Why Are INFPs Depressed?

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  • Why do INFPs get the reputation for being depressed?
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  • @scott3084
    @scott3084 3 роки тому +4558

    I'm an INFP and I often do the, "Worst Case Scenario" for almost all my interactions. It's a bummer, and exhausting.

    • @artemisbrown7845
      @artemisbrown7845 3 роки тому +121

      i do this all the time and i think its because if we set our minds to what will happen in the worst case scenario so that we dont overwhelmed when it happens. but in my case my best friend is a sensor so whenever i start freaking out or spiraling i talk it out and she keeps me grounded.

    • @SNinjaQK
      @SNinjaQK 3 роки тому +9

      same, but i'm an intj

    • @Caledoniadream
      @Caledoniadream 3 роки тому +80

      For me it's a defence mechanism: if I'm ready for the worst, I'm ready for everything. It actually cheers me up.

    • @dan1han1
      @dan1han1 3 роки тому +6

      same

    • @tokyo7012
      @tokyo7012 3 роки тому +5

      wanna be friends;-; im an INFJ we're similar

  • @Michelle-uh7qi
    @Michelle-uh7qi 3 роки тому +6690

    When INFP are depressed we won"t let you know it. We also don"t want to be pitied or rescued. We just need time alone to come to terms with our own thoughts and emotions.

    • @Takisan111
      @Takisan111 3 роки тому +253

      When I was younger, I tried to talk to people about my problems but I either got teased for it, had it brushed off, was given useless advice, or made someone else feel bad. I didn't like any of these things so I stopped talking to people about it and tried to fix it myself. Leaving bad feelings bottled up over a long period of time is not a good idea. I learned that the hard way.

    • @cobiplayz5883
      @cobiplayz5883 3 роки тому +170

      @@Takisan111 The feeling that you don't want to burden anyone but it's hard to handle your problems alone, sucks.

    • @corrina8125
      @corrina8125 3 роки тому +70

      Ehhh...personally I tend to act pretty gloomy/emotional when I'm depressed, so I think most of the people that I'm close to can tell when I'm down in the dumps. If I keep it in and act like everything's normal, I just start to feel like some sort of martyr, sacrificing myself so that I'm not a burden to anyone else, etc..., and that's never a good cycle to get sucked into...

    • @ashleecaterson6023
      @ashleecaterson6023 3 роки тому +2

      True!

    • @ashleecaterson6023
      @ashleecaterson6023 3 роки тому +2

      True!

  • @lovelyngracia6831
    @lovelyngracia6831 3 роки тому +4228

    When everyone is criticizing everyone:
    INFPs: don't need one, I got my own

    • @ellyananr
      @ellyananr 3 роки тому +337

      i always get so pissed off when someone criticized me, like yea i know im aware of that I criticize myself

    • @shaimaraad7996
      @shaimaraad7996 3 роки тому +25

      Have a nice day fellow STAY

    • @maggieo1683
      @maggieo1683 3 роки тому +8

      Lol me tho

    • @klb9672
      @klb9672 3 роки тому +18

      Actually I have literally said that phrase a couple of times by now.

    • @joegui6993
      @joegui6993 3 роки тому +2

      I lov you

  • @oh6489
    @oh6489 3 роки тому +3893

    INFP: I'm sad
    Someone: want to talk about it?
    INFP: Suddenly I'm not sad, don't worry about it

    • @Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes
      @Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes 3 роки тому +285

      Something similar for us INFJ
      INFJ: I can't seem to do this.
      Someone: Do you want help ?
      INFJ : No, I can do it.
      INFJ & INFP : we help others, we don't want to be helped XD

    • @miss.random2235
      @miss.random2235 3 роки тому +23

      @@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes yeah🙃

    • @yashicat8181
      @yashicat8181 3 роки тому +14

      That's me lol

    • @betelgoose9712
      @betelgoose9712 3 роки тому +5

      I'm both

    • @MrKaizen05
      @MrKaizen05 2 роки тому +2

      @@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes INFJ I related to this

  • @annakim6617
    @annakim6617 3 роки тому +1454

    I'm strangely very comforted by these comments. As an INFP, I've never felt so understood.

    • @angelrose1060
      @angelrose1060 3 роки тому +10

      So true

    • @afaz4070
      @afaz4070 3 роки тому +16

      Find more of them on reddit, other videos and stuff. Its very comforting. I finally found and understand my species

    • @roy.shrestha
      @roy.shrestha 3 роки тому +3

      Same

    • @kajolm3450
      @kajolm3450 3 роки тому +9

      I found my people

    • @fifiapollo
      @fifiapollo 3 роки тому +5

      Same…I was just thinking how I can’t relate to anyone in my life and that no one understands, but apparently many do, even tho I might not meet them in real life

  • @nanimuss7089
    @nanimuss7089 3 роки тому +1003

    As an INFP, my feelings are so deep I don’t even understand them

    • @asnaaqib4210
      @asnaaqib4210 2 роки тому +67

      True
      Like when someone says to me "I know and understand you very well" , I be like " go ahead you don't even know me ( deep mind and all infp shit , you know) even i don't know myself , how would you
      While writing this comment , I felt , i deserve a slap , idk why i am writing but i felt humiliated
      😂😂😂

    • @mewos838
      @mewos838 2 роки тому +10

      So true 😂

    • @hollyharte7831
      @hollyharte7831 2 роки тому +9

      In an infp and am the same. I have never met another infp

    • @grenouillesupreme
      @grenouillesupreme 2 роки тому +3

      Yep

    • @Crimson19977
      @Crimson19977 2 роки тому +1

      So true, I'm confused most of the time

  • @QuietlyMagnetic
    @QuietlyMagnetic 3 роки тому +2836

    Because when you live in a world that can't stop talking, you feel like a different species.

  • @miriamw.
    @miriamw. 3 роки тому +3526

    Never underestimate an INFP's ability to hurt our own feelings. 😂
    I actually used this advice a while ago; I was getting the subtle feeling everyone around me was angry at me for some unknown reason. Instead of accepting it and being upset for a week, I wrote down all the reasons why I thought people might hate me at the moment. Found out none of what I felt was true. Saved an entire week of brooding over nothing by being logical for a few minutes. This advice really works.

    • @sunnyvirtue4498
      @sunnyvirtue4498 3 роки тому +99

      I really like your strategy. It might be a bit intimidating at first, because thoughts in your head always sound more logical than thoughts written down, and you're kind of already going into it with the mentality of wanting to disprove what you're thinking. It's a paradigm shift that requires guts to begin with but I want to try it out. Thank you for sharing. (:

    • @dew3968
      @dew3968 3 роки тому +38

      Makes sense. Si generally calms INFPs... Like, when u write things down or when u count how much hang out invitations u got and declined and then got sad cuz "no one wanted u around"... It helps with confidence. And also getting feedback from reality of others (Si-Te -> "does anyone have that much friends as in those TV shows? Most people don't." Etc etc)

    • @saidaabdille8603
      @saidaabdille8603 3 роки тому +11

      Oh I'd prob just tell people real close to me lol

    • @elizabethtan7438
      @elizabethtan7438 3 роки тому +3

      Thanks

    • @user-cc3jw8ef7j
      @user-cc3jw8ef7j 3 роки тому +18

      That was the reason i went to psychiatric hospital, because i even thought about su*side because i thought everyone in the world hates me, but turned out it wasnt true
      (im an infp)

  • @marie.kucikova
    @marie.kucikova 3 роки тому +1457

    As an INFP I confirm that it's very hard to open to other people about our problems. The main reason is that we don't want others to see us fail, because, when we fail, we're already so ashamed of ourselves. We're trying so bad to be morally clean and "perfect" and want other people to see us this way. Therefore, we hide our negative aspects, because it would break the "perfect and ideal image" we crave so much. If nobody notices, nobody will be disappointed in us.
    The other reason is that we see things in a very complex way (with tons of different perspectives) and we know we'll never be able to explain completely what we're going through, which is so frustrating.
    That's why we prefer to hide our problems from others and try to solve things out without involving anybody.

  • @nikolascoffey6453
    @nikolascoffey6453 3 роки тому +162

    "Reality is often disappointing, but in my mind it can be whatever I want" - infp

  • @romainbonhomme-lacour4919
    @romainbonhomme-lacour4919 3 роки тому +5247

    INFPs are in love with emotions like nostalgia or melancholy. That doesn't mean they're depressed

    • @Imchelou
      @Imchelou 3 роки тому +365

      Discovering new songs with melancholy and retro vibe is my new hobby now. So many hidden gem out there. My newest gem discovered is Mehro. Check him out you'll love his songs.

    • @RoKer13
      @RoKer13 3 роки тому +81

      Yep. Those happen to be my favorite kind of messages in music and 2020 served me some good stuff lol

    • @junsjulywonpilsyonpilchany5241
      @junsjulywonpilsyonpilchany5241 3 роки тому +11

      YES

    • @h.j.flower395
      @h.j.flower395 3 роки тому +40

      You said it perfectly.

    • @romainbonhomme-lacour4919
      @romainbonhomme-lacour4919 3 роки тому +40

      @@h.j.flower395 Thank you !!! As INFPs we feel it strongly

  • @ゆき-q3l4p
    @ゆき-q3l4p 3 роки тому +2741

    I'm INFP and I'm Japanese. I couldn't understand everything that he said but I just want to say ”I like his candle ☺️.”

