PERIOD POOH 💩 tht PART! 💯 What a hellish world spin on tht ...."I WASTED my time ENERGY, Patience, What's LEFT OF THE MIDDLE YOUTH OF GODS good grace has still blessed me to see 🙈 in myself cuz this person's definitely not 🚫 able to comprehend let alone fathom nor hear or listen👂🏾nor care to care about self growth"! Can't even comment to it or embrace positive changes damn SMH 🤦🏾♀️....I hate feeling like the complete 💯 fool in this case ugh....sry I'm really going thru it.... But extremely ALONE and terrified to file tht order form when it goes nodaha where on their part of lack in mental health requirements in order based on proof or however they seem to choose who is or isn't fit to hold them to their current past shenanigans.... Sry for rambling on but it just hit 🎯💯 sry again in advance 💋😞 conflicted and confused but I truly know what I NEED TO DO.... JST need more support in tht whole process....(Dnt•JM)*JST Love on me...ugh smh... *As I try 2 self heal as well as my kiddos**...thx for your all experiences an willingness to get on here an open up wit yalls trial's an Tribulations Thank you all to the deepest deserts part of my heart ❤️💋
the sad part is that once they find a better supply, you are not worth their time anymore but they will still show up now and then just to drag the dead relationship on and on and not really letting you heal and move on. Like a bad hoarder
I have no more fight left in me. This trauma bond is some of the worse pain I’ve ever felt. I won’t let him come back again this time im standing on my word. Changed my number deleted and my email act. Thank you for your words and support Lee. ❤
You do SOOO Much for them trying to make them "Happy" that they literally suck up your happiness until you are Both miserable. When you are completely depleted in EVERY aspect & at your lowest of lows & need just a little bit of encouragement & support from them...they will NOT be there for You!!! They won't even give you a second thought!!!
My whole life trying to make him happy never was enough always wanted more! Now I’m trying to make myself happy now! At least I understand now! I have peace and freedom! And therapy for the rest of my life! Thanks Lee💪😘
Yes. "Replacing". Everything is replaceable for a narcissist. A whole family unit/wife/life. I left after realizing exactly this, id never make him happy and i was dying. They dont want to fix things or try. They dont care about that, keeping a family together doesnt matter to them, youre the one who cares, youre the one whose heart bleeds endlessly trying to keep things mended. And when youre done grieving the idea that it will not "get better", you can finally free yourself. ❤
Been through this last year and it's the worst pain. Especially when you see everyone else around you happy as a family. But we should never feel ashamed and it is not our loss. The narcissist is the embarrassment and we can have way better than that ❤
It's up to each individual too make themselves happy & don't count on the Narc for that because you'll be disappointed every time thinking that u tried to make them happy😓
They're not happy because for true happiness, you need to be in touch with your true feelings, wants and needs and learn to accept all of these even if you don't like it, and you need to find a balance between achieving more and appreciating what you have, and also a balance receiving stimulation from the outside world and working for it yourself. Constantly wanting to receive things from the world and other people, and not being honest with how you truly feel is a recipe for constant misery because that's simply not how our brains optimally work. Even though it may feel nice to receive happiness and joy and everything from others, understanding that that's not how you will ever feel content and happy is crucial - but that's not something that narcissists understand. I hope you're also progressing on your journey to understand this, Lee :) thank you for all that you do.
So true. They are usually dealing with depression etc. from things that happened in child hood etc. They look to people for happiness that is temporary, because to have consistent happiness, they have to go to therapy to heal. Thanks for this message.
@@MentalHealnessthank you lee! Today has been kinda depressing but I know you go though that too. You pray for me ill pray for you. No fun being unhappy
In general, trying to "make someone else happy" is a losing game. Our happiness is our own responsibility. The more you do for someone the less they tend to respect you and the more they take it for granted, narcissist or not. Gifts & favors are only special if they're rare/occasional. Nobody will know your worth if you don't.
The only time they are happy when they make you feel bad putting you down arguing with you ghosting you or talking bad to you to other people or someone pumping them up with compliments other than that, you’re nothing to them and onto the next
Hd Tudor admitted that your endless goodness and kindness becomes to a narcissist like eating a once favourite flavour EVERYDAY until the novelty wears off and you need a change. He also says it's like you were a great TV then as you went on the bink it was too much trouble to repair or as Rupert Holmes said in the pinacalada song....you are now A WORN OUT recording of a once favourite song. My viewpoint of potential toxic people is to tell them up front to SHAPE UP OR SHIP OUT
You are so right. I gave everything..gross amounts...and i did not have even 0.001% safety, loyalty or security. I cant believe i stayed so long and thought i loved him. Hes not the one with issues, i obviously am!
