Another tip I would recommend to anyone reading this, is to try and reward yourself after a cleaning task. Big or small. It helps you associate cleaning with positive things instead of negative things.
I think I hated cleaning because I didn't know how to do it, where to start and I was embarrassed to ask anyone. In my head, it was overwhelming. Thanks for changing that! You're my go to for cleaning because you taught me how and love you're transparency/honesty, honestly!
@@dnicolle529 Yes, absolutely! How can we know stuff when we aren't taught? I mean, there are new things to learn always, but the basics would be nice😔 Good luck, all of us, I guess😁
Cleaning felt like a stressful rushed punishment when I was a kid. I like a clean home but I feel stressed when i clean. But I feel stressed when things are not clean. Still waiting for someone to yell at me 😅 Sometimes its all overwhelming
As I've gotten older, I've realized that a lot of the reason I hate cleaning is that my family has way too much stuff. I once timed how long it took to sweep the floor vs how long it took to get everything off the floor to be able to sweep it. We have chairs and stools and sometimes leftover groceries that haven't been put away yet and a box or two that has nowhere else to go. Easily doubles the time it takes (or triples, if you count putting it all back, which I don't because by then I usually have given up on the task and leave it for someone else to do). Plus I don't get a big sense of accomplishment upon finishing because as soon as it's done the surface is immediately covered over with stuff again so you can hardly tell it was cleaned off a few minutes ago.
I hated cleaning because 1. I didn't know how to do it. My mom was the type who preferred to do it all herself. 2. I was lost regarding when to do everything. Meaning do I do kitchen first or bathroom or should I do the laundry first or maybe I should sweep so I would freeze up and do nothing! It was crazy but with the help of cleaning vlogs like yours🥰💛💛, I finally figured out it ALL doesn't have to be done everyday...well except for kitchen and daily pick up of course. But for example, I now do laundry on Thursdays instead of every other day and having it keep piling up. Everything having to do with laundry(including folding and putting away) happens on Thursday. Bathrooms light clean everyday and deep clean Sat and Wed. and so on and so forth. It sounds like a lot but what to take me hours now takes 30 minutes per day more or less...except for laundry day of course. So thank you for all your cleaning vlogs! *Hugs*🥰🥰🥰
GREAT advice!! 💜 I've been a bachelor almost all my 62 years of life & I literally hate to clean my home. I've gotten to the point in the past where I was embarrassed to even have anyone over, because of the way my house has been filthy! I've been a subscriber to your channel for a while & I've learned lot from you! Keep up the great work & God bless you for what you do !
My sister and I have concluded that we hated cleaning because we never had the right tools or the proper cleaning solutions for the task. We've shifted from hate it to don't like it much (lots of thanks to you💜)
Melissa, you have totally changed the cleaning game for me! Between the three wave system, the s-pattern wipe, the baking soda & oxiclean hacks, and all the diy cleaning products, I feel like I'm so much more efficient when I clean. Anyone who's never been taught how to keep a clean home, this is the channel for you!
I hate cleaning and I grew up with parents obsessed with cleaning. I live alone so I have to clean but it is the bane of my existence. Good for you making this a thing. I will spread the word about your channel.
I knew I liked you! I HATE CLEANING! But I also like a very clean house and the drama of trying to reconcile the two is not a joke! Thank you for the video.
Funny story: My younger sister and I shared a room as kids, and I hated cleaning (not sure why, it's just a pain in the butt, I guess). I came up with a brilliant idea...I told my sister it was a game show. I used a tape recorder and microphone as the "host" and each event was that she had to clean a part of the room. It made it more fun, and I didn't have to do a thing! Lol
I hate cleaning because I had so many cleaning chores growing up that I actively choose “no, don’t wanna”. I love your common sense approach. Your book is the best adulting purchase I’ve ever made. I used your microwave cleaning solution and it went from teeny murder scene to spotless is less than 5 minutes! I watched your mouldy window cleaning video and followed your instructions…and they are no longer gross. Seeing great results sets different expectations and it changes the way I see chores I used to loathe. I have one problem though…your microfibre cloths are so fluffy and perfect - I don’t want to get them dirty 🥴
I used to love cleaning until I became disabled. Then it became a painful chore. My spouse has taken up some of the slack, which was hard to let go. Now I've been trying to find easier ways to modify cleaning. I also switched to making my own cleaning products, better for my chemical sensitivities. I love watching your videos, they're soothing & helpful.
I just posted something similar. I'd love to know your modifications to make cleaning easier. Myself, one simple thing is I got one of those reacher-grabber tools so I don't have to bend over to pick things up off the floor.
I know my hatred of cleaning comes from how i was raised. Our mom would freak out if we didn't do our chores perfectly. Now I tend to try to clean everything perfectly, and it ends up taking forever!
I spent time in foster care as a child and the last family I was with ( before being returned to my mother ) was always having myself and the other kids clean. Not just the inside of the house, but the outside as well. There was the vacuuming, dusting etch but weeding, mowing ( with hand powered rolling mowers ) .. BTW I also have my own cleaning business. I clean for seniors who may have certain disabilities that make it difficult for them accomplish.
Cleaning used to be a chore in my earlier years but now I see it as a great work out that I actually enjoy and most of the time I listen to relaxing music or a podcast which makes it even more enjoyable! Love your channel that gives great tips and DIY recipes and videos are very well made!👍
I love this video, Melissa! I will admit that I've had professional cleaners for about 25 years until recently...like maybe the past 4. I don't hate cleaning but I now have some physical limitations that won't allow me to do what I want to do. It's tough to even vacuum or mop the floors now. I too have lowered my expectations, but boy, it sure was nice to have a 'perfect' house all of those years.
I don’t hate cleaning but I use to. Now I get satisfaction from making my home beautiful and smelling nice. It’s sometimes difficult to find the time to clean because I’d rather work in my flower beds so I will set a timer for 10 minutes and see how much I can do in the house before going back outside.
Cleaning can be overwhelming, it is boring and sucks away all my energy as I have ME/CFS. I like your tips and tricks and the way you convey them to us. Thanks for doing what you do!
For me it was always an overwhelming task to clean or even to keep something clean. Thanks to my therapist I came to the conclusion that i never really learned how to clean properly and thanks to my anxiety im mostly exhausted from even the thought to clean. Thanks to your tips and tricks and some other tips from my therapist i really came a long way now. Cleaning and decluttering like i never have before. And all that thanks to your inspiring and informing videos. Thank you
Cleaning in my childhood was a 4 hour hour team clean with my brothers and sisters. It was a bummer to wake up after a school week and have the biggest plans be cleaning. Though my Mother to excellent care of us and our home, with 9 children in a 3 bedroom home, there was only so much one could do to have a “place for every thing.” I never had my own space to clean because we had shared rooms and beds. I’m the only one I know that loved college accommodations with a roommate. Even though it was a half a room, it WAS my own space!😃
I actually don't mind cleaning, but I do go through periods when I don't feel like it. That's when I watch your videos. They truly help to motivate me. Thank you!
I hate cleaning but I'm looking to become more of a responsible adult, before I get married to my boyfriend. I don't want to be a liability and I want to ensure ican help out in the house too.
