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  • @Hawka23
    @Hawka23 4 роки тому +468

    As a dad who loves terrible Dad Jokes, this was possibly the best opening monologue I've ever heard in my life.

    • @eeneemeenee6236
      @eeneemeenee6236 4 роки тому +9

      😂 I didn't notice that the first time... Thanks for commenting.

    • @HolyKhaaaaan
      @HolyKhaaaaan 4 роки тому +5

      In retrospect my head hurts.

    • @JackDanyaKemplin
      @JackDanyaKemplin 3 роки тому +13

      Well, it was being said by a Father 😉.

  • @Jenatorre
    @Jenatorre 4 роки тому +126

    My mother often says, "God never gives us more than we we can handle." I cannot handle my my schizoaffective disorder. I can only offer up my mental illness to God for Him to handle for me. God can handle what I cannot. I can only ask my Father in Heaven to take care of my pain, suffering, and anguish for me.

    • @sirachxi3918
      @sirachxi3918 4 роки тому +11

      praying for peace in your life

    • @Jenatorre
      @Jenatorre 4 роки тому +6

      @@sirachxi3918 Thank you so much, sirachixi. God bless you.

    • @cutepuddleslime8201
      @cutepuddleslime8201 3 роки тому +3

      I pray in the name of Jesus that you will get through the pains no matter what kind, that even in the worst, God please be with her in all things whether good or bad. In Jesus name, Amen
      .
      And to give you the oldie but goodie quote from Winnie the Pooh, "You're braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think"
      I hope it doesn't offend you because I want to encourage you, not give you more pain but if I did then I am seriously sorry. Because I want to say to you that even if it seems like you cannot handle it, God will give you the strength to handle it and to come to Him.

    • @gizelleluna6990
      @gizelleluna6990 3 роки тому +3

      I’ll pray for you Jennifer✝️🤍

    • @Jenatorre
      @Jenatorre 3 роки тому +3

      @@gizelleluna6990 Thank you so much, Gizelle Luna. God bless you.

  • @gridcaster
    @gridcaster 4 роки тому +100

    1. Jesus Take the Wheel 0:38
    2. Everything Happens for a Reason 1:58
    3. Nothing is Impossible with God 4:09
    4. God Needed Another Angel 5:45
    5. God Never Gives You More than You Can Handle 7:12
    You're Welcome.

    • @limacnaughton3352
      @limacnaughton3352 4 роки тому +2

      As an Australian I have only heard 1, 3 and 4 on TV and in movies...
      If you say 5 - the response you get is "Then I wish he didn't have so much faith in me."

    • @robertortiz-wilson1588
      @robertortiz-wilson1588 2 роки тому

      Thanks

    • @Bobby_7342
      @Bobby_7342 6 місяців тому

      Thank you and God bless!

  • @johnagner9621
    @johnagner9621 4 роки тому +48

    Everything happens for a reason. God never give you more than you can handle. These 2 phrases hit me like a truck. My only brother and youngest in the family died from disease last October 4, he was only 4 yrs old. I am glad I have watched your video Fr Casey. As a family we are in our faith in God and I offer our sufferings to Him. I continue to pray for my brother and to God that He may gives us joy and peace especially this coming Christmas and New Year's Celebration. Thank you Fr and God bless you all Franciscans!

    • @trafficjon400
      @trafficjon400 2 роки тому

      You think. People are suffering to death because they can't handle it beyond your brain thinking.

  • @Trekkifulshay
    @Trekkifulshay 4 роки тому +440

    My child is sick with an, as of right now, incurable life-limiting illness and people, even Christians will say this happened because God wanted to teach me a lesson. While our experiences do teach us things I refuse to believe God intentionally makes children sick to teach their parents.

    • @caribaez5711
      @caribaez5711 4 роки тому +43

      No you are right

    • @daisyxfaith
      @daisyxfaith 4 роки тому +62

      I refuse to believe that too. Praying for you.

    • @jamiemersel1247
      @jamiemersel1247 4 роки тому +70

      Jesus tells us in the parable of the Blind Man that suffering is not a result of our sins or our parents sins. God is merciful and just and I too don’t believe he intentionally makes children I’ll to teach their parents!

    • @kaelynnkreates
      @kaelynnkreates 4 роки тому +15

      I am sorry that you are dealing with this; praying for you and your family. It’s so annoying when people use thoughtless platitudes in the face of a person’s suffering. We’d be a lot better off if we all spent more time thinking about what we said before we said it.

    • @floydknight8895
      @floydknight8895 4 роки тому +7

      why and how could you listen to another human being about what God can do and does.
      Trust no man/woman.
      Trust in the Lord with all your hearts and soul, and never lean on your own understanding.

  • @Renkinjutsushi
    @Renkinjutsushi 4 роки тому +190

    That opening is truly a work of art.

  • @IamproudAtin13
    @IamproudAtin13 4 роки тому +204

    "Don't say nonsense, just because it's sounds nice."- Father Casey 2020

    • @BreakingInTheHabit
      @BreakingInTheHabit  4 роки тому +41

      Good mantra to live by!

    • @IamproudAtin13
      @IamproudAtin13 4 роки тому +8

      @@BreakingInTheHabit keep uploading more videos ❤ as a catholic, your YT is very informative and entertaining. 🙏❤

    • @g.sdelancy9844
      @g.sdelancy9844 4 роки тому +7

      @@BreakingInTheHabit can you do a video explaining more on Angel's and what happens to us after we die please?

    • @thethirdsicily4802
      @thethirdsicily4802 4 роки тому +1

      @@BreakingInTheHabit Good mantra to live by! - Fr. Casey, 2020

    • @gerardorivera4127
      @gerardorivera4127 3 роки тому +1

      Great advice 🙏🏼 A lot of these cliches sound nice and are well intentioned

  • @drstone1167
    @drstone1167 4 роки тому +85

    “Well A humble soul does not trust itself, but places all its confidence in God.” Some good advice from St. Faustina ✝️

    • @stephenandersen4625
      @stephenandersen4625 4 роки тому +1

      That doesn't absolve us from our choices.

