Ever noticed how a lot of slim black African women marry rich and white? and how black men look down on slim black African women and then ridicule them when they go where they are loved?
Oh my goodness, remember the hard wig soft life? Literally that whole trend was made by gurls on TikTok after the clip of that British Billionaire with his African wife (I think she's from Congo) went viral. Like people don't understand that a small body is currency to these rich non black men regardless of what race you fall into.
@@McOofy It's true that most people marry within their economic and social circles, including color. However, there are billionaire white men who marry black women. For example, Maximilian (or Max), the Prince of Liechtenstein, who married a Caribbean-born black woman, with whom he has a son. There are more to be found by Googling photos of billionaires with black wives. They do have the same look that the first woman in the video is discussing. However, I don't believe people accept a random commenter's claims of expertise at face value and gives more weight to what they say based on such claims. Especially if that person's comments come across with the talking points, lingo and sometimes borderline hostility of a hood black man.
Before I gave up on dating, I lost weight after being depressed, and I definitely attracted a better caliber of men…mostly non BM. But as I enter my 30s this year, I’m focused on my own bag. Good luck to the women who are out here dating, because babyyyyyy 😅
Yes, focus on your own💰🛍️ I've noticed that I'm happier that way and the dust is just floating around every where I turn!! It's frustrating, and I don't date outside my race either; But wm are the only men standing on business* Sadly
@@ml-oo5uo i mean considering he isn't one and none of us truly know another's person's thoughts and so create our own narratives that seem to fit, he seems to be hinting more at his own thought process than another's. Words like "ran through", and "done " seem very youtube/tiktok manosphere language so becomes hard to imagine it as the voice of a "billionaire".
@@ml-oo5uohe is calling women with naturally wide hips and big breasts old and ran through lol. It’s pdfile logic. They will call inexperienced teens with that body type whxres too. It’s sick. Wealthy males are just as depraved and sick and poorer males.
Let’s just be real about the fact that most of us will not wind up with a billionaire. Regardless if we are slim or not. When people spend all this time and energy talking about what billionaires like I just laugh. It’s fine to want wealthy guys and if you do bag a billionaire, great for you. But in the mean time try to be a little bit more realistic. Go for doctors and lawyers. They may not be billionaires but they are well off. We should all strive for financial stability in men. And I promise you can be a curvy woman and still get a doctor. I am a doctor myself and I see the partners my male colleagues have. They aren’t all skinny blond girls.
Meh thats not true for the extreme amount of Nigerian millionaires and not so much for the Arabs either. One thing in common is that their women don't represent a lack of class. Exposing your bbl or your booty doesn't get you anything but sex and baby mother status
What I’ve learned is that as a woman if your standards are ironclad / proper you’ll always deal with quality men regardless of your size . As women we choose who we entertain . I’ve seen plenty of big women with quality men and thinner ones with awful guys vice versa
i halfway agree because a lot of those bigger women husbands have candy on the side i have been propositioned enough to know thats why i am a avid believer that men are visual so no matter what you must keep yourself looking as close as possible to how you looked when he wifed you of prepare for problems i know its not right it just is
Let’s keep it 100! The BBL fad began in the strip club. It started with butt shots, then transitioned to BBLs. That grew in popularity with the Kardashian crew (who already jumped off the bandwagon). If we think about it outside of rappers, athletes, scammers, drug dealers and hustlers, who has ever seen a rich (wealthy) but not famous man with a BBL chick? While I agree that people should do what they choose and love who they choose, it is obvious that if you are looking to get “married” to a wealthy man that doesn’t fall into any of these categories then her advice is right. So let me sum her statement up: Don’t get a bbl expecting to have better richer suitors as you’re likely to attract the wrong type of men.
Exactly a BBL is an investment to get a kid/bag out of a rich dummy. I like the way you talking, keep it 1000. The BBL monsters make SURE they are around their targets as well.
True, but I will say a lot of physical appearance is diet. You can workout twice a day and have high body fat if you eat terribly (which is discipline), but you can be slim and not be physically fit (i.e never lift or do cardio)@@user-dz1sm9kx1l
I've had a big butt since highschool, I can agree. This body type attracts lower caliber men the most. It just is what it is. I think its absolutely crazy for women to get BBLs because the sxualization that I've experienced while dating and in life in general is overwhelming. It's not a good feeling. I dated a man and made it a point to where clothing that didn't show my figure after several dates I wore one dress and he couldn't control himself- I literally had to uber myself away from him. The whole dynamic of us dating changed. Unless a woman wants to be objectified, I wouldn't do it.
I highly doubt having a big butt mostly attracts lower caliber men. Some lower caliber men are just quicker to approach women because the guy who isn't about bs has just about been written off by women. They've been rejected so much that they don't approach women. Being of a higher caliber doesn't mean you prefer less shapely women at all, my friend.
Put it in existence to attract higher caliber men. I did when i used to attract ratchet women every women from then on was of high caliber til this day. Been together since 2011. Put out a affirmation on what you want in guys and keep repeating it over and over. Repetition is key
Sis same. Naturally curvy and most men just want to smash. I was so confused when I saw the big butt trend start. Women see us getting attention and crave it, not knowing that it’s mostly the wrong attention and can be dangerous, putting us at a high risk of rape even in childhood since I bloomed around 8th grade. All the older men I attracted as a child (from 30s to 70s!) makes me afraid for my daughter. I hope she doesn’t get my shape.
Wasn't ur fault but his. I dress for myself n I love it, fuck these dudes. He can't control himself that's a him issue. Don't allow them to get you, they will do it no matter what most likely.
I agree I have no bbl naturally curvy pear shaped and men can’t control themselves. Although I will say I attract decent men.. it’s still impossible for me to wear anything form fitting and not look sexy. I just am high maintenance and proper, professional , introvert and it kind of keeps the dusties away bc they aren’t trying to maintain a certain lifestyle anyway. I’ve been married for 12 years to a good family man
My main issue is with the idea of women being taught to believe that the way to get the lifestyle they want requires getting a man who can provide it. If you rely on a man, then that man will have the power to give or TAKE that lifestyle from you. Look over there at Oprah, or Rihanna, or Taylor Swift…no man can threaten to take their lifestyle because they earned it instead of marrying it. If you make your own money, build your own career, and level yourself up, you’ll eventually place yourself in circles where successful men and women are found. When you earn the life you want, people who can match your energy tend to show up, and the better you are at what you do, the more those people will _need_ to talk to you. It’s great to stay fit and on top of your looks, but even models have to do more than look good to be successful. Decenter and level up, ladies. Make yourself someone _you_ can be proud of, and you’ll likely attract similar people.
Also, can we be honest with women. Not every woman has the ability to marry a rich man. Not every girl has the right combination of looks, charm, breeding ect.
She is absolutely right! BBL'S attract rapper type men. I've seen this in places of business as well. The issue is not a naturally thick woman, its the fake looking bodies that's the issue in my opinion.
As someone who is on the curvier side with a somewhat of a big butt, I can tell you in the corporate world they don’t take you serious especially if you’re in the sciences
It depends on where you are. In Africa there are many rich respectful man who prefer curvy nice shaped women. As long as you look healthy and fit, with a great body shape, size does n't really matter, infact medium to big is hot.
Honestly, I think there is some truth to this, just based on personal experience. My weight goes up and down over the years and I definitely notice it attracts different types of guys at different stages. I have a naturally more curvy body type but I prefer to look more athletic (with some shape still). I do NOT like the types of guys that tend to be attracted to me when I am super curvy. I have to expend more of my energy fending off attention from toxic men when I'm curvier. I decided that this year I am going back to my athletic body type partly because I am tired of that type of attention and I want to signal to better quality men my preference for health and fitness. Because none of the toxic men that approach me ever take health and fitness seriously anyway, it's kind of a natural repellent.
There’s no magic formula to get a minute to treat you right there’s nobody shaped there’s no skin color they see women as a dolls to have sex with or torture and you have to make your own money and be aware of your surroundings. You guys see me as liking to date they are predators, they see opportunity to have sex, or hear somebody down and they don’t see women as humans.
@Liz-wz8dh I wholeheartedly agree with this statement , I’m 5’8”. When I was 135-140 lbs at the most, there was no shortage of diversity of quality men approaching me, or engaging in conversation, even on a bad day. Once I began caring for a family member before they transitioned, and the stress that entailed over the years, my weight went up significantly. There was a sharp decline in quality of men, or they would smile and make a compliment (Natural hair) but not approach to engage or get to know further.
@adorning5264 yeees! Same I am the same height and have also weighed thst same amount and it was a dream. Pulled so mamy millionaires. Everyone complimenting me aLl day long. Gain 80lbs and ur hard pressed to pull anything with value. But it's ok. I'm gonna get back to 145 soon.
Sis was right. Hood rich men they do tend to be very ostentatious about their wealth. Ie: putting Louis Vuitton wraps on a Lamborghini, gaudy gold, diamond chains, logos everywhere, tacky, promiscuous looking IG women, spending 6 figures on a watch when they are behind on rent. Broke ppl go broke trying to look rich. The wealthier the man the broker he looks.
False, if you grew up in a wealthy area you would know a lot of wealthy wear it on them. Also depends on ethnic background. Arabs often wear their wealth, Asians too. Second generation/trust fund might not wear their wealth on them as much. Y'all expose yourselves when you make this fraudulent comments on money.
@@McOofyactually I do live in a predominantly wealthy and white area. They don’t wear their wealth on them. Their home is generally amazing and they often have a quality car. But their wealth is in their experiences, vacations, and access. Can’t speak for Arabs, but same for the Asians in my area.
I doubt it, I do and many wear it on them. And by wealthy I mean homes at least 2 million, not 600k or whatever you're talking about. I will say a lot have tons of debt, take out big loans for failed investments, do other dumb financial stuff. Maybe you can't recognize how much watches cost or how expensive their clothes are? I personally don't primarily because I don't care and physically am top .0001 percent so who cares what I wear.@@adorningher
@@McOofyyou expose yourself as well. Bill Gates, Warren Buffet and Jeff Bezos look like regular men all the type. Their wealth is shown in the yachts and planes they own & in the activities they are able to participate in. Went to a wealthy college and work in finance, yt people with money are not (on the average) flashy.
