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I love the way you are dressing now. I love, absolutely love watching the transformation The Lord is doing in your life. 🙏🏽❤️ So many young ladies are getting a great example.
Amen!!!
Oh my, Milena! As a teenager, this is something the Lord has really been putting on my heart lately, and I was so happy when I saw this!!
Yes! Please be an example to other young women. I have teens and it is hard to find tops that don’t show the belly. I’m constantly holding up shirts and asking where the rest of it is.
@@lc8119I like how she mentioned wearing a tank top under crop top shirts. Super cute AND modest.
I loveeee that you’re saying what everyone is too scared to say in today’s world. You’re an incredible example for women who follow Christ! ❤️
If a man stops going to church because he cannot control himself he needs therapy… not for women to dress differently. And that’s coming from a person who naturally leans “modest.”
Also… if you’re married… your husband should decide what you wear?? Why??
I’m sorry, I don’t mean to come off rude, but some of the reasons behind this are concerning to me. I just don’t get it.
Yes, im a Christian woman and wife of 25 years , I understand pleasing your husband but, I also believe I am a separate human who has a relationship with God and I also do dress for myself.
Yes, im a Christian woman and wife of 25 years , I understand pleasing your husband but, I also believe I am a separate human who has a relationship with God and I also do dress for myself.
I do think if someone needs help they better seek for it. But church is meant to be a holy ground to where men and women could come to worship and recharge. But I when you come and find the same thing than out there it makes it hard.
Also one of the girls in my class mentioned that at church she hopes to feel in sisterhood but when another young lady starts dressing provocative then she just feels like a harder battle.
I hope I do not sound rude 😅
If the church taught what the scriptures teach , women would know how to dress in the church
I think dresses and skirts may be practical for you to wear on a daily basis, but they really aren’t for me in my job and home life. Is there no way for me to be feminine because I prefer jeans? I don’t think it’s right to assert that if a guy can wear something (like jeans) you shouldn’t be. Sounds very legalistic to me. I totally agree with the modesty part, and the questioning your heart and motives. I appreciate your message on that, but it seems your implying that dresses and skirts are the only way to look feminine and be modest and that’s not true at all. Maybe you just meant that for you that was the case🤷♀️ but I definitely know it’s not that way for every woman and we shouldn’t box each other in with our own convictions. The Bible commands us to be modest and appropriate, but no where does it have a list of clothing you should and shouldn’t wear💕
Agree wholeheartedly with you 💖
I agree. A woman can still dress modest and look good/have clothing on that flatters their body type.
I couldn’t have said it better ❤ Amen
Hi. I read your comment and would like to offer a response. Not sure if Milena will answer or not.
First, I believe Milena is not telling anyone how to dress or to place her convictions on others. I know it can be exhausting to keep giving disclaimers like “this is my conviction, I’m not telling you to you have to dress/think like me”. 😊
Secondly, when we read the Bible we have to remember that the Bible was originally written in Greek, Hebrew, and Aramaic. That being said, we have to look at what the original text meant. “Modest Apparel” mentioned in 1 Timothy 2:9-10 (KJV) means Kosmisos Katastola in Greek. which means “long flowing garment”. Back then they all knew what Kosmisos Katastola meant and followed that teaching. It’s our modern society that has changed the definition of “modest apparel”. We cannot take scriptures and filter it through our own will/lifestyle. We have to take the scriptures and apply how it was intended. I hope this helps. I will he happy to answer any more questions. 😊 God bless.
I was contemplating this as well. I mean, there is Deuteronomy 22:5 that discourages men and women both from dressing as the opposite gender. But what is feminine is a very broad arena. What I get here is search your heart, and find what the Lord is asking to do. Then, do it. It is easy to become defensive of the way I dress, for example, but when I pause and really ask the Lord what to do, he softens my heart. For me, the more convicting aspect she spoke about is dressing in a way that makes my husband happy. Not in a weird way, but because I genuinely love him and want to make him happy/proud of us. So, if he doesn't mind jeans, or if he does - is a very relationship specific nuance. And, I think the conversation can equally go the opposite way - my husband wants to dress / present himself in a way that I appreciate for the same reasons. Submission and headship can be graceful and beautiful when it is handled between two respectful, willing partners.
Looking for clarification…
We should ask our husbands what he likes on our body but we shouldn’t wear clothes that we like on our body?
I was confused on that part.
the question is, who are you serving? your own flesh or your husband and the Lord? -I think that clarifies it.
@@anastasija9486 but its not for your husband nor the lord its your own if you like something on your body makes you feel good wear it
No I don’t think that’s what she meant. To me it feel more like a win win situation. Kind of like i’m taking into account what he likes and what I like. And I thought she was saying he liked when she dresses girly and it wasn’t necessarily her favorite back then but now she loves it. Still serving him in the way you dress by catering to the colors or styles he likes but in versions you like. So if he likes when you wear flowers finding a floral top/dress you love and then can wear so you both are excited about your clothes. You because the top is cute and your husband because he feels love (even if he doesn’t know it) because you heard him and showed him that you heard him and care about what he likes.
Do everything for the glory of God
Our body is not our own, our life is not our own. We must do everything unto the Lord. Our body is a temple of the Holy Spirit. We must respect Him in all our ways, and that means to respect our bodies. We must ask if we're wearing stuff that makes us look good for our own self esteem, that is all about us, our image, our wanting to look good to feel good about ourselves.
When we know that we're Gods, we don't have to wear anything to make us feel "better" about ourselves. We already love how God has made us! We can wear beautiful clothes that cover us, don't show us off, are comfortable and feel amazing about it all at the same time :)
Milena, I just have to say, THANK YOU! I never leave comments but I just really felt the need to encourage you as you press in to the Lord’s leading in the content you are producing. I have been so beautifully convicted and encouraged in my walk as a wife and mother and follower of Christ. Please continue!!