Hope he wants to as well my son and DIL share everything they both work shifts one for the ambulance and the other for the fire service so both tidy and clean wash and cook equally they have lived together since covid but got married a month ago and seem really happy x
Yes!! Cleaning when I was growing up was usually punishment or something the family did when my parents were in a bad mood. I am older now and moved past that but I shared that same kind of association when I was younger.
I love listening to you I feel like I’m talking with a friend; thanks for making me feel better! I hate cleaning bc I live with two wonderful people that love to mess up my space lol…my husband and son. It’s what you said, it’s the never-ending story.
My sister and mom have a cleaning business. They have been doing it for 20+ . I worked for them and the need was speed plus and ability. I wish I had your videos back then. It makes more sense to use your techniques. Thanks again!
I hate cleaning because sometimes it's gross lol I also hate it because it feels like it always falls on me even though I'm not the only one making the mess. So I literally clean with anger and bitterness in my heart and that sucks.
I don't obsess about cleaning but I was taught by mom that whenever you do a task, think of each job as a labor of love whether for a family member or for yourself. Keeping that in mind, I am able to do a job even when I don't want to clean. Thanks for the good points you made today.
I also hated cleaning because I didn’t know what I was doing. Both of my parents had no idea, mom had maids and dad had June Cleaver for a mom so I don’t think either touched a mop until college. 😅 I moved in with my boyfriend’s family in college and his mom taught me so much! Now the main reason is just because I am disabled and it takes so much energy! Particularly if you have a couple of bad days and fall behind, the further behind you get the harder it is to come back from it. The roomba was one of the greatest purchases of my life. 😂💕
For me, I have to tell myself "No computer time until I get my chores done". Surfing the web in my retirement is a big black hole! lol! I'll give myself 3 or 4 chores a day that have to be done because I can't stand it anymore and get those done. If I allow myself to get lost on the computer first, the day is gone. It's all about focusing on the priorities. Get the chores done and then I can play.
I was an only child and felt like I had too much put on my shoulders as a kid as far as cleaning goes. I have been pretty particular over the years but now am pretty relaxed in my clean routine.
Very much like you, I have a negative association from childhood about cleaning. My mother would wake me up very early every Saturday morning, slamming doors, etc. and say: Get up we have to clean the house now. So, not fun. Also, like you, we didn't have the proper tools or know what products did what. Mostly, soap/water, and scrub. Glad I found your channel, it has helped. Everyone always says I have a clean house (that's mostly because I don't have clutter) but the heavy lifting stuff is still a challenge. You are an inspiration because you let us know we don't need to be perfect! Thanks for all your content.
I hate cleaning because growing up it was NEVER done right....or good enough. And I was never taught how to do it the way they wanted it. There was anger & punishment and to this day I have a negative physical reaction to house work.
I know exactly how you feel about cleaning. I was raised in the same exact way. It was even to the point that if I wanted to do something, like going horseback riding, I had to do a bunch of cleaning. If it wasn't done the way she wanted it, (coming from someone who NEVER cleaned), I couldn't go. I hated her for it. And now I also have negative physical reactions to cleaning too. I think the overwhelming feeling is the worst. But now I have a disability makes things worse.
I used to hate cleaning, but I don’t anymore, thanks to you, Melissa! Armed with your methods and a very basic home made multipurpose cleaner (made to one of your recipes), I’m now doing well. I like the goals. Doing less more often is the key for me!
I hate cleaning the oven and the bathroom but I learn from you how to do it; thank you Melissa for always helping us, you are #1 when it comes to clean. 😊💖😘
I have a love/hate relationship with cleaning. I hate cleaning because it takes time from other funner stuff and I love cleaning because of the instant gratification and it’s something I have control over.
I hated cleaning until I found your channel about 6 years ago. I hated it because I didn't know what to do. Turns out I have PTSD, ADHD and have moved 33-35 times in my 36 years. I spotted caring because I couldn't make a house work for me. Who can afford to set up a particular space to work for them when you're going to have to move again. I'm finally still. Hopefully never moving again. Small house with my 3 kids and we've gotten rid of sooo much stuff, and I'm ALL in for container porn and labels- everyone's got their thing! But I've paid for it by selling stuff. I've got matching labelled spray bottles and use your DIY recipes. I still hate vacuuming and mopping. I've got systematic arthritis. I'm 100% better than I was 3, 5 and 10 years ago at keeping house. You're approach helps me so much to not feel guilty when sometimes I just can't get it done. Having a list of MIA's for an ADHD, autistic mum of 3 little ones is just gold. I forget what I'm doing constantly. You've helped me immensely. I found your videos looking up how to clean to grout 4 houses and 5 years ago.
This is why I grew up “hating to clean”. Before we could do anything else in the day we had chores to do which was cleaning. I couldn’t go out with my friends until I cleaned certain things. My Mother had a hutch in the kitchen that she collected salt and pepper shakers on, well you can probably guess what my job was but she also helped was to take them all off the shelves and dust them each and every one of them dust the shelves then put them back on the shelf. I love my Mother so very much I don’t think she ever knew how much I hated that job. After she passed away my sister and I wrapped them all up and divided them up. She has a box and so do I. Mine are still in the box stored away. They have never been taken out of the box since we packed them up. I can’t give them away or get rid if them. That has been over 30 years ago. Sorry for such a long story but I still hate to clean even today and especially to dust! But I do love to knit🧶❣️Lol!
I’d like to add, she had mentioned starting with the task you like the least to get it out of the way. I used to clean like that and there are days that is a great method. Since getting pregnant and losing energy and motivation it helps me get momentum if I start with the fastest easiest task and slowly move to the harder ones. I get rewarded with more tasks getting checked off faster and find it easier to tackle the harder ones once I’m moving. That might help some people, especially if you like getting things clean but have a hard time with motivation to start. Without feeling like I have the energy to tackle the list I’m ready to quit after the hard task. If that’s you try starting with the easiest or the one that makes you the most happy seeing done, then move on to something else that can be done fast and easy keep that trend until you want to take down that bigger task.
Once again, you hit it out of the park, Melissa! Your videos never disappoint. They are always informational, inspirational and relatable. Best of all, you are so articulate.
I am somewhere in the middle of like/hate cleaning. Dusting is my most unliked job and I think that is due to my mom had so many small items to dust and she made me do it. I told myself when I got older that I wouldn’t have that many small figurines and things and I don’t but I still dislike dusting.
I like having a clean home because it is my sanctuary. Also i can't focus until it's clean. NO shoes on in the house, try to reset the kitchen at night to make things easier in the morning, make the bed daily and straightening up. I hate cleaning the toilet tho. But the reason I kinda hate it is because my partner is messy and I'm always cleaning, so it's easier for me to clean than have to show him.
Great video, realistic, honest & solid advice. I hate cleaning because outside of that moment when everything is nice and clean, it doesn't stay that way. I also love pets and they come with their own level of mess, and I just got to where it really didn't bother me all that much. I mostly clean for society measures so it's the whirlwind when someone is coming over. I try to not be cluttered, but until I see it engraved on a headstone,' masterful cleaner', I can usually find something I'd rather do. I"m working on it, as you say, owning where I am on the continuum.
