Such an informative and insightful discussion. Packed full of gems, like your perspectives on the evolutionary nature of recovery, the role and practice of self acceptance, acknowledging the mental suffering not just behaviours, and the idea that recovery involves self-discovery which can be exciting. As you talk it feels real and makes so much sense. Uplifting and hopeful too. You two are a gift to this community. Thank you
This is the question I continue to ask myself on a daily basis. My issue has been body image and I have spent the last 40 years trying to get a smaller body. Two years ago I restricted myself to a body weight that I never was as an adult but I still didn’t have the smaller body that I imaged I would have at that weight. At that point I had enough, I feel like I had hit rock bottom and I decided to go all in because I couldn’t go on the way I was going. My weight went up and for a short time I thought I was okay, but now I am no longer comfortable in my body and I am back to trying to lose weight but I can’t seem to get back into restricting and my mental health is starting to decline. I feel like I’m in a tug of war, where I want to be free from the disordered eating but there’s a part of me that wants to hold on to wanting a smaller body. I’m 49 and I feel like there’s no end in sight.......
For years a smaller body has held such promises of feeling better about yourself so of course that's hard to let go of. That belief laid down it's roots when you were very young. Any changes your body may or may not make are in the future and your life is unfolding today. I (Sarah) love Eckhart Tolle's work about accepting the now. It changed everything for me because it meant right now I don't have to make any decisions about what I am or am not pursuing from a body perspective.
I love that you’ve had different experiences with food and body image. Some times I feel like Sarah’s experience is similar to mine, and other times, it’s Michele. What a wonderful discussion. Thank you for doing this work. ❤
For me right now, my behaviors have drastically changed but it's the thinking that is lagging. Right now, I feel like I need to get back to the very basics from the beginning. I ebb and flow with that occasionally. The term "eating emotionally" struck me. It's what I'm doing. I'm using permissions with food to ease emotions. I'm resisting feeling some of the big stuff that's moving through me. Some if it is the Christmas holiday times. As long as I can remember, I have been very negative and down around Christmas (I have no idea it there's a concrete reason or it's just me). I hate it and I feel guilty because of how I feel about it. Also the feelings of anger over wasting my entire life in worry about my weight and food, AND every time I look in the mirror, what I see doesn't reflect how my mind's eye sees myself and it's jarring. Regrets too. My biggest block moving forward is partly self-pity, Poor me, I can't afford "real" therapy and actual reality, I can't afford "real'" therapy. I'm stuck in my head.
Hey Lorri, Sarah here. You say your biggest block to moving forward is self pity, but that's not what I hear behind your words, I hear shame. I hear you beating up on yourself for feeling low and for spending so many years in this disordered thinking with food and body image. I see you working so hard and really digging deep trying to understand yourself. I have the utmost respect for you and how you are handling the challenges life has thrown at you xx
This podcast is so great!!! So great!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰 I learn and have a fun time at the same time by listening your content ladies. I feel super happy when YT offers me one of your new videos. Because when this happen, I know that I will receive great advice and tips. Steff your voice is beautiful, if you want to record an add or a song to promote this podcast, just go for ir 👍. Sarah, you look amazing in red 👍
It was very interesting ladies! But does “being aware” have stages is it a spectrum Can we analyze it more? and even more what if you are very “present” and you are actually inviting a binge; it does not take over but you call it to take over have you ever experienced it ?
Such an informative and insightful discussion. Packed full of gems, like your perspectives on the evolutionary nature of recovery, the role and practice of self acceptance, acknowledging the mental suffering not just behaviours, and the idea that recovery involves self-discovery which can be exciting. As you talk it feels real and makes so much sense. Uplifting and hopeful too. You two are a gift to this community. Thank you
This is the question I continue to ask myself on a daily basis. My issue has been body image and I have spent the last 40 years trying to get a smaller body. Two years ago I restricted myself to a body weight that I never was as an adult but I still didn’t have the smaller body that I imaged I would have at that weight. At that point I had enough, I feel like I had hit rock bottom and I decided to go all in because I couldn’t go on the way I was going. My weight went up and for a short time I thought I was okay, but now I am no longer comfortable in my body and I am back to trying to lose weight but I can’t seem to get back into restricting and my mental health is starting to decline. I feel like I’m in a tug of war, where I want to be free from the disordered eating but there’s a part of me that wants to hold on to wanting a smaller body. I’m 49 and I feel like there’s no end in sight.......
For years a smaller body has held such promises of feeling better about yourself so of course that's hard to let go of. That belief laid down it's roots when you were very young.
Any changes your body may or may not make are in the future and your life is unfolding today. I (Sarah) love Eckhart Tolle's work about accepting the now. It changed everything for me because it meant right now I don't have to make any decisions about what I am or am not pursuing from a body perspective.
I love that you’ve had different experiences with food and body image. Some times I feel like Sarah’s experience is similar to mine, and other times, it’s Michele. What a wonderful discussion. Thank you for doing this work. ❤
thank you so much, Liz
For me right now, my behaviors have drastically changed but it's the thinking that is lagging. Right now, I feel like I need to get back to the very basics from the beginning. I ebb and flow with that occasionally.
The term "eating emotionally" struck me. It's what I'm doing. I'm using permissions with food to ease emotions. I'm resisting feeling some of the big stuff that's moving through me. Some if it is the Christmas holiday times. As long as I can remember, I have been very negative and down around Christmas (I have no idea it there's a concrete reason or it's just me). I hate it and I feel guilty because of how I feel about it. Also the feelings of anger over wasting my entire life in worry about my weight and food, AND every time I look in the mirror, what I see doesn't reflect how my mind's eye sees myself and it's jarring. Regrets too.
My biggest block moving forward is partly self-pity, Poor me, I can't afford "real" therapy and actual reality, I can't afford "real'" therapy. I'm stuck in my head.
Hey Lorri, Sarah here. You say your biggest block to moving forward is self pity, but that's not what I hear behind your words, I hear shame. I hear you beating up on yourself for feeling low and for spending so many years in this disordered thinking with food and body image.
I see you working so hard and really digging deep trying to understand yourself. I have the utmost respect for you and how you are handling the challenges life has thrown at you xx
@@lifeafterdietspodcast4229 That means SO MUCH! I didn't see that. I see it clearly for the rest of my family. LOL Of course it's what I learned! 😲
This podcast is so great!!! So great!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰 I learn and have a fun time at the same time by listening your content ladies. I feel super happy when YT offers me one of your new videos. Because when this happen, I know that I will receive great advice and tips. Steff your voice is beautiful, if you want to record an add or a song to promote this podcast, just go for ir 👍. Sarah, you look amazing in red 👍
aww this is so nice to read, thank you
Sarah the pod has better audio but sometimes the audio in the UA-cam videos is low volume and sometimes difficult to hear
It was very interesting ladies! But does “being aware” have stages is it a spectrum Can we analyze it more? and even more what if you are very “present” and you are actually inviting a binge; it does not take over but you call it to take over have you ever experienced it ?