I don't like those sweet messages on FB that end by saying "if you love Jesus you'll share this" or "if your not ashamed". I find those offensive even if I like the saying or message.
I agree, sometimes I share them because what they say besides that is true and beautiful. I never share them with the intent of expecting people to share them and if they don't judge them as not loving, or being ashamed of Jesus. However, in the future I think I'll take a screenshot and crop that part out.
It’s manipulative to write “ if you love Jesus you will share this.” It’s disrespectful, too, in that it doesn’t respect the many excellent reasons someone has for not sharing.
Perhaps modify “I’ll pray for you” to “can we pray together right now?” And the saying, “let me know if I can ever help you”…how about, what day this week can I bring you dinner? can I watch your children during your next doctor apptmt? I would love to drive you to your next apptmt…I’m headed to the grocery this afternoon, please text me a list of things I can get for you, and I will drop them by your home…turn that vague “let me know if I can ever help” to actual, practical ways to help.
YES! So many people even family members could care less about you and show it by not helping or keeping in touch with you. I had gotten very sick years ago and recieved nothing from the people ( my family) that loved me, that I dedicated my time to for so many years , was not there for me at all. So I recovered from my illness and all that I had wished my friends and family would of helped me with as you stated, I now do for those people in my life.
Yes -- THAT one! Why do we need to "name drop"? Just say you feel or think a certain way about something or someone, but don't invoke God's credit score to validate your inkling. Maybe the Holy Spirit DID tell you something, maybe God HAS been informing you of something, maybe it WAS Jesus in a dream you had...can't we just share our concerns, offer correction or encouragement, or share a scripture (in context, please), and be satisfied that God has not advertised for a PR firm to handle His campaign? "A Word spoken in season" (Proverbs 15:23) describes the joy experienced having delivered a Word at just the right time, moment, circumstance, event...I am SO guilty of having tossed around, "God told me,..." when I was a new Christian. Fortunately, no one was harmed, thanks to God's grace over all parties concerned.
When people say "The Lord told me..." turn and walk away from them. They are kooks wrapped up in their own minds. I hear these fake TV preachers make these kinds of claims. They are all from the dark side.....
Our premature baby boy only lived 32 hours and people told us he was to good for this world. Thinking back now, My question is, how bad is my other son cause he is now 19 years old? We really have to be careful with our choice of words
When on Facebook someone has lost a family member and everyone puts these 🙏🏻 and says I’ll pray for you, I instead will write out my prayer for them to read. I enjoyed your video today.
I love writing out prayers for people. Sometimes, it just isn't appropriate to share with everyone on FB how I am praying, but in general, I agree with you.
@@darrylgibson3575 Interesting thought on Matt 6:6. They could be looking at it that way and obeying the Lord from the heart. I had always thought that verse was about not showing off that you are praying which goes to motive of why you are praying and looking for reward from people. We do see corporate prayer throughout the whole Bible and that is praying outside of a closet and we don't see it condemned. We see Jesus condemning the religious leaders of the day for liking to be seen and heard when they pray as well as the one one who thanks the Lord that he isn't a sinner. I'm sure that I have more to learn. Thanks.
@@bobjose5855 are you sure that it's corporate prayers or are those the blessings and praising that they're doing openly, I do know this much that every time JESUS prayed HE went off to be alone with our FATHER and spoke to HIM in secret.
Another is "God never gives you more than you can bear". I'll tell you truthfully I have been totally broken many times. Once was just recently when someone I grew up with, my very best friend and family member, died suddenly. I was shattered. I have days I feel I will collapse from the grief. I'm not bearing it because there is one set of footprints in the sand. I'm being carried right now.
@@flightforensics4523 It is Biblical, but not in those some exact words. 1 Corinthians 10:13 "...he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear...". Please go read the verse in context for better understanding. Never accept isolated verses without reading them in context.
Thank you so much for including “everything happens for a reason.” That is so untrue. God gave us free will. So if someone murders your loved one (this happened to me), God had nothing to do with it. That person chose to do evil. I believe God was watching and weeping for that event. But like a parent, He let us go out into the world with our own will. What we choose to do with it sets in motion good and bad events. So I never blamed God or was angry with God when my niece was so brutally murdered. I knew exactly who to blame. The people who did it, and the evil one who influenced them because they turned away from God. Free will is a wonderful gift. We shouldn’t blame God for what happens because of it.
Yes. Preach. A lot don't understand this concept and as a result leads to people blaming God for letting bad things happen especially the fact He is all powerful and all knowing. I feel like God can only do so much according to our faith. If we pray or weep to God and we don't keep His commands or follow Jesus's example, it would make sense for Him to not do anything.
You speak well. My daughter was taken, missing for 7 weeks, and then her body found discarded in a creek on Christmas Eve 2019 by hunters. The people who said this or wrote this sentiment, however well-meaning, had no idea the grief and anger it caused me and our family. My heart truly goes out to you because I know this kind of obscene pain. I am finding it doesn’t lessen over time as so many assured me it would; I simply have learned how to carry the weight by experience and God’s magnificent grace. God bless you.
@Tracy Karol have you ever read thru the book of Job.......?... I am sorry for the loss of your neice......And I cannot give you an answer as to why God allowed such tragedy to happen... but we must remember God DOES have a reason for allowing things to happen... and in this sense... Everything DOES.. happen for a reason... God ONLY knows.. the reason behind all the events... though God did NOT allow Satan to Kill Job.. in Job's case... this does Not mean that God with holds Satan's hand in every person's situation... It is Not for us to know.. why God allows these tragedies to happen was it right of God to allow Cain to slay Abel?... Could God have prevented it?.. YES.. why did God allow an innocent man who loved God and was Loved by God to be slain?.. I refuse to believe that God did Not have a reason for it.... MY God does Not work that way... haphazardly.. like a roll of the dice.. or a ball going around on a roulette wheel.. people can be upset with God.. for what they feel is an injustice done to someone in the case of murder.... and some people even Hate God for injustices done... I ve seen couple leave the Church and QUIT God.. when they lost their infant child.. it is a harsh reality... many can hate God for what they feel is not right.. but here is a fact God created us ... so thereby God OWNS us... God can do what He wills with us.. And we should Not be upset with God... Why.?. because we are only here because God allowed us to be here.. Why are so many angry with God.?. or do Not believe everything happens for a reason..?.. because they do NOT know the same God I know...
I have made it a practice to pray when they ask, In person or on the phone, if at all possible. Then they know I prayed for them. Not only that, but it helps keep it in your mind to do it later. Works for me, I'm almost 79. That's saying something. Love your insights. I am unable to sit in church. I get a lot of feeding on the internet, and it still gives me a chance to witness, for which I am grateful.
I must admit I'm not a very vocal Christian, so I don't feel compelled to say I will pray for someone if I don't mean it (there's no expectation I'll say this). Thus when I say it, I sincerely mean it, I do it, and indeed people are often surprised when I say this.
@@endthisnonsense7202 So in otherwords, dont do ANYTHING! Got it! You aint even worthy of a prayer, my friend! So accept that prayer & be happy, or simply avoid people altogether, because you got a bad attitude!
I dislike people saying that your loved ones are looking down on heaven or to talk to your deceased loved ones they're looking down on you. The Bible states that it's only God Alone who can hear our prayers. The Bible also states that our loved ones , and ourselves included, don't enter Heaven until the last day. I completely agree with so much of what you said especially the fact that we don't become Angels. Angels were created at the beginning of time. I love your videos and I share them with so many people
@@DruidsCalling The dead are in the grave awaiting the resurrection. Read Thessalonians. The dead in Christ rise first at His return, and then those who remain go to meet Him in the air. Nobody goes to heaven ever. People are created to dwell on earth and that’s where they stay. Even at His return he sets up a 1000 year reign on earth. At the end of Revelation there’s a new heaven and new earth. The new Jerusalem coming down with the pearly gates and streets of gold is on earth. It literally says it’s on earth. Go back and read it. Ecclesiastes 9:5-6 5 For the living know that they will die, but the dead know nothing, and they have no more reward, for the memory of them is forgotten. 6 Their love and their hate and their envy have already perished, and forever they have no more share in all that is done under the sun.
@@fivebooks8498 I respectfully disagree. On the cross, Jesus told one of the thieves “Today I will see you in heaven.” There’s also the rich man and Lazarus, who were on opposite sides of Hades (Lazarus at “Abrahams bosom”, the rich man in torment and unable to cross). In the OT we see the spirit of Samuel summoned by Saul. From these and other verses, it seems clear that believers’ souls will go to heaven/paradise and be with Jesus. But we won’t have our glorified bodies until the resurrection. I’m not sure if unbelievers are now in torment or are sleeping until Judgment, but even Revelation indicates martyrs’ souls in heaven crying out for justice and God assuring them, saying they must wait just a while longer until the rest join them. “Fell asleep” in the Bible is used usually the same way we say “passed away” or any other euphemism for death. Of course I could be completely mistaken! But either way, there will be no more suffering for dead believers. Perfect peace, what a glorious wonder awaits! Have a blessed day!