I think my Mom wasn't great at it, she had a difficult time teaching us so we inherited her subconscious hate of cleaning. I definitely have a hard time starting the cleaning process but I have learned so much from your channel 😃 thank you for providing such a great source of information!
Excellent advice here. What stresses me out is what needs to be cleaned and how often? Can’t get every THING cleaned in every room all the time. Need lists!
I love cleaning but struggle with back pain so you would never know I love to clean. I have to budget my physical energy and my schedule. I try to vacuum daily BC of pets and long hair, if I do it daily it only takes about 5 mins. If I have a flare up and can't do it for several days then it takes much longer when I can do it and I end up being hesitant in fear that I'll trigger the pain again. Doing something as basic as mopping the floor can make me require pain meds, which in turn make me tired and then I don't get much else done. In sure many who watch understand this cycle! Some days I'm immediately emptying the dishwasher and starting to load as we go and other days the act of rinsing and placing each dish in the dishwasher after a meal is just too much twisting. I've done dishes by hand just to avoid the slight bend and twist the dishwasher requires. 😬 So, I guess I can mentally scare myself out of doing things BC of potential physical pain and/or I can't do the things BC of pain 😭
This is a huge part for me as well. Then it got to the point I was using it as an excuse even when I had flares that weren't as bad. I try to do what I can when I'm physically not really able to. Sometimes it's just sitting on the couch paper shredding or organizing papers lol
@@simplymarisa8 I wish I could be up and doing the things consistently. I try and do things in little bites. Example, I just scrubbed the birds cage after having a coffee, now I'm stretching out and resting a bit at the same time. Someone who doesn't get the pain may have continued with scrubbing the wall or vacuuming but those are things I'll work at later. I used to think it was all or nothing so a whole lot of nothing was done! I'm def getting better with budgeting time and body. I've learned it's ok to just vacuum the area rug and then do other spaces later. I wish I could go back to zone cleaning or a room per day type thing but ultimately, my physical health is in charge of my cleaning routine. Partly done is better than not done at all! 💞
Since I've started watching your videos I really enjoy cleaning! I love the products you recommend, they work very well, I love the methods you recommend, and I am amazed at myself because cleaning was really not something I wanted to talk about, let alone do. And oh, by the way, I LOVE your shirt!
Melissa I love your advice and I use it. You have the very best microfiber clothes and towels. I just ordered your mop. You are so down to earth and honest. By The Way Reilly is growing up WAY TO FAST and she is just A precious little angel!
Growing up as a hoarder family, I hated cleaning. I still carry some habits that don’t let me continue. I always realize I have to declutter, or I’ll save my recycling too long. So what I don’t like is tidying. After that, I don’t mind cleaning, but it takes so long to get to that stage after decluttering.
I've had to lower my expectations of how clean I want something because of serious health issues. Having a some mess laying around is better than trying to do to much and end up in the hospital again.
Do you have certain days you do certain things? I have no specific routine and it gets overwhelming. I’d love a video on what to do which days to keep a clean house. An idea of a schedule that could work. Thx.
My favorite cleaning hack is getting rid of the clutter. Can’t clean clutter…..ever. My cleaning switch got flipped as a young married who had to hide dirty dishes in the oven because I didn’t have time to clean up my filthy kitchen’s flat surfaces AND do the dishes. I swore I’d never be ashamed of how my house looked ever again. FlyLady routines and schedules taught me how to keep a clean house. Now, I spend only 15 minutes a week cleaning.
I think there are a couple of reasons why I hate cleaning - first, I was never really taught. I'm also on the autism spectrum and I tend to get really overwhelmed really easily, especially when getting started - it's like I look at a mess and it just makes me so anxious and I don't know where to begin so I shut down and instead just avoid that room. I also relate to feeling like it's never-ending, something could always be cleaner and some things, as soon as you finish cleaning them they're dirty again. Combine that with my issues of getting overwhelmed easily and not knowing where to begin, and it makes a perfect storm of cleaning-hatred.
I don't really hate to clean. But it makes me frustrated when the other family members don't notice or appreciate what I've done. Like carelessly walking on a mopped, still wet floor, cutting bread on a wiped surface leaving crumbs, my daughter's long black hair in the bathroom sink I had just cleaned etc etc.
Now that’s the way I feel. I clean and no one seems to care. They walk in with their shoes onto my hardwood floors which makes me so angry. I’ve pretty much do the basics now cause it’s a waste of time for me but I cannot or will not put up with clutter it just makes my anxiety out the roof.
It's a love/hate relationship for me. I love the feeling of accomplishment, pride in my home, and serenity that comes the clean space, but I hate how it takes a fraction of the time it took to clean the space for someone to mess it up again. And most of the time, the amount of effort it took to clean is not recognized or respected. But it still needs to be done.
When i shower , i clean my shower…the next day i finished the rest of bathroom, i vacuum, mop the floors , mirrow etc… my room always a quick dust vacuum ,do the bed etc… husband helps a lot I hate dusting!
I'm 59 living alone in a 3 bedroom 2 bath ranch-style home I inherited from my father and I am suffering from Long-COVID. This means I have 1 or 2 days a week that I have the energy to clean. During those days I try to keep the kitchen clean and do laundry (my main issueses). But my bathrooms suffer. I will try your solutions to see if my routine changes give better results. Thank you for your channel and advice. Love you dearly.
Try this, maybe: one day spend 3 minutes cleaning the toilet, the next day spend 3 minutes cleaning the sink and sweeping the floor, the next day spend 5 minutes on the tub/shower, and the 4th day mop the floor and clean the mirror. You'd be surprised how those few minutes make a huge difference. Hope this helps you.
I would say growing up my mom's house was very dirty, cluttered, and disorganized. And while I'm not the cleanest person ever, having such an environment now makes me anxious (like you mentioned with your kitchen) so as an adult my house is kept relatively tidy and clean. I still hate cleaning the bathroom and floors though. lol
I actually love to clean so this video wasn’t for me. However I still got some helpful tips from it. Growing up, there was a mixture. Some adults hated cleaning and some loved it.
I'm living with chronic illnesses and autoimmune diseases. When I moved in to this tiny apt, I was so sick, I didn't unpack, just dropped the boxes and slept. It's been a few years and my apt is a disaster. It looks like a storage unit that someone lives in, stuff is everywhere and I don't know where to start and struggle to even find the energy.. but I can't live like this any longer. I think it's making me sicker because I'm constantly mentally and emotionally stressed out from it. I've been sick for 2 weeks now and think I may need to go to the hospital but I'm too ashamed to have anyone in to feed my cat and bunny so I'm dealing with it at home myself. This isn't cool. I can't afford to pay for help so I have to do it myself.. where do I start? I keep telling myself I can't do this, but also that I HAVE to do this. Maybe I just need some moral support.
Hi! I've got an autoimmune disease myself. Writing this from my couch( thank god for UA-cam, hey ?) I understand where you're at. I am so fatigued that at times, I need to "gear up" just to get in the shower. I do the bare minimum. My house is mostly clean, somehow. I clean as I go along. I never set aside time just for cleaning. If I notice something getting dirty I clean it then and there on the spot. I also make sure everything has a home, a place where it belongs. Also what helps is, "keep like with like. " Spend just a little time working towards your goal ; you'll eventually get there !!!
