What you said is sooo true!!! My dad married, not proposed but MARRIED my mom a year after meeting her. He told me he knew she was the one for him when they first met, and that all men know. If my mother had lived (she died of pancreatic cancer September 19, 2007) they would have been married for 39 years December 2, 2007.
Dr. Tartt: I so agree with you about the "long relationships and engagements". You do not need to be engaged for 10 years to know if you want to marry someone or not. I will not settle for that. I like this video and thanks for posting!
Once there is sex involved it is no longer dating. That becomes a sexual relationship. I think it is good to date/talk to a couple of men at the same time until one commits to building a family/ marriage. Having a sexual relationship closes the door to other potential partners. No one is obligate to marry a woman just because he has been in a sexual relationship with her.
💯💯💯💯 I had to find you and subscribe you because I live in Indianapolis Indiana and I listen to 96.3 and you give good advice. That I really really need to be hearing about whatever. 🖤🖤🖤
this is just what I needed @DRTARTT1. I just found the courage to leave my almost decade long relationship that seemed to be going nowhere. He did not step up to the plate as it relates to commitment, communication or anticipating my needs and so I WALKED! I know I'm wife material and I know that he knows that too. I'm gonna start dating again so that I too can get my needs met and be happy again.
Great video. Relationships take time to develop. The beginning can be great and then fall apart in the quick of an eye. Sometimes people change after a period of time. Those are the risks involved when pursuing romantic relationships.There is more to the situation that's meets the eye.
Thank you for taking the time to do this video a lot of women need to hear from a man's perspective exactly what they need to do to attract what they want in a relationship. May God continue to bless and empower you with more wisdom to share with everyone.
I am in love!!! And you hit the spot!! I told my boyfriend he has a 2 year mark with me LOL!!! I'm glad I woke up at my age and peeped game,even though I'm still young and we're still new at this.Good Luck to all the couples watching =)
Hy I'm new to you but I'm from Indianapolis Indiana and I would love your advice on dating an older Christian man that says he's taking it day by day bc he was devastated from a 20 past marriage.. but I told him to be honest I asked him was he over his past and yes I know 20 years is a long time and he said yes. I've been seeing him 3 or three and a half months now he doesn't have a plan for me which throw the red flag. So until he gets a plan for me, I'm meeting others BT not sexual..I'm coo on the frfr 💯.
If a man is dating/cohabiting with a woman for 3 or more years, or has kids together, and a wedding date STILL hasn't been set. I'm sure he already sees her as "NON-marriage material" and is probably hoping for someone better to come along anyway. For most women, marriage symbolizes true commitment & unity. Bottom line, if 2 ppl don't share the same goals then one has the right to leave and find someone who does have the same goals in mind (be it marriage or whatever).
Hey you were at the ABC event with Hill Harper and all the rest talking about women, you were talking about about women making men supermen it was really good
I have a question for you Doc, while I'm dating a man, treating him well and supporting him in being the best man he can be,(which is my expression of caring and affection, not luring him in or ego stroking), what can I do to make him work harder to court me or woo me past the new phase?I never have a problem with guys telling me how much they appreciate me but I'm romantic and I want more than words. Am I giving too much? What makes them step their game up before I loose intrest and move on?
What i mean is Marriage is NOT just a piece of paper it's support, companionship,etc. I think marriage has lost it's REAL AND TRUE menaing in this world honestly which is sad. We are so so focused on the wedding DAY that the marrage part seems to be an after thought. As for the walk alone part i mean we are Not made or meant to walk alone. Husband and Wives are to support, motivate, and lean on eachother durring the hard times.
Good advice but I have a real bad chip on my shoulder about marriage. Divorce still remains to be a quick and easy option to end a marriage. How do I know that my wife would remain faithful to me in the winter(the bad times) as well as she did in the summer(the good times)? Men can willingly go all the way and still lose it all, and that is why many are afraid of commitment. It seems like a conditional risk instead of an unconditional promise.
With all due respect, this doesn't sound at all like Christian relationship advice but carnal. First off Christians do not date but court. They are never alone with the opposite sex but they court in groups for accountability and safety. There is no way she should be stroking egos, drawing baths or cooking for him. If he wants those extras, he needs a wife. Sisters do not be desperate for a man. Know your worth...you are worth the wait. Schedule counseling appointments with your pastor or Christian single's group leader for godly direction. The Lord will help you to be found because you are a prize to be won. Your price is far above rubies!
