Marriage is not a life-support system - Singleness is not life-threatening | Benjamin Zulu

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  • @SwitchTVKenya
    @SwitchTVKenya  4 роки тому +6

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  • @Miss_Greatness
    @Miss_Greatness 4 роки тому +55

    I see Benjamin Zulu I click😀he should write a book. We learn a lot from him🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦

    • @drfaithkilonzo
      @drfaithkilonzo 3 роки тому +1

      Gotcha 😁 Click away 😂

    • @pm1647
      @pm1647 3 роки тому +1

      AyiloBaba he must vist South Africa honestly

  • @perryovercommer1562
    @perryovercommer1562 4 роки тому +54

    Finnaly... A man that speaks the truth and the reality life.

  • @collinsregeru8951
    @collinsregeru8951 4 роки тому +98

    This guy is the King Solomon of our generation in terms of wisdom.

  • @reubenbokea5459
    @reubenbokea5459 4 роки тому +48

    Benjamin. Fix the society. A fixed man is a fixed society.

  • @thedisciplinedtrader2024
    @thedisciplinedtrader2024 4 роки тому +10

    I keep saying this. This man is wise beyond his years.

    • @claireg388
      @claireg388 3 роки тому +1

      Hi gal. Claire here from UNHCR :-)

    • @thedisciplinedtrader2024
      @thedisciplinedtrader2024 3 роки тому +1

      @@claireg388 omgosh such a small world lol. Hop u gud. I love Benja

  • @jenipherachieng9837
    @jenipherachieng9837 4 роки тому +27

    I am a lady and I have this lazy syndrome,caused by prolonged struggles and a series of bad luck,any thing i try to do it never tuns out well .My parents n family have supported me but even them they feel theyve reached a dead end,Outside i always have this smiley face but within am fed up with this life.It has even gotten to an extent of me fearing to be in a relationship cause I feel i'll never be enough for any guy out there, and has even made me push away even the ones who have good intentions.But after listening to this i wont give up just yet.Let me keep the faith.

    • @chilyn5
      @chilyn5 4 роки тому +1

      Please don’t give up. Keep on pushing on, challenges will come, don’t beat yourself up if things don’t go according to plan. Just persevere and keep on 🙏🏽

    • @jenipherachieng9837
      @jenipherachieng9837 4 роки тому

      @@chilyn5 thanks for the encouraging words.

    • @Tinx.
      @Tinx. 4 роки тому

      @ The bigger The Better, you are brave for sharing your struggle. Keep your head up & prosper. Best regards!

    • @dorothyanyango2197
      @dorothyanyango2197 4 роки тому

      It is good that you know what the problem is. It is the first step to change. Just keep on fighting

    • @masharyah6897
      @masharyah6897 4 роки тому +1

      First step to healing is the acknowledgement of the suffering. Be encouraged my sister

  • @keziahmwangi9920
    @keziahmwangi9920 4 роки тому +23

    Aki Benjamin Zulu should come more than once a week..Tuanze petition if need be. #IfikieSwitchtv

  • @winnienalwimba6202
    @winnienalwimba6202 4 роки тому +19

    The truth in this mmmmm...I always enjoy how you address issues realistically, calling a spade a spade... Listening from Zambia

  • @serahm8207
    @serahm8207 4 роки тому +4

    Benjamin has really helped to move out of love drama n the idea of love n relationship being a life supporting machine which is absolutely not!thank you @fullcircle for this

  • @isaaclenzi2353
    @isaaclenzi2353 4 роки тому +8

    Benjamin Zulu your really a blessing in africa. Kenya may God bless you ,you and Joice

  • @tiffanycampbell9562
    @tiffanycampbell9562 4 роки тому +9

    Hello from Jamaica!!!! I love your show and I absolutely LOVE Benjamin Zulu! Please hail him up for me and I love the work that you guys are doing! Nuff love! :)

  • @joycemiracle1588
    @joycemiracle1588 4 роки тому +31

    Don't marry with a compromise on serious things; marriage is not a life support system and singleness is not life threatening

  • @janetnairuba442
    @janetnairuba442 4 роки тому +21

    I have see and continuing seeing that thing through my dad to make even worse my brothers are also just as like him. The efforts that my mum has to put it's sad and sickening at the same time

  • @otienojush6415
    @otienojush6415 4 роки тому +51

    Who is this guy... How come I have never tuned him to his shows... I just read about him on a face book group and Ooooh my Gawd.... I will never miss his interviews

    • @asakhecuntsulana8033
      @asakhecuntsulana8033 4 роки тому +11

      Benjamin Zulu is God sent to unveil the misconception in relationships. The nation of Benjamin in the Bible exists and I believe he is a descendant of them.