Epic!!❤
I love that you feel good about the clothes you are wearing and feel a break from the bondage that it was holding on you! I do think it is important to note that dressing modestly and being free from clothing bondage does not mean you have to dress in girly florals and dresses all the time. Femininity looks different for each woman, and I do think that wearing a button up or oversized blazer etc is fine. You said to dress modestly and avoid tight clothing, but then said not to wear baggy clothing like the oversized button ups or blazers? I often find those are helpful to hide my feminine shape a bit in outfits that may show my figure more esp since modest clothing can be a little more limited in options for myself. I think your style/ your husbands personal style for you may be those cute girly florals but I don’t see a need to generalize it to every women unless there is some scripture I missed that outlines a women needing to dress this way!
Also, about the point you made of not dressing for yourself at all, I find it interesting that the clothes you wear are mostly likely clothes you like still. I think inevitably we will wear clothes that we find cute because we need to wear something and are going to gravitate buying clothes that are our style. Just want to remind you that your personal preferences are not necessarily needed to be generalized to all women. But love your journey close to God and your heart to glorify him in your every choice!
This 👏🏻
I was trying to find the words but you stated this so perfectly. Modesty is unfortunately not something that the Bible has black and white dos and don’ts. Modesty is above all else, a posture of your heart. I grew up in a very strict denomination that was actually recognized by the FBI at one point for being a cult. One of the biggest parts of that group was how the women were told to dress. They all dressed “modestly” but their hearts were still hateful and unkind. I love this journey that you have been on Milena but so important to remember that Modesty starts in the heart and works it’s way out. This will look differently for every women and THATS OK!
Thank you for sharing a different perspective ❤
Sooo true!!
Can’t agree more! Thank you for saying what I was thinking in a very kind and polite way. We love you Mi, but I thing is fair to mention this. 🤍
Perfectly said
You are simply a delight!🥰🥰🥰 Your joy is contagious! So thankful for your ministry! I leave your videos both convicted and inspired every single time!🙌🏾
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Love this video. Just a heads up about eliminating more clothes just to get the # of dresses down. Since you have small children and cook, clean, etc in your dresses, having a lot is not a bad thing bc inevitably some will get stained.
I love the way God has been working through you lately 👏🏻 it’s been about a year and a half since my femininity and modesty journey started, and it’s truly amazing how much it shifted for me. I adopted a dress only wardrobe because I realized I prefer dresses over skirts and blouses. It felt so good to get rid of everything else - never thought I’d stop wearing jeans but one day, they just felt wrong 😂 now I have a very specific style when it comes to dresses I like, and the same with colour palette. And it makes getting ready so easy. I’ve found I get complimented more as soon as I started wearing modest dresses, mostly by older women and it’s been so sweet.
I am so proud of you!!! You are such a light to young women!!! Telling the truth and living it! Thank you for being a light on the internet people need it!
This was an interesting perspective for me to hear. Wearing clothing that I feel expresses my unique style is something that really lights me up. I feel lucky that my husband could not care less what I choose to wear lol
Its a bit worrying if my husband didnt care at all… no offence just in general
@@busrayalavac I don’t take offense at all! he sees my beauty shine through brightest when I am free to express my authenticity. All this to say I’m not someone who dresses particularly scandalously. I think if I tried to leave the house in a swimsuit in December he would be concerned. When I say he doesn’t care I think my point is that he trusts me to make dressing decisions on my own accord without needing to involve himself, if that makes any sense
I literally thanked God the other day for YOU in my prayers, Milena. A part of me feels like a weirdo for saying that😂 but the amount of times you have opened my eyes is astounding!! God always sends me to you when He knows I need it. I am currently on this new journey of submission & modesty, & stepping into my role as a Daughter of God outside of being a mother. (Loved your chat on idolizing your children in your last video, it really hit home & helped me so much!!)
What a wonderfully needed reply, bless you, sister for that heartfelt advice!😊
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Milena,
The fire that you have in your soul for the Lord is so inspiring and truly contagious. Jesus shines through you. Each video you bring Jesus' perfect love. I absolutely love your dresses! Wishing you a blessed day and weekend. ❤
I would love to see how you style your dresses for the winter.
I LOVE THIS MILENA!! I love seeing people growing in their walk with God, not just based off of what others believe but grasping the true word of God! I changed my wardrobe 4 years ago and it has been the best decision. I too have noticed people are more nicer and more approaching why because we look Holy, people see Christ shine! I'm going to be praying for you Milena through this journey!
As a 'young' muslim married woman everything this video is just spot on sis. I've always found my traditional Christian friends lifestyles were always very similar to my own. love your videos 💛
I started my slow fashion journey a few years ago after learning to sew. I didn’t know how hard sewing was and learning made me dig into the fashion industry. I now shop the way you described-slowly and with intention. Natural materials like cotton, linen, and wool are so much healthier and they hold up for so much longer!
You just inspired me to donate SO many old dresses that don’t fit my lifestyle anymore as a mom
A man who can't go to church for fear of being tempted by cleavage is a man who will find any way to sexualize a woman's body. There is grave danger in women taking responsibility and blame for this type of behavior. Please please please be weary of introducing that type of idea to the conversation... it gets way way way too close to "she was asking for it" type arguments.
This!! 🙏🏻
Yes, thank you! It's not all about the woman.
Yes!!
Yes! I don’t hear her talking about wearing beautiful/expensive things to church and causing coveting in other women… it’s one thing to be mindful of others. Doesn’t mean we need to take on their sins for everything.
Absolutely
I am a 38 year old woman and I just got te know our Lord and Savior 3 years ago. I am learning so much from you, thank you!
I absolutely look up to you Melana! You’re such a beautiful godly women and I’m so thankful for you god really uses you to speak to me ❤
Why do you wear a dress??? Cuz it’s flattering on your body …. Don’t understand your reasoning
Wearing something that flatters your body is different than wearing something that calls attention to your body and is “sexy”. You can be modest and still wear clothes that show your feminine shape but the problem lies in taking it too far and really showing off your whole body to the world. I hope that makes sense. I believe that is what Milena is trying to convey.