+The Domestic Handmaiden of Distinction Thanks for your wise reply. Christians date in a variety of ways and should eventually be alone with the person they are involved with to get to know one another. You cannot build a marriage with group dating but you can certainly start that way. I do agree that less emphasis needs to be placed on women and more on men courting women they way they deserve! Thanks for the feedback my sister. God Bless!
I agree. Thank you for your input here. I am a Christian and am presently seeing this guy who isn't measuring up to what I want in a man. Thanks for your reminder. God has used you to speak to me here. I just ask him for the strength to let go and get through it.
I agree we really have to be very careful the advice we give out. It must be biblical based. We’re to never do wife duties. Why buy the cow when the milk is free.
This is why I'm not a Christian. My mom courted my step father like that. You can't see from group dating and hand holding what a person is REALLY like. He ended up being a devil in disguise. He led her to back sliding, isolated her from family and friends, stopped working and started taking her money, and molesting me. He was a terrible person. And had she been able to see that he lived in a shack while they were "courting" and see how his life was away from the protective cloister of the other sisters and brothers, she would have seen how unfit he was. Because looking back, there were lots of clues only missed because of how strict the dating rules of the church were.
Good video. Men do fear marriage to an extent. Many of todays women do not match the description of women you're talking about though. If they did, the man would marry them. If my girl matched that description, I would marry her in a heartbeat, regardless of my fear of commitment.
Cont. marriage counseling I had to take before divorce stated that you shouldnt remarry til after 5 years of being divorced. An this is the longest relationship he has ever been in. I figured If i gave him 2 more years then I would have the right to say okay you dont want to marry me I am moving out. However part of me wants to pack up and move out now.
This is good advice. But I will say that I would personally be skeptical of a man trying to get me back after I dropped him for not wanting to commit. I would think that he is only doing this to get his safety net/ego stroke back. If I took him back, we'd be right back at square one ("You know, I'm still not ready to commit!"). Or worse, he dumps me as soon as he finds something "better." Just my opinion.
What advice do you have for an older couple, I am 55 years ol and he is 62 and we have been together, for thriteen years and lived together for 8 of those years. We have watched some of our children marry yet no proposal from who I love the most..he calls me his wife to all that will listen let me know on this blog...
Dr Tartt, God bless you so much for the video. But what if he says he appreciates all you are doing but won't marry you unless you convert to his religion? (He knew my religion before we got serious). Been dating for over a year now.
mydr2010 he's a time waster and manipulative. He knew your religion from the start, didn't see it as a problem then and now when he's looking for an easy get out clause since he didn't think he would stay so long with you, is mentioning your religion and using that as a reason to stall on marriage. Please try to find out what exactly he means especially as one year of your life is hanging in the balance, if he's still not clear, then take time for prayer and if no positive response from him, start meeting new people ;)
Amen, preach my brother. They want to make the same about of money as a man in which is deserved but dont want to take the responsibility of being a man. A good women is hard to find just like a good man so if you have a good woman hold her tight and never let go
I would really like to add to your modules. I recently published a book, If you Knew Better You Would Do Better that can be found anywhere online that I think you would love!
Thanks I've been in a relationshipf for 4 years and it's been time to KIM! It's scary he's a good man but I'm tired of the excuses! I need a ring or I'm out
+biggmonie Ask him if he wants to go to pre-marital (you don't have to be engaged to go) to discuss your feelings and get the same page and stop arguing. Good luck!!!!
I agree that there is a legal aspect to marraige. Basically, marraige is whatever the people involved want it to be. There are some ppl who feel once you are married, than that is for life, period. Others feel that divorce is an option. My basic point is that it is just a sheet of paper that doesnt guarantee anything. I am not opposed to the idea completely, but I think ppl put way too much emphasis on the concept. especially women. do women really think it "locks in" the amn for life?
excuse me! drawing His bath water, before marriage??? huh? what Dr Tart? drawing bath water in marriage is a great thing. and worship?? you dont mean that right? how about a different word Son? I do appreciate the counsels so far,but these two. because thats too close to "trouble". to draw bath water, know what i mean? not everyone can do this safely right?
once a woman tells a man shes leaving if he doesn't marry her she becomes expendable and no longer marriage material. it indicates if she doesn't get her way she will leave. what guy in his right mind is going to marry that?