    • @floydknight8895
      @floydknight8895 4 роки тому

      Who is St. Faustina. there is no mention of a Faustina in the holy bible. he wasn't prophet, or apostle no where to be found in the new testament, nor the old. So that means the popes made him a catholic saint.

    • @a.m.t.s.
      @a.m.t.s. 4 роки тому +11

      @@floydknight8895 she was a polish nun, from first half of the last century. So yeah she isn't mentioned in the Bible, however same like many other saints. Their lifes can be somehow an inspiration for us.

    • @MrTonyd1954
      @MrTonyd1954 4 роки тому

      Linda Pem. Peace be with you too

    • @MrTonyd1954
      @MrTonyd1954 4 роки тому

      Linda Pem. Is this space opened for wanna be Catholics Linda: lost sheep Linda?

  • @annjoseph5429
    @annjoseph5429 4 роки тому +80

    0:40 - Jesus take the wheel⚙️
    1:58 - Everything Happens for a Reason😯
    4:08 - Nothing is Impossible with God😮
    5:44 - God needs Another Angel 👼
    7:15 - God Never Gives You More Than You Can Handle

  • @ruegaillard
    @ruegaillard 4 роки тому +69

    the only time i ever heard 'jesus take the wheel' was when my dad was teaching me to drive...

  • @tr1084
    @tr1084 4 роки тому +214

    Cringe is a consequence of the fall.

  • @lowenwelle1044
    @lowenwelle1044 4 роки тому +56

    ["God Never Gives You More Than You Can Handle"]
    Horrible Thing: "How much can you handle?"
    St. Maximilian Kolbe: "Yes."
    Key point is, that those lines are often thrown around, because one doesn´t know what to say combined with the massive urge to say something. But fill some of those cliches with real faith and things will happen, especially if you say them honestly and with prayer to GOD and yourself.

    • @floydknight8895
      @floydknight8895 4 роки тому

      Well said. i'm saying well said because i guessing you are not Catholic. I am not testing you, i am in no way in a position to ever test you. So you don't have to answer my question.
      It's just that you appear to have real faith in Jesus Christ.

    • @bucklaw
      @bucklaw 4 роки тому +1

      Yeah because you're forced to handle it.

    • @ahapka
      @ahapka 4 роки тому

      The thing is he could handle it with God. He couldn't have handled it without him more than likely.

    • @deb9806
      @deb9806 3 роки тому

      mental illness and suicide happen daily with broken people. Some can't handle it alone

  • @jessicabowen98
    @jessicabowen98 3 роки тому +3

    One cliche that bothers me is when people offer platitudes about the power of prayer, such as "Prayer works!" It's especially problematic when people say things like "Her cancer is in remission. Don't tell me that prayer doesn't work!" It bothers me because it implies that people who die of cancer just didn't prayer ferverently enough or had enough people in the prayer chain, or perhaps the prayers weren't offered by a person worthy enough. That's bad theology. And it's not the purpose of prayer.

  • @duck-headedllama9991
    @duck-headedllama9991 4 роки тому +50

    "spontaneously turning my head into a watermelon" lol dude, you must be funny at meetings and I don't mean it in a sarcastic way. I really laughed when I heard you say that.

    • @BreakingInTheHabit
      @BreakingInTheHabit  4 роки тому +26

      I'm glad to hear it! The world needs a bit more humor!

    • @g.sdelancy9844
      @g.sdelancy9844 4 роки тому +3

      @@BreakingInTheHabit can you do a video explaining more on Angel's and what happens to us after we die please? That was really interesting

    • @andrewbrennan8446
      @andrewbrennan8446 4 роки тому

      G.S Delancy I know of a good video on angels by a different priest. Pretty heavy stuff though. Like a 40 minute video

    • @michaelturnage3395
      @michaelturnage3395 3 роки тому +1

      @@BreakingInTheHabit Careful with too much though. Humour is like food seasoning, if you sprinkle too much you can ruin the meal.

    • @gerardorivera4127
      @gerardorivera4127 3 роки тому

      I love that line. Cracked me up 😂 I appreciate your humor

  • @PerfectNormal
    @PerfectNormal 4 роки тому +126

    “Jesus I Trust in You”. Not a cliche.

    • @floydknight8895
      @floydknight8895 4 роки тому +9

      very true, amen

    • @sirachxi3918
      @sirachxi3918 4 роки тому +6

      amen, there are books written just about that one statement and many please around the world pray it over and over each day. i get it in a few times most days

    • @donaldtrump5410
      @donaldtrump5410 4 роки тому

      Neither is this one : WE WILL TAKE JERUSALEM! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT! DEUS VULT!

    • @trishmoloney4287
      @trishmoloney4287 4 роки тому

      sirachxi h

    • @floydknight8895
      @floydknight8895 4 роки тому

      @@trishmoloney4287 what in the world does that mean

  • @joemackey1950
    @joemackey1950 4 роки тому +24

    I have always considered "Jesus take the wheel", as our giving up control letting God be back in control. Changing our will to His will. Our ways, to His ways.

    • @victorugo2654
      @victorugo2654 4 роки тому +1

      Now you know better...😇

    • @johnbarone7602
      @johnbarone7602 3 роки тому

      Falling asleep in the passenger seat is a great analogy, and I like "Jesus be my GPS" so much better. But isn't the whole, "Jesus Take the Wheel" a bit dated; the song was 15 years ago!

    • @archromat
      @archromat 2 роки тому

      You're right... "Not my will, but yours be done" is its equivalence.

  • @pvani5785
    @pvani5785 7 місяців тому +1

    "God never gives us more than we can handle" is, in my opinion, an oversimplification of 1 Corinthians 10:13 - "God...will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it."

