Growing Up in an Incestuous Mormon Cult

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  • @Valiant.Unicorn
    @Valiant.Unicorn Рік тому +1103

    Shelise you’re awesome! Thank you for getting this information out. Other order survivors may see this, and I’ll definitely support them as a witness for the abuse allowed in their cult.

    • @CultstoConsciousness
      @CultstoConsciousness  Рік тому +63

      YOU are awesome!! Thank you for coming on and sharing so openly ❤️🙏🦄 did you see your shirts?
      cults-to-consciousness-shop.fourthwall.com/en-usd/products/youre-a-goddamn-unicorn-boho
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    • @WillieWeed
      @WillieWeed Рік тому +27

      Congratulations to you both for a great talk about life after leaving everything you ever knew for the big scary world full of us scary people. 🎉🥂

    • @megansslore
      @megansslore Рік тому +30

      Val & Shelise, you are such beautiful souls. Thank you for your bravery. Sending love to you & all the cult survivors out there. And a big a F YOU to Daniel and all the men like him!

    • @raya.p.l5919
      @raya.p.l5919 Рік тому +3

      ❤ Jesus power. 😮 FREE. Warning it is intense. Last 30 minutes. Best to relax and shut yr eyes😮

    • @lorrainefranchi9105
      @lorrainefranchi9105 Рік тому +12

      Val you are truly amazing
      You are so strong to come away from such horrible abuse and still have love in your heart! I wish I could hug you! You are beautiful!!

  • @monaalice9500
    @monaalice9500 Рік тому +828

    No need for him to explain why he smiles. I work with people who have experienced significant traumas, and when I see that smile, I instantly want to comfort them. It helps hold the trauma in and is yet another display of strength. Huge respect to all who've shared their stories on this channel.

  • @scottietrademark
    @scottietrademark Рік тому +724

    Imaging having over 100 children and you don't have a relationship with any of them. Imagine they all hate you... what a failure of a parent.

    • @teesh871
      @teesh871 Рік тому +32

      Next level failure. It would be impressive if it wasn't so awful.

    • @eastcoastbabe97
      @eastcoastbabe97 Рік тому

      He didn't care about being a parent. All he wanted to do is breed & keep these women in poverty. It's all about control.

    • @debprobst330
      @debprobst330 Рік тому +49

      They don't do it to be parents not in the normal sense of the word ..... it's control by a demented person... Daniel is a narcissistic sociopath

    • @Themodestcritic
      @Themodestcritic Рік тому

      He's not a parent he's a sperm donor

    • @AndrizzleFoShizzle
      @AndrizzleFoShizzle Рік тому

      What a failure of a human.

  • @Belladonnaisatomato
    @Belladonnaisatomato Рік тому +343

    I absolutely love this kid. Like smiling through the darkness lets the devil see your teeth. Thats a strong person and absolutely a force to be reckoned with. I wish him a long life full of health and happiness

    • @emilyrln
      @emilyrln Рік тому +40

      "Smiling through the darkness lets the devil see your teeth." I love this!! Stealing it for my collection of inspiring quotes.

    • @usedscar
      @usedscar Рік тому +9

      ​@emilyrln Yep stolen! Great saying.

    • @2degucitas
      @2degucitas Рік тому +10

      Can you believe he's 35? He looks younger.

    • @shadelings
      @shadelings Рік тому +6

      @@2degucitas I was shocked by that too. He's so adorable.

    • @greendragon4058
      @greendragon4058 Рік тому +4

      He is absolutely amazing I agree

  • @Suspiciousminds828
    @Suspiciousminds828 Рік тому +232

    Absolutely love Val’s personality. So glad he is healing and living HIS life.

    • @Valiant.Unicorn
      @Valiant.Unicorn Рік тому +6

      Thanks ❤ my😢 personality 💕

    • @lahawk7410
      @lahawk7410 Рік тому

      Totally agree. Great personality. Glad he didn't end up as an adult living that lie/life in the order.

  • @cl5470
    @cl5470 Рік тому +625

    Val is right. Daniel is not a father, just a DNA donor. Real parents grow and learn WITH their kids. Our children should help us to be more compassionate, kind and loving. Val was more of a parent to his siblings than Daniel could ever hope to be.

    • @fabigrossi2976
      @fabigrossi2976 Рік тому +42

      I wouldn't call him DNA donor either, that sounds kind of positive. I think he was just a sp..rm spreader.

    • @sharonthompson672
      @sharonthompson672 Рік тому

      ​@@fabigrossi2976 I'd say he's a dipstick looking for a car...🧐

    • @thomasnguyen6144
      @thomasnguyen6144 Рік тому

      He is a biological father, but a bad father. I would call him a male whore.

