*1-1 Mentorship Information: Price & Structure (Maximum Capacity = 20 Clients Per Year)* It's an absolute pleasure to film these UA-cam videos, and I feel fortunate to receive an abundance of meaningful messages every week, but I am unfortunately faced with the disappointing reality of turning away the vast majority of people who want to work together. I have significantly limited availability and can only support twenty people per year because I do not offer one-off calls or drop-in consulting sessions. Twenty individuals might not sound like maximum capacity, but the last few years of teaching have taught me the importance of maintaining tight energetic boundaries if I want to keep uploading these free videos in addition to serving my current clients to the best of my ability in 2024. To minimise confusion and enhance transparency, I've spent several hours writing this ridiculously long comment to help you decide if my Inner Work Mentorship is the right choice for your development & what you could reasonably expect from working closely together. Please take the time to read this service description before contacting me on Instagram… or feel free to stop reading right now if you’re not interested in my fees, session structure, client expectations, etc. ... *READ BEFORE SCROLLING FURTHER:* I'm interested in long-term change and structural transformation, which is why I've never offered one-off sessions. Complex issues cannot be resolved in a few hours, but we likewise need to define an upper limit for containment and collaboration. I've learned that deep and enduring self-integration requires at least four months of immersive effort. Why four months? It's enough weekly contact for us to work through multiple complex issues and developmental possibilities, but short enough to mitigate against unconscious co-dependency and motivational stagnation. I'm currently accepting a maximum of two new clients per month - message me after reading the following section to check my availability. ... *HOW I WORK & WHO I WORK WITH* Unlike other coaches and teachers who take an understandably more relaxed approach to healing and integration, my mentorships are characteristically intense. This is a highly-demanding, high-investment process which requires our consistent combined effort over a period of four months. If we were to start working together, I would reasonably expect you to be excited to show up for a minimum of 10+ hours of self-motivated transformative practice per week (daily reading, fitness routine, creative exercises, spiritual reflection, etc.) while also maintaining full-sobriety (no drink, no drugs, no cigarettes, no vapes). These strict standards of discipline and sobriety are plainly unsuitable for most people in most situations - even genuinely motivated individuals who resonate with my UA-cam videos may not be the right match for four months of structured mentorship. If you want to get deeper, I've noticed that there's a certain type of ‘temperament' & 'timing’ to get the most out of me. I'm interested in alert, creative and purpose-driven individuals who aspire to exceptional standards of self-maturation and would enjoy the feeling of going through week-on-week of progressively stacked transformative experiences for a third of a year: my ideal client is somebody who is willing to bring forward their internal complexity with a sense of courage and transparency with the intention of nothing less than full-spectrum transformation & rapid acceleration on their personal path. I am yet to discover another supportive figure who offers something comparable to this mentorship: a four-month, structured yet flexible 1-1 container which is simultaneously therapeutic, academic and action-oriented; with primary focus placed on tangible improvements in your felt sense of self-knowledge and self-integration; in addition to making consistent and meaningful progress towards your unique goals and mentorship aspirations. I prioritise contact, compassion and accountability, which means that your work never really 'ends' at the end of your session. You can reasonably expect to be fed dozens of customised reading suggestions and follow-on perspectives outside of the formal sessions via friendly and informal messenger contact, where I am active and available four days per week to cultivate an intimate personal connection while likewise enhancing your positive momentum via accountability check-ins and additional support as required. By way of conclusion for what feels like an extraordinarily long comment and service description, I feel compelled to once more emphasise that working directly with me is unrealistic for most people in most situations. I often support people who are accustomed to wrestling with the emotional challenges associated with working through complex wounds in previous therapeutic relationships before we begin our coaching work together. Even individuals without 'hard trauma' can expect moments of pressurised darkness and heaviness during periods of shadow contact as you begin to restructure your personal unconscious. We will be exploring your psyche and soma at scale and depth, and it will be your responsibility to keep me informed about the emotional texture of your internal reality, especially if you encounter negatively charged experiences, and I will of course do everything in my power to support you through the hard times as we integrate the darkness and move forwards together. UA-cam is a wonderful place for me to share free research resources and offer accessible inner work invitations; my private mentorships, however, are the place for collaborative partnership and emotional security as we identify, navigate and restructure oftentimes confronting and challenging conscious and unconscious physical, emotional and mental material. Ultimately, this is a highly-demanding but highly-rewarding process which requires the best of our shared intentions. ... *SESSION STRUCTURE & FEES:* The total fee for an Inner Work Mentorship (including 12 x 2 hr sessions) is £7,400 GBP or approximately $9,400 USD. This is my only coaching programme, and my mentorship pricing is liable to adjustment over time.
