SIGNS: YOUR INNER CHILD IS MAKING ALL THE DECISIONS. | DR. KIM SAGE
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A lot of ppl have a child driving the bus. Hence the importance of grace and kindness.
You can often see it pretty clearly too.
This is so true
Being triggered as an adult from past childhood trauma is so distressing.
The myth that the only way to heal is through therapy is repeated so often these days that I feel you're doing an important public service by mentioning other things in the same breath like books and healthy relationships. THANK YOU for that! I've recently learned that I'm not alone in having been *set back* in my healing by "blank slate" therapists whose lack of expression or verbal feedback echoed the extreme emotional neglect of my childhood. That left me feeling judged and even more inherently flawed and unhelpable. In contrast, books, articles, and the game changing UA-cam content created by you and other therapists like Patrick Teahan, Dr. Ingrid Clayton, Dr. Ramani, Jay Reid, etc. who share your stories and knowledge of psychology so generously has supercharged my healing. ❤ *THANK YOU!* ❤
I think the defining factor is professional vs self therapy.
Therapy is needed. What you're doing is therapy. It just isn't with someone one on one that you paid for.
@@vivianworden2706 YESSSS!!!! Never found a therapist - That understood or even tried to understand me -- and I am 56
I personally think therapy is not for everyone. I think it's also not for me which is why, I think, I've never actively sought it. Something always keeps me from doing so. Becoming aware is very healing. Allowing yourself to be aware of the truth. Obsessive and reoccuring thoughts, resurfacing trauma begs to be processed and you have to allow yourself to go through it and see it all for what it was. Super scary. It might shake you to the ground. I think, especially for people with very avoidant attachment patterns, it's more helpful to heal alone. UA-cam is great for that and reading. Journalling, just sitting, meditating, letting thoughts rush through you. You are not thr thoughts that run through your mind. I love that you mention healthy relationships. That's what helped me the most. They made it even possible to heal in the first place.
@@mandarinadreux9572 I define therapy actions we take to heal. It's doesn't have to be with a licensed therapist. Watching this video is therapy IMHO
@@vivianworden2706 you're right. I should clarify, I mean "classic" therapy as in getting referred to a psychologist and physically going there once a week or so
This video spoke to me so much. I still walk around thinking the other shoe is going to drop. I remind myself continually that I’ve overcome all of the challenges of the past, leaving an abusive marriage, being homeless as a result, illness & death of my mother, cancer etc. and that shows that from my track record that I will overcome whatever will come. That it’s okay to want things, like things & have attachments.
I thought I was schizophrenic because I always thought I was two people because of my inner child😢 it's stayed with me all my life! I have a double barrel name " Anna Marie" I never liked the name Anna, so in my head shes the PTSD child that won't let me live.
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Kim, my father was an alcoholic and non involved with me. I stayed in my room a lot too. Born in 1956, my Beatle records were life saving. I retreated to my own world. Basically I resonate with everything you’re talking about. Ive healed a lot of things thankfully but also notice some are still inside. It wasn’t until a little over a decade ago I met a man and fell in love, truly, at 56 years of age. He saw the real me and broke down my walls. It was uncomfortable being so vulnerable but was so healing! He passed away way too soon but am so grateful I had the experience of knowing him. 😊
Thank you for sharing that. It is powerful and beautiful and gives me hope.
How did he pass?
@@Lon3Starr multiple myeloma
@@cindychurch335 smh damn… okay.
I relate to ALL of this. Feel like I’m stuck mentally as a six year old. I have no idea how to be a real adult. I’m 55 and wasting my life away. 😢
Thank you, Kim. I'm 50, but I see the world through the eyes of an 8 year old. I alternate between flight and fawn, push - pull, anxious - avoidant.
I relate to every one of these. However, the anxiety one hits deep. Constantly feeling like everything is going to blow up in my face or waiting for the other shoe to drop. Thank you for helping us heal and becoming aware of our wounds 🩷
Spent a lifetime blaming myself and being a caretaker for several women which never, ever worked! Your statement “ I’m only alright if you’re alright” hit the mark. You are a treasure Kim.
Thank you (I say that often here!)! One of the biggest realizations I've experienced this year is how I have lived my life through my wounded child. It hits hard.
Sending you a hug in kinship.