Hi Milena,
I think the message of glorifying the Lord in all you do, both in word and action, is beautiful and powerful. It is important as Christians that we don't just talk the talk but walk the walk. I appreciate what you said about this, so thank you.
I do just want to offer additional perspective on a couple of the anecdotes you shared regarding modest dress.
When you said that you have heard directly from your brothers in Christ that they can't go to church anymore because they are too tempted, this makes my heart extremely sad. I agree that it is disrespectful to be showing your entire chest like you said; however, I do question the effort on the man's part to remedy their experience, as church's main focal point is Christ and worshiping Him. I find it hard to believe that they cannot enter their church anymore because they are too tempted by what women are wearing there. I just feel that there are perhaps other layers to that particular situation, and as you also said in your video, we all need to take responsibility for our actions. I will pray that these men might find a community in which they can be called onto holiness, but I don't feel that they no longer can attend church due to the way women are dressing.
Also, in regards to what you've heard about women being nicer to women who dress more modestly, I would just counter that we all are called to be kind to one another, no matter how someone is dressed. I understand that someone who is dressed immodestly might come across as more intimidating, as you said, and this may lead to comparison. However, Jesus dined with, healed, and conversed with those who were considered intimidating and immodest in his society, and we are called to meet Christ in the other person, regardless of how they are dressed. First impressions are powerful, 100%; however, we are not called to look on the outside, rather at the heart, and I think that disregarding or immediately judging or labeling someone as intimidating because of how they are dressed is not fully seeing them as Christ calls us.
By no means am I trying to twist your words, so I hope that I understood what you shared correctly. Just wanted to offer an additional perspective.
God bless you and your family 💛
my husband experienced being set free by the Lord. He practiced a clothing fast where he wore only a few outfits for 40 days that he didn’t normally wear and the Lord showed him that it’s okay to dress in the colorful way that he liked. And that it was okay to enjoy fashion and it wasn’t dishonoring to God. I also would warn you against “sprinkling conviction” as that’s the Holy Spirit’s job and not ours as believers. Be blessed.
Thank you so much for your modesty and teaching us❤
I was always so confused when Christian influencers would dress inappropriately and would post their booty workouts from behind, etc…. I could never understand it.
I admire your walk with the Lord, God bless you ❤
I really love that you brought up how dressing modestly to not cause a brother to stumble pisses off some women. The fact that they get pissed off, also pisses me off LOL Because the world has twisted our minds into thinking that dressing provocatively is okay and shows female empowerment, and that men need to control themselves. Trust me I agree that they absolutely do, but I think the women is at fault too. I know people hate the phrase "she's asking for attention" but to me It kinda feels true??? We all need to look into what our heart posture is when we put on something that does not glorify the lord and might tempt other men.
To every girl out there: it is NOT your responsibility if a man is being tempted looking at you. They need to check themselves, not the other way around.
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Right and she said that, but i think the bigger picture here. There are people who dress a certain way, and if you really look at it, why are they dressing that way? Whay kind of attention are they trying to bring. We all know everyone is responsible for their own actions, but by dressing a certain way are we glorifiing God? Why do strippers dress the way they dress? How come they never have all their clothes on, what message is being sent? I mean that doesn't make us less responsible for how we choose to dress.
YES YES YES.
Right but women shouldn’t tempt men and dress provocative.
The Bible literally says do not be a stumbling block to your brother in Christ. So we are held responsible to an extent.
you are SO helpful to me!!!! NO one talks about what you talk about, TRULY. Thank you for convicting me and blessing me. Truly appreciate what the Lord has worked into you. You are such a blessing to us women. Love you so much. Stay blessed sister 💛
I want to resonate with everything you said, but it’s just so hard for me to accept that wearing dresses and skirts is the only way to look feminine. I have a ton of different ones for church but on a weekly basis, I find them so many of them impractical and I dread wearing them unless it’s for a nicer event where I’m expected to. Growing up and now I do lots of manual, physical labor outside and never wore dresses on typical days because they got in the way and would get super dirty. So that means I can’t be feminine? It’s hard because it seems that so many women equate anything other than dresses and skirts with being masculine and not as God honoring - even if the outfit is modest and girly.
Totally get that and I agree! I am naturally curvy and wear scrubs in the hospital as well as doing manual labor on the side, so dresses arent a go to for me - and the amount of Christian women that come to condemn me and/or say that im not "feminine enough" is wild
Same!
It’s funny how worldly dressing is seen as cultural but dressing in feminine dresses and skirts isn’t lol? Let’s be honest, they’re both cultural dressing, just two different cultures. Both views are a little too fixated on clothing in general for my tastes. I find preoccupations with the way we dress to be a problem in and of itself.
@@skyelynnae But even scrubs...they are an example of modernity & masculinity. Women ALWAYS wore dress uniforms as nurses, even up until the 70s. So scrubs are not really a valid excuse. My great grandmother, grandmother, & aunts all performed their nursing duties wearing not only a dress & nylons, but also a hat at all times. My great aunt was a nun, working with the leper colony in Hawaii & performed all nursing duties wearing a floor length dress & a full habit on her head until the late 80s.
Hi, I'm 9 min in and I just wanna say so kindly that I'm not trying to be rude or anything to you or anyone who are similar in your modesty journey. Also, I must say some of the things you're saying in the video I used to say. And that i come from someone who struggled with lustful thoughts as a woman towards men and women. I feel like there are many contradictions to what people say including myself, when they say things like, "I shouldn't wear this if I like how it looks on me." But on the flip side we don't want to look like a sac of potatoes. I'm really confused like I get it because I'm getting older and usually when we get older (24) our wardrobe really changes but I pose a question. Why is it when men wear tight clothes such as shirts, jeans, or shorts it's normal, but when a woman does it's immodest or causing others to stumble? Or if women wear skinny jeans or anything tight it's harlotry, but when a man does it's feminine or in other words fruity. No, I'm not saying wear whatever, but I'm genuinely confused and I hope you know that I'm not trying to bash you because I think that it's really cool to bring us on your journey, but I'm giving food for thought. Also, what about swim suits? I hope you and everyone reading this will understand. Blessings!
