Why It's a Relief to Follow a Leader with Malignant Narcissism | FRANK YEOMANS
Вставка
- Опубліковано 24 лип 2019
- Frank Yeomans discusses the primitive appeal of splitting - "We're good they're bad" - and what happens when a malignant narcissist is the leader of a group. Both Trump and Hitler are mentioned.
For a follow-up piece with Yeomans that elaborates on this topic, check out "Malignant Narcissism & Our Undoing as a Species": • Malignant Narcissism &...
We talked with Frank Yeomans about Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and how it can affect us on a personal and societal level.
Frank Yeomans is an expert clinician who makes use of Transference-Focused Psychotherapy in his practice treating NPD and BPD. In fact, he co-wrote the manual on TFP for Borderline Personality Disorder!
Check out our interview of Otto Kernberg (who mentored Frank Yeomans) for lots more related material: • Otto Kernberg
For more information about BORDERLINE, the feature-length documentary we made about BPD, please visit: borderlinethefilm.com
Our archive of videos on BPD and NPD is expanding - be sure to subscribe to our channel here: / borderlinernotes
Disclaimer: "Please be advised this video may contain sensitive information. All content found within this publication (VIDEO) is provided for informational purposes only. All cases may differ, and the information provided is a general guide. The content is not intended to be used as a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you have specific questions about a medical condition, you should consult your doctor or other qualified medical professional for assistance or questions you have regarding a medical condition. Studio Comma The, LLC and BorderlinerNotes does not recommend any specific course of medical remedy, physicians, products,opinion, or other information.
Studio Comma The, LLC and BorderlinerNotes expressly disclaim responsibility and shall have no liability for any damages, loss, injury, or liability whatsoever suffering as a result of reliance on the information in this publication. If you or someone you know is considering self-harm or suicide, it’s okay to ask for help. 24 hour support is provided by www.hopeline-nc.org (877.235.4525), suicidepreventionlifeline.org (800.273.8255), kidshelpphone.ca (800.668.6868).”
The people who need to see this most will never let themselves see it.
Either cannot understand it, or cannot *allow* themselves to.
And even if they did they would not understand it - too many big words.....
I have a friend with cPTSD and BPD. She was emotionally traumatized to the core. She believed a parent of hers may have had NPD. Now, she wonders if they have BPD that may have an overlap of a NPD shell bc this parent can be authentically empathy, but it fluctuates with critic and even hypocrisy. She has a trauma bond with the parent sadly...
@@inoshishi8 I've got PMC and little FXB. In winter when its cold and cloudy I also get bad URE which brings on TLM. My Doctor initially mis-diagnosed it as URT but as the WQA did not help I had another test and It was confirmed as URE with undelying HFC. I'm feeling better now.
Despite the potential link between mental health issues and dictatorial behavior, these topics are not always openly discussed or recognized in conversations about political leaders. This could be due to a lack of awareness about mental health in general, a focus on the actions and consequences of dictators rather than their psychological makeup, or a reluctance to delve into the complexities of mental health and power dynamics in political contexts. Ultimately, more research and discussion are needed to better understand the interplay between mental health and dictatorial behavior.
“It’s very scary when people get gratification out of being aggressive, sadistic and destructive”
You are do right ❤
True
And they’ll be worse if we’re becoming more isolated and poor.
It may not be talked about often because discussing the mental health of dictators can be a sensitive and complex issue. There may also be a tendency to focus on the actions and policies of dictators rather than considering their underlying psychological motivations.
The vulnerable feel empowered by the grandiose. And the grandiose feel powerful and in control.Entitlement is a defense against dependency.
Those who have a low self image will put others down to make themselves feel better
Spot on, and also why it's so important for some folks to always have an 'out group'... aka, an 'ebil Other' we can always 'look down on', no matter our own humble station in life.
@Toblerone Hoblerone Seriously? This is straight up false equivalency.
Those who have no compassion or empathy must get pleasure, joy, or self-satisfaction that comes from learning of or witnessing the troubles, failures, or humiliation of another.
Exactly.
@Night Owl I hear 'ya, though no worries, Costco has a lotta the same 'kind' of folks... except they simply 'hide' it better.
You are bald. WOW! Trumpy has hair.
"Some people think politics is like an English lesson. They find the present tense and the past perfect." --Caroline Warner.
Or the inverse… both equally destructive though.
😂😂😂😂😂😂
I've already had this general idea in my head, but never thought about it in this context. The idea that we can learn history, but then subjugate history to just that, history. Reading about the negative behaviors of past generations, we almost generalize that, we use to be that way, but are no longer racist, selfish, and destructive people. However, to be human is to encompass this in the totality of being human. Even if we can't see that negative behavior we exhibit, they are still there.
There are numerous factors that can contribute to an individual becoming a dictator. Some of the common reasons include:
1. Desire for power and control: Some individuals have a strong desire for power and control over others, which can lead them to seek positions of authority and ultimately become dictators.
2. Personal ambition: Many dictators are driven by personal ambition and a desire for recognition and glory. They may see becoming a dictator as a way to achieve their goals and fulfill their ambitions.
3. Ideological beliefs: Some individuals become dictators due to their strong ideological beliefs and the desire to impose those beliefs on others. They may believe that their ideas are the only correct ones and will do whatever it takes to enforce them.
4. Psychological factors: Certain individuals may have underlying psychological issues or personality disorders that contribute to their authoritarian tendencies. These individuals may struggle with empathy, exhibit manipulative behavior, or have a grandiose sense of self-importance.
5. Social and political factors: Societal unrest, economic instability, and political upheaval can create conditions that are conducive to the rise of dictators. Some individuals may seize on these circumstances to gain power and establish themselves as dictators.
It is important to recognize that the path to becoming a dictator is complex and multifaceted, and there is no single explanation for why some individuals choose this path. Understanding the various factors that can contribute to the rise of dictators can help us better address and prevent authoritarianism in society.
"Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it." - George Santayana (1863)
so true
Like you demunists wanting clinton to be your second Lenin in the bolshevik centenary?
@FernandoAvelarify How is that an adequate come-back to what I put? Tell me anything in my post that is false.
@FernandoAvelarify You are really lame.
"Trump's fascism". Godwin's law was made for you.
Interesting that many of the people who get pleasure, at least vicariously, out of Trump’s meanness, claim to be filled with god. Doesn’t say much for them or their god, does it?