    • @SNinjaQK
      @SNinjaQK 3 роки тому +62

      candle ga suki

    • @christellen3077
      @christellen3077 3 роки тому +79

      Awww put on the subtitles even if they're automatic それでも動作します.

    • @Sahdirah
      @Sahdirah 3 роки тому +28

      Welcome to the channel. :)

    • @zenchiassassin283
      @zenchiassassin283 3 роки тому +28

      Thanks I didn't notice, now I'm noticing it too much x)

    • @Space_Potat
      @Space_Potat 3 роки тому +8

      @@christellen3077 just wanted to say about the subtitles. But they are not automatic on his channel ☝️🧐

  • @lizzietiana4941
    @lizzietiana4941 3 роки тому +1590

    As an INFP, I'm my own worst enemy and I think that's the biggest cause of my depression.

  • @kate_07
    @kate_07 3 роки тому +202

    The worst part of being an INFP is the fact that you put so much into relationships and just so much effort to make people around you feel good but no one does the same back to you.
    Every once in a while we just need someone to ask us for once if we are okay. As an INFP I find it very hard to explain my emotions to others in fear of being rejected or people ignoring me. This is a big fear because of the fact I’m constantly giving and never able to receive just a small amount of love or empathy in return. It’s an endless loop of just wanting to be understood. And the absolute hardest part about this is that if you ask people to ask you every once in a while they’ll call you needy or selfish. It really sucks sometimes. To all the miss understood personality types out there (especially the infps) stay strong ♡

    • @AmEverBloom
      @AmEverBloom 8 місяців тому

      Im struggling with being ignored very much. I always do good to people and care for them, but don't get back from them in return. Its very sad especially when its from someone I care and I just very often feel like Im alone and not being loved.
      It literally makes me cant sleep well and I think I need help to get out of this situation.

    • @soulangela7154
      @soulangela7154 7 місяців тому

      @@AmEverBloom I'm sorry to hear that. I'm also an INFP. For me the trick has been to put the same amount of effort into a relationship as the other is doing. Of course you can start out doing more, but when you notice you've tried deepening the relationship with them and they don't put in the same amount of effort just tone it down a bit. Only return the same amount of effort they are putting in. If you like them too much it's not like you need to break off the friendship or anything, it's still important and nice to keep people as a friend even if it's not close friends. I have multiple friend groups that I can talk to about various mutual interests, even if we don't deeply talk about our feelings. It's still fun! (Though if they are straightup ignoring you I'd recommend you dropping them altogether, it can be really refreshing).
      But there's definitely people out there who you will be close friends with and you'll care for each other a lot, and you'll be able to open up to each other. So just keep trying to talk to more people! I know it's a little hard for us INFP's, but you'll definitely get better at talking to others, knowing how to approach them and feeling with whom you'll get along with and with whom not so much. There's a lot of awesome people in the world, you just have yet to meet them. Stay strong my fellow beloved INFPs

    • @xnonentity
      @xnonentity Місяць тому

      @kate_07 OMG THIS SO TRUE 😭

  • @arit7902
    @arit7902 3 роки тому +490

    As an infp, the things that happened literally 10 years ago make me so depressed even to this day. Moreover, i expect the worse in every situation which makes me more depressed

    • @attheranch873
      @attheranch873 3 роки тому +10

      You might want to check out the book called feeling good, the new mood therapy. It helps to change your thoughts so that you can change your emotions.

    • @jeebuskryst9388
      @jeebuskryst9388 2 роки тому +5

      I don't even open up anymore, unless they're giving me something at least similarly 'weighty'. I feel better knowing that if they ever use my stuff against me, I have the opportunity to do the same. I don't speak to my mother because of this.

    • @hollylanevintagetreasures
      @hollylanevintagetreasures 2 роки тому +3

      Oh yeah, stuff from yesterday or 30 years ago can be just as fresh.

    • @renatayuuki5705
      @renatayuuki5705 2 роки тому +2

      Yea those thoughts can ruin any Happy moment I'm having or ruin my whole day and I won't tell or talk to anyone about because is embarrassing, feelings can be sadness, guilt, shame or fear

    • @teri_mbata
      @teri_mbata 2 роки тому

      OMG, me too, I always hope for the best but expect the words in every situation

  • @veylark1172
    @veylark1172 3 роки тому +826

    Being an INFP can really suck sometimes, it really just feels like the world wasn’t built for people like us. It’s so easy to spiral down when everything around you feels like it was geared for someone else.

    • @wheresmykookiesat
      @wheresmykookiesat 2 роки тому +43

      Why is this so accurate 😔

    • @smakutostrange8884
      @smakutostrange8884 2 роки тому +21

      Edit: holy crap this is long sorry!
      Same here bud, but gotta say (no bragging here 😉) that the world would be a much worse place without us. Like I don’t even give myself enough credit for all the stuff I do, even for the little things like my friend group. I’m like the emotional support, clear you mind comfort person in my friend group and I think we're all a bit like that in real life. If the world didn’t have INFPs, some of the greatest amount of creativity, writing, art wouldn’t exist and I know that makes a lot of peeps happy! Also, like I said before, other people who are comforted by us would be struggling too. Ngl I find it rlly hard, even though I’m super creative I also love science and well… let’s just say I ended up on a very dark conclusion that my life was a lie, there is no such thing as free will and that we're all an illusion 😅
      The best thing I can say is that though we're the Feeling type, we're great thinkers too. For me at least, I have loads of imaginary worlds stuck inside my dumb little head and I remember asking my friend about if they do the same thing and they were like ‘ What?' It was so weird! But anyway, I think this comment is getting a bit long but still, try not to go down that hole, it’s a hard one to climb out of

    • @veylark1172
      @veylark1172 2 роки тому +12

      @@smakutostrange8884 hey, just wanted to say thanks! Been a year since I posted that comment and there’s been ups and down but you’re so completely right. It’s definitely not always easy and we have some pretty unique struggles compared to most but without us a lot of the beauty we provide wouldn’t exist. And that really is a super encouraging thing to think about. So thank you, kind an unexpected encouragement for today😊

    • @smakutostrange8884
      @smakutostrange8884 2 роки тому +5

      @@veylark1172 aww thanks man no problem! Just saying the facts though ;)
      I have my ups and downs too, and life flipping sucks at times 😂 but hey, at least if the real world is bad, we're the best personality type to escape to an imaginary one for a while :)

    • @Qey6723
      @Qey6723 2 роки тому +1

      VERBATIM HOW I FEEL!!!

  • @bagelqueen7555
    @bagelqueen7555 3 роки тому +2314

    *I'm an INFP and I think : I just like do one thing wrong and start over thinking everything, and I get overwhelmed very easily so at times like that I would just want to be alone. Were not all depressed we just need lots of time to reflect on our feelings before we're ready to talk!*
    *Edit : Thanks for the likes, it's really nice of you guys!* ❤

    • @AyseY
      @AyseY 3 роки тому +27

      Ugh this is so relatable it hurts!

    • @Flamminblizzard
      @Flamminblizzard 3 роки тому +15

      I feel it too!