Each private session lasts two hours, and is facilitated via Telegram video call at an ideal time for both of us. Your mentorship extends over a linear four-month period, with a total of twenty-four hours of structured session time, in addition to four days per week of unlimited messenger availability for accountability updates, voice note exchanges and informal calls upon occasion. I do not work on Mondays, Tuesdays or Wednesdays, but I am fully-available across all timezones for regular calls and messenger contact on Thursday - Sunday. If you’ve scrolled this far, and resonate with what I’m offering, I invite you to message me on Instagram. It would be my pleasure to start exploring your goals and intentions in real-time. IMPORTANT: I am an intentionally independent coach, and not a licensed therapist or associated with any professional bodies or coaching institutions, and therefore enjoy the freedom to collaborate with my clients across all areas of life in an intimate, direct and highly involved coaching style. I work with no more than twenty people per year, and am currently accepting a maximum of two new clients per month. I also manage my own inbox and do not use automated systems or employ people to pretend to be me on Instagram, which means that it usually takes four to six weeks for me to respond to new messages and begin the interview process. Although my approach takes time, I hope you ultimately appreciate my personal emphasis on authentic and confidential communication from the very beginning of our relationship. I once again encourage you to message me immediately if you want to start working together within the next two months - bump yourself to the top of my inbox, and I’ll send you some voice notes to get our conversation started.
How I learned it from Irene Lyon is to feel my emotions when they come up and just observe what is happening in my body until I feel my NS has regulated. If I get too overwhelmed / don’t have the capacity to stay present with the emotion, then I start to go towards an external resource (Call a friend, meditation, movement etc) that allows me to regulate my NS.
I think myself and most people miss the first step of just staying present with the emotion they are currently feeling and go to external resources right away.
This is something that as a woman I always feel like I need a man to help me with, to serve as a secure base for me, because a lot of my emotions are rooted in lack of safety. Which means I need a protective energy that I source from male mentors, family members (to a degree, because they aren't reliable), male friends, or partners. But this can easily get into the realm of animus projection, and I find it extremely hard to integrate this trait.
be careful not to tolerate emotional abuse for the sake of a sense of "safety" , in my experience (as a woman) the sense of safety has to come from within yourself or a trust in a higher power and cannot come solely from another person, because what happens if that person leaves your life ? what will you do and tolerate to keep that person and sense of safety in your life? don't give your power away remember you are already whole and complete. you are already safe in your body. if you're talking about someone to hold space for your emotions, that doesn't have to be a man or a partner it can be your female friends or a therapist as well. anyways good luck friend❤
@@ynwa9777 thanks for the kind words. I do agree with all of that “theoretically”, and while I feel safe in my body and even sometimes my emotions, when something goes wrong, I often need someone to help me figure that out in action. What I have found is while all the amazing women in my life or therapists are happy to help talk through things, it is the men that come to action, to “take away my burden”, so to speak. I do often feel powerless/helpless, and it is hard for me to source that strength. I do think a higher power could be helpful. But I don’t know - this is one thing I haven’t yet figured out
I've found ACA (adult children of alcoholics) to be a good secure base. They have free virtual meetings 24/7 all around the world, so whenever I'm in a bad mood I can go to a meeting and find support and people who understand.
@@jordanthornton I am reading "The Invisible Partners" since you recommended it, and it´s been great. Really enlightening on my experience! I am excited to read more, I´m just in the beginning. Thank you.
Jordan thanks a lot! You do so much! One question I have, Lowen practice was really based in observation and the stories and moments he lives there with the moment. Also, Alexander technique is very deep and needs to be experienced to really understand it beyond the book. Therefore, how do you deal with this, do you just use it to create your own "big picture"? Because I guess it's impossible to experience the practical side, which is the most important part of those books. I am really curious to understand your approach and thoughts on this ❤😊
@@jordanthornton that's my point, I guess there are many you don't get to practice as these books include many that may take many lives to explore! I suppose you just go ahead with those that intuitively interest you
Good reminder! Trying to always 'regulate' the emotion is usually just trying to get rid of it. And in my experience it always ends in the same way that normal repression does - a major and unexpected outburst of the pent up emotion. Lately I've been struggling with some very deeply buried emotions that I do not have the capacity to deal with. Now I'm remembering that repressing them is going to backfire. xD
Another really useful watch, thank you Jordan.👏🏻👏🏻 I seem to be delving into this at the moment, so yet again the topic aligns. 👌🏻 The art of witnessing my emotions is something I currently seem to be developing more awareness of, just lately. It appears to be assisting me with the process of detachment in the moment, to 'contain' the emotion, (as you so aptly put it). The ability to then release the feeling so it can arise in a safe space and still bear witness to it as it's released, allows me to successfully purge. Self-awareness is a wonderful thing.