    • @josephineakumu878
      @josephineakumu878 4 роки тому +9

      Welcome to wisdom corner my brother. You're not so late. Just search for his videos both on his UA-cam channel and switch TV. Benjamin has GREATLY Impacted my life and I can't wait for the upload always.

    • @caramel9244
      @caramel9244 4 роки тому +5

      Indeed Benjamin is great & we r lucky that his sharing his wide wisdom with us. God bless u Benjamin & may God continue using u & taking u to greater heights 🙌🏾

    • @shiishiro9574
      @shiishiro9574 4 роки тому +4

      He is the light sent to this generation..a gem💎

    • @dorcuskencey6816
      @dorcuskencey6816 4 роки тому +3

      Betterer late than ever....most of us I've sunk deep in this channel. I've learnt alot about r/ships coz of him

  • @zamashezi8497
    @zamashezi8497 4 роки тому +3

    "Never say u are bored u need to check in and engage" 💯 thanks Benji

  • @caramel9244
    @caramel9244 4 роки тому +14

    My favorite show now! Thank u Benjamin & Joyce. Benjamin u should surely get your own show, u totally deserve it!👌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾😍 May God continue using u & taking u to greater heights...🙌🏾

  • @sofi1672
    @sofi1672 4 роки тому +2

    Anytime I come on this channel, I look for Mr.Zulu. He’s amazing, great mentor and very transparent. 🙂

  • @ebbykerubo95
    @ebbykerubo95 4 роки тому +2

    Salute to you guy's Joyce our host and our great guest Hon.Benjamin.nice topic

  • @patriciaarach9374
    @patriciaarach9374 4 роки тому +2

    Thanks Joyce And Bejamin. I can see u are mostly using English for those of us who can't understand Swahili. We appreciate.

  • @tecklersmith2304
    @tecklersmith2304 4 роки тому +10

    I truly treasure my Grandpa n grandma..the most hard-working people I know

  • @faithombeva7801
    @faithombeva7801 4 роки тому +46

    Dear Mr Benjamin if u kill us with the truth ,plz come for burial too🤣🤣🤣,am I alone dying for this truth??

    • @twoten2547
      @twoten2547 4 роки тому +1

      We are many dying😂😂😂😂how can one even realign to the right path?

    • @faithombeva7801
      @faithombeva7801 4 роки тому +2

      @@twoten2547 if u follow this man advice ,we can save many lives

    • @nyaucimuoria2787
      @nyaucimuoria2787 4 роки тому +1

      😂😂😂humuorus hard truth.

    • @judith7964
      @judith7964 4 роки тому +3

      His truth can send someone to ICU, He dissects everything we overlook

    • @nakamijunic5844
      @nakamijunic5844 4 роки тому +1

      You are also doing same 😅😅😅

  • @dorcuskencey6816
    @dorcuskencey6816 4 роки тому +11

    Talking about people working abroad and sending money home....🤔 I get you loud and clear..... My first contract in middle East was awesome I saved money and bought plot for myself but this 2nd round....mm..... *wachatu!* It's been like every month I've to send money till I regret coming over here but *last month* was the end of me sending them MONEY I just want to cater for my kids needs and school fees and focus on how to development on that plot that I bought.
    My brother is also among the men you are talking about... *he is just there,confused like ever,he doesn't know which way to go,the worst part he has kids and wife and he can't handle his responsibilities until my mum has to step in. Our parents divorced and my dad remarried... Since then life changed. I learnt I need to be a strong woman and work until things work my way and not to stop at anything.

  • @anne-mariekosh5010
    @anne-mariekosh5010 4 роки тому +3

    This Benjamin dude is brilliant and wise. I like the things he says.

  • @richauntie316
    @richauntie316 4 роки тому +25

    Always representing UGANDA 🇺🇬💓💓💓

  • @Ndaps1
    @Ndaps1 4 роки тому +2

    Benjamin Zulu telling it like it is, his conversations are always authentic 👌🏾

  • @bamidiamond
    @bamidiamond 4 роки тому +2

    So much sense spoken here! Much admiration!

  • @itsneshonly
    @itsneshonly 4 роки тому +5

    Hello Benjamin, I come from that kind of family and I see sense in what you're saying. I'm a lady in my 30s and that has affected my life in alot of ways. I've tried to shape my life but I end up in conflict with myself. I've reached a point where I feel I may need help

  • @yvetteebot302
    @yvetteebot302 3 роки тому

    Thank you Mr Zulu for your wisdom. I have experience what you said about trusting our parents blindly. Am in Dubai . I did send money home to my mother for a business because I wanted to have a business running back home. Four months later there wasn't any business and there wasn't any money. And alot of people go through this because we want to honour our parents.

