8 Toxic Behaviors That Kill Relationships
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- Опубліковано 3 лип 2024
- Toxic relationships can leave you feeling emotionally drained, helpless, and in despair. Are you curious whether you are in a toxic relationship or unhealthy relationship? Toxic behaviors of an unhealthy relationship could include: lack of support, being controlling, being overly jealous, being dishonest, little to no communication, disrespect.. etc
If you want to know what makes a relationship healthy, we've got a video on that too: • 8 Habits of Healthy Re...
Writer: Sara Del Villar
Script Editor: Morgan Franz
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Your voice is really calming
me
Me
Unfortunately me
Me 🙋
1. They offer a lack of support 0:53
2. They are controlling 1:22
3. Jealusy 1:57
4. Dishonesty 2:40
5. Bad Communication 3:08
6. Disrespect 3:47
7. Holding onto grudges 4:12
8. Constant stress or unhappiness 4:34
I hope I could help! :)
Thank you so much💓
You just save 5mins if my time😂😂
@@hxnnessy-zc3kv yes
Jealousy
@@iangraves5417 lmao
What annoys me is when people tell me to get new friends. Like bruh. WHO!? Im limited to people bc everyone at my school is basic af and nobody else likes me and the only people that like me are toxic and I cant get along with anyone else. Plus my social skills cant "get new friends" so easily. I'm fine with being by myself as well if I cut ties its not like anyone else is gonna just pop into my life
Toxic means poisonous, damaging or deadly. A toxic relationship drains the life from you, damages your self-esteem, or kills your dreams. ... You leave your needs, emotions, and personal stories at home because your relationship is always about the other person and their wants, needs, and feelings.
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S0 t4u3
Yes, exactly this 👆🏾
Most people today are far too selfish to deal with a partner going through tough times. Seen many partners leave when things get tough
Yeah ikr its deadly if im not wrong and can kill you because if you feel sad your heart slows down and if this goes on you might get a heart attack
Me wishing I knew this channel when I HAD a toxic friend
At least now you can share this channel with someone who might need it!
I put it to you that they weren't really your friend...
Same here bud
Sorry to hear that :(
Well i have tons of friends but none of them are toxic
Accepting that your friend is toxic is a truly difficult thing to accept.
This is very true.
yep, I have a friend where they keep apologizing and its annoying, whenever they say "sorry" they don't mean it because it just keeps happening over and over again
@Gabby Zhang i have a frick ton of friends from my school and others too but i cant tell if anyone of them is toxic
Hmm, in the end there toxicity reduces the relationship to ashes, and then the friendship is easy to blow away : / ..
It is very difficult and I found that out the hard way
"If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things." -Albert Einste
U seem to have left some stuff out
I had a friend that made me feel horrible in every single way. I’m so glad that way day I gathered up the courage to finally get them out of my life! She gaslighted me so much and I’m so glad she’s gone
Was she termimated?
Everyone we meet in life will either be a Blessing or a Lesson. Some people make your laugh a little louder, your smile a little brighter and your life a little better. These are the people you need to be around with 🖖
🤗 god bless you
I have a question. My friend can be really dry sometimes and boring. When I try to tell her exciting news, something new that happened to me, or if I need/want to tell her something in general, she always replies with "K" or "Um" and it bothers me and it feels like she doesn't care about what I say. But when we're calling together shes not so dry, shes more funnier, but she never really puts forth a real effort to play with me when I ask if she wants to. I feel like she just doesn't want to be my friend. Is this an example of a good friend or a bad friend?
@@kaliyahrobinson1 maybe she’s not much of a texter? Talk to them about it, you don’t want to cause misunderstandings
Or both
Would y’all consider making a video on ways to improve/get rid of toxic behaviors?
Omg yes that'd be so helpful
Just don't be an asshole. It isn't hard.