It's a pleasure to have access to so much content on your channel. It's always rich yet easily digestible. That you've been generous enough to have taken the time to create it in order to assist people, is an act of kindness that's very much appreciated. 🤝🏻🙏🏻
I appreciate the reminder that it’s equally important to be able to express emotions. I tend to repress my emotions when I’m around other people or if there’s an interpersonal situation that I should address with someone but instead stuff it down, which then breeds resentment… (which I used to think was directed toward that person, but I’m now realizing is ultimately toward myself). When I’m at home though (I live alone), I feel a sense of relief and safety to be able to feel and express my emotions (or at least certain ones. Anger is hard for me to access). Something I’ve been wondering about lately though, is how to navigate emotional expression if/when I were to live with other people (specifically with a partner or kids one day). There are some times when the weight of everything feels so heavy and I feel so overwhelmed, that I will break down sobbing in the middle of eating dinner, or trying to read a book, or even trying to get out of bed (all examples just from today - whew, I’m exhausted 😰). (This has been a much less frequent occurrence for a couple years until the last two weeks it’s hit me like a tsunami seemingly out of the blue. But it has reminded me that, even when I think I’m the most healed, sometimes it can feel like I’m back at square one. So if it’s happening now, it could also happen with a family of my own.) But much more tame than this, even (maybe especially) when I’m doing well emotionally, there are many times that I’ll be doing yoga, and I start crying for no apparent reason. Sometimes it’s a few tears, and sometimes it’s intense sobbing. It usually isn’t related to anything I can pinpoint specifically. It feels more like generalized grief from my past coming up to be processed/released. I’ve learned to just let it happen and wash over me, and it is an incredibly cathartic experience. But if someone was around to see it they would probably be very concerned and think something was terribly wrong. When in reality, it’s usually a very joyous and peaceful experience for me after the fact (sometimes even during because it’s such a relief to process the grief). Anyway, what I’m getting at is that I’ve often wondered how I could possibly let those intense emotions wash over me to be expressed and released the way my body feels it needs when other people are in the picture.
When you are somewhere that you cant express emotion you need to be aware of them take deep breath and try to find some place alone or promise your child self that when you get home you will give it time to process them
Thank you for sharing that. I like the idea of promising my child self I will give it the space it needs later. I sometimes forget to interact with my other parts like that, but when I do remember to, it’s such a beautiful experience and I feel so much more at peace with myself and others. Thanks again for sharing :)
The body keeps the score is a really fun read. It's not very useful as a self help book but it has a lot of really interesting topics and has really gripping case studies. It's one of the few psychology books I've read twice.
it's all in the limitation, when you don't know who you are you do whatever you want but if you want to become someone whoever you are you have to limit yourself, like an athlete to become a champion will have to limit late night outings, binges on junk food, alcohol etc.
Very helpful video and great reminders... I might have been using self regulation for getting rid of my emotions! Can you give examples of catharsis other than screaming and punching a bag? I mean through which activities we can achieve that?
Thank you for the books you recommended My latest trauma that I discovered was that my feminine side was neglected and abused by both of my parents unconsciously which I believe the esscence of the threat of non being and the reason of the feeling of dissociation that I get it’s crazy when things connect Your videos really helped me knowing my self more it’s a journey I just started and thank you again for the value you give At the end we are the victims of victimes
You'll get a lot from some of these books as you take your next steps, great reflections here and thanks for making the time to give this gift to yourself.
