10 Female Autistic Traits | AUTISM IN GIRLS
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- Опубліковано 15 тра 2024
- I'm Olivia Hops and welcome to my channel! Today’s video is about my Top 10 Female Autistic Traits.
In this video, I talk about 10 autistic traits that affect me on a regular basis and share my experience getting diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder at 24 years old. I go over my sensory issues, from needing certain sheets to not eating certain foods to not being able to go to movie theaters. I also cover a TMI topic: gut issues! They're related to autism. Who knew?! I also talk about a very common autism trait: having a hard time with change.
Many times when boys and girls have similar autistic traits, males get diagnosed, but females often do not. Females tend to get diagnosed only when their autistic traits are significantly and visibly debilitating. Clinicians are missing many girls who are on the less disabling end of the autism spectrum because we are often so good at hiding our autistic traits.
Although these traits are very common in girls and women, boys and men can have them, too! Traits are not exclusive to one gender. Also, please remember that not everyone will have these traits. Every autistic person is different, just like every neurotypical person is! And just because you have some of these traits does not make you autistic, and just because you DON'T have some of these traits doesn't make you NOT autistic. Only a doctor can officially diagnosis.
Girls are so often misdiagnosed or go undiagnosed with autism until well into adulthood. Please help spread awareness to girls and women on the spectrum by sharing this video. My goal with this video is to help other people "figure themselves out," just like my adult autism diagnosis did for me. Getting young girls diagnosed could change their lives and allow them to not deal with as many of the struggles I did growing up because I had no idea what was "wrong" with me.
My Top 10 Female Autistic Traits:
• Sensory Issues
• Mental Illnesses
• Inflexibility
• Difficulty/Dislike Socializing
• Selective mutism
• Black and white logical thinker
• Gut Issues
• Long-term and Short-term Memory
• Meltdowns
• Struggle with Empathy
Autism spectrum disorder is a condition that affects the way people behave, socialize, and communicate with others. This disorder is commonly referred to simply as autism. It used to be broken down into sub-types, such as Asperger’s syndrome, but it’s now treated as a condition with a wide-ranging spectrum of symptoms and severity.
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At 70 yrs old, I was the “weird old lady who lives at the end of the road” as neighbours would describe me. Not one doctor knew what I was going through on a daily basis and I was labeled antisocial. Nowadays, even though doctors know better about the disorder, any doctor I go to refuse this diagnosis for me due to my age, saying it’s never been documented in my medical file therefore it’s not what I have. They choose to stick with what was previously diagnosed…”unsociable and irate”. Very disheartening to me. But, fortunately, my daughter and granddaughter are diagnosed properly on the spectrum.
Your first and last mistake is going to a doctor. What the hell does he know about you? You've been with you all your life. You would know. Trust yourself
My son have been using this herbal product for 1month now so far it has cured his autism and eliminate his lack of social skill as well , now he is verbal , I got this herbs from Dr imenherbal on his channel and it work perfectly . Now my son is completely free
I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on UA-cam and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before
I'm so sorry. Hopefully you can accept who you are whether doctors describe you in the way that makes most sense or not.
@Wesley Hinson what herbs are those? It would help if you share specific The names and how taking them. Thanks for your help.
My wife has Asperger’s. As challenging as it has been she brings so much positivity to our marriage. She is SUPER organised, admirably truthful, amazingly proactive and I trust her with my life. ❤
That's so sweet! God bless you both! 🙏🏻
Aawwee that is so sweet!!!! Omg good for y'all💕😃😁💕
Glad you have a trusting relationship like that
I’m late to the party but this brings so much hope! My husband and I are coming to terms with my recent diagnosis and about to have our first child in a few weeks.
@@brainsy8697 Good luck to you both and congratulations!!
Thank dear dear BRAVE BEAUTIFUL young woman. I appreciate you and your choice: Be Your unique Aliveness.
Brava Bella brava!
I cried when you mentioned the meltdowns. I remember getting them pretty frequently when I was in high school (and looking back now I see them when I was even younger), but my mother told me "the real world doesn't deal with this kind of bullshit". Ever since then, I've tried incredibly hard to never show the world or my family my "bullshit". I've been denying a potential autism diagnosis because every time I bring it up, my parents deny it, since my ADHD is far more prevalent. I think it's time I go to the psychiatrist. Thank you
Amen! I feel ya! I'm 64 & I don't have to explain myself to anyone. This sounds so terrible, but it's great to know I'm not the only one like this & I AM NORMAL! Well, for me.