@@Weird_dude265 it’s not being an asshole sometimes problems stem from insecurity and that can come from past trauma and pain so maybe take your own advice
@@user-kf2pq8rt3r That could happen but it's definitely not an excuse. Just because you had a horrible life doesn't mean you get to take it out on everyone else. As I said, just don't be an asshole. It really isn't hard.
your right its not an excuse. I think though it would be interesting if they did a video to help look for signs within one's self that might be toxic. Sometimes we are blind to our own behaviours
Me ”What's Wrong?”
This person ”Leave me alone!"
(30min later)
This person "Why don't you care about me!!!"
AAAAAAAAA
I'm sorry about that attention seeker
Leave them, if they're just going to be toxic.
Oh gosh, I feel the pain. My wife did this aaaaaallll the time.
i have two friends that do this :(
Literally my now ex, he's 100% like that
Sometimes when you're saying leave me alone you truly don't want it because you're going tru something and you want other person to be with you. So it's not like they are seeking for attention
I know it's in the video and it is toxic but when you're meeting with that you need to discuse it with your partner if you want realtionship to work
Some of these behaviours perfectly describe an avoidant partner... Difficult to deal with this type of people. They do not Connect with their feelings, so impossible yo expect them to understand yours
I used to be toxic but I’m changing my behaviors to improve my relationship
I like your attitude
My future relationship will thank me for binge watching these kind of vids
Lol
In my last relationship, common mental health issues caused me to feel unhappy, and my subconsciousness decided to start erasing feelings. I did address this problem with her multiple times, but she never did anything about it. Since i have a history with mental health, i understood why. I kept trying to motivate her but alas, i failed to do so. After 10 months of waiting i received depression and decided to call it and break up. I hope she takes care of herself for i can't
It's not necessarily a point directly related to the video, but I love how one character has a sprout growing and the other is a cactus. They both may have different needs to care for each other, and it may lead to friction at times, but that doesn't mean they can't grow together. Communication has always been key for me, but sadly it's something I've had to learn through prior relationships (hoping to change that in the future; haven't had a chance at one recently).
It’s always easier to recognize the signs in hindsight. Even though it was a hard experience, I definitely learned a lot about myself after a toxic relationship.
And what lessons did you learn that are very helpful now?
Nicole, as you get older and become wiser (by studying videos like these), you'll get better at spotting these kind of relationships earlier and earlier . . . and then avoid them altogether most of the time.
@@tommygunn6901 I learned about what I do and don’t want in a relationship, that sometimes solitude is needed to build on the self love foundation before sharing myself, and to make judgements on current character rather than potential.
@@nicoleonfeels I like that! Yeah, any form of relationship is tough to build as it is. Many think they expect the other half to do all the work, expect to not have any flaws, etc but here's the thing...you can't get out of working on yourself it doesn't work that way. The last year, I learned what I do and don't want in a partner
@@tommygunn6901 such a good point, can’t turn to relationships to fix personal problems. I’ve definitely done that in the past.
I constantly take stock of my life. Anyone who doesn't add value or meaning to my life, I get rid off. I have no time for toxic people in my life. Been there before and no longer tolerate it. Very happy alone for the past 11 years. Have zero interest in a relationship. Being single brings me clarity and peace of mind - no relationship is worth losing these. I have clear boundaries.
I wish I had your strength but I'm getting better
I needed this video before one year😞
By God grace I saved myself from a toxic betrayal partner💀Happy to see this video cause it will help more people to realise the toxicity in relationships.Great work👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
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I was in a bad abusive toxic relationship and wondered why I always felt so stressed and drained being around him 😢 now I know why. It’s been a complete year since I left that relationship and I’ve never felt better ❤️
Her: Disrespect
Me: Grudging and Constant Stress
I ghosted her and I later found out 2 months later she already cheated on 3-4 guy's already. Now she's making me Jealous that she's happy without me. Good for her I'm already happy. 🙃♐
🙃 That sucks I was in a situation like that as well it gets better you’ll find someone who’ll treat you right someday
Don't let her make you jealous, bro. You dodged a bullet.
