A Generation Of Sexless Men | Asmongold Reacts
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- Опубліковано 13 жов 2022
- Asmongold Reacts to The Rise Of Involuntary Celibacy: A Generation Of Sexless Men
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"Having a girlfriend is like having to do an extra 20 daily quests a day" - A true gamer take (also true)
The best mid max is to farm a lot of income initially with a good job, and then rent a girl for a girlfriend experience whenever you want. Minimum effort if you gain a lot of money, and maximum result because you get to have those good experiences with women without having to go through "20 quests a day".
@@guts3318 You should date an old women then, simple.
@@Yggdrasill8 I'm sorry I failed that one, ingot an error message saying I needed 50 years of experience.
T'was a good entry level job too, almost paid twice the minimum wage.
@@ferd3007 is she is 40 and no husband, then maybe something is wrong with her
@@federikriline9613 considering the high amount of options the average woman has compared to the man this is true
watching asmongold for relationship advice is like consulting a homeless man about buying a house.
Why this make me bust out laughing 😂
He's 110% right though.
That's fucking hilarious!
@@DDadams0 no he isn't
@@JoshuaGraham8383 he is. Come back to this video after you've dated more than one person for more than a few days.
it's always impressive how asmondgold is able to flawlessly switch back and fourth between 300 and 3 IQ takes
Fr but is more like stupid point each 9 interesting things so bro valid
which would imply that he ever had a 300 IQ take regarding anything NOT related to MMOs or gaming... which he didn't
Which makes it 150 iq on average, good enough lmao
Think for the most part his 3iq takes are rare and often are ironic
I think we'd all sound like that if we all thought out-loud as much as he does.
"Just approach women"
This is 2023. Women have said many times on the web that they do not want men approaching them. Not worth it.
sucks that just cus a fraction of men r weird and creepy there are girls who dont want nothing to do with them. so now everyones just trying to play it too safe
so, don't approach women "on the web". Approach them in real life
@@toxic_narcissist definitely don't do that. they launched the whole metoo movement to prevent that. women even tried to make that a felony in new york. DO NOT do that.
*they only want chad to approach them.
This isn't true in every scenario. When you hear women say this its in reference to not wanting to be approached by a random stranger while they're going about daily life. Tho if you approach a woman in a social setting and introduce yourself and see how things go in that context women are generally more receptive.
“You’re not gonna play somebody else’s saved game” is the funniest line I’ve heard all year
Yea that completely caught me off guard. Definitely using that when someone tells me to date a chick with a kid
@@Thecultofwrestling yes, yes you can.
@@Thecultofwrestling 20% isn't a huge percent. people don't date single moms for a reason, so they probably are fine with cutting off 20% of their options if its options they don't want.
@@Thecultofwrestling lets be real theyre all a bunch of pssies terrified to have to actually put effort in theyre relationship just because she has kids doesn't mean you get to be a little btch and duck her just to turm around and act like a victim
@@6lake. gottem
"I'm insulted when a guy less than 6 feet asks me out"
That is a sentence I overheard a female co-worker say to another female co-worker.
The problem you have is you take this personally. Guys literally do this all the time, they joke about wanting girls with big titties and some even make jokes about girls with small boobs. So the "insulted" part is probably just joking around, and the over 6 foot thing is a preference which is 100% okay and valid to have lol.
@@viserus_ When the guy does it, he gets fired for making female coworkers "feel unsafe" around him, even if he wasn't talking to them. Happened to one of my coworkers.
@@TheBayzent so when you reported this what did your boss do? Your failure to follow up doesnt mean theres an equality issue here. You just didnt say anything lol. The mental gymnastics is insane
+viserus I never thought about it that way. You may be on to something about it being joking around. But a girl wanting a guy to be over 6 feet is like a guy wanting a girl to no more than 120 pounds, shallow standards that are set by hypocritical people.
@@thevigilant6884 in this day and age the dating pool is so big, you can set loose preferences like that, instead of "settling" for lack of a better word with someone outside your preference. It may seem shallow to some but when you are dating to marry and not for fun you want to find someone who fits your attraction profile first
lol, this is a trend now, I'm 29 and still virgin, nothing new here. But the thing that surprises me the most is that people actually think that being virgin is worse than being a whore.
Hang in there brah, we're all gonna make it one day
Damn dude i thought me being a virgin till 25 was bad, I honestly got lucky but damn man that’s gotta hurt. Hope things get better
This May i would be 30 years old and still virgin, you are not alone
@@zombiekila187what do you mean better? Not virgin>virgin? Why?
@@zerrouksidali1959Same here. I just got 30 this month. Still single
Im an incel but im not lazy or socially awkward, i work 2 jobs and people like me, as a child i often got praised for being mature for my age and well manered. But being bullied at school and abused at home without a single person helping me makes me feel like im not even human. Every social interaction is just theatre and i cant form bonds with other people
Judging by the comment you're probably smarter than the average person as well (no irony)
@@KaiserNightcoreMusicthat's probably why he's an incel.
just like me fr fr
i totally understand you .
Yeh. Hard to go through that, then graduate to being called 'creep' 'stalker', or some other insult just because you tried. You have to endure so much and receive no protections, then you have to instantly perform at a very high level and are disposed of if you aren't good enough. On an unrelated note, the fembots might finally be nice, if you can deal with the artificiality of it all.
The comparison to getting a job without experience but needing the job for experience is literally me.
Ive been trying to get a career job for over 15 years without success. It's impossible to get a good paying job when all jobs require experience.
@@virtual240 The secret is to know the right people and have multiple advantages over everyone else but that doesn't help the people at all who don't have those advantages and the people who DO have those advantages DON'T NEED help.
Good luck career dude I hope something becomes a good opportunity for you my dude.
@@virtual240 Sometimes you can get the job without experience, most employers demand vacancy just because they're not sure what they want from a man.
My employer had put up a 3 years of experience in the vacancy but hired me (with not a day of exp) just after a 5 minute talk.
dating is pretty much looking for somone who has experience but to get experience you need to date someone
Dude. Go get a class A CDL. You'll be hired on the spot with a decent driving record making 80k a year.
Oh, I'm not afraid of rejection... I'm afraid of being labeled a creep because I'm an introverted below-average looking guy hitting on someone I don't know.
You deserve someone king. Got you boi. get on out there. i heard that one girl super likes you. GO get em killer
This tbh, I don't even bother anymore. Intimacy is not important , my sanity and happiness is
@@JoeyJ0J0your sanity is going to crumble if you keep denying your situation
@@Cheezeblade kinda creepy
@@matowakan only kinda.
I don't want to be horny. I just want to be happy.
Then you need to be happy on your own first
@berrymint6486 i'm pretty sure he already did my guy he's talking about relationships and being happy with someone who doesn't treat him like an object which i pray he do
If you cannot find someone; you shall be single forever. The Lord is telling you to devote yourself to him, like the Apostle Paul.
Correct bro, I don't need lust at all I want is LOVE
And for that reason games > girlfriend
I’m noticing women aren’t appreciating or allowing men to have male spaces, humor, desires, or standards and that exists within relationships too. Always have to be careful that a woman can start to want to feminize many aspects of your life in negative ways (speaking from experience).
Ohh yah ! Once them gals start 'setting down roots' it's just the beginning. That's why one of my key Rules of Dating is NEVER taker her back to your place. Because once they see your stuff, THEN they can start getting 'ideas'...
@@veng3r663i feel like thats a refrence to something
@@djlaithie2525there definitely is something deeper behind the comment
spaces for people with a low income are becoming extinct, period. Don't worry, rich gentlemen clubs with lots of hos (female and male) EXIST!!
The amount of cringe from 2008 to 2018 has also tripled
as well as the amount of 'influencers' ...ah wait it's the same thing nevermind
Tripled a thousand times
Nah, we just see it more often
it's a religion behind that cringe just fyi.
Like pointing out the cringe in the first place has also contributed...
"20 more daily quests that you don't want to do" was the most beautifully Asmongold thing that i've ever heard
lol that and "Nobody wants to play your saved game"
its just true
i died laughing RIP
POG 😂
I laughed so bad at this !!!
"You're not going to play someone else's saved game" is a perfect way to put it. I was raised by a single mom. My mom and dad got divorced when I was like 18 months old. My mom only ever dated 1 other dude who ended up being a weirdo my entire life. she died when I was 23. Very very sad
All the best for your future, man 👍😇
sorry man all the best with your life
Last girl I talked to. Had a lot in common, really good conversations. All that jazz. Nothing that indicated the red flags yet. Then like maybe a few days in. I shit you not. She texts me saying she has a confession. All I think is “here we go again…” This woman bruh. She confessed to being an escort and she didn’t even know why she was telling me this. But she wanted a baby and wanted me to be the father… So yeah. I’m gonna start looking abroad. This was just another wall in a cascade of fucking crazy.
I am thinking of looking abroad, western women are not suitable to be mothers.
Bro escorts make good money, you lost an opportunity to get a living without a job
LOL!!! Run for the hills dude!
@@luigil8439 saying she wants a baby after a few days of dating is a red flag though.
This....did not happen, lol.
"You don't play someone elses saved game." this metaphor was epic, man. 😂🤣
It was, but then I think about all of the saved Pokémon games that I would load into and take all of their Pokemon. So in essence I have played someone else saved game 😂
@@hyperactivelime9482 For real. My first time playing Pokemon Silver version, I finished someone's incomplete save.
