I slightly disagree, how do you explain that some 52% of all homicides are committed by black males in the US. That's FBI UCR data from 12,000 agencies. We can blame addiction and trauma perhaps, but they are not incarcerated on a whim. They're incarcerated because they killed someone.
@@vladimirofsvalbard9477 I'm not going to rewatch a video from 3 weeks ago... but if you could watch it again and figure out what part I was referring to, you will likely find we are talking about different things.
Trauma leads to Shame leads to addiction. You can't erase the trauma but you can heal the shame you have formed. Bless you all. It's hard work but you re worthy. "Take care of your body, it is the most special possession you'll ever own."
I was going down a dark path at one time met gd friends ate healthy went gym realised how grateful I was for my family I was one of the lucky ones Genuinely feel for everyone struggling with addiction They just need someone gd or find strength in themselves to help them focus on the light and fight to make it a bigger part of their life ✊
Emotional Trauma from my cold parents almost tore me to shreds when I was 15, no doubt identifying it was a huge step in my self healing journey. Worst part about trauma is just how hard it is to identify, I managed to swallow my self doubt and record myself talking about trauma and how it affected me in the first video you'll come across after clicking my channel. Hope everyone here can overcome their inner demons ❤🩹
@@karlb.Am.I huh? I used to be an alcoholic so I know how addiction is. What do you mean he is not so crazy? I meant crazy as in wild. He used to be a crazy womanizer, partier, and wild child. Drugs, drinking, and having fun was a part of his IMAGE and identity. So it would be hard to imagine living differently. So I'm saying, even someone as cool and crazy as him can think differently.
He lived crazily , yet he is not crazy .. it wasn't his image or identity I say , rather his deeper rooted vulnerable self looking for an anchor and way out . He is very great , and his inner being and soil remains the same beautiful self he always has been and is
@@karlb.Am.I Ummmmm no. He was a party animal, popular, ladies man type guy. He WAS always beautiful and very spiritual, yes. I didn't say he changed as in his personality or anything. I said he just changed his mindset about having to do drugs and stimulants. If you follow him or listen to his stand up he talks about how it was a part of his identity. You would know this if you knew his work so I guess you're commenting on something you do not know. I am a huge fan so I know his life story and his work pretty well. I'm not sure what point you're making. It seems like you didn't even listen to what I said 😂. Alright.
After so many surgeries, my doctors kept giving me crap til I thought it was killing me!! I weaned off and now can get zero help for pain. 120mg of OxyContin 3 x day plus 5-6 dialaudid for break through pain, flexeril, 3antidepressants, soma, I can’t remember them all.. oh benzo!s lucky I’m alive. I never went over dosage!! Eventually didn’t help with pain, really scary part!!! Not ONE dr told me anything about OxyContin!!
Thanks for representing success over addiction. I'm still praying over my addicted husband. He is so afflicted, he doesn't remember reality as it happens. He has memories (stories/excuses) that never happened.
@@research1747 by staying sober and living s great life - helping others make better decisions about drugs, and being a great example of potential manifested over potential snuffed out by drugs. That's how.
Gabor mate is the best at explaining it. Not why the addiction ,but why the pain?Addiction only becomes a problem when it has negative consequences(work,home life, finances,crime,prison etc)and you're life becomes unmanageable not looking after yourself, poor health, diet ,missing appointments, debt with dealers, family responsibilities. )
It's crazy how addiction exploded in my own family after Covid. It seems like too much of a coincidence to be an accident. I grown and married now, but come from an upper-middle class background. Alcoholism and drug use though came with a vengeance the last 3 years and has ruined several of my male family members.
I've dealt with pain used things to block said memories and fall out but have been a survivor I pray and think of the walking Injured from sufferings can come a good and inlightend human blessings to all
Great video, it's not always evident to an individual that there diminishing their productivity, fulfillment, and life in general due to cognitive distress 😢
Biggest pet peeve- blaming addiction or addicts. Most have been S.A, or have had horrific circumstances come to a ptsd. Addiction is hard. 20 years! Good job Russel. Time to celebrate and be proud!
My mother, who was my emotional lighthouse, died on Feb 4th of last year. Now we're coming up on that one-year anniversary. My dad just turned 93. If it weren't for me living with him, he'd have to go into assisted living, and he'd die there hating his life depending on other people to help him. My third wife (and still my best friend) has MS and needs my financial assistance because she now has to be in a home where they can take better care of her than I can. But they need my monthly money to take care of her. Only my obligations keep me alive now. This year, for the first time in my entire life, I couldn't put my mother as my emergency contact for my job. I get drunk daily just to try to sleep and keep the demons away. In fact, I'm drunk right now. When all my obligations are gone, I want to buy myself an extravagant barbecue meal, get really plastered, put on my headphones, and lie across some railroad tracks in the middle of nowhere, where no one will ever find me. After almost sixty years of life, I'll ultimately be a smudge.