Broke can be a mindset too. Just because he has physical money doesn’t mean he isn’t broken spiritually. Mind, body and soul are really connected. Love is real and I hope all of my Sisters can experience it.
but yall arent getting wealthy billionaires either. Stop cherry picking the few black women that do have them because without that you have a straw man argument
@@lacheincwhat you mean “y’all” as if you know ALL bw? Even if she’s not dating a billionaire, she sure as hell isn’t about to date a hood rich dusty gold grills in the mouth bm. As a bw that’s petite with an athletic build, I can say that the op and the one that made the video, is absolutely correct. Even a wealthy bm or just one that isn’t a dusty, doesn’t want that bbl that you see these hood dudes parading around. It is what it is🤷🏽♀️
I think we should stop debating on what men of any calibre want. It's not important. We should focus on living the lives WE want. Men are inevitable, we have all been outside, lol. So live the life you want and the man you want will be somewhere along that path, if that's really what you want.
@@winxclubstellamusa culture is a lot of things. Skin color can play a role but it's like the last thing that matters culturally. Where you live plays a much bigger role. I have a very different culture from the rest of my extended family. Mainly because they are upper crust and I'm poor. My cultural influences are totally different.
Many WOC have natural BBL bodies. This is not quite all about wealthy vs poor, it also has to do with white vs minority. Also, the way you dress and present yourself also has some part of it. You can have a BBL body but dress modest and you’ll probably attract a more wealthy man than poor. Let’s not also forget that not all BBLs look like Cardi B’s. There are so many layers to this conversation. Edit: Why is everyone missing my point? I’m genuinely confused at some of these comments. I’m not arguing against the point of the video, I’m adding to it.
If it were about race, it wouldn’t matter if a black woman is more slender. It wouldn’t make a difference because she’s still black. They could just get a slender white women, there are a lot more of those as you pointed to yet slender BW are still getting chose by wealthy men from different walks of life
@@BlueBerryBronzer Race has some to do with it. Like I said, this conversation has MANY layers. Also, where are you seeing these wealthy men with slender black women? I’ve honestly not seen it unless the woman is also wealthy herself.
All this is theory, wealthy men are already with their college sweetheart, or with a non BBL woman in their social network. You will see a married BBL woman in a wealthy area maybe once a year. And she will probably be Middle Eastern.
You really think they have natural BBL bodies? BBL is almost always look abnormal, compared to a woman who naturally has a larger derriere. It's a noticeably different. I have plenty of fellow black girlfriends who have larger behinds, and it doesn't look weird. Their legs match their behinds. I have never seen a BBL that didn't look contrived, because they are. Until they can perfect the surgery, it's almost always looking weird AF.
I think what she said got lost in translation. There's a segment of women who fail to understand that once you get into certain circles, preferences are different. Yes, most men will F apple pie if they could. They would F anything that moves, and it doesn't mean women with BBLs can't get a man or that they are not preferred. The CALIBER of men attracted to women with those types of enhancements is definitely very different from those without. There's a huge difference between men with old money (wealthy) and those with new money (rich) and what they prefer. A man's social and economical background also comes into play here. She definitely gets it.
Sorry but the CALIBER OF MEN financially isnt the same as caliber character wise. Yall are so stuck on money and surface level aspects that are important but not the be all end all. EVERY woman goes through stuff with these men. Skinny or slim women arent exempt even if they date hypergamously.
@@lacheinc - Who is "y'all?" This conversation, yet so simple, has gone over a lot of people's heads. Lol! Caliber encompasses character. Nowhere did anyone say that you have to be with a sh!tTy person just because they have money. But yes, the CALIBER of men that these women attract is of low quality because they are looking to use them for their @SSets and not much else. Wealthy men who care about their image and overall presentation do not want to attract a circus. Subtlety is always at the core of everything they do. I know this firsthand and not from social media.
@@nawal10 a movement for who though? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Gurl stick to decentering men at your own Accord and stop expecting the rest of us who want healthy relationships to focus on that, it's really that simple. Decenter men mam, trust and believe I'm praying for your success at it🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@ccannon1 girl hearing all these things makes me feel to give up on dating completely. I feel like I attract a lot of men who likes my body and it terrifies me cause idk if the interest is genuine or not. I’ve been single for years 😭😭😭
I do think that if I didn't have a "natural BBL-shaped body 🍐" I would attract a higher caliber of men who believe in marriage. Bigger assets can hold a woman back because all men think about is sex
I cant but to notice that these conversations are being had because the BBL look is no longer desired by MOST younger women who are currently the "in-thing". Yes, skinny/slim/slender/petite look is in and Gen Z is the reason why its in and all the new age fashion which is simply a Y2k mid 2000s trends are back in fashion because of these young Gen Z girls. These conversations werent being had 5 years ago because having a booty was the ish back then but now.... Gen Z gurls think its old and not their style. Make up and hair trends also changed But This is ABSOLUTELY true. I know most women with the BBL look might get offended but i noticed when i gained weight as a black woman with curves and a booty i would mostly attract low quality men (wanna be Rappers, athletes with multiple girlfriends and the bottom of the barrel men with multiple kids and not to forget broke men) when i lost weight, all of a sudden i get approached by High Quality men of ALLLLLL RACES. When i was a BBL shaped girl i would attract ONLY black men.
@@Queen-ConsciousYaRight 😂 These Gen Z girls are literally going the opposite direction of what the millennials saw as trendy. Things are changing aggressively
Everything you said !!! Literally Everything. Also I'm sorry, but I Laughed at the mention of "bottom of the barrel" 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I believe another facet of this overall conversation needs too highlight the severe delulu' mentality of impoverished men everywhere who have the audacity to approach "bbl" woman with BOLD confidence while having absolutely Nothing to offer. Not even Godly Countenance . . - at the very Most, and "least". In some ways it's redundant to add but when we factor in new social statics and real world testimonies of how bbls are/were the new social equity to climbing the "wealth" latter It becomes that much more important to rediscuss these matters so at least the new generation has a fighting chance, of not falling for these deeply misguided "beauty/surgery" troupes.
How come none of these high quality men marri..nevermind. JK. In wealthy areas, you never see the BBL look, you see that botox lip stuff and scary face plastic surgery but I can't remember seeing a BBL in a long time.
The second clip kinda proves that it's not about body type but how you present yourself. You can have curves and still present yourself in a very classy way. You're not doomed simply because you got a butt lol. I mean I can see them going for thinner women but thin-curvy also exists and exists in classy representations too. I just think there's a lot more nuance to all of this.
I think the Natural curvy look is the way to go. The BBL needs to look like it's natural and not be too much. Most naturally thick girls have a natural shape to them that goes with the rest of their body. So I think it differs, but again men are not a monolith but most successful men tend to go for natural or women who have the natural plastic surgery look.
Yes you can be classy and curvy and men like curved who ever she is more talking about fat women, women who is fat and curvy all men tend to like slim women with curves few like fat women with curves but typically poor men and there is nothing wrong with that but if you look sexual mem typicall want you once not to marry but those slim pretty people slim pleople that are pretty but dont stand out. It is the same with blondes more men whabt t8 date blond women it is something pretty to have on your arm and flex and they sure wilk cheat with some young blonde but then will marry some slim brunette but the one they marry is for public opinion and they migth cheat with who is who more attractive. Eho men date depends on what other men in their comunity think women are arm candy like and accessoarys for them who their parents and comunity would approve. And most rich people are white because of rasism and white supremacy but even poor white men prefer thick women not fat but vurvu only men with fet8shes prefer fat women just like only women eith low selfconfidense prefer fat men. Who is rich or nor depends a bit to much on rasism and white supremacy but even poor white men prefer curvy women. But yes you can actually be curvy and classy abd there is alot of rich men wih a bit curvy classy women
Totally agree. I've never been against plastic surgery except when it comes to BBLs and that's solely because of just how dangerous they are either in the current or even 10 years down the line. The problem is I see a lot of people talking about mostly the 1% or really rich and or taking examples from famous people rather than generally rich and successful people in day to day life. I've seen and met plenty of women of different sizes and shapes have rich husbands, but these women don't have BBLs or major surgeries and if they do it looks natural and they still present themselves with class in both attitude and appearance.@@yoloti9993
I think it’s less about body type and more about how you present yourself, like how you dress, your hair and makeup, the way you speak, how you carry yourself, etc. Skinny women can look gaudy too. Also, keep in mind that the best plastic surgery can be very subtle. Rich men go for women with plastic surgery all the time. There’s even something called a “country club BBL” that’s basically a smaller, more natural looking BBL. All that said, I’m going to be the rich man so I don’t have to deal with all that.
Women need to understand and realize certain things, like why would they get surgery to enhance their bodies if they are serious about 'decentering men'? Why do they need big boobs and a big ass in that case? All those things are meant to make them sexually attractive to MEN! You know: those ones they are allegedly 'decentering'?
We want more than provision, we wamt a partner and a protector. I havent found a man yet that i feel safer with than without. I feel men are the dangerous ones bc they cant handle themselves and feel the need to handle others instead. I am much happier around my great girl friends than a guy.
I do not trust lawyers, doctors and especially trust fund babies. Like most men, they are in the game for themselves, most of the time, and not for the good of the community(future generations). Lawyers suck you of money, doctors don't address the actual issue just cover it,most of time, and everyone knows about the psychological effects of spoiled people. What is weird is people don't have to be rich to suffer from spoiled syndrome in the US at least.
Only women in poverty talk about feeling safe. No women in wealthy suburbs talk about feeling unsafe. All you have to do is go to Starbucks, work, gym, home. Y'all make stuff up to excuse why no man worth anything will commit to you. You sound like men who say they "Could have gone pro if I wanted to."
I can testify to this. I am a slim attractive women, and I always dress modest but fashionable and classy and. The way I look, and dress repels a certain type of men. I have only always got approached by a certain high class caliber. Period. She is speaking facts
I agree with part of the original girl's argument as I do think reputation and status really affect what kind of partner a person may want (also different looks will attract different kinds of people) but I also can't deny that race is a factor. Most of the wealthy guys in America are white. While there's nothing wrong with interracial couples, people are more likely to date and marry within their own race. White American beauty ideals tend to favor skinnier women, so it's no surprise that a white man would prefer a white woman who fits the beauty ideal he's used to, especially when how he appears to others is a huge factor in his life. I also want to add that he might not marry a black or Latina woman regardless of her body type because of the hubbub it would cause at the country club. Honestly, though, nobody should be crying or obsessing over this. Worrying about how men perceive you is not going to make you happy. You never know who the man that's TRULY meant for you is going to be like or what economic status he's going to have.
Yes, you are correct but the black women who are married to billionaires or multi-millionaires are ALL slim/toned built. Megan Markle, Eve, Melodie Hobson, Princess Angela of Lichtenstein, and Dambisa Moyo are prime examples. Hint: these women are all complexions and all got married over the age of 35. Their slim/toned build and high levels of education (both factors completely within our control) are what bw need to focus on when it comes to partnering with quality men.