It's actually anti-christian
Thousands of years ago, the Euthyphro dilemma proved that you can't get morality from religion, only demands for obedience.
Modern American Christians are further evidence. They are clearly choosing obedience over morality.
No, Randy. It is very Christian. If you don't believe me, read a history book.
It’s the same concept. People are scared of dealing with reality and all its complexity, so they try to simplify things by giving themselves to something or someone, usually a deity or charismatic leader.
@@tofu_golem Yes, Christians have done horrible things through history. But they don't follow true Christian teachings or Jesus' spirit. Even the Bible warns that people will claim to follow Christ but not truly be following God.
I'm a believer in Jesus and I cannot stand Trump. I will never vote for him or support him. I frequently encourage other Christian friends to not be swayed by Trump. Some of my friends can't stand him but were considering voting for him for pro-life reasons and conservative court justices, but I urged them not to vote for Trump.
I'm embarrassed by so many people who claim to be Christians who worship God giving their worship to Trump.
There's plenty of people with in the world with npd that the general public (and perhaps close friends and acquaintances too) that find the person with npd very likeable, kind, and charming and no one knows that they are narcissistic except for perhaps their very particularly close-knit loved ones or the people that live with them.
You don't either. I am one. Now Hitler was one plus many other things. But the crowds that followed and supported him were good people. And right wing Germany did too because they wanted to stop the spread of communism. And then unscrupulous business people supported him too...
Everybody has a responsibility.
Just so that you know: I hate Hitler, I don't like Trump at all but I think he is an ASPD not NPD.
Having had narcissistic parents and previously married a narcissist, I'm now very wary of charismatic people, especially those who have a large following, like politicians, religious leaders and billionaires. More often than not, we later find out that these people have skeletons in their closets.
Some individuals have a strong desire for power and control over others, which can lead them to seek positions of authority and ultimately become dictators.
As difficult as malignant narcissism may be to treat on an individual and family level, how do we deal with it when it is infecting a significant portion of the population? Another aspect of this is that we are each addicted to our own unique cocktail of endogenous neurochemicals. The high resulting from the mix of rage, aggrievement and violent release is very intoxicating and Trump enables rage addicts to collectively mainline it. God help us all.
I'm enjoying reading these comments: there are so many wise and knowledgeable people here. At 52, I'm still a "student". The world, and people, are my classroom.
Likewise - I'm 68.
It is a proof of intelligence. Like Mr Duncan, you are both smart people as it is important to keep in our mind that there is always something new to learn every day. One has always to keep his mind open and to be willing to listen to what the other has to say. No one is perfect and no one has answer to everything. What differentiate a smart man is that he acknowledges that he does not know everything.
@@Wolf-vt9mv Thank you.
This is satire, right? The only thing dumber than the video is the comments section.
@@scottythetrex5197 I hope to God hes joking. Almost everyone in this comment section is absurdly arrogant and ignorant. Why do I think I'm gonna find a group of critical thinkers respectfully debating diverse opinions on a UA-cam video..
Talk about Gaslighting with the Heading..... who is the Narcissist
This video should have millions of views
Read, study and learn from history it does repeat.
It doesn’t repeat, but it rhymes.
That's the problem so many people are educated by tv or a phone novel education in our school
@@mexican12OS This is really tempting.
Why read? It's the same revolution / divide/ conquer over and over. We never spiritually, socially, EVOLVE!!!
@Wayne Collins
Perhaps not repeating in a literal sense of the word but rather undulates where an apex resembles a prior high point and a low point can be predictable by events that resemble previous precursors to dark times
It scares me how ignorant, simple and easily manipulated human beings can be. I find it hard to comprehend tribalism allowing violence against a presupposes "other". I'm trying to understand.
Divisive politics is too basic a way of doing things and always ends up with ppl getting hurt
You mean AntiFa, right? You can't have the head of the coin without the tail. Examine your own countertransferential feelings about our split and projected political system: choose either side, but it will always be the same coin of "tribalism."
Ridiculous!
@@psychodynamicist2672 you're clueless
I completely agree with you. It's like Trump is the Boogie man. Sometimes I can't believe this is the same country I grew up in.
Starts with understanding the way you are manipulated yourself. Everyone is part of a manipulation. And try to understand your enemies. Most people are doing what they are doing with good intensions. Dont demonize others that easy.
How about a "why people blindly follow a popular media narrative, without doing any type of their own research" segment?
Whatever, trumper
Umm, I doubt that would be a take here given the lack of insight evident. It would be incredibly helpful for society but highly unlikely. I mean this is in general the segment of the population who lives in denial or are simply just bad people… the “madcow” crowd.❤
The ones that own and run the media are really the malignant narcs. Those that deny it don’t understand history.
"own research" unfortunately often means "google other media YOU like yourself even if it too is also biased but as long as you agree with it it's not wrong".
As a "biologist my own research " usually includes actually being in a lab doing actual science and or reading primary literature on topics and their complexity. Unfortunately, following biased media is common the dumber you are.
A successful cult must convince people inside the cult that the people ”outside” are not trustworthy. It will be a method of justifying that a majority of people don’t follow the cult. A truly investigative, exploring approach to information from ”outside” must be discouraged. Dismissing it as conspiratory lies altogether prevents an independent evaluation of ”outside” facts.
Wow. I stumbled upon this site recently, and it is the best site I have ever seen on the subject of narcissism. I was raised by a narcissist. I am 60 and have been trying to understand them in order to understand myself for about 30 years. I asked my therapist recently whether narcissists actually enjoy inflicting pain on others. She said enjoy is not the right word. It's not pleasure as you or I would understand it, but they seem to get something from it. Temporary illusion of superiority and control? Gross. Sex crimes, for example, are not about sex but about power. Gross. Thank you for the excellent videos.
I have come to realize that my father was a malignant narcissist. The guy loved cruelty. He loved Hitler. He would do the Nazi salute at home. As his target I lived in fear for my life. I wish my mother would have left him but instead she joined in with the cruelty, actually she took over for him. I hope they’re both in hell now.
I'm sorry you had to go through that, it is an awful thing to experience and not easy to get over!
I’m sorry this happened to you.
damnnnnn bro
Don't tell the story again. It keeps them alive. Then they keep betraying you. Don't let them continue to hurt you. Just acknowledge them as narcissist without details lest you relive it every time. God have mercy on you.