  • @TheJewishCatholic
    @TheJewishCatholic 4 роки тому +21

    That intro was the most elaborate use of clichés I’ve ever heard in my life! 😂😂😂

  • @PolymorphicPenguin
    @PolymorphicPenguin 3 роки тому +6

    "There is nothing that God can't ultimately overcome" This is a very reassuring message.

  • @1221mcs
    @1221mcs 4 роки тому +10

    “Offer it up” is one I absolutely can’t stand. As a person who suffers chronic physical pain, this is literally the LAST THING I want/need to hear. I’ve heard it many times when asked “how are you?” and I give an honest answer. This not only makes me regret being honest about how I feel, but it makes me wonder why people are asking in the first place, because they don’t seem to care. I am already offering up my sufferings, you don’t have to tell me to. Stop saying this! Also I agree, the angel cliche is one of the worst. I always want to gently correct, but it’s not a good time, usually.

    • @DominicNJ73
      @DominicNJ73 3 роки тому +3

      That one isn't actually a cliche, it's from the pre-Vatican II days. It means to offer up your suffering for the souls in purgatory. When we offer our suffering for them we shorten their time in purgatory.

    • @nicholaslawrence6926
      @nicholaslawrence6926 3 роки тому +2

      Me too!!
      One holier-than-thou Catholic lady said it to me after I shared my life's problems with her. It was the ONLY thing she said.
      I felt like she was really saying, "I don't give a d**n about what you are going through but I need to say something pious to appear holy."
      And yes, as someone pointed out, it's more commonly heard among traditional Catholic parishes, e.g. the Latin Mass chapels.

    • @mikelastname1220
      @mikelastname1220 3 роки тому +1

      Oh, my, yes! The Nuns used to say this to us kids all the time. To the point it made me cringe. I know what it is intended to mean, but most of the time they said it to make us feel bad, as if we were weak and wrong to have pain or to cry.

  • @matthewbickford387
    @matthewbickford387 4 роки тому +32

    "When something is lost and can't be found, please St Anthony look around." 😄

    • @danielnetz7539
      @danielnetz7539 4 роки тому +3

      I was taught this:
      Tony Tony please come around, my _________ is lost and needs to be found!!! 🙏🙏🙏

    • @matthewbickford387
      @matthewbickford387 4 роки тому +1

      @@danielnetz7539 🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @1221mcs
      @1221mcs 4 роки тому +3

      That one actually works for me every time. 😆

  • @dawnlapka2433
    @dawnlapka2433 4 роки тому +13

    I started studying for my CDL class B renewal so I can help people get from point A to point B across state lines in large busses. You have no idea how much I needed to hear this today 🙏💞!

  • @TimothyRCrowe
    @TimothyRCrowe 4 роки тому +13

    The one I hate the most is "That which does not kill you makes you stronger" an convoluted quote from Frederick Nietzsche....who died in an insane asylum.

    • @crossbearer6453
      @crossbearer6453 2 роки тому

      Really??? Never knew that. Thanks. I really need to investigate these atheist authors more

  • @tanyawinters3979
    @tanyawinters3979 4 роки тому +5

    I’ve been a caregiver for my mom for over a decade, until she passed. Whenever I got stressed out people would often tell me “God never gives us more than er can handle.” I always give the answer my mom taught me “sometimes I wish he had a little less faith in me” or “maybe he should try this for a week because I need a day off.”

  • @ariannacongedi2400
    @ariannacongedi2400 4 роки тому +11

    The Angel line was surely influenced by Movies/TV-Series in which dead people "become" Angels who protect their family. The same thing as dead people in horror movies, who will become haunting Spirits. Thank you for the insightful video!

  • @Lorddavian0
    @Lorddavian0 4 роки тому +19

    I do believe "everything happens for a reason" to a point but I also believe God accounts for our stupidity and fallen nature in His will. All things work for him in the end. Thinking of Dwight Schrute's quote, "There's not always a lesson in failure Ryan. Sometimes you just fail."

    • @HolyKhaaaaan
      @HolyKhaaaaan 4 роки тому +3

      I would say our failure, especially catastrophic failures like the Holocaust or Holodomor, tell us this:
      You ruin everything that you touch when it is not touched with the will of God. Again this is especially true of the powerful.

  • @UwU_for_Christ
    @UwU_for_Christ 4 роки тому +81

    "love the sinner, hate the sin" gets an honourable mention.

    • @destaabigael9004
      @destaabigael9004 4 роки тому +6

      Why tho

    • @rvdb7363
      @rvdb7363 4 роки тому +40

      Yes! I hate it when people say this to me. I usually get this from people who have just found out that I'm gay (that I don't have a relationship does not make a difference, they still feel the need to say this to me). What I find especially infuriating about it is that these people consider themselves to be very kind and open-minded when they use this phrase. While in fact they use it only for very specific people (gays, prostitutes, unmarried pregnant teens, addicts and sometimes also women who had an abortion) but they get angry if I use it at them. Like they aren't sinners themselves...

    • @destaabigael9004
      @destaabigael9004 4 роки тому +2

      @@rvdb7363 does they, thats pretty wrong

    • @210SAi
      @210SAi 4 роки тому +23

      Disagree. That’s just good advice. Think of it as the cliff notes version of the Parable of the Adulterous Woman.

    • @timirish2563
      @timirish2563 4 роки тому +7

      @@rvdb7363 Excellent. My response to such idiocy usually is "Go ahead--hate me. I don't much care and you're apparently dying to do it..."

  • @5sweetiepie
    @5sweetiepie 3 роки тому +4

    I have heard "Everything happens for a reason" so often it makes me want to scream. Someone said that to me after my daughter in law's mother died of cancer. I said no, there was no reason behind it. Rain falls on good and bad alike. We live in an imperfect world.

  • @caribaez5711
    @caribaez5711 4 роки тому +53

    I don’t like to use the everything happens for a reason .