Thank you, Mr. Hammock. Your perspectives have a positive impact , helping me further in recognizing narc dynamics personally and professionally as a professional counselor working w my clients. Bravo.
If you are willing to sacrifice yourself for a chance at making this person happy.. you need counseling. You need something too. You need love back you deserve reciprocation.
Sometimes the truth hurts, but you still need to hear it! I found nothing you said hurtful nor personal, I been at this far too long and have already earned my PHD in 🐂 💩
Thank you so much for making this video and for creating this informative and helpful channel. I just stumbled on your channel after a intense short relationship with a narcissist who suddenly out of nowhere dumped me in the most cruel and evil way after promising me the world. He told me he changed his mind and I wasn't what he wanted anymore. Your video is helping me to understand it wasn't me and he was the problem, thank you again.
That's why the narcissist in my life told me that at 50 years old, The longest relationship he's ever had in his whole life is 3 or 4 years. That's scary!!and I did know that was a red flag. I just chose to ignore it. And how long did we last? You ask?4 years.😂😂😂
Watching Lee is like watching one of my favorite shows he helped me understand what I been through and how to deal with my narc a** sister and BD these people are truly sick and some never get help they switch victims
I have spent over $1M on my wife. A beautiful engagement ring worth 30 grand, Trips around the world, luxury cars, a home, paid off her college debt, designer bags and shoes, jewelry..on and on.. She is as unhappy as ever. It’s always something more. Her treatment towards me is worse and worse. She cheated this year with a criminal who is currently in jail.
I'm sorry you're going through this... They can do anything and everything to us but until we're ready to leave we won't. It's been ten years for me and I'm finally ready to go. Good luck and God Bless.
After spending many years on trying to understand why my (now ex.)husband was so angry and uncooperative in our relationship, I asked him a lot of times: ‘what makes you happy?’ ‘… but don’t you feel happy when you walk the dog in the woods’ -> his answer: ‘sometimes’, and I when😮. I think I’m happy 99% of the time, when I walk the dog. He felt happy when I cooked dinner for him or if I did something else for him or others 😢 My body went crasy - the doctor kept wrapping it up in ‘Fibromyalgia’, today my body is worse but better if that makes any sense. My mind is doing a lot better after leaving him, but my our daughter went on seeing him until this February. So we still have a lot of work to do- healing.
💯💯💯 I couldn’t keep him happy to save my life everything I did was for him and I told him one day “nothing I do is enough and I don’t make you happy so why are you with me?!” And his response would be “bc your my wife and I want to make my marriage work.” 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️😂😂😂
Throughout your videos, I discovered that most of my narcissistic tendencies match my personality. I believe that most of the people who are watching your channel had or still have experience with narcissistic abuse. However, as a hopeless narcissist myself, I would love to see some videos on how to improve general satisfaction about life. Perhaps you could share what works for you.
Idk people give you shit about hurting their feelings and that your videos are hurtful. Of course they are hurtful, I don’t like hearing this truth either but I’m very thankful for it! I appreciate it and it helps me not take it personally etc. I feel if people are complaining they are getting hurt by your videos then maybe they shouldn’t watch them. No one is forcing people to become aware. No one wants to really hear this but what would they rather live in a fantasy land and be naive to everything. Stop giving him shit if you don’t like what he has to say don’t watch it! Take some responsibility for yourself. I know it hurts, and it sucks and it’s a reality that we don’t wanna have to face .it’s okay to be a bit defensive and not want to hear it at first, and if you wanna continue not hearing the truth then that’s okay too but don’t give him shit for speaking Because he’s really helping a lot of people. 11yrs intense therapy after being involved with a sociopath and with Lee’s videos, I’ve never shown up this strong before . I really appreciate getting an inside view on how life is for a narcissist. I always felt these things might be going on for them and Lee has helped me trust my intuition and believe in myself. I’m dyslexic and have auditory processing disorder, so it has been very easy for people to gaslight me, question my reality and think I’m not good enough . That’s all changing now, therapy, learning positives of neuro diversity and with Lee wisdom, I’m boundaries and believing in myself. Yeah, I might not always hear exactly what people say due to apd but I’ve picked up some other really great talents for reading people . Thank you Lee and doing what you’re doing, I think it’s just hard for people to hear the truth especially the longer than being with that person. But like you say you don’t want to waste any more time.
