My english is not very good so i tried to ues google translate but it doesen't make sense when i translate it. What does she mean by ''the way that you're wired''?
I love how Dodie shows the conflicting emotions of emotional trauma. You're angry, hurt, embarrassed, scared, some weird part of you is laughing, but in the end, you're sad. You feel fragile and you know you didn't deserve whatever happened. Dodie's work is movie worthy
@@ashyosings5089 I think it was supposed to be a nod to the distrust that abused or traumatized kids have. Always being on guard because you don't know who or what to trust. You're never safe in your own home so why would you be safe anywhere else? My friends always tell me I'm too tense, cautious, and paranoid for my own good.
@@rainbow_sparkles1492 Thats almost word to word the type of trauma that causes that psychological trait, She really REALLY managed to express a whole lot in this cinematic, its almost like shes playing a piano but shes the instrument
I showed this to my best friend, who showed it to another one of her best friends, who was convinced by it to leave an abusive relationship. Thank you dodie.
the whole video explains the turmoil one goes through after experiencing trauma at a tender age. when you think you can pack away the emotional baggage at the back of your head, it sits right there staring at you. you finally decide to confront it, thinking you’re ready, but when you open it you find out everything is screaming at you wanting to engulf you. you clean up the dirt, lock it in a safe place but yet the emotional baggage keeps on popping out at places you never though it would. just when you think you’re ready again and brave enough to confront it again, thinking yes(!) I’ve emptied it, it sucks you back in into a black hole without warning. at the end of the day, you’re still holding on to the emotional burden because no one is able to do that for you. luv u dodie. thank you for expressing everything i’ve ever felt perfectly into words and visuals 🖤🖤🖤
This resonates on such a profound level with me... That "ignorant trauma" represented by the Suitcase... It's barely ever opened because you never know what will come out if you start to dive deeper or think about it too much. It's a different can of worms every time... And the expression of relief and Disbelief on Dodie's face when she opens it and nothing happens? Dear god that punches me in the gut... The nuanced level of subtelties are ones that only someone effected by an incident like this one would understand. Its quite incredible
here is why I love this video: The song (in my opinion) talks about a blameless person that supposedly caused an "ignorant trauma" to dodie which is represented in the video by the old heavy bag, in the beginning of the video she is trying to sing happily and ignore it but it's in her periphery always distracting her, she decides that she has had enough and decides to open it (in other words, address the traumatic experience and get over it ) but when she does she unleashes a ton of dust that completely blinds and engulf her (I think that resembles the grief she goes through when she tries to do that). We then see her carrying it around with her but when she does that she keeps running around in circles (she is not going anywhere or progressing in her life) and when she tries to ignore it or forget about it (by hiding it under the bed) it keeps coming back to her, she attempts to confront it again and just when she thinks she has succeeded she falls into a really dark place that completely engulfs her (another way to resemble grief, depression or just a dark mental state) here is where things get really cool, we get to see 4 dodies each singing a different part of the lyrics : 1- the one who claims she is "not bitter, just tired" with a pout while avoiding eye contact: clearly she is bitter and blames that person for the things she had to go through because of them but she also recognizes there is no use in getting angry at the way they are "wired" because they will never change 2- " I could never let you know" dodie : She is the one that's harmonizing indicating that things will go smooth and they will be in harmony as long as she doesn't let them know 3- "Is it real? you believe you are guiltless?" dodie: She is laughing at how stupid that person is, since they are too blind to see themselves at fault 4-"till the day that you die" dodie: she is the one that is crying, meaning she is hurt, either by them or by the fact that she is wishing they die (by the abandoned family house setting of the video, I'm guessing that this may be family related in a way), she is also the one that ends the video meaning that there will be no end to this sadness and grief she is carrying around unless they die I may be reading to much into this but I just loved it too much that I couldn't not share my thoughts with all of you, Like so people can see it \._./
I think your dead on in a lot of respects here. with regard to the 4 dodies, I think the first represents the logical side of her who understands that this person who hurt her in some way can't be fixed, and is this not worth being mad at. The second dodie, though, is still attached and generally fond of this person (probably family I agree). The third is a facade, the self she shows to said person. The fourth is how she still feels, under all the layers and thoughts covering it up. The first and third are constructed, the second pair are innate. It's clever, personal, and deep, a rarity on UA-cam these days
I think you’re mostly spot on, but I personally think that the song is portraying the state of being with someone romantically and it obviously being very mentally abusive, making it worse that the person in question doesn’t seem to know or blame themselves which is why dodie is the one carrying the burden. Although I don’t actually know, I’m just guessing from my own experience.
@@IceTheFlower I guess that's the beauty of art, each person interprets it differently so that it relates and speaks to them or their knowledge better, Hope you got out of that abusive relationship soon enough though ❤
@@IceTheFlower Just chipping in to say that this sounds an awful lot like emotional neglect to me, which is often overlooked and regarded as not very harmful (or it seems that way to me, at least). "You opened a door that a kid shouldn't walk through" - this bit, about being a child, is the bit that makes emotional neglect or something similar seem more likely to me than an emotionally/mentally abusive relationship. "Ignorant trauma" and "I'll never know why you favour that tone" - these are the bits that suggest neglect rather than abuse to me. "Ignorant trauma" - in abuse cases, the abuser is often aware that what they are doing is wrong, even if they believe it is for good reasons. "That tone" specifies how the words are said, not the words themselves. I don't really know, I'm going off of personal experience too and this song really spoke to me. Hope you're in a better position now
I love the way you visibly slip on a mask at the beginning. With all the conflicting emotions layered over the top of eachother, it's almost like you've been encouraged to say these different things to cope with the one voice 'till the day that you die' that's angry and hurt. Love it
I think “a dark politician will end up alone” is a highly underrated lyric, this song always danced around in my head and I think this line is where it really all connected for me, thank you dodie for giving voice to feelings that sometimes feel inexpressible
I’m a 51-year-old man. Husband. Father of 2 daughters. Spotify was playing some songs based on my preferences and Guiltless popped on. Stopped me in my tracks (pardon the pun). I was first taken by Dodie’s voice. The fragile articulation that seemed to whisper in my ear. Then the weight of the bass in the chorus. And finally, the round as the song ends. I hit repeat. Again. Again. Again. I lost track (again with the puns). Then the message of the lyrics seeped in. It was late so I fell asleep listening to that single song over and over. At work the next morning, after I got my coffee and my proverbial ducks in a row, I spent some time on the lyrics. Another rabbit hole of focused obsession. Then I found the video. It just won’t stop. Now I’m writing about it. I want to say why I love it so much. That delicate voice opening with trauma and the punctuation of the consonants infused with the light percussion layers is lovely. Then as the song builds into the chorus that bass/cello makes my hair stand on end. The weight of it penetrates my chest. I don’t feel it’s ominous but it is evocative of deep feeling. And I LOVE it both times it interrupts and counters the high delicate tones - then abruptly ends. Into the next verse, I absolutely dig that playful “I’ll never wonder why you favor that tone” followed by the two tonal accents - cute. Musically it feels that everything becomes subtly more complex and intense even into the second bass/cello passage. Ugh. Then the round. I listen to that on my fancy-schmancy speakers and get lost in the spatial distinctions - left, right, (it feels like a voice, a different voice in somehow in front of me as well). That mix is fantastic and emotionally cacophonous and then ends. Sigh. And now as I consider the message I immediately think of the poem: “This be the verse” by Philip Larkin They fuck you up, your mum and dad. They may not mean to, but they do. They fill you with the faults they had And add some extra, just for you. But they were fucked up in their turn By fools in old-style hats and coats, Who half the time were soppy-stern And half at one another’s throats. Man hands on misery to man. It deepens like a coastal shelf. Get out as early as you can, And don’t have any kids yourself. And now I look to myself to wonder. What trauma have I given to my children? I’ve certainly passed something on to them: fear, anxiety, doubt? What have I taught them about the world, about men, about love, pain? And the song evokes such hope and sadness I get lost in it. I will pass the song onto them. And then apologize. They are kind and generous and will tell me “Everything is OK.” And I love them for that. This song, like the poem, demands that I BE better. I’m not quite sure why I felt the need to post this as a comment. Perhaps I feel a need to apologize to the world and tell her I’ll be better. Ultimately, I think I wanted to say thank you to dodie for this creation. My life is better because of you and your art. All the most wonderful things to you.
you are reflected on your role as a Father! what more a Child could ask for?! live it self messes us up! but having someone showing that he takes responsibility for his actions that he considers his steps for you! that is love to me! I have that in my mother and it helps dealing with the ups and downs that my family has . your kids are blessed!