I love that you're talking about this! Perfect timing because I was reflecting a few weeks ago on a question I wrote in my journal: Why don't I get angry? What came up is that for the longest time (my whole life actually) I wasn't even labeling my anger as anger. Even saying "I'm angry" doesn't sound right, not just to me but also to people who know me. They won't believe it or take it seriously when I say I'm angry. I've taken so much pride in being the calm person who's in command of their emotions all the time. While it's a good thing, it won't hurt to scream in an open space from time to time like you suggested. I certainly seem to do that in my dreams when I'm stressed 😅 It doesn't have to be a scream.. you taking it out on a punching bag is a good example. I sometimes act out every single emotion in front of the mirror with my whole body and facial expressions. There is also angry writing. I tend to stomp a lot when I'm angry, and there's the good old crying that feels good every time. Thanks for all the book recommendations! I'm excited because the next book on my reading list is "in an unspoken voice" Yay!
not to underestimate your other videos but this must be the single most important video on self improvment you did.I feel like so much of what hold us back are tons and tons of unprocessed and condensed pain and emotions.Im a personal trainer and im starting to realise that the work i do in the gym is just the tip of the iceberg, and im leaning into becoming a emotional therapist.
@@jordanthornton it's all in the limitation, when you don't know who you are you do whatever you want but if you want to become someone whoever you are you have to limit yourself, like an athlete to become a champion will have to limit late night outings, binges on junk food, alcohol etc.
@@jordanthornton thank you for the reply. I guess maybe if you could turn it up for the folks who’s environments are loud. You voice is soothing but if hate to only be able to lie at night.
*1-1 Mentorship Information: Price & Structure (Maximum Capacity = 20 Clients Per Year)*
It's an absolute pleasure to film these UA-cam videos, and I feel fortunate to receive an abundance of meaningful messages every week, but I am unfortunately faced with the disappointing reality of turning away the vast majority of people who want to work together.
I have significantly limited availability and can only support twenty people per year because I do not offer one-off calls or drop-in consulting sessions.
Twenty individuals might not sound like maximum capacity, but the last few years of teaching have taught me the importance of maintaining tight energetic boundaries if I want to keep uploading these free videos in addition to serving my current clients to the best of my ability in 2024.
To minimise confusion and enhance transparency, I've spent several hours writing this ridiculously long comment to help you decide if my Inner Work Mentorship is the right choice for your development & what you could reasonably expect from working closely together.
Please take the time to read this service description before contacting me on Instagram… or feel free to stop reading right now if you’re not interested in my fees, session structure, client expectations, etc.
...
*READ BEFORE SCROLLING FURTHER:*
I'm interested in long-term change and structural transformation, which is why I've never offered one-off sessions.
Complex issues cannot be resolved in a few hours, but we likewise need to define an upper limit for containment and collaboration.
I've learned that deep and enduring self-integration requires at least four months of immersive effort. Why four months? It's enough weekly contact for us to work through multiple complex issues and developmental possibilities, but short enough to mitigate against unconscious co-dependency and motivational stagnation.
I'm currently accepting a maximum of two new clients per month - message me after reading the following section to check my availability.
...
*HOW I WORK & WHO I WORK WITH*
Unlike other coaches and teachers who take an understandably more relaxed approach to healing and integration, my mentorships are characteristically intense.
This is a highly-demanding, high-investment process which requires our consistent combined effort over a period of four months.
If we were to start working together, I would reasonably expect you to be excited to show up for a minimum of 10+ hours of self-motivated transformative practice per week (daily reading, fitness routine, creative exercises, spiritual reflection, etc.) while also maintaining full-sobriety (no drink, no drugs, no cigarettes, no vapes).
These strict standards of discipline and sobriety are plainly unsuitable for most people in most situations - even genuinely motivated individuals who resonate with my UA-cam videos may not be the right match for four months of structured mentorship.
If you want to get deeper, I've noticed that there's a certain type of ‘temperament' & 'timing’ to get the most out of me.
I'm interested in alert, creative and purpose-driven individuals who aspire to exceptional standards of self-maturation and would enjoy the feeling of going through week-on-week of progressively stacked transformative experiences for a third of a year: my ideal client is somebody who is willing to bring forward their internal complexity with a sense of courage and transparency with the intention of nothing less than full-spectrum transformation & rapid acceleration on their personal path.
I am yet to discover another supportive figure who offers something comparable to this mentorship: a four-month, structured yet flexible 1-1 container which is simultaneously therapeutic, academic and action-oriented; with primary focus placed on tangible improvements in your felt sense of self-knowledge and self-integration; in addition to making consistent and meaningful progress towards your unique goals and mentorship aspirations.
