4 ways to tell if you have OCPD
Вставка
- Опубліковано 19 тра 2024
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD) can sound similar to OCD, but it's very different. Let's go through 4 indications that you may have OCPD and what to do with it.
⚡⚡Online Recovery Courses⚡⚡
► Master Your OCD From Home (try for free)
www.ocd-anxiety.com/master-yo...
🎉 Want extra support? - LIVE Q&A, discord chat rooms, & early video access.
click here ➡️ / ocdandanxiety
► Parents, spouses, and families - How to support someone with OCD
www.ocd-anxiety.com/how-to-su...
🛒 Shirts, stickers, awesomeness 🛒
www.ocdanxietyshop.com
► Rise From Depression course (try for free)
www.ocd-anxiety.com/rise-from...
► BFRB's (hair pulling, skin picking, nail-biting) (try for free)
www.ocd-anxiety.com/bfrb-online
⚡⚡Join the OCD support group⚡⚡
🔷 / ocdandanxietyonline
⚡⚡LIVE Masterclasses and Q&A⚡⚡
www.ocd-anxiety.com/masterclass
⚡⚡Take an OCD Test⚡⚡
💜 www.ocd-anxiety.com/all-tests
➼ Do I have OCD?
➼ Do I have HOCD?
➼ Do I have Harm OCD?
➼ Relationship OCD
➼ How severe is my OCD?
➼ Do I have hair-pulling disorder?
➼ Do I have skin picking disorder?
➼ Depression severity scale
⚡⚡Connect on social⚡⚡
🩵Instagram - / ocdandanxietyonline
🩵Facebook OCD group - / ocdandanxietyonline
🩵Twitter - / ocdandanxiety1
🩵TikTok - / ocdandanxiety
⚡⚡Video Playlists⚡⚡
👉🏼OCD - • Do You Have OCD? What ...
👉🏼Reaction Videos - • Therapist Reacts To Ex...
👉🏼Depression - • 5 Tips To STOP depress...
👉🏼Scrupulosity - • Scrupulosity: What Is ...
👉🏼Harm OCD - • What is Harm OCD? Can ...
👉🏼POCD - • What is Pedophile OCD?...
👉🏼Sexual Orientation OCD (HOCD) - • HOCD | Intrusive Thoug...
👉🏼Relationship OCD (ROCD) - • What is Relationship O...
👉🏼Real Event OCD - • How To Know If You're ...
👉🏼Existential OCD - • Existential OCD | Trea...
👉🏼Symmetry OCD - • What Symmetry OCD Look...
👉🏼Touettic OCD - • What is Tourettic OCD?
👉🏼Superstitious OCD - • What Is Magical Thinki...
👉🏼Contamination OCD - • What Contamination OCD...
👉🏼Just Right OCD - • Just Right OCD - A Fee...
👉🏼SOCD - • How To Know If You're ...
👉🏼Sensorimotor OCD - • What Is Sensorimotor O...
👉🏼Social Anxiety - • Social Anxiety Disorde...
👉🏼Anxiety - • Anxiety vs. ADHD - The...
👉🏼Magical Thinking OCD - • What Is Magical Thinki...
👉🏼Responsibility OCD - • Responsibility OCD | W...
👉🏼Tics and Tourette's - • What are Tics and Tour...
👉🏼Postpartum OCD - • Postpartum OCD (perina...
👉🏼BFRB (hair pulling/skin picking) - • What are BFRBs? (Body ...
👉🏼Body Dysmorphic Disorder - • Body Dysmorphic Disord...
👉🏼Panic Disorder - • How To Stop Panic Attacks
- - - Disclaimer - - -
For information purposes only. Does not constitute clinical advice. Consult your local medical authority for advice. - Розваги
I would seriously question the idea that the rigidity inflexible are happy when they follow all their rules. It's a battle to control everything just to feel normal, but it's rooted in perfectionism so things are rarely good enough. And when they appear to be, a profound sense of emptiness and boredom floods in. Things aren't right, hence the behaviour, so they stay not right
I've just got here after searching OCD and rage attacks. I was diagnosed with OCD this week, and yesterday I had an orrible time dealing with an anger outburst due to a discussion with my housemates: the rage literally burned inside of me and I couldn't stop it, I felt that my reasons were reasonable but when me and my housemates sit in our kitchen to talk about this problem I felt that I was being inflexible and controlling while still feeling that I was right in my demands.