@TheBgoz You're making a different argument now because you mentioned soulmate. Women who really care about matters of the SOUL are very, very, hard to find. But that's neither here nor there. A man's wealth is what does sustain a woman, but there's no guarantee it will be enough. There's always a richer man. In this manner, a woman has nothing to lose and everything to gain!
How about being with him for 3 years baring him a son and Ive been extremely faithful. However he's showing signs of cheating, and even though I have no hard core evidence he's cheated. He said he would marry me and then after i had our son he said he wouldnt marry me. I am divorced and he's divorced twice. I told him I am not going to wait forever to be married to him because this is ridiculous and to please give me a time frame. I figured I'd give him 2 more years.
Men, before you get married, go sit in family court for one day and see what happens to the average guy during divorce proceedings? I guarantee you that your woman -- and her mom and her friends -- know but you don't.....
I'm an awesome guy, pretty good looking, very kind, with massive cash, 35 an hour, nice rental property, nice house, but there's no friggen way I'd ever get married. at 2:55 he says men fear losing "the one" more than they fear divorce. That isn't true for me. You see I'm already happy and if I found "the one" I'd still be happy. If however I was dragged through family court, stripped of my assets, my income and my family, I'd probably take my own life. Divorce = death for me & I won't go there
How about how to handle a man who's already committed. He should know that just bc a girl looks at pics doesn't mean anything. She prolly just cares about him and admires him. Hes prolly kind of amazing but there is a rite time for everything. Things hapn for a reason
I agree with you by all means if your life and childrens life are in really danger GET OUT!!!! The real problem is men don't how to treat women and women don't know how to treat me because a majority of children that are now adults were raised by single parents and the children now are being rased by single parents and most single parents are Mothers, there are some single fathers but mostly it's women trying their best to be both roles and that is hard.
Considering all of the legal problems with getting married don't expect him to pop the question anytime soon. Also not to many men want to get married these days anyway. I'll tell any woman from the start "I don't want to be a husband or father look for someone else". No. I don't have a problem with women. No. I'm not gay. Any other statements?
M was all sizzle and no meat. For the women that order that stuff more power to them. However its a case of too little too late. The distrust gap between men and women maybe too wide to close. With the men who are MGTOW its way too late for most women now. However forewarned is forearmed. Thanks.
Say Doc, What do you do if you went directly to the sexual part of a relationship and now you need to "retrain" this guy into seeing you as more then just a sex buddy? Is all hope lost? Or can the respect be still gained?
@Agent1W & a woman isn't putting everything on the line & has more chances? what? & if that was the case it would be the woman's problem, because he's her soulmate.
Hell I been with mine for 8 years, unmarried. A bluff doesn't bother me. I don't like being backed into a corner. She could holler all she wants, and she has...but I cant make a move until I feel right about it.
+J Wolfe Man, you must feel right about it! As long as you are both on the same page then it's all good! I did extensive pre-marital counseling with my wife and it was A-mazing!!!! You get to work out natural differences that all couples have so you feel awesome about marriage. However, this response is old...you probably have proposed by now! May God Bless you J!
this seems kinda off. dating someone just coz u wanna be married, & only staying with them if they r going to marry u? if u truly love someone, they would mean more to u than a marriage. date them, & then marry them coz u love them & u mesh well together as a team & if he is also your friend as well as your lover. & i can't help but find the whole "be like mum" thing more than a little creepy...
Get married and statistically what are the chances of it lasting more than 7 years? If it ends the financial consequences are very severe.You can still live with someone and have children without marriage.That does not mean act in a irresponsible way and not provide for dependents.Marriage is very unpopular in the UK and so is the church!!!
> Basically, marraige is whatever the people involved want it to be. Marriage is whatever the judge in the divorce says it is. (More often than not a man gets to pay out most of his income so another man can sleep with his wife in his bed in the end.) Good times.
@TheBgoz But then who is making the real sacrifice here? A guy's faith will be tested once he puts everything on the line. Trial by fire: let's hope it all doesn't burn up for him! The man has but ONE chance, just like going "all in" in a poker game. But of course that's not the woman's problem.
cool, and thatnks for proving my poitn. Marraige is whatever the ppl involved want it to be. To you it is not just a piece of paper, now go tell that to the wife whos getting beat up and cheated on my her husband, that is about support and companionship. See what response you get. Does that mean in a situation like that the wife is "committed for life" to her husband. If she is not, then marraige was just a piece of paper.
don't do all that for a guy, balancing work schedules? etc? all that menial jobs? With respect, Dr. I disagree, a woman shouldn't be doing all those what I call "wife" things before getting married. I've seen that, where worship the man, even with expectancy only to have the guy string her along for a months, a years, a few years and then dump her. But hey, you the doctor lol. Other than that, video seems on point. Most people don't state what they are looking before they date.
