Straight Talk: Should You Share Past Relationships? || STEVE HARVEY
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- Опубліковано 7 лют 2019
- If you separate from your partner and get back together, how much should you share about any relationship in between? Steve’s Women Vs. Men Straight Talk panel takes it on.
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After watching this clip I was reminded of the saying, "Every Man Wants to be First and Every Woman Wants to be Last".
OOOOOOOHHHH I love that one!!!
Never heard of it but that quote is soooo true!!!
Shelli Kalton
Sweet!!
I get so annoyed when I hear that😂
I met a guy who wanted to be my first…. He thought I was a virgin but he just had a baby and wife he tried to hide… dude knew me for 2 weeks and was lying but the red flags went off… crazy how he was going real hard, rushing and he was married with children by other women and he’s trying to date because his wife was dating and he’s like I wanna date too! Hell you looking at me for 😐🤔
You know you have been watching Steve for a while when you already know the rule of three 😂👌🏼
osama darras I thought the rule was two tho lol
Right lol...👍😀
Girls it’s 2 now ✌🏾
I was seeing this girl since a year we are together, we both shared very good loving bond with each other she is very much fond of me❤ but out of nowhere she is talking to a man who is older age (45) for about month now and you know what happened that man purposely shared all his text messages involving kissing talks etc and he wants me to go away from her.. And when I saw the texts it just killed me from inside, should I continue with my gf or not, because after knowing this I'm feeling a bit different for my gf and if I do continue with her I'll loose the self-respect for me in my own eyes.. we both are in our early 20's..
This older man is trying to destroy my relationship.. I'm very confused..
How do you want honesty but not want the truth? HONESTY IS THE TRUTH!🤦🏾♂️
Really wish they’d let Shannon talk 🙄 she had a good point.
Yes, start your relationships with lies and see where that lands you...
Tell him 30 & see 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I’m done with you Steve
I’m a small UA-cam’s btw ❤️
everyone should be open and honest with their relationship partners.... if they love you for you, they will accept that. I would NEVER want to be with someone, I have to hide myself from, ever....
This breaking up and getting back together business is how we end up playing Who's The Daddy!!!
Maybe I'm all by myself here, but I'm going to say YES I wanna know everything. I'm woman enough to handle it. I have a past myself and am willing to share. A relationship is built on trust and honesty. If I don't have that, then I don't have a relationship of any kind. If a man can't handle my past, then he's clearly not the one.
I agree. What if he was abused or has a baby mama? Does he have a jealous or psycho ex? I would like to know as much as possible so that I can either protect myself, help him overcome some things, or leave.
I do not want to know.
Women should understand this isn't how men think
Good woman
But he is not obligated to either. He may share some but you don't need to know everything. Thats his business and you can't force that.
I say only tell her the necessary stuff everything else you can keep to yourself.
I just wanna know if you been sleeping around.. If we take a break, especially a short one. And you've been messing around I probably wouldn't want to get back together.
You need time to heal, and to grow as a person. Not saying you cant get to know someone or date/have company. But to sleep around just shows a lack of self control to me. I know some may not like it, but hey 🤷♂️ I have my morals
Sleeping around immediately means they never loved you If they’re a woman.
@@bobbyseasons451 same goes for a man I seen this time and time again this applies to both
I was seeing this girl since a year we are together, we both shared very good loving bond with each other she is very much fond of me❤ but out of nowhere she is talking to a man who is older age (45) for about month now and you know what happened that man purposely shared all his text messages involving kissing talks etc and he wants me to go away from her.. And when I saw the texts it just killed me from inside, should I continue with my gf or not, because after knowing this I'm feeling a bit different for my gf and if I do continue with her I'll loose the self-respect for me in my own eyes.. we both are in our early 20's..
This older man is trying to destroy my relationship.. I'm very confused..
Steve sittin’ up there encouraging women to lie, but would tell them to condemn a man if he did it 🙄
double standards strike again
I just thought of something you can say, women. If a man asks you how many relationships have you been in, you say enough to know what I want, what I don't want, and what I absolutely won't tolerate. lol
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I told a guy who kept asking about my past relationship super early it didn't work out. Communication issues and incompatible personalities. That wasn't enough for him. He questioned ed why I would change the subject and revealed he was judging me on that info. Funny how he was judging me but didn't like thay I wasn't obsessed with talking about it so he could know. That's nosy AF. Yet he wasn't talking about his past often.