I hate those moments because I want to improve, become more flexible and more calm in conflict but I'm scared of being overtaken from people.
And now I will absolutely going to talk with my therapist about the possibility of me having obsessive compulsive personality disorder, not only ocd. This seems the only way in which I can aknowledge my inner world and improve it.
The best is when your OCD tells you you have OCPD. Fun times all around.
OCD is so tricky!
All four points fit me to a T, with two slight differences:
1.) I feel exhausted with trying to maintain doing things "the right/best way", and frustrated that it often takes so long or involves so many steps. I wish I could cut corners like other people when I'm having a rough day, but I don't feel I'm allowed to.
2.) I am very much aware of how my particulars can impose on others and feel guilt/shame that I'm being a burden or a buzzkill if it becomes a problem.
For context, I was just diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder last week and we *strongly* suspect OCPD as well.
Very accessible, relatable video. Thank you! 👍
So, I used to think I just had OCD. Looking back, it's actually hard to tell if I even had it at times, but after a "bad" thing I did a few years ago, it seems it has gone from random intrusive thoughts that were fairly easy to ignore to full blown ruminating everyday about morality, how to avoid doing this bad thing again, and very rigid rules. I have even started to completely avoid certain items or songs that I used to listen to during the period that I did the "bad" thing. It almost feels like my obsessions are so full blown now, that it has turned into a personality disorder, but i'm not self diagnosing. Thanks for the vid as always
I'm not diagnosing you either. But, as someone with OCD, I can tell you that what you're describing sounds like "Real Event OCD" and "Moral Scrupulosity OCD." OCD can be all-consuming and it can make you feel like you're "crazy" (for lack of avoiding stigma) or that something is wrong with you. It's something everyone with OCD experiences without proper treatment. I'd advise you to look into Real Event OCD and Moral Scrupulosity OCD and see if it fits what you're experiencing. Hope this helps!
Absolutely!
Honestly mate, you’re not on your own in this. I can completely relate to what you feel like (im sure now the OCD is saying something like “no you can’t, you didn’t do what I did”- I’ve been there like that too). A book I’d recommended reading is the Confidence Gap by Russ Harris. My OCD therapist told me to check it out & it’s honestly the most useful tool you can have. Hope it helps. Hope you’re okay. Xx
@@ocdandanxiety
So people with OCPD don't feel anxious or doubtful? .if they do , that makes them just like ocd ..., Because ocd sufferes would like to do their compulsion to achieve certainty .and how they don't have insight of your situation, so what if they watched this video . I was really convinced that this is how to do it
Unfortunately, people with OCPD aren't bothered by their own behaviors, but those who interact with them certainly are!
There are always at least two people involved in social interaction. A lot of people are just lazy and undisciplined, so don't try to put away people based on a diagnosis, if they is probably a midway.
What should u do if u know one of these people and hate being around them but can't avoid them because they r in your family? How do u get them to go for help if they don't believe they have a problem?
It could be added to the dark triad
Who told you that,
Being in constant catch 22 is a very painful experience when an irrational thought is telling, you have to, you have to
@@ArmyofLove OCD maybe, but OCPD; they take it out on others. Similar to NPD
Thank you Sir. I was just diagnosed with OCPD this morning by my therapist. This was a very insightful video. It may help me better explain this disorder to my loved ones.
Nice red shirt for Valentine's day!!! Happy "Guy-lentines day" :)
Why is every video about OCPD actually just a video about OCD?
OCD: I can't fail to wash my hands 4x or terrible things will happen. I know it's insane.
OCPD: 4x is just the right amount of times to wash your hands. Why are you all looking at me weird?
Thank for this minimally nuanced explanation of OCD/OCPD...
@laurensa.1803 could say egodystonic versus egosyntonic, but who understands that?