You don't "handle men who won't commit." You leave him.
What you said is sooo true!!! My dad married, not proposed but MARRIED my mom a year after meeting her. He told me he knew she was the one for him when they first met, and that all men know. If my mother had lived (she died of pancreatic cancer September 19, 2007) they would have been married for 39 years December 2, 2007.
Dr. Tartt: I so agree with you about the "long relationships and engagements". You do not need to be engaged for 10 years to know if you want to marry someone or not. I will not settle for that. I like this video and thanks for posting!
Once there is sex involved it is no longer dating. That becomes a sexual relationship. I think it is good to date/talk to a couple of men at the same time until one commits to building a family/ marriage. Having a sexual relationship closes the door to other potential partners. No one is obligate to marry a woman just because he has been in a sexual relationship with her.
💯💯💯💯 I had to find you and subscribe you because I live in Indianapolis Indiana and I listen to 96.3 and you give good advice. That I really really need to be hearing about whatever. 🖤🖤🖤
this is just what I needed @DRTARTT1. I just found the courage to leave my almost decade long relationship that seemed to be going nowhere. He did not step up to the plate as it relates to commitment, communication or anticipating my needs and so I WALKED! I know I'm wife material and I know that he knows that too. I'm gonna start dating again so that I too can get my needs met and be happy again.
Great video. Relationships take time to develop. The beginning can be great and then fall apart in the quick of an eye. Sometimes people change after a period of time. Those are the risks involved when pursuing romantic relationships.There is more to the situation that's meets the eye.
Thank you for taking the time to do this video a lot of women need to hear from a man's perspective exactly what they need to do to attract what they want in a relationship. May God continue to bless and empower you with more wisdom to share with everyone.
THIS video was so helpful and empowering. Thank you so much! Two years later and it's still helpful.
I am in love!!! And you hit the spot!! I told my boyfriend he has a 2 year mark with me LOL!!! I'm glad I woke up at my age and peeped game,even though I'm still young and we're still new at this.Good Luck to all the couples watching =)
I absolutely love what you said! Great advice!
Thank you for being an expert. We don't have enough experts.
Hy I'm new to you but I'm from Indianapolis Indiana and I would love your advice on dating an older Christian man that says he's taking it day by day bc he was devastated from a 20 past marriage.. but I told him to be honest I asked him was he over his past and yes I know 20 years is a long time and he said yes. I've been seeing him 3 or three and a half months now he doesn't have a plan for me which throw the red flag. So until he gets a plan for me, I'm meeting others BT not sexual..I'm coo on the frfr 💯.
Thank you for your videos. I am going to buy your book. You give the best relationship advice, it's refreshing and uplifting.
I tried as good as I can for this to make sense if it don't make sense to you ..do the best you can with it Id just love your opinion about it Sir.
If a man is dating/cohabiting with a woman for 3 or more years, or has kids together, and a wedding date STILL hasn't been set. I'm sure he already sees her as "NON-marriage material" and is probably hoping for someone better to come along anyway. For most women, marriage symbolizes true commitment & unity. Bottom line, if 2 ppl don't share the same goals then one has the right to leave and find someone who does have the same goals in mind (be it marriage or whatever).
Thank you for your response, because it is exactly what I thought. Your response is affirmation.
This is information every woman should know. You're really good at driving home the message :)
Keep up the great work Dr. Tartt!
Great video and message to us ladies!!!!
Thank you very much for your good advice!
So helpful.
May God bless you and your ministry. :)
Hey you were at the ABC event with Hill Harper and all the rest talking about women, you were talking about about women making men supermen it was really good
I have a question for you Doc, while I'm dating a man, treating him well and supporting him in being the best man he can be,(which is my expression of caring and affection, not luring him in or ego stroking), what can I do to make him work harder to court me or woo me past the new phase?I never have a problem with guys telling me how much they appreciate me but I'm romantic and I want more than words. Am I giving too much? What makes them step their game up before I loose intrest and move on?
