Hey lucid, I'm a woman here who ended up addicted to porn as a kid through a traumatic event (one word: pedo) and it legit changed me in many bad ways. I came from a video of a guy who was talking about his addiction and how it's affecting him. Someone in that comment section inside another comment said that 'porn can't ruin relationships' and that 'it's ridiculous to think bad of it', I was honestly baffled but I referred them to your content because you're the only creator ik that actually speaks up about this and how harmful it is. Love your videos and content lucid
I know it’s a bit nihilistic but that’s exactly what you are. It doesn’t have to be bad at all. Religion makes it so, but in all reality it isn’t. We as species are wonderful
I completely agree with everything you said. It is so nasty to think that millions of people are doing it and that the industry has become a multi-TRILLION DOLLAR INDUSTRY making more money than most things in the world. There is a reason why Allah forbade us from doing such things. Islam teaches us to find a halal way to ease your desires and hence why families are better. When you stick to Quran and Sunnah, life goes smooth no matter what the world says or does. Just because there is sin all around you doesn't make it right. It just sucks when no one is willing to shut it down and end it. Thank you bro for this video. May Allah bless you in this world and the next. P.S. When is new merch going to come out?
Lucid, you have introduced this topic for so many people, but there is something special the way you did, something that i can’t describe properly but thank god that i lived subscribed to your channel and I felt that rare honesty and sympathy in your voice, and in return your name will be in my prayers, i promise...
“If you want to destroy any nation without war, make adultery or nudity common in the young generation.” I totally agree with your point that marriage is getting more late than ever and degenerate sex and p are the new sad outlet for our sexual desires. The economy also plays a major role; at some point of time a high school diploma would allow me to raise a whole family of multiple kids comfortably, nowadays an entire bachelor would hardly allow me to raise a single kid with all the inflation, taxes etc. Of course we all know that the education system is the scam of the century but many fall for it, following the same pathway the their parents most likely did as well.
@UnitTrace i dont see why religion had to be shoved into this i feel like listening to what people say is fine as long as you think for yourself too and dont act like a complete sheep by completely adhering to everything you hear online
I'm gonna be honest, I disagree with the "Getting married at 28 is late" part, I might be a bit young to talk about this but currently I'm 18 years old, being married is definitely one of my main goals but this is not something that I need right now, I plan on working on myself first, figure what I want to do and who I want to be. And I'm very ambitious so if I manage to get wherever I want to be I don't think that this is going to take 2 years, nor 5 years but possibly 10 years at least and I really don't need marriage before that. Though I agree that a lot of people get the idea of NoFap wrong. I recently quit porn, I am a virgin and I never had a girlfriend before and so far my mental health is doing well (not saying that it won't get worse cause as I said earlier I might be a bit young to talk about this). I know for sure that I'm not aromantic, at some point I'm gonna need love in my life but you also gotta take into account that back into the 1800s people were getting married at 21 because life was a lot more linear, you could ask 10 years old boys what they wanted to do when they grow up and almost all of them would have an answer and wouldn't ever change their mind. Now you got 40 years old adults going to college for a degree. So this is also an important factor as of why people are getting married later. I completely agree that some people are just stuck with P which affects their mental and their ability to seduce and that is probably the main reason why people are getting married at 30 but I don't think that you can say that it's late as an objective truth with all due respect! I never commented like that on your videos before but this is a really great topic and a really great video so I just wanted to give people my take on it :) Edit: I'm not muslim so I guess my initial point of view will naturally differs from my muslims brothers
i think in terms of getting married late, youd have to be someone with very weak desires for it to be beneficial. What Lucids saying is that the majority of people have strong desires so waiting until youre in your 30s will mean that you will just be putting unnecessary pressure on yourself to stay away from that degeneracy
I’m a muslim and I actually agree with everything you said. Right now, a lot of people are getting married around 28-32 years old because you’d need a job and get enough money to buy a house and initial support the family. Earliest you probably could go for is 22-24 after you finish your degree and get a job, you’d most likely get financial support from your parents but you could also get a loan from the bank. I think even if you’re ambitious, you could get married and still go for your dreams, but I’d imagine it’s a more difficult. It is truly a beautiful thing to get married at a young age and be able to have that pure relationship.
@@G.T.9 the prophet (saw) did say that it is preferable for someone to get married at an early age so we shouldnt disagree with this but we should strive to achieve this. However, if we cant do this even after weve tried then ofc its understandable. As for taking a loan, if there is interest involved then it is completely haram. There is a hadith which says that someone who takes riba (interest), it is as they have waged a war with Allah
I used to think like you but after hearing my grandparents stories I realized every single one of them became rich after marriage because their lives stabilized emotionally and they had a reason to wake up to work and grind for family, And for women pregnancy is better when younger after puberty.
Im on like day 55 its been feeling really nice these past two months. You were the first youtuber that introduced me to nofap amd i couldnt be more grateful ❤.
i agree to an extent. i was kinda on a cycle of trying to hookup with people ever since my breakup and it really wasnt working, except one time in september I went on a date that really quickly spiraled to them asking me to come over. in the end nothing happened, i was still heart broken and i couldnt open up. and it wasnt until very recently where i just gave up on the idea of hooking up, or even looking for dates, and it wasnt till then that i met the person im dating rn. I am so hard in love bro, its actually fucking silly, its still so super early, and it takes so much courage to not tell her i love her. but i feel it just sort of proves to you that chasing pointless goals leads to disappointment only. maybe its just my experience but whatever
I haven’t thought about waiting until marraige for a long time. I think it was due to the amount of times I’d endulge myself on bad websites. However, I think I might be starting to realize the value of a long-term relationship with someone I care about. I think this realization is due to the fact that I’m going pretty strong in NNN and recently reached my own record. However, it’s almost like there’s not any good girls available in today’s culture. They all seem to be invested in hookup culture. I try to go out and meet them but they all want those type of guys that are just play boys that use them for their bodies. I think I’ll just probably start working out and doing other cool stuff that these play boys aren’t doing to really build my personality and lifestyle. Thanks for this video Lucid it added to my insight.