i hate people like that, omg, be strong y'all
not your loss, friend
In my situation, I do feel a rather disconnect and disrespect from them that wasn’t there before. I often feel like they don’t care or have any respect for my thoughts or feelings. Whenever I’m struggling a lot or having a really off day, and need to talk, there is a lot of emotional disconnects and negativity, and they seem almost annoyed or disinterested that I’m acting the way I am, and I also have terrible social anxiety that doesn’t make it any better. There’s a lot of disrespect too. I always try to give support and be engaged into what there talking about and be interested in the subject there talking about even though I don’t have the same passion/love for it as they do, and I really don’t feel the same love/acceptance back. I really want to talk about it with them, but I feel like it’ll only make things worse/bring more negativity and awkwardness and I don’t feel like they want me to talk anyways. This has been going on for a long time now, and it didn’t use to be like this, and it’s really heartbreaking because we used to be really close friends, and I still love them.
I think you should talk to them. Maybe they are not realizing that you are not okay with something, you are feeling discomfort.
I have the exact same friend. I dont know what to do. I dont want to get rid of her cause shes my only friend.
I have that exact same thing!!! 😭 But I've been in my room crying for days now because he left.
I’m single. I hope everyone is having a great day! The people who make these videos have a great style and draw so cute. I’m your biggest fan!
-🥰😅✌🏼
I agree cupcake seeet
Hi Single, I'm stoner.
Single cream?
@@sparkybrown6577 s e e e e t
@@HaloJumper7 Nice to meet you stoner!
what if... you’re the one that was toxic? i left the relationship because i didn’t want to hurt my partner anymore. how do i unlearn these traits?
That’s why I’m watching this, I’m watching out for the things not to do and understand myself better like why do I do or say certain things
@@uranus0996 same. I have a close friend that I argue a lot with and I feel like...perhaps I'm the toxic one? But at the same time none of these things really apply to me
@@johannaheider5155 i was in the same situation a few years back and only now did I realise I was definitely toxic though they had their part in it I was still toxic. If they dont apply to you that’s good but why you arguing so much?
@@uranus0996 They probably did bc of different opinions
a psychiatrist once said to me 'there are no toxic people, just toxic relationships.'
What if you can’t tell if they’re the problem or you are? What if you both are contributing to it? Are they toxic and I’m a pushover, or am I paranoid and crazy?
Why did this hit me so hard
Well atleast your not one of those people that claims to be a perfect angel, and turns around and does the other, so I gotta atleast give you credit there.
YOURE ALWAYS RIGHT ON TOP OF IT LIKE I JUST GOT OUT OF A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP
Congrats on leaving 🙌🏼
@@inkeriananas thank you! it’s been really hard lately. codependency is a bitch but i’m working on my social life and it’s been actually helping a lot :)
@@strxwberrries4990 I understand. Just prioritize finding yourself again :)
Your voice is so calming o_o
and everyone in the comments are so nice, watching these vids and reading the comments makes my day! :D
I’ve been watching this channel for 2 years and you have no idea how much it has helped me and even saved my life...
Cool
I actually broke with my ex because all of this things lol
Haha
good for you!💓
My ex broke up with me still keeping me stringing along after cheating on me(yea I know I was stupid) but thanks to my friend and now lovely girlfriend she helped me get aware of the manipulating toxic person she was...
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Imagine watching these things knowing there's just no hope
No buddy, you can't say that. There's always hope in life sometimes we couldn't see it
@@kinakk6260 it's a sweet sentiment. I don't have this username on accident.
@@Resident--a I think you should take time from everything nd focus on yourself
I don't hate u btw.....unless maybe? u were the person who forced me not to be able to use my cdls before they expired so I couldn't leave hell on earth , in a completely made up reality thats inundated with GAS LIGHTING.
But even then I still might forgive you, lol.
@@kinakk6260 I've had since December 2019 to myself. I don't mean to sound overly pessimistic, but your time is better served trying to help someone, not something.
The only thing I could do was to leave.
Project give some $ to chase so he can live life like a human on earth, .....sounds good to me, lol. No idk who that is lol.