Ya know, it's fucking sad narcissists' interest in empaths has an expiry date. We (empaths) are just trying to do our best while swimming against impossible currents trying not to sink. It sucks. We're better off without the stress.
Lee Hammock I just seen you on Episode called fatal attraction you are getting your acting on 💯💪🏿 I do recall you saying you wanted to get into acting.
I feel like my mom is constantly looking at me to make her happy. It kills me to say things that she is seeking because I feel like I'm feeding into the lie. She walks down to the mailbox (on a walker) and when she's on her way back I'm by the cars and asks me, "Did you miss me?" Response, "No." That might seem mean, but she was gone for a couple months and that wasn't long enough to miss her. I know it would be so easy to say, "Yes, I miss you."
True Happiness is directly connected to Gratitude... If you cannot feel deep Gratitude... you won't be able to feel True Happiness for any length of time... " narcissist happiness " is fleeting like a shadow... its because... generally... the narcissist is shallow And self absorbed... so "normal outside happiness" bounces off them... When they start sorting out their own inner issues and start Healing.... then they can start to feel True Happiness and Gratitude.... in increments.... the more they Heal.... the more and longer Good increments they feel.... Without the sorting out their issues and Healing... they'll continually be like a pinball in a pinball machine.... bouncing around all over the place with themselves... and bouncing around looking for supplies... and bouncing around with their supplies.... Ultimately its exhausting for them... And exhausting for you...
Yeah mine hugged me so tight and long during one of our kid exchanges and I didn’t understand it . I’m like wth is this 😂😂😂 and my dumb self let him do it 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ and next thing you know my energy was off again I went from being super excited to depressed I was like ughh he took my energy lol
there was an episode of millionaire matchmaker where Patti labeled her client Mr. bigger better. because he would always be discontent. feeling like he is missing something by sticking with what he had
Interesting. This must be why he moved is so !any times over the years; because he needed that short spurt of happiness. The grass is always greener......
How do you know youre not the narcissist? At some point i feel like i cant decipher if its me or them. Because what the hell. Like i feel like its not me but the way they spin it and i am open to owning my faults i cant tell which end is which at this point ugh.
Strangest thing in your younger days, you could of walked out your relationship like ease I wonder why it's so hard at an older age you can't seem to break the toxicity and leave this person 🤔
Does their attention span get shorter with age? In other words, the older they get, the shorter time span or patience they have with supply and hunt for new. Is that how that goes?
I sacrificed my happiness for 2 1/2 years because I was pregnant during the whole relationship back to back pregnancies and I just wanted a 2 parent household but after having the second child I had to go 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
These people are motbwilling to get help!!! And you have to bail or you will be meserable i know it hurts you had some beautiful momements but mostbof the relationship in my case fights me calling police who want to live likw rhat!!!;i dont so as much as it hurts i ignore all her voice mails!!!:for my own sanity!!!!
I think, my happiness attracted my narc husband in the first place. He WANTED that. He sucked and sucked and sucked and sucked but nothing was ever enough. Insatiable. At some point he started envying me for it. And became resentful. I think he's at a point where he HATES me for it because it makes him feel like a failure.... booooohhhhh.... Sorry. NOT!
My narcissistic partner told me in an argument that im ugly and he can do way better than me, does this mean hes cheating? The argument was about pens, completely irrelevant to how i look.
I thought that he was depressed because of his divorce...nope, he was an endless pit of misery.
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@@tab6957 never ending pit of misery!
Happiness bores them. They thrive on chaos and drama
EXACTLY!!!😳😮🙄😤😡
They are used to being in a gloomy state in their family and communicating only with emotions of irritation and rejection.
One thousand percent true! 💯💯💯
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Facts
You can't make narcissists happy, because they don't know what happiness is! Deep inside they are always sad and resentful.