I'm been addicted since the age of 9. I can't seem to stop and this is killing me. I'm 17 and I want to fix my mental health and my addiction. I have watched and researched way too much about this and I don't get anywhere. Feel like I need a magic pill. Ik that doesn't exist but idk what to do at this point because im going into an infinite loop
@@RupertBear22What helped me stop was when ever I would want to do it I would stop and question would the version of myself that I want to become do something like this? The answer would always be no so I would stop and go do something else. Also make it as easy as possible for you to not do it. Remove the friction. If you tend to do at night on your bed using your phone then don’t go to bed with your phone etc.
Try the progressive overload method I can relate to you bro I got addicted to it at 8 years old and so far the most effective method is the “progressive overload” method where you slowly quit it so like take your average on how often you view porn and slowly reduce it and then combine that with the traditional advice like have hobbies, workout allat good stuff I’m 14 currently, and it’s a really hard challenge to quit it, but I realize the key to quitting it is to completely forget about it or get to the point where you barely think about it at all it’s a long process but it def works
@xBenjamin18 yeah bro thanks that's good advice. Idk if it's just me but a lot of times at the end of the day I lose all foucs, become light headed, and have no motivation. Like I can think straight lol. I just feel lost and everything is kinda numb and then it causes me to relapse. Feels like a dream. (Sorry don't men to over exaggerate
@user-gd8ib3hv7e yeah your right. I've done that beofre without realizing. I got to a point where I MO (Masterbated) but didn't watch P, but after a while I got a trigger online and I progress to porn again. So that's where I'm at. I'll keep trying my best because I know this shit is wrong.
i love how you use your reach to try to improve this broken society and I agree with everything you said. btw you would look really good with short hair :)
You are a legend man , you are absolutely right, even from a biological point of view getting married in early 20s is better because in late 30s and 40s the chances of a woman getting pregnant are less ! May Allah grant you success both in this life and afterlife ⚡🐺🐺🔥🌩️⛈️
I think I get it now. I made it through 223 days but it didn't change me because that was the only goal I had. Now I started it again seriously (13 days for now) but knowing the most important thing is to have a goal in every aspect, I learned that although it only gives you motivation and confidence, it's just a boost of energy to do what you really wnat with your life. Knowing that YOU are overcoming yourself Every Single Day Have a real goal and then the days will jist pass by and you won't even notice what day is it, its not important
this is a great video, especially for the youth. 100% agree with what u said. get married early its sunnah, trust me if your waiting to be the perfect person, you never will be. you will always be improving. grow with your spouse. the west has this mindset that marriage is the end of the journey when really it is not, its the beginning
One thing really irked me so much is someone tell that nofap doesn't have beneficial to health according to science and study, which really discourage people who struggling over the porn addiction.
i went from the oct 19th to last night . longest ive ever gone in 10yrs but to be honest it wasn't done over corn, i just felt like i had to get it out of me and when i did i felt better. will try to last for next year now. end goal is to be better overall
Don’t wait until next year. Do it again now. And if you fail again. Do it again. There’s no reason delay the effort you should make. You already did it once, there’s no reason you can’t achieve it again and possibly more. Waiting for an arbitrary day to shouldn’t change your effort in this, sure it’s good motivation, but this is about strengthening your mind without external help. If you can do it within, nothing on the outside can hurt you.
The average 21 year old isn’t ready to have a spouse and a family, from a financial, emotional, mental, ect standpoint. Also there’s less necessity for it. Back 200 years ago, when you were expected to die by 30, 40, and there were much less socioeconomic demands, well duh of course it makes sense to get married by 21. But for most people getting married that early would honestly be quite foolish. Now as for the burning with passion side of it (Which is also stated in the Bible, Paul said “better to marry than burn with passion” key difference he was talking to people 2000 years ago), I get it, nobody is gonna be completely pure and celibate for a decade plus. But what’s wrong with having a boyfriend/girlfriend? There’s ways to work around this, but rushing an early marriage isn’t the answer
The timing of this video is crazy, thank you so much. I really needed to hear the "you're replacing your hand with a female body"? hearing it made me realize I was going in that direction but yeah in my spirit I know I want to share intimicy with the one I love. thank you @iamLucid
I joined the military recently and during my training process it was my first time in a while for no fap for 2 months but it recently came back and it’s hard to control.
very nice video as always, although I only agree with you on a minority of points. I think what you're saying is excellent, like about family and making that a great end goal, that's been my dream since I was young... but not everyone wants that. Saying that everyone needs to want this end goal, and that everyone is not fulfilled from, let's say, sleeping around with a bunch of people, well, I could say attribute the same thing to food: pure spinach is rich in vitamins and antioxidants. I like it and it helps me, so therefore everyone should like it and it should help everyone. People who don't like and eat spinach, however, they're going down this path that's gonna take them to XYZ... Just because it helps you and helped people around you, I can't see how you attribute that to everyone, because you don't know everyone. Every brain is chemically different, and so to is the reaction of each to outside stimuli. And by outside stimuli, anything from marriage to eating pizza to sleeping to playing video games. As I said, I like you and watch you a fair bit, you are very articulate, professional and well-spoken. However, after watching this video, I wanted to write this comment.