I prioritise contact, compassion and accountability, which means that your work never really 'ends' at the end of your session. You can reasonably expect to be fed dozens of customised reading suggestions and follow-on perspectives outside of the formal sessions via friendly and informal messenger contact, where I am active and available four days per week to cultivate an intimate personal connection while likewise enhancing your positive momentum via accountability check-ins and additional support as required.
By way of conclusion for what feels like an extraordinarily long comment and service description, I feel compelled to once more emphasise that working directly with me is unrealistic for most people in most situations.
I often support people who are accustomed to wrestling with the emotional challenges associated with working through complex wounds in previous therapeutic relationships before we begin our coaching work together. Even individuals without 'hard trauma' can expect moments of pressurised darkness and heaviness during periods of shadow contact as you begin to restructure your personal unconscious. We will be exploring your psyche and soma at scale and depth, and it will be your responsibility to keep me informed about the emotional texture of your internal reality, especially if you encounter negatively charged experiences, and I will of course do everything in my power to support you through the hard times as we integrate the darkness and move forwards together.
UA-cam is a wonderful place for me to share free research resources and offer accessible inner work invitations; my private mentorships, however, are the place for collaborative partnership and emotional security as we identify, navigate and restructure oftentimes confronting and challenging conscious and unconscious physical, emotional and mental material.
Ultimately, this is a highly-demanding but highly-rewarding process which requires the best of our shared intentions.
...
*SESSION STRUCTURE & FEES:*
The total fee for an Inner Work Mentorship (including 12 x 2 hr sessions) is £7,400 GBP or approximately $9,400 USD. This is my only coaching programme, and my mentorship pricing is liable to adjustment over time.
Each private session lasts two hours, and is facilitated via Telegram video call at an ideal time for both of us. Your mentorship extends over a linear four-month period, with a total of twenty-four hours of structured session time, in addition to four days per week of unlimited messenger availability for accountability updates, voice note exchanges and informal calls upon occasion. I do not work on Mondays, Tuesdays or Wednesdays, but I am fully-available across all timezones for regular calls and messenger contact on Thursday - Sunday.
If you’ve scrolled this far, and resonate with what I’m offering, I invite you to message me on Instagram. It would be my pleasure to start exploring your goals and intentions in real-time.
IMPORTANT: I am an intentionally independent coach, and not a licensed therapist or associated with any professional bodies or coaching institutions, and therefore enjoy the freedom to collaborate with my clients across all areas of life in an intimate, direct and highly involved coaching style. I work with no more than twenty people per year, and am currently accepting a maximum of two new clients per month. I also manage my own inbox and do not use automated systems or employ people to pretend to be me on Instagram, which means that it usually takes four to six weeks for me to respond to new messages and begin the interview process. Although my approach takes time, I hope you ultimately appreciate my personal emphasis on authentic and confidential communication from the very beginning of our relationship. I once again encourage you to message me immediately if you want to start working together within the next two months - bump yourself to the top of my inbox, and I’ll send you some voice notes to get our conversation started.
Jordan you're the best teacher I've ever had my whole life, thank you for everything you teach me. I trust you. 🙏
Thank you for being here and engaging so deeply in my work. Keep going with your path, and I'll keep doing what I can to help.
👏🏾🙏🏾🔥
How I learned it from Irene Lyon is to feel my emotions when they come up and just observe what is happening in my body until I feel my NS has regulated. If I get too overwhelmed / don’t have the capacity to stay present with the emotion, then I start to go towards an external resource (Call a friend, meditation, movement etc) that allows me to regulate my NS.
I think myself and most people miss the first step of just staying present with the emotion they are currently feeling and go to external resources right away.
This is something that as a woman I always feel like I need a man to help me with, to serve as a secure base for me, because a lot of my emotions are rooted in lack of safety. Which means I need a protective energy that I source from male mentors, family members (to a degree, because they aren't reliable), male friends, or partners. But this can easily get into the realm of animus projection, and I find it extremely hard to integrate this trait.