I know what you mean about family. My family would never have put up with and didn't put up with my differences when I was a kid. It's okay to go to the psychiatrist. I had the same stigma attached to it because of the way I was raised.
I feel bad for you😢 get yourself a dx and treatment plan
Me too! I need a Dx!
I feel identified with u with the need of having a dx and the feeling of your family not being empathetic :( in my case they told that in the future I'll have "more important things to worry about" and they try to understimate my feelings comparing them to ppl who suffer about "worse" things than what I go through like those problems were stupid. It's hard to hide what's always there right to your side
"I need alone time like I need air" I've never related to something more!
I'm so glad I could resonate with you!!
Same. Different ways of putting it but they're not usually quite enough, but I think this saying really 'hits the nail on the head.' If I want some kind of company, I'll seek it out, but after... whatever amount of time my brain/body decides it's done, it's done. I need it, I want it, I'm quite happy with alone time, and much more than the 'average person' which is what worries my mum. I really, really value my alone/time-whenever I'm able to get a job again, or any life decisions, that's a big thing for me-I need a lot, and I like my alone time far more than I guess a lot of people do. I don't want to, and it isn't a good idea for me, to sacrifice that.
I'm perfectly happy being by myself; something that has always bothered my family. But I could not and cannot explain it to mum in a way she will understand or think is 'enough'. The 'typical/proper/recommended amount' of social time or whatever, I/my brain doesn't care about that, doesn't NEED that, despite how often my mum would insist its healthy. Sure, a little on my terms that I can leave or exit whenever I'm done, is great but. Say 100 is the max/reaaaally social, recommended is at least 40%... I'd be a, idk, 10%. Maybe less. Even online, I'll just at times kind of. Not talk to people for months sometimes... some 'friends' we are still 'friends' on different sites, but we haven't talked in years, it's just kind of 'there' to pick up whenever is the first one to do it.
I dunno. I don't feel unhealthy or whatever... people are still there, I'll talk to them when I feel comfortable or with enough energy and stuff-it's just far, far less than other people. I get super tired and done and grouchy no matter how much I'm supposed to like the person, when I've had enough-and it's not like it's very consistent either; just that it's not a long time at all.
Losing wherever I was trying to go with this so... yeah lol.
Me too ❤
I’m going to remember this way of describing it! I usually say that for every hour of socializing, I need one hour of alone time.
Me too
You are NOT embarrassing anyone dear. You are lovely. Your boyfriend is not a poor boyfriend. Your family is not a poor family. They are lucky to have a wonderful young lady in their lives.
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Anne Miller lovely comment.
Amen to this!!! 💕
I wanted to say the same thing! Your family is lucky to have u! You are a blessing to so many.
could not be better said! and we are lucky to have your comment here.
Excellent sharing. Thank you for this informative post,
😊 Yep, that's me, 81 years old. Although I prefer to call it a "difference" rather than disorder. Learning to navigate through life with skills and awareness, and mostly acceptance that this is what I have to function with is healthy. Thank you so much for speaking out to bring understanding and awareness of these unique qualities, it is so helpful to everyone. EMBRACING WHAT IS WITH LOVE. 😊💜 We can be our own Best Friend.
I love everything your comment said!! I, too, like to call autism a "reorder" instead of a disorder 😁💜
@@owyn4126 Love everything you said and "reorder" is perfect. Best wishes to you. 😊💜
Hear, hear!!
atypical or 'atyp' is my descriptor. heightened senses, definitely. zero tolerance for the 'weight' of nail polish or makeup, just one example. diagnosed at age 17, never had intervention or assistance, just took the diagnosis as a task. now approaching 80, i've become better at passing for a normie....
Me too. Getting frustrated with my aging life. No diagnosis. Medicare probably won't cover testing.
You have described my daughter. She was recently diagnosed ASD. Several of our family members are denying the diagnosis, basically because she isn't their idea of Autistic. We are struggling because when she speaks or acts in the ways comfortable for her, they want to fit her in the neurotypical mold and will scold or discipline her for being rude or not paying enough attention. I just want to teach her to be herself and see how awesome she really is
My daughter was diagnosed in 3rd grade officially. It took quite a while to get an accurate diagnosis. She’s 19 and I still find myself explaining her diagnosis and what it means for her. I have always advocated for her to be polite so we did have a lot of OT and therapy to teach coping skills and I learned many ways to support her so she could enjoy life on her terms.