    • @mashood3402
      @mashood3402 3 роки тому +9

      How did u make ur words more thick?
      Edit: Forget it, I found out XD

    • @bagelqueen7555
      @bagelqueen7555 3 роки тому +4

      @@mashood3402 oh ok

    • @saidaabdille8603
      @saidaabdille8603 3 роки тому +20

      *INFP mind loading/processing...*

  • @mweajue
    @mweajue 3 роки тому +2595

    I noticed a lot of INFPs have certain thought patterns that aren't productive for mental health. I'm going to list a few and they might not apply to everyone but they certainly applied to me (an INFP who recently went through a bad depressive episode),
    1) PLACING TOO MUCH WEIGHT ON YOUR THOUGHTS
    I'm in therapy for ocd and this one kinda blew my mind for some reason. Your thoughts are just thoughts. Nothing more. Maybe you've heard it a million times but you really need to understand that your thoughts only create meaning. Not reality. INFPs really do be chronic overthinkers but look into cognitive distortions, and you'll realize how easy it is for your brain to trick you.
    2) Not knowing the difference between recharging, and withdrawing
    Like all introverts, INFPs need time to recharge after social interactions. Nothing is wrong going into your hobbit hole and enjoying your own company, but it's hard to know how much it too much. I will say though, you do not need 5 months of alone time after 1 night out. As important as it is to make boundaries on socializing (ding ding ding, another thing INFPs struggle with), you need to make boundaries with yourself. Also question why you want to be alone. Is it because you enjoy quiet activities (for example)? Or something negative. Maybe being around people makes you feel anxious, lonely, or sad. Thats probably the biggest difference. It might FEEL good to isolate yourself, but fun fact, that's also a sign of depression!! And if you're not depressed, it's sure as hell a good incubator for it. Remember, the longer you are alone, the harder it gets to pull yourself out of it.
    3) Trying to stay authentic to emotions
    When I was younger, people used tell me "science proves that if you smile when you're upset, you'll feel better". Now obviously as an INFP I was totally against this. Why on earth should I try to be happy when I'm sad?? I still agree, I don't see the benefit of masking emotions from myself, it just feels fake- BUT infps have a deep pool of emotions, and thats where the problem starts. While it's OKAY, and healthy to feel the way you feel, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO FEEL EMOTIONS TO THE FULLEST. I would push myself to almost wallow in my sadness (i.e listen to sad music alone in the dark, isolate myself, read suicidal quotes on tumblr etc etc). Don't be afraid to "interrupt" your emotions. In fact, please do. You are not being inauthentic by trying to cheer yourself up. Feel, but don’t let your emotions pull you into a place you don’t want or need to be in
    (I don't even know how to do this, I assume healthy, older INFPs do but lord help us).
    4) Negative thought patterns
    Watch out for negative thought patterns. I see a lot of INFPs say things like "No one understands" "I have no friends (except my plants/cats/stuffed animals)" "I don't fit into society, I don't belong here or anywhere" and that can easily lead to "no one would notice if I die". Need I say more?
    5) Fi-Si Loop
    (taken from a website, please don't sue me)
    "When an INxP type goes to Si instead of Ne as their learning function, it lets them stay in their preferred inner world. Instead of exploring possibilities, they start to focus more on their past experiences. When they spend too much time in a loop, this reliance on their unreliable Si can start to hold them back.
    INFPs in an Fi-Si loop have a complicated relationship with real-world details. They might be hyper-attentive to such details, then completely ignore them. They’ll want verifiable, sensory facts but might struggle to process them. They can also become caught-up in the past. They might struggle to process past mistakes or to move forward into the future."
    I think INPs will veer towards depression because of this loop. It becomes impossible to see anything in the future, and it feels like your in a bottomless black pit. This might not be healthy, but something I do to break the cycle is "purge". Delete those texts. Block that person. PUT AWAY THAT JOURNAL where you wrote down how it felt with incredible detail. You are actively reliving the event, how is that a good idea? I've noticed INFPs can be memory hoarders and find solace in them, but as much as it sucks, you won't get anything out of holding onto what's hurting you. LEARN TO FORGIVE YOURSELF.
    I don't think it's a coincidence that every INFP I know is passively suicidal :( There is so much beauty in the world, and it belongs to you. Don't forget to give yourself the love you easily give to others. You deserve it

    • @howtubeable
      @howtubeable 3 роки тому +232

      Usually, I don't like long comments, but you have many good things to say. Thanks.

    • @HannahIm
      @HannahIm 3 роки тому +114

      This was oddly comforting to me as an INTJ recently romantically rejected by a confusing and strangely dramatic INFP male. Although I don't quite know what is going on in his head, this gives me some sense of the possibilities thus giving me empathy thus bringing comfort.

    • @mweajue
      @mweajue 3 роки тому +43

      @@howtubeable that's definitely the longest comment I have ever written but it was an interesting topic :)

    • @KajsaBernhardina
      @KajsaBernhardina 3 роки тому +72

      This resonated with me. Thank you for sharing this!

    • @slyguru9778
      @slyguru9778 3 роки тому +141

      I like your comment. It's very true for me, and as an older male INFP I can give you my thoughts on number 3. I think it's important for INFPs to fall in love with themselves. I don't mean be a narcissist, but to see you're a dope individual that can decide whether you like someone, rather then try and make everyone like you. You have to be your own number one fan.
      Then when you run into situations where you experience something very sad, you find you're not so afraid of those emotions. Sadness can be beautiful sometimes, we know that best. But when we love ourselves we have to decide how much is healthy for us and remember to treat ourselves to the opposite. After all, everything is going to be alright because we got us.

  • @camiloiribarren1450
    @camiloiribarren1450 2 роки тому +91

    I don’t think “depressed” is the word to describe all of us, I would say we are melancholic. A lot of introspective and thoughts about our past or present experiences and how it affects us internally

  • @lifestoryguy
    @lifestoryguy 3 роки тому +505

    I think you missed out one of the big reasons why so many INFPs are depressed or seem that way to others and that comes from the fact that so many INFPs are creative people. The thing is we have to confront our own anxiety about the creative process, and then after all that, we have to face the fact that no one is really interested in reading our novel or poem or looking at our painting or listening to the music we created, no matter how driven we are to create things. The truth is the things we create are in a very real sense an intimate form of communication with you. We don't have to be in the same room with you to connect with you. Do you know what I mean? There's also a saying about writers that encapsulates this: the reason someone becomes a writer is to be understood. So you could say that when no one seems interested in reading our work, looking at our paintings or photos or listening to our music then naturally we're going to be depressed because it means no one is interested in trying to understand us when we are really interested in understanding you. Here's the rub. If you started to strike up a conversation with a bunch of different people and every single one of them just ignored you, I reckon you'd be pretty depressed, too. That's what it's like for creative people when no one wants to engage with what they create. Most people communicate via in-person conversations, but other people, including many INFPs, communicate through their creative work. It's why so many of us are writers, poets, artists and musicians. And it's why so many of us are drawn to these modes of expression to deal with the existential conundrums in human existence.

    • @franciscodanielguzmanobeso2166
      @franciscodanielguzmanobeso2166 3 роки тому +9

      So true :´(

    • @kamilledubois2315
      @kamilledubois2315 3 роки тому +37

      You explained it perfectly.. This is so so so me and honestly thinking about it has me tearing up because it's what I want others to understand. I'm an artist and I try to show my art to others (even though I'm completely terrified and it takes me a long time to do it). What I get just.. isn't satisfying for a response.. One word answers or it's ignored and it makes me panic so much.. It makes me cry, well up with pain and I just wallow in those emotions when it happens. I want to communicate with others and I've always had trouble speaking to others, but drawing is much easier for me to tell you how I feel, what I think.. Mmnn..

    • @infp_daydreaming
      @infp_daydreaming 3 роки тому +13

      This really teared me up... 😭..cuz it really felt tht someone out there exists who actually feelz the same way as i do ... 😭

    • @mydeadsoul6663
      @mydeadsoul6663 3 роки тому +11

      You're absolutaly right! Many family members tried to get me to talk about how I feel but I couldn't... I always thought that no matter how much I explain my point of perspective no one would get it because of how words have different meaning to each and everyone of us, thus understanding a totally different thing from what I meant.
      So I went for music to help open a gateway to all the bottled emotions that are stuck inside. I can't tell anyone how I feel, partly because we're not that intimate, but mostly because they wont understand through words. So I pour my energy into the right place and write songs about certain feelings.
      I don't need anyone to take the burden by talking and sorting things, I just need to know that you understand how I feel. And that someone out there feels the same.

    • @CartoonyPirate
      @CartoonyPirate 3 роки тому +6

      . .
      I just.. I.. people need to read this

  • @howtubeable
    @howtubeable 3 роки тому +883

    Funny INFP story: I was at the laundromat taking my clothes out of the dryer and folding them. My mind went off somewhere, pondering the mysteries of the universe, no doubt. Then I looked down at a pair of socks. I laughed and thought to myself, "Hey, I have a pair of socks just like those." Immediately, I realized, "Oh, wait. Those ARE my socks." Then I looked around the laundromat to see if anyone caught me spacing out...... No one noticed.

    • @sunshineandrain869
      @sunshineandrain869 3 роки тому +54

      That is so funny! I’ve done something like that before. Oh my goodness I needed a good laugh. I’m so glad you shared it! 😄 I’m an INFP too.

    • @JovaniaGeorge
      @JovaniaGeorge 3 роки тому +5

      😂😂😂

    • @sarahjane9644
      @sarahjane9644 3 роки тому +12

      I feel ya on this one lol so relatable 😂

    • @patriciaroysdon9540
      @patriciaroysdon9540 3 роки тому +52

      This INFP (me), got thinking deeply about stuff while doing dishes last night and calmly washed a paper plate...

    • @artandfiction4534
      @artandfiction4534 3 роки тому +19

      @@patriciaroysdon9540 Now I laughed. I grabbed a plate last night for something similar to soup.
      I was really out of place. I was reading for the longest time that when I came to reality my thoughts were scattered to the point that I was in a daze.

  • @oori1716
    @oori1716 3 роки тому +799

    as an INFP i’m just depressed bc I overthink everything literally everything 😸

    • @Flamminblizzard
      @Flamminblizzard 3 роки тому +13

      Ya same..

    • @saidaabdille8603
      @saidaabdille8603 3 роки тому +6

      I kinda do that too but not enough to reach this level lol

    • @pagethreemodel
      @pagethreemodel 3 роки тому +9

      Same. It's absolute hell

    • @tarawillis5450
      @tarawillis5450 3 роки тому +2

      My fiancé is exactly the same way 🙁

    • @SNinjaQK
      @SNinjaQK 3 роки тому +4

      must be an inxx thing cos i'm an intj that does the same thing

  • @thedevulherself
    @thedevulherself 3 роки тому +963

    INFP: exists
    Life: I diagnose you with DEPRESSION

  • @gowrinandana8999
    @gowrinandana8999 3 роки тому +94

    As an INFP, I don't usually share what I feel. But after the extremely rare occasions that I do, I regret it so much that I ponder about it for months (or years) and tend to shut out the person that I confided in. I can't imagine facing that person again and tend to avoid them.

