over which side is better. Introvert and extrovert is just a personality. Most people share that which is not wrong. A person is a person.
In a unique way.
Yur mom gay (jk I think you're right)
We need patience
Love this! I’m tired of only seeing posts on helping introverts be more extroverted. Extroverts need to learn some things too. In my experience that would be to learn to just shut up and listen. TY for addressing extroverts…more graciously than me, I might add.
Had my first day of in-person university today as an introvert. Especially after COVID, my ability to cope with large crowds and extended socialization has really decreased. At one point I was surrounded by so many people, I became overwhelmed and couldn't ask for directions to my next classroom. For some reason the school band was there and started playing, and I was so overstimulated at that point I just had to stand there with my hands over my ears, crying. Going into university, you feel a lot of pressure to suddenly spend all of your time at events outdoors and create study groups, things that are really hard for me to do.
I'm an introvert and this is so true!
This girl and I stopped talking and hanging out and I think it's because she thought I didn't like her. I did but it just takes time for me to show a lot of physical affection
TheMoldyPotato oh my God is this story of my life right there cause I had a crush on an introvert and I was the one who'd always talk and he just always seemed to reply with short answers and I stopped talking to him
Smart Geek I know it can be frustrating but if you are sure he likes you then keep trying! He will probably open up eventually!
lol this happened to me literally a week ago. I told her that we could complement each other. She understood and finally agreed.
TheMoldyPotato I try to give as much little hints as possible (like sitting near them even if there is someone I hate is there too or saying something nice about their clothes)
I'm a introvert and it's honestly really hard for me to imagine myself being in a relationship at all..I'm only 16 now but I rly don't see it happening
I'm already 22 and I'm having the same problem lol
Don't worry. Is ok to be single. I've had a lot of relationships for an introvert (altough they only last a few months) and decided 2 years ago I'm out. I don't want to do it anymore and I've been so happy ever since. For me at least, relationships bring a lot of anxiety and paranoia and you are always either going into or gettig out of a conflict. Nah, I'm done. I'm so happy and calm and just having a great quality of life without relationships. If you guys find someone, that's awesome. If not, you really don't need it. Trust me.
Im 16... I feel the same. I tried imagining it but the bubble never forms.
cranberrywb100 I'm exactly the same
Yeah, it's really weird, when all of those 13 years get into a relationship, and you don't... well, I'm happy being alone, no need that dramas tho
I'm here because I just started dating an introvert. We recently had our 3rd date and I'm learning a lot about their personalities through videos on youtube.
It's nice to hear that some people are interested in it😊
@@1KaReN97 Only someone who wants to invest in a relationship with an introvert would learn about more about not only the person but as an introverted person.
It feels happy to see that I am not the only one like this. All my life I thought maybe there is a problem with me because everyone appreciated extroversion more at school and calls me a good girl for being silent all the time by my relatives but I used to feel misunderstood in both places due to this. After I got the internet that's when I started researching things and behaviours that I understood that there is nothing wrong with me I had just been an introvert all my life and there are other people too who feel exactly like me.
i’m an introvert in public but a complete extrovert with friends, can anyone relate?
Kevin
So ur an ambivert?
That’s how introverts usually work. Once they’re comfortable with people, they get along easily and well in small groups. You could also be an ambivert though.
Kevin i guess I can. I absolutely hate people talking to me in public with no worthy purpose, but then I get bored and want to talk to people. But in smaller towns everyone says good morning to eachother even if they are randos, then I become less of a bitch. Idky
Kevin That's Normal. We Are Usually Quiet And Stuff But If We're Comfortable With Friends We Can Talk Off A Storm
IDKevin it's not hard to figure out why, when you are with friends you tend to care less about what people think about you and you also feel protected by them depending on which type of friend you are with.