Eto yung namiss ko sa vlogging industry ung nag kwekwento lang naka upo parang may ka usap ako 😢 walang for the brand deals ganto lang and oc na miss ka nmen 💕💕💕
i started crying when u played the audio with ur therapist. i cried because realizing na we may have different experiences, but we felt the same in everything. until now im crying because i KNOW now that i needed help. i always think that myself is just crazy just like u thought that everyone has blocked nose in the morning. i thought putting boundaries with people is JUST WEIRD. but i think its not. maybe im also in defense mode and i need to seek help. thank you, ben. thank you.
Out of your 226 Vlogs, this one really felt like a hug. It's not everyday you learn about people's vulnerabilities (especially people whose careers are closely inclined with social media) -- and I think this is very brave of you to do, Ben. Personally, I've also come to the ends of alc*h*lism, forgetting my boundaries, pushing people away with my bad behavior, bursting in anger over the smallest things, and neglecting my needs -- even when my body is already begging me to rest and calm down. I started watching your vlogs in 2018, and from time to time, when I "spiral," I binge watch your content (still)... it does seem like you're good at shedding light in other people's lives (I think that's the hook that got me to watch your content over and over) -- but it also seems like you need to share that light with yourself. We don't know each other personally, but I'll include you in my prayers. I sincerely hope you discover the things that make you smile at ease, enough to lit up everything that has dimmed inside you. Also, here's an excerpt from one of the books that has helped me when I felt like my days were my last, the book is entitled Dear Self by Ruby Dhal, and the line goes: "happiness doesn't always come with the fear that it will leave. Sometimes it comes with the promise that it will stay. All you need to do is welcome it with open arms and a heart spread wide enough to let it stay, wide enough to let in people and adventures in new countries where the wind flows in a different direction, and the mountains peak higher than the clouds, so you start to grasp that the sky isn't the limit, because the sun and the stars are."
natapos ko ung vid mu na tumutulo luha ko ..... hindi pala ako nag iisa,, kaya natin to ben.. alam mu ben ung videos mu lang lagi ko binabantayan.. dont stop believe in yourself .... magaling ka tandaan mu yan..
Sa phase ng buhay ko ngayon at my early 20s napakarami kong insecurities and it triggers me everyday talaga lalo na ngayon na broken ako sa first ever rs ko. Sobraaaang lala g anxiety ko these days tapos yung sabay sabay na problems pa bukod sa rs, sa sarili mo, financial, school & stuff. Hayyyy i don't know. Hindi ko maintindihan but I know I'll get through this.
Worth it 'yung 22 mins sa'yo, Ben. Thank you for sharing your experience with us. Please know that there are a lot of people who value you. I hope you get to feeling completely better soon. We love you! ✨
Being too self-aware is both a blessing and a curse, I’ve learned this through therapy as well because it made me realize that (like you) we, over thinkers tend to try and find solutions for things that we feel like we are at fault or responsible for - even when it comes to our fears and insecurities, that’s why we end up overwhelmed and burdened. So glad you found therapy. It is such an immense help for people like us who tries to take on almost everything for people around us but rarely or don’t even ask for help. Slowly, you’ll get better in asking for support in ways you are comfortable in. Shedding some relationships that are not serving you is also part of your healing, it can be sad at first but you’ll later on realize that it is for a reason. Good luck on your journey and may you find joy again in the things that you love. Thanks for being brave and sharing your story. ❤
As a psychology student, I really do understand where and what you're coming from. I appreciate the effort that you still have the courage to do this kinda video, even though you're currently dealing with your anxiety and mental breakdowns, just to inspire others and raise awareness about how you'll be able to cope with the negative/chaotic situations that you've been through. MAHIGPIT NA YAKAP KUYA BEN!
In a Psychology student perspective, I was amazed by the way you explained your situation and your feelings/emotion to the audience even in a minute I was hook up how it was so detailed and comprehensive na you shared a complex scenario into a simplier and mas relatable sa viewers. This really show that you know your current situation very well maybe because you've been through it for a long time and that you have the ability to create and apply yung naisip mong alternatives to your difficulties. This video is an eye opener sa mga audience; not just for them to learn but more on to take action and be mindful sa sinasabi/ginagawa nila sa sarili at sa ibang tao.
Thank you this means a lot! I’ve been paranoid about saying the wrong information but at the end of the day, talking about self experience is never incorrect because that’s really how i felt
@@BenedictCuamental health is same as physical health that requires medical attention and should not invalidate by other people. Thank you for sharing your experiences. This one is hard to share but it is a big relief. I can’t imagine the baggages you are carrying all this time.
Thanks Ben for making a content like this. It really ment a lot specially to people who don’t really know much about depression. I’m also clinically diagnosed same as your diagnosis. And to be honest this video really gives me hope and made me realize that I’m really not 🌊 in this journey and that i could be better one day and the world that im in right now would be a happy place again. Thanks Ben for this!! Fighting!
As a psychology student, I just want to say that you're so brave Kuya Ben, bilang lang ang mga taong umaamin weakness nila, and isa ka doon. Get well Kuya Ben!
Ben is just so brave to do this!! Hindi pa nagsisimula yung vlog pero I got emotional already. I have mental health issue too. Still healing and fighting. Hopefully, we NORMALIZE this- having discussions about our mental health. To those who are battling silently, seek help please. You are not alone and you got this!! And kuya Ben, mahigpit na yakaaaaaaaaaaaaaap!
I’m going through a shutdown right now too. In fact I’m lying in bed and have been for 2 months. Gone 4 years without help and it just all imploded. Honestly, hearing I am not alone helps. I think people understanding what you’re going through, though it might not cure whatever it is, does lessen the guilt of not participating and socialising, even though the urge to escape is our body telling us to rest and reset.
After watching the whole video, these are the things you really have to consider Ben: 1. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself. -Step back and reevaluate. 2. Stop taking things personally. -Your power lies in your response. 3. Start meditating. -This will cultivate your inner peace and will strengthen your focus. 4. Start embracing your authentic self…the real you… - By doing so, will lift so much weight off the burden you’re carrying. 5. Start recalibrating your thoughts and perspectives. -How you see the world sometimes stems down from the generational view of seeing things that were passed down from the people who came before you in a society that still envelops these ideologies. 6. Be (your own definition of) happy. I hope you’re well.
Thank you so much Ben for doing this content and for having a courage to share it with us. I don't normally comment in any vlogs or videos but this content helps me a lot and I need to let you know that. It's a reminder that I'm not alone and also a reminder that it's okay not to explain yourself always. I think I need to always remind myself that I don't have to be afraid or feel bad to say no without explaining myself. Anyway, I'm so grateful that I watched this vlog and your voice and the way you talk is so calming. You're awesome, Ben. I know you'll get better.
yung mga insecurities ni benedict dito na gradually niyang na-overcome eh yung mga insecurities na hindi ko na inovercome. this is so brave of you benedict. keep inspiring.
Your video is recommended by UA-cam to me. As a psychology graduate and Human Resource Manager, I believe it's important to raise awareness about mental health. This video is a powerful reminder that mental health is just as important as physical health and that it's okay to seek help when you need it. I hope this video helps to start important conversations about mental health and encourages people to prioritize their own mental wellbeing. Remember, it's okay to not be okay, and there's no shame in seeking help when you need it. Let's work together to break the stigma surrounding mental health and create a more supportive and compassionate society.
Thank u Kuya Benedict for opening up. Halos lahat na sinabi mo ay nangyayari din sa akin. I felt relieved na hindi ako lang ang may ganitong problema. I hope that, as time goes by, we are able to handle life gracefully.