I had à teacher with OCDP. I am happy itś had not have. I needed this explanation to handle this memory. Thank you.
OCPD should be added to the list of diagnoses requiring other people to find them annoying and difficult! If that was a requirement, there would be more people being diagnosed. If you can be diagnosed with ADHD or NPD using reports from others, why not OCPD?
You can. All this is possible and likely if a diagnosis is found
.+ 16 All Scripture is inspired of God+ and beneficial for teaching,+ for reproving, for setting things straight,+ for disciplining in righteousness,+ 17 oh so
I discovered your channel about a week ago and just wanna say thank you, thank you, thank you. You’ve helped me so much so far! Your videos are wonderful.
You are so welcome!
ocpd describes my mom to a disturbing level of accuracy. I wasn't allowed to have anything on my walls as a kid unless it was framed. no posters or any of that unless it went through her specific approval process.
so when I went to college and finally had my own space, I didn't put anything on my walls. mom even asked why i didn't have pictures and I just kind of laughed at the time because she literally created the complete lack of interest in expressing myself in the first place.
the amount of joy she gets out of forcing the neighbours to mow their lawn is so annoying and a ridiculous waste of energy that i just have to ignore now lol.
Poor you lol
Such a sad story about wall art 😏
Love the content as per usual - you’re a real life saver!
You are too kind! Thanks so much!! 💜
Ok, I finally have answers to my behaviour. After 43 painful years to all my family, friends, colleagues and now employees. I have every single issue that has been described. I didn’t even question one thing. Like many of you I was directed here thinking OCD was the problem. A detective mentioned it to me in brief conversation not long ago and it stuck with me. I’m so incredibly grateful to know this about myself. I will be forwarding this to my family in a hopefully calculated way. I will be telling my staff to research OCPD when our next clash happens. I will be admitting to my mistakes and my faults, faults that may be in my control and/or may be out of my control. I’m feeling very emotional to have finally come to a conclusion. I’ve been isolating myself to not feel the pain that I believe the world puts me through.
Sorry, it was me this whole time, not you. It has been impossible for me to see, but I 100% see it now. Even if in conversations I’m right, it’s not my duty or place to even go there.
Moving forward, I know I will be more understanding. But what saddens me is I don’t want to expose people to me. The only way is for me to achieve this is isolating myself this time not for me, but for everyone else.
The first thought of achieving this is to not go to social events where conversation is the entertainment/purpose and not ever to get into deep conversation. I will socialise through sport where people are kept at arms length.
My relentless pursuit of perfection will have to continue to help feel some sort of satisfaction and purpose. But my research will not go further than my own actions within. Words will not be shared unless asked or pressed. It’s important to not go into detail which I/we/OCPD love to do. It will be a hard road as I’m naturally an extrovert. Meaning also more people probably despise me.
Me even writing all this makes me think it may help someone else. But also in the hope others will share their journey of how they deal with this unwanted disorder.
I never knew about this, thanks for posting 😃
No problem!
Dude these videos have helped me so much. I was wondering if you could make a video over cptsd or just ptsd. I was just diagnosed when I instead thought I had OCD, because they’re very similar regarding intrusive thoughts. It would be great if you could!
Totally! I have these on my list of videos to do! Thanks for your support!
For those with OCPD watching this, my mom started taking lexapro 10mg and she is a totally different person! My goodness! It was so hard to deal with her. We live together and I just couldn’t take it any longer. The medicine definitely saved our relationship!
Why would medication change a Personality disorder? .+ 16 All Scripture is inspired of God+ and beneficial for teaching,+ for reproving, for setting things straight,+ for disciplining in righteousness,+ 17
Increased serotonin allows for more diverse neural pathways to be formed, thus increasing the ease at which someone with this disorder can accept alternative ways of thinking, doing, etc. The main problem is the rigidity and this tackles that well.
Not saying medicine is the only way to increase your serotonin, but that is how lexapro helps.