Thanks for this. I'm literally crying, just want you to know that a lot of kids would love to have a father like that, or just the act of saying you are sorry for the trauma that you may have passed onto them, I believe it's something all parents do, but just imagining my parents recognizing how much that has affected me in my early 20's and saying they are sorry for that would mean the world to me, so this felt a little like that, thank you truly
TW: ABUSE, SOCIAL SERVICES, NEGLECT i just want to thank dodie for making this video, she quite literally saved my life. I live in an abusive household, my parents are emotionally, verbally and physically abusive. I have known since I was quite little that there was something wrong in my household but I didn't really realize how bad it was until I saw others talk about what is and isn't abuse. Even though I knew they are/were abusive I was too terrified to do anything about it, I only ever told 3 close friends I have, they encouraged me to call social services. I didnt. For years i have been staying in this situation as it only got worse, that is until about a month ago. I work as a summer camp counselor at a queer nature camp, and everyone who works there is a mandated reporter (it basically means that if a camper/child/minor tells you they are in danger or are facing/have faced abuse, you legally have to report it to CPS) so i was on a break and i rewatched this video, and all of a sudden it was in my head like an earworm. Showing me the grim reality of my situation, and the pain that it is putting me in, and that i dont deserve to keep on hurting. I finally sat down and told a coworker what was going on at my house. He reported it. I am so much happier, safer, and loved than I have ever been. (in case anyone was wondering what happened to me, i live with my grandma on weekdays and stay in my friends treehouse on weekends so i am safe) Thank you dodie, for giving me the courage, support, and honesty I needed.
I have no words for how seeing this comment right now in this instant made me feel. My parents have the best intentions, and I really do believe that, but the things they've said and done have caused me all sorts of trauma. I don't even feel like I can talk about how much I don't want to attend my classes or do my homework or how I'm failing a class that I really need to pass to graduate in front of them. I'm. So. Tired. Of. Dealing. With. This.
Emotional baggage/that briefcase should be named griefcase -- That's what she's struggling to hide but has to eventually face it and it stings her every damn time!
This song manages to communicate anger at the “guiltless” person very well, but it’s even better at communicating the inner anger and turmoil that goes into dealing with the trauma. It’s acknowledging the truth but conveys the emotions that are contradictory and more difficult to deal with.
I have not in my many years of being a survivor found a sound that I identified with more than I did with this one. The conflicting emotions, the second-guessing, the anger, the pain, I feel it all. Thank you Dodie. Thank you for taking unimaginable pain and making something healing out of it. I feel seen.
RandomMae I know :( I was in Into the Woods this year and played the baker’s wife, and during one of the songs called Children Will Listen I couldn’t help but cry because I related so much to the message.
Earlier this month I saw her play this live in Toronto, and I cried harder then I can ever remember crying. Full heaving sobs, gasping for air, screaming lyrics through tears. And I never cry in public, and there I was, surrounded by people, next to my best friend who could very clearly see me sobbing. And I wasn't embarrassed. I felt relieved, I felt safe to just feel, which is the first time I think that's happened. Nobody paid me any mind, I noticed other people with tears in their eyes, and harmonies of the lyrics which describe my worst feelings surrounded me, my friend comforted me, and I knew I was gonna be okay. Who knew a crowd full of dodie fans was the best place to confront your trauma.
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At 2:00 I can PHYSICALLY feel my heart sink to my stomach, because I just know that feeling so well and damn it hurts, but it's so impressive to me that they captured that feeling so well on camera that I am so affected by it everytime I watch it 😅
lyrics :) There is a wall in my life built by you (Mmm) You opened a door that a kid shouldn't walk through Oh, but I’m not bitter, I'm just tired No use getting angry at the way that you're wired Ignorant trauma in one afternoon [Pre-Chorus] And I could never let you know (Ooh, you’d never get it) And now I'm the one who can't let go (Ooh, don't say it's genetic) [Chorus] Is it real? You believe you're guiltless Oh, I can tell you believe you're guiltless But I don't think I’d feel better if I opened your eyes I’ll carry your burden 'til the day that you die Is it real? You believe you’re guiltless (Mmm) [Verse 2] I'll never know why you favour that tone (Mmm) Not one shred of hope, so I built up my own Oh, but I'm not bitter, I'm just tired No use getting angry at the way that you’re wired A dark politician will end up alone [Pre-Chorus] And I could never let you know (Ooh, you'd never get it) And now I'm the one who can't let go (Ooh, don't say it's genetic) [Chorus] Is it real? You believe you're guiltless Oh, I can tell you believe you're guiltless But I don't think I'd feel better if I opened your eyes I'll carry your burden 'til the day that you die Is it real? You believe you're guiltless (Mmm) [Outro] I'm not bitter, I'm just tired No use getting angry at the way that you're wired (I'm not bitter, I'm just tired) I could never let you know (Ooh) (No use getting angry at the way that you're wired) Is it real? You believe you're guiltless (I'm not bitter, I'm just tired) (No use getting angry at the way that you're wired) Ooh ooh 'Til the day that you die I'm not bitter, I'm just tired No use getting angry at the way that you're wired (I'm not bitter, I'm just tired) (No use getting angry at the way that you're wired) Is it real? You believe you're guiltless (I'm not bitter, I'm just tired) (No use getting angry at the way that you're wired) Is it real? You believe you're guiltless 'Til the day that you die (I'm not bitter, I'm just tired) (No use getting angry at the way that you're wired) Is it real? You believe you're guiltless 'Til the day that you die (I'm not bitter, I'm just tired) (No use getting angry at the way that you're wired)
I saw dodie in concert last month and right before she sang this song, she just prefaced it just by saying '"this ones about family trauma" and never in my life have i felt so validated
"Is it real" is an interesting line for me. While this could be expressing the speakers annoyance, asking if the person this song is for could really be attempting to dodge the blame, it could also be the speaker questioning if their feelings are valid. Did what they think happened, happen? Is this an example of gaslighting, something of which I've been victim to? Is the person they are addressing denying it to an extent to which the speaker thinks that it may not be true? I love this song and this line is my favourite.
I definitely read that line as the narrator questioning their perception of reality. After all, if the other person honestly, completely, genuinely believes they're guiltless... maybe they are? Maybe it's just a misunderstanding? Maybe she's just overreacting, oversensitive, overthinking -- no. If it hurts, it hurts. It's real. It's not made up. It's not weak or silly. It's truth and it's hers. And it feels like you have to fight for that truth to be heard, but you don't. "I don't think I'd feel better if I opened your eyes" -- she doesn't have to prove to them what they did to her for it to be real. She doesn't have to show them every wound and scar, doesn't have to rip them back open and pour in lemon juice. It's easier and safer to step away and let them heal. Her pain is real whether other people see it or not. Besides... she knows full well "you'd never get it." They believe they're guiltless. They won't listen. Believing your own truth without witnesses is hard. But hot damn is it freeing.
yes, i think so, but i also think that it is a way of expressing the narrator's disbelief at the person that they are addressing's apparent inability to see how much their actions have hurt/affected the narrator. idk, that's how i've always interpreted it, especially when applying the song to my own situation.
@@user-uf9wv9pk7g I agree, although hearing the last commenters views is helpful for another reason. So happy to be here with you all ♡ one of my fav lines is "no use getting angry at the way that you're wired" it's having to self-regulate your emotions and responses to their harm to keep yourself safe or just to keep your own peace
This has to be one of my favorite music videos, period. I love everything about this. The song itself brings up emotion, but seeing it played out just makes it that much more real. Amazing.