Yes!! Thank you for saying it. The one I would add is the “god told me to” about something like breaking up with someone. Better just to own your free choice and not use God as an excuse. It only makes the other person not trust you and dislike God.
Breaking up with someone isn't a "little thing" especially for people truly put GOD as head of their life and seek HIM on all things. Because marriage is actually a big deal, asking GOD for guidance in dating practices is essential. Too many people chose their free will over GOD's purpose when it comes to dating and end up in relationships and marriages that GOD has joined together.
@@ajourneywithmyfather1980 Just an f.y.i. I don't see anywhere in Johanna Pops reply where they were refering to married people... just wonderin.. if you noticed that..?..
@Dan Beech Marriage is a commitment.. this is how I see it... many would disagree... but I have never been one to just "be in a relationship".. for an indefinite period.... I have had dozens of relationships... in the last 50 years of my life... but most of those 50 years I was not saved... so I did not even think about what non marital relationships meant in regards to God..and when I found a woman that was special to me I DID marry her.. and we reaised a family and all went to church...I never looked at a "relationship"... with someone outside of the marriage bond the same way that I looked at a relationship inside the marriage bond.. if a person thinks enough of their partner or the relationship they have to someone ..to NOT consider the relationship or possible break up of a relationship..as NOT a little thing.......what are they doing NOT getting married...?. .if people oppose marriage... I cannot take their relationship serious enough to consider it a BIG thing.... Marry then.. show the world how the other person is Not a little thing... staying with someone and Not marrying them is like reading the bible and never getting saved... marriage----salvation... hmmmm I think after a certain period of time.. a person knows if this is their forever person.. if they are.. then... propose..! even if the 2 are penniless and have to be married in a shack...... none of my weddings ever cost me much money.... 2 wives died and the one I am married to now I have been with since 2015.. we were married.. about 12 months after we met.. Oh.. and definitely no children out of wedlock......marry the person...
I agree with your comments on the 5 things Christians shouldn't say. Our responses to a situation should be heartfelt and sincere, that's what Jesus teaches us to do.
Something that really bothers me is when someone expresses a need during a difficult time and they’re told simply that they would pray for them. Prayer is awesome but it’s often times a cop out or a reason not to help that person and they walk away thinking they’ve done a wonderful thing and pat themselves on the back. It’s hard for someone who has lost their job and doesn’t know how they will feed their family or keep the lights on to hear those words. We’re supposed to be the hands and feet of Christ! Surely a gift of some groceries or gas money would be better appreciated than a sometimes promise of prayer. We need to help each other. Feed the hungry, help the poor, take care of orphans and widows! Surely a hot meal dropped off at their home along with sincere prayer would be more helpful. Sorry for the rant. It’s something I feel strongly about. Hey, I’m guilty of this too. It’s something I want to change for myself.
@Ray Sperle I'm new to this commenting stuff.. so pardon me for responding to your reply agree ing with Brandon Robbins... regarding 5 things a Christian should never say....I totally disagree with both of you....I think its ok to say things like" the bible says it so I believe it" and the rest.... BUT.. what needs to be done then is a 2 hour follow up talk session with the person we said that to ...explaining our position.. the error in saying those things is when people like maybe You or Brandon .. say these statements then just shut-up... that CAN NEVER BE... People need to make a stance and be forcefully adamant about it... say it then PREACH it!.. the others will be convinced it IS true.. or will never come to you again asking ridiculous questions like whether or not you believe what the bible says or not.. they will KNOW for sure what you believe...
This is so good Brandon! I'm rewatching some of your videos today as I'm without a parish right now due to all the political polarization and me supposedly not being a "real" Christian if I don't go agree with their views Yet I still earnestly desire to pray and be with other brothers and sisters. Thanks for offering such godly counsel this stubborn would be grandma can trust! I too am convicted of the sin of promising to pray for others and then not. Realizing that I do this a lot but have not yet made the shift today I make a new commitment: to stop what I am doing and pray immediately for someone when I say I will. So that first person is you! So here goes: Thank you Father for gentle, faithful men of God like Brandon whose love for you and for others shines through like a beacon into my weary soul! Thank you SO MUCH for making Brandon and for creating a way for him to get these vital messages out to us Christians who do not feel welcome at in person services. Help ALL of us who know and love you find a way to share the Gospel with this sick and broken world! Help me do this too Lord! Lord, please also strengthen Brandon personally and give him the material and emotional support he surely needs to continue this great work. May he strongly feel your presence with him today. I ask for this in Jesus's precious name AMEN.
Sue. I understand you're frustration. I'm in Africa and almost all the praying I see in church is for personal success in business or for wealth. Also government politics often enters the church. I've tried but I feel so distant from this because I believe we should be principally serving God. In some ways my faith has grown but I feel distant from any Christian community.
When my life was going thru a painful time full of anguish and people would tell me "God won't give you any more than you can handle." This would make me feel that I was lacking in some way. I found no solice in those words. It is true that I was lacking in my understanding, I was being broken down so that I could finaly see that I had no control of the things that happened and that trusting in Gods will was the only reasonable option.
I know, telling me I'm fixed because I believe in Jesus and Paul wrote in 1 Cor. and gave a list of lifestyle sins and ended it with "And such WERE some of you, but you are washed and cleansed." Remember how messed up the Corinthian church was? Why did Paul write that knowing they were drinking and sinning all the time. Well then why do I still want to drink or whatever my issues were? I'm not fixed, I'm in Christ and have been saved, but becoming a Christian didn't make my obsessive compulsive personality go away, nor my PTSD. I will struggle with it for the rest of my life and though I'm better I still have to struggle.
A while back I was convicted not to say, I’ll pray for you, if I wasn’t prepared to pray right then. I have since made it a habit to just offer a prayer or ask permission to pray for someone right when I see the need. I cringe when I hear of a person who has died being referred to as an Angel or that they just gained their wings. We never were and never will be angels. Your other points are spot on!
I remember a couple at church who said, "God led us"...to take a better paying job for the husband in another state. No, the money led you. And when they returned a few months later, it was "God led us back here", with no mention of the lost job. No mention of returning to the previous job. It should have been more like, "God showed us mercy in giving me back the old job." God didn't send you on a wild goose chase. You did that out of your own greed.
When I lost my beloved husband to cancer, many well-meaning people would say to me that “he is in a better place, now”, I disagreed with them, in my mind, for his “better place” for David to be was with me, but I understood that it is very awkward to say one’s felling when death is involved. In such case, I believe that it is more natural and comforting to hear “I do not know what to say, in such painful moment for you”.
Very sorry for your loss. I'm guilty for saying that also but, at least for me, what I'm trying to say is that after all the suffering they just endured, there is no more pain, only happiness. It is only us that are suffering the loss of them. I'm sure it was just as difficult on you to watch him go through all his suffering before he passed. Sometimes we just don't always word things the right way, but mean well, just the same. Peace to you and may God be with you in your time of need.
God be with you. There really is no right thing to say in a moment like that, when you are bereaved. It never helped me when I lost my father. His death was sudden to everyone else, but I expected it. I knew he was getting sick. I'd told my mom a week before he passed, and she assured me he was fine. Everyone gave me the better place line, but I knew, even if he were ready to go, he didn't want to go when he did. He'd just come to my graduation, he'd cleaned out his car, quit smoking even. Everything seemed ripe for a new lease on life to everyone else. I knew something had to have scared him. He wanted to spend a few days with me before he died, but stupid me had agreed to go to Tennessee for a week with my friends beforehand. I'd rather people just told me they had no idea how to talk about what had just happened
@@ItsJustAdrean Thank you so much for your condolences. May God be with you, also. As a parent, I can say that your father was happy to spend some time together with you. Do not blame yourself for believing you could have spent more time with him. I am sure he parted happy with his time allotment on your company. And, yes, I do believe that there is nothing one can say in a situation so delicate as when someone we love departs from this world. In my case, my beloved departed in his own terms and we were blessed that God was with us all through his last breath. I was holding his hand at that time, assuring him he would be going to Christ and that the cancer that ravished his body would not accompany him. I miss David terribly but also I am happy that he is not suffering anymore. As for your dad, I feel very sorry that he passed. I pray that the good memories he left behind will be of some consolation to your immense loss. I pray for all your family and for the ones who cherish him. 💔
I lost my mom to cancer a year ago, and honestly all the condolences went in one ear and out the other. Now when someone dies I tell the person mourning, “There are no words…”
@@therealgingerbeardman I am very sorry for your great loss. I know it is very hard to cope with this pain but I pray that you and your family are finding some consolation in the memories of your lives lived together and with the precious moments you mutually shared.
So much for "Where two or more are gathered together in My name, there will I be also". Guess you can tear that one out of your Bible, I won't because I've seen it fullfilled through His healing.
Pretending that there are no metaphors, symbols or parables in the Bible; or worse, proclaiming that everything is literal UNLESS you don't want to do it, means that it looks like the Bible is serving your interests.
Yessss....this is the only other time I've heard this other than when I heard something similar the 1st time from this teacher named chuck missler and it changed how I chew on the word. Such a perfect statement and definatly needed for the times we are in.