  • @keishavanleeuwen8730
    @keishavanleeuwen8730 3 роки тому +223

    I'm infp and I'd actually rather talk about my feelings with people I dont know because I'm not worried that it might ruin a relationship between me and them, since I hardly know them personally. Sadly I dont have any of those ppl cause I dont really have online friends or a therapist to talk to.

    • @cheese5252
      @cheese5252 3 роки тому +9

      I recommend a website called 7cups it's helped me whenever I needed to vent -infp

    • @smakutostrange8884
      @smakutostrange8884 2 роки тому +7

      Yoooo same here man! I had friend recommend this thing called Blahtherapy to me, it’s like a digital way of venting out your feelings to people so you don’t need to see anybody or leave your house. I haven’t fully tried it out yet, but it seems good! I know how you feel, I always wanted to go to therapy however my parents got upset and blamed themselves that ‘I couldn’t talk to them' mate I wish they could just listen to me :/

    • @sherry2824
      @sherry2824 2 роки тому +2

      I can be your online friend

    • @harirdelangizan153
      @harirdelangizan153 2 роки тому +1

      Me toooooo

    • @harirdelangizan153
      @harirdelangizan153 2 роки тому +3

      Why we infp are soooo poor at making friends? Whyyy?

  • @isacubes
    @isacubes 3 роки тому +565

    I don't feel dead inside, but in a perpetual cycle of dying inside.

    • @crystaljean522
      @crystaljean522 3 роки тому +5

      😂

    • @aneeshmohan5696
      @aneeshmohan5696 3 роки тому +6

      WTF ARE YOU A TELEPATH BECAUSE SAME

    • @alanadeeter6525
      @alanadeeter6525 3 роки тому +16

      Certainly agree. I would say I’m more on the existential anxiety side more than straight depression...

    • @HannahIm
      @HannahIm 3 роки тому +6

      Damn! That's awful but very poetic.

    • @isacubes
      @isacubes 3 роки тому +7

      @@HannahIm So.. basically INFP lmao

  • @shelbybenson1896
    @shelbybenson1896 3 роки тому +626

    Chronically depressed INFP here. I don’t like to leave my house, I absolutely don’t trust anyone, and literally everyone talks too much. I’m exhausted all the time.

    • @kristannablue
      @kristannablue 3 роки тому +13

      Same

    • @attheranch873
      @attheranch873 3 роки тому +19

      It would be good to get professional help. If you can’t do that, at least write how you feel.

    • @patriciaroysdon9540
      @patriciaroysdon9540 3 роки тому +2

      Same.

    • @SHAWN94ITA
      @SHAWN94ITA 3 роки тому +7

      All of us are on the same boat...

    • @helenwood8482
      @helenwood8482 3 роки тому +17

      I get depression as a result of my responses to years of bullying at school. I'm now 50 and it still ruins my life. I know what you mean about them all talking too much. I used to have to wear an MP3 player to make it around the supermarket because I cannot stand all the constant cackle of human noise. Since lockdown, I avoid the shops altogether.
      I don't know why they need to keep talking. I can happily be silent for weeks. I think a lot of people are terrified that if they shut up for five minutes they will have to hear their own thoughts.

  • @fursteveferret3771
    @fursteveferret3771 3 роки тому +353

    As an infj. I've noticed my comments are felt strongly and relatable from lots of infp's. I always get the impression infp's need a big warm hug..

    • @artemisbrown7845
      @artemisbrown7845 3 роки тому +36

      i do ~ infp

    • @ritaruggerone4434
      @ritaruggerone4434 3 роки тому +36

      We do 😔

    • @CatCrazy_
      @CatCrazy_ 3 роки тому +33

      INFJs I love you, the best that happened in my life was to meet an INFJ, aka. my best friend now 🥺💓

    • @TheViewfromMars
      @TheViewfromMars 3 роки тому +34

      As an INFP, I always start crying whenever someone gives me a long, warm hug. So yes, it's true!

    • @louisejoel
      @louisejoel 3 роки тому +5

      Dear world, can we just do a thumbs up 👍

  • @ysltfx
    @ysltfx 3 роки тому +156

    Infps be like: frank understands us

  • @JoJoRawr
    @JoJoRawr Рік тому +92

    I know I'm late to the party but just wanted to throw another idea into the ring.
    In many cases depression is like a symptom of a deeper underlying problem, often (not in every case, of course) it develops because a person has needs in life that aren't being met, like human connection, a sense of purpose and belonging, a sense of love and understanding/acceptance etc. Put simply, when our lifestyle and relationships don't reflect what we need to thrive as happy and healthy individuals, depression can often creep in as a symptom of that.
    Now considering that INFPs are very free-spirited and like to do whatever they feel like at their own pace, in their own time, in their own way, but our society is very much built around contracts, schedules, "the hustle", timekeeping, following rules, and 'fitting into the system', you can see how this really goes against the grain for INFPs.
    I think it's a possibility that many INFPs may be more likely to feel depressed because they're going against their own nature trying to fit in a system that isn't designed to work well with people like them. In fact, it's a system that often tries to suppress their freedom and get them to toe the line.
    Things like remembering appointments, showing up on time for things, meeting deadlines, being tied into contracts and debt which might stop them following their inspiration until they're 'free' again, the expectations of society to join "the hustle" and get a job and pay bills, all when they just want to follow their imagination and be free and uncontrolled.
    Just putting it out there, but I can see why all that would make life pretty exhausting and un-fun in general for an INFP, and how that could lead them to feel pretty down about their lot in life. Not many people like to feel trapped in the more dull and dictating aspects of our reality, especially the non-conforming INFPs 🙂

    • @Ginab33
      @Ginab33 Рік тому +9

      Yes. This is the exact cycle I am in right now. I tried explaining to my close friend and in trying to pull me out of this they asked “what makes you happy? What makes you upset?” And I honestly came up with generic answers to end the convo asap.

    • @sarahpickett4285
      @sarahpickett4285 Рік тому +5

      Wow! Thank you for this🥰

    • @annacwn
      @annacwn Рік тому +3

      Thank you, I really needed to read this today ❤

    • @rachelkingsley668
      @rachelkingsley668 8 місяців тому +2

      Brilliant comment

    • @ElonyxOdd
      @ElonyxOdd 6 місяців тому +1

      Wow. I've become mildly obsessed with creating schedules (that i have a hard time keeping) not because i like them but there's barely a bone in my body that would willingly do the things I apparently have to. They're like a leash that i need or else I'll run in all diff ditections instead of walking a path

  • @elad5889
    @elad5889 3 роки тому +329

    Im an INFP and I'm depressed 80% of the time
    Sometimes for absolutely no reason

    • @YEDxYED
      @YEDxYED 3 роки тому +20

      I’d assume it’s our Fi.
      Our primary mission is to find ourselves and who we’re meant to be.
      That’s a difficult thing to do when you’re constantly evolving and a bit scatterbrained due to Ne.

    • @roy.shrestha
      @roy.shrestha 3 роки тому +1

      Same lol

    • @xSmuckerZxJelly
      @xSmuckerZxJelly 3 роки тому +4

      No, there’s definitely a reason. You just don’t know it yet

    • @emmaemma-xm3cx
      @emmaemma-xm3cx 3 роки тому

      same

    • @NoOne-wt6om
      @NoOne-wt6om 3 роки тому +2

      The thing is I don't want my depression to be cured. I take masochistic pleasure from psychological torture....😳😳😳

  • @AyseY
    @AyseY 3 роки тому +288

    This whole week I've been making myself sad because of the things I literally imagined. My imagination is a curse and a gift at the same time...

    • @Someone-km3mx
      @Someone-km3mx 3 роки тому +5

      INTP here, same!

    • @nadiahsyazwani
      @nadiahsyazwani 3 роки тому +3

      Ugh girl I feel you

    • @YEDxYED
      @YEDxYED 3 роки тому +2

      Would it be too difficult to imagine better things instead?
      What do you do with this imagination?
      Do you just let them run wild or can you become a dictator of the mind and purposefully let positive ideas flourish?

    • @AyseY
      @AyseY 3 роки тому

      @@YEDxYED oh wow why didn’t i think of that!? Also what the heck xD are you okay there?

    • @eval4495
      @eval4495 3 роки тому +4

      This has been me these past few days, so far I've been able to break through that. I worry unnecessarily 😅

  • @blacklipgloss9929
    @blacklipgloss9929 3 роки тому +834

    I literally no longer speak in complete sentences. My thoughts are non linear jumbles of disconnected words and you are correct sir, writing would help to clear some of that haze but aren't INFPs also procrastinators? Eh, I'll do it later. Maybe.

    • @skymess
      @skymess 3 роки тому +45

      Lmao that's me

    • @juliahillis2068
      @juliahillis2068 3 роки тому +14

      exactly

    • @angel_cat
      @angel_cat 3 роки тому +47

      That’s what I did just nowz. Although I don’t think I have major depression. There’s just something I don’t want to think about but keep thinking about. And I want to talk to someone but don’t want to be judged. I’d go to a friend whom I know won’t judge me, but that being a nice friend I wouldn’t want to burden after all. So I’ll just get back to watching videos. Maybe it’ll go away with some laughs and I’ll get some sunlight later.