Do not be ashamed. Open up to a close family member or friend who can take care of your kitty, ask them to help you sort through things, little by little. Bonding time too!
@@SilverHawk214 all of my family lives far away, and my best friend works all the time and is dealing with her own heavy plate. I have to do this alone.
@@thesnoopydance645 thank you, and I'm sorry to hear of your own struggles. I wish there was a magic wand to take it all away - the health issues and the mess. And yes, very thankful for UA-cam.
Sooo been doing this started in my laundry room yesterday which trickled down to me putting it ALL AWAY and then I as I done that I was more inclined to pick that room up as well
I feel better about cleaning since I started using your methods and eliminating most of the commercial bought products. The cleaning caddy is slimmed down. There aren't any nasty odors when I'm cleaning. For stubborn areas I like my new best friend, the steamer
Hi! I am so glad I found your channel! I have always hated cleaning and now I have a chronic autoimmune disease that has my energy. Your tips are helping me a lot. Where can I find the download you referenced? Thank you!❤
1:58 i feel like this in evey room of my house except for my bedroom that i recently cleaned, it’s hard being in a big family where most people don’t clean
growing up i didn't have to clean really, unless i wanted to. but when i was 14 i moved back to my grandparents house where atleast 10 other kids all younger then me lived. so then all of a sudden i had to do a lot of big cleaning projects just for the hurricane of kids to destroy shortly afterward. so now its a weird struggle of cleaning triggering those emotions and wanting to be clean and teaching my kids to be clean. i mostly just dont like being the only person doing it when i'm not the one even making the mess
I hate cleaning because when I clean it shows me how dirty I am! 🤣😂 can we see a behind the scenes clip or bloopers? Love those! HUGE FAN! Love you clothes and towels! Love from CT!
My mom was super critical. I'd clean and her reaction would be, "oh that's really good, but you missed this and this and this and this and this..." so I just decided I wasn't good at it and I never would be so why bother. I wish I had a clean house and when I do clean I don't actually hate it but I hate the lead up to it. I get anxiety about the clutter and junk that I don't know what to do with and I get frustrated with the pet hair and dust. Thanks for the tips.
I hated cleaning because my grandma didn’t know how so my mum didn’t know how so I didn’t know how then my dad got remarried and my new mum was a person on the other end of the spectrum I wouldn’t say loved cleaning but she knew how to do it efficiently and well but I struggled to understand how she did it and she struggled to understand how I didn’t get it so it caused a lot of conflict I wanted my kids to have a better cleaning experience but I lacked the expertise to teach them but I tried and thankfully now my grandkids are being taught how to keep a house clean so the cycle should stop 🤞
I hate cleaning because I have chronic pain flare ups that just make everything harder. I used to actually enjoy cleaning! It was part of my self-care routine. I'd put some music on, tie my hair back, enjoy the nice-smelling products, and it was kind of meditative. But now, before I clean I have to assess: How much standing can I do? How much bending over can I do to put things away? Can I manage sweeping or vacuuming today? And sometimes I can manage to do everything, with some grunts and groans, but sometimes I have to stop halfway through and I just feel defeated and old.
Does your book cover how often to do certain tasks? Or maybe I need to take a look at your videos more. I think I hate cleaning because I need a “perfect” schedule to keep on top of things and I’m not there yet. But it needs to be a realistic schedule too.
I think I disliked it from when I was a kid and didn't seem to do it to my parents' satisfaction, but that could have just been my perception of their reactions. I had a hard time helping with dishes even because mom used water too hot for my hands. I hated washing silverware and my attention span for doing anything I wasn't really into was awful. Sometimes it still is. Haha! But now I'm glad when I do get something accomplished, but it's overwhelming since somewhere along the way I got extremely disorganized. Now I have several health issues including random vertigo so that stresses me out, too. Your ideas are helpful and I'm definitely not one to use a lot of products or overclean everything everywhere. Thanks for your help.
I hate cleaning! Growing up, my mom demanded that our home look perfect...everywhere. That meant closets, drawers, etc. She would go through our drawers and closets while we were at school. If they didn't pass her inspection, she would dump out all the drawers and empty the closet onto our beds. Then we had to finish it before bed. She was not a nice lady 😞. But since I hate it so much, I haven't really taught my daughters how to clean quickly and correctly...that's where you come in 😀
I think I have the same negative association/feeling with cleaning from my mom. (Also with reading) I was just getting yelled at/scolded to do it and not encouraged and guided.
To Esengo..Have a routine...some things should be done daily, like dishes...some weekly like trash, vacuuming, laundry. Some things as you notice...like mopping, & wiping down cabinets. I use a swffer for quick cleaning tile floors, but a mop cleans better for real cleaning. Don't look at it as a chore, just give things a quick wipe down to keep up. He needs to do his share...like wiping up after himself, doing his own laundry, etc. Maybe have a weekly clean up day together, turn some music on, give yourself a time limit, & a reward. Keeping up, prevents getting behind. Keep stuff organized, or get used to letting go of unnecessary, or unloved objects...clutter is a depressant...a clean, organized house will feel uplifting, & you will be more productive. Good luck, forming good habits, & in your relationship.♡☆♡
I love yard work and the outdoors but too disorganized for housework so i stay frustrated since I'm easily distracted from one task with another task but I'm a perfectionist... hard combo..lol
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Another tip I would recommend to anyone reading this, is to try and reward yourself after a cleaning task. Big or small. It helps you associate cleaning with positive things instead of negative things.
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I think I hated cleaning because I didn't know how to do it, where to start and I was embarrassed to ask anyone. In my head, it was overwhelming. Thanks for changing that! You're my go to for cleaning because you taught me how and love you're transparency/honesty, honestly!
This is exactly how I feel about yardwork. Teach your kids yardwork, people! I wasn't allowed outside for most of my childhood🙄🙄🙄
100 PERCENT agree with you both..can I also add cooking? My mother constantly chased us out of the kitchen bc we were "in the way"
@@dnicolle529 Yes, absolutely! How can we know stuff when we aren't taught? I mean, there are new things to learn always, but the basics would be nice😔 Good luck, all of us, I guess😁
Shalom sis glad you won't be overwhelmed anymore!
Cleaning felt like a stressful rushed punishment when I was a kid. I like a clean home but I feel stressed when i clean. But I feel stressed when things are not clean. Still waiting for someone to yell at me 😅 Sometimes its all overwhelming
As I've gotten older, I've realized that a lot of the reason I hate cleaning is that my family has way too much stuff. I once timed how long it took to sweep the floor vs how long it took to get everything off the floor to be able to sweep it. We have chairs and stools and sometimes leftover groceries that haven't been put away yet and a box or two that has nowhere else to go. Easily doubles the time it takes (or triples, if you count putting it all back, which I don't because by then I usually have given up on the task and leave it for someone else to do). Plus I don't get a big sense of accomplishment upon finishing because as soon as it's done the surface is immediately covered over with stuff again so you can hardly tell it was cleaned off a few minutes ago.