I have the same thoughts!
I hear what you’re saying. I’m watching this as someone who dresses “immodestly”. However, I think we women we need to be aware of the fact that we have bodies that people are going to want to look at, just naturally. It’s just a fact! Men as well. If a man is dressing in a tight shirt and stuff naturally you may look over and look.
The issue with what you are saying here is you are filtering your thoughts through a culture lense, meaning what culture tells you is ok and what is not. I think the goal for us all as Christians is to filter our thoughts through Gods lense.
After watching this video I’m not going to be purging my closet, but I will be thinking more about what I wear, not for the satisfaction of others but for the Lord. I encourage you to think about it as well! Speak to the Lord about it even if it bothers you, bc honestly I’m bothered by this video!! But I know it’s because I’m convicted inside. Think about it! ❤
I’m catholic and a quote that really helped me was “a bare breasted woman is modest within the context of her culture” you can check out ascension presents,Jackie Angel has the best approach on modesty imo. I get what content creators like Milena are saying but I do disagree with her on such topics. You can look up Jackie and hopefully that helps,all the best . Many blessings to you😊
what's wrong with taters? they ain't done nothing to you. 😂 modesty protects everybody. self. audience. and a marriage. modesty rocks.❤🎉
I’ve heard men talk about modesty for them also! Men getting rid of skinny jeans and tighter outfits too.
Amen Sister! I am 37 and now figuring out my style and changing my wardrobe to be more feminine and modest. It definitely is the Lord helping my heart, I am so grateful for this journey. Thank you for sharing wisdom on this topic. 💕🙏
I love listening to these modesty testimonies! This past summer Ive really felt the desire to feminize my wardrobe, and hearing you say things like “if a man could wear this, i shouldn’t” is identical to some of the “my clothes are androgynous” epiphanies I’ve had! Thank you for sharing! It wonderful getting confirmation from a fellow sister in Christ that my thinking is in line with the Lord’s desires!
Yesssss, same for me!!! I used to love playing dress up when it was the old me dressing provocatively, and so when I wear winter clothes I love the layers, but now in summer I have no clue, lol so I think I hide behind the casual pants and oversized shirts and just lazy apparel but I know I can get my act together with this change! We all can have fun with it and show up for our husbands and show out for God's glory!😊❤
**no offense meant at all for single sisters!
I haaaaate polyester! I never buy it anymore, it’s terrible and it looks cheap! Love that you’re embracing your femininity and all the wisdom and knowledge you shed on us!
I love your style and how cute u dress while also being modest. U are an inspiration and I have loved seeing the journey from your older videos to now. It’s so encouraging I my walk with Christ. I struggle with this as well and this has shed some light on things I had been feeling. thanks for sharing!!
I love watching the raw transformation you’ve had. I’ve never had a sister, but content creators like you are ones that I view almost like a sister. Of course besides being a sister in Christ. But being able to get on your channel and with such care and kindness watch how you have grown in your walk with God. You set an example with so much love and patience with us. I remember watching a video of yours when I was 17 before I became Christian. All glory to God here I am now 23 and saved by Christ. I have the privilege to be able to watch and learn from someone like you. ❤️
My question is, if you like clothes because it makes you feel nice what about make up? Or wha my about dressing modestly that also makes you feel nice ? I’m not understanding
She was talking specifically about feeling sexy. Feeling beautiful isn't wrong, but the way you go about it/ whether it honors the Lord is what's important. We wear clothes to cover ourselves not accentuate our body even though that is how our society tells us to dress.
It takes a lot of prayer and reading the word to change our ways.
Same. I do my hair cuz it makes me feel pretty and put together. But my clothes also make me feel that way. So not sure what the difference is. Or why it’s a problem to want to feel nice.
I do think it is a society thing and there is a line. But right now I view it as taking care of myself so idk.
Same I like wearing hoodies cause they are comfy :(
@@laney7776It isn’t a problem at all! There’s nothing wrong with wearing clothes that make you feel confident and beautiful.
I dont understand the reasoning behind "if a man can wear that, I shouldn't." why? its the opposite of dressing for your body lol.
Truth be told I feel so weird about the fact that when Christian women start dressing modestly, they start looking like 'Little House in the Prairie' wearing potato sack lookalikes. I don't want to look like that! 😅 Why is it bad if I want to wear dresses and skirts and pants that are form fitting - that's feminine, too. Women are still kind to me, my husband enjoys how I look like and I enjoy my clothes as well. 🤷
Word!
It’s funny how dif we all are. I love her wardrobe I just think it looks so classy and feminine and I want to start dressing similar but you should absolutely wear what you feel comfortable in and like. As long as you’re not dressing in a tempting manor there’s nothing wrong with it imo
If your eye causes you to sin-cut it out… -Jesus
It is a CHOICE to sexualize women in church. Women should be able to wear what they want and not be sexualized in church. They deserve their safe space. If I knew my husband was having problems over other women, I would question our relationship NOT the woman. Also, studies have proved women are MORE sexual and it is a lie that men have this lust problem…
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Feminism is forever trying to remove the burden of responsibility on women in any and all areas. Enough. Both men and women should work together to edify, respect and honor each other.
I just dropped off two bags of clothes at a donation box on my lunch break today & I had the impulse to grab a few items back out...thankful I didn't act on my fleeting feelings. God's been work on my closet with me too. It's been taking me Years to let go of items that I have no business wearing anymore. I use to compete in Ballroom dancing so I had alot of Gody outfits, that's not who I am anymore. It's been quite the process, asking the Good Lord for his strength & endurance & wisdom to live life how he wants me to & not keeping up in the Worldly ways.
Love you Lady ✌️💛
"there's a difference between what he likes for you to wear in the bedroom vs outside" OH WOW thank you so much Milena, I often mix those up 😂😂😂💗
I'm struggling in this dept. Too.
