Hey there, just me again 😹 What a heartwarming scene at the end, dogs really show their emotions and they were both so happy to have the family together again 👊🏻 I'm hoping you get your battery / charging issues sorted out. Battleborn's with a DC charger should be a near perfect setup !! Hopefully soon 👍🏼 🌻 Get the pups some treats on me 😘
Many thanks for your incredible kindness! Your generous gesture is truly appreciated, and the dogs will love the treat. Your thoughtfulness warms my heart! 😍
I wish you the best...moment to moment ...because that's what life is, a series of moments. You can do this. Breathe and on busy stress filled days make sure you schedule me time moments and positive spoken affirmations.
There is an engine shutdown detection on the phone app. for the Vitron Orion that if set up correctly will detect input drops at a certain level and shut the system off so the engine battery doesn't get drained. The engine detection shutdown on the app. also requires the type of battery that is being charged such as lithium. Good luck!
That's just one of the problems with these systems,too much tech dependant on apps/ set ups/ remote controls/ etc instead of automatic controls. I looked at the diagrams on Amazon for this unit ( 30 Amp) and the remote must be set up for unit to operate. In other words, it's more complicated than it needs to be,because new people want everything controlled from their phones/ devices, and think that means " better". It's clearly not.
That is part of the issue - figuring out the correct settings on the app! After it was installed, it seems to be working. I didn't think of researching the app settings because it could drain my battery!
Firstly, i cant do my own electrical either. Secondly, I was on the road today when a dish fell out of a cupboard and smashed the glass hob cover to smithereens. I was feeling pretty low about that. Your video helped me feel less alone. Thank you.
Sorry to hear that. That sucks! I feel you! We are never alone but sometimes it is hard to see. You look like you are visiting beautiful places though!
Your honesty is appreciated. I totally understand the frustration at life and especially electric. I hope you can get it fixed soon. Prayers sent for you and your parents.🙏♥️
I’m currently living with my parents . My father had a stroke so I am his caregiver. It’s work and a sacrifice but it’s rewarding and something I know I’ll never regret! They deserve it.❤️🙏🏽😉
You are so right! It is hard, but it is the right thing to do. We love our parents. My father is going blind and deaf. I can't imagine what he is going through. Compassion, love, and support mean so much. Thank you for sharing that.
Just watched your video. I’m in the same boat. Lost my dad last March and recently moved from Florida to help my Mother in GA. With all they put up with and do for us as we grow; not helping isn’t an answer.
That is very true! Helping is the right thing to do. No matter what. Thank you for sharing that with me. It makes me feel better just knowing that I am not alone. We are all connected.
You had me in tears about your parents. I lost my wife to cancer 15 years ago. I did all the home care at the end. At some point you may have to take care of both but you know what at the end of that you will come out a very strong person. You will have no regrets just love for the memories you shared with your parents. Prayers for you.
Your comment has me in tears. My heart goes out to you. Losing a spouse in that way is such a great loss! Thank you for your honesty and for reaching out to me. Cancer is a terrible disease. I am sending you love and gratitude!
Poor Ron, he reminds me of my old dog Casey that had severe anxiety issues. Those tool boxes are frustrating to the best of people. Believe me you should not be upset or feeling frustrated or have a feeling of failure. Electrical is a trade in its self , I spent 40 years training and working in telecommunication and I have an electronics degree and I'd have my hands full trying to figure out one of those systems and throw in an APP that controls items and it can be very complex so don't feel bad one bit. You have the right reason to stay there with them and close to them you're a caring person with a huge heart that's obvious. I'm the same age as you and I know what you mean I know I am so lucky to still have my parents with relatively good health, but I'm here for them now not wandering far. YOU ARE A GREAT DAUGHTER !!! You're a great person never forget that
I appreciate your thoughtful comment! You are a loving and caring son to stay close to your parents, too! You made me feel better about not tackling the electric myself. Thank you. 🙏
@@KimannChessa Look it this way I would be lost trying to do Nursing work (One of my daughters is a nurse) so why would someone expect you to do electrical work. It's something best left to those who are trained in it. Now given time and some training I'm sure you would be able to figure it out, you're an intelligent woman.
Thank you for sharing your feelings! We lost my mother in law last summer at 91, and it was a very difficult time. She is very much missed❤ Hug your parents and tell them they raised a great daughter!
Thank you for your kind words. My heart goes out to you for your loss. It is so heartbreaking to lose someone you love. I am sending you positivity and love on this gift of a day!
I would not have even tried to fix an electric problem. What you are doing for your parents is wonderful, You are doing the right thing. Such a sweet family reunion with the pups.
It is a beautiful country! I have been living in Porto for 30 years, but now, I'm in the north, in my hometown, because of my mother's health. I've 2 dogs, no husban, a teen son. And I can relate so much with your mindset and some dificulties of life! Love your videos and I would love to live in a trailler... Big hug!@@KimannChessa
I love your channel! You are so kind and honest! I have sold my house and bought an RV trailer that I live in at my parents place. They have property that makes it nice! I'm building out a promaster and my dream is to hit the road before they get where they need help. I believe they have many years yet so I continue to work also. My struggle is trying to cut the visiting time shorter! But they are awesome and understand my dream of building out the van, just think it's for weekend get aways. When I figure out the money on the road I will leave...you hang in there. If you can talk to your parents that your independence is vital to you! I hope they can understand ❤😊
Thank you for supporting my channel! Your van plans are exciting! Taking on the build-yourself is a challenging but fulfilling project! I admire you! You are fortunate to have parents who believe in your dreams. You will figure out the money. I discovered I didn't need as much living in my camper. Your plan of hitting the road while your parents are well is very smart! By the time I hit the road, my parent's health was already in decline, and it has been a struggle always returning to Florida when something happens. I appreciate your comment so much!
Yep - it's hard having our parents get older and reversing the caretaking roles. Also, the electricity thing scares me too. I am even leary about putting on jumper cables because once I did it and they smoked! But, it would be good to watch the professionals so you can learn how to do it yourself if possible. You can use a Sharpie pen to write on the tools too if you forget which ones to use.