It happens exactly the same way with me, so i feel tired before the cleaning job
Same here😔
I hated cleaning because 1. I didn't know how to do it. My mom was the type who preferred to do it all herself. 2. I was lost regarding when to do everything. Meaning do I do kitchen first or bathroom or should I do the laundry first or maybe I should sweep so I would freeze up and do nothing! It was crazy but with the help of cleaning vlogs like yours🥰💛💛, I finally figured out it ALL doesn't have to be done everyday...well except for kitchen and daily pick up of course. But for example, I now do laundry on Thursdays instead of every other day and having it keep piling up. Everything having to do with laundry(including folding and putting away) happens on Thursday. Bathrooms light clean everyday and deep clean Sat and Wed. and so on and so forth. It sounds like a lot but what to take me hours now takes 30 minutes per day more or less...except for laundry day of course. So thank you for all your cleaning vlogs! *Hugs*🥰🥰🥰
GREAT advice!! 💜
I've been a bachelor almost all my 62 years of life & I literally hate to clean my home. I've gotten to the point in the past where I was embarrassed to even have anyone over, because of the way my house has been filthy! I've been a subscriber to your channel for a while & I've learned lot from you! Keep up the great work & God bless you for what you do !
My sister and I have concluded that we hated cleaning because we never had the right tools or the proper cleaning solutions for the task. We've shifted from hate it to don't like it much (lots of thanks to you💜)
Melissa, you have totally changed the cleaning game for me! Between the three wave system, the s-pattern wipe, the baking soda & oxiclean hacks, and all the diy cleaning products, I feel like I'm so much more efficient when I clean. Anyone who's never been taught how to keep a clean home, this is the channel for you!
I hate cleaning and I grew up with parents obsessed with cleaning. I live alone so I have to clean but it is the bane of my existence. Good for you making this a thing. I will spread the word about your channel.
I knew I liked you! I HATE CLEANING! But I also like a very clean house and the drama of trying to reconcile the two is not a joke!
Thank you for the video.
Funny story: My younger sister and I shared a room as kids, and I hated cleaning (not sure why, it's just a pain in the butt, I guess). I came up with a brilliant idea...I told my sister it was a game show. I used a tape recorder and microphone as the "host" and each event was that she had to clean a part of the room. It made it more fun, and I didn't have to do a thing! Lol
I hate cleaning because I had so many cleaning chores growing up that I actively choose “no, don’t wanna”. I love your common sense approach. Your book is the best adulting purchase I’ve ever made. I used your microwave cleaning solution and it went from teeny murder scene to spotless is less than 5 minutes! I watched your mouldy window cleaning video and followed your instructions…and they are no longer gross. Seeing great results sets different expectations and it changes the way I see chores I used to loathe. I have one problem though…your microfibre cloths are so fluffy and perfect - I don’t want to get them dirty 🥴
I'd clean everything for you so you could sit back and enjoy your time!
I used to love cleaning until I became disabled. Then it became a painful chore. My spouse has taken up some of the slack, which was hard to let go. Now I've been trying to find easier ways to modify cleaning. I also switched to making my own cleaning products, better for my chemical sensitivities. I love watching your videos, they're soothing & helpful.
I just posted something similar. I'd love to know your modifications to make cleaning easier. Myself, one simple thing is I got one of those reacher-grabber tools so I don't have to bend over to pick things up off the floor.
I know my hatred of cleaning comes from how i was raised. Our mom would freak out if we didn't do our chores perfectly. Now I tend to try to clean everything perfectly, and it ends up taking forever!
Same. My mom was a psycho and now I get anxiety if things aren’t clean but I hate cleaning 🥲🫠🫠🫠
Same!
I'd clean everything for you so you could sit back and enjoy your time!
I spent time in foster care as a child and the last family I was with ( before being returned to my mother ) was always having myself and the other kids clean. Not just the inside of the house, but the outside as well. There was the vacuuming, dusting etch but weeding, mowing ( with hand powered rolling mowers ) .. BTW I also have my own cleaning business. I clean for seniors who may have certain disabilities that make it difficult for them accomplish.
Wow, great 👍👍❤️
Cleaning used to be a chore in my earlier years but now I see it as a great work out that I actually enjoy and most of the time I listen to relaxing music or a podcast which makes it even more enjoyable! Love your channel that gives great tips and DIY recipes and videos are very well made!👍
I love this video, Melissa! I will admit that I've had professional cleaners for about 25 years until recently...like maybe the past 4. I don't hate cleaning but I now have some physical limitations that won't allow me to do what I want to do. It's tough to even vacuum or mop the floors now. I too have lowered my expectations, but boy, it sure was nice to have a 'perfect' house all of those years.
Where are the robots we can train to clean how we want it ?
I don’t hate cleaning but I use to. Now I get satisfaction from making my home beautiful and smelling nice. It’s
sometimes difficult to find the time to clean because I’d rather work in my flower beds so I will set a timer for 10 minutes and see how much I can do in the house before going back outside.
Cleaning can be overwhelming, it is boring and sucks away all my energy as I have ME/CFS. I like your tips and tricks and the way you convey them to us. Thanks for doing what you do!
For me it was always an overwhelming task to clean or even to keep something clean. Thanks to my therapist I came to the conclusion that i never really learned how to clean properly and thanks to my anxiety im mostly exhausted from even the thought to clean. Thanks to your tips and tricks and some other tips from my therapist i really came a long way now. Cleaning and decluttering like i never have before. And all that thanks to your inspiring and informing videos. Thank you
Cleaning in my childhood was a 4 hour hour team clean with my brothers and sisters. It was a bummer to wake up after a school week and have the biggest plans be cleaning. Though my Mother to excellent care of us and our home, with 9 children in a 3 bedroom home, there was only so much one could do to have a “place for every thing.” I never had my own space to clean because we had shared rooms and beds. I’m the only one I know that loved college accommodations with a roommate. Even though it was a half a room, it WAS my own space!😃
I actually don't mind cleaning, but I do go through periods when I don't feel like it. That's when I watch your videos. They truly help to motivate me. Thank you!
I hate cleaning but I'm looking to become more of a responsible adult, before I get married to my boyfriend. I don't want to be a liability and I want to ensure ican help out in the house too.
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You got this! Do a little everyday and don’t let the dishes pile up. 💕
You have a great attitude about it❤🌹
This is the perfect place to start 👍🏼
Hope he wants to as well my son and DIL share everything they both work shifts one for the ambulance and the other for the fire service so both tidy and clean wash and cook equally they have lived together since covid but got married a month ago and seem really happy x
Yes!! Cleaning when I was growing up was usually punishment or something the family did when my parents were in a bad mood. I am older now and moved past that but I shared that same kind of association when I was younger.
I love listening to you I feel like I’m talking with a friend; thanks for making me feel better! I hate cleaning bc I live with two wonderful people that love to mess up my space lol…my husband and son. It’s what you said, it’s the never-ending story.
My sister and mom have a cleaning business. They have been doing it for 20+ . I worked for them and the need was speed plus and ability. I wish I had your videos back then. It makes more sense to use your techniques. Thanks again!