  • @philipwaita5946
    @philipwaita5946 4 роки тому +2

    True everything changed when my dad passed on....still healing

  • @minkrasi
    @minkrasi 4 роки тому +5

    Modelling value of hard work is so crucial...

  • @charitypawandiwa8429
    @charitypawandiwa8429 4 роки тому +1

    Retraining my mind to abundance - its a mindset. Thanks

  • @julietmahlangu8775
    @julietmahlangu8775 4 роки тому +4

    My heart always sobs for father and son relationship, I hope one day things will turn. I'm raising two boys without a father figure I'm always asking God to intervene in raising them.

    • @huldahgideon7250
      @huldahgideon7250 4 роки тому +1

      Invite your brothers (their uncles) to occasionally visit and straighten things out

    • @isabelomolo8853
      @isabelomolo8853 4 роки тому +1

      Please find positive male figures to mentor them

  • @mercymimi4022
    @mercymimi4022 4 роки тому +1

    I totally relate with this topic. I wish Full Circle could last longer. The conversations gets interesting only to realize that you have 2 min

  • @margaretmuguru9651
    @margaretmuguru9651 4 роки тому +2

    I like this. No hiding our heads in the sand!

  • @franciscakanini1859
    @franciscakanini1859 4 роки тому +1

    Wow what a rich conversation, I love it there are people who don't care about Tomorrow, they want to feel good today tomorrow will take care of itself, others it's because of copy pasting other peoples life

  • @Bee-wd4mh
    @Bee-wd4mh 4 роки тому +6

    Clicked on it immediately I saw Zulu’s name😊

  • @catherinenjoroge703
    @catherinenjoroge703 4 роки тому +2

    Oh i truly love this!!!!! thanks Benjamin and Joyce

  • @Zaharawakasa-cz6vy
    @Zaharawakasa-cz6vy 6 місяців тому

    Thank you benji i think this is what i needed to hear

  • @DianahKepha
    @DianahKepha 4 роки тому +6

    Ofcourse I couldn't miss this,,my all time show

  • @sarahsmrdal7094
    @sarahsmrdal7094 4 роки тому +24

    Poverty mentality. Say it again. One day I also went to a group of disabled street beggers to help them by lending them soft loans to do business. They all had excuses of how they are unable to work. But they were busy producing children left & right. I was puzzled. But now I know its the poverty mindset.

  • @kinamogaka
    @kinamogaka 4 роки тому +2

    Great advice, that's why we keep it real on our channel.

  • @judykiondo
    @judykiondo 4 роки тому +4

    Thanks Zulu and joy learning alot

  • @MrMosesomondi
    @MrMosesomondi 4 роки тому +1

    Wow, I love this. Thank you Benjamin

  • @MJ-uj4dr
    @MJ-uj4dr 4 роки тому +13

    Joyce, what was wrong today? You seemed down and particilarly critical of Benjamin this episode.
    Benjamin, always the star of the show! You had some real gems on submission going both ways...conditioning for survival, not success....and singleness not being life threatening!

    • @Ubepati
      @Ubepati 4 роки тому

      She is allowed to have a bad day you know, when she is not always bubbly and laughing!!!

    • @nakirembekabrenda4977
      @nakirembekabrenda4977 4 роки тому

      She's not well today.

  • @prosperlilian1371
    @prosperlilian1371 4 роки тому +3

    Wisdom on double lanes. Please Joyce let him address poverty mentality next time please

  • @reubenbokea5459
    @reubenbokea5459 4 роки тому +8

    The modern man is actively pursuing Passivity. The slow but sure road to destruction

  • @anastaciambelete4048
    @anastaciambelete4048 4 роки тому +3

    It happens actually very common in most homes men when they are dissapointed quickly and give up

  • @Herhealingtouch6683
    @Herhealingtouch6683 4 роки тому +9

    Joyce you not your jolly self today ....pray all is well with you

  • @NJOKIYULEMMOJA
    @NJOKIYULEMMOJA 4 роки тому +3

    Thank you Benjamin 💝

  • @dianahvuyanzi1600
    @dianahvuyanzi1600 4 роки тому +17

    Waw that's true benjamin I have seen my dad ,he is there all efforts comes from my mum since I was born until now am almost 22yrs I respect my mum totally bt that's sad i hope I will not meet guy with that habbity🙏🙏🙏

  • @justusmwesiga6723
    @justusmwesiga6723 4 роки тому +1

    I will always apologise whenever I miss out to be live on ur programs.

