Dealing with a DEATH on the Road …Trucking//REAL TALK HONEY

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  • Опубліковано 17 жов 2024

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  • @keithstrickroth13
    @keithstrickroth13 Місяць тому +1

    Condolences from my family to you!

  • @thecosmiccastaway8960
    @thecosmiccastaway8960 7 місяців тому +2

    3 days ago you posted this video. I googled “coping with death while on the road as a truck driver” or something like that… your video popped up first.
    A few days ago I had two family members pass away while I was out here trucking. I just stopped at a rest area here in Wisconsin to take a break and collect myself.
    I am so sorry about your father. You have my sympathy, and my deepest condolences.
    I know someday I’ll have to go through that with my father. Dealing with a loved ones death while on the road is unimaginably difficult, especially when you have no power to alter the decision of hospice.
    I’m so sorry that you had to go through such a difficult time you sound like a very loving and wonderful daughter .

    • @HighwayHoney
      @HighwayHoney  6 місяців тому

      I’m so sorry!! I was numb and severely depressed out here in the truck. I’m not sure how I kept it going through the grief. Thank you 🙏 🤗 I’m a beautiful person with a beautiful heart. Thanks to my mom and dad for raising me with strong sweet firm personality with a lot of kindness to give.

  • @mikemoore8064
    @mikemoore8064 7 місяців тому +3

    My deepest condolences to you and your family.

  • @michaelrocker9000
    @michaelrocker9000 7 місяців тому +1

    My sympathy and i am glad you found an outlet to express your feelings. My mom wasn't in hospice. She was in a despicable hospital near where i grew up in Brooklyn NY. One day she was on the phone talking to my sister-in-law and all of a sudden she stopped talking. She had my mothers neighbors phone number and called her. The neighbor also had the key to the apartment. She went in and found my mother on the floor. She picked up the phone and my SIL was still on the line and told her. She then hung up and called 911.. She suffered from congestive heart failure in 2000 and had bypass surgery. She seemed to be doing ok afterwards. Getting back to the hospital. They put her on O2 and meds. I was in touch with my SIL they put her on life support. I tried talking to her doctors and it went on deaf ears. The last time she was there for heart problems they sent her to a hospital that was better equipped to deal with cardio patients. This time they said no. There was a small family pow wow and it was decided that the day after her 85th BDay to take her off life support.. I was living in Maryland just outside of DC. A 3.5 hors drive to NYC. There was a woman I know who offered to help me out with some money to make the trip since i was tapped out after paying my bills. I only worked less than 10 miles from home so I could survive without putting gas in my car for another 2 weeks. She was supposed to meet me on a Friday night and never showed up. She ghosted me. When someone answered the phone this person said he was her son and told me to EFF off and leave her alone. I was pissed. My SIL was in touch with me after they took her off support. She was a CNA at the time and worked for a place that did heart and lung transplants. She told me all her vitals were normal and was able to speak.. I got a call around 6AM that Monday and my SIL told me she passed. I was able to make it up to the funeral but my brother was pissed that i wasn't able to see her before this. At the cemetery he went full Marlon Brando from the God Father on me. My other older brother was a no good POS just stood there. I just had to leave with about 20 people watching all of this. My older brother said something and all i wanted to do was push him in the hole in the ground where my mother was placed.
    You are not alone. I would love to give you my number if you ever want to talk but not here on YT. Also if you just need to talk to someone other than me you can call 988 then press 1 since you're a veteran like me.
    So glad you made this video while you were parked.
    Sending much love to you and your puppy. Stay safe..

    • @HighwayHoney
      @HighwayHoney  6 місяців тому +1

      😮 My God! I have no worlds. That’s just horrible. I’m so sorry. 🤗 my contact email is highway.honey@yahoo.com it’s always listed in the description box of my videos.

  • @randymurphy9709
    @randymurphy9709 7 місяців тому +2

    I am so sorry that you lost your dad.

  • @mrblue2011
    @mrblue2011 7 місяців тому +2

    My situation is different than yours but still painful. I was one of the youngest in a family of nine kids. Five siblings and my Mom and Dad have left before me. I know the feeling It's still hard for me to talk about. Blessings and stay safe You look absolutely marvelous in that Cab !

    • @HighwayHoney
      @HighwayHoney  6 місяців тому +1

      I’m sorry to hear about your parents. 🤗 🙏 I know it’s not easy but I know it’s important to let the tears roll and the anger out at least for me anyway. Thank you you’re a sweetie.

  • @Cinchy2017
    @Cinchy2017 7 місяців тому +1

    I feel for you baby I lost my dad when I was 9 and my mom when I was 19 .It sucks being in that truck and just thinking about that all day and night.You’re a strong woman and you’ll get through this it just takes time and hopefully there will be peace with you and your family.

    • @HighwayHoney
      @HighwayHoney  6 місяців тому

      Thank you, very much, cinchy!! 🤗 I’m sorry to hear about your parents.