After singing happy birthday to everyone who's birthday is in September in Boston she announced this song by going "and now that I've wished everyone a happy birthday... Here's a song about childhood trauma!"
perhaps because both this song and the Exploration song from Coraline are in mixolydian mode, and they have todo something with creepy things in the head
why is no one talking about how in the beginning she’s so spaced out and distraught and then puts on a smile so easily like she’s been doing it for a while ? cause that was sad on so many levels but so real. and she kept looking to the side like someone was watching her making sure she’s saying the right things. *T HE FEE LS*
The first few seconds where she's trying so hard to be happy but you see her face twitch into anger and sadness is so beautiful ,this whole music video is beautiful
Lyrics There is a wall in my life built by you (mmm) You opened a door that a kid shouldn't walk through Oh, but I'm not bitter, I'm just tired No use getting angry at the way that you're wired Ignorant trauma in one afternoon And I could never let you know (ooh you'd never get it) And now I'm the one who can't let go (ooh don't say it's genetic) Is it real? You believe you're guiltless Oh, I can tell you believe you're guiltless But I don't think I'd feel better if I opened your eyes I'll carry your burden 'til the day that you die Is it real? You believe you're guiltless (Mmm) I'll never know why you favour that tone (mmm) Not one shred of hope so I built up my own Oh, but I'm not bitter, I'm just tired No use getting angry at the way that you're wired A dark politician will end up alone And I could never let you know (ooh you'd never get it) And now I'm the one who can't let go (ooh don't say it's genetic) Is it real? You believe you're guiltless Oh, I can tell you believe you're guiltless But I don't think I'd feel better if I opened your eyes I'll carry your burden 'til the day that you die Is it real? You believe you're guiltless (Mmm) I'm not bitter, I'm just tired No use getting angry at the way that you're wired (I'm not bitter, I'm just tired) I could never let you know (ooh) (No use getting angry at the way that you're wired) Is it real? You believe you're guiltless (I'm not bitter, I'm just tired) (No use getting angry at the way that you're wired) Ooh ooh I could never let you know (ooh) (No use getting angry at the way that you're wired) I'm not bitter, I'm just tired No use getting angry at the way that you're wired (I'm not bitter, I'm just tired) (No use getting angry at the way that you're wired) Is it real? You believe you're guiltless (I'm not bitter, I'm just tired) (No use getting angry at the way that you're wired) Is it real? You believe you're guiltless (I'm not bitter, I'm just tired) (No use getting angry at the way that you're wired)
I don't know if anyone has noticed this, sorry if there's similar comments already. But if you put the song on replay, the ending and beginning go from her crying to a black screen to her getting herself back together but still not dealing very well and I just love that.
Madame Catty oh shit I didn’t catch that the rounding created a sort of alternate lyric until I read your comic. “No use getting angry until the day that you die.” Fuck, that got me.
This reminds me of Pandora's box, where she lets loose all the evils hidden in the box. The range of emotions at the end can also be seen as the effects and reactions to what has been set loose. Dodie did a wonderful job expressing those emotions!
Beckie the way I see it is like if you hold on to your trauma and bitterness and try policing yourself/your emotions/people around you (kind of being controlling/distant/angry/emotionless) then you end up alone ultimately. so like if you hold on and define yourself by your trauma and ‘angst’-ify it you end up pushing away the attention and help you crave and need. kind of like a classic ‘tragic’ villain trope if that makes sense (but also that’s just how I see it I could be wrong lol)
@@hatesBarney4life I personally see it as literal word, as with depression you can have a negative out look on the world and a major part of that is because of corruption in the goverments. So someone whos lived their life full of deceit will have karma come round one way or another I love how everyone has their own personal relation to this song though ":))
I could see it as a warning to the one who believes they're guiltless - politicians are known for twisting things around to suit their narrative, so I think it's saying if you do that for the wrong reasons, you'll end up alone because people won't want to deal with that.
how do you make things that touch my heart so deeply? like that’s not fair! you’re not allowed to speak straight through all the darkness and touch me so vividly. love you so much, thank you for making this.
This song and video can perfectly capture what dealing with emotional baggage after a traumatic experience can feel like. As someone who can really relate to an incident like this, this is a beautiful piece of art.
The start is like AHH because you can see her TRYING to ignore the baggage and as it slowly overpowers the frame you sense it overpowering her mind and THATS when she can’t ignore it and keep up the mask because it’s becoming more and more powerful and in focus I’m justttttttttt ah. Perfectly portrays the pit in your stomach and voice in the back of your mind from young trauma, thank u for this
"I'm not bitter, I'm just tired No use getting angry at the way that you're wired" Well shit, this is my adult life in two lines of lyrics. Thank you for putting in the hard work to understand yourself, because that has helped me see just how far I've come. Listening to this for the first time was absolutely cathartic, and now I've had it on repeat for days. Thank you for the healing. 💕
OKAY THIS VIDEO IS SO WELL DONE. I also loved the fact that at 1:17 she walks through the same room twice with all this baggage and this represents going back to past trauma and trying to explore it so well. Ughhh in general really representative
wow the line that hit me most 'you opened a door that a kid shouldnt walk through' i went through something as i child that i carry with me everyday, and this helped me open up to my mum about it, wow i needed it- helped me put it all in perspective dodie is a wonderful human who has her own traumas and thoughts and uses music to cope, and wow i have never been so appreciative and in awe of someones musical talent til now thank you dodie
Definitely helps show the impulsive, obsessive need to revisit the events that happens in the mind of someone dealing with childhood trauma. Even if they try to push it away or lay it rest and move on they still find themselves overthinking it again, trying to figure out what happened to them.
This is one of the most visually pleasing pieces of art I've seen. Honestly some of the shots actually took my breath away with how beautiful they were x
Man I`m a grown 32 year old guy. lonely and I´ve just got my Parents and my brother as my closest Persons.... My Eyes just tear up at 0:49. such a powerfull and jet gentle mixed Sound. Perfectly written an produced.!!!!!
Guiltless Dodie Clark There is a wall in my life built by you (mmm) You opened a door that a kid shouldn't walk through Oh, but I'm not bitter, I'm just tired No use getting angry at the way that you're wired Ignorant trauma in one afternoon And I could never let you know (ooh you'd never get it) And now I'm the one who can't let go (ooh don't say it's genetic) Is it real? You believe you're guiltless Oh, I can tell you believe you're guiltless But I don't think I'd feel better if I opened your eyes I'll carry your burden 'til the day that you die Is it real? You believe you're guiltless (Mmm) I'll never know why you favour that tone (mmm) Not one shred of hope so I built up my own Oh, but I'm not bitter, I'm just tired No use getting angry at the way that you're wired A dark politician will end up alone And I could never let you know (ooh you'd never get it) And now I'm the one who can't let go (ooh don't say it's genetic) Is it real? You believe you're guiltless Oh, I can tell you believe you're guiltless But I don't think I'd feel better if I opened your eyes I'll carry your burden 'til the day that you die Is it real? You believe you're guiltless (Mmm) [Outro] I'm not bitter, I'm just tired No use getting angry at the way that you're wired (I'm not bitter, I'm just tired) I could never let you know (Ooh) (No use getting angry at the way that you're wired) Is it real? You believe you're guiltless (I'm not bitter, I'm just tired) (No use getting angry at the way that you're wired) Ooh ooh 'Til the day that you die I'm not bitter, I'm just tired No use getting angry at the way that you're wired (I'm not bitter, I'm just tired) (No use getting angry at the way that you're wired) Is it real? You believe you're guiltless (I'm not bitter, I'm just tired) (No use getting angry at the way that you're wired) Is it real? You believe you're guiltless 'Til the day that you die (I'm not bitter, I'm just tired) (No use getting angry at the way that you're wired) Is it real? You believe you're guiltless 'Til the day that you die (I'm not bitter, I'm just tired) (No use getting angry at the way that you're wired)
This song came out at the perfect time for me. I was going through a terrible friend loss where they really didn’t seem to realize they were going anything wrong. Feels good to see other people feel somewhat the same. Keep up the good work dodie!
