Wondering Why You Don't Feel Like a Man? Watch This. (Episode 9 | Season 5)

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  • Опубліковано 15 сер 2017
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    Through his nonprofit organization BOND, TheFallenState TV host Jesse Lee Peterson has been successfully guiding men on how to become successful adults with solid moral character -- real men -- for many years. In this no-holds-barred, in-depth interview, Jesse shares decades of valuable wisdom with Chris Castillo (27) and Joel Dominick (25), two young men who openly reveal their struggle to "be a man." Jesse clears up their misconceptions so they understand the next step to take in their lives -- and why they have had trouble approaching women and dealing with their mothers. Tune in and share this episode!
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  • @lizlathan2293
    @lizlathan2293 6 років тому +238

    It breaks my heart to see how absent fathers affect their son's self-esteem 😢 It applies to girls too and how they choose a mate later in life. So sad that this combo of absent father and angry mother is so prevalent. Thank you Jesse for trying to bring the family back together in America! We have work to do to repair this sick culture. I watch your show and see you offend people sometimes, but your work is good and I see your heart is well-placed 😀

    • @TazHall
      @TazHall 6 років тому +8

      Liz Lathan try absent father and controlling mother...

    • @TazHall
      @TazHall 6 років тому +1

      Liz Lathan I grew up in domestic violence so I stayed single all my life because I was afraid of getting abused. I am trusting God for a good husband and work on myself.

    • @samanthamcphie9520
      @samanthamcphie9520 4 роки тому +1

      Jesse is 'Amazing' I hope he can help these young men to find what they require. Of course I know he will. 🤗

    • @keepidahogreat5687
      @keepidahogreat5687 3 роки тому +4

      MOTHER PUT THERE ANGER ONTO THE CHILDREN.

    • @leslieshand4509
      @leslieshand4509 3 роки тому

      @@keepidahogreat5687 and abusive father’s don’t?

  • @heidib.4089
    @heidib.4089 6 років тому +137

    Thank goodness for strong men! When I met my husband I couldn’t believe how much he didn’t care about what people think! As a woman I am a lot about feelings and relationship and reciprocity. He has really taught me that my world won’t crumble if I’m in conflict with someone and I’ve certainly taught him the value of having a little softer touch with people to handle conflict. HOWEVER! He is the one to manage and lead through the hard things in life - the tip of the spear.

    • @sxm2009
      @sxm2009 6 років тому +4

      Heidi B. That’s good, Ying and yang

    • @heidib.4089
      @heidib.4089 6 років тому +4

      Just Me IKR - I have to use Vaseline to keep the shackles from rubbing my ankles raw.
      LOL :)

    • @TheStraightestWhitest
      @TheStraightestWhitest 6 років тому +3

      Heidi B. This made me chuckle.

    • @heidib.4089
      @heidib.4089 6 років тому +3

      Just Me Just watching Chadwick Moore on Tucker C. - he said that it looked like the progressives, with their volatile and incendiary rhetoric, are hankering for a civil war, which would be very ill advised as we have all the guns as well as the market on the worlds most valuable resource which is toxic masculinity.

    • @TheStraightestWhitest
      @TheStraightestWhitest 6 років тому +1

      Heidi B. Absolutely true, but why do you think everyone is trying so damn hard to take away those guns? And why do you think those same people are so damn busy emasculating men to great success? Men of today have 40% less testosterone in their system than men in the 80's did.

  • @lal3724
    @lal3724 6 років тому +238

    these guys are so honest and candid, i really appreciate that

    • @wokewatch8508
      @wokewatch8508 5 років тому +11

      takes a real man to admit these personal things, well done fellas

    • @amoses585
      @amoses585 5 років тому

      👏👏👏

    • @yamahantx7005
      @yamahantx7005 3 роки тому +1

      There's still time. They might make it.

    • @Aozora333
      @Aozora333 3 роки тому

      congrats for you, yelp reviewer

    • @kendrickbrown8978
      @kendrickbrown8978 2 роки тому

      Yea.

  • @The1Question
    @The1Question 6 років тому +120

    In our country there is so much focus on girls, gays, and transgenders now that young men are being forgotten in our society. Alot of people do not seem to care how they feel or what they are going through. Having more men in the family and in kids lives will fix alot of problems we have in our families.

    • @CoolPapaJMagik
      @CoolPapaJMagik 2 роки тому

      You’re totally right and that’s on purpose... they want us to be weak, fat, lazy, incompetent, and addicted

    • @orubenvaldez
      @orubenvaldez Рік тому +2

      Good point.

    • @ExpectantHarvest
      @ExpectantHarvest 6 днів тому

      Mostly young, white men, yes

  • @doug2755
    @doug2755 6 років тому +184

    at least these weak men are HONEST and that takes courage they will be alright one day

    • @Americansikkunt
      @Americansikkunt 5 років тому +2

      Doug Let's bring back men's clubs. Start a club in your town, and start the work.