Wonderful Mothers! I can feel your love ❤️ for your children
#Ausome
Families do tend to do that, my two sons mask because of that, family would scold my kids and they were mainstream schooled so learned to "be" like a normie, like a neurotypical, that is very exhausting for them, they sleep after school from masking and holding it together to fit in the box all day, l wish more people were educated on ASD and understand the spectrum better. I read a comment on a Disney Princess video claiming Autistics to be violent maniacs that are a danger to the actors, this is what we're up against, people learn rubbish "facts" off of shorts clips with zero details and then people assume the worst. It's pure ignorance and really sad.
Can someone help me understand if I might be autistic? Of course I won’t auto diagnose my self, just wanted to understand if I might be.
Ok ok on the bus I ALWAYS sit in front in the window seat and when I have to sit anywhere else it’s very uncomfortable for me but I do it anyway because I don’t wanna disturb anyone and I’m scared they might get pissed
I don’t like the feeling of dishes, water types of clothes, types of materials and it’s just uncomfortable
sorry to write about this but in the video she says something about poop XD and I’m having the same problem, plus I SWEAR I didn’t know you have to poop everyday wot- (anyway sorry for bringing this topic)
even tho most people always see me as empathic I’m actually always confuse on what people are feeling and go by instinct, hoping
I struggle a lot with hygiene
I also find my self always confused, I mean constantly, now as well and I don’t know why
I have LOTS of interest in topics that might result complicated or unusual? Even tho I kind of have a memory problem (I think because of my anxiety, depression and adhd/add) and therefore I often forget everything.
Just saying one time I forgot I had online friends once, or when someone talks I sometimes immediately forget what they said ecc…
soon I might be diagnosed with ADHD/ADD does this mean there’s a chance I might also have autism?
This is everything that comes to mind for now, sorry for any English or grammar error
Found it very helpful thank you for sharing
When you said “I always think everyone hates me” I totally resonated with that. Every time I meet someone new, I think they dont like me and my friends are like “what do you mean? Of course they liked you!” I just don’t know how to tell if they liked me or not
Me too - I am so bad at it. Also when she mentioned about remembering faces but not names I was like, oh, that's new. I can remember faces really well but names not so much. I can also remember architectural layouts of old houses I use to live in and schools I went to (all of them, not just one) all of them.
At least you HAVE friends.
@@notdeadyet2338 I am lucky to have a best friend and 2 other close friends. I know it’s not a lot, but I’m grateful for them. My original comment maybe made it seem that I have tons of friends which I definitely do not, but I do have a few
@@notdeadyet2338 I only have two.
Same!! My boyfriend always has to be the one to tell me that I was liked and my brain is just playing tricks on me.
Feeling a bit less lonely.
Everybody wants to be so unique and all I want is to be like everybody else...
Beautiful how are you
Truth is we're all one of a kind, it gets lonely at times in life I think.
Totally true!
OMG you don't even know how many times I've wished I was "normal'.
I have learned "Normal" is a dryer setting, and feeling alone means you were born to stand out! Love and Hugs💞
Thanks for explaining. I learned a lot.
Informative. Thank you 😊
Finally I find some explanation to my strange feelings,extra emotional behaviour,my irritation according to changes at the last moment and some othet things.Thank you
Thank you Olivia. That describes my 13 year old daughter exactly. Desperately trying yo get her diagnosed over here in the UK. She has a hard time at school.
Seeing you all cheery and positive has made me feel happier.
When I was going through my diagnosis, my psychologist said, "It is time to get busy being you" I was tired of masking at that point.
Love that saying!! Thank you for sharing!!
@@OliviaHops Hi Olivia, thank you so much for opening up in this video and sharing! I am 68 years old, and I watched this for my son (who I thought might have borderline autism)... and found myself! This ties it all together for me and helps me to understand myself much better! I will watch it again and start reading up on it.... again, THANK YOU!
They sound like a good psychologist
I was told if you are depressed, clean
But how can you go anywhere in life without masking? Not trying to call you out, genuinely want to know.
just listen in. found your video so insightful! thanks for sharing!
This was validating!