What i mean is Marriage is NOT just a piece of paper it's support, companionship,etc. I think marriage has lost it's REAL AND TRUE menaing in this world honestly which is sad. We are so so focused on the wedding DAY that the marrage part seems to be an after thought. As for the walk alone part i mean we are Not made or meant to walk alone. Husband and Wives are to support, motivate, and lean on eachother durring the hard times.
I love your videos. Good Advice Dr. Tartt!
You are right about your topic. Hope woman knows men and woman come from different world. i like your talk.
Good advice but I have a real bad chip on my shoulder about marriage. Divorce still remains to be a quick and easy option to end a marriage. How do I know that my wife would remain faithful to me in the winter(the bad times) as well as she did in the summer(the good times)?
Men can willingly go all the way and still lose it all, and that is why many are afraid of commitment. It seems like a conditional risk instead of an unconditional promise.
@Agent1W i think whether or not guys remain faithful is a bigger issue.
With all due respect, this doesn't sound at all like Christian relationship advice but carnal. First off Christians do not date but court. They are never alone with the opposite sex but they court in groups for accountability and safety. There is no way she should be stroking egos, drawing baths or cooking for him. If he wants those extras, he needs a wife. Sisters do not be desperate for a man. Know your worth...you are worth the wait. Schedule counseling appointments with your pastor or Christian single's group leader for godly direction. The Lord will help you to be found because you are a prize to be won. Your price is far above rubies!
+The Domestic Handmaiden of Distinction Thanks for your wise reply. Christians date in a variety of ways and should eventually be alone with the person they are involved with to get to know one another. You cannot build a marriage with group dating but you can certainly start that way. I do agree that less emphasis needs to be placed on women and more on men courting women they way they deserve! Thanks for the feedback my sister. God Bless!
I agree. Thank you for your input here. I am a Christian and am presently seeing this guy who isn't measuring up to what I want in a man. Thanks for your reminder. God has used you to speak to me here. I just ask him for the strength to let go and get through it.
I agree we really have to be very careful the advice we give out. It must be biblical based. We’re to never do wife duties. Why buy the cow when the milk is free.
This is why I'm not a Christian. My mom courted my step father like that. You can't see from group dating and hand holding what a person is REALLY like. He ended up being a devil in disguise. He led her to back sliding, isolated her from family and friends, stopped working and started taking her money, and molesting me. He was a terrible person. And had she been able to see that he lived in a shack while they were "courting" and see how his life was away from the protective cloister of the other sisters and brothers, she would have seen how unfit he was. Because looking back, there were lots of clues only missed because of how strict the dating rules of the church were.
Awesome sharing Doc...
Thank you for the advice.
I'm taking my power back!
God damn it, thats really smart. Good Vid Man
Good video. Men do fear marriage to an extent. Many of todays women do not match the description of women you're talking about though. If they did, the man would marry them. If my girl matched that description, I would marry her in a heartbeat, regardless of my fear of commitment.
Cont. marriage counseling I had to take before divorce stated that you shouldnt remarry til after 5 years of being divorced. An this is the longest relationship he has ever been in. I figured If i gave him 2 more years then I would have the right to say okay you dont want to marry me I am moving out. However part of me wants to pack up and move out now.
really good advice, thank u!
This is good advice. But I will say that I would personally be skeptical of a man trying to get me back after I dropped him for not wanting to commit. I would think that he is only doing this to get his safety net/ego stroke back. If I took him back, we'd be right back at square one ("You know, I'm still not ready to commit!"). Or worse, he dumps me as soon as he finds something "better." Just my opinion.
Shay4YourMind81 You are sooo on point and that's usually the case. Men like that are only users
I haven't heard anything more real. All men want is someone like their Mom!! Its so true!!
Thanks so much....
What advice do you have for an older couple, I am 55 years ol and he is 62 and we have been together, for thriteen years and lived together for 8 of those years. We have watched some of our children marry yet no proposal from who I love the most..he calls me his wife to all that will listen let me know on this blog...
Enjoying your videos....one question...drawning bath water? Doesn't that come after marriage? Just asking...
+At Rena's House I'm going to have to definitely agree with that one Rena. He better be rubbing feet if you are drawing bath water...lol
+Alduan Tartt lol hahahahahah
This has me in tears. Thank you! I needed this
Thank You Dr. Tartt
Wish I found this advice earlier , wouldn't have wasted 5 years of my life that I can't get back . 😱
unbelievable this guy
real, without any of mindgames i like it
Revelation!!!Thanks DR.!
word!!! u killed it..luvd it, wont forget it :D !!!
