@@Canyouseemeanna just think they have to read labs and reports... I wouldn't want them as my doctor if they can't figure out color coded transportation.
Agreed 😢 what a sad lesson to learn at what should be such a lovely time with family and friends 💔 she deserves better friends and they never deserved her friendship at all.
The lesbians comment made me shoot sodapop from my nose, along with Charlotte saying "maybe she wanted to marry you instead." THE PLOT THICKENS 🤣 Charlotte you're way too funny ❤️
Would've been a bit funny if that was the case since that meant she just confessed her feelings for her friend, but of course it was to try to steal the fiance
Count me in! You're bloody stunning btw young lady, I also know how it feels, when you are the BIG giver, and they don't even know what the word means. I've been heartbroken so many times, by so called friends, and family. And it got worse, when I started to be ill. then again, when I needed a wheelchair. I'm alone now, since my partner passed, 3 years in a couple of weeks. I don't speak to any of my family now...... Shut up Jacq, lol Congratulations, have the BEST marriage EVER!! XxX
To the girl who got married in New Delhi, I would have flown from Korea for a friend like you. I hope we are blessed enough to recognize a true friend when we meet one. Wishing you all the warmest love and hugs 🧡🤍💚
I mean, some people literally don't have enough money in their bank account for an international plane ticket, but if these people are all medical doctors who just had to take a train, travel isn't an excuse.
I've never been to India, don't speak the language, and would stick out like a sore thumb. But I'd fly there to be a bridesmaid for the Indian bride. She sounds like an amazing friend who deserves equally amazing friends.
Same, she sounds like one of a kind! Also the excuse she dont understand color code like wtf didnt u end up graduating med school?? What kinda doctor is that? Phlueaze
Hey everyone! So Charlotte mentioned places to get wedding dresses for a good price. WELL if you are on the west coast of the united states there is a business called Brides for a Cause. This is a nonprofit organization that accepts and sells only donated gowns form salons, designers, and brides. These dresses are marked down between 60-80% and 90% of the proceeds go back to woman's charities. If anyone is looking for a gown they can ship them to you and if you yourself have a wedding dress that you don't want in your closet anyone, they accept mail in donations from around the world! I Highly recommend taking a look, they really are amazing.
That first story, since she’s spelling it Mum, and saying lollies, and having a bbq for her wedding at a park, and got her dress from lifeline, I think she’s Australian :) 😊
agreed all sounds Australian to me too also i was at a wedding in a park twice now here in Aus and saw plenty more growing up beautiful parks here especially one in Armadale W.A. near pioneer village
I agree Aussie 100% and it also explains why it was strictly alcohol free... most of our states/territories are strict on no alcohol in public places, which would include the park where she got married. If I was her, I'd also be strict on it... I ain't going to cop a fine for hosting an event in a public space with alcohol - those guests (by their attitude) would point the finger at the host and not take responsibility for their own actions for sure.
I LOVE Indian wedding dresses so much! The textile work, the bling! the last one her dress looked like living cherry blossoms and sunlight were spun into the dress
I Diane wedding dresses are always so incredibly gorgeous!! The detail work on that dress is just so amazing! She looks so beautiful! She didn't need bridesmaids - she was stunning all by herself!!
Especially New Delhi with Chandni chowk and handiwork in bridal clothing it's stunning as an Indian the weddings are so fun and the guests get treated very well with variety of events food and dance and music honestly it's those bridesmaids loss who would miss out on that
The last story: I was that friend. I always dropped everything for my friends and was there for them in an instant when they needed me for 10 years. Then, suddenly, they couldn't be bothered to do the same for me. One asked to throw my bachelorette and then didn't plan one at all (so the remaining BMs and I just did an impromptu pub crawl). Another asked to throw my baby shower then did the same as the other friend before and didn't plan a single thing (my other friends had to plan it in 2 days). I invited them to my son's baptism and they showed up super late then didn't go to the party at our place after. Then for my daughter's first birthday I invited them and other friends I had and absolutely none of them showed up. Cherry on top was when I got really ill 2.5 years ago with neuro issues I have permanently and every single one dropped off the face of the planet at a time when I needed them the most. Unfortunately, sometimes the only person you can rely on is yourself (and your SO). I recently removed them all from FB and everything and it was a very cleansing experience.
I had a best friend that I noticed was being a little distant. I would call her but she didn't call me. She had started hanging out with a co-worker, which is fine. I went out of to town to take care of my mom was sick and had to have surgery. When I got home after taking care of her for about 5 weeks, I realized I hadn't heard from my best friend. This was in January, so I decided to see how long it would take for her to contact me. I got an email in May. She claimed she couldn't find my phone number and that's why she hadn't been in touch. She had my email address and physical address the whole time but couldn't reach out...yeah right. I never spoke with her again. I meant so little to her that she couldn't even reach out to see how my mom was doing or how I was coping with my mom having cancer. Sometimes, you have to walk away.
one of my best friends and I had a tiff. Well she thought it was a tiff I thought it was a normal conversation. Our other bestie is the one you ask if you want to hear what you want… I’m the one to ask if you want to hear what you need. She didn’t speak to me for 10 years or so. My mom called us the 3 musketeers and considered them her other daughters. We have been friends for over 40 years. When the one got married… not only wasn’t I in her wedding… (the “tiff” was about her now husband and the way it went down about their engagement). I wasn’t even invited. I was ok with this because Rule 1 is that you can be surrounded by whomever you want for your big day… I was kind of salty over the fact that she didn’t invite my mom. To me that was wrong… but refer to Rule 1. When my mom was dying and needed to be moved to a facility, she showed up at her house while I was cleaning it out and was the biggest help. I have ADHD and would never have been able to do it all by myself.
@@Dlmagoo2 That's hard. I'm sorry you lost your Mom, but glad you have a good friend (even if the lines of communication are tangled). I've had an interesting life and have had to face that some friends/acquaintances/family aren;t what I had hoped they might be. I'm in a better mental spot now (was over-medicated and dealing with stuff) for a coupld of decades, so I have lost a lot of poeple I might have been close to, but I have people that have stuck with me through a lot of medical and personal shenanigans. Sometimes the people in your life are there for particular reasons. You have to trust that you are strong enough for whatever happens, and the support you need will be there. I hope you and she are able to sort things out. Best thoughts!
Wow! The young lass, the Indian bride, is simply breathtaking! What a joyous countenance! What a happy gorgeous beautiful bride! I wish her and her fortunate, blessed husband the absolute best lives possible. ❤
Sounds to me like bride #1 had the wedding of her dreams. How can anyone think that makes her the AH? Also, can we talk about how awesome it is that she had bean bags and inflatable chairs for kids! Like how genius of a move! Love it! ❤
She made it an incredible memory for all the kids. It was beautiful and perfect for her and showed the kids how much she loves them. She rocks and her selfish family can kick rocks.
I loved that part! I wish I had thought of some of that stuff for my wedding, which had a good handful of children. I had planned a bunch of small craft activities for them (paper crowns they could decorate, coloring books, bubbles etc), which sadly never made it out to the tables 😢 If I could do it again I would have planned a lot more games and fun things for the kids, because honestly seeing that much childlike wonder and joy at a wedding would make it for me 💯
To the Indian Bride girlllll you ATE that wedding saree... Honestly realizing your worth and standing alone is worth far more than standing with people who don't support you!!!! May you have a long and happy marriage...
The bride with the " friends" that can't travel for her wedding , I feel her. I live 3 hrs away from most of what was my friends. When I lived close by I would babysit and help them out all the time I have even traveled to help a few out since I moved . However the second I have kids and need a sitter or I need help because my husband is over seas then it seems everyone is busy or " just can't right now"
If they had several kids and it was kid free wedding or they never afford to travel around normally it would not be as bad as this was. They only not capable to manage to travel for her wedding but anything else they happy travel for. So bad
The wedding in the park sounds delightful. It was like a picnic. No alcohol = no drunks. Appropriate for the child-centric plan. And recovering alcoholics do get married, usually with no booze. It’s a choice.
The beautiful Indian bride! Bless her! I wonder if all her "friends" thought well she will understand and didn't think it would effect the friendship. Because she was so kind!
In regards to the first story - we didn’t have alcohol at our wedding either, but that was because we couldn’t afford it. No one offered to help offset the cost, but they all complained about it for months beforehand. We also paid for most of our wedding, so other peoples’ opinion weren’t really valid. We did try and make it as nice as we could with the limited budget we had, and spent more on a good DJ and caterer. My dad also backed out of our wedding six months beforehand because I was letting my stepdad give a speech. My dad was still going to be the one to walk me down the aisle and do all the father daughter things, I was just allowing a few selected people to speak, and since one of them was my stepdad, he lost it and didn’t come at all. Luckily, my stepdad is awesome and did all the things that my dad was supposed to do, probably better if I’m honest.
I would have loved to been at your wedding completely sober! 😂 I bet it was much better & calmer without it! Alcohol WILL only lead to drama.. esp men will start fighting if they have anything stronger than beer...