Smart guy. An honest assessment of myself indicates the trauma of my life occurred in the depths of despair cased by an inability to control my drug use. I believe trauma to be the catalyst that set me free. I’m thankful my life turned to shit.
I think we’re judging people who don’t take seriously the severe side effects of some of these addictions like alcoholism. For instance, some alcoholics are drinking and driving and killing people they’re terrorizing their own children. They’re destroying their relationships, they’re making themselves homeless. That’s what we’re judging.
Hi Russell I am very impressed you nearly made it to twenty years of being free from things that destroy you….you the second person I know my father go 37.years being his own best friend.🌸🌈🧚♀️✨
Everybody has addictions the definition partially being repetitive behaviour whilst we are also creatures of habit suggesting we do repetitive behaviours our entire lives..so what I’m saying is that maybe people should sit down and give much thought to just the word addiction and soon will see the world be full of things we are addicted to…basically if we like it we keep doing it …the pleasure principle and if we don’t like it we may or may not be into the pain principle some like that one called gluttons for punishment most of them for who wants to be in pain? Which brings up the topic of learning new ways of behaving this one so hard no matter the behaviour one is trying to break..so routine vs change food for thought.
Once upon a time we people were frugal for times were tight…we were grateful and appreciative for the food on the plate just enough each day to survive healthy..and a time when holidays meant something…then into a Peter Pan temptation island world where you could have anything you wanted anytime you wanted it..once your friend then it become your enemy I call it too much of the good thing..that the thing one likes best…will do you in…in the end but fun and laughter when it be your friend but makes bad enemy..
It's all a mental health issue and my sister and I know alot about addiction because we have a loved one who has been addicted since the sixties. We have witnessed this our whole lives. We call it drug brain and have to constantly remember why they are saying and behaving the way they do. They're in really deep pain. Most humans are somewhat addicted. We all do it to some degree.
I'm sure you've read about addiction and know that Helplessness from trauma makes them feel in other words guilty when they shouldn't be blamed you know? The worst addictions are like alcohol that takes the chemistry from your brain re-creating the need for more There are so many addictions eating etc There are substitutes I've heard for some addictions but I don't know what? I hope your loved one will be alright? My Nephew died from alcoholism at 33 years old He was a very sensible guy normally but under stress alone well it was sad and no one in family knew
My husband has been an alcoholic for over 13 years. It escalated when his father died in 2007. Unfortunately after 20 years married I feel I can no longer hang on! 😕 It's also true during the pandemic he got worse. I have also asked him if something happened to him when he was little. But he says nothing. 😐 I'm now starting to learn how to meditate 🧘♀️ Thank you for this content!
I personally have never met a happy person that decided to destroy their lives with drugs and alcohol it's always been someone who has dealt with some type of trauma.
@@craftyourwaytopeace Agree. He is obviously escaping from emotional pain. Cigarettes are the adult version of a pacifier. Abused abandoned or neglected or suffered some traumatic event 100%. Many people go through life distracting themselves and never heal.
@@craftyourwaytopeace dawg he came from a good ass fsmily and I’ve talked to him during his most emotional times, he started doing meth and hard drugs at 14-22 stopped for 15 years then just kept drinking and smoking cigs his whole life. His brother and sister went through the same thing except they’re doctors and respective business owners
Authoritative dictation leads to addiction to compensate. Rules devoid of wisdom make humans intuitively turn to drugs to turn inward for compassionate existential answers when none are available through corrupt mind based systems devoid of true intelligence. In a world devoid of any deep meaning how else can we transcend the madness of politics and war? Meditation, creativity, love and entheogens are the only answers. How could anyone with those values cause suffering to themselves or others? No one has ever made a weapon of mass destruction from genuine peace and wisdom within themselves.
This was very true it was self medication for my mental illness for me. Since many anti depressants didn't work and made me worse infact. Now, I'm just living in depression, but don't do drugs.. illegal or legal..
Hm. I see there being so few ppl actually adressing the real issues that I'm even surprising miself how humbly I don't feel the Internal need of arguing about it😏 bcuz yea neutralizing the behaviour is like sitting at same eye&soul lvl when addressing a child🙄 yeayea but we adults..=kids(grown or not really) with power. Nd I ve also found when studying my personal case how accepting/allowing it works in same way, how saturation takes one there and few other triggers or nontriggers that work on deactivating the need of the bahaviour I see em as a straight line goin in circles, but so clear. And I can't help on wandering is it for real that doctors specialists scientists with whom us..the majority r dealing with r they for real when keeping the addictive behaviour never ending and supplying it even, bcuz I'm telling u how much support I have received from the ones to offer it to me when quitting?...zero+ them opposing me, luckly I get stubborn also in all surprising them ways. Nd then I remember during the pandemic enjoying outside by miself all-day wandering again how is it possible 4 them to sustain and apply such shiets nd be so convinced I couldn't understand..the only depression I got 4 humanity u is more wacked then I believe miself being..where wass the natural logic and I'm addressing the ones studying& researching shiet...unbelievable that only the money&the power greed guides em to guide us...the population and from the neighborhoods point of view, usual ppl like..it's heartbreaking and insane 4 me being 1 that I see what they doing nd how easily such a destructive behaviour as drug addiction can be reversed/stopped, not that not all the other types of addictions r any better from one particular human to the society lvl. The system does NOT want to let ppl getting out nor support them in such matters. The saddest part in all this when leaving from and dealing with it from the family lvl of regular ppl..my conclusion after goin through it in the systems of 2 countries more or less related, but taking it from 1 particle to the whole...I can easily assume it's available for most of the world, just bcuz I luv believing in the element of surprising, or let me call it undeniable hope Uuuf life's difficult in the hood 💓
Yeah, trauma is at the root of addiction. Kind of unfair isn’t it, but it’s very logical. There is a need to have relief that others don’t have, that can’t really be attained otherwise.