    • @darthszarych5588
      @darthszarych5588 Рік тому

      "The guy who inseminated ur mom"

    • @roselee4445
      @roselee4445 Рік тому +6

      May God grant Val an awesome future. Blessed with love and financial prosperity

  • @Valiant.Unicorn
    @Valiant.Unicorn Рік тому +1095

    I forgot to mention, one important conversation I had with the leader Paul. He acknowledged the abuse was wrong, but insisted members don’t take other members to authorities, and promised me he would take care of it.

    • @IKilledEarl
      @IKilledEarl Рік тому +56

      Did you ever hear if Paul "took care" of Daniel? What a great interview! The part where you were telling your date's granny about the cult had me lol. 🦄🩵

    • @nicolee1205
      @nicolee1205 Рік тому +16

      great interview! ❤❤

    • @mtaylor7307
      @mtaylor7307 Рік тому +19

      This comment should be pinned. Thank you for sharing your story. It helps healing and understanding.

    • @slconley
      @slconley Рік тому +15

      What did taking care of it mean?

    • @Valiant.Unicorn
      @Valiant.Unicorn Рік тому +33

      @@slconley I don't think it meant anything...

  • @Mel-pz2jh
    @Mel-pz2jh Рік тому +453

    His story just made me cry.
    Am I wrong or does every cult leader have some sort of sexual perversion. So awful! 😢😠

    • @CultstoConsciousness
      @CultstoConsciousness  Рік тому +141

      Haven’t found one without one so far…

    • @jacquelineleitch7050
      @jacquelineleitch7050 Рік тому +85

      Val hit the nail on the head, it’s about sadism more than the sexual perversion.

    • @opheliaelesse
      @opheliaelesse Рік тому +27

      That's what the cult is for.

    • @TheGoodPlaceMusicandCrafts
      @TheGoodPlaceMusicandCrafts Рік тому +36

      Yes, child labor and child abuse. Cults are terrible.

    • @Bruintjebeer6
      @Bruintjebeer6 Рік тому

      Every sekt I read or heard about always have a leader who sexual abuse children and woman.

  • @bluewingedchaoscat
    @bluewingedchaoscat Рік тому +132

    I think it's very brave just to call things by their name. To tell people how it was. Not because of sensationalism but because so many people just don't get the picture of what abuse like that entails. There are so many levels to this and in order to drive home the severity sometimes you have to get graphic. I hope you're able to find a healthy balance in life after these horrific experiences.

  • @thefelicits
    @thefelicits Рік тому +147

    What a lovely guy! I can't imagine being so positive after all he's been through. Great to see a survivor thriving ♥️

  • @audreymcginnis8370
    @audreymcginnis8370 Рік тому +105

    I just love Val, I'm so glad he's so happy and well adjusted. What a wonderful human being.

  • @jcg03002
    @jcg03002 Рік тому +69

    Val, Amanda, Eskel, Shanelle, Kollene, and all the other Order survivors impress me so much - they have been so much in their lives, but have so much strength and humor. I love seeing how Val is thriving!

  • @iflan09
    @iflan09 Рік тому +76

    I love Val's resilience and enthusiasm and happy spirit. I'm so glad he is out in more ways than one!

    • @lahawk7410
      @lahawk7410 Рік тому

      Imagine living in that stifling environment when all he wants to do is sparkle and radiate joy!

  • @y.m.or.4053
    @y.m.or.4053 Рік тому +69

    Val is just SO ENDEARING! Especially hearing his moments of discovery where he's very much confused but very much has the right spirit! Go Val! ❤

  • @mtaylor7307
    @mtaylor7307 Рік тому +47

    Statutes of limitations favor the perpetrators but some times victims wait until after the statute runs out due to fear of reprisal. Safety is #1 when trying to survive. You speak on your own timeline. Thank you for sharing today. 💙

  • @RaciePSB
    @RaciePSB Рік тому +54

    Can’t get over how utterly good looking and charismatic this young man is, not to mention super-smart! I wish him a happy life. ❤

  • @debbyfazfphotography
    @debbyfazfphotography Рік тому +185

    I can see why you don't want to refer to his as your dad. He was your biological father, but he certainly wasn't a dad. I'm so sorry for all you went through. Please remember it was NOT your fault! It was never your fault. You are not to blame for anything that happened to you! You were a victim of evil circumstances. Please take care of yourself. ❤

    • @lolaottinger3038
      @lolaottinger3038 Рік тому

      Daniel is nothing more than a sperm donor. That’s all.