Omg that makes me so sad for you, that your dad couldn’t keep his ego in check, but also really happy for you that your step dad was there and stepped up for you. 🥰
I'm perfectly open to a dry wedding, in my family alcoholism runs hard. My niece did a dry wedding because both sides have severe alcoholics and she didn't want fights breaking out (normal for these two families) and the only person who freaked out was mother of the groom. I didn't know why my niece and now nephew in law, had asked me to be a Wedding Bouncer lmao. Maybe because of my ability to deal with people. She went so nuts I had to physically pick her up and remove her from the wedding, not the reception, the WEDDING. Dry weddings around me are a solid yes.
My husband and I originally started to plan for a large wedding. After discussing the guest list and people we should invite, but didn't want to; food choices, venue, and cost... we eloped for $150. I bought a dress on clearance, he bought some new shoes, my mom and dad covered the caked and an after the ceremony dinner. My wedding party was 5 people and we had a great time. 25 years later I wouldn't have changed a thing.
We eloped. The witnesses were some guy who was in the judge's hallway for a different reason, and the judge's clerk. It was a lovele friendly ceremony. 6 moths later we had the "big" church wedding - it was out of state for our families, so it was just the close families and people who lived within a reasonable drive to our location. The minister knew what had been going on and was lovely - it was a little church at a USNavy base, beautiful church and the organist was wonderful. We had maybe 2 people total, took them all to a local steakhouse for the "reception". Fantastic time.
21:30 My Grandpa told me the best thing when I was a teen and questioning my Daddy's love for me... (My Daddy was amazing, just worked a lot and parents had been divorced since I was 1) He told me "He loves you as much as HE is capable of. It doesn't make his love any less valuable just because you can love more" I've always remembered that and recognized that it isn't always that ppl don't care, but their care or love just isn't capable of being where you are!
I think they were talking about the bride in the video. She was feeling guilty about not going to their weddings. But I might be wrong 😬@@mrs_maverick1121
Who the flip cares if you're doing a "cheap" wedding? It's supposed to be a day of love, not flaunting your wealth. I'm glad you had a wonderful wedding without the toxicity from your family, and I LOVE that wedding dress 💙🤍
I’m convinced half these stories are fake. Dead giveaway for me was how she doesn’t slap her or uninvite her as soon as she says she was going for the finance to pick her.
@YM-qb6gh Nope. A older cousin of mine did it to my other cousin. She wore a white wedding dress to her wedding. Well, tried to. She didn't make it through the entrance of the church before my aunt, and uncle snatched her up
My family did the same thing. Wouldn't pay for anything, fussed at me for being "cheap," said they wouldn't come unless it was a large church wedding, and then got upset when they weren't invited. Edited to say they now whine about not being involved in my life! Peace is so much more important than people who don't actually care about you. ✌🏽
When mom asked, when she was Really getting married, so that she could plan it, sounds like she's had at least 4 weddings herself! OP should have told her that she had skipped the Only One that she, OP, was going to have & she, mom, can save her plans for her own next wedding! It seems that mom might just love weddings but not men or marriage😂!!!
I am an Indian. I know how long multi event and fun any Indian wedding is. For people who are not Indian, it is an honour and a wonderful experience to go to an Indian wedding. It is not easy to get an entry in these weddings. There some portals where wedding host sell tickets to their wedding if a non-indian wants to attend, which is not really that expensive, something around 10USD, but OP’s friends were getting that for free and friends of Bride & Groom always get special treatment in India. They unknowingly missed all that. I know a few cousins who studied in other countries and made many friends there, and in their wedding, they all came.. we were in awe of their bond.
First story is definitely Australian- we say lollies and mum, and ‘sausage sizzle’ is such an Aussie term for a bbq haha. And vinnies is a very common op shop here. Not just Europe that uses some of those terms, we exist too! 😭😅
Hi from the UK. I don’t think many people realise that Aus and NZ use British English as standard, not US English. While we do say Mum, lollies in the UK is short for lollipops🍭, everything else is sweets. The only way you can get a sausage to sizzle in the UK is when the rain starts falling on the bbq. We are more likely to call it a sausage funeral here, we are so bad at bbq’s! 😅
I honestly love the bride that ghosted her friends. As someone who is a pleaser, it's almost impossible to say no. If I had tried to explain my reasons for not coming, I know that I would cave in. By ghosting, she avoided the dreaded confrontation, didn't have her mind changed, and now can go on to make new friends. I know it's not the way many would handle it, but personally, it would be the only way I could get out of the situations I have a problem saying no to. I'm stealing a page from her playbook. Edited to add I'm sure most of these "friends" know already why she was upset.
Sometimes they have a neat way of making you out to be the real issue too. One's honesty is met with outrage and more negativity than one likes to handle, and none of it yours. Projection, as Charlotte says. Silence is also an answer.
@@Orquet-qj2nf Cannot reason with unreason. Never turn your back on a threat. Cease to engage. And if necessary, without actually losing one's temper, throw a bigger crazy tantrum and frighten them away. (Pick the option that works the best for each situation)
My husband and I got married in 2020 also. His sister is ordained, so she preformed the ceremony. We had it at a local nature preserve, it was beautiful. Due to the lock down and distancing rules, there were 5 ppl in attendance. I didn’t buy a dress. I got a cute outfit and wore that instead. We dressed our dogs up and they stood in as a ring bearer and flower girl! After being together for 18 years, we didn’t need a traditional wedding 😂. Nothing we have ever done has been traditional!
I love this! 😍 Especially involving your pups in such a cute way. Congratulations to you and your husband - wishing you many more happy years together 💕
The first wedding, I love her, it sounded like the most fun wedding, filled with joy! Also: bonus points for organized post (Editor here) I wish them a great life together 🎉
One of my best friends weddings.. Was halfway across the country. My husband and I were counting pennies at the time and trying to keep a roof over our heads. I was supposed to be a bridesmaid and I had to call her and tell her we couldn't be there. It broke my heart so deep. We are still friends to this day and financially we're much better and I've been able to go visit a few times. Just a friendly reminder to have grace with people. My friendship motto has always been do when you can. I don't expect anything and I do when i can because I want to, and not just to expect in return.
I got married in MY LIVING IN MY NEW HOME IN FRONT OF MY FIREPLACE ! Best choice EVER ! Every time I look at my fireplace in my living room I am reminded of the day I married the love of my life ! 10 yrs later & going strong 2 crazy boys we love so much ! & 2 businesses! We only had close family there I LOVED IT !!!!!!!!
Story One is from Australia; had my suspicions when "lollies" and "sausage sizzle" were mentioned, confirmed with mention of Lifeline (crisis hotline, for those who don't know).
After moving to NC I attended my 1st backyard wedding. It was outside of a singlewide with homemade BBQ on the side porch. I've never had more fun or eaten better food in my life! The best weddings are the simplest in my humble opinion 😋
11:37 One of the projects that I've been working on (totally not avoiding my humanities work lol) is finding thrifted or antique wedding dresses and upcycling them so that they can be worn again! I'm hoping to, at some point, sell them. I haven't been lucky enough to find one yet, but I'm keeping my hopes up! (I just wanted to share my excitement lol)
2:58 I'm Muslim and Pakistani, we don't drink alcohol, rather we SURVIVE on chai (tea) 😂 because our weddings are at least a 3 day event, with MAYBE 1 day in-between of rest.
A Moroccan girlfriend told me a few things about their weddings. Men and women celebrate separated and despite (or because?) the absence of alcohol the men often end up fighting, verbally or worse.
@@bonnemoms5413 I’m not talking about the original commenter. I was talking about the person who said chai tea is amazing. Pakistani or Indian person will never call it chai tea. We call it chai or tea. That’s why original commenter put tea in the brackets. Chai is Hindi or Urdu translation of tea.
I have been to five weddings. Two were the whole expensive shebang, one held the reception in a ranch house in their family's hometown (closer to the grands), one was in a state park in Northern Idaho where guests were requested to bring their own lawn chairs and one was in a chapel on an Air Force Base. All of them were wonderful, and all of them fit the couples taking part in them. Just because you don't want that approach for your wedding doesn't mean that it isn't a beautiful wedding. Best thing is if your wedding fits you. :)
For the story with the “cheap” park wedding (which sounded lovely!), I find it funny that her Step-mother was complaining so much about how cheap it was, without offering to help out with the cost of the wedding. It seems like the Groom’s side paid for everything, while the Bride’s family just wanted a cheap excuse to drink (As well as the Step-mother wanting to earn $300 from the day).
13:47 if a person said this to me, i would laugh, call up my partner and asked him straight. "Hey, she sid she's interested in you. What do you say about that?" because i 100% trust my partner.
20:36 Indian Bride girlie, you looked so beautiful in that Lehenga!!! And I'm sorry you had all those awful people in your life as 'friends'!! I'm in Mumbai and I've travelled all over the country for the weddings of my friends... Kolkata, Bengaluru, Delhi... everywhere!! That metro excuse was so stupid!! I'm so sorry babe! You deserve better babe!!