Hello, your video came up on my feed today for the first time. (Glad it did) It’s really hard to watch parents getting older and more frail. They’re lucky to have you nearby. As for your electrical glitch, you made the right decision to not troubleshoot it yourself, at least until you become more knowledgeable about the system (it’s only a matter of learning about it). For now, someone who knows about electrical systems, preferably an electrician, should get you on your way without too much trouble. A DC-DC controller is relatively easy to troubleshoot, if that’s what the problem is, and even a replacement unit is not very expensive. If I was local, I’d gladly have a look at it, but alas, I’m a good 1200 miles North of you. Cheers from Canada!
Thank you for your vote of confidence and for watching my video! I know the issue will get resolved but not by me. I appreciate your willingness to help if you were close by. That means so much to me!
My parents are in their early 80s and in good health but I have chronic fear of something happening to them and it's horrible to know that eventually, something will. I live far away and am not sure what Id do...Im not in a good situation for leaving home for an extended period. Gosh I hate worry, problems and sadness! Hang in there.
I so understand how you feel! When I was on the road, I always felt anxiety and a huge weight on me because I might have to drive back to Florida for my parents, and it happened a few times. You will work it out when the time comes. You can't help but worry about it. I just read this quote, "Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength." I have to remind myself that more! Take care!
Electrical is not something to mess with unless you have experience, it is challenging and dangerous if you don’t understand what your doing. I would be terrified myself! As we get older, and you and I are the same age, parents age and we find ourselves having to care for them, it’s the circle of life, they care for us and we care for them. It’s not easy when you are trying to live your own dreams, but sometimes we just have to commit to some compromises. It’s not easy but have no regrets, once they are gone that’s it, finality is for us left behind on earth. Cherish the moments both good and bad and appreciate the time you have them. I’m orphaned now, both parents are gone. I miss them everyday. Im glad spent time with them and I have those memories to fall back on. On another note, it has not been easy to find a winter place for camp sites, snowbird season has to be booked well in advance. Ugh, the weather across the US has not been kind either, kinda puts us all In a funky mood. I hope things go better for you, Onward through the fog!
Thank you. You made me feel better about giving up on the electric. It will be fixed, but not by me. You also helped me to accept the situation with my parents better. You are right! They care for us, and then we care for them. Everything is temporary, and it is futile to push against it. I need to accept and be there for them. I am sending you positive, sunny vibes from Florida. Winter can be harsh, but Spring is always on the horizon. That could also be a metaphor for life. I appreciate your help and sharing your story. I love the way UA-cam lets me connect with amazing people like you!
Check your Ground ( black) - negative battery terminal connection on starting battery under hood. Must not be loose or corroded. Then check Positive ( Red wire) + terminal connection,same starting battery. Then go to Battle Born battery's,check same.
Thank you! I will try that. I am taking the camper up to NuCamp for another issue. If it is still not working then, maybe they can fix it. I appreciate you researching it for me. I get confused just reading the instructions!
The more hands on wiring you get,the less mysterious it gets. The more you troubleshoot,the more you learn about systems. A voltmeter is good place to start learning basics,like checking battery voltage.
My mom died two weeks ago at 92 and 2 months. It takes time to adapt to the change and process the emotions. I expected that she would die this year, just not so early. Eight days before she died, she had an check up with her doctor. She had lost 30 pounds in the past three months. He told her if she doesn't eat she will die within the next 30 days. It was difficult for her. It distressed her to hear that she was dying. She didn't want to start hospice, because it meant she was going to die. She hated the doctor for how he told her. Thinking back, I realize she had been slowly dying for the previous six months or more. A year earlier she complained about difficulty chewing food. Then she gradually ate less and less. It is typical when someone is dying, to stop eating, but I didn't know that. Three months before she died, her speech changed. He words were often difficult to understand. Her mind was fully aware, but she didn't want to accept that her body was dying. Four days before she died, I helped her from her bed to her recliner, because it was easier for her to set up right to drink and eat a little. She never got out of the recliner, even to eliminate. She was using paper towels to absorb the urine, so I bought the most absorbent bladder pads available. The day before she died, I noticed she was breathing deeply. So I called 911 to have her taken to the hospital. They found she had pneumonia, and treated her with antibiotics. Pneumonia commonly happens near death, because of swallowing and breathing difficulty. When I left her at the hospital that night, the last thing she said to me was "No." She didn't want to stay in the hospital. I told her that she has pneumonia and I couldn't take her home. I expected to talk to her the next day. That didn't happen. For the last twelve hours of her life, she didn't move and her eyes were open, but she never blinked. She just breathed though her mouth. Toward the end her breathing slowed. I held her hand for over two hours until her last breath. I don't know if she was even aware that I was there. I hope this helps someone else to understand and prepare for the dying process. My advice is to prepare early so you understand the dying process and know what needs to be done before and after.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. Your words helped immensely. We all will inevitably die, but you made me see that being prepared and accepting is the only thing in my control. It was so sad that your Mom didn't want to go. I think it is easier when they want to let go, but I don't know. My parents have a difficult time eating also. They drink a lot of Ensure drinks to compensate. It keeps them alive but takes much of the joy out of living.