@@asdfasdfasdfasdf297 Jehovah alters the way the mind works Psalm
A melody of David, to serve as a reminder.*
38 O Jehovah, do not reprove me in your anger,
Nor correct me in your wrath.+
2
I wonder if you can have a mix of both? I'm diagnosed OCD but, watching this makes me realize that I also have many rules that are "right" and I get very frustrated when others don't follow them. Maybe my having insight while watching this is a good thing. This video made me realize that I have rules that I'm OK with because they are "fact"
I think I used to know someone who may have had ocpd or at least some traits of it. It was really tough to work with them because they got mad at me and my peers for the smallest mistake
It may not have been ocpd but I was watching this video and said to myself: "this feels familiar"
My manager has OCPD and possibly some Narcissism. He is absolutely traumatizing to work with. He creates horrible bottlenecks where he needs to control everything, and he thinks he's the best and the rest of us are the problem. He essentially destroyed an entire office with his micromanagement. Try Grey Rocking... it's a method of navigating narcissists and it works really well with people that have a toxic OCPD. Stop trying to explain, defend, or meet them half-way. Be nice, but socially boring. Keep all convos to "good morning", "good evening", and "ok" and everything else benignly silent. Grey Rocking will create space to notice how disordered they are as they thrash about trying to control everything. The more narcissistic of them might go into a stage called Hoovering, where they pretend to not be OCPD for a while and will almost seem respectful toward you, but then when you open up again they will pivot back to antagonizing and controlling you, so you have to stay the course with Grey Rock.
Can you please make more videos of OCPD and tips to deal with it?
love your way to speak.
I understand for a lot of us that we have all been threw different phases of OCD. It’s hard but it’s winnable you can win the battle and *DECREASE* the amount of thought not eliminate completely. I feel their will always be a little inside you; so don’t stress it gets better. *ONLY* if you actually put in the fight to beat it. No compulsion i don’t care how hard. It’s only possible if you really want it. It’s okay to fall down just don’t stay down!
You got this I love you and have a blessed life.❤️
Omg!!! New video😍👍
🎉 Yessssss!!
Thank you for the interesting video!) Unfortunately I have OCD, not OCPD))
I was able to avoid four major arguments with my husband this weekend. He was upset about the condition of our son's room. Messy? Yes. Dangerous? No. Cluttered and disorganized for sure. My husband was very upset and demanded that I be "on his side" in this "argument." That's typically how this scenario goes for us. I pointed out that I didn't think there was an argument. I also don't like the condition of our son's room, but it's okay. No one is hurt. My husband let me off with "I won't argue with you because it's Mother's Day weekend." He's a wonderful man, and this is so stressful. Our younger son was dragged into two arguments in the span of 12 hours. Everyone that can have the strength to look into ourselves and see how this affects us is brave.
My husband also has OCPD. We had to live apart for a while when we were figuring some of this out; may I suggest couples therapy so you two can talk about his anger when it comes to these issues? It's not easy. Hang in there.
I just learned that I have OCPD. I have not been diagnosed but it is pretty obvious. If you put this in a school prospective than in my opinion OCPD makes valid sense depending on the individual. Say you have 2 partners, they are assigned rules by the instructor. Both of witch do not complete their assigned tasks. Their actions then affect your grade leaving you feeling unfulfilled and frustrated. This person than figures "Well if I want it done right I guess I have to do it myself" since the other group members are not willing to hold up their end of the bargain. This person then burns himself out trying to keep up the pace for others feeling the need to hand out these "rules" so they don't have to put in twice the effort. Of course OCPD types can vary such as those who just downright have no ability to hear others out. However, when it comes to the task at hand, I believe that individual has every right to give out step by step pamphlet's if it falls on the persons ability to do their best.
Been laughing all through because so me and i never saw a problem. Just wondered why everyone is so disorganized
i saw a scary video online that got stuck in my head
and I became obsessed with having to watch the video all the time, now I have a feeling I'm trying to google it but with a different name that I can find out if it's the same video. however, i don't want to see it and i'm afraid i will google it even if i don't want to. Do you know what this is about or what could help
😂😂 The bloopers were hilarious!!