I'm going through a friend loss too.. sucks cause they were my best friend and it's hard to let go of someone so impact to you life but they were toxic so I'm over here still trying to get by
Going through the same thing rn too. Worse is that I was in love with her, but I was just tired of the way she treated me. Hope we all feel better soon☺️✨
The very careful and creative choices in this video are incredible. Every time I watch it, I'm amazed at the cinematography, the subtle yet powerful visuals, and even dodie's expressions and how they match up perfectly with each moment of the video. Incredible. You inspire me so much to keep working on my own music.
When I heard this for the first time it brought up old memories so strongly it was like a punch to the gut. Listened to it a few times, got used to it, but watching this video has punched me in the gut all over again. I could never put words to it the way you do, I could never so clearly express it in a video the way you do, but I'm glad you did it and I'm blown away by how clearly you captured it, because now I'm sobbing in my bedroom and it's cathartic in a way. I'm never gonna fully move past my trauma, but this makes me feel understood and less alone. Thank you dodie, I can't wait to see your show in september.
I've never seen something that perfectly captures everything I've felt. My mother doesn't understand how her actions hurt me, and she blames it on how she was raised, but I find it hard to believe. I'm afraid of showing emotion and connecting with people because of the hurt she's caused. I've never found anything that's encompassed my feelings like this, even when I was the one writing it. Dodie always finds the perfect words when I need them. This is perfection.
Is anyone going to mention the fact that dodie is a phenomenal actress
Have you seen her in Let it Be?? She’s amazing in that!!
because she's not acting
@@TOFinc Yeah she is. Acting in a music video is still acting.
@@heathergiles6761 I think they mean that her lyrics are from her heart. :)
@@teesha123 oh ok lol. Thanks :)
"no use getting angry at the way that you're wired" I LOVE that lyric. Omg.
YESS!!!
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My english is not very good so i tried to ues google translate but it doesen't make sense when i translate it. What does she mean by ''the way that you're wired''?
Yasin Özgül she means the way you were made/raised
@@croesiwe6507 the way that u wired is just an expression of how people minds works....
I love how Dodie shows the conflicting emotions of emotional trauma. You're angry, hurt, embarrassed, scared, some weird part of you is laughing, but in the end, you're sad. You feel fragile and you know you didn't deserve whatever happened.
Dodie's work is movie worthy
Campbell Soup we need a Dodie movie
Well said, couldn't agree more! Dodie gets it ❤️
@Me Me agreed
just got chills
Fr. I'm watching this years back and it still gets me
I love her constant looking around always being on gaurd.
Its a sign of bpd and instinctual actions
(Not saying she has bpd)
@@ashyosings5089 I think it was supposed to be a nod to the distrust that abused or traumatized kids have. Always being on guard because you don't know who or what to trust. You're never safe in your own home so why would you be safe anywhere else? My friends always tell me I'm too tense, cautious, and paranoid for my own good.
@@rainbow_sparkles1492 Thats almost word to word the type of trauma that causes that psychological trait,
She really REALLY managed to express a whole lot in this cinematic, its almost like shes playing a piano but shes the instrument
@@ashyosings5089 Yup. That's what singing, acting, and performing are, you tell a story through words and actions...
@@rainbow_sparkles1492 Its the subtleties tho
Another stellar installment in the dCU (dodie Cinematic Universe)
Great, now I wanna know how it all connects into one universe
Megan yes please I would pay to know that
🌸🎵🎶♾🎶🌸
Is this the prequel to Human?
I love how you used the lowercase 'd' . My OCD ass would have used the uppercase one in COMPLETE disregard for the aesthetic
I showed this to my best friend, who showed it to another one of her best friends, who was convinced by it to leave an abusive relationship. Thank you dodie.
doing gods work periodt
😄🙏
That’s amazing! I hope that friend is doing well now
👍….. I left an abusive relationship years ago and am doing so much better now!
@@T.T.M.60 That's great! You can be so proud of you ^^
“Opened a door a child shouldn’t walk through” I absolutely love that line
*kid sowwy ;-;
I thought it was "open a door, a kitchen walk through," Thanks for providing the actual lyric. I like the actual one better as well.
lmAo iMagiNe
Rainbow75888 loved it yet misquoted it 😀
You mean 'opened a door that a kid shouldn't walk through'
God I love the symbolism in this video. All the conflicting emotions speaking over each other. I wanna hug you so bad!!
Those last 20 twenty seconds where dodie's face just crumples threw me over the god damn edge I'm sobbing this is a beautiful piece of art
Poppy Cairns please don’t use the Lord’s name in vain
I’m sorry, pharmie101, but not everyone is Christian or cares about this specific phrase.
oh my gosh, i actually started crying she looked so sad i wanted to hug her
Nah
Poppy Cairns I know, I did a pussy ass hard breath trying to keep it together 😂
*directors*- how can we manage to convey all the emotions someone can feel?
*dodie*- hold my mic
Chloe repato true🥵😂
Dodie: Hold my Baritone Ukelele
@@thegirlwitheeyes1232 👍
PREACH
*Hold my big green suitcase
The cinematography of this is just 👌🏻
Totally agree!
Trench Trash99 I was thinking the same thing the whole time❤️❤️❤️❤️
i liked it on this account, it was 999 and then i went on my other account to make it 1K, i agree so much
*me knowing dodie*
this is gonna take a dark turn isn’t it-
*30 seconds later*
mhm
"dark"
its still so dark OMG
spooki
@@hunterchapman4699 lol "spooki" is right my friend. So is great, beautiful, and empowering! :D
THIS IS MY FIRST TIME WATCHING IM SCARED
still waiting for that "dark turn"
the whole video explains the turmoil one goes through after experiencing trauma at a tender age.
when you think you can pack away the emotional baggage at the back of your head, it sits right there staring at you. you finally decide to confront it, thinking you’re ready, but when you open it you find out everything is screaming at you wanting to engulf you.
you clean up the dirt, lock it in a safe place but yet the emotional baggage keeps on popping out at places you never though it would. just when you think you’re ready again and brave enough to confront it again, thinking yes(!) I’ve emptied it, it sucks you back in into a black hole without warning.
at the end of the day, you’re still holding on to the emotional burden because no one is able to do that for you.
luv u dodie. thank you for expressing everything i’ve ever felt perfectly into words and visuals 🖤🖤🖤
ena nuhhh you described this so well, couldn’t agree more and can relate
ena nuhhh what a beautiful explanation 💓
Thank you for the explanation. I only half understood the song until reading this, now I get it.
You described it so freaking well! I'm gonna capture this so I will have it for next time I have to express this feeling...
I couldn't have said it better
This resonates on such a profound level with me... That "ignorant trauma" represented by the Suitcase... It's barely ever opened because you never know what will come out if you start to dive deeper or think about it too much. It's a different can of worms every time... And the expression of relief and Disbelief on Dodie's face when she opens it and nothing happens? Dear god that punches me in the gut... The nuanced level of subtelties are ones that only someone effected by an incident like this one would understand. Its quite incredible
here is why I love this video:
The song (in my opinion) talks about a blameless person that supposedly caused an "ignorant trauma" to dodie which is represented in the video by the old heavy bag, in the beginning of the video she is trying to sing happily and ignore it but it's in her periphery always distracting her, she decides that she has had enough and decides to open it (in other words, address the traumatic experience and get over it ) but when she does she unleashes a ton of dust that completely blinds and engulf her (I think that resembles the grief she goes through when she tries to do that). We then see her carrying it around with her but when she does that she keeps running around in circles (she is not going anywhere or progressing in her life) and when she tries to ignore it or forget about it (by hiding it under the bed) it keeps coming back to her, she attempts to confront it again and just when she thinks she has succeeded she falls into a really dark place that completely engulfs her (another way to resemble grief, depression or just a dark mental state)
here is where things get really cool, we get to see 4 dodies each singing a different part of the lyrics :
1- the one who claims she is "not bitter, just tired" with a pout while avoiding eye contact: clearly she is bitter and blames that person for the things she had to go through because of them but she also recognizes there is no use in getting angry at the way they are "wired" because they will never change
2- " I could never let you know" dodie : She is the one that's harmonizing indicating that things will go smooth and they will be in harmony as long as she doesn't let them know
3- "Is it real? you believe you are guiltless?" dodie: She is laughing at how stupid that person is, since they are too blind to see themselves at fault
4-"till the day that you die" dodie: she is the one that is crying, meaning she is hurt, either by them or by the fact that she is wishing they die (by the abandoned family house setting of the video, I'm guessing that this may be family related in a way), she is also the one that ends the video meaning that there will be no end to this sadness and grief she is carrying around unless they die
I may be reading to much into this but I just loved it too much that I couldn't not share my thoughts with all of you,
Like so people can see it \._./
I think your dead on in a lot of respects here. with regard to the 4 dodies, I think the first represents the logical side of her who understands that this person who hurt her in some way can't be fixed, and is this not worth being mad at.