The whole "grow up" comment: I think it's when we are putting up boundaries and trying to have a healthy relationship, it's their way of lashing out and trying to bring us back to heel, that is, in their mind we're always at the age at which they could last control us. So they treat us like a child, because to them we're still vulnerable children. (Like how my mom only tells stories of me when I was 5.)
This is interesting and gives me something to think about!
Very similar. My mother continuously mentioned she was much more mature as a child than I was. It always stung. As an adult I decided to tell her the comment hurt and asked her not to continue saying it. Her response was to continue saying it, but preluding it with “I know you don’t like hearing this,but…”. Now that I’m much older, I review both of Our lives and see she was completely inaccurate about her own maturity. She’s always been the child in our relationship.
@@victorkroud3642you could now say, yes I hear you and I now know that I’m the more mature adult!!
@victor, I'm not trying to tell you how to live your life, I just wanted to let you know that nobody has a right to your time or attention, not even in exchange for pushing you out of a vagina. I tried to talk to my mom about her hurtful behavior; when nothing changed, I stopped talking to her completely and it was the best decision I ever made. You don't deserve the treatment she gives you, and you are justified in protecting yourself in whichever way you see fit.
What about feeling safer failing, living in a mess, alone, on disability, with chronic health issues, no life achievements to mention, feeling ashamed but also resistant to being well. Resonated very much with 'I'm only ok when you're ok' bless my Mum. And yes Menopause is a whole new experience!
I have fear in meeting new people- I tend to be alone,
I have spent so much alone time in my bedroom wow this is so me I don't know how to get out of this I've stayed alone for so long I can't get out of this Thank you for these videos
A dog saved my life.
This video didn't need to be any shorter ❤️
Also, there is SO MUCH AUTHENTIC INSIGHT here! ❤it’s wonderfully compassionate! Thank you for all of your genuine kindness and vulnerability ❤🙏
This video just opens my eyes to my entire life and how much suffering my inner child endured. So much pain in my life was the pain of this child in adult life situations. I did have enough awareness to be a better parent than I had but like you, it was only when I finally dealt with the relationship with my mother and no longer let her disrespect me that I began to heal. That also fractured the relationship because she refuses to deal with the authentic me and so I have gotten relief. But my life still feels unreal to me and I don’t think I yet have a totally integrated self. Not sure this will ever happen as I am 62.
I didn’t think about waiting for the other shoe to drop being a trauma response. I think that goes back the constant financial instability we faced. It was feast or famine in our house and my parents’ own inner children were driving their lives. Saving during good times and wasn’t a thing they did.
My fear is if I express my emotions that I'll be judged. Being vulnerable is extremely difficult for me. This is coupled with also being rejected. Therfore, that's why I have no friends. So, I'm left feeling empty and unfulfilled. You never speak about Anedonia. That is a subject that I believe is a derivative of severe emotional neglect. I love my children and grandchildren immensely. However, I can feel all alone when visiting them. That's where the Anedonia hits me the hardest. Bottom line is that Im living a life in survival mode. Or, experiencing my life in a choice (not mine) of quiet desperation. I truly hate my life the way it is now. You can gain awareness, however- the remnants of being raised by a Narcissistic mother and a Alcoholic father, my life as I no it, will truly never be experienced as joyful and fullfilling. That's how I see it! Thanks so much for your video.
I literally felt like you were reading my brain…I am shaking at everything you said, each new point you made had me feeling intensely uncomfortable.
I’m old now, and have spent my life in a state of pure emotional exhaustion, never feeling normal or worthy or pretty or interesting, just keeping everyone smiling and liking me, being acceptable to so many different personalities, acting like I deeply cared…I’m immaculate in all my surroundings..everything has to be acceptable to others, my life looks pretty perfect.
No one knows this, and probably never will. I’m so grateful to you for just letting me know that there are others out there that feel like I do..I never knew. Thank you.
The not speaking shutdown with anger is definitely a thing with me. To make matters worse, the whole “you’re giving me the silent treatment” response also plays into it. I worked in a call center and had it happen there, too. Like my brain just froze. I was very embarrassed and a coworker literally grabbed the phone from my hand and finished the call.
For relationships that matter, eventually I will figure it out and speak, but it is still super hard. Silence is not me trying to manipulate most of the time. It is me freezing or figuring how to voice feelings I was never allowed to articulate as a child and have had to figure out and refine as adult.