@@KimannChessa Are they becoming emaciated? To me weight loss is a significant indication of slowly dying. There is nothing you can do about it. Just try to make them comfortable. I read that you should not try to force them to eat. So you will feel frustrated and helpless when they don't eat much. My mom went to the ER 6 days before she died because she was having a panic attack about dying. The doctor prescribed Megestrol to stimulate her appetite, but I think that was wrong. The problem is that doctors don't seem to understand the dying process or know how to talk to the dying patient constructively or humanely or provide any guidance to the family. They might refer you to a hospice worker, but before that process completes the person has died, and the family is left to stumble through the aftermath not knowing what to do. Preparing ahead of time helps. You can search for articles about the "dying process" and "preparations for death". Orgain is better than Ensure. It is not in the pharmacy section at Walmart. It is with the regular groceries. It don't remember exactly where. I found it by accident. It might be near the prune juice or or almond milk or chocolate milk. One thing I tried was pureeing Progresso soups. She had low sodium levels, probably because she drank water frequently. But she complained that it was too salty, so I added a tablespoon of powdered instant mash potatoes with some garlic powder and onion powder. For tomato based soups, add a tablespoon of tomato paste to reduce the saltiness. The machine I used to puree the soup was similar to the one below, except mine has 3-speeds. Food Processors with 2 Bowls, 400W Meat Grinder, 4 Bi-Level Blades Food Chopper Electric, 2 Speed, 8Cup Glass and 8Cup 304 Stainless Steel, Spatula, Blue www.amazon.com/Qinkada-Processors-Bi-Level-Electric-Stainless/dp/B0CHZ3934D/ Within 20 seconds, the chunky soup had the consistency of applesauce. You could add low sodium chicken or beef stock to reduce the viscosity. It would take her 15 minutes just to consume two tablespoons of it. My mom liked sweet potato, banana, and applesauce (and triple chocolate biscotti). I used the applesauce 3.9oz cups to serve the soup and sweet potato, because it was light weight and easy to handle. Also, I gave her some prune juice. Get a pack of stainless steel drinking straws with silicon tips. My mother was using plastic ones, but she would bite them making them hard to suck through. Also, she complained that a 500ml plastic water bottle that was less than half full was too heavy. So I bought a pack of 8 ounce water bottles, but she only drank one. My mother was healthy, other than her eyesight and minor heart arrhythmia. She gradually became less functional. Her decline was barely noticeable. Near the end, she was so emaciated she looked like a concentration camp survivor. Her body consumed itself. She never discussed burial arrangements with me. She didn't have a burial plot. She told my brother she didn't want to be cremated. We decided on natural burial in a pine forest. The body is wrapped in a sheet and lowered on a king sized sheet or quilt. You will not be prepared for it emotionally, no matter how much you think you are. When ever you think about them, you will cry and sob and wish you could have done better to help them. That is just part of the grieving process. It could last six months or more. Spend time with them now. Talk with them about fond memories. Try to avoid regrets, because they will gnaw at you for a long time. I thought about parking your camper at your parents house. You could contact the code enforcement body and ask them for a waver considering your parents declining health condition. Only a heartless apparatchik would not consider that reasonable. For working on your electrical problem, you need a digital multimeter (to know the exact voltage) and test lights (to check for voltage present). You can probably find instructional videos on UA-cam or search for articles. The most dangerous thing you can do is short the positive terminal to the metal frame or to the negative terminal. Anything else will either blow a fuse, trip a breaker, or nothing. You might need test leads with alligator clips to connect the meter to hard to reach contacts. www.harborfreight.com/electrical/electrician-s-tools/multimeters-testers/9-function-digital-multimeter-with-audible-continuity-59410.html www.harborfreight.com/electrical/electrician-s-tools/multimeters-testers/612v-circuit-tester-with-5-ft-lead-63603.html www.harborfreight.com/electrical/electrician-s-tools/multimeters-testers/circuit-tester-set-3-piece-63612.html www.harborfreight.com/electrical/electrician-s-tools/multimeters-testers/36-inch-low-voltage-test-leads-66712.html
💚💙💜Gratitude list , you are so blessed to have those people in your life , breath and stay in the now. It's your life live it the way you want , there is a plan that's bigger💜💙💚 ~peace~
S hit seems to be hitting the fan for you. Can you move the camper in the back yard, out of sight? Can't help with your electrical issues except you started having trouble after installing the 12 volt fridge. Maybe something got disconnected? If you're getting dead truck batteries, sounds like they aren't isolated from the truck or the fridge is connected to the truck battery.
It would be easier for me if I was able to move the camper to their backyard. That would be a compromise that I could live with but they live on a tip lot on the canal. So, there is a sea wall and other houses across the water. You are right! The 12 volt fridge set off these electric issues. I appreciate your kind advice! It will get figured out but not by me!
Hello again, 1. If place you got your rv set up with battle born is close to your parents have the check out your system. Or call battle born i hear the customer sevice is great maybe they send to good repair place. You have some very personal choices to make concerning you mom and dad. Family is important. Now you know Ron had a blast he had guy time. Lol. This past week has be been a bum week for me my Aunt fell at the ALF, trip hospital check out okay but weak. So now she is at rehab for few weeks. Me I ended up in ER friday as my knee had bad sprain. On the mend but learning how to use the wheeled walker is fun. Not
Ron did have guy time! My heart goes out to you. You had a bad week! Stay resilient, brighter days are on the horizon. You will heal but it takes time. Be patient and kind to yourself. I feel you with the situation with your Aunt. It is so difficult when loved ones start falling.
You may not like this but it is my truth. I lived in a different State that my dad, he called me one day and asked me to go see him because he wanted to spend some time with me and chat. I always had too much work and things to do and didn't make the effort to go be with him. It wasn't until I got the call that he slipped in his dog urine, fell backward and sustained a head injury. I flew to see him but when I got there he was in a coma. I got closed to him and told him "Dad I am here", all I saw was a tear coming down his cheek. He never woke up and I never got to tell him how sorry I was. It has been almost 11 years and I can't forgive myself for what I didn't do for him. I hate myself for that and just hope he is able to forgive me when I see him again. My advise: If they need you, suck it up and be the daughter they need you to be today, because you do not want to live with the regret I live with every day.
Thank you so much for sharing your truth with me. The memory of it causes you suffering. You were probably very busy then, caught up in the day-to-day life stuff we all get caught up in. You gave your Dad comfort at the end because you were there. Your story did help me focus on what is important. Find a way to forgive yourself. That is the key to peace in our lives - loving and forgiving ourselves over and over. You didn't know and did the best you could at the time. I am sure your Dad forgives you and understands. I appreciate your comment more than you know.
