Confessions from an Autistic Female (+ Remembering David Sharif)
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- Опубліковано 5 вер 2024
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I'm Olivia Hops and welcome back to my channel! In today's video I dive in to some juicy confessions from growing up unknowingly Autistic. I talk about pretending to sleep during sleepovers, hiding food I didn't like, dodging phone calls, and how much I didn't care my friend was "dying."
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the amount of texts i’ve sent my mom begging her to pick me up istg. To this day i have internalized guilt over some intangible moral obligation to hang out with my friends and sleepover whenever they ask, despite how much it affects my mental health for weeks after. thanks for making this video! rest in peace david 💜
I think it’s important to remind yourself that if you didn’t have these accommodations you’d have frequent meltdowns that would ultimately disrupt the lives of your loved ones MORE than them being sad you don’t want to hang out sometimes or need picking up from a party etc. ❤️
David was a truly impactful human being. If you’ve had the privilege of being in a conversation with him it’s as if you known him forever.
Also for those of us who are 90’s babies, the younger kids will never truly appreciate have to place a verbal phone call to order takeout. They will never know how good they have it.
That is so true about David. It really was like that! He was so special in so many ways.
And gosh yes!! I never ordered food for this reason 😂
Rest in peace, David, thanks for being an inspiration. I'm guilty of many of these traits, especially pretending to sleep at sleepovers.
Glad I’m not the only one! And yes, rest peacefully David 💙
I very rarely talk on the phone. I can talk to certain people and FaceTime and that’s about it
Thanks Olivia. I especially related to you saying you just didn't like the texture of meat. I thought I couldn't be Autistic because I have too much Empathy! - I can feel like an exposed nerve at times but I'm told that it's possible. Makes the case for representing Autistic traits on a chart similar to a dartboard rather than a line - everyone experiences Autism differently 💗 T
Your honesty is refreshing and reassuring. In other words, As I am also autistic, I truly concur with your confessions and the reasons behind them. Issues with food and the mental torture of having to spend one more minute in the company of people stand out for me and are ongoing...
PS: That ex-friend of yours sounds like a real pain in the chuff.
I’m really glad someone else can relate to these things and it’s not just me. And thanks for appreciating my honesty, sometimes people don’t like it.
PS: She is!! You should hear the story of why we’re no longer friends…
Laughing with you! I recognise all your confessions, and I was made to feel I was so unnatural when I didn't care for other peoples woes, but it is perfectly natural, as it turns out! I'm not a psychopath, I'm just aspergian!! 😄
I thought I was a psychopath at one point as well 🤣
I'm the opposite when it comes to empathy, I am way too empathetic..but like you said if someone is always way overdramatic or faking I can tell and they lose my empathy. It's more like if a person genuinely isn't feeling well, or is panicked I feel what they are feeling.
I too have little empathy. High five 🙌
Rest easy, David. Say hello to IndieAndy for us wherever you are.
Absolutely. Two amazing men and autism advocates gone far too soon.
re: the Zoom thing, I really don't like them either. Something about being on camera, it feels like I'm the centre of attention. Past experiences being the centre of attention have usually been negative. I get extremely anxious beforehand, and during. Given a choice I would pick a telephone call over a Zoom meeting.
Lol sleepovers always involved me getting horribly overwhelmed by my friend and then falling asleep/pretending to sleep as an escape because I really did feel like I was about to punch them for continuing to be so loud. Also being freezing cold because for some crazy reason this friend didn't use blankets??
The throat closing thingy might be because of anxiety, too. And her relating it to fish might be an excuse for not being able to communicate her nervousness.
When I was in school I had very bad panic attacks. I always had such bad psychosomatic problems, that on top of all my fears I feared being physically seriously sick even though I wasn't, but my anxiety made it feel very real.
It was exactly what I thought - panic attack. And well, laughing at panic attack is like laughing at autistic meltdown :(
I was laughing so hard! 🤣 your confessions could have been mine. I had even friend in high school who was a serious drama queen, but was blaming me to be one when I didn't want to keep up with her s*it. 😅 now, at the age 31, I have realised being autistic myself and I found it so relieving to be able to laugh with you about my childhood. Thank you! I would love to watch more of these confession stories 😄
It's interesting looking back at stuff like sleepovers and realising why things were the way they were. Thanks for covering these sorts of topics!
the throat closing thing might be a psychosomatic feeling she had due to feeling nervous. I get that when i have a panic attack. Her relating it to a fish allergy is just a way to justify feelings she cant otherwise explain, if thats what it is. Of course she might also just be a drama queen
Maybe a bit of both then?