@@ptowntravis That's who I got the statement from :) He was the quintessential teacher that sparked that special interest in me to "take the text seriously"!
Totally agree with you, Brandon. I also do not like the phrase " have you accepted Christ as your personal savior? I think it makes people feel judged. Your relationship with Jesus is not, I believe, to be judged by anyone.
That’s why I say to believers or not “I prayed for you & added you to my prayer list”. That way, I didn’t lie to myself or other person bout doing later & more importantly there’s always half a smile or full given back to me that this guy won’t forget me!!💯
I do something very similar. Except I say I have added you to my prayer groups prayer list. I am so thankful that I do have a group of people who actively get together once a week to pray for all of our listed petitions
I don’t tell people I will pray for them. If they ask me to pray for them then I immediately bow my head and do so right then right there. It takes them a back at first. The people in the store may look on like I’m weird but I don’t care. People learn not to ask unless they are serious about wanting it done and we will go to our Father together. Often once done they will thank you because they were a part and got to hear your genuine love. Also it helps to cement in my mind that later, when I pray alone, my Dad will remind me to pray over their situation again.
Great video! As a counter argument for “stop saying everything has a reason”, the buck stops at God’s feet. The ultimate authority belongs to him, what he allows or doesn’t, etc. thats why Jesus said to Pilate “you would have no authority over me unless it was given from…”what? “…from up above.” That is what makes God Omni-potent, Omniscient, etc. its part of the “wrestling” as you said before with life. Now God is not the author of Evil but allows it for his purposes. For God “only gives us what we can handle”
How about "God's not done with you." This terrifies me as I have had the most awful last 3 yrs of constant loss/catastrophe/illness...what more does he plan to do me? I just want to hide. I am completely broken, battered and bruised.
Brandon I have to admit when I first stumbled on your videos I thought - ok here comes some more fundamentalist literalism - but man was I wrong! You talks are thoughtful, nuanced , and to me so on target ! I really love your wisdom and heart my friend .
But Resurrection was revealed "the first day after Shabbat". That's why we called it "dies dominica" = the Lord's day. And Christians celebrate Resurrection, not Shabbat.
@@Laurelin70 Changes nothing. Did Christ say the Sabbath would change. No. Did the Apostles still observe the Sabbath. Yes. God sanctified his day and not one scripture says it changed. Not one. God was clear. Keep the Sabbath holy and stop following the traditions of man. Who do you love more. YaH or man. Christ showed us he was the Lord of the Sabbath because he is Lord and our Lord gave us a day that our benefit. Hence why Sabbath was made for mankind.
Merci - Hvala Brandon! So agréable to see and hear U Also phrases: “Help Yrself and God will help U” What to say to someone who lost a beloved person and we don’t think the death person will go to heaven- the one left on earth believes they’ll meet again. Etc
My son has schizophrenia. I have prayed over and over for him to be healed. God is bigger than schizophrenia. He is all knowing and all powerful. He has not chosen to heal him yet. So I dont really see the difference between saying "everything happens for a reason " and that He works all things for good. ..I trust God and that is all. I dont think He wants my son in this condition anymore than I do. So isn't God choosing to leave him where he is for a reason? It is a faith builder for me. Praise His Holy Name!!!
did u know that our tongues are more dangerous than guns,etc. etc. ? Amen also for Brandon Robbins' sayings about what Christians need to say or not to say. God bless u all!
Everything happens for a reason is one of the things that Christians need to stop saying. That got so tiresome when my mother died. I also agree with not saying I pray for you unless you mean it. Thank you for this video and the reminder.
Some Christians have to stop saying " I am saved". Nobody is "saved" while they are still living Salvation is a life long battle. To say "i am saved" is comitting a sin of presumption against Hope.
We who are born again are “Saved”. As Paul wrote to the Ephesians in Ephesians 2:8-9 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.
8:19 Wrong statement. I know a young man who was an atheist. His mother died and everyone was saying "Sorry for your loss". Except one person who said, without missing a step, "I will pray for you and your family". This small kindness started this young atheist on a journey toward God and the Church.
I think your teachings are so well thought out and meaningful! Thank you! I do agree with you in the 5 things Christians should not say! Another is something I’ve had said to me regarding my autistic son, and I have had it said to me that if my faith was strong enough that he could be healed. That’s hurtful. I believe that God is using, and has used ever since our Benjamin was born, his life, his special needs as a way to show how God is using our Ben in ways to show God’s faithfulness♥️
I agree with you, Ann. That is so hurtful! I too have seen God use the lives of those with special needs to bless others and demonstrate faith. I often admired how my friends with special needs could worship God so freely. It was beautiful!
Hello Ann. My first thought when I read your reply about a comment made to you was beside it being hurtful, it was also theologically incorrect. Paul prayed for his "thorn in the flesh" to be removed three times. God didnt answer with "you need more faith". He said that in Paul's weakness God's grace and power would show. We aren't promised no struggles but that He would comfort us and give us His strength to endure. God bless.
God uses people with autism for his purpose too! One of the most powerful prayer warriors I ever met had Down’s syndrome. In fact, God enjoys using broken neurotypicals too. It shows that it’s Him and not us. There’s another problem with the “just have faith” mantra. It takes away God’s sovereignty to decide to heal someone (or not).
I also have an autistic son, and have been told the same thing. I've even been told he's the result of sin! He's a challenge, but he's a gift of God, like any child, and his special challenges have helped me grow in my understanding of God as a parent who loves and cares for us regardless of our inadequacies. Hang in there, and don't believe the lies.
This is really spot on! Of course we can all think of a few more things we should stop saying. I really love your honest viewpoints, because they are all based on scripture.
@@prestonmiller5827 Kudos to you! There is an old Scottish translation of the bible, that said in their language "Jacob was a lucky fellow" But really..... everything is ordained and preordained. (I cringe at saying that when someone is going through really hard times)
A few years back, I decided I was not going to tell someone I was praying for them until I had actually prayed for them. I would say the prayer before saying that, or at the very least right after. Otherwise, just like you said, I would forget, and the good intentions would mean nothing.
Everything does happen for a reason: Isaiah 45:7 says, I form the light, and create darkness: I make peace, and create evil: I the LORD do all these things. And Ephesians 1:11 says, In Him we were also chosen as God’s own, having been predestined according to the plan of Him who works out everything by the counsel of His will. Also remember the conversation God and Job had after all that had happened to him. Tribulations are designed to get us closer to God.
Another one: "God never gives us more than we can handle". That implies that my trials are something that I can manage alone. It's a misinterpretation of the verses that say God never TESTS us beyond our ability to bear. I'm not sure trials and tests are the same thing, but I have also been told that according to the original (Greek?) What it says is "you ( singular) will not be tested beyond your (plural, as in y'all's) ability to bear. Some things too much for us to bear alone and we need the love and support of others to make it.
One of our church leaders taught us how to take care of that, so that we don’t falsely promise to pray for them. He said as he goes through the day and he he finds someone who needs prayers given he places them on the prayer roll of his heart. He knows he won’t remember the names by the end of the day so right there and then he says the name. That way it’s writing it on his heart and so that God can hear the names and know that he prays for them. I love this concept because it gets rid of the guilt I feel at not remembering a name. Quite often I’ll remember the situation of what needs to be prayed for and that really helps.
Actually some humans are angels. Angels is just a messenger. I know what you mean though the Heavenly beings or Elohim or spirit being are their own kind of creature and humans are our own we don’t become them, and vise versa.
In Matthew 22:30 Jesus says "those accounted worthy to obtain that world shall neither marry nor be given in marriage, but shall be as the angels of God in heaven." So perhaps it's not the big deal everyone makes it out to be.
Literally nothing happens without the will of God. Nowhere in the Bible does Christ promise us happiness on earth... In fact, we are promised persecution and pain, but to hold to the faith, because our reward is in the next life, in our resurrected bodies.
When I tell people I'm gonna pray for them I set alarms for usually around 10pm with their names and a few words to remind me of their issues. Definitely helped me to stay true to my words and remember to pray for others not just myself. Give it a try!
Fantastic, thank you for putting this out. I had struggled to find sensible, honest and humble interpretations. You are a light within the sea of bad theology.
I agree, when my daughter passed on 20 years ago people often said " the Lord picks the nicest rose", and when you've just lost you child that is the last thing you want to hear. Thank the Lord that He gave me peace in my heart to accept it. If someone messages me and asks me to pray for them or a friend then I'll type a message then and there otherwise yes,the day gets busy and I do forget to pray later. I totally agree with you.
"it doesn't apply anymore," is the deepest rot of the modern church. God is the begining and the end, is was and is and ever shall be. He is unchanging and so are his laws and principles. So, Christians need to stop saying that something in scripture doesn't apply anymore, as if the world, humanity and sin have somehow changed - they haven't.
As for the "everything happens for a reason" ...it has become mainstream even in the secular world.... and my reply is, "it doesn't mean that everything happens for the right reasons"...or, "sometimes things happen for the wrong reasons".... and it serves as a great entry point to discuss the matter further, and ask the person, "what could have been done to improve the outcome", or "what reasons would justify the outcome",....for starters. Other questions can be formed.
