Men that use your insecurities to lower your self-esteem - Benjamin Zulu

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  • Опубліковано 3 гру 2024

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  • @SwitchTVKenya
    @SwitchTVKenya  4 роки тому +10

    Don't forget to subscribe to Switch TV by clicking ua-cam.com/users/switchtvkenya

    • @silasproffangote927
      @silasproffangote927 4 роки тому +2

      Too dont always forget to upload Benjamin's clips after the show and upload them in full.

    • @amandahaupt1327
      @amandahaupt1327 4 роки тому +1

      You put A in amazing Benjamin!!!! this is so helpful 👏👏👏 thank you for this show, and sharing this topic .
      growing up i Had terrible start with the opposite sex, My dad put me down since i was 5.. my friends in the road made fun of me My brother hit me to hospital years later so throughout my life i had a series of bad experiences God bless you Joyce and Benjamin Zulu ❤️ and all you women watching this. You are worthy and beautiful and you matter ❤️

  • @churchillagutu6812
    @churchillagutu6812 4 роки тому +105

    Benjamin Zulu should start his own podcast yazi🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @michelleakinyi987
    @michelleakinyi987 4 роки тому +40

    My self esteem grew when I met Jesus, wow my perspective was changed including my perspective of myself,praise Jesus,he gives us the healing and identity away from the words of selfish and jealous people 🙏

    • @lavenderflowers1075
      @lavenderflowers1075 3 роки тому

      It's true. He's the best of them all

    • @nonto_mdlalose
      @nonto_mdlalose 3 роки тому +1

      I went through the same thing, Jesus taught me to value myself.. All Glory to him.
      We thank Him for the gift He gave Benjamin, he is truly a blessing!! 😁

  • @givethanks2192
    @givethanks2192 4 роки тому +49

    Be your biggest fan. Teach yourself to LEARN using the formula: aspire, be curious, be self-aware and be vulnerable. You will SOAR

  • @MsLezah85
    @MsLezah85 4 роки тому +11

    Mr Zulu! You need your own show and podcast 💯

  • @rhodahj7121
    @rhodahj7121 4 роки тому +16

    True believe in yourself,we are our own hero,responsible for your own, joy, Trust God who has your purpose thanks Joyce and Benjamin Zulu.

  • @annet5338
    @annet5338 4 роки тому +29

    True people will talk even the closest ones you should be expecting them to support and tell you keepgoing when doing better, immediately they see you shinning they feel like you've become competition and try to bring you back to start !that's the hardest thing I've dealt with. Back 2013 I traveled out of the country and I was in my early 20s so all my family members encourage me to be strong no matter the distance they will always be there praying for me well things wemt well and I went back on vacation then back to work.....that's where the hate started they felt like am putting too much effort then they started pulling away and saying all sorts of words but I never looked back I am still working and this year I completed my dream home and am grateful for my only aunt who never backed on his words she has been always there and telling me not to mind what others say because if I stop no one will be ready to welcome me so I am doing well and I don't care anything being said, I just respect them and keep cool and so far God has been grateful ....so anyone being shaken by family members keep in mind kuna kiwango binadamu anakuwekea cha kufanikiwa but once you go past that it turns to threat and hate but never give up focus on you and do you

  • @judithnabaggala8340
    @judithnabaggala8340 4 роки тому +25

    On the contrary my aunts told me I will be nobody and that made me to make sure I become somebody

  • @towettcheptoo3047
    @towettcheptoo3047 4 роки тому +14

    The only show that gets me to UA-cam

  • @wacekewanjoroge6679
    @wacekewanjoroge6679 4 роки тому +8

    I just discovered this ...been bingee watching all episodes..wisdom detected Mr.Zulu👏🏽

  • @mercykasonde9403
    @mercykasonde9403 4 роки тому +26

    I enjoy listening to Joyce and Benjamin. But please translate when native language is used. We want to understand everything too.