    • @mariobonelle6652
      @mariobonelle6652 3 роки тому

      @Joe Lee Shut the fuck up you sound ignorant AF

    • @jonathangomez8269
      @jonathangomez8269 3 роки тому +2

      Look at em now ! Joel , he still black 😂

  • @sacjuggalo
    @sacjuggalo 6 років тому +360

    We need to get these guys on a steady diet of 80s action movies.

  • @nicholedenny9916
    @nicholedenny9916 6 років тому +152

    My mother was exactly like the Hispanic mans mother; irrationally screaming, and possessing a constant aggressive nature. Caused me to shut down, and hide everything. I was terrified of her growing up.

    • @Loudloud123
      @Loudloud123 6 років тому +4

      Nichole Denny WoW you are amaZing and No I dont apologize for that.

    • @romeg4534
      @romeg4534 6 років тому +2

      Nichole Denny, just like my son's mother too

    • @carlostejada1479
      @carlostejada1479 6 років тому

      Nichole Denny
      me too...

    • @greenlight7764
      @greenlight7764 6 років тому +2

      Feel ya

    • @TazHall
      @TazHall 6 років тому +5

      That's rough. God bless and restore you. He's my Father now. He can make up for our imperfect parents.

  • @legolas76524
    @legolas76524 6 років тому +62

    The no father angry mother combo is such a bad recipe, it removes ones ability to look ahead and to move with meaning. My father when I was growing up hid from society, went to work and then came home from work, went straight to his room and only came out for dinner. I in turn hid myself in videogames, and now I have no life meaning. Here’s to turning that around! Good luck to all the others trying to better themselves out there, it’s not easy but it’s worth it.

    • @nevermindme313
      @nevermindme313 5 років тому +2

      legolas76524 congratulations! You can make a difference in your life.

    • @timdevolldable
      @timdevolldable 5 років тому

      At some point these things need resolution in the self and that desire calls for action and be glad and grateful its there. It allows you to put it into work. The freedom of choice

    • @shleepydragyn8940
      @shleepydragyn8940 5 років тому +1

      Similar situation to what i had. Now i have a couple thousand videogames.

    • @ExpectantHarvest
      @ExpectantHarvest 6 днів тому

      Yes so, every single child on the planet is only surviving until they mature spiritually and emotionally and realize they are heir of God and forgive their mothers and return to their fathers

  • @johnnyjames9705
    @johnnyjames9705 6 років тому +17

    Mr. Peterson is illuminated and a very wise individual indeed. We should all support him in his endeavors to educate and illuminate our most emotionally vulnerable. He is the safe space young people need today as he can shed true light on their motives. What motivates us propels us.

  • @ashleygwynn516
    @ashleygwynn516 6 років тому +40

    To all ladies watching this: You were not made for bitterness and resentment. I think Jesse is trying to describe a particular woman, not all women, when he says that women are angry and bitter. At the end of the video, Jesse talks about what happens when men forgive, pray, and grow in God. The same happens to women who turn to God; through the Holy Spirit we are able to let go of bitterness and resentment, we learn when and how to control our emotions, and we are able to mature into loving people who are independent and strong. Only with God have I been able to mature in this way, and I have a long way to go. God is patient and molds us with His loving hands. Thankful for the honesty of these young men here, God bless them!

    • @budsilverado9275
      @budsilverado9275 6 років тому +5

      Problem is women don't want to submit to men. I'm done with American women time to import young 20 year old's from other countries to be housewives these 1st world women believe they have the right to freedom when they didn't fight for it, Men created it for them.😂

    • @numinous4789
      @numinous4789 5 років тому +1

      Agreed. There are both fallen masculinity and fallen femininity.

    • @kingalpha8389
      @kingalpha8389 5 років тому +3

      Ashley Gwynn God doesn't want a woman to be independent. You're about to piss me off.

    • @wokenotbroke5976
      @wokenotbroke5976 5 років тому +1

      I agree with you, women need to let go of that resentment.

    • @HeIs580
      @HeIs580 5 років тому +4

      I agree, but God and men doesn't love a strong independent woman. These male qualities will create competition especially if the man is insecure about his masculinity because of his mother. Women need to forgive their mother for teaching them how to be strong, afraid and masculine too. There's no shame in being a soft trustful woman.

  •  6 років тому +53

    A man drags ppl to the top with him.

  • @joecetti_901
    @joecetti_901 6 років тому +69

    He kills me with.... That's amazing!😂😂😂

    • @budsilverado9275
      @budsilverado9275 6 років тому +1

      Das Amasssin!!!