I learned that my presence can say way more than my words ever could when I visit family members or friends that have lost a loved one. Show up let your light shine and be pleasing to God the Father go serve that person or family in silence.
Mr Brandon, I've seen this passage translated with the word "sabbath": I like this translation better: “Which is lawful on the Sabbath: to do good or to do evil; to save life or to destroy it?” Thus Jesus, the Teacher, made clear to all that the law is made for man, not man for the law. It seems complicated for even the Christian leaders. Being faithful is a persons personal belief in the expression. Of course the words are more than guidlines, we all should meditate on them. Prayers for you and your ministry.
Thank you, thank you ,Thank you!!! I've stopped going to "church". God is my savior, and I continue to study and believe, I just can't handle being put in a box, with black and white thinking. Long story...... Thank you❤️ you give me hope.
Brandon I’ve watched a good bit of your videos and I just wanna say keep it up man these videos are great and if I’m being honest you have called a lot of my behaviors as a Christian in check and it is giving me a lot more clarity on my walk with Christ love the videos god bless and amen
When we say "I'll pray for you", it would be best to do it right then and there so you don't forget. Otherwise, we would be held accountable for what we say, and it is sobering to realize that though we mean well, it costs us our integrity too!
In South Africa they often use lines like "a woman's tears never falls in vain" it's a way of saying "God favors me" but they say it as a form of a curse that who ever made or caused them pain God will punish them. And Christians always say "God favors me" and at the same time they cause pain to others.
Yes, one thing that we need to stop saying that becomes very negative: I hate that food. I hate that show. I have it when people do that. I hate it when people cut me off, I hate it when someone doesn't say thanks, I hate it when someone lies to you. I mean how many times a day? Who are we giving glory to, not God? When we curb that habit it makes a huge difference in our lives and our empathy grows. Thanks, brother Brandon.
Yes, had to really keep on my kids on that one, don't say you hate, hate, hate....you don't like this or that, this or that irritates you, arrrrrgh that makes me cringe, anything is better than hate, don't be a hater!
I’m on board with all except the everything happens for a reason, God doesn’t cause the pain but it happens when we aren’t holding up our end and he uses it to teach us.
Here's an easy one... We shouldn't be telling people the will be going to hell if they don't stop doing or don't start doing such & such. We are not to judge... correct in kindness, but not judge, for we will be judged by the same standard. I'd rather let Yahusha judge with his mercy.
I am in TOTAL agreement with you about the "I'll pray for you", and they don't. I am trying really hard to do what I say or not say it all and this to me is HUGE!
Well done! It seems we often quote bumper sticker sentiments, not contextualized biblical truths :) Another phrase I cringe at is, "God won't give you more than you can handle." Yikes -- nowhere does the bible say that, nowhere does it imply it by parable or psalm or historical narratives or .... anything! Again, it makes God look like a cosmic ogre from whom we shouldn't ask help, because if it's happening to us, WE must be able to handle it, after all. It implies He GIVES us MORE of whatever "more" is, but we can suffer through it for the reason of...hmmmm, dunno!
That phrase is a misuse of 1 Corinthians 10:13. There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it. Whatever the situation is, God gives us grace. Jesus is the Way.
Thank you SOOOO much for #3. It reflects a doctrine of predetermination that is not substantiated in scripture. I always think of Ecclesiastes 9:11: “time and chance happeneth to them all…” (KJV). Without that single phrase, I could not accept God in any sense, let alone Christianity.
Saturday is the Sabbath. The 7th Day. Why can't people see that? It blows my mind. Sunday is the 1st Day. The RCC changed it! And I want to make it clear that I am NOT a 7th Day Adventist.
If "everything happens for a reason" is not true, then we end up with questions about how powerful God really is and the words "you intended it for evil, but God intended it for good" are impossible. I will agree those words are often used in a useless way. I fear God not because He obeys the Law, but because the Law obeys Him.
"All things" include good things, not just bad things. The statement is always used for encouraging those who are going through bad things. It becomes to mean, in the emotions, that only bad things work together for good. It causes people to gravitate towards bad things, since they work together for good. We should gravitate to good things, not gravitate towards misery. All things work together towards good, even good things!
8:20 Everytime , Everytime , i said , i was Goign to pray for someone ,, i did ,, and not Jsut Once , i would Go Everyday , multiple Times a day , praying For them .. i Actually Pray , God , i pray for More Prayers , i want to Learn for more things to pray for , and to Pray for them ..
Excellent. We need to be more empathetic to anyone who has suffered loss. To say everything happens for a reason may be true but it is not what people want to hear when they're suffering. I think a better response might be, "I don't know why you are having to suffer this, but I'm hear to listen and to share your sorrow. God wants to offer you comfort for your pain."
I began watching you with The Chosen talks. I really learned so much today. My husband was bedridden for 7 years before he passed. I loved repeating Jerimiah; it gave me peace BUT now the "you" wasn't me. And with the UMC split, I found peace in that also. So if the words give us peace, is it harm to think the words were for us. I am new in the Bible at age 80, sorry to say that. But I am really trying to catch up.
I’m new to this channel thanks to the livestreams from the chosen and snipe life. I really enjoy this quote, I’m going to put it on my wall this weekend! “God didn’t cause it, but He can redeem it” Romans 8:28
I have done a video on this years ago but don’t even have 200 followers, would love to change that, but I was dying laughing at your sincerity and fact throwing, so good!
Exactly : when I say I will pray for someone I do... If we say we will pray for someone online... Do it there and then... Just yesterday a friend lost someone. .. They put up a post on FB and I responded with 'Praying' as I prayed.....
Thank yoooou! I had these questions in my head and right when i watch this. It just gives me a sign that the holy father answered my questions. and that makes me happy! Praise the lord! And of course, i agree with you, keep up the great work brother 👍💖
I have basically given up on prayer, and I certainly stopped telling people that I would pray for them. Telling them that would be lying and lying is a sin. Besides, it's harmful. I quit praying about a year ago because God doesn't like my prayers anymore. I don't know why, but He doesn't. Whenever I pray, the situation Always gets worse! ALWAYS. It is what it is.
I don't like those sweet messages on FB that end by saying "if you love Jesus you'll share this" or "if your not ashamed". I find those offensive even if I like the saying or message.
Yah. I’m not a fan of those either.
I agree, sometimes I share them because what they say besides that is true and beautiful. I never share them with the intent of expecting people to share them and if they don't judge them as not loving, or being ashamed of Jesus. However, in the future I think I'll take a screenshot and crop that part out.
If you are offended by the name of Jesus you are not a Christian anyway. THINK.
It’s manipulative to write “ if you love Jesus you will share this.” It’s disrespectful, too, in that it doesn’t respect the many excellent reasons someone has for not sharing.
Its more likely share/like- farming
Perhaps modify “I’ll pray for you” to “can we pray together right now?” And the saying, “let me know if I can ever help you”…how about, what day this week can I bring you dinner? can I watch your children during your next doctor apptmt? I would love to drive you to your next apptmt…I’m headed to the grocery this afternoon, please text me a list of things I can get for you, and I will drop them by your home…turn that vague “let me know if I can ever help” to actual, practical ways to help.
YES! So many people even family members could care less about you and show it by not helping or keeping in touch with you. I had gotten very sick years ago and recieved nothing from the people ( my family) that loved me, that I dedicated my time to for so many years , was not there for me at all. So I recovered from my illness and all that I had wished my friends and family would of helped me with as you stated, I now do for those people in my life.
Yes, need to offer REAL help, not “AIR” help. Lol
Yes!
The what the book of James teaches. Practical Christianity . Thank you for obedience to the word.
@Winnie, well said.
How about: "the spirit told me..." As a mechanism to enhance the personal credibility of a person's own thoughts...
I know of people who say their revelations are from God even when they contradict the bible…….WHAT!?!?!?
True.
Yes -- THAT one! Why do we need to "name drop"? Just say you feel or think a certain way about something or someone, but don't invoke God's credit score to validate your inkling. Maybe the Holy Spirit DID tell you something, maybe God HAS been informing you of something, maybe it WAS Jesus in a dream you had...can't we just share our concerns, offer correction or encouragement, or share a scripture (in context, please), and be satisfied that God has not advertised for a PR firm to handle His campaign? "A Word spoken in season" (Proverbs 15:23) describes the joy experienced having delivered a Word at just the right time, moment, circumstance, event...I am SO guilty of having tossed around, "God told me,..." when I was a new Christian. Fortunately, no one was harmed, thanks to God's grace over all parties concerned.
When people say "The Lord told me..." turn and walk away from them. They are kooks wrapped up in their own minds. I hear these fake TV preachers make these kinds of claims. They are all from the dark side.....
@ karen thompson I agree to a point, but doesn't God live within all of us? What about his prophets? Are they kooks or from the dark side?
Our premature baby boy only lived 32 hours and people told us he was to good for this world. Thinking back now, My question is, how bad is my other son cause he is now 19 years old? We really have to be careful with our choice of words
When on Facebook someone has lost a family member and everyone puts these 🙏🏻 and says I’ll pray for you, I instead will write out my prayer for them to read. I enjoyed your video today.