@@offgridgridlock4903 true bro
People who are vulnerable to cult mentality don't want to take responsibility for their actions and they prefer to have someone lead them and tell them what to do and how to think. They take great pleasure from the lies they are told and can live in a fantasy world where they can get away with anything (or so they believe).
No idea why, but the USA is plagued by cult mentality. Is it the the mass media?
Yes Marxist. Look in the mirror.
You have to be pretty stupid to follow a politician who tells you the seas are rising, but then buys a $13 million mansion on the sea. And yet…
😂 like how everyone accepted going into lockdowns and getting vaccinations before propper testing times.
Its funny how Most of the comments on this video. Goes perfectly in line with what he is talking about.
Amazing how they are all victims isn’t it.
@@IndagatorAD4 saying that someone is playing a victim when they find oppression, or in the case of this video, gross intellectual oversights, is now the groupthink catch all put down. Yet if it's a victim within your own ideological cult, you happily validate their victimhood.
@@nicholasbogosian5420 Cognitive dissonance creates echo chambers, creates weakness and ignorance. What’s left is someone who is always offended.
@@IndagatorAD4 cognitive dissonance has a very specific meaning. It's not a catch all term.
@@nicholasbogosian5420 same with “catch all”. I might be fishing……..snore.
This is so correct. There is no way to relate to a narcissist. Can you imagine a life that the only joy in life is to be better than anyone else? Imagine a life that only gets joy from putting down others. I understand Trump, I think. The pain of not being the best is so intense that it can not be explained. I understand Trump's pain. He will take anyone down that doesn't think he's wonderful. Anyone.
They’d rather reject the truth about trump and live in a happy alternative reality because ignorance is bliss
Until the moment they realize he's taken everything from them and could care less about their situation.
That’s exactly what we think Democrats do too! Wow, it’s almost like they tell you that to not turn to the other side. We’re Americans like you who just want to see America prosper, the only thing we disagree on is how. No one wants “alternative reality”. What bs is that
@@mattocaster1065 Kelly Conway, trump spokesperson, used the term "alternative facts" explaining one of trumps bullshit situations.
@UA-cam Moderator Absolutely wrong! I reject all things Democrat just as I reject all things Republican. I’m an independent swing voter who votes strictly on policy. I’ve voted Republican in the past. It’s just that while the Democrats are spineless do nothing jerks, the Republicans seem to have lost all touch with reality. One of many examples is pushing the false narrative of massive voter fraud with absolutely no evidence.
You just described the democraps and their big government policies. The left seems to be brainwashed into believing that the government will solve all of their their problems, even though history shows that's never the case.
Simplicity only works when you need a single answer, doesn't work with major dilemmas. Awm
"Truer words were never spoken."
Thank god you had the courage to point out the true cause, Narcissism/personality, not the "groups"...!!!! "We better be aware of it"!!!!!!!
Thank you for this because I am constantly racking my brain wondering why people follow this guy with such blind loyalty when it is so transparent to me that he is NOT a good leader. So this makes sense.
Go to the religious channels where the prophets have told these people that Trump would win, or that God told them Trump would or should win. It would make more sense to you, then.
These people are the ones who believe the headlines on the National Enquirer. What they don't do is question or think critically. They believe what they're told to believe. Many think he's going to bring about the Rapture or Armageddon and swear God chose him. They aren't bad people but gullible.
Could be that you are incapable of recognizing good leadership. Trump is the only president in my lifetime (77 yrs) that has addressed and attacked the root causes of the problems that have plagued us for so long. If you cannot recognize his accomplishments then it is you and people like you that are the problem. It's not Trump. Just go away please.
@@jerrywilliford6840 I really don’t see that! Trump was lazy and divisive.
that's because you're another lemming, lured by the Socialist propaganda. you don't even know what you're writing about or thinking for that matter. I lived in a socialist country for 14 years. don't talk about anything you don't know about. President Trump has done more for this country then any other president has done.
Best and most succinct analysis of Trump’s allure. Malignant Narcissism.
Orwell **2 try again.
Donald is sociopath.
@Nancy M. Ross absolutely.
@Nancy M. Ross UMmmmm dudette ..... with Biden, you had better learn to speak Chinese, 'cause he is in their pocket !
At least President Trump is for America first, and trying to undue Obama's and Biden's "Third World America" plans.
Do you think that Biden will donate his salary to the Dept. of the Interior, Dept. of Education, Dept. of Health and Human Services, Dept. of Transportation, Dept. of Veterans Affairs, U.S. Small Business Administration, Dept. of Agriculture, Surgeon General’s Office, Office of the Assistant Secretary of Health, ..... HMmm I'll bet not.
Did Obama donate his salary ???
Did Hillary donate her salary ???
Did Bill donate his salary ???
I suggest you take a deeper look into the corruption of this election, otherwise you might as well move to Venezuela (we WILL become a third world nation).
@@ohbrother3792 you forgot to say that Biden will be sniffing on her neck too.
I can’t believe analysts this insightful, brilliant, and comprehending of the human condition...
Still haven’t applied that insight and awareness to the pathologies of mainstream media... and by extension, the institutions interconnected.
the lying by structure and omission...
gaslighting... projecting...
Exhibiting many, if not all, the expressions of narcissism but on a more collectivized scale.
I hope that will eventually change...
In the meantime, it feels very disheartening...
as the first step toward inoculation of the effects of these “influences” is awareness.
Couldn’t have said it better myself. The myopia of both the far right and extreme left is so sad.
You are ignorant of the situation. Empathy? Narcasism? Humanity? Porn addicted crackhead progressives have no need for words.
Yours is a deeply powerfully profound and true response. So well-said. Thank you.
@@dblack8141 I’ve known of many on the right who fit equally with similarly unflattering descriptions.
And many on the left who do not. And absolutely vice versa.
That’s to say, this is a phenomena which no ideology or political leaning is immune to. It infiltrates and utilizes such things for the same reasons it does everything else. Pathological and insatiable “control”.
I don’t mean to knock any experiences you’ve had to cause you to feel as you’ve expressed. And I hope it doesn’t come off that way. I’m sure you have your reasons, as we all do.
@@Agent_Exodus you just speak lies as truth, as a method or tactic as do animals. Reality exists but your consider only your self as the essential divine. Indominable. Your kind is the opposite of what you present.
Wow, this explains social, familial and political situations and not just Psychological situations! Thank you!