I get it! I am happier by myself, but I would still like a relationship part of the time. Our society tells us it has to be all-encompassing or nothing. I don't believe that anymore. It's a myth to sell rings and wedding stuff!
I gotta hear when u figure out what your electrical issue was cause yeah I’m pretty useless there too. And yes, when the stress of loved ones lingers on, every little issue becomes mount flippin Everest to climb. We r the same age. I lost my parents 6 yrs ago, 4 months apart, then my only sibling one year later, I feel your heartache, for me it was my parents r suppose to live forever, and my sibling n i were suppose to grow old together, well wtf right? Laugh at that reasoning please lol! For u it’s parents r suppose to be healthy forever, and your frustration of being stuck in a city/town and juggling this stupid driveway rule, it’s all highly stressful! Kimann, any problem adding to your situation will seem overwhelming, keep that in mind. Take it one day at a time, maybe u r trying to plan ahead and that is too difficult to do right now adding to your frustration, so maybe play each day as it comes. And remember “it can always get fixed” so who can help ya fix it? I always look forward to someone helping me figure stuff out because u learn from it, so be in their face figuring it out with them lol! Then it will give u that “aaah ha! I can do this feeling!”. So right now good old god is testing your patience ya know! Keep strong and persevere, and sit down n count the good things! …like imagine this all happening if your parents say lived in montana snow country 😱, right? Oh man, ugh! Lol! 🍻
Thank you for your kind words! You are so right! Pushing against what is adds to the suffering. I expected to travel into the sunset and my parents to stay healthy. I can't accept the reality. That sounds absurd when I type it! My heart goes out to you for your great losses, but you are so right. We can only accept and appreciate the good things. 🙏❤
It is truly heartbreaking to see you struggle with these electrical issues.. Things like that come natural to me as I'm sure other things do for you. It's okay to not know those things as we all have a role to play in this world and that's just not yours. Power and water are basic everyday necessaries and it is frustrating to anyone to do without them. Just search solar in your location and I'll bet you've got someone near you that can help. My father passed away at 52yo from a brain stem stroke in the mid 90s. My mother is 85yo and still living alone. She has been incredibly healthy her whole life but three years ago she was diagnosed with Alzheimer and her health is starting to fail. I have nothing keeping me here other than being here for her. Your Not alone
Thank you so much! It is comforting to know that I am not alone. I am not unique. We all share these experiences. I appreciate your positive advice about the electricity. I know it will get resolved, but not by me! Alzheimer's is a terrible disease. I am sending you love and support. ❤
A battery bank,as shown,with either DC charging system,or solar,or both, should really only be looked at as a backup " boondocking" source of power,as limited as it is. A gasoline or dual fuel generator,provides steady AC house current. Even a relatively small, 2,200 Starting Watts generator,will supply 15 Amps of 24 hour a day if necessary ,of steady power. Even a top of line Honda Inverter generator that size,is about the same price as 1 Battle Born lithium battery.
Enjoy your parents while you still have them here. I was 30 when my mother died and 33 when my father passed. It’s wonderful you still have your parents but also stressful. If you need a break, come see me!❤ We will go find a vegan restaurant we have not ate at before. On the electric, you did take a stab at it. Enough so that you know to hire a professional! We can’t do everything.
Old mechanic. Please allow me to give some basic 12 Volt battery advice,for safety. 12 Volt, unlike 120 Volt household current,is safe to work on, for most part. Household current,unlike automotive 12 Volt, can seriously injure or worse. You want to avoid any sparking around 12 Volt batteries. 12 Volt lead acid car batteries,can explode. Its rare,but always wear safety goggles around car batteries. Besides that,you want to avoid shorting Positive+ wires to ground. That can damage electrical system. Ground is chassis metal. Example is at 4:00 minute mark,with open end wrench attempted to touch Positive ( Hot/ Red wire) battery terminal. You will see the metal battery door frame ( chassis ground) right near end of wrench. Don't allow the two to make contact.
Glad to help! I know a lot of people,both men+ women,watch these channels,and many are afraid to ask questions. I've got brothers in law,for example,who tell me they are embarrassed,but have never changed the oil in a vehicle,and wouldn't have a clue how to. So,never assume,as a woman,that men know more about vehicles than you do. The only way to do this stuff,is start learning. Remember,the best mechanic in a race track pit crew, changed oil or put a battery in a car,for the first time also.And ,they all have learned things the hard way,by making mistakes. Every mechanic,has shorted positive cables to ground,like I described above. A moment of inattention,is all it takes. So,just remember,the Positive battery terminal,is always what we call "Hot" or energized. It's not necessarily hot to touch,but called "Hot" . It's wires are always "Red" and is marked at the terminal with a + ,or positive marking. The Negative ( or Ground) terminal of battery is labeled with a Negative - marker. The negative terminal is supplied by black wires only. It helps to first look at all wires,before you start working,to identify any potential problems with touching them with wrenches/ etc, especially to avoid touching together any Positive or Negative wires,while disconnecting.
Hey there, just me again 😹 What a heartwarming scene at the end, dogs really show their emotions and they were both so happy to have the family together again 👊🏻 I'm hoping you get your battery / charging issues sorted out. Battleborn's with a DC charger should be a near perfect setup !! Hopefully soon 👍🏼 🌻 Get the pups some treats on me 😘
Many thanks for your incredible kindness! Your generous gesture is truly appreciated, and the dogs will love the treat. Your thoughtfulness warms my heart! 😍
I wish you the best...moment to moment ...because that's what life is, a series of moments. You can do this. Breathe and on busy stress filled days make sure you schedule me time moments and positive spoken affirmations.
Beautifully said and much appreciated! I will carry your words with me. Thank you. 🙏❤
There is an engine shutdown detection on the phone app. for the Vitron Orion that if set up correctly will detect input drops at a certain level and shut the system off so the engine battery doesn't get drained. The engine detection shutdown on the app. also requires the type of battery that is being charged such as lithium. Good luck!