  • @norahnayebare5313
    @norahnayebare5313 4 роки тому +15

    God knew i needed to know about this gentleman. Started watching his videos last week but av learned a lot from his wise words

  • @paulinasizeka4701
    @paulinasizeka4701 4 роки тому +3

    Mr Benjamin ure are healing broken hearts Thank God for the person ure

  • @queendyna2543
    @queendyna2543 4 роки тому +10

    Happening in relationships a lot glad it was addressed

  • @moderndaycynic695
    @moderndaycynic695 4 роки тому +1

    This blessed me. What you attract...opportunities, mates, etc has everything to do with how you feel and little to do with your looks. I needed this reminder.

  • @bridgetjones6819
    @bridgetjones6819 4 роки тому +14

    From watching this video I now know what Asante means, imagine if the Swahili had subtitles😂😂 I would be far. I enjoy this show 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 am from South Africa from the Kingdom of the Zulu’s....

  • @mubizz80
    @mubizz80 4 роки тому +7

    Thank you so much Zulu. You inspire me and you speak right through my brain.
    Thank you Joyce for always hosting such an inspirational teacher, motivator. He actually changes our minds from the regular African politics and corruption talks.
    Its time to build a human being then the nation will be built therein.
    Im from Uganda but currently I'm in Qatar.
    Big-up to all the Zulu fans😉😉

    • @rechealjethro5598
      @rechealjethro5598 4 роки тому +1

      Hello jebaleko am a Ugandan too, am truly leaning a lot from this show, Am in Dubai for now

    • @mubizz80
      @mubizz80 3 роки тому

      @@rechealjethro5598 I'm glad you do enjoy while learning. I'm also in Qatar currently. You got an email?

  • @positivejudith4157
    @positivejudith4157 4 роки тому +5

    Wow!! This man is very smart, thank you both for this topic

  • @hdjjdhdjjd2680
    @hdjjdhdjjd2680 4 роки тому +4

    Mercii ...Nzulu and joyce

  • @nancyayabei5249
    @nancyayabei5249 4 роки тому +1

    This is inspiring, you're touching the hearts of many. Self esteem! It's your belief that makes who you're. Know your strength and weaknesses. Faith makes things easy.

  • @sarahnamazzi8855
    @sarahnamazzi8855 4 роки тому +10

    Best revenge is success

  • @lavenderflowers1075
    @lavenderflowers1075 3 роки тому +2

    Your hair is gorgeous Joyce 😍😍

  • @phifik1058
    @phifik1058 4 роки тому +5

    Ohh my God...this is deep.

  • @aloyovicky5148
    @aloyovicky5148 4 роки тому +6

    My best show ever on UA-cam,, thanks a lot for the good advises Benjamin and Joyce.

  • @Sarah-pw7hz
    @Sarah-pw7hz 4 роки тому +22

    I'm dark skin and when I was in high school my maths teacher called me a monkey and everyone laughed. I got so broken but I'm getting back to my feet. Thanks a lot for clearing it that self esteem is not a continuous thing... But something to work on.

    • @benardoumaanyanga8371
      @benardoumaanyanga8371 4 роки тому +11

      you are obviously a beauty no one should say otherwise the teacher was just reflecting her insecurities on you because she knew you were strong enough to carry her insecurities since she couldnt

    • @gakiikinoti4514
      @gakiikinoti4514 4 роки тому +1

      She sounds broken the tr
      Remember
      You were never the problem

    • @cikuciku2355
      @cikuciku2355 4 роки тому

      sorry to hear that just work on it you will be fine.You just reminded me of on of my aunt from where i schooled in primary,one time she found me i was in class six then, with other 2 classmates standing outside the classroom,we were told not to enter cause we were late for class we just came from lunch that is,and there was already a teacher at the class.So as we waited outside for that lesson to end,my aunt happen to be walking at the coridle and when she arrived where we were,she asked why we were outside while others were inside,so we explained to her we were late.So this aunt of mine gave me few slaps just me and only me but she didn't touch the 2.Since that moment,i said to myself well the friendship i used to have with her,saying hallo to her every morning bla bla bla is finished,i chose to teach her a lesson.so everytime i used to see her,or sometimes i could be sent to her office then i will go but i never said hi,i would just knock,enter then tell her what i was sent for,so i gave her a cold war for 2 years, until one time she came home,and said to my other aunt that "i don't know what i did to her until she changed this much towards me" i never said a word.But that cold war really worked.Now we are friends i ended it and she is fine.