Keep drinking the Kool-Aid. It's dangerous to de-humanise your political opponents like that. Try to respect their opinions as your fellow citizens in a democracy.
True, it does, just not in a way you’ve managed to accept yet. 😂
@@charleswhite758 this crowd doesn’t even know what democracy is… furthermore if they did they wouldn’t want it.
Hey um. This video is gas lighting. You need to go get first hand sources. your poor little feelings are being manipulated by late night comedians and CNN who take things way way way out of context
individuals who have experienced trauma or hardship during childhood or other formative periods may develop a desire for control and security, leading them to seek power and authority.
I only found out about narcissist and sociopaths in my 50's and I've had several in my life who were very destructive. These people are 10% of The U.S. population and are very destructive to society in so many ways. I encourage everyone to understand these people as a way of self preservation because if they target you it won't be pretty and never ends in a good way.
Wow it only took you 50+ years to know what a narcissist is! You will never speak a word that I will take seriously because you person I am not implying a gender to, are and always be an idiot. Thank God for autocorrect because you may now think you know the definition of the word, it will probably take you another 50+ years to learn how to spell it.
@@johncopenhaver4311 : it doesn’t take a genius to realize that you more than likely are a Trumpist ie : constantly angry at the world so you feel you can take your anger out on anyone. Your comment was unnecessary sir, I think you need to deal with your anger issues.
@@johncopenhaver4311 whoa, we need to get you back on your meds dude
@@sureimhappy what meds the ones that take away all my problems by dulling my intellect and making me just say meh whatever instead of actually confronting foolish people on their poorly thought out statements and opinions.
@@johncopenhaver4311 said the biggest narcissist!
Well... sh!t. That about sums it up. He said calmly and intelligently saying what I’ve been yelling in a drunken rage for, oh, about 4 years now.
@UA-cam Moderator racist, reported.
Waaaaa!
@UA-cam Moderator Aaaand while you’re at it, go hump a pumpkin 🎃 and pretend it’s your favorite loooooossserrr.
@@thebwillmill You've been drinking again. Comparing your drunk self to the guy in the video isn't exactly a compliment. Lol!
@@Redmow51 I couldn’t agree more, but in my defense, I was pointing out the differences more than the similarities. Sorry about the sloppy, run on sentence. 🤷🏻♂️
"......And some, I assume are good people." Let that resonate with you as you judge.
I've never heard of Frank Yeomans until now, but I really like what he's saying (and his style of saying it).
Calm, deliberate, and thoughtful. You never see this in Trumpmania.
Nor have I, but yes his delivery and way of explaining is lovely
They tell you what your problem is, that you should be afraid and that while he cannot fix your problem, he’ll tell you who’s fault it is.
I wonder what solution he has to offer.
Trump has a simple message and he repeats it constantly. Stephen Miller is the constant in the trump administration that always gets ignored though.
He's extremely devious and much smarter than tRUmp. He knows EXACTLY how to manipulate tRUmp and get what he wants while tRUmp remains convinced he's the genius.
Stephen Miller is downright creepy. Here's a UA-cam clip from 2017 - titled 'George Stephenopoulos Loses Patience with Stephen Miller, Young Trump Advisor, Maybe a Psychopath':
ua-cam.com/video/jGVwVLcsMyo/v-deo.html
Here's how the video is described:
"In this Majority Report clip, we watch 31-year-old Stephen Miller, a seemingly psychopathic young man who is a senior advisor to Donald Trump, appear on "This Week" with George Stephanopoulos and repeatedly state that there was massive voter fraud in New Hampshire without offering any actual evidence to support his claims." - Remember, this was back in Feb 2017!
@@beautifuldayzee5942 Excellent. Thank you for the link.
Stephen Miller is a White Supremacist friend of the Neo-Nazi Richard Spencer...
Miller is a Nazi and has his own agenda in this nepotistic administration. Miller whispers poison in Trump's ear, and Trump is eager to do Miller's bidding. Miller knows how to sway Trump. Scary.
And here we have a psychotherapist using his education and training to impart his political views on individuals...
People who put others down must first put themselves down internally. So stop it! Stop the constant ruthless self-criticism and be kind to you! You are wonderful and you deserve it! Not your false persona but your internal true self! This which feels lively, joyful, loving, compassionate and good.
1:30- Hits the nail on the head. Politics turned into a football game more than ever . The Red Team vs The Blue Team. trump honed it down to its simplistic form. He had gone thru years of self-inflicted turmoil- bankruptcies, bad (and some some good ) busness deals, and questionable ethics and sexual misbehavior lawsuits. The he got a TV show. Everything was easy. He always Won, after 48 minutes he proclaimed "You're Fired" and they scripted next week's show. To massive popularity. he learned his audience. And flipped "You're fired " into "Lock her up". His tv audience said trump good, Everything else Bad. The easy answer. Whether it was true or false, legal or illegal, moral or immoral. He has always been like a little spoiled fat kid playing his first ball game: No skill. Unfamliar with strategy or rules, it's either "I won" or " The referees wanted me to lose"
Unfortunately Frank Yeomans understands nothing about politics, which has nothing to do with the idealised personalities he promotes. Great minds are able to simplify complex problems, by distilling the problem down to a key issue - often just one, possibly a mere erroneous attitude of mind is at the heart of a complex problem. Trump did that with politics.
To call Hitler "grandiose" is ludicrous - he was IN FACT one of the most significant leaders and largest personalities in world history, he WAS grand (French : big), like Napoleon and Caesar. That's not a value judgement as to his morality. Grandiose people are insignificant people who think they are significant.
I wonder if Yeomans has visited the Pyramids, and if so whether he dismissed Ramasses as "grandiose" too. He does not seem to understand that human history is created by complex personalities, not the sort of "perfect people" he idealises, who might make good book-keepers but never rise above mediocrity.
Narcissists are the new Jews, they are being demonised and de-humanised everywhere on youtube. Very sinister. This is just a new buzz-word for what used to be called "selfish people" or "self-centred people". Still 100% human beings, but with less than perfect personalities. What proportion of the population has perfect personalities?
How's Biden working out for ya????
@@charleswhite758 thank you! Trump 2024!🌷🙏🥰
He’s being kind. The followers are inevitably low empathy if not sociopath’s with no moral compass.
@teddmented So Trump's a sociopath because he opposes NATO's forever wars agenda?