    • @DanielAnderssson
      @DanielAnderssson 5 років тому

      amazin

    • @Soul_Latina
      @Soul_Latina 5 років тому

      Andreuccetti the Don. Yes he does He’s a mass murderer. 🤣

    • @notsunnydaysahead
      @notsunnydaysahead 3 роки тому

      @@budsilverado9275 Excuse me but this is hell here asking you to sign this permission slip for Hitler to leave a like

  • @darthphaser2991
    @darthphaser2991 6 років тому +77

    Its the same thing with strippers and prostitutes. They all have "daddy issues". 100%

    • @tiffkungpoify
      @tiffkungpoify 6 років тому +3

      Darth Phaser depends on the country 😂😂😂

    • @jackiechan4AAR
      @jackiechan4AAR 5 років тому

      wearealltubes Maybe so but there are women in the sec industry because they just want the wild sexual experience and they get paid, probably more than their other profession, to do it.

    • @mrchill.767
      @mrchill.767 3 роки тому +3

      So true I use to work at a strip club never again , anyway I was a bouncer and the DJ almost everyone of them had daddy issues some was rapped or molested but mostly daddy issues working at a strip club was like being in a mental institution seriously so many mental issues and emotional issues it's unreal it draws those kinds of ppl ...

  • @deniseshuffler1001
    @deniseshuffler1001 6 років тому +14

    My heart broke hearing their words. I pray for these men to overcome all that troubles them so they can one day share their joy.

    • @ExpectantHarvest
      @ExpectantHarvest 6 днів тому

      This is the exact same for every human on the planet it is just that those two boys are honest

  • @yaelrar.4460
    @yaelrar.4460 6 років тому +7

    Jesse tackles issues nobody else will go near. THAT'S a real man!💪

  • @ebt1117
    @ebt1117 6 років тому +161

    these young men are on the right track at least, which is a hell of a lot more than the majority of millennial "men".

    • @larrybrechtjr163
      @larrybrechtjr163 6 років тому +5

      EBT I agree with you 100%

    • @youeatmydookies8577
      @youeatmydookies8577 5 років тому +1

      @@DarronBrown88 just take it as tou are a rare gem in a bucket of trash,helps me not to get defensive of being a millennial,we arent all soy boys or fems but most are thats why they say millionials as jesse would say not all,not all,not all but most

    • @andresp7136
      @andresp7136 5 років тому

      I will be a millennial billionaire.

    • @firebirdstark
      @firebirdstark 3 роки тому +1

      Millennials get a lot of flak, but it starts with the parents. Weak parents make weak children. The attack on the nuclear family started post WWII. It’s been a snowball effect since then on raising weak boys and girls

  • @rushwill
    @rushwill 6 років тому +19

    To me this is arguably the most powerful, monumental topic facing MEN and especially BLACK MEN.
    BLACK people please!!!!: Let us save ourselves! Everyone to their own self will continue to cripple us harshly.
    Let’s work on ourselves and help others by showing them how much work we need to do to find peace and understanding.
    Much peace ✌🏾 to everyone

  • @in_vas_por8810
    @in_vas_por8810 6 років тому +31

    "You feel soft and tender?"
    😂😂😂😂😂

  • @joshnoneya3242
    @joshnoneya3242 6 років тому +307

    These poor guys... Thanks feminism.

    • @mogetit5999
      @mogetit5999 6 років тому +13

      Josh NoneYa what does feminism have to do with this issue? Let's thanks the sorry men that left them and didn't assist in raising them

    • @johnyappleseed9301
      @johnyappleseed9301 5 років тому

      You are a hate filled woman I pray that the lord may save you from your hatred and anger

    • @libelula5809
      @libelula5809 5 років тому +3

      I completely agree with you that masculinity is essential. It does take two to tango, and it's so easy for women to fall into the liberal trap when men abuse their power. Values and morals need to to be upheld by both sides.

    • @libelula5809
      @libelula5809 5 років тому +1

      Gaming with Johh I agree. I am not religious, but I do uphold the Christian values - they're common sense to me.

    • @thorbeorn4295
      @thorbeorn4295 5 років тому +6

      it has ALOT to do with feminism, almost EVERYTHING to do with feminism. It's ever since the start of that cancerous movement ALOT of shit in the westernized society has gone to shit.

  • @FromRVtoCrafts
    @FromRVtoCrafts 6 років тому +17

    They have a sense of humor, that will help to get them somewhere. Thank God for Jesse.

  • @danielholm1987
    @danielholm1987 3 роки тому +7

    What is a man?
    An obedient son to our Heavenly Father.

    • @chrisanok9283
      @chrisanok9283 3 роки тому

      Soo true.. that's the full definition

  • @KingdomInnovateX
    @KingdomInnovateX 6 років тому +32

    Congrats to these gentlemen for publicly having this discussion. Some guys abuse women or become womanizers or rapists, or doormats or suicidal in an effort to forfeit or regain power because they feel stripped of their sexual identity, left internally empty, shiftless, and purposeless, It's a warzone and guys are rarely this vulnerable about emasculation.