Those are my favorite parts too! 😄
Hello, I'm Vietnamese, can you give all videos with Vietnamese subtitles, I and all of you in Vietnam really need videos like this to help. I'm really stuck but I can't read English, this disease in our country still has many limitations that are not well understood. 😣
Can you be somewhere in the middle? Like you feel it's right but are frustrated that it's causing problems with relationships. Like debating in your head over if it's helpful or harmful?
I have both OCD and OCPD and other mixed personality disorders
I've been diagnosed with ASD, but you are totally describing my behaviours. Am i also OCPD, or does this fall under the ASD diagnosis?
So can ERP or ACT be a good way to treat OCPD, or just CBT?
is there an ocd for working with a therepist because im having thoughts about if i dont work with theripist i wont recover from sucidal ocd.
Thanks Nathan...
You are more than welcome!
I wish you were my therapist
I'm here cause my professor gave me a bad grade cause my teammates were complaining about perfectionism. I don't see an issue with it but that's even more annoying cause apparently thats also an issue
So people with OCPD don't feel anxious or doubtful? .if they do , that makes them just like ocd ..., Because ocd sufferes would like to do their compulsion to achieve certainty .and how they don't have insight of your situation, so what if they watched this video .
I have ocd was convinced that this is how to do it.... I'm confused
My ex husband had OCPD, seriously he was a nightmare. Rules, lists, extreme miserly with money, secretive, perfection, rigid, extremely controlling. His rules always the only way, and written in concrete. He was a cold , distant and dismissive as a partner, it was like living with a monk. I'm not really sure why he wanted to get married, which was when he was in his 40's. He caused so much instability and misery in my life. I have had narcissists in my life and have Cptsd, the narcissists were A holes and caused so much harm....Im not sure which personality disorder was worse.
I found out recently that I likely have OCPD, not OCD… :o really scary to learn that but strength in knowledge?
thank you for this video. i’m going to send it to my family to hopefully help them understand my struggles
Would I be right in saying OCPD also sounds like narcissistic personality disorder or at least co exist with it?
I have definitely noticed the overlap between OCPD and Narcissism. The interpersonal control, the disregard for others, the self-righteousness that their opinions are "right", the entitlement issues, and their inability to handle criticism, are common to both disorders.
I have all of these.
"I think I just got repaired, within 2 months take that certainity demon." I just thought this statement in kind-of 5-6 sec. Surprise, Surprise I had both HOCD, COCD etc.....why etc... because of POCD, P for personality😅, sorry struggerlers. I will explain with my another account, without Sarcasm this comment is more for healthy people🎉.
My mom seems to b have ocpd she ain't willing to go for therapy it's been traumatizing experience with all our family members
We feel stuck
I'm sorry to hear that my friend. 🙁I wish you the best for the future.
I have a manager with OCPD and it is traumatizing. Grey Rocking works in my situation, but possible not a healthy solution for family unless you want to cut them out of your life.
Can someone with OCPD be bothered by their own tendencies? I have the traits mentioned in this video, but often, I am bothered by my rigidity, but I can't seem to change.
of course, that's the moment you realized there's always been a problem in your life and u should definitely go seek for help if you can
Ocd or ocpd, should i tell my partner that i have ocd? I have really awful thoughts, they are created by my ocd and even opening up to therapist is hard enough. And I’m scared to loose my partner. (Actually I don’t have a partner yet, I’m just thinking about future💀) I am too honest, if i keep something from someone it would kill me. But some things shouldn’t be told. What would u do? Is it bad to keep it myself?
I recommend telling them but start with something simple to gauge their reaction, or preface a big thing with honesty about your fears of rejection. I know it's late to give advice but I just saw your comment. Honesty is always best and it's okay to share your insecurities with them, because if they can't forgive the "problems" you think you have then they are not the right person.
Tell them all your comfortable with, don’t go into any details about your intrusive thoughts if you don’t want to
OCD will become apparent if you are in long term relationship and spend multiple days together.
can somebody with ocd fear he may have ocpd?
I wonder how often people with OCPD are also on the Autism Spectrum... do you have any stats on this? My husband is autistic and we just realized he probably has OCPD; the doctor thinks an SSRI may help, and we are doing CBT therapy. Do you know if ERP also helps with OCPD?