  • @AbaitheyBeauty
    @AbaitheyBeauty 4 роки тому +1

    First time hearing him and I’m already a fan

  • @MrZim263
    @MrZim263 4 роки тому +4

    A real man should rise to the occasion, to be a role model to his son.... Thank you Benjamin. Joyce you are great too!

  • @lillzlillz7132
    @lillzlillz7132 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you what an eye opener.....

  • @liliankamara4208
    @liliankamara4208 4 роки тому

    You're such a wise man please write a book

  • @elizabethwangui8592
    @elizabethwangui8592 4 роки тому +2

    Loving the show

  • @africanloveletter1988
    @africanloveletter1988 4 роки тому +1

    Wow Zulu... Good one my brother.. 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

  • @sharonnasambu6753
    @sharonnasambu6753 4 роки тому +2

    You always hit it zulu

  • @phillsnafuna5962
    @phillsnafuna5962 4 роки тому

    l love this show good job Benja and joyce.

  • @esthermumbi3598
    @esthermumbi3598 4 роки тому +4

    This man is so wise..

  • @magdalenewanjala6957
    @magdalenewanjala6957 4 роки тому +2

    Awesome show.

  • @rachealkibaiya7593
    @rachealkibaiya7593 4 роки тому +6

    Yes,submission is both ways

  • @MrZim263
    @MrZim263 4 роки тому +3

    I will never be bored again!

  • @harrietacquah2545
    @harrietacquah2545 3 роки тому

    I'm a woman who is very driven. A go getter and constantly improving myself. Life is an adventure for me so there's no way I can be with a man who lacks life. That will dampen my energy...in other words putting my life in coma and I will not allow it. If you are not a man who is not committed to your growth, don't come knocking on my door.

  • @rachelwanjiru4106
    @rachelwanjiru4106 4 роки тому +1

    This is great wisdom.

  • @wambuijage7693
    @wambuijage7693 4 роки тому +5

    I see most people who have commented are ladies.....how I wish this somehow got to the man. We really need to mentor the man in society!!!! The women hear this and run with it, but my worry is??......how many men watch this? Are we reaching the man??

    • @melmel7011
      @melmel7011 4 роки тому

      The lazy man won't care much about gathering information to better their livelihoods. You won't find them in such channels. They only watch stuff for entertainment.

    • @sylviawangila9438
      @sylviawangila9438 4 роки тому

      The problem with they don't usually watch such talk they will get to youtube and go watch footable while they are the one to fix the society bcz they carrying the generation

  • @famelitech
    @famelitech 4 роки тому +5

    Being born in the coastal region can also make one very lazy; I'm just thinking loud.

  • @susanwangui4181
    @susanwangui4181 4 роки тому +2

    That's the worst man to be lack of ambition and self drive

  • @charleswachira7386
    @charleswachira7386 Рік тому

    Hapa kumeharibika ❤😢😮

  • @rentspaceke5309
    @rentspaceke5309 4 роки тому +3

    Wow impressive topic

  • @tandiesthandy7528
    @tandiesthandy7528 4 роки тому +2

    Morning team..Grace Wololo!!😂💞 I like it

  • @emilyadhiambo5707
    @emilyadhiambo5707 4 роки тому +1

    I cant miss any episode

  • @charitypawandiwa8429
    @charitypawandiwa8429 4 роки тому

    Conditioned to survival and not to success.

  • @leelashammy
    @leelashammy 4 роки тому

    Heeh for once Joyce amesongwa 😁😁 still look stunning 🤗🤗❤️

  • @numbernon6779
    @numbernon6779 4 роки тому +1

    Very true Benjamin, some men are lazy

  • @sharonkathini9419
    @sharonkathini9419 4 роки тому +8

    Sure some men's are harmless and useless .I agree

  • @SylviahandRichard
    @SylviahandRichard 4 роки тому +3

    I totally agree

  • @Candydelight1
    @Candydelight1 4 роки тому +1

    Very interesting and with less publicity it would be better.

  • @jostinajuma6036
    @jostinajuma6036 4 роки тому

    Benjamin am looking for connection in counseling psychology

  • @bemoheltraveller
    @bemoheltraveller 4 роки тому

    Lesson learned sir .

  • @alicemueni3745
    @alicemueni3745 4 роки тому +2

    Truth truth, and it has become a trend nowadays, lazy lazy men , comfortably depending on a woman, how now?? What's the solution to this pandemic?