Without a doubt trauma leads to addiction. Not acknowledging this is a viscous cycle of abuse to ourselves and others. Thank you, RB for this interview with Gabor Mate.
I got some serious trauma into..Day 10 Watching Rainbow lorikeet doing every gum nut on the branch at my window in the hope of one droplet of sweet nectar..behaviour becoming erratic and starting to look quite feral with crazzee look in eye that’s how close up I can now film them..in fact they even have a tweet lol to let me know one of them is on the branch..they all want to be a star ⭐️ clever
I am a middle pather with very little… I think it’s called everything in moderation…I am my own best Frenemy…Buddha teaches the middle path, 4 noble truths and eightfold path which is very helpful to the recovering person…333 I was born on the 3rd and 33 was my last birthday party of any meaning cos I began the journey to QUIT firstly alcohol and then a long list…Still Alive…Rainbow lorikeets on sweet sugar nectar of the tree turn into Rainbow bullets in the sky…one during filming I wanted to test decibels of the screeching = to a rock concert and two radar gun to clock them shooting through my back yard🌈= to shit unseen
Tyrannically imposed trauma which can only be corrected via breaking the delusion of human exceptionalism (pride/free-will). We need humility enough to admit we are generic life. Patience be with each ego of this universe-comprising physical singularity which all that exists is an extension. We are literally angels. Crazy crazy angels.
Portugal ended drugs criminalization years ago and treat these people as having a desiese providing medical care. May be you could investigate this because its a sucess the results here
@Dee Smith you can't really access Internet or libraries if you're living in the streets because your parents both died of cancer now youre 15 youre on your own,at least in uk you have to pay for library and Internet.
This is a great insight, and thank you. My brother who suffers from addiction is coming to stay with me soon and it may be that I will help him. My concern is you mention Jordan Peterson. Isn't he the chap who promoted really sexist programmes? Please correct me of I'm mistaken, but I'm really hoping moving my brother away from some of those horrible negative male stereotypes will help him in his recovery. I really don't want to send him towards things I think would be more destructive longterm.
ALICE MILLER AND ERIC FROMME SPOKE ABOUT HOW IMPORTANT IT IS TO FEEL********** YOU ARE HERE YOU THAT RUNNING WE ALL DO TO GET THERE IS ONLY FEAR/GUILT WE CAN'T BE RESPONSIBLE FOR EVERYONE WE AREN'T GODS GUILT IS A KILLER OF ALL OF US HEART ATTACKS CANCER AND OTHER DISEASE ARE ALSO FROM GUILT
"Physian, heal thyself" Never so more is rhat relevant than these times we live in. I have never seen a counsellor or received therapy for the abuse, trauma, drug addiction and am only now emerging from it with rhe sobre and sombre strength which there is no going back on. Happiness is as fallacy that homeostasis would rrecognize by a bout of depression, so as to regulate a cultivated compromise which at worst(for me now)makes life without drugs manageable. Got a lot to say on the topic in the Gestalt recognition of how abuse,trauma and drug use in no particular order are invariably linked. Check me out on the link which I am waiting for Russell to give me!
I am watching this only because I am drinking myself to death, and I can't stop. I don't drink daily, but when I drink I ingest anything with ethyl alcohol in it and say fard the consequences. Then it takes two weeks to heal. So thats the pattern now, one night drunk followed by two weeks dry. After decades of trying ro stop and much more drug and alcohol abuse. Nobody drinks around me but my household is stressful as Hell.
No not Gabor Mate ….he advocates Ayhuasca and he really DOES NOT KNOW the long term effects of taking psychedelics whatever he sees as apparent short term effects. Good meditation with teachers who really know ..GM dies not and is causing himself and others a lot of harm. I am not saying he is all bad just HUGELY MISGUIDED on this aspect. Please look at Byron Katie or Vipassana meditation as these are authentic ways that can get you out of addiction WITHOUT long term repercussions…..I know many will not agree and so sorry about that ..I won’t post again so no need to respond…my only motivation in writing this is I truly do not wish others to suffer unnecessarily and I understand that GM and many others are really promoting these psychedelics at the moment.