We had an alcohol free wedding on a tight budget because we paid for most of it ourselves aside from a relatives helping where they could..my religious family is chock full of recovering alcoholics and my preacher grandfather was officiating.. my husbands family (his party loving aunts particularly) really kicked up a fuss about it but ultimately just gave up.. our guest list was about 70-80 people was exclusively family and close freinds (only about 50 actually came) and was comprised mostly of people over 45 and their kids.. basically all the young adults were in the bridal party... we did a potluck instead of feeding everyone.. we asked that people bring a dish with a recipe instead of gifts and it was really nice and now i have a whole book of delicious family recipes from both sides.. it was a super lowkey afternoon spring wedding and everyone loved it.. even without the alcohol
@@hillbillydeluxe27 they literally said they asked for the food dishes with recipes INSTEAD OF GIFTS. If you're going to try a "gotcha" moment at least read the entire small paragraph. When Charlotte says to be petty, calling people out for no reason is NOT what she means
@hillbillydeluxe27 I mean don't get me wrong some people still brought gifts. Some of our closer family helped with making decorations and borrowing tables and chairs from church, some of the food came in dishes that they gave us, and a few people did bring gifts for us.. but we told everyone not to worry about bringing a gift and asked for the food instead. It was nice and nobody was upset about it as far as I know..
I'm in shock over the first brides family. How do they think bringing their own alcohol is ok? I 100% on the side of the bride because he family was unreasonable!
1:14 literally the most chill coolest bride ever! I wouldn't want a big wedding either. Why spend crazy amounts of money on a ceremony when thst money could go towards your future instead. N letting the kids go down the isle first smart and chill. Obviously if u tell a child it's only for one person they want it even more. So pretty smart letting them go down first.
Oh definitely. Miss Charlotte, I know you probably don't need to have someone tell you, but don't let us know where it will be, when it will be (you can give a heads up that you will be gone so we know not to worry!). We can wait for the dress pictures until AFTER you are home and settled back in. And when it gets closer to the date, if you don't have time to do videos, then don't! Most of us know how stressful a wedding can be - even the least inexpensive ones - and the closer it gets the more you start thinking 'OMG, I forgot something important, I KNOW I did, WHAT IS IT?!!!!" On that last note, a piece of advice: Start writing down EVERYTHING you think you need or want. Even if it sounds stupid to begin with. That little off the wall thought, might be just the thing that works for you! This also helps you keep track of what you have done, and what still needs to be done. And make several copies - put one on the fridge, because we all have to get something out of the fridge several times a day.
@@lindapatton4478 Good ideas. Plus if she has help with planning/managing her wedding & reception, they all could use an app that will let them share opinions and make changes for all to see, along with who made what changes.
Speaking as a Mom of only one child (a daughter) AND a former wedding planner, have to say it was a learning experience. When planning my daughter's wedding, I had wanted certain things, but of course my daughter and her hubby's wishes always took precedence. It turned out fabulous, a modest wedding, with a small but elegant reception of wedding cake/coffee and dancing (what my daughter wanted), then after they left, the guests came back to the house where we had a huge meal. No alcohol available except in my home where it could be monitored. FANTASTIC day for all, and my daughter does not have any MOBridezilla stories to tell :)
Even if they were the ones choosing stuff, I’m sure your professional input and background was invaluable! I bet it was a special experience for the both of you 🥰🥰🥰 congrats to your daughter! I haven’t gotten married yet, but I’ve been engaged for like 8yrs, so I could technically start planning a wedding anytime. One thing I think I’m going to do when booking a venue, is not tell them it’s for a wedding. I’m already thinking it’s going to be a super unconventional wedding, like I sort of want to just do a very short ceremony AT what would be the reception. I also don’t plan to wear white. I might make everyone else wear white actually 😅 I want to wear something colorful.. just not sure what color(s)! 🤭 and instead of alcohol, I want to have a cannabis bar. My partner and I don’t drink, but we do smoke. So does my dad, my uncles, my cousins, my sister in law.. it would be much cheaper for us to provide a couple ounces for the whole event, and we would probably have plenty left over! Maybe some infused foods for people that don’t smoke.. 😋😮💨😮💨😮💨
Australians & Kiwis call sweets/candy “lollies”. Just FYI. I got the idea that the first story was in Australia, not much chance of rain if it was summer, depending on state.
I just wish i had an excuse to get all dolled up like an indian bride! Its arguably the most gorgeous thing I've ever seen! ❤ I just wish I had reason to do it just once in my life!😂 That bride was stunning!😍
If there is Indian community in your neighborhood then attend one of their events. A Diwali party or Navratri party. Indians get excited about having guests and seeing them enjoying the festivities.
I got married in 1993. Mom & dad didn't have a lot of money to spend on my wedding. Mom made my wedding dress and our wedding cake. Even living 4 1/2 hours away, we made it work. I made the announcements and wedding invitations with stationary I picked up. Due to the time of our wedding, my in-laws decided to feed everybody. So, we had friends help make 5 pot roast and other yummy food. Both moms made the brides maid dresses. A family friend helped me make the flowers and boutonniers. The only bouquet I bought was the one I carried. We paid for the church, and my in-laws took care of the pastor. I think we spent around $1,400.
The last stpry broke my heart because ive had friends do things like that to me as well. But she is absolutely stunning and she married her truest best friend ❤
I’m watching this as my dad leaves to work as security at a wedding - all I can think about is the different wedding drama from Charlotte’s videos happening
@@torif1girl454 apparently there was drama happening as he arrived, but because they weren’t on the clock yet, he didn’t have to get involved. The police came and everything too.
We had a beautiful affordable wedding in Charleston. Like 50 guests. Had local southern bbq catered. Hired help to serve and a bartender w a simple bar menu w 2 signature drinks and wine and beer. Simple pimple. Did flowers from Costco for bouquets and buttoneires. Did a gorgeous artisan cake from a local baker to feed 50 that was like $170. My dress and veil were gifted by my aunt. Another aunt did my hair and makeup for free (she’s actually a professional). Another aunt hired a photographer for us as a surprise. We were so very blessed and lucky but even without all that, a budget wedding can be so lovely!
12:34 yes! I’ve been calling it “pre-projecting” 😂 (I noticed how often donald uses this tactic and that it goes way beyond just projection into like, aggressive deflection lmao. Oh he’s doing it rn with the FEMA stuff actually 🤦♀️)
12:01 pro tip for less expensive wedding dress… buy off the rack and go to a cleaners and a tailor I paid $110 for a David’s bridal dressed $16 for dry cleaning and no tailoring needed ❤
Second story: I am a Presbyterian and no alcohol is ever allowed on the church property. Now my dad was a dyed in the wool alcoholic and he wanted champagne at my reception (which he was paying for). I was fine having the fellowship hall with a gorgeous view of Catalina FOR FREE , but he went about the area looking for alternatives. Everything insisted on him paying a jacked up booze price or a corkage fee, so even my alcoholic dad settled for Martinellis rather than paying for all that. It really saved him a fortune!
I'm a dual national (Yankee/frog) and I got married here in France in 1973. A friend offered her garden for the reception. My parents came over for the event. They, my hubby's parents and some friends helped set up things on the morning of the marriage. Foie gras, smoked salmon, various salads and patisseries. I wore a gypsy skirt and a hippy blouse. We had a wonderful time! Why do folks take this "big wedding" thing so seriously?? It's all about love and being with true friends to celebrate! P.S. There was also some nice frog wine...hic!
There’s something strange about not being capable of attending a wedding sober. Personally, a budget wedding is just fine. I think it has nothing to do with how a marriage turns out.
For the last one, I know that I wouldn't have been able to attend her wedding if we were friends due to travel and financial constraints, but I'd at least congratulate her and never expect her to do things I couldn't return. Definitely not the ahole
Love that wedding budget! I just want to do a micro-wedding in Europe in May and spend the rest of the summer backpacking across the continent and playing gigs for the honeymoon.
You can get a small 10-15 people wedding, with a small reception for about £500-£600 in england, if you play your cards right. Just dont go for some big venue, or overly extravigant reception.
19:09 I'm so sorry for her. I know how it feels when nobody shows up for you...especially when you've shown up for them time and again. I hope your marriage is long and filled with love and happiness. If you need a companion for another indian wedding, pick me! I've always wanted to go to one! 😂
21:35 I travelled to go to 3 of my friends weddings and they wouldn't even think to visit me when they're in my area. One doesn't even speak to me any more because her husband was cheating on her and she took it out on me because of something I had posted on facebook. She hadn't even told me they weren't together any more. I give up being there for people. But of course I still do it. That bride looked stunning. Her friends missed out and i hope they realise what they've done to such a lovely person.
Last Story: My best friend since middle school was getting married and I made plans to come. But a couple of months before the big day, I had an emergency and had to use the money I squirreled away to pay it. There was no way that I could attend. I told her immediately. You did all this for your friends, OP and they didn't care. You're better off without them. And agreed with everyone else, you looked absolutely LOVELY!
I literally love that the first bride had bean bags and inflatable chairs, candy and allowed the kids to walk down the aisle before her to a fun song. That’s a core memory for those kids. Bravo to her!
In india my friend will not take a train alone and her family wont let her. A lot of times rich guys who live rural cant find someone to marry because the girls wont travel. I think its pretty common there
I was raised by two alcoholics, it was not the best childhood… My common law partner is a recovering addict, 21 years Clean. He celebrated this past year… Although he could handle being around alcohol, if we were ever to marry, 100% my ceremony and my reception would be alcohol free. Alcohol has been a stain on my existence, my entire childhood. And although my family is very muchinto alcohol, they could just sit on the sidelines… Because I’m sorry there would absolutely be no alcohol at my wedding.
