For the record, this was one of my FIRST videos. You live and learn...smh. I should have spend just as much time talking about what men must DO to earn a woman willing to do all of those things. As a married man myself, I can tell you that my wife is the PRIZE! Thanks for all of the honest feedback.
I have seen men still cheat on women that do all those things you stated in your video. And these are married men. I see it happening all the time. I think the video you should be speaking on is the fact that men do step outside of their marriage and relationship. The female may have a job, keeps herself up, good in bed, attractive, smart, funny but thats never enough and some men have a wandering eye to go looking for the next best thrill.
Dr. Tartt why is it that all your videos are telling women ALL the things that men require in order for us to be in a relationship with them. We have to be a chef, a CEO, feeling protector, dream builder, counselor, not a shamer, look sexy, etc. etc., etc. How come men are not going to wear these same hats and help us. I have put two husbands through college, written papers and run 3 successful businesses while getting my education and am now on my way to medicals school. At no time has any man been able to support my goals and dreams because they are so limited in their abilities. I want someone who can write a paper and do research for me. I want someone to cook, clean for me after I have worked 12 hours. So what is the man's role for women????? So frustrated because men are like children seems like we have to raise them all over again...are we there second mother???
I could not agree with you more about men needing to bring more to the table!!! The Bible says, "He who findeth a wife findeth a good thing and gains favor with the Lord." Interesting that the woman is the prize. I agree too! This was a very, very young video and my intention was to tell women what men want. It is true. However, comments like these informed my later videos to also state what men need to DO to earn those things.
Medicalschoollife I'll marry you!! Lol. just wasted 3years with my boyfriend who has bought 3 engagement rings a d still no proposal. Here I have taken excellent care of him alongside working my tail off running my 3 Massage Clinics...Tax office and trying to find the time to work on my Doctorates Degree in Naturopathy! Where is my match? Because I have yet to find it!
I understand Men...So what if after you have given them every reason and yet still nothing...I feel very taken for granted most of the time. He has bought 3 engagement rings and still not proposed...
That's what lost me too. I cook out of necessity, but I'm not a chef and have no desire to be one. That and he expects women who come home AFTER their husbands to cook for him and HE HAS BEEN AT HOME! Girl bye!
You're right about being an encourager and a cheerleader. All of my male friends call me for advice and say that they would marry me, it's too bad that I don't feel the same. Now can you tell the men what they need to do besides being malignant narcissists! How about that Dr Tart.
Scripturally a man is supposed to love his wife like Christ loved the church and gave himself for it. Yes a wise woman builds her house but a woman only gives back what she receives. The man gives wife seed the wife gives men a baby. God gave his son first then we react in faith to give back. This advice is a hard pill to swallow because I have done this and still felt left in the dark. All men aren't the same. ie: my husband. He can cook, clean, decorate and he is looking for a good cook like his mama. He doesn't like me being a CEO because then I am trying to control things. When I try to pray with him or encourage him in the word he rejects it! And he is a minister. Lol I'm lost for words and actions.. ijs
pray to God about your marriage and ask Him to allow your husband to love you as Jesus loves the church! Submission with a forgiving heart, let God work! Blessings*
Ladylss78, this is one of my FIRST videos and I would like to say that my advice has evolved for the better over time! What I would have added to this video is that WE (men) must DESERVE every last of these seven request. You must have PRESENCE and not be too nice to a man who does not value you! There are too many nice guys to spend time with a man who is ill-equipped or unwilling to treat you like you deserve. However, I will also ask you to make sure that you are not enabling this behavior by being quiet. You must communicate your needs, feelings and deal breakers and behave accordingly. With men, talk is cheap but actions speak. When you communicate your needs (versus complaints) and stand by them, it helps us as men to be less selfish and participate in the relationship, which by definition, means we cannot be totally selfish and must accept your feelings into our world. I pray this helps God Bless! P.S.- Ministers need intervention and counseling too! Lord only knows!
Well Good Luck! I don't think you'll land the lovely lady, every woman in Atlanta seems to be looking for a GOOD MAN..LOL Let me say this, I don't have a problem stroking a man's ego, but I tend to attract NEEDY men and women, It's gotten so bad that I changed my phone number and the only one who has it is my dad. I majored in Psychology in college but I know that it isn't the field for me! Most people are too lazy to fix simple problems & I don't have the patience anymore. is that bad?