Facts......can have literally everything someone could pray for and still be miserable.....its sad
What’s wild is after they stop
Being happy with you, they blame you for their unhappiness🤦🏽♀️ no win situation
PERIOD POOH 💩 tht PART! 💯 What a hellish world spin on tht ...."I WASTED my time ENERGY, Patience, What's LEFT OF THE MIDDLE YOUTH OF GODS good grace has still blessed me to see 🙈 in myself cuz this person's definitely not 🚫 able to comprehend let alone fathom nor hear or listen👂🏾nor care to care about self growth"! Can't even comment to it or embrace positive changes damn SMH 🤦🏾♀️....I hate feeling like the complete 💯 fool in this case ugh....sry I'm really going thru it.... But extremely ALONE and terrified to file tht order form when it goes nodaha where on their part of lack in mental health requirements in order based on proof or however they seem to choose who is or isn't fit to hold them to their current past shenanigans.... Sry for rambling on but it just hit 🎯💯 sry again in advance 💋😞 conflicted and confused but I truly know what I NEED TO DO.... JST need more support in tht whole process....(Dnt•JM)*JST Love on me...ugh smh... *As I try 2 self heal as well as my kiddos**...thx for your all experiences an willingness to get on here an open up wit yalls trial's an Tribulations Thank you all to the deepest deserts part of my heart ❤️💋
the sad part is that once they find a better supply, you are not worth their time anymore but they will still show up now and then just to drag the dead relationship on and on and not really letting you heal and move on. Like a bad hoarder
yup, experiencing it now as we speak
I had to block and ignore his uncle coming to my house to hoover me🙄🙄
Exactly!!!
Not always some never come back 😃
@@KaylaHarmon-cp5bt true 😬😬💔I wish he did ...tho I know (I'm aware) that he doesn't love me ...
They wear us out
def happens
Sure do
The feeling of happiness isn’t constant and comes and goes. What we’re all after is peace of mind. Something a narc will never be able to have.
They DON'T EVEN KNOW TRULY WHAT HAPPINESS IS !!
You can't make them happy and you also can't make them love you. And can't make them change.
Yeap exactly they need that fix and once you give them that fix that start the abuse over again.
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Word of the day: Reciprocity
Because they can't be happy with themselves.
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I have no more fight left in me. This trauma bond is some of the worse pain I’ve ever felt. I won’t let him come back again this time im standing on my word. Changed my number deleted and my email act. Thank you for your words and support Lee. ❤
He says he's happy but in 23 years have NEVER seen him genuinely happy! 🤷♀️
Normal people are in it for a long time Narcissist are only in it for a Narc time.
This made me chuckle 🤭 😂😂
You do SOOO Much for them trying to make them "Happy" that they literally suck up your happiness until you are Both miserable. When you are completely depleted in EVERY aspect & at your lowest of lows & need just a little bit of encouragement & support from them...they will NOT be there for You!!! They won't even give you a second thought!!!
He only seemed and acted happy ... That's when I could tell his other supply was building him up.
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I witnessed this same thing in my soon ex husband, he was on cloud 9 when he was cheating at work
My whole life trying to make him happy never was enough always wanted more! Now I’m trying to make myself happy now! At least I understand now! I have peace and freedom! And therapy for the rest of my life! Thanks Lee💪😘
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We will never be enough for them. That's why we have love ourselves much more. I know I'm enough. He chose to chase a false reality. He can have it.
Yes. "Replacing". Everything is replaceable for a narcissist. A whole family unit/wife/life. I left after realizing exactly this, id never make him happy and i was dying. They dont want to fix things or try. They dont care about that, keeping a family together doesnt matter to them, youre the one who cares, youre the one whose heart bleeds endlessly trying to keep things mended. And when youre done grieving the idea that it will not "get better", you can finally free yourself. ❤
Exactly where I am at now
Been through this last year and it's the worst pain. Especially when you see everyone else around you happy as a family. But we should never feel ashamed and it is not our loss. The narcissist is the embarrassment and we can have way better than that ❤
It's up to each individual too make themselves happy & don't count on the Narc for that because you'll be disappointed every time thinking that u tried to make them happy😓
Here's a revelation...be responsible for your own happiness.
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You can't please unpleasable people.
They're not happy because for true happiness, you need to be in touch with your true feelings, wants and needs and learn to accept all of these even if you don't like it, and you need to find a balance between achieving more and appreciating what you have, and also a balance receiving stimulation from the outside world and working for it yourself. Constantly wanting to receive things from the world and other people, and not being honest with how you truly feel is a recipe for constant misery because that's simply not how our brains optimally work. Even though it may feel nice to receive happiness and joy and everything from others, understanding that that's not how you will ever feel content and happy is crucial - but that's not something that narcissists understand. I hope you're also progressing on your journey to understand this, Lee :) thank you for all that you do.