    • @TazHall
      @TazHall 6 років тому +1

      As a woman I've dealt with some of that. Broken parents just have that effect. I believe God is restoring me...teaching me how to be a worthy woman.

    • @Vickiluv
      @Vickiluv 4 роки тому

      Yes, there are some of us women still looking for a strong male who can lead. They may look strong on the outside but all these toxic tendencies are on the inside. it’s frightening.

    • @InfoWarsTexas
      @InfoWarsTexas Рік тому

      So true.

    • @carrmined
      @carrmined Рік тому

      ​@@TazHallI pray you have found at least part of the peace and progress you wanted in that area. I am struggling and in deep emotional distress but I will feel better eventually too. Be a better version of who you were yesterday, good luck!

  • @ineedtheamberlamps1450
    @ineedtheamberlamps1450 6 років тому +88

    I didn't know it was this bad. A young lady in my office is having difficulty finding someone to date. I see why.

    • @MrsDazl
      @MrsDazl 6 років тому +2

      Brandi Pembrook the struggle is real, girl

    • @mgtowbooboo8530
      @mgtowbooboo8530 6 років тому +14

      Women are doing everything they can to use and abuse men. Now they care because there are not enough men around to use and abuse.

  • @JoseGarcia-vi3pu
    @JoseGarcia-vi3pu 3 роки тому +8

    Crazy, I grew up without a dad and had very similar feelings and problems grown up. Great courage for them to admit such private feelings. Yall are helping alot of people guys

    • @CRAIGTEMPLATEXCHRIST
      @CRAIGTEMPLATEXCHRIST 10 місяців тому

      I grew up with a dad but it was my mother who ruled the house (she still does 40 years later)… it’s only this year I got over it - through prayer mainly and then the advice I found in Jesse’s videos

  • @MistaJG
    @MistaJG 5 років тому +14

    The whole puberty thing hit home for me. I can remember being so frustrated bc all the guys had hairy legs, armpit hair, facial hair and a deep voice and I felt like I was being looked at and felt like everyone knew I hadn’t started and looked at me like I looked at myself

  • @elgriego331
    @elgriego331 6 років тому +37

    As a Christian man going against the grain of a Godless culture my source of strength was my Savior a lot of times. Godly friends are very important to have and wish I had more. I relate to these guys on some ways and a verse comes to mind that gave me a lot of strength at times...
    “When my father and my mother forsake me, Then the LORD will take care of me.”
    ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭27:10

  • @mikes.4136
    @mikes.4136 5 років тому +5

    These guys are super-brave and unabashedly honest. I have the utmost respect for both of them and hope that they both continue to learn and grow and find their place.

  • @AlvynArt
    @AlvynArt 6 років тому +65

    Black guy is taking the words right out of my mouth, wow. It's a relief people have the same problems

    • @iHaveTheDocuments
      @iHaveTheDocuments 5 років тому +1

      I was gonna say you have such a soy boy face. After reading your comment it's confirmed.

  • @byronadams9824
    @byronadams9824 5 років тому +13

    17:07 jesse’s old man laugh
    I hope to have one one day, a proper old man laugh 😂

  • @HeavymetalHylian
    @HeavymetalHylian 6 років тому +11

    This was heartbreaking. When Mr. Peterson asked the young man what a man feels like and he responded "confident" after he just said he doesn't always feel like a man, you could see the pain in his eyes when he speaks. He wants to be a good man, but doesn't have a good example to follow because Dad wasn't there to show him and help build on what's inside him from a young age. I think it's important that mothers do feminine things with their daughters and help them to learn traditional female roles so that they have the skills when they are older and that Fathers should do masculine things with their sons and help them to learn traditional male roles so that they have the skills when they are older. I think when a child misses out on these things, they start to become insecure and don't know who they are when they grow up, so they are constantly searching for the answer and affirmation that they are a good man/woman. You should definitely be in touch with your opposite gender side and spend time with the parent of the opposite sex, but since men and women are different, you can't learn it all from one side. A child needs both parents in order to achieve a healthy balance of masculine and feminine within their own personalities. They must learn to be a man or a woman so that when they have their own family, they will have the ability to balance out their partner and fill in all of the empty spaces. Dad is strong, confident, and thinks critically, Mom is nurturing, humble, and creative. Together they make a phenomenal team and can raise their child to have some of their qualities.

    • @basiabasia3387
      @basiabasia3387 5 років тому

      THAT was THERAPEUTIC.... it was a START to recovery... read about BOND and you will understand that Mr. Jesse is ACTUALLY HELPING THEM:):):)

  • @jermanefields6470
    @jermanefields6470 6 років тому +15

    “Do you feel soft and nurturing?” 😆🤣

  • @wendys390
    @wendys390 5 років тому +3

    These two guys really impressed me. They are really insightful about themselves, and not afraid to admit what is true. It was wonderful to listen to this. I think they'll end up better men than they realized.