For further information see Ajahn Sucitto’s blog on psychedelics..He took them for 5 years before becoming a professional meditator and in reaching a high level of clarity he could see exactly the harm he had caused himself from taking psychedelics…hardly anyone has this level of clarity and hence are unable to see the dangers
I have seen studies that have said those with antisocial personality disorder (sociopaths) have higher rates of addiction to drugs/alcohol. Are these people able to be helped with Gabor mate’s theories? I have read they are hopeless causes essentially who harm other people
I like late night IPAs and the new cannabis products that are available. I'm a second shift guy, so to have a good snack, IPAs and some cannabis while exploring the interwebs is my thing. Sometimes research with different search engines, read the latest articles, watch different vloggers from around the world and maintain a prepper readiness in case of the zombie apocalypse. I prefer "he" or "him". Currently and happily single. Enjoy women best close to my age which is AARP years. Ah dang! This isn't a dating site. Ooops!
I think Trauma is only a catalyst for change. You can learn from it and improve or see it as a burden to shape how you view your reality. Positive or Negative.
This is true on the surface, but if someone's experience is largely made up of trauma they have no blue print/the mental tools/capacity to make a positive choice......
@@WSmith_1984 There's always a choice, give up trying or keep going. Trauma doesn't give you a holiday or have a time limit on overcoming it. Help yourself if you cannot find anyone who wants to help.
@@davidmarris31 that's the point hopelessness, being downtrodden with nothing, little tools, little hope, little knowledge, when you don't have the mental skills to change, change isn't very likely is it? Have you experienced serious issues that you've had to overcome or are you coming from a place of privilege, in that you don't understand nor comprehend just how bad it can get for people?
@@davidmarris31 With all due respect, you are likely someone who has not experienced the levels of trauma that often leads to life-crippling perspectives and coping strategies. There are many types and degrees of trauma that people can experience, and much of it goes unacknowledged by modern society. Moreover, each person will have a complex set of reactions to those experiences. Fortunately, the study and treatment of traumas are finally getting serious attention in various professional fields, but really only in the last 50 odd years. Trying to tell most people who’ve been deeply traumatized to ‘get over it’ or ‘pull yourself up by your bootstraps’ and make better choices, is just a band-aid… it may work temporarily, but it cannot lead to actual healing. And a healing journey is what all of humanity should have an investment in… for our very survival on this increasingly out-of-balance planet we are on. ☮️🌟
@@livingitup9647 Agree wholeheartedly. Part of the problem, I feel is that the word "trauma" is being used much like "depression." Whereas I'm sad, or grieving is termed by people as Depression, and if I'm not happy with a situation I've been traumatized. NO. This is where the Interpersonal Neurobilogists have done us a service: Trauma is anything that causes an individual's nervous system to shut down (in the variety of ways this happens); too much energy (energy in motion=emotion) for a person's nervous system. It is seemingly very difficult for someone who has not realized that they're carrying it to have any understanding of what it does to those of us who have, from the start, been in chronically traumatizing environments and its tentacles (trauma's) spread wide and deep.
I personally don't agree with Dr. G. Mute said, we are living in a dominated and demanding world and people wants to be recognise from this insane world and it doesn't surprise me why people used substances for comfort😔. Blessings 🙏 be at peace ➕ ❤️
I mostly agree. Disagree with the end. Blaming race? Nice excuse. How many of those people were raised with both parents? Probably under 10%. Also Asians are the top earners in every western country. Stop blaming race. The soft bigotry of low expectations
Congratulations Russell on your 20 years of sobriety & loving yourself!!❤🌹❤
He's so right on the addiction cause... and our "justice" system. 👊❤
I slightly disagree, how do you explain that some 52% of all homicides are committed by black males in the US. That's FBI UCR data from 12,000 agencies.
We can blame addiction and trauma perhaps, but they are not incarcerated on a whim. They're incarcerated because they killed someone.
@@vladimirofsvalbard9477 I'm not going to rewatch a video from 3 weeks ago... but if you could watch it again and figure out what part I was referring to, you will likely find we are talking about different things.
This man is spot on. Spread the word.
Good for you - 21 years here !
So much truth. Stay free.
Trauma leads to Shame leads to addiction. You can't erase the trauma but you can heal the shame you have formed. Bless you all. It's hard work but you re worthy. "Take care of your body, it is the most special possession you'll ever own."
Great description of our
" common " plight , dealing with life in so many ways
I was going down a dark path at one time met gd friends ate healthy went gym realised how grateful I was for my family I was one of the lucky ones
Genuinely feel for everyone struggling with addiction
They just need someone gd or find strength in themselves to help them focus on the light and fight to make it a bigger part of their life ✊
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Emotional Trauma from my cold parents almost tore me to shreds when I was 15, no doubt identifying it was a huge step in my self healing journey. Worst part about trauma is just how hard it is to identify, I managed to swallow my self doubt and record myself talking about trauma and how it affected me in the first video you'll come across after clicking my channel. Hope everyone here can overcome their inner demons ❤🩹
I watched your video and it almost made me cry!