Does body count matter? No judgement, I’m just curious of your thoughts.
For me I just like to know if there was anything traumatizing I need to avoid.
I was falling out, when Steve said tell them 30 & see how fast they run away!!!!!
My friend is dating this girl and he is the 20th guy not just to date her but to have sex with her & she literally just turned 19 a few weeks ago. That is a problem, and she keeps a list of how many guys she does. I'm surprised he is still with her.
he is just passing through so it doesn't matter
Pagan Worshiper
Did she tell him her number though?
That is nasty
adbc1f72 actually she lied about it, she was dumb and asked him to help fix her phone or something & he found the list she keeps on it
T M lol, true I could also think of a few more as well
*Steve telling women to lie. MEN KNOW YOU HAVEN'T BEEN WITH ONLY 3 GUYS.*
It's not what they THINK they know. It's what they can prove or what you admit to. Chris Rock said if you ask a woman how many men she's been with, She'll tell you how'many boyfriends She's had.🤣
Now imagine all you've been with in one room. If it bothers' even you, it's too many.
You didn’t have a relationship cause some men or women can’t handle the truth while we was apart and due you still have feelings for this man
all you need to tell him/her is that part of your past that will always effect your future.. such as diseases, kids, disabilities.. etc.
Sooo Marjorie told him she has 3 exes before him 🤔
Nice video Stevie
You taught Lori so well huh Steve. With Marjorie there on the side adding her 2 cents, what a team
Is that brad from young and restless....eye candy ....we need to see more of you brad.
The cool thing about living in Houston is that I’ve never seen anyone I know in public. But I did date a guy who was from a small town, and I did not want to run into his ex when we went to visit his family
You are right Dr.lish & Steve I AGREE only part I do not agree with on not telling the truth about how many you been with though.Cause one lie discovered will end all trust.
Great panel
Str8 talk!
This is why I don't do the second time around thing.
Gorgeous hair yellow top 👌
If you slept with others your spouse needs to know for their own safety.
I've been with my g.f 15 years, we get married, next year. We've had chats about pasts recently, I've no issue knowing or telling, my only boundary is specific details, I don't need to know that. I'm a curious person and for me after all these years together (2 kids and house), for me talking about the past is like talking about the weather.
Tell me you been with 30 men and all ill care about is being number 31, but best believe im not making you no wifey. You better listen to STEVE!!
Yeah, hard to trust someone who had tons of Relationships in the past.
@@bechsteinwaypetrofazioli3885 yer sure... because failure doesn't teach people anything? I get car advise from people who've had many cars and real estate advice from people who've bought many houses... but yer sure I understand your struggle
@@bpheta to each his own. The impression to me is that that person has terrible judgment and hasn’t learned at all from those 30 mistakes (WAY TOO MANY).
I don’t agree with telling anyone about your past hen it comes to certain things. Because say for instance if a guy knows that’s my ex did me wrong and the details ( not saying one did just an example ) i feel like that person may feel like they can do those same exact things to me as well. Basically some people take advantage of information that you give them. Everything doesn’t need to be told period... keep the information light.
Yup or they assume and judge you based on those things..
I’ve had a lot more boyfriends than 3, and most of those relationships lasted 3 months and ended with them cheating on me. I have never cheated on any of my partners. So I’m going to be honest about how many partners I’ve had because it’s not my fault I’ve had so many that ended specifically in that way. I do take accountability for attracting people like that because of unresolved things within myself, but that doesn’t mean I have to lie about what I’ve experienced and learned.
Hey girl I have a question do you feel that you can recognise them now ? Do they act in a similar way, what are the thing, behavior that can make us recognise them easily .
It is your fault.
@@paceyourself5652 someone cheating on me is not my fault, actually. You get to decide wether or not you’re going to be loyal, or cheat and lie to your partner, or to leave. They could have left at any point but wanted the benefit of having someone do wifely duties for them while also not being tied down. Grow up.
@@noneofyourbuizness I feel like there’s a few things that lead me to question someone’s loyalty, I think having an upfront discussion before committing to someone is important, about what they want and are looking for out of parter - as in do they want to date casually and continue getting to know other people, or are they looking to settle down and do we see a future together. If the later is established, I think some things that can be red flags are not wanting to meet family, lying, being secretive with their phone, being oddly close with a certain friend of the opposite sex, and being insecure about past partners are some things that looking back should have raised alarms and I won’t settle for at this point in my life.