I hate cleaning because sometimes it's gross lol I also hate it because it feels like it always falls on me even though I'm not the only one making the mess. So I literally clean with anger and bitterness in my heart and that sucks.
I'd clean everything for you so you could sit back and enjoy your time!
I don't obsess about cleaning but I was taught by mom that whenever you do a task, think of each job as a labor of love whether for a family member or for yourself. Keeping that in mind, I am able to do a job even when I don't want to clean. Thanks for the good points you made today.
I also hated cleaning because I didn’t know what I was doing. Both of my parents had no idea, mom had maids and dad had June Cleaver for a mom so I don’t think either touched a mop until college. 😅 I moved in with my boyfriend’s family in college and his mom taught me so much!
Now the main reason is just because I am disabled and it takes so much energy! Particularly if you have a couple of bad days and fall behind, the further behind you get the harder it is to come back from it. The roomba was one of the greatest purchases of my life. 😂💕
For me, I have to tell myself "No computer time until I get my chores done". Surfing the web in my retirement is a big black hole! lol! I'll give myself 3 or 4 chores a day that have to be done because I can't stand it anymore and get those done. If I allow myself to get lost on the computer first, the day is gone. It's all about focusing on the priorities. Get the chores done and then I can play.
I was an only child and felt like I had too much put on my shoulders as a kid as far as cleaning goes. I have been pretty particular over the years but now am pretty relaxed in my clean routine.
I bought your book a couple years ago and continue to learn new things from you. Thanks for sharing your knowledge and wit with us all!
Thank you Kelly!!
Very much like you, I have a negative association from childhood about cleaning. My mother would wake me up very early every Saturday morning, slamming doors, etc. and say: Get up we have to clean the house now. So, not fun. Also, like you, we didn't have the proper tools or know what products did what. Mostly, soap/water, and scrub. Glad I found your channel, it has helped. Everyone always says I have a clean house (that's mostly because I don't have clutter) but the heavy lifting stuff is still a challenge. You are an inspiration because you let us know we don't need to be perfect! Thanks for all your content.
Thank you for your support, I'm so glad our videos have been helpful! Cleaning can definitely be a challenge but you got this! We do what we can!!
I hate cleaning because growing up it was NEVER done right....or good enough. And I was never taught how to do it the way they wanted it. There was anger & punishment and to this day I have a negative physical reaction to house work.
I know exactly how you feel about cleaning. I was raised in the same exact way. It was even to the point that if I wanted to do something, like going horseback riding, I had to do a bunch of cleaning. If it wasn't done the way she wanted it, (coming from someone who NEVER cleaned), I couldn't go. I hated her for it. And now I also have negative physical reactions to cleaning too. I think the overwhelming feeling is the worst. But now I have a disability makes things worse.
@@XxShellyW13xX ❤ I've learned over the years to be more relaxed about cleaning. I still hate it though LOL
I used to hate cleaning, but I don’t anymore, thanks to you, Melissa! Armed with your methods and a very basic home made multipurpose cleaner (made to one of your recipes), I’m now doing well. I like the goals. Doing less more often is the key for me!
I hate cleaning the oven and the bathroom but I learn from you how to do it; thank you Melissa for always helping us, you are #1 when it comes to clean. 😊💖😘
I have a love/hate relationship with cleaning. I hate cleaning because it takes time from other funner stuff and I love cleaning because of the instant gratification and it’s something I have control over.
I hated cleaning until I found your channel about 6 years ago. I hated it because I didn't know what to do. Turns out I have PTSD, ADHD and have moved 33-35 times in my 36 years. I spotted caring because I couldn't make a house work for me. Who can afford to set up a particular space to work for them when you're going to have to move again. I'm finally still. Hopefully never moving again. Small house with my 3 kids and we've gotten rid of sooo much stuff, and I'm ALL in for container porn and labels- everyone's got their thing! But I've paid for it by selling stuff. I've got matching labelled spray bottles and use your DIY recipes. I still hate vacuuming and mopping. I've got systematic arthritis. I'm 100% better than I was 3, 5 and 10 years ago at keeping house. You're approach helps me so much to not feel guilty when sometimes I just can't get it done. Having a list of MIA's for an ADHD, autistic mum of 3 little ones is just gold. I forget what I'm doing constantly. You've helped me immensely. I found your videos looking up how to clean to grout 4 houses and 5 years ago.
This is why I grew up “hating to clean”. Before we could do anything else in the day we had chores to do which was cleaning. I couldn’t go out with my friends until I cleaned certain things. My Mother had a hutch in the kitchen that she collected salt and pepper shakers on, well you can probably guess what my job was but she also helped was to take them all off the shelves and dust them each and every one of them dust the shelves then put them back on the shelf. I love my Mother so very much I don’t think she ever knew how much I hated that job. After she passed away my sister and I wrapped them all up and divided them up. She has a box and so do I. Mine are still in the box stored away. They have never been taken out of the box since we packed them up. I can’t give them away or get rid if them. That has been over 30 years ago. Sorry for such a long story but I still hate to clean even today and especially to dust! But I do love to knit🧶❣️Lol!
I'd clean everything for you so you could sit back and enjoy your time!
I’d like to add, she had mentioned starting with the task you like the least to get it out of the way. I used to clean like that and there are days that is a great method.
Since getting pregnant and losing energy and motivation it helps me get momentum if I start with the fastest easiest task and slowly move to the harder ones. I get rewarded with more tasks getting checked off faster and find it easier to tackle the harder ones once I’m moving. That might help some people, especially if you like getting things clean but have a hard time with motivation to start.
Without feeling like I have the energy to tackle the list I’m ready to quit after the hard task. If that’s you try starting with the easiest or the one that makes you the most happy seeing done, then move on to something else that can be done fast and easy keep that trend until you want to take down that bigger task.
Once again, you hit it out of the park, Melissa! Your videos never disappoint. They are always informational, inspirational and relatable. Best of all, you are so articulate.
I am somewhere in the middle of like/hate cleaning. Dusting is my most unliked job and I think that is due to my mom had so many small items to dust and she made me do it. I told myself when I got older that I wouldn’t have that many small figurines and things and I don’t but I still dislike dusting.
I like having a clean home because it is my sanctuary. Also i can't focus until it's clean. NO shoes on in the house, try to reset the kitchen at night to make things easier in the morning, make the bed daily and straightening up. I hate cleaning the toilet tho. But the reason I kinda hate it is because my partner is messy and I'm always cleaning, so it's easier for me to clean than have to show him.
Great video, realistic, honest & solid advice. I hate cleaning because outside of that moment when everything is nice and clean, it doesn't stay that way. I also love pets and they come with their own level of mess, and I just got to where it really didn't bother me all that much. I mostly clean for society measures so it's the whirlwind when someone is coming over. I try to not be cluttered, but until I see it engraved on a headstone,' masterful cleaner', I can usually find something I'd rather do. I"m working on it, as you say, owning where I am on the continuum.
I think my Mom wasn't great at it, she had a difficult time teaching us so we inherited her subconscious hate of cleaning. I definitely have a hard time starting the cleaning process but I have learned so much from your channel 😃 thank you for providing such a great source of information!