I totally get that
I love this channel more than any channels throughout my years on youtube
Poor communication and disrespect led to excess stress. Happiness, on the other hand, is what pulled me back every time. The underlying issue of not knowing that friendships need communication creates estrangement and confusion... yet when you're together, everything is bliss. Friends that you just connect on another level that just happen to have seemingly unaddressed issues create an environment that forces you to dig deep and wait until they reach out.
This channel should have a podcast
Great clarity and content!
Holy In the name of Christmas in February these is helping me fix bad problems with me and my friend thank you so much ☺️
Lol! Your comment is cute and funny lol!
When watching your videos on relationships, I find it helpful to always keep in mind that it's not *only* about romantic relationships, even if you state so in the video - many of these issues can be found in parent/child relationships, as an example.
This really helped a lot I just texted my partner to address this. I appreciate you making me aware of this‼️
i love you videos, thank you for making me so happy
This is highly relatable and I recognize a lot of these signs from my last relationship.
i really appreciate that just because toxic behaviour is in a relationship, the video doesn't say that breaking up is the only solution. i like that this gives me hope for my relationship
The fact that I’m finally in a relationship where neither of us show any of these behaviors makes me feel really proud of how much I’ve grown as a person.
When me and my boyfriend at the time where struggling to openly express our emotions to one another, he would almost always invalidate my feelings every time..and sometimes the sad reality sets in that sometimes it's better to walk away ..
I still have problems letting my toxic friendships go, but at least I'm aware that I need to let them go for my own good...
Man , i love this channel
I don’t think it’s possible for me not to be jealous.
Van Val is such a great animator. She did a terrific job and it is a very accurate video. Can certainly pick up on what killed my relationship.
Omg!! This really help me to understand my situation ...I wish I knew this earlier❤️❤️
So. I had this friend. He was very close woth me and people thought we were dating even though we weren't. At first our friendship was very good then he started to change. He talked less and when i asked him important questions he didn't answer. When i talked abt that to him, he said he's too tired of talking. And i tried to change myself for him.
But yeah, eventually i got worn out. There were same repeated cycles, (he was my game friend) i talked alone bcs he didn't tell he's afk, i told him to say it if he's away, he said ok, then he tried to do it, but then stopped again. And the cycle repeated. I felt like im playing alone.
I cut my friendship with him when i realized he didn't rlly care abt me at all. In the end i was the one who's been feeling guilty. He said he cared for me, but when i needed him, he's not there.
Welp sorry, long story lmao.
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Love this animation style :)
:) thanks for making this videos they really help :)
New info is appreciated
this video is an eye opener
Nice video!
Thank you!
Oooh man, I simply love these videos. Is there any video about extroverts with social anxiety?
thank u for the video, psi
No problem! We hope this helps :D
Sum:
1. They offer a lack of support 0:52
2. They are controlling 1:23
3. Jealousy 1:56
4. Dishonesty 2:41
5. Bad communications 3:07
6. Disrespect 3:48
7. Holding onto grudges 4:12
8. Constant stress or unhappiness 4:36
Ouch.... i think i just entered a wormhole and time traveled accidentally.... anyway i gonna post this sum, maybe this will useful later.....
Uh guys anyway i want to ask mobile users, did everytime you press "read more" button but there's a link or timestamp after pressing it you will bringed to the link or the exact timestamp so you cannot see the whole comment?
(Sorry for my grammar i literally don't know how to describe it, hard to explain)
Yes your right this happens to me
Can I just say something? Toxic relationships are bad. I’ve been there. Someone (after cheating on me), attempted suicide because I tried to move on. They manipulated me, and controlled me for so long. Luckily, my current love saved me, and I love him so much ❤️💞
Sounds like you saved yourself by leaving and moving on ✨
Communication is key. If they can't validate how you feel, it might be a good idea to get outside help if you want to salvage the relationship. And sometimes that means setting aside your own ego for a bit. Anything worth having is worth fighting for.
Going from one toxic relationship, to another, to another. Back to back and barely realizing it until afterwards.