Thank you for clarifying at 7:00 that you weren't getting married WHILE filming this video. I was waiting for the camera to pan over to Mike and it is revealed the whole video is part of your vows. Oh well. Next video?
My daughter rented a fabulous dress. Her husband rented a tux so she decided to rent a gorgeous dress for a fraction of the cost. That wasn’t an option when I married. Smart.
Right?! I am the least likely person to intentionally harm anything or anybody (my family and friends even think I'm weird for capturing insects and setting them free outside rather than using insecticide). And my thought was “ONLY a slap? Babe showed self control" 🤣
15:27 eh. No Monday morning quarterbacking here. The slap was probably not a good decision- BUT I would have done the same. Insult me, fine. Insult my family (but especially my daughter), I’m gonna throw hands. Lots of hands.
Yes, weddings ARE a long day for the people in the wedding party😂 At my best friend's wedding I was awake at 6am, I had to be at the hotel her and her family were staying at by 6:30-7am ish, at the end of the day, the wedding finished up closer to midnight and by yhe time I got back to my friend's house where I was staying, showered and went to bed, it was 3am. So it was a 21 hour day for me. I then wound up needing to meet them again the following day where they handed out thank you gifts to me for being a bridesmaid and like a post-wedding breakfast around 10am. Haha I was a wreck, but it was so fun. No regrets. And back in March, I literally travelled from Europe to Australia for a friend's wedding. So the return trip was 32,000km. Real friends make the time.
My eldest son got married on a weekday at the Little Wedding Chapel of Columbus. Immediate family only, his best man came down from his job on his lunch hour to participate and then had to go back to work. It cost a whopping $75 bucks; I paid ectra for the bouquet. They had been a couple for 13 years by then (high school sweethearts), and were ready to settle down and start a family. 2 kids later, still going strong.
20:30 similar thing happened with me and I ended 10 year long friendship. Am cordial with them when needed but don't hear or give any of my life updates. I'm happy I cut ties with ungrateful ppl
2:00 Whoa there! We had a blast at our wedding . . . without alcohol. In fact, a guest who was a co-worker my husband was close with thought my dad was drunk. He just likes to have a good time. We don't drink and some family members don't tend to mix well with alcohol, so it was best to do without. We at least had iced tea (at my parents' request which I was more than happy to agree to). And because we didn't have alcohol, we were allowed to have the venue longer.
Oh yeah, I got my wedding dress on Amazon! My mom made a few sewing adjustments and it was perfect. I felt like a queen on my wedding day and well within budget. You don’t have to spend three months-worth of rent to feel beautiful:)
I've been a best man at a wedding and never ONCE thought of making it about me or getting any attention. In fact...seeing a lot of wedding videos on this channel makes me wonder why on EARTH would you make that day about you at ALL??? I'd be completely embarrassed if I took ANY of the attention away from the bride and groom and honestly was glad when the ceremony was over that I could get out of those painful, yet very nice looking, shoes I was wearing, lol! I bore through those shoes for the groom and bride cause they were getting the wedding they wanted and I was not going to even begin to ruin or object to anything that they thought made their day perfect. It was even in a castle and a great afternoon/evening with all the lights around the area too. =)
Congratulations. Don't sweat the small stuff. I was married in 1980. We had so much fun we had to extend the reception by an hour. Everyone said we had the best wedding ever. Just enjoy & have a happy long marriage.😊✌️🌻🌻
My husband and I were the alcoholics at our wedding lol. We called it a wedding booze cruise on the invitations. I actually asked them to have an open bar before the ceremony as well, because I knew our guests would behave themselves. It was an amazing night and we all had a blast. I didn't get stressed about a single thing, even when they told us they weren't providing delivery for the cake because they only deliver for 200+ guests, but I knew someone would step up. My brother said that the trip from the bakery to the venue was the scariest of his life lol.
#3 - there is a difference between a "destination wedding" and one in your hometown. #3 needs to find new people to be friends because her "friends" aren't.
When the last story, it reminded me of a phrase I heard “Don’t cross an ocean for someone who wouldn’t cross a puddle for you”
Don't you know how difficult it is for medical students to catch taxis from airport. It's all the colours so confusing 😵💫.
@@Canyouseemeanna just think they have to read labs and reports... I wouldn't want them as my doctor if they can't figure out color coded transportation.
Agreed 😢 what a sad lesson to learn at what should be such a lovely time with family and friends 💔 she deserves better friends and they never deserved her friendship at all.
Yessss!!! I was thinking the same thing !
@@shannonbrice8012 i think their comment mightve been sarcasm, buuuut. idk for sure lol
The lesbians comment made me shoot sodapop from my nose, along with Charlotte saying "maybe she wanted to marry you instead." THE PLOT THICKENS 🤣 Charlotte you're way too funny ❤️
Would've been a bit funny if that was the case since that meant she just confessed her feelings for her friend, but of course it was to try to steal the fiance
Yeah, I think this is the case in a tragicomedy sort of way.
Woooo that had to hurt!!!!! Carbonation and nasal cavities do not mix well
@@melrobertson2743 no it's definitely not a pleasant feeling but I'm okay
That story is fake
"Consider all 2 million of us your bridesmaids," 😭 PERIOD! WE LOVE YOU, BABE!
💯 🫂 ❤
Yes babes! I will never say you are cheap or a bride-zilla! You do what you want and I will be there for the view finder pictures after.
Send those invites out potato queen!♥️
Count me in! You're bloody stunning btw young lady,
I also know how it feels, when you are the BIG giver, and they don't even know what the word means.
I've been heartbroken so many times, by so called friends, and family. And it got worse, when I started to be ill. then again, when I needed a wheelchair. I'm alone now, since my partner passed, 3 years in a couple of weeks.
I don't speak to any of my family now......
Shut up Jacq, lol Congratulations, have the BEST marriage EVER!! XxX
Imagine Zooming the wedding and we all dress up!!
To the girl who got married in New Delhi, I would have flown from Korea for a friend like you. I hope we are blessed enough to recognize a true friend when we meet one. Wishing you all the warmest love and hugs 🧡🤍💚
I mean, some people literally don't have enough money in their bank account for an international plane ticket, but if these people are all medical doctors who just had to take a train, travel isn't an excuse.
Yeah... Everyone afforded medical school and... Traveling in India... Is like the cheapest!!😅😅
I've never been to India, don't speak the language, and would stick out like a sore thumb. But I'd fly there to be a bridesmaid for the Indian bride. She sounds like an amazing friend who deserves equally amazing friends.
Same, she sounds like one of a kind! Also the excuse she dont understand color code like wtf didnt u end up graduating med school?? What kinda doctor is that? Phlueaze
Also, her wedding outfit looks like a cute Barbie theme in India style.
charlotte saying “i don’t condone violence” then later saying “ i am here for this bloodbath”😂
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Hey everyone! So Charlotte mentioned places to get wedding dresses for a good price. WELL if you are on the west coast of the united states there is a business called Brides for a Cause. This is a nonprofit organization that accepts and sells only donated gowns form salons, designers, and brides. These dresses are marked down between 60-80% and 90% of the proceeds go back to woman's charities. If anyone is looking for a gown they can ship them to you and if you yourself have a wedding dress that you don't want in your closet anyone, they accept mail in donations from around the world! I Highly recommend taking a look, they really are amazing.
Love this!! ❤
Awesome!
OOO great plug!
Thank you! That's a great idea!
I'm in PA near Philly, and I've got a carefully worn gown that I can donate.
Do they have a website?
That's cool
That first story, since she’s spelling it Mum, and saying lollies, and having a bbq for her wedding at a park, and got her dress from lifeline, I think she’s Australian :) 😊
Yes and the currency she used in the post ($) is also a clue
Also bub for baby
agreed all sounds Australian to me too also i was at a wedding in a park twice now here in Aus and saw plenty more growing up beautiful parks here especially one in Armadale W.A. near pioneer village
I agree Aussie 100% and it also explains why it was strictly alcohol free... most of our states/territories are strict on no alcohol in public places, which would include the park where she got married. If I was her, I'd also be strict on it... I ain't going to cop a fine for hosting an event in a public space with alcohol - those guests (by their attitude) would point the finger at the host and not take responsibility for their own actions for sure.
Yeah as a British person I was like she's not British lol. Sweets is what we commonly say instead of lollies or candies.
I LOVE Indian wedding dresses so much! The textile work, the bling! the last one her dress looked like living cherry blossoms and sunlight were spun into the dress
She was also drop dead gorgeous!
Absolutely stu-nnin'! ❤🥰👏👌
I Diane wedding dresses are always so incredibly gorgeous!! The detail work on that dress is just so amazing! She looks so beautiful! She didn't need bridesmaids - she was stunning all by herself!!
