I feel like it’s odd that you have rushed everything so much & don’t even really know each other. It’s odd that a guy would be so keen on moving so quickly. You have had no time together and just stepped into these “roles” just for the sake of being in them. Why do you keep saying “this kid” when referencing him? Lol wtf. You have a very privileged outlook on things; saying you are uneducated about things etc. get educated then. These are real issues facing women every day
My parents had me 1 year after meeting so only knew each other 3 months. My mum had booked into have an abortion [absolutely support women’s right to choose] but I’m now 28 and my parents are more in love than ever before! Wish you guys so much luck.
As someone who has had to have an abortion, saying 'it's killing a baby no matter what' is extremely triggering. It's fine to have your opinions, but I think there are kinder ways to talk about it than that. Some people don't have a choice
Coming from a schooling system with great safe sex education since13 yo, it's baffling to hear they had so little knowledge about fertility, as 2 adults who went to college!!
Hi random individual sharing a different point of view. I have earned a graduate level education at 29 years old. I have also had very little conversation around, “safe sex” and came from an unstable household. My reason for sharing this is because I am someone who hasn’t got pregnant yet out of what some would call luck. I have been sexually active for ten years and for my personal beliefs have had, “safe sex”. I wanted to create a dialogue just to say I think having expectations that everyone has the same upbringing and current sex education is unrealistic in todays world. And not everyone has the same access to certain knowledge or resources. Like I said just bringing a different POV to light. (:
@@afflaff34 I also grew up in household where talking about sex was very taboo and looked down upon, mostly for religious reasons. My parents are the two biggest prudes you’ll ever meet and never talked about the “birds and the bees” or anything like that. I learned everything on my own. I’m 27 now and still learning, and it doesn’t even really matter for me personally because im not sexually active. HOWEVER, if you are, the responsibility relies on you and nobody else. You are the one having sex at the end of the day so you really can’t blame it on the school system or on your parents. That’s like saying “don’t blame me for not cooking because growing up my parents never cooked.” You can still learn it on your own, it’s your responsibility. I mean really they are acting like teenagers. They shouldn’t be having sex If they don’t know how it works
Yes. And to be that many years out of high school and still blame it on the school for not teaching you when the internet exists. Doctors exist. Adults who may have advice you can trust, exist. Anything else in life we don't know that we wish we knew more about we generally go do some research. We don't say, oh I never learned how to do xyz in high school so I guess I'll never know! 😅
@@avolynfisher I agree 100% that we have access to a lot of information more so than in the past. I also think life doesn't work out the way we ideally expect because we have access or knowledge 24/7, typically. I am simply bringing to light that many factors come to play in why a person may end up in an unplanned situation like this and factors outside of their control. Definitely healthy to agree to disagree sometimes. (: I do hope that we keyboard activists can take our opinions where there will be an action instead of just sitting on this youtube page. Thanks for the reply!
@@magicalfairyambience she had to have had sex during her fertile window. There is only a very short period of time during the entire month that a woman can get pregnant anyway
@@magicalfairyambience If you feel comfortable relying on it and you're at a point in your life where a pregnancy would be welcome, go right ahead. But with untested partners, it's worth still using condoms. I've had friends get STIs from casual flings and even a long-term relationship, they can actually pop up months after being together and people can be asymptomatic. Definitely worth ensuring your safety regarding both pregnancy and STIs. STIs can progress to more serious infections or conditions when you're not aware of them.
Pull out only works if the man knows their department very well. Although I don’t think boys are educated about their own bodies either, not more than girls are educated about our bodies. The sex Ed in school just sucks lol
Oh my god thank you for your part about women being uneducated about this stuff because seriously, I never had the talk at all about anything from my parents, they completely ignored it because taboo and all.. and my school didn't do nearly enough. I'm almost 28 and STILL learned the hard way about things, and other issues that women struggle with like having a hard time saying no and sexual assault too. Our culture makes that normal for women to stay silent and the conversations don't happen until you're even in late 20s or older. But thank you so much for opening up like this you have support in this corner of the world ❤
Love your full transparency. I love how respectful and neutral you were when you were talking about the pro life / pro choice situation. Definitely enjoyed the content!!
Omg Neeeey I’ve been literally following you for years and years and YEARS and I have to say you look the happiest I’ve ever seen you, ever.I think everything was meant to happen this way and I couldn’t be happier for you! ❤
Thank you both for being so transparent about this topic! I think we’ve also thought about “what if I got pregnant?” but you never know how you’ll act until you’re in the moment. I also agree that it’s YOUR individual decision - and you can believe that everyone should be able to make their own decision!