The second dodie, though, is still attached and generally fond of this person (probably family I agree).
The third is a facade, the self she shows to said person.
The fourth is how she still feels, under all the layers and thoughts covering it up. The first and third are constructed, the second pair are innate. It's clever, personal, and deep, a rarity on UA-cam these days
I think you’re mostly spot on, but I personally think that the song is portraying the state of being with someone romantically and it obviously being very mentally abusive, making it worse that the person in question doesn’t seem to know or blame themselves which is why dodie is the one carrying the burden.
Although I don’t actually know, I’m just guessing from my own experience.
@@IceTheFlower I guess that's the beauty of art, each person interprets it differently so that it relates and speaks to them or their knowledge better, Hope you got out of that abusive relationship soon enough though ❤
Fantastic analysis!
@@IceTheFlower Just chipping in to say that this sounds an awful lot like emotional neglect to me, which is often overlooked and regarded as not very harmful (or it seems that way to me, at least). "You opened a door that a kid shouldn't walk through" - this bit, about being a child, is the bit that makes emotional neglect or something similar seem more likely to me than an emotionally/mentally abusive relationship. "Ignorant trauma" and "I'll never know why you favour that tone" - these are the bits that suggest neglect rather than abuse to me. "Ignorant trauma" - in abuse cases, the abuser is often aware that what they are doing is wrong, even if they believe it is for good reasons. "That tone" specifies how the words are said, not the words themselves.
I don't really know, I'm going off of personal experience too and this song really spoke to me. Hope you're in a better position now
I love the way you visibly slip on a mask at the beginning. With all the conflicting emotions layered over the top of eachother, it's almost like you've been encouraged to say these different things to cope with the one voice 'till the day that you die' that's angry and hurt.
Love it
Ha the thing is I relate to that so much bc when I tell people I'm depressed the go "omg REALLY?! Ur always so happy and bubbly."
❤ 🙏🍃
Her videos are getting SO artistic, I’m so so proud of her success 🖤🖤
nothing. 2 I’m not sure who you mean but dodie is a girl and I’m a drag queen 😂 if that answers your question
nothing. 2 oh she’s a cis female 💖
I think “a dark politician will end up alone” is a highly underrated lyric, this song always danced around in my head and I think this line is where it really all connected for me, thank you dodie for giving voice to feelings that sometimes feel inexpressible
this hurts so much to watch/listen to but also so cleansing and comforting to hear someone else express all this.
Same ❤️
Same here
It hits way too close for comfort but I needed someone else to express it.
I'm not happy other people had to go through it too, but it's nice to know I'm not alone
Very much agree
Dodie’s dealing with her liTERAL BAGGAGE OHMYGODDDDD
I didnt clock that until you typed it
Her Griefcase
fauzan723 lmaooo yes
Alaric III yes definitely!
Please don’t use the Lord’s name in vain
I’m a 51-year-old man. Husband. Father of 2 daughters. Spotify was playing some songs based on my preferences and Guiltless popped on. Stopped me in my tracks (pardon the pun). I was first taken by Dodie’s voice. The fragile articulation that seemed to whisper in my ear. Then the weight of the bass in the chorus. And finally, the round as the song ends. I hit repeat. Again. Again. Again. I lost track (again with the puns). Then the message of the lyrics seeped in. It was late so I fell asleep listening to that single song over and over. At work the next morning, after I got my coffee and my proverbial ducks in a row, I spent some time on the lyrics. Another rabbit hole of focused obsession. Then I found the video. It just won’t stop. Now I’m writing about it. I want to say why I love it so much. That delicate voice opening with trauma and the punctuation of the consonants infused with the light percussion layers is lovely. Then as the song builds into the chorus that bass/cello makes my hair stand on end. The weight of it penetrates my chest. I don’t feel it’s ominous but it is evocative of deep feeling. And I LOVE it both times it interrupts and counters the high delicate tones - then abruptly ends. Into the next verse, I absolutely dig that playful “I’ll never wonder why you favor that tone” followed by the two tonal accents - cute. Musically it feels that everything becomes subtly more complex and intense even into the second bass/cello passage. Ugh. Then the round. I listen to that on my fancy-schmancy speakers and get lost in the spatial distinctions - left, right, (it feels like a voice, a different voice in somehow in front of me as well). That mix is fantastic and emotionally cacophonous and then ends. Sigh. And now as I consider the message I immediately think of the poem:
“This be the verse” by Philip Larkin
They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.
But they were fucked up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another’s throats.
Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don’t have any kids yourself.
And now I look to myself to wonder. What trauma have I given to my children? I’ve certainly passed something on to them: fear, anxiety, doubt? What have I taught them about the world, about men, about love, pain? And the song evokes such hope and sadness I get lost in it. I will pass the song onto them. And then apologize. They are kind and generous and will tell me “Everything is OK.” And I love them for that. This song, like the poem, demands that I BE better. I’m not quite sure why I felt the need to post this as a comment. Perhaps I feel a need to apologize to the world and tell her I’ll be better. Ultimately, I think I wanted to say thank you to dodie for this creation. My life is better because of you and your art. All the most wonderful things to you.
Thankyou for this, I loved reading it.
you are reflected on your role as a Father! what more a Child could ask for?! live it self messes us up! but having someone showing that he takes responsibility for his actions that he considers his steps for you! that is love to me! I have that in my mother and it helps dealing with the ups and downs that my family has . your kids are blessed!
Wow
Thank you for writing all of this. I think you trying to acknowledge generational trauma makes you a good dad.
Thanks for this. I'm literally crying, just want you to know that a lot of kids would love to have a father like that, or just the act of saying you are sorry for the trauma that you may have passed onto them, I believe it's something all parents do, but just imagining my parents recognizing how much that has affected me in my early 20's and saying they are sorry for that would mean the world to me, so this felt a little like that, thank you truly
Aah this is so good! The beginning part where she was smiling but constantly looking away was portrayed amazingly, aaAH
She was not looking away. She was eyeing her emotional baggage.
It really was
the start is literally me pretending im okay everytime i step out my house
You're not special, literally everyone does this.
ki thank you for saying this, it actually means a lot💕
TW: ABUSE, SOCIAL SERVICES, NEGLECT
i just want to thank dodie for making this video, she quite literally saved my life.
I live in an abusive household, my parents are emotionally, verbally and physically abusive. I have known since I was quite little that there was something wrong in my household but I didn't really realize how bad it was until I saw others talk about what is and isn't abuse. Even though I knew they are/were abusive I was too terrified to do anything about it, I only ever told 3 close friends I have, they encouraged me to call social services. I didnt. For years i have been staying in this situation as it only got worse, that is until about a month ago. I work as a summer camp counselor at a queer nature camp, and everyone who works there is a mandated reporter (it basically means that if a camper/child/minor tells you they are in danger or are facing/have faced abuse, you legally have to report it to CPS) so i was on a break and i rewatched this video, and all of a sudden it was in my head like an earworm. Showing me the grim reality of my situation, and the pain that it is putting me in, and that i dont deserve to keep on hurting. I finally sat down and told a coworker what was going on at my house. He reported it. I am so much happier, safer, and loved than I have ever been. (in case anyone was wondering what happened to me, i live with my grandma on weekdays and stay in my friends treehouse on weekends so i am safe) Thank you dodie, for giving me the courage, support, and honesty I needed.