No human being on the planet should ever have to feel that - the freeze and shutdown … lack of language to describe usually the depth of injury. It’s… yeah. It’s hard. Thank you for mentioning it in this list. It is good to know I am not alone. ❤️
You described it perfectly.
Thank you so much, Kim! And please don't feel like you're cringy... you're not...not to me anyway. And I say "like" a lot too so don't feel bad. ❤
Thank you, I was born in 1966
I endured generational childhood incest and I sought out professional help. This caused other family members to collectively hate me. I am getting better ❤❤❤🤗
Gosh. 40 years of living this way I went back into therapy because I was considering being a therapist and didn’t want to be a hypocrite or damaging therapist. It has opened up so much that I wish I didn’t have to face, and at the end of the day isn’t anyone’s fault, it’s just they didn’t know better.
This video came at a good time. I'm 28 years old, married, and have two kids. This past weekend it hit me that I feel like I'm a 5 year old playing house.
Everything you say resonates with me. The way you describe you emotions and life experience is exactly what I experienced and experience today. I really appreciate your rawness. It helps with my healing process.
I am 22 and I'm so happy that I found your channel and I'm able to heal my wounds. I think you are an incredible mom, not only to your kids but spiritual mom to guide so many people of all the ages , so we can heal part of us and when the right time comes to be better parents .❤
You are helping so many. I have been the therapist for parents since I was in kindergarten. Thank you… I’m realizing that not just my dad but my mom is a narcissist. I’m a few years clean from opiates and finally don’t feel so broken. I’m at a point where I can be vulnerable and set boundaries but setting them with my mom physically makes me sick…. I hope I can get there.
Something I haven't heard you touch on in your excellent videos yet is the problem of consequences, the real productivity and creativity losses that we suffer when our spouses or we are maimed by abusive, neglectful, poor parenting, though you do address these issues implicitly. Everything in our lives is less: we are less effective in personal relationships, our work, parenting, and every aspect of our lives. The cost is overwhelmingly tragic and affects every aspect of our society.
It was helpful! Thank you. I'm 59 and there are still times when I feel as if I'm stuck at being 16. Is not a good feeling because when it creeps back in is when the doubts, frustrations and anger of how I have let other people run and use my life. Now I know what it is thanks to you. Annoth
Thank you, for taking your pain & adversity become greater for it making a difference. I feel your pain & rejoice in your Triumph in your journey of life. You make a difference ,You Matter❤
Three minutes in and wow, thank you. Your videos can be painful to hear, yet they are gifts because you are acknowledging and helping us to lift or at least ease the burden of being a wounded. Thank you for your bravery.
This makes 100% sense now. Welcome to living an adaptation of somebody else in my own body. 😵💫🥴🤦🏼♂️🤦🏼♂️
Look up Janina Fisher's ideas about blending and unblending. It's very helpful.
My inner child is definitely calling the shots. I related to everything you said. Check - bad marriage choices, check - childlike beliefs that crumbled in adult situations, check - unable to access anger/massive conflict avoidance, to my detriment. Sigh. Now to do the work of healing,... it's a LOT.
I'm stuck in my parents fighting over child support.. I'm terrified my needs won't be met. Panic attacks for years to even open bills or checking my bank account is terrifying. And the funny thing is, I'm blessed. I'm terrified of being homeless
All I can say is, “You must’ve been peeking into my life and living my reality!”😂.
No, Really….I am Sooooo Super Grateful for your content. It is bringing me so much Peace in knowing and accepting myself. It is also indirectly, empowering me to feel more confident as I understand myself and can voice it.
Thank You… Thank You…. Thank You!!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
You're good at putting your feelings into words in a way that I haven't always been able to for myself. It's very helpful, since I can relate to so much of what you talk about, when sifting through the ashes of my past. One big difference between you and I is my self-sabotaging / fear of success behaviors.
Sidenote: I can assure you that you are the only person who sees Dr. Kim as cringey at times.
So many things in my life make so much sense now. Thank you for your generosity of spirit to share your experience and knowledge.