Completely relate to this
be careful not to tolerate emotional abuse for the sake of a sense of "safety" , in my experience (as a woman) the sense of safety has to come from within yourself or a trust in a higher power and cannot come solely from another person, because what happens if that person leaves your life ? what will you do and tolerate to keep that person and sense of safety in your life? don't give your power away remember you are already whole and complete. you are already safe in your body. if you're talking about someone to hold space for your emotions, that doesn't have to be a man or a partner it can be your female friends or a therapist as well. anyways good luck friend❤
@@ynwa9777 thanks for the kind words. I do agree with all of that “theoretically”, and while I feel safe in my body and even sometimes my emotions, when something goes wrong, I often need someone to help me figure that out in action. What I have found is while all the amazing women in my life or therapists are happy to help talk through things, it is the men that come to action, to “take away my burden”, so to speak. I do often feel powerless/helpless, and it is hard for me to source that strength. I do think a higher power could be helpful. But I don’t know - this is one thing I haven’t yet figured out
I can relate!!!
I've found ACA (adult children of alcoholics) to be a good secure base. They have free virtual meetings 24/7 all around the world, so whenever I'm in a bad mood I can go to a meeting and find support and people who understand.
first =) This is your sign to do the video from my other comment =) hehhe
You won 🏆
@@jordanthornton I am reading "The Invisible Partners" since you recommended it, and it´s been great. Really enlightening on my experience! I am excited to read more, I´m just in the beginning.
Thank you.
Jordan thanks a lot! You do so much!
One question I have, Lowen practice was really based in observation and the stories and moments he lives there with the moment. Also, Alexander technique is very deep and needs to be experienced to really understand it beyond the book. Therefore, how do you deal with this, do you just use it to create your own "big picture"? Because I guess it's impossible to experience the practical side, which is the most important part of those books.
I am really curious to understand your approach and thoughts on this ❤😊
Sure, the whole point of reading somatic therapy books is to do the practices which work hahaha
@@jordanthornton that's my point, I guess there are many you don't get to practice as these books include many that may take many lives to explore! I suppose you just go ahead with those that intuitively interest you
Gracias nuevamente por un vídeo de gran utilidad. Por cierto, ¿Qué cámara usas para grabar? Gracias de antemano por tu respuesta. Sigue así.
Sony A7Siii with 35mm and davinci resolve colour grading in post ✌🏻
Good reminder! Trying to always 'regulate' the emotion is usually just trying to get rid of it. And in my experience it always ends in the same way that normal repression does - a major and unexpected outburst of the pent up emotion.
Lately I've been struggling with some very deeply buried emotions that I do not have the capacity to deal with. Now I'm remembering that repressing them is going to backfire. xD
Yes, watching for those moments when regulation is actually repression in disguise 🤫
Another really useful watch, thank you Jordan.👏🏻👏🏻
I seem to be delving into this at the moment, so yet again the topic aligns. 👌🏻
The art of witnessing my emotions is something I currently seem to be developing more awareness of, just lately.
It appears to be assisting me with the process of detachment in the moment, to 'contain' the emotion, (as you so aptly put it).
The ability to then release the feeling so it can arise in a safe space and still bear witness to it as it's released, allows me to successfully purge.
Self-awareness is a wonderful thing.
Beautifully expressed sentiment here, thank you for engaging so deeply in the topic 🌲
It's a pleasure to have access to so much content on your channel.
It's always rich yet easily digestible. That you've been generous enough to have taken the time to create it in order to assist people, is an act of kindness that's very much appreciated. 🤝🏻🙏🏻
I appreciate the reminder that it’s equally important to be able to express emotions. I tend to repress my emotions when I’m around other people or if there’s an interpersonal situation that I should address with someone but instead stuff it down, which then breeds resentment… (which I used to think was directed toward that person, but I’m now realizing is ultimately toward myself).
When I’m at home though (I live alone), I feel a sense of relief and safety to be able to feel and express my emotions (or at least certain ones. Anger is hard for me to access).
Something I’ve been wondering about lately though, is how to navigate emotional expression if/when I were to live with other people (specifically with a partner or kids one day). There are some times when the weight of everything feels so heavy and I feel so overwhelmed, that I will break down sobbing in the middle of eating dinner, or trying to read a book, or even trying to get out of bed (all examples just from today - whew, I’m exhausted 😰). (This has been a much less frequent occurrence for a couple years until the last two weeks it’s hit me like a tsunami seemingly out of the blue. But it has reminded me that, even when I think I’m the most healed, sometimes it can feel like I’m back at square one. So if it’s happening now, it could also happen with a family of my own.)