    • @TJDious
      @TJDious 3 роки тому

      The sentiment is valid but it's a useless and annoying thing to say to someone dealing with issues.

  • @cotaryan3740
    @cotaryan3740 4 роки тому +203

    “Hail Mary full of grace, help me find a parking space” has always actually worked for me

    • @dawnlapka2433
      @dawnlapka2433 4 роки тому +12

      lol

    • @codyboehm3444
      @codyboehm3444 4 роки тому +28

      Lol isn’t enough for this absolute beauty of this sentence I died in my chair

    • @commenter7893
      @commenter7893 4 роки тому

      Bwahahaha

    • @floydknight8895
      @floydknight8895 4 роки тому +1

      In truth that prayer hasn't worked. You pray to someone who doesn't exist, never has and never will. There is no mother of God.
      You want people to believe that you getting a parking space all the time represents of the significance of who God is.
      More importantly you believe that's what Christianity is all about, getting trivial things, worldly, material things?

    • @commenter7893
      @commenter7893 4 роки тому +13

      Floyd Knight Why do you say Mary never has existed?

  • @moon0halo
    @moon0halo 4 роки тому +69

    The cliche I hear the most these days is from Protestants to Catholics: "You need to have a PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP with Jesus." "What does that mean exactly?", I ask. And they look at me with a blank look. So I say, "I eat Jesus and drink His Precious Blood." Then they make a horrified face. And I say, "I don't think it gets any more personal than that, do you?"

    • @jysportscardguy8935
      @jysportscardguy8935 4 роки тому +4

      It does get more personal than taking communion b/c that can become perfunctory. A personal relationship w/ Jesus Christ means interacting w/ Him and His Spirit interacting w/ you as real and constant as a spouse or best friend.

    • @moon0halo
      @moon0halo 4 роки тому +2

      @@jysportscardguy8935 Are you Catholic?

    • @lyndavonkanel8603
      @lyndavonkanel8603 4 роки тому +1

      @@jysportscardguy8935 I agree with you that we need the committed, loving relationship you describe and we need to be fully engaged in receiving Him in the Eucharist, not letting it become perfunctory.

    • @charlottecasey
      @charlottecasey 4 роки тому +3

      Love this

    • @markm.5756
      @markm.5756 4 роки тому +6

      @moon0halo did not say that eating Jesus body and drinking his Precious Blood was in any way done in a perfunctory or disengaged manner. The point is that, in union with Jesus Body & Blood in Holy Communion, praising God the Father in Unity with the Holy Spirit, which is what Catholics do upon receiving Holy Communion, it doesn't get any more personal than that. An excellent response to a common query re: whether Catholics have a PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP with Jesus.

  • @eben4reel934
    @eben4reel934 2 роки тому +2

    The “everything happens for a reason” statement very much bothers me - we have the ability to speak out against injustices. I love this explanation! 💙

  • @drunkdogwithagun468
    @drunkdogwithagun468 4 роки тому +23

    “God never gives you more than you can handle”
    That phrase is probably what drove the first wedge in my relationship with the church. I mean in my young life (think kindergarten to fourth grade), this phrase meant that God thought I could handle being bullied every weekday. At a private Christian school. I even still remember that I was taught to go to a adult when things happened and one day when I was bullied I went to a teacher and the teacher berated me and told me to grow up. I was a kid, barely ten years old and this teacher at a “Christian” school was telling me to grow up and not bother her because I was being bullied. To say that it scarred me would be a understatement with the effects that place had.
    I ultimately had to split off on my own from Church, to be honest even organized religion as a whole because it felt like this “god” that I was taught about just wanted me to suffer and be hated everywhere I went. I started looking for answers in every religion and just seeing more and more wholes. My old church turned me from a christian into a antitheist (antitheist = someone that believes in god but hates god) and from what I studied from all religions I turned myself from a antitheist into a theist (theist = someone that believes in god) and I ultimately just dropped organized religion and lived my life as the old phrase “What Would Jesus Do?” and started asking myself that more seriously and going from there.

    • @brendancoulter5761
      @brendancoulter5761 4 роки тому +8

      Yeah thats a bad one. Apparently "never gives you more than you can handle" includes being tortured to death.

  • @vickycostilla2673
    @vickycostilla2673 4 роки тому +38

    On point. I agree with your annoyance, specifically about the angels cliche. I actually got on my dad about it this past week. I reminded him God made angels all strange looking and with no physically predetermined features for this Realm, but He made Humans in His image and that's what makes us special and different from the rest of His Creations.

    • @dawnlapka2433
      @dawnlapka2433 4 роки тому +1

      True! And we aren't one size fits all, either! Maybe that's why some guys and gals have a harder time finding the right size Habit?!?🤗😋🤔

    • @eneal2056
      @eneal2056 4 роки тому +1

      Funny how nobody wants to be the angel that is covered all over with eyes! And why are they always portrayed as white with blonde hair?

    • @vickycostilla2673
      @vickycostilla2673 4 роки тому

      @@eneal2056 LMAO!!! Dude, I would totally be a freaking dragon. Or Angewoman, but like, brown. 👾🤣🤣🤣😇🤣

  • @davidbraun6209
    @davidbraun6209 Рік тому +1

    My favorite take on "Jesus, take the wheel" is where one of the car's four wheels flies off and our reaction is, of course, "Not THAT one!"

  • @Linward
    @Linward 4 роки тому +22

    One I dislike is often said after a loved one has passed. "They're in a better place." My mother was killed at only 46. I was inconsolable. There was no better place than alive next to me, then only 27. I've also often heard " See... God punished you." My sister said that to me when she was mad about something and it just so happened there had been a storm causing a big tree to fall on my house. Another that sounds presumptive, judgmental and retalitory is "God don't like ugly."