Trump: "I won the 2020 election"
Hitler: "I won the 2nd world war"
Gore: I was president for a minute or two
Golf rules apply to the election. Lowest score wins.
Hitler wasnt alive to say he won the war.
@@joeycarter8846 That's random, what are you getting at?
Hitler: “I WON THIS WAR BY A LOT!!”
Have known people in my life that were out and out jerks. I can accept that if they have good intent in their heart. The ones I do not like are people that get pleasure out of their meaness. They enjoy being jerks and they revel in seeing your discomfort. That's how I classify the 2 types of assholes in general. How can a normal person get pleasure out of intentionally bringing someone else pain.
I have wondered about that too. Why anyone would want to be responsible for anyone else's pain is beyond me.
Joyce & Steve, enjoying someone's pain is a twisted type of control & empowerment. It's human, and to a degree, "normal" to want control because not being in control can feel very scary. To enjoy someone else's pain & discomfort is a way, in the narcissistic mind, to further elevate themselves. That seems irrational to
...that seems irrational to the "normal, rational" mind. But to a narcissistic mind, it makes perfect sense to them.
Perhaps it is a lack of empathy thst empiwers people to be cruel. If you can't feel the pain you cause in others there is nothing to stop you.
@@dianemitchell1717 Yes, I think you are right. But it's more than not being able to feel someone else's pain. I believe a narcissist understands that he/she is inflicting pain on others. They just don't care, because what they want to get/accomplish by inflicting pain is more important to them than what others feel. THEY and their feelings are the most important above all else.
Low level of narcissism?
His picture should be in the dictionary under narcissism!
I think his use of the word "low" was not intended to mean amount of narcissism.
I think it means like low functioning. Since it is a negative trait low means worse.
And fascist.
@@joyflavell7385 I tolerated 44 (Obama) for 8 years and kept quiet.
Here is my issue with the whole, “let us all be a United States again” that we heard from democrat Joe Biden.
For the last 4+ years, the democrats have gone scorched earth. You have salted the fields and now you want to grow crops.
The problem is 80 million of us have memories longer than a hamster.
We remember the democrat women’s march (vagina hats and all) the day after inauguration.
We remember the 4 years of attacks and impeachments
We remember the democrat “not our president” and the democrat “Resistance…”
We remember democrat Maxine Waters telling followers to harass us in restaurants.
We remember the Presidents spokesperson being kicked out of a restaurant.
We remember hundreds of Trump supporters physically attacked.
We remember Trump supporters getting Doxed, and fired from jobs.
We remember antifa/BLM riots, burning, murder and looting
We remember “a comedian” holding up the President’s severed head
We remember a play in Central park paid with public funding, showing the killing of President Trump
We remember democrat Robert de Niro yelling “Fuck Trump” at the Tony’s and getting a standing ovation.
We remember democrat Nancy Pelosi tearing up the State of the Union Address.
We remember the total in the tank move on the mainstream media
We remember the non-stop and live fact checking on our President and his supporters.
We remember non-stop in your face democrat lies and open cover-ups from the media.
We remember the President and his staff being spied on.
We remember five republican Senators shot on a ballfield.
We remember every so-called comedy show turn into nothing but Trump hate fest.
We remember 95% negative coverage in the MSM.
We remember the state governors asking and getting everything they ask for and then blaming Trump for their problems.
We remember a Trump top aid verbally assaulted in two DC restaurants by democrats.
We remember democrats banging on the Supreme Court doors.
We remember that we were called every name in the book for supporting President Trump.
We remember that democrats in Hollywood said they would leave after Trump was elected but they stayed.
This list is endless, but you get the idea.
My friends will be my friends, but a party that has been on the attack for 4 long years does not get a free pass with me!
@@larryross1819 Ah, what you don't seem to understand is that we live in the real world. And we listen to facts. And the fact is that Trump is destroying our country, which is why we want him out.
THE BEST EXPLANATION OF NOW THANK YOU
He calls it the "Regress towards Simplicity"...
I've always thought of it as the "Tilt Towards Convenience"
Every politician ever
That just shows you the millions of people out there that are afraid of change and evolving as a society. It's funny that these same people have no problem with technology advancing to make their lives easier and more simplistic though. Yet they want to be led by someone they think will solve all their problems. Even if that person takes their money
Has any other president had so many case studies done on him ... publicly?????
True, though he invited the attacks by being one who attacks everyone.
No other president has deserved it as much. He’s awful
Bre, you note a great point. Please allow we to interject , this man has been around like forever and was even a Democrat for a time. He was liked by people of all walks for his “ you’re fired” antics , but the second he gets elected doing neither good or bad, he is a Russian spy, racist, anti American Nazi and on and on for four years. All this name calling that was based on nothing but a foul mouth and twitter. Whether or not his rudeness deserved all the resistance remains to be seen, literally, but you have to admit, it’s been a very adversarial news media as well as a left that vowed to sink him while claiming to want bipartisanship. Fail all way around.
No one close to him seems to have anything positive to say about his intelligence or sanity (or lack thereof).
@@realtalk7547 I agree with you.. The reason its played out this way is because Trump is a Nationalist and the Elite, media and others who attack him are Globalists.. Trump stands in the way of what they want which is a one world government.. A Technocracy is how they wish to rule .. Trump if people would actually listen to him really cares about the USA and given he's a nationalist believes in strong borders. I do not live in the USA btw.
History doesn't really repeat, people repeat history when they claim "I'll never be like that"
Thank you so much for this discussion
You can't change the caveman no matter how you dress him. It's hard wired.
Very well said
You can take the person out of the trailer park, but you can't take the trailer park out of the person..
Even the cavemen were more evolved.
@@cliffchristie5865 exactly. Comparing Trump supporters to cavemen is an insult to cavemen.
You should see your need to dismiss everyone who disagrees with you as “cavemen” as a pretty primitive behavior yourself
His voice is so damn soothing... I could listen to him all day, if I could stay awake.
Thank you Mr Yeoman. Great insights.
You can never have enough of a substitute. The substitute being relief from the burden of personal responsibility.
Abusive father complex..
Exactly.
