SYMPTOMS OF BEING MOTHERLESS (WHEN YOU ACTUALLY HAVE A MOTHER/PARENT)
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- Опубліковано 14 лип 2023
- This video describes the what it can feel like for us (signs and symptoms) when we are motherless, fatherless, parentless....when we actually have/had parents.
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I used to hate mothers day. It made me feel so defective because everyone would be going on about how much they love their mother, and I didn't. I finally understand that I never had a mother. I had parental figures, but no parents.
Over 90% of the "support" turned out to be a dagger.
I'm also one of these children. My mother is still alive (92), but HATES me. She's a covert narcissist, and violent now. Very scary! Dangerous, honestly. Thank you for this, and all you do, you are truly a light!
It wasn't until I became a mother myself I realised the truth about my mother, and how lacking she was in basic motherly love. For me it was impossible not to love my children wholeheartedly, show them and tell them I love them, and always put them first. My mother never put her arms around me, never told me she loved me, never made me feel safe and secure. She seemed so wrapped up in herself all the time there was nothing to give to her kids. We were nothing but an inconvenience to her, and she let us know this constantly. I had to fend for myself a lot of the time. People say you don't miss what you never had, but that doesn't apply when it's your mother. I've never had a successful relationship and am now alone. My sisters are in happy marriages but I think it affected me the most being the eldest. I had no role model, but at least they had me
My mom was terrible. She didn't teach us basic hygiene or even give us what we needed to take care of ourselves. What we learned, we got off tv or each other as sisters. She put roadblocks up and laughed at us when we failed. She was just a bully.
I feel guilty sometimes complaining about my parents knowing others have it much worse but having a really cold, nasty mom who has zero empathy is really tough sometimes..it really does feel like I don’t have a mom at all
I needed this today. Thank you. My Mum told me why I was bedridden “it’s your mistake, you moved abroad”. I can walk again now after pushing myself for 2.5 yrs. She never called me during my illness, and I realized now I don’t need her anymore. She will never change- I learned that after 50 yrs.
Yep, no safety. Never had a mentor. I am an only child and dealt with a lot of abuse. Left when I was 17. I worked hard and was able to break that cycle of abuse!
My mother would always tell everyone else she would do anything for her children. But being her child, it felt like a different story… she loves us so much… If we do what she says.
If you're reading this... you're worth it. You deserve good things. Keep moving forward. :)
The symptoms of being motherless are:
A couple of years ago I started realizing how big of an impact all of this wrong and unsane upbringing had & still has on my (due to it pretty shuttered) life.
I’m so happy you spoke about loneliness. I always felt like I was surrounded by people but never belonged to anyone, meaning I was never anyone’s priority, despite them loving me.
I've been coming to terms with this lately. My mom wasn't terribly by any means, and she really tried her best with what she had, but she was always working, and she wasn't healed from her own emotional trauma and didn't know how to genuinely be a rock or supportive. Anything bad thag happened to me, she would go on how she had it worse, anything good, she was jealous and sighed about how she wished good things would happen to her.
Psalm 27:10
Thank you Kim.I'm am 75 years old, and I can assure you, the pain and dysfunction never goes away. I am always a stranger to others and myself. Years of therapy did help but only in understanding the source of it all. I was diagnosed with cptsd by the V.A. Served in Vietnam which was a nightmare, but compared to my mother who was a "sex worker", it was a walk in the park. I,m taking so much to the grave.
Thank you Kim. I am also parentless even though both of my parents are still alive. I haven’t seen or spoken to my father in 25 years and I haven’t seen or spoken to my mother in 15 years. I went to therapy for many years, but I’m still broken. I’m all alone. I trust no one. I’ve spent my entire life feeling unsafe. Never married. I never became a parent. My therapist diagnosed me with CPTSD. This video described me to a T.
I’ve long referred to myself as a motherless child. My egg donor died in 2016 and I’m more at peace day to day.
I have been the same....and now both are deceased. I also have a brother and sister who hardly talk to me and I have no children. Thank you for doing this talk.!!
My mother was never safe/unsafe, she was always mean and horrible. I don't have a love/hate relationship with her, it is hate/hate. I am glad she finally died, lived to be 90! I have often wondered what my life would have been, if I had had a loving mother. She started me off with ruining my life, and then I did the rest. Thanks, Mom.