Your story is amazing. I’m so, so happy for you; gives me hope. 💗
I’m so happy you escaped. You are loveable and valid.
Glad everything worked out and that you feel safe and loved. This song is really powerful.
This gives me hope...
@@Its_me_baybeeeee there is always hope.
This is brilliant. The contrast in emotions, the baggage in the form of the suitcase. I love it.
So good!
Griefcase
fauzan723 Aaaaaand pun of the century goes to you my friend, this made me laugh way more than it should have 😂
HOW DID I NOT CATCH ON TO THE BAGGAGE PART!?
dodie can be so cute, sweet, creepy, and unnerving all at the same time... I LOVE IT
*People, especially those who love you, never really understand the torment they inflict upon you with the best intentions*
I have no words for how seeing this comment right now in this instant made me feel. My parents have the best intentions, and I really do believe that, but the things they've said and done have caused me all sorts of trauma. I don't even feel like I can talk about how much I don't want to attend my classes or do my homework or how I'm failing a class that I really need to pass to graduate in front of them. I'm. So. Tired. Of. Dealing. With. This.
@@cityboundforest oh my god i can relate so muchhh.
magnificent cinematography as always. you showed the affects of post trauma incredibly, i’m so proud of you
Lika agree, but also a shame that UA-cam’s compression destroys the bits with all the dust exploding
Emotional baggage/that briefcase should be named griefcase --
That's what she's struggling to hide but has to eventually face it and it stings her every damn time!
fauzan723, that is CLEVER! 👏👏👏
This song manages to communicate anger at the “guiltless” person very well, but it’s even better at communicating the inner anger and turmoil that goes into dealing with the trauma. It’s acknowledging the truth but conveys the emotions that are contradictory and more difficult to deal with.
I have not in my many years of being a survivor found a sound that I identified with more than I did with this one.
The conflicting emotions, the second-guessing, the anger, the pain, I feel it all.
Thank you Dodie.
Thank you for taking unimaginable pain and making something healing out of it.
I feel seen.
I know right . I also relate so much
"I feel seen" is one of the most powerful things I've ever heard!
3:20 the amount of emotion in her face breaks my heart. we stan an actress
thought the same thing when I saw that. she's amazing
Its easy to act like that when you are actually feeling that way and hurting inside.
RandomMae I know :( I was in Into the Woods this year and played the baker’s wife, and during one of the songs called Children Will Listen I couldn’t help but cry because I related so much to the message.
Lemon she really really is. I love her!!
softieseulgi I hope you're okay now ❤️
Earlier this month I saw her play this live in Toronto, and I cried harder then I can ever remember crying. Full heaving sobs, gasping for air, screaming lyrics through tears. And I never cry in public, and there I was, surrounded by people, next to my best friend who could very clearly see me sobbing. And I wasn't embarrassed. I felt relieved, I felt safe to just feel, which is the first time I think that's happened. Nobody paid me any mind, I noticed other people with tears in their eyes, and harmonies of the lyrics which describe my worst feelings surrounded me, my friend comforted me, and I knew I was gonna be okay. Who knew a crowd full of dodie fans was the best place to confront your trauma.
:) well I hope you're doing good rn!
FEVER HAS OVER 3M VIEWS IN 24HRS!!! I’m fizzing with excitement and still feeling the fun we had making this video! 3 night shoots all over London with the coolest, kindest, funniest girl in the 🌍 @Angèle i’m grateful 2 know you and to have shared this moment with youuuuu!! and thank youuuu wearefromLA for all your magic, energy, excitement and being *french accent* SUPER COOL throughout! I loved collaborating with you all on this so much ❤️ MUCH LOVE and MERCI BEAUCOUP 💋
*This is how many hugs Dodie deserves!*
👇🏻
She deserves all the hugs anyone could ever have sksksk
I'm glad that more support is rising for a hug-based economy.
dodie deserves more hugs than the amount of people that would like a comment wyo
She deserves like infinity bro. Everyone does. Cheers!
What if she doesn’t like hugs ?
I started tearing up at the end oh goodness DODIE YOU DID IT AGAIN YOU BRILLIANT HUMAN YOU
does anyone else see the pun in this? (human, you)
@@shelby8448 I try :,)
I appreciate the puns/references!
@@shelby8448 Can somebody please explain? 😅
@@aisadal2521 Dodie has released music before (albums or an EP I don't remember) but one is called You and the other is called Human
At 2:00 I can PHYSICALLY feel my heart sink to my stomach, because I just know that feeling so well and damn it hurts, but it's so impressive to me that they captured that feeling so well on camera that I am so affected by it everytime I watch it 😅
Owie 😅
It's just like the whole fear into false momentary relief into realizing that you're falling like ugggghhhhhhh xD
@@treehouse2854 I know right?!? aaaaah
The falling scene??? UGH I cried
Also thank u for posting this just as I walked into my house after therapy
the end scene is the part that got meee
this is one of my favourite songs of yours dodie! I LOVE this video, so well made ❤
Bet.. xD
Hey I love your videos!
Same 💜
lyrics :)
There is a wall in my life built by you (Mmm)
You opened a door that a kid shouldn't walk through
Oh, but I’m not bitter, I'm just tired
No use getting angry at the way that you're wired
Ignorant trauma in one afternoon
[Pre-Chorus]
And I could never let you know (Ooh, you’d never get it)
And now I'm the one who can't let go (Ooh, don't say it's genetic)
[Chorus]
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
Oh, I can tell you believe you're guiltless
But I don't think I’d feel better if I opened your eyes
I’ll carry your burden 'til the day that you die
Is it real? You believe you’re guiltless
(Mmm)
[Verse 2]
I'll never know why you favour that tone (Mmm)
Not one shred of hope, so I built up my own
Oh, but I'm not bitter, I'm just tired
No use getting angry at the way that you’re wired
A dark politician will end up alone
[Pre-Chorus]
And I could never let you know (Ooh, you'd never get it)
And now I'm the one who can't let go (Ooh, don't say it's genetic)
[Chorus]
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
Oh, I can tell you believe you're guiltless
But I don't think I'd feel better if I opened your eyes
I'll carry your burden 'til the day that you die
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
(Mmm)
[Outro]
I'm not bitter, I'm just tired
No use getting angry at the way that you're wired
(I'm not bitter, I'm just tired)
I could never let you know (Ooh)
(No use getting angry at the way that you're wired)
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
(I'm not bitter, I'm just tired)
(No use getting angry at the way that you're wired)
Ooh ooh
'Til the day that you die
I'm not bitter, I'm just tired
No use getting angry at the way that you're wired
(I'm not bitter, I'm just tired)
(No use getting angry at the way that you're wired)
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
(I'm not bitter, I'm just tired)
(No use getting angry at the way that you're wired)
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
'Til the day that you die
(I'm not bitter, I'm just tired)
(No use getting angry at the way that you're wired)
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
'Til the day that you die
(I'm not bitter, I'm just tired)
(No use getting angry at the way that you're wired)
Seeing dodie angry crying just breaks my heart. :(
Who made you cry....
I keep rewatching those opening 5 seconds. absolutely gorgeous and so powerful.
And the last 10 just agh art
The live stream went MAD
I saw dodie in concert last month and right before she sang this song, she just prefaced it just by saying '"this ones about family trauma" and never in my life have i felt so validated
unrelated buT HOW HAS DODIE AGED BACKWARDS SHES SO PRETTY AND YOUTHFUL
Um she is like only 24 years old
@@pupu416 i think their point is dodie looks the same as when she was 16
Its called Photoshop.
@@EmmaGodLovesTruth95 no its not?
ILoveYou i dont think you understand what photoshop is...
I'M SCREAMING THIS IS B E A U T I F U L. I'm utterly lost for words. Honestly, just amazing.
Is it just me or is it absolutely mandatory to sing Dodie’s songs with her accent?
Ikr?!