@@amys1063 why did you keep
Going into those kind of relationships running up
Your body count? That is your fault. You should’ve taken time to look at what you were doing wrong vs continuing to make soul ties and sleeping around with a bunch of different losers who cheated on you. Own it, and realize where you stand with most men.
Woman: I think thats crazy!
Steve: Ok then, tell them 30 & see how crazy!😂😩
Honesty from the start. Nothing else.
Considering those ladies and men seem still single, they did not understand that.
Who cares about their opinion? Can they prove it within their personal lifes?
I was seeing this girl since a year we are together, we both shared very good loving bond with each other she is very much fond of me❤ but out of nowhere she is talking to a man who is older age (45) for about month now and you know what happened that man purposely shared all his text messages involving kissing talks etc and he wants me to go away from her.. And when I saw the texts it just killed me from inside, should I continue with my gf or not, because after knowing this I'm feeling a bit different for my gf and if I do continue with her I'll loose the self-respect for me in my own eyes.. we both are in our early 20's..
This older man is trying to destroy my relationship.. I'm very confused..
Judge your former ex by her actions and deeds, not by the lies that she tells you so that she can get the access code to your heart and your debit card.
3:58 lmao
Sexual shaming we need to know the past or it will be repeated and destroy there future fore warned is fore armed because the mistakes or irresponsible behaviours are repeated you know where you stand and won’t be fooled by previous lies and or deceits !
yes more don diamont!
Necessary, and testing if back to getting physical, I'd say the 90 day rule take pressure off, 3 is for a woman I'm not a judgemental guy but a part of me goes if a woman has 25 ex's I'm v#26 their smarter, take control, want everyone on the low blood sugar diet that don't work for you, and 25 they couldn't figure out what they wanted
3 things you MUST know:
1. Where is he/she?
2. Were there any STDs or positive pap smears?
3. Are you two still connected in any way?
Body count matters!!!
Wife her up dude, past is past
What is that
Ok
This got heated on Rachel's insta!😁
Lol what happened ? Spill the tea
@@user-jl9hy5yg4c Aye ain't no tea spillin' up in here, now that you're curious, just head over there!😉😀
@@Shiddy lol im too lazy 😂 thanks though
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WOOW 4a minute i thought the woman in the middle was Drita from Mob wives😂❗They could be sisters ❗
i remembered my ex told me she had 9 bfs before that i was her 10th that time when we were together.,... so is 9 exes considered as no-no that time?
Lol good luck with all that baggage
The same things guys want to know about females are the same things I want to know about them. Miss me with the double standards. LoL
Rachel Vincent girls run that term in the ground but men have a million we can complain about but don’t stop being a brat
They justify it with being a “Man”. I just recently found out my boyfriend lied about how many girls he actually slept with. Told me 4 for 2 years, 3 years he finally confessed to it being over 10+. He was so butt hurt for those 2 dudes I slept with he’s my 3rd, I came in transparent because we met in school. I told him to be honest, if I knew that earlier I wouldn’t had talk to him. He found it weird that me as a woman would say that because they feel women shouldn’t care about body count like a man should. I have morals, that just shows you have a lack of self control especially if you had sex with 10+ girls in a span of 5 months. That’s not normal to me I don’t care what no one says.
So you are sujesting that lien is ok?
You need to be open and honest but spare the intimate details!
Who it was is fine for health reasons. What we did, and how often, which positions, is none of your damn business.
Lmbo watch the end
OMG bill lol
Bill Spencer
"I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with THAT WOMAN" *spins ring*
He is lying. Sad that he didnt even say "my wife" or anything like that, then he spins his ring showing that there is discomfort. Maybe because he knows that it's a lie.
hahaha yea spending your life with one woman does not mean you dont want to have sex with other women. especially a high value man like him (a good looking dancer)
Damn,that's what u got from that?I got the exact opposite of that.
@@sirjoejoe8813 I went to school for psychology 🤷🏾♀️
@@Mrsqueen876 Ooooh...all grown up..."I went to school for phsycology"...lol
He did say "his wife"...check around 2:19...
Finally, when a European says "that woman"...he is making a strong statement of connection - whether you understand that or not.
Spin the ring thing? May you not be so quickly judged when it comes your turn to project a behavior you didn't intend.