I really do respect your opinion, but I do disagree with the marriage part…everyone’s different, but I feel like the majority of people are still figuring out who they are in their early and mid-twenties. I just think that young people need to take the time to figure out their values before marriage 🤷🏻♀️ that said, I of course support anyone who chooses to marry early - if they are ready, and if they are certain of who they are and what their values are, then I have no problem with it! I also understand that relationships are complex and each one is unique, so who am I to judge someone for getting married young, or who am I to judge someone for waiting 8-10 years to marry? Everyone’s different. Thanks for the video!
To add to this, marriage is oftentimes a significant financial commitment - it’s quite possible that people wait to marry so they can afford the wedding that they desire! there are so many reasons that people wait, just like there are many reasons that people go ahead and do it when they are young.
I have to disagree on your point where you stated that you’re not improving if you quit masturbation to have casual sex with a woman. Casual sex with a woman still requires effort. You have to socially and physically connect, be open/vulnerable, be present in the moment, and gain experience with a woman sexually which all can be used in a real long term relationship. When you masturbate you’re isolated, disassociated and feeding an addiction that ultimately leads to anxiety, unrealistic expectations of sex, desensitization, and a prolonged struggle with mental health. Masturbation isn’t real life and is destructive. The long term negative effects of masturbating to porn unfortunately have proven to be more harmful than casual sex in a lot of ways. Although, I fully agree that marriage should be the end goal and that society is so far gone in terms of healthy marriage and relationships. Regardless, if I have to between casual sex or porn, I’m picking casual sex.
being physically disabled makes having to make the decision of either saving my first sexual experience for the one i truly love or going to some random hooker difficult, as i don't really know how long i have left on this earth. my disease gives me an average lifespan of about 25 years. but i don't know if i'll even be able to talk regularly near that age. the choice of experiencing it at a younger age or not is a hard one. but it's mine to make. i would appreciate it if whoever reads this gives their take on it.
I think you are going to find it to be a waste if you hook up just to 'gain experience'. I'm very sorry to hear about your living conditions and I do hope you find the love of your life. In the meantime, fapping every single night is not going to be an option unless you want to be miserable for the rest of your life. Maybe try seeking fulfillment and trying something new? Give your brain and body a new challenge and stay away from complacency, then you can focus on self-improvement. I don't mean to say you have to go to the gym everyday and meditate for 20 minutes/night in order to be on self improvement, but rather just try and find a small element to your life of which you can improve 1% everyday. After a year, you would have improved by 3,703.89% in various areas of your life based on compound interest. Point is, yeah this lack of intimacy sucks and there is not any great options for us men to take regarding our excess sexual energy. But there are a multitude of things we can do that are different and can be more fulfilling to our lives than what two people having sex on a phone screen can do for us. So @dipstick I once again wish you the best in finding the love of your life and find something you aspire to become better at within these next coming years. Take care man :)
@@21stCENTURYSCHIZOIDMAN in true love, sex is the realest form of showing your emotions to the other person. Masturbation/watching porn/casual sex is just a way to "simulate love". In other words, pretending to be in love, wanting to feel the fast feeling of love, same way as people strive to get fast dopamine from addictions. However, in real and true love between 2 honest people, there is nothing wrong in having sex.
@@21stCENTURYSCHIZOIDMAN I myself am not saying that you should jump having sex with girls to show your love. Of course, hooking up is wrong. But as long as you are sure in the person, as long as you have made it through a long path together, whats wrong with sex then?
@@m0taro365 Dude im gonna be honest i have no clue on this topic, im 14 and im still on my path as a follower of God but i hope you find your answer :)))
@@21stCENTURYSCHIZOIDMAN np brother, when I was your age I didnt even think masturbation and porn could be bad for you, so your already ahead of me :) Just make sure you dont focus on that too much.
i agree with all exept the idea of marriage at 21 should be idk.. i think it should still be mid 20s to 30s because of really the money, living costs, marriage costs and the worry of divorce costs, finding THE one, you can’t marry them on the spot at 21, most people don’t find the ONE by 21 and i agree it’s similar to your point though back then many people used to be pressured of worse into marriage
Howdy Howdy Lucid, While there may be a bit i disagree with you on, which is pretty much impossible to agree with everything, you still have taught me alot about life. And a bit how it should actually be. I get your prospective, as a 14 year old teen, i agree. People should not be wasting this beautiful act on random whores. I really wish people knew more about the deep/dark web, and parents would actually RAISE their kids, other than leaving them with an ipad/pc. Thank you lucid.
The problem isn't just about not wanting to get married and efing around, in my culture for example its way too expensive to get married at a young age (I'm 18) and its way too easy and cheap to have a girlfriend or to sleep around now days although I try my best not to indulge in these things.
I kinda agree with that, It's just that it depends on how you receive urges, if it's daily or unavoidable, Then yeah you can overcome it but then if you suddenly see a heavily sexualized woman then you get the sudden urge that you haven't adapted it yet making you lose control. it's like when you give a tribe member some heavily sugared candy like mars or coca cola jelly candy and he/she gets excited ,but yes i agree that they can also overcome but also overcoming requires time and time does depend from person to another.
1:22 i don't agree with 28-29 being late. Your brain fully develops after 25 and by age 30 you will mature and have better life experience. You will have better chance of finding a better partner When you marry at 21, your brain and personality still didn't solidify yet, there is a risk of growing apart. that's my opinion i want to hear other points too
i personally think that nofap is completely fine, just not for a very long time. my most is 3 weeks, but after 2 weeks i didn't feel very good. but now i "do it" once or twice every week, and i feel completely fine.
3:25 Lucid actually brings a great argument here.. we humans were able to intimate in a traditional relationship in our early 20’s, but modern times have pushed that way further down to our 30’s. Causing men and women who actually wish to not participate in haram acts to do so out of lack of commitment with the opposite gender to release that sexual tension and start a family.