  • @winnersneeddiscipline4926
    @winnersneeddiscipline4926 4 роки тому +2

    Leave boredom to the children, ❤

  • @bridgetkerubo622
    @bridgetkerubo622 4 роки тому +3

    I love the show and it's my favorite

  • @margretwangari2066
    @margretwangari2066 4 роки тому

    He's talking the truth,my husband was that sleeping human ,am seeing them stupid behaviors to my son GOD forbid

  • @lizzyshayo209
    @lizzyshayo209 4 роки тому

    Lets watch pastor Chris Oyakhilome too...for revealing of christ Jesus!!

    • @pepsdvj24
      @pepsdvj24 4 роки тому +4

      This is true. But these things are happening in the church also and no one is addressing it. 80% of divorce is in the church. God speaks through different vessels not just pastor Chris.

    • @harrietacquah2545
      @harrietacquah2545 3 роки тому

      But this site is not for Pastor Chris. If you want to listen to him, why not go to his videos?

  • @sarahsmrdal7094
    @sarahsmrdal7094 4 роки тому +3

    The problem alot of these lazy men , can be passive aggressive. Its heavy for a woman to tolerate. Its better if they can support the woman.

  • @jacklineokiya9030
    @jacklineokiya9030 4 роки тому

    Lazy men is real. We had them as our fathers, brothers and maybe unfortunately our spouses.

  • @assmanhadi3907
    @assmanhadi3907 4 роки тому

    Thanks a lot Benjamin and Joyce for the wonderful message. Be blessed always 😘😘😘😘😘✍️✍️✍️✍️👌👌👌👌

  • @KADEMTHEFOURTH
    @KADEMTHEFOURTH 4 роки тому +3

    ❤❤

  • @jemimadiananjenga.1076
    @jemimadiananjenga.1076 4 роки тому +2

    The adverts...

  • @wanyanateddy2090
    @wanyanateddy2090 4 роки тому

    That's why we separated with my ex

  • @alphyzqrw7222
    @alphyzqrw7222 4 роки тому +1

    Vijana wa kupaka cutex muache tabia mbaya kuangalia mapaja ya wanawake

  • @balancedviewpoint7418
    @balancedviewpoint7418 4 роки тому +3

    Benjamin you are a great mentor no doubt. You stir and impact many hearts positively. You also need superior mentorship from those coaches that have experience in marriage front. I like you so much as a coach but fear that at later stages of life you may be caught up in the usual challenges of marriage.
    Coaching and reality especially in marriage are not always the same. In marriage you must experience it to understand it. Even the most acclaimed pastors, Archbishops or priests have failed. Be taking time to seek guidance and counselling from superior experienced men like us. Remember, a traffic police officer knows all the laws and traffic acts but many never own cars. The best teachers in school often have the academic failures in their children;The rich also cry; To be born in riches doesn't translate to riches in their journey. A great man like you should live your talk and practice what you speak. Its known that many teach water and drink wine.
    Benjamin, that gift and wisdom of knowledge you have, nurture it and always listen to wise counsel like what I have told you above. I care about you sir and wish you the very best in your life a head. You touch many hearts daily. Kudos man.

    • @nothandovilakazi5496
      @nothandovilakazi5496 4 роки тому +5

      First few sentences and negative energy>>red flags.. No to negativity ⛔️🚩🚩
      Him being a coach has nothing to do with his marriage.. You need to heal!

    • @twoten2547
      @twoten2547 4 роки тому +2

      What do you think he has dealt with the wrong way??

    • @Ubepati
      @Ubepati 4 роки тому +6

      What makes you think he isnt living what he is preaching? You obviously havent watched most of his videos otherwise you would know better than to speak that way!

    • @nothandovilakazi5496
      @nothandovilakazi5496 4 роки тому +3

      @@Ubepati exactly bbe, this marriage is sweet person has unresolved issues with themselves... we don’t need such negativity here, Benjamin is great at what he’s doing.

    • @tommylove7
      @tommylove7 4 роки тому +7

      I think you're a low key pessimist and using assumptions to justify your thoughts. BZ always provides the Psychological perspective of situations which very few people are able to do.

  • @princesskinuthia8788
    @princesskinuthia8788 4 роки тому +1

    👏👏

  • @hellenwanjiku167
    @hellenwanjiku167 4 роки тому

    Comfort zone

  • @janenyambura966
    @janenyambura966 4 роки тому

    benjamin, please school these men...

  • @zoe1870
    @zoe1870 3 роки тому

    Drive slowly in fog but don’t stop or else you stay in the fog forever😳

  • @Tshepiso.
    @Tshepiso. 4 роки тому

    Also Mr Benjamin, a hormonal imbalance in men. Too much estrogen.

  • @rashidagh3530
    @rashidagh3530 4 роки тому

    Hmmm