Dr Tartt, God bless you so much for the video. But what if he says he appreciates all you are doing but won't marry you unless you convert to his religion? (He knew my religion before we got serious). Been dating for over a year now.
mydr2010 he's a time waster and manipulative. He knew your religion from the start, didn't see it as a problem then and now when he's looking for an easy get out clause since he didn't think he would stay so long with you, is mentioning your religion and using that as a reason to stall on marriage. Please try to find out what exactly he means especially as one year of your life is hanging in the balance, if he's still not clear, then take time for prayer and if no positive response from him, start meeting new people ;)
Good Stuff!
Awesome, I enjoy this video... R.P.
Help me to find one
Amen, preach my brother. They want to make the same about of money as a man in which is deserved but dont want to take the responsibility of being a man. A good women is hard to find just like a good man so if you have a good woman hold her tight and never let go
thank you!!!
Excellent!
by Stroking his "Ego" what do you mean by that? ;P
Hi dr tar
Great information, but i pretty know that- about men!!
Yes, preach it!
LOVE IT!!!!! Greeeeeeat advice Dr. Tartt!!!!! You just gave me much more motivation to stick to my guns!!!!!
I would really like to add to your modules. I recently published a book, If you Knew Better You Would Do Better that can be found anywhere online that I think you would love!
I am especially proud of the fact that you acknowledge GOD in all things.
Thanks I've been in a relationshipf for 4 years and it's been time to KIM! It's scary he's a good man but I'm tired of the excuses! I need a ring or I'm out
+biggmonie Ask him if he wants to go to pre-marital (you don't have to be engaged to go) to discuss your feelings and get the same page and stop arguing. Good luck!!!!
+Alduan Tartt LOL! We actually broke up....but it was a blessing in diguise. He left me! Now I need your singles videos😀
I agree that there is a legal aspect to marraige. Basically, marraige is whatever the people involved want it to be. There are some ppl who feel once you are married, than
that is for life, period. Others feel that divorce is an option. My basic point is that it is just a sheet of paper that doesnt guarantee anything. I am not opposed to the idea completely, but I think ppl put way too much emphasis on the concept. especially women. do women really think it "locks in" the amn for life?
Amen sir!! Yes!
excuse me! drawing His bath water, before marriage??? huh? what Dr Tart? drawing bath water in marriage is a great thing. and worship?? you dont mean that right? how about a different word Son? I do appreciate the counsels so far,but these two. because thats too close to "trouble". to draw bath water, know what i mean? not everyone can do this safely right?
amen 3x thank u !
love you!
Short version: Give your man an ultimatum. "Marry me or I walk." Ahahahahahahaha. Good luck with that approach.
That worked with a guy friend of mine.
Why didn't you do the right thing and save his life by preventing it? Way to be an accessory to his financial and emotional annihilation.
He is happily married to the woman who said that, I can't understand!
Dam fool
Preach Lawd!!!!!!!
@TheBgoz Right-o! Exactly!
once a woman tells a man shes leaving if he doesn't marry her she becomes expendable and no longer marriage material. it indicates if she doesn't get her way she will leave. what guy in his right mind is going to marry that?
But she shouldn't have to go through all that for him to realize he got a good thing..I'd still leave him
I never had a mom.. so should I look for a woman who is like my dad?
@TheBgoz You're making a different argument now because you mentioned soulmate. Women who really care about matters of the SOUL are very, very, hard to find.
But that's neither here nor there. A man's wealth is what does sustain a woman, but there's no guarantee it will be enough. There's always a richer man. In this manner, a woman has nothing to lose and everything to gain!
your awesome
How about being with him for 3 years baring him a son and Ive been extremely faithful. However he's showing signs of cheating, and even though I have no hard core evidence he's cheated. He said he would marry me and then after i had our son he said he wouldnt marry me. I am divorced and he's divorced twice. I told him I am not going to wait forever to be married to him because this is ridiculous and to please give me a time frame. I figured I'd give him 2 more years.
Men, before you get married, go sit in family court for one day and see what happens to the average guy during divorce proceedings? I guarantee you that your woman -- and her mom and her friends -- know but you don't.....
Some men just don't want to grow up. I am pregnant with his child and he still won't commit. So what do I do... walk away or put away with it.
Reciprocal love...yes Lord!!!!
Actually women relied on men far more in the past than in the present. Dig it.