Love how you talk about abortion. We would never judge a women that takes that decission because we never know the circumstances of other people. I love that you can say "it's just not for me" but never judging others. Just clarify that it has to be political because if you don't have the right you don't have the option. That's my opinion: it should be something that you can do so you can decide if you want it or not. P.D.: You look like a really good team 💜
I think she’s a smart girl.. she could’ve gotten pregnant in her previous relationship, but she knew she wasn’t ready. She said she was ready for kids when she moved back to Tampa. & it happened. Even if the guy would’ve bounced she has good income, and a good head on her shoulders.. she would’ve been just fine
@@lr2ldn Your point? people get pregnant from their husband and still end up divorced and raising the kid alone… not everyone needs to follow a certain path for it to lead to a successful relationship. But to each their own :)
This video is pure positivity, and it shows that nothing is impossible, your life can change in a very short time, from dating someone for 10 years with zero result, to dating someone for a 2 months with great results; this is a real man, looking for stability, I believe that we don’t need time in relationships, years to be sure about this person, I believe that u can see it from there eyes in the first few dates if they are serious or not. God protect your beautiful family I love you 💕
Flo is a good app to use to track everything even just little things like how your hormones may be affecting your mood for the day. I love it! Happy for you guys! Sending love 💗
Hi Renee and Zander, a lasting relationship for sure will not be measure on how long or how short it has been. You guys are such an adorable couple. Zander, at such a young age, the way he answers is such an impressive young man. Can’t wait to see you guys get married, have more kids in a house of your own🙏🏻👍🏼.
Girl no offense but you should really understand the way your cycle/ fertility works at this point as an adult, especially after a 10 year relationship. You are right, hormonal birth control is really bad for a woman’s body so it’s good you are off it now but the idea that a woman can get pregnant any time she has sex is very untrue. There is only a short period of time during the entire month that a woman can get pregnant, it’s called your fertile window. So you must have had sex during that time period when you were fertile. I really recommend getting the book “taking charge of your fertility.” It goes over the ways to track your cycle and understand the way your body and fertility works and it’s a very effective method, works 99% of the time. You can’t rely on the school system to teach you this stuff. You guys are acting like some teenagers. Don’t have sex if you don’t know how it works.
@@kristadanciulescu good on you, it’s a very important and super comprehensive book, it literally goes over everything you need to know about a woman’s cycle and understanding fertility. It’s a very hefty book but in short, when your discharge is a more clear and egg white texture, that’s how you know your in your fertile window. So it’s best to abstain from sex or use condoms if you don’t want to get pregnant. You also notice it with having more hormonal changes such as a higher sex drive. And then when your discharge is thicker and more white/ creamy, that’s how you know you likely aren’t fertile and pretty much can’t get pregnant during that time. There are also fertility device trackers like the daisy fertility monitor that you use every morning. It tests your temperature and gives you a green or red light on if you are fertile that day bc lots of your fertility is based off body temperature. The book goes over all this. It’s really not that complicated and is something every woman should know to be empowered with. Especially someone who’s 30 and was in a 10 year long relationship. This is what women used to do back in the day before they popped hormonal birth control pills. Jolene brighten is a good resource too
Yeah I was a little surprised she didn’t know because my school system was the same. They didn’t really teach us about the ovulation cycle. We learned about condoms, the pulling out method, stds, Sperm and egg, but now so much the ovulation part. but as I got older I became curious and just researched it myself this way I had the information. Im aware not everyone takes it upon themselves to research stuff but I think if you’re not aware of something and if you’re ever curious , a good rule of thumb is to look it up :) Example: I bled before my period and I didn’t know if it was hormone imbalance so I researched and came across implantation bleeding which they didn’t teach us in school either but that’s why I looked it up myself and found the answers to my questions I always say “to each their own !” I’m not here to judge anyone. This is their journey and now that they know about ovulation , they can do with that information however they want in the future but it’s good info to have
let's give her a little grace. I'm 27 and the first I'm learning about fertility is because my sister is TTC. Otherwise I wouldn't know either. It's a lot easier to track when you have regular periods, but I'm on birth control and mine has been irregular for the last 10 years. She's also very slim so you never know if she went a period of time without her menstrual cycle at all and therefore thought she couldn't get pregnant. My mom got pregnant while on birth control and women CAN conceive the entirety of their cycle. It may be far less likely when you aren't ovulating, but I believe it's a myth that you can't get pregnant on your period. You can. Best piece of advice is to educate yourself and take all precautions if you don't want a baby. At the end of the day Renee and Zander are both adults, engaged in baby making activities lol, and evolved to make the best decisions for the baby and themselves. No it's not traditional, yes it is still a love story. I'm glad to see these two so happy together
I love this so much. I love the honesty. I agree women don’t know enough about our bodies I feel so dumb about my reproductive system. I want to learn more especially now being off birth control. You two are so mature and communication is so important in a relationship. It’s awesome to see you guys communicating effectively already.