100% correct. When my wife and I were dating, I was running a fixed income and derivatives trading desk at an investment bank. I was more than happy to bring her to the Christmas parties- I knew she would be presentable. You can't go to these functions with someone who looks like a circus.
hes not honest. Hes misogynistic and yall will eat it up just because he is "honest" He has a right not to like the BBL look but dont shame women for their choices.@@jessikajane4967
As a BBL girl, this is sooo true. Once I dropped some weight and lost a good percentage of fat from the fat transfer, I attracted a totally different caliber of men. I also started wearing my natural hair more often, so I'm sure that contributed as well.
I believe you misunderstood the initial clip. She was referring to "rapper rich" Vs. "Hedge fund rich". That's why she used the term "broke", even though she didn't mean literally broke, she meant broke overtime.
Im with with you both women are getting played. Are you winning if you just trophy and he goes out with who he really desires? Are you winning when he got a whole wife at home and isnt really emotional available for you because of his obligations?
Yup, I'm not interested.🚫👎🏾 I'd much rather put that much effort towards building my own wealth and legacy. I plan to achieve great things so that my own name goes down in history. I'm not competing to be a trophy wife or a mistress. Both options seem mediocre and part of the traditional roles allotted to women. I'm not impressed. I feel I'm here to be more and to be great in my own right, not "the wife of...," much less a mistress.
I think they’re different levels to the BBL’s… If you’re on the thicker side and get a BBL you won’t attract men of value. But if you’re small frame like a Lori Harvey and get a Bbl the results will be different. In Beverly Hills women get BBL’s… it’s called the country club BBL. The slim curvy women are also not glorified in the rap culture in comparison to thick and curvy. Most of these women also dress a certain way… They don’t dress overly sexual but dress very classy. An example of curvy skinny is Lori Harvey, and Jeff Bezos fiancé, As long as your bbl is naturally portioned to your body and the legs match you should be okay. The goal is look like you have had nothing done. Dress size matters to wealthy men. But honestly don’t stress yourself ladies because some of these men take skinny women to the charity events and still keep curvy sugar babies on the side. There’s no real formula to this madness.
“Country club” 😂 this shi has me hollering. Whats next “mid class bbl”, the “poor bbl”, “the ghetto bbl”. Your right tho. Ppl are focused on all the wrong shit. Im just glad my body is not in pain and that im alive. Glad to be breathing.
I gained weight and my butter got bigger. Omg allot of broke guys were acting so inappropriate and accused me of having a bbl. I hired granite counters the worker made a pass at me. He could not speak English. He could muster up something about my butt. I lost 20lbs. I don't get it anymore.
Bro, this is so true, survival mode men always had made fun of my body just because I’m not curvy. Every single body is beautiful but these man have the audacity to want a hot sexy woman and criticize bodies that do not fit those standards PLUS being broke af. Baby you have no right to actually have any of both.
About the slender/ upper class body I think it’s because they’re more active and are “jet setters” they need to fit in the plane seats lol. They also have more access to quality foods.
This is also something people would bash you for as having 'pretty privilege'. Thankfully that I haven't experienced, but I've heard enough from people I know. I don't think it attracts broke guys, but def lots of fake guys. The girls make sure they're doing well on their own regardless of a man.
I think that it’s also race related . Black men are the more into BBL and curvier body generally. There was a x type of video website who published the type of video who were most viewed by countries. Almost the entire continent of Africa was into big butt . We know in America black men also are into BBL or curvy girl . Unfortunately, black men are the poorer compared to other men so for me it’s related.
@@alexandrahutchinson4516 Why is it racism ? Maybe if you said racial preference yes , but not racism . Asian also like skinny women and are richer than black men . By the way historicaly in the middle age , in Europe , curvier women were the preference because the more money you had the more you can eat . So the poor where very slim . Just like being fair skin was a sign of wealth because the people who were tan where the farmers , they were working outside unlike the rich who where inside profiting from these farmers benefits. Nowadays, being bigger is associated with being poor because of junk food who is cheaper than organic or healthier food in general and lack of working out because it’s can expensive and time consuming . Just like being tan is not negative now because most people work inside , so getting a tan , is a sign of you being outside so not working , maybe in vacation , so having the money and time to be able to have a tan . So we should stop throwing the word racism everytime it’s loosing deepness, profound , the hard and heavy nature that should be associated with .
@@mari-wp5nn as I’ve said… regardless of healthy or not, MOST BLACK women are naturally built similarly as a bbl. Small waist, large hips, thighs, and butt. Just like colorism, and texturism is a thing. Black ppl are just built differently than naturally SHORT, small and FLAT ASIANS, and white people. Plus, Asians beauty standards are Eurocentric as well, so YES, rooted in racism. Rich men in Africa LOVE big butts and bottom halves. And btw if you have a small waist, flat stomach you are not fat or unhealthy.
@@mari-wp5nnanyone who says working out is expensive and time consuming have their priorities messed up lol … a gym membership for 10 or 15 dollars is expensive? Oh please. But will spend 40 or more bucks a month on nails. Workouts can be free too: outside or home workouts. And how is it time consuming? 30 minutes a day is time consuming???
Just googled her. She looks overly filled in the face but I think she would still be considered on the slim build type and not the extreme bbl body look.
Princella speaks about how women are looking for female qualities in a man. Qualities like loyalty, trust, love, and respect that most men aren’t capable of giving to us.
These arent "woman" qualities. These are qualities any decent human being should have. Yall say things like this and make a complete about face back to the assholes (with a little more money) by using this anti logic as the excuse. If you love yourself first, you shouldnt settle period.
@lacheinc She's right. I got a call on my phone and I didn't even know who it was talking to me because all of those men sound the same. They all say the same foolishness and does the same foolish sh*t. They all sound the same and its easy to confuse them. We definitely have a problem in our society when it comes to men.
Okay I’ll go. I dated a yuppie a couple years back. He’s now a VP at a large bank and probably makes around $200k before the age of 35. We actually used to work at the same company and dated on the low. He dumped me over a text and I never spoke to him again, but we still follow each other on a professional social network. He recently proudly announced his new chick. She’s not very pretty compared to me, but she is about to become a doctor. I’m more voluptuous and have a pretty face (his words lol). I make $100k a year but I’m not that career driven and def am not as smart as a doctor. I think he likes what she can bring in terms of status.
But you just said it. She has more education than you, she's more career driven than you, makes more 💰 than you, and is likely more slim/toned vs. your curvy build. Pretty and curvy are great but usually don't attract men at the level you want in terms of partnership. These attributes mean nothing if you are only attracting dusties.
Orrrr he just likes her better and that's okay. Regardless of look she probably has a personality or just something about her he can't get enough of... looks may not matter much to him, he just actually likes with she has on the inside.
@@mysteriousgirl935 probably. He always made comments negging me that I was “too quiet” lol but meanwhile he was realllly loud and obnoxious in the office. I met someone who makes me feel appreciated and loved, so I don’t really care anymore. Just me observing him because I think he’s got some issues lol.
That’s cool and all but I not looking for a billionaire I’m looking an ideal partner for me. I’m looking for a partner for the life I want which is not a billionaire lifestyle per say. I really want a good partner for me.
Ladies make it own money and U choose who u date. These males have way too many options because we women are comforting this crap for too long. I’m not gonna gain, lose or get a bbl for a male. TF not.
The girl in the pink robe was spot one!! Why are everyone on the internet trying to find some kind of math and recipe to finding a man/woman? Just LIVE because you'll be amazed at who you attract and what attracts you.
I agree with the bonnet girl..... white men naturally like slim bodies bcuz when other races of women put on weight it looks oblong .... when black women put on weight.... it usually it goes to the right places
Please, white men go after curvy women, too!!! I've always had an "onion" whether I was skinny or not; but when I came of age; I had a number of white men pursue me; well, even in high school. And they had MEAN$. Nothing against dating whites; I dated about two; but I tend to prefer Black men. 🌺
I can see this being true, but in my opinion, it would be more likely that rich people are just attracted to other rich people. Rich people can afford organic, healthy food. Which in turn, leads to rich women being thinner, because her access to healthier, non-processed food. Not to mention rich people have more leisure time to spend working out, ect.
I don't know about black culture, but white culture has completely flipped. In white culture through out history considered the plump, very pale woman to be highly desirable. A double chin was considered sexually attractive. Now, the woman must be very slim, somewhat tanned. In old days, the weight and pale skin indicated she was not poor. She was raised in a home with money. If she was skinny and tanned, she was hungry and working in the sun all the time. NOW the plump and pale women are eating cheap food (carbs and fast food) and working indoors all the time. The tanned and slim woman has free time and money to vacation in the sun and go to the gym. She focuses on HERSELF. So she draws to her men who see her as comfortable in his world
I think this is an American thing 😂 beauty trends differ from time to time. Now that big butts are out and slim is in (which for me I never thought it was out to begin with, especially amongst the elite and the ultra wealthy)...who knows maybe next big feet and small knees will be in fashion after 10 years😂😂😂
Like we all said access to food and more information on health beauty standards changed. Now slim is it. Because we have lots of resources now. And because of health reasons.
I don't agree with this stuff pne bit. For one, these are very Eurocentric standards being pushed on black women's bodies. Second, there are only so many wealthy men out there most of us won't marry them (most black men are also not that wealthy so there is a tone of racism in this argumebt). Lastly, the older you get the more different your body settles (young women usually have snall hips) so it reeks of you're expired by [random stupid age]. Her argument is rooted in classism, racism, ageism, ableism, xenophobia, exoticisation of certain bodies, sexism etc. We need to start noticing these -isms and not building these phobic debates.
Men are attracted to certain women... a dark-skinned woman like me has a harder time attracting the men she wants..whereas the blonde in this video would have an easier time!
When ppl talk about what men like or don’t like I take it with a grain of salt. If you go outside everyday and see couples and the same men are dating the very thing they say they don’t want. Hell some of them are married. Just like women come in different shapes and sizes, each man has their own preferences.
There's some truth to this but I would hope that if a woman is getting a BBL or prefers a certain dress code whatever at might be, she is doing it for herself and not to pull any kind of man.
i am so sick of this conversation! it's the same points over and over and over again. i just hate how people talk about women with curvier/a more voluptuous figure when explaining why their body is not valuable to rich men. cannot be good for one's self esteem
My husband is white hispanic and always loved a more curvy body, but in shape. He is all about a woman who takes care of her natural body. I told him that before we met I almost got a BBL and the face he made let me know I made the right choice in NOT getting one. And no, we are not rich. He makes six figures. So if he is like this what do you expect actual wealthy men to go for? Before my husband I dated a few very established men and that's because they approached me. There are tons of rich men in the world of Finance. They consider certain body types to be "unhealthy." If they are providing a soft life, you are expected to stay fit to keep him looking good. So if that is not your thing like many said here just get your own bag so you can have whatever body type you want. Dont let women who have NEVER been with a rich/wealthy man tell you different.