  • @lynnhezeltine3521
    @lynnhezeltine3521 3 роки тому +3

    I'm agnostic/atheist but grew up around several Pentecostal family members. I heard #5 a lot and it always bothered me and comes across as insensitive to suffering that is genuinely harmful to people. I appreciate that you differentiate between divine power versus human agency and responsibility. Praying for divine support and comfort may very well be helpful and meaningful, but it doesn't negate human actions.

  • @JayRedding12_12
    @JayRedding12_12 4 роки тому +9

    "Don't say nonsense just because it sounds nice" That Angel on has always bothered me too.

  • @Sewblon
    @Sewblon 4 роки тому +1

    3:40 Some awful things happen for reasons that have nothing to do with our free-will. Some people are born with disabilities that stop them from enjoying life the way other people do. Sometimes plagues happen. Like you said at around 8:00 There are some horrible accidents that we cannot prevent. So they must be beyond our free-will.

  • @disciplingdaniel1388
    @disciplingdaniel1388 4 роки тому +6

    I remember shortly after becoming a Christian I used the "God never gives us more than we can handle" line. I must've picked it up from other Christians. After I heard myself say it I realised that I didn't actually know where I'd gotten that from and didn't remember reading it in the Bible.
    It's so easy to pick things up from each other (nothing wrong with that) but we so often then muddle up Biblical truth with stuff we heard someone say!

  • @CATboss001
    @CATboss001 4 роки тому +38

    Another one may be "The Bible teaches...". This one is not really like the rest, but I feel like people sometimes rely on this without elaborating. They want to rely on the authority of Scripture when the thing they're arguing for may not even be a teaching. Probably the worst thing about these cliches is that non-religious people tune out when hearing them.

    • @floydknight8895
      @floydknight8895 4 роки тому +1

      The bible teaches, in no way shape or form is a cliche. The living breathing holy word of God is the only truth, wisdom , knowledge, and holiness, righteousness, and omnipotence. The holy bible is also commandments that can not be interpreted, and diffidently not debated.
      So people can't elaborate, if you don;t understand. you would have to ask humble your self and repent and ask God sincerely for the spirit of understanding.
      One thing you are correct about is that some people are not Christians refer to the holy bible teachings. They them selves don't understand the holy word of God.

    • @VictorRamirezMusic
      @VictorRamirezMusic 4 роки тому +5

      @@floydknight8895 The Bible is divinely inspired and informs us what to do, but the oral tradition long existed before the new testament was written 200AD, 170 after the death of Jesus. The Bible is divinely inspired but a book, a book cannot have authority neither a way to explain itself to people who are illiterate or not privy to Jewish poety, prose, etc. Lastly nowhere is it said in the Bible that the Bible is the only authority, in fact Jesus did not command anyone to write the Bible in the New Testament, and instead taught via orally which was not all written down ."And there are also many other things which Jesus did, the which, if they should be written every one, I suppose that even the world itself could not contain the books that should be written. Amen." (John 21:25) We have been given the Church and the tradition of the Church, Mathew 16:17, Jesus Gives the keys to Peter, the rock on which the Church is built.

    • @moon0halo
      @moon0halo 4 роки тому +1

      @@VictorRamirezMusic Yes! Amen!

    • @lyndavonkanel8603
      @lyndavonkanel8603 4 роки тому +1

      @@floydknight8895 The Bible is "living, breathing and omnipotent"? That doesn't sound like the printed word, but like Jesus himself Who is the Word of God. The Bible is the word of God (notice the lower case w) in a different way. Its inspired words instruct and guide us and is the most important collection of books in the world. It is not the only source of truth as Jesus is "the way, the truth, and the life". The are other sources of truth as well. Medical, science, technical books that explain how things work are just a few examples.

    • @floydknight8895
      @floydknight8895 4 роки тому

      @@lyndavonkanel8603 With all due respect, you are lost and confused. How can you say; it doesn't sound like the printed word, and then say Jesus himself is the word of God. Then say the holy bible is not the only source of truth.
      Either you believe Jesus is the truth the way and the life.
      OR evidently you don't.
      1Cor.1:19-31
      You should also read and pray sincerely for the spirit of understanding from God alone.
      1Cor.3: 11-21
      2Cor.4:3,4.

  • @lyndavonkanel8603
    @lyndavonkanel8603 4 роки тому +9

    Here are a couple more things to not say:" He/she is in a better place." To a parent who has lost a child, "You're young, you'll have another child."

    • @Embermist69
      @Embermist69 4 роки тому +2

      That first one could possibly go either way depending on the parents, but that second one is disgusting, disturbing and down right backhanded mean.

    • @eneal2056
      @eneal2056 4 роки тому +1

      The first is particularly heartless. You don’t want your child “in a better place”, you want them with you! The second one would merit a punch in the face!

  • @pamelaking7283
    @pamelaking7283 4 роки тому +3

    Hello Father. I'm definitely with you there on #5. My husband die 1 week ago and now my house is in foreclosure.
    I don't believe any of this came from God and certainly can't handle any of it. The evil one is winning here. 💔💔💔

  • @marialaurafuentes8446
    @marialaurafuentes8446 4 роки тому +1

    No cliches. Just thank you for your courage. I hear your videos are coming every two weeks. Fine,as long as you keep them coming.. Count on my prayers from Buenos Aires.

  • @pandafam0416
    @pandafam0416 4 роки тому +4

    I've heard of the "God never gives you more than you can't handle" saying being not the best. The UA-cam channel That Catholic Couple did a video about that and said a better version of the quote is, "God never gives you more than you can't handle on your own." We have to trust in God to help us get through it together.

  • @AndrewKendall71
    @AndrewKendall71 4 роки тому +6

    I'm on board and agree - but I tend to want to avoid saying "Jesus can't" about anything. He invites, he intends, he designed things to work best when... but not "can't" when it comes to something good and right. And it's appropriate to point out the verse behind the "nothing you can't handle" cliché: 1 Corinthians 10: 13 "There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it" which is speaking of being drawn into sin - that we don't have to go along with that and are empowered to resist and take the out indicated in the verse. But this has been turned into the same sort of thing as "I can do all things," a misunderstanding of the verse's meaning and full implications.