But much more tame than this, even (maybe especially) when I’m doing well emotionally, there are many times that I’ll be doing yoga, and I start crying for no apparent reason. Sometimes it’s a few tears, and sometimes it’s intense sobbing. It usually isn’t related to anything I can pinpoint specifically. It feels more like generalized grief from my past coming up to be processed/released. I’ve learned to just let it happen and wash over me, and it is an incredibly cathartic experience. But if someone was around to see it they would probably be very concerned and think something was terribly wrong. When in reality, it’s usually a very joyous and peaceful experience for me after the fact (sometimes even during because it’s such a relief to process the grief).
Anyway, what I’m getting at is that I’ve often wondered how I could possibly let those intense emotions wash over me to be expressed and released the way my body feels it needs when other people are in the picture.
When you are somewhere that you cant express emotion you need to be aware of them take deep breath and try to find some place alone or promise your child self that when you get home you will give it time to process them
Thank you for sharing that. I like the idea of promising my child self I will give it the space it needs later. I sometimes forget to interact with my other parts like that, but when I do remember to, it’s such a beautiful experience and I feel so much more at peace with myself and others. Thanks again for sharing :)
The body keeps the score is a really fun read. It's not very useful as a self help book but it has a lot of really interesting topics and has really gripping case studies. It's one of the few psychology books I've read twice.
Sure, a great primer for further study ✌🏻
Very insightful! Thank you ! I’ve puzzled myself for years of what is the correct approach from these two (express vs contain emotions).
I've lost my voice for 3 days now.
Sorry to hear this, and wishing you well in your recovery
it's all in the limitation, when you don't know who you are you do whatever you want but if you want to become someone whoever you are you have to limit yourself, like an athlete to become a champion will have to limit late night outings, binges on junk food, alcohol etc.
Very helpful video and great reminders... I might have been using self regulation for getting rid of my emotions!
Can you give examples of catharsis other than screaming and punching a bag? I mean through which activities we can achieve that?
Shaking and breathing are good ones, running and jumping too. I'll see if I can make more videos.
Thank you, Jordan!
You are truly welcome.
Thank you for the books you recommended
My latest trauma that I discovered was that my feminine side was neglected and abused by both of my parents unconsciously which I believe the esscence of the threat of non being and the reason of the feeling of dissociation that I get it’s crazy when things connect
Your videos really helped me knowing my self more it’s a journey I just started and thank you again for the value you give
At the end we are the victims of victimes
You'll get a lot from some of these books as you take your next steps, great reflections here and thanks for making the time to give this gift to yourself.
I love that you're talking about this! Perfect timing because I was reflecting a few weeks ago on a question I wrote in my journal: Why don't I get angry? What came up is that for the longest time (my whole life actually) I wasn't even labeling my anger as anger. Even saying "I'm angry" doesn't sound right, not just to me but also to people who know me. They won't believe it or take it seriously when I say I'm angry.
I've taken so much pride in being the calm person who's in command of their emotions all the time. While it's a good thing, it won't hurt to scream in an open space from time to time like you suggested. I certainly seem to do that in my dreams when I'm stressed 😅 It doesn't have to be a scream.. you taking it out on a punching bag is a good example. I sometimes act out every single emotion in front of the mirror with my whole body and facial expressions. There is also angry writing. I tend to stomp a lot when I'm angry, and there's the good old crying that feels good every time.
Thanks for all the book recommendations! I'm excited because the next book on my reading list is "in an unspoken voice" Yay!
I hope the reading has been going well this week! Thanks for your thoughtful comments as always.
not to underestimate your other videos but this must be the single most important video on self improvment you did.I feel like so much of what hold us back are tons and tons of unprocessed and condensed pain and emotions.Im a personal trainer and im starting to realise that the work i do in the gym is just the tip of the iceberg, and im leaning into becoming a emotional therapist.
Cheers, brother. Thanks for being so engaged with this work lately - I've noticed the depth and I'm sure the months ahead will be fruitful for you.
@@jordanthornton it's all in the limitation, when you don't know who you are you do whatever you want but if you want to become someone whoever you are you have to limit yourself, like an athlete to become a champion will have to limit late night outings, binges on junk food, alcohol etc.
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Please turn your voice up in editing. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I can’t hear you in my headphones a lot of times. Forget listening on my way to work.
Appreciate the feedback and wishing you well - seems to work fine on all other devices, thankfully 🌲
@@jordanthornton thank you for the reply. I guess maybe if you could turn it up for the folks who’s environments are loud. You voice is soothing but if hate to only be able to lie at night.
It sounds fine for me