@@hyperactivelime9482 I always deleted other peoples saves. Guess I really don't play other people's saved game 😂
@@thelegacyofgaming2928 Same. After my friend let me borrow his copy of Diamond and didn't ask for it back after a week, I looked up how to delete saves and made a new one.
The worst part of this: half the time when I ask a girl out she looks at me like I'm doing something I'm not supposed to. Like I should feel ashamed that I dare be interested in someone.
not only they, the group, like coworkers, classmates, group of friends, they all behave like if you commited a crime. but if one of the good looking guys do it, they are all happy. it's like if you are an average guy, you are baaaaad if you dare to even ask out a girl. even if you are the most respectful, polite, and say the same things or bette things than what the "good looking guys" do.
they can do and say harsh things but they all laugh about it and there's no problem, but you ask somebody out in a polite way, and the whole group of friends is angry at you.
Coming from someone who used to be incredibly socially awkward who became more comfortable over time, I honestly think that level of attractiveness is not really the thing at play.I think that the more important factor is understanding/social awareness of a particular situation. It might be an annoying answer, but a lot of times you need to just understand the vibes whenever you're with someone, and there are times where you think things are looking good with someone in terms of chemistry and they are, but the vibe isn't suggesting a desire for romantic chemistry. It's kinda like the phrase of "they're like a brother/sister to me" that I'm talking about. I had made that exact mistake once and I learned from it, because at the time I hadn't been in a relationship and didn't understand that the social cues for when someone is interested in you is different (doing therapy also helped me with these things).
I have the belief that anyone can physically make themselves look like a seven at the very least with good enough self care, and anyone who would reject a seven just on looks alone isn't someone you would likely enjoy dating anyway. Just make sure that you are a generally pleasant person to be around and put yourself out there and you'll almost guaranteed find someone who mutually resonates with you.
beacuse all most of them care about are casual hookups not serious dating lol
@@zzane4677 No it's not. For someone who wants to talk about social awareness, you sure made a long ass comment nobody's going to read.
People always have excuses, it's just halo effect.
@@joschmo4497 Bro go watch a sunset or something, you gotta chill out some.
Being short is like playing dating on nightmare difficulty, but in my experience that's the best way to play. I have been married to an absolute legend for over 12 years now and I'm so grateful that having to try harder meant I found someone less shallow.
5'4 here and married as well. Just cause you play on nightmare difficulty doesn't mean you can't beat the game, just gotta work harder and get luckier than most. I also feel that being less conventionally attractive allowed me to meet a better woman who loves me for myself.
@@kalebisalwaysright it only matters when you are tall and handsome
@@pat103196but what if you play on ultra nightmare digiculty ?
@@kalebisalwaysright Same, it just doesn't make you filtered out in the beginning but they invent the next best thing that isn't perfect, I'm 6'2"
@@kalebisalwaysright Just because it didn't help you doesn't mean it doesn't help at all. You can still be socially re--tarded or have other problems. The fact is women do filter men out by height. You're like my tall friend, he still doesn't get any because he's basically autistic and doesn't know how to talk like a normal person.
the thing about saying just be confident is confidence comes from experience and from proving yourself by achieving great things. I only realize this later in life
So better yourself physically and mentally .. everyone starts differently in this life. Keep trying or go somewhere else in the world
I'm that 1% of men that aren't ugly because they're fat or going through puberty, I'm just truly ugly because of a severe facial deformity. I was bullied throughout high school and can't function in social situations because I know people are staring at my deformity. I had girls tell me to my face that I'm ugly so its safe to say my chances of having a meaningful relationship are slim to none.
Use it as your weapon of success if they can’t look away they’ll probably listen
Sadly our society is based on looks and status, but that doesnt means that out there is a special person waiting to share beautifull moments with you, keep grinding and improving yourself (studying, reading, working out and talk to people) nobody is ugly, we are just different and special on our own ways, we must find what we do best and go for it, much love from Uruguay and dont stop the grind
@Demetter I'm not going to sugarcoat anything, I have a dental deformity and honestly all you can do is either get surgery to be accepted by society(you never will be) or accept that the world is unjust and you will be unfairly treated no matter what
There are however some people who will judge you based on your character and not how you look, they are rare but they do exist
Bro us INCELs need to start making BANK and start controlling the narrative. Start TECH companies and own Social media. Get in Politics. That way we can influence change. Because until such time as we do. We will FOREVER be the butt-end of jokes.
@@sparkofcuriousity Most of the "ugly" guys I've seen dating attractive girl are just overweight, they have very average features. I get treated like I have special needs when I go out, that should tell you how bad I look.
Last date I had was a shit show. Was 19 or 20 and thought I found a unicorn basically. We loved the same movies, she liked the same vidya and we messaged back and forth for a few weeks, just nearly non-stop talking and I proposed meeting and having a cup of coffee, just to see if we get along the same in real life. We were both pretty excited.
I get to the Cafe like 5 or so minutes early to grab a table, she messaged me that she just parked and on her way.
She walks through the door with a toddler like 3 or 4 and sits down with the kid. I jokingly say something like is that your little brother and she just says nope, it's my son. She had never mentioned a kid before. Nothing in her bio mentioned a kid.
I try to at least be civil and polite, she ordered drinks for herself and the kid as well as lunch for both of them. Almost 60 bucks just for them. I just got a coffee. She then had the gall to say "Hey, you're paying right?". I just left and over the next week I had to deal with calls, messages. I even had photos of me at the grocery store shopping sent to me because she spun a fucked up story to her friends so they keep harassing me.
So nah, I'm good.
>I found a unicorn basically. We loved the same movies, she liked the same vidya
Step 1 is to not use ''unicorn'' and ''vidya'' unironically. Jesus.
Similar with me, but she had TWO toddlers, daddy's still in the picture, and I'm neurologically disabled
I hobbled away as fast as possible
@@danielseaburg9763 Using the 4chan ">" outside of 4chan is just as bad
@@paz1514 exactly, it's as bad as using twitch emotes outside of twitch, I had a friend back in high school who would unironically say poggers, I still don't know what the fuck he was saying that for
@@OGDweeb I've had a lot of women lie to me about having a child in the picture.
A lot of women are not upfront about it.
The guy that made this video is super coping. The divorce rate is dropping because the marriage rate is dropping. Not only with the laws that focus on being heavily anti man, and the solid terrifying reality that one day she can just leave, take what i have and hold my children hostage. The attitude that women have now is terrible too. They think helping people you supposedly love is somehow slavery. Its just madness. Why risk everything when theres nothing to gain?
On that second part I just wanna add how dumb it is they want to say it's empowering to ditch staying home to take care of kids and instead go on to work for a man that doesn't give a shit about them for minimum wage how tf does that make sense
@@ryukobestwaifu3319fr fr no need to do that if a man is already bringing in cash. unfortunately tho with how high prices are in america a bunch of families need both men and women working to provide a stable income
Bro is Blue Pilled, we all know there are Women that have bad intentions and there's a few good Women out there.
@@ryukobestwaifu3319 But men also go on to work for a man that doesn't give a shit about them for minimum wage whats the difference? Everyone has to work.
The main thing is that women are sick of working full time while also having to come home and do the job of a full time SAHM. Even if they make more money. 2 whole generations watched their mothers do this and said no thanks.
I had a woman who I really liked. Quite funny, intelligent(or so i thought), same morals/values for the important things for the most part. Great company, and was very intimate.
She broke off the relationship after about 1.5 years because she wanted her first love to be the kind of love that the movies show. Where you bump into someone at a starbucks, and a glance or two is all you need to feel flustered. You start chatting over a coffee, exchange numbers, and you have a few dates in dimly lit restaurants, and the walks in the park at midnight together. a wild romantic life with travels and spontaneous romantic gestures like flowers, and picnics. That's pretty much what she said to me. It's been a few years, but it was clear she wanted a movie romance and to be treated like an absolute princess.
I think she just never had the butterflies with me, despite really liking me. And she told this to me after she met a guy that did this to her. The twist to the story is that I knew this guy, he was abusive and volatile. Even told her and warned her, showing her his past criminal record(was in jail twice for a few weeks due to this) Was told I was just being jealous, and that she was a grown woman and could do what she wanted without me 'controlling' her. Within a few weeks she had moved in with him. Last time I heard from her was that she was in the hospital getting stitches. She had phoned me up to ask if I could pick her up.
I declined.
This led me to changing my mindset towards relationships permanently. If people are willing to throw away a year or two of a relationship with someone over something like this, I respect myself more than to let myself be subject to that, and I respect myself enough to not let myself be that guy who's always going to save her from her own choices.
This guy has zero idea what's actually happening with dating these days. Yes, there's lots of guys who are undesirable for various reasons of their own doing, but so many men have checked out because of situations like this. You give dating a go 3 or 4 times, only to have someone doing something like this, or screaming at you, or freaking out over stupid things. Or who decline you when you start showing interest in them. The people in the dating pool in America are just awful. It's just a logical thing. If the relationship is too much work or stress, and it happens multiple times. Guys just check out eventually.
Many men have given dating a try. But rejection after rejection after bad relationship just leads them to eventually check out. Most men are fine being alone so they'll embrace it. It's also why so many of these Men are going to other countries to find wives now, because what they value is drastically different than a huge amount of women in NA.
Wait, gotta have the obligatory "oh you're just an incel, lol" comment. Quota filled.