  • @timetraveler6615
    @timetraveler6615 6 років тому +11

    Just lost my shit right after the guy said that he felt like an outcast, Jesse, responds, “wow, that is amazing.” 😂

  • @n3rds3y3vi3w
    @n3rds3y3vi3w 5 років тому +7

    Damn I never connected my confidence issues to being raised by a single mother. This is life changing.

  • @tiffkungpoify
    @tiffkungpoify 6 років тому +14

    These poor guys, a woman wants a strong man a little emotional but not to the world. A man that can provide and to have faithfulness and love in his heart a man to stand up to the plate. A man that is confident but geared towards jobs and a relationship. A man that gives and cares about his family. The rest is a bonus. We want a hard working man. A protector but not an abuser.
    These men are so beautiful but so lost. I hope they find there way in this world in the best most honest way.

    • @thereisnopandemic
      @thereisnopandemic 6 років тому +1

      Ragnar Lothbrok MGTOW>simp

    • @tiffkungpoify
      @tiffkungpoify 6 років тому

      Brother Kalev most men I know don’t care for submissive women, very few and those who do are older men that don’t have the strength to keep up with non submissive women

  • @Makkin11Money
    @Makkin11Money 6 років тому +10

    Here's one aspect to becoming a man, I think the most important aspect. Set yours sights and devote your life to a worthwhile ideal of what you want to become. It does not matter if the ideal changes along the course of your life. The only thing that matters is that the ideal is worthy to YOU, not anyone else. Anyone who comes along on this journey must not stray you from your path or interfere with it. If you meet a girl, she either helps you along your path or leaves you. Never be afraid to walk the path alone. If the path has heart and is true to you, people will be drawn to you.

    • @MH3GL
      @MH3GL 5 років тому

      Wonderfully said.

    • @J4YAH777
      @J4YAH777 5 років тому

      amen brother

    • @javiercuevas4484
      @javiercuevas4484 3 роки тому +1

      What if that path is to be a male feminist ? Are you still a man ?

  • @jookbj
    @jookbj 6 років тому +141

    I came to this vid expecting to laugh at these guys but it turned out to be pretty sad.

    • @1neAdam12
      @1neAdam12 6 років тому +5

      There was a lot going on there -and in my mind as well.
      We've been handed a very bad bargain. *Frankfurt School* casualties.

    • @johnmadsen37
      @johnmadsen37 6 років тому +11

      jookbj don't be sad. They now realize and are on the right path. These two soon to be men will also in turn help their peers. Like he says, 1 turns to 2. 2 to 4. 4 to 8. 8 to 16 ...
      This is why this work is so important and the impact ultimately is huge. This is why Satan worshippers are afraid.

    • @carlm919
      @carlm919 6 років тому

      if you can't see the blessings, transformation these guys are experiencing, your jaded to see just what you want to. Most go through life with these feelings and thoughts and never resolved them. They are fortune to meet a person like Jesse, I which I did at their age.

    • @texasboy9018
      @texasboy9018 6 років тому

      jookbj me too

    • @jermanefields6470
      @jermanefields6470 6 років тому +1

      EXACTLY!!! Thank God THEY are on the right track. But, their are way to many that think that because they have been born a boy, they will become men automatically. When they don’t have a jot or tittle of a clue of what it is to be one.

  • @flipphone582
    @flipphone582 5 років тому +5

    The softness of a mother MUST be tempered by the toughness and leadership of a father.

  • @criminaltotheworld3154
    @criminaltotheworld3154 5 років тому +3

    My dad was in prison my whole life. I had a step dad who I believe disliked me or something, and didn't put much effort in teaching me to be a man. I am thankful though for him providing for the family. I've always had something I felt missing from my life and it effected me my whole life, into a dark place of depression, anxiety, and suicide. I want to teach my son to be a man.

  • @lewisf3473
    @lewisf3473 6 років тому +33

    I really like this host

  • @iConquis4Christ
    @iConquis4Christ Рік тому +1

    To be frank, these are the men society needs. Honest, sincere, admittedly flawed, forever growing. God bless them.

  • @suzannemarie86
    @suzannemarie86 6 років тому +10

    These poor men. They both seem like good guys - it is sad to see the negative impacts of absent fathers, and reiterates the importance of strong fathers in a son's (and daughter's) life.

  • @MeadeSkeltonMusic
    @MeadeSkeltonMusic 6 років тому +20

    This notion that one must leave home once they turn 18 or 21, etc is a very secular one. In the Bible there is nothing that tells us we must leave our home. In fact, most stayed with their parents and extended families.

    • @usa4287
      @usa4287 6 років тому +2

      Meade Music
      The Bible says a man must leave his mother and father and cling to his wife. Matthew 19:5.

    • @dialac1
      @dialac1 3 роки тому

      Leaving home and my country alone at 18 is the best thing I ever did in my life.