... partly true. Samwhat true. Let keep I mind there are women with naturally voluptuous figure that has nothing to do with BBL. In Subsaharan Africa, there are tribes whose women are really curvy like the lady from South Africa, Sara Baartman. Could we have more empathy towards non slim/slender bodies? Unfortunately BBL made things worse for curvy women.
I'm southern African, trust me its an exaggeration. No tribe has most curvy women. We are sooooooo different and we have everything. Slim is also a loooot.
I was always very skinny and a late bloomer compared to all of the other girls, so I always got teased and passed over by BM. They said I had the noassatall disease etc. Lol. One even said I was the type of BW WM-like. I didn't understand what he meant then. It wouldn't be until I was older and working in Accounting that WM would begin to heavily pursue me. They were always well-established and loved my petite body. So I guess that one BM was right. I almost got a BBL but said nope, my petite body leveled up my dating. I've been with my non-BM for almost 10 years now.
Be happy, get your own bag, being the best you can be. Men fall in love with you loving you. Happiness in a woman is an aphrodisiac for wealthy men. Being fit and having an hourglass figure doesn't hurt though lol
You are right about African men, in general, they are mostly into big butt, even “rich men” HOWEVER, the few Royal and 1% are absolutely not into big curvy women. And because they are few and separate from society, most people have no idea about this. I grew up with them, they are terrified of overtly curvaceous body type 😢 So even within black culture, the lady is spot on.
@@teyianyes, I was in a Uber in Kenya and the driver complimented my skinny frame, of which o told him that I actually don’t get any compliments about it elsewhere in Africa 😢❤
That's not true babes. Men here marry slim women allll the time, we see it alllll the time. Social media just exaggerates things. Men here also like intelligent, well spoken women. A big buy here still attracts dusties soooo much.
Men MARRY in their social circle. As for attraction, WM prefer skinnier women. Even in the BBL peak, Kim K, Scarlet Johansson, and Beyoncé were as “big” as they liked.
I can’t lie, I’ve been pursued by wealthy men when I was at my thinnest. I’m black woman who has very dark skin. I put on weight and the others started approaching. I’m getting back to 58 kilos (roughly 128 lbs).
Its not just the BBL, it's how some of these women put themselves out in the world. I do wish more black women could choose to be elegant like #Mossonyi or #WomanofElegance
A lot of middle-class people who think they're rich fantasizing about the rich 'monaco' people. Go to Monaco someday, you'll see all kinds of people in these restaurants.
It's not only about the aesthetic. What does it say about your morals and values when you go under the knife? Especially an operation as RISKY as a BBL. Wealthy men want their women to dress in nice clothes and maintain themselves, which costs money, but skincare is a lasting investment versus something like a BBL thing.
Bbls are dumb bbw is unhealthy too much chubbiness ain’t good either for poorer broker ppl it’s looked at as good but health is wealth as we have access to more food we Ike to stay in shape
Skinny is in now. This is why we dont follow trends that require surgery. But I wish in 2024 we would stop centering men. Make your own bag. And while there, you are more likely to meet quality men of means.
10:45 girl and youre saying what you’re saying because you’re not small and thin… what she’s saying is true- don’t have to like it. And she didn’t say it would be certain to be with a rich guy because they’re smaller- it’s just a basic observation. Michelle Obama- no bbl, not overly curvy.. Lori Harvey- not overly curvy and dates high caliber men, Ciara- has the poster marriage that people are after and no bbl.. now let’s look at the married women who do have BBLs? Most of them are constantly being cheated on with other bbl broads
Yes or married to men with low income who treat them like a fetish their are some exceptions Iike a good looking man with a big girl or a guy who cheats with a woman not considered attractive by society
This is true. I don’t care what anyone says- it’s true. Rich men only think a lot about their offspring and how their offspring will be raised. They prefer healthy, slim, athletic women.
Also this is human evolution mixed with colonialism whiter is preferred and the more food a country has slimmer is prefered. Slimmer is for health reasons. Evolutionary biology has not changed. Woman want brutal strong men and a pretty boy or men with money and men want a younger looking slim or curvy woman
@ 10:00 that girl sounds so pressed 😂😂. As a girl that's had the curvy figure, I don't think she was just saying that to feel better. Many studies have showed that rich men of any race prefer slimmer women. White men in America do tend to be of a higher socioeconomic status, but even in African countries, the rich men I see have wives that are on the smaller side of healthy. It is what it is at this point 😭😭
From my experience with a wealthy white man that i met when i was naturally thick, he basically told me my face is a 10 but i need to lose weight and when i lost weight but i was with a black wealthy guy he told me he really likes me because im slim so i think she's right.
Yes even broke black guys or broke white guys want a hot fit girl there are some exceptions. But a lot of men I met who like big girls it’s a fetish to them
Im just happy to be breathing, out of pain, and healthy. Meanwhile people are cutting up their bodies, willing to go through pain. I lost two people. One due to kidney/lung failure and the other to cancer.
I know middle class men who are paired with overweight/obese women. I really haven’t seen rich men with the same in my area only time is if they had a bunch of kids or something like that.
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Ever noticed how a lot of slim black African women marry rich and white? and how black men look down on slim black African women and then ridicule them when they go where they are loved?
Oh my goodness, remember the hard wig soft life? Literally that whole trend was made by gurls on TikTok after the clip of that British Billionaire with his African wife (I think she's from Congo) went viral. Like people don't understand that a small body is currency to these rich non black men regardless of what race you fall into.
Yup also WM hate the dowry law it screams Dusty! They have pride in they selves
@@McOofyit never fails. A dusty shows up to tell us we aren’t going to get a wealthy white man. No one cares, dusty. Scram.
@@McOofy
It's true that most people marry within their economic and social circles, including color.
However, there are billionaire white men who marry black women. For example, Maximilian (or Max), the Prince of Liechtenstein, who married a Caribbean-born black woman, with whom he has a son. There are more to be found by Googling photos of billionaires with black wives. They do have the same look that the first woman in the video is discussing.
However, I don't believe people accept a random commenter's claims of expertise at face value and gives more weight to what they say based on such claims. Especially if that person's comments come across with the talking points, lingo and sometimes borderline hostility of a hood black man.
@@McOofysure bestie
“As for me, I am tired of auditioning for men…. I am the wealthy woman.”✨✨✨
😂🙌🏽❤️I hear that
FACTS!
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Facts!!!!
Before I gave up on dating, I lost weight after being depressed, and I definitely attracted a better caliber of men…mostly non BM. But as I enter my 30s this year, I’m focused on my own bag. Good luck to the women who are out here dating, because babyyyyyy 😅
Agreed, I'm far more interested in generating wealth than in auditioning to ride any man's coattails.
@RebalNutts-db5gl stop talking to me
Yes, focus on your own💰🛍️ I've noticed that I'm happier that way and the dust is just floating around every where I turn!! It's frustrating, and I don't date outside my race either; But wm are the only men standing on business* Sadly
@@ds37215 yes. Honestly? I believe marriage benefits the man more.
Imagine not getting a man worth anything to commit to you before 30, now you bragging about non BM men hitting and quitting. SAD.
Make your own bag instead of worrying about how you can twist your body to please billionaires
Facts!
Tell them o
“You’re not ran through, you’re not done, you’re not tired” says the male that looks ran through, done, and tired.
He's not saying that because he thinks that these women are less worth, he's paraphrasing, what a lot of wealthy men are thinking.
@@ml-oo5uo i mean considering he isn't one and none of us truly know another's person's thoughts and so create our own narratives that seem to fit, he seems to be hinting more at his own thought process than another's. Words like "ran through", and "done " seem very youtube/tiktok manosphere language so becomes hard to imagine it as the voice of a "billionaire".
@@ml-oo5uohe is calling women with naturally wide hips and big breasts old and ran through lol. It’s pdfile logic. They will call inexperienced teens with that body type whxres too. It’s sick. Wealthy males are just as depraved and sick and poorer males.
Let’s just be real about the fact that most of us will not wind up with a billionaire. Regardless if we are slim or not. When people spend all this time and energy talking about what billionaires like I just laugh. It’s fine to want wealthy guys and if you do bag a billionaire, great for you. But in the mean time try to be a little bit more realistic. Go for doctors and lawyers. They may not be billionaires but they are well off. We should all strive for financial stability in men. And I promise you can be a curvy woman and still get a doctor. I am a doctor myself and I see the partners my male colleagues have. They aren’t all skinny blond girls.
exactly! These girls are arguing about whos body type is more appealing to MEN. I thought we were moving past this.
It’s ok to be rich in Spirit 😅
Thank you! It’s like broke men worrying about ‘gold diggers’
You’ve got nothing to worry about.
@@lacheincright? I’m reading the comments and I’m like, you wanna get rid of your curves bc you wanna attract wealthy men???
@@mazelovesosawhy not?
She's generally correct. Wealthy men ARE usually paired with slim, in-shape women.
Google the wives of men that run the WORLD. Lol. They look like dust. And they all aren't skinny.
Let’s all slim down💭🤠
Meh thats not true for the extreme amount of Nigerian millionaires and not so much for the Arabs either. One thing in common is that their women don't represent a lack of class. Exposing your bbl or your booty doesn't get you anything but sex and baby mother status
So the European body type in other words 😂
@@lewid019it’s an honor! WM ain’t weak minded cuz they got over on yall
Broke men love whoever they can get over on
Bingo
This the one.🤌🏾💯
Is that a problem?
Bingo
@TiktokBro154 Nope so stop complaining about gold diggers then
What I’ve learned is that as a woman if your standards are ironclad / proper you’ll always deal with quality men regardless of your size . As women we choose who we entertain . I’ve seen plenty of big women with quality men and thinner ones with awful guys vice versa
THIS
i halfway agree because a lot of those bigger women husbands have candy on the side i have been propositioned enough to know thats why i am a avid believer that men are visual so no matter what you must keep yourself looking as close as possible to how you looked when he wifed you of prepare for problems i know its not right it just is
@@trendydiy2931 that statement in itself is generalized and doesn’t make sense.
I’ve seen plenty of poor men with quality women and rich men with awful bbl women vice versa
@trendydiy2931 even the skinny women, the men will get thicker candy on the side even bbw, 😂😂😂 all men will smash anything
Let’s keep it 100! The BBL fad began in the strip club. It started with butt shots, then transitioned to BBLs. That grew in popularity with the Kardashian crew (who already jumped off the bandwagon). If we think about it outside of rappers, athletes, scammers, drug dealers and hustlers, who has ever seen a rich (wealthy) but not famous man with a BBL chick?
