Nouman Ali Khan talks to HOTD about forced marriages
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- Опубліковано 8 вер 2024
- Alhamdulillah
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Here on Hadith of the Day (HOTD) we receive thousands of emails a month from the HOTD family.
Many of those emails revolve about forced marriages and we just felt this issue had to be addressed. Many of our youth are going through such issues at the moment and need advice as they're being pressured to marry someone they do not want to. Many of the parents out there also need advice and education and need to learn to trust their children more. In summary there needs to be mutual respect between children and parents. Always respect your parents but there's nothing wrong with having an opinion and airing it respectfully.
We then asked Nouman Ali Khan, one of the most inspirational speakers in the world to speak about this issue as it resonates with so many of our members. Alhamdulillah he agreed and he recorded this special video for HOTD members and for the Ummah at large.
This video is so vital in the education of why forced marriages are wrong. So once you have watched please share this link on your Facebook, Twitter, email, whatsapp groups. Please share to inspire others. Do not forget to SHARE. You never know how this one small action of yours could change someone's life.
Nouman will also be recording future videos Insha'Allah so if you have any topics you'd like us to consider email us on engage@hadithoftheday.com
Thanks for watching.
Love & Duas.
The HOTD Team
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I wish I had the guts to show this to my parents. :(
Aw this is terrible please try to talk to your parents. Inshallah they come to their senses. I make dua for all the women and men suffering from forced marriage
Send this to ur parents wtsup
In Shaa Allah. I will try as much as possible to implement this in my Sister's marriage by knowing her concern. May Allah give me a Halaal job to get the things done.
Only a person who has experienced this will understand the pain, torture and trauma a forced marriage does to person.
I'm stuck with that situation at the moment
1month more and all be forced into a marriage I don't want to be in
I wish I could just disappear
@@shadiyabegum6491 Are you ok?
@@inherblues7261 thanks for asking
I wish I could say that
I was just Married yesterday
I was at least hoping the guy would miraculous turn out to be someone I would be happy with
But all for vain
Nothing is ryt
@@shadiyabegum6491 I'm very sorry. Please know you still have options. This is not the end-all be all, and if you remain unhappy - you can and should leave.
R u fine how same pain
Alhamdulilah, thanks very much for showing us this wonderful video may Allah Bless you with Jannah
My parents forced me for marriage but I promise to my Allah that I will never force my children for marriage never inshAllah 🤲😢
Zahra Durrani the same here sister.. you can write to me if you want Because we are going trough the same thing. May allah make it ease for all sisters and brothers
Yasmin Miso im going through the same situation. Im desperate for a miracle.
Please pray for me
Alhamdulillah...indeed a great video
Showed this to my parents, it didn't work
have patience in sha allah u will make up... because you are not going against islam.. so have sabr in sha allah allah will make up something for you.. i too have similar story..
mail me at shameerishere@gmail.com
Shameer Khan
sister have patience...i know its so hard.i am also suffering...my father has chosen me a my cousin for marriage..and he forces and tells me that this is must that u have to marry..have fate and have taqwah..in sha Alllah .Allah will free us from this
dnt marry any1 else untill n unless ur parents have logical Islamic reason for not doing that thing... Because u will be living ur life.. Just ask Allah for guidance and marry with and of ur choice As prophet saw did the same and for us prophet is ahead of our parents or any1
We need to bring the change.. Earlier there was various things which we children are elimination now a days.. Like dowry .. And this is among one of them.. MARRY OF UR CHOICE
Very true
The bestesttttttttttttttttt video i came across...i thank you so much for it!!! i pray to Allah for you😊
I wish I could show this to my parents.
Jazakallah brother Nouman for this video
It is so hypocritical for some Muslims to shun a haram act (dating) and then engage in a different one (forced marriages). Another issue that needs to be addressed is the racism attributed to this subject. It is plaguing our ummah and I have observed various parents tell their kids that they want them to marry someone from 'our culture'. It does not matter to Allah what your skin complexion is or what arbitrary line you are from or live in. Why should it be a factor in marriage? Yes, it doesn't hurt to have a preference but don't let it be the top priority.