Addiction comes in many forms. Depression and trauma can cause food addiction (obesity on the rise) as well.
Gabor blows my mind every time I hear him speak. He's so brilliant with trauma.
Thank you so much🙏🏼❤️
I'm so glad you're still sober! You're showing people that it is possible. Even someone crazy like you can do it.
It's crazy not to fight for your life .. he's so not crazy
@@karlb.Am.I huh? I used to be an alcoholic so I know how addiction is. What do you mean he is not so crazy? I meant crazy as in wild. He used to be a crazy womanizer, partier, and wild child. Drugs, drinking, and having fun was a part of his IMAGE and identity. So it would be hard to imagine living differently. So I'm saying, even someone as cool and crazy as him can think differently.
He lived crazily , yet he is not crazy .. it wasn't his image or identity I say , rather his deeper rooted vulnerable self looking for an anchor and way out .
He is very great , and his inner being and soil remains the same beautiful self he always has been and is
I've been in those ways too , as you , as him , as so many ..
There's a way in which is the way out of the crazy clutching trap x
@@karlb.Am.I Ummmmm no. He was a party animal, popular, ladies man type guy. He WAS always beautiful and very spiritual, yes. I didn't say he changed as in his personality or anything. I said he just changed his mindset about having to do drugs and stimulants. If you follow him or listen to his stand up he talks about how it was a part of his identity. You would know this if you knew his work so I guess you're commenting on something you do not know. I am a huge fan so I know his life story and his work pretty well. I'm not sure what point you're making. It seems like you didn't even listen to what I said 😂. Alright.
After so many surgeries, my doctors kept giving me crap til I thought it was killing me!! I weaned off and now can get zero help for pain. 120mg of OxyContin 3 x day plus 5-6 dialaudid for break through pain, flexeril, 3antidepressants, soma, I can’t remember them all.. oh benzo!s lucky I’m alive. I never went over dosage!! Eventually didn’t help with pain, really scary part!!! Not ONE dr told me anything about OxyContin!!
Dr. Mate just gets it right every time.🥰
He's so humble and honest. Addiction doesn't discriminate.
Great video and an amazing conversation
Thanks for representing success over addiction. I'm still praying over my addicted husband. He is so afflicted, he doesn't remember reality as it happens. He has memories (stories/excuses) that never happened.
No addict is ever sick alone - sick attracts sick .
@@research1747 or - a sick person causes sorrow on those who love them.
I am not sure how ?
@@research1747 by staying sober and living s great life - helping others make better decisions about drugs, and being a great example of potential manifested over potential snuffed out by drugs. That's how.
Gabor mate is the best at explaining it. Not why the addiction ,but why the pain?Addiction only becomes a problem when it has negative consequences(work,home life, finances,crime,prison etc)and you're life becomes unmanageable not looking after yourself, poor health, diet ,missing appointments, debt with dealers, family responsibilities. )
RUSSELL I NEED YOUR HELP, YOU'RE THE ONLY MAN I TRUST!
It's crazy how addiction exploded in my own family after Covid. It seems like too much of a coincidence to be an accident.
I grown and married now, but come from an upper-middle class background.
Alcoholism and drug use though came with a vengeance the last 3 years and has ruined several of my male family members.
I've dealt with pain used things to block said memories and fall out but have been a survivor I pray and think of the walking Injured from sufferings can come a good and inlightend human blessings to all
Love and appreciation Russell, from the state of Indiana 🇺🇸
Gabor Mate is amazing, I wish more people took on these more open perspectives. I still wish you would stop saying "an addict" though.
Great video, it's not always evident to an individual that there diminishing their productivity, fulfillment, and life in general due to cognitive distress 😢
Stay clean. Stay free. Love to you.
Biggest pet peeve- blaming addiction or addicts. Most have been S.A, or have had horrific circumstances come to a ptsd. Addiction is hard. 20 years! Good job Russel. Time to celebrate and be proud!
Good video. I have a family member whose a recovering addict and who has gone thru hell.
Sending Love and Thanks. 🥰
Thank you.
My mother, who was my emotional lighthouse, died on Feb 4th of last year. Now we're coming up on that one-year anniversary.
My dad just turned 93. If it weren't for me living with him, he'd have to go into assisted living, and he'd die there hating his life depending on other people to help him.
My third wife (and still my best friend) has MS and needs my financial assistance because she now has to be in a home where they can take better care of her than I can. But they need my monthly money to take care of her.
Only my obligations keep me alive now.
This year, for the first time in my entire life, I couldn't put my mother as my emergency contact for my job.