Great video. I was honestly shocked after I did more research and learned that the hub makes about 97 billion (with a **B**) dollars a year. To put that into perspective the NBA only generates about 10.5 billion dollars a year. Keep in mind that only includes statistics from the hub and not any other websites. Stay strong kings.
I lasted 45 days then got on to a bad relapse binge. No more will I relapse again. I have a girl and it’s disrespectful to her so I must stop now. I will install and put settings on router to block all porn and get rid of socials. Thank you for helping everyone lucid it means a lot
The average life expectancy in the United States in 1865 was 35 years old. So it makes sense that people would get married much younger. You asked what changed in the last 200 years that caused people to get married later? Well, life expectancy probably had something to do with it.
Hello brother, I want to know one thing, when you used to masturbate, did you have body pain or bone pain for no reason? I have been masturbating for 13 years.I have body aches for no reason, can't do any heavy work, my energy is very low. Thus, I would like to know if you experienced the same issue as I did when you masturbated. if you did, is it better now? how long will it take to recover from the problems that have occurred due to masturbation, such as muscle pain,bone pain. It's been 16 days since I quit masturbation. However, I still don't see any benefit. My bone pain is still there.I don't know when my body pain will go away and when I will regain strength in my body.,,,,
While I agree with the sentiment that p has played a role in the delay of marriage, I think it's foolish to regard it as the primary reason. I would argue that the main reason marriage is delayed is due to the economy. The economy has gone downward for years, and it's getting harder to afford a proper wedding ceremony, which most people want. And while yes, a wedding ceremony is not necessary. But the economy is also a reflection of how people are feeling, which as of now the average person is more depressed than their ancestors. I could go further and point out the housing market, it is much more difficult to own a house when you are young. And houses encourage families. What do you guys think?
I am a devout Catholic and needed this. Have been turning my back on God and giving into the Devil. P is the true satan. Peter 2:11 "Dear friends, I urge you, as foreigners and exiles, to abstain from sinful desires, which wage war against your soul." Much respect to you brother.
You know it’s gonna be serious when lucid has a suite on lol
Hahaha 😂
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Hey lucid, I'm a woman here who ended up addicted to porn as a kid through a traumatic event (one word: pedo) and it legit changed me in many bad ways. I came from a video of a guy who was talking about his addiction and how it's affecting him. Someone in that comment section inside another comment said that 'porn can't ruin relationships' and that 'it's ridiculous to think bad of it', I was honestly baffled but I referred them to your content because you're the only creator ik that actually speaks up about this and how harmful it is. Love your videos and content lucid
It’s really difficult to break through and it’s tough when you relapse and just have that clarity, im just saying that i relate to you to.
Bro my biggest time without it is 7 days its so hard
@@sensisensi289try to find other stuff to do other than p
Looking very professional today lucid. Love the vid KEEP IT UP PLEASE
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“you’re a lot more than an animal that wants to follow its own desires.”
that stuck with me
I know it’s a bit nihilistic but that’s exactly what you are. It doesn’t have to be bad at all. Religion makes it so, but in all reality it isn’t. We as species are wonderful
@@bivekzeonrasali7715 Avoid sweets, sugar, chocolate, watermelon etc to avoid lust feelings. 😊😊😊
The more I learn to grow, the more I begin to see how accurate lucid is about life. Thank you Lucid.
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I completely agree with everything you said. It is so nasty to think that millions of people are doing it and that the industry has become a multi-TRILLION DOLLAR INDUSTRY making more money than most things in the world. There is a reason why Allah forbade us from doing such things. Islam teaches us to find a halal way to ease your desires and hence why families are better. When you stick to Quran and Sunnah, life goes smooth no matter what the world says or does. Just because there is sin all around you doesn't make it right. It just sucks when no one is willing to shut it down and end it. Thank you bro for this video. May Allah bless you in this world and the next. P.S. When is new merch going to come out?
Inshallah
inshallah at 1M, the merch is ready :)
@UnitTrace yep
You forgot to mention marriage. Sure Allah is with us but we need to get married and fulfill our needs the halal way.
It's not trillions yet but in like 5 years it probably will be ngl@UnitTrace
Lucid, you have introduced this topic for so many people, but there is something special the way you did, something that i can’t describe properly but thank god that i lived subscribed to your channel and I felt that rare honesty and sympathy in your voice, and in return your name will be in my prayers, i promise...
Awesome video this goes against all the bullshit everyone talks about being a virgin isnt necessarily a bad thing
By far the most dificult aspect of self improvment and the most significant in my opinion since it impacts everything else.
“If you want to destroy any nation without war, make adultery or nudity common in the young generation.”
I totally agree with your point that marriage is getting more late than ever and degenerate sex and p are the new sad outlet for our sexual desires. The economy also plays a major role; at some point of time a high school diploma would allow me to raise a whole family of multiple kids comfortably, nowadays an entire bachelor would hardly allow me to raise a single kid with all the inflation, taxes etc. Of course we all know that the education system is the scam of the century but many fall for it, following the same pathway the their parents most likely did as well.
@UnitTrace For sure, but is that really the only other option?
@UnitTrace yea no shit lol, but it’s better to not do any of these
I think it increases them
@UnitTracedon’t do any of them, this is about YOU
Man as a 16 year old, I wish I could just one day meet you. You are THE role model in my life… thanks for everything Lucid.
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same here. Amazing role model
@UnitTraceDamn bro, as true as that may be... Don't you think that's just a little paranoid?