To all the desis (myself included), ask your aunties, parents this: would you rather me marry someone of a different ethnicity who is a humble person and will bring me closer to Allah or someone from 'our culture' who isn't humble?
(y) wish in shaa Allah every parents will understand it!
My problem is that my father has chosen me a guy (I.e my cousin) and I don't like him. I do not have the guts to tell my dad on his face but I tried telling him through my aunty. And he said to my aunty that no matter what she is gonna get married to him and that's my final decision. Now my dad has turned old and I am getting very scared if I hurt him by saying no.. But I cannot marry my cousin. I don't even talk to him. I always take him as my brother. I don't even have a choice. I feel so bad.
What are you gonna do? I am in the same situation :( feel like killing myself
We have to stand up for our selves nayab. If we give up and marry whome our parents want then we will suffer our whole life because we cannot marry someone whome we don't want to and u know there is a hadeeth that if our parents force marriage us and if in case we marry the person we don't want to then our marriage is not valid and everything we do is Zina and the much we go to close to him, the much our parents get sinned because they forced us to marry so and so person without our permission. Just say ur dad that : for ur happiness I will marry whome ever u want, but remember one thing I will never be happy with that person or maybe never accept that marriage as a marriage. Rest is up to u :(...
May Allah Save us all
Khadija Mushtaq I can't stand up for myself because no one in my family supports me. even if it is zina, no one cares because they are only after money. What did u do in your case?
Let's do one thing. Do u use whatsapp?
yes I do
I wish I could show this to the girl's parents.
Subhanallah!! THANKS ALOT BRO
thanks nouman ali khan, didn't know their is so much of meanings. I love all religion and btw, all the religion talks to respecting each other and peace. Its only differs in how one conveys the message to others. Keep going
I'm living it were saying no meant " my father will think I got a boy friend and he will fall ill or fight with me and stop me from work and my mom thinks she won't stay in the house bearing his fights, my sisters won't get suitors cause of my refusal" all this a pressure on me and makes me even not see the guy's positive points. may Allah take my roo7 before this marriage starts.
lina fati i understabd so much and wish the exact same thing :(
Do tahajjud at night and ask Allah swt to help you!!!
Im in a similar situation. Im praying for either a miracle or that Allah takes me away from this cruel duniya. Im in such a terrible situation that even if the guy says no due to whatever reason, i’ll be blamed and shunned by my parents. So, i have no choice. I pray for this duniya to end soon.
My world flipped in a matter hours. I had big dreams and aspirations, none of which are going to come true. I wake up in the middle of the night with palpitations and i’ve started to have panic attacks throughout the day. I don’t want to get out of bed anymore. I have become dead inside!
Im looking for some support. I cant do this by myself. So if anyone knows a support group or something, please let me know.
PLEASE PRAY FOR ME!
@@umbrella2056 I am in a similar situation. Had suicidal thoughts. But think in this way. If not we, then who? If not now, then when? Nobody is going to take a stand for us, it's US who will be doing that. We don't have the privilege to end our lives in between the battle of choices that we started. I am going through the same but I am determined to take a stand. I have been abused by my family, not allowed to continue my job, laptop and cellphone was taken away for a month but I will not give up inshallah.. Iltemaase dua
Allah created every human being free in this world. .we are not slaves of people but Allah.
Thanks Guys.... thanks for sharing
What do i do wen i made it clear that its a No for me but they did the marriage any way. I am an adult and financially independent and a practicing sister and i found him negative of all the quality a man islam pointed out to be. What do I do then... May Allah help me and all those same as i do.
whatever happens just remember one thing the parents must have consent from the child if they want to marry.
Fortress OTM LOL, don't try to cherry pick. you took that out of context. They must consent for legitimate reasons. Most people, especially in the desi culture, object to marriages for illegitimate reasons which are out of bounds (skin color, weight, caste (HA!), culture, country). Anything that precludes marriage is not a legitimate reason for holding up a marriage, and Allah will not hold that person accountable for going ahead and marrying someone with taqwa.