Hey i know this isnt related but
Tommorow im having a telephone assessment to find out if i have ocd or anxiety
And im not really sure what to say if anyone could give any advice id really appreciate it
Explain what is troubling you. Answer with honesty, don’t be afraid to open up about you’re struggles - there job is to help you. Just be yourself and answer the best you can to how you feel.
@@Erinnestatic thx i had the call the woman was so nice and kind and has referred me
Nice
I am of the ridged opinion that “aployment” is now the most correct word, and nobody should say it any other way. This is the way.
Can people with OCPD be messy or does that not usually go together?
Can people with OCPD be messy ... put that in google and see the quora result. yes.Information available says that most people with OCD or OCPD have either an extreme obsession with cleanliness(me) or become hoarders, but that we can often become disorganized and messy due to our tendency to become workaholics. Then the disorder turns all of our focus on our jobs and perfecting that and establishing routine in our workplace.
Mix OCPD with other personality disorders that further negate the "problems" in OCPD. Like anti-personality disorder. Relationship problems are not problems when we don't want to be involved with relationships and people in the first place and so on. This makes it even more difficult to accept this as a problem and feel a need for help.
Im really not so sure 🤔
My manager has OCPD and possibly narcissism. He doesn't seem to have any awareness of it, though, or just has extremely low empathy for other people. For 15 years at the same institution, I was sought after by clients and colleagues for my attention to high quality, valuable, efficient results. My clients and colleagues loved my work, and when I completed a project, other clients would clamor for me to produce something similar for their needs. I was also a straight-A student for 5 years, which is a very supported benefit offering of the institution. A great boss left, and the OCPD coworker was promoted. He's very good an ingratiating himself, over promising, saying yes to everything, but his results are dry and frenetically slow.
As soon as he became manager he started calling me in my classes and insisting I check in constantly, to the point where I was so stressed at his lack of humanity that I dropped out hoping he would improve with time, not knowing he had OCPD yet. He didn't improve at all. When I mentioned returning to finish my degree he interrupted with "YOU DON'T NEED A DEGREE!" and then went on a 45 minute monologue of people that didn't have degrees. Never considering that I wanted to finish the 5 years of part-time coursework that I started. Simply mentioning that resulted in a "You have a bad attitude" monologue and how I am bad at my job and slow and bad in general and not nice.
He went on to inviting himself to every client and colleague meeting on my calendar, and then eventually setting up meetings with my clients separately, and my collaborators individually, and then me separately, to manage each of my projects. No sense could be talked into him-it all resulted in punitive criticism, which is uncomfortable when someone is in a position of power. The clients and collaborators began emailing me and asking to meet secretly on every project, which was essentially impossible to do since the OCPD manager was so relentless in his triangulation of everyone. Now we are all excluded from working together, and I am put very last in every project which sometimes means I am starting a year after the client brings the project to the OCPD manager. Sadly, he doesn't actually do anything that helps me start or finish a project, he just focuses on what he wants over what the client wants, as well as a granular list of "DUE DATES" for every step of the process, which is impossible to predict since I have no control over clients lives or the physics of space & time.
I operate and maintain a lot of different portable equipment for my job - Something with which I am an expert after 30 years in the field and 15 years at the institution. He insisted with negative reinforcement that he was in charge of organizing this equipment and now 15 years of knowing where equipment was is now constantly being reorganized every week. Something you used last week is now zipped up in an elaborate system of storage containers and in a completely different and unrelated spot since you last found it. His system is based on HIM using the gear at any given moment, not any practical sense of collaboration. He'll even request we all meet so he can update us on his new system of organization. It's like he specifically demands us to check in with him for every part of our process. You can't adjust a piece of equipment that you have been using for 15 years, or he will start exclaiming you are doing it wrong, walk up, and take it out of your hands. He has turned my position into entry level work. So many people have quit, and the only people that seem to succeed do so on Lip Service, not actually doing anything of productive value.
All of work is garbage now. It all looks the exact same, regardless of what our colleagues ask for. All the intention behind the clients requests are indecipherable, leading to reworking every project after you complete it, because he wouldn't give you the correct info and wouldn't tell you who the client was.