  • @johnperron9625
    @johnperron9625 4 роки тому +2

    I absolutely love this video!! Right on the mark!! A major problem in our world today is the “blame game” people play; never taking personal ownership nor responsibility for their own actions. Thank you for this! 👍

  • @gloriaandrews4477
    @gloriaandrews4477 4 роки тому +1

    BRAVO! Drop the mic! Thank you for the intro and knowledge. Loved it.

  • @rogiomoreno7214
    @rogiomoreno7214 4 роки тому +2

    As I was listening to this, my 10yo. boy was in the next room and he would just keep saying: Mom, that's what you always say! 4/5!!!!! OMG!!! But thank you! Still a lot to learn! Embarrassing but humbling! Blessings!

  • @glenn212now
    @glenn212now 11 місяців тому +1

    Oh I like saying “Jesus take the wheel” when something crazy happens. It’s just a joke. But truthfully, I think it’s fine to say it. It just means we realize God is in control. It doesn’t mean we are giving up. Everybody knows we have to do our best to tackle our problems.

  • @jameskameisdb8447
    @jameskameisdb8447 4 роки тому +1

    Your take on 5 common cliches we take for granted at their face value is wonderful.
    Interesting analysis how our words should also be true from all angles, not only empty sounds to comfort and console but biblically and theologically sound here and now and here after. Congratulations.
    Thanks.

  • @BramVanhooydonck
    @BramVanhooydonck 4 роки тому +8

    As a teenager I had doubts about my faith because of those clichés. Not because I believed them to be true, but because I though it was actually what the church taught these superstitions, and I couldn't agree with that.

  • @patrickmassang6447
    @patrickmassang6447 4 роки тому +1

    Very well put. Sometimes it is better we keep silent than confuse people with pop theology and psychology

  • @dorianslover1199
    @dorianslover1199 4 роки тому +8

    I hate ALL OF THESE. My dad died in 2019 of hereditary colon cancer, and I cannot tell you how many of these I heard in a period after his death. More than anything, they just made me more angry about his death. These clichés exist for the person saying them, not the person receiving them.

    • @JohannaNazareen1225
      @JohannaNazareen1225 3 роки тому +1

      That's because people just dont know what to do or say in that moment. In my country when your both parents are decised they say that now you're nobodys child. And that's not thruth. I said that to those people. My mother was my mother and that is what she will allways stay to me. She didnt stop being that. People just say things what they're used to

  • @TianZhaoHeavenlyFortune
    @TianZhaoHeavenlyFortune 4 роки тому +10

    Hey, you forgot - "God works in mysterious ways"! I can't believe you didn't include that one!!!

    • @DominusTecum316
      @DominusTecum316 4 роки тому +3

      Truly, O God of Israel, our Savior, you work in mysterious ways.
      NLT version. Romans 45-15
      Maybe that is what people are referring to from the Bible.

    • @giovannimartini6405
      @giovannimartini6405 4 роки тому +5

      @@DominusTecum316 Well yes, but people use it as a stock answer to rough times, with no context or further explanation, and it's a bit empty.

    • @robertguidry2168
      @robertguidry2168 4 роки тому +3

      Perhaps pat answers from bible verses without context should be avoided. When we are quoting scripture, we should carefully evaluate what is said before and after as well as the audience. This provides clues to the interpretation.

    • @giovannimartini6405
      @giovannimartini6405 4 роки тому +2

      @@robertguidry2168 I totally agree. Also, sometimes people just need you to stop talking and listen to them. We need to show them we care about their pain and problems. It's just after that when we can appeal to Bible verses and/or theology. If we just use a stock quote, it feels like we dismiss their problems.

    • @210SAi
      @210SAi 4 роки тому +1

      Comicbook Fan excellent point and why I feel his #3 is not a Cliche but a quoting of Scripture.

  • @imommtube
    @imommtube 4 роки тому +3

    When my mother died, someone got me the angel thing, you know? Many people try to be so nice, tellin me the exact reason why that happened, I know and appreciate that they try to comfort me but it was weird, I would rather prefer a sincere "I'm so sorry"

    • @1221mcs
      @1221mcs 4 роки тому +1

      I always hug and say “I’m so sorry”. It’s the only thing I can say.

  • @papallegatepoope3010
    @papallegatepoope3010 4 роки тому +23

    #4 gets me. In the case of my eventual death I hope no one says this. What’s more is I hope they don’t assume I’m in Heaven. We really should pray for the dead.

  • @ToddJambon
    @ToddJambon 4 роки тому +2

    "Offer it up," annoys me. I get the sentiment. But when I'm having a bad day or experience, it doesn't offer me any consolation.

  • @jansmith3613
    @jansmith3613 4 роки тому +1

    My mother, to her dying day, never forgot the pain and anger she felt when a well-meaning priest told her that her recently deceased toddler, my sister, "was an angel now".

  • @whiterabbit9562
    @whiterabbit9562 4 роки тому

    I read something the other day that said
    God gives us more than we can handle sometimes so that we will rely on him and grow stronger in our faith..

  • @silviag3798
    @silviag3798 4 роки тому +3

    I hate "God never gives you more than you can handle" . It's got an undercurrent of victim-blaming in it that is really nasty when you give it some thought. It implies that if you can't handle whatever comes your way, you're somehow too weak to be pleasing to God.

    • @rvdb7363
      @rvdb7363 4 роки тому

      Never thought about it that way. Thank you!

  • @bobblacka918
    @bobblacka918 4 роки тому +3

    I am so glad you made this video. I hear these cliches all the time and they make me cringe. This is the first time I've heard a really good explanation on why they are not Biblically correct and we shouldn't use them in our daily language.