    • @GBfanatic15
      @GBfanatic15 Рік тому

      he was not a father he was practically just a sperm donor...and also a monster

  • @kazayana7351
    @kazayana7351 Рік тому +266

    Forgive me if this was mentioned somewhere but she would make an awesome trauma counselor the way she explains things is so reassuring this podcast is truly therapy for so many people ❤

    • @justkiddin84
      @justkiddin84 Рік тому +36

      Well, she is performing that function in a way here. For free, so folks know they aren’t alone, which is a huge step in recovery!♥️✌️

    • @lindseyhendrix2405
      @lindseyhendrix2405 Рік тому +24

      Heck, I think she’s already essentially doing that for herself, her guests, and all of us! But I know what you mean, I do wonder though if there’s a sect of counselors or psychologists that specialize in religious trauma. There’s obviously quite a demographic who could use that-a.k.a. _allllllll of us._

    • @CultstoConsciousness
      @CultstoConsciousness  Рік тому +73

      That is so kind of you. Thank you so much. I do my best to make this space as safe and comfortable as possible for my guests. As another cult/abuse survivor, I know what it’s like to tell my story. Thank you for watching and supporting!

    • @Dusty_Den
      @Dusty_Den Рік тому +7

      ​@CultstoConsciousness you do an amazing job. You're simultaneously creating awareness and holding space for people to share their stories and relate to other survivors. It's so important 💜🫶

    • @ayla4686
      @ayla4686 6 місяців тому

      ​@@lindseyhendrix2405yes, specialist in that area and also hypnotherapists who specialize in deprogramming.

  • @slconley
    @slconley Рік тому +99

    Break the silence, break the cycle! I have a lot of respect for those who left the order.

  • @willowtree6657
    @willowtree6657 Рік тому +43

    Two fabulous people having a very difficult, painful discussion covering subjects that society doesn’t like to normally hear, but needs to be told.

  • @3shellyiam
    @3shellyiam Рік тому +52

    What a sweet lovely human being Val is! I'm so glad he was able to escape and build a good life for himself. Lots of love and healing to him and all victims of abuse and control.

  • @seanamrein4989
    @seanamrein4989 Рік тому +18

    Im very proud of him for doing the interview he carries it very well and hes working towards something positive coming out of what they did to him

  • @starsINSPACE
    @starsINSPACE Рік тому +103

    So brave to tell his story! I wish the government was better at finding and shutting down these types of abusive cult 😢

    • @user-gk-y8t
      @user-gk-y8t Рік тому +10

      It is very difficult when they hide under the banner of God.

    • @mariavonromer1079
      @mariavonromer1079 Рік тому

      That's the problem, they hide under banner and the government is afraid to do anything even though they are breaking the law. The law must apply to all. Women and children are chattel.

    • @devy024
      @devy024 Рік тому +2

      We are the government and have divine rights including law making, prosecution and justice.

    • @bettyhutcheson9318
      @bettyhutcheson9318 Рік тому

      The government knows where these people are, since Warren Jeff's, and still do nothing. Very said for these young folks when no one cares.

    • @bettyhutcheson9318
      @bettyhutcheson9318 Рік тому

      Sad

  • @tbella5186
    @tbella5186 Рік тому +30

    I actually found you through Amanda Rea!
    The Order stories never stop being shocking, and heartbreaking. I can not comprehend how they are still functioning.

  • @TrueCrimeJunkie7
    @TrueCrimeJunkie7 Рік тому +33

    What a special man to come out of this dangerous cult and be such a great funny, dynamic man ❤

  • @annihilxte
    @annihilxte Рік тому +33

    This was so eye opening. So, while I haven’t been in a cult, my dad’s side of the family grew up Mormon. They’re not as extreme, but a lot of them are very set in their beliefs. He got out in his 20s but a lot of the family is still in. I didn’t understand much about cults until Leah Remini and Mike Rinder taught me about Scientology. I realized how similar some of the policies and rules are within these religious organizations. It helped me to explain why my dad would randomly cut me off at age 17 (I was struggling but it felt like such an overreaction). We have a somewhat civil relationship now where I can speak to him occasionally but it’s not the same. I was able to realize that even though he left, the reworking of your brain and beliefs is going to be a life long effort. People like you have helped me understand that a little better. Thank you to Val for sharing his incredible story, god I cannot imagine living like that. What a brave soul. Thank you Shelise! You are doing important work and I appreciate the time, energy and care you put into your content. I’m new here but don’t plan on leaving! ❤

    • @UptownLexi
      @UptownLexi Рік тому +3

      Yeah I agree, “regular” Mormons reallllllly toe the line with being a cult. A lot of their rituals and requirements are super extreme.