We should not be surprised at what we're seeing in the world - especially the political and business worlds, with sociopaths and narcissists reaching the most prominent positions. In a society that doesn't have a fairly uniform sense of right and wrong a great deal of traction is missing; if people don't have a sense of certainty about right and wrong they don't stand up to wrongdoing so much. Some badly damaged people are perfectly willing to lie, cheat, stab others in the back, turn on those who have helped but are now viewed as powerless and no longer useful achieving goals. I've personally seen this and it's disgusting. These people are capable of putting on a seductive mask that can suck people in. Before I go off track with that, I'll continue with my point that if a person is willing to do anything, and that person operates in an environment without significant checks & balances, that person is riding rails to the top that are greased for him or her. I believe we are experiencing that today.
Those who stand for nothing will fall for ANYTHING. BUT I still think most people are good. There comes a point where to not call out the wrong leaves one complicit like the GOP.
Well said. And it doesn't matter whether the majority of people are good. Like the OP said, if there are no checks and balances on sociopaths and malignant narcissists, they will continue their unfettered rise to the top and those who comprise the good majority will be inconsequential. We live in a world which perfectly accommodates for the most ruthless, so long as their mask doesn't slip too much. The problem now is that Trump has made it acceptable to not even have to wear your mask of sanity, there are now no consequences for lying, belittling, demeaning, using totalitarian tactics (gassing and shooting people for a weird evangelical photo op). It has set a devastating precedent around the world now whereby if you don't win an election, you can simply refuse to acknowledge the results and tie up courtrooms for months until you get your way. Make no mistake, the US elected a malignant, narcissitic monster. The more disturbing thing is 74 million people were exposed to 4 years of psychological abuse and opted for 4 more years of it.
@@stevenjon1347 Perfectly said. The current state of affairs has me wondering how much of the decay (of reason, civility, respect...) is new and how much has been festering right under the surface just waiting for an opportunity. Like... a Kraken. I strongly suspect the latter.
Honestly, I think liberalism is to blame.
A godless society breeds evil.
@@God.sDaughter Could you please define what liberalism is as you understand it?
Yessss... in the first minute and a half I was hooked by your analysis.
So interesting and explanatory. Really appreciate this and enjoy it.
Sadly, one of my primary family members.
Not a word he said landed with the "Trumpanzees." Not a word. He needs to dummy it waaaaaay down.
Name calling.
Truth
Yup. Some would be smart enough to get this. There are gratifying videos of former supporters talking about why they left the cult. Chipping away at the stupid one person at a time. Let's not let anything like these last four years EVER HAPPEN AGAIN!
Bill Lynn ......you forgot to sign it from a libTurd.
Something, something joe Biden, something freedom something jill stein, george sorros.
Massive paragraph of conspiracy BS... 4 more years. The average response from em.
Yeomans has the perfect perspective that being he is so much smarter than the rest of us, always has been and will continue to be so.
Please Mr Yeomans, lead me where thou wilt! OMG, sick hero worship. What irony, try some introspection. He should stay out of politics, he just made a fool of himself.
Perspective changer, thank you sir 🥀🍃
I watched a PBS show this morning. "Fascisms in Europe" Pretty scary stuff, and we all know how that worked out for Hitler, Mussolini, Franco. But it was like watching what Trump is trying to do.
Crooked Trump basically panders to the racism that many white people have for non-white people to get support for his quest for power! This is easy to do simply by telling those angry/racist white people they are the victims of oppression by the minorities despite the fact that the truth is completely the other way around!
@Romeo Mike Romeo, oh Romeo! I so much agree! Be afraid, be very afraid.
@@grandwonder5858 I would have to disagree just a bit. It seems that once again, you as well as others feel that the only reason a white person would vote for Trump is because they themselves are racists. I don’t know trumps heart in this matter, but as far as Hilary was concerned she was a garbage candidate. Two time Obama voters switched to Trump so I think that racism as a go to here is a bit over simplified. Are there racists in both camps, you bet, but to exclude even Biden from this charge ignores some of his history as well. I’m not saying he is one , but at 61 I have seen him send signals that could Indicate as much. If all you have to do is vote for Trump and boom, you are a racist, then I know “then you ain’t black” Biden is one for sure. Also, I don’t even know what to do with all this “ white oppression thing anymore in 2020 as I saw under Trump blacks and latinos rise economically until Covid-19 and even vote for him in ways that they have not voted for a Republican in years. Why did I myself vote for him? I grew up in Appalachia where I was as poor as most people in the inner cities only to hear for years that I was an oppressive bigot so among other things like the democrats threatening to overturn the Hyde amendment so that I would have to help kill babies in the womb, black babies included , I shrugged my shoulders and pulled the lever. I will leave it at that because space here limits long discussions, but we can certainly go beyond simply calling all white people racist. Please get more creative and smile, as a fellow American I really am on your side though maybe not politically.
@@realtalk7547 The parallels between Trump and Hitler are a very powerful reminder of how our own fears can cause us to elect a dictator.
@@TeddyBear-cg3lz In a site like this I’m not sure which angle people are taking at time though some are more obvious. However I will interpret you straight up and agree with you 100%. The fears of people whether seeded by the media, an article, or political rhetoric cause people to begin to project in some very hyperbolic ways. I really don’t know much about Trump historically except that he was a tv person that many of those who now fear him loved him like two minutes ago. Mainly Hollywood and news celebs that now poison the waters for others stirring up the monster that may in the long run turn on them as well. I’m a pretty nice guy and I sense that you are too. Your next text will be telling because even though I have mostly talked the same way as I have you, I have been called everything one can imagine. I just share fact that I have been able to dig up to help both sides to think two dimensionally and they go off never really knowing where I personally stand. Thanks for your kindness thus far. Maybe we can get our friends to simmer down a bit. I will read your text again for anything I missed or miss understood.
And... most people in western civilization FEEL EMPTY. ANGER usually rides WITH Sadness. Therefore, they are primed to do to be angry aka TRUMPETTES. Bottom-line, they are all STILL EMPTY, ANGRY AND SAD.
When you make your whole life revolve around a racist lying moron ... "He talks and thinks like us" is the quote I most remember the most. Almost 74 million mad dejected little trumpettes out there. Right wing media and the GOP coddled / enabled this madness and now the madness will turn on them.
They actually believed the reality tv version of the successful business man when he wasn't even allowed to decide who got fired. Reality has no connection to actual reality.
if this is so true then why the fuck are democrats causing riots you piece of trash coward
I don't think angry people are only in the west brother... Look to the east also... Religion, poverty and a while slew of factors have made the world angry
yes, but Trump gets their serotonin and dopamine revved up and they feel better. Thus the addiction to Trump
Fantastic explanation of the dangers of Narcissistic splitting and the adverse effects it causes upon societies and individuals. This needs to be understood and prevented. This doesn't exclude complexity and understanding, but does exclude black and white logical fallacies.