Some women can definitely have this effect on men, but that doesn't mean they are all like that. Just like how a woman might date someone like your friend and assume all guys are like that. It only becomes true if you give up and accept that it will always be that way. Truth is that it's not easy to find good people to have a relationship with, but they do exist and if you give up then you will never find them
@@padarousou I'm not sure the point of this.
I didn't say that all women are like this, but after trying 5, 6, 7, 8 times and getting nothing but shit thrown at you. Most people just quit. Not worth the headache.
@@truckywuckyuwu In your post it sounded like you had a relationship with 1 bad apple and you said it "changed my mindset towards relationships permanently". If it gets that bad every single time, then it may be because you are contributing to it in a way you may be overlooking, or you are looking for relationships in the wrong places. Good people maybe hard to find, but there should be plenty of relatively normal people in between, they aren't all bad
@@padarousou 1 bad apple was enough to tell me that I should be looking for an orange, not an apple.
That's what it changed.
telling someone with mental health issues to "just change their mindset" is like telling a paraplegic to "just get out of the wheelchair"
Or like telling someone drowning "just swim bro"
@@rsotuyo8180 Or telling a schizophrenic to "just be real".
@@Yggdrasill8 Or telling someone with a lactose allergy to "stop being so intolerant"
don't be awkward, don't be depressed, don't let failures affect you, get a better job, improve yourself...
oh gee, i never thought that not being me could be the solution to all my problems, thanks dude!
It really isn’t though. There are resources available to you and most people can combat mental illness. He isn’t saying “just be happy 4head” he’s saying taking the necessary avenue to help solve your personal problems is important
I had never had a girlfriend before at 29 but after a particularly bad rejection I decided that I would no longer chase anyone and instead I would work on myself and let them come to me. I went on a diet, bought new clothes and stopped focusing on women. Within about 6 months of making that decision, a friend’s girlfriend noticed and set me up with a girl and she’s now my fiancée. The bottom line is that if you are not having success with women, the problem is not your height or the way you are pursuing them or society at large. The problem is you, stop chasing women who aren’t interested in you, and start doing things that make you feel good about yourself.
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@@lazarus8453 i find this the complete opposite, as you get older for both men and women your tolerance to BS decreases
@@esuna4786 sounds like you live in the good part of town. 👍
yep she hit the age and she had to settle. get a prenup my dude.
@@lazarus8453 make that 32. 20s? nahh, the average thought they are 10 and deserved 10, become sidechick to top 1% who got the real 10.
Totally agree with "looking at the right place".
If a girl doesn't like me, she's not worth my time anyways.
I'm 42, and a virgin. And surprisingly, I am not bothered by it. Although I wanted gf when I was young, I lost that drive by the late 20s. And the major reason for that -- free contents. And seeing so many other men getting wrecked in the courts. I said, "Nope," and I was good.
I'm so glad for it. Things have gotten so much worse, and it's probably gonna get even worse.
bravo, wizard. i myself am a sage. i see it here on my end as well, a coworker of mine is fighting his ex/ baby momma for any parental custody of his son. she falsely accused him of assault and never made a police report or any sort of public record saying that happened nor did she have any evidence. He's apparently guilty until proven innocent. according to child custody court and now the courts dock 70 percent of his salary for child support to which it goes to his baby mommas hair and nails and 30 percent of that money goes to the courts themselves as tax
none of it goes to his kid and he still never gets to see his son.
it has gotten worse and this is a common story. there's like 2 other my coworkers who been in it like that.
@@12334jk As a wise man once said, "Smart men don't get married."
Same mindset here at 35.
Problem is now if a man says a slight sexist joke he is misogynist and if a guy has been in a bad relationship and he says nasty things about his ex then he is called a incel.
@@user-yy1tr9du1y Former part is true, but not the latter. Any man that women finds unattractive is an incel, according to many women. And that's at least 80% of men.
I'm a Volcel, Voluntary celebrate. After 18yrs of marriage losing 50% of everything, I worked for my entire life to an entitled lady that cheated, " No-fault divorce is awesome. Staying home and finding a hobby is cheaper than a relationship.
Sounds like cope.
@@WakeUpToReality... It could be hurt, sure. Or, it's somebody who's decided their time is better spent getting to know themselves better, and doing what makes them happy. And, if that isn't chasing tail but rather other hobbies, good for them.
Sent your own way, 18 year copecel
@@WakeUpToReality... Naruto pfp silence incel
Damn bro
As a counselor I've seen an uptick in p*rn induced erectile dysfunction in men between 18-34yo.
It's caused a lot of mental health issues in relationships.
Also another factor is working too much, being too stressed and having no time.
so many factors are hitting this generation harder than past generations.
I feel truly bad for everyone in that age range.
I had ED from desensitization i.e I was no longer aroused by the same old stuff. I noticed that I regained my ability to keep an erection once I found a new fetish, then I went on a 90 days, no fap and I had wet dreams and morning wood for the first time in my life at 17 years old 😅
@@SACKBOY123432 That's actually awesome! You saw a problem and found a way to fix it...
@@domerame5913 think about your statement. They were dating you but had those options. You won. So if you aren't dating them anymore instead of wishing you were rich just think about how you can be better or could have acted better. Even if she was priority at fault. Just focus on yours. You'll get better everytime. You're already pulling girls getting attention from millionares. Now it's just about the work to stabilize and keep them.
Feel bad for what? I don’t they shouldn’t be reproducing anyways it’s a good thing
@@omarcomming722 Those are very good points.
I am a short, balding dude. When I hear one more person say "just be more confident" I am going to lose my shit. Women are shallow, and I am not attractive to them, it's just what it is. The Tinder percentage for women is also kind of skewed, since the rest is in a relationship or "situationship" / friends with benefits, and they do not need Tinder and co. Those are still the same women with the same mindset, like the ones who use Tinder. Instagram is also a dating app nowadays, and basically all women use it. The video is lacking some detailed perspectives on these things.
It's worse than portrait in his video.
Skill issue
I ain't reading all that
@@cheefqueef6494 And yet you comment
Woah dude, c'mon, look at this: *Shows picture of 1 in 100,000 case of hot woman dating ugly bald guy*. See, this ultra-rare occurrence means looks don't matter! /sarcasm
more like "*people* are shallow"
I myself, as a young adult guy who's a 6/10 (or maybe a 4) I would never date a girl who isn't at least a 7.
And I'm convinced that that doesn't make me shallow, it's just how attraction works for most people. Does animal attraction work with shallow mechanisms? Yes, but it isn't news, it's just what it is.
Can you ignore that? Not really, you're gonna end up keeping a relationship with a partner you aren't attracted to ... how would that even work??
You can't judge people for rejecting offers they're not really attracted to.
I wholeheartedly agree with both Asmon and Cole on this. My issues are three-fold:
1. I'm still getting over the fact my ex emotionally abused me. I understand not all women are like her and that she was a bad person.
2. I'm still getting over one of the worst rejections I ever had from back in high school where said girl gossipped about me and tried to socially ruin me (had someone looking out for me that shut that shit down) after I had tried and failed to ask her out. The funny thing was, I understood what I did wrong and was trying to learn from it; the rumors came two weeks later from her. Second place goes to a girl at my first high school who actually successfully "cancelled" me before that was a thing on false pretenses (where I hadn't even intereacted with her) to the point where I lost all of my friends I had since 2nd grade, became a social outcast, and had to move schools states away to escape it. That one was... particularly brutal.
3. Age. At the time of writing this, I'm 32. It's become extremely difficult to figure out this on my part. Bar scenes aren't my thing and I suck at it even with a wingman. If there are women at my workplace they sure as hell aren't on my team and other teams don't interact with one another too often if at all. And because of the above point, I don't want to get my life destroyed by someone because I happen to choose to speak with the wrong person. Don't know if that's an anxiety thing or something that's unresolved.
Before someone says to see a therapist, it's... in the works.
I'm also 32. And honestly, I can literally FEEL like I'm in my prime.
Don't get me wrong, I get it, you've been through a lot. But don't hide from it. Don't accept defeat, I know what rock bottom looks like. I've been there twice. The first time lasted maybe 6-8 months after being dumped out of a 5 year relationship. The second time... Well I used rock bottom like a fucking trampoline. And I understood... There will never be a single obstacle that I come across that will EVER knock me down like that again. I now revel in the challenge of overcoming whatever bullshit life has to throw at me. Bring it on.
Here's the profound part. I had no idea that I'd become this person until shit tried to hit the fan the second time. Something just took over. A combination of determination, and a realization that "results" are a byproduct and we are NOT defined by them. The actions, choices and behavior's that you engage in on a daily basis, THOSE define you. If you focus on the future results, achievements or goals, you'll compromise the NOW. But if you focus on making the actions you engage in today as meaningful as possible, then meaningful results will follow.
Honestly the speaking thing is pretty valid, some woman really are weird and when you so much as look at them or talk to them they get mad and will make some false complaints, or on some places just what you actually did is seen as an issue. But most aren't like that, but you could always be the unlucky one so I dunno.
br0, step 0. Get over HIGHSCHOOL Yikes my dude.
I’m sorry you went through that dude.
Jeez, the communication environment is really becoming toxic in US. I would say move to eastern Europe but we have a war going on here. Here women smile back at you if you smile at them and are actually pleased to receive compliments. There is no this "passive aggressive" bull like in US.
I'm not even an incel, I'm an insol. Involuntarily solitary.
Hard to think about having a girlfriend when I don't even have a regular friend.