That's just one of the problems with these systems,too much tech dependant on apps/ set ups/ remote controls/ etc instead of automatic controls.
I looked at the diagrams on Amazon for this unit ( 30 Amp) and the remote must be set up for unit to operate.
In other words, it's more complicated than it needs to be,because new people want everything controlled from their phones/ devices, and think that means " better". It's clearly not.
Agree! "Simplify" is my middle name.@@Bubba-wx7lp
That is part of the issue - figuring out the correct settings on the app! After it was installed, it seems to be working. I didn't think of researching the app settings because it could drain my battery!
Firstly, i cant do my own electrical either. Secondly, I was on the road today when a dish fell out of a cupboard and smashed the glass hob cover to smithereens. I was feeling pretty low about that. Your video helped me feel less alone. Thank you.
Sorry to hear that. That sucks! I feel you! We are never alone but sometimes it is hard to see. You look like you are visiting beautiful places though!
Your honesty is appreciated. I totally understand the frustration at life and especially electric. I hope you can get it fixed soon. Prayers sent for you and your parents.🙏♥️
Thanks you! I can feel your kindness and it is appreciated. I realize that I am not unique. We all have challenges.
I’m currently living with my parents . My father had a stroke so I am his caregiver. It’s work and a sacrifice but it’s rewarding and something I know I’ll never regret! They deserve it.❤️🙏🏽😉
You are so right! It is hard, but it is the right thing to do. We love our parents. My father is going blind and deaf. I can't imagine what he is going through. Compassion, love, and support mean so much. Thank you for sharing that.
Just watched your video. I’m in the same boat. Lost my dad last March and recently moved from Florida to help my Mother in GA. With all they put up with and do for us as we grow; not helping isn’t an answer.
That is very true! Helping is the right thing to do. No matter what. Thank you for sharing that with me. It makes me feel better just knowing that I am not alone. We are all connected.
You had me in tears about your parents. I lost my wife to cancer 15 years ago. I did all the home care at the end.
At some point you may have to take care of both but you know what at the end of that you will come out a very strong person. You will have no regrets just love for the memories you shared with your parents.
Prayers for you.
Your comment has me in tears. My heart goes out to you. Losing a spouse in that way is such a great loss! Thank you for your honesty and for reaching out to me. Cancer is a terrible disease. I am sending you love and gratitude!
Poor Ron, he reminds me of my old dog Casey that had severe anxiety issues. Those tool boxes are frustrating to the best of people. Believe me you should not be upset or feeling frustrated or have a feeling of failure. Electrical is a trade in its self , I spent 40 years training and working in telecommunication and I have an electronics degree and I'd have my hands full trying to figure out one of those systems and throw in an APP that controls items and it can be very complex so don't feel bad one bit. You have the right reason to stay there with them and close to them you're a caring person with a huge heart that's obvious. I'm the same age as you and I know what you mean I know I am so lucky to still have my parents with relatively good health, but I'm here for them now not wandering far. YOU ARE A GREAT DAUGHTER !!! You're a great person never forget that
I appreciate your thoughtful comment! You are a loving and caring son to stay close to your parents, too! You made me feel better about not tackling the electric myself. Thank you. 🙏
@@KimannChessa Look it this way I would be lost trying to do Nursing work (One of my daughters is a nurse) so why would someone expect you to do electrical work. It's something best left to those who are trained in it. Now given time and some training I'm sure you would be able to figure it out, you're an intelligent woman.
Thank you for sharing your feelings! We lost my mother in law last summer at 91, and it was a very difficult time. She is very much missed❤ Hug your parents and tell them they raised a great daughter!
Thank you for your kind words. My heart goes out to you for your loss. It is so heartbreaking to lose someone you love. I am sending you positivity and love on this gift of a day!
I would not have even tried to fix an electric problem. What you are doing for your parents is wonderful, You are doing the right thing. Such a sweet family reunion with the pups.
Thank you! I appreciate your kind words!
Sorry to hear about your challenges. All of us of a certain age need to help our parents and enjoy the time we have.
That is so true! Thank you for your support!
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Thank you! I can feel it from across the Atlantic! Portugal is on my travel list!
It is a beautiful country! I have been living in Porto for 30 years, but now, I'm in the north, in my hometown, because of my mother's health. I've 2 dogs, no husban, a teen son. And I can relate so much with your mindset and some dificulties of life! Love your videos and I would love to live in a trailler... Big hug!@@KimannChessa
I love your channel! You are so kind and honest! I have sold my house and bought an RV trailer that I live in at my parents place. They have property that makes it nice! I'm building out a promaster and my dream is to hit the road before they get where they need help. I believe they have many years yet so I continue to work also. My struggle is trying to cut the visiting time shorter! But they are awesome and understand my dream of building out the van, just think it's for weekend get aways. When I figure out the money on the road I will leave...you hang in there. If you can talk to your parents that your independence is vital to you! I hope they can understand ❤😊
Thank you for supporting my channel! Your van plans are exciting! Taking on the build-yourself is a challenging but fulfilling project! I admire you! You are fortunate to have parents who believe in your dreams. You will figure out the money. I discovered I didn't need as much living in my camper. Your plan of hitting the road while your parents are well is very smart! By the time I hit the road, my parent's health was already in decline, and it has been a struggle always returning to Florida when something happens. I appreciate your comment so much!
Yep - it's hard having our parents get older and reversing the caretaking roles. Also, the electricity thing scares me too. I am even leary about putting on jumper cables because once I did it and they smoked! But, it would be good to watch the professionals so you can learn how to do it yourself if possible. You can use a Sharpie pen to write on the tools too if you forget which ones to use.
I am afraid of jumper cables too! Thank you for the Sharpie idea! That is so helpful!
Hello, your video came up on my feed today for the first time. (Glad it did)
It’s really hard to watch parents getting older and more frail. They’re lucky to have you nearby.