I get drunk daily just to try to sleep and keep the demons away.
In fact, I'm drunk right now.
When all my obligations are gone, I want to buy myself an extravagant barbecue meal, get really plastered, put on my headphones, and lie across some railroad tracks in the middle of nowhere, where no one will ever find me.
After almost sixty years of life, I'll ultimately be a smudge.
7:40 - 8:10 That blows my mind, so TRUE❣
Very true words. Thankyou Russell ❤️
Smart guy. An honest assessment of myself indicates the trauma of my life occurred in the depths of despair cased by an inability to control my drug use. I believe trauma to be the catalyst that set me free. I’m thankful my life turned to shit.
I think we’re judging people who don’t take seriously the severe side effects of some of these addictions like alcoholism. For instance, some alcoholics are drinking and driving and killing people they’re terrorizing their own children. They’re destroying their relationships, they’re making themselves homeless. That’s what we’re judging.
Wow. Thanx. Good.
Hi Russell I am very impressed you nearly made it to twenty years of being free from things that destroy you….you the second person I know my father go 37.years being his own best friend.🌸🌈🧚♀️✨
Congrats on almost two decades of being sober Russell 👏
Everybody has addictions the definition partially being repetitive behaviour whilst we are also creatures of habit suggesting we do repetitive behaviours our entire lives..so what I’m saying is that maybe people should sit down and give much thought to just the word addiction and soon will see the world be full of things we are addicted to…basically if we like it we keep doing it …the pleasure principle and if we don’t like it we may or may not be into the pain principle some like that one called gluttons for punishment most of them for who wants to be in pain? Which brings up the topic of learning new ways of behaving this one so hard no matter the behaviour one is trying to break..so routine vs change food for thought.
Hello Russell Brand ⚘
Congrats on your battle.🎉I’ve beaten most of mine but I can’t get rid of my cig crutch😢
The solution in my opinion is spiritual principles - most professionals don’t believe that until the become addicted - and look for the solution !
My trauma therapist has helped me see this.
it's just so hard.... knowing the struggles, as a recovering food addict, and trying to love an unconscious addict... where's the hope????
Poverty is traumatic. Look at the communities that suffer the most with crime and addiction, they are usually the most poor.
I enjoy watching you Russel I would very much enjoy more content on this channel maybe talking about spiritual and philosophical issues/topics
Requested to hold his book The Myth of Normal at my local library when it gets returned. Looking forward to what looks and sounds to be a good read
Once upon a time we people were frugal for times were tight…we were grateful and appreciative for the food on the plate just enough each day to survive healthy..and a time when holidays meant something…then into a Peter Pan temptation island world where you could have anything you wanted anytime you wanted it..once your friend then it become your enemy I call it too much of the good thing..that the thing one likes best…will do you in…in the end but fun and laughter when it be your friend but makes bad enemy..
Spirituality 🕉️🙏
Neat post man, Dr. Mate sure knows what he's talking about...Blessings
It's all a mental health issue and my sister and I know alot about addiction because we have a loved one who has been addicted since the sixties. We have witnessed this our whole lives. We call it drug brain and have to constantly remember why they are saying and behaving the way they do. They're in really deep pain. Most humans are somewhat addicted. We all do it to some degree.
I'm sure you've read about addiction and know that Helplessness from trauma makes them feel in other words guilty when they shouldn't be blamed you know? The worst addictions are like alcohol that takes the chemistry from your brain re-creating the need for more There are so many addictions eating etc There are substitutes I've heard for some addictions but I don't know what? I hope your loved one will be alright? My Nephew died from alcoholism at 33 years old He was a very sensible guy normally but under stress alone well it was sad and no one in family knew
Is meditation an addiction ?
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Trauma!
My husband has been an alcoholic for over 13 years. It escalated when his father died in 2007. Unfortunately after 20 years married I feel I can no longer hang on! 😕 It's also true during the pandemic he got worse. I have also asked him if something happened to him when he was little. But he says nothing. 😐 I'm now starting to learn how to meditate 🧘♀️ Thank you for this content!
Great thank you Russell❤️🌞😄congrats on your 20 anniversary❤️🌞😄
I personally have never met a happy person that decided to destroy their lives with drugs and alcohol it's always been someone who has dealt with some type of trauma.
My dad doesn’t have any huge trauma sources and drinks and smokes every single day
@@ChrisTrovato Dad's don't tell us everything that's happened in their lives either now do they?
@@craftyourwaytopeace Agree. He is obviously escaping from emotional pain. Cigarettes are the adult version of a pacifier. Abused abandoned or neglected or suffered some traumatic event 100%. Many people go through life distracting themselves and never heal.