  • @henrywade912
    @henrywade912 5 років тому +4

    Thank you to the guests for their honesty.

  • @couragecoachsam
    @couragecoachsam 5 років тому +1

    This was so real. Men can speak to each other in ways lots of women struggle to understand. It’s not toxic masculinity. It’s the feminine not understanding the masculine.

  • @Mikey22LR
    @Mikey22LR 6 років тому +9

    Great episode. I wish it was longer or hopefully a part 2. :)

  • @joevasquez1776
    @joevasquez1776 6 років тому +6

    These guys will do well to evaluate their reality as I did . If everything about not doing so, is self destructive. Talking like this with our youth is healthy. Good job 👏 men help each other out.

  • @jordanturner7917
    @jordanturner7917 4 роки тому +1

    Jesse is so cool. He gives off a very unassuming impression but he is sharp as can be. Joel is now Jesse's main man on the Jesse Peterson Show.

  • @TazHall
    @TazHall 6 років тому +3

    There's a latent sadness in the eyes of these two young men... Love their candor, God bless them. We need mom and dad who love and respect each other. A father who is decisive, head and protector. A mom who is supportive, caring and loving. God can restore...he is teaching me about womanhood.

  • @Joshua-rc3zk
    @Joshua-rc3zk Рік тому +1

    Hey Jesse, I love your videos. I hit the like button before I watch and listen just know ahead of time it's going to be epic.

  • @travisanthony9093
    @travisanthony9093 5 років тому +2

    Boys need fathers , fathers are supposed to toughen up thier sons and daughters , im so thankfull that my dad was a badass , and taught me to stand up for myself and others, when & when not to fight, what loyalty is , to be mentally tough because it makes you physically strong , what hard work is .

  • @gor818
    @gor818 4 роки тому +1

    I love Joel and Jesse. Joel is so honest man, I really respect that. And jesse’s doing such great work. Like another type of Jordan Peterson , helping save men.

  • @joshuawells1808
    @joshuawells1808 4 місяці тому +1

    Man, I appreciate this video! I’m 37 and I’m much better than I used to be. But I can relate to Joel, I appreciate the honesty, and transparency. That took some guts!

  • @txt_luke1817
    @txt_luke1817 5 років тому +7

    the destruction of masculinity is depressing

  • @keepidahogreat5687
    @keepidahogreat5687 3 роки тому +1

    These men are on the first step for change. They are going to become strong.

  • @KANSASIOUX
    @KANSASIOUX 5 років тому

    A lot of broken homes create resentment. Your words on forgiveness is what the world needs. Men all over need to rise to the occasion and be a man, father, uncle, friend, helping hand.

  • @TheLeon1032
    @TheLeon1032 5 років тому +3

    2 gents here showing us the way, be honest with yourself, as soon as you do that you realise theres nothing to be scared of and it gets quite comical as you let go of your emotions and see how ridiculous and feminine we have been! thanks guys!!

  • @Zaycream21
    @Zaycream21 5 років тому

    I really appreciate this episode. I am thankful for this kind of work!! Even though I don't always fully agree with Jesse, he is definitely on to something major!!

  • @adriandelima3749
    @adriandelima3749 6 років тому +1

    Watching these videos has really opened my eyes up. I grew up with a father, and mother. my father was always hard on me, and I always said he was not that great of a dad, there was times he was good, but when I got older I found him to be very judgmental, and demanding. now seeing these 2 guys grow up without a farther and how they feel makes me really look at myself and my life and the fact that I had a father even though he was not the best, made me strive to be better, and do something with my life. I do see this world is full of boys, and not men. men are hard to come by. In my eyes a man is someone who provides for his family, he is the rock of the family. when times are hard he is the one that steps up to the plate. small things or issues are not suppose to rattle you, or get you down. a men tackles his problems and gets them resolved. There is a lot of problems in this world with kids growing up and the parents they have in their life. we have broken adults having kids, and then their kids grow up even more broken than them. Or if your lucky their child grows up with some good role model in their life, and makes the needed changes in their life.

  • @tobyfitzpatrick565
    @tobyfitzpatrick565 6 років тому +1

    This was so deep and enlightening. So glad I saw this.

  • @inebrihated13
    @inebrihated13 6 років тому +1

    This was so cool. So informative. Thank you.

  • @samymulu7110
    @samymulu7110 5 років тому +2

    Guys, I really appreciate your honesty!!

  • @DerekDutton99
    @DerekDutton99 4 роки тому

    I finally learned from a spiritual perspective of how to become a man. Yes I am a believer. And it’s amazing how he mention that we will have to first know that we are not a man and we will need to forgive. I felt i unforgiveness towards my Dad and my mom as I watched this video but I now know that my heavenly would soon fully change me. Thankyou.