Especially New Delhi with Chandni chowk and handiwork in bridal clothing it's stunning as an Indian the weddings are so fun and the guests get treated very well with variety of events food and dance and music honestly it's those bridesmaids loss who would miss out on that
The last story: I was that friend. I always dropped everything for my friends and was there for them in an instant when they needed me for 10 years. Then, suddenly, they couldn't be bothered to do the same for me. One asked to throw my bachelorette and then didn't plan one at all (so the remaining BMs and I just did an impromptu pub crawl). Another asked to throw my baby shower then did the same as the other friend before and didn't plan a single thing (my other friends had to plan it in 2 days). I invited them to my son's baptism and they showed up super late then didn't go to the party at our place after. Then for my daughter's first birthday I invited them and other friends I had and absolutely none of them showed up. Cherry on top was when I got really ill 2.5 years ago with neuro issues I have permanently and every single one dropped off the face of the planet at a time when I needed them the most.
Unfortunately, sometimes the only person you can rely on is yourself (and your SO). I recently removed them all from FB and everything and it was a very cleansing experience.
I am really sorry you had to be disappinted in so many that were important to you. Wishing you better friends and great health! ❤
I had a best friend that I noticed was being a little distant. I would call her but she didn't call me. She had started hanging out with a co-worker, which is fine. I went out of to town to take care of my mom was sick and had to have surgery. When I got home after taking care of her for about 5 weeks, I realized I hadn't heard from my best friend. This was in January, so I decided to see how long it would take for her to contact me. I got an email in May. She claimed she couldn't find my phone number and that's why she hadn't been in touch. She had my email address and physical address the whole time but couldn't reach out...yeah right. I never spoke with her again. I meant so little to her that she couldn't even reach out to see how my mom was doing or how I was coping with my mom having cancer. Sometimes, you have to walk away.
Oh hunny. I’m so sorry. That sucks😔
one of my best friends and I had a tiff. Well she thought it was a tiff I thought it was a normal conversation. Our other bestie is the one you ask if you want to hear what you want… I’m the one to ask if you want to hear what you need. She didn’t speak to me for 10 years or so. My mom called us the 3 musketeers and considered them her other daughters. We have been friends for over 40 years. When the one got married… not only wasn’t I in her wedding… (the “tiff” was about her now husband and the way it went down about their engagement). I wasn’t even invited. I was ok with this because Rule 1 is that you can be surrounded by whomever you want for your big day… I was kind of salty over the fact that she didn’t invite my mom. To me that was wrong… but refer to Rule 1. When my mom was dying and needed to be moved to a facility, she showed up at her house while I was cleaning it out and was the biggest help. I have ADHD and would never have been able to do it all by myself.
@@Dlmagoo2 That's hard. I'm sorry you lost your Mom, but glad you have a good friend (even if the lines of communication are tangled).
I've had an interesting life and have had to face that some friends/acquaintances/family aren;t what I had hoped they might be. I'm in a better mental spot now (was over-medicated and dealing with stuff) for a coupld of decades, so I have lost a lot of poeple I might have been close to, but I have people that have stuck with me through a lot of medical and personal shenanigans.
Sometimes the people in your life are there for particular reasons. You have to trust that you are strong enough for whatever happens, and the support you need will be there.
I hope you and she are able to sort things out. Best thoughts!
Wow! The young lass, the Indian bride, is simply breathtaking!
What a joyous countenance! What a happy gorgeous beautiful bride!
I wish her and her fortunate, blessed husband the absolute best lives possible.
❤
Sounds to me like bride #1 had the wedding of her dreams. How can anyone think that makes her the AH? Also, can we talk about how awesome it is that she had bean bags and inflatable chairs for kids! Like how genius of a move! Love it! ❤
She made it an incredible memory for all the kids. It was beautiful and perfect for her and showed the kids how much she loves them. She rocks and her selfish family can kick rocks.
I loved that part! I wish I had thought of some of that stuff for my wedding, which had a good handful of children. I had planned a bunch of small craft activities for them (paper crowns they could decorate, coloring books, bubbles etc), which sadly never made it out to the tables 😢
If I could do it again I would have planned a lot more games and fun things for the kids, because honestly seeing that much childlike wonder and joy at a wedding would make it for me 💯
@SuperNerd57 why didnt they make it out to the tables? What happened ?
Seriously adorable. I bet those photos were so cute 😭💖
Not mention that gorgeous dress I bet she looked beautiful
To the Indian Bride girlllll you ATE that wedding saree... Honestly realizing your worth and standing alone is worth far more than standing with people who don't support you!!!! May you have a long and happy marriage...
The bride with the " friends" that can't travel for her wedding , I feel her. I live 3 hrs away from most of what was my friends. When I lived close by I would babysit and help them out all the time I have even traveled to help a few out since I moved . However the second I have kids and need a sitter or I need help because my husband is over seas then it seems everyone is busy or " just can't right now"
😠 Those "friends" 👎 You deserve better. 💜
If they had several kids and it was kid free wedding or they never afford to travel around normally it would not be as bad as this was. They only not capable to manage to travel for her wedding but anything else they happy travel for. So bad
sorry u went thru that. they used ya
I've also had friends who didn't show up for me the way I showed up for them, it's the worst... Makes you want to just become mean.
I feel it too. I have 12 cousins, and only 3 of them are coming to my wedding
The wedding in the park sounds delightful. It was like a picnic. No alcohol = no drunks. Appropriate for the child-centric plan.
And recovering alcoholics do get married, usually with no booze. It’s a choice.
Love her wedding dress!
The beautiful Indian bride! Bless her! I wonder if all her "friends" thought well she will understand and didn't think it would effect the friendship. Because she was so kind!
In regards to the first story - we didn’t have alcohol at our wedding either, but that was because we couldn’t afford it. No one offered to help offset the cost, but they all complained about it for months beforehand. We also paid for most of our wedding, so other peoples’ opinion weren’t really valid. We did try and make it as nice as we could with the limited budget we had, and spent more on a good DJ and caterer. My dad also backed out of our wedding six months beforehand because I was letting my stepdad give a speech. My dad was still going to be the one to walk me down the aisle and do all the father daughter things, I was just allowing a few selected people to speak, and since one of them was my stepdad, he lost it and didn’t come at all. Luckily, my stepdad is awesome and did all the things that my dad was supposed to do, probably better if I’m honest.
I would have loved to been at your wedding completely sober! 😂
I bet it was much better & calmer without it!
Alcohol WILL only lead to drama.. esp men will start fighting if they have anything stronger than beer...
Omg that makes me so sad for you, that your dad couldn’t keep his ego in check, but also really happy for you that your step dad was there and stepped up for you. 🥰
The nerve to complain about someone not having alcohol, which is expensive. Good grief.
I don't understand why so many people think you can't have fun unless there's alcohol. I would have been honored just to be invited.
I'm perfectly open to a dry wedding, in my family alcoholism runs hard. My niece did a dry wedding because both sides have severe alcoholics and she didn't want fights breaking out (normal for these two families) and the only person who freaked out was mother of the groom. I didn't know why my niece and now nephew in law, had asked me to be a Wedding Bouncer lmao. Maybe because of my ability to deal with people. She went so nuts I had to physically pick her up and remove her from the wedding, not the reception, the WEDDING. Dry weddings around me are a solid yes.
My husband and I originally started to plan for a large wedding. After discussing the guest list and people we should invite, but didn't want to; food choices, venue, and cost... we eloped for $150. I bought a dress on clearance, he bought some new shoes, my mom and dad covered the caked and an after the ceremony dinner. My wedding party was 5 people and we had a great time. 25 years later I wouldn't have changed a thing.
❤love this so much for you!❤
We eloped. The witnesses were some guy who was in the judge's hallway for a different reason, and the judge's clerk. It was a lovele friendly ceremony.
6 moths later we had the "big" church wedding - it was out of state for our families, so it was just the close families and people who lived within a reasonable drive to our location. The minister knew what had been going on and was lovely - it was a little church at a USNavy base, beautiful church and the organist was wonderful.
We had maybe 2 people total, took them all to a local steakhouse for the "reception". Fantastic time.
21:30 My Grandpa told me the best thing when I was a teen and questioning my Daddy's love for me... (My Daddy was amazing, just worked a lot and parents had been divorced since I was 1) He told me "He loves you as much as HE is capable of. It doesn't make his love any less valuable just because you can love more" I've always remembered that and recognized that it isn't always that ppl don't care, but their care or love just isn't capable of being where you are!
eloquently stated, it eleviates the burden of feeling guilt of the innocent party. Very mature.
I wish I could 'like' this comment 100 times! 💯
@@joanneberg8093 how does it make them feel guilt??? It made my life and feelings 1000% better realizing that
@@joanneberg8093 or did I misread your comment?
I think they were talking about the bride in the video. She was feeling guilty about not going to their weddings. But I might be wrong 😬@@mrs_maverick1121
Regarding the last one, that bride was/is GORGEOUS!!! I loved the jewelry you wore!!! My face literally dropped (not my mouth, MY FACE). BEAUTIFUL!!
That last story my god am I in love with her dress!! it's so beautiful and even better with a gorgeous woman wearing it! ❤
Who the flip cares if you're doing a "cheap" wedding? It's supposed to be a day of love, not flaunting your wealth. I'm glad you had a wonderful wedding without the toxicity from your family, and I LOVE that wedding dress 💙🤍
Well, the family cycle cares, apparently. And people affiliated with the family
@@WeOnlySayHello well they can go fly a kite since the day wasn't about them
@@DemonSkunk0408Tell that to Eastern Europeans
@@WeOnlySayHello I know I know it's better said than done I'm sorry
With so many today think 20-30 k is a cheap wedding the n a even more cheap one make they faint from shock
I'll never understand why a grown woman would try to upstage another woman on her wedding day 🤯
I’m convinced half these stories are fake. Dead giveaway for me was how she doesn’t slap her or uninvite her as soon as she says she was going for the finance to pick her.