  • @marlenemeyer9841
    @marlenemeyer9841 Рік тому +33

    This is horrific and also inspiring.
    Horrific what Val went through!
    Inspiring to see him thrive.

  • @Killer_Rhapsody
    @Killer_Rhapsody Рік тому +18

    Val is such a bright beautiful soul. I loved hearing him speak and I would love for him to come back again. ❤

  • @powderandpaint14
    @powderandpaint14 Рік тому +78

    I'm wondering if any of these siblings have ever or would ever file a police report against Daniel, he obviously abused all his children in various ways, he had already gone to prison for beating one daughtr severely. He needs to be in jail!

    • @Valiant.Unicorn
      @Valiant.Unicorn Рік тому +25

      I agree! If it was up to me, Daniel would be in Prison for life. He should just go turn himself in. He'll have his whole afterlife, to go be a God of his own planet😂 Please Don't Baptize a dead me, I've been looking forward to outer darkness. it sounds so relaxing❤❤❤

    • @rainbowmom7582
      @rainbowmom7582 Рік тому +7

      @@Valiant.UnicornDaniel should be under the jail! I’m so sorry you had to grow up that way. 🥰🤗 I’m interested in your soap & candle boxes! Please let us know when you start selling them! Sending you love from Virginia! ❤️

    • @UptownLexi
      @UptownLexi Рік тому

      It could be similar to other (Mormon) cults where the entire PD is made up of Mormons or community leaders or in cahoots with them.

    • @emilyrln
      @emilyrln Рік тому

      @@Valiant.Unicornfrom what I recall of the doctrine, I think you have to accept the baptism for it to work, so you have the opportunity but aren't forced. But that could just have been what I was taught in my fairly chill and progressive ward in NW Oregon. What an amazing interview! You're so strong and I'm glad you're thriving in the outside 🥰

  • @SuzeeD4358
    @SuzeeD4358 Рік тому +23

    Yet another great episode. Just the fact that Val can smile and crack jokes after the childhood he had gives me hope and joy. Thanks Val, and best of everything to you and your husband.

  • @powderandpaint14
    @powderandpaint14 Рік тому +235

    Wow, it's Amanda Rae's cousin! He has some absolutely wild stories, how the members of his family who have committed terrible abuses aren't (permanently) in jail is beyond me.

    • @RoseNZieg
      @RoseNZieg Рік тому +1

      you would be surprised at how much control these religious groups in the Utah justice system.

    • @gwengwen4535
      @gwengwen4535 Рік тому

      It’s because heretical religious organizations like the LDS, Jehovah’s witnesses, Catholic, even some IFB and southern grace chapel organizations, all “own” entire communities and counties etc. it’s disgusting.
      Religion is awful. All we need is the Bible, preferably the KJV, since it is accurately translated from the original, historically authenticated manuscripts.

    • @h8llo394
      @h8llo394 Рік тому

      Well there too little places for them and its the usa a verry extreem country as it come too abuse and incest things could be half off the population of the usa

    • @someusername4129
      @someusername4129 Рік тому

      Is it though? The Christians tend to get carte blanche to do anything in the US and hide behind religious persecution to protect themselves. It's very easy for them to perpetrate crimes for a long time before getting caught. Generations of children undergo pretty horrific mental and physical abuse in these theocratic systems. It's a common story in their communities.

  • @kukka1234
    @kukka1234 Рік тому +35

    his energy is so contageous! i loved this episode 💜

  • @dreamzofhorses
    @dreamzofhorses Рік тому +14

    Val has the right attitude! Best revenge is a happy life! Don’t look back, just keep moving forward. Use your experience to give hope and encouragement to others in the same situation. I think it not only helps them but helps you to heal. I subbed to his channel and look forward to seeing more of him.

  • @lorrainefranchi9105
    @lorrainefranchi9105 Рік тому +13

    I really want to hug this young man! And I'm trying to stop the tears from coming. SO glad he got out!!

  • @7Tajah
    @7Tajah Рік тому +9

    oh honey, what an upbringing. you are brave! and so filled with light! Best blessings to you.

  • @rubinleigh2756
    @rubinleigh2756 Рік тому +10

    Oh my gods, the way Val switched to speaking in the present tense when talking about that one incident just broke my heart. It almost seemed like he's still stuck in that moment. Good luck on your continued healing journey, Val, and congrats to you and your husband on your marriage. The cake looks amazing! PS I will totally buy some unicorn soap and sparkly candles holy shit cant wait for those boxes to drop!

  • @rhondadearborn3265
    @rhondadearborn3265 Рік тому +49

    Why can’t all of the escapees of the order get together and do a civil suit for child abuse, violation of child, labor, laws, sexual abuse, etc against the order? Something needs to be done!