While I agree that people should do what they choose and love who they choose, it is obvious that if you are looking to get “married” to a wealthy man that doesn’t fall into any of these categories then her advice is right. So let me sum her statement up: Don’t get a bbl expecting to have better richer suitors as you’re likely to attract the wrong type of men.
Being fit also shows a level of self-discipline which is very attractive
Exactly a BBL is an investment to get a kid/bag out of a rich dummy. I like the way you talking, keep it 1000. The BBL monsters make SURE they are around their targets as well.
It started with the transformer men
True, but I will say a lot of physical appearance is diet. You can workout twice a day and have high body fat if you eat terribly (which is discipline), but you can be slim and not be physically fit (i.e never lift or do cardio)@@user-dz1sm9kx1l
Well said!
I've had a big butt since highschool, I can agree. This body type attracts lower caliber men the most. It just is what it is. I think its absolutely crazy for women to get BBLs because the sxualization that I've experienced while dating and in life in general is overwhelming. It's not a good feeling. I dated a man and made it a point to where clothing that didn't show my figure after several dates I wore one dress and he couldn't control himself- I literally had to uber myself away from him. The whole dynamic of us dating changed. Unless a woman wants to be objectified, I wouldn't do it.
I highly doubt having a big butt mostly attracts lower caliber men. Some lower caliber men are just quicker to approach women because the guy who isn't about bs has just about been written off by women. They've been rejected so much that they don't approach women. Being of a higher caliber doesn't mean you prefer less shapely women at all, my friend.
Put it in existence to attract higher caliber men. I did when i used to attract ratchet women every women from then on was of high caliber til this day. Been together since 2011. Put out a affirmation on what you want in guys and keep repeating it over and over. Repetition is key
Sis same. Naturally curvy and most men just want to smash. I was so confused when I saw the big butt trend start. Women see us getting attention and crave it, not knowing that it’s mostly the wrong attention and can be dangerous, putting us at a high risk of rape even in childhood since I bloomed around 8th grade. All the older men I attracted as a child (from 30s to 70s!) makes me afraid for my daughter. I hope she doesn’t get my shape.
Wasn't ur fault but his. I dress for myself n I love it, fuck these dudes. He can't control himself that's a him issue. Don't allow them to get you, they will do it no matter what most likely.
I agree I have no bbl naturally curvy pear shaped and men can’t control themselves. Although I will say I attract decent men.. it’s still impossible for me to wear anything form fitting and not look sexy. I just am high maintenance and proper, professional , introvert and it kind of keeps the dusties away bc they aren’t trying to maintain a certain lifestyle anyway. I’ve been married for 12 years to a good family man
My main issue is with the idea of women being taught to believe that the way to get the lifestyle they want requires getting a man who can provide it. If you rely on a man, then that man will have the power to give or TAKE that lifestyle from you. Look over there at Oprah, or Rihanna, or Taylor Swift…no man can threaten to take their lifestyle because they earned it instead of marrying it.
If you make your own money, build your own career, and level yourself up, you’ll eventually place yourself in circles where successful men and women are found. When you earn the life you want, people who can match your energy tend to show up, and the better you are at what you do, the more those people will _need_ to talk to you.
It’s great to stay fit and on top of your looks, but even models have to do more than look good to be successful. Decenter and level up, ladies. Make yourself someone _you_ can be proud of, and you’ll likely attract similar people.
What do you mean by "decenter"? Sorry, English is not my first language
Preach!
@@martaleszkiewicz5115Not make men your primary focus in life.
Also, can we be honest with women. Not every woman has the ability to marry a rich man. Not every girl has the right combination of looks, charm, breeding ect.
Make less important
She is absolutely right! BBL'S attract rapper type men. I've seen this in places of business as well. The issue is not a naturally thick woman, its the fake looking bodies that's the issue in my opinion.
As someone who is on the curvier side with a somewhat of a big butt, I can tell you in the corporate world they don’t take you serious especially if you’re in the sciences
@@angelsweet9611 I would say business even more so than science
@@martaleszkiewicz5115 it’s basically if you’re in white spaces as a Black Woman
It depends on where you are. In Africa there are many rich respectful man who prefer curvy nice shaped women. As long as you look healthy and fit, with a great body shape, size does n't really matter, infact medium to big is hot.
@@LukeRev480I agree
Honestly, I think there is some truth to this, just based on personal experience. My weight goes up and down over the years and I definitely notice it attracts different types of guys at different stages. I have a naturally more curvy body type but I prefer to look more athletic (with some shape still). I do NOT like the types of guys that tend to be attracted to me when I am super curvy. I have to expend more of my energy fending off attention from toxic men when I'm curvier. I decided that this year I am going back to my athletic body type partly because I am tired of that type of attention and I want to signal to better quality men my preference for health and fitness. Because none of the toxic men that approach me ever take health and fitness seriously anyway, it's kind of a natural repellent.
There’s no magic formula to get a minute to treat you right there’s nobody shaped there’s no skin color they see women as a dolls to have sex with or torture and you have to make your own money and be aware of your surroundings. You guys see me as liking to date they are predators, they see opportunity to have sex, or hear somebody down and they don’t see women as humans.
PREACH👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
A man on any level will like what he's going to like. Some guys who are clearly into body building like their women on the fluffy side.
@Liz-wz8dh I wholeheartedly agree with this statement , I’m 5’8”. When I was 135-140 lbs at the most, there was no shortage of diversity of quality men approaching me, or engaging in conversation, even on a bad day. Once I began caring for a family member before they transitioned, and the stress that entailed over the years, my weight went up significantly. There was a sharp decline in quality of men, or they would smile and make a compliment (Natural hair) but not approach to engage or get to know further.
@adorning5264 yeees! Same I am the same height and have also weighed thst same amount and it was a dream. Pulled so mamy millionaires. Everyone complimenting me aLl day long. Gain 80lbs and ur hard pressed to pull anything with value. But it's ok. I'm gonna get back to 145 soon.
The good old "African bodies are not made to be loved", ish again.
Rich or broke I don't want a man who only see my value through my body.
This👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Sis was right. Hood rich men they do tend to be very ostentatious about their wealth. Ie: putting Louis Vuitton wraps on a Lamborghini, gaudy gold, diamond chains, logos everywhere, tacky, promiscuous looking IG women, spending 6 figures on a watch when they are behind on rent. Broke ppl go broke trying to look rich. The wealthier the man the broker he looks.
False, if you grew up in a wealthy area you would know a lot of wealthy wear it on them. Also depends on ethnic background. Arabs often wear their wealth, Asians too. Second generation/trust fund might not wear their wealth on them as much. Y'all expose yourselves when you make this fraudulent comments on money.
@@McOofyactually I do live in a predominantly wealthy and white area. They don’t wear their wealth on them. Their home is generally amazing and they often have a quality car. But their wealth is in their experiences, vacations, and access. Can’t speak for Arabs, but same for the Asians in my area.
@@adorningherthese losers try it all the time😂. Lurking in women’s spaces like a bad smell.
I doubt it, I do and many wear it on them. And by wealthy I mean homes at least 2 million, not 600k or whatever you're talking about. I will say a lot have tons of debt, take out big loans for failed investments, do other dumb financial stuff. Maybe you can't recognize how much watches cost or how expensive their clothes are? I personally don't primarily because I don't care and physically am top .0001 percent so who cares what I wear.@@adorningher
@@McOofyyou expose yourself as well. Bill Gates, Warren Buffet and Jeff Bezos look like regular men all the type. Their wealth is shown in the yachts and planes they own & in the activities they are able to participate in.
Went to a wealthy college and work in finance, yt people with money are not (on the average) flashy.
Broke can be a mindset too. Just because he has physical money doesn’t mean he isn’t broken spiritually. Mind, body and soul are really connected. Love is real and I hope all of my Sisters can experience it.
I initially thought broken emotionally and spiritually not financially.
That’s what i was thinking
Who cares what men want?
Straight women.
Woman with bbls get “hood rich” men. Not wealthy billionaires
but yall arent getting wealthy billionaires either. Stop cherry picking the few black women that do have them because without that you have a straw man argument
@@lacheincwhat you mean “y’all” as if you know ALL bw? Even if she’s not dating a billionaire, she sure as hell isn’t about to date a hood rich dusty gold grills in the mouth bm. As a bw that’s petite with an athletic build, I can say that the op and the one that made the video, is absolutely correct. Even a wealthy bm or just one that isn’t a dusty, doesn’t want that bbl that you see these hood dudes parading around. It is what it is🤷🏽♀️
Facts! 😅😂😂😂
Lmaooo
EXACTLY
Sorry folks doesn't matter your body shape. If the man gone leave. He gone leave. Plenty of slim women have been cheated on and left
I think we should stop debating on what men of any calibre want. It's not important. We should focus on living the lives WE want. Men are inevitable, we have all been outside, lol. So live the life you want and the man you want will be somewhere along that path, if that's really what you want.
Thinking poor white men and rich white men share a culture is hilarious.
100%!
Right.
Can you explain why that’s false? I think it’s generally correct! Poor black and white men generally act super similarly, but not identically.
@@winxclubstellamusa culture is a lot of things. Skin color can play a role but it's like the last thing that matters culturally. Where you live plays a much bigger role. I have a very different culture from the rest of my extended family. Mainly because they are upper crust and I'm poor. My cultural influences are totally different.
They do, though. White men all want the same thing
i’m tired of auditioning for men. yep most men are not rich
Many WOC have natural BBL bodies. This is not quite all about wealthy vs poor, it also has to do with white vs minority. Also, the way you dress and present yourself also has some part of it. You can have a BBL body but dress modest and you’ll probably attract a more wealthy man than poor. Let’s not also forget that not all BBLs look like Cardi B’s. There are so many layers to this conversation.
Edit: Why is everyone missing my point? I’m genuinely confused at some of these comments. I’m not arguing against the point of the video, I’m adding to it.
I agree most of the billionaires will be white and many whites prefer slimmer or athletic bodies.
If it were about race, it wouldn’t matter if a black woman is more slender. It wouldn’t make a difference because she’s still black. They could just get a slender white women, there are a lot more of those as you pointed to yet slender BW are still getting chose by wealthy men from different walks of life
@@BlueBerryBronzer Race has some to do with it. Like I said, this conversation has MANY layers. Also, where are you seeing these wealthy men with slender black women? I’ve honestly not seen it unless the woman is also wealthy herself.
All this is theory, wealthy men are already with their college sweetheart, or with a non BBL woman in their social network. You will see a married BBL woman in a wealthy area maybe once a year. And she will probably be Middle Eastern.