    • @Cinchy2017
      @Cinchy2017 6 місяців тому

      @@HighwayHoney are you on Facebook?

  • @blacknight88
    @blacknight88 7 місяців тому +1

    Sorry for your loss, your dad created and left behind a wonderful daughter.
    I been there and it sucks

  • @LckyPenny
    @LckyPenny 7 місяців тому +2

    Your Daddy would want you to know that he understands and he would want you to be happy. Sometimes things happen beyond our control, and sometimes our lives must go on even when those we love cease to exist. Remember him how he came to you, if he is at peace then you should be too.

  • @christopherleslie7303
    @christopherleslie7303 7 місяців тому +2

    Sorry for the loss of your father. My daughter died last month on the 13 th. I was at a rest area in Ohio taking my thirty minute break when I got the phone call. I did the same thing you did I balled my eyes back out in the sleeper . My company got me a rental car and I drove straight through back to South Carolina. My daughter was only 28 years old. Now I have custody of three of her children. Again sorry for your loss.

    • @colinl9018
      @colinl9018 14 днів тому +1

      Hope you are holding up ok.

    • @HighwayHoney
      @HighwayHoney  9 днів тому +1

      @colinl9018 It takes some time. But, I’m doing better. Thank you for being compassionate 🤗

  • @williamwright8286
    @williamwright8286 7 місяців тому

    My Condolences to you. Grief comes in waves and we all take loss definitely. When my wife died I had anger for a long time. I am thankful I wasn't out on the road when she passed.

    • @HighwayHoney
      @HighwayHoney  6 місяців тому +1

      I’m so sorry!!! Yes, it does. I get angry and sad. But remember the good times it helps to get me through some dark days.

  • @trueanime3166
    @trueanime3166 7 місяців тому +1

    I hear you. That's what happened to my grandma all she needed was oxygen but they quickly drugged her to death. I'm sorry for your situation

    • @HighwayHoney
      @HighwayHoney  6 місяців тому

      😮 Ya see… it’s a messed up system they have . I’m sorry to hear that. 🤗

  • @G_ride.easy.wiser.
    @G_ride.easy.wiser. 7 місяців тому +1

    And glad you didn't hurt anybody.

  • @jatradesmof01
    @jatradesmof01 7 місяців тому +1

    God knows it all. He will take care of everything. Be blessed.

  • @tyrannosaurusrex3886
    @tyrannosaurusrex3886 6 місяців тому +1

    HH i hope you are doing good. I just saw a video it is on UA-cam called Life in the Unseen Worlds. It came out 3 weeks ago.. it is pretty cool to watch, hey im in the same boat 20 plus years ago.. i had it a little worse.. hospice sent me to a all night pharmacy for my old man. He passed that night. It took me a few days to figure it all out.. Man look out 😂 anyway time has a way of smoothing things out. I know what you mean about the visit. I would only get visits subconsciously in Rural Wyoming or Shiprock.. not really pleasant like a relative. Anyway good luck and God bless you and your family, i hope that video helps 😊

    • @HighwayHoney
      @HighwayHoney  5 місяців тому +1

      Thank you very much! I will check it out!

  • @seantyler369
    @seantyler369 7 місяців тому

    Your dad did good raising you and I’m sure he’s proud of you. You know I’m here if you ever need me. I will always take your call.

    • @HighwayHoney
      @HighwayHoney  6 місяців тому +1

      Thank you!! I appreciate it! 🤗

    • @seantyler369
      @seantyler369 6 місяців тому

      @@HighwayHoney and you can always help me paint. Lol

  • @G_ride.easy.wiser.
    @G_ride.easy.wiser. 7 місяців тому

    My condolences.

  • @robertlopez1088
    @robertlopez1088 7 місяців тому

    I’am so sorry for your loss. You can’t blame yourself my dear just remember our Lord Jesus Christ needed him by his side it was his time. My Love I will pray for you to find peace in your heart he in a better place now.
    God Bless you my Love.❤

    • @HighwayHoney
      @HighwayHoney  6 місяців тому

      God didn’t take him Robert!! The nurses gave him the morphine drug to kill him. He didn’t need that drug yet! He was still in good shape!!!! I appreciate your kind words. Just pissed off!

  • @southbound141
    @southbound141 7 місяців тому

    So your father just needed oxygen and rest in order to pull through?

    • @HighwayHoney
      @HighwayHoney  6 місяців тому +1

      On hospice care they are supposed to support the patient not sedate. The doctor should have put him on oxygen prior to the hospice care. They pushed him through faster than it should have been naturally. His red blood cell count was not replenishing he needed to get transfusions but I wish they would have not given the morphine just let a person go naturally. He did not need that yet. We talked every week and the next week he was like a dope head. I asked my father if he wanted to die he said yes BUT NOT YET!!! and I respected that and so should they have it’s called the code of ethics.

    • @southbound141
      @southbound141 6 місяців тому

      @@HighwayHoney holy smokes, so sorry for your loss.