I relate to allll of these things. Sigh. I did the same thing - I chose to stay home with the kids so I could be there for them after having a very lonely childhood (because I wanted to be there for my kids) and I tried my best to be a conscious parent and then my relationship with my husband blew up in my face and everything went down hill. I’ve spent so many years trying to analyze and figure out things and only recently does it feel like I’m starting to understand better what has been going on - that all of my choices were from that wounded inner child.
ur very graceful and not cringey to the viewer if that helps lol!
Oooooph, the 'grow up' still stings. Along with 'get over it', 'who cares' and 'does it matter'. Everything in this video is spot on. I've gone through life waiting for and just trying hard to delay my inevitable downfall, regardless of what I've achieved or overcome along the way, or in the moment, never enough.. Also a '68 baby, had a bedroom with blue walls rather than carpet but still have all those same records, can't listen to some of them now but others stop me in my tracks if I hear them on the radio. This has been such a brilliant video, thank you.
Thanks so much for your videos. I’m 72 just realizing I’m autistic and lived through a tough time period for young adults. You have really helped me. Thank you again. 😊
OMG 22:20 !! the way u describe the issue of fear of abandonment was just spot on!!!!
This constant feeling of things are not gonna stay the way they are and esp like you said - abandoned myself.
Having abandoned the life I longed for !
This hit hard. It was tthe most perfect description of how i feel since at least 30 years. 💔
I just recalled a really painful memory from my 2nd marriage. My husband came home and I had felt great all day. I had the dinner on, a dessert made and the house was clean. His response was "Wow you're doing good TODAY!!" I felt the wind come right out of my sail 😢 I stormed upstairs and slammed the door. Very demoralizing. I'm feeling much better since meditating and practicing A LOT of self love everyday though. Your videos always help 🤗🤗🤗
These are all true for me. Still, it’s hard for me to fully grasp that my parents were unsafe emotionally, even after being in therapy for some time now.
Dear Kim!!
This video you made is just another jewel!! I really do appreciate all your work!
It gives me so much insight and helps me to understand my own often weird behaviours with which sadly I've hurt my ones very often!
From around 19:00 where you talk about your teens I felt like that's me, that's me!!
It feels so validating that it's not actually me but it was the programming in me.
I wish I could go back to mum (we live in different continents) and talk to her openly and help her in a way as well to see where her own wounds are and thus hurt me too
But I know she wouldn't listen and maybe tell me again - you were not thankful and you never had enough.
This video has been immensely helpful. I’m grateful to understand my inner child better-and I see her feeling safer. It’s so inspiring to hear your journey. I feel like we’re hiking the same trail and I can always look up to see that it’s safe to keep going because this safe, healing, loving person is further ahead and hasn’t gotten lost, hurt, etc.
You always help me keep going. 🎉
I love that you are not only a psychologist but that you've lived through it. It makes it feel much less belittling when hearing it from someone who understands first hand and is trained in this work. Thanks for making videos
I relate to so many of these especially not trusting others and avoiding conflict.
Fwiw, every time I watch a video by a therapist who lets themself be real (aka, in many of our own minds about ourselves, cringey), it helps me remember no one is perfect and I’m not bad or lesser for being real and human myself, rather than some image of perfection. Thank you for being real with us. It helps more than you might know. 💚
Being an Aries sun I acted pretty childish. But now healed, my Pisces stellium has taught me wisdom. And I act accordingly. Previous way of life has grown up.
Is that a photo of you as a child? So adorable. Sorry you and all of us had rough childhoods. My mother was borderline ~~ she was frightening. There were egg shells everywhere. Thank you for doing these videos.
Me too!
Wow! I feel like I'm messing up with my son, and there's only one of him, but he is very persistent, & very adventurous. I could not imagine attempting to keep four kids alive, completely on my own!