    • @joannjeri591
      @joannjeri591 4 роки тому +4

      Teachers tend to be very shallow minded...i went through the same but i am unstoppable..everytime i meet that teacher i roll down my window n say hae to her.....she said very hurtful things to just bcoz of being dark skinned.....n God is great n faithful i am doing better than her kids....it breaks my heart how teachers throw words or thats part of their training.....

    • @belarlishimw4911
      @belarlishimw4911 4 роки тому

      The way I love dark skin I beg

  • @naomibakano9758
    @naomibakano9758 4 роки тому

    Joyce you are doing well. Ben Zulu is the bomb. Im Nigerian, i jus discovered the program, and im enjoying and learning. I should learn swahili because of the prog. Thank you.

  • @sarahnamazzi8855
    @sarahnamazzi8855 4 роки тому +7

    U r the best. They r too many pipo coming with fire from their mouth. JUST EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF & GOD!!! WELL SAID

    • @jacklineachieng1131
      @jacklineachieng1131 4 роки тому +1

      Succeed to prove that they were wrong, this is true to me and i never gave up now those who thought am nothing they respect me like PhD professor but i don't even have a degree 😀😀😀😂😂😂😂

  • @wanjanation5553
    @wanjanation5553 4 роки тому

    I realllyyyyyyy love listening to this guy ,he jst speaks to me .I love what you are saying,i wish i started earlier

  • @sikhululekilemoyo7156
    @sikhululekilemoyo7156 4 роки тому +1

    Benjamin you are a great teacher keep it up

  • @nakilabilasauda7827
    @nakilabilasauda7827 4 роки тому +7

    Benjamin really says the facts that life has offered us

  • @joliemwinja424
    @joliemwinja424 4 роки тому +4

    I love listen to you 🇨🇩🇨🇦

  • @carolmso1441
    @carolmso1441 4 роки тому +50

    Dating a naccissist is the worst experience ever

    • @lonewolf1865
      @lonewolf1865 4 роки тому +1

      Damn baby girl u also experienced them😔so painful 😭💔

    • @bee12355
      @bee12355 4 роки тому +1

      Yes it is. They will lower your self esteem

    • @Miss_Greatness
      @Miss_Greatness 4 роки тому

      It’s painful, you end up losing yourself to please someone. My ex used to say negative things every time I achieved something and threatened me for leaving him

    • @kmags8065
      @kmags8065 3 роки тому

      It’s bad believe me trust me my dad is one , we suffer daily

    • @lavenderflowers1075
      @lavenderflowers1075 3 роки тому

      @@Miss_Greatness what a douche.

  • @abena7826
    @abena7826 3 роки тому

    very empowering conversation. so blessed

  • @blandinamnyinga8318
    @blandinamnyinga8318 4 роки тому

    huo mguu wa Joyce chaiii with that heyaaaaa!!!!mamaa👌👌

  • @teresagitonga8749
    @teresagitonga8749 4 роки тому

    Very enlightening and powerful message

  • @easterndakondja4328
    @easterndakondja4328 3 роки тому

    Benjamin thank you 😀my favorite psychologist

  • @harrietawino5856
    @harrietawino5856 4 роки тому +3

    Wow,quite helpful.... Thanks.

  • @confidenceeshiogu9946
    @confidenceeshiogu9946 4 роки тому +1

    Big thank you to a man like Zulu

  • @susanbookshop3511
    @susanbookshop3511 3 роки тому

    You decide,your approach and reaction

  • @jaineebito2661
    @jaineebito2661 4 роки тому

    True dat Mr.Zulu, until you know who U are you will believe everything else others say about you n its PAINFUL. True happiness starts with self awareness...

  • @NellyMacharia
    @NellyMacharia 4 роки тому

    Wow! This Bejamin Zulu is a whole wealth knowledge

  • @magdalenewanjala6957
    @magdalenewanjala6957 4 роки тому +2

    Wow..nice info.very very inspiring.

