This is the best video about hand stims I have ever seen. I have been doing the spider fingers most, since childhood, now I have a name for it. Thank you for showing these videos, I don´t feel that alone. It is nice to see that you talk about these things so openly and with acceptance. I have a very subtle form of the third and the fifth. But I do other hand stims which are not mentioned here.
I have found most people whom say videos like this shouldn't be on the internet, come from those less aware about what Autism Spectrum Disorder really is. These videos are important. Thank you. I'm a mom of 4, both my boys, also my youngest both have Autism (3 1/2yrs and 22 months). Your family and fathering Autism have been my biggest inspiration. Learning every day and I will continue too, because it is an always changing Disorder.
@@edenschannel101 yes, I pushed and so did help me grow. My oldest son, was delayed so it wasn't an issue with getting him in therapies and such. And when I pointed out my concern for ASD his main E.I listened to me and helped push it. He was around 18months, no older than that. And when my youngest was born I already knew esp with him being a boy, it was a high chance. I paid attention to all the little "red flags" (I hate that term) and I started noticing pretty young but didn't push for it right away. He is even more delayed. In all the therapies as well, he will be 2 on the 26th of this month. And he still isn't walking. He will take at most 7 steps on his own and fall down. We work with him every day multiple times a day, have ruled out soooo many possibilities. It just seems like he isn't wanting too, or caring about doing it too much. But he is getting better with it each day. It's also easier to get your second child diagnosed.
For real. I never knew other people did this until I saw this video! It’s especially great for new parents to see it so they’re aware that it’s something to get checked out! I know my parents never gave these behaviors a second thought because I didn’t have any major delays.
@@timothycole9232 fair enough but when children are quite young and not able to express themselves so well, there's nothing wrong with their parents attempting to help the neurotypical world understand their child. The child should obviously lead and be at the centre of this understanding.
I’m an autistic adult woman, and I was on the fence about how I felt about this video until you shared that you have your sons’ permission to show them exhibiting their autism-specific behaviors. You’re absolutely right. There’s nothing shameful or wrong with these behaviors, and the reason I would feel shame if I was filmed doing them is because I was raised in a less supportive environment by people who taught me shame. My fiancé thinks my arm flapping and leg tapping are really cute, and it is wonderful to see parents who find joy in their children’s natural expressions of joy rather than wishing it was different or “normal”. I needed this today. Would you mind thanking your boys for being willing to share their lives with us? And thank you for calling their stims cute. It makes me happy that my fiancé isn’t the only one who can appreciate the way I express joy overload. ❤
We noticed my son’s stimming actions when he started to walk about 12 months old. It was the cutest thing! He’s 4 now and we still love it! I think he’s the most adorable little boy in the world. A lot of people who don’t realize he may be autistic (no diagnosis yet) comment about how cute he is… I wonder sometimes if they would feel the same way if they knew. But I don’t care. It’s what makes him special. ❤ I’m so happy you have a wonderful fiance that appreciates you for who you are and adores the special things about you!!
@@PlusVK22as a 25 year old adult with autism, I can tell you it's definitely easier to mask stimming. I've never been able to "control" my ticks or stimming.
I do almost all of those hand stims, but "subtled down". Being born in theearly seventies, the stims were not accepted and i was bodyly reprimanded for doing them, so I tried to find ways to keep stimming when needed and do it in baggy clothes, with hands in hoodie pockets, or calming my sensory system by always "carrying my house with me" in form of a heavy backpack. The tapping on the back of my head is done with a ruler, pen, a stuffed animal with bean bag limbs or similar. I learned, it is calming the vagus nerve aswell as the chest plate area, so intuitively those stims take a calming effect and are even now taught as a "skill"for people who need assistance in regulating their emothions. I am all for normalizing, as long as the stims cause no harm to the person or the ones surrounding the person. Throwing heavy stuff is also something calming to me, so I kind of enjoy making wood into chunks that then can be usey in the wood stove, and once they are sawed, chopped and stacked, there was a lot of "heavy lifting and throwing" and besides me being calm and happy, we have wood ready for the cold season. I tell the newly diagnosed families who come to or group meetings about how important stimming is, and that even twirling hair, tapping with ballpoint pens, snipping, and such normal seeming actions are stimming, and the only distinction is, that some of it is already normalized, and other stims still seem too strange to the unknowing onlooker.
Hello I am the parent of an adult with Austin. I am sorry you had to go through that in the 1970s. I will be 60 in a few months so I remember the era well. Yes we have come a long way with our knowledge and education for special needs children and adults. Very important to be making and sharing these videos for all of the community. Good luck to you¡👍👍😃🙏🙏
Do you think adults who need to speak in public, in order to hide the stimming, put stress on their hands to the point that they turn red and shake slightly? I know a wonderful person who may be doing this.
Thanks to the boys for letting us have this window into your lives! I flap hands, I shake my head. Always severely discouraged as a child, never officially diagnosed, almost forty, not masking anymore. Glad you three live in a more supportive environment than I did.
SAME. I'm 38 years old, female, never diagnosed..they weren't testing us quiet, bookish types in the 90s. Always the boys that "acted out" (meltdown) and couldn't sit still (stims).
I watch these videos because I am a teacher and they help me alot because I have no training on how to deal with autism in my classroom. Those who don't want you to put these incredible videos on line should go and analyze their humanity and transform their hearts because obviously they do not have one. ❤ you guys, thanks a million.
Teacher here, too! Education on simming is great, but seeing simming for oneself is imperative to truly understand it. I thank the dad who posted this video.
I thank you teachers who want to understand autism. I have a 15 year old granddaughter who has autism. And I have a grandson who is autistic. Non verbal. He is 7 years old. I love these videos. To you amazing teachers. This grandma thanks you for caring. You Rock!!
Thankyou for caring. Over the years we have dealt with many educators who refused information. “I only read the Bible” they say. From a teacher? Yikes.
Oh, another teacher here! we really don't get a lot of training about this in my country so I'm doing all the extra research that I can! I'm absolutely interesting in this, mainly because I know the importance of being well educated, it really can change things ❣️ way to go
Massive respect to yall. Teaching is a great but hugely underappreciated profession and I personally think way too much is asked of you. Teaching 20-30 different students with different abilities and learning styles all at the same time all while keeping an eye out for signs of abuse or mental health issues and learning difficulties. not to mention being paid pennies. One of the best teacher I ever had actually taught me some hard lessons I needed to learn. I don't know if she knew I was autistic or not but she didn't treat me differently for it and didn't let me dominate the lessons I excelled in. I didn't learn much from her academically but I learned things much more valuable instead
I’ve just cried for the first time in years. I’m currently awaiting a date for my autism assessment at age 29, in the UK this can be years of waiting. The first stim you mentioned, spider fingers, is something I’ve done and still do almost every minute of every day and yet it’s something up until now I’d never seen mentioned anywhere. There are times, as recently as Christmas Eve, where it’s almost so strong of an urge that it’s frustrating. You have no idea how much of a sense of normality this video has just given me. Thank you so much
To be honest, I’m a late diagnoses case. Forced to grow up without understanding why you’re so different and can’t fit in with peers is a struggle. As I’m still trying to relearn myself after 7 years since the diagnosis, I really appreciate and fully back up educating folks on the subject. Any medical conditions I feel should openly be discussed to help shed light and bring awareness. Thanks to you all!
I like how u described it as “forced to grow up not understanding why your different” cuz that’s exactly how it feels for late diagnosed people. I remember literally crying and wishing out loud that I wish I was “normal”. I never understood why others didn’t like or understand me. Once I got my diagnosis I realised just how hard it was being undiagnosed growing up, im so glad I found out eventually 🤍 I’m at peace with myself about it now
I’m late diagnosed autistic, your videos are sooo helpful as I’ve spent most of my life suppressing things like stimming. I’m still recovering and it gives me hope seeing families like yours. Thank you to your whole family for these videos, they help me so much!
I'm autistic and I do some of the stims like spider fingers, wing flapping and chest pounding but the stims i do are mainly hand flapping, vocal stims, pacing, rocking back and forth, jumping and scripting and walking on tip toes 😊
@@carrieestridge7583 Scripting is the repetition of words, phrases, or sounds from other people's speech. Most commonly scripting phrases and sounds are from movies, tv, or other sources like books or people they interact with. Scripting is common with people on the autistic spectrum. 😊
Love this so much. I am a former SPED teacher and a neurodiverse mom, with a husband and toddler who are also neurodiverse. It is amazing and beautiful to listen to you speak about your children with such obvious love and warmth. To understand that stimming is a functional behavior is extremely critical for so many reasons, the same way it is important to me that my daughter is allowed to move her body, dance and sing to channel her excess energy due to ADHD. I look at these behaviors, and see something really amazing in them after so many years of working with kiddos on the spectrum, and suspecting I myself and my husband might be. I see not just the self-regulation aspects, but also the communicative aspects, the features of timing, rate, rhythm, and pattern that go into stimming. I think about how meditative states as well as hypnosis, rely so heavily on focusing on repetitive ideas or a fixed visual target that moves repetitively. How repetition reveals the order in things that otherwise seem disordered, how a little bit of white noise can cancel out the static that hides an inner message being communicated. I think of it almost in my own body like a way of creating internal white noise. It evens out, mutes and softens the intensity of the outside world, as focusing on our bodies and sensations can essentially mute and control the volume of the world around us. I think of that familiar motion of holding our hands over our ears as children and making a strange sound simply by moving our hands on top and away from our ears. Even in silence it produces a sound... and how powerful we are to have both modes of focusing - the inner world and the outer world... both able to soothe us when one is too loud, chaotic and intense for comfort. I think about the many arts practiced by cultures around the world for healing - such as reiki, acupuncture, tapping, and massage, and realize how the therapeutic potential for touch has been limited by our ideas about what kind of self soothing is "normal" and what kind is "pathological." But if a behavior is functional, regulating and stabilizing, how can it be considered undesirable, or even wrong/bad? My husband always holds his arm in a way that makes me think of a baby bird, against his chest, and the sight of that arm, bent very specifically tells me it is him, and I just love when that wing reaches out and pulls me in so close and safe. Keep sharing. The people who do not want to see autistic children being themselves can take those emotions and their sense of fear and learn to regulate it - just as we all used to know how to do using our bodies - rocking, singing, and swaying side to side to calm ourselves after a bad dream, or shaking the nervousness out along our arms before trying something new and scary... What a sad world to live in where a self-soothing and regulating behavior should be considered aberrant. How unfortunate that so many people are denied their power to regulate and stabilize using the most basic of all tools - our own hands. What pills would we throw into the wind if only we could remember how to dance our nervous energy into the air around us, and ground it into the earth.
I am so happy that you haven't listened to anyone who has said that you shouldn't post these videos. I am absolutely grateful I found this video. My youngest grandson is 11 years old, he's the youngest of twins. His older brother is perfectly healthy, no problems whatsoever however his "little" brother is non-verbal autistic. He makes many of these same motions. My daughter had a very hard time accepting his diagnosis when he was around 2 years old, but has come to terms with it & does everything she can for him. He also has another older brother who is 14 & he's so good with his little brother. They've had to buy inside locks for the doors on their house because the youngest just LOVES being outside, swimming is his favorite. But he is also very quick & very quiet. I just love him so much, I love all my grandsons & I like videos that I can relate to & videos that help me understand things like autism. Thank you so much for sharing this & the life you live with these 3 extraordinary boys. I pray someday my youngest will start talking, but even if he doesn't, he is still one of the most important & precious things in my life. Grandma life is the best life. 🥰🥰🥰
It's always interesting to see children doing the same stims I've had for nearly sixty years. Fun to tell their parents "You know he'll never outgrow that" 😁
@@PlusVK22It's like breathing: it tends to happen automatically, but you generally have full control over it if you devote attention to it, and it gets uncomfortable if you hold it too long. Some of it is more conscious than other stuff (visual stims tend to be more consciously directed, I'm not sure it quite rises to the level of "deliberate", in that it tends to be an idle curiosity / boredom thing).
These boys are adorable. And yes awareness is so important. I’ve known my son was on the autism spectrum since he was a year old, he was stimming by then, but despite trying to get a proper diagnosis I was always being told that while he showed many hallmarks of autism that he wasn’t showing enough symptoms to formally diagnosis. Instead different places always told us totally different things, once it was considered adhd, then oppositional defiant disorder, another time OCD because he was washing his hands a lot. Maybe if we had resources like this back then he would have gotten more the appropriate help. This was really brave of your boys to want to help make this content to educate others. It makes a difference for many I’m sure. Really awesome!