You really think they have natural BBL bodies? BBL is almost always look abnormal, compared to a woman who naturally has a larger derriere. It's a noticeably different. I have plenty of fellow black girlfriends who have larger behinds, and it doesn't look weird. Their legs match their behinds. I have never seen a BBL that didn't look contrived, because they are. Until they can perfect the surgery, it's almost always looking weird AF.
Sis broke out the whiteboard. I am weak 😂😂😂
I think what she said got lost in translation. There's a segment of women who fail to understand that once you get into certain circles, preferences are different. Yes, most men will F apple pie if they could. They would F anything that moves, and it doesn't mean women with BBLs can't get a man or that they are not preferred. The CALIBER of men attracted to women with those types of enhancements is definitely very different from those without. There's a huge difference between men with old money (wealthy) and those with new money (rich) and what they prefer. A man's social and economical background also comes into play here. She definitely gets it.
Sorry but the CALIBER OF MEN financially isnt the same as caliber character wise. Yall are so stuck on money and surface level aspects that are important but not the be all end all. EVERY woman goes through stuff with these men. Skinny or slim women arent exempt even if they date hypergamously.
The sign of low class is a crass obsession with money
@@watermelonlover745 - While that may be true, who, here, is obsessed with money? Just curious.
@@lacheinc - Who is "y'all?" This conversation, yet so simple, has gone over a lot of people's heads. Lol! Caliber encompasses character. Nowhere did anyone say that you have to be with a sh!tTy person just because they have money. But yes, the CALIBER of men that these women attract is of low quality because they are looking to use them for their @SSets and not much else. Wealthy men who care about their image and overall presentation do not want to attract a circus. Subtlety is always at the core of everything they do. I know this firsthand and not from social media.
We go from decentering men to building your entire existence on a body type to still pull a certain man. Women ☕️
It's crazy, right?😂😂😂
"Women" are not a monolith
Mam YOU the one decentering men, don't involve us in your b.s some of us want a healthy relationship with well established men. Stop projecting
@@yoloti9993 ma'am I'm talking about a movement not an opinion 😂🤫. Are u sleeping under a rock...
@@nawal10 a movement for who though? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Gurl stick to decentering men at your own Accord and stop expecting the rest of us who want healthy relationships to focus on that, it's really that simple. Decenter men mam, trust and believe I'm praying for your success at it🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
This is why women should focus on their own happiness. Stop trying to change who you are to impress people.
Me with a naturally large badonkadonk: 😶
Me too ☺️
Welp, I’m black with a little butt and it has not helped me with dating 😂😂😂
@@ccannon1 girl hearing all these things makes me feel to give up on dating completely. I feel like I attract a lot of men who likes my body and it terrifies me cause idk if the interest is genuine or not. I’ve been single for years 😭😭😭
I do think that if I didn't have a "natural BBL-shaped body 🍐" I would attract a higher caliber of men who believe in marriage. Bigger assets can hold a woman back because all men think about is sex
I cant but to notice that these conversations are being had because the BBL look is no longer desired by MOST younger women who are currently the "in-thing". Yes, skinny/slim/slender/petite look is in and Gen Z is the reason why its in and all the new age fashion which is simply a Y2k mid 2000s trends are back in fashion because of these young Gen Z girls. These conversations werent being had 5 years ago because having a booty was the ish back then but now.... Gen Z gurls think its old and not their style. Make up and hair trends also changed
But This is ABSOLUTELY true. I know most women with the BBL look might get offended but i noticed when i gained weight as a black woman with curves and a booty i would mostly attract low quality men (wanna be Rappers, athletes with multiple girlfriends and the bottom of the barrel men with multiple kids and not to forget broke men) when i lost weight, all of a sudden i get approached by High Quality men of ALLLLLL RACES. When i was a BBL shaped girl i would attract ONLY black men.
@@Queen-ConsciousYaRight 😂
These Gen Z girls are literally going the opposite direction of what the millennials saw as trendy. Things are changing aggressively
@@yoloti9993right! I look like gen Z yet on cusp of gen X/Millenial! I attract good mixture of suitors
Dusties leave me alone I feel honored
DIRCH THE BBL!
Poverty is not a virtue, they want U to settle…
Everything you said !!!
Literally Everything.
Also I'm sorry, but I Laughed
at the mention of "bottom of the barrel" 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I believe another facet of this overall conversation needs too highlight the severe delulu' mentality of impoverished men everywhere who have the audacity to approach "bbl" woman with BOLD confidence while having absolutely Nothing to offer. Not even Godly Countenance . .
- at the very Most, and "least".
In some ways it's redundant to add
but when we factor in new social statics and real world testimonies of how bbls are/were the new social equity
to climbing the "wealth" latter
It becomes that much more important to rediscuss these matters so at least the new generation has a fighting chance, of not falling for these deeply misguided
"beauty/surgery" troupes.
How come none of these high quality men marri..nevermind. JK. In wealthy areas, you never see the BBL look, you see that botox lip stuff and scary face plastic surgery but I can't remember seeing a BBL in a long time.
All the stitchers that thought they were opposing the op were actually agreeing with her. They just weren't really listening.
Yes ma'am
The second clip kinda proves that it's not about body type but how you present yourself. You can have curves and still present yourself in a very classy way. You're not doomed simply because you got a butt lol. I mean I can see them going for thinner women but thin-curvy also exists and exists in classy representations too. I just think there's a lot more nuance to all of this.
I think the Natural curvy look is the way to go. The BBL needs to look like it's natural and not be too much. Most naturally thick girls have a natural shape to them that goes with the rest of their body. So I think it differs, but again men are not a monolith but most successful men tend to go for natural or women who have the natural plastic surgery look.
Yes you can be classy and curvy and men like curved who ever she is more talking about fat women, women who is fat and curvy all men tend to like slim women with curves few like fat women with curves but typically poor men and there is nothing wrong with that but if you look sexual mem typicall want you once not to marry but those slim pretty people slim pleople that are pretty but dont stand out. It is the same with blondes more men whabt t8 date blond women it is something pretty to have on your arm and flex and they sure wilk cheat with some young blonde but then will marry some slim brunette but the one they marry is for public opinion and they migth cheat with who is who more attractive. Eho men date depends on what other men in their comunity think women are arm candy like and accessoarys for them who their parents and comunity would approve. And most rich people are white because of rasism and white supremacy but even poor white men prefer thick women not fat but vurvu only men with fet8shes prefer fat women just like only women eith low selfconfidense prefer fat men. Who is rich or nor depends a bit to much on rasism and white supremacy but even poor white men prefer curvy women. But yes you can actually be curvy and classy abd there is alot of rich men wih a bit curvy classy women
Most go for Skinny women and white women at that. Gay men go for women with bbls
@@EhlaarTHIS ‼️
Totally agree. I've never been against plastic surgery except when it comes to BBLs and that's solely because of just how dangerous they are either in the current or even 10 years down the line. The problem is I see a lot of people talking about mostly the 1% or really rich and or taking examples from famous people rather than generally rich and successful people in day to day life. I've seen and met plenty of women of different sizes and shapes have rich husbands, but these women don't have BBLs or major surgeries and if they do it looks natural and they still present themselves with class in both attitude and appearance.@@yoloti9993
I think it’s less about body type and more about how you present yourself, like how you dress, your hair and makeup, the way you speak, how you carry yourself, etc. Skinny women can look gaudy too.
Also, keep in mind that the best plastic surgery can be very subtle. Rich men go for women with plastic surgery all the time. There’s even something called a “country club BBL” that’s basically a smaller, more natural looking BBL.
All that said, I’m going to be the rich man so I don’t have to deal with all that.
Be the rich woman is the best advice, you won't put up with abuse and shit.
Women need to understand and realize certain things, like why would they get surgery to enhance their bodies if they are serious about 'decentering men'? Why do they need big boobs and a big ass in that case? All those things are meant to make them sexually attractive to MEN! You know: those ones they are allegedly 'decentering'?
We want more than provision, we wamt a partner and a protector. I havent found a man yet that i feel safer with than without. I feel men are the dangerous ones bc they cant handle themselves and feel the need to handle others instead. I am much happier around my great girl friends than a guy.
Wow!! Ur so spot on I feel the same also the caliber of men theee days suck
You must come from/ be in poverty. There is no way you feel unsafe around men with trust funds, doctors, lawyers, etc.
@@McOofy That is called invalidating.
I do not trust lawyers, doctors and especially trust fund babies. Like most men, they are in the game for themselves, most of the time, and not for the good of the community(future generations). Lawyers suck you of money, doctors don't address the actual issue just cover it,most of time, and everyone knows about the psychological effects of spoiled people. What is weird is people don't have to be rich to suffer from spoiled syndrome in the US at least.
Only women in poverty talk about feeling safe. No women in wealthy suburbs talk about feeling unsafe. All you have to do is go to Starbucks, work, gym, home. Y'all make stuff up to excuse why no man worth anything will commit to you. You sound like men who say they "Could have gone pro if I wanted to."
I can testify to this. I am a slim attractive women, and I always dress modest but fashionable and classy and. The way I look, and dress repels a certain type of men. I have only always got approached by a certain high class caliber. Period. She is speaking facts
Agreed. 💯
These same high calliber men pays ig curvy instagram model for sex.
Yeah but thats not new.
Same modest woman here very tiny girl I attracted all types when I showed my booty I was cat called
I agree with part of the original girl's argument as I do think reputation and status really affect what kind of partner a person may want (also different looks will attract different kinds of people) but I also can't deny that race is a factor. Most of the wealthy guys in America are white. While there's nothing wrong with interracial couples, people are more likely to date and marry within their own race. White American beauty ideals tend to favor skinnier women, so it's no surprise that a white man would prefer a white woman who fits the beauty ideal he's used to, especially when how he appears to others is a huge factor in his life.
I also want to add that he might not marry a black or Latina woman regardless of her body type because of the hubbub it would cause at the country club.
Honestly, though, nobody should be crying or obsessing over this. Worrying about how men perceive you is not going to make you happy. You never know who the man that's TRULY meant for you is going to be like or what economic status he's going to have.
I agree. I don't have a BBL and am naturally curvy. I'm not obsessed with what most rich white American men prefer tbh.
Yes, you are correct but the black women who are married to billionaires or multi-millionaires are ALL slim/toned built. Megan Markle, Eve, Melodie Hobson, Princess Angela of Lichtenstein, and Dambisa Moyo are prime examples.
Hint: these women are all complexions and all got married over the age of 35.
Their slim/toned build and high levels of education (both factors completely within our control) are what bw need to focus on when it comes to partnering with quality men.