I always feel shame or something uncomfortable when my husband suggests more sexy in the bedroom so I try to accommodate but ughhh the struggle is real about separating those areas.
I dress for myself to make myself feel good. I workout for myself to make myself feel good. When I feel good about myself I can pour love into my husband my kids, and god. Having a relationship with god and honoring our husband isn’t just about the clothes we put on our body. I’m sorry I can still dress “modest” and men who struggle will still have those thoughts they struggle with. Pray for them but don’t change how you dress and who are because of that.
Idk this one is a miss for me.
I understand you! I used to think exactly like you did not too long ago sister ! For some reason now I don’t
& everything I do, wear , say I want to Glorify God through it ! 🙏
You said it yourself “I dress for myself” …when she first started the video she said she realized she was dressing to glorify her body. Instead of dressing to glorify God. We get our strength to pour into our family from the lord. If you think using clothes relates to pouring into your family, I urge you to pray for God alone to sustain you. There are other ways to pour into our husband and kids that don’t involve wearing things to glorify our curves and our body. You are right, men will still lust even if we dress modestly. But we are still called to glorify God despite what man thinks. No one is saying you have to hate your wardrobe, but we are called to glorify the Lord with our bodies and with our wardrobe. Instead of satisfying the flesh.
What makes us feel good isn't always right, we must seek to glorify God. Is my life glorifying God? If i wear really tight leggings and a bra to go to the gym, does that glorify God? I might like to use leggings because they are comfy but i honestly wouldnt go out looking like that because of the attention i may draw and I wouldnt be giving good testimony of Christ. For example, she just used that example about her husband so we can understand that if she is causing her husband to feel that way towards her with the clothes she's wearing then it might not be such a good idea to wear that in public. I myself have been dressing modest for the last 8 years, I'm 27, and by modest I mean wearing dresses, loose fitting clothes (I'llwear pants but make sure theyre loose), not showing my breast or legs and sometimes at home I'll be wearing some cute lingerie or a long tight dress for my hubby but I definitely wouldn't let anyone else see me in a dress like that because only my husband should know what's underneath my clothes. And you are right about it not just being about the clothes we put on our body, it's a process that starts on the inside, your inner "clothes" first and then you will reflect that on the outside, just like Milena, I've seen God's hand in her life because she used to think wayyyy differently and the change started inside out, the same happened to me, I let my flesh and old self die so I can be renewed and I have a new way of viewing things, I no longer seek to feel good with what I like, instead I say, "God, does this glorify you? Do you like that I do this? Or dress like that? Or say this or that?"
I agree. I think honoring and serving your husband is important. However, only dressing for your husband feels so extreme to me.
I love how you’re honoring God and your husband. Focusing on what matters, eternity instead of things that are perishing. So proud of your growth and sharing your heart with us. I can see the growth in Christ. Don’t mind the negative and judgmental comments, as we are always going to face persecution when we put God first.
Love this so much milena. And I know a lot of people don’t get it but I completely do. We’re not dressing for approval of the culture. We’re honoring God with the clothes we choose. Thanks for sharing ♥️
Funny coincidence. I’ve been purging and taking my clothes to donate and recycle, so many big bags full. I’ve probably cleared about 5 big garbage bags and I still have more to go! It feels so good to have less clutter! I love my FAMILY and I love REST. I don’t want to feel weighed down by so much clothes! ❤️
Milena!! Thank you so much for this video-this is truly such a blessing! As a teenage girl who does dress modestly, I was extremely convicted when you asked “Why do you like that piece of clothing?” It made me realise that although I dress modestly, my intention was to wear clothes that I thought were flattering, or would make me feel good about my body-which is not glorifying to the Lord. I definitely will need to be doing a lot of heart searching and praying about this 🤎
I Can see why this would be a conviction for some, but I feel like God is a “one size fits all” type of God. I feel like you can wear whatever you want, God will still welcome you with open arms, no judgement. I feel like if any other men can’t keep their thoughts or eyes to themselves that sounds like a them problem. As long as you feel good about yourself, whether you are wearing more revealing clothes or more modest clothes, God still loves you.
Creepy men have seen me at work in my scrubs and have made disgusting comments, am I supposed to wear a dress to work? Oversized scrubs that fall off? Not very practical for me, but some people would still say it not honoring God with simply my work uniform 😕
This!
God does love all, but has standards.
Just like mums love their children but still have standards of behaviour that is acceptable to display. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean they get free reign to do what only pleases them. God gives clear direction on what he finds acceptable.
First part of 1 Tim 2:9 “ likewise, the women should adorn themselves in appropriate dress, with modesty and soundness of mind.”
i believe in modesty. i enjoy being modest and not dressing in a revealing manner. however, i don’t like the idea of just wearing things that makes your husband “happy”. i love oversized blazers + t-shirts. rather or not someone else enjoys that look is not something i really care about because i enjoy it . i’m allowed to enjoy my appearance and what i wear
You will understand when you are married
@@Sophiasisiyou are not meant to be your husbands source of happiness
I've been so encouraged by watching you go through this process!! It's encouraging to see that it is step by step thing and not instantaneous. Although I've dressed modestly most of my life, I have loved your perspective on picking pieces that will last and of good quality and that you can use in various outfits. I'd personally love to see updated Amazon storefronts or other stores with links to dresses and skirts and outfits that are quality and modest options since I have a hard time finding ones that especially are more budget friendly (: soooo thankful to God for the way He is using you!!!!
I can’t tell you how happy I am to see this video and to see your growth and maturity in the Lord 💜
Why is being modest need to be feminine, why can't you be modest and wear street style or more of a relaxed fit? Asking because of curiosity not for judgment. Can you ever dress for yourself and glorify the Lord? Thx :)
She said she wanted to dress more feminine which wasn’t going to come across as clearly with streetwear 😉. I think that’s just a reference to figuring out her style, not modesty
Yes! You absolutely can! Always remember that things said by Christians online are not gospel. I LOVE Milena and she has been such a blessing in the season I’m in learning to be a wife and mother. But I had to seriously check myself a few weeks ago when I realized that I was just following whatever she did without seeking the lord on how it applies to me first. The things she’s speaking about are so true but applied differently for everyone! Please read the word and talk to a pastor or older mentor in your life if you have specific questions. It’s so important to keep us from blindly following. Trust me, I am speaking to myself. ❤
It’s absolutely possible to be feminine in jeans and T-shirts! Accessories like scarves or jewelry or a cute pair of shoes are great ways to bring casual outfits up a notch.