Your first confession! So hilarious.
Glad you got a laugh, too!!
Just discovered your channel. Great video Olivia. Refreshingly honest. I can relate to all your confessions.
Thanks so much, Nigel! Super appreciate these kind compliments 🙏🏻💙
Fake fish allergy! Hysterical!! Thanks for that hoot of a confession Olivia.
I just discovered you. God has blessed me with 4 children, including a son and daughter who are on the autism spectrum. They are very intelligent but will likely never live independently. They were diagnosed as young adults.
Blessings from Montreal Canada
So nice to hear about your family, Steve! If you ever need any help or your children ever need any help, I offer coaching sessions. I’d love to talk to you or them sometime if you ever want/need to!
I'm sure you did not intend to invalidate the experience of your fishy French toast ex-friend, but laughing at her distress and guessing that she was just being a drama queen isn't something an empathetic person does. I hope you never have an uncomfortable sensation like your throat is closing up and if you do, i hope the people around you give you the care you need. Allergic reactions, no matter what the cause, can be extremely frightening and deadly. Going to the hospital as a precaution was the right thing to do. Disrespecting your friend was not.
I’m not empathetic, hence the story.
Just you didn't get it. Her friend was in no trouble she was only being neurotic and getting on other people's nerves with it. Empathetic people might be patient with such persons. Rational people and or autistic people can't be bothered with pampering attention seekers.
All so relatable. Speking on the phone is one of my biggest nightmares.
I hate doing it even with my own child. She is autistic as well but she phones me to talk only in situations when she needs to avoid communication.
In my days we havent had sleep overs but I get now why I had to go late at night to fetch my child from sleep overs.
Or, if she managed to survive night, I was always there early in the morning to fetch her.
Needles to say that on the nights she stayed over she never managed to sleep at all.
OMG - This is me. I have perfectly no patience for other people's drama. Also when people ask me for advice they get a perfect analysis of the situation and an outline for a solution. What they won't get from me is emotional support. I'm just not the right person for this.
Oh, just to add: another great video. Thanks for keep bringing great content 💖
God bless David Sharif ❤️❤️
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Hilarious! Thanks for sharing 🎉
Great video. so funny
I did the same things.
I really didn't like sleepovers either... And I also had a friend who was overly dramatic lol. Ah the past is always 20/20
Hey my dear friend I understand you have ASD. I have Asperger's and bipolar disorder
wow you're nicer than me. I would have left your friend at the door of the ER and drove away.
If I had had my own car, I might have! Lol!
Loving your videos, truly appreciate them!
Just a note about your ex friend.. She could just have a mental illness that you aren’t aware of. For example, could be hypochondriac. Kind of similar to how before you were diagnosed others might not understand you or provide you the support you need for that reason. Clearly she was scared, just because you might not understand it doesn’t mean it wasn’t real to her. Ppl aren’t usually as crazy as we think. It’s good to not jump to judgment.
I know that’s not the point of your video but I just felt the need to address that. People do this a lot in society but we could all try to be a bit less judgmental of eachother..
Trust me, I didn’t jump to judgement. I knew her for 20 years since we were both 2 years old. She’s a spoiled narcissist.
Yea I had a friend like that I don't have contact with her anymore I saw through her , she was using me for my over kindness
How did David die?
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That over dramatic ex friend of yours reminds me of my sister in law Nadia…you honestly can’t get more dramatic and attention seeking than Nadia…almost on every single special occasion i have had for my family she has had to put the focus on her kids or herself….she always walked into a venue and the first thing she did was re- arrange the place cards for the kids tables…it really upset me as my kids didn’t see their cousins often, hardly ever…and my daughter wanted to it near her female cousin Tahlia…but Nadia would rearrange everything and I noticed my daughter was in the end of the table and Tahlia was in the other end…it upset me, I got up and arranged it as it was…and yep, you guessed it, Nadia got up and arranged it her way again…she often also does a no show at parties and has a dramatic reason always about her having heart palpitations…or some made up sickness…and she makes the kids stay home with her for support…so kids miss out on almost all parties and Xmas holidays outings…she’s truly a family wrecker…
She can’t even see how she’s screwed thinks up for everyone…and obviously she doesn’t care…she gets all her satisfaction knowing everyone is feeling sorry for her and thinking about how sick she is ( again , on a special occasion)…. Thanks for wrecking the family selfish idiot….
You used the word person in the first paragraph Olive, a person is a deceased estate.
I wish I'd had your nerve - to not put up with stuff that made me miserable.