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So true. They are usually dealing with depression etc. from things that happened in child hood etc. They look to people for happiness that is temporary, because to have consistent happiness, they have to go to therapy to heal. Thanks for this message.
Lesson freaking learned
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@@MentalHealnessthank you lee! Today has been kinda depressing but I know you go though that too. You pray for me ill pray for you. No fun being unhappy
You are worth a lot. You can do everything that person is asking for but no matter what the feeling wears off.
Bless you bro, for everything that you do.
In general, trying to "make someone else happy" is a losing game. Our happiness is our own responsibility. The more you do for someone the less they tend to respect you and the more they take it for granted, narcissist or not. Gifts & favors are only special if they're rare/occasional. Nobody will know your worth if you don't.
The only time they are happy when they make you feel bad putting you down arguing with you ghosting you or talking bad to you to other people or someone pumping them up with compliments other than that, you’re nothing to them and onto the next
U so right. They will never be happy. So sad.
Hd Tudor admitted that your endless goodness and kindness becomes to a narcissist like eating a once favourite flavour EVERYDAY until the novelty wears off and you need a change. He also says it's like you were a great TV then as you went on the bink it was too much trouble to repair or as Rupert Holmes said in the pinacalada song....you are now A WORN OUT recording of a once favourite song. My viewpoint of potential toxic people is to tell them up front to SHAPE UP OR SHIP OUT
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No more im tapped out we get sickkkk
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You are so right. I gave everything..gross amounts...and i did not have even 0.001% safety, loyalty or security. I cant believe i stayed so long and thought i loved him. Hes not the one with issues, i obviously am!
Thank you, Mr. Hammock. Your perspectives have a positive impact , helping me further in recognizing narc dynamics personally and professionally as a professional counselor working w my clients. Bravo.
The only thing that ever makes him truly happy is my misery.
Preach !
That's the God's honest truth!
I love how you give us the raw truth….my mom used to say sometimes the truth hurts.
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If you are willing to sacrifice yourself for a chance at making this person happy.. you need counseling. You need something too. You need love back you deserve reciprocation.
Can’t even begin to describe how invaluable your channel/videos are to me!!!! THANK YOU!
It’s so good that you are so self aware wow
Whatever happiness they get from you there is an expiration date
Sometimes the truth hurts, but you still need to hear it! I found nothing you said hurtful nor personal, I been at this far too long and have already earned my PHD in 🐂 💩
Little short bursts of happiness
The happiness does not cultivate from within...
This guy puts it into perspective!
Thank you so much for making this video and for creating this informative and helpful channel. I just stumbled on your channel after a intense short relationship with a narcissist who suddenly out of nowhere dumped me in the most cruel and evil way after promising me the world. He told me he changed his mind and I wasn't what he wanted anymore. Your video is helping me to understand it wasn't me and he was the problem, thank you again.
It’s not the happiness it’s the constant attacks on you it wears you down and makes you unhappy.
This is truth! Thank you for putting it so succinctly ❤️
you’re welcome
Thanks for the relatable insight.
Thank you Lee
💯….”long period of time” a Narc is happy BEGINS with a :
“- “ !!!!
( NEGATIVE!!!) a deficit!!!
Make YOURSELVES happy!
LOVE YOURSELVES!
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That's why the narcissist in my life told me that at 50 years old, The longest relationship he's ever had in his whole life is 3 or 4 years. That's scary!!and I did know that was a red flag. I just chose to ignore it. And how long did we last? You ask?4 years.😂😂😂
Thank you so much. Hit the nail on the head.
Watching Lee is like watching one of my favorite shows he helped me understand what I been through and how to deal with my narc a** sister and BD these people are truly sick and some never get help they switch victims
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He’s already moved on to the new supply.. have you remind myself he’s no different and can’t change. Never can be truly happy😢
Thank you for all you do Lee 🙏🏽
you’re welcome
I have spent over $1M on my wife.
A beautiful engagement ring worth 30 grand, Trips around the world, luxury cars, a home, paid off her college debt, designer bags and shoes, jewelry..on and on..