    • @burmessafox3939
      @burmessafox3939 Рік тому +4

      I guess one of the reason is the stature of limitations

    • @sidstovell2177
      @sidstovell2177 Рік тому +10

      ​@@burmessafox3939And it's Utah.

    • @Rocklandmoons
      @Rocklandmoons Рік тому +1

      The order murderes victims slowly and stalks them, ppl barely escape with their lives. You can't sue them because you don't know any legal names or addresses.

  • @SLPYHD-rd7jc
    @SLPYHD-rd7jc Рік тому +4

    You're such a supportive host. I'm having a bad mental health day while listening, and although the content is rather heavy, your reassurances made me feel calm. I'm glad I found this channel.

  • @traceyidzes8781
    @traceyidzes8781 Рік тому +49

    He was only a baby helping to raise more babies, I’m absolutely devastated that this beautiful young man had to live any of what he did. He so deserves so much more. Good luck and may his future be filled with nothing but Luck, Laughter and Love 💕🇦🇺

    • @fionafiona1146
      @fionafiona1146 Рік тому +4

      It's deeply disturbing to hear 7 year olds get put in charge of 6 month old Babies when I at 3x that age struggle

    • @lahawk7410
      @lahawk7410 Рік тому +2

      He may not have received the love he deserved in the order, but I hope he feels the outpouring of love from all of us (viewers).

  • @usedscar
    @usedscar Рік тому +78

    I was pulled out of school to take care of my 3 siblings at 14. We weren't in a cult or even poor. My parents were going through a divorce, and I was handy. I adored my siblings but said a few things to them that I regret to this day. I was too young to be a stay at home mom.

    • @paisleygirl6642
      @paisleygirl6642 Рік тому +13

      It's normal to angry about that and it's okay to use your voice to express your anger about it to your parents. What happened wasn't fair.

    • @usedscar
      @usedscar Рік тому +10

      @paisleygirl6642 never really covered with the parents, but the sisters and I have an understanding about it. And we're all still here. I made it to college. Lol

    • @marietgagliardi
      @marietgagliardi Рік тому +6

      That was so wrong. I think anyone would have said a few bad things

  • @speeeee35
    @speeeee35 Рік тому +7

    I’m so sorry you went through all this, and your siblings and mom too. I know you know this, but it’s important to hear it: What he did to you isn’t your fault and he’d have done it to anyone whether they were the best person, worst person, smartest, dumbest, happiest, saddest… as long as you were innocent and defenseless, he’d have done it.
    I’m so sorry he did, and he’ll pay for it in this life (and the next if you ask me).
    Thanks for sharing your story to help and educate the rest of us and help people feel less alone. You’re a great person for that and so brave. I hope you have a happy life and lots of things that bring you joy, and I hope you still have god in some way that brings you peace.. and that that evil you experienced didn’t take something meant to be good from you.
    Thanks again and I wish you well. Great interview ❤

  • @pizzabinge
    @pizzabinge Рік тому +11

    What a beautiful soul. Thank you for sharing ❤

  • @Abigail-li3mk
    @Abigail-li3mk Рік тому +56

    I learned about the Kingston Clan from Escaping Polygamy!!! I loved that show. This group makes me sick and Daniel sounds like a degraded psychopath and needs to be in jail forever. All the head guys actually. Gross. Val seems like a sweet guy, bless him for speaking out! 💜

    • @rainbowmom7582
      @rainbowmom7582 Рік тому +1

      I love that show too! They need to bring it back!

    • @mtaylor7307
      @mtaylor7307 Рік тому

      Daniel sounds like he played a shell game with his sexuality. No normal sexual intimacy with his women, all about breeding and control. His sexual activity towards males was with boys whom he could control completely. So he kept his bisexuality or homosexuality closeted.

    • @secretpal6039
      @secretpal6039 Рік тому

      I agree! Great show.

  • @justanormalcat5565
    @justanormalcat5565 11 місяців тому +3

    So much power in a smile. Thanks for leading by example. All the best wishes to you.

  • @NessaBear90
    @NessaBear90 Рік тому +14

    Look at my love Val!! He is the best ❤. I could listen to his stories forever.

  • @raaaaaaarr
    @raaaaaaarr Рік тому +17

    Val is so loveable and adorable and authentic! He has the purest emotions, body language and behaviour. Hes a huge catch to the whole world and everbody in it. I love him

  • @elizabethrace5406
    @elizabethrace5406 Рік тому +9

    Val is the cutest! What a beautiful spirit! I love that he's enjoying marriage and entrepreneurship. 🦄

  • @mirmizkool
    @mirmizkool 11 місяців тому +5

    Wishing you the best, Val. You are incredibly brave for leaving the cult and getting the help to walk the road to recovery. Thank you, Shelise, for your important work.