Like..."I went to school for physcology" to explain yourself makes you sound immature and foolish. I'm sure you don't feel that way about yourself.
I prefer they tell me the real number, I don't care, actually it caused me anxiety cause you know when a girl has been with more than 3
How would you know if she lie
@@gabrielkg5681 I think its the best to really say its No problem and that all you ask is honesty
If she Lies about that
Relationship is doomed to fail
Don 😍😍
Some people can handle the baggage from the past that others bring to a new relationship. Some can't.
I just let them sort it out at the baggage claim. See ya.
he just shut her down 🤣
@Nimbuzz S no dude ntg like that....
The lady in the middle is SO NAIVE,clearly she doesn’t know dating game like Steve knows the game somebody needs to school this lady please lol
Fellas keep your standards high just like how women keep their body count high...
Krista seems confused!
Girls do this all time.
3 means 10. Theyre not going to tell you anyway.
But why though?? Why lie about it
I get back with exes.....a healthy relationships.....oxymoron
I make it my business to know my date's past relationships...😅. I ask if my date has dated somebody with the same ethnicity as I am...😅. Hung up much?
If she says 3, you boys times that by 10 to get the value of x
Depends on the female yall dealing with smh, yall don’t understand that though
❤️❤️
No no no
Lori had memphis depay, diddy's son ,Trey Songz and trying on Jay-Z... 😂😂she better say 3 when she meets Mr. Right for her.
Lady in the middle will keep dating crazy men with some of the stuff she says, get over your exes quick.She wont get married, for a while
steve be teaching these women how to lie...
As long as I (or him) dont have a baby or STD or STI you don't (and I don't) NEED to know.
If we go out and see an ex WE are ignoring them.
Danielle Greer
Lol you said your just going to ignore them. You sound like me. 😆
But we men will never take u seriously just we will use u like ur ex and then theow u dont worry no hymen no diamond
I can tell that Krista makes some dumb mistakes in the her relationships.
I'm sure youd know if the person you are dating dated someone you know. Especially a man. Bc bragging
What if its 1 Mr. Harvey should she still say 3 lol.
😊🎉
Keep in mind that these people are all 30 years and older
Don’t share your past
2:00 it took you time to be away from your WIFE to realize you wanna be with your WIFE....boy lay off them drugs please.
Women should just start marring other women and leave us MEN alone. We don't need the drama that women have.
So who read that black guy’s name as Dr ish 😂
Why she even on here.....
No
No
No
No
Never. I mean to women either
Women who have multiple sex partners cannot pair bond. The pair bonding mechanism is gone after 2 sexual partners why? She carries the DNA of multiple men. Which means she cannot bond to a man or her children. A perfect example would be black women.
you are correct. the more sexual partners a woman has the more likely it is for her to cheat or for your marriage to end in divorce.
Are you insane?
This is the most ignorant comment on here and makes no sense
@@carekkbear He is right. Women have more estrogen than men (10-20 times more). Estrogen works in conjunction with oxytocin (the bonding or cuddle hormone) which makes women more attached to men through sex, so even when they think its just casual, their hormones are binding themselves to that man so that they can be provided for and protected during the possible pregnancy that can occur from sex. After a woman has released this hormone, it becomes harder for her to pair bond with the next man. When these casual relationships end, women tend to face more depression and mental anguish. The more she casually does this, the more jaded and cynical she becomes and the less likely she will ever be satisfied in a long term relationship, which makes her more likely to cheat as she looks to get that same 'high' from sex from previous partners
What an ignorant statement, please for the sake of humanity don't reproduce, we don't need more copies of your ignorant ass roaming around.We already got more than enough.
When I was 19 I asked my 17 year old gf how many guys she had sex with...she counted them in her head and told me 16 different guys......I was with her for 2 years and treated her as my sex partner ONLY,I met someone else and dumped the gf like a hot potato....shes 51 years old now,I'm 53......she looked me up,i said hey!! Long time no see!!!,,,, she had tattoos all over,she was a meth head,she admitted to being bisexual, she was living in a hotel,,,,she was in very bad shape......point is....to all you girls out there,.......if you give your body away like you dont care about it,,,there will be consequences...it will be all bad for you.....
You equated her having a lot of sex with her making bad decisions that was probably caused by her childhood conditioning and becoming an addict from her pain & trauma?