Lol! .....im sorry for laughing, but that cracked me up lol! The way u worded that.
I'm kinda shocked to see that my parents have all these behaviors...I don't know what to think
Mine too man 🙃
Gas lighting is how my family deal with almost all there problems it seems.
Any improvement..?🥺
@@charleyjay5057 not really :(
@@ennovictg I will hope and pray for the best for you all🥺❤️
Me and my husband are having this issue. We are not good on communication. And we try to discuss about it but is hard, because we both have our personal child trauma and we ended rather not to talk and let it pass than have a big conversation and try to resolve. I've grown up with divorced parents caused by cheating( I've discovered a few years ago the reason of divorce) and a had a lot of friends who cheated from their partners. Also in my country betrayals are unfortunately commum, Brazil, all you see on internet are people making fun of being cheated or telling experience on how much their had been cheated. And growing up as a super conservative japanese family and as a religious person I tend to be super cautelous and worried about things that can be sex appealing because on both everything are too appealing. I try to not worry and trust but for me cheating it looks something natural that happens. I saw so many friends have an innocent conversation to some guy and I alarmed than to not do something stupid neother fall for those guys and they all had and cheated from their actual partners or made the other guy cheats on his actual partner. All start on innocence...till they actual betrayed the one they supposed love
I agree..and that s why...gasloghting me so much and not just that.. some people are not willing to learn it s too easy to proyect and blame others instead of taking their own responsibilities and lack of support
I honestly feel like me and my ex-partner were both toxic to each other in a few ways. My partner holds onto grudges longer than anyone I know, and his domineering and intimidating personality always kept me in a state of intense stress and anxiety. In my case, I promised to be loyal to my ex-partner when we got back together after a short breakup and then ended up breaking up with him again a few days later because I didn't feel comfortable, safe, or happy in said relationship. I also lied to my ex-partner about my love for him due to my fear of him wanting to hurt me if things went south between us. In the end, I ended up cursing him out through text and blocking his number. I wish I could just move on from this whole thing and work on bettering myself, but my ex-partner and I are both part of a bigger friend group, which means that I can't truly escape from him without potentially losing my other friends. I've been scared and severely anxious for the past few days, and I'm just hoping that I can find a way to get through this. Anyways, thank you so much for making this video, Psych2Go. It really helped me figure out where I went wrong.
Maybe some self care time is needed? I hope you heal, sweetheart. 🫂
My ex was literally all 8... I’m so glad I got out of that and found someone great too
avoid these people at all time in a relationship.
Yes she is toxic but I love her and I know that I have to let her go, because I love myself more. And I pray she heals and we will find each other again. I have much to do and you my darling even more. I'll see you in a couple of years. 🙂🙏💞
Naww this is soo cute.. I really hope you guys will be happy in the future ^-^
Both of us turned toxic. He was jealous and held grudges, i was dishonest, then he was dishonest, and any communication from then on was blame and shame and stonewalling. It sucks because i love him so much even though he trained me to feel bad about myself for every little thing...
The fact my friends who are a couple comes in mind.
Thanks for confirming :)
No worries! Did any of these behaviors ring a bell?
@@Psych2go Yea, there are so many people I wanna cut off relation with. Thank you. Actually I knew all of them, but just needed a valid confirmation. And now, I needa get over these people.
Psych2go is such a chill environment
It is
This is a good one
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This literally came out on the day I lost my friends. This is very useful to me. Thank you Psych2Go.
Glad we could help! Did any of these behaviors apply to you and your friend?
@@Psych2go Some of these do relate to us, especially number 5, but we are trying to talk things out and make everything better.
I wish i know this early. When I still have her that day, i'm so toxic to her :(
Wow, your videos are so good, i really wish they were this type of videos in my language, is spanish by the way.
i love the animations for this video!
Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it! Is this your favourite one so far?