If a stim is causing injury it's not calming. I do a mix between the neck and the chest I tap my chest as a stim in a similar way. Hand flapping from my experience is not painful and less than someone cracking their knuckles for example. I believe Ian being open about his autism has helped him to overcome a lot and grow. Love all 3 of your boys. Wouldn't want them any other way.
Thank you for this beautiful video, I am an adult recently diagnosed with Autism and ADHD, I've had to learn a lot since most of my behaviors are subtle and I became very good at masking. This content is very educational and has helped me understand a lot of things I didn't know about me. I wish all of you nothing but the best, and please thank your boys for being so open to help others learn. Thank you for taking the time and explaining so clearly, it shows the love and understanding you have for your family. ❤
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
Finally I can relate to somebody. Usually when I watch a video that I love or it satisfies me I usually squeeze my leg or press my fingers on my nose. And I think stemming is sort of a physical way to show how passionate the kids are about something
I display all these as an autistic adult. I am 27 and was diagnosed only 2 years ago. The one I do the most is finger stims like one handed clapping and spider fingers as you called them! (I like those names by the way) and those tend to be my happy stims, along with what I call “happy hands” which is when I flap my hands really fast or run my palms together really hard and fast. My anxious or unhappy stims tend to be when I’m hitting my chest or tapping my head. My friends and family know when I do that I need to leave if I’m not already going for the door. My fiancé is the most receptive to that need and will follow me to make sure I’m okay. Sorry for this being so long, I just really like seeing stims because I share many stims with other neurodivergent people and it makes me feel less alone when I see them. Thanks for your videos
I wIsh other people noticed I was getting that stressed because I progressed from openly flapping, rocking and pulling out my hair to having to go to another room and self harm with sharp objects because people are being too noisy etc
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
Thank you so so so much for posting this information. I have had the feeling since my son was six or seven months old that he is on the autism spectrum. I have pushed with family, friends, and doctors to have him evaluated but almost everyone has disagreed with me or treated my concern with a "what's the rush" kind of attitude. He is now four and his mother is JUST NOW beginning to agree with me. As I fill out paperwork to finally start moving forward with having him evaluated your video has helped me assign words to the type of stimming I've seen him exhibit this entire time. It's been very disheartening to have my concerns shut down over these last few years and every time I've tried to move things forward for him feeling like I don't have the permission to. This video is very helpful and empowering. Thank you and your family so much.
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
These videos are soooo important to Autism. They need to be shared far and wide to help people understand. I was diagnosed with autism just a few months ago- I'm 31.... so apparently I have been very good at hiding it and still trying to understand it myself. I don't stim this much, mine is much more subtle, and I know how much it upsets people to see, so I mostly hide it unless I'm really overwhelmed or excited. I tap my fingers together or click my fingers if I'm upset by something and jump around and flap my hands when excited. I also do the one handed clapping, I call it a bird beak lol.
Thank you for your video’s I am new to the autism world. I enjoy that I see in your video’s you take your children everywhere, that brings joy to my heart they are too beautiful to hide them because they have a disability.
My granddaughter was just diagnosed with autism, and she is only 3 years old. These videos help me understand what she is going to go through and how I can make her life better. Thank you and your family for doing these videos.
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
I was never diagnosed, but I believe I have been a maladaptive daydreamer since early childhood. I was constantly daydreaming these vivid dreams, and I used to "flap my wings" as my mom and sister used to say. It was incredibly embarrassing for me, my older sister used to bully me, so I got better at hiding it over time. Seeing these hand stims just brought me back to all those times I couldn't help daydreaming, and how I would just stim and get laughed at. Seeing your children do similar things and knowing you're being supportive brought me to tears. I'm 33 now, I still catch myself doing things with my hands since the daydreaming never went away, so the stimulus that would cause it is still there, but I'm much better around people and outside. Alone however, I still do it sometimes, and I still feel that embarrassment of letting myself do it, whether its voluntary or not.
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
From a female autistic perspective; obviously as said these stims can look different between people. In my case I exhibit most of these in masked forms. Spider hands is tapping my thumb tip to each fingertip in sequence. My bird hands are wrist/knuckle cracking. Neck tapping is rubbing the back of my head (I have very short hair) so the fuzzy feeling feels good on my hand but it looks like I'm just smoothing my hair down or something. Trumpet came out as nail biting but I'm getting better at that. I don't really do chest pound when out and about as it doesn't have a masked behaviour but I do make a similar noise at home. I can't speak for your boys but for me its actually an audible stim vs a physical one. It's the hollow sound of my hand on the side of my ribs that helps me regulate. Something to note is that I am in my late 20s, I unintentionally learned to mask as a child when teachers and other adults would scold me for being disruptive (I wasnt diagnosed until 12 and even then there was not much understanding) and now the masked behaviours are my natural stims; to do a more exaggerated version feels forced and doesn't give me the same soothing feeling as my smaller ones. At home I do a lot of audible stims as I can't do them in public.
I’m just newly ASD diagnosed at almost 42. I just realized I do spider fingers when I’m watch tv, or playing a game on my phone..etc. ❤ Thanks for helping me learn about my new diagnosis!!
I'm an early years educator and I strive to understand my student's needs, strengths and shortcomings so I can better help them reach their goals and potential. Your video helps not only people who are taking care of those who are already diagnosed, but also others who are around people that might need some special attention. Thank you for uploading this. You have a beautiful family - their genuine laughter is heartwarming.
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
Thank you for your courage, I have grandchildren that fall just outside the spectrum but suffer the same symptoms and rude people that don't understand.
Thank you for an informative and educational video. I am not someone on the autism spectrum but I wholeheartedly agree that people who are should not be hidden away in some dark room and forgotten. You're absolutely correct, we are all equal. I have mental health difficulties so I understand stigma and how society devalues people it considers burdensome. Bravo to your boys, allowing themselves onto social media, a place which isn't always known as friendly, nevermind respectful. Happy Christmas to you and your family. May 2023 bring acceptance, compassion, and kindness, to us all.
It's also worth recognizing that this is visible behavior in public. As in potential bullies already see it, posting to the internet probably isn't going to have much practical impact as these days bullies upload this kind of stuff in a much less loving and well-intended fashion. At least this way they had their say and got to make a decision about to what degree they wanted it public.
Thanks for your great information Autism Family as someone with Autism I find your videos very helpful and relatable. I also do Stimming and the ones on the list I do but I also think you should’ve mentioned clapping and clenching the hands in the video as well as it’s Stims that Autistics like me do as well
Thank you for sharing your personal story to educate the world about this often misunderstood disorder. I remember watching this type of video in my psychology class for training purposes. However, knowing that these beautiful boys are someone's children, makes such difference to the concept of being educated about " subjects". It makes us learn about diversity in a humane and empathetic way. Thank you so much.
We can't hide a reality, I agreed with the fact that we need to talk about autism, in every country in every possible channel, that will educate people, creating at the same inclusion
I purposely searched UA-cam to find actual examples to see what had flapping looks like. Thank you to you and your boys for making this video. It helped me understand in a way I did not understand before.
Thank u thank u thank u.....more of this needs 2 b on the internet. My daughter is autistic she does the hair pulling out one strand @ a time twirling it in her fingers & she does the scratching thing til she bleeds usually just 2 her chest .she hasn't done the spider hand thing in yrs or the flapping arms thing in yrs but she use 2 . Again thank u 4 putting this on the internet especially UA-cam where people will mostly see this it helps a lot w those why deal w or have kids on the spectrum. 🙏
Your boys are fabulous. One of my students do the spider fingers alot, but also with a head scratch and what seems to be a face tickle. Love them to the moon and beyond.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge. I have a friend who’s twins are on the spectrum and watching videos like this help me to understand them a lot better. I hope parents like you keep sharing these videos because it does help.❤
Awesome video. Too often all the focus is on meltdowns. Those are important to cover also but wonderful to see happy, stimming children! Humans are diverse. There is autism among my family and friends and still people don't understand. Thank you to your and your beautiful family for sharing your lives with us. 😊💚
I absolutely love that you can identify whether the stims are related to joy or discomfort! That means you have good communication with your kids and are very supportive and I love that. I'm late diagnosed adult and do so many of these behaviors in private. I do bird wings when I am super excited too but never when I am overwhelmed so it is fun to see the same observation in a kiddo. The neck tapping totally when I am overwhelmed. Everyone is different and it is, again, refreshing to see that you have that relationship.
how interesting, i sometimes forget that these behaviors are stims, our son is 8.5 now, now that I think about it, it really does happen when he gets excited or nervous. thanks for the video, I should pay more attention to the meaning and see if he needs breaks at times like this. some of the stims come a bit different by us, he likes to bang with his hands really strongly, or pull his eyes etc. thank you for the video!
I mostly did the spider fingers and hand trumpeting when I was a kid. A bigger stim of mine was always singing, dancing, playing piano, listening to music, and making noises (and repeating words that feel good). I am quite sensitive to gentle touch, and I can best describe it as a pain. It's a jolting feeling that shoots down my nerves and my body has an anxiety response. People on the outside looking in might laugh and say that I am being ridiculous, but there is nothing fun or funny about it. I didn't even hug my mother growing up, because of the gentle fingers. People who have a good firm grip generally don't cause me such discomfort or distress.
Being recently diagnosed with autism, at 57(!), I' m deeply engaged with you as such care taking parents for your beautiful boys, helping other people who have to do with ASD!
I appreciate the help because I was diagnosed with anxiety and panic attacks over 15 years ago but I know I’m on the spectrum. I have other diagnoses such as PTSD, OCD, etc. They were added over the years. Little was known back then but I use these types of videos to self-diagnose. (Please don’t come at me in the comments for self diagnosing - I have been masking ever since my first out of body experience at age 5 and know myself better than anyone.) Please thank your sons for me. I’m 37 years old and just now kinda starting over. Your channel helps me to feel less lost.
I just found you ♥ thank you it was a good explanation. I was dx ASD/ADHD in 1998 at 30 but disclosed in 2017. I can now stim and I'm healing my fatigue from masking. I really enjoy finding and connecting with my community. Keep up the good work 😀
My granddaughter was just diagnosed with Autism, Sensory Delay & Language Delay. She does a lot of hand stimming. Two of the types show in the video are some of the hand movements she uses. One other thing I've noticed is she will hide in her room and hold what we call her babies, better known as smaller Care Bears as well ad her Sesame Street stuffed animals Elmo, Abby and Cookie Monster. She will rock and hit herself in the chin and chest with them. Being they're soft and can't hurt her, she will do this when I'm cooking or cleaning and will stop if I sit down and play with her. I believe this means for her, she wants all my attention. She is only 3 and started speech and OT a little over a year ago. They told me she has the mind of a 8 month old when we signed her up at that time. She is starting to learn now. I'm trying to find resources so that I can learn more about Autism so I can help her and I can know how to work with her in a way she better understands. Thank you for sharing your video.
A couple of friendly tips to get you started; Autism Self Advocacy Network (ASAN) has a ton of great resources written by autistic people to help understand, accept and navigate autism for both the autistic reader and friends and family. Avoid Autism Speaks like the plague; it's a hate group scam masquerading as a charity. Obviously it's great she's getting support but watch out for ABA (Applied Behavioral Analysis) as it doesn't have the child's best interest at heart and the focus is to force them to mask. Hopefully I haven't scared you too much, if you're still reading thank you and here's some advice from personal experience. My Nana was super patient and accepting with me, even without knowing or understanding autism. She used to let me play how I wanted (on my own at her house with charity shop toys) make the noises I wanted while at home (out in public she only said "not so loud") and eat my "safe foods" (food that I knew texture and/or flavour didn't freak me out, mostly nuggets and fish fingers but hey, I was only at her house every other weekend). I loved being at my nanas because there was no pressure to act any particular way. Obviously I was taught (as any child should) to respect her property though I never did break anything anyway. Otherwise it was a case of leaving me to it if it wasn't hurting anyone. I would say I've grown up pretty well adjusted and having that calm safe place really helped me, hopefully you can be her sanctuary. Lastly, if you've made it this far, well done, I tend to ramble. Remember that autistic people can communicate, we just do it differently, as you said with the soft toys for your attention, or this video watching for signs they need a break, we are always communicating with you, we just dont use words all the time. Sign language is a very helpful tool that can be fun for you both to learn as she grows.