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@@craftyourwaytopeace dawg he came from a good ass fsmily and I’ve talked to him during his most emotional times, he started doing meth and hard drugs at 14-22 stopped for 15 years then just kept drinking and smoking cigs his whole life. His brother and sister went through the same thing except they’re doctors and respective business owners
Authoritative dictation leads to addiction to compensate. Rules devoid of wisdom make humans intuitively turn to drugs to turn inward for compassionate existential answers when none are available through corrupt mind based systems devoid of true intelligence. In a world devoid of any deep meaning how else can we transcend the madness of politics and war? Meditation, creativity, love and entheogens are the only answers. How could anyone with those values cause suffering to themselves or others? No one has ever made a weapon of mass destruction from genuine peace and wisdom within themselves.
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This was very true it was self medication for my mental illness for me. Since many anti depressants didn't work and made me worse infact. Now, I'm just living in depression, but don't do drugs.. illegal or legal..
Hm. I see there being so few ppl actually adressing the real issues that I'm even surprising miself how humbly I don't feel the Internal need of arguing about it😏 bcuz yea neutralizing the behaviour is like sitting at same eye&soul lvl when addressing a child🙄 yeayea but we adults..=kids(grown or not really) with power. Nd I ve also found when studying my personal case how accepting/allowing it works in same way, how saturation takes one there and few other triggers or nontriggers that work on deactivating the need of the bahaviour I see em as a straight line goin in circles, but so clear. And I can't help on wandering is it for real that doctors specialists scientists with whom us..the majority r dealing with r they for real when keeping the addictive behaviour never ending and supplying it even, bcuz I'm telling u how much support I have received from the ones to offer it to me when quitting?...zero+ them opposing me, luckly I get stubborn also in all surprising them ways. Nd then I remember during the pandemic enjoying outside by miself all-day wandering again how is it possible 4 them to sustain and apply such shiets nd be so convinced I couldn't understand..the only depression I got 4 humanity u is more wacked then I believe miself being..where wass the natural logic and I'm addressing the ones studying& researching shiet...unbelievable that only the money&the power greed guides em to guide us...the population and from the neighborhoods point of view, usual ppl like..it's heartbreaking and insane 4 me being 1 that I see what they doing nd how easily such a destructive behaviour as drug addiction can be reversed/stopped, not that not all the other types of addictions r any better from one particular human to the society lvl. The system does NOT want to let ppl getting out nor support them in such matters. The saddest part in all this when leaving from and dealing with it from the family lvl of regular ppl..my conclusion after goin through it in the systems of 2 countries more or less related, but taking it from 1 particle to the whole...I can easily assume it's available for most of the world, just bcuz I luv believing in the element of surprising, or let me call it undeniable hope
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Yeah, trauma is at the root of addiction. Kind of unfair isn’t it, but it’s very logical. There is a need to have relief that others don’t have, that can’t really be attained otherwise.
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Without a doubt trauma leads to addiction. Not acknowledging this is a viscous cycle of abuse to ourselves and others. Thank you, RB for this interview with Gabor Mate.
I got some serious trauma into..Day 10 Watching Rainbow lorikeet doing every gum nut on the branch at my window in the hope of one droplet of sweet nectar..behaviour becoming erratic and starting to look quite feral with crazzee look in eye that’s how close up I can now film them..in fact they even have a tweet lol to let me know one of them is on the branch..they all want to be a star ⭐️ clever
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I am a middle pather with very little… I think it’s called everything in moderation…I am my own best Frenemy…Buddha teaches the middle path, 4 noble truths and eightfold path which is very helpful to the recovering person…333 I was born on the 3rd and 33 was my last birthday party of any meaning cos I began the journey to QUIT firstly alcohol and then a long list…Still Alive…Rainbow lorikeets on sweet sugar nectar of the tree turn into Rainbow bullets in the sky…one during filming I wanted to test decibels of the screeching = to a rock concert and two radar gun to clock them shooting through my back yard🌈= to shit unseen
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Russel let me see better do you say that my vigorexia is a trauma and how is it related with a patology in psicology?
I only vape after I drink a few drinks.. so maybe 5 or 6 nights a week?!! 😤
Tyrannically imposed trauma which can only be corrected via breaking the delusion of human exceptionalism (pride/free-will). We need humility enough to admit we are generic life.
Patience be with each ego of this universe-comprising physical singularity which all that exists is an extension. We are literally angels. Crazy crazy angels.
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And how addiction leads to trauma...
Portugal ended drugs criminalization years ago and treat these people as having a desiese providing medical care. May be you could investigate this because its a sucess the results here
Heal the trauma, stop the addiction.
Noice! ... thanks Gabor 'n Russell!
Life is much easier when you're rich and famous .. not everyone has the same opportunities for recovery sadly
@Dee Smith you can't really access Internet or libraries if you're living in the streets because your parents both died of cancer now youre 15 youre on your own,at least in uk you have to pay for library and Internet.
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This is a great insight, and thank you. My brother who suffers from addiction is coming to stay with me soon and it may be that I will help him. My concern is you mention Jordan Peterson. Isn't he the chap who promoted really sexist programmes? Please correct me of I'm mistaken, but I'm really hoping moving my brother away from some of those horrible negative male stereotypes will help him in his recovery. I really don't want to send him towards things I think would be more destructive longterm.