Maybe get a hobbie like RC cars/boats/planes, I notice that anime based hobbies are really solitary while RC hobbies are community based
get a passport :D
Step one. Stop watching anime.
Anime is the key to the door of incelibacy
@@Fankas2000You're subbed to sseth *T* zeentach...
This video really sounded like it said, "You want a girlfriend? Change everything about yourself." I get it but fuck that. I am finding it more and more strange the stuff people do to find a significant other. I find it really hard to believe the rewards are worth the effort. That is even assuming you find someone. You could just fail the whole time at best. At worst you get tricked and lose half of your stuff in a divorce. "But when you find that special someone it is so amazing." Okay but, for how long? The odds seem low and the rewards are iffy.
No. Better yourself for yourself and you will find a better girl.
@@Coolerstetth.32I don’t know how people do it either, you literally have to be a god version of yourself and a narcissist to some degree just to keep people interested in you
change yourself, for yourself - stop making excuses for yourself
@@jimijames6449
"No. Better yourself for yourself"
correct
"and you will find a better girl."
incorrect and/or naive at best. but that's irrelevant anyways, since you should better yourself for yourself and not for the sole purpose of "gittn' sum'"
the leg lengthening one stuns me.. having been injured and been in a wheelchair, to voluntarily go through that, and never fully recover, just to maybe find a mid tier single mom is insane to me.. plus I'm a bit older to, 40 this summer..
(imo) "Incel" feels like shaming someone for doing something 'involuntarily.' Most people desire a real partner, who is loyal, loving, and shares common-interests (a true partner in life). Society is very broken and men are coping with the realities of modern relationships the best we can (epic levels of misandry baked into the entire system) and that means many are in a state of permanent loneliness... gaming (with related bad habits) is a way to medicate, kill the loneliness (a vicious feedback loop). Not all of us want to go to clubs. Some just want a low-drama life. Think many men have given up.
NOTE: Was married 18 years, till wife's death.
Considering how many women these days have completely unrealistic expectations for what they expect from men, it makes sense why so many men give up trying to date. Less than 15% of men hit that magic status symbol of being at least 6 feet tall, yet so many women won't hesitate to say they only want to date men who are at least that tall.
The longer you spend single, the less the shaming language from women about being an incel who plays video games all day means anything to you.
I'm 6'1", I attract plenty but my social skills = complete ass.
Actually I have Autism and half the time can't tell that a girl likes me or not unless she made it OBVIOUS.
Consequently I taught myself to just make an attempt, if she doesn't respond well just ditch her then and there. I don't have time to try "game" that I can never try have with my condition.
I struggle just to appear normal in public despite adopting masking for 33 years before getting finally diagnosed with Autism.
People would try to bully and shame me for being skinny as a kid and I wasn't tall at all until suddenly i had a huge growth spurt in 9th grade.
Fast forward, I would graduate from HS with basically no skils or self esteem, definitely almost 0 confidence. First girls that acted interested wound up controlling my life for almost 3 years!
Did me wrong, baby scare, cheating, lying, guilt trippin the whole narcissistic 9 yard yanno?
Somehow, some way I'd find my way to my "obsessions" which were chemistry and music.
I found confidence had come from knowing your capabilities or being willing to press it a bit. We lose confidence when we find we are wrong, but we gain even more once we can learn how to accept being wrong about anything.
Then what's depressing? I'm finally figured it out and the other adults want to continue charades and lying all the time. I catch them and catch them in inconsistencies. The deflect and deny, project. Anything but ownership and I've learned they are bad news.
Gaslighters must be defeated at all costs and we need to be the ones to do that.
so many unrealistic expectations for dating. social media got ppl thinking their partner needs to be perfect 100/10 as soon as they meet and ofc almost nobody is so u just got a bunch of lonely ppl trying to meet or achieve unrealistic expectations
@@user-ed8gy7jq1c Have you seen the videos of girls who honestly expect to find a man making $100k+ before he’s 25?
They only want to be with professional athletes or entertainers apparently because unless he inherits his money or wins the lottery, the average man is not making that kind of money that young.
You can be hurt by the fact you are single, but never be mad at someone for having high standards. "People who are mad about someone having high standards just can’t reach them"
As a small woman with not many curves, yes it sucks that many men want woman with big boobs and ass, but the thing is, it’s their preference. It hurts, but I don’t have the right to be mad at them or blame them for my singleness. That’s childish
@@jonispringer Very honest input from you here, and it takes a very mature mindset to say what you've said. You seem honest.
While you might not be the "preference" that most men envision, I would go on to say you are worth it.
Their preferences are superficial, and who needs a guy like that anyway?
You would just be a notch in the belt, a tally to them anyway.
It takes a lot of heart and soul(corny i know) but also in my opinion a certain form of intellect for a man or woman to realize that what they're seeking, is not to be lonely, they want to cherish and be cherished. If they can't realize that, then they wouldn't be worth anyone's time and are lying to themselves and others.
I hope that you won't continue to hurt but rather find the positives in your life to focus on instead.
It's crazy seeing the differences between my high school experiences (2008-2012) and some of the experiences my friend's little bros are going through. None of us guys in my admittedly small (90 person) class would have been classified as incels (even the "nerdy" ones who didn't play a sport) - we didn't have crazy access to games/internet/Insta/TikTok (boarding school). Our relationships with the girls in our class were healthy. Just sad seeing schools today idk. Constant comparisons to what they see on Tik-Tok/Insta/Tinder.
If your not forced to deal with things at a young age... old dogs don't learn new tricks... and rejection is one of those... I wouldn't even classify most of those as incels as they voluntarily choose to never try
with people like Andew Tate there's also been an increase of harassment of female students and teachers.
@@LittleSparklingStars based
My high-school years was 2008-2012. We were a larger class and none of us would of been considered incels either.
Same. My classmates where really chill, specially the boys... Among the girls was some tension but nothing serious
I found my wife at 30, and I was definitely at a point where I didn't care about the outcome anymore. I was pretty content with being alone, and while she was attractive and funny, if she liked me it would be a bonus, not something I NEEDED. I think that was a huge difference maker.
@@darraghsheehy4455 One of the best comments I've read, spot on mate.
@@darraghsheehy4455 true dat when nothing seem a big deal anymore you will be content with life no mattter what going on
Something older men need to tell younger men, being single or in a relationship, you'll have relatively the same level of happiness. The question you need to ask yourself as a man is if the person you're with is worth the bullshit they'll force on you. I'm 29 now and I prefer being single. Some men want a relationship. For me though, I don't like emotional people, I hate having emotions foisted onto me, I detest being tracked ("Where are you" texts at 11PM when I'm out with friends for example) and after a while you realize that warm wet hole doesn't make up for the shitty entitled person who has it.
At this point, she'd have to be 1 in a billion for me to consider a relationship. I'm going to be happy no matter what. I've got a good career, got my pit bulls, got my friends, got my hobbies. Sure, I'll battle spells of loneliness but I'd rather do that than deal with someone who probably needs an exorcism once a month.
@Darragh Sheehy i really don't get it. My friends tell me they wish they could make friends and talk to people(men and women) like I do, but it didn't work for me, I have many friends but my only lover is my right hand, no girl is interested, I'm not even ugly
@@darraghsheehy4455 Honestly, i've never been shy around women, i'm just not a very funny guy and i can't really carry a conversation for more than 5 minutes, this applies to anyone i talk to really. Most girls i've spoken to think i'm pretty good looking, but it never really works out because of what i mentioned previously.
I watched a couple of your reaction videos recently, and you’re awesome! Totally no fucks given, yet super down to earth and with intelligence in understanding these topics.
Blackpill is a symptom of a complicated societal problem, and "just lift bro, and be confident" type of opinions, will further conserve this problem. The fact is 50-100 years ago dating wasn't this complicated, and hard, that's why many boomers can't relate to young adults' struggle. It's hard to pinpoint the root(s) of the problem, but soceital problems can't be fixed by a simple individualistic advice.
Boyo.
@@nocturnaljoe9543 Good movie
"I'm an ugly dude."
Nah man, you're at least a 5. Your facial hair is on point and you have nice teeth. You also speak with confidence.
I give him 7 cuz he looks like Jesus
Asmon looks like Baseball player: Justin Verlander. And he’s with one of the hottest women on the planet. (Kate Upton)
@@SugarSpyce Most women are 5's or below though, so it's a perfect match
Dudes just need to start wearing makeup to even the playing field. I'll tell you now I look a lot better with eyeliner just sucks to put on, lol. Get ya war paint on boys.
That is a big problem people assuming what other people are thinking and then blaming them for their own assumptions.
I recognized from a young age that having a partner would drastically reduce the amount of time I get to play video games, so I decided to remain single.
31 years old now, still single, lots of money in my bank account and plenty of time to play games after work and on weekends. Living the life.
King
Do you think you will look back and be happy that you wasted years of your life to play video games that, no matter how much time you put into them, never tangibly increased the quality of anything that mattered in your life? And as the years go by, the reality of just how much time you wasted only builds in the back of your mind until it becomes a consistent reminder of the choices you've made. Do you think a successful person would be satisfied if you were one of their children? Who lived to escape lifes stressors and buy doordash for dinner instead of figuring out their place in the world?
@@raderT90 Bold of you to assume so much about him just from the comment he wrote. He mentions having lots of money in his bank account, so it's clear he must be employed and sufficiently successful at what he does, he simply chooses to spend his free time enjoying electronic entertainment instead of forming a family and that offends you.