😂😂😂😂😂😂
And the sheep run towards the wolf. 😂😂
These comments are gold..
so many brainwashed idiots..😂😂
Oh, you finaly got me the understanding of sports.
Thanks.
this explains a lot.many thanks
Smart, very smart and wise.
Moron, fool
It's not a relief. Exactly the opposite. I've been dealing with it for 30 years - endless gaslighting, endless stress, endless vicious backstabbing. We having to tolerate endless useless meetings which are only designed so that he can try to bulldoze everyone into believing his shame-avoiding lies - and ofc we don't - or rather to the degree that we're healthy we don't. And I have a front row seat to watch him puff up the new arrivals, and as they begin to actually see through all the BS, he turns on em, undermines them and fires them. He enjoys nothing more than when his so called enemies (staff etc) suffer.
Dr. Yeomans is Clinical Associate Professor of Psychiatry at the Weill Medical College of Cornell University, Director of Training at the Personality Disorders Institute of Weill-Cornell, Lecturer in Psychiatry at the Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons Center for Psychoanalytic Training and Research, and Director of the Personality Studies Institute in Manhattan. He graduated from Harvard College and went on to obtain his M.D. from the Yale University School of Medicine and complete his training in psychiatry at the Payne Whitney Clinic of the New York Presbyterian Hospital-Weill Medical College.
Had to go to that sports analogy, knowing the average American wouldn’t grasp what he was saying without going there. That’s part of the problem. Americans love their distractions to the point of ignoring any and all else.
So,,,what you really sayin,,,
Not all Americans
I think this analogy works well for anyone - the speaker himself is a Red Sox fanatic - we all have our "home teams" in one form or another and some of us are able to take the broader perspective an not take our pet heroes seriously and understand that in life arenas we must suspend this tribal instinct and think instead for the whole - looking down on sport's fans seems like an example of the kind of demonizing he is arguing against to me.
MAGA can mean whatever the supporter wants it to mean there by effectively telling the dupe what they want to hear. They are afraid and want to feel safe.
@Linda Star OH, I'll bet "they" hate you for that comment, but Miss Star, you hit the nail square on the head !
@Empowered Perspective That of course would be the right answer to this horrible slogan that if spoken three times in a row sounds like the frustrated mating cry of some kind of bird from hell. Maga! maga! maga! (loosely translated means ; needing sex badly)
@Linda Star it saddens me to see an American including dems/blm with fascists. Apparently you have no understanding of the rampant racism that stills exits in the USA, nor an understanding of fascism and the similarities between Adolf Hitler and Donald Trump.
@Linda Star no sorry but its a Trump cult thing . Dems have no stupid slogan on hats that are the modern equivelant of a swasticka armband . Dems dont have a cult like Trump. He says something and without question the belive everything he says. Then thier little clappy hands get to work and he smiles so happy knowing he can say anything and they will clap and cheer.
@BA DeCo What would you say fascism is? Could a black-led organization be fascist by your definition? Or a group that calls themselves Antifascist?
Powerful Video!! Thank You.
In my view, the issue is one of fear, for example, of the unknown. Coupled with fear are professed Christians who are not actually in touch with the Christ within themselves. A reason for that is they have not done sufficient personal work to actually connect with the Christ, or God Consciousness, within them. In that state, people are "unconscious." Then, something happens, and people will either learn from the experience or not.
Each of us grows through our journey in Life. The question is: will I learn from my experience or not? If I don't learn from my experience, then the same issue will come up, again, although it may come up with more force. May God be with each of us on our journeys through Life.
Alas Frank, if history has taught us anything it's that history has taught us nothing.
After that horrendous WWII experience, Europeans might tend to disagree with that.
@@radrook4481 Yesyou are probably correct, but seemingly...not Americans
True, maybe communism and socialism will teach you a thing or two...
Unfortunately history teaches nothing to the Trumpian fools
Well now we’ve heard the smart answer.
“If it’s a political stance it gets dangerous.”
And here, on channel many of us come to for answers without judgement, you took a political stance. Yes, I find that very dangerous indeed.
While some research has suggested a link between mental illness and dictatorial behavior. Furthermore, Individuals with untreated borderline personality disorder may struggle to manage their emotions effectively, which can lead to impulsive and harmful behaviors. Narcissism is often seen as a characteristic of borderline personality disorder. People with narcissistic personality disorder often have borderline personality disorder. Having a personality disorder can impact an individual's emotional intelligence, as they may have difficulty regulating their emotions, understanding the emotions of others, and forming healthy relationships. Dictators often come from harsh childhoods where they may have experienced trauma, neglect, or abuse. These adverse experiences can contribute to the development of personality disorders and other mental health issues. Additionally, growing up in oppressive or authoritarian environments may shape their worldviews and behavior, leading them to seek and maintain control and power as adults.
ILLUSORY TRUTH EFFECT!! Trump has used this his whole life.
Some folks just like to watch the world burn if they don't get their way. 73 million wf fit that description.
@Linda Star Right. It was wf doing the lootin and rioting and trying to infiltrate and distract from why folks was protesting in the first place. Stop with the nonsense.
@Linda Star Nah. Just a lil equality is all.
@Linda Star You gotta ask yourself this question. Is it more important for you to keep this system slanted in favor of wf or would you rather have folks have an equal shot in the institutions that run this place. (housing, education, health care, policing)
@Linda Star You didnt answer the question.
@Linda Star Still didnt answer the question.
Absolutely profound and everything that I have witnessed taking place in my life time. My life started in the 50's; this has been the constant stress factor that I have lived with all my life with my fellow human creatures and the willingness to kill each other. It is more often then not about power and who should wield it. The eternal loser in this scenario is always the lower class that fight for the nothing they will ever get from the haves. Yet we trudge on into oblivion for a cause that is not our own. I have been a witness to this never ending strife to his observations as well.
"a cause that is not our own", very condescending, do you not think that most if not all of the working class American and British soldiers who liberated Europe from Hitler espoused the cause of the Allies - i.e. the preservation of freedom and democracy in the world?
Great video. Thank you.