She is as unhappy as ever. It’s always something more. Her treatment towards me is worse and worse.
She cheated this year with a criminal who is currently in jail.
I'm sorry you're going through this... They can do anything and everything to us but until we're ready to leave we won't. It's been ten years for me and I'm finally ready to go. Good luck and God Bless.
That's so sad smh
I'm so sorry I can't even imagine you sound like an amazing guy. Keep your wallet closed for a while❤
😢😢😢😔😔😔😔😔
She is bored with you because you support her financially. The more you give to her, the worse she will treat you. Just move on
After spending many years on trying to understand why my (now ex.)husband was so angry and uncooperative in our relationship, I asked him a lot of times: ‘what makes you happy?’
‘… but don’t you feel happy when you walk the dog in the woods’ -> his answer: ‘sometimes’, and I when😮.
I think I’m happy 99% of the time, when I walk the dog.
He felt happy when I cooked dinner for him or if I did something else for him or others 😢
My body went crasy - the doctor kept wrapping it up in ‘Fibromyalgia’, today my body is worse but better if that makes any sense.
My mind is doing a lot better after leaving him, but my our daughter went on seeing him until this February. So we still have a lot of work to do- healing.
💯💯💯 I couldn’t keep him happy to save my life everything I did was for him and I told him one day “nothing I do is enough and I don’t make you happy so why are you with me?!” And his response would be “bc your my wife and I want to make my marriage work.” 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️😂😂😂
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This is so true.
Throughout your videos, I discovered that most of my narcissistic tendencies match my personality. I believe that most of the people who are watching your channel had or still have experience with narcissistic abuse. However, as a hopeless narcissist myself, I would love to see some videos on how to improve general satisfaction about life. Perhaps you could share what works for you.
stay empowered on your healing journey
Wish i knew all that 28 years ago !! Would change everything❤
Wonders shall never end
Even though he hurt me so much I still feel so sad for him not being able to be happy. Focusing on my own happiness now though
By narcissists try to be happy they tend to harm others in that pursuit
Lee you help so many tough love thank you❤
Idk people give you shit about hurting their feelings and that your videos are hurtful. Of course they are hurtful, I don’t like hearing this truth either but I’m very thankful for it! I appreciate it and it helps me not take it personally etc.
I feel if people are complaining they are getting hurt by your videos then maybe they shouldn’t watch them. No one is forcing people to become aware.
No one wants to really hear this but what would they rather live in a fantasy land and be naive to everything.
Stop giving him shit if you don’t like what he has to say don’t watch it! Take some responsibility for yourself.
I know it hurts, and it sucks and it’s a reality that we don’t wanna have to face .it’s okay to be a bit defensive and not want to hear it at first, and if you wanna continue not hearing the truth then that’s okay too but don’t give him shit for speaking Because he’s really helping a lot of people.
11yrs intense therapy after being involved with a sociopath and with Lee’s videos, I’ve never shown up this strong before .
I really appreciate getting an inside view on how life is for a narcissist.
I always felt these things might be going on for them and Lee has helped me trust my intuition and believe in myself.
I’m dyslexic and have auditory processing disorder, so it has been very easy for people to gaslight me, question my reality and think I’m not good enough .
That’s all changing now, therapy, learning positives of neuro diversity and with Lee wisdom, I’m boundaries and believing in myself.
Yeah, I might not always hear exactly what people say due to apd but I’ve picked up some other really great talents for reading people .
Thank you Lee and doing what you’re doing, I think it’s just hard for people to hear the truth especially the longer than being with that person. But like you say you don’t want to waste any more time.
This gets so dam serious
Ya know, it's fucking sad narcissists' interest in empaths has an expiry date. We (empaths) are just trying to do our best while swimming against impossible currents trying not to sink. It sucks. We're better off without the stress.
He kept telling me he is the best i will get while he was out there looking for better..they always project
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My narc is 57 and still thinks he will find his perfect person! Never satisfied with normal life. Smmfh.
Lee Hammock I just seen you on Episode called fatal attraction you are getting your acting on 💯💪🏿 I do recall you saying you wanted to get into acting.
I feel like my mom is constantly looking at me to make her happy. It kills me to say things that she is seeking because I feel like I'm feeding into the lie. She walks down to the mailbox (on a walker) and when she's on her way back I'm by the cars and asks me, "Did you miss me?" Response, "No."