@@raderT90 You think the whole Life turns around a relationship? Some ppl just don't have that interest and tbh I wish I was one of them - It would make life a lot easier
Was the same for me, I compared how I felt spending time with my friends to spending time with girls. The conclusion was that I overall got more enjoyment with friends, but it is more like a slowly drawn out enjoyment whereas with a girl, all the enjoyment was compressed into the bedroom fun, and then everything else felt like a chore (20 side quests a day).
Best advice when it comes to dating from my experience is take each person as they are individually. I’ve been in 3 relationships, been cheated on in two, my current partner, we’ve been together for 7 months and we’re pretty happy with each other. We both are very insecure about things but we talk it out and we try to be sensible and try to see how we aren’t sometimes due to our past. I don’t think I would’ve been able to continue the relationship without just simply taking it as it is. We both confessed we were thinking about cutting each other off because of our insecurities but decided fuck it lets just see what happens. Hopefully it goes well for everyone.
@@thomgizziz Then you move on. She has done something to hurt you and if that's not something you want in a relationship then it won't work between you two. Nothing you do can change what has already happened, you either move forward together or separate and move forward alone. (hopefully surrounded by those who love you and treat you well.)
@@FalseF4CZHow about I live a simpler life living alone, earning minimimum wage, saving up money, and enjoying my hobbies. I'm too low IQ and short attention span for relationships.
@@al-imranadore1182 I don't believe people with "low IQ" or a short attention span can't be in a relationship. It seems more of a you case at that point of not being able to emotionally connect and commit with a significant other to experience life with. I'm not bashing you for that either. I believed I wasn't emotionally ready for relationships until I sorted myself out and was able to come to terms with a lot of things and learn ways to cope with the harsh realities that come with living.
I think however you'd like to live your life as long as you don't hurt others is fair game but don't tell yourself you can't do things until you give it a real good shot.
If you cling to your corner, only death awaits, but if you fight with all your might, you just may come out alive. That was a quote, not really a direct quote, from The Art of War that really stuck with me but I forgot who said it.
As a dude thats 5’6” I can attest to this. I was very athletic though and I do have a compact frame so it was easy for me to put on muscle. Staying active in the sports and the gym helped me stay in good shape which helped me have different relationships with girls/women. Confidence is key, but obviously, and just as you stated, money is one of the biggest driving factors too.
Confidence is bottom tier skill, it doesn't get you sh!t if you don't have the other things right.
fr I fucking hate all these people saying "confidence is the most important bro". Like no, when attractive people are unconfident they're shy and humble@@al-imranadore1182
Damn what Asmon said from 3:55 is literally me. Never dated during elementary school/high school/college and pretty much was just all into video games and anime since at those times it was literally the golden age of gaming along with the starting boom of the internet. And now I am just working long hours and have no concept of how to even start lol
Just go places. Find a public thing that caters to your interests and make friends. Just talk about the stuff that you like. I recently apologized to a girl for going off on Super Mario 64 Speedrunning and she said I shouldn't say sorry, and that she likes hearing someone talk about something they care about. There really is someone for anyone, man. As long as you're honest and don't have bad intentions with them, people like other people that they vibe with. You just have to find them.
yeah, It can be hard. I ended up with one during college. I think papa is right though. You have to put yourself out there, being introverted is a big hinderance, but really if you are extremely introverted it should be something you are working on, and going out in public is how you work on it. 2 birds, one stone.
It's hard to give advice on which public to go to. If you happen to be religious i'm sure church would be a good one, even volenteering for activities afterward, but for me I would probably catch fire inside a church due to my many instances of blasphmy.
Can volenteer at a local animal shelter if you like dogs, or cats. If you meet a single girl while volenteering for the doggos.. she is 1/2 way yours already ;)
Also, not sure what age you are right now, but If you wait much longer than 25 a large portion of the women will have children, it's just science. So, you have to be okay with other dude's kids in the mix, get lucky and find a girl who doesn't have kids. If you wait long enough though, all hope is not lost. you get another great window at 35-45 when the kids these girls had early in life are now 18+ and out of the house.
Just put yourself out there, let people know you are looking, sometimes people have a weird tick where they want to set people up together, it's like their life goal.. so just tell as many people as you can (without being super awkward lol) that you are looking, and someone will most likely answer too.
Also, Papa is right about being yourself. Always plan for and play the long game. You are not trying to get in a girls pants once, you are trying to make a lifetime friend and partner. Do not lie, unless you are ready to make the lie reality. Playing the long game doesn't mean pressuring for commitment early though, as this could scare anyone off. Just let the relationship grow naturally.
find hobbies outside simple things like cycling gym/sports clubs or learn new skills going to meetups with people itll help you socially just talking out loud with them male or female literally do anything that means going into a group if you have any interests itll help
@@papahusky1263 HAHAHAHAHA pink view of the fking world. Luck and personal view do it all, it's untrue to say "there is someone for anyone" but it doesnt mean it's false either. "There is someone for the ones who search for it" is most what you mean to say, i would add "you got what you want to, from what you can have". Were all different, facing different problems, and having different needs, sometimes we doesn't even know anything about it all. Were just unequal at life, dont forget it.
Well tbh being honest and real is so hard to find in this day and age. You'd be surprised how many people will be receptive to genuine people. If you can be real about who you are and what your limits and expectations are, and then refine those as you start to understand how relationships work as you go, then you will be happy.
I'm so tired that I can't imagine having a girlfriend, it seems exhausting, I just want to be alone, I have nothing against women.
@@PotterMarauder You had one bad experience and then fully gave up?
Same. I have nothing against women either. I just want to be left alone.
@@20eyesmisfit no.
@@Supbrozki na. Why settle for extra responsibilities when you can just clap cheeks an go back home. Single life is by far better dawg.
@@Supbrozki I don't believe I said that.
Divorce is going down because the number of people getting married has also been going down, gotta watch out with those weasely statistics.
Comparing yourself to others is one of the most self destructive things you can do. Find worth and value in you!
It is not society that grades you but the system. Society is only a facade. It makes you feel batter. Laws either work or not. Another thing is that there is a whole range of things that people don't regulate. Go figure.
That sadly only works for a bit and then you are told as a Man DO MORE. NOBODY GIVES A FU-CK IF YOU CANT
@@user-jr2ue9nu6y that's my point, who cares what anyone else thinks, external validation is not needed, validate yourself choose your circle wisely and remove anyone who doesn't inspire/motivate/positive influence you
@@DaShikuXI I disagree, it starts with saying I don't have to accept the institution for my personal belief foundation. I love myself and accept myself and will continue to improve. It's totally fine to have a measuring stick to judge where you think you are but its 100% up to you to make that decision. I think we just need to be honest with ourselves if you're overweight and that bothers you, do something about it, if you're unhappy in your relationship do something about it, if you're not getting paid enough do something about it. I used to be homeless I came from nothing, I know it is extremely difficult but the choice ultimately is with ourselves.
@@1xRacer absolutely agree.
Here's my MAIN issue with dating apps (as a female) and why I don't use them. As a woman, I feel the 80/20 divide and not in a good way. I'm not hot by any means, I am very much an average woman who is pushing middle age but the few times I have downloaded a dating app and made a profile, I have been bombarded by matches and messages from an unbelievable amount of men. I am talking nearly a hundred in the first night or two. It is so overwhelming and as someone who actually wants to read profiles and try to find someone who is a good match for me, it takes me time to respond to messages. However, if I don't respond within at least an hour of receiving a DM (sometimes WAY WAY less) then I get hit with angry messages about how I am just another stuck up b**** or ugly or fat anyway. It's unreal. I've maybe done it 3 or 4 times and it always turns out the exact same way and I end up deleting the app within a few days. I stick to dating men who I meet in person now, it's always a friend of a friend, someone who has been vetted by the people in my life. That is safer and a lot less stressful.
My issue is I can't find women my age where I live, and I get out a lot. I go to church often. I go to restraunts and stores and the only place with 20-something y.o. women is working at Zaxby's
well, if you are bombared by over 100 matches, its your fault. dont swipe "like" that much, for a match it takes to, so dont complain
@@chocoyote two*
@@chocoyote lol shaming her for liking guys
@@ABlindPoet he's not, in fact he actually has a great point. she could limit the amount of people she has to interact with at once very very simply. however, i dont think it would increase the quality of the interactions by too much considering what the average male user of a dating app is like.
It blows my mind people really think incels are going "man im a virgin whose never had a girl at 25 i wish i could finally get a girl.... BUT SHE HAS TO HAVE HUGE TITS FAT ASS AND BE MY SLAVE" like bro its so stupid i would understand thats what you think about younger guys but how tf do you assume thats all incels that dont get any attention from girls at an older age? So many guys wish they could get any girl but everyone assumes they have insane standards
They cope extremely hard so they don’t have to look any further
The standards are only insane and unrealistic for men like us.
We're not allowed to have standards really now that I think about it, they don't us being able to have a choice at all.
well... i don't think that, at least... i mean, for a nearly 27 year old with a V card, i actually dislike the idea of "big assets"... if anything the actual only things i even care about is if they smoke, (since i have asthma, so it could actually kill me) and if they have a good personality that wouldn't borderline torture me... like... that's it...