Yea. I hate that emoticon. I doubt very many people who post that really pray
I love writing out prayers for people. Sometimes, it just isn't appropriate to share with everyone on FB how I am praying, but in general, I agree with you.
maybe the people who put the 🙏 sign up understand what JESUS said in Matthew 6:6
@@darrylgibson3575 Interesting thought on Matt 6:6. They could be looking at it that way and obeying the Lord from the heart. I had always thought that verse was about not showing off that you are praying which goes to motive of why you are praying and looking for reward from people. We do see corporate prayer throughout the whole Bible and that is praying outside of a closet and we don't see it condemned. We see Jesus condemning the religious leaders of the day for liking to be seen and heard when they pray as well as the one one who thanks the Lord that he isn't a sinner. I'm sure that I have more to learn. Thanks.
@@bobjose5855 are you sure that it's corporate prayers or are those the blessings and praising that they're doing openly, I do know this much that every time JESUS prayed HE went off to be alone with our FATHER and spoke to HIM in secret.
Another is "God never gives you more than you can bear". I'll tell you truthfully I have been totally broken many times. Once was just recently when someone I grew up with, my very best friend and family member, died suddenly. I was shattered. I have days I feel I will collapse from the grief. I'm not bearing it because there is one set of footprints in the sand. I'm being carried right now.
God never gave you that. It’s just life.
@@flightforensics4523 It is Biblical, but not in those some exact words. 1 Corinthians 10:13 "...he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear...". Please go read the verse in context for better understanding. Never accept isolated verses without reading them in context.
Thank you so much for including “everything happens for a reason.” That is so untrue. God gave us free will. So if someone murders your loved one (this happened to me), God had nothing to do with it. That person chose to do evil. I believe God was watching and weeping for that event. But like a parent, He let us go out into the world with our own will. What we choose to do with it sets in motion good and bad events. So I never blamed God or was angry with God when my niece was so brutally murdered. I knew exactly who to blame. The people who did it, and the evil one who influenced them because they turned away from God. Free will is a wonderful gift. We shouldn’t blame God for what happens because of it.
Yes. Preach. A lot don't understand this concept and as a result leads to people blaming God for letting bad things happen especially the fact He is all powerful and all knowing. I feel like God can only do so much according to our faith. If we pray or weep to God and we don't keep His commands or follow Jesus's example, it would make sense for Him to not do anything.
You speak well. My daughter was taken, missing for 7 weeks, and then her body found discarded in a creek on Christmas Eve 2019 by hunters. The people who said this or wrote this sentiment, however well-meaning, had no idea the grief and anger it caused me and our family. My heart truly goes out to you because I know this kind of obscene pain. I am finding it doesn’t lessen over time as so many assured me it would; I simply have learned how to carry the weight by experience and God’s magnificent grace. God bless you.
Nothing happens for a "reason".
@Tracy Karol have you ever read thru the book of Job.......?... I am sorry for the loss of your neice......And I cannot give you an answer as to why God allowed such tragedy to happen... but we must remember God DOES have a reason for allowing things to happen... and in this sense... Everything DOES.. happen for a reason... God ONLY knows.. the reason behind all the events...
though God did NOT allow Satan to Kill Job.. in Job's case... this does Not mean that God with holds Satan's hand in every person's situation...
It is Not for us to know.. why God allows these tragedies to happen
was it right of God to allow Cain to slay Abel?... Could God have prevented it?.. YES..
why did God allow an innocent man who loved God and was Loved by God to be slain?..
I refuse to believe that God did Not have a reason for it.... MY God does Not work that way... haphazardly.. like a roll of the dice.. or a ball going around on a roulette wheel..
people can be upset with God.. for what they feel is an injustice done to someone in the case of murder.... and some people even Hate God for injustices done... I ve seen couple leave the Church and QUIT God.. when they lost their infant child..
it is a harsh reality... many can hate God for what they feel is not right.. but here is a fact
God created us ... so thereby God OWNS us... God can do what He wills with us.. And we should Not be upset with God... Why.?. because we are only here because God allowed us to be here..
Why are so many angry with God.?. or do Not believe everything happens for a reason..?..
because they do NOT know the same God I know...
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I have made it a practice to pray when they ask, In person or on the phone, if at all possible. Then they know I prayed for them. Not only that, but it helps keep it in your mind to do it later. Works for me, I'm almost 79. That's saying something.
Love your insights. I am unable to sit in church. I get a lot of feeding on the internet, and it still gives me a chance to witness, for which I am grateful.
I must admit I'm not a very vocal Christian, so I don't feel compelled to say I will pray for someone if I don't mean it (there's no expectation I'll say this). Thus when I say it, I sincerely mean it, I do it, and indeed people are often surprised when I say this.
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Thanks Brandon for reminding me to stop saying, "I'll pray for you," unless I mean it.
Godbless you Brother. 🙏💜
My response always is "I'd appreciate it more if instead of praying you chose to do something that theoretically might be of help"
@@endthisnonsense7202 So in otherwords, dont do ANYTHING! Got it! You aint even worthy of a prayer, my friend! So accept that prayer & be happy, or simply avoid people altogether, because you got a bad attitude!
I dislike people saying that your loved ones are looking down on heaven or to talk to your deceased loved ones they're looking down on you. The Bible states that it's only God Alone who can hear our prayers. The Bible also states that our loved ones , and ourselves included, don't enter Heaven until the last day. I completely agree with so much of what you said especially the fact that we don't become Angels. Angels were created at the beginning of time. I love your videos and I share them with so many people
So where do your loved ones go before Heaven? I will not judge or criticize you
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The dead are in the grave awaiting the resurrection. Read Thessalonians. The dead in Christ rise first at His return, and then those who remain go to meet Him in the air. Nobody goes to heaven ever. People are created to dwell on earth and that’s where they stay. Even at His return he sets up a 1000 year reign on earth. At the end of Revelation there’s a new heaven and new earth. The new Jerusalem coming down with the pearly gates and streets of gold is on earth. It literally says it’s on earth. Go back and read it.
Ecclesiastes 9:5-6
5 For the living know that they will die, but the dead know nothing, and they have no more reward, for the memory of them is forgotten.
6 Their love and their hate and their envy have already perished, and forever they have no more share in all that is done under the sun.
@@fivebooks8498 I respectfully disagree. On the cross, Jesus told one of the thieves “Today I will see you in heaven.” There’s also the rich man and Lazarus, who were on opposite sides of Hades (Lazarus at “Abrahams bosom”, the rich man in torment and unable to cross). In the OT we see the spirit of Samuel summoned by Saul. From these and other verses, it seems clear that believers’ souls will go to heaven/paradise and be with Jesus. But we won’t have our glorified bodies until the resurrection. I’m not sure if unbelievers are now in torment or are sleeping until Judgment, but even Revelation indicates martyrs’ souls in heaven crying out for justice and God assuring them, saying they must wait just a while longer until the rest join them. “Fell asleep” in the Bible is used usually the same way we say “passed away” or any other euphemism for death. Of course I could be completely mistaken! But either way, there will be no more suffering for dead believers. Perfect peace, what a glorious wonder awaits! Have a blessed day!
Yes!! Thank you for saying it. The one I would add is the “god told me to” about something like breaking up with someone. Better just to own your free choice and not use God as an excuse. It only makes the other person not trust you and dislike God.
Breaking up with someone isn't a "little thing" especially for people truly put GOD as head of their life and seek HIM on all things. Because marriage is actually a big deal, asking GOD for guidance in dating practices is essential. Too many people chose their free will over GOD's purpose when it comes to dating and end up in relationships and marriages that GOD has joined together.
@@ajourneywithmyfather1980 Just an f.y.i. I don't see anywhere in Johanna Pops reply where they were refering to married people... just wonderin.. if you noticed that..?..
@Dan Beech Marriage is a commitment.. this is how I see it... many would disagree... but I have never been one to just "be in a relationship".. for an indefinite period.... I have had dozens of relationships... in the last 50 years of my life... but most of those 50 years I was not saved... so I did not even think about what non marital relationships meant in regards to God..and when I found a woman that was special to me I DID marry her.. and we reaised a family and all went to church...I never looked at a "relationship"... with someone outside of the marriage bond the same way that I looked at a relationship inside the marriage bond.. if a person thinks enough of their partner or the relationship they have to someone ..to NOT consider the relationship or possible break up of a relationship..as NOT a little thing.......what are they doing NOT getting married...?.
.if people oppose marriage... I cannot take their relationship serious enough to consider it a BIG thing.... Marry then.. show the world how the other person is Not a little thing... staying with someone and Not marrying them is like reading the bible and never getting saved... marriage----salvation... hmmmm
I think after a certain period of time.. a person knows if this is their forever person.. if they are.. then... propose..! even if the 2 are penniless and have to be married in a shack...... none of my weddings ever cost me much money.... 2 wives died and the one I am married to now I have been with since 2015.. we were married.. about 12 months after we met..
Oh.. and definitely no children out of wedlock......marry the person...
I agree with your comments on the 5 things Christians shouldn't say. Our responses to a situation should be heartfelt and sincere, that's what Jesus teaches us to do.