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
Thank you for sharing this video. I am 78 yrs old and have had very little exposure to autism. This is so educational for me to be able to realize that the physical movements are normal for people on this spectrum and that they are okay . Excellent information for the general public.
Very informative. And yes it is a good thing to help everyone to understand this condition , not really a disease more like an atypical neuro development.
I'm so excited to have discovered your channel! I have done all of these and more since I was little. But I wasn't properly diagnosed on the Autism spectrum with ADHD and CAPD until a couple years ago at age 42! It has been amazing the psychological, spiritual and mental healing I have made since then. Everything in my life makes sense. And the lifelong loneliness and feeling useless and less than fade a little more every day. You guys seem to be some terrific parents. I applaud your stable, sensible nurturing attitude; Autistic people are not less than. We are on the same journey, but see it all in Technicolor! You made my Sunday, thank you! By the way, I chose never to have kids of my own. But if I had had a boy, Allistair would have been his name. I have always loved this name! (Agatha or Augusta for a girl, hee hee!) Much peace and hugs to you all! Namaste!!
I have a chronic pain condition in my left arm and so stimming through my hands is way too painful, so I use my legs. I used to wing flap when I got excited and used to jump up and down when I was a child and teen. Now I was diagnosed when I was 27 and I am now 35. I have had to learn a few tricks along the way to stop getting too overstimulated or overloaded. Thank you for educating and supoorting us. My mum didn't have any support and we all believed that my signs were due to losing my father as a 11 year old
@PRISTINE JOEL you can't heal autism. It is something you are born with. You maybe able to help reduce the severeity of the symptoms and allow what might be overstimulating or overwhelming to be less so. Also, we tend to get better coping mechanisms as we get older. Finding a cure is not going to help. What will help is working together with your son and figuring out what is going to be less overstimulating or overwhelming. If sunlight is too bright, then wearing sunglasses when it is too bright may help. Having a special bag of all the things he is obsessed with go wherever he goes so he can use that bag to help when the anxiety gets too high (I call it decompressing). This is not a disease, its not like the flu or bacterial infection that you just take some meds and your cured. Our brains are wired differently. That means we have to work out how to do things differently. Some meds can be used to reduce the severeity of some of the signs but you can't get rid of it.
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
I hand-flapped when I was littler, but I've been stimming with less variety as I age - I have a small range of less flashy stims that each mostly connect to one particular emotional state. When happy, I often use a vocal stim that I call a 'chirp', it kind of comes out sounding like a variety of birds. It's a way for me to communicate happiness non-verbally, to people I trust. I used to make lots of animal noises, but my mom worried that it made picking on me easier, so I was conditioned not to make them any more. The compromise I landed on is to reserve the chirps for safe spaces only, and to 'put the mask on' when leaving such a place. When highly stressed and close to melt-down, I'm likely to bite the top of my hand until bruising occurs. It's a last-ditch attempt to urge myself to get away from the stressor if I can, like giving a horse the whip (which is doubly cruel since at least the horse isn't doing the hitting itself, poor thing.) Or to urge a caregiver into guiding me away if I'm shutting down. It's a plea for help in any case, as I'll often be non-vocal when everything feels like crashing down. In mildly stressful social situations that aren't immediately threatening but cover subjects I find challenging (usually 1-1 discussions, mostly the early sessions I had with my life coach) I'll finger-clap: jamming all fingers of the hand together as if trying to clap, but holding off before the palms of the hands contact one another. I would make this motion at around middle-height rather than above the head, making it fairly covert. This is a stim I only realized I did when my coach pointed it out. It was a totally unconscious expression of feeling mild tension. I am 23 and AFAB, diagnosed at 7.
Do u mind if I ask... You mentioned animal sounds... my son is 10 and recently diagnosed so I'm really beginning the learning journey to help him... Trying to learn a much as i can for him! I notice my son will often growl when he's getting agitated about something in a conversation. (He's usually very verbal, except for sometimes mid meltdown) The growling usually happens when someone is getting onto him or being critical in some way. I think it's obvious that he's getting frustrated and probably feeling attacked? I'm thinking it's the best way he can communicate to us at the moment that he's feeling upset or defensive. He usually doesn't use much English at those times. Just growling like he's angry at us. Do you think this may be a type of stimmimg? I've been thinking it's mostly his only way to try to communicate something to us at the moment. Do you have any thoughts? Am i having the right idea do you think?
@@camellia8625 Assigned female at birth :) I mention it because AFAB people have a lower rate of being correctly diagnosed with autism due to the prevalence of the incorrect assumption that the neurodiversity we call the autistic spectrum is a "boy disorder", because the traits that are easiest to pick up on show more with boys due to a blend of brain chemistry and social conditioning (girls generally learn to 'mask' earlier in life). I could have said "I am a woman" in place of AFAB but I didn't to be inclusive to trans folk (lots of people who are AFAB but don't ID as female), of which I am one. I was assigned female at birth, but I don't feel any connection to womanhood, and don't ID exclusively as female.
@@carrieestridge7583 the idea you have seems correct to me. When I was little, I learned that making 'weird' noises was an effective way of deterring adults who were bothering me. My thought process was that if I refused to partake in proper conversation, they would often quickly leave me alone, and experience backed up this expectation. If you notice your son is growling, be it at a specific person or anyone trying to engage him, try offering him a way out of the social situation by providing him with a quiet place to sit and decompress. I also suggest giving him access to stim toys like chews or fidget cubes, so he can figure out what helps him deal with overstimulation in a healthy way. Harmless stims should be more accepted as a way to regulate stress, because to suppress stimming can be actively self-harming to the autistic brain. If I can't decompress in a manner that suits my need, that just leads to frustration bottling up until I boil over. I wish you good luck in working together with your son!
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Thank you so much for your video. My son hits his chest and his head. I get him checked from time to time to make sure he is not hurting himself, and yes these videos are so helpful to people like me who wonder if their child's stimming is common. Keep up the good work and your children are lucky to have parents that are very knowledgeable and aware of what is going on with them and we the viewers are lucky that you chose to share their journey with us.
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I love that you named them !!! My 21 year old does the bird wings and then jumps extremely high especially if it’s one of his really preferred activities 😂. A lot of people don’t understand that sometimes something as simple as naming stimms or laughing sometimes when you child just does something that is “weird” normalizes the behavior for that person on the spectrum and the family members loving and caring for our angels. Some people don’t realize how hard it is and sometimes you have to laugh to stop from crying. It can be overwhelming and difficult but those hugs and kisses are the best. Keep it up guys!!!
@@backgroundmusik Boy do I remember those days! I’m so sorry about the rough times you’re having right now. My son was very self injurious when he was around 5-12 years. People would always say it gets better when they get older. I never believed them until one day something just clicked, and he stopped scratching himself and biting himself to the point of drawing blood. Don’t get me wrong life by no means is a walk in the park. It’s just a different type of difficult. Now we are having to deal with adult things like day programs, and all the adult stuff that comes with a special needs adult. Stay strong!!!!! You’re not alone!!!!
@@allaboutthatwifeandmomlife thanks. She used to head bang and once hit so hard her head swelled up like a melon. She was okay though. We are in an elopement phase currently. Whole new set of problems
@@backgroundmusik My goodness it’s really hard to watch them hurt themselves and we can’t do anything to make them stop. We went through the elopement too. We have a special lock on the front door that he can’t operate because his fine motor isn’t good. Hang in there! I hope you all can come out the other side of this soon and get the support and help she may need. God bless 🙏🏽❤️
I thank God you have posted these videos. My 12yr old has felt normal in a non normal way by watching kids like her do the same things she does. She's the only one of her friends that does "spider," fingers or the hand excitement stims by her face. Thank you and please thank your 3 awesome boys for helping the young community on here who watch.
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Your remarks at the end is perfectly said. We don't shun other disorders, why would autism be any different? Thank you for sharing with us! Sincerely, A mother to a son with autism 🧩
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I think it's common to demand "inclusivity" for the ones not in need of it, whom like to play the victim, and to ignore and keep marginalizing the ones who have the right to be included, as a fundamental right of human beings. Autism is often marginalized, unless is hyper functional Autism, like in "The Good Doctor". These videos are highly educational. And needed! Thanks!
Am….am I one of the “ones not in need of” inclusivity? I’m very good at art, math, and computer programming languages. But I’m terrible at social situations and frequently miss what others find obvious. I’m chronically late to activities, am quite distractible, and shut down when I’m overstimulated or stressed, and I stim mildly. Does including me somehow erase those who are less “gifted”? Does my stimming make me more “disabled”? If I’m both “gifted” and “disabled”, do I fall into the category of those who are allowed to seek inclusivity, or with those who are only slightly different from them who are “not in need”?
My child with a full body stim is the most loving, beautiful child ever...my mother that couldn't understand his need to stim, once took him in to a public bathroom, deliberately blocked him from getting out and kept putting the hand dryer on......vlogs like this are great to help educate people...
I was late diagnosed and honestly seeing the way your kids stim warms my heart and reminds me of how I used to be when I was a kid. I'm so happy proper Autism awareness is making it's way out there because it is making it so much easier for people like me to cope. Thank you for sharing these videos.
And I'm happy to know you're proud of your kids. This is apparent just by the various outings your show them in and how you speak of them. They're human beings and are just as valuable as the next. Good on you, good sir. To those who say people shouldn't put up videos like this that educate others and raise awareness of these issues, they can pound sand. They're uncomfortable with seeing real life situations they most likely would have much difficulty handling themselves and usually, they feel a sense of guilt because of that.
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This is very helpfull,I have some other sticks but I don’t know if I have autism but u guys helped a lot .u guys always help me build up education of autism.
Thank you so much for your light on the autistic community. i have autism and my biological mom is all over the news for being arrested hundreds of times. when i was a teenager i got lost in my own own and had a lot of problems. people could tell there was something wrong with me. my parents refused to get professional help for me and no one knew what was going on. in my early 20s i grew out of my problems but i still remember the panic attacks, depression, bizarre behavior, ect. I diagnosed myself with autism in my 30s. It's a highly complex disorder and way more needs to be understood about it and its treatments to help us! I'm very proud to be an autistic even though mine disappeared. im so sick of us being undiagnosed, misdiagnosed, misunderstood, shunned, ect. THANK YOU FOR MAKING OUR COMMUNITY STRONGER💙💙🖤
When my boys were young, up until probably the age about 12 or 13, they did the “bird“. My youngest son still twirls the top of his head hair. He’s 16. I was just recently diagnosed, which is very hard to do when you are 51 years old especially if you’re female. But my hand Stimming is probably the most concerning. I’ve been doing it since I was about three or four years old, and I pull the skin from the edges of my cuticles. I know it is part of this behavior because I do it whether I am anxious, bored, and especially excited or overstimulated in a positive way. Nervous, waiting, or watching TV… It doesn’t matter I do it all the time and I’m constantly working to minimize it. The part I relate to most in this video is that the stimuli can come from many sources but cause the same behavior. Your boys are so cute, a lot of what they’re doing in the way they look reminds me of my brother when he was a little. We were all exhibiting behaviors but went undiagnosed and unsupported. so glad times are different and getting better, because my youngest son receives very good services. The people who are worried about showing these things on the Internet are The ones that have a problem with the diversity of autism themselves, and they view it as some kind of degrading act. But it can’t become a normal every day thing if we hide it or try to ignore it. and that’s really all it is, diversity in the human population. Don’t all people need to look after their limitations and take care of themselves when overstressed or in need of some thing? everyone signs are different, but we all need that :-)
Oh! I can help with this! Covera hard plastic object, preferably a rough textured one, with Elmer’s glue and pick that instead. Really helped a friend of mine who used to do the same thing. Hope it helps you!!
@@Axqu7227 I use to cover my hands with Elmers glue :-) and I will try covering an object, there’s some type of connection with my hands though… I bought stretchy fabric fingercots and this seems to help a lot… thank you very much for your suggestion :-)
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I just had the most transformative touching moment. I went to see The Nutcracker and sat not far from an autistic guy and adult who was also blind. But he could tell all the exciting moments of the ballet and I could see him waving his hands and clapping. He must have felt the vibrations. I was moved to tears and I hugged him afterwards. He had such a great time and he made my time at The Nutcracker so special just witnessing his enjoyment through his sensory.