I was an elementary teacher for 16 years. In my last year I had a female student diagnosed with ASD. Your insights are wonderful and hope they will help many others. May God bless you for your courage and honesty to share and help others.
Oh Honey .... you have described me with almost all of those issues. I hate disruptions ... at home or work. I can't have chaos going on around me. I need to wear cotton ... cut my tags off... it goes on and on .... I am almost 65. Depression, anxiety all my life. I need alone time EVERY day ... as my therapist told me to make sure to get decades ago. You are so articulate and personable. I hope you have more posts ...
Same here.
This is exactly me as well 🥺
Yeah...this is literally every single person on the planet. Y'all are ridiculous.
I can’t wear “heavy” shoes with loose “lights tops” it’s makes me wanna cry. Cotton is my favorite clothing material, ever since no one actually pushes me to do hwk or stuff bc of my age I procrastinate.
Same x
First round of the examination-processes was IQ. My high IQ test wasn’t part of any sensory issues I had, but it did prove above. Anyways, took 7 years for the diagnoses & HELP.
I know I didn’t treat my partner well.
I wish to continue with it.
Great job. I learned alot.Thank you so much.
You are just so beautifully candid and incredibly charming with an ability to express yourself with such eloquent, articulate and concise words.
Thank you for these posts!
As the father of an autistic little girl, I applaud your courage to make this video and opening up about your struggles. My daughter is 4 and she's my world. It's hard to communicate with her, but thankfully someone like you who is older can express so clearly how you feel and how you think because it helps me understand her a lot more. Thank you so much and you are a great young lady!
these are symptoms, not traits and they are male and female symptoms alike not just female symptoms.
You sound like a great dad! I just wanted to add that not all autistic people are the same when it comes to sensory stuff etc....one person may be hypersensitive to touch (needing thin comfortable clothing) while another person might be hyposensitive to touch and not notice when they have their shoes on the wrong feet or clothes inside out, and some (like my daughter) can be BOTH hyposensitive and hypersensitive to touch causing some things to bother them immensely (like tighter waistbands) while they are oblivious to other things (like having their pants on backwards)....it can seem contradictory and make no sense at all sometimes lol. And it's like this with all the senses. I would just say pay attention to your daughters cues and believe her when she tells you in her own way that something is bothering her. If you do that, you'll be miles ahead of most parents (unfortunately). Lastly as someone who was once a neurodivergent child herself, thank you so much for truly caring about your daughters experiences and taking the time to learn about her. It's going to make such a huge difference in her life!
@@chewyjello1 thank you for such encouraging words! She's now 5, and never ceases to amaze us with her incredible intelligence. I couldn't be more proud of her ❤️
@@chewyjello1 you cannot just diagnose someone with autism and say its not the same
This video is very helpful. Thank you.
I enjoyed this video I too have just recently been diagnosed with autism and Asperger's and I have all of those traits thank you so much for this video
Yes! I am not alone. I was shamed as a child, rather than helped with my ASD. It helps me greatly to see other women come forward and share how their brain/world differs from what is considered "normal". Thank you so much for sharing. Sincerely, Susan Goforth 💖
Thank you for sharing this video. It explains a lot!
Your an awesome speaker. Great teacher.it sounds very well out together
I love that you aren't ashamed of who you are! This video actually helped me understand my son better!
You have such a kind face and the best smile ever!
Hi, Your video is AWSOME ! I learned a lot. Thank You
Thank you so much this really helps me. A real eye opener! May God bless you.
Now I understand.
"I need my alone time, like I need air" thank you for sharing the spectrum
9:07 ... maybe not thank you for sharing this one though lol.
A freaking men. After a day of work around other people it feels like I need a week to decompress.
My late husband suggested each evening that I have alone time with my sewing machine. He found that was a great way for me to recover from the day. I totally understand what you mean when you say that it's like breathing
@Digby Dooright My mother used to say to me...."you should live in a world by yourself." I like being alone. I need to be alone. I guess I am very self absorbed.
@@beauty23ish I may be crazy but I don’t think it’s always a bad thing, to want to have time alone. Especially the way the world is these days! I always joke about when my kid is in school that’s my “me time” but truth is, I’m not joking, I need my me time, and when schools out, I’m always telling one of them up there at school they don’t care about my me time!