As for your electrical glitch, you made the right decision to not troubleshoot it yourself, at least until you become more knowledgeable about the system (it’s only a matter of learning about it).
For now, someone who knows about electrical systems, preferably an electrician, should get you on your way without too much trouble. A DC-DC controller is relatively easy to troubleshoot, if that’s what the problem is, and even a replacement unit is not very expensive.
If I was local, I’d gladly have a look at it, but alas, I’m a good 1200 miles North of you.
Cheers from Canada!
Thank you for your vote of confidence and for watching my video! I know the issue will get resolved but not by me. I appreciate your willingness to help if you were close by. That means so much to me!
You're strong be ok love your videos
Thank you so much! I appreciate you watching them!
My parents are in their early 80s and in good health but I have chronic fear of something happening to them and it's horrible to know that eventually, something will. I live far away and am not sure what Id do...Im not in a good situation for leaving home for an extended period. Gosh I hate worry, problems and sadness! Hang in there.
I so understand how you feel! When I was on the road, I always felt anxiety and a huge weight on me because I might have to drive back to Florida for my parents, and it happened a few times. You will work it out when the time comes. You can't help but worry about it. I just read this quote, "Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength." I have to remind myself that more! Take care!
Electrical is not something to mess with unless you have experience, it is challenging and dangerous if you don’t understand what your doing. I would be terrified myself! As we get older, and you and I are the same age, parents age and we find ourselves having to care for them, it’s the circle of life, they care for us and we care for them. It’s not easy when you are trying to live your own dreams, but sometimes we just have to commit to some compromises. It’s not easy but have no regrets, once they are gone that’s it, finality is for us left behind on earth. Cherish the moments both good and bad and appreciate the time you have them. I’m orphaned now, both parents are gone. I miss them everyday. Im glad spent time with them and I have those memories to fall back on. On another note, it has not been easy to find a winter place for camp sites, snowbird season has to be booked well in advance. Ugh, the weather across the US has not been kind either, kinda puts us all
In a funky mood. I hope things go better for you, Onward through the fog!
Thank you. You made me feel better about giving up on the electric. It will be fixed, but not by me. You also helped me to accept the situation with my parents better. You are right! They care for us, and then we care for them. Everything is temporary, and it is futile to push against it. I need to accept and be there for them. I am sending you positive, sunny vibes from Florida. Winter can be harsh, but Spring is always on the horizon. That could also be a metaphor for life. I appreciate your help and sharing your story. I love the way UA-cam lets me connect with amazing people like you!
Always use electrical tape to cover metal connection on any loose/ disconnected Positive + (Red) Hot wire .
Thank you! You might have spared me from a bigger problem - a fire! I appreciate your advice!
Glad to help.
I looked at your charger on Amazon,it says reconnect remote to activate charger,was it working?
Check your Ground ( black) - negative battery terminal connection on starting battery under hood.
Must not be loose or corroded.
Then check Positive ( Red wire) + terminal connection,same starting battery.
Then go to Battle Born battery's,check same.
Thank you! I will try that. I am taking the camper up to NuCamp for another issue. If it is still not working then, maybe they can fix it. I appreciate you researching it for me. I get confused just reading the instructions!
The more hands on wiring you get,the less mysterious it gets.
The more you troubleshoot,the more you learn about systems.
A voltmeter is good place to start learning basics,like checking battery voltage.
My mom died two weeks ago at 92 and 2 months. It takes time to adapt to the change and process the emotions. I expected that she would die this year, just not so early.
Eight days before she died, she had an check up with her doctor. She had lost 30 pounds in the past three months. He told her if she doesn't eat she will die within the next 30 days. It was difficult for her. It distressed her to hear that she was dying. She didn't want to start hospice, because it meant she was going to die. She hated the doctor for how he told her.
Thinking back, I realize she had been slowly dying for the previous six months or more. A year earlier she complained about difficulty chewing food. Then she gradually ate less and less. It is typical when someone is dying, to stop eating, but I didn't know that. Three months before she died, her speech changed. He words were often difficult to understand. Her mind was fully aware, but she didn't want to accept that her body was dying.
Four days before she died, I helped her from her bed to her recliner, because it was easier for her to set up right to drink and eat a little. She never got out of the recliner, even to eliminate. She was using paper towels to absorb the urine, so I bought the most absorbent bladder pads available.
The day before she died, I noticed she was breathing deeply. So I called 911 to have her taken to the hospital. They found she had pneumonia, and treated her with antibiotics. Pneumonia commonly happens near death, because of swallowing and breathing difficulty. When I left her at the hospital that night, the last thing she said to me was "No." She didn't want to stay in the hospital. I told her that she has pneumonia and I couldn't take her home. I expected to talk to her the next day. That didn't happen.
For the last twelve hours of her life, she didn't move and her eyes were open, but she never blinked. She just breathed though her mouth. Toward the end her breathing slowed. I held her hand for over two hours until her last breath. I don't know if she was even aware that I was there.
I hope this helps someone else to understand and prepare for the dying process. My advice is to prepare early so you understand the dying process and know what needs to be done before and after.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. Your words helped immensely. We all will inevitably die, but you made me see that being prepared and accepting is the only thing in my control. It was so sad that your Mom didn't want to go. I think it is easier when they want to let go, but I don't know. My parents have a difficult time eating also. They drink a lot of Ensure drinks to compensate. It keeps them alive but takes much of the joy out of living.
@@KimannChessa Are they becoming emaciated? To me weight loss is a significant indication of slowly dying. There is nothing you can do about it. Just try to make them comfortable.
I read that you should not try to force them to eat. So you will feel frustrated and helpless when they don't eat much. My mom went to the ER 6 days before she died because she was having a panic attack about dying. The doctor prescribed Megestrol to stimulate her appetite, but I think that was wrong. The problem is that doctors don't seem to understand the dying process or know how to talk to the dying patient constructively or humanely or provide any guidance to the family. They might refer you to a hospice worker, but before that process completes the person has died, and the family is left to stumble through the aftermath not knowing what to do. Preparing ahead of time helps. You can search for articles about the "dying process" and "preparations for death".