Ang buong vlog na to ay parang diary ko during the pandemic 😂, one thing is for sure, everything gets better. We can only cope, the anxiety and depression doesn't go away. It just becomes smaller. Be diligent on the meds, it requires a lot of work kahit hndi mo nman gustong gunawa ng kahit ano kasi walang motivation. I hope you can wake up one day and hindi kna biglang umiiyak ng hndi mapigilan. 💕
Hi Ben! Nakakamiss ka mapanuod mag vlog ng ganyan, yung spontaneous and pure lang. Thanks for speaking for us! We're on the same page and hoping for healing soon! 🍉🍉🍉 Thanks for sharing your story.
love youuu!! so so miss our Seoul bonding and we so talked a lot about this and got to know you better. Here always for you love! Samahan na ulit kita sa….chos hahaha! Miss you! 😘
Your feelings and emotions are valid, kuya Ben. Isa ko sa mga napapasaya mo sa mga vids mo. Sguro, tayo yung nauubos dahil nagmomotivate tayo ng ibang tao but deep inside nahihirapan din tayo. Fighting Kuya Ben! I know mabuti kang tao, masayahin, productive, masaya kasama at totoo on/off cam. We're here for u to support u. 🙂
I felt so productive after viewing this video. Thanks Kuya Ben for becoming my virtual Kuya. Always here as your virtual bunso to listen and support you virtually. Fighting
Thank you for sharing this. I feel like someone has spoken for me. Like validating what i am going through. It is true that not everyone believes or has a knowledge about depression and anxiety, but at least through social media and vlogs like this, awareness is spread, and people atleast would just choose to be kinder and more understanding, if they could not directly help. Hindi natin kailangan ng excuse para maging mabait ang kapwa natin sa atin, but i think it is a general sense in humanity to be compassionate. 🙏🏻
Thank you, Ben. What you have said, is something that I really feel right now, that I cannot express. I cannot afford to take therapy, yet. But I hope soon enough, I can. Thank you, Ben, for being our voice, for us that are silently battling all these demons inside us. I love how you were able to articulate those reality that someone like me might be needing to hear in this moment. Thank you for the courage to speak up. That might be one of your purposes in life. I might need a hug. Thank you so much.
Very true, pag may taong angat, people say “BAKIT SYA!? Mga people talaga! Pero pag sikat na tao sasabihin nila wow! So proud of you!... Hayst! Pag di masyado sikat sasabihin nila bakit sya!?
To my Dearest Kuya Ben♡♡ Remember that you are always LOVED ❤ no matter what you're facing right now .... lilipas din yan! Don't give up po iloveyouuuu and sending virtual hugs🤍❤🥰
I'm now fifteen and still fighting... I developed my bipolar depression since i was like 5-6yrs old and it grows and grows because of all our family problems and one point din is i never get comfort from person i thought that would comfort me in this kind of situation which is my parent and sister's, i always think that they can't comfort me because they also have their personal problem but the feeling that they always misunderstood you to have no singel problem in life because they always see your jolly and lively side but they just don't know that you just don't want na makadagdag sa problema nila and eto ako ngayon... I stop/dropped out of school because i feel like i don't do better in there like na i-insecure ako sa mga grades and weight ko and day by day hindi ko alam ano pa dahilan ko bakit ako bumabangon araw araw maybe because i think na may pag asa pa pero it's been 2yrs since i think like that pero wala parin akong na a-achived na goal ko but im still fighting to my thoughts ending all of this because i have alot of my dreams that i want to achieve in the future and i won't give up for them❤️ Hearing this comforting words and getting relatable from the person that makes me laugh by his vlog's is napapa-isip ako na i can still change and get better from this darkest part of my life thinking im still young and i can still do the things i want to do makes me more motivated to change my lifestyle❤️ _thankyou for standing up for us that's so embarrassed to say this to other people kuya ben keep fight for us who's still not fully healing❤️
Kudos for being brave and being comfortable enough to share this personal chapter to your huge platform. Personally, I felt heard through this video especially on the light on being an adult who built majority of one’s life by making versions of himself that was tailored to how people would benefit from us and also to overcompensate so as to feel “validated”. Immensely grateful for my mum for initiating to eventually see a behavioural medical specialist and from there break down almost three decades of the unreal me. Started on a regular medication that is very helpful in regulating my mood and sleep. Perhaps I will highlight that acknowledging to oneself that you have a health problem and you need help, is the single most essential step to healing and recovering. To anyone having a difficult time, you aren’t alone and you will get through this. Hopefully a Filipino version of #PostYourPill, mental health wise will be an eye opener for the general Philippine public. ❤❤❤
Thanks for this vid. ❤️ I also feel the same way cause I am in my 30s na and I feel lost. People think of me as a strong person cause lagi ako nakatawa and I am a psych grad so I need to look as if I feel good all the time but deep inside I am not. It's true that social media made is think that you always need validation from others to feel good but the reality is it's just yourself overthinking. In the end of the day mas Kilala mo self mo and alam mo mas magpapasaya sayo. I felt better after watching this and I am proud of you for being brave of sharing your story. ❤️
Thank you for sharing! Nka karelate lalo na run sa panic attack i had panic disorder started 8yrs ago na feeling ko im gonna die then naulit sya during pandemic and consulted a doctor and sa mgayon medyo nhahandle ko na ulet and medyo mild panic attacks na lng. Laban lang!
I'm so proud of you na naovercome mo lahat yan, Ben. And I know na kaya mo labanan lahat ng pinagdadaanan mo. #YouAreValid and #YouAreLoved. Lovelots, Benedict Cua.
Since your start your vloging i really idolised you thats why you left vlog i was waiting you go back and im so happy your back everything will be okay and god always provider i hope youwill feel better 🥰😇 we love you kuya Benedict 😍😍😍
I am happy that you are addressing this and you let peope know. Being open to the world is one step to getting better, I believe. You will get there! Just be consistent and things will be better in no time. Di mo mapapansin you can continue living life like you used to, not feeling axious about everything that really doesn’t matter. We love you Ben. Ingat parate. ❤😊
Hi, Ben. I don't know if you'll be able to read this but I am hoping you would! This vlog is such a precious one. You were able to craft something raw and honest in one video. And I admire you for that. Thank you for being honest and speaking on behalf of all of us with the same situation. I want to just thank you. I hope you'll share more of this in the future! BUT AGAIN, IT'S NO PRESSURE. Thank you, Ben!
I find exposure to early morning sun (vitamin D3) and daily exercise can help stabilize mood. Taking zinc, vitamin b complex, adding moringa or malunggay, green leafy veggies, and fruits like banana, apple, etc to one's meals help. Reading inspirational books on healing and spirituality instead of watching the news and gossip is calming too. All the best Ben. Thank you for sharing your story.
As someone who just started asking for help and now undergoing therapy this video is super empowering. Naiyak lang ako dun sa last part, those discussion with your therapist hits home for me. Padayon Ben!
i could definitely relate. there was a point that my fave past time riding bike doesn't make me happy anymore. but it really helps to talk to somebody even stranger or friend. there are times that feel okay and not kaya kumakalma na lang ako minsan whenever I felt sad or tinotopak ako without me realizing why I am sad\depressed. true enough na we all need to help ourselves kasi yung ibang tao they only give ideas advice in the end self pa rin ang maginitiate what things that will be better for us. life is short to be parking on sad feeling. good job Ben. keep sharing and inspiring people. God bless
Hey lodi ko! Almost same tayo ng pinag daanan and still recovering from anxiety and i just wanna say na isa ka sa nakahelp sakin like your videos on youtube i hope you keep doing that kind of content like yung mga daily mong ginagawa actually no need naman mag isip o ma pressure sa mga icocontent mo eh yung mga ganun content sobrang goods na yun saming supporters mo and to tell you walang dull moments talaga hehe always happy and goodvibes lang, wala lang inexpress ko lang naman ben kasi since day one supporter mo na ako and hoping soon mameet kita in person kahit papic lang sa isa sa tumulong sa mental health ko and ikaw yun, always keep safe ben and take care of yourself and also your mental health, andito lang ako and kami to support you! anyways keep fighting, keep moving and keep the faith haha o wag mo kantahin haha the climb yan lol see you soonest lods ☺️
This video gives all the validation that we all needed. 🥺 Thank you for sharing this kuya Ben. I know it took a lot of courage to share this to us so I’m proud of you. laban lang… hugs💗💗
Thanks, Benedict. Hindi ko alam ikwento yung diagnosed anxiety and depression to my friends, I am sharing your video so they'd have an idea. Hugs too! We will get through this!