I'm an awesome guy, pretty good looking, very kind, with massive cash, 35 an hour, nice rental property, nice house, but there's no friggen way I'd ever get married.
at 2:55 he says men fear losing "the one" more than they fear divorce. That isn't true for me. You see I'm already happy and if I found "the one" I'd still be happy. If however I was dragged through family court, stripped of my assets, my income and my family, I'd probably take my own life. Divorce = death for me & I won't go there
Amen!!!
How about how to handle a man who's already committed. He should know that just bc a girl looks at pics doesn't mean anything. She prolly just cares about him and admires him. Hes prolly kind of amazing but there is a rite time for everything. Things hapn for a reason
Amen
AMEN!
Women have lost centuries of their lives and potential. Finally, liberation. Peace.
I agree with you by all means if your life and childrens life are in really danger GET OUT!!!! The real problem is men don't how to treat women and women don't know how to treat me because a majority of children that are now adults were raised by single parents and the children now are being rased by single parents and most single parents are Mothers, there are some single fathers but mostly it's women trying their best to be both roles and that is hard.
Considering all of the legal problems with getting married don't expect him to pop the question anytime soon. Also not to many men want to get married these days anyway. I'll tell any woman from the start "I don't want to be a husband or father look for someone else". No. I don't have a problem with women. No. I'm not gay. Any other statements?
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M was all sizzle and no meat. For the women that order that stuff more power to them. However its a case of too little too late. The distrust gap between men and women maybe too wide to close. With the men who are MGTOW its way too late for most women now. However forewarned is forearmed. Thanks.
Say Doc, What do you do if you went directly to the sexual part of a relationship and now you need to "retrain" this guy into seeing you as more then just a sex buddy? Is all hope lost? Or can the respect be still gained?
@Agent1W & a woman isn't putting everything on the line & has more chances? what?
& if that was the case it would be the woman's problem, because he's her soulmate.
Hell I been with mine for 8 years, unmarried. A bluff doesn't bother me. I don't like being backed into a corner. She could holler all she wants, and she has...but I cant make a move until I feel right about it.
+Jamaal Wolfe she should leave you
+J Wolfe Man, you must feel right about it! As long as you are both on the same page then it's all good! I did extensive pre-marital counseling with my wife and it was A-mazing!!!! You get to work out natural differences that all couples have so you feel awesome about marriage. However, this response is old...you probably have proposed by now! May God Bless you J!
your a jerk for COMPLETELY disregarding her feelings.
this seems kinda off. dating someone just coz u wanna be married, & only staying with them if they r going to marry u? if u truly love someone, they would mean more to u than a marriage. date them, & then marry them coz u love them & u mesh well together as a team & if he is also your friend as well as your lover. & i can't help but find the whole "be like mum" thing more than a little creepy...
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Actually, all women are taking responsibility for themselves. Period.
IF i ever came across a man who can't commit i'll drop his a** like i wanna waste my time trying to find ways to make him commit!
@essence174 R.I.P for ur mother.
Get married and statistically what are the chances of it lasting more than 7 years? If it ends the financial consequences are very severe.You can still live with someone and have children without marriage.That does not mean act in a irresponsible way and not provide for dependents.Marriage is very unpopular in the UK and so is the church!!!
> Basically, marraige is whatever the people involved want it to be.
Marriage is whatever the judge in the divorce says it is. (More often than not a man gets to pay out most of his income so another man can sleep with his wife in his bed in the end.) Good times.
@TheBgoz But then who is making the real sacrifice here? A guy's faith will be tested once he puts everything on the line. Trial by fire: let's hope it all doesn't burn up for him! The man has but ONE chance, just like going "all in" in a poker game.
But of course that's not the woman's problem.
cool, and thatnks for proving my poitn. Marraige is whatever the ppl involved want it to be. To you it is not just a piece of paper, now go tell that to the wife whos getting beat up and cheated on my her husband, that is about support and companionship. See what response you get. Does that mean in a situation like that the wife is "committed for life" to her husband. If she is not, then marraige was just a piece of paper.
don't do all that for a guy, balancing work schedules? etc? all that menial jobs? With respect, Dr. I disagree, a woman shouldn't be doing all those what I call "wife" things before getting married. I've seen that, where worship the man, even with expectancy only to have the guy string her along for a months, a years, a few years and then dump her.
But hey, you the doctor lol.
Other than that, video seems on point. Most people don't state what they are looking before they date.