  • @waternineeightlotus2869
    @waternineeightlotus2869 Рік тому +3

    What an amazing, wonderful,strong, funny guy! My heart felt like a ray of love, just listening to him, and couldn't stop smiling (I've been through some hardships in my life and have been fighting depression/anxiety for the last 30 years, so it was such a blessing for me). I wish him all the love and joy possible. ❤

  • @jaynem7879
    @jaynem7879 Рік тому +13

    Great interview as always. Looking forward to watching Val's channel. Amazing to see how strong and resilient your guests are. Val, I am so happy you are living your true life. Your positivity is infectious.

  • @suepeachey1730
    @suepeachey1730 Рік тому +40

    Massive respect to val, for coming on and telling his story, I'm so sorry for what you went through, these cults need calling out, they need to be investigated!

  • @Potato-fv9ns
    @Potato-fv9ns Рік тому +3

    Thank you for sharing your story. Very brave and gland you are safe and speaking up!

  • @maeae6521
    @maeae6521 6 місяців тому +1

    I am so incredibly proud of all of you! Val, Amanda and Shelise have done so, so much to help and care for others amidst these incredibly abusive conditions. Saving yourself in these circumstances is admirable, but bringing as many along with you and protecting everyone as much as possible is next level. Y'all are such truly good humans! Wishing each of you much love!

  • @wakedawncat9290
    @wakedawncat9290 Рік тому +4

    Shelise,
    You are one of THE BEST INTERVIEWERS ever!🥰
    Your compassion is amazing!😇🩷

  • @angharadcrossley6253
    @angharadcrossley6253 Рік тому +11

    Imagine going through all of that and still being such a sweet, strong, and genuine person.

  • @sonja.5035
    @sonja.5035 Рік тому +20

    I liked this guy. His story was heartbreaking and so sad but then from nowhere he would say something so funny and I found myself laughing as crazy. He's very strong and his strength and humour have saved his life. I wish him all the best ❤

  • @kimsule5169
    @kimsule5169 Рік тому +7

    Val, you are an absolutely BEAUTIFUL young man!!! I can't even begin to wrap my head around all the abuse you have endured . Your spirit is AMAZING!!! Wishing you nothing but the BEST in all your endeavors. Sending you hugs 🤗 🦄🦄

  • @Fuchsbau101
    @Fuchsbau101 Рік тому +17

    My ex husband was not a mormon but he had mormon beliefs. He believed any money I had or earned belonged to him and the same went for our daughter. I didn't give it to him or go along with this idea. A lot of fights, day in and day out. So glad to get us away from him.

    • @abigailchristensen3793
      @abigailchristensen3793 4 місяці тому

      Not all Mormons are like that but many are and abusive men in general, very disgusting and you deserve so much better

  • @Gaasulin4
    @Gaasulin4 Рік тому +5

    You have touched my heart Val, so inspiring. I’m so glad you’re living your life, healing and sharing your story with the world ❤

  • @brontetaylor8243
    @brontetaylor8243 Рік тому +4

    Thank you, Shelise! The work you do is so important. Val’s story is so powerful. What a beautiful mind, so much strength and intelligence. So so empowering to see how every story told is helping heal the collective.
    Val, the way you express yourself and the perspective you have, shows profound strength and mind-blowing goodness!! Blessings on your journey. Blessings on your family. May your journey through life be full of joy and healing.

  • @saphire9823
    @saphire9823 8 місяців тому +2

    Similar to Warren Jeff's and Winston Blackmore in bountiful, Creston BC Canada. Incest, abuse, oppression etc it's awful

  • @rainbowmom7582
    @rainbowmom7582 Рік тому +18

    I’m so glad Val was able to get out and is living his truth. He’s an awesome young man! Whatever happened to the Escaping Polygamy show? They really need to bring it back!
    I just saw the part where she asked his age - 😳 he’s 35? He looks 22 - wow

  • @nedsanders
    @nedsanders Рік тому +6

    I wish there was a way for Val and the other former members to sue the order for all of the child support, rent, and other fees that were taken from them for so many years. I know it woildnt ever be anywhere near a reparation but it would hurt daniel and the order where they would feel it the most. Their wallet. Thank you Val for your bravery and infectious positive personality. Never be afraid to be your best self You are changing lives by just being yourself and telling your story. Great interview. ❤