Interestingly I am in my 50’s and recently discovered I’m autistic. I do qi gong daily and many of these stims are reflective of areas where we focus on in qi gong. The wrists can hold a great deal of energy and the spider hands was a recent exercise. I imagine that like me, many autists are dealing with the need to release energy. Stimming/qi gong serve the same purpose. Growing up in the 70’s having to sit quietly in a desk was a form of torture. Thanks for this video!!
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Recently diagnosed at 52 and studying a Masters in Autism (currently paused due to circumstances). I LOVE my autism and I hope to be able to pass on that joy and sense of pride to other autists, especially kids (I went through 30 years of hell undiagnosed and don't want a single child to have to do the same). One of the things I love about it are the discoveries I've made about my own nature on an almost daily basis. For many years I've tapped my neck muscles (the trapezius on either side and at the top of the shoulders) enough to make a good solid "thunk" that I hear and often set to a particular rhythm. Now I know it's a stim, thank you ;) I'd also like to point out that autists already know "mindfullness" and meditation as part of our nature....its the stimming. Repetitive motion or thought that allows the autist to calm themselves from an overload, living in the present (albeit only for a little while). So that's nice ;)
I've had a number of stims over the years but the one that got the most attention when I was a kid (way before we knew what autism was) was bird wings. My dad would always ask me (lovingly) if my motor was running. Keep making these videos!
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I have a twelve year old autistic son. He stimulates the same way. I've learned about autism through him and still continue to. Thanks for the video and blessings to your family
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Your channel is amazing. The boys are too cute and you’re such a great knowledgeable father. So involved in your kids lives. Kudos to you and thank you for sharing.
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As a health professional who treats ppl with this condition i thank yall and praise for your courage ; sharing this info will help several families !!! And agree to show what ASD Thanks a bunch
I do some of the stims on the lists, especially number 5 when I’m walking my dog, but a lot of my stims are tactile and chewing stims. I find myself rubbing my hands on a lot of soft things like my dog’s fur and ears or my blanket, and chew on the zippers on my pajamas.
Very helpful. We are in the final process of diagnoses. I never realized my daughter was stimming until I did the interview with the specialist. Now that I know, I am already working to change my behavior. I use to try to correct my kid when she was stimming. Now I work to steer her toward healthier outlets. Like nail biting, I talked with her and learned it was the oral input from the activity so I got her chew-lery to redirect her to. I don’t try to correct her squeaking when excited or the bird arms. Seeing these videos assists me with my education as I learn how to understand my kids world.
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
So inspirational and educational to a SPED educator! So cool what your doing for the community 🎉 I like how you acknowledge that others may disagree with posting this content, but at the end of the day, we all know where our individual hearts and motives lie…please keep posting!
Get the best remedy to improve your child’s autistic condition from doctor Oyalo as his herbs have helped my child improve in speech and social skill very well.
Thank you for sharing this. We recently had a family join our church that has a preschooler with autism. He is non verbal so I appreciate you sharing this so we can know what it may mean. I also think it will expand others people knowledge if they get over the “exploitation” they are claiming. It’s very obvious that you are not sharing to belittle, make fun of, or shame your sons.
I’ve stimmed for ad long as I can remember. I never knew that I was autistic because in my day it wasn’t talked about and my mom was a nurse. I used to get in trouble for my tics and eye rolling. Your boys are beautiful ❤
There is a Dr that you can get in touch with Dr Oyalo on UA-cam. Am excited to share about how his herbs works perfectly in reversing my son autism. now his speech has improved
Thank you for this video. I don't have any social exposure to anyone with autism, no kids myself, no friends w/autism, so I found this quite interesting in understanding more about autism. And your children seem happy and well loved, so I see nothing wrong and much good about showing others like me what stimming is about. I'm enjoying your channel and have learned a lot and will help educate others when the opportunity arises in conversation.
I do the spider fingers one a lot especially when I'm anxious or overstimulated. I also do this thing where I spin while doing the spider fingers stim. Though a lot of the time I have to suppress the stims because my dad yells at me and my mom tells me to act normal. I am happy to see you let your kids be themselves. Much love to your family!!! Rebecca, 16
The videos definitely should be on line. I mentor some young men (14 -19) at our men's shed and I have picked up so many things from your videos that have helped me with these young men. The one thing you mentioned is, your boys know the videos are on line and they approve of that. I ask the lads I mentor if I have their permission to talk about them when I am asked to do a talk about our 'Neuro Diverse' program. They always give their approval for this to happen.
I have two children who are formally diagnosed with Autism. My son is nonverbal and bangs his head on the floor when he is having difficulty self regulating and triggered by denied access. I put yoga mats on my entire floor. It also makes it easier to clean, because he is a very messy child. It protects his head and makes the floor more inviting to play on. He does the most hand flapping, swimming behaviors, walks on his tip toes like he is wearing stilettos, but also likes to make paper accordions when he stems. He takes a tiny strip of paper and folds it into tiny little squares, and then releases it. I have no idea where he learned this from. We have a hammock, air castle, and a little bike track. He is a climber but so was his older sister who eventually outgrew this behavior. Extra stimulus helps keep behaviors down in frequency. My daughter is a savant but also prone to vandalism if she is under stimulated. She is super intelligent and often outsmarts me. It is difficult to be a single parent with extra challenges to overcome but this is why they have been in ABA Therapy for a number of years. It has helped so much and I highly recommend it. My daughter couldn't even sit in a chair when she started. Both of my children have taught me a lot! I wouldn't trade them for the world! 💙💙🌎
Thanks for this video. I do the fingers one but I do it due to Tourettes. I am in my fifties and have done hand movements for years. I see people looking at me and the only ones that say anything about it is my family member who should know better. I am glad to know that these problems are getting more attention so people don't say anything that would make other upset. Not sure why but it is always the ones that should know better that say stuff. You have a good family. Thanks for sharing
My son does the wing flapping the most when he's happy and when he's really happy, he kicks his right foot out several times while he's doing it. We see it as a body smile because we just know he's enjoying whatever has his attention at the moment.
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
It’s fascinating watching this and realising what I replace mine as to mask more. Like chewing the inside of my face, scratching my head obsessively and pretending I needed to stretch and crack my bones etc. thanks to videos like this and your parenting the next generation may have more freedom and less trauma. Thank you xxx
Thank you for loving information,I have a Greatgrand son,and a Grandson both are on the spectrum.One eats constantly,not from hunger,so can hand to mouth movement be part of stemming?My other baby has to have dinosaurs in his hands at all times,he says words but cannot say sentences,Does not acknowledge other kids and likes being alone,also nonverbal but will hug and kiss family,Both boys are in school and 5 yrs old both diagnosed at 2.I appreciate you showing this video,May your family be blessed.
We're in this together! My son is autistic and I couldn't love him more. He's a "clapper". When he See's birds or bugs he does the behind the head" Flippy" fingers. I know right then he's very happy! Love them, hug them & always remember God gave them to us for a reason!!! Have a wonderful Thanksgiving. It was nice to let you know my life is different also. 💖
Thank you for the videos! I am a Spanish medical interpreter working with families with limited English proficiency. Unfortunately, most of these families have little to zero knowledge about autism. Add the language barrier to that and the future may look very disconcerting. Thanks to videos like yours I have learnt so much about autism. I feel better prepared to interpret for Spanish-speaking families during an autism evaluation. So you see, your videos are helping me to help others overcome the language barrier and learn more about autism.
I do a variation of "spider fingers" where when I get overwhelmed or touch or hear something awful, I hold my hands up pretty much always near my ears and I wiggle either my middle or pointer finger up and down quickly. It's kinda like when people vocalize with their hands but in a uncomfortable way. I really appreciate the attention to making sure your family is okay with being shown and I was very happy to hear the language you used towards your sons! I am definetly sticking around for more content!!
As i watch this i remember back when i was a kid and your youngest reminds me of myself alot, Although i didn't get support, all the oddball things i did as a kid were criticized and mocked out of me. I'm very happy to see the level of support and understanding that has developed since that time. I'm slowly learning about myself and making the connections every day.
Oh wow so that's why my 9 year old does that with her hands. When she was 5 I had asked her doctor why she does that and she said that my daughter did that as a way to express her excitement 😁 we've always called it tics. I love watching your boys cause it reminds me exactly of my daughter!!
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Thank you so very much for sharing, I just realized me and my kids may have be autistic, is a blessing to understand how we are as a person, and for the people that say that this videos are hurtful is maybe a trigger because they one day got hurt but the people that do not except "different" but I loved that you menssioned that your kids are ok that means Respect and the care for others if only we all think of our neighbors and loved them like God said we would have loving exceptence and love to all.
I have autism and I do some of this a lot when I’m happy or even when I am frustrated. Question, that I don’t see answered a lot, do any of your kids carry objects around with them? I have always had the tendency to carry things around with me, as someone with autism, but I have never found much about it or seen many examples of others doing the same things. Keep educating, your boys are amazing.
I carry heavier things in a backpack as a way of weighted vest substitute, because I feel my body better that way. Proprioception gets worse the lighter I am moving in space (sitting or laying down gives enough pressure, but when only my feet touch the ground and the rest of the body is not weighed down, I feel like I could float away with the lightest breeze ). As a kidI loved wearing too tight and small clothes as a sort of anchor.
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Thank you to you and your family for allowing us to see a part of your life. There is autism in my family, but we are just learning about it, so your videos are so valuable to us. Thank you and take care ❤️
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This is the best video about hand stims I have ever seen. I have been doing the spider fingers most, since childhood, now I have a name for it. Thank you for showing these videos, I don´t feel that alone. It is nice to see that you talk about these things so openly and with acceptance. I have a very subtle form of the third and the fifth. But I do other hand stims which are not mentioned here.
@@janinegrey6937 I think there is a mistake, this is not an answer to my post.
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Not for me, my son flaps his hands which is very common, but does none of these.
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I have found most people whom say videos like this shouldn't be on the internet, come from those less aware about what Autism Spectrum Disorder really is. These videos are important. Thank you. I'm a mom of 4, both my boys, also my youngest both have Autism (3 1/2yrs and 22 months). Your family and fathering Autism have been my biggest inspiration. Learning every day and I will continue too, because it is an always changing Disorder.
Wow your kids were diagnosed very early
@@edenschannel101 yes, I pushed and so did help me grow. My oldest son, was delayed so it wasn't an issue with getting him in therapies and such. And when I pointed out my concern for ASD his main E.I listened to me and helped push it. He was around 18months, no older than that. And when my youngest was born I already knew esp with him being a boy, it was a high chance. I paid attention to all the little "red flags" (I hate that term) and I started noticing pretty young but didn't push for it right away. He is even more delayed. In all the therapies as well, he will be 2 on the 26th of this month. And he still isn't walking. He will take at most 7 steps on his own and fall down. We work with him every day multiple times a day, have ruled out soooo many possibilities. It just seems like he isn't wanting too, or caring about doing it too much. But he is getting better with it each day. It's also easier to get your second child diagnosed.
For real. I never knew other people did this until I saw this video! It’s especially great for new parents to see it so they’re aware that it’s something to get checked out! I know my parents never gave these behaviors a second thought because I didn’t have any major delays.
If you want to know more about what autism is, listen to autistic people NOT the parents. It's sad that society doesn't listen to us, but the parents.
@@timothycole9232 fair enough but when children are quite young and not able to express themselves so well, there's nothing wrong with their parents attempting to help the neurotypical world understand their child. The child should obviously lead and be at the centre of this understanding.
I’m an autistic adult woman, and I was on the fence about how I felt about this video until you shared that you have your sons’ permission to show them exhibiting their autism-specific behaviors. You’re absolutely right. There’s nothing shameful or wrong with these behaviors, and the reason I would feel shame if I was filmed doing them is because I was raised in a less supportive environment by people who taught me shame. My fiancé thinks my arm flapping and leg tapping are really cute, and it is wonderful to see parents who find joy in their children’s natural expressions of joy rather than wishing it was different or “normal”. I needed this today.