Just my opinion, but I think dressing modestly is more about how you are treating your body. I think you can wear anything you want, as long as you're not overly sexual, and you are keeping your body clean so that the holy Spirit can reside in you. And I mean like actually clean like, having good hygiene, making sure the clothing we wear is clean and kept up. I love experimenting with different styles, but have also been very strict with "modesty" my whole life. So I definitely wear skinny jeans, and I'll do street style, and I'll do vintage skirts and dresses, I even went through a hipster stage. There's ways to do any style you like in a way that respects the temple that your body is. I get what she's saying, dresses really can help us feel more feminine and focus on the roles we are given as women, but I really don't think you have to dress that way on a daily basis to be a woman of Christ.
I’m also a modest dresser, I’ve always been a floaty, airy, feminine dress kind of gal for about the last 5-6 years. 💕 But- I love fashion in general, it’s such a hobby for me, I don’t feel in bondage to it what so ever though, it’s truly just for fun 🥰 I love analyzing fashion from different decades, for example I love 50s fashion so I like to watch old vintage movies to analyze the different pieces! I’m not obsessed with it in a way that it consumes me or takes away from my relationship from the Lord. But I can see how important it would be to minimize for someone that is in bondage to it! ♥️
Your faith journey has been beautiful to witness. Thank you for welcoming us to be a part of it! ❤
It is wonderful to see your transformation through the years. I discovered you my senior year of university 2018. It was actually your waiting until marriage video that made me decide to also wait until marriage. I’m now a happy 27 year old wife and mama! I feel like I’ve grown up with you!!💗
I do remember some of your outfits from a couple years ago and I did not think they were modest, especially your gym clothes and some of the angles you had your camera in. I am very happy to see your wardrobe transformation!
I did become more modest myself and I can never see myself going back. God is constantly working in all of us 🌷
Hi Milena.. I have been on my modesty journey for a couple of years now, and it’s truly been hard for me, it’s so refreshing to see you are thriving in this journey. I have found I feel more confident when I dress modest. It’s a beautiful feeling. Thank you for sharing… I see a lot of push back but I used to be one of those people who didn’t see anything wrong until years later and now more recently The Lord has showed me my identity in Him 🙏 and I started to feel conviction. In the mornings when I get dressed now I ask my self is God pleased with what I am wearing? And He let’s me know.
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I do understand and share your thinking/heart on convenience, wanting to be modest etc. But, and this is for everyone out there, there are thousands of ways to dress modestly. It doesn't have to look like you live in a farm back in the 60s. Nor does it have to be dresses only to feel feminine. To me it does not seem practical for the four seasons. It s cute in spring/summer time and it s breathable. Not sure it s going to keep you warm in the cooler months. Sometimes a good sweater and a comfy pair of trousers/classic soft jeans is just a simple yet modest feminine option. And I really like to see women put their unique touch to their clothing style...this is feminine to me. You lost a little bit of personality IMHO. Not to be rude, your intentions is to speak truth for sure. I m just not totally convinced by this whole change of yours (not your hearth) as it s something I Ve seen somewhere else already (dresses are in style right now for ex.) and I somehow think you have been influenced once again, even if it s in a positive way. You just change your role models. I think God wants you to be unique and you will get there
Milena, I really see the Holy Spirit working wonders on you and it’s such a joy to witness.
You have really been a role model to me especially as I start my own little family. God bless you, Jordan and the kids ❤
Agreed!!
I'm there. I'm so in this chapter right now! I've been feeling the conviction to downsize and modify my wardrobe yet again. When I was saved in 2019, my very sexy clothes I was all about was one of the first things to go immediately, I was not even hesitant, it's amazing how God works in us if we are truly willing to seek Him and His ways.
So now, I'm ready to dress for my husband and not so casually lazy, if I'm honest, lol but yeah I just am struggling with the getting started part. But this video was definitely a godsend, sister, so thank you!! I have a starting point and I'm confident and it truly sounds fun to go on this journey of creativity. Thank you sooooo much!!!🙌😊💪
Never stop sharing how the Lord is sanctifying you! God is using you in amazing ways and your humility is beautiful!
Milena… this is THE BEST video… this is really the biggest issue among young women and youth today. I can testify that I had been SO brainwashed to believing my worth is external validation. I was convicted praying with God about my husband and how hurt I am when he looks at other women, and then He revealed my heart to me while I was getting dressed how hypocritical I have been and the lack of grace I’ve had towards my husband because when I get dressed, it’s for the world and attention and not the Lord. I can’t show any mid section skin anymore, it feels so wrong. Thank you for this and I pray other women listen!!
On the same journey! It’s been rough, but so encouraging to hear other women my age have this on their heart. I’m in the same place with my jeans on hold too, but I honestly feel so uncomfortable wearing anything other than a dress/skirt at this point. Also I totally have noticed that people in public are kinder now that I wear dresses. It seems people hold doors for me more and offer to help me with groceries to my car. Things of that nature. I think when you show your femininity it makes men around you step up & be more chivalrous.
Please keep being you. And making videos about what you do. You’ve changed my life in such a positive way, and my relationship. Inspired me to honor the Lord truly, with all my heart, and continue to grow in this way. She is my main source of inspo. Thank you, Milena! 💖💖💖 of course, bible first. 💞😊 Love love love!!!
I feel like its great you are finding your path, but I do feel like you are getting to an extreme of "faith" you can dress with a jean and a tshirt and be respectull and loving to the lord, I support each decition but sometimes I do think it can look costume sometimes, not all the time, you can wear things for you, not only you husband but thats my opinon! 💜
All of this! Completely agree.