Orgain is better than Ensure. It is not in the pharmacy section at Walmart. It is with the regular groceries. It don't remember exactly where. I found it by accident. It might be near the prune juice or or almond milk or chocolate milk.
One thing I tried was pureeing Progresso soups. She had low sodium levels, probably because she drank water frequently. But she complained that it was too salty, so I added a tablespoon of powdered instant mash potatoes with some garlic powder and onion powder. For tomato based soups, add a tablespoon of tomato paste to reduce the saltiness.
The machine I used to puree the soup was similar to the one below, except mine has 3-speeds.
Food Processors with 2 Bowls, 400W Meat Grinder, 4 Bi-Level Blades Food Chopper Electric, 2 Speed, 8Cup Glass and 8Cup 304 Stainless Steel, Spatula, Blue
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Within 20 seconds, the chunky soup had the consistency of applesauce. You could add low sodium chicken or beef stock to reduce the viscosity. It would take her 15 minutes just to consume two tablespoons of it.
My mom liked sweet potato, banana, and applesauce (and triple chocolate biscotti). I used the applesauce 3.9oz cups to serve the soup and sweet potato, because it was light weight and easy to handle. Also, I gave her some prune juice.
Get a pack of stainless steel drinking straws with silicon tips. My mother was using plastic ones, but she would bite them making them hard to suck through. Also, she complained that a 500ml plastic water bottle that was less than half full was too heavy. So I bought a pack of 8 ounce water bottles, but she only drank one.
My mother was healthy, other than her eyesight and minor heart arrhythmia. She gradually became less functional. Her decline was barely noticeable. Near the end, she was so emaciated she looked like a concentration camp survivor. Her body consumed itself.
She never discussed burial arrangements with me. She didn't have a burial plot. She told my brother she didn't want to be cremated. We decided on natural burial in a pine forest. The body is wrapped in a sheet and lowered on a king sized sheet or quilt.
You will not be prepared for it emotionally, no matter how much you think you are. When ever you think about them, you will cry and sob and wish you could have done better to help them. That is just part of the grieving process. It could last six months or more. Spend time with them now. Talk with them about fond memories. Try to avoid regrets, because they will gnaw at you for a long time.
I thought about parking your camper at your parents house. You could contact the code enforcement body and ask them for a waver considering your parents declining health condition. Only a heartless apparatchik would not consider that reasonable.
For working on your electrical problem, you need a digital multimeter (to know the exact voltage) and test lights (to check for voltage present). You can probably find instructional videos on UA-cam or search for articles. The most dangerous thing you can do is short the positive terminal to the metal frame or to the negative terminal. Anything else will either blow a fuse, trip a breaker, or nothing. You might need test leads with alligator clips to connect the meter to hard to reach contacts.
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💚💙💜Gratitude list , you are so blessed to have those people in your life , breath and stay in the now. It's your life live it the way you want , there is a plan that's bigger💜💙💚 ~peace~
So true! Thank you for your positivity! You are so right!! 🙏❤ I am reciprocating with peace and positive vibes to you.
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S hit seems to be hitting the fan for you. Can you move the camper in the back yard, out of sight? Can't help with your electrical issues except you started having trouble after installing the 12 volt fridge. Maybe something got disconnected? If you're getting dead truck batteries, sounds like they aren't isolated from the truck or the fridge is connected to the truck battery.
It would be easier for me if I was able to move the camper to their backyard. That would be a compromise that I could live with but they live on a tip lot on the canal. So, there is a sea wall and other houses across the water. You are right! The 12 volt fridge set off these electric issues. I appreciate your kind advice! It will get figured out but not by me!
It's ok to be emotional. Life can be hard at times. I'm not electrically savvy either. Take care of yourself. Good thoughts for your parents.
Thank you so much! Your kind words are appreciated!
Hello again, 1. If place you got your rv set up with battle born is close to your parents have the check out your system. Or call battle born i hear the customer sevice is great maybe they send to good repair place. You have some very personal choices to make concerning you mom and dad. Family is important. Now you know Ron had a blast he had guy time. Lol. This past week has be been a bum week for me my Aunt fell at the ALF, trip hospital check out okay but weak. So now she is at rehab for few weeks. Me I ended up in ER friday as my knee had bad sprain. On the mend but learning how to use the wheeled walker is fun. Not
Ron did have guy time! My heart goes out to you. You had a bad week! Stay resilient, brighter days are on the horizon. You will heal but it takes time. Be patient and kind to yourself. I feel you with the situation with your Aunt. It is so difficult when loved ones start falling.
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Thank you! Cheers!
You may not like this but it is my truth. I lived in a different State that my dad, he called me one day and asked me to go see him because he wanted to spend some time with me and chat. I always had too much work and things to do and didn't make the effort to go be with him. It wasn't until I got the call that he slipped in his dog urine, fell backward and sustained a head injury. I flew to see him but when I got there he was in a coma. I got closed to him and told him "Dad I am here", all I saw was a tear coming down his cheek. He never woke up and I never got to tell him how sorry I was. It has been almost 11 years and I can't forgive myself for what I didn't do for him. I hate myself for that and just hope he is able to forgive me when I see him again. My advise: If they need you, suck it up and be the daughter they need you to be today, because you do not want to live with the regret I live with every day.
Thank you so much for sharing your truth with me. The memory of it causes you suffering. You were probably very busy then, caught up in the day-to-day life stuff we all get caught up in. You gave your Dad comfort at the end because you were there. Your story did help me focus on what is important. Find a way to forgive yourself. That is the key to peace in our lives - loving and forgiving ourselves over and over. You didn't know and did the best you could at the time. I am sure your Dad forgives you and understands. I appreciate your comment more than you know.
Thank you for your words and for helping me see it from a different perspective. It means a lot to me. I hope you are doing well this weekend.
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Thank you too! I appreciate you watching!