    • @aurorasiye6205
      @aurorasiye6205 3 роки тому +13

      Literally have unfinished homework and schools in a week 😂

    • @m3dUZ6
      @m3dUZ6 3 роки тому +9

      @@angel_cat You couldn't get the point better than this

  • @itsmeow9295
    @itsmeow9295 3 роки тому +32

    I HATE when I can't be perfect at everything and that leads me to blame myself more and more..

  • @AriChem23
    @AriChem23 3 роки тому +83

    In fact, lockdown really had a bad impact on me. That’s exactly because I’m forced to stay inside my head all the time. I need other people to make me come back to reality. Really hard time for me, really. Greetings from Italy

    • @parisan9985
      @parisan9985 2 роки тому +2

      Same. Lockdown sucks and corona is shit. 😩
      -INTP

  • @icouldbeakiwi
    @icouldbeakiwi 3 роки тому +371

    Its hard being an INFP sometimes. sometimes it feels like my feelings rule me more than anything and logic is tossed out the window.
    I know that what i feel is not always true, and when i take the step to talk about it to others, I always feel better.
    Its hard, because i feel like my feelings are my responsibility, which is dumb because i do everything in my power to
    help others feel good, so why shouldn't I reach out to my friends when they open up to me?

    • @cappuchino_creations
      @cappuchino_creations 3 роки тому +20

      I hear you, Sis. It is hard as hell. Balancing between "my feelings are my issue" and asking others to help you sort out your brain-fog

    • @emilymenjivar6138
      @emilymenjivar6138 3 роки тому +22

      “I feel like my feelings are my responsibility, which is dumb because I do everything in my power to help others feel good”
      #truth

    • @icouldbeakiwi
      @icouldbeakiwi 3 роки тому +11

      @@cappuchino_creations yes its so hard! I also have this like ''ok but i don't want to bother my friends with everything'' so i either just tell everyone bits n pieces or I don't say anything at all

    • @icouldbeakiwi
      @icouldbeakiwi 3 роки тому +3

      @@emilymenjivar6138 haha ikr? I feel a little better knowing someone relates :)

    • @CaptainYesz
      @CaptainYesz 3 роки тому +1

      Last line, we are made to think we are the same since grade school but we are not.

  • @sudhanshu.sudan.333
    @sudhanshu.sudan.333 3 роки тому +318

    So true I feel like I'm depressed all the time.
    Still all I do is watch Netflix and obsess over what will I do in future.

    • @YEDxYED
      @YEDxYED 3 роки тому +9

      Lol, I laugh because it seems you know the problem

    • @sweetestmangoes
      @sweetestmangoes 3 роки тому +17

      oh god if this aint me

    • @floz9956
      @floz9956 3 роки тому +40

      'All I do is watch Netflix and obsess over what will I do in future' - that right there could be the INFP slogan tbh, too relatable.

    • @cest_what
      @cest_what 3 роки тому

      Same

    • @sudhanshu.sudan.333
      @sudhanshu.sudan.333 3 роки тому

      @@floz9956 Haha , I've literally been binging Netflix since the covid-19 scene now it's feeling like I've literally watched everything good. If you have any suggestions to watch that would be great 😉.

  • @nivedithaprabushankar5496
    @nivedithaprabushankar5496 3 роки тому +447

    INFPs are strong in finding things in their surrounding (or themselves and other people) that can put them into depression. The thing is that they are good at the opposite too. For them it's all just built on a fragile balance. If you know what I mean.
    THAT is why in the INFP girlfriend video there is "should I be dark and mysterious or a happy sunshine girl" . Balance.
    Also, thank you for making this video.

    • @andthencametherain4419
      @andthencametherain4419 3 роки тому +3

      I get you ...that's my life : ....

    • @myst4400
      @myst4400 3 роки тому +16

      My life in a nutshell....I can be the happiest person in the room and the next second I will be an emotional wreck ( on the inside ofcourse :) )

    • @NoOne-wt6om
      @NoOne-wt6om 3 роки тому +7

      @@myst4400 I can become euphoric by the smallest things :))

    • @Noemie112
      @Noemie112 3 роки тому +10

      i can learn something useless and feel so entertain by it and then i want to spread my joy but people are like "okay?" so i reconsider reality then i'm like "yeah.... ugh"

    • @myst4400
      @myst4400 3 роки тому

      @@NoOne-wt6om same :)

  • @joshuao7289
    @joshuao7289 3 роки тому +36

    As an INFP, usually when I'm depressed it's because there's a disconnect between who I think I should be and how I'm acting (or who I'm being). That is a self destructive cycle because the longer I dwell on that difference the larger the gap becomes, which leads to more dwelling and more disconnecting. I've found that the cure for that is usually taking steps to lessen that gap. Unhealthy? Eat right and exercise. Lonely? Interact with someone I know (instead of random internet people).

  • @田中かざし
    @田中かざし 3 роки тому +48

    As an INFP I find myself getting severely depressed quickly when i have to hop back into reality. I spend most of my day in my own world but when I have to leave my own head I get so sad.

    • @RainyLS
      @RainyLS 11 місяців тому

      Yeah, me too. It's really annoying

  • @aren9103
    @aren9103 3 роки тому +313

    James,can you give INFP’s a tip about how to stop judging our selfs? I am always openminded to everyone,trying to help animals people.... but i am so curuel to my self that it really hurts my feelings. Being more depressed because of my self judgement help

    • @ritaruggerone4434
      @ritaruggerone4434 3 роки тому +36

      I really relate to this. Loving myself is so much harder than loving others. But we need to cultivate healthy self love. We owe to ourselves and those we love 💕 Let’s try to love ourselves the way that we love others, with compassion and understanding😌

    • @Kapradinka
      @Kapradinka 3 роки тому +21

      Us, INFP's are angels, we love others and we help them unconditionally, we want everyone else to be happy... that is why we have to see the value in us. I am always repeting this in my head when i feel bad - I'm an angel... so are you.

    • @amirmahdi9373
      @amirmahdi9373 3 роки тому +14

      Omg I can relate to this so very badly. I'm kinda unlike what Frank said on the video about INFPs always analysing different outcomes and results and not seeing the positive in anything. Instead I'm like the most positive and supportive person around in a way that people are sometimes just amazed but I blame and judge myself all time in my alone time, evaluating evvvery single word and action...

    • @irnaazizah7308
      @irnaazizah7308 3 роки тому +14

      @@Kapradinka whenever I try to tell my self that I am an angel, I always ended up thinking that I am actually a bad person. I thought that I helped them because I feel responsible to do it, not out of sympathy. Then, I started to drown into the depressing loop XD

    • @aren9103
      @aren9103 3 роки тому +4

      @@irnaazizah7308 me too, why do we do this to our selfs

  • @lunoirvalzete5357
    @lunoirvalzete5357 3 роки тому +411

    * Me watching this *
    Me, an INFP: Ah! That... actually make sense

  • @michaelcarnevale5620
    @michaelcarnevale5620 3 роки тому +84

    INFPs are depressed for the same reasons everyone is depressed, they're just more honest with themselves.

  • @penguinarlo
    @penguinarlo Рік тому +23

    its so weirdly comforting and amazing how people can simply explain something about my personality type without me needing to say anything, as it is hard

  • @camelez_zit
    @camelez_zit 3 роки тому +156

    I'm an INFP and I feel like I've been depressed my whole life. But if you're an INFP you might know what I'm talking about when I say "I'm feeling good in my sadness". It's like since I got to know more about my own personality I made peace with myself being the way I am. Even though I feel sad a lot, I'd never trade my personality for another one. So glad I found out that I'm an INFP, it helped me understand myself. Also, whatching this video was like if it was 100% about me... Like kinda knew these things deep down but didn't know I knew. :D

    • @snowinxfars1332
      @snowinxfars1332 2 роки тому +5

      I am an INFP too. It also comfort me to know who I really am, yk get to know myself better. And knowing that a lot of ppl in this world are going through the same thing

    • @sierra6haskay
      @sierra6haskay 2 роки тому +4

      Same, I made peace with my depression a while ago and have learned to live with it, BUT THEN when I new thing happens that flips ur world upsidedown then it's like your not even double depressed it's like the two depressions merge into a mega depression and no one gets it so you just isolate yourself in your little space and hope it goes away eventually :')))

    • @spectorcsm
      @spectorcsm 2 роки тому +2

      @@sierra6haskay * *virtual hug* * Idk what to say but we're here for you :) -INFP

    • @esthervip
      @esthervip 2 роки тому

      yeah... 🤍🫶🏼✨🦋

    • @esthervip
      @esthervip 2 роки тому +1

      @@spectorcsm i'm always giving virtual hugs lol

  • @user-of4kk4in9f
    @user-of4kk4in9f 3 роки тому +357

    No need to feel depressed when u can just write a poem to get it out - INFP.

    • @-x562
      @-x562 3 роки тому +9

      same

    • @Secretgogo
      @Secretgogo 3 роки тому +30

      Life is literature

    • @Shen_Shen04
      @Shen_Shen04 3 роки тому +31

      Am I the only infp who just... doesn't do poetry or a lot of reading? 😅

    • @-x562
      @-x562 3 роки тому +9

      @@Shen_Shen04 i think you are not dude, relax

    • @YEDxYED
      @YEDxYED 3 роки тому +3

      @@Shen_Shen04 In 2020 shortly turning into 2021?
      No way my friend.