  • @b.w.8104
    @b.w.8104 6 років тому +8

    A Man
    Should take care of himself first and foremost, then his partnership, his family next and then his community.

  • @ChowFun1979
    @ChowFun1979 6 років тому +4

    God Bless you Jesse and all the things that you do....

  • @smurfylee
    @smurfylee 6 років тому

    What a great video, i chuckled throughout with it. These men are on the path to manhood, praise God for Jesse being the vessel for change.

  • @unknown674
    @unknown674 6 років тому +6

    Dang I'm an older side of millennial. I feel like I dodged a bullet or something. I would point these guys to Jordan Peterson to learn some things. I'm hardcore atheist so I don't buy the whole God thing, but he's spot on with adversity. Adversity makes people grow. Almost all the problems I see people have is because they give up when presented with adversity. God or no God this is a universal truth.
    Regardless of the religious stuff. What this guy is doing is a good thing. Like I've always said. Christian religion tends to have great morals and you don't ignore great information regardless of whether you agree with whole thing or not. You take the best of every source of information to use.
    My persona adventure:
    I paid my own way through college. I moved out as soon as I could too. I remember my mother asking me to go to college at home, lol. I was like no way I'm out. Father didn't say anything except good luck and pick a profession you enjoy doing. Packed my stuff in trash bag in an hour and left two weeks prior to enrollment in community college then transferred to main university. I got pell grant and Stafford loans to pay for school. Came out 20k in debt. Rented a room in a trailer for 150 a month.
    Paid off loan in 2 years, been promoted 5 times in 8 years at my company. Graduated during 2010, so job market was rough. I took a low skill position and demonstrated my extra skills in that job and gained responsibility. Been gaining ever since.

    • @TazHall
      @TazHall 6 років тому

      Good stuff!

    • @unknown674
      @unknown674 6 років тому

      Thanks, this just make me appreciate my parents even more. I feel lucky or blessed whichever you trend towards. Made me think back on things my father taught me. Like hunting and not shooting anything you won't eat. Trust me, he kept his word on that when I was really little with a pellet gun lol.

    • @Tism11
      @Tism11 4 роки тому

      @Rap Lawyer ....and then who created god?

  • @bandidobandicoot7496
    @bandidobandicoot7496 2 роки тому

    Great and revealing discussion. I can relate and am learning on so many levels. Thank you, Jesse…

  • @cinemabluepro
    @cinemabluepro 5 років тому +3

    When I watch these two guys all I want is to hug them. What a two wonderful human beings. Unfortunately they grow-up in a broken family and at this point it's no body's fault. I'm sure there mothers did what they could to give them a good life. If only they could find the couse of the problem and put a plan to change it. I know it takes a lot of thinking and strength, but all you need is to be aware of who you are and what do you want for your self. I'm sure you guys are gonna be fine. And we need more conversations like this, Thank you Jesse!

  • @bellabiesel442
    @bellabiesel442 6 років тому +5

    Looking into this young man’s eyes breaks me.

  • @cogen651
    @cogen651 5 років тому +6

    "Do you feel soft and tender" lol

  • @karenmaher2092
    @karenmaher2092 Рік тому +1

    This breaks my heart when wonderful young men feel this way about themselves.

  • @franciemacleod
    @franciemacleod 3 роки тому

    Thank you Jessie. I've never heard anything like this and it's very humbling.

  • @alexanderadams9008
    @alexanderadams9008 5 років тому

    I agree with like 30% of what Jesse says it he is just so damn entertaining, I love how he gets the last word in and then changes the topic, asks another question lol.. brilliant!

  • @philipwankier9179
    @philipwankier9179 10 місяців тому

    Im just barely watching this but these are some deep feelings theyre sharing here. I cant imagine theyre easy to talk about. Good for them to be able to share them.

  • @johndettra8958
    @johndettra8958 5 років тому +2

    Amazing, I'm raised by both parents. I've seen do much bullshit like this. Young men so confused about everything. I had gym teachers that were tough former marines that had us running outside in 38 degrees early in the morning, in first period gym class. I just took this for granted. I felt good the rest of the day. I always knew I was a man. I had no question. At age 18.

  • @rahsadeen4571
    @rahsadeen4571 2 роки тому

    Ok, Jesse. After now from watching about 15 give or take videos from you, dayum! I see what you're doing.

  • @JeriDro
    @JeriDro 4 роки тому

    thanks guys for talking about this. really appreciate it

  • @getfitwithamb7239
    @getfitwithamb7239 3 роки тому +1

    They both are honest, and will find their way as men.

  • @optimaloptimus7779
    @optimaloptimus7779 6 років тому +1

    Mr. Preston, I can only this... you, my friend, are grade #A1. Keep up the good work sir and please stand with me in agreement as I ask the Lord Jesus Christ to continue to bless and expand this ministry that you have undertaken, which is of vital importance to our culture and Society as a whole.