Would you mind thanking your boys for being willing to share their lives with us? And thank you for calling their stims cute. It makes me happy that my fiancé isn’t the only one who can appreciate the way I express joy overload. ❤
My bf finds my stimming to be cute as well, he has a thing for my spider fingers lol he loves my autistic stimming 🥰
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We noticed my son’s stimming actions when he started to walk about 12 months old. It was the cutest thing! He’s 4 now and we still love it! I think he’s the most adorable little boy in the world.
A lot of people who don’t realize he may be autistic (no diagnosis yet) comment about how cute he is… I wonder sometimes if they would feel the same way if they knew. But I don’t care. It’s what makes him special. ❤
I’m so happy you have a wonderful fiance that appreciates you for who you are and adores the special things about you!!
I'm an autistic adult and want to thank you so much for letting your kids stim ❤️
Can you choose to control it if you wanted to or is it completely involuntary?
@@PlusVK22 no you can't but you can "mask" it witch isn't healthy at all for kids
@@mindofhoes5821 I kinda meant more so for adults. Is it easier to control or mask it as an adult?
@@PlusVK22as a 25 year old adult with autism, I can tell you it's definitely easier to mask stimming. I've never been able to "control" my ticks or stimming.
@@achannelwithnocontentever9972isn't masking it essentially controlling it to a degree though?
I do almost all of those hand stims, but "subtled down". Being born in theearly seventies, the stims were not accepted and i was bodyly reprimanded for doing them, so I tried to find ways to keep stimming when needed and do it in baggy clothes, with hands in hoodie pockets, or calming my sensory system by always "carrying my house with me" in form of a heavy backpack.
The tapping on the back of my head is done with a ruler, pen, a stuffed animal with bean bag limbs or similar. I learned, it is calming the vagus nerve aswell as the chest plate area, so intuitively those stims take a calming effect and are even now taught as a "skill"for people who need assistance in regulating their emothions.
I am all for normalizing, as long as the stims cause no harm to the person or the ones surrounding the person.
Throwing heavy stuff is also something calming to me, so I kind of enjoy making wood into chunks that then can be usey in the wood stove, and once they are sawed, chopped and stacked, there was a lot of "heavy lifting and throwing" and besides me being calm and happy, we have wood ready for the cold season.
I tell the newly diagnosed families who come to or group meetings about how important stimming is, and that even twirling hair, tapping with ballpoint pens, snipping, and such normal seeming actions are stimming, and the only distinction is, that some of it is already normalized, and other stims still seem too strange to the unknowing onlooker.
Hello I am the parent of an adult with Austin. I am sorry you had to go through that in the 1970s. I will be 60 in a few months so I remember the era well. Yes we have come a long way with our knowledge and education for special needs children and adults. Very important to be making and sharing these videos for all of the community. Good luck to you¡👍👍😃🙏🙏
I also “carry my house with me”!
Do you think adults who need to speak in public, in order to hide the stimming, put stress on their hands to the point that they turn red and shake slightly? I know a wonderful person who may be doing this.
Your herbs has work wonders in my family.
Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.
Wth are these ableist bots?? I've been seeing them in other autism education videos now. Their targeting is gross.
Thanks to the boys for letting us have this window into your lives! I flap hands, I shake my head. Always severely discouraged as a child, never officially diagnosed, almost forty, not masking anymore. Glad you three live in a more supportive environment than I did.
Im over 30 and I just realized I did these hand flapping and that I subconsciously learned to masked them!
Ive never been dignosed with ASD either (Autism Spectrum Disorder) but i shake my hands and do sorta like that spider hand thingy
SAME. I'm 38 years old, female, never diagnosed..they weren't testing us quiet, bookish types in the 90s. Always the boys that "acted out" (meltdown) and couldn't sit still (stims).
Your herbs has work wonders in my family.
Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.
I watch these videos because I am a teacher and they help me alot because I have no training on how to deal with autism in my classroom. Those who don't want you to put these incredible videos on line should go and analyze their humanity and transform their hearts because obviously they do not have one. ❤ you guys, thanks a million.
Teacher here, too! Education on simming is great, but seeing simming for oneself is imperative to truly understand it. I thank the dad who posted this video.
I thank you teachers who want to understand autism. I have a 15 year old granddaughter who has autism. And I have a grandson who is autistic. Non verbal. He is 7 years old. I love these videos. To you amazing teachers. This grandma thanks you for caring. You Rock!!
Thankyou for caring. Over the years we have dealt with many educators who refused information. “I only read the Bible” they say. From a teacher? Yikes.
Oh, another teacher here! we really don't get a lot of training about this in my country so I'm doing all the extra research that I can! I'm absolutely interesting in this, mainly because I know the importance of being well educated, it really can change things ❣️ way to go
Massive respect to yall. Teaching is a great but hugely underappreciated profession and I personally think way too much is asked of you. Teaching 20-30 different students with different abilities and learning styles all at the same time all while keeping an eye out for signs of abuse or mental health issues and learning difficulties. not to mention being paid pennies.
One of the best teacher I ever had actually taught me some hard lessons I needed to learn. I don't know if she knew I was autistic or not but she didn't treat me differently for it and didn't let me dominate the lessons I excelled in. I didn't learn much from her academically but I learned things much more valuable instead
I’ve just cried for the first time in years. I’m currently awaiting a date for my autism assessment at age 29, in the UK this can be years of waiting. The first stim you mentioned, spider fingers, is something I’ve done and still do almost every minute of every day and yet it’s something up until now I’d never seen mentioned anywhere. There are times, as recently as Christmas Eve, where it’s almost so strong of an urge that it’s frustrating. You have no idea how much of a sense of normality this video has just given me. Thank you so much
You’re very welcome
Your herbs has work wonders in my family.
Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.
Boo Hoo.... 🤣😁🤣😁
To be honest, I’m a late diagnoses case. Forced to grow up without understanding why you’re so different and can’t fit in with peers is a struggle. As I’m still trying to relearn myself after 7 years since the diagnosis, I really appreciate and fully back up educating folks on the subject. Any medical conditions I feel should openly be discussed to help shed light and bring awareness. Thanks to you all!
I am Crying literally. I feel like this all my life, but i was just seen as weird and Crazy
I like how u described it as “forced to grow up not understanding why your different” cuz that’s exactly how it feels for late diagnosed people. I remember literally crying and wishing out loud that I wish I was “normal”. I never understood why others didn’t like or understand me. Once I got my diagnosis I realised just how hard it was being undiagnosed growing up, im so glad I found out eventually 🤍 I’m at peace with myself about it now
Your herbs has work wonders in my family.
Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.
It's called "RETARDED."
@@L-e-abecause You are Weird & 🤪. Your words NOT Mine.
I’m late diagnosed autistic, your videos are sooo helpful as I’ve spent most of my life suppressing things like stimming. I’m still recovering and it gives me hope seeing families like yours. Thank you to your whole family for these videos, they help me so much!
Same. I just figured out what was happening to me.
Your herbs has work wonders in my family.
Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.
I'm autistic and I do some of the stims like spider fingers, wing flapping and chest pounding but the stims i do are mainly hand flapping, vocal stims, pacing, rocking back and forth, jumping and scripting and walking on tip toes 😊
I have autism and anxiety and ect
I used to stim with my mouth all of the time when I was a lot younger. I don’t do that much anymore though.
I used to do that
What is scripting? I'm a mom of an autistic 10 yr old boy recently diagnosed and trying to learn as much as i can :)
@@carrieestridge7583 Scripting is the repetition of words, phrases, or sounds from other people's speech. Most commonly scripting phrases and sounds are from movies, tv, or other sources like books or people they interact with. Scripting is common with people on the autistic spectrum. 😊
My little brother wing-flaps his hands and then "writes" with his index finger when hes happy/excited. Makes me smile. Appreciate what yall doing
Love this so much. I am a former SPED teacher and a neurodiverse mom, with a husband and toddler who are also neurodiverse. It is amazing and beautiful to listen to you speak about your children with such obvious love and warmth. To understand that stimming is a functional behavior is extremely critical for so many reasons, the same way it is important to me that my daughter is allowed to move her body, dance and sing to channel her excess energy due to ADHD. I look at these behaviors, and see something really amazing in them after so many years of working with kiddos on the spectrum, and suspecting I myself and my husband might be. I see not just the self-regulation aspects, but also the communicative aspects, the features of timing, rate, rhythm, and pattern that go into stimming. I think about how meditative states as well as hypnosis, rely so heavily on focusing on repetitive ideas or a fixed visual target that moves repetitively. How repetition reveals the order in things that otherwise seem disordered, how a little bit of white noise can cancel out the static that hides an inner message being communicated. I think of it almost in my own body like a way of creating internal white noise. It evens out, mutes and softens the intensity of the outside world, as focusing on our bodies and sensations can essentially mute and control the volume of the world around us. I think of that familiar motion of holding our hands over our ears as children and making a strange sound simply by moving our hands on top and away from our ears. Even in silence it produces a sound... and how powerful we are to have both modes of focusing - the inner world and the outer world... both able to soothe us when one is too loud, chaotic and intense for comfort. I think about the many arts practiced by cultures around the world for healing - such as reiki, acupuncture, tapping, and massage, and realize how the therapeutic potential for touch has been limited by our ideas about what kind of self soothing is "normal" and what kind is "pathological." But if a behavior is functional, regulating and stabilizing, how can it be considered undesirable, or even wrong/bad? My husband always holds his arm in a way that makes me think of a baby bird, against his chest, and the sight of that arm, bent very specifically tells me it is him, and I just love when that wing reaches out and pulls me in so close and safe. Keep sharing. The people who do not want to see autistic children being themselves can take those emotions and their sense of fear and learn to regulate it - just as we all used to know how to do using our bodies - rocking, singing, and swaying side to side to calm ourselves after a bad dream, or shaking the nervousness out along our arms before trying something new and scary... What a sad world to live in where a self-soothing and regulating behavior should be considered aberrant. How unfortunate that so many people are denied their power to regulate and stabilize using the most basic of all tools - our own hands. What pills would we throw into the wind if only we could remember how to dance our nervous energy into the air around us, and ground it into the earth.
I am so happy that you haven't listened to anyone who has said that you shouldn't post these videos. I am absolutely grateful I found this video. My youngest grandson is 11 years old, he's the youngest of twins. His older brother is perfectly healthy, no problems whatsoever however his "little" brother is non-verbal autistic. He makes many of these same motions. My daughter had a very hard time accepting his diagnosis when he was around 2 years old, but has come to terms with it & does everything she can for him. He also has another older brother who is 14 & he's so good with his little brother. They've had to buy inside locks for the doors on their house because the youngest just LOVES being outside, swimming is his favorite. But he is also very quick & very quiet. I just love him so much, I love all my grandsons & I like videos that I can relate to & videos that help me understand things like autism. Thank you so much for sharing this & the life you live with these 3 extraordinary boys. I pray someday my youngest will start talking, but even if he doesn't, he is still one of the most important & precious things in my life. Grandma life is the best life. 🥰🥰🥰
Your herbs has work wonders in my family.
Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.
Your little ones are lucky to have such great parents! Thanks to you and your boys for helping to educate the masses!
It's always interesting to see children doing the same stims I've had for nearly sixty years. Fun to tell their parents "You know he'll never outgrow that" 😁
Can you choose to control it if you wanted to or is it completely involuntary?
@@PlusVK22 personally, i can’t control it, it feels like an itch you have to scratch. if i try to ignore it it becomes very uncomfortable
@@PlusVK22 I can stop myself but doing that for long makes me antsy.
@@PlusVK22It's like breathing: it tends to happen automatically, but you generally have full control over it if you devote attention to it, and it gets uncomfortable if you hold it too long. Some of it is more conscious than other stuff (visual stims tend to be more consciously directed, I'm not sure it quite rises to the level of "deliberate", in that it tends to be an idle curiosity / boredom thing).
Your herbs has work wonders in my family.
Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.
These boys are adorable. And yes awareness is so important. I’ve known my son was on the autism spectrum since he was a year old, he was stimming by then, but despite trying to get a proper diagnosis I was always being told that while he showed many hallmarks of autism that he wasn’t showing enough symptoms to formally diagnosis. Instead different places always told us totally different things, once it was considered adhd, then oppositional defiant disorder, another time OCD because he was washing his hands a lot.