That might seem mean, but she was gone for a couple months and that wasn't long enough to miss her.
I know it would be so easy to say, "Yes, I miss you."
He’s happy with his new supply until I see otherwise
They always come back and it's to see if you have crumbled. They are truly sick.
Yeah they want to destroy you… it’s a nice little ego boost!
@@allthingsjana7870for some not all I haven’t heard from mine in almost 3 years. 😊
They’re never happy, it’s an illusion.
He's not genuinely happy though and it might be evident by now, unless you've become indifferent, which is the ideal goal in these situations! ❤
They live on Drama fighting, chaos
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True Happiness is directly connected to Gratitude...
If you cannot feel deep Gratitude... you won't be able to feel True Happiness for any length of time...
" narcissist happiness " is fleeting like a shadow... its because... generally... the narcissist is shallow And self absorbed... so "normal outside happiness" bounces off them...
When they start sorting out their own inner issues and start Healing.... then they can start to feel True Happiness and Gratitude.... in increments.... the more they Heal.... the more and longer Good increments they feel....
Without the sorting out their issues and Healing... they'll continually be like a pinball in a pinball machine.... bouncing around all over the place with themselves... and bouncing around looking for supplies... and bouncing around with their supplies....
Ultimately its exhausting for them...
And exhausting for you...
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So true
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Your mind went to what’s next immediately
after 11-12 years he still locked up and I’m happy I’m free
I’m so good inspite of everything he tried to do to me he did enough to show me I’m too great for him
Yeah mine hugged me so tight and long during one of our kid exchanges and I didn’t understand it . I’m like wth is this 😂😂😂 and my dumb self let him do it 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ and next thing you know my energy was off again I went from being super excited to depressed I was like ughh he took my energy lol
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there was an episode of millionaire matchmaker where Patti labeled her client Mr. bigger better. because he would always be discontent. feeling like he is missing something by sticking with what he had
Interesting. This must be why he moved is so !any times over the years; because he needed that short spurt of happiness. The grass is always greener......
Never to return to that one
How do you know youre not the narcissist? At some point i feel like i cant decipher if its me or them. Because what the hell. Like i feel like its not me but the way they spin it and i am open to owning my faults i cant tell which end is which at this point ugh.
Symptoms of accepting blame shifting.
They wear themselves out 😂
Happiness is like a drug they are will to sacrifice you to get it
Strangest thing in your younger days, you could of walked out your relationship like ease I wonder why it's so hard at an older age you can't seem to break the toxicity and leave this person 🤔
It has nothing to do with you instead of working on it they get rid of it in pursuit of that feeling
Yup you can't make them happy or anyone happy on their case they need constant attention!!!: your not responsible for anybody's happiness!!!
Does their attention span get shorter with age? In other words, the older they get, the shorter time span or patience they have with supply and hunt for new. Is that how that goes?
it depends on a lot of factors
Lee can you do a video on why some narcissists put you down or make fun of you in front of other people like their family
i can
@@MentalHealness thank you!!! 🙏
I sacrificed my happiness for 2 1/2 years because I was pregnant during the whole relationship back to back pregnancies and I just wanted a 2 parent household but after having the second child I had to go 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
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These people are motbwilling to get help!!! And you have to bail or you will be meserable i know it hurts you had some beautiful momements but mostbof the relationship in my case fights me calling police who want to live likw rhat!!!;i dont so as much as it hurts i ignore all her voice mails!!!:for my own sanity!!!!
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I think, my happiness attracted my narc husband in the first place. He WANTED that. He sucked and sucked and sucked and sucked but nothing was ever enough. Insatiable. At some point he started envying me for it. And became resentful. I think he's at a point where he HATES me for it because it makes him feel like a failure.... booooohhhhh.... Sorry. NOT!
My narcissistic partner told me in an argument that im ugly and he can do way better than me, does this mean hes cheating? The argument was about pens, completely irrelevant to how i look.
Dont waste your time !! M
He went for a new supply that is married 😮 😅
Interesting
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I need a 101 badd @@MentalHealness
@@MentalHealness very interesting Lee but great job on explaining it my good friend throw a skit with this one. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Do not pour water into a cup with a hole in it
Leeee 101 me plzz im like wth with 3 kids 3,2,1 he left me pregnant with the 3rd well reversed disguarded me