  • @lunkis3233
    @lunkis3233 Рік тому +4

    Thank you Val for your bravery sharing your story. Hugs from Sweden 🇸🇪

  • @babycakes8434
    @babycakes8434 9 місяців тому +1

    Such a difficult topic, but it was so much fun to listen to you Val. So happy for you that you are thriving🎉

  • @mikaylafrancis6036
    @mikaylafrancis6036 Рік тому +8

    Could we get Jazza on the show some time?
    As an Aussie whos deconstructing, I would love to see some Aussies talking about their journey.
    Jazza grew up in a Mormon family and now has a channel sharing art and inspiration for creatives ^.^

  • @anafee_07
    @anafee_07 Рік тому +87

    the fact that these people were brave enough to escape and find a place in the world for themselves is so inspiring......I am so happy for each and every survivor who found their way in the world ❤‍🩹

  • @starrylight8819
    @starrylight8819 8 місяців тому +1

    I stumbled across this and couldn't stop watching..not only is his story interesting( the sad parts gave me tears) but I just love his personality! I'll check out his channel

  • @livingwisdomcommunity
    @livingwisdomcommunity Рік тому +3

    I appreciate your sensitivity not only to your audience, but especially to the people you interview.

  • @godhasgas
    @godhasgas Рік тому +2

    What a sweet human being ❤️ thanks for sharing with us

  • @AlexisPage-vu
    @AlexisPage-vu Рік тому +5

    Thank-you Val. You're fabulous! After all you've been through, you're smiling, and it makes me smile! You've surpassed survivor and now you're a thriver! A happy unicorn-- and I love it! You deserve everything good in this world for all you do. ❤🥰🦄🌟

  • @susanreilly5015
    @susanreilly5015 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for the link. I’m so happy that Val’s married. You are so strong and such a true inspiration

  • @annewrites...8385
    @annewrites...8385 Рік тому +5

    What a beautiful human being. Big hugs to Val and his husband xxx

  • @trekpac2
    @trekpac2 Рік тому +1

    Shelise, I am so thankful that you are doing such important work of helping individuals who have been exploited. Your story has made me more aware of dangerous cults in our midst. Thanks from my heart.

  • @SatansRoerhat
    @SatansRoerhat Рік тому +13

    I relate to Vals story ❤ People don't understand that sexual violence is about power and not sexuality.
    I felt seen by 🌟Val's very important point🌟 that his dad didn't have sexual attraction to him and rather wanted to exert control and sadistically take his anger out on Val.
    - Why emotionally regulate, when you can just pour out all your negative feelings onto people and children trapped under your bloodied umbrella?

  • @BoJo5066
    @BoJo5066 Рік тому +2

    It melted my heart the way he answered something along the lines of:
    "......oh that girl, I love her...."
    in regaurds to his mother. Im glad that his relationship with his mom was/is apparently a good strong one.
    As a mother to an adult daughter, who has an abusive narcopath for a father, it helped to lift me out of the deep dark muck when she has told me how even though I didnt have money she had soo many good times being raised with me doing fun things with her and teaching her cool things etc. She knows I fought for her. And she knows that I've got her back, and in return, as I age and get sicker, she's got my back. As a single mom I couldn't offer her much other than Unconditional Love. It turns out that that was precisely what she needed as I think we probably all do.
    So, yes, it warmed my heart when he said that about his mom. It shows that he was/is able to see past, through and around the abusive BS that was in their lives because of the man who is biologically his dad, and see into her heart seeing the real her for who she is not for who she was emotionally, mentally, verbally, psychologically and spiritually beat down to be.
    I love the gentleness and kindness that he displays.
    His mother is blessed to have a good relationship with him like that.
    I love the good relationship that I have with my daughter. Im getting ready to move in with her so she can be my caretaker due to me being very sick and on disability.

  • @marycarmody9025
    @marycarmody9025 9 місяців тому +14

    There should be NO statute of limitations on child abuse. I am soooo sorry you had to deal with that evil person!!! I pray you will find healing and hope. God bless you and keep you.

  • @cindyelliott6235
    @cindyelliott6235 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for sharing your story. I hope sharing brings you some healing & hope.

  • @sawace1
    @sawace1 Рік тому +10

    Val, don't feel bad about laughing. My dark humor gets me through a lot, going to my therapy sessions has helped me feel safe with anger and sadness.

  • @mikalin9286
    @mikalin9286 11 місяців тому +1

    Can’t believe I missed this when it came out! Val is always so cool- can’t wait to listen to them speak🦋

  • @katwitanruna
    @katwitanruna Рік тому +11

    There was a reason I called my father father and my stepfather dad. At least my father apologized. Thanks for speaking up anyway.