  • @aurorasiye6205
    @aurorasiye6205 3 роки тому +144

    I'm depressed because I feel like I'll never have anyone who'll be there for me and truly understand me. Also because I overthink a lot even if I don't want to.
    - Your fellow INFP drowning in despair~

    • @martinusv7433
      @martinusv7433 3 роки тому +3

      That "someone" would only be a temporary companion anyway.... So it's significantly more important to be on good terms with yourself 😇

    • @MaybeLily1234
      @MaybeLily1234 3 роки тому +1

      Like the person above said- I suggest being friends with yourself. You'll always be there for you and you can help yourself understand. Something that helps me is journaling. It doesn't have to be daily or anything too deep but sometimes putting all that overthinking onto paper (you also don't have to revisit it) can help gain perspective.

    • @youssifmohamed9866
      @youssifmohamed9866 3 роки тому

      also try not to think it will go away on its own and be proactive about it and never think of it as small every depression is very bad doesnt have to be crippling to be taken seriously you will find yourself doing this subconsciously and notice it and then ridicule it dont do that i hope this helped.

    • @CartoonyPirate
      @CartoonyPirate 3 роки тому

      Here, here

  • @Marleye831
    @Marleye831 3 роки тому +136

    INFP with depression, anxiety, and PTSD. Just a constant pit of worse case scenarios, self depreciation, and feeling like a burden to anyone you interact with even if they offer help and support. 😬

    • @xxphoenixx8398
      @xxphoenixx8398 3 роки тому

      I'm hoping that soon you can find the help you need, bud=)

    • @xxphoenixx8398
      @xxphoenixx8398 3 роки тому

      I'm hoping that soon you can find the help you need, bud=)

    • @healingandgrowth-infp4677
      @healingandgrowth-infp4677 3 роки тому +2

      I relate
      I feel evil n corrupted too. I have complex PTSD.

    • @ghostofthefallenvalkyrie3320
      @ghostofthefallenvalkyrie3320 3 роки тому +3

      I can relate. I have social anxiety and probably ADD because I literally get distracted by ANYTHING and get nothing done. (What especially now, during Corona caused me to cry every evening) Most of the time I just feel like a peace of shit and I constantly overthink everything I do and think that everyone hates me. I hate asking people for anything because I don't wanna be annoying or rude.

    • @steef4000000
      @steef4000000 3 роки тому

      @@healingandgrowth-infp4677 i have it to and its just the worst to get out of.

  • @ashleyburnham6924
    @ashleyburnham6924 3 роки тому +58

    It’s actually my 1 year anniversary for being out of the mental hospital for depression this was timed greatly!

  • @_van_guildo
    @_van_guildo 3 роки тому +24

    As an INFP, one of the things I do the most is to imagine fantasious and wonderful worlds or situations, and then get sad when I come back to reality and realize that I'm not living that beautiful life that I just imagined seconds ago :(

  • @skymess
    @skymess 3 роки тому +106

    I am INFP and I'm watching this while having a anxiety crisis without talking to anyone lol

  • @rema1574
    @rema1574 3 роки тому +57

    but INFPs still see the good in people and the beauty of the world inspite of and despite...so we may easily get depressed, but we are optimistic and hopeful too..

  • @rheakim2344
    @rheakim2344 3 роки тому +120

    As an infj who have a very close infp friend this is very true, all i want to do is listen to her problems and help her out because i know that she is always keeping her problems and pain to herself which breaks my heart so much. To all the lovely infps, please do not digest your problems and swallow all the negative emotions by yourself, because when these emotions accumulate, it's bound to overload and explode within you someday and lead to more serious problems. I hope that you will remember how worthy, precious and important all of you are and please talk it out with someone you're comfortable with or trust if you are depressed or have some problems that have been bothering you. INFJS really appreciate and love INFPs a lot, you know we got your back always

    • @nevenapetrova2521
      @nevenapetrova2521 3 роки тому +7

      Thanks for your kind words.

    • @rheakim2344
      @rheakim2344 3 роки тому +3

      @@nevenapetrova2521 you're welcome

    • @ritaruggerone4434
      @ritaruggerone4434 3 роки тому +6

      Awwww thank you 😊 You guys are the best 💖💖💖

    • @rheakim2344
      @rheakim2344 3 роки тому +2

      @@ritaruggerone4434 thank you sweetie, you too🥰

    • @moodyowl
      @moodyowl 3 роки тому +3

      Thank you for kind words. Your friend is so lucky that she got you. As an INFP, I wish so hard to have a friend I would be able to trust and actually feel that she is here for me.

  • @lanamandour8766
    @lanamandour8766 3 роки тому +27

    As an INFP, I can confirm that writing my thoughts and feelings down makes everything a hundred times clearer and more logical. So when I feel like my feelings are getting out of control and they’re overwhelming, I simply write them down and with a logical train of thought it gets more soothing because you get the feeling that you finally understand what you’re feeling.
    I don’t know if that made sense

  • @01princessrocks
    @01princessrocks 3 роки тому +31

    As an INFP, I believe I'm self sabotaging because even without beginning a task or a relationship/friendship I expect it to fail..
    Like everything is going fine but in my head I keep waiting for things to go wrong any moment so I'm always cautious and never believe in forever..

  • @cameronschyuder9034
    @cameronschyuder9034 3 роки тому +65

    Got INFP on the Myers-Brigg test and am diagnosed with depression, this is a personal attack

  • @Jdabomb93
    @Jdabomb93 3 роки тому +967

    As an *INFP,* I would love nothing more than to tell everyone how I feel...
    If they *ACTUALLY* gave a shit. Lol

    • @Jdabomb93
      @Jdabomb93 3 роки тому +72

      @@Heliorhodonite
      They may care to some degree... but not enough to fulfill me.
      But I’ll find the ones that care more than others.
      I will.

    • @Jdabomb93
      @Jdabomb93 3 роки тому +13

      @@Heliorhodonite
      I won’t. Thank you so much. ☺️

    • @biancadukes5311
      @biancadukes5311 3 роки тому +1

      Same

    • @andinirifa7854
      @andinirifa7854 3 роки тому +22

      I think some people do actually care, but its just that they dont have as much depth as we do (mostly regarding emotion and our abstract thinking), so they thought they have given enough attention and willingness to listen when in fact, it still hasn't salient us. This has been the case with me and mom. I went through depression and even attempted suicide and my mom said "didn't i cared about you enough? Why do you act like nobody cares about you?" Then i told her why i feel like uncared for, after that she realized she wasn't that caring for me after all and tried to mend it. We're like bffs now, but i still feel like she does not care enough sometimes due to her lack of understanding (like cutting me off when i tell some stories and told me "just dont mind it that much") but i guess she has tried her best, and i truly am grateful for that.

    • @andinirifa7854
      @andinirifa7854 3 роки тому +3

      I suggest you can try to find people who has gone through the same experience as you and/or looks like they got the same depth understanding as you do. I highly doubt we'll find the perfect one, but it will be bettet than having none. On days you feel like it still hasn't enough, you can try journaling, listening to music or read some poems. It helps for me, hope it does for you too :)

  • @floz9956
    @floz9956 3 роки тому +146

    Being an INFP in an often seemingly unfeeling, uncaring world can be brutal. Everything feels personal.
    Finding a good therapist has helped me enormously, as my introverted feeling often leads me to take my assumptions as truth, and having someone question those assumptions really helps.
    For example, I'll think 'oh my colleagues all probably find me annoying' and believe it's absolutely true because it's what I feel, but when I'm asked why I think that, I realise there's no evidence to back it up at all. And even if it were true, it wouldn't be some sort of death sentence - people are annoyed by each other all the time, it's part of life, it's not a big deal and it's not personal.

    • @hollylanevintagetreasures
      @hollylanevintagetreasures 2 роки тому +2

      Everything is personal....that's the feeling anyway. I totally hear what you are saying, but it's so hard to separate it.

    • @snowinxfars1332
      @snowinxfars1332 2 роки тому

      When ppl "offer" me to be in their team for a group working, I don't want to join them.. Not only bc I like working alone, but.. Bc I feel bad. Why? Cuz of them having me in their group. I believe they all hate me, have a bad impression on me. That's probably true, well I can't really change that

  • @drishyaphuel
    @drishyaphuel 3 роки тому +16

    As an INFJ with INFP close friends, I just want to say, you are worthy and you are strong. Don't let others label your worth. What matters the most is integrity, not wealth or talent.❤️

  • @sunowl5301
    @sunowl5301 3 роки тому +24

    The ship analogy is great. I’m always amazed when people have the ability to redirect their emotions so quickly. Like watching someone giving a speech or any form of public speaking and then they start to choke up or tears come to their eyes. But they just gather themselves or take a deep breath and redirect that ish. It’s insane to me. Total super power.

    • @Interestking
      @Interestking 11 місяців тому

      You can learn it! I'm an INFP and I often feel like my emotions are extremely weighty, but at times, with enough willpower, I can completely turn even the weightiest of emotions around.