I feel like we are each in a separate spiritual journey, and the hope spirit speaks to everyone differently. I agree with Milena on this one only because the Holy Spirit has spoken this to my heart as well. It’s not that she’s taking it to an extreme it’s just a conviction she may feel that others don’t.
She is practically thinking through how she can implement honor and respectfulness to the Lord and her lord (husband). It isn’t that you NEED to only wear dresses, but we get to and they are distinct to women in a beautiful way.
It is undeniable that we dress for others, whether to impress people around, to show off ourselves to others, to honor our God or to put ourselves in the position of god and dress to please ourselves. It is always for someone, whether it is apparent to you or not.
My your heart delight in 1 Corinthians 10:31 ❤
You may see it as extreme, but she’s living out her convictions and that’s *honorable*
hi love! i believe faith along with convictions are not a one size fits all situation. it’s completely valid you feel the way you do,but it’s not an “extreme” for her. One individual can become convicted of a specific thing, while another doesn’t feel that over said thing. it doesn’t mean one is correct or more holy than the other. in my opinion it merely means one of them struggled with unclean thoughts or feelings provoked by that specific thing. like she says in this video, certain pieces of clothing caused her to feel very attractive even “ sexy” or lustful while wearing them. she’s decided to solve the problem she won’t be wearing them anymore. Which is a beautiful sentiment! all love, blessings to you 🤍
I LOVE THIS! This is the type of content we need!! To be honest the lord has been putting me through the same journey as you for the last 2 years and slowly I’ve been modifying every aspect about myself and I feel born again truly scales off my eyes
So happy that you’re making these types of videos because it so hard to find other Christian women who do these videos.
A lot of the time I find the “Christian” people I follow to not be on the same journey that I am on.. and just find them not very scriptural or biblical with how they present themselves
Love this and needed this
Keep it up!!
(Im also 26 years old🥺❤️)
I got rid of 90% of mine, my husbands, and our kids wardrobes and it had been a huge blessing. I never realized how much effort was going into picking out what to wear. Now it’s turning into swapping pieces for more modest fits with better quality. It’s a process but is so worth it. ❤
I love everything that you have said in this video! You have been so inspiring and I love that you said modesty is a journey!!
Lots of spiritual growth wow! Iv been praying for 2 years that you would embrace your God given hair , so I love to see it. You are being renewed and sanctified in every way .
I know wayyyy more about fashion than my husband so I’m gonna dress for myself. He likes when I dress for me because he respects me…. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Thank you for being transparent with your fashion journey with the Lord. I resonate with your perspective and it is inspiring me to continue my journey to dress modestly and be aware of fabrics. Thank you!
Hi Milena! I'm one of those people who loves your content and watches your videos until the last second, but almost never comments because I'm usualy watching on the tv while cleaning 😂 BUT, this video was so good that I went and grabed my phone just to write a comment saying: thank you! Your modest journey is beautiful to see and I'm learning a lot with your testimony. I can understand all the little things that you are adressing and that usually would irritated people, me included, but I can see the love of Jesus in your words and then all those angry arguments just disapare. So thank you for accepting the calling to share this, I'm really, really greatefull for your life and for being one of the women who can be blessed by your words. Thank you! ❤
I think the same argument can go towards men as well. Wearing tight tight shirts that show the arm muscles and peck muscles and tight tight pants showing leg muscles and glute muscles. Why not wear baggy clothing too?
Can’t measure how much the Lord is speaking to me throu you Milena!!! God bless you ❤
On another podcast someone said “Immodesty is distracting. It’s saying “look at me” instead of “look at Christ in me”.” Which totally made sense to me. I think looking at the concept of modesty as a form of obedience and worship versus viewing it as oppression or obligation is a game changer. There are a ton of factors like culture, environment, etc, and we need to practice discernment and posture our hearts towards Jesus in order to know what we should and shouldn’t put on our bodies (aside from the obvious). I’m a work in progress too and always find these talks so encouraging and edifying!
Like I’m 42 years old and just NOW found what I want my style to be. And the fact you’re so much younger than I am and can still motivate me to go through the things I’ve had had since like the early 2000s. Yes, girl! I’m from the Jessica Simpson and Britney Spears era, lol! But I’m 5 feet and petite, have two boys (4 and 5). I have forgotten to have a style since being so caught up with my kids, I’m always in leggings and an my hubby’s oversized shirt. I remember telling my mom months ago that I want to feel comfortable and feminine in my clothes again. I have some super tight dresses that are sooo pretty but are not compatible with my lifestyle anymore. Thanks for this extra boost to get me to go through my closet!
Thank you for “sprinkling” the conviction, Milena 😂 I needed this one and it’s something that the Lord has been pulling on my heart strings for awhile.
I LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS SO MUCH. Thank you for taking modesty SERIOUSLY and going so deep with this. I needed to hear ALL of this. I’m going to work on my wardrobe like you did. 😍❤️🥰
I love the change in your channel recently! I feel like you have been growing so much and it shows-you are glowing!
Milena, must ask, isn’t boasting about your sex life harmful to a brother or sister? Who knows if that causes them to stumble, or if someone who is watching your content has a struggling marriage and they leave your video envious and resentful of the sex life you and your husband have? I know you are saying all of this in good faith and trying to glorify what God is doing for your marriage, but I think just as a man can walk away tempted over a pretty girl, I think someone else could fall to sin in terms of jealousy or honestly fall to sin just by having you discuss something so private on the internet.
I was only convicted of this a few years ago and I’m 52. Hallelujah that the Lord convicted you of this at such an early age. Your children will benefit from your choice for the rest of their life 💕
Hey milena! I have some questions where I feel like I’m kinda racking my brain a bit trying to understand.
1. My husband does not prefer lustful clothing but he and I both like a mom jean and a flannel. He finds that most beautiful and that has always been a style that I feel does not reveal my body at all, and I feel feminine in it. Does scripture mention florals and dresses as more God honoring?