You described most of the things about me. I am almost 60 years old and have been called: antisocial, over sensitive, extremely picky about my food, my clothes (the way they feel on my skin), my sense of smell, having items be in there spot, items lining up(lines on a rug lining up with the floor lines)- I took it all personally like no one liked me or I annoyed most people. I stay away from social situations because they exhaust me.I have very few friends and o am fine with that. I have finally realized I have ASD and have been this way since I was very young. I have learned to cope with most things about myself and my ‘turned up ‘senses, but the biggest thing for me was accepting me as this is who I am . I am different and unique. Self acceptance is the biggest issue anyone has with this or any other type of disorder you cannot change. Love yourself no matter what, and learn to be ok with your ‘unique gifts’. ❤️
What a great video. Thanks for helping me understand.
Thank you for sharing bless you 💕
Wonderful video! I am a therapist, I am going to share this Top 10 video w my patients. Keep up the excellent work!
Oh, wow! That is such a huge compliment and the highest praise I could get. Thank you so much for watching and complimenting me, Sarah! And thank you for helping others like me. You're amazing. God Bless!
@@OliviaHops Hey 🌹
@@OliviaHops I agree, therapists in this field are top level amazing but so are advocates like you Olivia 💙🌟 You have just given another female, who's battled a misunderstood & lonely path, the 'umph' I need to find the correct testing & diagnosis, in order for me to have 'triumph' over endless MISDIAGNOSIS.
I am pushing 60 ! So there's been plenty !!
Thank you for being so candid & I'm so grateful that you are sharing your journey, light 💡and incredible smile 😃
💙Continue being TRUE BLUE for your fellow sisters 💙♀️
And brothers ♂️💙😉
I also have felt these same difficulties in my life. I feel as though I've possibly gone undiagnosed with ASD. Having had anxiety, depression, childhood selective mutism, as well as a very limited diet due to those "texture" issues feel I may have found the reason. Thanks for sharing this video. Feels good to know your not alone. 😊
BTW I'm pushing mid 50s! 🤩🤙🏽
"tsar feodore IV": I seek someone to test me for autism for free. Since you a therapist could you or a friend do this for me. What do masking mean.
You have just described my daughter! She was diagnosed at 21. I'm going to use this video to help our extended family understand autism for girls. Thank you for sharing your heart!
also, i love you for sharing, you are an amazing woman! thank you. this has explained a lot for me.
thank you for courageously sharing!
I am 81 year old male in UK and didn't even realize I was ASD until in my 70's (Yes, what a relief). Wondered if females were different but no, you almost described me there.
Thank you for being brave and sharing your thoughts. You have more courage than me. My very best wishes to you throughout your future.
@@brookezadra4770 he said male for man so I think it’s fine dog
@INDIA HEALTH CARE autism is not curable or reversable. stop spreding misinformation.
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With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on UA-cam, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏
I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on UA-cam and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before
Thank you so much!! You literally described my life. Now I know I’m not alone 💜💜💜
You are absolutely NOT alone! I'm glad to know I'm not either with other awesome people like you out there. :)
I think you did an amazing job
It really validated some validated some things I have seen in myself and family members thank you
great video! thanks this was very helpful 😊
This is the first time I heard about selective mutism, I could never get anyone to understand that I physically couldn't speak. Everyone always thought I was being overly dramatic....
I have experienced selective mutism as well, but I usually don’t relate to people’s explanation of it. For me, it stems from not fully trusting a person’s motives for asking me a question. I’m afraid to answer, based on their history of two-facedness that I have observed from afar.
@@doma3554 I also have experienced that but I never thought it could be this since I related more to my trust issues. That actually makes a lot of sense
I literally had this for a period as a kid. I don't even remember it, but appearantly I stopped speaking to my grandparents for a while. Then I became very odd and anxious later in school. Honestly, I'm probably autistic, and I don't know how my parents never checked it.
@@fromeveryting29 same, my parents particularly my mom just thought something was wrong with me.....but never took initiative to actually do anything about it. I still get pissed thinking about how she could be so clueless.
Same!
Thank you so much! I have a co worker who is on the spectrum and I was having a hard time accepting some of her behaviors. I now have so much empathy for it all! I am so grateful💜🙏🏻
I LOVE this video! Thank you!! I’m so grateful… 💕
Excellent video! Thank you!
Thank you so much for sharing I'm literally in tears because all these years of therapy and I feel like they missed so much about me.. thank you!