The first one is supposed to be easier so we are brave enough to have more, my toddler son didn't read that memo 😂😂
Beautiful wallpaper and talk as usual, Dr. Sage 😊
Thank you so much!! I felt all of this through and through!! I was crying by the end, especially since my own daughter’s 18th birthday is next week and I always give her a special cupcake. Thank you again. ❤
Wounded parts always seeking healing...Inner child choosing (or the adult choosing)...How the wound shows up in our lives...Feeling that something is wrong with us (because of constant criticism and feeling responsible for others happiness, resulting in self-doubt)...(boundaries, partner choice, overlooking abuse, second guessing etc)...Believe we are worthy of self- care and self-direction...Results in people pleasing and compulsive care -giving (BINGO!)...believing that by fixing others we are fixing ourselves or fixing others will make things right...or bad things will happen...Feeling guilty for setting boundaries...Driven to be perfectionist, over achiever for safety and "to make things right"...Self -criticism (echoes from the past, not your real voice)...Unwilling to feel emotions...JOURNEY!... can result in us being "very emotional" due to suppression of common emotions in common circumstances, no emotional support...Body shame, intimacy, closeness to selves/others...women feeling uncomfortable with being noticed (see Barbie movie)...distrust (my parents fought a lot, I felt unsafe)...avoid conflict bc we might lose love...Frosting...Fear of abandonment (big one with me). *Thank you Dr Kim! Almost all of these resonate with me. It helps me to be supportive of myself FIRST. I've learned that I only have anxiety now when I abandon myself, or when I "should" on myself. No shoulding on yourself!
I'd rather not die knowing I still not have this inner child. But it's only since I started understanding the narsissist and empath terms and what they represented. I need to disappear to continue learning but I'm can't do it where I presently find myself living. I still feel the need to run and I don't know how to stop Your comment about young girls changing is very true. Very uncomfortable feeling and not really knowing why. I can remember at 14 years old I overheard an old neighbor guy saying I was built like a brick shit house. Still not sure what that means but thinking it had something to do with my body. Don't need to know from anyone.
I was so like that it's like nothing sunk in I was told that I was stupid and made to look stupid and it was all my fault and that stayed in my head I so wanted my kids to have a better life than me I felt like I have cried all my life and now being over weight I was so skinny and being slim takes me back to that skinny unfed kid I only trust myself crying because of being hungry and so hurt
Wow, you're the first person, other than myself, that has openly talked about the whole "creepy, sexual predator energy" a young developing girl feels as a result of men suddenly looking at her newly changing body. The rest of this video was so informative. Bless you & thank you.
I'm 43 and Mom's 74. I've been going through the healing journey for about 4 years after getting sober. Ma and I share the house and we're it. So I share what I uncover and am doing in hopes she can come to some forms of peaceful living. Don't ya know she said I'm growing up with you. It was such a profound experience. WOKE me right up to my entire life I've been dealing with ugh in everyone who has been the Adult in my upbringing. It's no wonder I turned to alcohol and some drugs for a short time. The alcohol was 16 years after the drugs. It was so accessible. Hugs to you and whatever you choose to spread it to 💚 💛 💜
You're so amazing at these videos. :) Thank you for the information. I still struggle with my dissociative alters sometimes when not honoring my energy or my chosen purpose. My love is helpful at reminding me not to people please and to do things I want to do instead of just talking about them. That's what happens after taking almost 38 years to not depend on my mom for validation. After all, if I depend on that, I'll be stuck on her property believing what I don't believe and doing what blocks me from healing from C-PTSD/dissociative disorders. Thanks for all the videos you've done over the years. You've been helpful on my self-discovery and self-expression journey. Two things I didn't have a chance to do in childhood around her.
We basically lived the same LIFE - well not exactly but - Born in 67 -- I Wish you would do a video on CPTSD / Menopause -- One thing you said about "Being Called A Cry Baby" DING but too it was "Tonya, Your too emotional." or "Grow a thick skin" -- ETC Thankss I so enjoy your videos they are so helpful --Also I have a HUGE Fear of Abandonment & Change
This really hit home, thank you for posting this.
LOVE the wallpaper!!
I have had issues with how I handled my children (2 girls)…. I was so afraid I would say things my mother said to me that were hurtful, I often said nothing because I didn’t know what to say…. I am learning so much about the way I was raised and how it has made me struggle with certain things.
The way Dr. Sage just described me for the last 30 minutes felt very personal… No but seriously just offering this content for free is a blessing fir so many people like me who are wondering why they keep repeating the same things again and again and how can I change this part about me who feels that cannot and will never be loved. Thank you Dr. Sage. I think that just bringing up the subject open a path for people to seek for guidance and healing. We deserve it.❤
I relate to you so much! Thank you for putting out this great content! ❤️
Good stuff. Provided some clarity for me!
I always feel like something's my fault or fear of getting in trouble- even w/my adult sons who out of the blue don't talk to me- they live far and they haven't spoken to their dad in a decade but to happen to me ? was wow- I am sad everyday - I gave them so much- and was a compulsive care-taker. So heart breaking.