2. How do I wear something where I feel pretty but also not wear something based on how I feel. How do I look at a piece of fabric and determine how much it honors God (aside from obviously lustful clothing). The clarification that we don’t want to look like potato sacks, but also don’t want to dress for ourselves is confusing. Where is the line drawn? Waist definition? That seems to be a common and “appropriate” theme in these dresses. But definition around other bodyparts (obviously exclude overt sexual body part) is a problem?
3. How do you contend with swim suits. - I’d assume you’d wear a 1 piece that shows your legs. But the reasoning would likely be “wearing that piece of clothing for its purpose not for a lustful look” but when working out, the most practical items are going to be leggings and a slightly more fitted top. (So you can adjust form, not get too hot etc)
- in this why does the function of a swimsuit outweigh the lack of coverage but not a workout outfit. I’d assume there are full body swimming dresses out there but I don’t think most of us would agree to that (too hot, uncomfortable)
4. Overall having a hard time why you wouldn’t go full floral long sleeve mumu with hair covering. The line does not seem to be clear. Wouldn’t that be the ultimate covering and God honoring outfit as defined by the parameter in this video?
These are GENUINE questions and coming from a place of genuine confusion and I would love to hear your answers!!!! ❤❤❤
I have the same questions! I’ve been sitting on this video since she released it and I’ve come to the conclusion to just be happy for her in HER clothing journey and know that God works through everyone’s life with personal convictions.
I saw another comment like this but years ago the lord told me to put more time into myself. To actually wear makeup. My mom died when I was young, and I was never taught how to do make up well, so I never wore it. But it also caused me to just feel horrible about myself. The I felt like the Lord was like “please take better care of yourself, put on the make up.” I no longer carry shame. In the same since I have really good friends that the Lord asked to stop wearing make up. That made sense for their journey since they were in bondage to it.
We have a God that looks at our heart and will direct our steps in the way that we, as individuals, need to go. And thank the lord for that !! 🙌🏼💗
To be honest, before I was dressing modestly and was convicted by it, I was very intimidated by women who dressed modestly! But what I realized is, that it was the Holy Spirit convicting me to dress modestly. At the time I thought those women were judging me for wearing leggings all the time, but they weren’t. They just love Jesus and wanted to be a friend. They never said anything about what I wore, it was all in my head. When I had that mental shift of “maybe it’s me being convicted” it was like it opened a new door.
Any other SAHMs feel weird wearing a dress when your hair and makeup isn’t done? Like it doesn’t match lol
Or like I’m taking my kids to the playground and I’m in a dress? Idk. I want to be a dress girl so bad but it feels uncomfortable in some situations
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You get over it after a few times ;) speaking from experience haha! And my reasoning was to just elevate my day to day look after I started noticing just how CASUAL we are as a society. Throw that dress on and head to the playground, mama! 😊
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I do T-shirt dresses with white vans for playgrounds or any very casual outing! :)
Milena this is so refreshing! Love how the Lord is leading you and how gracious you share it! 🤎
I feel you Sister! This has been heavy on my heart as well..🙌🏽♥️
This can be balanced with John Paul II’s Theology of the Body. It’s a bit of a misnomer to say that we should not dress to “show off” our bodies. That can easily lead to gnosticism and, frankly, misogyny about the female form. Instead, is there a way to honor our feminine from (God said “GOOD” over us) while practicing humility?
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ok, the potato sack analogy 🤣🤣. when i first started dressing and shopping more modestly, my mom would tell me that i looked like i was wearing one all the time 🤣
You’re such an inspiration, Milena ❤ wish you and your hubby would lead my community group!
ooof, this is convicting SIS! ❤ thank you! i loved this video, it has blessed me in so many ways :)
Also could you make a video on where you buy your clothing I absolutely love the dress you are wearing.
I LOVE your perspective. This is so helpful!! I’m excited to ask my husband what he prefers me to wear 🥰💕
I have slowly been doing this with my wardrobe and it’s a game changer! Can you do a video in winter on dressing feminine? I feel like it’s easy for me in the spring and summer but when it gets cold I struggle!
Love love this!!! My sister and I are in our 30’s and the Lord is bringing us through a lot of the same stuff you are going through!!! And this is one! Thank you for sharing!
AWESOME MESSAGE! so good!!
Im having a hard time letting go of competition dresses & other items that you would wear on a honeymoon vacation & the swimsuits...it's been rough cause I have too much, it's taking over my Prayer closet & it is a problem so I Say this short yet Powerful prayer everyday!" Your Will God not Mine in Jesus name Amen" as I go about saying bye to the clothes I don't use but have for a rainy day... It's been a hard process but I've been letting go. I dont want to Hoard clothes...so I still got a couple bags to go to get to that Goal 🙏
I want to simplify my closet & bedroom. Have Less chaos in my life especially if it goes to a special room like a prayer closet 💛
I felt convicted by the Lord to dress in skirts/dresses full time and covered. And I feel so free! I don’t have to worry about something showing that shouldn’t be and I’m so much more comfortable. It honors my husband and the Lord and myself.
This is beautiful ❤️ thank you you have encouraged me as well today
I loveeeee how you addressed how women face other women’s feelings when we dress… sometimes it’s unfortunate, but it’s such a real thing. I wish I didn’t feel so shamed for taking care of my body by other women who don’t prioritize that. :/ would love to hear more on this, and how dressing more modest has upped the anti with you and your hubs!
As a Muslim modest women whatever she said 100% true,the only thing we do extra is cover our hair as well it’s called Hijab and so warm feeling at the end of the day when we remove our head scarves in front of our loved ones only 🥰 but we do wear pj and leggings in home but if someone visit us we do dress differently more modern and modestly,
Loved this video. I’m a mama of two and very recently have felt this conviction around my wardrobe and how/why I dress the way I do. Clothing has been such a battle for me, always wanting to dress for attention and to look hot. God has really put this on my heart and I’m on the same journey! This was so encouraging and loved the tips about paying attending to materials too!!