  • @paveldanuletiu3951
    @paveldanuletiu3951 3 роки тому +154

    As an INFP myself... the reason I think we get depressed is that, as Fi doms, we try to make sense of the world from inside out. Everything that we see is filtered, unconciously, through our metric system which is the Fi function. And sometimes... it just doesn't allign with anything. And it's a big gap between what people in general are feeling or thinking about things and what we're feeling or thinking about things.
    And at that point, personally, I'm inclined to think, wait, maybe it's stupid what I'm saying, maybe this isn't right. I'll always turn it on myself, never on others, as much as I want think that the other is wrong, I'll always think I'm wrong first, even though I won't really show it all the time. We can be pretty dramatic when feeling low. And that, I know, because my friends tell me so. And yeah, I have that title of the depressed one, lol.

    • @hannahwilliams7039
      @hannahwilliams7039 3 роки тому +5

      Fellow INFP 🙋‍♀️ Can confirm I also get pretty dramatic when I’m down. I sometimes read back on some of the things I’ve written when I was down and think: Damn that was- A LOT 😳😂. Majority of the time what has gotten me down isn’t even true 🤷‍♀️

    • @sunshineandrain869
      @sunshineandrain869 3 роки тому +2

      That’s such a great way to explain it. I think that’s what I do too. And of course I’m an INFP also.

    • @yaikunamanya3038
      @yaikunamanya3038 3 роки тому +1

      Ooh:( u're very strong. Forget about ur friend thought, that doesn't define u. Maybe u just in a phase when u feel low about urself. I promise, it will get better:). U're matter:* -INFP

  • @Faygris
    @Faygris 3 роки тому +103

    Okay, I'm an INFP and have been feeling really depressed for a couple of days now and just searched for your "INFP: 10 Reasons Why You're Still Single" video.
    Then this came up and I realized it was just uploaded today. Now that's timing 😅

    • @imogentaylor6261
      @imogentaylor6261 3 роки тому +4

      Take one day at a time and look after yourself. 😊🤗

  • @bluelotusnefertoum2144
    @bluelotusnefertoum2144 3 роки тому +54

    Its not that INFPs are always depressed. We stay mostly in the state of melancholy because we sometimes have a strong amount of guilt feelings about being happy since the world so fucked up But when the dark cloud of depression kicks in Its all bad:(

    • @CatCrazy_
      @CatCrazy_ 3 роки тому

      Agree!

    • @nadyaif3972
      @nadyaif3972 3 роки тому +1

      True:( and we can't rlly talk abt it cus we literally care abt it (probably) a little too much than the average person, abt this fucked up world etc etc😭🤣

    • @me-shhh
      @me-shhh 3 роки тому

      So true

  • @Natalia-tq9qx
    @Natalia-tq9qx 2 роки тому +12

    As an INFP, I think we don't want others to think we have bad intentions. So we struggle to share because we don't want others to think we're looking for attention. That's my main thing.

  • @dee23gaming
    @dee23gaming 3 роки тому +14

    The problem with parents is they don't want to hear about you. They think it's a "phase" you go through. And that just makes the whole thing worse. What you tell them goes in the one ear, and out the other. And this is why people suffering depression and other abstract emotions can never be fully understood.

    • @sarahdiana8934
      @sarahdiana8934 3 роки тому +2

      INFP is one of the rarer types. Many of us have parents who are not intuitive and/or not feelers. I wish I had realized sooner that my parents will never be able to appreciate (or even really see) this core aspect of me. It would have been good if I had looked for other people, teachers, or a therapist to open up to a bit.

  • @nova-a7404
    @nova-a7404 3 роки тому +203

    Can you do a video, 16 personalities having a conversation with 6 year old timmy? 😂really tho. How each personality conversates with a child

    • @-x562
      @-x562 3 роки тому +17

      great idea

    • @Chigger
      @Chigger 3 роки тому +14

      ENFP: "Let's settle this with a round of paintball. Loser buys winner ice cream."

    • @catchingpearls-7778
      @catchingpearls-7778 3 роки тому +3

      If you don’t know how to talk a child naturally then you don’t need to be talking to them.

    • @nova-a7404
      @nova-a7404 3 роки тому +7

      @@catchingpearls-7778 What do you mean?Everyone is to encounter a child somewhere and sometime

    • @junsjulywonpilsyonpilchany5241
      @junsjulywonpilsyonpilchany5241 3 роки тому +2

      @@Chigger sounds exactly like my ENFP friend.

  • @nicoleonfeels
    @nicoleonfeels 3 роки тому +42

    Regardless of personality type, we all have feelings and need some way to make sense of them.

  • @Sam-bc9ll
    @Sam-bc9ll 3 роки тому +29

    I’m not sure if I’m ISFP or INFP, but whenever I want to cry or am really down I go to my room and lock the door. I hate being comforted because I feel like I’m the only one who can work out my feelings. There was a period where I was depressed and I came out of it by telling myself to stop dwelling on it. Kind of like that video you made about dealing with pain by watching it and not doing anything about it (not feeding the pain or rejecting it). I had also started to open up to my mom. A lot of your viewpoints and insights have really helped me or encouraged me. Thanks FJ :)

  • @victoriatellez1181
    @victoriatellez1181 3 роки тому +18

    I dont like to talk to anyone about my feelings so i just record my self talking to the camera as if i was gonna put it on youtube and sometimes I find myself crying in some of my videos. Also it help if u scream as loud as u can...gets stress out.
    -an INFP

  • @cityboi9382
    @cityboi9382 3 роки тому +6

    i get pissed when someone criticizes me like "i was already thinking that"

  • @-nustella-1947
    @-nustella-1947 3 роки тому +32

    As an infp and diagnosed with depression, i would say that aside from overthinking is the fact that my feelings are so enhanced compared to others that i feel like there is no one that can evee understand all the feelings that are overflowing me.

  • @parkerfitzen3609
    @parkerfitzen3609 3 роки тому +75

    Part of it could be ENFPs with depression and social anxiety mistyping as INFPs. That's the boat I was in. I'm naturally more extroverted, but mental illness can lead people to isolate and display characteristics that are typically associated with introversion. That's probably the case with many extroverts mistyping as introverts.
    Also, therapy. We need to break down the stigma around it. There are probably a lot of people you know who go, but just don't talk about it because of the stigma. It's a lot more normal than you probably think it is, and we need to work towards socially normalizing counseling and therapy so that people aren't afraid to get help. Everybody needs help every once in a while. Psychology Today has a great website for finding counselors and therapists in your local area.

    • @CatCrazy_
      @CatCrazy_ 3 роки тому +10

      I love this comment because I'm an INFP and I had an ENFP friend and she was shy, really shy and she had anxiety, and it looked like most of the times I was the extroverted one around her, but after some years she made some friends and managed to become more confident about herself, that's the same time I learned about MBTI, and when she told me she was ENFP I was surprised, but then putting the pieces together it made sense, she liked to socialize and go out, she was just in a dark place and was shy as well, while I'm pretty much fine at home and don't really need anyone XD
      This to say that extroverts need to stop mistyping themselves as introverts, I hope people stop thinking of introverts as depressed and actually go seek help, you are not an introvert for being depressed, you can be depressed whether you are and introvert or extrovert, it has nothing to do with your personality type!
      It's true introverts are more likely to be depressed because they (we) overthink pretty much everything and most of the times we don't share, but that doesn't mean extroverts can't feel either, extroverts or introverts, we are all human, and we all should be entitled to look for help and have support.

  • @Kapradinka
    @Kapradinka 3 роки тому +32

    Us, INFP's are angels, we love others and we help them unconditionally, we want everyone else to be happy... that is why we have to see the value in us. I am always repeting this in my head when i feel bad - I'm an angel... so are you.

    • @NoOne-wt6om
      @NoOne-wt6om 3 роки тому +2

      It's not because you say a bad thing but I get offended and feel inferior when I hear things like that. I'm not an 100% pure person and I'm not much of a people's person and I don't have enough energy to help everyone unconditionally so I feel like a bad INFP, if that makes sense. :/

    • @Kapradinka
      @Kapradinka 3 роки тому +1

      @@NoOne-wt6om Don't feel bad, if you are focused more on youself it's a good thing. Not much INFPs can do that.

    • @seherling207
      @seherling207 3 роки тому +1

      @@NoOne-wt6om every INFP is different so definitly don't feel bad that you are not how OP has described INFP's

    • @lizethc8239
      @lizethc8239 3 роки тому +2

      @@NoOne-wt6om I think the fact that you think that about yourself proves that you are a good person indeed. You worry about not meeting those standards, so that means you actually care about others and improving yourself.

    • @cheese5252
      @cheese5252 3 роки тому

      @@NoOne-wt6om I feel exactly like that too

  • @bunny_0288
    @bunny_0288 2 роки тому +13

    I'm an INFP, and I'm probably one of the happiest most upbeat people I know. I mean sure, sometimes I have a down day, and I go through mourning and grieving periods when I lose someone or something bad happens. But happy and optimistic seems to be my default setting, and I try to still find the bright side of life even during those hard times. I struggle much more with anxiety than I do depression, but I tend to just avoid things that make me anxious as much as possible or I try to work through why those things are giving me anxiety and try to fix the root issue just depending on what it is. The way I see it, life is too short to spend it being depressed and miserable, so I focus on happy and positive things. I'm also a Christian, so I experience a deep sense of peace and joy that can only come from the Lord and putting my faith in Jesus. The world is temporary and our lives are but vapors compared to eternity. So I try to focus on all the beauty that God has created, and I pray for the negative and terrible things and turn it over to God to handle. I do what I can to help with the people God has placed in my life, but I can't take the weight of the world on my shoulders.