This really spoke to me. Thank you!
Not to flatter but you’re a hero for surviving the crap your mom fed you and handling custody of four children and then coming out the other side being a healthy mom.
I am so thankful for all the wisdom and experience you have been sharing
This video really hit home. You validated so many of the things I have felt for years and years. In particular, the shame women are made to feel of our bodies and adolescence is all too familiar and something that too often gets swept under the rug - by ourselves and our culture. Thank you for shedding a light on these very important topics.
Thank you so much for this video. Like so many others I can relate 100%. I am wondering whether you could make a video on the intimacy issue you mentioned, I've never heard this before but it makes SO much sense. Would love to hear more about this.
This video was extremely relatable and I'd really appreciate it if you could walk us through how to heal and overcome each one of these habits. Thank you so much for this.
The song "Perfect" by Alanis Morissette was the beginning of my journey of realizing things. I feel like back then, we didn't have very good descriptors for our situations, but we knew things weren't quite right.
My mom could bawl her eyes out at "Dancing With Wolves", but God forbid I have any emotion about anything 😢
L😍VE that wallpaper!!!!
Absolutely unbelievable,thank you.
Thank you from bottom of my heart ❤
i’m glad this wasn’t a short video, so helpful Dr. Kim thank you :)
Thanks Dr Kim, this just summed up my entire life.
Incredibly helpful, you just described my life! Many thanks
When you mentioned that you were always told you were too sensitive etc, that made me think of all the times my mum would tell me I was an invalid, etc. She would ask me to do something for her and if I said no she would say "but you're going to do anyways because you love me" and I would have no choice but to do it. It wasn't the same in return, I would be told no if I needed her to do something for me or she would say "you're not an invalid you can do it yourself." I also spent a lot of time alone in my bedroom crying to music or shows. I couldn't tell her, or anyone, anything because she would tell everyone about my life or it would get back to her in some way.
i needed this i so needed this thank you so much
Hmmm....so much for me to think about and take notes on. THANK YOU as always!
Wow this was such an eye opener, been walking around and resonating with all the points mentioned
Thank you for sharing this this makes so much sense and pin points many areas in my life . Gave me clarity. Feels like I've been going in circles but accomplished in life.
SO VERY RELATABLE - & I used to listen to Stevie and other music from same era, feel my feels, scour the album covers/sleeves for hours!!! Thank you!
Thank you for your beautiful work & help with so many complex struggles! Also, I think that you are an amazing mom!❤
Thank you so much for this video. It resonated in so many ways and really opened my eyes.
WOW! So much great info. I just found your channel and I'm so glad I did. You have a real gift for explaining these super complex issues in understandable ways that I don't find in most people. THANK YOU! for sharing so much of your life. AND as someone who was born in 1967, may I just say, our generation is the BEST generation. Like totally, to the max. haha Thanks again for all you do. Can't wait to watch more of your vids.
Thank you for your vulnerability and authenticity.
You are making a difference💕
Thank you so much for these insights. I was raised in a broken home and had a lot of instability growing up. But I had never thought of myself as being effected by past trauma. Your videos are helping me see a new dimension of myself and how I need to heal. Thank you!
I am new to your channel. The first video that showed up was "CPTSD andIsolation". It was very timely, and I really appreciated your explanation and so many of the comments, as well.
And it's so touching to read everyone's comments. We are in the same boat and I wonder how small is the percentage of securely attached and non cptsd people...I think it's a small number and believe this is the time to look at and heal all this 🤍 from survival to thriving ✨
Thank you for this and pointing out parents affecting deeply what we’re/ I’m feeling and taking some time to notice if I’m being fully patient with my own feelings and physical health.
I'm so happy I've just come across your UA-cam I'm from Dublin Ireland had a traumatic childhood a stepfather I'm 59 now 2 yrs in healing not there as yet nearly though,I've learned to love myself thankgod. I absolutely love your wallpaper too❤
I identify very much with your experiences. I too believe my parents were Disorganized attachment styles. I’ve never married, and was extremely jilted at 22 losing my first deep love which took me to depths of sorrow and depression. That’s when my alcoholism started.
You are soo incredibly sweet and honest! You are just beautiful. Thank you 🙏❤️