This type of video urges me to pursue Clinical Psychology to help people like you kuya Ben and to be able to spread awareness about Mental Health and how Mental Illness can affect your Physical Self. I hope you can pass this dark phrase and find yourself again And live without the hassle and be free again We love you and we were always here for you FIGHTING 💜💜💜
grabeee I feel your sentiments 🥺 na you need to keep all by yourself, nkktakot ang rejections and backhanded comments lalo na pg achiever 🥺 and d mo maexplain lgi yung sarili mo sa iba. one of the things na nktulong sakin nun my anxiety ako yung Your Light Forever, btw INC ako pero I think it is very good to watch khit ndi kapatid, aside from prayers talaga at strong support system. Hays, Hugs to all experiencing this \😌/ Keep on fighting Bennn! 💓
As someone who currently experiences burnout (its been 3 weeks), listening to you talk about these things is somehow therapeutic to me. Knowing that I'm not alone in what I feel makes me feel validated, and convinces me to not be too hard on myself. We'll heal and move forward, no matter how long it takes, for ourselves. Thank you, Kuys Ben.
I am also diagnosed with major depression and I am taking meds na ren. Parang na lost ako. I feel worthless and I don’t know ano ba talaga yung gusto ko. Dumating sa point na I quit my job dahil every single day, umiiyak ako while working, and I don’t know ano na nangyayare sa akin. I understand yung feeling kuya Ben. Parang major ng minention mo, nangyare sa akin. But, here I am, trying everyday, and I believe everyday gets better (pero may relapse pa ren). Thank you for this, kuya Ben! Naramdaman ko na valid yung emotions ko and may nakakaintindi ng situation ko.
We love you kuya Ben. Kahit ano man ilabas or ilapag mo mag hihinaty at manunuod kami kahit Anong mangyari. Always remember that. Please don't be harsh to yourself, mahal ka namin🥰
Hi Ben, I’m so proud of you for your courage to seek therapy and be out in the open about it and also medications. I’ve been diagnosed with MDD for 7yrs now, good job on what you’re doing to keep yourself healthy and mentally stable. 👏 Your journey towards recovery may take more time than you’ll ever expect but never lose hope. Pag MDD kasi extremes talaga. One week you’re so positive, energetic and happy. Following weeks you’re stuck in a blackhole. Just never lose hope and will power to continuously help yourself. You do you! God bless! 😊
As a psych grad, I understand what you felt po. Minsan talaga there are points in life na minsan unexpected na you feel down talaga. Especially you are known in social media industry, and there's a lot of pressure po talaga to you. Gagawa ka ng way para lang ma-ease yung pain na mas masakit pa kaysa sa physical pain. Ang physical pain kase, it may cure talaga. Unlike ang mentality and emotions hindi agad agad yun nawawala. Skl, I took psych kase I want to help through listening with the problems of people kase I know the feeling of ganiyan, While watching your vids kuya ben, I want to help you through just listen to your feelings talaga, I hope that as time goes you'll heal kuya. Huwag lang magmadali, just one step at a time lang kuya ben. Nandito lang ako as your supporter, kami na lubos kang nauunawaan. Mahigpit na yakap sayo kuya, praying for you always
Sobrang nafeel ko Yung advocacy ng vlog na to! In some sense naging support group Ang comment section. Para sa patuloy na paghilom Benedict! Mahigpit na yakap! Looking forward for your mental health advocacies in life or sa mga vlogs mo. Mahigpit na yakap at Salamat sa pagiging isa sa mga boses ng mental health para sa aming lahat!
"Sometimes you feel like people are just waiting for you to screw up" Sobrang totoo nito and once you become a target kawawa ka. Lalo na sa social media where people can hide behind the screen, no remorse, no conscience, they can make comments that they will probably forget as they go on with their daily lives not thinking of the consequences kasi di naman sila yung "target" pero to that person, once nag pile-up yung mga hate comments, it can fck you up, mentally. You try to avoid becoming the target but then you realize, you don't live for yourself anymore. You live for others Thank you for sharing, I hope you get better and better each day. I support you and to everyone who may read this, genuinely as a person who's also struggling finding reasons to live. We can do this! Fighting!!
Everything Ben told was true. Having anxiety and depression is an invisible battle. You never know when you're strong and when you broke down. It's not easy to deal with, I hope we can make this through all things together. “Sigh” sometimes I envy those who were born without this kind of incurable disease I wish I'm born like them.
Currently struggling from stress due to some personal dilemmas and extreme academic pressure. Sa makakabasa nito, kayanin natin kasi kakayanin pa natin. Hindi tayo susuko ah. Hugs!!!
Baka si LORD na ang kailangan mo.. because upon listening to you yun nalang yung hindi mo pa na try.. try mo lang... baka magwork...💖💖💖💖 loving you from dumaguete city..
Very Low Self-esteem.. 1:23 parang lahat nasa akin na.. And itong video na to after watching it, parang ang daming pumapasok na thoughts sa isip ko.. And ang daming New, Old, and Intermittent na "WHAT IFS" na pumapasok sa isip ko ngaun.. Old issues na pinabayaan or napabayaan, Opportunities na dinecline, Decisions na hindi pinagisipan ng maayos, Relationships and Quality Time(family or friends or intimate) na pinabayaan or paglukulang and Shortcomings.. Basta ang hirap i-explain.. "Upward-Downward Spiral Method" --> THOUGHTS --> FEELINGS --> ACTIONS This might be a good exercise.. Thanks for sharing your experience and your pointers.. God Bless Ben! 🙏💓
Hi Benedict! Here is a word from God about being “anxious”, Philippians 4:6-7 “Do not worry about anything; (wag daw tayong mag alala sa kahit na anong bagay, especially yung mga hindi pa nangyayari, or maaaring di naman mangyari, mga bagay na kinakatakutan) instead, PRAY ABOUT EVERYTHING(praying is talking to God, actually kahit di ka magsalita, iyak ka lang alam ni Lord yung nasa puso mo, mga bagay na nakakasakit at nagpapa worry sayo. He said pray about EVERYTHING, lahat2x, wala kang ititira) Tell God what you NEED, and thank him for all he has done. (You need healing, comfort, someone who will be there for you? God is a silent listener) v.7 Then you will experience GOD’S PEACE, which exceeds anything we can understand (yung peace na galing kay Lord ibang iba, yung kahit na ang gulo2x ng paligid mo pero ang weird kasi may inner peace ka, si Lord yun) His peace will GUARD your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. (Si Lord ang nagbigay sayo ng peace, He will guard it and protect it pati ang puso at isip mo ipprotect ni Lord) Points: Do not worry Pray about everything Experience God’s peace He will protect you. Godbless!🙏🏻
I remember when I was starting a UA-cam channel, I wanted to do a lifestyle vlogging but my Mom told me to just make a channel that will purely showcase my love for music. She told me with lifestyle vlogging it is hard to maintain and sustain and eventually you will run out of content and then pressure will creep in. With Music channel at least I don’t have that much pressure to post weekly and don’t have to post everything that I do. I am glad I followed my Mom’s advice. Thank you for sharing this! You are loved!💕
I was diagnosed with General Anxiety disorder and panic disorder when I was in high school... its not easy..i hope that it would be openly discussed in the philippines..and the stigma about it will be gone...if you need help go to a psychiatrist or psychologist..im driking medicine to control my emotions and its really helpful...we need people like you Ben to spread awareness...its okay to admit that youre not strong..youre not okay...thank you...