  • @december0964
    @december0964 9 місяців тому +2

    I thoroughly enjoy this kid ! I’m saying he is so well rounded and articulate and also able to talk about the toughest of topics 😮 His personality rocks! Goes to show you can be raised one way but if you are true to yourself & not replicate your upbringing you can be an to so many people ! Val will inspire countless others in his lifetime and beyond ! Thank you for sharing your journey with the world Val ❤

  • @Mama_T_448
    @Mama_T_448 Рік тому +3

    Love Val ❤❤❤❤
    Thanks again for bringing beautiful humans here to share their stories xox

  • @adaboBADa
    @adaboBADa 10 місяців тому +1

    Shelise and Val. What a breath of fresh air! Thank you.

  • @katwitanruna
    @katwitanruna Рік тому +34

    When my father abused me as a child it felt like it wasn’t him. Like he’d get in this mood and not want to do things but has to do things. He did apologize when I was an adult and we didn’t talk about it but I know his mother was EA and probably PA and neglect. But over 90% of offenders report having experienced SA as children.

    • @devy024
      @devy024 Рік тому +5

      And the abusers and rulers keep saying they do these things to women and children in the name of God. Think they're going to earn their own kingdom. I can't think of a higher abomination than what they do to children. God bless the children, let's free them with love and laws. Their kingdom has failed. Thank God for those who can speak out. We all have a lot of praying and healing to do. If someone reads these comments and thinks they have been forgotten, that will never happen. Americans care and love you all and I'm so sorry. Life is not what this is about. You are your own child of God, same as everyone else. Intelligent, beautiful, loving and free.

    • @lizkrafft4343
      @lizkrafft4343 Рік тому +1

      Jesus loved little children. JESUS showed the way to treat them with love. Wonder what New Testament these men read. 🤔

  • @tosharamirez4307
    @tosharamirez4307 8 місяців тому +1

    Val sounds like such a precious soul! So brave!

  • @megs8125
    @megs8125 Рік тому +32

    I just want to tell Val that he doesn't have to apologize for telling his story. Or like you said in the video, for how he processes things (I'm definitely someone who handles difficult situations with humor). All you can do is offer a trigger warning, which you clearly did on this video. Beyond that, no one gets to tell you how to tell your own story.

  • @electra424
    @electra424 Рік тому +2

    Thank you Val for sharing your story. You are a champion!!!

  • @juanitamurray9083
    @juanitamurray9083 10 місяців тому +4

    Val you have a great personality, making others smile
    I wish you the best and would love to see you hosting a special show on TV
    Loved the grandma story and how brave you were to share and educate her along with us

  • @Miriboheme
    @Miriboheme Рік тому +7

    i'm so happy you went and reported it to the police. even if it was past the statute of limitations, it was a positive, healing action on your part. love and peace to you, man.

  • @helgardhossain9038
    @helgardhossain9038 Рік тому +3

    Thank you for this podcast. 😊
    I love the positivity and vibrant energy of Val.
    Thank you !

  • @teemarie5478
    @teemarie5478 Рік тому +10

    I’m so happy he got out🥰

  • @eleesab4883
    @eleesab4883 10 місяців тому +1

    Val, you are such an a cool human! Thank you so much for sharing your story!

  • @joybland5072
    @joybland5072 Рік тому +5

    Shelise, thank you for bringing these cults into the light. I have been watching you for quite a while now. I also re watched an older show called Today I Found Out...which I watched a couple years ago and was surprised to see you on that show.

    • @CultstoConsciousness
      @CultstoConsciousness  Рік тому +2

      Thank you for watching! Was that the reincarnation show? They have changed the name so many times

    • @joybland5072
      @joybland5072 Рік тому

      @@CultstoConsciousness yes it was the reincarnation show

  • @evakenworthy7308
    @evakenworthy7308 Рік тому +2

    You are both the bravest people!! Leaving a cult that you were raised in has to be the hardest thing in the world. I'm so proud that you can smile and are working to help other people who have been affected and helping the rest of us understand what it's like!

  • @ChantalMonette
    @ChantalMonette Рік тому +7

    The light that Val has managed to keep through all this is truly inspiring. I'm so glad that he found his way out of the cult and that he found his freedom and true self

  • @savy6623
    @savy6623 Рік тому +2

    Val is such an incredible, brave, clever, and charming individual. Thank you both for this very insightful interview!

  • @susancuenin2137
    @susancuenin2137 Рік тому +4

    I completely understand Val’s smile. I so sorry all that happened to Val.

  • @shellyjohnson8491
    @shellyjohnson8491 9 місяців тому +1

    That was so fun to watch! Thank you 😊

  • @susanreilly5015
    @susanreilly5015 Рік тому +4

    Val. You are just perfect in every single way!!!!