Maybe if we had resources like this back then he would have gotten more the appropriate help. This was really brave of your boys to want to help make this content to educate others. It makes a difference for many I’m sure. Really awesome!
Your herbs has work wonders in my family.
Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.
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I just love how they are so comfortable with you I know for sure you are both great parents
If a stim is causing injury it's not calming. I do a mix between the neck and the chest I tap my chest as a stim in a similar way. Hand flapping from my experience is not painful and less than someone cracking their knuckles for example. I believe Ian being open about his autism has helped him to overcome a lot and grow. Love all 3 of your boys. Wouldn't want them any other way.
I have autism and I'm glad to see someone at is trying to help the artistic community we need more people like this
I’m so happy to learn about Autism. As a mom of a two year old with Autism it helps me a lot specially as a first time mom.
wow me too...i think they will grow out all
Thank you for this beautiful video, I am an adult recently diagnosed with Autism and ADHD, I've had to learn a lot since most of my behaviors are subtle and I became very good at masking. This content is very educational and has helped me understand a lot of things I didn't know about me. I wish all of you nothing but the best, and please thank your boys for being so open to help others learn. Thank you for taking the time and explaining so clearly, it shows the love and understanding you have for your family. ❤
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
Finally I can relate to somebody. Usually when I watch a video that I love or it satisfies me I usually squeeze my leg or press my fingers on my nose. And I think stemming is sort of a physical way to show how passionate the kids are about something
I display all these as an autistic adult. I am 27 and was diagnosed only 2 years ago.
The one I do the most is finger stims like one handed clapping and spider fingers as you called them! (I like those names by the way) and those tend to be my happy stims, along with what I call “happy hands” which is when I flap my hands really fast or run my palms together really hard and fast.
My anxious or unhappy stims tend to be when I’m hitting my chest or tapping my head. My friends and family know when I do that I need to leave if I’m not already going for the door.
My fiancé is the most receptive to that need and will follow me to make sure I’m okay.
Sorry for this being so long, I just really like seeing stims because I share many stims with other neurodivergent people and it makes me feel less alone when I see them.
Thanks for your videos
I wIsh other people noticed I was getting that stressed because I progressed from openly flapping, rocking and pulling out my hair to having to go to another room and self harm with sharp objects because people are being too noisy etc
Can you choose to control it if you wanted to or is it completely involuntary?
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
Thank you so so so much for posting this information. I have had the feeling since my son was six or seven months old that he is on the autism spectrum. I have pushed with family, friends, and doctors to have him evaluated but almost everyone has disagreed with me or treated my concern with a "what's the rush" kind of attitude.
He is now four and his mother is JUST NOW beginning to agree with me. As I fill out paperwork to finally start moving forward with having him evaluated your video has helped me assign words to the type of stimming I've seen him exhibit this entire time.
It's been very disheartening to have my concerns shut down over these last few years and every time I've tried to move things forward for him feeling like I don't have the permission to. This video is very helpful and empowering. Thank you and your family so much.
Thanks for your kind comments.
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
These videos are soooo important to Autism. They need to be shared far and wide to help people understand. I was diagnosed with autism just a few months ago- I'm 31.... so apparently I have been very good at hiding it and still trying to understand it myself. I don't stim this much, mine is much more subtle, and I know how much it upsets people to see, so I mostly hide it unless I'm really overwhelmed or excited. I tap my fingers together or click my fingers if I'm upset by something and jump around and flap my hands when excited. I also do the one handed clapping, I call it a bird beak lol.
Thank you for your video’s I am new to the autism world. I enjoy that I see in your video’s you take your children everywhere, that brings joy to my heart they are too beautiful to hide them because they have a disability.
0:43 "It is a response to stimuli or *thoughts* that are high-sensory in nature." THANK YOU for pointing that out! I so validated by this.
My granddaughter was just diagnosed with autism, and she is only 3 years old. These videos help me understand what she is going to go through and how I can make her life better. Thank you and your family for doing these videos.
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
I was never diagnosed, but I believe I have been a maladaptive daydreamer since early childhood. I was constantly daydreaming these vivid dreams, and I used to "flap my wings" as my mom and sister used to say. It was incredibly embarrassing for me, my older sister used to bully me, so I got better at hiding it over time. Seeing these hand stims just brought me back to all those times I couldn't help daydreaming, and how I would just stim and get laughed at. Seeing your children do similar things and knowing you're being supportive brought me to tears.
I'm 33 now, I still catch myself doing things with my hands since the daydreaming never went away, so the stimulus that would cause it is still there, but I'm much better around people and outside. Alone however, I still do it sometimes, and I still feel that embarrassment of letting myself do it, whether its voluntary or not.
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
From a female autistic perspective; obviously as said these stims can look different between people. In my case I exhibit most of these in masked forms. Spider hands is tapping my thumb tip to each fingertip in sequence. My bird hands are wrist/knuckle cracking. Neck tapping is rubbing the back of my head (I have very short hair) so the fuzzy feeling feels good on my hand but it looks like I'm just smoothing my hair down or something. Trumpet came out as nail biting but I'm getting better at that. I don't really do chest pound when out and about as it doesn't have a masked behaviour but I do make a similar noise at home. I can't speak for your boys but for me its actually an audible stim vs a physical one. It's the hollow sound of my hand on the side of my ribs that helps me regulate.
Something to note is that I am in my late 20s, I unintentionally learned to mask as a child when teachers and other adults would scold me for being disruptive (I wasnt diagnosed until 12 and even then there was not much understanding) and now the masked behaviours are my natural stims; to do a more exaggerated version feels forced and doesn't give me the same soothing feeling as my smaller ones. At home I do a lot of audible stims as I can't do them in public.
I’m just newly ASD diagnosed at almost 42. I just realized I do spider fingers when I’m watch tv, or playing a game on my phone..etc. ❤ Thanks for helping me learn about my new diagnosis!!
Your herbs has work wonders in my family.
Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.
I'm an early years educator and I strive to understand my student's needs, strengths and shortcomings so I can better help them reach their goals and potential.
Your video helps not only people who are taking care of those who are already diagnosed, but also others who are around people that might need some special attention.
Thank you for uploading this. You have a beautiful family - their genuine laughter is heartwarming.
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
Thank you for your courage, I have grandchildren that fall just outside the spectrum but suffer the same symptoms and rude people that don't understand.
Thank you for an informative and educational video. I am not someone on the autism spectrum but I wholeheartedly agree that people who are should not be hidden away in some dark room and forgotten. You're absolutely correct, we are all equal. I have mental health difficulties so I understand stigma and how society devalues people it considers burdensome. Bravo to your boys, allowing themselves onto social media, a place which isn't always known as friendly, nevermind respectful. Happy Christmas to you and your family. May 2023 bring acceptance, compassion, and kindness, to us all.
It's also worth recognizing that this is visible behavior in public. As in potential bullies already see it, posting to the internet probably isn't going to have much practical impact as these days bullies upload this kind of stuff in a much less loving and well-intended fashion.
At least this way they had their say and got to make a decision about to what degree they wanted it public.
Your herbs has work wonders in my family.
Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.
Thanks for your great information Autism Family as someone with Autism I find your videos very helpful and relatable. I also do Stimming and the ones on the list I do but I also think you should’ve mentioned clapping and clenching the hands in the video as well as it’s Stims that Autistics like me do as well
Thank you for sharing your personal story to educate the world about this often misunderstood disorder. I remember watching this type of video in my psychology class for training purposes. However, knowing that these beautiful boys are someone's children, makes such difference to the concept of being educated about " subjects". It makes us learn about diversity in a humane and empathetic way. Thank you so much.
Your herbs has work wonders in my family.
Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.
Why would anyone not want these helpful videos on line. I've learned so much from these videos.
We can't hide a reality, I agreed with the fact that we need to talk about autism, in every country in every possible channel, that will educate people, creating at the same inclusion
I purposely searched UA-cam to find actual examples to see what had flapping looks like. Thank you to you and your boys for making this video. It helped me understand in a way I did not understand before.
Thank u thank u thank u.....more of this needs 2 b on the internet. My daughter is autistic she does the hair pulling out one strand @ a time twirling it in her fingers & she does the scratching thing til she bleeds usually just 2 her chest .she hasn't done the spider hand thing in yrs or the flapping arms thing in yrs but she use 2 . Again thank u 4 putting this on the internet especially UA-cam where people will mostly see this it helps a lot w those why deal w or have kids on the spectrum. 🙏
This is an excellent video! I have been stimming for 60+ years. A late in life diagnoses. Thank you for posting this!
Your boys are fabulous.
One of my students do the spider fingers alot, but also with a head scratch and what seems to be a face tickle. Love them to the moon and beyond.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge. I have a friend who’s twins are on the spectrum and watching videos like this help me to understand them a lot better. I hope parents like you keep sharing these videos because it does help.❤
Awesome video. Too often all the focus is on meltdowns. Those are important to cover also but wonderful to see happy, stimming children! Humans are diverse. There is autism among my family and friends and still people don't understand. Thank you to your and your beautiful family for sharing your lives with us. 😊💚
I absolutely love that you can identify whether the stims are related to joy or discomfort! That means you have good communication with your kids and are very supportive and I love that. I'm late diagnosed adult and do so many of these behaviors in private. I do bird wings when I am super excited too but never when I am overwhelmed so it is fun to see the same observation in a kiddo. The neck tapping totally when I am overwhelmed. Everyone is different and it is, again, refreshing to see that you have that relationship.
how interesting, i sometimes forget that these behaviors are stims, our son is 8.5 now, now that I think about it, it really does happen when he gets excited or nervous. thanks for the video, I should pay more attention to the meaning and see if he needs breaks at times like this.
some of the stims come a bit different by us, he likes to bang with his hands really strongly, or pull his eyes etc.
thank you for the video!
Thank you to you, your wife, and your boys for sharing their beautiful neurodiversity. You are truly blessed and so are they. What a gift.
I mostly did the spider fingers and hand trumpeting when I was a kid. A bigger stim of mine was always singing, dancing, playing piano, listening to music, and making noises (and repeating words that feel good). I am quite sensitive to gentle touch, and I can best describe it as a pain. It's a jolting feeling that shoots down my nerves and my body has an anxiety response. People on the outside looking in might laugh and say that I am being ridiculous, but there is nothing fun or funny about it. I didn't even hug my mother growing up, because of the gentle fingers. People who have a good firm grip generally don't cause me such discomfort or distress.
Being recently diagnosed with autism, at 57(!), I' m deeply engaged with you as such care taking parents for your beautiful boys, helping other people who have to do with ASD!
I appreciate the help because I was diagnosed with anxiety and panic attacks over 15 years ago but I know I’m on the spectrum. I have other diagnoses such as PTSD, OCD, etc. They were added over the years. Little was known back then but I use these types of videos to self-diagnose. (Please don’t come at me in the comments for self diagnosing - I have been masking ever since my first out of body experience at age 5 and know myself better than anyone.) Please thank your sons for me. I’m 37 years old and just now kinda starting over. Your channel helps me to feel less lost.
Glad our channel helps you ☺️
I just found you ♥ thank you it was a good explanation. I was dx ASD/ADHD in 1998 at 30 but disclosed in 2017. I can now stim and I'm healing my fatigue from masking. I really enjoy finding and connecting with my community. Keep up the good work 😀
My granddaughter was just diagnosed with Autism, Sensory Delay & Language Delay. She does a lot of hand stimming. Two of the types show in the video are some of the hand movements she uses. One other thing I've noticed is she will hide in her room and hold what we call her babies, better known as smaller Care Bears as well ad her Sesame Street stuffed animals Elmo, Abby and Cookie Monster. She will rock and hit herself in the chin and chest with them. Being they're soft and can't hurt her, she will do this when I'm cooking or cleaning and will stop if I sit down and play with her. I believe this means for her, she wants all my attention. She is only 3 and started speech and OT a little over a year ago. They told me she has the mind of a 8 month old when we signed her up at that time. She is starting to learn now. I'm trying to find resources so that I can learn more about Autism so I can help her and I can know how to work with her in a way she better understands. Thank you for sharing your video.
A couple of friendly tips to get you started; Autism Self Advocacy Network (ASAN) has a ton of great resources written by autistic people to help understand, accept and navigate autism for both the autistic reader and friends and family. Avoid Autism Speaks like the plague; it's a hate group scam masquerading as a charity.