  • @blandinamnyinga8318
    @blandinamnyinga8318 4 роки тому +1

    I loooove my self so much to allow someone or something to bring me down.

  • @prosperousk5477
    @prosperousk5477 3 роки тому

    I love this man💕❤️

  • @immaculaterome2481
    @immaculaterome2481 4 роки тому +5

    Please Mr Zulu. Talk about dating married men

  • @BG-gt1xy
    @BG-gt1xy 3 роки тому

    Amen Benjamin 🙏

  • @sharonjumba4648
    @sharonjumba4648 4 роки тому +24

    You must develop thick skin, the world will throw stones even rotten eggs at you. Understand that it's coming from an insecure person and you can do better.

  • @samuelmburu8576
    @samuelmburu8576 4 роки тому

    Nice advice Zulu. keep it up

  • @CherryJ2911
    @CherryJ2911 3 роки тому

    Mr Benjamin is such a blessing

  • @ajose1
    @ajose1 4 роки тому

    Thenx 4 helping me daddy...

  • @wanjirukarago9308
    @wanjirukarago9308 4 роки тому +4

    Dealing with such a person now ( stalker) ....it's a form of manipulation by the way a very bad habit only cowards do that....but he won't succeed.

  • @megkarugi9665
    @megkarugi9665 4 роки тому +4

    Very true, am fighting this, the guy am dating right now he is putting me really down and my self esteem is getting low, ave tried to quit this r/ship nimeshindwa plz help

    • @lucillea-r9568
      @lucillea-r9568 4 роки тому +3

      You are still in the relationship because you want to my dear tembeza miguu

    • @megkarugi9665
      @megkarugi9665 4 роки тому

      Lucille A-R u can’t understand what am going thru, thanks anyway for ua advise

    • @megkarugi9665
      @megkarugi9665 4 роки тому

      Lucy Muhonja thanks a lot 🙏

    • @blissfulshine
      @blissfulshine 4 роки тому +2

      After losing your self esteem, he will graduate to physical abuse and God knows what next...... Girl run, its the best gift you can give yourself. You need to believe that you deserve and can do better. Love yourself.

    • @faraikaseke4923
      @faraikaseke4923 4 роки тому

      Educate urself abt narcissists. Ul understand and hopefully gain the strength to let go of ur guy.

  • @zikanjideobi6902
    @zikanjideobi6902 4 роки тому

    Nice talk

  • @leroyjuma4998
    @leroyjuma4998 4 роки тому +3

    Wounded lions need healing.

  • @nomvulankoro2109
    @nomvulankoro2109 4 роки тому

    My people, please translate to English as well. We are fans from all corners of the world. I am in South Africa, I am interested in learning the language as well. I am picking up words here and there, Asante.

  • @joycemasusu2315
    @joycemasusu2315 4 роки тому

    Hey Joyce you are beautiful yooh 😍🥰😇

  • @ruthkimani6688
    @ruthkimani6688 4 роки тому +3

    👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🔥🔥🔥

  • @queenafor1861
    @queenafor1861 4 роки тому

    If you know who you are somesome cant tell you who you are not

  • @divinejackie1993
    @divinejackie1993 4 роки тому +2

    👍👍👏👏👏👏👏👏

  • @sarahsmrdal7094
    @sarahsmrdal7094 4 роки тому

    I wonder why alot of women blame themselves for other pipos mistakes.?

  • @Okeezy-v7g
    @Okeezy-v7g 2 роки тому

    Twisted normals. Light bulb moment.b

  • @naomibakano9758
    @naomibakano9758 4 роки тому +19

    Joyce you are doing well. Ben Zulu is the bomb. Im Nigerian, i jus discovered the program, and im enjoying and learning. I should learn swahili because of the prog. Thank you.

    • @nomvulankoro2109
      @nomvulankoro2109 4 роки тому +2

      Africa shall be one even if borders remain, our spirits shall go back to each other. I am in South Africa, love from the South.