THRIFTING ALONE IN NYC (i’m going through an identity crisis)
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- I'm undergoing a style/identity/confidence crisis. So i went thrifting :p
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Dude I relate to this problem so much and I feel like I'm going through the same thing. I only ever feel confident when I dress up/well, but right now I don't know what clothes/style makes me look best (if that makes any sense) or good even. I feel like clothing used to help me feel so confident but now it will make or break my day. Thanks for bringing this up because I thought I was being dramatic
Omg i get what you're saying because same! And i think it's mainly because of so many trends that are represented in social media at the same time, it's exhausting really..
I feel you
have the same thing after dying my hair a dark brown. i love it on its own and didnt think it would make a difference style wise but my whole wardrobe looks off now and like im still dressing as a blonde ?
basic is unique in a way babes. your style can change everyday, you don't have to look a certain vibe all the time. you don't need other people's attention, you only need to know that everything that makes you you are what matters individually.
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I'm late to the party but this is such an interesting topic, honestly. We're constantly bombarded with pictures of influencers and trends, and aesthetics and vibes and it can be difficult to figure out whether you actually like something for yourself or whether you just like something on someone else, or because you just think 'this is what the cool people are wearing and I also want to be part of that crowd'. It's really easy to impulse buy stuff, and then never wear it because it looked great on someone else, and it's just not really 'our own' style. Or practical. Here's my take and how I am figuring out what I want to wear: (but I mostly wrote this to think about it myself so sorry for taking up comment space haha, its ok if no one ever reads it!!!!)
Influencers have the time (and money) to build outfits and make the best, creative, flattering photos, with awesome brands, often with sponsorships (so things can be expensive). And maybe they don't have to stand on their feet all day for their work, so they can wear heels or something revealing or whatever. That's their real job, to inspire us with creative ways of looking at fashion, to share new and cool brands and ideas around trends, aesthetics, vintage or sustainability. An important thing here of course is that next to this, which I think is very valuable, it's also marketing with product placement, aiming at selling a lot of clothes to their viewers. Which is what we have to be conscious of.
I try really hard nowadays to firstly not do any impulse buys, to really picture wearing something outside (to work, on free days, vacation, parties, etc), and whether I would feel like myself (and comfortable) wearing it in 'real life', specifically my own life. Which doesn't involve a lot of cool events or red carpets (or hot weather). It's not always bad to buy something just because it beautiful of course, you can also enjoy fashion as an aesthetic thing instead of it always having to be practical.
Then secondly, I've been trying to really think about what suits me and what fashion builds up my identity and I what I feel myself in. For example, for me that would be early exposure to skate culture/hiphop (I'm a millennial hehe. so dickies, vans, oldschool styles of adidas and nike, streetwear), menswear (blazers, knits, academia grandpa style), but also pinks/poofy/girly, 90s/00s.. which also corresponds to how I feel day by day, sometimes I feel more feminine and chill to wear a dress (which makes me feel a bit vulnerable at times), sometimes I need a protective layer and wear looser stuff, or I feel a bit more 'boyish' that day, or I really need a balance of feminine/masculine vibes that day, etc. Figuring out what colors I feel most myself in also really helped. And don't forget you can have and mix many aesthetics, pretty much no one is just one thing. And we also constantly change, as does our style and what we have a need for (comfort, quiet or actually standing out and experimenting).
girl, I literally follow you because I think your style is unique lol. maybe you don't get it cause you don't see yourself from other peoples prospective. but trust me, you stand out and I'm sure that people on the street notice your outfit aswell + I love your hair. love from italy
girrrl literally like i’ve always loved her outfits!
@@morgansai7852 I know right? she's so cool
Omg same!
@@unam0611 yes girlll
yess her hair is like my inspoo
I’m going through this at 26, because I don’t look like a teenager anymore but I also don’t want to give off super mature vibes. I’ll save that for mid 30s lol it’s a crisis 😭😂
Me too being alternative at 25 is weird because I don't wanna look childish and I don't wanna look old 😂
@@Mmakeup mature goth vibes are pretty cool though
Same im 23 and i wanna wear stuff that i like but im worried it will look like im dressing too young
You look addictive by the way
I just randomly found this channel and I think that it’s really interesting to do this kind of video since most of the content creator are just trying to show the good part of their life and not that one bad part that anyone can through. Also good luck to the people who are struggling with identity crisis or any bad stuff :) !
Girl, I'm going throught the same about my style, and I thought I was being stupid , but now I know I wasn't. Thank you for sharing it!
I'm studying English right now and you know learning the foreign language is quite difficult,, and also because of other social problems I'm having confidence crisis too.
But after your advice, I can do more love myself then before. And you should know that I want to speak English like you someday and your voice is so cool! (sorry if my grammar is wrong)
Your grammar looks good :)
okay i literally also struggle with identity crisis because i care so much about what people think since i’m going into highschool (freshman year) and i’m so nervous so i tried staying basic but still cute you know ? i honestly love that you aren’t scared to dress however you want and it may be easier since you’re out of highschool and no one can really gossip but i admire you for your fashion and i love your hair so much.
Your video popped up randomly and honestly your outlook on fashion and confidence…and the toxic duality of the 2 really hit home
I’ve been thinking the exact same thing, especially since moving to NYC recently this has been on my mind x10. I feel like I overcompensated starting in HS with fashion because I was unsatisfied as being seen as the “quiet girl” and I wanted to stand out in another way. I thought moving here would spark my confidence and creativity but it’s so much easier to feel like I fade into the background. I think if I saw you out and about I’d think, what a cool girl !
I loved the way VC is because VC is unique and I love how you share your day with your followers and I'm sure that when you pass on the street a lot of people look at you and think "wow how stylish she is"
you *
Thank you for being so honest here! I hope you get into a nice flow state between self expression and feeling good about yourself!
hi!! i discovered your channel only like two days ago but i need to say thank u. thank u because i literally related to every SINGLE WORDDD of your talk about style & confidence, it made me feel so understood. + i really appreciate how in your videos you don't just show aesthetic moments and produce inspiring content, you actually talk about your fears and doubts and insecurities and that's really special
i love youre onesty and how you speak with us. it is really relaxing and it helps me with my metal state alot to hear how other peopel feel
Honestly thank you so much for posting this. You put into words just how I’ve been feeling lately. As an introverted teen also living in nyc it’s so hard for me to do things by myself while I’m trying to find what I like. Thank you ❤️
i think its totally valid to have this kinda crisis over your appearance, especially if youre walking around a place like new york, even if its not a competition, you just feel bad for not looking so nice, so its super valid to not feel good abt yourself
Girl,no ur litterally so pretty and your style is so unique!
wow i literally thought i was the only person who felt this way. for the longest time i didnt know who i was and how i appeared to others. id spend hundreds of dollars on clothes from shein or yesstyle bc everyone was doing it and i would never wear any of them because i hated what i see in the mirror and i felt like i wasnt ME. so i stuck to my comfort zone and wore sweat pants + oversized tees bc being out in the streets pretending to be another person was literally so stressful.
but after awhile, i learned that when uve been on earth for awhile, i had to learn how to not give a crap. i know it's cliche to say this, but really sorting through clothes after clothes that you didnt like became physically exhausting. i started to wear whatever i want, because it made ME happy. i started to get into thrifting and tbh whatever i find is all i wear now. some people would judge me and tell me "dude why are you buying second hand clothes when u can wear so and so" but you know what?? i am ME and they are THEM. im not hurting anyone and i finally love myself, so no one is going to take that happiness away from me after i struggled with my identity for so long.
You are so, so pretty! Just remember, we’re all unique in our own way. Keep your head up high and remember that you are YOU, and that is beautiful in itself.
First time watching one of your videos and I just want to say I love your transparency and the aesthetic of your video. The way you present yourself makes me feel as if I'm talking with a friend. You make the world seem more free and open; honestly, I love that. Your cool dude.
Girl, this is so relatable today. Somehow this video was recommended in the list and boy it clicked immediately. Tq for making this video. A much needed one today. Bless you and good day/ evening to all.
the way i relate to the segment about finding your voice in fashion...almost made me tear.
all I can say is experiment, don't try to conform or limit yourself to one look, just wear what you want and if you don't know what you want try everything
Just give yourself time to figure out your style! I was always insecure about wearing unique or bold vintage pieces and now I'm 27 and don't care anymore what people think of my outfits! They don't have to wear it, just be you♥
the dress at 3:29 actually looked so beautiful on you! I'm surprised you didn't see it that way!
girl, i’m with you but i actually love your style! i work in fashion in nyc and hate all my clothes rn and am having a fashion crisis
lidsiann's "alone" vides radiate an emma 2.0 vibe. love them both! ❤🔥
this was too relatable. also i immediately subscribed in the first minutes of the video, mostly because i thought your style was unique and cool af! sending love xx
I understand the issues with style and identity. I go through a lot of shifts of dressing down or not doing my makeup because either I don't have time for it or I try to make myself efficient without necessarily needing to "look good". It goes okay for a while but recently I haven't been liking my clothes or my makeup and I've been getting to a point where I realized I am not treated as nicely without it. It is not great that people are ruder to those they don't view as attractive but these interactions, matched with me not wanting to dress up better have been kicking me down more and more. The other day I decided to wake up early like I would when I was in school; with extra time to do my makeup, pick an outfit, etc. and while it felt great I realized I don't know what my style is at the moment. Clothes are something I fluctuate with all the time so this isn't a surprise that an outfit I pick out at 7am doesn't feel right by noon but the frustrations are real and affect your confidence and just how you feel day to day. I want comfort because I have long days where I am out and about for 12-14 hours but I don't feel like me because of this. I want to find a middle ground but comfortable styles are not necessarily my style lol. Anyways, it may feel silly to have an identity crisis over clothes but if clothes and appearance and that sense of individuality matter to you then it is important! I hope you are able to improve on how you've been feeling but sometimes a little crisis helps build you, it just takes time :)
im halfway through the video and i didnt expect it to be so deep, but thats a good thing. keep your self worth inside yourself - and just let it show outside in a dress, pants, pyjamas or a tracksuit. its not on you - its in you
just moved to a new and bigger city for college, and felt the same way as you did about my appearance. felt that "everyone in New York is so hot" lol bUT just in case anyone is in this situation and needs to hear (more read but yknow) this : you're unique, and your style will grow with you. you're beautiful in the way you are, be kind to yourself and you'll grow into the best version of yourself
this video made me feel soo much better im going to school in london and ive been feeling all the same things as you!!! and wanted to hear someone talk about it tooo! Thank you
I never have related so much to a YT video. It's a hard thing to explain, being obsessed with your appearance/choice of clothes( most times being good at it) but also feeling confident or not because of it
It’s not stupid or anything. What you’re feeling is completely valid and you’re not alone
hi :) im from Germany and now I moved in my own apartment. I feel really lonely sometimes but u videos give me energy, hope and a reason to smile. thank u so much! 😊
this is my first time watching your videos and i love how your so vulnerable it’s inspiring! i completely understand your crisis too! but nyc will inspire you enough to get through it!
Watch fashion shows. They’ll teach you so much about different styles and open your eyes to styles that you didn’t even know you might like.
Then I go to vintage stores and try to replicate the styles I liked on the runway :)
The unique style will come!! Don’t force it and just wear what you like in the meantime. Everything will be ok! The thing that stood out to me MOST in this video is how many times you said you hate your hair 😂 I feel like your style confidence has gone down ever since getting your hair done and not liking it…I think you alluded to that in this video as well. Although a style rut is frustrating for sure, I am having a spidey sense that you will feel a million percent better if you just redo your hair one more time so that you don’t hate it so much! HAIR IS KEY! ❤️❤️❤️
hi, i also did not talk too much in highschool which made me lose out on potential friends but I realized we have a lot of years ahead and we’ll inevitably go through stages of being extroverted,loud,alone, etc. just gotta find a way to enjoy life at any given time 😸😸
You’re style is amazing!!! You look gorgeous and I honestly love the colour on your hair🤍 so much inspiration for nice fits
Lots of love from Germany
i also used to hate macy's. my grandma always took me there because she loves department stores and i recently discovered that i love macy's now. i actually called up my boyfriend and told him in a panicked voice "i think i'm turning into an old woman!". maybe it's a sign of me maturing. regardless, i just wanted to tell you that you are so unique and that i love your style
I just started watching your videos and I can say you have such an absolutely unique style!! Now you’re one of my favorite lifestyle videos girlies! It is normal to feel how you feel sometimes I feel like that too!
this is the first vlog that i am currently watching from ur channel today and i think u look so pretty !!!
Also dude you’re editing skills are amazing. You’re content is so good. Keep going!
I relate so so much btw I literally just woke up from a nightmare and this video made me feel safe plus I felt understood since clothes has been my armor to protect & express myself 💖
gurl you literally look so good in everything like can i BE you
i’m going to NY at the end of this year and i CANNOT wait love you girlie
I totally get your identity crisis. The only advice I can give you is to try discovering your creative expression more, instead of focusing on ‘what looks good’. It’s difficult I know, but once you get started it can become so much fun! Like there are just soooo many possibilities in fashion and self expression, once you let the opinion of others not dictate your freedom
girl, honestly? the hair looks gorgeous and im not saying this just bcs u DONT like it but bcs it ACTUALLY looks great like id definitely double take on looking at u too if i saw u
i never comment on videos, but i relate sm. i recently bleach fried my hair and had to cut it to a length similar to yours. it really messed with my confidence because it felt like i was looking at another person.
Linda,tienes mucho estilo!
Aveces dudamos de nosotros mismos,nos sentimos fuera del lugar y sobrepensamos tanto todo y sentimos que no encajamos.
La vida es corta.
Yo he empezado a pensar eso diariamente y chica de verdad eres preciosa y te vez super simpatica
oh my gosh, you looked so good in the dark purple outfit :) and the sage green top too :) I understand the feeling of an identity crisis lol. I ended up settling nicely into like a hippie kind of vibe
This video came out better than i thougth it would be, like, Just a girl in NY, but i identify with almost all the things you said about how you feel with the way you dress and feel, keep going, I'm gratefull i know your channel :)
its not stupid i feel like this so often and I'm 100% sure a lot of people do as well. I personally struggle with remembering style is subjective.
Same in San Francisco, everyone is so stylish. Its like a fashion show.
12:30 nyc has the cleanest water ever , that contact just got a cleaning falling in that toilet
you could style a shirt like the one from patagonia with a vest like the ruffled one! itll tone down the vest but still will have the nice pop of colour from the shirt underneath! i buy lots of ill fitted mens shirts from the thrift store to style underneath cute vests, its a great hack :)
In regards to the story of the guy commenting on your dress, where you said it was not one of your finest moments, it wasn't your fault that that interaction was awkward af! That guy was a total creep, and most people would be very shocked to have such a comment thrown at them! Don't feel bad that you just laughed, we have been conditioned to always be polite, and he could have been dangerous, so being polite is unfortunately often the safest option
i dunno what you are talking about cuz you'r just unbelievable and your style is soooo fascinating
no i relate to this so hard, living in nyc forces you to have a glowup
BRO literally you are part of the hot ppl in nyc! I would def doubble take if i saw u gurl
So glad the algorithm recommended this to me 💗 immediate subscribe. I relate so much to everything you spoke on and absolutely love your vibes
Does anyone know what the song was at the end?