Obviously it's great she's getting support but watch out for ABA (Applied Behavioral Analysis) as it doesn't have the child's best interest at heart and the focus is to force them to mask.
Hopefully I haven't scared you too much, if you're still reading thank you and here's some advice from personal experience.
My Nana was super patient and accepting with me, even without knowing or understanding autism. She used to let me play how I wanted (on my own at her house with charity shop toys) make the noises I wanted while at home (out in public she only said "not so loud") and eat my "safe foods" (food that I knew texture and/or flavour didn't freak me out, mostly nuggets and fish fingers but hey, I was only at her house every other weekend). I loved being at my nanas because there was no pressure to act any particular way. Obviously I was taught (as any child should) to respect her property though I never did break anything anyway. Otherwise it was a case of leaving me to it if it wasn't hurting anyone.
I would say I've grown up pretty well adjusted and having that calm safe place really helped me, hopefully you can be her sanctuary.
Lastly, if you've made it this far, well done, I tend to ramble. Remember that autistic people can communicate, we just do it differently, as you said with the soft toys for your attention, or this video watching for signs they need a break, we are always communicating with you, we just dont use words all the time. Sign language is a very helpful tool that can be fun for you both to learn as she grows.
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
Thank you for sharing this video. I am 78 yrs old and have had very little exposure to autism. This is so educational for me to be able to realize that the physical movements are normal for people on this spectrum and that they are okay . Excellent information for the general public.
Very informative. And yes it is a good thing to help everyone to understand this condition , not really a disease more like an atypical neuro development.
I'm so excited to have discovered your channel! I have done all of these and more since I was little. But I wasn't properly diagnosed on the Autism spectrum with ADHD and CAPD until a couple years ago at age 42! It has been amazing the psychological, spiritual and mental healing I have made since then. Everything in my life makes sense. And the lifelong loneliness and feeling useless and less than fade a little more every day. You guys seem to be some terrific parents. I applaud your stable, sensible nurturing attitude; Autistic people are not less than. We are on the same journey, but see it all in Technicolor! You made my Sunday, thank you! By the way, I chose never to have kids of my own. But if I had had a boy, Allistair would have been his name. I have always loved this name! (Agatha or Augusta for a girl, hee hee!) Much peace and hugs to you all! Namaste!!
I have a chronic pain condition in my left arm and so stimming through my hands is way too painful, so I use my legs. I used to wing flap when I got excited and used to jump up and down when I was a child and teen. Now I was diagnosed when I was 27 and I am now 35. I have had to learn a few tricks along the way to stop getting too overstimulated or overloaded. Thank you for educating and supoorting us. My mum didn't have any support and we all believed that my signs were due to losing my father as a 11 year old
@PRISTINE JOEL you can't heal autism. It is something you are born with. You maybe able to help reduce the severeity of the symptoms and allow what might be overstimulating or overwhelming to be less so. Also, we tend to get better coping mechanisms as we get older. Finding a cure is not going to help. What will help is working together with your son and figuring out what is going to be less overstimulating or overwhelming. If sunlight is too bright, then wearing sunglasses when it is too bright may help. Having a special bag of all the things he is obsessed with go wherever he goes so he can use that bag to help when the anxiety gets too high (I call it decompressing). This is not a disease, its not like the flu or bacterial infection that you just take some meds and your cured. Our brains are wired differently. That means we have to work out how to do things differently. Some meds can be used to reduce the severeity of some of the signs but you can't get rid of it.
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I'm so happy to learn about Autism!
My neighbor is Autistic and mostly non-verbal, and I want to be able to connect with him better.
I hand-flapped when I was littler, but I've been stimming with less variety as I age - I have a small range of less flashy stims that each mostly connect to one particular emotional state.
When happy, I often use a vocal stim that I call a 'chirp', it kind of comes out sounding like a variety of birds. It's a way for me to communicate happiness non-verbally, to people I trust. I used to make lots of animal noises, but my mom worried that it made picking on me easier, so I was conditioned not to make them any more. The compromise I landed on is to reserve the chirps for safe spaces only, and to 'put the mask on' when leaving such a place.
When highly stressed and close to melt-down, I'm likely to bite the top of my hand until bruising occurs. It's a last-ditch attempt to urge myself to get away from the stressor if I can, like giving a horse the whip (which is doubly cruel since at least the horse isn't doing the hitting itself, poor thing.) Or to urge a caregiver into guiding me away if I'm shutting down. It's a plea for help in any case, as I'll often be non-vocal when everything feels like crashing down.
In mildly stressful social situations that aren't immediately threatening but cover subjects I find challenging (usually 1-1 discussions, mostly the early sessions I had with my life coach) I'll finger-clap: jamming all fingers of the hand together as if trying to clap, but holding off before the palms of the hands contact one another. I would make this motion at around middle-height rather than above the head, making it fairly covert. This is a stim I only realized I did when my coach pointed it out. It was a totally unconscious expression of feeling mild tension.
I am 23 and AFAB, diagnosed at 7.
Do u mind if I ask... You mentioned animal sounds... my son is 10 and recently diagnosed so I'm really beginning the learning journey to help him... Trying to learn a much as i can for him! I notice my son will often growl when he's getting agitated about something in a conversation. (He's usually very verbal, except for sometimes mid meltdown) The growling usually happens when someone is getting onto him or being critical in some way. I think it's obvious that he's getting frustrated and probably feeling attacked? I'm thinking it's the best way he can communicate to us at the moment that he's feeling upset or defensive. He usually doesn't use much English at those times. Just growling like he's angry at us. Do you think this may be a type of stimmimg? I've been thinking it's mostly his only way to try to communicate something to us at the moment. Do you have any thoughts? Am i having the right idea do you think?
What does AFAB mean?
@@camellia8625 Assigned female at birth :) I mention it because AFAB people have a lower rate of being correctly diagnosed with autism due to the prevalence of the incorrect assumption that the neurodiversity we call the autistic spectrum is a "boy disorder", because the traits that are easiest to pick up on show more with boys due to a blend of brain chemistry and social conditioning (girls generally learn to 'mask' earlier in life).
I could have said "I am a woman" in place of AFAB but I didn't to be inclusive to trans folk (lots of people who are AFAB but don't ID as female), of which I am one. I was assigned female at birth, but I don't feel any connection to womanhood, and don't ID exclusively as female.
@@carrieestridge7583 the idea you have seems correct to me. When I was little, I learned that making 'weird' noises was an effective way of deterring adults who were bothering me. My thought process was that if I refused to partake in proper conversation, they would often quickly leave me alone, and experience backed up this expectation. If you notice your son is growling, be it at a specific person or anyone trying to engage him, try offering him a way out of the social situation by providing him with a quiet place to sit and decompress. I also suggest giving him access to stim toys like chews or fidget cubes, so he can figure out what helps him deal with overstimulation in a healthy way. Harmless stims should be more accepted as a way to regulate stress, because to suppress stimming can be actively self-harming to the autistic brain. If I can't decompress in a manner that suits my need, that just leads to frustration bottling up until I boil over. I wish you good luck in working together with your son!
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
Thank you so much for your video. My son hits his chest and his head. I get him checked from time to time to make sure he is not hurting himself, and yes these videos are so helpful to people like me who wonder if their child's stimming is common. Keep up the good work and your children are lucky to have parents that are very knowledgeable and aware of what is going on with them and we the viewers are lucky that you chose to share their journey with us.
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I love that you named them !!! My 21 year old does the bird wings and then jumps extremely high especially if it’s one of his really preferred activities 😂. A lot of people don’t understand that sometimes something as simple as naming stimms or laughing sometimes when you child just does something that is “weird” normalizes the behavior for that person on the spectrum and the family members loving and caring for our angels. Some people don’t realize how hard it is and sometimes you have to laugh to stop from crying. It can be overwhelming and difficult but those hugs and kisses are the best. Keep it up guys!!!
Is it okay to say that sounds cute af since they're 21? My kid is only 5 so I'm seeing it through those eyes.
@@backgroundmusik Boy do I remember those days! I’m so sorry about the rough times you’re having right now. My son was very self injurious when he was around 5-12 years. People would always say it gets better when they get older. I never believed them until one day something just clicked, and he stopped scratching himself and biting himself to the point of drawing blood. Don’t get me wrong life by no means is a walk in the park. It’s just a different type of difficult. Now we are having to deal with adult things like day programs, and all the adult stuff that comes with a special needs adult. Stay strong!!!!! You’re not alone!!!!
@@allaboutthatwifeandmomlife thanks. She used to head bang and once hit so hard her head swelled up like a melon. She was okay though. We are in an elopement phase currently. Whole new set of problems
@@backgroundmusik My goodness it’s really hard to watch them hurt themselves and we can’t do anything to make them stop. We went through the elopement too. We have a special lock on the front door that he can’t operate because his fine motor isn’t good. Hang in there! I hope you all can come out the other side of this soon and get the support and help she may need. God bless 🙏🏽❤️
@@allaboutthatwifeandmomlife we have little alarms on the doors and windows. I'm thinking of getting a dog soon.
I thank God you have posted these videos. My 12yr old has felt normal in a non normal way by watching kids like her do the same things she does. She's the only one of her friends that does "spider," fingers or the hand excitement stims by her face. Thank you and please thank your 3 awesome boys for helping the young community on here who watch.
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Your remarks at the end is perfectly said. We don't shun other disorders, why would autism be any different? Thank you for sharing with us!
Sincerely,
A mother to a son with autism 🧩
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Thank you so much for doing these videos and educating those of us watching.
I think it's common to demand "inclusivity" for the ones not in need of it, whom like to play the victim, and to ignore and keep marginalizing the ones who have the right to be included, as a fundamental right of human beings. Autism is often marginalized, unless is hyper functional Autism, like in "The Good Doctor". These videos are highly educational. And needed! Thanks!
Who are “the ones not in need of it”?
Am….am I one of the “ones not in need of” inclusivity?
I’m very good at art, math, and computer programming languages.
But I’m terrible at social situations and frequently miss what others find obvious.
I’m chronically late to activities, am quite distractible, and shut down when I’m overstimulated or stressed, and I stim mildly.
Does including me somehow erase those who are less “gifted”?
Does my stimming make me more “disabled”?
If I’m both “gifted” and “disabled”, do I fall into the category of those who are allowed to seek inclusivity, or with those who are only slightly different from them who are “not in need”?
My child with a full body stim is the most loving, beautiful child ever...my mother that couldn't understand his need to stim, once took him in to a public bathroom, deliberately blocked him from getting out and kept putting the hand dryer on......vlogs like this are great to help educate people...
I was late diagnosed and honestly seeing the way your kids stim warms my heart and reminds me of how I used to be when I was a kid. I'm so happy proper Autism awareness is making it's way out there because it is making it so much easier for people like me to cope. Thank you for sharing these videos.
are you working now
And I'm happy to know you're proud of your kids. This is apparent just by the various outings your show them in and how you speak of them. They're human beings and are just as valuable as the next. Good on you, good sir.
To those who say people shouldn't put up videos like this that educate others and raise awareness of these issues, they can pound sand. They're uncomfortable with seeing real life situations they most likely would have much difficulty handling themselves and usually, they feel a sense of guilt because of that.
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
This is very helpfull,I have some other sticks but I don’t know if I have autism but u guys helped a lot .u guys always help me build up education of autism.