ö i only noticed that i do this now
Dodie and Boyinaband
Overwhelming Surplus Of Diggity y e s
It’s illegal if you don’t
*DODIE THIS VIDEO IS A TRUE MASTERPIECE*
_gorgeous🥺_
The grey smoke👏 dodie branding on point
Now we see why she smells of smoke.
"Is it real" is an interesting line for me. While this could be expressing the speakers annoyance, asking if the person this song is for could really be attempting to dodge the blame, it could also be the speaker questioning if their feelings are valid. Did what they think happened, happen? Is this an example of gaslighting, something of which I've been victim to? Is the person they are addressing denying it to an extent to which the speaker thinks that it may not be true? I love this song and this line is my favourite.
I definitely read that line as the narrator questioning their perception of reality. After all, if the other person honestly, completely, genuinely believes they're guiltless... maybe they are? Maybe it's just a misunderstanding? Maybe she's just overreacting, oversensitive, overthinking -- no. If it hurts, it hurts. It's real. It's not made up. It's not weak or silly. It's truth and it's hers.
And it feels like you have to fight for that truth to be heard, but you don't. "I don't think I'd feel better if I opened your eyes" -- she doesn't have to prove to them what they did to her for it to be real. She doesn't have to show them every wound and scar, doesn't have to rip them back open and pour in lemon juice. It's easier and safer to step away and let them heal. Her pain is real whether other people see it or not. Besides... she knows full well "you'd never get it." They believe they're guiltless. They won't listen.
Believing your own truth without witnesses is hard. But hot damn is it freeing.
Absolutely. I can't count how many times I've asked myself if my dad was really a narcissist or if it was all just a misunderstanding somehow.
yes, i think so, but i also think that it is a way of expressing the narrator's disbelief at the person that they are addressing's apparent inability to see how much their actions have hurt/affected the narrator. idk, that's how i've always interpreted it, especially when applying the song to my own situation.
@@user-uf9wv9pk7g I agree, although hearing the last commenters views is helpful for another reason. So happy to be here with you all ♡ one of my fav lines is "no use getting angry at the way that you're wired" it's having to self-regulate your emotions and responses to their harm to keep yourself safe or just to keep your own peace
This whole thing is a masterpiece. Amazing, dodie.
This has to be one of my favorite music videos, period. I love everything about this. The song itself brings up emotion, but seeing it played out just makes it that much more real. Amazing.
BookQueen0222 YES AHHHH
*periodt*
After singing happy birthday to everyone who's birthday is in September in Boston she announced this song by going "and now that I've wished everyone a happy birthday... Here's a song about childhood trauma!"
I have never wanted to hug someone as badly as I wanna hug Dodie right now.
Penguin Roll same
this gives me major coraline vibes and honestly im here for it
Isabella Richardson was looking for this comment lmao knew I wasn’t the only one
Isabella Richardson good point! Man, I love Coraline. One of my favorite movies of all time. Probably why I love this video so much haha
I watched coralline when I was super young and I haven't slept since.
Omg fucking yes
perhaps because both this song and the Exploration song from Coraline are in mixolydian mode, and they have todo something with creepy things in the head
why is no one talking about how in the beginning she’s so spaced out and distraught and then puts on a smile so easily like she’s been doing it for a while ? cause that was sad on so many levels but so real. and she kept looking to the side like someone was watching her making sure she’s saying the right things.
*T HE FEE LS*
I really wanna see the BTS of how they filmed this, particularly the fall. Beautiful cinematography and concept! 🖤
woah i can’t believe i got here early, never done that before
Me too!!!
Sameeee
Same here
same
was about to comment that hahahha
The first few seconds where she's trying so hard to be happy but you see her face twitch into anger and sadness is so beautiful ,this whole music video is beautiful
Wow, the last "face" looks so different, aa of there was a real shift somehow... Great video!
the ending just ughhhhhh (in a good way). I felt that in my soul dear LORD dodie
Lyrics
There is a wall in my life built by you (mmm)
You opened a door that a kid shouldn't walk through
Oh, but I'm not bitter, I'm just tired
No use getting angry at the way that you're wired
Ignorant trauma in one afternoon
And I could never let you know (ooh you'd never get it)
And now I'm the one who can't let go (ooh don't say it's genetic)
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
Oh, I can tell you believe you're guiltless
But I don't think I'd feel better if I opened your eyes
I'll carry your burden 'til the day that you die
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
(Mmm)
I'll never know why you favour that tone (mmm)
Not one shred of hope so I built up my own
Oh, but I'm not bitter, I'm just tired
No use getting angry at the way that you're wired
A dark politician will end up alone
And I could never let you know (ooh you'd never get it)
And now I'm the one who can't let go (ooh don't say it's genetic)
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
Oh, I can tell you believe you're guiltless
But I don't think I'd feel better if I opened your eyes
I'll carry your burden 'til the day that you die
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
(Mmm)
I'm not bitter, I'm just tired
No use getting angry at the way that you're wired
(I'm not bitter, I'm just tired)
I could never let you know (ooh)
(No use getting angry at the way that you're wired)
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
(I'm not bitter, I'm just tired)
(No use getting angry at the way that you're wired)
Ooh ooh
I could never let you know (ooh)
(No use getting angry at the way that you're wired)
I'm not bitter, I'm just tired
No use getting angry at the way that you're wired
(I'm not bitter, I'm just tired)
(No use getting angry at the way that you're wired)
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
(I'm not bitter, I'm just tired)
(No use getting angry at the way that you're wired)
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
(I'm not bitter, I'm just tired)
(No use getting angry at the way that you're wired)
thank you 👏🏻👀💓
this is incredible! it really portrays childhood trauma in such an interesting way
ahhhh that smile during, "is it real" was so eerie!!! GOOD JOB ON THIS MV, IT'S REMARKABLY PHENOMENAL???? YES
I don't know if anyone has noticed this, sorry if there's similar comments already. But if you put the song on replay, the ending and beginning go from her crying to a black screen to her getting herself back together but still not dealing very well and I just love that.
damn. didnt notice that.
Man I didn't think about that... that's a brilliant observation
This video is so good
The clear story being told without being literal in the slightest
dodie’s amazing acting
the cinematography
THIS IS ART
wow these visuals are so beautiful 😍 (also early squad who watched this while it’s live where you at???)
i didnt know it was gonna be live so im glad i clicked on my notification when i did lol!
aight here 😎
meeeee lol
"I'm not bitter, I'm just tired, no use getting angry [...] 'til the day that you die"
What a brilliant video!
Madame Catty oh shit I didn’t catch that the rounding created a sort of alternate lyric until I read your comic.
“No use getting angry until the day that you die.” Fuck, that got me.
Such a powerful message in such a beautiful song. Dodie Clark is a musical genius.
Beginning of the video: blank face dodiee
Few seconds in:
*Dodie smiles*
I can die peacefully now-
Few seconds from the end:
*Dodie crying, looking distraught*
can no longer die peacefully
@@Selendryle So maybe you should talk to them the only way you know how to
Mhm through sharpened teeth...
This reminds me of Pandora's box, where she lets loose all the evils hidden in the box. The range of emotions at the end can also be seen as the effects and reactions to what has been set loose. Dodie did a wonderful job expressing those emotions!
My first thought after watching this: SO MANY DRAWING OPPORTUNITIES
hahha same
omg yesss
A wild artist appears!
SHOW ME ALL OF THEM PLEASE lol
YES YES YES THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I THOUGHT
i’ll never know why you favour that tone TOne TONE
I love how the visuals are done at the in the round part. All these different, conflicting emotions...
They probably dont understand what the fuck is going on :)
"A dark politician will end up alone" is such a phrase for someones who negative to the way the worlds run
I'm sorry can you explain this a bit more? This is the only lyric I don't understand
Beckie the way I see it is like if you hold on to your trauma and bitterness and try policing yourself/your emotions/people around you (kind of being controlling/distant/angry/emotionless) then you end up alone ultimately. so like if you hold on and define yourself by your trauma and ‘angst’-ify it you end up pushing away the attention and help you crave and need. kind of like a classic ‘tragic’ villain trope if that makes sense (but also that’s just how I see it I could be wrong lol)
@@hatesBarney4life I personally see it as literal word, as with depression you can have a negative out look on the world and a major part of that is because of corruption in the goverments.