Ok, have one more suggestion for you after watching how many women had questions on the Oprah Show when Steve Harvey was there, I have another idea for your business. I will send a message...LOL
Since we're on the topic of business Dr. Tart? Are you on Skype, you could probably grow your business on a global scale via Skype. You are pretty good, so if you're not registered on Skype, you should certainly think about doing so. How about Linkedin Dr. Tart? Are you LinkedIn.
You are KILLING me with that book..LOL. Let me head to Amazon. Why aren't you married? Are you picky? I beg to differ about the food tasting good, men WILL NOT eat food that doesn't taste good. I'm a female CEO, I have no time to cook, does hiring a chef for a boyfriend count?
It's all about what women need to do to get 'a good man'!!! Black men, get over yourselves! It's not all about you, ok!!! Women have requirements too!! Get out of your 'build a wife' bubble!!! Aaarrgh!!!
I agree. I notice that alot of videos I see are always want a man wants but never wants a female wants in a man. If a female was to say what she wants. She will be labeled as a gold digger or demanding esp if she is a black woman. No wonder so many black women get in relationships with men while the man simple does nothing for her. But she is stressed and bending over backwards trying to please him. That isnt a relationship. Thats just being used. Wish females would wake up and see whats really going on.
For the record, this was one of my FIRST videos. You live and learn...smh. I should have spend just as much time talking about what men must DO to earn a woman willing to do all of those things. As a married man myself, I can tell you that my wife is the PRIZE! Thanks for all of the honest feedback.
You said a mouthful! Great video again!
I have seen men still cheat on women that do all those things you stated in your video. And these are married men. I see it happening all the time. I think the video you should be speaking on is the fact that men do step outside of their marriage and relationship. The female may have a job, keeps herself up, good in bed, attractive, smart, funny but thats never enough and some men have a wandering eye to go looking for the next best thrill.
It's so true I've seen it happen !!
Leyah, you are so right! Often times, cheating is an issue men have regardless of the woman.
Check out the most recent video I did with KD Bowe on men and cheating!
One of the best dating advice vids on UA-cam, thanks!
Dr. Tartt why is it that all your videos are telling women ALL the things that men require in order for us to be in a relationship with them. We have to be a chef, a CEO, feeling protector, dream builder, counselor, not a shamer, look sexy, etc. etc., etc. How come men are not going to wear these same hats and help us. I have put two husbands through college, written papers and run 3 successful businesses while getting my education and am now on my way to medicals school. At no time has any man been able to support my goals and dreams because they are so limited in their abilities. I want someone who can write a paper and do research for me. I want someone to cook, clean for me after I have worked 12 hours. So what is the man's role for women????? So frustrated because men are like children seems like we have to raise them all over again...are we there second mother???
I could not agree with you more about men needing to bring more to the table!!! The Bible says, "He who findeth a wife findeth a good thing and gains favor with the Lord." Interesting that the woman is the prize. I agree too! This was a very, very young video and my intention was to tell women what men want. It is true. However, comments like these informed my later videos to also state what men need to DO to earn those things.
Medicalschoollife I'll marry you!! Lol. just wasted 3years with my boyfriend who has bought 3 engagement rings a d still no proposal. Here I have taken excellent care of him alongside working my tail off running my 3 Massage Clinics...Tax office and trying to find the time to work on my Doctorates Degree in Naturopathy! Where is my match? Because I have yet to find it!
I understand Men...So what if after you have given them every reason and yet still nothing...I feel very taken for granted most of the time. He has bought 3 engagement rings and still not proposed...
Medicalschoollife because youre too busy being the man
“Omg this video is still here!!!🙏🏽”
Yes Yes Yes!!!!!! Buying the Book Now!
"POWERFUL! "
Thank-you Dr. Tartt
Well I fulfill that list however I need a man who can do the same...cook and be my therapist to help me cope with all my hating ex's!!!
GREAT ADVICE! THANKS
Good Tips Doc....
I was mad about the cooking part but at least you're being honest.