I'm 63, and display all ten of your quirks to some degree or other. You have no idea how many jobs I've lost because I was sitting and crying at my desk. I had an autism test a while ago, and never did get their final results. Maybe I didn't want confirmation. But this video confirms it all for me. I do thank you very much for having shed light on my life for me. I have a hard time seeing the obvious about myself.
I'm 64 female and you said exactly what I was thinking. I think I have gotten worse as I got older. 😕
@@leewhite-graham753 I'm sorry. Just because the world doesn't accommodate you, doesn't mean you are bad.
@@Slavaisusukhrystu Thanks.
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You just described my 8 yr old lil miss. Diagnosed at 2 yrs old.
Thanks you so much. I have a new perspective on how to view some interaction. This was useful. Bless 😇
Ten Traits Covered in this Video-
1) Heightened Senses
2) Mental Illnesses
3) Inflexibility (Routine)
4) Difficulty/Dislike Socialising
5) Selective Mutism
6) Black/White Thinking
7) Gut Issues
8) Good Long Term Memory
9) Meltdowns
10) Empathy
P.S.- It is not necessary to have all these traits.
LOL I have all of these 😅 thanks for the list ☺️
I have 4 8 and 10 but the most irritating is the socializing thing i like but nearly always very Boring
Hey wow. All of these. Except for the last - I perhaps over empathize. There isn’t an easy example that doesn’t make me look like a giant jerk, but like the “finish your plate, there are starving children in Africa” trope…I am the kid who tucks away a portion and mails it labeled “to: starving children in Africa”
@Demian ALIKA please stop spreading misinformation. Autism is NOT curable. Especially not with some herbs.
@@purplecat1691 you are wrong. Sorry.
You're a pretty amazing person!! Love the vibe, love how honest & straight up you are, you are going to help change so many lives!!
Thank you so very much, Alicia! You made my day!! God Bless!
I agree! My 23 year old daughter has Aspergers so I recognize your traits. They are very well known to me. Great video. My daughter is in her first year of college and is loving it
I love your background, specially the lights and the leaves ❤
Just wow. Thank u so much for sharing yourself❤❤i learned a lot and also have many of these things even if i dont know if i have asd or anythinhmg similar❤
You helped me be more compassionate, understanding and less afraid when I recognize the symptoms in others. You presented it all beautifully and I was grateful to experience your joy with you. Thank you so much. May you be blessed many times over.
This video is so validating. For so many reasons, I doubt my own traits and diagnosis so much because ‘oh I can socialize’ or ‘oh I have strong emotions and am not flat’ or whatever. Thank you for existing out loud and reminding me that we need to be kind to ourselves!
I realize that I can socialize, and even once convinced myself I was an extrovert, because I forced myself into situations to get over my shyness. Drama class in high school, roller derby as an adult. (Made myself sky dive, once, because I was terrified of heights as well.) Ive always felt super awkward, and that no one really liked me, but I thought it was growing up poor that made me feel like an outsider. Realizing how exhausted I am now after having to be around a lot of people or loud noises, WHY I have hated most every job I've ever had, and most importantly, why I stutter or just can't get the words out when I am excited or upset, makes me feel a little less crazy. I never even considered ASD until they started telling me my son might have it, then looked up "adult women with sensory issues." Bingo.
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Lovvvve
"Thank you for existing out loud", is one of the coolest things I have ever read or heard! Love it!!
Thank you so much for sharing ❤️
Thankyou so much, 💓 you really helped. 🙂
Thank you for talking about your selective mutism. I believe I’m on the spectrum but never had a formal diagnosis. I have been telling people for years “sorry, sometimes I have a hard time getting the words out” and assumed it was connected to anxiety and now that I know selective mutism is a thing, I researched it and omg that’s what I’ve been dealing with. Now I know. Thank you!
Same. I've been worried about this.
Usually only having selective mutism doesn’t mean you have ASD. You’d have to experience multiple of these symptoms
Your only symptom is selective mutism? Or it’s the most prominent
@@climatesolutions649 yes, I agree; however, did you watch the entire video? That was/is not her distinguishing characteristic. Selective mutism absolutely happens in extremely young children when they are abused. People need to be careful categorizing others based on "symptoms." It's possible that you are simply a person not comfortable with "public speaking" which is perfectly okay.
anymongus this comment is not about the girl in the video, it’s about the girl who made the original comment in this thread.
I’m a 28 year old female who’s currently waiting to get help and get diagnosed.