Something that really bothers me is when someone expresses a need during a difficult time and they’re told simply that they would pray for them. Prayer is awesome but it’s often times a cop out or a reason not to help that person and they walk away thinking they’ve done a wonderful thing and pat themselves on the back. It’s hard for someone who has lost their job and doesn’t know how they will feed their family or keep the lights on to hear those words. We’re supposed to be the hands and feet of Christ! Surely a gift of some groceries or gas money would be better appreciated than a sometimes promise of prayer. We need to help each other. Feed the hungry, help the poor, take care of orphans and widows! Surely a hot meal dropped off at their home along with sincere prayer would be more helpful. Sorry for the rant. It’s something I feel strongly about. Hey, I’m guilty of this too. It’s something I want to change for myself.
@Ray Sperle I'm new to this commenting stuff.. so pardon me for responding to your reply agree ing with Brandon Robbins... regarding 5 things a Christian should never say....I totally disagree with both of you....I think its ok to say things like" the bible says it so I believe it" and the rest.... BUT.. what needs to be done then is a 2 hour follow up talk session with the person we said that to ...explaining our position.. the error in saying those things is when people like maybe You or Brandon .. say these statements then just shut-up... that CAN NEVER BE... People need to make a stance and be forcefully adamant about it... say it then PREACH it!.. the others will be convinced it IS true.. or will never come to you again asking ridiculous questions like whether or not you believe what the bible says or not.. they will KNOW for sure what you believe...
This is so good Brandon! I'm rewatching some of your videos today as I'm without a parish right now due to all the political polarization and me supposedly not being a "real" Christian if I don't go agree with their views Yet I still earnestly desire to pray and be with other brothers and sisters. Thanks for offering such godly counsel this stubborn would be grandma can trust!
I too am convicted of the sin of promising to pray for others and then not. Realizing that I do this a lot but have not yet made the shift today I make a new commitment: to stop what I am doing and pray immediately for someone when I say I will. So that first person is you! So here goes:
Thank you Father for gentle, faithful men of God like Brandon whose love for you and for others shines through like a beacon into my weary soul! Thank you SO MUCH for making Brandon and for creating a way for him to get these vital messages out to us Christians who do not feel welcome at in person services. Help ALL of us who know and love you find a way to share the Gospel with this sick and broken world! Help me do this too Lord!
Lord, please also strengthen Brandon personally and give him the material and emotional support he surely needs to continue this great work. May he strongly feel your presence with him today.
I ask for this in Jesus's precious name AMEN.
Thank you so much for your prayer, Sue! God bless you!
@@BrandonRobbinsMinistry Did catholics change sabbath from saturdays to sundays
Sue. I understand you're frustration. I'm in Africa and almost all the praying I see in church is for personal success in business or for wealth. Also government politics often enters the church. I've tried but I feel so distant from this because I believe we should be principally serving God. In some ways my faith has grown but I feel distant from any Christian community.
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Amen
When my life was going thru a painful time full of anguish and people would tell me "God won't give you any more than you can handle." This would make me feel that I was lacking in some way. I found no solice in those words. It is true that I was lacking in my understanding, I was being broken down so that I could finaly see that I had no control of the things that happened and that trusting in Gods will was the only reasonable option.
I know, telling me I'm fixed because I believe in Jesus and Paul wrote in 1 Cor. and gave a list of lifestyle sins and ended it with "And such WERE some of you, but you are washed and cleansed." Remember how messed up the Corinthian church was? Why did Paul write that knowing they were drinking and sinning all the time.
Well then why do I still want to drink or whatever my issues were? I'm not fixed, I'm in Christ and have been saved, but becoming a Christian didn't make my obsessive compulsive personality go away, nor my PTSD. I will struggle with it for the rest of my life and though I'm better I still have to struggle.
I believe the world dose give us more than we can handle, by ourselves . God /Jesus /the spirit is with me every day to give me strength.
A while back I was convicted not to say, I’ll pray for you, if I wasn’t prepared to pray right then. I have since made it a habit to just offer a prayer or ask permission to pray for someone right when I see the need.
I cringe when I hear of a person who has died being referred to as an Angel or that they just gained their wings. We never were and never will be angels.
Your other points are spot on!
Hello Joni, I hope my comment wasn't taken as a form of invasion of your comments privacy. I'm here to make friends, how are you? Where are you from?
I remember a couple at church who said, "God led us"...to take a better paying job for the husband in another state. No, the money led you. And when they returned a few months later, it was "God led us back here", with no mention of the lost job. No mention of returning to the previous job. It should have been more like, "God showed us mercy in giving me back the old job." God didn't send you on a wild goose chase. You did that out of your own greed.
When I lost my beloved husband to cancer, many well-meaning people would say to me that “he is in a better place, now”, I disagreed with them, in my mind, for his “better place” for David to be was with me, but I understood that it is very awkward to say one’s felling when death is involved. In such case, I believe that it is more natural and comforting to hear “I do not know what to say, in such painful moment for you”.
Very sorry for your loss. I'm guilty for saying that also but, at least for me, what I'm trying to say is that after all the suffering they just endured, there is no more pain, only happiness. It is only us that are suffering the loss of them. I'm sure it was just as difficult on you to watch him go through all his suffering before he passed. Sometimes we just don't always word things the right way, but mean well, just the same. Peace to you and may God be with you in your time of need.
God be with you. There really is no right thing to say in a moment like that, when you are bereaved. It never helped me when I lost my father. His death was sudden to everyone else, but I expected it. I knew he was getting sick. I'd told my mom a week before he passed, and she assured me he was fine. Everyone gave me the better place line, but I knew, even if he were ready to go, he didn't want to go when he did. He'd just come to my graduation, he'd cleaned out his car, quit smoking even. Everything seemed ripe for a new lease on life to everyone else. I knew something had to have scared him. He wanted to spend a few days with me before he died, but stupid me had agreed to go to Tennessee for a week with my friends beforehand. I'd rather people just told me they had no idea how to talk about what had just happened
@@ItsJustAdrean Thank you so much for your condolences. May God be with you, also. As a parent, I can say that your father was happy to spend some time together with you. Do not blame yourself for believing you could have spent more time with him. I am sure he parted happy with his time allotment on your company. And, yes, I do believe that there is nothing one can say in a situation so delicate as when someone we love departs from this world. In my case, my beloved departed in his own terms and we were blessed that God was with us all through his last breath. I was holding his hand at that time, assuring him he would be going to Christ and that the cancer that ravished his body would not accompany him. I miss David terribly but also I am happy that he is not suffering anymore. As for your dad, I feel very sorry that he passed. I pray that the good memories he left behind will be of some consolation to your immense loss. I pray for all your family and for the ones who cherish him. 💔
I lost my mom to cancer a year ago, and honestly all the condolences went in one ear and out the other. Now when someone dies I tell the person mourning, “There are no words…”
@@therealgingerbeardman I am very sorry for your great loss. I know it is very hard to cope with this pain but I pray that you and your family are finding some consolation in the memories of your lives lived together and with the precious moments you mutually shared.
It makes me alarmed when someone says, " we now come into the presence of God," God is always present and with us.
So much for "Where two or more are gathered together in My name, there will I be also". Guess you can tear that one out of your Bible, I won't because I've seen it fullfilled through His healing.
God Ain’t with us
There's a difference between taking the Bible literally and taking the Bible seriously.
Pretending that there are no metaphors, symbols or parables in the Bible; or worse, proclaiming that everything is literal UNLESS you don't want to do it, means that it looks like the Bible is serving your interests.
@@davidcheater4239 That's... Literally... What I said...
Yessss....this is the only other time I've heard this other than when I heard something similar the 1st time from this teacher named chuck missler and it changed how I chew on the word. Such a perfect statement and definatly needed for the times we are in.
@@ptowntravis That's who I got the statement from :) He was the quintessential teacher that sparked that special interest in me to "take the text seriously"!
@@ptowntravis someday, you'll get to hang out with him. Keep the faith!
Totally agree with you, Brandon. I also do not like the phrase " have you accepted Christ as your personal savior? I think it makes people feel judged. Your relationship with Jesus is not, I believe, to be judged by anyone.
Your comment is 100% contrary to the words of Jesus, who asked, "Why do you call me Lord and ignore my commandments?"
@@PETERJOHN101 How so? I don't follow your reasoning. This has nothing at all to do with the commandments.
I agree Paula....maybe better put to talk about our personal relationship with our Master? I don't know, chrstianese is a difficult language to parse
I agree with you ....words can be empty
That’s why I say to believers or not “I prayed for you & added you to my prayer list”. That way, I didn’t lie to myself or other person bout doing later & more importantly there’s always half a smile or full given back to me that this guy won’t forget me!!💯
I like how you wrote, this guy won't forget me! Are you from Africa? or African American? I would be Swedish English American 😁
I do something very similar. Except I say I have added you to my prayer groups prayer list. I am so thankful that I do have a group of people who actively get together once a week to pray for all of our listed petitions
You are a good teacher of His Word. May the Lord bless you even more!!
One quote that irritates me is, "The Lord helps those who help themselves."....this is a license to steal things. It is nonsense and false.....
