true self confidence comes from self esteem (especially for autistic people), false confidence comes from appearing to be somebody which is easier to do for neurotypicals and not so much for autistic people. Even women who camouflage well struggle with self confidence until they embrace self esteem. But in order to have self esteem you need to understand yourself very well. Which is why late diagnosis can be really tricky cos we created our social personnality on false confidence in order to survive (with all the consequences that go with it...). Thanks as always for your great videos!!!
I feel like I lack the confidence to tell my parents about the job I want because I’m worried they’ll say no and I feel the need too add that I do have ADHD and autism.
As a Mum of a 16yr old I would like to say that it is your choice and not your parents. Your parents should want you to be happy, and if they don't, then you may need to find some other supportive role models. So follow your heart. However, even if you get pushed down one track, that isn't the end. You will have decades of adulthood to retrain and go in many different directions.
Especially if you're not heard in your own family while growing up and what you say gets ignored, I truly had to love myself and didn't realize that I didn't until others who knew me kept saying love who you are, big wakeup call that i needed
All forms if autism is an evil condition that should be prevented and treated at all costs. The amount of People saying there shouldn't be a cure is criminal
I stopped caring how people see me, and it really does help in making me feel better about myself. I used to suppress my stimming to please others, and now I allow myself to do it
youve got to overcome the anxiety of what you think other people are thinking of you. I had that moment when swimming with my shirt off for the first time lol i had worked myself up to it for a while.
I’ve shared all your videos with my son/daughter in law, who’s two grown sons both have Aspergers, one autistic and ADHD with seizures since infancy he’s 33 now, very sad. The other is high functioning, is 22 he’s a welder for Volvo, but struggles socially…You have helped me understand a lot, so I’m passing it on. May God richly bless you for caring and sharing 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻
It took me a long time but I love me. I am starting to love my mind too. Being nicer to my mind especially. It took being brave at first when I started to want to actually live and try to be my best. I love your channel and relate to most of your content.
I wish the job market and businesses were more forgiving and understanding of this. I've always been mediocre to horrible with job interviews, usually getting lucky to land an entry level job. The last two long-term jobs, i got them either because a family member works there and referred me, or I got in as a temp. Both jobs, I had to really take advantage of opportunities, that I wouldn't see from the outside, to rise through the ranks in order to make something of my situation.
🎩Hi. I had that problem just yesterday. I’ve been wanting to take my flute to the woods to play for ages, and I finally got up the nerve to do it. But when I got there, there were other cars in the car park so I totally bottled it. And then when I was in the woods I just thought what have I done. I get this all the time. It’s a horrible feeling.
I would have loved to have listened to someone playing the flute - although I would be disappointed if you didn't have loads of wildlife sat listening to you.
You know what gets me? Is when you go to join a group on Discord, and the group all encourages you to be yourself (and tries to convince you that they experience the world the same way as you do), and so you go and be yourself; and guess what happens? I introduce a new concept that they never heard before, they laugh at it, make fun of it (and make fun of me for identifying with the term), then try to invalidate the term, and after making fun and being rude they go: "Oh we just being silly . . ." (to excuse the rudeness I guess). And you know what happens? I start pulling away, and they start to assume that I am just too sensitive, and then seem more timid about chatting with me; and our whole dynamic that we had going on is ruined. And it feels like I am the one to blame for just not letting people treat me as a punching bag; I don't understand it! And I find that most often, people don't treat each other that way, but they will treat ME that way, and then seem to get caught off-guard, or act like they're the victim when I say anything about it (if I say it too nice and sweet, they don't take me seriously; if I am too cold, they don't want to talk to me (I wasn't being right out blunt about it either)). I don't understand the temptation that people have to disrespect somebody. It's as if they feel like they have to walk on eggshells, just because I am not going to allow them to make fun of my Autism and sexual orientation (demisexual). Why do people feel like they have to walk on eggshells if you tell them not to disrespect you? Is it THAT difficult to just show common sense mannerisms? Do people feel THAT great of an urge to act disrespectfully? If so, why?