I’ve been struggling my whole life with social situations, mental illness and just being a “normal” human being.
Everything you said in this video felt so relatable to me. I actually started crying because it got so overwhelming (in a good way). Thank you so much for making this video!
Im in the same situation right now, I’m almost 27 though! This makes me feel so seen honestly lol.
I'm in the same boat and I'm 39.
@@emily3 hey we're close in age! Hello peer group. I seriously related a lot to these examples she listed. I'm glad this is out there. Funny enough since this video is 2 years old I think the presenter is 26 too lol. Close to it anyway.
Same, I'm 37. I dont know if a diagnosis will help at all. My husband will think it's a convenient excuse for my actions over the past 18 years we've been together...smh...I'm probably still gonna ask my gp but I dont even know what I'm going to have to do to get the diagnosis. If it has anything to do with remembering past events....I'm screwed.
I am watching it now. I see one traiy I have isn't on the list, but maybe I missed it. Executive functioning. Or the lack thereof
I guess I just learned something else about myself. I for the longest time can never ever remember somebody’s name if my mom or anybody was to bring somebody up. I would have to tell people, “do you have a picture of them because if you show me a picture of them, I will mostly likely remember who it is that we are talking about.” Sure enough, somebody pops up picture and BOOM! I instantly remember who it was.
i used to struggle with empathy a lot when i was younger + now it feels like even paper clips have valid feelings 😭🥲
I am much older than you, probably, but you are the first to mention that. It describes me too. When young, not hardly any empathy. Now it has become overwhelming. I can't hardly listen to the news. Or step on a bug, for that matter. Good grief!!!
+1
Same here! I will carefully take a spider outside. I once found a butterfly in a parking lot & picked it up & rested it on my purse & drove it home to fly away in my backyard. Oddly, it stayed comfortably the whole car ride & then flew off in my yard.🦋
Preach! Sister 🥰
There is a religion for respecting living things, insects etc. It is Jainism. Maybe not the right spelling
Thank you so much for sharing!
omg you just described me. everything you have said i can relate too including the embarrassing gut issues. i had to explain to my doctor how it’s related to anxiety 😒. the pain is unbearable. im so glad you posted this. im 40 and haven’t been diagnosed properly. ive been looking for answers for 30 yrs
Omg, me too...... I've even had surgery 🤯
Yup.....My skin is sensitive so careful about clothes,have occasional meltdowns, very logical, think people hate me, have both anxiety and depression. Changing routines is brutal
My skin burns after I get out of water. Textures, temperature…many sensory issues affect me.
Me too!
Thank you for sharing your experiences and insights as someone living with ASD. Your delayed diagnosis as a woman is comparable to many misdiagnoses for many ailments experienced by women. Thank you again for bringing these insights into the light. Koodos to your boyfriend for sticking by you with all of your doubts and other sensitivities 🌷🌷🌷
Well articulated, thanks 🤩
Thank you for sharing!
This was only your first video? Truly superb.
I was thinking the same thing.
I was also thinking the same thing. Very well spoken
Yes, agreed! The presentation, music, filming... all superb!
first video in this series, she said. maybe she has other ones but not this specific series.
Easy when you have money.
You are such a wonderful person, fluent and full of energy! Thank you for sharing it, it's a valuable information 💕 I live your positive attitude! Many people not being diagnosed with ASD could relate to some of the symptoms, and what is wonderful, you speak so naturally about it, not making a big deal of it 👍👍👍 good wishes to you!
Thank you first time seeing video posted 3 years ago very helpful.
Loved this video 🙏 thank you
"I need my alone time as if I need air."
I feel ya, sis. ❤
Oh, yes! I've never felt lonely being alone. In school? So lonely - and booooored. I really, really, really HATED SCHOOL!
Literally. Every. Single. Adult. On. Earth.
Sorry to bust your "I'm special!" Bubble.
@@chloedassler6156 Well, yes, a lot of kids don't like school. But that's a spectrum too. I guess you're not really seeing the nuances here.
@@chloedassler6156 no it's not super common. A have friends who want to go out and be social all the time, they get antsy being at home.
Yes!!!
"I kept a diary right after I was born. Day 1: Tired from the move. Day 2: Everyone thinks I'm an idiot."
Steven Wright
That’s funny! Thx 4 sharing it!
I loved Steven Wright. I could totally relate to that sense of humor. And his imaginary girlfriend's name was Emma.