@YM-qb6gh Nope. A older cousin of mine did it to my other cousin. She wore a white wedding dress to her wedding. Well, tried to. She didn't make it through the entrance of the church before my aunt, and uncle snatched her up
Because she has the emotional inteligence of a todler. Lol.
because shes extremely insecure and jealous, thats why.
Bcs they haven't developed mentally with that boodyy. For some people it stopped at age 5 for some reason
My family did the same thing. Wouldn't pay for anything, fussed at me for being "cheap," said they wouldn't come unless it was a large church wedding, and then got upset when they weren't invited. Edited to say they now whine about not being involved in my life! Peace is so much more important than people who don't actually care about you. ✌🏽
When mom asked, when she was Really getting married, so that she could plan it, sounds like she's had at least 4 weddings herself! OP should have told her that she had skipped the Only One that she, OP, was going to have & she, mom, can save her plans for her own next wedding!
It seems that mom might just love weddings but not men or marriage😂!!!
I am an Indian. I know how long multi event and fun any Indian wedding is. For people who are not Indian, it is an honour and a wonderful experience to go to an Indian wedding. It is not easy to get an entry in these weddings. There some portals where wedding host sell tickets to their wedding if a non-indian wants to attend, which is not really that expensive, something around 10USD, but OP’s friends were getting that for free and friends of Bride & Groom always get special treatment in India. They unknowingly missed all that. I know a few cousins who studied in other countries and made many friends there, and in their wedding, they all came.. we were in awe of their bond.
Wow you can buy indian wedding tickets? Where?!
First story is definitely Australian- we say lollies and mum, and ‘sausage sizzle’ is such an Aussie term for a bbq haha. And vinnies is a very common op shop here. Not just Europe that uses some of those terms, we exist too! 😭😅
I was going to say the exact same thing! Some things are just 100% Aussie they can’t be mistaken for anywhere else!
Hi from the UK. I don’t think many people realise that Aus and NZ use British English as standard, not US English.
While we do say Mum, lollies in the UK is short for lollipops🍭, everything else is sweets. The only way you can get a sausage to sizzle in the UK is when the rain starts falling on the bbq. We are more likely to call it a sausage funeral here, we are so bad at bbq’s! 😅
That Indian wedding story - She is Samwise Gamgee. We should all strive to be that good of a friend
I agree. And, she is beyond stunning! Seems like she is beautiful inside and out!!!! ❤
Samwise Gamgee is a major compliment 🥲
I honestly love the bride that ghosted her friends. As someone who is a pleaser, it's almost impossible to say no. If I had tried to explain my reasons for not coming, I know that I would cave in. By ghosting, she avoided the dreaded confrontation, didn't have her mind changed, and now can go on to make new friends. I know it's not the way many would handle it, but personally, it would be the only way I could get out of the situations I have a problem saying no to. I'm stealing a page from her playbook.
Edited to add I'm sure most of these "friends" know already why she was upset.
Exactly. No need to tell people why they suck. They know. They don’t care.
yeah but sometimes ya wanna spit in their face with words a lil ya know hahahaha but u do u boo
Sometimes they have a neat way of making you out to be the real issue too. One's honesty is met with outrage and more negativity than one likes to handle, and none of it yours. Projection, as Charlotte says. Silence is also an answer.
I feel like confrontation is overrated. There are times when it can heal a relationship. It's absolutely useless when the person is toxic.
@@Orquet-qj2nf Cannot reason with unreason. Never turn your back on a threat. Cease to engage. And if necessary, without actually losing one's temper, throw a bigger crazy tantrum and frighten them away. (Pick the option that works the best for each situation)
My husband and I got married in 2020 also. His sister is ordained, so she preformed the ceremony. We had it at a local nature preserve, it was beautiful. Due to the lock down and distancing rules, there were 5 ppl in attendance. I didn’t buy a dress. I got a cute outfit and wore that instead. We dressed our dogs up and they stood in as a ring bearer and flower girl! After being together for 18 years, we didn’t need a traditional wedding 😂. Nothing we have ever done has been traditional!
I love this! 😍 Especially involving your pups in such a cute way.
Congratulations to you and your husband - wishing you many more happy years together 💕
That's darling
THE DOGS. I love that.
The first wedding, I love her, it sounded like the most fun wedding, filled with joy!
Also: bonus points for organized post (Editor here)
I wish them a great life together 🎉
One of my best friends weddings.. Was halfway across the country. My husband and I were counting pennies at the time and trying to keep a roof over our heads. I was supposed to be a bridesmaid and I had to call her and tell her we couldn't be there. It broke my heart so deep.
We are still friends to this day and financially we're much better and I've been able to go visit a few times.
Just a friendly reminder to have grace with people. My friendship motto has always been do when you can. I don't expect anything and I do when i can because I want to, and not just to expect in return.
I got married in MY LIVING IN MY NEW HOME IN FRONT OF MY FIREPLACE ! Best choice EVER ! Every time I look at my fireplace in my living room I am reminded of the day I married the love of my life ! 10 yrs later & going strong 2 crazy boys we love so much ! & 2 businesses! We only had close family there I LOVED IT !!!!!!!!
Oh my gosh, that is so intimate and sweet! I love that! ❤
Yes Queen!❤
Story One is from Australia; had my suspicions when "lollies" and "sausage sizzle" were mentioned, confirmed with mention of Lifeline (crisis hotline, for those who don't know).
How did she get her dress from a crisis hotline
@aedansilva1114 I think they have second hand shops that they use to fundraise, much like Red Cross
@@josie5599 Yes, they do. I should have been clearer about that in my previous comment.
Yes, the Sausage Sizzle gives it away instantly
@@aedansilva1114it’s a second hand shop, but they have their own hotline number
Like salvos is another second hand shop 😊
After moving to NC I attended my 1st backyard wedding. It was outside of a singlewide with homemade BBQ on the side porch. I've never had more fun or eaten better food in my life! The best weddings are the simplest in my humble opinion 😋
The southern US knows how to do a wedding!! No one goes home empty handed or with an empty tummy!
@@Sorchia56 ain't that the truth!
11:37 One of the projects that I've been working on (totally not avoiding my humanities work lol) is finding thrifted or antique wedding dresses and upcycling them so that they can be worn again! I'm hoping to, at some point, sell them. I haven't been lucky enough to find one yet, but I'm keeping my hopes up! (I just wanted to share my excitement lol)
2:58 I'm Muslim and Pakistani, we don't drink alcohol, rather we SURVIVE on chai (tea) 😂 because our weddings are at least a 3 day event, with MAYBE 1 day in-between of rest.
Chai tea is EVERYTHING lol! Good choice honestly.
@@tigerlily9929not the Starbucks chai tea. Actual chai made from scratch is yummy.
@shalwinderkaur8276 given their ethnicity, it was not likely Starbucks.
A Moroccan girlfriend told me a few things about their weddings. Men and women celebrate separated and despite (or because?) the absence of alcohol the men often end up fighting, verbally or worse.
@@bonnemoms5413 I’m not talking about the original commenter. I was talking about the person who said chai tea is amazing. Pakistani or Indian person will never call it chai tea. We call it chai or tea. That’s why original commenter put tea in the brackets. Chai is Hindi or Urdu translation of tea.
Good Morning Petty Potatoes! ❤
The audacity of people when weddings are involved, somehow keeps surprising me. 😅
We say "Hello Petty Potatoes". Repeat after me; Hello Petty Potatoes
Good morning❤
Morning 👸
Morning! :D
Good evening from Europe, where do you all live ? Charlotte's fans are around the world 😊❤
I have been to five weddings. Two were the whole expensive shebang, one held the reception in a ranch house in their family's hometown (closer to the grands), one was in a state park in Northern Idaho where guests were requested to bring their own lawn chairs and one was in a chapel on an Air Force Base. All of them were wonderful, and all of them fit the couples taking part in them. Just because you don't want that approach for your wedding doesn't mean that it isn't a beautiful wedding. Best thing is if your wedding fits you. :)
For the story with the “cheap” park wedding (which sounded lovely!), I find it funny that her Step-mother was complaining so much about how cheap it was, without offering to help out with the cost of the wedding. It seems like the Groom’s side paid for everything, while the Bride’s family just wanted a cheap excuse to drink (As well as the Step-mother wanting to earn $300 from the day).
13:47 if a person said this to me, i would laugh, call up my partner and asked him straight. "Hey, she sid she's interested in you. What do you say about that?" because i 100% trust my partner.
20:36 Indian Bride girlie, you looked so beautiful in that Lehenga!!! And I'm sorry you had all those awful people in your life as 'friends'!! I'm in Mumbai and I've travelled all over the country for the weddings of my friends... Kolkata, Bengaluru, Delhi... everywhere!! That metro excuse was so stupid!! I'm so sorry babe! You deserve better babe!!