@@jessikajane4967🫡💭💯💯💯
@@jessikajane4967👍🏼👍🏼‼️
I’m flat as a board and proud because only guys that talk to me are ones that work long hours and have goals ..
Yup 💁🏾♀️
I guess that's why the cosmetic surgery market is pitching the skinny BBL now. Body shapes should not be a trend.
100% correct. When my wife and I were dating, I was running a fixed income and derivatives trading desk at an investment bank. I was more than happy to bring her to the Christmas parties- I knew she would be presentable. You can't go to these functions with someone who looks like a circus.
A voluptuous natural body is a circus?
Appreciate your honesty about this😀
hes not honest. Hes misogynistic and yall will eat it up just because he is "honest" He has a right not to like the BBL look but dont shame women for their choices.@@jessikajane4967
@@EmilyWhite2013zwhen there is too much going on😂
My then boyfriend, now husband mentioned how classy I dressed and how that was important to him.
As a BBL girl, this is sooo true. Once I dropped some weight and lost a good percentage of fat from the fat transfer, I attracted a totally different caliber of men. I also started wearing my natural hair more often, so I'm sure that contributed as well.
Awesome Rock your Afro
As a big gurl i have been hit on by a spectrum of men. Sometimes men just like who they like.
I believe you misunderstood the initial clip. She was referring to "rapper rich" Vs. "Hedge fund rich". That's why she used the term "broke", even though she didn't mean literally broke, she meant broke overtime.
Ok thanks for explaining ☺️
Im with with you both women are getting played. Are you winning if you just trophy and he goes out with who he really desires? Are you winning when he got a whole wife at home and isnt really emotional available for you because of his obligations?
True 😊
right. women have to make everything a competition.
@@lacheinc thank you!
TikTok invents wars.
The body count war
The man vs woman war
Now the BBL vs skinny b war
😂😂
Yup, I'm not interested.🚫👎🏾 I'd much rather put that much effort towards building my own wealth and legacy. I plan to achieve great things so that my own name goes down in history.
I'm not competing to be a trophy wife or a mistress. Both options seem mediocre and part of the traditional roles allotted to women. I'm not impressed. I feel I'm here to be more and to be great in my own right, not "the wife of...," much less a mistress.
@@ds37215I second that declaration!!
I think they’re different levels to the BBL’s… If you’re on the thicker side and get a BBL you won’t attract men of value. But if you’re small frame like a Lori Harvey and get a Bbl the results will be different. In Beverly Hills women get BBL’s… it’s called the country club BBL. The slim curvy women are also not glorified in the rap culture in comparison to thick and curvy. Most of these women also dress a certain way… They don’t dress overly sexual but dress very classy.
An example of curvy skinny is Lori Harvey, and Jeff Bezos fiancé, As long as your bbl is naturally portioned to your body and the legs match you should be okay. The goal is look like you have had nothing done. Dress size matters to wealthy men. But honestly don’t stress yourself ladies because some of these men take skinny women to the charity events and still keep curvy sugar babies on the side. There’s no real formula to this madness.
Yes, men will disrespect and s ex any type of woman, but they are usually partnered or married to a slimmer build not the extreme bbl type.
“Country club” 😂 this shi has me hollering. Whats next “mid class bbl”, the “poor bbl”, “the ghetto bbl”. Your right tho.
Ppl are focused on all the wrong shit. Im just glad my body is not in pain and that im alive. Glad to be breathing.
@@flowerpower7065 😂😂😂 Right! Natural and healthy is the best way to go.
Yes cause lots of men are just cheap. Caring about what looks good to society and fetishizing big girls
The socio-cultural context is 100% important in terms of preferred body type but yes the bbl girls don't typically end up with rich rich partners
In public.
BBL‘s look low class, some low class man have attained wealth!
I gained weight and my butter got bigger. Omg allot of broke guys were acting so inappropriate and accused me of having a bbl. I hired granite counters the worker made a pass at me. He could not speak English. He could muster up something about my butt. I lost 20lbs. I don't get it anymore.
your looks, place and ethnicity decides the kinda person you will attract🤷♀
Facts!!
Bro, this is so true, survival mode men always had made fun of my body just because I’m not curvy. Every single body is beautiful but these man have the audacity to want a hot sexy woman and criticize bodies that do not fit those standards PLUS being broke af. Baby you have no right to actually have any of both.
About the slender/ upper class body I think it’s because they’re more active and are “jet setters” they need to fit in the plane seats lol. They also have more access to quality foods.
Not fit the plane seats 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 true, the rich do have better access to quality food
This is also something people would bash you for as having 'pretty privilege'. Thankfully that I haven't experienced, but I've heard enough from people I know. I don't think it attracts broke guys, but def lots of fake guys. The girls make sure they're doing well on their own regardless of a man.
Right being around you cause it looks good to society or treating big girls like a fetish
I think that it’s also race related . Black men are the more into BBL and curvier body generally. There was a x type of video website who published the type of video who were most viewed by countries. Almost the entire continent of Africa was into big butt . We know in America black men also are into BBL or curvy girl . Unfortunately, black men are the poorer compared to other men so for me it’s related.
Definitely rooted in racism fs… and women think it’s a flex.
@@alexandrahutchinson4516 Why is it racism ? Maybe if you said racial preference yes , but not racism . Asian also like skinny women and are richer than black men . By the way historicaly in the middle age , in Europe , curvier women were the preference because the more money you had the more you can eat . So the poor where very slim . Just like being fair skin was a sign of wealth because the people who were tan where the farmers , they were working outside unlike the rich who where inside profiting from these farmers benefits. Nowadays, being bigger is associated with being poor because of junk food who is cheaper than organic or healthier food in general and lack of working out because it’s can expensive and time consuming . Just like being tan is not negative now because most people work inside , so getting a tan , is a sign of you being outside so not working , maybe in vacation , so having the money and time to be able to have a tan . So we should stop throwing the word racism everytime it’s loosing deepness, profound , the hard and heavy nature that should be associated with .
@@mari-wp5nn as I’ve said… regardless of healthy or not, MOST BLACK women are naturally built similarly as a bbl. Small waist, large hips, thighs, and butt. Just like colorism, and texturism is a thing. Black ppl are just built differently than naturally SHORT, small and FLAT ASIANS, and white people. Plus, Asians beauty standards are Eurocentric as well, so YES, rooted in racism. Rich men in Africa LOVE big butts and bottom halves. And btw if you have a small waist, flat stomach you are not fat or unhealthy.
I dated a African was upset at the idea of me losing weight
@@mari-wp5nnanyone who says working out is expensive and time consuming have their priorities messed up lol … a gym membership for 10 or 15 dollars is expensive? Oh please. But will spend 40 or more bucks a month on nails. Workouts can be free too: outside or home workouts. And how is it time consuming? 30 minutes a day is time consuming???
Jeff Besos Fiancée Lauren Sanchez has FULL BODY WORK. She was a beautiful woman but her work has ruined her natural looks.
You made THAT counterpoint
Just googled her. She looks overly filled in the face but I think she would still be considered on the slim build type and not the extreme bbl body look.
Princella speaks about how women are looking for female qualities in a man. Qualities like loyalty, trust, love, and respect that most men aren’t capable of giving to us.
These arent "woman" qualities. These are qualities any decent human being should have. Yall say things like this and make a complete about face back to the assholes (with a little more money) by using this anti logic as the excuse. If you love yourself first, you shouldnt settle period.
@lacheinc She's right. I got a call on my phone and I didn't even know who it was talking to me because all of those men sound the same. They all say the same foolishness and does the same foolish sh*t. They all sound the same and its easy to confuse them. We definitely have a problem in our society when it comes to men.
Okay I’ll go. I dated a yuppie a couple years back. He’s now a VP at a large bank and probably makes around $200k before the age of 35. We actually used to work at the same company and dated on the low. He dumped me over a text and I never spoke to him again, but we still follow each other on a professional social network. He recently proudly announced his new chick. She’s not very pretty compared to me, but she is about to become a doctor. I’m more voluptuous and have a pretty face (his words lol). I make $100k a year but I’m not that career driven and def am not as smart as a doctor. I think he likes what she can bring in terms of status.
But you just said it. She has more education than you, she's more career driven than you, makes more 💰 than you, and is likely more slim/toned vs. your curvy build.
Pretty and curvy are great but usually don't attract men at the level you want in terms of partnership. These attributes mean nothing if you are only attracting dusties.
Orrrr he just likes her better and that's okay.
Regardless of look she probably has a personality or just something about her he can't get enough of... looks may not matter much to him, he just actually likes with she has on the inside.
@@mysteriousgirl935 probably. He always made comments negging me that I was “too quiet” lol but meanwhile he was realllly loud and obnoxious in the office. I met someone who makes me feel appreciated and loved, so I don’t really care anymore. Just me observing him because I think he’s got some issues lol.
@@jessikajane4967 I don’t do dusty lol. I’m not a status chaser but I do not deal with dusty men.
yes, corporate guys are hustlers when it comes to finding love. Rarely do they marry a woman doing less. They are also seeking a come up,
Notice just notice the ppl that took issue came on social media wearing bonnets and pajamas. Just an observation
I noticed that, too. 😏
Tee hee 🤭
Lol
That’s cool and all but I not looking for a billionaire I’m looking an ideal partner for me. I’m looking for a partner for the life I want which is not a billionaire lifestyle per say. I really want a good partner for me.
I’m a voluptuous independently wealthy woman, and I ain’t auditioning for anyone! Don’t care of men, be they poor or rich
Ladies make it own money and U choose who u date. These males have way too many options because we women are comforting this crap for too long. I’m not gonna gain, lose or get a bbl for a male. TF not.
It’s 2024 stop hating
The girl in the pink robe was spot one!! Why are everyone on the internet trying to find some kind of math and recipe to finding a man/woman? Just LIVE because you'll be amazed at who you attract and what attracts you.
I agree with the bonnet girl..... white men naturally like slim bodies bcuz when other races of women put on weight it looks oblong .... when black women put on weight.... it usually it goes to the right places
This!!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Please, white men go after curvy women, too!!!
I've always had an "onion" whether I was skinny or not; but when I came of age; I had a number of white men pursue me; well, even in high school. And they had MEAN$.
Nothing against dating whites; I dated about two; but I tend to prefer Black men. 🌺
Most white women don't look good thick. They look better slim.😊
@@Frugal637 but black women look amazing either way
@@alexandrahutchinson4516true!
I can see this being true, but in my opinion, it would be more likely that rich people are just attracted to other rich people. Rich people can afford organic, healthy food. Which in turn, leads to rich women being thinner, because her access to healthier, non-processed food. Not to mention rich people have more leisure time to spend working out, ect.