@@Mew2Win well so far i ve yet to encounter the blackpill concepts being disproven, i agree with most of them even though i refuse to follow it s doctrine/doomer outlook
It's exactly the last relationship that put me off the availability list. Would've been probably better if I waited till 30 or maybe later and tried dating then. Maybe I wouldn't have been this much bitter about it.
Listening to asmongold explain dating is kind of like listening to my grandma explain how her iphone works
Asmon has mentioned before he’s had girlfriends, including pinksparkles.
yeah and grandma has an iphone. that doesn't mean she knows whats going in with it.
Oh my god yes. :'D It's basically he's saying some incel-ish and misogynist stuff, and feeding it to the watchers who want to hear it. That it's the women who are somehow ruined, not the men who can't get a date. Men like asmon probably know how to use desperate people and turn their problems even worse. Misogyny is created by men who want to get a lot of money out of other men. Desperate people want to hear those misogynists lies, he is their hero, he is the guy who makes them feel better and they agree what he's saying. But for real they just need to do the actual opposite what they're doing now to get some love from the ladies.
@@beelbrother1648 lmaooo
he is the perfect spokesperson for incels to not go full doom. Few can be more typical incel than asmon yet he views women as people.
Also find it hilarious how little the pandemic affected us gamers on a mental health level… if anything it was our time to shine.. the introverted heaven.
yeah almost nothing changed for me since I was a shut-in for quite some time already. Only these masks were quite annoying.
That is your personal experience. We all know that there’s an optimum amount of gamers who feel lonely, unwated, insecure and depressed.
actually gave me a good excuse to live out my life without feeling bad at all. I was protecting others by being a nerd.
I hit 60 on my shammy (classic wow) when lockdowns first started, got eye of rag same day I hit 60, and since I couldn't work at the time, I farmed all those hand of rag mats myself since I had nothing better to do 🤣.
If it wasn't for covid I wouldn't have gotten my cool ass orange hammer, so at least theres that ha.
@@Buren1123 well... but that's not due to the Pandemic
Don't worry sexy AI robots will fix that
"Who got rid of 1 guy having 6 wives" - the other 5 guys without any left obviously
Single father of 2, my wife passed away 2 years ago. It's near impossible to have a woman take me seriously because I can't provide enough "attention" to them. Even providing every free moment possible with them. It's fucking heart breaking.
Lemme guess, most of them don't have children themselves or the kids are out of house.
Sorry that you have to go through that.
That's so freaking sad. On the bright side though that shows that you have a lot of committment and conviction, and what I hope for the other person to give a genuine try. What those women suffered, the same thing happens to men but in this I think women have more issues, from being unable to cope with attention. They need attention in order to feel like they are seen, heard and cared for which is something they need to work on. There is probably more to it than a youtube comment can properly reflect but on the face of it I see you have done nothing wrong.
I hope you and your kids are doing wonderfully and that you'll find a nice partner that is more mature to match your own maturity.
some women admire a working single dad, and they may not be showroom gorgeous, but they will appreciate you and not make you create a fake persona.
just give it time, these things pop up unexpectedly - maybe you bump into a lady at a supermarket and hit it off.
you don't need to bring up EVERYTHING lol :)
I can't speak for American women, but I always assumed guys have kids either in the side or in their car lol.
Stay STRONG KING.
My dad is also divorced and lives away but wanted to keep supporting his kids (me and sibling) and said she didn't force him to leave us behind our anything and respected it
Seems it was all bullshit since he left us not too long ago to pursue a life with her
'you dont want to play someone elses saved game.' LOL i had a big laugh over this one. Never heard that comparison before, but damn is it funny and accurate.
it's pretty harsh and I feel bad for women that are refered to as such. everybody deserves to find their own happiness.
Well then you can’t get mad if women say the same thing. If you can not date women because they’ve been with other men than others women can choose not to date you for the same reason. Or really any ransoms arbitrary thing you place ridiculous value on.
Can’t get mad if a women says she doesn’t date short men because that has the same value as, a woman has been with other men.
Let's be real.. Saying shit like this is a big cope because they are invisible in the dating market anyways so men will say anything to justify not wanting to date women
this is an old quote lol
@@Arasia_Valentia In fairness the quote relates to them having children with another partner not the fact they have had prior partners.
Chiming in 5’6 guy here. Being short is hard mode for real.
I have an insane physique, in the gym consistently for 8 years now, I make pretty good money and I’ve had great luck with women, im married to a beautiful woman, but the amount of women that will just pass you over because of your height is insane, its at least like 70% of women just pass on you right off the bat if you arent tall.
It's funny when people say self esteem is why we are incels. "Anything is possible if you just try or believe!" Alrighty then, I'm gonna start flapping my arms... Huh, I'm not flying. I guess this world has limits and not every creature can fly.
I just stopped caring what women thought about me. I told myself I would just do what makes me happy and behold, I now have a fiance. Doing what I loved gave me confidence and being able to share what I love gave me something to talk about. Do I still hate socializing? Yes. But I found a partner who has similar interest so I can enjoy life with them.
Personally I'd never go that route myself
@@ArtisChronicles Then get used to being an incel hahaha. If you can't even do what he's talking about, which isn't nearly as hard as you might think it is, you're a very sad sad human being, and you'll never be truly happy, unfortunately.
Same here, it worked for me too.
Congrats
Same here. There are many many women out there who just want to chill out and take life day by day.
My dad was a biker, my mom was a teacher. They had to hide their relationship and even have her keep a separate apartment in her name even though they lived together because it would have been a scandal in the school district if their relationship was discovered, and this was in the early 80's.
We're talking Harleys right, not like a militant anti-bicycle community?
@@xbabu142x Yep
That wasn't the 80s. that was just a bunch of losers judging your parents.... my dad was a biker and my mother was a 3rd grade teacher..... nobody cared.
Somehow thought you meant your dad was a cyclist and was confused for a solid minute
@@ryankrogel9589 What is it with bikers getting with teachers?💀
I was in a relationship with a single mom, we were engaged.
She left me for an abusive guy she still had feelings for.
Jesus
My second time stumbling across this channel, bros funny asf.. liked and subbed…🤘🏻
I always say I’m so glad I grew up in the 90s. Just late enough to start getting good tech but also remember the world before cell phones and internet being everywhere.
@Dale Paget it didnt really start to become a thing until Netscape and AOL. that was around '96 and even then I remember barely anybody used it. It started taking off when Ebay did.
I remember the early 2000s when you had to use dial up to even have the internet and you used to have to pay to call anyone outside of your area code. It's crazy to think that was over 20 years ago now.
Very true ! i was born in 1990 and i think it was pretty much the perfect spawn 😎I feel bad for the kids these days...
Man miss the 90s. I had my Sega genesis and my skateboard and that's all I needed in life til I went to my first PC café at 11 years old and got hard-core addicted to counter-strike 1.0
Yea I’m 35 and beyond grateful to have experienced a childhood that was not overrun by technology. It’s incredible how diff. my childhood was from age 10-21 vs someone in current times. When I was in 8th grade computers hit our school (the big back colorful apples) and basic Nokia phones lol
In my late twenties I have come to realize that as an introvert who rarely ever goes out other than going to the gym or doing the groceries, and also isn't a handsome 6ft+ tall guy, there is just a lack of options for a lot of guys. As a guy if you're on the shorter side and not particularly photogenic, apps are a complete waste of time. On top of that, with so many jobs being work from home nowadays, if going out regularly is not part of your lifestyle you're just not going to ever meet anyone.
"You're not gonna play somebody else's saved game" lol
The reason why there are more single mums than single dads is that the court system default favors the mother, even if the mother is the worst possible choice.
True, but don’t get mad at woman for this when men made the laws.
Men leave their pregnant partners a lot, too. Although, I’ve also met people whose mothers left them and their dad raised them on his own.
30 years old virgin guy and never really cared about dating. I think people put too much pressure on themselves and think that if they dont / cant find someone to date or be with they feel like they've failed.
Gigachad
But how in 30 years have you at least not gotten laid outside dating it's not even hard
@@20eyesmisfit For me loneliness brings me joy
26 year old virgin dude here. I feel the same as you. You are not alone
@@harambe4267 not false
The #1 rule is that if you find yourself crushing on a girl so hard you can't even communicate, you have to recognize that it will never be a thing and you have to mentally let that s**t go and MOVE ON. All relationships, platonic or romantic, start with communication. Practice talking and listening and the friends and partners will follow.
THIS! ❤
I find people are usually decent at the talking part, even shy people in 1 on 1 or small settings. It's more the listening part that people struggle with more today. No one tells anyone they need to shut up and just listen anymore.
I don't think there are many guys who are "too shy to talk to their crushes". There may be guys who act awkward in front of their crushes but the other thing is just a holywood stereotype.
Yea but bitches are so boooring
@@TheBayzent What if you never had a crush?
bro making money has nothing to do with it. Software engineers do make money and i personally met so many of them that havent even touched a woman
The guy who made the video Asmon's reviewing realized he got a few things wrong and made a follow-up video to address his mistakes, even titling the video "I'm sorry, incels".
My youngest sister is tallish for a woman (5'9") and was very embarrassed/ insecure about it. She used to only date guys that were taller than her - and ended up dating douchebags.
I pointed out that she was discounting a huge population of guys who might be kind and sweet and good partners based on something they couldn't control - just like she can't control how tall she was. Anyway - she got married last week to a very devoted short king! Sometimes perspective is all we need to make better choices.
@@---nu4ed and also the brother didn't said to the poor short guy that she was dating the worst garage human created
Respect. What matters is what makes both sides happy and at peace. Congrats to them!