So someone whos lived their life full of deceit will have karma come round one way or another
I love how everyone has their own personal relation to this song though ":))
I could see it as a warning to the one who believes they're guiltless - politicians are known for twisting things around to suit their narrative, so I think it's saying if you do that for the wrong reasons, you'll end up alone because people won't want to deal with that.
how do you make things that touch my heart so deeply? like that’s not fair! you’re not allowed to speak straight through all the darkness and touch me so vividly.
love you so much, thank you for making this.
This song and video can perfectly capture what dealing with emotional baggage after a traumatic experience can feel like. As someone who can really relate to an incident like this, this is a beautiful piece of art.
The start is like AHH because you can see her TRYING to ignore the baggage and as it slowly overpowers the frame you sense it overpowering her mind and THATS when she can’t ignore it and keep up the mask because it’s becoming more and more powerful and in focus I’m justttttttttt ah. Perfectly portrays the pit in your stomach and voice in the back of your mind from young trauma, thank u for this
AMAZING dodie
"I'm not bitter, I'm just tired
No use getting angry at the way that you're wired"
Well shit, this is my adult life in two lines of lyrics.
Thank you for putting in the hard work to understand yourself, because that has helped me see just how far I've come.
Listening to this for the first time was absolutely cathartic, and now I've had it on repeat for days.
Thank you for the healing. 💕
I am balling how the heck did you manage to sum up these complicated messy feels so perfectly i am speechless omg
I've been searching my whole life for a song like this. Have even attempted to write one.
Thank you very much for making this. I needed it.
Whenever I have issues with my trauma I listen to this sing and I feel so much better
literally me too
OKAY THIS VIDEO IS SO WELL DONE. I also loved the fact that at 1:17 she walks through the same room twice with all this baggage and this represents going back to past trauma and trying to explore it so well. Ughhh in general really representative
The one time UA-cam Recommended makes a good decision
You should totally listen to the rest of her music
Exactly!
wow
the line that hit me most 'you opened a door that a kid shouldnt walk through'
i went through something as i child that i carry with me everyday, and this helped me open up to my mum about it, wow i needed it-
helped me put it all in perspective
dodie is a wonderful human who has her own traumas and thoughts and uses music to cope, and wow i have never been so appreciative and in awe of someones musical talent til now
thank you dodie
same
omg the 4 voice at the end..MAGICAL!!
Ahhhh this is amazing!! So creative and beautiful ✨
Omfg gosh if this isn’t the most real depiction of cptsd... thank you dodie I hope it opens some people’s eyes
I might sound ignorant but what's cptsd
Kacey can't sing childhood post traumatic stress disorder
Kacey can't sing it’s complex post traumatic stress disorder.
L thank you for the info! :)
Definitely helps show the impulsive, obsessive need to revisit the events that happens in the mind of someone dealing with childhood trauma. Even if they try to push it away or lay it rest and move on they still find themselves overthinking it again, trying to figure out what happened to them.
This is one of the most visually pleasing pieces of art I've seen. Honestly some of the shots actually took my breath away with how beautiful they were x
Dodie your facial expressions is what really got me in this video, especially the forced smiles at the start :)
Man I`m a grown 32 year old guy. lonely and I´ve just got my Parents and my brother as my closest Persons.... My Eyes just tear up at 0:49. such a powerfull and jet gentle mixed Sound. Perfectly written an produced.!!!!!
Guiltless
Dodie Clark
There is a wall in my life built by you (mmm)
You opened a door that a kid shouldn't walk through
Oh, but I'm not bitter, I'm just tired
No use getting angry at the way that you're wired
Ignorant trauma in one afternoon
And I could never let you know (ooh you'd never get it)
And now I'm the one who can't let go (ooh don't say it's genetic)
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
Oh, I can tell you believe you're guiltless
But I don't think I'd feel better if I opened your eyes
I'll carry your burden 'til the day that you die
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
(Mmm)
I'll never know why you favour that tone (mmm)
Not one shred of hope so I built up my own
Oh, but I'm not bitter, I'm just tired
No use getting angry at the way that you're wired
A dark politician will end up alone
And I could never let you know (ooh you'd never get it)
And now I'm the one who can't let go (ooh don't say it's genetic)
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
Oh, I can tell you believe you're guiltless
But I don't think I'd feel better if I opened your eyes
I'll carry your burden 'til the day that you die
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
(Mmm)
[Outro]
I'm not bitter, I'm just tired
No use getting angry at the way that you're wired
(I'm not bitter, I'm just tired)
I could never let you know (Ooh)
(No use getting angry at the way that you're wired)
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
(I'm not bitter, I'm just tired)
(No use getting angry at the way that you're wired)
Ooh ooh
'Til the day that you die
I'm not bitter, I'm just tired
No use getting angry at the way that you're wired
(I'm not bitter, I'm just tired)
(No use getting angry at the way that you're wired)
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
(I'm not bitter, I'm just tired)
(No use getting angry at the way that you're wired)
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
'Til the day that you die
(I'm not bitter, I'm just tired)
(No use getting angry at the way that you're wired)
Is it real? You believe you're guiltless
'Til the day that you die
(I'm not bitter, I'm just tired)
(No use getting angry at the way that you're wired)
bless u
Thank youuuu!
@@WHAATEVEN you're welcome
Thank you
you missed the (til the day that you die) at the end ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
This song came out at the perfect time for me. I was going through a terrible friend loss where they really didn’t seem to realize they were going anything wrong. Feels good to see other people feel somewhat the same. Keep up the good work dodie!
I'm going through a friend loss too.. sucks cause they were my best friend and it's hard to let go of someone so impact to you life but they were toxic so I'm over here still trying to get by
Going through the same thing rn too. Worse is that I was in love with her, but I was just tired of the way she treated me. Hope we all feel better soon☺️✨
@@Luna-by9eo I agree. Hope everyone gets thru it okay💜💜
i'm still in that friendship and i relate to this song so hard for that relationship. it just hits different
The very careful and creative choices in this video are incredible. Every time I watch it, I'm amazed at the cinematography, the subtle yet powerful visuals, and even dodie's expressions and how they match up perfectly with each moment of the video. Incredible. You inspire me so much to keep working on my own music.
When I heard this for the first time it brought up old memories so strongly it was like a punch to the gut. Listened to it a few times, got used to it, but watching this video has punched me in the gut all over again. I could never put words to it the way you do, I could never so clearly express it in a video the way you do, but I'm glad you did it and I'm blown away by how clearly you captured it, because now I'm sobbing in my bedroom and it's cathartic in a way. I'm never gonna fully move past my trauma, but this makes me feel understood and less alone. Thank you dodie, I can't wait to see your show in september.
This one hit really hard, Dodie. I feel you. Amazing song, amazing video. Perfect representation of those feelings.
I've never seen something that perfectly captures everything I've felt. My mother doesn't understand how her actions hurt me, and she blames it on how she was raised, but I find it hard to believe. I'm afraid of showing emotion and connecting with people because of the hurt she's caused. I've never found anything that's encompassed my feelings like this, even when I was the one writing it. Dodie always finds the perfect words when I need them. This is perfection.
* opens case* *zelda chest music plays in a minor key *
On another note... This is SO DAMN BEAUTIFUL
This was haunting, and I loved every second of it!
I cannot believe this is 4 years old. This song always pulls me out of a funk and makes me feel empowered. Thanks Dodie.
so we just gonna ignore the fact that she dropped this on 6/10??
Peoni Cha Thanks for pointing that out, as in my half of the world, it was 10/6 so I wouldn't figure.
fredtdtje I didn’t think about that! Thanks for your input too c:
What's so significant about the date? Curious casual fan here
Trickaprilon 6/10 is one of Dodie's other songs. Its great. You should check it out.
@@annmareebeard8370 Oh cool, thanks! I will