  • @amoses585
    @amoses585 5 років тому

    It's only been in the last 2 years where I've been able to express more of my inner feelings to my dad. But I admit, I still need help in just being able to be open with him. And being able to let this fear go. To finally be able to close the past and make the best of things before dad gets too old.

  • @77reyles
    @77reyles 5 років тому +1

    The BEST ADVICE for these young Men would be to read..WILD AT HEART , and learn about the 3 Desires in a Mans Heart..and thenlearn the 6 Stages He Must go threw!!!! It changed my life at around the age of 21

  • @isracarrillo2294
    @isracarrillo2294 4 роки тому

    Jesse is the man!!! Your videos are helping me!!

  • @chrisbenson3374
    @chrisbenson3374 4 роки тому +1

    Being a man is killing me.
    Women want a real man but once you act like a real man and tell them you don’t want to be manipulated and disrespected they think your an awful person who just wants to start arguments all the time but in reality you just don’t want to tell them they’re right all the time.
    Most of the time they’re the aggressors that start these arguments.

  • @palefeathervaldez3563
    @palefeathervaldez3563 6 років тому

    Wish these guys all the best in life, they seem genuine...

  • @terrybear5398
    @terrybear5398 6 років тому +2

    Two very nice, good young men.

  • @davidpetsick6667
    @davidpetsick6667 5 років тому

    God bless Jesse Lee Peterson and these two young men.

  • @Asher17
    @Asher17 6 років тому +2

    When Jesse asked "what is a man?" all i wanted was one of them to knock over their chair and say "A miserable pile of secrets! But enough talk! Have at you!""

  • @MrAnsweres
    @MrAnsweres 6 років тому +2

    What a great video.

  • @Thekoryostribalpodcast
    @Thekoryostribalpodcast 5 років тому

    I came from the same thing. A fatherless home. But my views are different. I'm still masculine, strong, supportive of my kids, visciously protective. Quiet and I am caring for my kids, and I do nurture in a manly way. I show my kids love as much as possible. And raise them to be strong.

  • @anthonyblow100
    @anthonyblow100 6 років тому

    One of the best ones - raw and real

  • @joannebailey8277
    @joannebailey8277 6 років тому

    what a great interview.

  • @elgalloblanco
    @elgalloblanco 6 років тому +3

    JLP is funny man. The way he says, "wow, that's amazing" cracks me up.

    • @N00019
      @N00019 4 роки тому

      He's a fucking idiot.

  • @ThermicLight
    @ThermicLight 6 років тому +12

    If a man can't tell his woman his problems then what good is a woman to have? That's the whole point of a partnership. To maintain each other. Whether either needs strengths or help during any time of their life. That either a man or woman can feel down during sometime during their life and it's your partners role or yourself to prop each other up.

    • @savagematti777
      @savagematti777 6 років тому +9

      Thermic Light partnership? That’s for homosexuals and feminist. A man is in lead and the woman follows. A woman can never trust a man who tells her his problems. How can she expect this man to lead when he is crying?

    • @thereisnopandemic
      @thereisnopandemic 6 років тому +8

      Thermic Light Women are there to cook, clean, raise your sons, and sex. You have a problem you talk to an older wiser man.

    • @StephenRahrig
      @StephenRahrig 6 років тому +4

      Thermic Light
      Dude, you are 100% the problem if you think this way. We don’t marry “partners” or “ best friends”. Your actual best friend should be the dude who you talk about your wife problems with 👌🏼

    • @heidib.4089
      @heidib.4089 6 років тому +4

      I agree - I think that you mean from a confident masculine place. The young men are coming from a place of “feminine perspective and sharing” - the way my husband shares things is from a masculine way and different from the way I share things. He’s not asking for me to “fix” it but honoring me with confiding with me.

    • @marathonog813
      @marathonog813 6 років тому +1

      M That's the dumbest shit ive read...A man is the lead but a strong woman will pick you up if necessary. If I wanted a bitch to tuck her tail and just follow me around il get a dog.

  • @brapandstustustu5300
    @brapandstustustu5300 6 років тому +7

    That's amazing.

  • @tpcjames111
    @tpcjames111 6 років тому

    This was a good one.

  • @codygeer7096
    @codygeer7096 6 років тому

    I respect these guys for being so honest and humble. That is part of being a man. They are almost there. Get some more confidence and these guys will be respectable people in the community. Keep it up!

  • @atheistgunslinger
    @atheistgunslinger 6 років тому +1

    This helped, thanks Jessie your the bomb.

  • @CRAIGTEMPLATEXCHRIST
    @CRAIGTEMPLATEXCHRIST 10 місяців тому

    Jesse - could we have an update interview with these guys please? There’s so many people you’ve interviewed that I’d love to hear from again and see where their lives are now

  • @LiamGillett
    @LiamGillett Рік тому

    Awesome video , what was the name of the song in the end of the video. That sounded nice