The same people that go to WWE wrestling events.
LOL
Funny you say that. One of my narcissistic (keeping him at a distance) loves WWE. It took me years to figure out his insane behaviors and statements. Glad I did!!!!
@Tommy Blaze , Trailer trash.
And believe the headlines on the National Enquirer.
And believe that it's real.
@@StevePdue - You've got THAT spot on! That's why Trump is so into WWE. Narcissists are emotionally immature, their emotional growth was stunted at some point early in their childhoods. I've witnessed my own ex-narcissist - in his late 20's at the time - watching a TV sitcom and actually speaking to the actors on the TV, as though they were real, and physically in our living room, and could hear him and might even respond to him. That really freaked me out, and I couldn't help snapping at him: "You KNOW this isn't REAL..... RIGHT?!" He never did anything like THAT again (not in FRONT of me, anyway ).... which is too bad really, because if he HAD done it again, I would've broken off with him immediately instead of 20-odd miserable, abusive years later!!
I like this video. I even wish it was longer. There is a lot of wisdom in this. Thank you for your content. Please keep it up ❤️✌🏼
He made his point. It wasn't any longer than needed. I agree...good vid!
Read his work. 🥇
I could listen to him talk forever.
It's not wisdom it's two idiots who live in a bubble. buhh media says orange man is bad!
This man knows whereof he speaks. A rare (sadly) example of critical thinking.
Except that he failed entirely to comprehend what MAGA was all about. Ironically zero empathy with his political opponents.
You're not simplifying - that's exactly the language he uses!
Trump also revealed certain truths that some people were trying to ignore, deflect from, or deny entirely.
He came with other baggage, sure. But at first impression, appealed to a lot of people.
This is what happens when you repress truth: you can't. Trump was in part a manifestation of repressed anger.
I agree with everything he said, except that a Red Sox-Yankees game, at least over the last 25 years, is more like a four hour affair, and nowhere near two hours.
And great baseball!!!
Excellent. Thank you.
So well said!
What a perfect explanation. Thank you for this video! I always felt people treat politics like a football game.
ha. A soft spoken man proves he lives in a bubble? If the media lied about you all the time, and you had to deal with people who believed those lies? You need to wake up and do your own research
Relief from complexity. Exactly explains the trump regression
Another solution to complexity would be to instead of simply establishing a huge non functional and intransigent bureaucracy (fascism, communism, etc) with its own agenda, return the resolution of that perceived complexity back to the individual. I'm so very sorry to type the "f-word" here, but... FREEDOM! When people are ready to work on something in their lives, they come to see a therapist, and the evolving relationship between client and therapist is what cures, not a government program. That's how it works.
@@psychodynamicist2672 nice to see you took that course 🎭
@@petershaw2566 ...and did the work.
Hope.
Change.
Climate change.
Socialism.
Free college.
Black lives matter!
Patriarchy bad.
Any restriction can only come from xenophobia.
Hokay.
@@gwho aren't you tired of these linear attack and defend black and white false dichotomy tropes.? Go away towards parlor and oann moron
It's classic "us vs them" mentality. When you're on the narcissist's good books, you're on their side. If you're on their bad books, you're on the enemy's side, when reality is often more grey than black and white.
It’s very simple. If you can save yourself the pain of looking inward to resolve whatever problems you may have and instead look outward and blame something or someone then that is the easier path. There are those that leverage this principle to gain the support of masses and to gain power.
I came here for help just as many others have. Just keep in mind as you watch this video that these are the folks who want you to believe that their overproduced videos aren't scripted. There is a lot of truth here, but the bias wreaks. This is more of a hit piece than a help piece, though it isn't entirely undeserved.
Where's the bias? Was Trump a narcissist or was he not? Was he a sociopath or just a misunderstood guy? (Same questions for Hitler and the Nazis).
That's what happened in india same things are happening all over the world but until people live in their ignorance it'll keep happening.
Brilliant description
People are on with their smart phones 24/7. Making people stupid, period.
Sounds like a great description of the bullies I've encountered over the years--esp. schoolyard bullies! (Not to mention a certain ex-president who shall remain nameless.)
Obama was a bully, you are correct.
@@tricksterpirate5499 Is that all you got? LOL!
Shame Yeomans didn't leave him nameless, he's damaged his reputation by expressing his political beliefs - and showing zero empathy and respect for the opinions of those on the opposing side.
@@charleswhite758 Facts are facts, Charlie, whether you like 'em or not. It has nothing to do with politics.
Being crass and boorish is not necessarily symptomatic of anything besides being crass and boorish. Equating Trump with Hitler makes it seem like there is some splitting and projecting going on. I mean really, "Hitler?" Why not Stalin or Mao? What places Trump at the locus of polar evil?
Comparing Trump to Hitler makes Hitler just another Chancellor of Germany. They don't know that though. Trump's completely comparable with all the other American presidents before a foriegn dictator. I can't believe we have too say that. Just do a test, did you suddenly become extremely impoverished after Trump took office? Or did you suddenly become more wealthy when he took over Nation after Nation militarily? Or did you get your ass blown off when you dared to speak a word against Trump? No, your life is pretty much the same as it was under Obama and so is mine and so is everybody else's.
@@offgridgridlock4903 You're hilarious. You just blew your cover.
Human nature is intriguing.
This guy's good and right on point
I was just watching "Untergang" (Downfall). The end of the film reminded me so much of Trump and his followers. We see Hitler go off the rails with his rants. At the end we see people, watching his nuttiness and refusal to admit to defeat, who will not accept the reality of the end. Some commit suicide rather than accept reality. This is so much like the US Election ending.
Wow very interesting. Where did you watch it?
@@wholefoodplantbasedmama5398 On Amazon Prime but I do have my own copy. It does have subtitles but I speak German so I can get the full "flavor". I remember watching the film "Holocaust" around 1978 in the States. Then I was sent to Germany where they showed the film in German. Much more effective.
So how is Sleepy Joe and his party looking for the mid-terms? Not too good I hear. Trump's vote went up at the last election, and Biden, who never filled even a quarter of a football stadium, claimed power through mysterious postal votes probably mostly filled in by "community orgainsers" on behalf of the addressee.
@@charleswhite758 This from a supporter of a man who talks in a stream of unconciousness on the level of a 7th grader. Someone who either did not watch Trump in Helsinki or does not recognize a traitor even when it is obvious