  • @brandons.4907
    @brandons.4907 3 роки тому +61

    I’m an INFP and I’d honestly be just fine if the world was like the Shire from LOTR.

  • @leenbasha
    @leenbasha 3 роки тому +107

    I now understand Fi on a spiritual level and I def have Fe lol, FJ can you please revisit the differences between the cognitive functions, you seem to be the only mbti teacher I understand, k thanks byee :D

  • @piratealeks6865
    @piratealeks6865 3 роки тому +18

    I think that being in touch with who we are, how we feel, what we care about etc is so important to us that we’re sort of forced to deal with our emotions rather than stuff them away like many people do.

    • @NoOne-wt6om
      @NoOne-wt6om 3 роки тому +1

      Yes, I always wonder how other people can neglect their emotions that much and still seem fine and productive, that seems like a talent. However, if we become in a state of an extreme self-absorption we are in risk of becoming unproductive. :/

  • @lovefrequency1111
    @lovefrequency1111 3 роки тому +40

    I am an INFP and I think I am one of the happiest people I know lol I always tend to see the positive in things and I love to live in quiet contemplation. I find the world a magical place but because I am not loud about it, people think that I am sad hahaha the very few that I let in say I am childlike and innocent... However I need a LOT of alone time and when I don't get it I get overwhelmed ... which makes me isolate myself at times and I worry I am being rude to people... besides that it's all a fairy tale in my head haha

    • @NoOne-wt6om
      @NoOne-wt6om 3 роки тому +3

      After contemplation and introspection, I deduced that I'm an optimist who is sensitive to negative energy and who finds beauty in darkness, if that makes sense. 😌

    • @lovefrequency1111
      @lovefrequency1111 3 роки тому +1

      @@NoOne-wt6om 100% my friend, 100%!

    • @nadiaelsa5688
      @nadiaelsa5688 3 роки тому +3

      i was once feel the happiest alone, and then life happens and some friend betrayal, people leave me and it feels like the world is crumbling down... i feel like i am going to depression, sometimes zoning out and stuff... i wish i can go back to my happy place alone soon..

  • @alexandreayoung7920
    @alexandreayoung7920 3 роки тому +7

    When I (INFP) feel a bit down, I talk with my INFJ bestie, and within minutes, I feel much better. She knows all the best questions to ask that help me to organize my thoughts and get back to reality, much like what FJ talked about. It really helps!

  • @aurora_boketto7746
    @aurora_boketto7746 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you. It's really hard for me to talk to others about my problems because I constantly deal with emotionally closed off and unempathetic people. I want more empathetic friends

  • @jamie_johns
    @jamie_johns 3 роки тому +22

    As INTP, I'm a robot learning something here.

  • @Kusid68
    @Kusid68 3 роки тому +7

    it's amazing that for someone as emotional as i am, it's actually really hard to talk about my feelings

  • @sadie5364
    @sadie5364 3 роки тому +28

    Just thinking about how much I'm hating life RN and I got this notification 😗😗 (I'm an INFP)

    • @dragonkun-2278
      @dragonkun-2278 3 роки тому +3

      Aww, me too. I feel like all the INFPs who hate their life and is sad should talk to each other and form a group. Like I don't know, discord maybe?

    • @ritaruggerone4434
      @ritaruggerone4434 3 роки тому

      @@dragonkun-2278 This is our group-the comment sections of James Frank videos 😆

    • @healingandgrowth-infp4677
      @healingandgrowth-infp4677 3 роки тому

      Yes same here 🤗😊

  • @MrsRocketCat
    @MrsRocketCat 3 роки тому +3

    Just an ENFP here trying to help her INFP friend, understand him better and trying to support him💆🏻‍♀️

  • @heba6746
    @heba6746 3 роки тому +2

    man it's really fun watching your videos, make me feel like talking to a close friend .

  • @paulakrumin8
    @paulakrumin8 3 роки тому +13

    As an infp, I find it worlds easier to describe my feelings than express my feelings. And when they do leak or explode out, I am horribly embarrassed.

  • @pagethreemodel
    @pagethreemodel 3 роки тому +13

    I talk myself out of being happy, and enjoying the moment lol. That's how bad it is.

  • @thepanthar
    @thepanthar 3 роки тому +87

    Are INFPs depressed?
    EVERY 60 SECONDS IN AFRICA A MINUTE PASSES.

  • @summershowerr
    @summershowerr 8 місяців тому +2

    INFP depression help: 4:30
    1) write your emotions down, strukture them, look at reality and what IS ACTUALLY HAPPENING IN THE MOMENT this can help u stop spiraling
    2) remember your emotions are like a big ship when depressed is going in a negative direction, so thats hard to turn around

  • @sophiabeebeeboo4579
    @sophiabeebeeboo4579 3 роки тому +4

    Every word in this video is accurate. INFP’s often have a desire to do good in the world, to create some sort of change, but we often crumble under stress easily, and can find almost anything in our environment or even our own mind that can create negative emotions within us. This was a really really good video, everything you said was spot on lol.

  • @maryia.v
    @maryia.v 3 роки тому +28

    I'm an ESFJ and have a teenage INFP sister whom I've been despatate to understand and help out but an amicable relationship does not come naturally between us
    Just wanted to drop a note that this video is really really helpful, thank you Frank!

    • @ritaruggerone4434
      @ritaruggerone4434 3 роки тому +10

      You’re an awesome sister to do that! I’m sure your sister will really appreciate the effort you are making to understand her. Good luck 😊💖

  • @luminoustorus548
    @luminoustorus548 3 роки тому +26

    Intuition is not something separate from “Reality” ... just a more subtle part interwoven throughout. Emotions and intuition are not exactly the same. When your emotions are aligned with your experiences then your Intuition is more developed. You could be at odds with your environment for completely valid reasons, or not, and intuition is what will guide you into waters more suited to the needs of both you and those around you. Better for overall wellness to work with that Higher Awareness and its relationship with the emotional and physical, rather than completely disregard it. Trashing your Intuition anytime you have bad feelings will only further distance you from Reality. There is more to Reality than fundamental materialism is capable of accepting. It has a place as all does. To each their own though. Do and Be whatever works for you, and rock it.

    • @koalakoala2344
      @koalakoala2344 3 роки тому

      Intuition is like driving a car. You're not consciously observing the curvature of the road, measuring your speed and so on, neither do your physiological senses tell you what to do. But once you're used to the car, you "know" or "feel" what to do, without having to tell your muscles.

  • @tarawillis5450
    @tarawillis5450 3 роки тому +7

    My fiancé and I are both INFP’s, and we understand this perfectly. ♥️

  • @luz_alas8169
    @luz_alas8169 2 роки тому +8

    As an INFP it helps a lot to write down your emotions and do something artistic with them, this frees us from the pressure of having to talk to someone and helps us process what we feel. I recommend 100%

  • @SofaSoSilly
    @SofaSoSilly Рік тому +1

    I feel so called out at the same time as feeling immense emotions of relatability to this entire thing. Wow

  • @blackcatlady2172
    @blackcatlady2172 3 роки тому +12

    I'm an ISTP woman, and I suffer from depression. Was officially diagnosed over 20 years ago.

    • @xxphoenixx8398
      @xxphoenixx8398 3 роки тому +5

      I hope you find things that can help you throughout life m'am=)

    • @blackcatlady2172
      @blackcatlady2172 3 роки тому +2

      @@xxphoenixx8398 Thanks. It's an everyday struggle.

  • @thamammubaris4000
    @thamammubaris4000 3 роки тому +7

    Frank James : exists
    MBTI : lets get this man a whole career

  • @bordo3850
    @bordo3850 3 роки тому +4

    Hey, INFP here. I just wanted to say thank you for your whole channel.
    Even when you mentioned INFJs a lot in your earlier videos explaining your feelings and thoughts, I also really could resonate with most of them. So thank you 😊
    Love from Hungary 🇭🇺

  • @Angie......
    @Angie...... Рік тому +12

    As an INFP, i feel like my feelings aren't justifiable enough, so those feelings I just deal with it myself. I left a group of friends, literally shut them out of my life without saying why. Of course I said 'hey, i'm leaving' but that was after they kept pushing through text message (I had left every groupchat I was in with them). The reason for that it's because, another girl from the group left for the same reasons that I did, but her words and feelings were belittled. I didn't want to feel that, and I didn't want to waste time explaining to a group of people that were just going to make fun of my feelings. Feelings I've had since 9thed grade, I already graduated. I knew that my feelings are justifiable, but are they justifiable for them? That's when I keep silence.

    • @shoozymusic
      @shoozymusic Рік тому +7

      An INFP stereotype is Verbose phrases and poetic language. But really I think we just want to SAY something to people, and if silence carries a better message and doesn't waste our time with people who wouldn't even understand our motivations in the first place, then yeah. I feel that dude.

  • @sientwa6102
    @sientwa6102 3 роки тому +2

    4:40 so true... I often find myself, digging into dark topics and negative News.