My husband and I also got pregnant 3 - 4 months after "dating" but we've known each other for a while. We've been together for 7 years now and have our 3rd baby on the way! Loved thiis!
Wait a minute!!! ARE they engaged? I saw a few hints that made me smile! Zander is so calm and chill but funny as hell hahaha.. You guys are so good together!
You guys are the best. I really love how transparent and real you are about your relationship. So mature and conscious about every issue. Thank you for sharing and for replying my question!!! And congratulations!!!❤❤❤
An old viewer returning here! I've loved watching your content recently. It feels more authentic than ever and it's refreshing to hear your honesty/ be taking along for the journey with all the changes in your life. Zander seems like such a great guy too!
I don't know in USA, but my boyfriend is a teacher here in Canada (6th grade, 11-12 years) and he gave a class about ovulation a few weeks ago. I remember learning about protection in High School at 12 years old 🙄😅
This could have been me! When I first dated my current husband we were only pulling out 🥴 we waited 5 years after being married to start having kids. And the first time he didn’t pull out BOOM I got pregnant. Low key think my husband is the pull out master 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Do you feel this is going to be long-term? You both don't seem dumb so I don't understand why you didn't use a condom since you really didn't know each other just to be safe. I hope it works out.
Have you never made a mistake? If not, congrats on being perfect. You don't need to understand why they did what they did. Considering all they've gone through, they seem to be doing pretty amazing. Hoping they make it long-term and give Bryson some siblings 😊
@@bkmirsky exactly. & it’s working out for them, so does it matter how it happened or started? geez people! & let’s be honest sometimes you do everything “perfectly” and it does not workout.. speaking from experience.
What? Like, what? You've never been in a relationship, even if it was relatively new, where you felt like you could fully trust the person, no matter what the consequence was of not using protection? Further, there are no really stellar birth control options.
I love love love xander, he is such a calm and mature guy. Definitely husband material. Also he has a good sense of humor❤. Been watching ur vids for years now and I feel so happy that u r living the life u once talked about. My heart is full❤ love you both sm❤❤
My husband and I got pregnant 3 months after dating, got married 6 years later and just celebrated our 14th year anniversary. You guy got this! I hope no one ever gives you grief for not having a “conventional” relationship. No one sets the rules, do what fits for your family!
7:51 this does exist in the Catholic Church where they explain ovulation and all of that (if you plan on getting married in the church you have to take it) just thought I would add that cause I’ve been told it works really well
Well... Congratulations for your engagement. Some people have to try a lot of times, others only have to try one. But, if you're not trying, use protection.
When he said “we were neither” I cackled lolll. V long time subbie. Z is super chill. Love seeing him in your videos & where you’re at right now. Wishing you all the best 🤍
I love this video 😍😍 I like what you said about showing people that you're making the most out of your situation. You too are so sweet. And all the best in your relationship ❤️❤️
To be clear, you were told the “pull out method” does not work 😊. But to also be clear, I wouldn’t have this any other way ❤ this family is so blessed!!
Hi! There’s a method called the FAM (fertility awareness method) that’s non hormonal and just helps you know exactly when you ovulate so your safe. There are instructors who teach it all. This is for all of y’all who feel stuck ❤
Renee I’m following you for years and I’m so happy to see you happy. And Omg I love Zander , he’s so funny 😅 you two meant to be together, you look so good and happy together ! You both are amazing parents ❤ please do more talking videos together !
i had this exact experience, i met some on bumble and i feel like we’re super compatible. he was cooking for me and his phone went off, bumble notification 😂2:16
which app? At this point I’m willing to try them 🤣 you guys give me hope. & I’m a firm believer that the best is what happens. If this was meant to be your journey then it was for the best.