Thank you so much for your light on the autistic community. i have autism and my biological mom is all over the news for being arrested hundreds of times. when i was a teenager i got lost in my own own and had a lot of problems. people could tell there was something wrong with me. my parents refused to get professional help for me and no one knew what was going on. in my early 20s i grew out of my problems but i still remember the panic attacks, depression, bizarre behavior, ect. I diagnosed myself with autism in my 30s. It's a highly complex disorder and way more needs to be understood about it and its treatments to help us! I'm very proud to be an autistic even though mine disappeared. im so sick of us being undiagnosed, misdiagnosed, misunderstood, shunned, ect. THANK YOU FOR MAKING OUR COMMUNITY STRONGER💙💙🖤
When my boys were young, up until probably the age about 12 or 13, they did the “bird“. My youngest son still twirls the top of his head hair. He’s 16. I was just recently diagnosed, which is very hard to do when you are 51 years old especially if you’re female. But my hand Stimming is probably the most concerning. I’ve been doing it since I was about three or four years old, and I pull the skin from the edges of my cuticles. I know it is part of this behavior because I do it whether I am anxious, bored, and especially excited or overstimulated in a positive way. Nervous, waiting, or watching TV… It doesn’t matter I do it all the time and I’m constantly working to minimize it. The part I relate to most in this video is that the stimuli can come from many sources but cause the same behavior. Your boys are so cute, a lot of what they’re doing in the way they look reminds me of my brother when he was a little. We were all exhibiting behaviors but went undiagnosed and unsupported. so glad times are different and getting better, because my youngest son receives very good services. The people who are worried about showing these things on the Internet are The ones that have a problem with the diversity of autism themselves, and they view it as some kind of degrading act. But it can’t become a normal every day thing if we hide it or try to ignore it. and that’s really all it is, diversity in the human population. Don’t all people need to look after their limitations and take care of themselves when overstressed or in need of some thing? everyone signs are different, but we all need that :-)
Look into body-focused repetitive behaviours and dermatillomania
Oh! I can help with this! Covera hard plastic object, preferably a rough textured one, with Elmer’s glue and pick that instead. Really helped a friend of mine who used to do the same thing. Hope it helps you!!
@@Axqu7227 I use to cover my hands with Elmers glue :-) and I will try covering an object, there’s some type of connection with my hands though… I bought stretchy fabric fingercots and this seems to help a lot… thank you very much for your suggestion :-)
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I just had the most transformative touching moment. I went to see The Nutcracker and sat not far from an autistic guy and adult who was also blind. But he could tell all the exciting moments of the ballet and I could see him waving his hands and clapping. He must have felt the vibrations. I was moved to tears and I hugged him afterwards.
He had such a great time and he made my time at The Nutcracker so special just witnessing his enjoyment through his sensory.
Interestingly I am in my 50’s and recently discovered I’m autistic. I do qi gong daily and many of these stims are reflective of areas where we focus on in qi gong. The wrists can hold a great deal of energy and the spider hands was a recent exercise. I imagine that like me, many autists are dealing with the need to release energy. Stimming/qi gong serve the same purpose. Growing up in the 70’s having to sit quietly in a desk was a form of torture. Thanks for this video!!
@RestWithin no for me exercise is good for anxiety but the stimming releases energy that is getting stuck in my body. Moving helps release it.
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
Recently diagnosed at 52 and studying a Masters in Autism (currently paused due to circumstances). I LOVE my autism and I hope to be able to pass on that joy and sense of pride to other autists, especially kids (I went through 30 years of hell undiagnosed and don't want a single child to have to do the same). One of the things I love about it are the discoveries I've made about my own nature on an almost daily basis. For many years I've tapped my neck muscles (the trapezius on either side and at the top of the shoulders) enough to make a good solid "thunk" that I hear and often set to a particular rhythm. Now I know it's a stim, thank you ;)
I'd also like to point out that autists already know "mindfullness" and meditation as part of our nature....its the stimming. Repetitive motion or thought that allows the autist to calm themselves from an overload, living in the present (albeit only for a little while).
So that's nice ;)
I've had a number of stims over the years but the one that got the most attention when I was a kid (way before we knew what autism was) was bird wings. My dad would always ask me (lovingly) if my motor was running. Keep making these videos!
Get the best remedy to improve your child’s autistic condition from doctor Oyalo as his herbs have helped my child improve in speech and social skill very well.
I have a twelve year old autistic son. He stimulates the same way. I've learned about autism through him and still continue to. Thanks for the video and blessings to your family
Get the best remedy to improve your child’s autistic condition from doctor Oyalo as his herbs have helped my child improve in speech and social skill very well.
Your channel is amazing. The boys are too cute and you’re such a great knowledgeable father. So involved in your kids lives. Kudos to you and thank you for sharing.
Get the best remedy to improve your child’s autistic condition from doctor Oyalo as his herbs have helped my child improve in speech and social skill very well.
As a health professional who treats ppl with this condition i thank yall and praise for your courage ; sharing this info will help several families !!! And agree to show what ASD
Thanks a bunch
I do some of the stims on the lists, especially number 5 when I’m walking my dog, but a lot of my stims are tactile and chewing stims. I find myself rubbing my hands on a lot of soft things like my dog’s fur and ears or my blanket, and chew on the zippers on my pajamas.
Very helpful. We are in the final process of diagnoses. I never realized my daughter was stimming until I did the interview with the specialist. Now that I know, I am already working to change my behavior. I use to try to correct my kid when she was stimming. Now I work to steer her toward healthier outlets. Like nail biting, I talked with her and learned it was the oral input from the activity so I got her chew-lery to redirect her to. I don’t try to correct her squeaking when excited or the bird arms. Seeing these videos assists me with my education as I learn how to understand my kids world.
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
So inspirational and educational to a SPED educator! So cool what your doing for the community 🎉 I like how you acknowledge that others may disagree with posting this content, but at the end of the day, we all know where our individual hearts and motives lie…please keep posting!
Get the best remedy to improve your child’s autistic condition from doctor Oyalo as his herbs have helped my child improve in speech and social skill very well.
Thank you for sharing this. We recently had a family join our church that has a preschooler with autism. He is non verbal so I appreciate you sharing this so we can know what it may mean. I also think it will expand others people knowledge if they get over the “exploitation” they are claiming. It’s very obvious that you are not sharing to belittle, make fun of, or shame your sons.
@HollySwedenstop
I’ve stimmed for ad long as I can remember. I never knew that I was autistic because in my day it wasn’t talked about and my mom was a nurse. I used to get in trouble for my tics and eye rolling. Your boys are beautiful ❤
There is a Dr that you can get in touch with Dr Oyalo on UA-cam. Am excited to share about how his herbs works perfectly in reversing my son autism. now his speech has improved
Thank you for this video. I don't have any social exposure to anyone with autism, no kids myself, no friends w/autism, so I found this quite interesting in understanding more about autism. And your children seem happy and well loved, so I see nothing wrong and much good about showing others like me what stimming is about. I'm enjoying your channel and have learned a lot and will help educate others when the opportunity arises in conversation.
I do the spider fingers one a lot especially when I'm anxious or overstimulated. I also do this thing where I spin while doing the spider fingers stim. Though a lot of the time I have to suppress the stims because my dad yells at me and my mom tells me to act normal. I am happy to see you let your kids be themselves.
Much love to your family!!!
Rebecca, 16
I spin while doing the spider hands when I'm anxious and overwhelmed but also when I'm overstimulated
As if you could help the behaviors if you wanted to... Sending lots of big hugs 🫂
Hey rebbeca I have autism and anxiety ect
@@agapelove1111 thank you :)))))
@@Imogencoleman1 same :( its not fun
The videos definitely should be on line. I mentor some young men (14 -19) at our men's shed and I have picked up so many things from your videos that have helped me with these young men. The one thing you mentioned is, your boys know the videos are on line and they approve of that. I ask the lads I mentor if I have their permission to talk about them when I am asked to do a talk about our 'Neuro Diverse' program. They always give their approval for this to happen.
I have two children who are formally diagnosed with Autism. My son is nonverbal and bangs his head on the floor when he is having difficulty self regulating and triggered by denied access. I put yoga mats on my entire floor. It also makes it easier to clean, because he is a very messy child. It protects his head and makes the floor more inviting to play on.
He does the most hand flapping, swimming behaviors, walks on his tip toes like he is wearing stilettos, but also likes to make paper accordions when he stems. He takes a tiny strip of paper and folds it into tiny little squares, and then releases it. I have no idea where he learned this from.
We have a hammock, air castle, and a little bike track. He is a climber but so was his older sister who eventually outgrew this behavior. Extra stimulus helps keep behaviors down in frequency.
My daughter is a savant but also prone to vandalism if she is under stimulated. She is super intelligent and often outsmarts me.
It is difficult to be a single parent with extra challenges to overcome but this is why they have been in ABA Therapy for a number of years. It has helped so much and I highly recommend it. My daughter couldn't even sit in a chair when she started.
Both of my children have taught me a lot! I wouldn't trade them for the world! 💙💙🌎
Thanks for this video. I do the fingers one but I do it due to Tourettes. I am in my fifties and have done hand movements for years. I see people looking at me and the only ones that say anything about it is my family member who should know better. I am glad to know that these problems are getting more attention so people don't say anything that would make other upset. Not sure why but it is always the ones that should know better that say stuff. You have a good family. Thanks for sharing
My son does the wing flapping the most when he's happy and when he's really happy, he kicks his right foot out several times while he's doing it. We see it as a body smile because we just know he's enjoying whatever has his attention at the moment.
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.
It’s fascinating watching this and realising what I replace mine as to mask more. Like chewing the inside of my face, scratching my head obsessively and pretending I needed to stretch and crack my bones etc. thanks to videos like this and your parenting the next generation may have more freedom and less trauma. Thank you xxx
You’re welcome
Thank you for loving information,I have a Greatgrand son,and a Grandson both are on the spectrum.One eats constantly,not from hunger,so can hand to mouth movement be part of stemming?My other baby has to have dinosaurs in his hands at all times,he says words but cannot say sentences,Does not acknowledge other kids and likes being alone,also nonverbal but will hug and kiss family,Both boys are in school and 5 yrs old both diagnosed at 2.I appreciate you showing this video,May your family be blessed.
Thank you for every video and sharing to increase awareness. My son was just diagnosed this year. I can use all the guidance 🙏🙏🙏
We're in this together! My son is autistic and I couldn't love him more. He's a "clapper". When he See's birds or bugs he does the behind the head" Flippy" fingers. I know right then he's very happy! Love them, hug them & always remember God gave them to us for a reason!!! Have a wonderful Thanksgiving. It was nice to let you know my life is different also. 💖
This is so helpful for parents like me who has 2 beautiful autistic boys xx
Thank you for the videos! I am a Spanish medical interpreter working with families with limited English proficiency. Unfortunately, most of these families have little to zero knowledge about autism. Add the language barrier to that and the future may look very disconcerting. Thanks to videos like yours I have learnt so much about autism. I feel better prepared to interpret for Spanish-speaking families during an autism evaluation. So you see, your videos are helping me to help others overcome the language barrier and learn more about autism.
I do a variation of "spider fingers" where when I get overwhelmed or touch or hear something awful, I hold my hands up pretty much always near my ears and I wiggle either my middle or pointer finger up and down quickly. It's kinda like when people vocalize with their hands but in a uncomfortable way.
I really appreciate the attention to making sure your family is okay with being shown and I was very happy to hear the language you used towards your sons! I am definetly sticking around for more content!!
As i watch this i remember back when i was a kid and your youngest reminds me of myself alot, Although i didn't get support, all the oddball things i did as a kid were criticized and mocked out of me. I'm very happy to see the level of support and understanding that has developed since that time. I'm slowly learning about myself and making the connections every day.
Oh wow so that's why my 9 year old does that with her hands. When she was 5 I had asked her doctor why she does that and she said that my daughter did that as a way to express her excitement 😁 we've always called it tics. I love watching your boys cause it reminds me exactly of my daughter!!
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Thank you so very much for sharing, I just realized me and my kids may have be autistic, is a blessing to understand how we are as a person, and for the people that say that this videos are hurtful is maybe a trigger because they one day got hurt but the people that do not except "different" but I loved that you menssioned that your kids are ok that means Respect and the care for others if only we all think of our neighbors and loved them like God said we would have loving exceptence and love to all.
I have autism and I do some of this a lot when I’m happy or even when I am frustrated. Question, that I don’t see answered a lot, do any of your kids carry objects around with them? I have always had the tendency to carry things around with me, as someone with autism, but I have never found much about it or seen many examples of others doing the same things. Keep educating, your boys are amazing.
I carry heavier things in a backpack as a way of weighted vest substitute, because I feel my body better that way. Proprioception gets worse the lighter I am moving in space (sitting or laying down gives enough pressure, but when only my feet touch the ground and the rest of the body is not weighed down, I feel like I could float away with the lightest breeze ).
As a kidI loved wearing too tight and small clothes as a sort of anchor.
Get the best remedy to improve your child’s autistic condition from doctor Oyalo as his herbs have helped my child improve in speech and social skill very well.
Thank you to you and your family for allowing us to see a part of your life. There is autism in my family, but we are just learning about it, so your videos are so valuable to us. Thank you and take care ❤️
I saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on UA-cam. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement.