ALONE IN NYC AT 19 (trying to not be lonely...)

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  • Опубліковано 7 лип 2022
  • I spent the whole week alone... it got a little lonely
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  • @moccisimo
    @moccisimo Рік тому +215

    Being comfortable alone in public is something I want to somewhat master this year. I’m comfortable being alone doing errands, going to the library, or shopping but I still dread eating or going to the movies alone. Thanks for the encouragement ❤️😌

    • @lalilaplaylist8009
      @lalilaplaylist8009 Рік тому

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    • @Madeliefschram
      @Madeliefschram Рік тому +5

      going to the movies alone is amazing because you get to eat all the popcorn yourself, no one stealing anything hehe

    • @Tobreakthecycle
      @Tobreakthecycle Рік тому +1

      @@Madeliefschram and you get to make all the annoying comments you want (so long as there’s not people directly next to you)

    • @Tobreakthecycle
      @Tobreakthecycle Рік тому +2

      Going to the movies alone in itself is a great way to meet people. It makes it easy to just go up to people since you don’t have friends to ditch and people may feel more comfortable approaching you since you’re alone (hopefully that doesn’t frighten you more then it excites you)

    • @Madeliefschram
      @Madeliefschram Рік тому

      @@Tobreakthecycle haha so trueee!

  • @kwunnkzz
    @kwunnkzz Рік тому +358

    Great video! I’ve been hating my job recently because it’s 100% remote and I live alone, thus blame my job for my dry social life and how dull I feel everyday. But I just realised that instead of blaming my job for my loneliness and unhappiness, this is a great opportunity to learn how to be happy and fulfilled on my own. I feel so much better since adopting this mindset and doing things that I love. Hope you make this a series, this journey of reaching self-fulfilment sounds so wholesome ❤

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      @lalilaplaylist8009 Рік тому

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    • @nastianastia9639
      @nastianastia9639 Рік тому +8

      Wannna trade jobs?😂 I want a remote job

    • @Madeliefschram
      @Madeliefschram Рік тому +2

      I get this so much!! You could go to a place where you can work together, there's cafes where you can drink coffee and work on your laptop :)

  • @Madeliefschram
    @Madeliefschram Рік тому +28

    Today I drove more than an hour to get to a certain beach in France where I used to come as a child. I wanted to take my bf here...until he turned into an ex a few weeks ago. So now, I went alone to prove to myself that I can get over all these fears, jealousy and self-doubt and that I AM the stronger one. SO HAPPY that I did it!! What's up next? - I am moving out of my parent's house and starting a new job, seriously, a break-up was the best thing that could've happened to me and I have never felt closer to being with myself ❤ Being alone excites me, because I focus on my career and on my own self-love and acceptance. Can't wait to meet new people!

  • @magikay_
    @magikay_ Рік тому +162

    i appreciate your vulnerability and honesty about this subject. early adult years can be lonely and it's important to have self-love and resilience.

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      @lalilaplaylist8009 Рік тому

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    • @amiyrbarclift1640
      @amiyrbarclift1640 Рік тому

      It is true as a young adult we are so reliant on your friends but thanks for having this moment of vulnerability. But by being alone if you want to meet new people you make yourself open to meeting someone new or making new friends, Or forming a deeper friendship with yourself.

  • @BenSavageDonovan
    @BenSavageDonovan Рік тому +21

    Something I learned when I was about 21 was that I would often "use" my friends to avoid being alone, instead of being there because I genuinely wanted to spend time with them. They never noticed, but it was something I committed to changing so that I cherished the time with them more as opposed to just doing so to stay out of my own head.

  • @rachellelui
    @rachellelui Рік тому +74

    always love how introspective you are through your voiceovers

  • @mmiakim
    @mmiakim Рік тому +50

    the way that you filmed this was so beautiful and i love how you framed your thoughts. there's so much growth that happens when you're alone and people tend to forget that and instead think that it's a sign of un-productivity, lack, and deprivation. learning how to be on your own and enjoy time with yourself is one of the most important things i think you have to learn.

  • @Keesha
    @Keesha Рік тому +61

    Honey, I’m much older than you and I can tell you that eating alone, taking yourself on dates… it’s invaluable. Eventually if and when you settle and start a family… alone time becomes precious. I look forward to my solo dates in the city where I can remember what it’s like to enjoy my own company outside of being someone’s wife or mom, plus, when you’re alone… many places that require reservations will bend the rules for you. So I like to get dressed to the nines, hit up the finest restaurants for lunch and just take in the city. Plus my hubby is not allowed on my solo dates… if he insists on tagging along I tell him that I’m stopping at the hair or nail salon- he hates those places 🤣🤣

    • @Madeliefschram
      @Madeliefschram Рік тому +4

      hehehe you're so badass about going to to eat out in secret, love that. I get this so much, I'm only 21, but I really want to start a family some day, so thank you for this, I'll enjoy my "me" time as much as I can!

  • @angelicnic777
    @angelicnic777 Рік тому +6

    personally i loved this video. as someone whose turning 19 in two days, I've been fearful of this transition into my last teen year, but you've provided me peace. I'm no longer nervous or scared to grow up. I'm excited to see what awaits. I'm excited for the memories yet to be had and the people I'm yet to meet and the sunsets I'm yet to witness and the achievements I'm yet to make. I've been feeling extra lonely recently and this also served as a reminder that I'm the only constant in my life. quite literally stuck with myself until death lol. sounds grim, but it was a wake up i needed. will be subscribing from now on out. glad my homepage blessed me with your presence. thank you girl. i needed this.

  • @diviAesthetics
    @diviAesthetics Рік тому +1

    Gurl the minute i saw your video in recommended I was like RELATABLE and as i got to the end i know it's not just me who feels this way or thinks about things like this. friendship has been on my mind for a while too a year ago i thought i needed to have a bigger friend group and go hang out all the time but its funny how as time goes by your perspective on things like that change and now you just want to be with a close circle of people you actually enjoy spending time with, and learn to spend more time with yourself. I live in new york too (Queens Borough) this summer i feel like it's the loneliest i've felt and can't wait for college to start again so i can be out the house. I am an introvert but the pandemic made me stay indoors far too long i can't wait to be outside but when i'm feeling down or feeling extremely hyper but i don't have anyone to hang with I make my 45 min train ride to koreatown and chill there most of the time. When the weather gets cooler then i spend more time exploring to find new bookstores, cafes, i especially look for a more vintager vibe and then discover food places like ramen shops and boba places. New york has a lot to offer for the lonely people because we find the hidden gems. sorry this was so long i just related to your video a lot. HAVE FUN EXPLORING!

  • @christiansantiago1135
    @christiansantiago1135 Рік тому

    i really enjoyed this video makes me feel calm, ive been by myself for over a year now and im still learning to be one with myself i think its pretty important that you realize how essential it is to know more about yourself

  • @codedcarla
    @codedcarla Рік тому

    ive been binge watching your videos, we went thru a breakup at the same time and all of these things youre talking about ive had to slowly learn them throughout the summer and i feel so NOT alone in my process of learning to be alone and wanting to be alone. I love your videos, thwyre so comforting and im so glad i found you

  • @FashionbyMer
    @FashionbyMer Рік тому +4

    this video is such a high quality production! so well thought out and articulated and crafted! I loved it and related to it a lot!

  • @islamae29
    @islamae29 Рік тому +26

    this video brought me so much comfort and peace ❤️

  • @mariahogan6031
    @mariahogan6031 Рік тому +15

    aww i love this video, and i really related to how you said in the past you felt you had to change your personality to fit what others expected/ wanted. I've also been working on spending time alone after coming back from uni and it honestly was tough at first but it has been so good bc i started journaling again and working on myself which has helped my confidence alot. Also your pink maxi dress is so cute!

  • @souhardayasaha2061
    @souhardayasaha2061 Рік тому

    love ur take on why spending time alone with urself is important for self healing and realisation

  • @Kewlkidsid
    @Kewlkidsid Рік тому +3

    Lately I’ve been just loving lindsi content like totally obsessed with the way you’ve been editing and shooting it’s so calming. Maybe you should make a video bout how your skills have evolved or something and how you’ve been lately editing your videos!

  • @anglovegarden
    @anglovegarden Рік тому +3

    This is my favorite video of all time of this year. The intro was so magical

  • @huongnguyen4137
    @huongnguyen4137 Рік тому

    i love the way that you filmed so beautifully and the way you express your thoughts.

  • @Iriszou1999
    @Iriszou1999 Рік тому +1

    This is so beautiful!!! I am happy for you for finding the inner peace of spending time alone. I’m actually watching this video in a restaurant eating by myself. I’m enjoying it.

  • @oliviaarave5294
    @oliviaarave5294 Рік тому +6

    Ahhh I can't tell you how much I love your vlogs the way you "style" them makes me feel like i'm watching a show and I love how you add talking in.

  • @cyber_cowpoke
    @cyber_cowpoke Рік тому

    That classical playlist you shared is honestly so good! Thanks for sharing it because I cannot stop listening to it and feeling like I live in the 1800s!

  • @Come_AsYouAre
    @Come_AsYouAre Рік тому +1

    Sending u sm love mama , ure honesty n vulnerability is so reassuring and inspiring, keep doing u -ure doing so great💖💖💖

  • @ninanegedu
    @ninanegedu Рік тому +7

    Your voice is soo beautiful and calming. Thank you for showing us how being by yourself and falling in love with your own time is necessary ❤️

  • @lottevree
    @lottevree Рік тому +1

    I loved your perspectives and voice over! Your voice is perfect for it ❤️😻

  • @micdwithmike5179
    @micdwithmike5179 Рік тому

    I relate to so many things in this video. Reading with classical, listening to the daily, and exploring the city alone

  • @naftalikungu
    @naftalikungu Рік тому +1

    I really enjoyed you're video and I totally agree with the message. Being alone can be scary and most of us seem to just be round people just to be perceived as social. There is devinetry a balance that should be taken in consideration when going about our lives. Thank you for sharing.

  • @ricemartcoa4823
    @ricemartcoa4823 Рік тому +2

    honestly being alone is so powerful. You got the enjoy the peaceful life and appreciate everything. Ppl who are usually alone are the happiest while the ppl who are with many ppl are always sad. Like the celebs. They all have the entourage yet seek happiness. Ive been mastering being alone and its the most peaceful ang relaxing thing.
    edited: It gives me so much strength spiritually and mentally. I read bible, Reflections, paint, listen to old music and manifest.

  • @arielvlogs6583
    @arielvlogs6583 Рік тому +1

    Just randomly stumbled across this video and literally a minute in, I felt comfortable. Love the vulnerability

  • @fredaprak
    @fredaprak Рік тому

    i just love that i can always play your videos and watch them while i journal. i aspire to be able to create videos that people can relate to like yours do! so beautiful seeing how you improve as a person through your vids lindsian x

  • @amiraemir5756
    @amiraemir5756 Рік тому

    I love how your worded everything so perfectly how we all are relatable to anything u said. this video alone bring me so much comfort. love you for being you

  • @paris661
    @paris661 Рік тому +1

    Also a 20y old living in New York this summer fighting the exact same feelings. Loved this video!

  • @cosmiic_v7073
    @cosmiic_v7073 Рік тому +1

    Being alone and taking time with yourself is so relaxing and necessary for yourself and your mental health taking a break is also good

  • @cris_here
    @cris_here Рік тому +4

    I'm in a new city all alone and it's really a lot of work to not be depressed. Take care of yourself! You're doing great

  • @kalenakay
    @kalenakay Рік тому +2

    your editing is too good!! love💕

  • @ancient_kitten
    @ancient_kitten Рік тому

    really appreciate your words about toxic productivity. I feel the same about it

  • @aznguyener
    @aznguyener Рік тому

    Really enjoyed what you said in the intro bc it felt so relatable to how’ve been feeling

  • @annar2881
    @annar2881 Рік тому +2

    love the editing! the intro was amazing

  • @xuanquynh8036
    @xuanquynh8036 Рік тому

    i love this, from intro to outro and ur fits are cute

  • @sodaye
    @sodaye Рік тому

    ngl this video healed me. u got a new subscriber

  • @fridaduran2497
    @fridaduran2497 Рік тому +1

    i feel like i need this kind of validation of being always out or happy or with someone, i'm on a new city, i come from a beach town and being in the city has being kind of hard for me, learning to handle the pressure of the city is really something, i suffer vertigo so thats kind of another reason im where i am and feeling the things i am feeling right now, seeing you spending time alone and being with yourself makes me rethink and feel like i can do it to, saddly the city where i am is not that secure and safe so i would be careful, but thanks for this video

  • @owlinlin9134
    @owlinlin9134 Рік тому +5

    ❤🥺this is a great reminder on how we should want to hang out with friends and not have to rely on hanging out with them

  • @adinknn
    @adinknn Рік тому

    Love this video💓, it made my day and gave motivation to go explore the city by myself

  • @avnag455
    @avnag455 Рік тому +6

    This video made me feel so much better about my new alone journey thank you! I recently broke up with my bf of 6 years and it’s been difficult being alone, my friend sent me this video and it just resonated with me so much. Thank you! 🤎 keep up the great work!!!

    • @Madeliefschram
      @Madeliefschram Рік тому

      I recently broke up too, it's hard, but it's gonna get better! You got this ^.^ xx

  • @euneece15
    @euneece15 Рік тому +2

    Thank you! I’ve been feeling lonely as well.. This video was inspiring

  • @rachellelui
    @rachellelui Рік тому +12

    miss lindsian slaying her nyc era 🫶🏻

  • @yellowisthehappiestcolor544

    I love waltz no.2. so much and couldn’t believe someone will use it as bg music. Good choice lady. Love ur vlog💗

  • @Msebe
    @Msebe Рік тому

    Right after I watched your video and I was inspired. So I went on a walk and listened to a podcast. Thank you ☺ 😊 💓

  • @toubeelo1979
    @toubeelo1979 Рік тому +1

    I haven't been alone by myself since college. This week I decided to visit and work (remotely) in Boston for a week and NYC the week after. Landed in Boston today, walking around the city, and I've forgotten how much I hated the feeling of being alone, even though I'm used to it. I do find it funny though that I'm watching your video right now feeling alone in Boston 😂

  • @federicogomez2461
    @federicogomez2461 Рік тому

    some times is hard to do everything by your own but is part of life and makes you grow up and learned of your self

  • @lambreakingfree
    @lambreakingfree Рік тому

    Your a lovely person with a wonderful introspection of the inner self. Keep up the videos.

  • @Psb710
    @Psb710 Рік тому

    Really enjoyed this video. Great style and introspection from yourself. Keep up the good work

  • @skrdcat
    @skrdcat Рік тому

    love your videoo i'm literally at the new graduate life and i've been having the same thoughts, so much to think about! much lovee

  • @haileyhangianguyen
    @haileyhangianguyen Рік тому

    The video is really great and touching

  • @pattyy2315
    @pattyy2315 Рік тому +13

    can u make a video on how you became financially independent and how you save and make money ? thanks!!!

  • @valeria6414
    @valeria6414 Рік тому

    You don’t know how much I needed those words in the beginning😂 thank you!!

  • @ryeofoatmeal
    @ryeofoatmeal Рік тому

    totally agree with your statement regarding being around people. you wanna be with them bcos you _want it_ , not bcos you *have to* . sometimes I have a fomo although most of the times it didn't affect me. but it happens you know. when I have to force myself to be around people bcos I'm that nosy what are they doing without me. it is very mentally draining... i wish I could changed that

  • @hikarushindo6124
    @hikarushindo6124 Рік тому +12

    LINDSIAN eating dinner alone in that restaurant reminds me of that one korean movie called aloners same posture same vibe and btw as a 19 YEAR OLD i totally get what you are experiencing as well there is nothing as challenging as being alone

    • @namyajha482
      @namyajha482 Рік тому

      I dug through the internet piracy sites to find this movie and I'm watching it now XD

    • @hikarushindo6124
      @hikarushindo6124 Рік тому

      i'm glad you want to watch it ; you can find it in drama cool

    • @namyajha482
      @namyajha482 Рік тому +1

      @@hikarushindo6124 i watched it, loved it, thankyou so much for posting this suggestion hehe

    • @hikarushindo6124
      @hikarushindo6124 Рік тому

      @@namyajha482 i can suggest you even a bunch of other indie movies i mean of similar vibe

    • @namyajha482
      @namyajha482 Рік тому

      @@hikarushindo6124 I'd love that IF it's no trouble to you, I like indie movies a lot

  • @daviddiaz4877
    @daviddiaz4877 Рік тому +1

    I burst into tears just with the intro… great video!

  • @leftblea7692
    @leftblea7692 Рік тому

    jsut seen this in my recommendation , this was such a comforting video

  • @alexpan4987
    @alexpan4987 Рік тому

    This is exactly what I'm going through right now. Thank you so much for sharing

  • @jamesmiller9515
    @jamesmiller9515 Рік тому

    I live alone too and I agree with most everything you say...For me the one big plus living alone is this- there's a lot less drama and stress...but regardless of your situation, the most important thing to have is good health...with that, everything is possible...without it, your options will be extremely limited...

  • @97thoughts
    @97thoughts Рік тому +5

    lindsiann always slays

  • @bestb2849
    @bestb2849 Рік тому

    I’m in love with every video you make every little thing you say is so intellectual in a simple way if that makes sense

  • @paranoidfrandroid
    @paranoidfrandroid Рік тому

    I enjoyed it, very nice editing and nice few days in the life. NYC is pretty and that food looked amazing.

  • @SergioGarcia-qj4uh
    @SergioGarcia-qj4uh Рік тому

    I love all videos, about daily routine because I can learn more vocabulary, and I have been learning English for 8 months and I can understand a lot about your life, I like your videos :)

  • @joymae
    @joymae Рік тому +1

    It's amazing how much you can get done alone in New York

  • @alexandreabranch6120
    @alexandreabranch6120 Рік тому

    You are thriving in New York City I can tell by just the landmarks of where you are coming and going and end up and that's awesome thing.

  • @Toonie
    @Toonie Рік тому

    I love the vibe and story telling! Working remote in such a big city does take quite the toll on my social life, honestly this vlog is quite expiring to just go out there more :)

  • @shalxnda
    @shalxnda Рік тому

    i love videos like this a lot this was very enjoyable!

  • @ndzumamalate
    @ndzumamalate Рік тому

    An amazing way to put things.

  • @maddssmithy
    @maddssmithy Рік тому

    just found your channel through this video. Very relatable.

  • @Bigtflies321
    @Bigtflies321 Рік тому +1

    wow that first dialogue hit hard

  • @DilsJourney
    @DilsJourney Рік тому

    love the storytelling of your videos

  • @shannenlim5941
    @shannenlim5941 Рік тому

    that udon+tempura meal looked so good r u kidding me!! 😫

  • @coolscorpiosuperstyle
    @coolscorpiosuperstyle Рік тому

    love the video!! love the channel!! ✨

  • @kaktus3754
    @kaktus3754 Рік тому

    thank you for this
    truly inspiring

  • @RKDCORBIN
    @RKDCORBIN Рік тому

    Just randomly came across this vid and really enjoyed... Helps too.

  • @kiranreader
    @kiranreader Рік тому

    making me miss nyc so much!!!

  • @chloezonis
    @chloezonis Рік тому

    this intro is simply beautiful. also normal people is…not the best after break up book but so good

  • @nickygrubs4877
    @nickygrubs4877 Рік тому +1

    It’s alright. Sometimes I eat out, go to festivals/concerts alone, and hike alone just for self care… to me it’s therapeutic

  • @eoise4676
    @eoise4676 Рік тому

    love ur vlogs!💋

  • @issy53
    @issy53 Рік тому

    I LOVED THIS!!!!

  • @dihiahadjou9177
    @dihiahadjou9177 Рік тому

    Hey! I just discovered ur channel &let me tell u that I'm in love 💕
    Great content , keep goin'

  • @xxmwa1355
    @xxmwa1355 Рік тому

    i love the voiceovers 🌈❤️❤️❤️ it feels like talking to you but without my response, you know? Continue with your journey to self-independence. sending you love and kisses 💋

  • @iMCOCOarmy
    @iMCOCOarmy Рік тому

    After my breakup I was in a similar space too, I resorted to similar things. its hard af. push on!

  • @tenwozey9309
    @tenwozey9309 Рік тому

    I be alone for a while now, and its not a bad thing. yes wish some days u can go out with people and have chat but I also enjoy the peace and the quietness where ever I go. lately I have been doing long walking around in the city and go to the piers often to read and to enjoy the views

  • @ashley718
    @ashley718 Рік тому +2

    love this video sending you so much love from singapore

  • @Srorsprimitive
    @Srorsprimitive Рік тому

    It refresh feel when I watch your video.I real appropriate you with content.

  • @nattorres3741
    @nattorres3741 Рік тому

    I always appreciate you sharing your story and how vulnerable you are. I think a great book that would help during this time would be the mastery of love by Don Miguel Ruiz. Highly recommended it!

  • @helena1223
    @helena1223 Рік тому

    you are so great!

  • @priyac7054
    @priyac7054 Рік тому

    I've been alone for the past 4 years now. It's definitely a hellish journey at the beginning but it's for the best.

  • @paige172
    @paige172 Рік тому

    very well said 💓

  • @kianam.3511
    @kianam.3511 Рік тому

    just recently discovered your videos and i've been binging them :) what's your coffee order, and what type of headphones do you have? are they good?

  • @theodorehui
    @theodorehui Рік тому

    joining a league at a pool hall is one of the best ways to meet new friends in nyc

  • @mariacamilagarciafernandez712

    Love love love how honest and simple (in the best way possible) this felt. Name of the last song please!

  • @kiglover9078
    @kiglover9078 Рік тому

    I really enjoyed this video it was very soothing

  • @vanshikabali8830
    @vanshikabali8830 Рік тому

    The intro song 'Je te laisserai des mots', I knew this video was going to be full of good vibes only✨

  • @codybowes5423
    @codybowes5423 Рік тому

    I loved this

  • @Sofl-yb3ry
    @Sofl-yb3ry Рік тому

    Me too. But it’s really hard for me sometimes ☹️