LOL!
Awesome!!
Thank you so much for sharing.
Very helpful and great video
Your video has me in tears. I have these traits too (though my GI traits are different). Seeing that someone else has gone through the same things… it makes me feel normal, in a sense. I’ve never felt that before. I was diagnosed neurodivergent in my mid 30s, but listening to you made me realize I’ve had these traits since I was very young - but no one named it. Thank you so much for sharing your story ❤️
It’s so difficult to be diagnosed later in life, and it’s so especially prevalent in women. Congrats on your diagnosis!
With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on UA-cam, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏
Why do we feel the need to be diagnosed with “something.” Why can’t we all just be us, human…
@@bonsaibaby8257 Better question is why do YOU feel the need to invalidate people's existence. And having a diagnosis doesn't make someone less human.
Congrats??!? LOL for what
@@necroflowers2244 A diagnosis isn't someone's "existence". There is nothing being invalidated because there's nothing there of value to begin with. Go clutch your pearls somewhere else u ableist worthless loser.
You're my new favorite person. Thank you for such a comforting video for us misunderstood people
Thank you for your honesty!
Thank you...I truly DID learn something today! I love how eloquently and confidently you present these traits to the world and yet you admit to being an introvert. I'm assuming your boyfriend is quite understanding and flexible since meltdowns and lack of empathy would be challenging to deal with. It's great that you are happy with your diagnosis and that you feel good about teaching the rest of us what it's like to be you! I have some of the traits you mentioned, so it inspires me to dig into this topic even deeper.
Every single point you made struck me, my parents spent most of my life dealing with my sister who was mentally challenged so alot of me went un noticed, unless I annoyed them.
Thank you, I look forward to more videos, you are my newest hero
Thank you so much for this video! I needed to know somehow I am not alone.
Thank you for making this!
Thank you for being so candid and open with everything! You're helping a lot of people, my daughter included. Keep being you and doing what you do, it's appreciated!
Okay literally I relate to ALL.OF.THESE.!!! Thanks so much for being amazing, open, vulnerable, and creating such a safe space for autistics! Can't wait to see more now that you''re back on UA-cam!
Very useful video, Olivia. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing…great video…come back again, you are so interesting🎉
I can't tell you how validating it was to listen to you! I have almost every trait you mentioned here and have been harshly judged in my life because of it. I thought there was something inherently wrong with me and couldn't understand why none of the people in my life ever thought like I do or had the same emotions I do. I think I've finally found my tribe after 57 years. Thank you so much for sharing in such an honest way.
Yes, me too. I'm 51. I read in a few places that some of us older folks have a crisis in their lives that leads us to this realization. I was my mom's caregiver, and she recently passed away. I am having a hard time with her death.
@@trishgreen2892 I'm so sorry. 😥
@@JaneSmith0709 Thank you! I just want to become friends with people who get me, after a life time of loneliness. I am sure we can all relate.
@@trishgreen2892 Definitely.
I’m in exactly the same place you are in. No one in my family could ever really relate to me. Don’t get me wrong, I come from a very loving family situation, but, I was different.
you're admirably candid. Good for you. Good luck. I found the video enlightening. Thanks.
Thank you so much! I'm so glad you found it enlightening! :)
Thank you for this!
I love you! I recognize a few of these in myself and others.
This brought me to tears! I have a six year old little girl who is my life and I’ve been struggling since her diagnosis 3 years ago to make her life as easy and accessible for her as I do for her older neurotypical sister. Seeing you allowed me to imagine a beautiful future for my darling. Thank you so very much for this. 😭
😭💕this comment made me tear up, too! Indeed you are truly God’s light for your daughters. Bless you.
(I agree, this video means a LOT to me as well. Like you, Olivia is full of noor ✨so beautiful mashallah)
MashaAllah ❤️
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Your little girl is going to have a brilliant and very full life. Especially with you and her mom.💖
I completely agree. I have a 5 year old and seeing her has been inspiring. If our daughter grows up to be like you we would be so proud. This is helpful, especially the one about poop. What do you do now to help. Do you do CBT
You changed my life, and I am 62 years old! Just always thought I was a weirdo who never fit in (even though I am highly accomplished). Thank you
❤️
73 and right there with you.
Beautiful girl, thank you for sharing ♥️
I have ulcerative colitis and autism, so I know what you mean about the gut issues.