Wear what you love. Be original. Be different. Be you!
you rocked the first two tank vests
first off, ya hair is pretty af so theres that... very sultry look tbh... also definitely feel you on the self worth rabbit hole. it can be a clusterfuck of feelings tbh cause a lot of shit does not determine your worth as a person but also we as people are not going to ignore certain things like keeping ourselves together.. as it can be be dangerous it can also be self care.. but yes, nothing matters at the end of the day.. DO YOU SEE HOW CRAZY WE ARE, how contradicting... anyways loved this video, new subbie.
you’re literally who i wanna be when i grow up
I think you're so used to your own style that you don't realize how awesome it is, and envious we all are of you and your fashion. If I saw you walk past on the streets, I would take a triple take lol. But even still, I hope you feel better soon, and I hope you regain the confidence that we would all have if we had your appearance, you're gorgeous babe, and we all love you x
I love your vibe and trust me you’re so unique yourself!! P.s : we want more NY vlogs 🥺
Right after you spoke about you trying to find your own style, you wore a full white outfit ❤️💯, cute white top with white pants and afterwards the light blue dress
👌🏻 Honestly, you looked bomb with those outfits and colour choice. In my opinion I felt that you can pull off this type of style well. You look like a model. Also I feel full blonde or black hair with a short 'A line bob hair cut' would look great on you too
❤️, again in my opinion. hope you find your favourite style soon, great video!
i think what would help is too wear things that are out of your comfort zone and to possibly mix aesthetics to come off as unique.
i love your vibe and how real you can be, much love
literalt watched the video because she looked unique and beautiful
this was my first time watching u but you seem like such a sweet and kind girl.
I would literally die to have clothes like yours!
even though its rare that i go.. i always feel so much better after thrifting
gives bestdressed vibes! Love it!
IM NEW AND I LOVED ALL YOUR OUTFITS ESPECIALLY THE ONE WITH THE NY HAT LIKE HELLO ? TALKING ABOUT BADASS AND HOT
i love how honest you are about how you feel! When everyone around you cares so much about their appearance, how can you not? when you live in a city it's easy to get sucked into this. the sadness you feel about yourself isn't stupid, or superficial, it may seem that way to some. But.. pain is pain, and it is deep - it is programmed into us from a young age that so much of our worth is based on our appearance. so when we don't like our appearance, we feel to some extent worthless. that isn't superficial.
It’s so interesting to see how much people love my home city. The difference between living here and visiting is night and day. I’ll always love nyc but I’m so glad I left. Sadly I guarantee men were hitting on you and making your uncomfortable when out alone looking beautiful. Stay safe and enjoy ❤️
You earned yourself a subscriber. Great video, it felt so genuine and comforting to watch, you are the prettiest girl ever i love your style. I struggle with severe BDD and i get it...
YOUR FEELINGS ARE VALID. ALL OF THEM!
I'd highly recommend just shaving your head. Start from scratch with yourself. Once I shaved my head I found my style and who I was completely! Its been so liberating frrrrr
girl, you are sooooo pretty!
ur voice is like soothing
The editing is soooo nice!!!
Also love the pride & prejudice soundtrack ;)
as someone who cant decide if he wants to dress like a trap rapper or a y2k playboy carti vampire i feel your pain your not alone girl
I like you & this thrift shop vlog so much! 😍💖💖💖💖💖
I think your hair is really cute! It suits you very nicely! :D
The pride and prejudice music 👏👏
just stumbled upon your video on my explore page and this is honestly how i feel as well omg (‘:
hey i was wondering what song you used at the end of the video
new york people are hot, and that includes you :) you are in new york, you are part of the "nyc attractive". you are so so so gorgeous and your style is unique, you are a fashion icon to me
The food in this video looks so bomb!
i think everything you tried on looked good on you, love your style, sending hugs from Perú 🇵🇪
You looked so cute in 2015, 2016, 2017 🥰😍
i feel so so so so so SO heard
first video im watching from you..... i love you
i feel so comfy while watching ur vlogs❤ keep going