@UnitTrace i dont see why religion had to be shoved into this
i feel like listening to what people say is fine as long as you think for yourself too and dont act like a complete sheep by completely adhering to everything you hear online
@UnitTrace if u can't prove the existence of god than stop bringing the dude up
He spittin
bro i always wanted to type this sort of comment under your video, and now I finally can
I am on 330+ days of nofap, stay strong guys
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bro I'm gonna need that secret to how you get passed the really intense ergs.
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@@insarkarypbekov9921 you need to stop counting. It's not "I haven't done it x amount of days" it's now "I don't do it at all"
I'm gonna be honest, I disagree with the "Getting married at 28 is late" part, I might be a bit young to talk about this but currently I'm 18 years old, being married is definitely one of my main goals but this is not something that I need right now, I plan on working on myself first, figure what I want to do and who I want to be. And I'm very ambitious so if I manage to get wherever I want to be I don't think that this is going to take 2 years, nor 5 years but possibly 10 years at least and I really don't need marriage before that.
Though I agree that a lot of people get the idea of NoFap wrong. I recently quit porn, I am a virgin and I never had a girlfriend before and so far my mental health is doing well (not saying that it won't get worse cause as I said earlier I might be a bit young to talk about this). I know for sure that I'm not aromantic, at some point I'm gonna need love in my life but you also gotta take into account that back into the 1800s people were getting married at 21 because life was a lot more linear, you could ask 10 years old boys what they wanted to do when they grow up and almost all of them would have an answer and wouldn't ever change their mind. Now you got 40 years old adults going to college for a degree. So this is also an important factor as of why people are getting married later. I completely agree that some people are just stuck with P which affects their mental and their ability to seduce and that is probably the main reason why people are getting married at 30 but I don't think that you can say that it's late as an objective truth with all due respect!
I never commented like that on your videos before but this is a really great topic and a really great video so I just wanted to give people my take on it :)
Edit: I'm not muslim so I guess my initial point of view will naturally differs from my muslims brothers
i think in terms of getting married late, youd have to be someone with very weak desires for it to be beneficial. What Lucids saying is that the majority of people have strong desires so waiting until youre in your 30s will mean that you will just be putting unnecessary pressure on yourself to stay away from that degeneracy
I’m a muslim and I actually agree with everything you said. Right now, a lot of people are getting married around 28-32 years old because you’d need a job and get enough money to buy a house and initial support the family. Earliest you probably could go for is 22-24 after you finish your degree and get a job, you’d most likely get financial support from your parents but you could also get a loan from the bank.
I think even if you’re ambitious, you could get married and still go for your dreams, but I’d imagine it’s a more difficult. It is truly a beautiful thing to get married at a young age and be able to have that pure relationship.
@@G.T.9 the prophet (saw) did say that it is preferable for someone to get married at an early age so we shouldnt disagree with this but we should strive to achieve this. However, if we cant do this even after weve tried then ofc its understandable.
As for taking a loan, if there is interest involved then it is completely haram. There is a hadith which says that someone who takes riba (interest), it is as they have waged a war with Allah
I used to think like you but after hearing my grandparents stories I realized every single one of them became rich after marriage because their lives stabilized emotionally and they had a reason to wake up to work and grind for family,
And for women pregnancy is better when younger after puberty.
I think you are part of the exception not the rule
Just by the thumbnail I already know this gonna be a certified hood classic🤑
Im on like day 55 its been feeling really nice these past two months. You were the first youtuber that introduced me to nofap amd i couldnt be more grateful ❤.
Keep going my guy you have my full support🔥
Do not count the days, identify yourself as a person who does not fap.
i agree to an extent. i was kinda on a cycle of trying to hookup with people ever since my breakup and it really wasnt working, except one time in september I went on a date that really quickly spiraled to them asking me to come over. in the end nothing happened, i was still heart broken and i couldnt open up. and it wasnt until very recently where i just gave up on the idea of hooking up, or even looking for dates, and it wasnt till then that i met the person im dating rn. I am so hard in love bro, its actually fucking silly, its still so super early, and it takes so much courage to not tell her i love her. but i feel it just sort of proves to you that chasing pointless goals leads to disappointment only. maybe its just my experience but whatever
I haven’t thought about waiting until marraige for a long time. I think it was due to the amount of times I’d endulge myself on bad websites. However, I think I might be starting to realize the value of a long-term relationship with someone I care about. I think this realization is due to the fact that I’m going pretty strong in NNN and recently reached my own record. However, it’s almost like there’s not any good girls available in today’s culture. They all seem to be invested in hookup culture. I try to go out and meet them but they all want those type of guys that are just play boys that use them for their bodies. I think I’ll just probably start working out and doing other cool stuff that these play boys aren’t doing to really build my personality and lifestyle. Thanks for this video Lucid it added to my insight.
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Find a girl at your local church/mosque
love the formal attire for this video on such a topic, bro is looking good!!
I'm been addicted since the age of 9. I can't seem to stop and this is killing me. I'm 17 and I want to fix my mental health and my addiction. I have watched and researched way too much about this and I don't get anywhere. Feel like I need a magic pill. Ik that doesn't exist but idk what to do at this point because im going into an infinite loop
@xBenjamin18 yeah and I had nobody to talk to or trust to help Me at that age. I was alone and scared
@@RupertBear22What helped me stop was when ever I would want to do it I would stop and question would the version of myself that I want to become do something like this? The answer would always be no so I would stop and go do something else. Also make it as easy as possible for you to not do it. Remove the friction. If you tend to do at night on your bed using your phone then don’t go to bed with your phone etc.