You're so welcome! Starting is definitely the hardest part! I would start on one area at a time, so you do not get too overwhelmed! You got this!!
Excellent advice here. What stresses me out is what needs to be cleaned and how often? Can’t get every THING cleaned in every room all the time. Need lists!
I love cleaning but struggle with back pain so you would never know I love to clean. I have to budget my physical energy and my schedule. I try to vacuum daily BC of pets and long hair, if I do it daily it only takes about 5 mins. If I have a flare up and can't do it for several days then it takes much longer when I can do it and I end up being hesitant in fear that I'll trigger the pain again. Doing something as basic as mopping the floor can make me require pain meds, which in turn make me tired and then I don't get much else done. In sure many who watch understand this cycle! Some days I'm immediately emptying the dishwasher and starting to load as we go and other days the act of rinsing and placing each dish in the dishwasher after a meal is just too much twisting. I've done dishes by hand just to avoid the slight bend and twist the dishwasher requires. 😬 So, I guess I can mentally scare myself out of doing things BC of potential physical pain and/or I can't do the things BC of pain 😭
This is a huge part for me as well. Then it got to the point I was using it as an excuse even when I had flares that weren't as bad. I try to do what I can when I'm physically not really able to. Sometimes it's just sitting on the couch paper shredding or organizing papers lol
@@simplymarisa8 I wish I could be up and doing the things consistently. I try and do things in little bites. Example, I just scrubbed the birds cage after having a coffee, now I'm stretching out and resting a bit at the same time. Someone who doesn't get the pain may have continued with scrubbing the wall or vacuuming but those are things I'll work at later. I used to think it was all or nothing so a whole lot of nothing was done! I'm def getting better with budgeting time and body. I've learned it's ok to just vacuum the area rug and then do other spaces later. I wish I could go back to zone cleaning or a room per day type thing but ultimately, my physical health is in charge of my cleaning routine. Partly done is better than not done at all! 💞
Since I've started watching your videos I really enjoy cleaning! I love the products you recommend, they work very well, I love the methods you recommend, and I am amazed at myself because cleaning was really not something I wanted to talk about, let alone do. And oh, by the way, I LOVE your shirt!
Melissa I love your advice and I use it. You have the very best microfiber clothes and towels. I just ordered your mop. You are so down to earth and honest. By The Way Reilly is growing up WAY TO FAST and she is just A precious little angel!
Growing up as a hoarder family, I hated cleaning. I still carry some habits that don’t let me continue. I always realize I have to declutter, or I’ll save my recycling too long. So what I don’t like is tidying. After that, I don’t mind cleaning, but it takes so long to get to that stage after decluttering.
I've had to lower my expectations of how clean I want something because of serious health issues. Having a some mess laying around is better than trying to do to much and end up in the hospital again.
Do you have certain days you do certain things? I have no specific routine and it gets overwhelming. I’d love a video on what to do which days to keep a clean house. An idea of a schedule that could work. Thx.
My favorite cleaning hack is getting rid of the clutter. Can’t clean clutter…..ever. My cleaning switch got flipped as a young married who had to hide dirty dishes in the oven because I didn’t have time to clean up my filthy kitchen’s flat surfaces AND do the dishes. I swore I’d never be ashamed of how my house looked ever again. FlyLady routines and schedules taught me how to keep a clean house. Now, I spend only 15 minutes a week cleaning.
I love to clean and polish, but even more so I love the look of something clean, be it a window a carpet or an automobile
I think there are a couple of reasons why I hate cleaning - first, I was never really taught. I'm also on the autism spectrum and I tend to get really overwhelmed really easily, especially when getting started - it's like I look at a mess and it just makes me so anxious and I don't know where to begin so I shut down and instead just avoid that room. I also relate to feeling like it's never-ending, something could always be cleaner and some things, as soon as you finish cleaning them they're dirty again. Combine that with my issues of getting overwhelmed easily and not knowing where to begin, and it makes a perfect storm of cleaning-hatred.
I don't really hate to clean. But it makes me frustrated when the other family members don't notice or appreciate what I've done. Like carelessly walking on a mopped, still wet floor, cutting bread on a wiped surface leaving crumbs, my daughter's long black hair in the bathroom sink I had just cleaned etc etc.
Now that’s the way I feel. I clean and no one seems to care. They walk in with their shoes onto my hardwood floors which makes me so angry. I’ve pretty much do the basics now cause it’s a waste of time for me but I cannot or will not put up with clutter it just makes my anxiety out the roof.
Another informative video. I don’t hate cleaning. I enjoy discovering different ways of doing the same thing 😁❤️
Oh wow.... the old house. So many memories for your fans. I hope you're having a lovely summer, Maker fam!
It's a love/hate relationship for me. I love the feeling of accomplishment, pride in my home, and serenity that comes the clean space, but I hate how it takes a fraction of the time it took to clean the space for someone to mess it up again. And most of the time, the amount of effort it took to clean is not recognized or respected. But it still needs to be done.
When i shower , i clean my shower…the next day i finished the rest of bathroom, i vacuum, mop the floors , mirrow etc… my room always a quick dust vacuum ,do the bed etc… husband helps a lot I hate dusting!
Love the "determining factors" for MIA's and the concept of over cleaning! Thanks, Melissa...God Bless you🙏🏼💝
love this. Love this more than your composite videos. Thanks for this.
I'm 59 living alone in a 3 bedroom 2 bath ranch-style home I inherited from my father and I am suffering from Long-COVID. This means I have 1 or 2 days a week that I have the energy to clean. During those days I try to keep the kitchen clean and do laundry (my main issueses). But my bathrooms suffer. I will try your solutions to see if my routine changes give better results. Thank you for your channel and advice. Love you dearly.
Try this, maybe: one day spend 3 minutes cleaning the toilet, the next day spend 3 minutes cleaning the sink and sweeping the floor, the next day spend 5 minutes on the tub/shower, and the 4th day mop the floor and clean the mirror. You'd be surprised how those few minutes make a huge difference. Hope this helps you.
I love a clean, peaceful and organized house but I don’t always love to clean because it takes too long, like hours too long.
I ❤ this video!!! Thank you Melissa!!!
❤ your channel! You are my go too if I need too know how to clean something!!! ❤💜❤ xxx
You are amazing ❤️ Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and tips 🥰 👍
Great tips! I appreciate your videos so much, I always learn something useful. Thank you!
I definitely overclean. This was good to hear.
I would say growing up my mom's house was very dirty, cluttered, and disorganized. And while I'm not the cleanest person ever, having such an environment now makes me anxious (like you mentioned with your kitchen) so as an adult my house is kept relatively tidy and clean. I still hate cleaning the bathroom and floors though. lol
Love this! Thank you!
Thanks for watching!
I actually love to clean so this video wasn’t for me. However I still got some helpful tips from it. Growing up, there was a mixture. Some adults hated cleaning and some loved it.