Not the same but my husband and I got pregnant 5 months after having our first so I totally get the “this is shocking” and dealing with the cards you’re handed together as a couple. Sometimes you think your life is going one way and it does a 180 but often for the best! Wishing you two all the best ♥️💖
100% agree with everything you said on abortion. Its sad we have to tip toe around our beliefs to please the masses and not be canceled. Babies are babies regardless of what age they are. So happy for you guys!!!
It's sad how the western world is so casual about things like this. Yeah sure get into a relationship and start having sex immediately. There's no respect for building a long-term relationship or thinking about the consequences or the future. Get pregnant? Ops let's go fix it with an abortion. Inevitably they'll breakup and she'll just go on to repeat the cycle with a new guy without even a single thought. Pathetic basic bitch behaviour.
I think the more we “normalize” talking about topics like abortion, the less divided we would all be. I personally love when creators share their opinions like this, in a real, casual way. It breaks our echo chambers and makes topics more approachable. It encourages real conversations, rather than heated arguments where neither side actually listens.
Since I'm old enough to be your grandmother, the question was marriage what do you think we should do? The answer would be we need to ask God what he says we should do. Because the Bible's pretty clear on some issues and especially clear on this one
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I feel like it’s odd that you have rushed everything so much & don’t even really know each other. It’s odd that a guy would be so keen on moving so quickly. You have had no time together and just stepped into these “roles” just for the sake of being in them. Why do you keep saying “this kid” when referencing him? Lol wtf. You have a very privileged outlook on things; saying you are uneducated about things etc. get educated then. These are real issues facing women every day
Agree with everything you said, super weird and definitely desperate! This girl is goofy asf and very clearly has a Florida education lmfaooo 😭
It’s awesome he’s so supportive as a whole but also he’s here for your YT career! Congratulations on the next step in life!
My parents had me 1 year after meeting so only knew each other 3 months. My mum had booked into have an abortion [absolutely support women’s right to choose] but I’m now 28 and my parents are more in love than ever before! Wish you guys so much luck.
my parents are outttttttt so happy!
Didn’t realize it’s only been a year... praying you guys make it. Not just for baby’s sake but you compliment each other well!
As someone who has had to have an abortion, saying 'it's killing a baby no matter what' is extremely triggering. It's fine to have your opinions, but I think there are kinder ways to talk about it than that. Some people don't have a choice
Coming from a schooling system with great safe sex education since13 yo, it's baffling to hear they had so little knowledge about fertility, as 2 adults who went to college!!
Yeah it’s almost kind of embarrassing honestly especially considering their age
Hi random individual sharing a different point of view. I have earned a graduate level education at 29 years old. I have also had very little conversation around, “safe sex” and came from an unstable household. My reason for sharing this is because I am someone who hasn’t got pregnant yet out of what some would call luck. I have been sexually active for ten years and for my personal beliefs have had, “safe sex”. I wanted to create a dialogue just to say I think having expectations that everyone has the same upbringing and current sex education is unrealistic in todays world. And not everyone has the same access to certain knowledge or resources. Like I said just bringing a different POV to light. (:
@@afflaff34 I also grew up in household where talking about sex was very taboo and looked down upon, mostly for religious reasons. My parents are the two biggest prudes you’ll ever meet and never talked about the “birds and the bees” or anything like that. I learned everything on my own. I’m 27 now and still learning, and it doesn’t even really matter for me personally because im not sexually active. HOWEVER, if you are, the responsibility relies on you and nobody else. You are the one having sex at the end of the day so you really can’t blame it on the school system or on your parents. That’s like saying “don’t blame me for not cooking because growing up my parents never cooked.” You can still learn it on your own, it’s your responsibility. I mean really they are acting like teenagers. They shouldn’t be having sex If they don’t know how it works
Yes. And to be that many years out of high school and still blame it on the school for not teaching you when the internet exists. Doctors exist. Adults who may have advice you can trust, exist.
Anything else in life we don't know that we wish we knew more about we generally go do some research. We don't say, oh I never learned how to do xyz in high school so I guess I'll never know! 😅
@@avolynfisher I agree 100% that we have access to a lot of information more so than in the past. I also think life doesn't work out the way we ideally expect because we have access or knowledge 24/7, typically. I am simply bringing to light that many factors come to play in why a person may end up in an unplanned situation like this and factors outside of their control. Definitely healthy to agree to disagree sometimes. (: I do hope that we keyboard activists can take our opinions where there will be an action instead of just sitting on this youtube page. Thanks for the reply!