I don't know about black culture, but white culture has completely flipped. In white culture through out history considered the plump, very pale woman to be highly desirable. A double chin was considered sexually attractive. Now, the woman must be very slim, somewhat tanned. In old days, the weight and pale skin indicated she was not poor. She was raised in a home with money. If she was skinny and tanned, she was hungry and working in the sun all the time. NOW the plump and pale women are eating cheap food (carbs and fast food) and working indoors all the time. The tanned and slim woman has free time and money to vacation in the sun and go to the gym. She focuses on HERSELF. So she draws to her men who see her as comfortable in his world
I think this is an American thing 😂 beauty trends differ from time to time. Now that big butts are out and slim is in (which for me I never thought it was out to begin with, especially amongst the elite and the ultra wealthy)...who knows maybe next big feet and small knees will be in fashion after 10 years😂😂😂
@@yoloti9993don’t slim slim women have small knees?
@@yoloti9993This was historically significant in Europe.
Like we all said access to food and more information on health beauty standards changed. Now slim is it. Because we have lots of resources now. And because of health reasons.
Slim is just better for health. And with abundance of food slim is preferred and better
I don't agree with this stuff pne bit. For one, these are very Eurocentric standards being pushed on black women's bodies. Second, there are only so many wealthy men out there most of us won't marry them (most black men are also not that wealthy so there is a tone of racism in this argumebt). Lastly, the older you get the more different your body settles (young women usually have snall hips) so it reeks of you're expired by [random stupid age].
Her argument is rooted in classism, racism, ageism, ableism, xenophobia, exoticisation of certain bodies, sexism etc. We need to start noticing these -isms and not building these phobic debates.
I agree
Men are attracted to certain women... a dark-skinned woman like me has a harder time attracting the men she wants..whereas the blonde in this video would have an easier time!
Facts!!!!
Colonialism and human evolution
Bbl will attract anykind of men. It does not matter they are visual creatures
I like the way she give one proper lecture with diagrams and everything 😂
When ppl talk about what men like or don’t like I take it with a grain of salt. If you go outside everyday and see couples and the same men are dating the very thing they say they don’t want. Hell some of them are married. Just like women come in different shapes and sizes, each man has their own preferences.
There's some truth to this but I would hope that if a woman is getting a BBL or prefers a certain dress code whatever at might be, she is doing it for herself and not to pull any kind of man.
i am so sick of this conversation! it's the same points over and over and over again. i just hate how people talk about women with curvier/a more voluptuous figure when explaining why their body is not valuable to rich men. cannot be good for one's self esteem
My husband is white hispanic and always loved a more curvy body, but in shape.
He is all about a woman who takes care of her natural body. I told him that before we met I almost got a BBL and the face he made let me know I made the right choice in NOT getting one.
And no, we are not rich. He makes six figures. So if he is like this what do you expect actual wealthy men to go for?
Before my husband I dated a few very established men and that's because they approached me. There are tons of rich men in the world of Finance. They consider certain body types to be "unhealthy."
If they are providing a soft life, you are expected to stay fit to keep him looking good. So if that is not your thing like many said here just get your own bag so you can have whatever body type you want.
Dont let women who have NEVER been with a rich/wealthy man tell you different.
... partly true. Samwhat true.
Let keep I mind there are women with naturally voluptuous figure that has nothing to do with BBL.
In Subsaharan Africa, there are tribes whose women are really curvy like the lady from South Africa, Sara Baartman. Could we have more empathy towards non slim/slender bodies?
Unfortunately BBL made things worse for curvy women.
I'm southern African, trust me its an exaggeration. No tribe has most curvy women. We are sooooooo different and we have everything. Slim is also a loooot.
Wealthy men and broke men like bbls IF they are pornography driven. Men who arent into pornography will just get a regular woman, wealthy or broke.
Yes it’s a fetish same with the big girl or black fetish
I was always very skinny and a late bloomer compared to all of the other girls, so I always got teased and passed over by BM.
They said I had the noassatall disease etc. Lol. One even said I was the type of BW WM-like. I didn't understand what he meant then.
It wouldn't be until I was older and working in Accounting that WM would begin to heavily pursue me. They were always well-established and loved my petite body.
So I guess that one BM was right. I almost got a BBL but said nope, my petite body leveled up my dating.
I've been with my non-BM for almost 10 years now.
Awesome
As a bigger African woman, I think our beauty standards are bit different. But there is some truth to what she said.
Theres a man for everyone and the man you want no matter what you look like, its all about charisma... Ive literally seen it all, literally
Here is a fact: old money rich people move in the same circle. So they end up with the same people.
Be happy, get your own bag, being the best you can be. Men fall in love with you loving you. Happiness in a woman is an aphrodisiac for wealthy men. Being fit and having an hourglass figure doesn't hurt though lol
Y’all… Africab rich men choose the thick women with curvaceous women over the slim ones. It is a cultural thing for sure.
Yeah that’s true.
Which African men? Maybe specify the country or tribe, cause I can assure you as a Kenyan, that is not true all over Africa.
You are right about African men, in general, they are mostly into big butt, even “rich men” HOWEVER, the few Royal and 1% are absolutely not into big curvy women. And because they are few and separate from society, most people have no idea about this. I grew up with them, they are terrified of overtly curvaceous body type 😢 So even within black culture, the lady is spot on.
@@teyianyes, I was in a Uber in Kenya and the driver complimented my skinny frame, of which o told him that I actually don’t get any compliments about it elsewhere in Africa 😢❤
That's not true babes. Men here marry slim women allll the time, we see it alllll the time. Social media just exaggerates things. Men here also like intelligent, well spoken women. A big buy here still attracts dusties soooo much.
Men MARRY in their social circle. As for attraction, WM prefer skinnier women. Even in the BBL peak, Kim K, Scarlet Johansson, and Beyoncé were as “big” as they liked.
I can’t lie, I’ve been pursued by wealthy men when I was at my thinnest. I’m black woman who has very dark skin. I put on weight and the others started approaching. I’m getting back to 58 kilos (roughly 128 lbs).
To add I want MY OWN money because ANY MAN will take liberties with you.
How tall are you
@@shanarobinson7672 5'6"
@@shanarobinson7672 5 foot six.
Its not just the BBL, it's how some of these women put themselves out in the world. I do wish more black women could choose to be elegant like #Mossonyi or #WomanofElegance
A lot of middle-class people who think they're rich fantasizing about the rich 'monaco' people. Go to Monaco someday, you'll see all kinds of people in these restaurants.
It's not only about the aesthetic. What does it say about your morals and values when you go under the knife? Especially an operation as RISKY as a BBL. Wealthy men want their women to dress in nice clothes and maintain themselves, which costs money, but skincare is a lasting investment versus something like a BBL thing.
But what about the woman who have natural bbl how bodies? Literally most African women.
@@ayemad I think this is referring to BBLs, not naturally curvaceous.
rich men wives get work done all the time lol even rich men
Bbls are dumb bbw is unhealthy too much chubbiness ain’t good either for poorer broker ppl it’s looked at as good but health is wealth as we have access to more food we Ike to stay in shape
And when you lose weight...they say 'dont lose too much weight' Like WTF mind ya business
she really use a whole whiteboard for this😂😂
She's performing a public service. 🌺
I am also amazigh from Algeria 😊
I was thinking this exactly. I was like did she just break out the whiteboard??? We going to school today. Lmaooo
@@ivy-gp5to Azul! Kabyle? I'm Moroccan Amazigh but born and raised in The Netherlands, AMS. Shoutout to all Imazighen❤😂
Skinny is in now. This is why we dont follow trends that require surgery. But I wish in 2024 we would stop centering men. Make your own bag. And while there, you are more likely to meet quality men of means.
Yes the point is to be classy fit and healthy now if a country is poorer they have different standards. And theirs fetishs too
Thats was a great break down in the beginning of the video 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
10:45 girl and youre saying what you’re saying because you’re not small and thin… what she’s saying is true- don’t have to like it. And she didn’t say it would be certain to be with a rich guy because they’re smaller- it’s just a basic observation. Michelle Obama- no bbl, not overly curvy.. Lori Harvey- not overly curvy and dates high caliber men, Ciara- has the poster marriage that people are after and no bbl.. now let’s look at the married women who do have BBLs? Most of them are constantly being cheated on with other bbl broads
Yes or married to men with low income who treat them like a fetish their are some exceptions Iike a good looking man with a big girl or a guy who cheats with a woman not considered attractive by society
Definitely dont need to hear a bm say anything. They never have a seat in my business meetings or parties... i do... boo! Boop!
This is true. I don’t care what anyone says- it’s true. Rich men only think a lot about their offspring and how their offspring will be raised. They prefer healthy, slim, athletic women.
Also this is human evolution mixed with colonialism whiter is preferred and the more food a country has slimmer is prefered. Slimmer is for health reasons. Evolutionary biology has not changed. Woman want brutal strong men and a pretty boy or men with money and men want a younger looking slim or curvy woman
@ 10:00 that girl sounds so pressed 😂😂. As a girl that's had the curvy figure, I don't think she was just saying that to feel better. Many studies have showed that rich men of any race prefer slimmer women. White men in America do tend to be of a higher socioeconomic status, but even in African countries, the rich men I see have wives that are on the smaller side of healthy. It is what it is at this point 😭😭
Yeah she’s saying nothing 😂😂
What about women who naturally have a big butt like me I’m a bit fluffy but when I lose or gain my butt is still huge lol
From my experience with a wealthy white man that i met when i was naturally thick, he basically told me my face is a 10 but i need to lose weight and when i lost weight but i was with a black wealthy guy he told me he really likes me because im slim so i think she's right.
Yes even broke black guys or broke white guys want a hot fit girl there are some exceptions. But a lot of men I met who like big girls it’s a fetish to them
Thats why Meg Doja lori lost all that weight..... i agree men who are very superficial dont make good partners to any one
Men who care too much about an image or fetishize big women are the worst. A lot of men I met who are into bigger women are broke and dusty.
Rich men in latin America do not prefer women with exaggerated body parts.
You saw the stars of Mexican tv shows their all married to slim woman or curvy woman even in Brazil it’s the same
Im just happy to be breathing, out of pain, and healthy. Meanwhile people are cutting up their bodies, willing to go through pain.
I lost two people. One due to kidney/lung failure and the other to cancer.
I know middle class men who are paired with overweight/obese women. I really haven’t seen rich men with the same in my area only time is if they had a bunch of kids or something like that.
Those women might have been slimmer in their younger years and blew up over the years
well fat women are safer. In his mind, she will not leave him. She is comfortable,
She explains things very well❤