Try the progressive overload method I can relate to you bro I got addicted to it at 8 years old and so far the most effective method is the “progressive overload” method where you slowly quit it so like take your average on how often you view porn and slowly reduce it and then combine that with the traditional advice like have hobbies, workout allat good stuff I’m 14 currently, and it’s a really hard challenge to quit it, but I realize the key to quitting it is to completely forget about it or get to the point where you barely think about it at all it’s a long process but it def works
@xBenjamin18 yeah bro thanks that's good advice. Idk if it's just me but a lot of times at the end of the day I lose all foucs, become light headed, and have no motivation. Like I can think straight lol. I just feel lost and everything is kinda numb and then it causes me to relapse. Feels like a dream. (Sorry don't men to over exaggerate
@user-gd8ib3hv7e yeah your right. I've done that beofre without realizing. I got to a point where I MO (Masterbated) but didn't watch P, but after a while I got a trigger online and I progress to porn again. So that's where I'm at. I'll keep trying my best because I know this shit is wrong.
i love how you use your reach to try to improve this broken society and I agree with everything you said. btw you would look really good with short hair :)
You are a legend man , you are absolutely right, even from a biological point of view getting married in early 20s is better because in late 30s and 40s the chances of a woman getting pregnant are less ! May Allah grant you success both in this life and afterlife ⚡🐺🐺🔥🌩️⛈️
You look snazzzyyyy bro ❤🔥
Ooooo Look at you all dressed up! Looking sharp boss, sweet threads! 💚⚡🔥
I think I get it now.
I made it through 223 days but it didn't change me because that was the only goal I had.
Now I started it again seriously (13 days for now) but knowing the most important thing is to have a goal in every aspect, I learned that although it only gives you motivation and confidence, it's just a boost of energy to do what you really wnat with your life.
Knowing that YOU are overcoming yourself
Every
Single
Day
Have a real goal and then the days will jist pass by and you won't even notice what day is it, its not important
i remember watching your nofap vid 2 years ago , where you said you would never make another nofap video after that one
well here we are
I love this war you have on P, it helps me put a perspective on P
this is a great video, especially for the youth. 100% agree with what u said. get married early its sunnah, trust me if your waiting to be the perfect person, you never will be. you will always be improving. grow with your spouse. the west has this mindset that marriage is the end of the journey when really it is not, its the beginning
NoFap is hard but regret is harder
CEO OF NO FAP
lol
Late marriage really is a problem, man... May Allah Protect us.
he really got himself lookin so handsome for a video talking about meat beating
One thing really irked me so much is someone tell that nofap doesn't have beneficial to health according to science and study, which really discourage people who struggling over the porn addiction.
Your outfit looks really good on you
I am so glad to fight this and be against it. I'm also so glad to have a better lifestyle without being addicted to it
I needed this lucid
i went from the oct 19th to last night . longest ive ever gone in 10yrs but to be honest it wasn't done over corn, i just felt like i had to get it out of me and when i did i felt better. will try to last for next year now. end goal is to be better overall
Don’t wait until next year. Do it again now. And if you fail again. Do it again. There’s no reason delay the effort you should make. You already did it once, there’s no reason you can’t achieve it again and possibly more. Waiting for an arbitrary day to shouldn’t change your effort in this, sure it’s good motivation, but this is about strengthening your mind without external help. If you can do it within, nothing on the outside can hurt you.
no sex until marriage😇
Brother you are an amazing person. From all the way over in the UK, I want to say I am very grateful to you.
The average 21 year old isn’t ready to have a spouse and a family, from a financial, emotional, mental, ect standpoint. Also there’s less necessity for it. Back 200 years ago, when you were expected to die by 30, 40, and there were much less socioeconomic demands, well duh of course it makes sense to get married by 21. But for most people getting married that early would honestly be quite foolish. Now as for the burning with passion side of it (Which is also stated in the Bible, Paul said “better to marry than burn with passion” key difference he was talking to people 2000 years ago), I get it, nobody is gonna be completely pure and celibate for a decade plus. But what’s wrong with having a boyfriend/girlfriend? There’s ways to work around this, but rushing an early marriage isn’t the answer
The timing of this video is crazy, thank you so much. I really needed to hear the "you're replacing your hand with a female body"?
hearing it made me realize I was going in that direction but yeah in my spirit I know I want to share intimicy with the one I love.
thank you @iamLucid
Good video, especially on November.
Alhamdullilah through Allahs mercy I have found your message and I quit ❤️
allah? LOL
@@Kevin-jm5uo ? whats so funny
he looks like my history professor that always told me to stay after class
he looked dope btw 😎
@@mrbearjangles8600yuh uh
Can't wait for the crazy video, you look serious 😭
I joined the military recently and during my training process it was my first time in a while for no fap for 2 months but it recently came back and it’s hard to control.
You know he making his idea's serious when it`s toward the end of the year and we getting this video
Day 0 nofap going strong
HOW is it going bro U at 60 days now
very nice video as always, although I only agree with you on a minority of points. I think what you're saying is excellent, like about family and making that a great end goal, that's been my dream since I was young... but not everyone wants that. Saying that everyone needs to want this end goal, and that everyone is not fulfilled from, let's say, sleeping around with a bunch of people, well, I could say attribute the same thing to food: pure spinach is rich in vitamins and antioxidants. I like it and it helps me, so therefore everyone should like it and it should help everyone. People who don't like and eat spinach, however, they're going down this path that's gonna take them to XYZ... Just because it helps you and helped people around you, I can't see how you attribute that to everyone, because you don't know everyone. Every brain is chemically different, and so to is the reaction of each to outside stimuli. And by outside stimuli, anything from marriage to eating pizza to sleeping to playing video games.
As I said, I like you and watch you a fair bit, you are very articulate, professional and well-spoken. However, after watching this video, I wanted to write this comment.
Being Muslim helps a lot and also Arab culture where marrying young is encouraged by both
i dont agree with the whole "not being able to do no fap until my 30s" thing. all i have to say is challenge accepted
120 days sober, No Fap For Life!!!