@@Psych2go Of the animations I think it is :)
Totally saw all those signs in my ex tried to talk to him but he always use to play the victim card then . He used to start crying and saying things like he is sorry and will not repeat this Or things lke please don't leave me I'm not gonna able to live without u and all . But due this after a period of time i couldn't even start a real conversation with cause it would always end up with him crying or doing some self harm . It was scary and miserable I felt really stuck in the relationship. But with the support of my frnds and family I could leave him and now I'm super happy .
Just passing by
I have encountered all 8 signs and we just broke up Saturday night..🥺😅 he usually the gaslighting and usually say "you never".
I watch these videos to know what not and what to do. How to treat people better, how to open up, who to cut out, who to protect and who to hold on to.
I may not be the best human, but I am trying to learn so I can be close to that.
Thank you Psych2Go
Hard to get hurt if you know how not to🧐
Thank you for sharing! We're so happy to know that we're able to help you in some way! Do any of these behaviors sound familiar?
@@Psych2go Bad Communication sound about right in nearly any ^^' I'll find my way somehow
Wow, the animation felt so energetic at the beginning (00:06 to 00:12 and 00:17 to 00:23) and i love it
Thank you for your feedback! It really means a lot :) Have a great day!
@Psych2Go Thsnk you, you too ❤️🤗
Better alone,than alone in relationship...
Could you do a video like this but about friendships and what can kill those?
How do these videos always get recommended to me at the right time
I know it's not very related, but I just really want to appreciate how cute the little clover person is 1:17 Where have they been this whole time?!
i just broke up with my first true love and, it was cause i'm toxic and manipulative without knowing it. so now im trying to make myself a better person.
i feel absolutely terrible about how my actions hurt my loved one. If i could heal him i would.
I love the thumbnail meme😅
High five!
I'm often wondering if I'm being toxic in a relationship. Besides from that, the videos have helped me a lot, thanks for that.
Well first off u gotta actually be in one lol,......the definition seems to have changed since 2004 , lol. I literally have none, lol.
You're so welcome! We're glad to help! Did you relate to any of these behaviors?
@@Psych2go points 4, 5, 8 and maybe 7. In my last relationship, I didn't tell how I was feeling, probably because I was afraid of her reaction, so I decided to stay silent, which wasn't the right thing to do.
Why is it that I find videos like this when it's too late? I'm sad to say that I did some of these toxic actions and now I'm going through a divorce due to my toxicity. I wasn't consciously toxic, but toxic nonetheless. Videos like this help me realize my past failures and help me learn from my mistakes.
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I just got out of a relationship that had all the signs and more, love really is blind.
I have a toxic relationship with my husband. He shows all the signs since our first days. Now I begin to oppose him when try to control over me and now he blames me on everything. I really don't know what to do. I'm confused and exhausted
can you live your whole life with that person ? If no, then take a decision for your happy life, for your bright future.
@@kinakk6260 thank you
@@lijisanthosh8944 🤗
im single. i wanted to take a break so we can both work on outselves. but i am toxic. and i didn’t know that. so my own toxicity and opinions got in the way of us being together. i felt like things weren’t meant to be or weren’t go well for us. but i was just jealous, didn’t communicate well, and my partner didn’t really communicate well either, i had a lack of support, my insecurities and control u
issues got in the way of eachother, and i would gaslight when i felt wrong.
Did they show this to a patron or something earlier?
I’m gonna send him this video
Was in a relationship that literally had all of these 😐
Same here
I’m watching this after being cheated on and honestly I truly didn’t see how toxic he was because I was so in love with him I didn’t realize that some of the stuff he did was so completely wrong and I had no one to talk to because I was so in denial he did it. I still have to give all his stuff back but it all hurts
These can all be true for close friendships too!
I regret so much what I did in the past. I hurt so much people. 😔
If only they could see the real me right now...
Im so sorry for the people I hurt. I hope the can trully forgive me.
Thanks for the videos. I learn a lot from them.
Greets from Portugal.
I killed my love relationship due to my college problems and depression 😔
Well nothing is really real especially on the internet so?
Wait how
I have read a book on manipulators, not a promotion but in case you want more insights on manipulation it's called 'Surrounded by Psychopaths'.