Okay, I have never wanted a wedding...until I heard the first queen's wedding. I absolutely love everything about it ❤❤
We had an alcohol free wedding on a tight budget because we paid for most of it ourselves aside from a relatives helping where they could..my religious family is chock full of recovering alcoholics and my preacher grandfather was officiating.. my husbands family (his party loving aunts particularly) really kicked up a fuss about it but ultimately just gave up.. our guest list was about 70-80 people was exclusively family and close freinds (only about 50 actually came) and was comprised mostly of people over 45 and their kids.. basically all the young adults were in the bridal party... we did a potluck instead of feeding everyone.. we asked that people bring a dish with a recipe instead of gifts and it was really nice and now i have a whole book of delicious family recipes from both sides.. it was a super lowkey afternoon spring wedding and everyone loved it.. even without the alcohol
Love the recipe idea!
I wonder how much you expected your guests to spend in wedding gifts?🤔
Hillbilly deluxe? More like hillbilly dumb fxck@@hillbillydeluxe27
@@hillbillydeluxe27 they literally said they asked for the food dishes with recipes INSTEAD OF GIFTS. If you're going to try a "gotcha" moment at least read the entire small paragraph. When Charlotte says to be petty, calling people out for no reason is NOT what she means
@hillbillydeluxe27 I mean don't get me wrong some people still brought gifts. Some of our closer family helped with making decorations and borrowing tables and chairs from church, some of the food came in dishes that they gave us, and a few people did bring gifts for us.. but we told everyone not to worry about bringing a gift and asked for the food instead. It was nice and nobody was upset about it as far as I know..
14:32 no, that slap was justified and required. She needed a hard factory reset for a very long time. 😂😂😂😂😂
I'm in shock over the first brides family. How do they think bringing their own alcohol is ok? I 100% on the side of the bride because he family was unreasonable!
1:14 literally the most chill coolest bride ever! I wouldn't want a big wedding either. Why spend crazy amounts of money on a ceremony when thst money could go towards your future instead. N letting the kids go down the isle first smart and chill. Obviously if u tell a child it's only for one person they want it even more. So pretty smart letting them go down first.
I seriously can't wait to see Charlotte and Mike's wedding 💒💍
All of us waiting patiently. 😊
Her dress is going to be so gorgeous, I can't wait to see it.
I also want to hear the story of it afterwards
Oh definitely.
Miss Charlotte, I know you probably don't need to have someone tell you, but don't let us know where it will be, when it will be (you can give a heads up that you will be gone so we know not to worry!). We can wait for the dress pictures until AFTER you are home and settled back in.
And when it gets closer to the date, if you don't have time to do videos, then don't! Most of us know how stressful a wedding can be - even the least inexpensive ones - and the closer it gets the more you start thinking 'OMG, I forgot something important, I KNOW I did, WHAT IS IT?!!!!"
On that last note, a piece of advice: Start writing down EVERYTHING you think you need or want. Even if it sounds stupid to begin with. That little off the wall thought, might be just the thing that works for you! This also helps you keep track of what you have done, and what still needs to be done. And make several copies - put one on the fridge, because we all have to get something out of the fridge several times a day.
@@lindapatton4478 Good ideas. Plus if she has help with planning/managing her wedding & reception, they all could use an app that will let them share opinions and make changes for all to see, along with who made what changes.
Speaking as a Mom of only one child (a daughter) AND a former wedding planner, have to say it was a learning experience. When planning my daughter's wedding, I had wanted certain things, but of course my daughter and her hubby's wishes always took precedence. It turned out fabulous, a modest wedding, with a small but elegant reception of wedding cake/coffee and dancing (what my daughter wanted), then after they left, the guests came back to the house where we had a huge meal. No alcohol available except in my home where it could be monitored. FANTASTIC day for all, and my daughter does not have any MOBridezilla stories to tell :)
Even if they were the ones choosing stuff, I’m sure your professional input and background was invaluable! I bet it was a special experience for the both of you 🥰🥰🥰 congrats to your daughter!
I haven’t gotten married yet, but I’ve been engaged for like 8yrs, so I could technically start planning a wedding anytime. One thing I think I’m going to do when booking a venue, is not tell them it’s for a wedding. I’m already thinking it’s going to be a super unconventional wedding, like I sort of want to just do a very short ceremony AT what would be the reception. I also don’t plan to wear white. I might make everyone else wear white actually 😅 I want to wear something colorful.. just not sure what color(s)! 🤭 and instead of alcohol, I want to have a cannabis bar. My partner and I don’t drink, but we do smoke. So does my dad, my uncles, my cousins, my sister in law.. it would be much cheaper for us to provide a couple ounces for the whole event, and we would probably have plenty left over! Maybe some infused foods for people that don’t smoke.. 😋😮💨😮💨😮💨
13:58 who’s been practically yelling “Pick-Me Girl Alert!” since the neon Quinceañera dress?
This girl! 😂
NTA
Australians & Kiwis call sweets/candy “lollies”. Just FYI. I got the idea that the first story was in Australia, not much chance of rain if it was summer, depending on state.
20:43 She's beautiful. Very beautiful. How can your "friends" do that. She looks like a nice person. 😊
Oh my gosh! The Indian bride was simply gorgeous! I'm glad she had a wonderful wedding. Her life will be so peaceful without the user "friends"
I just wish i had an excuse to get all dolled up like an indian bride! Its arguably the most gorgeous thing I've ever seen! ❤ I just wish I had reason to do it just once in my life!😂 That bride was stunning!😍
grocery shopping, pta meetings, taking out the trash....all valid reasons to dress up....and she was..that was a beautiful color of pink
@@vickiechandler3112I like the way you think! 😉
You don't need a reason, but if you need an inspiration, a milestone birthday would do ❤
have an indian wedding themed party!
If there is Indian community in your neighborhood then attend one of their events. A Diwali party or Navratri party. Indians get excited about having guests and seeing them enjoying the festivities.
I got married in 1993. Mom & dad didn't have a lot of money to spend on my wedding. Mom made my wedding dress and our wedding cake. Even living 4 1/2 hours away, we made it work.
I made the announcements and wedding invitations with stationary I picked up.
Due to the time of our wedding, my in-laws decided to feed everybody. So, we had friends help make 5 pot roast and other yummy food.
Both moms made the brides maid dresses. A family friend helped me make the flowers and boutonniers. The only bouquet I bought was the one I carried.
We paid for the church, and my in-laws took care of the pastor.
I think we spent around $1,400.
The last stpry broke my heart because ive had friends do things like that to me as well.
But she is absolutely stunning and she married her truest best friend ❤
I’m watching this as my dad leaves to work as security at a wedding - all I can think about is the different wedding drama from Charlotte’s videos happening
Hopefully it’s only funny stuff and your dad can laugh. 💜
@@torif1girl454 apparently there was drama happening as he arrived, but because they weren’t on the clock yet, he didn’t have to get involved. The police came and everything too.
My bridesmaids wore dark green. They. Were. Sooo BEAUTIFUL!!!
We had a beautiful affordable wedding in Charleston. Like 50 guests. Had local southern bbq catered. Hired help to serve and a bartender w a simple bar menu w 2 signature drinks and wine and beer. Simple pimple. Did flowers from Costco for bouquets and buttoneires. Did a gorgeous artisan cake from a local baker to feed 50 that was like $170. My dress and veil were gifted by my aunt. Another aunt did my hair and makeup for free (she’s actually a professional). Another aunt hired a photographer for us as a surprise. We were so very blessed and lucky but even without all that, a budget wedding can be so lovely!
12:34 yes! I’ve been calling it “pre-projecting” 😂 (I noticed how often donald uses this tactic and that it goes way beyond just projection into like, aggressive deflection lmao. Oh he’s doing it rn with the FEMA stuff actually 🤦♀️)
12:01 pro tip for less expensive wedding dress… buy off the rack and go to a cleaners and a tailor I paid $110 for a David’s bridal dressed $16 for dry cleaning and no tailoring needed ❤
Second story: I am a Presbyterian and no alcohol is ever allowed on the church property. Now my dad was a dyed in the wool alcoholic and he wanted champagne at my reception (which he was paying for). I was fine having the fellowship hall with a gorgeous view of Catalina FOR FREE , but he went about the area looking for alternatives. Everything insisted on him paying a jacked up booze price or a corkage fee, so even my alcoholic dad settled for Martinellis rather than paying for all that. It really saved him a fortune!
Presbyterians even use grape juice for communion, right? Sounds like you had a great venue at a great price!
I love sparkling grape juice!!
I'm a dual national (Yankee/frog) and I got married here in France in 1973.
A friend offered her garden for the reception.
My parents came over for the event.
They, my hubby's parents and some friends helped set up things on the morning of the marriage.
Foie gras, smoked salmon, various salads and patisseries.
I wore a gypsy skirt and a hippy blouse.
We had a wonderful time!
Why do folks take this "big wedding" thing so seriously??
It's all about love and being with true friends to celebrate!
P.S. There was also some nice frog wine...hic!
Lmfao I love “Yankee/Frog”
Never heard of a french refer to themselves as frog 🐸 😂
There’s something strange about not being capable of attending a wedding sober.
Personally, a budget wedding is just fine. I think it has nothing to do with how a marriage turns out.
The bride from India is absolutely gorgeous! She looks like a princess!