Forgive yourself kht na nahihirapan ka. Forgive yourself and do not chase perfection.. mahalin mo Sarili mo and strive for better.. good set of friends and be with your family is always the right cure ... Dami Kong friends n gnyan kht Ako dati nahawa na Rin pero Yun n nga kung may friend Kang gnyan kagaya ko I'm always there for them.. mhirap ksi silang iwan Kasi 100% self pity tlga sila... I'm hoping may friend Kang gnyan sana .. Yung sensitive kahit di ka mgsasalita gnun Kasi Ako s mga friends Kong depress I keep on being with them to support them... I'm hoping your okay na.. always make sure to have a support system with you kht di k mgsalita ... Love you Ben it's OKAY NOT TO BE OKAY 😘😘😘 LOVE YOU
Hi Ben, may 3years na din ako nanonood/nag-aabang ng vlog mo. Dumating sa point na nagka-idea pa nga ako kung saan condo mo kasi near sa area ko dahil sa mga vlog mo. 🤣😅 anyway, gusto ko lang sabihin na pwedeng hindi mo alam dahil maaring focus tayo sa nararamdaman natin pero sana makita mo din yung good na nagagawa mo sa vlogging. Don't feel pressure para mamaintain yung subscribers and viewers and yes wala ka dapat i-please. wag din mapresure sa age and achievements dahil iba-iba tayo ng time sa lahat ng bagay. naramdaman at nararamdaman ko pa din kung ano yung pinagdadaanan mo. mahirap lalo na kapag nahuhusgahan ka pa. natutunan ko din magshut-down dahil pagod na din ako magsalita, magpaliwanag ng sarili ko sa mga tao at hinahayaan ko na lang din ang lahat. nakakapagod pero di susuko. laban lang 💪🏻 praying sa patuloy mong pagheal 🙏🏻
Bennnnnnnn!!! I miss you. Grabeh, kahit na di mo ako kilala, Grabe yung impact ng words mo sa akin… and yes, mental health is VERY important, depression, anxiety they are real. Grabe… I have that right now, and I’m crying now while typing this message… Salamat. 🙏🏼
as for someone na dumaan sa sobrang bigat na case ng self pity to the point na lahat ng bahay kina seselosan ko kahit sa mga tropa ko, lahat inooverthink, biglaan nalang malulungkot at di kikibo. very thankful ako na nag share ka lodi! Mental health is still not represented enough at hindi padin tinatanggap ng karamihan. God Bless lodi!
This is me right now nasa point na ako na wala na akong friends ,I detached to my friends kasi sobrang na iingit ako sa buhay na kahit sa pag titiktok at yt na dati source of comfort ko ayaw ko na din minsan kasi natitrigger ang ingit ko haayyss nakakapagod madepress kaylan ba to matatapos
@@jkjeon2587 Tiisin mo muna for now ung loneliness. Sakon nung nasa point na ko na malapit na ko mag explode non. Nag lockdown. Yung solidarity na effect ng lockdown yung nag force sakin na malayo sa mga taong pinasok ko sa safezone ko. I started my fish keeping hobby that time of the pandemic. Slowly naka recover ako. After the first year ng pandemic, i was free. Lone flyer na ko ulet. Wala ng fear of separation from friends at fear of loneliness. Sana ikaw din soon 😊😊😊♥️♥️
Same situation 😓😭until now gusto ko mag pa check up😔😓thanks for sharing.But for now si Lord Ang doctor ko.i know one day gagaling Ako🙏Laking tulong din Ng D group ko
Thank you for sharing this Ben. Di ko alam na that's depression na akala ko din normal lang. Sakin hindi lang ganun may self harm ng involve. Lately nagsstart na naman siya. Parang feeling useless na naman. Started making vlogs na din pero medyo nadodown na naman ako kasi feeling ko di ako magaling or walang sense ginagawa ko. May nakakapagtrigger talaga.
“You never walk alone” - BTS I’m about to cry, kuya ben. I have anxiety and depression when I met you 2 years ago, I guess and now I’m feeling better. It’s just sad that you’re experiencing it also. Thank you for this vlog, kuya ben. Let’s be happy and healthy! 💜
Sori minamahal Kung idol,Ngayon lang ulit napanood vlog mo😭super busy💪 now I'm free lahat ng videos mo panonoorin ko mkabawi lang sayo🤗🥰 pero never ka nawala sa Puso ko.kasi Ikaw Yan eh, hehe
sometimes the best formula is to "Go back to Basic", you just have to define ano yung basic.... sobra ngayon lang ako nag subscribe sayo pero sobrang natutuwa ako sa mga video mo... nakakatuwa yung mga naughty interviews mo... one more thing sometimes you also have to talk to someone na hindi ka kilala talaga so you get the most unbiased reaction which can help not just you but alot of people going thru the same shit.... anyway more power to you... and hopefully you'll be genuinely happy....STAY HAPPY....
Alam mo sa tagal kung naging Silent viewer mo. Narealize ko gusto kitang maging friend. Pero you will notice me din naman kasi. Im just and ordinary person. Ur brave and thank you for your videos.. At the end Ben sa totoo lang its u who can help yourself. U need FREEDOM u dont need comfort. free urself from everything. Thank you..sana ma meet kita in the future.
Ang hirap mahanap yung satisfaction to the point na you don't even know how to help yourself. Hindi mo na alam san ka pa matatahimik. Hindi mo alam kanino ka mag-susumbong. Also, it sucks when you realize you're becoming dependent to people in dealing your own emotions. Nakakasuka. :(((((
You are not 🌊
Haha una pumasok sa isip ko “ you are not a wave” hahha
I love you, shoti Ben 💙 Hugs!!!
We love you Ben!
You are not wave?😅✌️
you are not alone! 😂❤️
Eto yung namiss ko sa vlogging industry ung nag kwekwento lang naka upo parang may ka usap ako 😢 walang for the brand deals ganto lang and oc na miss ka nmen 💕💕💕
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John sana mameet kita hehehe
i started crying when u played the audio with ur therapist. i cried because realizing na we may have different experiences, but we felt the same in everything. until now im crying because i KNOW now that i needed help. i always think that myself is just crazy just like u thought that everyone has blocked nose in the morning. i thought putting boundaries with people is JUST WEIRD. but i think its not. maybe im also in defense mode and i need to seek help. thank you, ben. thank you.
Out of your 226 Vlogs, this one really felt like a hug. It's not everyday you learn about people's vulnerabilities (especially people whose careers are closely inclined with social media) -- and I think this is very brave of you to do, Ben. Personally, I've also come to the ends of alc*h*lism, forgetting my boundaries, pushing people away with my bad behavior, bursting in anger over the smallest things, and neglecting my needs -- even when my body is already begging me to rest and calm down. I started watching your vlogs in 2018, and from time to time, when I "spiral," I binge watch your content (still)... it does seem like you're good at shedding light in other people's lives (I think that's the hook that got me to watch your content over and over) -- but it also seems like you need to share that light with yourself.
We don't know each other personally, but I'll include you in my prayers. I sincerely hope you discover the things that make you smile at ease, enough to lit up everything that has dimmed inside you. Also, here's an excerpt from one of the books that has helped me when I felt like my days were my last, the book is entitled Dear Self by Ruby Dhal, and the line goes: "happiness doesn't always come with the fear that it will leave. Sometimes it comes with the promise that it will stay. All you need to do is welcome it with open arms and a heart spread wide enough to let it stay, wide enough to let in people and adventures in new countries where the wind flows in a different direction, and the mountains peak higher than the clouds, so you start to grasp that the sky isn't the limit, because the sun and the stars are."
The last part 😢 Said and heard the same things sa conversations namin ng psychologist during my therapy sessions. Thank you for sharing this Ben. 🩶
natapos ko ung vid mu na tumutulo luha ko ..... hindi pala ako nag iisa,, kaya natin to ben.. alam mu ben ung videos mu lang lagi ko binabantayan.. dont stop believe in yourself .... magaling ka tandaan mu yan..
@Benedict_Cua.. i did message sir ben thank you
Sa phase ng buhay ko ngayon at my early 20s napakarami kong insecurities and it triggers me everyday talaga lalo na ngayon na broken ako sa first ever rs ko. Sobraaaang lala g anxiety ko these days tapos yung sabay sabay na problems pa bukod sa rs, sa sarili mo, financial, school & stuff. Hayyyy i don't know. Hindi ko maintindihan but I know I'll get through this.
I feel you. Praying for you....
Maraming salamat sa pagbabahagi ng sarili mo sa amin. Yakap
😍👋👍 Wow namiss ka namin. also c doc .
Omg 30 years old with that baby face?? Hala Sana all
Worth it 'yung 22 mins sa'yo, Ben. Thank you for sharing your experience with us. Please know that there are a lot of people who value you. I hope you get to feeling completely better soon. We love you! ✨
Being too self-aware is both a blessing and a curse, I’ve learned this through therapy as well because it made me realize that (like you) we, over thinkers tend to try and find solutions for things that we feel like we are at fault or responsible for - even when it comes to our fears and insecurities, that’s why we end up overwhelmed and burdened. So glad you found therapy. It is such an immense help for people like us who tries to take on almost everything for people around us but rarely or don’t even ask for help. Slowly, you’ll get better in asking for support in ways you are comfortable in. Shedding some relationships that are not serving you is also part of your healing, it can be sad at first but you’ll later on realize that it is for a reason. Good luck on your journey and may you find joy again in the things that you love. Thanks for being brave and sharing your story. ❤
As a psychology student, I really do understand where and what you're coming from. I appreciate the effort that you still have the courage to do this kinda video, even though you're currently dealing with your anxiety and mental breakdowns, just to inspire others and raise awareness about how you'll be able to cope with the negative/chaotic situations that you've been through. MAHIGPIT NA YAKAP KUYA BEN!
aw thank you! hope i didnt say anything wrong
@@BenedictCua we missed you ben
In a Psychology student perspective, I was amazed by the way you explained your situation and your feelings/emotion to the audience even in a minute I was hook up how it was so detailed and comprehensive na you shared a complex scenario into a simplier and mas relatable sa viewers. This really show that you know your current situation very well maybe because you've been through it for a long time and that you have the ability to create and apply yung naisip mong alternatives to your difficulties.
This video is an eye opener sa mga audience; not just for them to learn but more on to take action and be mindful sa sinasabi/ginagawa nila sa sarili at sa ibang tao.
Thank you this means a lot! I’ve been paranoid about saying the wrong information but at the end of the day, talking about self experience is never incorrect because that’s really how i felt
@@BenedictCuamental health is same as physical health that requires medical attention and should not invalidate by other people.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. This one is hard to share but it is a big relief. I can’t imagine the baggages you are carrying all this time.
Thanks Ben for making a content like this. It really ment a lot specially to people who don’t really know much about depression. I’m also clinically diagnosed same as your diagnosis. And to be honest this video really gives me hope and made me realize that I’m really not 🌊 in this journey and that i could be better one day and the world that im in right now would be a happy place again. Thanks Ben for this!! Fighting!
As a psychology student, I just want to say that you're so brave Kuya Ben, bilang lang ang mga taong umaamin weakness nila, and isa ka doon. Get well Kuya Ben!
Ben is just so brave to do this!! Hindi pa nagsisimula yung vlog pero I got emotional already. I have mental health issue too. Still healing and fighting. Hopefully, we NORMALIZE this- having discussions about our mental health. To those who are battling silently, seek help please. You are not alone and you got this!! And kuya Ben, mahigpit na yakaaaaaaaaaaaaaap!
I’m going through a shutdown right now too. In fact I’m lying in bed and have been for 2 months. Gone 4 years without help and it just all imploded. Honestly, hearing I am not alone helps. I think people understanding what you’re going through, though it might not cure whatever it is, does lessen the guilt of not participating and socialising, even though the urge to escape is our body telling us to rest and reset.
After watching the whole video, these are the things you really have to consider Ben:
1. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself. -Step back and reevaluate.
2. Stop taking things personally. -Your power lies in your response.
3. Start meditating. -This will cultivate your inner peace and will strengthen your focus.
4. Start embracing your authentic self…the real you… - By doing so, will lift so much weight off the burden you’re carrying.
5. Start recalibrating your thoughts and perspectives. -How you see the world sometimes stems down from the generational view of seeing things that were passed down from the people who came before you in a society that still envelops these ideologies.
6. Be (your own definition of) happy.
I hope you’re well.
Thank you so much Ben for doing this content and for having a courage to share it with us. I don't normally comment in any vlogs or videos but this content helps me a lot and I need to let you know that. It's a reminder that I'm not alone and also a reminder that it's okay not to explain yourself always. I think I need to always remind myself that I don't have to be afraid or feel bad to say no without explaining myself. Anyway, I'm so grateful that I watched this vlog and your voice and the way you talk is so calming. You're awesome, Ben. I know you'll get better.
maonti lang talagang makakaintindi nito fully but i'm SO GLAD tuloy tuloy tuloy ka lang sa kwento and pag open up. i'm proud of you ben ten!!!!!
yung mga insecurities ni benedict dito na gradually niyang na-overcome eh yung mga insecurities na hindi ko na inovercome. this is so brave of you benedict. keep inspiring.
Your video is recommended by UA-cam to me.
As a psychology graduate and Human Resource Manager, I believe it's important to raise awareness about mental health. This video is a powerful reminder that mental health is just as important as physical health and that it's okay to seek help when you need it.
I hope this video helps to start important conversations about mental health and encourages people to prioritize their own mental wellbeing. Remember, it's okay to not be okay, and there's no shame in seeking help when you need it.
Let's work together to break the stigma surrounding mental health and create a more supportive and compassionate society.
Thank u Kuya Benedict for opening up. Halos lahat na sinabi mo ay nangyayari din sa akin. I felt relieved na hindi ako lang ang may ganitong problema. I hope that, as time goes by, we are able to handle life gracefully.
Ang buong vlog na to ay parang diary ko during the pandemic 😂, one thing is for sure, everything gets better. We can only cope, the anxiety and depression doesn't go away. It just becomes smaller. Be diligent on the meds, it requires a lot of work kahit hndi mo nman gustong gunawa ng kahit ano kasi walang motivation. I hope you can wake up one day and hindi kna biglang umiiyak ng hndi mapigilan. 💕
Hi Ben! Nakakamiss ka mapanuod mag vlog ng ganyan, yung spontaneous and pure lang. Thanks for speaking for us! We're on the same page and hoping for healing soon! 🍉🍉🍉 Thanks for sharing your story.
love youuu!! so so miss our Seoul bonding and we so talked a lot about this and got to know you better. Here always for you love! Samahan na ulit kita sa….chos hahaha! Miss you! 😘
HOYYY HAHA
LOVE YOUU
Your feelings and emotions are valid, kuya Ben. Isa ko sa mga napapasaya mo sa mga vids mo. Sguro, tayo yung nauubos dahil nagmomotivate tayo ng ibang tao but deep inside nahihirapan din tayo. Fighting Kuya Ben! I know mabuti kang tao, masayahin, productive, masaya kasama at totoo on/off cam. We're here for u to support u. 🙂
thanks!
I felt so productive after viewing this video. Thanks Kuya Ben for becoming my virtual Kuya. Always here as your virtual bunso to listen and support you virtually. Fighting
Thank you for sharing this. I feel like someone has spoken for me. Like validating what i am going through. It is true that not everyone believes or has a knowledge about depression and anxiety, but at least through social media and vlogs like this, awareness is spread, and people atleast would just choose to be kinder and more understanding, if they could not directly help. Hindi natin kailangan ng excuse para maging mabait ang kapwa natin sa atin, but i think it is a general sense in humanity to be compassionate. 🙏🏻
Thank you, Ben. What you have said, is something that I really feel right now, that I cannot express. I cannot afford to take therapy, yet. But I hope soon enough, I can. Thank you, Ben, for being our voice, for us that are silently battling all these demons inside us.
I love how you were able to articulate those reality that someone like me might be needing to hear in this moment. Thank you for the courage to speak up. That might be one of your purposes in life.
I might need a hug. Thank you so much.
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Hugs!! I can be a listening ear po if you need someone to talk without judgment :)
Huuuuug 🤗🤗🤗🤗
This made me cry. Sending hugs to all those battling depression and/or anxiety silently.
Very true, pag may taong angat, people say “BAKIT SYA!? Mga people talaga! Pero pag sikat na tao sasabihin nila wow! So proud of you!... Hayst! Pag di masyado sikat sasabihin nila bakit sya!?
Thank you for sharing, Benedict. For someone who was diagnosed with Anxiety and Depression, this means a lot. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing all those experiences! I am confident it will help a lot of people going through same situations.
To my Dearest Kuya Ben♡♡
Remember that you are always LOVED ❤ no matter what you're facing right now .... lilipas din yan! Don't give up po iloveyouuuu and sending virtual hugs🤍❤🥰
I'm now fifteen and still fighting... I developed my bipolar depression since i was like 5-6yrs old and it grows and grows because of all our family problems and one point din is i never get comfort from person i thought that would comfort me in this kind of situation which is my parent and sister's, i always think that they can't comfort me because they also have their personal problem but the feeling that they always misunderstood you to have no singel problem in life because they always see your jolly and lively side but they just don't know that you just don't want na makadagdag sa problema nila and eto ako ngayon... I stop/dropped out of school because i feel like i don't do better in there like na i-insecure ako sa mga grades and weight ko and day by day hindi ko alam ano pa dahilan ko bakit ako bumabangon araw araw maybe because i think na may pag asa pa pero it's been 2yrs since i think like that pero wala parin akong na a-achived na goal ko but im still fighting to my thoughts ending all of this because i have alot of my dreams that i want to achieve in the future and i won't give up for them❤️
Hearing this comforting words and getting relatable from the person that makes me laugh by his vlog's is napapa-isip ako na i can still change and get better from this darkest part of my life thinking im still young and i can still do the things i want to do makes me more motivated to change my lifestyle❤️
_thankyou for standing up for us that's so embarrassed to say this to other people kuya ben keep fight for us who's still not fully healing❤️
Kudos for being brave and being comfortable enough to share this personal chapter to your huge platform.
Personally, I felt heard through this video especially on the light on being an adult who built majority of one’s life by making versions of himself that was tailored to how people would benefit from us and also to overcompensate so as to feel “validated”.
Immensely grateful for my mum for initiating to eventually see a behavioural medical specialist and from there break down almost three decades of the unreal me. Started on a regular medication that is very helpful in regulating my mood and sleep. Perhaps I will highlight that acknowledging to oneself that you have a health problem and you need help, is the single most essential step to healing and recovering. To anyone having a difficult time, you aren’t alone and you will get through this. Hopefully a Filipino version of #PostYourPill, mental health wise will be an eye opener for the general Philippine public. ❤❤❤
I learned from your video “Action, Feelings and Thoughts” ❤😊Love yahh mwahhhh
Thanks for this vid. ❤️ I also feel the same way cause I am in my 30s na and I feel lost. People think of me as a strong person cause lagi ako nakatawa and I am a psych grad so I need to look as if I feel good all the time but deep inside I am not. It's true that social media made is think that you always need validation from others to feel good but the reality is it's just yourself overthinking. In the end of the day mas Kilala mo self mo and alam mo mas magpapasaya sayo. I felt better after watching this and I am proud of you for being brave of sharing your story. ❤️
Thank you for sharing! Nka karelate lalo na run sa panic attack i had panic disorder started 8yrs ago na feeling ko im gonna die then naulit sya during pandemic and consulted a doctor and sa mgayon medyo nhahandle ko na ulet and medyo mild panic attacks na lng. Laban lang!
I'm so proud of you na naovercome mo lahat yan, Ben. And I know na kaya mo labanan lahat ng pinagdadaanan mo. #YouAreValid and #YouAreLoved. Lovelots, Benedict Cua.
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No matter what you're facing right now, you'll get through it. There's light at the end of the tunnel, so don't give up.
Super naka relate ako sa experience mo but then good for you, you have the resources to help yourself.
proud of you Ben! I missed watching your vlog, thank you for sharing this to us, you're so brave, I appreciate you so much 💙
Since your start your vloging i really idolised you thats why you left vlog i was waiting you go back and im so happy your back everything will be okay and god always provider i hope youwill feel better 🥰😇 we love you kuya Benedict 😍😍😍
I am happy that you are addressing this and you let peope know. Being open to the world is one step to getting better, I believe. You will get there! Just be consistent and things will be better in no time. Di mo mapapansin you can continue living life like you used to, not feeling axious about everything that really doesn’t matter. We love you Ben. Ingat parate. ❤😊
I'm going through the same thing right now, this made me feel so much better. Thank you for speaking up about this!
Thanks for that video, Ben. Felt good a bit and hopefully, we could surpass this.
Hi, Ben. I don't know if you'll be able to read this but I am hoping you would! This vlog is such a precious one. You were able to craft something raw and honest in one video. And I admire you for that. Thank you for being honest and speaking on behalf of all of us with the same situation. I want to just thank you. I hope you'll share more of this in the future! BUT AGAIN, IT'S NO PRESSURE. Thank you, Ben!
I find exposure to early morning sun (vitamin D3) and daily exercise can help stabilize mood. Taking zinc, vitamin b complex, adding moringa or malunggay, green leafy veggies, and fruits like banana, apple, etc to one's meals help. Reading inspirational books on healing and spirituality instead of watching the news and gossip is calming too. All the best Ben. Thank you for sharing your story.
As someone who just started asking for help and now undergoing therapy this video is super empowering. Naiyak lang ako dun sa last part, those discussion with your therapist hits home for me. Padayon Ben!
i could definitely relate. there was a point that my fave past time riding bike doesn't make me happy anymore. but it really helps to talk to somebody even stranger or friend. there are times that feel okay and not kaya kumakalma na lang ako minsan whenever I felt sad or tinotopak ako without me realizing why I am sad\depressed. true enough na we all need to help ourselves kasi yung ibang tao they only give ideas advice in the end self pa rin ang maginitiate what things that will be better for us. life is short to be parking on sad feeling. good job Ben. keep sharing and inspiring people. God bless
As an occupational therapist and a fan of your work, Im so happy that we have you as a vlogger Ben! The process will be long but you will get there.
Hey lodi ko! Almost same tayo ng pinag daanan and still recovering from anxiety and i just wanna say na isa ka sa nakahelp sakin like your videos on youtube i hope you keep doing that kind of content like yung mga daily mong ginagawa actually no need naman mag isip o ma pressure sa mga icocontent mo eh yung mga ganun content sobrang goods na yun saming supporters mo and to tell you walang dull moments talaga hehe always happy and goodvibes lang, wala lang inexpress ko lang naman ben kasi since day one supporter mo na ako and hoping soon mameet kita in person kahit papic lang sa isa sa tumulong sa mental health ko and ikaw yun, always keep safe ben and take care of yourself and also your mental health, andito lang ako and kami to support you! anyways keep fighting, keep moving and keep the faith haha o wag mo kantahin haha the climb yan lol see you soonest lods ☺️
This video gives all the validation that we all needed. 🥺 Thank you for sharing this kuya Ben. I know it took a lot of courage to share this to us so I’m proud of you. laban lang… hugs💗💗
We can get through this! Hugs to everyone 🤗🤗🤗
Thanks, Benedict. Hindi ko alam ikwento yung diagnosed anxiety and depression to my friends, I am sharing your video so they'd have an idea. Hugs too! We will get through this!
Thank you for standing up and fight for life. Love you always Ben. ❤️
Thank you for this content Ben. God is so Good 🙏🏻
Thank you for this, Ben. We miss you. I hope you get better.
ISANG MAPAYAPANG YAKAP AT MALAKAS NA PANALANGIN PARA SAYO BEN! YOU ARE NOT A ----------------- (LONG) korni 🤦🏻♂️
WE LOVE YOU, BEN! #PADAYON
This type of video urges me to pursue Clinical Psychology to help people like you kuya Ben and to be able to spread awareness about Mental Health and how Mental Illness can affect your Physical Self.
I hope you can pass this dark phrase and find yourself again
And live without the hassle and be free again
We love you and we were always here for you
FIGHTING 💜💜💜
grabeee I feel your sentiments 🥺 na you need to keep all by yourself, nkktakot ang rejections and backhanded comments lalo na pg achiever 🥺 and d mo maexplain lgi yung sarili mo sa iba. one of the things na nktulong sakin nun my anxiety ako yung Your Light Forever, btw INC ako pero I think it is very good to watch khit ndi kapatid, aside from prayers talaga at strong support system. Hays, Hugs to all experiencing this \😌/ Keep on fighting Bennn! 💓
As someone who currently experiences burnout (its been 3 weeks), listening to you talk about these things is somehow therapeutic to me. Knowing that I'm not alone in what I feel makes me feel validated, and convinces me to not be too hard on myself. We'll heal and move forward, no matter how long it takes, for ourselves. Thank you, Kuys Ben.
I am also diagnosed with major depression and I am taking meds na ren. Parang na lost ako. I feel worthless and I don’t know ano ba talaga yung gusto ko. Dumating sa point na I quit my job dahil every single day, umiiyak ako while working, and I don’t know ano na nangyayare sa akin. I understand yung feeling kuya Ben. Parang major ng minention mo, nangyare sa akin. But, here I am, trying everyday, and I believe everyday gets better (pero may relapse pa ren).
Thank you for this, kuya Ben! Naramdaman ko na valid yung emotions ko and may nakakaintindi ng situation ko.
I feel you yung sa pag mention mo na quitting work or job. hindi na rin ako happy sa current work ko.
@@slyth3rinprincess mental health is more important po. Laban lang. 🙏❤️
We love you kuya Ben. Kahit ano man ilabas or ilapag mo mag hihinaty at manunuod kami kahit Anong mangyari. Always remember that. Please don't be harsh to yourself, mahal ka namin🥰
Hi Ben, I’m so proud of you for your courage to seek therapy and be out in the open about it and also medications. I’ve been diagnosed with MDD for 7yrs now, good job on what you’re doing to keep yourself healthy and mentally stable. 👏 Your journey towards recovery may take more time than you’ll ever expect but never lose hope. Pag MDD kasi extremes talaga. One week you’re so positive, energetic and happy. Following weeks you’re stuck in a blackhole. Just never lose hope and will power to continuously help yourself. You do you! God bless! 😊
As a psych grad, I understand what you felt po. Minsan talaga there are points in life na minsan unexpected na you feel down talaga. Especially you are known in social media industry, and there's a lot of pressure po talaga to you. Gagawa ka ng way para lang ma-ease yung pain na mas masakit pa kaysa sa physical pain.
Ang physical pain kase, it may cure talaga. Unlike ang mentality and emotions hindi agad agad yun nawawala.
Skl, I took psych kase I want to help through listening with the problems of people kase I know the feeling of ganiyan,
While watching your vids kuya ben, I want to help you through just listen to your feelings talaga, I hope that as time goes you'll heal kuya. Huwag lang magmadali, just one step at a time lang kuya ben. Nandito lang ako as your supporter, kami na lubos kang nauunawaan.
Mahigpit na yakap sayo kuya, praying for you always
Sobrang nafeel ko Yung advocacy ng vlog na to! In some sense naging support group Ang comment section. Para sa patuloy na paghilom Benedict! Mahigpit na yakap! Looking forward for your mental health advocacies in life or sa mga vlogs mo. Mahigpit na yakap at Salamat sa pagiging isa sa mga boses ng mental health para sa aming lahat!
"Sometimes you feel like people are just waiting for you to screw up"
Sobrang totoo nito and once you become a target kawawa ka. Lalo na sa social media where people can hide behind the screen, no remorse, no conscience, they can make comments that they will probably forget as they go on with their daily lives not thinking of the consequences kasi di naman sila yung "target" pero to that person, once nag pile-up yung mga hate comments, it can fck you up, mentally. You try to avoid becoming the target but then you realize, you don't live for yourself anymore. You live for others
Thank you for sharing, I hope you get better and better each day. I support you and to everyone who may read this, genuinely as a person who's also struggling finding reasons to live. We can do this! Fighting!!
Everything Ben told was true. Having anxiety and depression is an invisible battle. You never know when you're strong and when you broke down. It's not easy to deal with, I hope we can make this through all things together. “Sigh” sometimes I envy those who were born without this kind of incurable disease I wish I'm born like them.
Akala ko naman parang LIZA SOBERANO "This is Me" vlog to.hehehehehe.keri mo yan brother!!!Lodi ka pa din!!!!
Currently struggling from stress due to some personal dilemmas and extreme academic pressure. Sa makakabasa nito, kayanin natin kasi kakayanin pa natin. Hindi tayo susuko ah. Hugs!!!
Love you kuya ben. ☺️❣️ Thank u for this video, dami ko na realize sa self ko. And relate din ako sa mga experiences mo. 🥰
Mahigpit na yakap, Kuya Ben!
Baka si LORD na ang kailangan mo.. because upon listening to you yun nalang yung hindi mo pa na try.. try mo lang... baka magwork...💖💖💖💖
loving you from dumaguete city..
Very Low Self-esteem..
1:23 parang lahat nasa akin na.. And itong video na to after watching it, parang ang daming pumapasok na thoughts sa isip ko.. And ang daming New, Old, and Intermittent na "WHAT IFS" na pumapasok sa isip ko ngaun.. Old issues na pinabayaan or napabayaan, Opportunities na dinecline, Decisions na hindi pinagisipan ng maayos, Relationships and Quality Time(family or friends or intimate) na pinabayaan or paglukulang and Shortcomings.. Basta ang hirap i-explain..
"Upward-Downward Spiral Method"
--> THOUGHTS
--> FEELINGS
--> ACTIONS
This might be a good exercise..
Thanks for sharing your experience and your pointers..
God Bless Ben! 🙏💓
Thanks for this content. Simple lang. Need namin ng kausap. Ito ang hanap namin . . . kausap. You are enough, Ben. We are here.
Hi Benedict! Here is a word from God about being “anxious”, Philippians 4:6-7 “Do not worry about anything; (wag daw tayong mag alala sa kahit na anong bagay, especially yung mga hindi pa nangyayari, or maaaring di naman mangyari, mga bagay na kinakatakutan)
instead, PRAY ABOUT EVERYTHING(praying is talking to God, actually kahit di ka magsalita, iyak ka lang alam ni Lord yung nasa puso mo, mga bagay na nakakasakit at nagpapa worry sayo. He said pray about EVERYTHING, lahat2x, wala kang ititira)
Tell God what you NEED, and thank him for all he has done. (You need healing, comfort, someone who will be there for you? God is a silent listener)
v.7 Then you will experience GOD’S PEACE, which exceeds anything we can understand (yung peace na galing kay Lord ibang iba, yung kahit na ang gulo2x ng paligid mo pero ang weird kasi may inner peace ka, si Lord yun)
His peace will GUARD your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. (Si Lord ang nagbigay sayo ng peace, He will guard it and protect it pati ang puso at isip mo ipprotect ni Lord)
Points:
Do not worry
Pray about everything
Experience God’s peace
He will protect you.
Godbless!🙏🏻
I remember when I was starting a UA-cam channel, I wanted to do a lifestyle vlogging but my Mom told me to just make a channel that will purely showcase my love for music. She told me with lifestyle vlogging it is hard to maintain and sustain and eventually you will run out of content and then pressure will creep in. With Music channel at least I don’t have that much pressure to post weekly and don’t have to post everything that I do. I am glad I followed my Mom’s advice.
Thank you for sharing this!
You are loved!💕
I was diagnosed with General Anxiety disorder and panic disorder when I was in high school... its not easy..i hope that it would be openly discussed in the philippines..and the stigma about it will be gone...if you need help go to a psychiatrist or psychologist..im driking medicine to control my emotions and its really helpful...we need people like you Ben to spread awareness...its okay to admit that youre not strong..youre not okay...thank you...
Forgive yourself kht na nahihirapan ka. Forgive yourself and do not chase perfection.. mahalin mo Sarili mo and strive for better.. good set of friends and be with your family is always the right cure ... Dami Kong friends n gnyan kht Ako dati nahawa na Rin pero Yun n nga kung may friend Kang gnyan kagaya ko I'm always there for them.. mhirap ksi silang iwan Kasi 100% self pity tlga sila... I'm hoping may friend Kang gnyan sana .. Yung sensitive kahit di ka mgsasalita gnun Kasi Ako s mga friends Kong depress I keep on being with them to support them... I'm hoping your okay na.. always make sure to have a support system with you kht di k mgsalita ... Love you Ben it's OKAY NOT TO BE OKAY 😘😘😘 LOVE YOU
Hi Ben, may 3years na din ako nanonood/nag-aabang ng vlog mo. Dumating sa point na nagka-idea pa nga ako kung saan condo mo kasi near sa area ko dahil sa mga vlog mo. 🤣😅
anyway, gusto ko lang sabihin na pwedeng hindi mo alam dahil maaring focus tayo sa nararamdaman natin pero sana makita mo din yung good na nagagawa mo sa vlogging. Don't feel pressure para mamaintain yung subscribers and viewers and yes wala ka dapat i-please. wag din mapresure sa age and achievements dahil iba-iba tayo ng time sa lahat ng bagay.
naramdaman at nararamdaman ko pa din kung ano yung pinagdadaanan mo. mahirap lalo na kapag nahuhusgahan ka pa. natutunan ko din magshut-down dahil pagod na din ako magsalita, magpaliwanag ng sarili ko sa mga tao at hinahayaan ko na lang din ang lahat. nakakapagod pero di susuko. laban lang 💪🏻
praying sa patuloy mong pagheal 🙏🏻
Bennnnnnnn!!! I miss you. Grabeh, kahit na di mo ako kilala, Grabe yung impact ng words mo sa akin… and yes, mental health is VERY important, depression, anxiety they are real. Grabe… I have that right now, and I’m crying now while typing this message…
Salamat. 🙏🏼
as for someone na dumaan sa sobrang bigat na case ng self pity to the point na lahat ng bahay kina seselosan ko kahit sa mga tropa ko, lahat inooverthink, biglaan nalang malulungkot at di kikibo. very thankful ako na nag share ka lodi! Mental health is still not represented enough at hindi padin tinatanggap ng karamihan. God Bless lodi!
This is me right now nasa point na ako na wala na akong friends ,I detached to my friends kasi sobrang na iingit ako sa buhay na kahit sa pag titiktok at yt na dati source of comfort ko ayaw ko na din minsan kasi natitrigger ang ingit ko haayyss nakakapagod madepress kaylan ba to matatapos
@@jkjeon2587 Tiisin mo muna for now ung loneliness.
Sakon nung nasa point na ko na malapit na ko mag explode non. Nag lockdown. Yung solidarity na effect ng lockdown yung nag force sakin na malayo sa mga taong pinasok ko sa safezone ko.
I started my fish keeping hobby that time of the pandemic. Slowly naka recover ako. After the first year ng pandemic, i was free. Lone flyer na ko ulet. Wala ng fear of separation from friends at fear of loneliness.
Sana ikaw din soon 😊😊😊♥️♥️
I feel you so much Ben,halos Gabi Gabi na akong nagpapanic attack, before matulog,di ko alam PANO Siya e overcome😥😭
Thank you for sharing! You are valid Kuya Ben (kasi sabi mo 30 ka na.. char!😂). But really, thank you! 🫶🏻 you do you… 😊
Same situation 😓😭until now gusto ko mag pa check up😔😓thanks for sharing.But for now si Lord Ang doctor ko.i know one day gagaling Ako🙏Laking tulong din Ng D group ko
Wow! Ang bilis ng oras. Nabitin ako ng very light. Thank you Ben.. We love you Benny. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing this Ben. Di ko alam na that's depression na akala ko din normal lang. Sakin hindi lang ganun may self harm ng involve. Lately nagsstart na naman siya. Parang feeling useless na naman. Started making vlogs na din pero medyo nadodown na naman ako kasi feeling ko di ako magaling or walang sense ginagawa ko. May nakakapagtrigger talaga.
“You never walk alone” - BTS
I’m about to cry, kuya ben. I have anxiety and depression when I met you 2 years ago, I guess and now I’m feeling better. It’s just sad that you’re experiencing it also. Thank you for this vlog, kuya ben. Let’s be happy and healthy! 💜
Sori minamahal Kung idol,Ngayon lang ulit napanood vlog mo😭super busy💪 now I'm free lahat ng videos mo panonoorin ko mkabawi lang sayo🤗🥰 pero never ka nawala sa Puso ko.kasi Ikaw Yan eh, hehe
sometimes the best formula is to "Go back to Basic", you just have to define ano yung basic.... sobra ngayon lang ako nag subscribe sayo pero sobrang natutuwa ako sa mga video mo... nakakatuwa yung mga naughty interviews mo... one more thing sometimes you also have to talk to someone na hindi ka kilala talaga so you get the most unbiased reaction which can help not just you but alot of people going thru the same shit.... anyway more power to you... and hopefully you'll be genuinely happy....STAY HAPPY....
Alam mo sa tagal kung naging Silent viewer mo. Narealize ko gusto kitang maging friend. Pero you will notice me din naman kasi. Im just and ordinary person. Ur brave and thank you for your videos..
At the end Ben sa totoo lang its u who can help yourself. U need FREEDOM u dont need comfort. free urself from everything. Thank you..sana ma meet kita in the future.
Ang hirap mahanap yung satisfaction to the point na you don't even know how to help yourself. Hindi mo na alam san ka pa matatahimik. Hindi mo alam kanino ka mag-susumbong. Also, it sucks when you realize you're becoming dependent to people in dealing your own emotions. Nakakasuka. :(((((