If you have OCPD and you think you are more perfect than those around you, let me tell you that you are not. No one is perfect. What works for you, may be the worst process for multiple people around you who are talented and have different ideas of what perfect means. Currently, with my experience with a manager with OCPD, I can only see Narcissism and OCPD as equally abusive and traumatizing. I want everyone to be happy, but not at the expense of everyone around them. Boundaries are important. Do things your way, but don't insist other people do things your way if they tell you they prefer doing things their way. The only solution I see with this person with OCPD is to try to cut them out of my life forever without wasting my time explaining it. Just ghost them.
Can you please do a video addressing the issues some of us may be having due to the Russia-Ukraine crisis?
only one ocpd group on fb...and seems not ..
Luckily i dont have this...huff...(me: wipes sweat from forehead)
Obsessive Compulsive Police Department🚨🚓👮♂️👮🚔🚨
People with OCPD are miserly, hate to spend money on things which are luxury and not necessary in their view.
They never show emotions or feelings.
So what will they buy and spend money on ?
@@hix9306 things which are necessary, like food, clothing, housing .....
They hate to spend on anything beyond it. Like entertainment, good branded clothes, travel and tour, movies, eating out.......
I have been living with a OCPD person for 38 years!! They are very insecure about Money.
@@athensmajnoo3661 so how is it living with one in your perspective?
@@hix9306 it isnt easy........ We get only the things which my partner thinks is absolutely necessary,....like a used car, second hand furniture, inexpensive eats......
@@athensmajnoo3661 I think my boyfriend of 5 years has OCPD. I'm miserly myself, but he takes it to the extreme. He had a desk chair that was over 15 years old, all tatered, busted, and falling apart. I wanted him to throw it out, and cited that sitting in a worn out desk chair can cause long-term health problems and the appearance of it reminded me of trash. He argued with me and said I could buy him a new chair, but he won't spend the money himself. (This guy is 27 and makes 6 figures). Well, his mom bought him a new chair, but his old chair is split in half and still sitting in the living room till this day. I'm afraid to clean because he yells at me when I move his items to new spaces or discard broken items. There is black mold in the bathroom and thick crust of grim/dust on all of his surfaces in his car and room and kitchen, which is causing me anxiety and is harmful for our health. I asked him to hire someone to clean and get rid of the mold, but he keeps blowing me off and says it's okay to live like this and that I am wrong and dramatic. I believe that the mold is causing symptoms to become worse. His 2019 car has dents, is encrusted with pollen, expired registration of 3 years, and warning lights. I told him to fix his car and that i fear for my life because of the warning light. He says im being dramatic and it took over a year of agruing to get his car registered. The warning light is still on. His gym clothes smell from a mile a way, and he refuses to throw them away. The foot of his heater was broken, which cause the heater to touched directly on the ground causing a fire hazzard to the whole community because he lives in a condo, it was a huge argument to get rid off, he of course said i was being dramatic. The broken heater is sitting outside after 2 years of not using it. He is addicted to a substance and working out (he has a 6 pack abs). He has a strict diet and won't eat pizza, cheese, or anything with over 1 gram of sugar because its his quote "unhealthy." He has a strict schedule and horrible sleeping problems. He gets out of bed multiple times a night and I have to stay under the covers to be on my phone because the light bothers him. He is a workaholic, he logs in during his paid time off when we are spending quality time together. I have ADHD, clinically diagnosed at 7, so I am pretty tolerant of mess, but I can't even stand the filth building up in his place that I find myself cleaning. But he ends up yelling at me. You know how hard it's for a ADHD person to clean? His brother has autism. The list goes on....
Nathan there is a person in my class who have very intentions and he is very very very bad, really bad person
He gives me tic
Do something
Well i am not having intrusive thoughts about should. But i do mention to my wife that she says should a lot and i woud like to explain how should involve blame regrets guilt and anger. 😅
It's like a set up.
Like "promess me this or that" . That asking me to agree with here when i don't. 😅
Any way. I am still trying to figue out what is wrong with me 🫤
Or enjoy what is good enough