For the last one, I know that I wouldn't have been able to attend her wedding if we were friends due to travel and financial constraints, but I'd at least congratulate her and never expect her to do things I couldn't return. Definitely not the ahole
Love that wedding budget! I just want to do a micro-wedding in Europe in May and spend the rest of the summer backpacking across the continent and playing gigs for the honeymoon.
You can get a small 10-15 people wedding, with a small reception for about £500-£600 in england, if you play your cards right. Just dont go for some big venue, or overly extravigant reception.
editing again to add - LESBIANS?!?!? I'm cryin
gasp!!! how fun!!! 27s late ♡ edited to add much love to you Char!!! from Alberta
2:23 that dress is CUTE
FR
Agreed!
Yes it is. Very cute.
Absolutely gorgeous!!!
Fr that mom didn't know what she was talking about 😂
19:09 I'm so sorry for her. I know how it feels when nobody shows up for you...especially when you've shown up for them time and again. I hope your marriage is long and filled with love and happiness. If you need a companion for another indian wedding, pick me! I've always wanted to go to one! 😂
21:35 I travelled to go to 3 of my friends weddings and they wouldn't even think to visit me when they're in my area.
One doesn't even speak to me any more because her husband was cheating on her and she took it out on me because of something I had posted on facebook. She hadn't even told me they weren't together any more.
I give up being there for people.
But of course I still do it.
That bride looked stunning. Her friends missed out and i hope they realise what they've done to such a lovely person.
Bride #1... Good for her!!! Your wedding, your choice of dress, food, venue, and guests.
CHARLOTTE! I took your advice and got a keratin treatment and OMG, it was life changing for my hair! Thanks, 👸!
OMG!! I’m so glad you like it! I got one once and never looked back. Game changer!!
Where do you get this done? At a hair salon or at home?
@@mishmish2261 I got my hair stylist to do mine at her salon but there are kits you can buy and do them at home.
@@mishmish2261 I got my stylist to do mine at her salon but you can buy kits to do it at home.
Last Story: My best friend since middle school was getting married and I made plans to come. But a couple of months before the big day, I had an emergency and had to use the money I squirreled away to pay it. There was no way that I could attend. I told her immediately.
You did all this for your friends, OP and they didn't care. You're better off without them. And agreed with everyone else, you looked absolutely LOVELY!
I literally love that the first bride had bean bags and inflatable chairs, candy and allowed the kids to walk down the aisle before her to a fun song. That’s a core memory for those kids. Bravo to her!
In india my friend will not take a train alone and her family wont let her. A lot of times rich guys who live rural cant find someone to marry because the girls wont travel. I think its pretty common there
❤I’m ecstatic for this wedding DRAMA.. And to hear it from our QUEEN❤
I was raised by two alcoholics, it was not the best childhood… My common law partner is a recovering addict, 21 years Clean. He celebrated this past year… Although he could handle being around alcohol, if we were ever to marry, 100% my ceremony and my reception would be alcohol free. Alcohol has been a stain on my existence, my entire childhood. And although my family is very muchinto alcohol, they could just sit on the sidelines… Because I’m sorry there would absolutely be no alcohol at my wedding.
Your partner is an inspiration to the newcomers.
Please give your partner the highest of high fives, 21 years is amazing!
makes complete sense
It makes sense, if you can’t attend a wedding for a couple hours sober then you need to take a closer look at your life.
Thank you for clarifying at 7:00 that you weren't getting married WHILE filming this video. I was waiting for the camera to pan over to Mike and it is revealed the whole video is part of your vows. Oh well. Next video?
🎉 Yes!
I went: really?
And then instantly went to the comments this was the first thing I saw
Why would she stream their wedding instead of making a video for later?
My daughter rented a fabulous dress. Her husband rented a tux so she decided to rent a gorgeous dress for a fraction of the cost. That wasn’t an option when I married. Smart.
1:18 wow that amazing! This person definitely loves kids 💕
9:18 KEEN-sahn-yair-uh ❤ It's the celebration of a 15 year old young lady.
Was looking for this comment 😂
Close, but it's more like keen say ahn YAIR ah
Yes, it's comparable to a sweet 16, right?
@@lisamelroy2855Yeah like a cultural coming of age
@@lisamelroy2855 yeah its the celebration of a young woman's coming of age :)
My husband said that bride shouldn't have slapped her, she should have had a battle Royale 😂😂😂
Right?! I am the least likely person to intentionally harm anything or anybody (my family and friends even think I'm weird for capturing insects and setting them free outside rather than using insecticide). And my thought was “ONLY a slap? Babe showed self control" 🤣
15:27 eh. No Monday morning quarterbacking here. The slap was probably not a good decision- BUT I would have done the same. Insult me, fine. Insult my family (but especially my daughter), I’m gonna throw hands. Lots of hands.
Completely agree. Come at my family and I wouldn’t have slapped but used a closed fist! 😂
Nah I’m 20 and I would’ve done the same, that’s the type of person that will only learn from their consequences when they’re physical
Maybe the whole "Lets have coffee and talk" was unnecessary and she should have just uninvited her PERIOD. No slapping involved.
Agreed!!
FIRST ONE WAS AUSTRALIAN, CHARLOTTE! not UK/Europe ! Sausage sizzle + the word lolly = definitely aussie... please don't forget us :( WE LOVE YOU! :)
Lolly is definitely something we say in Australia. My British kids say sweets though!
Yes, weddings ARE a long day for the people in the wedding party😂 At my best friend's wedding I was awake at 6am, I had to be at the hotel her and her family were staying at by 6:30-7am ish, at the end of the day, the wedding finished up closer to midnight and by yhe time I got back to my friend's house where I was staying, showered and went to bed, it was 3am. So it was a 21 hour day for me. I then wound up needing to meet them again the following day where they handed out thank you gifts to me for being a bridesmaid and like a post-wedding breakfast around 10am. Haha I was a wreck, but it was so fun. No regrets.
And back in March, I literally travelled from Europe to Australia for a friend's wedding. So the return trip was 32,000km. Real friends make the time.
My eldest son got married on a weekday at the Little Wedding Chapel of Columbus. Immediate family only, his best man came down from his job on his lunch hour to participate and then had to go back to work. It cost a whopping $75 bucks; I paid ectra for the bouquet. They had been a couple for 13 years by then (high school sweethearts), and were ready to settle down and start a family. 2 kids later, still going strong.
13:19 DON'T BRING LESBIANS INTO THIS SHELLY
This comment needs to be a t-shirt or at the very least a meme.
20:30 similar thing happened with me and I ended 10 year long friendship. Am cordial with them when needed but don't hear or give any of my life updates. I'm happy I cut ties with ungrateful ppl
2:00 Whoa there! We had a blast at our wedding . . . without alcohol. In fact, a guest who was a co-worker my husband was close with thought my dad was drunk. He just likes to have a good time. We don't drink and some family members don't tend to mix well with alcohol, so it was best to do without. We at least had iced tea (at my parents' request which I was more than happy to agree to). And because we didn't have alcohol, we were allowed to have the venue longer.
Oh yeah, I got my wedding dress on Amazon! My mom made a few sewing adjustments and it was perfect. I felt like a queen on my wedding day and well within budget. You don’t have to spend three months-worth of rent to feel beautiful:)
The first story is in Australia or New Zealand. Sausage sizzle, lollies, dollars, Lifeline shop
"L E S B I A N S"
that killed me lol
The last story broke my heart. She looked absolutely gorgeous
I've been a best man at a wedding and never ONCE thought of making it about me or getting any attention. In fact...seeing a lot of wedding videos on this channel makes me wonder why on EARTH would you make that day about you at ALL??? I'd be completely embarrassed if I took ANY of the attention away from the bride and groom and honestly was glad when the ceremony was over that I could get out of those painful, yet very nice looking, shoes I was wearing, lol! I bore through those shoes for the groom and bride cause they were getting the wedding they wanted and I was not going to even begin to ruin or object to anything that they thought made their day perfect. It was even in a castle and a great afternoon/evening with all the lights around the area too. =)
i get married next week and i’ve been watching these to make sure im NOT a bridezilla ToT
Congratulations 🎉💜🍾🥂
Congratulations. Don't sweat the small stuff. I was married in 1980. We had so much fun we had to extend the reception by an hour. Everyone said we had the best wedding ever. Just enjoy & have a happy long marriage.😊✌️🌻🌻
🎉 👏🏼👏🏼
Congratulations, bestie! ❤❤
My husband and I were the alcoholics at our wedding lol. We called it a wedding booze cruise on the invitations. I actually asked them to have an open bar before the ceremony as well, because I knew our guests would behave themselves. It was an amazing night and we all had a blast. I didn't get stressed about a single thing, even when they told us they weren't providing delivery for the cake because they only deliver for 200+ guests, but I knew someone would step up. My brother said that the trip from the bakery to the venue was the scariest of his life lol.
2 million bridesmaids! I love it. That why you are our bestie too.
First story was definitely an Australian. I love that she thrifted her dress. I’ve seen some stunning dresses at second hand stores.
7:57 Someone should make a show and just call it “ the uninvited” 😂
#3 - there is a difference between a "destination wedding" and one in your hometown. #3 needs to find new people to be friends because her "friends" aren't.