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"Physian, heal thyself" Never so more is rhat relevant than these times we live in. I have never seen a counsellor or received therapy for the abuse, trauma, drug addiction and am only now emerging from it with rhe sobre and sombre strength which there is no going back on. Happiness is as fallacy that homeostasis would rrecognize by a bout of depression, so as to regulate a cultivated compromise which at worst(for me now)makes life without drugs manageable. Got a lot to say on the topic in the Gestalt recognition of how abuse,trauma and drug use in no particular order are invariably linked. Check me out on the link which I am waiting for Russell to give me!
You know it makes sense
I am watching this only because I am drinking myself to death, and I can't stop. I don't drink daily, but when I drink I ingest anything with ethyl alcohol in it and say fard the consequences. Then it takes two weeks to heal. So thats the pattern now, one night drunk followed by two weeks dry. After decades of trying ro stop and much more drug and alcohol abuse. Nobody drinks around me but my household is stressful as Hell.
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Disagree on most every level
No not Gabor Mate ….he advocates Ayhuasca and he really DOES NOT KNOW the long term effects of taking psychedelics whatever he sees as apparent short term effects. Good meditation with teachers who really know ..GM dies not and is causing himself and others a lot of harm. I am not saying he is all bad just HUGELY MISGUIDED on this aspect. Please look at Byron Katie or Vipassana meditation as these are authentic ways that can get you out of addiction WITHOUT long term repercussions…..I know many will not agree and so sorry about that ..I won’t post again so no need to respond…my only motivation in writing this is I truly do not wish others to suffer unnecessarily and I understand that GM and many others are really promoting these psychedelics at the moment.
GM does not …typo error
For further information see Ajahn Sucitto’s blog on psychedelics..He took them for 5 years before becoming a professional meditator and in reaching a high level of clarity he could see exactly the harm he had caused himself from taking psychedelics…hardly anyone has this level of clarity and hence are unable to see the dangers
I have seen studies that have said those with antisocial personality disorder (sociopaths) have higher rates of addiction to drugs/alcohol. Are these people able to be helped with Gabor mate’s theories? I have read they are hopeless causes essentially who harm other people
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I respect your work. But I will not follow Gabor Mate 🙏🏻
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I think Trauma is only a catalyst for change. You can learn from it and improve or see it as a burden to shape how you view your reality. Positive or Negative.
This is true on the surface, but if someone's experience is largely made up of trauma they have no blue print/the mental tools/capacity to make a positive choice......
@@WSmith_1984 There's always a choice, give up trying or keep going. Trauma doesn't give you a holiday or have a time limit on overcoming it. Help yourself if you cannot find anyone who wants to help.
@@davidmarris31 that's the point hopelessness, being downtrodden with nothing, little tools, little hope, little knowledge, when you don't have the mental skills to change, change isn't very likely is it? Have you experienced serious issues that you've had to overcome or are you coming from a place of privilege, in that you don't understand nor comprehend just how bad it can get for people?
@@davidmarris31 With all due respect, you are likely someone who has not experienced the levels of trauma that often leads to life-crippling perspectives and coping strategies. There are many types and degrees of trauma that people can experience, and much of it goes unacknowledged by modern society. Moreover, each person will have a complex set of reactions to those experiences. Fortunately, the study and treatment of traumas are finally getting serious attention in various professional fields, but really only in the last 50 odd years.
Trying to tell most people who’ve been deeply traumatized to ‘get over it’ or ‘pull yourself up by your bootstraps’ and make better choices, is just a band-aid… it may work temporarily, but it cannot lead to actual healing. And a healing journey is what all of humanity should have an investment in… for our very survival on this increasingly out-of-balance planet we are on. ☮️🌟
@@livingitup9647 Agree wholeheartedly. Part of the problem, I feel is that the word "trauma" is being used much like "depression." Whereas I'm sad, or grieving is termed by people as Depression, and if I'm not happy with a situation I've been traumatized. NO. This is where the Interpersonal Neurobilogists have done us a service: Trauma is anything that causes an individual's nervous system to shut down (in the variety of ways this happens); too much energy (energy in motion=emotion) for a person's nervous system. It is seemingly very difficult for someone who has not realized that they're carrying it to have any understanding of what it does to those of us who have, from the start, been in chronically traumatizing environments and its tentacles (trauma's) spread wide and deep.
I personally don't agree with Dr. G. Mute said, we are living in a dominated and demanding world and people wants to be recognise from this insane world and it doesn't surprise me why people used substances for comfort😔. Blessings 🙏 be at peace ➕ ❤️
I mostly agree. Disagree with the end. Blaming race? Nice excuse. How many of those people were raised with both parents? Probably under 10%. Also Asians are the top earners in every western country. Stop blaming race. The soft bigotry of low expectations