Aaaw, good for your sis and her husband. I know that there are picky women out there, picky people in general, but people also don't realize a sort of guilt that comes with our insecurities when relationships are brought up.
I myself have this sort of idea. Although I absolutely no experience with men, due to not being interested until college and not being anyone's type now, if by some miracle of God anyone does ever find some interest in me I would much rather the guy not be skinny because I am overweight.
I am on a weight loss journey but that sort of thing takes time. I wouldn't want to project my insecurities of my weight onto anyone and being around a guy who is skinny would just make me look larger than I actually am and I would feel bad for him because there are plenty of skinny girls he could be with.
Luckily no one is interested in me so I don't have to worry about that and I can just keep focusing on improving myself. Sure it may never be enough for anyone to ever love me romantically, but I'll like myself alot more and my life will improve someway regardless 🤷🏾♀️
She settle for a beta after having all of her fun with real man it's depressing
@@vanarqwq3660 I didn't realize people think being cheated on/lied to is fun. And she didn't "settle" - she adores him. You don't know either of them - you're just spinning the narrative to match your already bleak world view.
For me dating was a no go because men only treated me like an accomplishemnt. The moment a man treated me like a human being, and we discovered hobbies we loved together, i chose him. He is hilarious, 5'7 with a dad bod and now we have a son together, and are a gaming family.
That's so cute!
Damn im single but i thank god everyday im not a 5'7 manlet
@@tryharderpls that 5,7 guy doesnt sleep alone at night so guess hes winning.
@@tryharderpls i laughed at that , even though im 5'6 lmao
@@barrythick6196 Lmao true.
I was unemployed and in a pretty low spot when I got my first gf, and it ended up being a healthy long term relationship. And thats simply because we were both genuine, upfront, and willing to accept being wrong. We didnt take offense to each other pointing out flaws in each other, rather viewing it as the other person cared and was something to improve, even if initially either of us might not see it as an issue we truly had. The first instinct was to improve, not to defend ourselves. Both of us were far from perfect, but I think that its a mentality that a lot of people need to learn.
What ended up happening?
@@xXxMouthxXx both my parents and hers were real pieces of shit to the maximum degree in different ways. In this case it was hers (I had cut contact with my parents by this point) who took an immediate dislike to me, because I'm far from what would be considered a normal person. I tried to reach out to them countless times, cuz I really did want them to accept me and talk so we could understand each other, but they never wanted to talk. From what I heard, because it was a long distance relationship, they didnt expect it to be serious or last long. But it did. And after over a year of us being happily together, they forcefully deleted all of her accounts, took away her devices, and told horrid lies about me to all of her friends so they wouldnt talk to me. But one of them doubted them and did eventually talk to me, which is how I know these things. There was obviously nothing this casual friend could do though, since her parents had also told the lies to the other parents of the friends. And these were blatant, despicable, not even remotely true lies. True evil shit.
I'm not gonna trauma dump in a fucking youtube comment section, but my life up to that point had been hell in every way you can imagine, and needless to say this fucked my mind up entirely to nearly the point of insanity. But I'm supposed to be able to go into a residential psych treatment center later this month, so hopefully that helps at least some.
Anyway, we were both people with lots of problems in rough spots. But we took responsibility for our flaws, admitted when we were wrong, and focused on helping each other. We would point out things the other did wrong all the time, but it wasnt taken in offence since we knew it was fair and the other really cared. So, although it was taken out of our hands, it was still as good as it could have possibly been while it lasted. It was hard at times, but we blamed ourselves first for our own issues and improved. Thats really fuckin important in a relationship, to discard personal pride and be fully ready to work on your own problems.
that's why i always am skeptical when peoples go-to solution is "improve yourself first", they have no idea how motivating is being on a relationship because they never saw the difference
It's actually really easy to get laid as a man, only two steps to take.
1. Be attractive
2. Don't be unattractive
AIM was instrumental to my game with girls when I was in middle school and high school. It was the perfect way for a relatively shy kid to talk to girls I went to class with before breaking the ice in person. It simply made physically breaking the ice no big deal, as you got to know each other on a more personal level before that step. I feel like being in high school between 2001 and 2005 was basically the perfect time technologically to socialize. Everyone was available, but not overly so since Facebook was not out yet. We had the convenience of today's social media without the over use, dependence and digital public history attached to us. It was used as a stepping stone to the ball game instead of being the ball game itself.
Agreed and it was 'new' so it was either cool or weird lol. Now its soo common, people use it as part of their daily game and women have build shields on it... putting shy guy in an even more shy prison. Also, alot of guys dont learn much from male figures, and we are pushed in front of our screen... while girls they have social skills biologicially integrated.. making it more hard for guys who don't develop social skills.. like the job/experience reference. Social media makes guys incel (sexless tripled and depressions doubled) and girls go crazy (their mental health deteorization went up too the roof, self harm increased by 300% over 10 years)
ASL? WANNA CYBER?
I believe it's the disconnect in a huge Society like the United States of america. There's a lot of people in this world who don't know anybody and kind of fall through the cracks of society. They are still there, they're working, their friendly, they're just not outgoing. There's probably a lot of them that aren't friendly also, but the point stands.
@Z let me ask you, do you have any statistics or factual claims that I made that you're disagreeing with? Or are you just commenting because you feel some type of way?
What a wunder! Feminists and the society has toxic thoughts on males and they get toxic to. That happens if you tell them that they are oprresive shits.
@@TrevorIsCommenting The _real_ _questions_ are: *was* your calculator in metric units and *did* *you* press enough buttons? 🤔🙃
You use tinder because you dont even know a remotely attractive girl who is single.
If you know one. The friend of the sister of your buddy. That chick from your side job. That friend of your niece. Then you have options. They know couples or people who aee unattractive. Or someone far outside their league.
Most people have no options.
The dont use apps advice is pedantic.
It is for people without options.
And Chad playas.
@Z hes not wrong that this is mainly a western thing.
as someone from Indonesia, both men and women around the age of 19-25 in the college where i study is generally a virgin and theyre doing just fine without getting depressed.
of course, this is mainly because of the fact that Indonesia is a muslim country so people are generally saving themself until marriage, and since they generally know people around them is probably a virgin too, they less likely to feel jealous or something like that. idk if jealous is the right word for it tho...
I love you examples on your videos you make total sense Asmongold TV but the way you explain puts a smile on my face and makes me laugh :D
22:40 yep! Mariage rates had to do A LOT with social norms. My grand mother told me that an unmarried woman was view suspiciously in the 50s and even the 60s. A married man had WAY more chances of landing a better paying job. An unmarried woman had an extremely difficult time getting a mortgage or even opening a bank account. Being married was also a badge of honor… They were now normal functioning members of society. And your correlation with money is bogus. Most people who got married in the 40s, 50s, 60s and 70s had nothing but the clothes on their back. Honeymoon ? 🤣 Most people resumed their lives the very next day for their tiny salaries. My parents spent the weekend in a local hotel ffs.
One of my favorite high school teachers was on the short side. 70% of the kids where taller than her. People would try to make fun of her height, but she would always keep her head up and say I’m not short I’m fun sized. I talked to her I lot while I was in highschool. She helped me get over my confidence problems which led to my first GF. Didn’t last long as it wasn’t working out but I at least knew I can do it. The teacher always helped her students even if it wasn’t the subject she taught and even if it wasn’t school related. She helped a kid out who was getting bullied by their brother. Kept the kid from committing suicide. When the school themselves refused to help the kid. So sad they forced her to retire the year after I graduated. She was the best teacher I’ve ever had.
“I’m not small I’m fun sized”. Kinda weird that she was saying that to underaged kids lol
Fun sized, I like that. A friend of mine says she is not easy, she is cooperative (works better in native tounge, kinda rimes).
@@implodingllama2092 I think she meant fun person lol. But I'd be definitely thinking thats what she meant if she was young enough and attractive enough while I was in high school
.....but nobody cares about a woman being short haha. Actually I think most men prefer it.
@@hellasketch6523 yeah, I was rolling my eyes the whole read.
"Not going to play someone elses saved game."😂😂
As a kid i got rejected several times, but now LMAO its nearly impossible if i like a girl that she rejects me, keep it going guys, there's light and just be yourself.
Bro this popped up on my feed at the worst time 😅 This made my day though. This hits too close to home. I've had a hard time with dating and relationships. I've gotten rejected and shut down and I've been so sad. I've gotta get out of my head and start talking to people again, and I'm glad I'm not the only one who struggles with this. I've also gotten therapy too which has really helped with my social anxiety. Focusing on my mental health has done wonders to my self esteem.
Metal health and getting to know yourself are very useful, but also realizing reject ain't shit really. When you realize you can just stop putting so much time into a build up to saying "hey I like you" and just do it when you know it, yeah, if you get rejected you have a whole lot less emotional attachment and you begin to realize there are "a lot of fish in the sea." Move on, find someone else, done.
Your not alone bro just coming back from the bar zero for 3 tonight it happens - But at least I didn't hook up with another Bi Polar girl I seem to be a magnet to them for some reason. And just some friendly advice if you do meet a Bi Polar girl just run in the opposite direction you will thank me for this advice...:)
If you haven't already, start exercising and I guarantee it will help with your mental health too. Being unhealthy compounds mental health issues. A stable sleep schedule, exercise, and eating healthy do wonders. I know it sounds cliché, but that's because it's 100% true
Good luck! Just remember that things take time, and you are worth the effort you put in!❤
@@devon8363 Stable sleep schedule? I haven't had a good night's sleep in a long time. I haven't had a girlfriend in even longer. Gotta better myself, but right now I'm just focused on trying to get a job. It's hard out here for a lonely man with no tribe.