So I should pretend to like doing all of these things?
Lol I know right I guess fake it till u make it.
Sophia Wells lol i was growling cause im not fake..
That's what lost me too. I cook out of necessity, but I'm not a chef and have no desire to be one. That and he expects women who come home AFTER their husbands to cook for him and HE HAS BEEN AT HOME! Girl bye!
You're right about being an encourager and a cheerleader. All of my male friends call me for advice and say that they would marry me, it's too bad that I don't feel the same.
Now can you tell the men what they need to do besides being malignant narcissists! How about that Dr Tart.
if I have to manage a man then I don't want him. he is still a little boy if I have to manage him that's crazy
really good thank you.
Scripturally a man is supposed to love his wife like Christ loved the church and gave himself for it. Yes a wise woman builds her house but a woman only gives back what she receives. The man gives wife seed the wife gives men a baby. God gave his son first then we react in faith to give back. This advice is a hard pill to swallow because I have done this and still felt left in the dark. All men aren't the same. ie: my husband. He can cook, clean, decorate and he is looking for a good cook like his mama. He doesn't like me being a CEO because then I am trying to control things. When I try to pray with him or encourage him in the word he rejects it! And he is a minister. Lol I'm lost for words and actions.. ijs
pray to God about your marriage and ask Him to allow your husband to love you as Jesus loves the church! Submission with a forgiving heart, let God work! Blessings*
Ladylss78, this is one of my FIRST videos and I would like to say that my advice has evolved for the better over time! What I would have added to this video is that WE (men) must DESERVE every last of these seven request. You must have PRESENCE and not be too nice to a man who does not value you! There are too many nice guys to spend time with a man who is ill-equipped or unwilling to treat you like you deserve.
However, I will also ask you to make sure that you are not enabling this behavior by being quiet. You must communicate your needs, feelings and deal breakers and behave accordingly. With men, talk is cheap but actions speak. When you communicate your needs (versus complaints) and stand by them, it helps us as men to be less selfish and participate in the relationship, which by definition, means we cannot be totally selfish and must accept your feelings into our world. I pray this helps God Bless!
P.S.- Ministers need intervention and counseling too! Lord only knows!
Is there ten women to each man though what effect occur perhaps today
thanks
great info!!! thank you sharing. 1LOVE
Well Good Luck! I don't think you'll land the lovely lady, every woman in Atlanta seems to be looking for a GOOD MAN..LOL
Let me say this, I don't have a problem stroking a man's ego, but I tend to attract NEEDY men and women, It's gotten so bad that I changed my phone number and the only one who has it is my dad. I majored in Psychology in college but I know that it isn't the field for me! Most people are too lazy to fix simple problems & I don't have the patience anymore. is that bad?
Oh wait, that was supposed to be, "I don't think you'll have problems landing the lucky lady."
Ok, have one more suggestion for you after watching how many women had questions on the Oprah Show when Steve Harvey was there, I have another idea for your business. I will send a message...LOL
Since we're on the topic of business Dr. Tart? Are you on Skype, you could probably grow your business on a global scale via Skype. You are pretty good, so if you're not registered on Skype, you should certainly think about doing so. How about Linkedin Dr. Tart? Are you LinkedIn.
God bless you too.
You are KILLING me with that book..LOL. Let me head to Amazon.
Why aren't you married? Are you picky?
I beg to differ about the food tasting good, men WILL NOT eat food that doesn't taste good.
I'm a female CEO, I have no time to cook, does hiring a chef for a boyfriend count?
It's all about what women need to do to get 'a good man'!!! Black men, get over yourselves! It's not all about you, ok!!! Women have requirements too!! Get out of your 'build a wife' bubble!!! Aaarrgh!!!
I agree. I notice that alot of videos I see are always want a man wants but never wants a female wants in a man. If a female was to say what she wants. She will be labeled as a gold digger or demanding esp if she is a black woman. No wonder so many black women get in relationships with men while the man simple does nothing for her. But she is stressed and bending over backwards trying to please him. That isnt a relationship. Thats just being used. Wish females would wake up and see whats really going on.
LOL now that I look back at this it's like you just named seven full-time jobs that women will hold. And that's not even including the kids yet.