Because NO ONE cares about your sexuality. No one should even know what you do with whomever. Keep putting your sexuality front and center, and people will keep pulling away. Bedroom habits should be private
I'm isolating. Its a bummer too. Cuz I can't strike up a conversation for sht. Especially now that explaining myself seems pointless. I'll be alone on this couch for like three weeks. If someone checks up on me and they haven't been this year. I think they're sick of me.
I think I heard Randy making noise at the end of the video, isn't he sweet. Well, let me say that said it very well about lack of self-confidence for me, but in the end I am OK with myself and who I am, so I am good, thanks.
Thank you for great content. My self esteem is below zero. The n.t. people in my neighborhood decided years ago that I am rude, crazy and scary, whattt??!!!, scary!!! The NT's are bullying me for years and years. When I get meltdowns because of their bullying, they say that I might be dangerous!! I really wish that the NT's will educate themselves about aspergers. They know absolutely nothing about it!!! The NT's are scary themselves
Being autistic and dyslexia severe and having the Einstein syndrome also having the same iq as Einstein i mostly think but i feel like my disorders are making my goals
Does being on the spectrum, and growing up in a family that abides by a high control group, have effects on your self confidence? I wonder which can be which sometimes.
No one should have to live with autism ever. It's a tragedy and a fate much worse than death that should be prevented at all costs. It makes me very sad to see people suffer with this evil condition
true self confidence comes from self esteem (especially for autistic people), false confidence comes from appearing to be somebody which is easier to do for neurotypicals and not so much for autistic people. Even women who camouflage well struggle with self confidence until they embrace self esteem. But in order to have self esteem you need to understand yourself very well. Which is why late diagnosis can be really tricky cos we created our social personnality on false confidence in order to survive (with all the consequences that go with it...). Thanks as always for your great videos!!!
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🎉 I'm A Proud 🦚 Member of The San Diego County California USA Community Autism Society Since December 4 Of 2019!!!!
I feel like I lack the confidence to tell my parents about the job I want because I’m worried they’ll say no and I feel the need too add that I do have ADHD and autism.
Dont ask. Just do😊
As a Mum of a 16yr old I would like to say that it is your choice and not your parents. Your parents should want you to be happy, and if they don't, then you may need to find some other supportive role models. So follow your heart. However, even if you get pushed down one track, that isn't the end. You will have decades of adulthood to retrain and go in many different directions.
I know that feeling but sometimes it is so hard to keep things in. Good luck with your new job I believe in you!
It's your choice. Don't let anyone take that freedom away from you...
Especially if you're not heard in your own family while growing up and what you say gets ignored, I truly had to love myself and didn't realize that I didn't until others who knew me kept saying love who you are, big wakeup call that i needed
All forms if autism is an evil condition that should be prevented and treated at all costs. The amount of People saying there shouldn't be a cure is criminal
I stopped caring how people see me, and it really does help in making me feel better about myself. I used to suppress my stimming to please others, and now I allow myself to do it
youve got to overcome the anxiety of what you think other people are thinking of you. I had that moment when swimming with my shirt off for the first time lol i had worked myself up to it for a while.
I’ve shared all your videos with my son/daughter in law, who’s two grown sons both have Aspergers, one autistic and ADHD with seizures since infancy he’s 33 now, very sad. The other is high functioning, is 22 he’s a welder for Volvo, but struggles socially…You have helped me understand a lot, so I’m passing it on. May God richly bless you for caring and sharing 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻
It took me a long time but I love me. I am starting to love my mind too. Being nicer to my mind especially. It took being brave at first when I started to want to actually live and try to be my best. I love your channel and relate to most of your content.
I wish the job market and businesses were more forgiving and understanding of this. I've always been mediocre to horrible with job interviews, usually getting lucky to land an entry level job. The last two long-term jobs, i got them either because a family member works there and referred me, or I got in as a temp. Both jobs, I had to really take advantage of opportunities, that I wouldn't see from the outside, to rise through the ranks in order to make something of my situation.
🎩Hi. I had that problem just yesterday. I’ve been wanting to take my flute to the woods to play for ages, and I finally got up the nerve to do it. But when I got there, there were other cars in the car park so I totally bottled it. And then when I was in the woods I just thought what have I done. I get this all the time. It’s a horrible feeling.