...and is found *nowhere* in Scripture.
@@surlyogre1476 what? Is it really..?😧
Right on - Christians need to take scripture seriously not necessarily literally.
I don’t tell people I will pray for them. If they ask me to pray for them then I immediately bow my head and do so right then right there. It takes them a back at first. The people in the store may look on like I’m weird but I don’t care. People learn not to ask unless they are serious about wanting it done and we will go to our Father together. Often once done they will thank you because they were a part and got to hear your genuine love. Also it helps to cement in my mind that later, when I pray alone, my Dad will remind me to pray over their situation again.
Great video! As a counter argument for “stop saying everything has a reason”, the buck stops at God’s feet. The ultimate authority belongs to him, what he allows or doesn’t, etc. thats why Jesus said to Pilate “you would have no authority over me unless it was given from…”what? “…from up above.” That is what makes God Omni-potent, Omniscient, etc. its part of the “wrestling” as you said before with life. Now God is not the author of Evil but allows it for his purposes. For God “only gives us what we can handle”
How about "God's not done with you." This terrifies me as I have had the most awful last 3 yrs of constant loss/catastrophe/illness...what more does he plan to do me? I just want to hide. I am completely broken, battered and bruised.
Brandon I have to admit when I first stumbled on your videos I thought - ok here comes some more fundamentalist literalism - but man was I wrong! You talks are thoughtful, nuanced , and to me so on target ! I really love your wisdom and heart my friend .
Sunday morning? We keep Saturday =Sabbath! We worship on Sabbath!
But Resurrection was revealed "the first day after Shabbat". That's why we called it "dies dominica" = the Lord's day. And Christians celebrate Resurrection, not Shabbat.
@@Laurelin70 Changes nothing. Did Christ say the Sabbath would change. No. Did the Apostles still observe the Sabbath. Yes. God sanctified his day and not one scripture says it changed. Not one. God was clear. Keep the Sabbath holy and stop following the traditions of man. Who do you love more. YaH or man. Christ showed us he was the Lord of the Sabbath because he is Lord and our Lord gave us a day that our benefit. Hence why Sabbath was made for mankind.
Thank you. Remember to keep the Sabbath holy. Just as Christ did 🙏🏾❤️
I usually say I'm praying for you and then I'll pray for them right then either silently or out loud.
Merci - Hvala Brandon! So agréable to see and hear U
Also phrases:
“Help Yrself and God will help U”
What to say to someone who lost a beloved person and we don’t think the death person will go to heaven- the one left on earth believes they’ll meet again. Etc
Thank you for the better words to say.
The more I practice the better I get at these types of conversations.
I ask for Holy Spirit to help me.
My son has schizophrenia. I have prayed over and over for him to be healed. God is bigger than schizophrenia. He is all knowing and all powerful. He has not chosen to heal him yet. So I dont really see the difference between saying "everything happens for a reason " and that He works all things for good. ..I trust God and that is all. I dont think He wants my son in this condition anymore than I do. So isn't God choosing to leave him where he is for a reason? It is a faith builder for me. Praise His Holy Name!!!
Amen. The power of life and death is in the tongue.
did u know that our tongues are more dangerous than guns,etc. etc. ? Amen also for Brandon Robbins' sayings about what Christians need to say or not to say. God bless u all!
Everything happens for a reason is one of the things that Christians need to stop saying. That got so tiresome when my mother died. I also agree with not saying I pray for you unless you mean it. Thank you for this video and the reminder.
👍🏻👍🏻intelligent approaches. Thank you for all your post. Rock on!
One that REALLY gets to me is "O My God" It is really so common, it is almost used as a swear phrase.
Even "O my gosh!" Is too close for comfort!
there is 2 sides to that coin i am sure but a honest exclamation happen ?
Even “OMG” because it means the same as “Oh my God”
@@susanholding4355, Absolutely!
Yes! and using Jesus Christ, our Lord's name and who He is, is just, NOOOOO!!!!
So true, Brandon! Thanks for bringing them to our attention!
Some Christians have to stop saying " I am saved". Nobody is "saved" while they are still living Salvation is a life long battle. To say "i am saved" is comitting a sin of presumption against Hope.
We who are born again are “Saved”. As Paul wrote to the Ephesians in Ephesians 2:8-9
For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.
I pray for them in the moment. If I have time to read their post, I have time to pray for them.
8:19 Wrong statement. I know a young man who was an atheist. His mother died and everyone was saying "Sorry for your loss". Except one person who said, without missing a step, "I will pray for you and your family". This small kindness started this young atheist on a journey toward God and the Church.
I think your teachings are so well thought out and meaningful! Thank you! I do agree with you in the 5 things Christians should not say! Another is something I’ve had said to me regarding my autistic son, and I have had it said to me that if my faith was strong enough that he could be healed. That’s hurtful. I believe that God is using, and has used ever since our Benjamin was born, his life, his special needs as a way to show how God is using our Ben in ways to show God’s faithfulness♥️
I agree with you, Ann. That is so hurtful! I too have seen God use the lives of those with special needs to bless others and demonstrate faith. I often admired how my friends with special needs could worship God so freely. It was beautiful!
Hello Ann. My first thought when I read your reply about a comment made to you was beside it being hurtful, it was also theologically incorrect. Paul prayed for his "thorn in the flesh" to be removed three times. God didnt answer with "you need more faith". He said that in Paul's weakness God's grace and power would show. We aren't promised no struggles but that He would comfort us and give us His strength to endure. God bless.
@@BrandonRobbinsMinistry ..
God uses people with autism for his purpose too! One of the most powerful prayer warriors I ever met had Down’s syndrome. In fact, God enjoys using broken neurotypicals too. It shows that it’s Him and not us.
There’s another problem with the “just have faith” mantra. It takes away God’s sovereignty to decide to heal someone (or not).
I also have an autistic son, and have been told the same thing. I've even been told he's the result of sin! He's a challenge, but he's a gift of God, like any child, and his special challenges have helped me grow in my understanding of God as a parent who loves and cares for us regardless of our inadequacies. Hang in there, and don't believe the lies.
This is really spot on! Of course we can all think of a few more things we should stop saying. I really love your honest viewpoints, because they are all based on scripture.
"Good luck" is another one cuz "luck" doesn't exist
@@prestonmiller5827 Kudos to you! There is an old Scottish translation of the bible, that said in their language "Jacob was a lucky fellow" But really..... everything is ordained and preordained. (I cringe at saying that when someone is going through really hard times)
Thank you and God bless you!
How about 'God never gives you more than you can handle'. I am thinking God gives ME MORE than I can handle so I can lean on Him in my weakness.
A few years back, I decided I was not going to tell someone I was praying for them until I had actually prayed for them. I would say the prayer before saying that, or at the very least right after. Otherwise, just like you said, I would forget, and the good intentions would mean nothing.
Everything does happen for a reason: Isaiah 45:7 says, I form the light, and create darkness: I make peace, and create evil: I the LORD do all these things. And Ephesians 1:11 says, In Him we were also chosen as God’s own, having been predestined according to the plan of Him who works out everything by the counsel of His will. Also remember the conversation God and Job had after all that had happened to him. Tribulations are designed to get us closer to God.
Another one: "God never gives us more than we can handle". That implies that my trials are something that I can manage alone. It's a misinterpretation of the verses that say God never TESTS us beyond our ability to bear. I'm not sure trials and tests are the same thing, but I have also been told that according to the original (Greek?) What it says is "you ( singular) will not be tested beyond your (plural, as in y'all's) ability to bear. Some things too much for us to bear alone and we need the love and support of others to make it.
One of our church leaders taught us how to take care of that, so that we don’t falsely promise to pray for them. He said as he goes through the day and he he finds someone who needs prayers given he places them on the prayer roll of his heart. He knows he won’t remember the names by the end of the day so right there and then he says the name. That way it’s writing it on his heart and so that God can hear the names and know that he prays for them. I love this concept because it gets rid of the guilt I feel at not remembering a name. Quite often I’ll remember the situation of what needs to be prayed for and that really helps.
Church on Sunday, think about that brother, remember the Sabbath to keep it holly
I always pray if I say I’m going to. Always and usually right there and then.
We don't become angels. Humans are humans and angels are angels. I just told someone that 5 min ago.
Actually some humans are angels. Angels is just a messenger. I know what you mean though the Heavenly beings or Elohim or spirit being are their own kind of creature and humans are our own we don’t become them, and vise versa.
God created the angels. You're right Renee we will never be angels.
In Matthew 22:30 Jesus says "those accounted worthy to obtain that world shall neither marry nor be given in marriage, but shall be as the angels of God in heaven." So perhaps it's not the big deal everyone makes it out to be.
Literally nothing happens without the will of God. Nowhere in the Bible does Christ promise us happiness on earth... In fact, we are promised persecution and pain, but to hold to the faith, because our reward is in the next life, in our resurrected bodies.
..brother don't be disheartened when one comes to you and never comes back to that place. You may have served God more than you know.
When I tell people I'm gonna pray for them I set alarms for usually around 10pm with their names and a few words to remind me of their issues. Definitely helped me to stay true to my words and remember to pray for others not just myself. Give it a try!