Excellent lecture Brother
Alhamdulilah
The word "marriage" is a concept that does not translate well from Pashtu to English In English I think the best translation would be a solution to female unemployment. When parents get tired of the financial responsibility feeding their daughter they make a deal to sell her for a bride price, and a liability is swapped for an asset. She becomes a live in housekeeping service, a daycare provider, companion to the elderly, domestic servant to the in laws, a scullery maid, an uncompensated adult service provider all on a barter swap arrangement for a homeless shelter and a food pantry or a charity soup kitchen. There is no love, nor desire, nor a domestic partnership nor any actual "relationship" between two people.
+Lorena Smith and at the mercy of your spouse should any quarter be given
Lorena Smith :'( this is my life
Nobody New I would like to help someone but how?
Every parent should watch this..
Ah! These comments "wish i can show this to my parents". Sad
so true
Jazak Allah Khair
***** very good talk indeed mashaAllah. Unfortunately some people just listen to it without acting upon it, and others listen to it and do exactly what has been said in this talk. It really hurts when a boy was sicere and does fight and makes everything perfect and every single word he promised he made it true. Made his parents and the whole world believe in his love, makes every effort possible for a girl who at end of the day just doesnt care, insults him and goes away by saying it is MY choice forgetting about the boy's choice or rights. Leaving that boy shattered in million pieces...but even after that the boy doesnt loose hope because its against his faith and makes duahs every single day for that same girl who betrayed him even after so many months and especially in month of Ramadan. May Allah be the judgde for such people because their case has been given to the ruler of the worlds. Good luck.
Sir. What is your take on interreligious marriages.
Can anyone provide me with the urdu version of this ?
Please someone put subtite in urdu. Many pakistan, etc parents force their daughters to marry and they get tortured by parents and husbands. It is haram.
Thanks for this. I have a question regarding marriage. Is marriage compulsory in Islam?! If a person chooses to remain single is that okay to do so? I've always believed that marriage was compulsory up until recently when someone told me that marriage isn't compulsory- but then again the source of that information is Wikepedia which I don't really take seriously when it comes to religious matters.
It's a strong sunnah. There's a hadith that says marrying is like completing half your Deen.
I'm a commitment-phobe :P
But if it means I'm completing half my Deen... Well, I'm ready to get married to a good Muslim.
Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said, "When a man marries he has fulfilled half of the ‘deen’; so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half."
Supergirl80ify It's not compulsory, but strongly advised. There were some ulema who didn't marry like Sh. Ibn Taymiyah and imam Nawawi. If it was compulsory, they, of all people would've done it.
And wht if my parents always tell me that leave my house ur disrespecting me they abuse me they strt crying they come to beat me...wht should i do...i speak with all the respect but its useless they dont even undrstnd...i am 22 nd same with my sister she is 24😔plz help
Same situation brother being forced to marry my cousin who sleep whole day do nth he dont even pray his looks i cant say anything about looks caz i want a decent man who is religious but my father said i gave my words to them (his sister and brother in law) if i say no he wil kick me out of his house :(
@@amina993 Stand with what's right No matter what wrong always tries to break the right with hardships Don't give up
Please do remember me in your duas
What should i do my parents are forcing me😢
shifa Ansari show them this
@@xannie4508 i dont have guts
If not now, then never. I am going through the same but I am determined to take a stand. I have been abused by my family, not allowed to continue my job, laptop and cellphone was taken away for a month but I will not give up inshallah.. Iltemaase dua
@@tazimfatima9613 Sister never give up always stand against wrong doesn't matter who it is follow the commands of Allah and stand for right in the respectful way we are with you our prayers with you.
@@KashifKhan-tn1km Thank you brother. Please pray for me and the entire ummah.
I watch many lecturers of brother Nauman Ali khan. ..he is authentic in his views but some of his lectures which are in sake of youth are encouraging them to be bold enough to take their marriages decision on their own...I must say it is like promoting love marriages. ..children are now endeavouring for open themself infront of their parents about their concern with the opposite sex..
Farhanamateen Faruqi love marriages are not bad my parents are in a love marriage and have been married for 42 years and are happy
marriage decision is in the hands of the child anyway so its a right given to children by Allah which is being taken away by parents which is so wrong, also there is nothing wrong with love marriage when done right
im 20 year old n im also in sme situation
as if talking about me!!!