  • @toddbonin6926
    @toddbonin6926 2 роки тому +1

    This is good. Lots of well-meaning Christians use these cliches because they are trying to help and trying to be wise. The nicest thing a person ever did for me in a time of great grief and sorrow was come sit on my sofa and hold me in silence.

  • @markangelopalomares2432
    @markangelopalomares2432 4 роки тому +1

    Pax et bonum, Father Cole! Thank you for this reflection! God bless you! Warm greetings from the Philippines! 😇

  • @Samuel_O.A
    @Samuel_O.A 4 роки тому +8

    Well that is not my view, when I say Jesus take the wheel" I meant take me as a sacrifice use me ( taking responsibility with His grace) to advance your kingdom.
    It your intentions and understanding that counts.
    Either way thanks for sharing

    • @ronaldbobeck1026
      @ronaldbobeck1026 4 роки тому +1

      Dude drive on I 440 around Raleigh, NC. On Friday after 1700 . You best have your rosery in your hand some where some how. FYI NC leads the country in auto accidents , drive around here in the RDU and you see why .

    • @MrTonyd1954
      @MrTonyd1954 4 роки тому +1

      Ronald Bobeck dude let Jesus run your life according to his rules which may seem constricted at first but through grace your will understand and accept

    • @ronaldbobeck1026
      @ronaldbobeck1026 4 роки тому +2

      @@MrTonyd1954 really . You do not get a ' " joke "gallows humor , sarcasm, 2 of the skills I learned during my military service. Chill bro.

    • @MrTonyd1954
      @MrTonyd1954 4 роки тому

      Ronald Bobeck sorry. I didn’t know you were joking

  • @phine999
    @phine999 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you for this, Fr. Casey. I'm guilty of making these mistakes myself. Will try to be more mindful from now on.

  • @AmyHoward13
    @AmyHoward13 3 роки тому +1

    Wow. When my sister’s baby died 19 hours after birth of a catastrophic case of tetralogy of Fallot, the three most repeated things were “God never gives us anything we can’t handle, everything happens for a reason, and God needed another angel.” I thought I was going to lose my mind, and my poor sister did kind of lose hers briefly. I nearly degenerated into violence on some of these people, with their well-meaning platitudes who couldn’t understand that sometimes terrible things just happen, and maybe listening is better than talking.

  • @micheleparker3780
    @micheleparker3780 2 роки тому +1

    ...God willing and the creek don't rise... had me cracking up 😂

  • @nataliaabello
    @nataliaabello 2 роки тому +1

    I am so glad to hear a priest say this! I have reflected in this in my own but never found any eco in those who I shared it with

  • @Mnogojazyk
    @Mnogojazyk 4 роки тому +1

    At long last someone addresses religious clichés. Thank you, Fr. Casey.

  • @CodedFrankie
    @CodedFrankie 4 роки тому +5

    "Don't say nonsense because it sounds nice".... I felt that 😂

  • @The_M4ze
    @The_M4ze 3 роки тому +2

    "Jesus take the wheel" is also pretty irresponsible, I don't think he ever got his driver's license...

  • @kell_checks_in
    @kell_checks_in 4 роки тому +2

    "Everything happens for a reason" is just saying "Shut up and go away. Your pain/injustice/question is of no importance."

  • @SustainablePrepping
    @SustainablePrepping 2 роки тому +2

    Love number 3! And number 4, as a former hospice chaplain, is THE WORST. It’s bad theology, bad pastoral care, and just unnecessary. Thanks for underscoring this point.

  • @aci.
    @aci. 4 роки тому +3

    The opening monologue was excellent!

  • @AMoniqueOcampo
    @AMoniqueOcampo 4 роки тому +9

    I think we need to stop saying "Avoid X like the plague" because some people clearly aren't avoiding the current plague!

  • @mazikode
    @mazikode 4 роки тому +2

    Love it..i have felt bad personally after saying and hearing some of these.

  • @TrialAndError8713
    @TrialAndError8713 3 роки тому

    When the roads are icy or wet, my prayer is often "My hands are the ones on the wheel, but Our Lord is the one in control." One slip on bad roads, and nothing I can do is guaranteed to get the truck under control.

  • @DominusTecum316
    @DominusTecum316 4 роки тому +2

    I am not sure if this is a cliche. Here is what I hear often, "God only helps those that helps themselves". I had to look it up in the Bible and it does not exist. It is encouraging maybe for the people that truly do not know God. It goes against what we need to recall and that is that all we do is only through the will of God. Yet when we sin and are tempted it is because we are weak of the flesh. We must be able to ask, knock, and seek from God for him to give us, open the door, and show us. Yet only if it is beneficial for us of what we want maybe bless us with it gradually or through maybe a miracle. God is great and wonderful.

  • @destaabigael9004
    @destaabigael9004 4 роки тому +11

    Ok but the quote saying heaven gained another angel is also "non sense" like the "God needed another angel" quote😶

  • @tonycolle8699
    @tonycolle8699 3 роки тому +1

    Two of my favorites are (1) Along the "nothing is impossible" line, I like the question, "If God can do anything, can He create a stone so big that he cannot move it?" The answer is, "Yes." However, the stone would be so big that it would fill the entire universe so there would be no place to move it. (2) The bumper sticker that says, "God said it / I believe it / That settles it." God said it. That settles it. Your believing does not influence its being settled or not.

  • @john_from_eastcoast.
    @john_from_eastcoast. 4 роки тому +4

    Fr. Casey, how about...
    "Cleanliness is next to godliness." 😁
    "I don't put God in a box."😁
    "God is my co-pilot." 😁
    "I'm spiritual not religious!" 😬
    ( I have heard Catholics say that.)
    "If God is your co-pilot, switch seats!" 😁 (That's the comeback one.)
    "Let go and let God!"😁
    "God helps those who help themselves." 😁 (That's found nowhere in scripture!)
    "Charity begins at home." 😁
    "God is going to get you for that!"😬
    "If I feel led." 😁
    "I believe in destiny!" 😁 (I hear alot of Catholics saying that! Also Protestants.)
    "If you don't stop doing that, God is going to punish you!" 😬
    (That is said towards small children. I remember hearing that when i was a small kid).
    "God, please be here with us today." 😁
    (Like if God ever left the place.?)
    "God works in mysterious ways." 😁
    "I'll pray about it." 😁
    "He/she is in a better place." 😁
    "There, but for the grace of God, go I." 😁
    "I love Jesus but not religion." 😁
    "God told me to tell you..." 😬
    "God is punishing you, that's why your sick!" 😬

    • @ceasium98
      @ceasium98 4 роки тому +1

      "God helps those who help themselves" is SO infuriating. Ugh. Those who need help are those who are drowning. How do people expect these to help themselves!? It also makes zero sense since the word 'help' by definition means attending to *others*. Guess who weren't "helping [themselves]?" The man born blind by Siloam. The man who fell among thieves on the way to Jericho. The 38-year invalid by Beth-zatha, who is precisely the one not 'helping himself', unlike the others who 'help themselves' by getting to the pool first. And yet Jesus chose to heal the former. Throughout Scripture God calls us to help those who aren't 'helping themselves'. "God helps those who help themselves" is an insidious way of subverting our Christian vocation to help others, pushing that responsibility to either the afflicted person himself or God - anyone but us.

    • @elliestretchprays7851
      @elliestretchprays7851 4 роки тому

      John Mint for me cleanliness is next to godliness, cause when I’m cleaning, I’m praying

  • @jacobnkandu2664
    @jacobnkandu2664 4 роки тому +10

    It feels good to one of the first to see this video

    • @Marg1312
      @Marg1312 4 роки тому +1

      Yes it does

    • @jacobnkandu2664
      @jacobnkandu2664 4 роки тому +2

      @@Marg1312 yes my brother you are right😂

  • @reallyfijateperocomocono1131
    @reallyfijateperocomocono1131 4 роки тому +2

    “God is asleep at the wheel and humanity is locked in the trunk...” saying I have in my office.

  • @christiandpaul631
    @christiandpaul631 4 роки тому +1

    I really agree with you on Number Five. If God didn't give us more than we can handle, mental institutions would be empty, drug addiction would not be so wide spread and and broken relationships would not abound. Sometimes things are allowed so that WE ASK FOR HELP. Reach out to others that is what everyone is here for. Here for each other but find the right person to help.

  • @pierrejulliard4578
    @pierrejulliard4578 2 роки тому +1

    Very interesting video, as always ! About the 5th cliché, I've heard from a priest that "God never allows that we are tempted above our strength". I suppose this cliché comes from a twisted version of this statement. Clichés share a common point whith heresies, as they both come from a twisted or simplistic or narrow view of the truth !

  • @rainesj100
    @rainesj100 4 роки тому

    Your comments are thought provoking - and that's a good thing!! Keep it up!!

  • @carlylepard
    @carlylepard 4 роки тому +3

    This intro is giving me life.

  • @iris__and_rhizomes
    @iris__and_rhizomes 4 роки тому

    In defense of “Jesus take the wheel,” its proper usage is an expression of “I have done all I can do with this situation, and it is now beyond me.” Or “I can’t drive anymore. I’m tired. I’m frustrated. And I’m out. Jesus take the wheel for a while.” It’s not meant to be a permanent stance.
    I love your videos, Fr Casey. I’m particularly fond of how you paired up with Fr Patrick in Upon Friar Review. Y’all make an excellent pair.

  • @charlesmcdermott6139
    @charlesmcdermott6139 4 роки тому +1

    The problem, and it is a problem, is that you are entirely in your head! Cliches may be trite, but there is is some truth in them that made them cliches. I do agree with the Angel one for the same reason as you mentioned. Also saying the cliche about what we can handle can be a cruel thing to say to someone who is suffering.

  • @jenn973
    @jenn973 4 роки тому +6

    I've learned so much from this video, thank you!!

  • @rosg1746
    @rosg1746 4 роки тому +2

    “Our Lady weeps when girls ...” in my youth it was wear mini skirts which were actually only a few inches above the knee.

  • @revdodie7076
    @revdodie7076 4 роки тому

    love it , when my dad died i told everyone he is enjoying mowing at his new place as he did on earth ..

  • @rhwinner
    @rhwinner 3 роки тому +1

    We need to preserve cliches or our Protestant brothers and sisters, God bless 'em, would have no where to turn.

  • @Elijah_Al-Naysaburi
    @Elijah_Al-Naysaburi 4 роки тому +1

    Thank u very much ⚘ 💓
    Blessings from 🇦🇪( UAE)
    Blessings 🌷🌷🌷

  • @terriblycleverchannelname5620
    @terriblycleverchannelname5620 4 роки тому +2

    Cliché Platitudes never contribute anything of value. I think they just make us fill air after something bad happens but people don’t need our cliches when something bad happens, mostly they just need other people.

  • @cw6560
    @cw6560 4 роки тому

    That's for sharing your wisdom Fathe. I'm new to your channel unlike it all so far.

  • @discipleofthegreatteacher2422
    @discipleofthegreatteacher2422 4 роки тому +12

    Beloved, let us love one another; because love is from God. Everyone who loves is from God, and knows God. He who does not love has not known God, because God is love, first John chapter four, verse eight and nine: For God so loved the world that he gave his only-begotten Son, so that everyone who he believes, don't get lost, but have eternal life. John chapter three verse sixteen. God bless you . Have a nice day, thank you very much. Dear brothers and sisters.

  • @bungmanagforty7959
    @bungmanagforty7959 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for putting the problems with the Angel cliche into words. It's a huge pet peeve of mine as well.

  • @landong.8218
    @landong.8218 3 роки тому

    I swear, the description of this video is the most metal thing I've seen on BITH