We spend all day working, we spend all day in exclusionary social bubbles, our society is setup in a way that makes natural social interaction obtuse or non-existent. We use things like dating apps because were too busy to actually be able to go out and socialize like many people in other countries do. Dating apps turn dating into a competitive market place. Forcing people to turn them selves into commodities, products to be sold instead of human beings with emotions, interests, dreams, etc. We feel so disengaged with each other and society because it's being robbed of the human element. People have things to offer past their appearance and a few lines in a bio but we aren't provided alternative opportunities to do so.
This is exactly how I feel but could never put in words, you've said it perfectly thank you!
What about cold approaching? I've never been that good at it but you've gotta get you're reps in somewhere. Even when you get rejected it still feels better to get how you feel off your chest than it does to just ignore it.
and if your field dont really have women your chances to meet someone will drop like crazy xD
Andrew gets it! Well said.
True, society doesnt help. However at the end of the day, you control your own actions. You can take different decisions in life, rather than going with the society. The thing is, it's alot harder
im not dating anymore, im spending my money on me.
That Instant Messenger thing brought back memories mate. In Poland, we had GG (GaduGadu) and it was basically the same thing. The notification sounds of this app are ingrained into my brain to this very day.
More on topic. I'm a fairly average height guy, ~179cm, (national average for Poland is 178.7 measured in 2010, I just looked this up). I've already heard from women that I'm too short because their desired height seems to be 180cm, tough those are rare edge cases with women who I wouldn't consider dating either. I can't imagine what most of my acquaintances who are shorter than me must feel.
I would install Tinder after watching this video just to troll people, if I wasn't banned there already for doing exactly that.
proposed to my ex in Paris back in 2020, we didn't last the year...I focused on myself and work and ran into the woman of my dream. Im sitting here playing tarkov and I look to my left to see her playing hogwarts legacy and it just fills my heart because I didn't think she existed
👊 married my college sweetheart and got divorced while I was in Afghanistan in 2012. Working on yourself always attracts what you’re looking for.
I went from 16% BF to 11% BF that deployment…make them regret the decision bromo
Me when I have a girlfriend: "I wanna play vidya until 1am. I'm gonna be so bored at this event. I want my autonomy back."
Me when I don't have a girlfriend: "I need cuddles and I love you whispers or I'm gonna jump off a bridge."
There is no winning. I don't pretend it's anyone else's fault.
Gamer girlfriend.
humans nature that"s all when you have something it became worthless with time x) thanks Lao Tzu to have said that 2500 years ago he knew how bad we are x)
Nah that’s not me it’s about balance lol. When you get a gf you gotta know what you’re signing up for. Healthy relationship: make time for yourself and your partner. That’s the key. One fault of human nature is how hard it is for us to truly compromise for others
@@MrDarkneah Yes, we assume grass is always greener on the other side. It's an evolutionary baggage we have
@@godspeedhero3671 Very rare and unrealistic.
About Polygamy (having multiple wives), the reason it went away is because on a societal level it's terrible. Women will flock to maybe 10-20% of men, leaving the average man without a wife, without children and without any real investment in civilisation. This is why polygamous societies are more violent and less productive than monogamous ones, because societies are driven by averages not exceptions.
"Hey bro, just work out and be yourself"
Why do they even bother?
"Looks don't matter, but they do." -Almost Every Woman Ever. That I think is part of the major issue, is 90% of the time a woman won't just tell someone who is interested they aren't interested in them due to looks. They instead keep saying looks don't matter to not be "rude," which then puts them in a spiral of thinking they have mental problems or it's something else to fix instead or working on the real issue.
But if women straight up said the guy was ugly to his face she would be called a bitch. Looks matter to everyone not just women.
@@willprotector no men actually tell you that looks matter
@@willprotector Difference is, men honest _and_ are willing to compromise, females arent and that makes all the difference
@@willprotector Maybe you're like that but men in general do admit looks matter. When has that ever not been the case?
It's not about not being rude. Saying someone's personality is shit is way ruder than saying they are ugly. The reason people don't tell the truth is all about avoiding looking shallow.
majority of incels just state the truth that they have a hard time finding someone when they're not what's considered conventionally attractive atm and people are "hiring after experience" while also saying being a virgin "doesn't matter".
saying they're not liking women having freedom is heavily missconstruing what they're saying.
it's like saying "oh you're lonely? so then you wanna force someone to marry you? rape them? you're a bad person" it's insane.
This is what they believe
@@mealovesyu Some of them may, but I think it's a bad interpretation of the exact words.
@@mealovesyu You're a doofus.
@@mealovesyu That logic is the same as saying "All f-nists want all men to die.". The fact that some do doesn't mean that's the opinion of them all or required for them to be one.
@@theworstcatholic7247 it’s the opinion of the vast majority and they don’t do anything to push back against this rhetoric. Comparing it to feminism won’t make me recant my statement.
The algebra thingy came from so far away, yet made so much sense at the end
Good looks, money, and height don't get you out of doing work to build Character that women are attracted to. It might be easier, but it's not unavoidable for every young man to do the shadow work that everyone will find difficult in their own way.
It's not just "easier", it's that it's basically mandatory. If you don't qualify,working to build won't change anything, except that when you finally hit 35 all of a sudden these women who rejected you when they were at their prime will try to get you as option B once you're in your financial prime. That's the point where it is important to reject them, these evil women won't ever respect you (they will even resent you), and won't be loyal to you.
The simple fact, the SIMPLE way to break this down is this:
Woman do NOT need men to survive, they do NOT need a relationship to live. That means they get to CHOOSE their partners, and that choice is the issue here, because choice means COMPETITION. You actually have to appeal to be considered, you have to be attractive, and that DOES NOT mean physically.
Men built modern infrastructure. If all men suddenly disappeared then all the gas, electricity, food, plumbing, water ways etc. would stop within a day.
Rejection is my biggest fear, I spent 22-26 hanging out with a girl and the entire time I never told her how I felt. I told myself I'd tell her when I got the perfect body but that never happened and eventually she stopped asking me to hangout. Also when I first met her I asked the internet for advice and after posting a pic of myself everyone told me it was over, hit the gym, that I was a 1/10 and that I had no chance which caused me to hurt myself, starve myself and spent 90% of the day crying for years.
Brutal, buddy boyo, my condolences. Are you at least doing better now?
Awe hun. ❤️ I see you.
damn man sometimes i thank god i never fell in love with someone
She thought you were her friend you just wanted to fuck her, of course he doesn't want to speak to you. You lied to her and betrayed her trust
@@j.d.s.1837 yeah I've actually gotten a few dates over the last few years which I thought was impossible for me because people online told me it was impossible
Best advice for getting friends and eventually a girlfriend: Find things you like doing that are in public. That’s it. Museums, bird watching, sports, church, whatever. Other people will congregate to those places and you’ll have opportunities to talk to them. Obviously some places have higher potential for finding single women than others.
Bro i swear all these mfs have tried is tinder and give up. Literally talking to real people makes this ship happen 100x easier.
As a single woman who loves museums, all I can say is YES.
Tbh the real tip is to not pursue dating like it's a hobby or something, let's face it that's fucking weird and a true no lifer. You'll be noticed as someone forcing it, being greedy, needy, desperate, creepy, ect.
Like you said, hobbies and doing things you like will get you noticed and people will be interested in your hobbies. That's how you get conversations started most of the time anyways. Met alot of people doing things I find fun, though I don't date, still have had people ask me out or at least make new friends who are within those same hobbies. People fear the "oh so scary freindzone" but when those friends invite you out places or to other interesting things then you meet more people who might be interested in you or you're interested in them.
If you're not out with people then you're not gonna get a date very easily. I would say online dating but that's an entire catfishing or scammers mess from what I've heard, never tried it probably never will.
@@whoahanant desperation is universally unappealing so yeah 100 on that.
Feel like I would just be "Pablo Escobar meme" all over the town.
I personally believe the use of the word rejection alone implants a negative connotation to the outcome of the event and breeds unhealthy resentments, as long as youre fully secure and confident within yourself that wont be an issue but if it is then try see it as a lack of compatability. You just werent compatable for each other.
Apparently to a lot of people going out is needed all the time to be a dating option. What I find people need to recognize is that you can live your life without the need of a relationship. You can even talk to the opposite gender without anything going anywhere. Just be genuine in everything you do
Are you saying that you will just be alone forever?
@@jimijames6449 most likely, but that’s okay because even if I don’t find someone I can still be contempt with the happiness I made for myself. I’ve been able to get in relationships by just being me so if I can do that and be a comfort for my relationships then I must be doing something right
@@jimijames6449How hard can it be??
But that doesn't apply to everyone. Some more introverted people might be ok with being single, but the average person feels a very strong desire to be in a relationship
I totally agree with what Asmon said about reality and online life becoming integrated together. Its becoming more and more common everywhere I go to see both men and women staring at their phones and various other media. Online is becoming reality. Best advice, learn to love yourself for who you are, and have fun with life!
Very vague advice. A more specific answer would be, get off the dang phone
True, online dating used to be laughed at if you did it, now its 100% normal