OMG.....You were married!!?? Lol. Hang in there and hopefully sunny weather blesses you soon. Timmy C Arizona
Thanks Timmy! I was married - twice! I learned a lot about myself through those relationships. It's all good.
@@KimannChessa I'm a forever bachelor.....happily!
I get it! I am happier by myself, but I would still like a relationship part of the time. Our society tells us it has to be all-encompassing or nothing. I don't believe that anymore. It's a myth to sell rings and wedding stuff!
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Hi! Nice to see you here!
I gotta hear when u figure out what your electrical issue was cause yeah I’m pretty useless there too.
And yes, when the stress of loved ones lingers on, every little issue becomes mount flippin Everest to climb. We r the same age. I lost my parents 6 yrs ago, 4 months apart, then my only sibling one year later, I feel your heartache, for me it was my parents r suppose to live forever, and my sibling n i were suppose to grow old together, well wtf right? Laugh at that reasoning please lol!
For u it’s parents r suppose to be healthy forever, and your frustration of being stuck in a city/town and juggling this stupid driveway rule, it’s all highly stressful! Kimann, any problem adding to your situation will seem overwhelming, keep that in mind. Take it one day at a time, maybe u r trying to plan ahead and that is too difficult to do right now adding to your frustration, so maybe play each day as it comes. And remember “it can always get fixed” so who can help ya fix it? I always look forward to someone helping me figure stuff out because u learn from it, so be in their face figuring it out with them lol! Then it will give u that “aaah ha! I can do this feeling!”. So right now good old god is testing your patience ya know! Keep strong and persevere, and sit down n count the good things! …like imagine this all happening if your parents say lived in montana snow country 😱, right? Oh man, ugh! Lol! 🍻
Thank you for your kind words! You are so right! Pushing against what is adds to the suffering. I expected to travel into the sunset and my parents to stay healthy. I can't accept the reality. That sounds absurd when I type it! My heart goes out to you for your great losses, but you are so right. We can only accept and appreciate the good things. 🙏❤
It is truly heartbreaking to see you struggle with these electrical issues.. Things like that come natural to me as I'm sure other things do for you. It's okay to not know those things as we all have a role to play in this world and that's just not yours. Power and water are basic everyday necessaries and it is frustrating to anyone to do without them. Just search solar in your location and I'll bet you've got someone near you that can help.
My father passed away at 52yo from a brain stem stroke in the mid 90s. My mother is 85yo and still living alone. She has been incredibly healthy her whole life but three years ago she was diagnosed with Alzheimer and her health is starting to fail. I have nothing keeping me here other than being here for her.
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Thank you so much! It is comforting to know that I am not alone. I am not unique. We all share these experiences. I appreciate your positive advice about the electricity. I know it will get resolved, but not by me! Alzheimer's is a terrible disease. I am sending you love and support. ❤
A battery bank,as shown,with either DC charging system,or solar,or both, should really only be looked at as a backup " boondocking" source of power,as limited as it is.
A gasoline or dual fuel generator,provides steady AC house current.
Even a relatively small, 2,200 Starting Watts generator,will supply 15 Amps of 24 hour a day if necessary ,of steady power.
Even a top of line Honda Inverter generator that size,is about the same price as 1 Battle Born lithium battery.
Thank you! That makes sense! I will look into it.
Based on my twelve years of parental care-giving be sure not to lose too much of yourself during such a time.
Twelve years is a very long time! I appreciate the advice from a man who lived it!
I've entered a new chapter in my life and reconnecting with myself.@@KimannChessa
Hi my sweet friend I want support you
Hard Time when parents sick or older
Thank you. I appreciate your support more than you know!
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Enjoy your parents while you still have them here. I was 30 when my mother died and 33 when my father passed. It’s wonderful you still have your parents but also stressful. If you need a break, come see me!❤ We will go find a vegan restaurant we have not ate at before. On the electric, you did take a stab at it. Enough so that you know to hire a professional! We can’t do everything.
Thank you for your kind words! You are so right! Sending love!
Old mechanic. Please allow me to give some basic 12 Volt battery advice,for safety.
12 Volt, unlike 120 Volt household current,is safe to work on, for most part.
Household current,unlike automotive 12 Volt, can seriously injure or worse.
You want to avoid any sparking around 12 Volt batteries. 12 Volt lead acid car batteries,can explode.
Its rare,but always wear safety goggles around car batteries.
Besides that,you want to avoid shorting Positive+ wires to ground. That can damage electrical system.
Ground is chassis metal.
Example is at 4:00 minute mark,with open end wrench attempted to touch Positive ( Hot/ Red wire) battery terminal. You will see the metal battery door frame ( chassis ground) right near end of wrench.
Don't allow the two to make contact.
I appreciate your advice so much! I research but nothing sinks in. My frustration creates a mental block. You explained it perfectly! Thank you!!
Glad to help!
I know a lot of people,both men+ women,watch these channels,and many are afraid to ask questions.
I've got brothers in law,for example,who tell me they are embarrassed,but have never changed the oil in a vehicle,and wouldn't have a clue how to.
So,never assume,as a woman,that men know more about vehicles than you do.
The only way to do this stuff,is start learning.
Remember,the best mechanic in a race track pit crew, changed oil or put a battery in a car,for the first time also.And ,they all have learned things the hard way,by making mistakes.
Every mechanic,has shorted positive cables to ground,like I described above.
A moment of inattention,is all it takes.
So,just remember,the Positive battery terminal,is always what we call "Hot" or energized. It's not necessarily hot to touch,but called "Hot" . It's wires are always "Red" and is marked at the terminal with a + ,or positive marking.
The Negative ( or Ground) terminal of battery is labeled with a Negative - marker.
The negative terminal is supplied by black wires only.
It helps to first look at all wires,before you start working,to identify any potential problems with touching them with wrenches/ etc, especially to avoid touching together any Positive or Negative wires,while disconnecting.
Take it to a shop and have it fixed.
Don't drive yourself nuts.