I would have loved to have listened to someone playing the flute - although I would be disappointed if you didn't have loads of wildlife sat listening to you.
You know what gets me? Is when you go to join a group on Discord, and the group all encourages you to be yourself (and tries to convince you that they experience the world the same way as you do), and so you go and be yourself; and guess what happens? I introduce a new concept that they never heard before, they laugh at it, make fun of it (and make fun of me for identifying with the term), then try to invalidate the term, and after making fun and being rude they go: "Oh we just being silly . . ." (to excuse the rudeness I guess). And you know what happens? I start pulling away, and they start to assume that I am just too sensitive, and then seem more timid about chatting with me; and our whole dynamic that we had going on is ruined. And it feels like I am the one to blame for just not letting people treat me as a punching bag; I don't understand it! And I find that most often, people don't treat each other that way, but they will treat ME that way, and then seem to get caught off-guard, or act like they're the victim when I say anything about it (if I say it too nice and sweet, they don't take me seriously; if I am too cold, they don't want to talk to me (I wasn't being right out blunt about it either)). I don't understand the temptation that people have to disrespect somebody. It's as if they feel like they have to walk on eggshells, just because I am not going to allow them to make fun of my Autism and sexual orientation (demisexual). Why do people feel like they have to walk on eggshells if you tell them not to disrespect you? Is it THAT difficult to just show common sense mannerisms? Do people feel THAT great of an urge to act disrespectfully? If so, why?
Because NO ONE cares about your sexuality. No one should even know what you do with whomever. Keep putting your sexuality front and center, and people will keep pulling away. Bedroom habits should be private
It be like that😊❤😊
Love you and I get that I keep to myself.
I understand what you mean and it sadly seems to be what the world is or has evolved into....
Thanks guys! I think that this may be the only place where I feel like I can fully share my thoughts and feelings 🌷💕.
My son is 42 & has literally locked himself into his unit for the past 16+yrs. He's sweet but can't say no. I don't know what to do anymore.😢
Thank you.
I'm isolating. Its a bummer too. Cuz I can't strike up a conversation for sht. Especially now that explaining myself seems pointless. I'll be alone on this couch for like three weeks. If someone checks up on me and they haven't been this year. I think they're sick of me.
I think I heard Randy making noise at the end of the video, isn't he sweet. Well, let me say that said it very well about lack of self-confidence for me, but in the end I am OK with myself and who I am, so I am good, thanks.
Confidence is key! Love this video. I can’t wait for my book to arrive!
Thank you for great content.
My self esteem is below zero. The n.t. people in my neighborhood decided years ago that I am rude, crazy and scary, whattt??!!!, scary!!!
The NT's are bullying me for years and years. When I get meltdowns because of their bullying, they say that I might be dangerous!! I really wish that the NT's will educate themselves about aspergers. They know absolutely nothing about it!!!
The NT's are scary themselves
I have autism. I like mountain bikes. I also like Airbus A321
Being autistic and dyslexia severe and having the Einstein syndrome also having the same iq as Einstein i mostly think but i feel like my disorders are making my goals
Daaaawwww ❣️ @3:45 on made my day
Does being on the spectrum, and growing up in a family that abides by a high control group, have effects on your self confidence? I wonder which can be which sometimes.
To me it sounds like both!
@@zynlove6867 really? How so?
How are you supposed to feel after everyone you used to know got lost?
In everyway
i wish we had access to pills like that in canada
These ship world wide
EEEEEK, BEETLES!!!!!!!!!!
You can't just tell people to "get lost" when those people are co-workers, or bosses.
You 100% can
Supposed homeopathic remedies are no better than placebos.
Noooooo! Why are you shilling for homeopathic sugar pills? Please don’t join the snake oil brigade
cringy lazy platitudes at the end.
No one should have to live with autism ever. It's a tragedy and a fate much worse than death that should be prevented at all costs. It makes me very sad to see people suffer with this evil condition
Speak for yourself. Not everyone hates being autistic. Some people enjoy it.
@@Catlily5 that's because they're confused
@@pinkpinkpink7717 Maybe they would say the same about you! Your opinion has no more worth than theirs.
@@pinkpinkpink7717ignore those two, I got you.
I think so too, I’ll defy autism