As a unmarried person in my 30s
I completely agree with what Lucid said 👍
😭😭@@robertocarlos2743
@@robertocarlos2743 you trippin, rob
@@robertocarlos2743 robby chill
@@robertocarlos2743 ☠
@robertocarlos2743
Shut up lmbo I bet you’re not even married yourself. Crazy how you think anyone who isn’t married is a loser
Lucid really put on a suit for this one
Good video man. Great point!
I really do respect your opinion, but I do disagree with the marriage part…everyone’s different, but I feel like the majority of people are still figuring out who they are in their early and mid-twenties. I just think that young people need to take the time to figure out their values before marriage 🤷🏻♀️ that said, I of course support anyone who chooses to marry early - if they are ready, and if they are certain of who they are and what their values are, then I have no problem with it! I also understand that relationships are complex and each one is unique, so who am I to judge someone for getting married young, or who am I to judge someone for waiting 8-10 years to marry? Everyone’s different.
Thanks for the video!
To add to this, marriage is oftentimes a significant financial commitment - it’s quite possible that people wait to marry so they can afford the wedding that they desire! there are so many reasons that people wait, just like there are many reasons that people go ahead and do it when they are young.
Great video Lucid
As always lucid spits facts!!!
I have to disagree on your point where you stated that you’re not improving if you quit masturbation to have casual sex with a woman. Casual sex with a woman still requires effort. You have to socially and physically connect, be open/vulnerable, be present in the moment, and gain experience with a woman sexually which all can be used in a real long term relationship. When you masturbate you’re isolated, disassociated and feeding an addiction that ultimately leads to anxiety, unrealistic expectations of sex, desensitization, and a prolonged struggle with mental health. Masturbation isn’t real life and is destructive. The long term negative effects of masturbating to porn unfortunately have proven to be more harmful than casual sex in a lot of ways.
Although, I fully agree that marriage should be the end goal and that society is so far gone in terms of healthy marriage and relationships. Regardless, if I have to between casual sex or porn, I’m picking casual sex.
bro i really like you and your way of thinking love you
being physically disabled makes having to make the decision of either saving my first sexual experience for the one i truly love or going to some random hooker difficult, as i don't really know how long i have left on this earth. my disease gives me an average lifespan of about 25 years. but i don't know if i'll even be able to talk regularly near that age. the choice of experiencing it at a younger age or not is a hard one. but it's mine to make. i would appreciate it if whoever reads this gives their take on it.
I think you are going to find it to be a waste if you hook up just to 'gain experience'. I'm very sorry to hear about your living conditions and I do hope you find the love of your life. In the meantime, fapping every single night is not going to be an option unless you want to be miserable for the rest of your life. Maybe try seeking fulfillment and trying something new? Give your brain and body a new challenge and stay away from complacency, then you can focus on self-improvement. I don't mean to say you have to go to the gym everyday and meditate for 20 minutes/night in order to be on self improvement, but rather just try and find a small element to your life of which you can improve 1% everyday. After a year, you would have improved by 3,703.89% in various areas of your life based on compound interest. Point is, yeah this lack of intimacy sucks and there is not any great options for us men to take regarding our excess sexual energy. But there are a multitude of things we can do that are different and can be more fulfilling to our lives than what two people having sex on a phone screen can do for us. So @dipstick I once again wish you the best in finding the love of your life and find something you aspire to become better at within these next coming years. Take care man :)
Also, look towards God as he can help :)
when did being in love become "replacing your right hand" lol
It’s not love, it’s lust. Lust includes masturbation or casual, self pleasurable sex. There’s a difference my friend.
@@21stCENTURYSCHIZOIDMAN in true love, sex is the realest form of showing your emotions to the other person. Masturbation/watching porn/casual sex is just a way to "simulate love". In other words, pretending to be in love, wanting to feel the fast feeling of love, same way as people strive to get fast dopamine from addictions. However, in real and true love between 2 honest people, there is nothing wrong in having sex.
@@21stCENTURYSCHIZOIDMAN I myself am not saying that you should jump having sex with girls to show your love. Of course, hooking up is wrong. But as long as you are sure in the person, as long as you have made it through a long path together, whats wrong with sex then?
@@m0taro365 Dude im gonna be honest i have no clue on this topic, im 14 and im still on my path as a follower of God but i hope you find your answer :)))
@@21stCENTURYSCHIZOIDMAN np brother, when I was your age I didnt even think masturbation and porn could be bad for you, so your already ahead of me :) Just make sure you dont focus on that too much.
i agree with all exept the idea of marriage at 21 should be idk.. i think it should still be mid 20s to 30s because of really the money, living costs, marriage costs and the worry of divorce costs, finding THE one, you can’t marry them on the spot at 21, most people don’t find the ONE by 21 and i agree it’s similar to your point though back then many people used to be pressured of worse into marriage
Lucid looking nice here... Nicely worn!
It's funny how masculinity is all about strength and control in everything other that sexual urges
I can just feel this will be a 🔥 vid!
Howdy Howdy Lucid, While there may be a bit i disagree with you on, which is pretty much impossible to agree with everything, you still have taught me alot about life. And a bit how it should actually be. I get your prospective, as a 14 year old teen, i agree. People should not be wasting this beautiful act on random whores. I really wish people knew more about the deep/dark web, and parents would actually RAISE their kids, other than leaving them with an ipad/pc.
Thank you lucid.
The problem isn't just about not wanting to get married and efing around, in my culture for example its way too expensive to get married at a young age (I'm 18) and its way too easy and cheap to have a girlfriend or to sleep around now days although I try my best not to indulge in these things.