I pray for the person right on the spot, even if silently. Because if I forget, then I lie, right?
Thank you, Brandon for your well thought out comments and for letting scripture speak of God's promises.
Fantastic, thank you for putting this out. I had struggled to find sensible, honest and humble interpretations. You are a light within the sea of bad theology.
I agree, when my daughter passed on 20 years ago people often said " the Lord picks the nicest rose", and when you've just lost you child that is the last thing you want to hear. Thank the Lord that He gave me peace in my heart to accept it.
If someone messages me and asks me to pray for them or a friend then I'll type a message then and there otherwise yes,the day gets busy and I do forget to pray later. I totally agree with you.
"it doesn't apply anymore," is the deepest rot of the modern church. God is the begining and the end, is was and is and ever shall be. He is unchanging and so are his laws and principles. So, Christians need to stop saying that something in scripture doesn't apply anymore, as if the world, humanity and sin have somehow changed - they haven't.
Excellent !
As for the "everything happens for a reason" ...it has become mainstream even in the secular world.... and my reply is, "it doesn't mean that everything happens for the right reasons"...or, "sometimes things happen for the wrong reasons".... and it serves as a great entry point to discuss the matter further, and ask the person, "what could have been done to improve the outcome", or "what reasons would justify the outcome",....for starters. Other questions can be formed.
I learned that my presence can say way more than my words ever could when I visit family members or friends that have lost a loved one.
Show up let your light shine and be pleasing to God the Father go serve that person or family in silence.
One of my not so favorites is “Jesus take the wheel”.
Mr Brandon, I've seen this passage translated with the word "sabbath": I like this translation better: “Which is lawful on the Sabbath: to do good or to do evil; to save life or to destroy it?” Thus Jesus, the Teacher, made clear to all that the law is made for man, not man for the law. It seems complicated for even the Christian leaders. Being faithful is a persons personal belief in the expression. Of course the words are more than guidlines, we all should meditate on them. Prayers for you and your ministry.
When someone dies, they it never a closer. Your hart, harts forever.
Thank you, thank you ,Thank you!!!
I've stopped going to "church". God is my savior, and I continue to study and believe, I just can't handle being put in a box, with black and white thinking. Long story...... Thank you❤️ you give me hope.
Brandon I’ve watched a good bit of your videos and I just wanna say keep it up man these videos are great and if I’m being honest you have called a lot of my behaviors as a Christian in check and it is giving me a lot more clarity on my walk with Christ love the videos god bless and amen
When we say "I'll pray for you", it would be best to do it right then and there so you don't forget. Otherwise, we would be held accountable for what we say, and it is sobering to realize that though we mean well, it costs us our integrity too!
In South Africa they often use lines like "a woman's tears never falls in vain" it's a way of saying "God favors me" but they say it as a form of a curse that who ever made or caused them pain God will punish them.
And Christians always say "God favors me" and at the same time they cause pain to others.
Yes, one thing that we need to stop saying that becomes very negative: I hate that food. I hate that show. I have it when people do that. I hate it when people cut me off, I hate it when someone doesn't say thanks, I hate it when someone lies to you. I mean how many times a day? Who are we giving glory to, not God? When we curb that habit it makes a huge difference in our lives and our empathy grows. Thanks, brother Brandon.
Yes, had to really keep on my kids on that one, don't say you hate, hate, hate....you don't like this or that, this or that irritates you, arrrrrgh that makes me cringe, anything is better than hate, don't be a hater!
Thank you, we're all guilty of all these sayings. I will be more conscious about them.
I’m on board with all except the everything happens for a reason, God doesn’t cause the pain but it happens when we aren’t holding up our end and he uses it to teach us.
You are always helpful. Thank you
Great video, Brandon.
Thank you! These 'stop saying these 5 things' is so true. Hard times doesn't mean 'there's a reason'.
Look up The Butterfly Affect, then come back to reread your comment! Even the heathen have more faith than many Christians!
Here's an easy one... We shouldn't be telling people the will be going to hell if they don't stop doing or don't start doing such & such. We are not to judge... correct in kindness, but not judge, for we will be judged by the same standard. I'd rather let Yahusha judge with his mercy.
I am in TOTAL agreement with you about the "I'll pray for you", and they don't. I am trying really hard to do what I say or not say it all and this to me is HUGE!
"Let's pray about this. Father..."
Well done! It seems we often quote bumper sticker sentiments, not contextualized biblical truths :) Another phrase I cringe at is, "God won't give you more than you can handle." Yikes -- nowhere does the bible say that, nowhere does it imply it by parable or psalm or historical narratives or .... anything! Again, it makes God look like a cosmic ogre from whom we shouldn't ask help, because if it's happening to us, WE must be able to handle it, after all. It implies He GIVES us MORE of whatever "more" is, but we can suffer through it for the reason of...hmmmm, dunno!
That phrase is a misuse of 1 Corinthians 10:13.
There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.
Whatever the situation is, God gives us grace. Jesus is the Way.
@@glennmelven3414 Absolutely correct, and if only folks would see that it is about preventative measures in regard to sin, not general life hardships.
@@kimberlymiller3262 So well put!
I saw many often use 1Peter 1:6 out of context too, maybe have probably used it on myself lol, while i am sick !!!!!😡😡😡😡🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🥵🥵🥵
Yeah, you are right, I really don't like that one. We hear about Christians being beheaded in the Middle East. Is that something they could handle?
Amen brother!!! I totally agree with you!!🙏💕🙏
Thank you SOOOO much for #3. It reflects a doctrine of predetermination that is not substantiated in scripture. I always think of Ecclesiastes 9:11: “time and chance happeneth to them all…” (KJV). Without that single phrase, I could not accept God in any sense, let alone Christianity.
Saturday is the Sabbath. The 7th Day. Why can't people see that? It blows my mind. Sunday is the 1st Day. The RCC changed it! And I want to make it clear that I am NOT a 7th Day Adventist.
If "everything happens for a reason" is not true, then we end up with questions about how powerful God really is and the words "you intended it for evil, but God intended it for good" are impossible. I will agree those words are often used in a useless way.
I fear God not because He obeys the Law, but because the Law obeys Him.
Awesome way to teach.
Go, Brandon👍💪
We need more of that.
"All things" include good things, not just bad things.
The statement is always used for encouraging those who are going through bad things. It becomes to mean, in the emotions, that only bad things work together for good. It causes people to gravitate towards bad things, since they work together for good.
We should gravitate to good things, not gravitate towards misery.
All things work together towards good, even good things!
8:20 Everytime , Everytime , i said , i was Goign to pray for someone ,, i did ,, and not Jsut Once , i would Go Everyday , multiple Times a day , praying For them .. i Actually Pray , God , i pray for More Prayers , i want to Learn for more things to pray for , and to Pray for them ..
Excellent. We need to be more empathetic to anyone who has suffered loss. To say everything happens for a reason may be true but it is not what people want to hear when they're suffering. I think a better response might be, "I don't know why you are having to suffer this, but I'm hear to listen and to share your sorrow. God wants to offer you comfort for your pain."
Discover, Deepen, Do, Disciple. Salvation, Study the Word, Serve at Church and with others, Teach others and support others in their walk with God.
I began watching you with The Chosen talks. I really learned so much today. My husband was bedridden for 7 years before he passed. I loved repeating Jerimiah; it gave me peace BUT now the "you" wasn't me. And with the UMC split, I found peace in that also. So if the words give us peace, is it harm to think the words were for us. I am new in the Bible at age 80, sorry to say that. But I am really trying to catch up.
God Bless You....
There is POWER in the WORD the LORD speaks through YOU, thank you Yahavah for giving Brandon theses messages.
Bless You Brandon.
Very helpful. Thank you.
I literally turned away from God as a child because someone said God needed my brother in Heaven.
If you're saying "I'll pray for you" you NEED top stop right then and pray for them. Surely we can all spare 1 minute to do that!
I’m new to this channel thanks to the livestreams from the chosen and snipe life. I really enjoy this quote, I’m going to put it on my wall this weekend! “God didn’t cause it, but He can redeem it” Romans 8:28
I love it!
Romans 8:28
All things work to the good of those who love the LORD and are called according to HIS purpose.
I have done a video on this years ago but don’t even have 200 followers, would love to change that, but I was dying laughing at your sincerity and fact throwing, so good!
Exactly : when I say I will pray for someone I do... If we say we will pray for someone online... Do it there and then... Just yesterday a friend lost someone. .. They put up a post on FB and I responded with 'Praying' as I prayed.....
Thank yoooou! I had these questions in my head and right when i watch this. It just gives me a sign that the holy father answered my questions. and that makes me happy! Praise the lord!
And of course, i agree with you, keep up the great work brother 👍💖
I have basically given up on prayer, and I certainly stopped telling people that I would pray for them. Telling them that would be lying and lying is a sin. Besides, it's harmful. I quit praying about a year ago because God doesn't like my prayers anymore. I don't know why, but He doesn't. Whenever I pray, the situation Always gets worse! ALWAYS. It is what it is.