I'm living with chronic illnesses and autoimmune diseases. When I moved in to this tiny apt, I was so sick, I didn't unpack, just dropped the boxes and slept. It's been a few years and my apt is a disaster. It looks like a storage unit that someone lives in, stuff is everywhere and I don't know where to start and struggle to even find the energy.. but I can't live like this any longer. I think it's making me sicker because I'm constantly mentally and emotionally stressed out from it. I've been sick for 2 weeks now and think I may need to go to the hospital but I'm too ashamed to have anyone in to feed my cat and bunny so I'm dealing with it at home myself. This isn't cool. I can't afford to pay for help so I have to do it myself.. where do I start? I keep telling myself I can't do this, but also that I HAVE to do this. Maybe I just need some moral support.
Hi! I've got an autoimmune disease myself. Writing this from my couch( thank god for UA-cam, hey ?) I understand where you're at. I am so fatigued that at times, I need to "gear up" just to get in the shower. I do the bare minimum. My house is mostly clean, somehow. I clean as I go along. I never set aside time just for cleaning. If I notice something getting dirty I clean it then and there on the spot. I also make sure everything has a home, a place where it belongs. Also what helps is, "keep like with like. " Spend just a little time working towards your goal ; you'll eventually get there !!!
Honey, you are more then upset, you need some serious counseling
Do not be ashamed. Open up to a close family member or friend who can take care of your kitty, ask them to help you sort through things, little by little. Bonding time too!
@@SilverHawk214 all of my family lives far away, and my best friend works all the time and is dealing with her own heavy plate. I have to do this alone.
@@thesnoopydance645 thank you, and I'm sorry to hear of your own struggles. I wish there was a magic wand to take it all away - the health issues and the mess. And yes, very thankful for UA-cam.
This video is very beneficial. Thank you 🎉
Sooo been doing this started in my laundry room yesterday which trickled down to me putting it ALL AWAY and then I as I done that I was more inclined to pick that room up as well
Love that top. But love this video more.! Thanks for all you do!
I feel better about cleaning since I started using your methods and eliminating most of the commercial bought products. The cleaning caddy is slimmed down. There aren't any nasty odors when I'm cleaning. For stubborn areas I like my new best friend, the steamer
‘The Never Ending Story’.
I loved this video, tk you so much for sharing so much wisdom and your thoughts at the end, "you do you" you are so right about this one.
Hi! I am so glad I found your channel! I have always hated cleaning and now I have a chronic autoimmune disease that has my energy. Your tips are helping me a lot.
Where can I find the download you referenced?
Thank you!❤
Great advice about setting your expectations. Thank you.
Best way to clean/protect drawers
1:58 i feel like this in evey room of my house except for my bedroom that i recently cleaned, it’s hard being in a big family where most people don’t clean
growing up i didn't have to clean really, unless i wanted to. but when i was 14 i moved back to my grandparents house where atleast 10 other kids all younger then me lived. so then all of a sudden i had to do a lot of big cleaning projects just for the hurricane of kids to destroy shortly afterward. so now its a weird struggle of cleaning triggering those emotions and wanting to be clean and teaching my kids to be clean. i mostly just dont like being the only person doing it when i'm not the one even making the mess
I hate cleaning because when I clean it shows me how dirty I am! 🤣😂 can we see a behind the scenes clip or bloopers? Love those! HUGE FAN! Love you clothes and towels! Love from CT!
Thank you
My mom was super critical. I'd clean and her reaction would be, "oh that's really good, but you missed this and this and this and this and this..." so I just decided I wasn't good at it and I never would be so why bother. I wish I had a clean house and when I do clean I don't actually hate it but I hate the lead up to it. I get anxiety about the clutter and junk that I don't know what to do with and I get frustrated with the pet hair and dust. Thanks for the tips.
Thank you for the tips!! I reallllly want to know where that top is from 😍
Thank you for cleaning tip
I hated cleaning because my grandma didn’t know how so my mum didn’t know how so I didn’t know how then my dad got remarried and my new mum was a person on the other end of the spectrum I wouldn’t say loved cleaning but she knew how to do it efficiently and well but I struggled to understand how she did it and she struggled to understand how I didn’t get it so it caused a lot of conflict
I wanted my kids to have a better cleaning experience but I lacked the expertise to teach them but I tried and thankfully now my grandkids are being taught how to keep a house clean so the cycle should stop 🤞
I hate cleaning because I have chronic pain flare ups that just make everything harder. I used to actually enjoy cleaning! It was part of my self-care routine. I'd put some music on, tie my hair back, enjoy the nice-smelling products, and it was kind of meditative. But now, before I clean I have to assess: How much standing can I do? How much bending over can I do to put things away? Can I manage sweeping or vacuuming today? And sometimes I can manage to do everything, with some grunts and groans, but sometimes I have to stop halfway through and I just feel defeated and old.
Does your book cover how often to do certain tasks? Or maybe I need to take a look at your videos more. I think I hate cleaning because I need a “perfect” schedule to keep on top of things and I’m not there yet. But it needs to be a realistic schedule too.
I think I disliked it from when I was a kid and didn't seem to do it to my parents' satisfaction, but that could have just been my perception of their reactions. I had a hard time helping with dishes even because mom used water too hot for my hands. I hated washing silverware and my attention span for doing anything I wasn't really into was awful. Sometimes it still is. Haha! But now I'm glad when I do get something accomplished, but it's overwhelming since somewhere along the way I got extremely disorganized. Now I have several health issues including random vertigo so that stresses me out, too. Your ideas are helpful and I'm definitely not one to use a lot of products or overclean everything everywhere. Thanks for your help.
I hate cleaning! Growing up, my mom demanded that our home look perfect...everywhere. That meant closets, drawers, etc. She would go through our drawers and closets while we were at school. If they didn't pass her inspection, she would dump out all the drawers and empty the closet onto our beds. Then we had to finish it before bed. She was not a nice lady 😞. But since I hate it so much, I haven't really taught my daughters how to clean quickly and correctly...that's where you come in 😀
Do you have a video of specific tools that you personally recommend? Thank you in advance 🙂
Such great advice! Very well explained! Thank you!
You're so welcome! Thanks for your support!
I think I have the same negative association/feeling with cleaning from my mom. (Also with reading) I was just getting yelled at/scolded to do it and not encouraged and guided.
Oh my gosh,I absolutely love that shirt
Good Distraction tip 👍🏻
Thanks for watching Tammy!
To Esengo..Have a routine...some things should be done daily, like dishes...some weekly like trash, vacuuming, laundry. Some things as you notice...like mopping, & wiping down cabinets. I use a swffer for quick cleaning tile floors, but a mop cleans better for real cleaning. Don't look at it as a chore, just give things a quick wipe down to keep up. He needs to do his share...like wiping up after himself, doing his own laundry, etc. Maybe have a weekly clean up day together, turn some music on, give yourself a time limit, & a reward. Keeping up, prevents getting behind. Keep stuff organized, or get used to letting go of unnecessary, or unloved objects...clutter is a depressant...a clean, organized house will feel uplifting, & you will be more productive. Good luck, forming good habits, & in your relationship.♡☆♡
I love yard work and the outdoors but too disorganized for housework so i stay frustrated since I'm easily distracted from one task with another task but I'm a perfectionist... hard combo..lol