Honestly, urges aren't that bad and once you overcome them enough it gets easier.
I kinda agree with that,
It's just that it depends on how you receive urges, if it's daily or unavoidable,
Then yeah you can overcome it but then if you suddenly see a heavily sexualized woman then you get the sudden urge that you haven't adapted it yet making you lose control. it's like when you give a tribe member some heavily sugared candy like mars or coca cola jelly candy and he/she gets excited ,but yes i agree that they can also overcome but also overcoming requires time and time does depend from person to another.
1:22 i don't agree with 28-29 being late. Your brain fully develops after 25 and by age 30 you will mature and have better life experience. You will have better chance of finding a better partner
When you marry at 21, your brain and personality still didn't solidify yet, there is a risk of growing apart.
that's my opinion i want to hear other points too
i personally think that nofap is completely fine, just not for a very long time. my most is 3 weeks, but after 2 weeks i didn't feel very good. but now i "do it" once or twice every week, and i feel completely fine.
That’s fine, I found out I had a similiar thing but decided to keep going and it’s been great for me
3:25 Lucid actually brings a great argument here.. we humans were able to intimate in a traditional relationship in our early 20’s, but modern times have pushed that way further down to our 30’s. Causing men and women who actually wish to not participate in haram acts to do so out of lack of commitment with the opposite gender to release that sexual tension and start a family.
Great video. I was honestly shocked after I did more research and learned that the hub makes about 97 billion (with a **B**) dollars a year. To put that into perspective the NBA only generates about 10.5 billion dollars a year. Keep in mind that only includes statistics from the hub and not any other websites. Stay strong kings.
I think marriage 9 years later compared to 70 ish years ago is understandable since we gained more than 20 years of expectancy. Just a thought
I completely agree with you.
I lasted 45 days then got on to a bad relapse binge. No more will I relapse again. I have a girl and it’s disrespectful to her so I must stop now.
I will install and put settings on router to block all porn and get rid of socials.
Thank you for helping everyone lucid it means a lot
Your outfit🔥, I can't wait until I'm done with school...so I can buy myself clothes like that
Your absolutely right, but really in today's time affording a family is a tough thing
You know it's serious when he got the suit on
Thank you so much bro, this is so inspiring
Bro this was only a problem in the west but now it's even in the middle east marrying very late and having a girlfriend haram!
قَدْ أَفْلَحَ الْمُؤْمِنُونَ (1) الَّذِينَ هُمْ فِي صَلَاتِهِمْ خَاشِعُونَ (2) وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ عَنِ اللَّغْوِ مُعْرِضُونَ (3) وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ لِلزَّكَاةِ فَاعِلُونَ (4) وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ لِفُرُوجِهِمْ حَافِظُونَ (5) إِلَّا عَلَىٰ أَزْوَاجِهِمْ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُمْ فَإِنَّهُمْ غَيْرُ مَلُومِينَ (6) فَمَنِ ابْتَغَىٰ وَرَاءَ ذَٰلِكَ فَأُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الْعَادُونَ (7)
The average life expectancy in the United States in 1865 was 35 years old. So it makes sense that people would get married much younger. You asked what changed in the last 200 years that caused people to get married later? Well, life expectancy probably had something to do with it.
i love listening to him , he is like my second father (best youtuber masallah)
Rebelling against the devil.
Day 6 going strong
Day 1 lets goo
Day -1 let's gooooo
I was on day 10 but 2 days ago I failed I also failed today so Day 0 for me rn
I loved this video, amazing information to take away from this video. I’m currently 2 years and 3 months strong 💪🏽
Hello brother, I want to know one thing, when you used to masturbate, did you have body pain or bone pain for no reason? I have been masturbating for 13 years.I have body aches for no reason, can't do any heavy work, my energy is very low. Thus, I would like to know if you experienced the same issue as I did when you masturbated. if you did, is it better now? how long will it take to recover from the problems that have occurred due to masturbation, such as muscle pain,bone pain. It's been 16 days since I quit masturbation. However, I still don't see any benefit. My bone pain is still there.I don't know when my body pain will go away and when I will regain strength in my body.,,,,
@@learningtoday1 bro you will start seeing changes after 45 days
It’s hard bro.
While I agree with the sentiment that p has played a role in the delay of marriage, I think it's foolish to regard it as the primary reason.
I would argue that the main reason marriage is delayed is due to the economy. The economy has gone downward for years, and it's getting harder to afford a proper wedding ceremony, which most people want. And while yes, a wedding ceremony is not necessary. But the economy is also a reflection of how people are feeling, which as of now the average person is more depressed than their ancestors. I could go further and point out the housing market, it is much more difficult to own a house when you are young. And houses encourage families. What do you guys think?
The economy will only get worse if people are spending 10% of their time, jacking off, doing drugs, and hooking up.
I’m 20 and have been struggling with pa since I was 13, I wanna stop so bad and know my life will turn around but I’ve continuously failed
Bro I starte 12 in a half now I’m almost 19.
I agree with you 100% but what can we do to change this I mean I can't find someone to marry at let's the age of 25 no one wants marriage these days
From starting 4:00 , you earned my interest and subscribe! Good point brother.
Become the greatest version of yourselves and save yourselves for marriages.
Great vid bro bless up
I am a devout Catholic and needed this. Have been turning my back on God and giving into the Devil. P is the true satan.
Peter 2:11 "Dear friends, I urge you, as foreigners and exiles, to abstain from sinful desires, which wage war against your soul."
Much respect to you brother.
You are i don't know what to say but Just wow! I wonder if we were neighbors or friends in real life how much idea's we have in common
this man edges
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Bro wearing a suit and everything 😎
you helped me stop thank you so much man
This video literally came at the perfect time bro😂