A 30 yo woman doesn't know how female body and fertilization works? Really? Jesus 😂
“ pulling out doesn’t work 😐” 😂😂😂😂
it's worked for me every time tho 😂
@@magicalfairyambience Don't keep counting on it
@@magicalfairyambience she had to have had sex during her fertile window. There is only a very short period of time during the entire month that a woman can get pregnant anyway
@@magicalfairyambience If you feel comfortable relying on it and you're at a point in your life where a pregnancy would be welcome, go right ahead. But with untested partners, it's worth still using condoms. I've had friends get STIs from casual flings and even a long-term relationship, they can actually pop up months after being together and people can be asymptomatic. Definitely worth ensuring your safety regarding both pregnancy and STIs. STIs can progress to more serious infections or conditions when you're not aware of them.
Pull out only works if the man knows their department very well. Although I don’t think boys are educated about their own bodies either, not more than girls are educated about our bodies. The sex Ed in school just sucks lol
Oh my god thank you for your part about women being uneducated about this stuff because seriously, I never had the talk at all about anything from my parents, they completely ignored it because taboo and all.. and my school didn't do nearly enough. I'm almost 28 and STILL learned the hard way about things, and other issues that women struggle with like having a hard time saying no and sexual assault too. Our culture makes that normal for women to stay silent and the conversations don't happen until you're even in late 20s or older.
But thank you so much for opening up like this you have support in this corner of the world ❤
Love your full transparency. I love how respectful and neutral you were when you were talking about the pro life / pro choice situation. Definitely enjoyed the content!!
Omg Neeeey I’ve been literally following you for years and years and YEARS and I have to say you look the happiest I’ve ever seen you, ever.I think everything was meant to happen this way and I couldn’t be happier for you! ❤
I agree! She's def in love and happy for sure!
I've been here for quiet a while too and i have the same feeling, overjoyed for her😭❤❤
Thank you both for being so transparent about this topic! I think we’ve also thought about “what if I got pregnant?” but you never know how you’ll act until you’re in the moment. I also agree that it’s YOUR individual decision - and you can believe that everyone should be able to make their own decision!
Love how you talk about abortion. We would never judge a women that takes that decission because we never know the circumstances of other people. I love that you can say "it's just not for me" but never judging others.
Just clarify that it has to be political because if you don't have the right you don't have the option. That's my opinion: it should be something that you can do so you can decide if you want it or not.
P.D.: You look like a really good team 💜
I loved your Vlogmas Renee! Thank you for sharing your life! ❤
“☠️ a bAbY” yeahhh maybe take a 4th grade science class (not in fLoRiDA though 🤡😂😭)
I 100% believe there should be a female male male class cause the body is just SO crazy!
My fiancé and I got pregnant 2 months after we met as well. It’s been 3 years and we now have two beautiful daughters and will be getting married soon
You’re lucky you got pregnant with a good guy. A lot of guys would’ve bounced.
I think she’s a smart girl.. she could’ve gotten pregnant in her previous relationship, but she knew she wasn’t ready. She said she was ready for kids when she moved back to Tampa. & it happened. Even if the guy would’ve bounced she has good income, and a good head on her shoulders.. she would’ve been just fine
@@HelloMoto_ I’m sure she would’ve been okay but it would’ve been a lot harder.
@@HelloMoto_ She's smart? She got pregnant 2 MONTHS after meeting someone who isn't her husband. 😂😂😂😂
@@lr2ldn Your point? people get pregnant from their husband and still end up divorced and raising the kid alone… not everyone needs to follow a certain path for it to lead to a successful relationship. But to each their own :)
This video is pure positivity, and it shows that nothing is impossible, your life can change in a very short time, from dating someone for 10 years with zero result, to dating someone for a 2 months with great results; this is a real man, looking for stability, I believe that we don’t need time in relationships, years to be sure about this person, I believe that u can see it from there eyes in the first few dates if they are serious or not.
God protect your beautiful family
I love you 💕
The way you guys hold space for each other when carrying a conversation. So much love and respect❤ you’re radiating light ney!!!! Wow.
Flo is a good app to use to track everything even just little things like how your hormones may be affecting your mood for the day. I love it! Happy for you guys! Sending love 💗
Wait… what happened to Noah?
Hi Renee and Zander, a lasting relationship for sure will not be measure on how long or how short it has been. You guys are such an adorable couple. Zander, at such a young age, the way he answers is such an impressive young man. Can’t wait to see you guys get married, have more kids in a house of your own🙏🏻👍🏼.
I’m in this situation now. Waiting to test in a week , but seeing this is really nice. Glad to see you’re still together
Girl no offense but you should really understand the way your cycle/ fertility works at this point as an adult, especially after a 10 year relationship. You are right, hormonal birth control is really bad for a woman’s body so it’s good you are off it now but the idea that a woman can get pregnant any time she has sex is very untrue. There is only a short period of time during the entire month that a woman can get pregnant, it’s called your fertile window. So you must have had sex during that time period when you were fertile. I really recommend getting the book “taking charge of your fertility.” It goes over the ways to track your cycle and understand the way your body and fertility works and it’s a very effective method, works 99% of the time. You can’t rely on the school system to teach you this stuff. You guys are acting like some teenagers. Don’t have sex if you don’t know how it works.
Just ordered the book! 😁😁
@@kristadanciulescu good on you, it’s a very important and super comprehensive book, it literally goes over everything you need to know about a woman’s cycle and understanding fertility. It’s a very hefty book but in short, when your discharge is a more clear and egg white texture, that’s how you know your in your fertile window. So it’s best to abstain from sex or use condoms if you don’t want to get pregnant. You also notice it with having more hormonal changes such as a higher sex drive. And then when your discharge is thicker and more white/ creamy, that’s how you know you likely aren’t fertile and pretty much can’t get pregnant during that time. There are also fertility device trackers like the daisy fertility monitor that you use every morning. It tests your temperature and gives you a green or red light on if you are fertile that day bc lots of your fertility is based off body temperature. The book goes over all this. It’s really not that complicated and is something every woman should know to be empowered with. Especially someone who’s 30 and was in a 10 year long relationship. This is what women used to do back in the day before they popped hormonal birth control pills. Jolene brighten is a good resource too
Yeah I was a little surprised she didn’t know because my school system was the same. They didn’t really teach us about the ovulation cycle. We learned about condoms, the pulling out method, stds, Sperm and egg, but now so much the ovulation part. but as I got older I became curious and just researched it myself this way I had the information. Im aware not everyone takes it upon themselves to research stuff but I think if you’re not aware of something and if you’re ever curious , a good rule of thumb is to look it up :)
Example: I bled before my period and I didn’t know if it was hormone imbalance so I researched and came across implantation bleeding which they didn’t teach us in school either but that’s why I looked it up myself and found the answers to my questions
I always say “to each their own !” I’m not here to judge anyone. This is their journey and now that they know about ovulation , they can do with that information however they want in the future but it’s good info to have
This isn’t always true though. I know someone who got pregnant right at the beginning of her cycle, before the fertile part.
let's give her a little grace. I'm 27 and the first I'm learning about fertility is because my sister is TTC. Otherwise I wouldn't know either. It's a lot easier to track when you have regular periods, but I'm on birth control and mine has been irregular for the last 10 years. She's also very slim so you never know if she went a period of time without her menstrual cycle at all and therefore thought she couldn't get pregnant. My mom got pregnant while on birth control and women CAN conceive the entirety of their cycle. It may be far less likely when you aren't ovulating, but I believe it's a myth that you can't get pregnant on your period. You can. Best piece of advice is to educate yourself and take all precautions if you don't want a baby.
At the end of the day Renee and Zander are both adults, engaged in baby making activities lol, and evolved to make the best decisions for the baby and themselves. No it's not traditional, yes it is still a love story. I'm glad to see these two so happy together
I love this so much. I love the honesty. I agree women don’t know enough about our bodies I feel so dumb about my reproductive system. I want to learn more especially now being off birth control. You two are so mature and communication is so important in a relationship. It’s awesome to see you guys communicating effectively already.
My husband and I also got pregnant 3 - 4 months after "dating" but we've known each other for a while. We've been together for 7 years now and have our 3rd baby on the way! Loved thiis!
Wait a minute!!! ARE they engaged? I saw a few hints that made me smile! Zander is so calm and chill but funny as hell hahaha.. You guys are so good together!
You guys are the best. I really love how transparent and real you are about your relationship. So mature and conscious about every issue. Thank you for sharing and for replying my question!!! And congratulations!!!❤❤❤
Ya'll are so stinkin' cute!
Thank you for speaking about the abortion topic. Glad you feel free to speak to this sensitive issue.
Hi Renee it’s been along time since Ive seen any of ur Vids
An old viewer returning here! I've loved watching your content recently. It feels more authentic than ever and it's refreshing to hear your honesty/ be taking along for the journey with all the changes in your life. Zander seems like such a great guy too!
Sooooo happy for you!!! I’ve been watching you for years and I’m so happy for the both of you and I love how you handled it all. Bryson’s adorable!
You both were meant to be together ❤
I don't know in USA, but my boyfriend is a teacher here in Canada (6th grade, 11-12 years) and he gave a class about ovulation a few weeks ago. I remember learning about protection in High School at 12 years old 🙄😅
This could have been me! When I first dated my current husband we were only pulling out 🥴 we waited 5 years after being married to start having kids. And the first time he didn’t pull out BOOM I got pregnant. Low key think my husband is the pull out master 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
They don’t fit me though 😂 you guys are amazing together
Do you feel this is going to be long-term? You both don't seem dumb so I don't understand why you didn't use a condom since you really didn't know each other just to be safe. I hope it works out.
Maybe they were drunk when they hooked up, alcohol definitely leads to lots of derpy decisions in the moment lol
Have you never made a mistake? If not, congrats on being perfect. You don't need to understand why they did what they did. Considering all they've gone through, they seem to be doing pretty amazing. Hoping they make it long-term and give Bryson some siblings 😊
@@bkmirsky exactly. & it’s working out for them, so does it matter how it happened or started? geez people!
& let’s be honest sometimes you do everything “perfectly” and it does not workout.. speaking from experience.
What? Like, what? You've never been in a relationship, even if it was relatively new, where you felt like you could fully trust the person, no matter what the consequence was of not using protection? Further, there are no really stellar birth control options.
@@bkmirsky let's keep hope alive. I said what I said. All love
Hahah I loved this so much!! Thank you for the realness.
“Pulling out doesn’t work.”
No, no it does not he is correct on that one. 😂
Oh the red flags. I really hope it works out for you guys. End of the day you’re both there for Bryson 💜❤️
No worries. Husband and I had the same happen. That baby is now 24 , has siblings and we celebrate our 25th year together on the 1st 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
It's funny how you didn't let Z to answer some questions and you jumped in with your own reply. 😊
Jo, je to pěkně otravný... Celá je taková hrrr, narozdíl od něho.
omg almost spat my drink at my computer on the "pulling out comment" 😂😂😂😂
I love love love xander, he is such a calm and mature guy. Definitely husband material. Also he has a good sense of humor❤. Been watching ur vids for years now and I feel so happy that u r living the life u once talked about. My heart is full❤ love you both sm❤❤
1.Do as you wish. Be as you are.😊
You guys look so in love that was so satisfying to watch❤
My husband and I got pregnant 3 months after dating, got married 6 years later and just celebrated our 14th year anniversary. You guy got this! I hope no one ever gives you grief for not having a “conventional” relationship. No one sets the rules, do what fits for your family!
7:51 this does exist in the Catholic Church where they explain ovulation and all of that (if you plan on getting married in the church you have to take it) just thought I would add that cause I’ve been told it works really well
thank you tons for the transparency Renee! so happy for you
To chce odvahu přiznat, že ve 30 letech neví, jak funguje oplodnění...
Well... Congratulations for your engagement.
Some people have to try a lot of times, others only have to try one. But, if you're not trying, use protection.
How soon after you guys met did Zander start watching your YT vids??
I really like you 2 together!
When he said “we were neither” I cackled lolll. V long time subbie. Z is super chill. Love seeing him in your videos & where you’re at right now. Wishing you all the best 🤍
Awh I LOVE you guys together !!! This is such a beautiful video !!!
So happy for you both!! Your story is exactly that.. yours! Love you two together! You seem so happy! God bless!! ❤❤
Wait is it me or you're engaged?! Saw that little ring a ling there!! If so then congrats to both of you!🎉🎉
I love this video 😍😍 I like what you said about showing people that you're making the most out of your situation. You too are so sweet. And all the best in your relationship ❤️❤️
You just met and you got pregnant Not is not even enough time to see if you want to be serious
And she keeps saying how slow their relationship was going 🤔
Plus she was with someone for like 8 years and then had a baby with someone else in like less than a year😂
@@jmelll93 I know right! Crazy.
Finally seeing you happy again renee❤❤❤
You two are the cutest! Loving seeing you both so happy! ❤
Love the honesty! Zander is hilarious 😂 Happy for you guys and love watching your journey ❤
To be clear, you were told the “pull out method” does not work 😊. But to also be clear, I wouldn’t have this any other way ❤ this family is so blessed!!
How sweet you guys!! You look so happy, you baby make you happy. It is the perpose💛
Awwwww 🫶🏻 loved this video so much!!!!
Hi! There’s a method called the FAM (fertility awareness method) that’s non hormonal and just helps you know exactly when you ovulate so your safe. There are instructors who teach it all. This is for all of y’all who feel stuck ❤
Renee I’m following you for years and I’m so happy to see you happy. And Omg I love Zander , he’s so funny 😅 you two meant to be together, you look so good and happy together ! You both are amazing parents ❤ please do more talking videos together !
Thanks for being open and honest love
i had this exact experience, i met some on bumble and i feel like we’re super compatible. he was cooking for me and his phone went off, bumble notification 😂2:16
which app? At this point I’m willing to try them 🤣 you guys give me hope.
& I’m a firm believer that the best is what happens. If this was meant to be your journey then it was for the best.
Hinge 😄
I always say it’s about who you meet now how you meet!
@@kozycactus agree 100%
She said the app was Hinge
yall are the best.
Not the same but my husband and I got pregnant 5 months after having our first so I totally get the “this is shocking” and dealing with the cards you’re handed together as a couple. Sometimes you think your life is going one way and it does a 180 but often for the best! Wishing you two all the best ♥️💖
Hi Renee happy Thursday night and I hope you having amazing day today and I loved your vlogs and you are amazing Supporter and I'm proud of you
You two are so sweet ❤
That’s why you use protection. It’s easy to open your legs but it’s harder for you to actually get to know someone before that.
I laughed so hard to this video! :D
He is so cute and has an amazing laugh 😂, I'm so happy for you both 😢❤❤❤
“Come here I’ve got 5 dollars” 😂
Aw I love this! Definitely unconventional. But y’all see SO solid!
your relationship is literally so inspirational
This isn’t love it’s just rushed cause of a baby 😅
wait how does onemeet while driving on a bridge
I would guess that it was a walking bridge, not one you can only drive over
Well done. Strength and love.
Thank you for sharing
I love this video, I love you guys together. I hope I can find someone that I can have a relationship with like yours
R&Z are so lovely :)
Very good video Renee it's good to see you do a video like this I can't wait till I get pregnant to LOL 😁😁
I met my (almost) husband (fiancé) on hinge too 🤩
Absolutely loved this video!! I want to be friends w you guys.
You know how to pick good guys
Are you planning to marry
Their chemistry is unreal.
Nice
❤️😌❤️
Loved your chat about abortion 👏🏻👏🏻 it’s a baby from the very start. But also understanding other peoples hearts and loving them no matter what 💗
100% agree with everything you said on abortion. Its sad we have to tip toe around our beliefs to please the masses and not be canceled. Babies are babies regardless of what age they are. So happy for you guys!!!
I'm purely disgusted by the thumbnail the fact that abortion is so normal is dehumanizing to me
It's sad how the western world is so casual about things like this. Yeah sure get into a relationship and start having sex immediately. There's no respect for building a long-term relationship or thinking about the consequences or the future. Get pregnant? Ops let's go fix it with an abortion. Inevitably they'll breakup and she'll just go on to repeat the cycle with a new guy without even a single thought. Pathetic basic bitch behaviour.
Totally agree
Why hate on their personal story?
No uterus? No opinion.
I think the more we “normalize” talking about topics like abortion, the less divided we would all be. I personally love when creators share their opinions like this, in a real, casual way. It breaks our echo chambers and makes topics more approachable. It encourages real conversations, rather than heated arguments where neither side actually listens.
Best option: Don't have sex before marriage
how about let people do what they want in their life lmao
for you. Let other people make their own decisions.
@@camera0bsessedx People will do what they want to matter what
@@linal3489 so what was the point of this comment? its unnecessary
Renee! I’ve been watching you for years, and it brings me the greatest joy to see you at your happiest! 🤍 This video was soo light and sweet
Since I'm old enough to be your grandmother, the question was marriage what do you think we should do? The answer would be we need to ask God what he says we should do. Because the Bible's pretty clear on some issues and especially clear on this one