Thank you for watching. I hope you have a lovely weekend. Happy Easter! For more, visit my corresponding blogpost dailyconnoisseur.blogspot.com/2019/04/dressing-up-for-no-reason-ten-item.html Also, please note: whenever I discuss this topic, people tend to get upset and offended. If that's you, just remember that some women are in a place where this message speaks to them and others aren't. That's OK! I hope we can all support each other on whatever journey we are on. This is one of my passions so I speak up about it. Thanks, as always, for your support. Love, Jennifer
I wear dresses or smart trousers everyday for work. One of my colleagues mentioned that she'd like to wear smarter clothes to work but was too embarrassed because people would say 'why are you so dressed up?' I told her it only takes a couple of days and people stop commenting. Just take the plunge and wear all those nice dresses you've got in your wardrobe. She did, and guess what? She got promoted!
I dress up every day and I certainly don’t apologize for it. I think that when people make comments about us ladies who dress up it’s because they feel uncomfortable about the way they look. But what they don’t realize is we dress up for ourselves not for them, and we don’t necessarily worry about what they’re wearing. Dressing up as my rebellion against the casual dumbing down in our society. It is my statement that I refuse to conform to the norms of slovenliness and lack of formality and respect. I don’t care if people think I’m old fashion either
Well said Colleen! I agree and do the same. Aren't the compliments nice? I am sure that you get that too. I love being recognized for making the effort to dress well just for me.
I dress up every day and I find that people automatically assume I’m more capable, more of a leader and they listen to what I have to say. It definitely commands more respect and leads to having more people turn to me for my help or advice. People assume you are capable and have everything together when you look like someone who can “Adult”
I was born in Los Angeles in the 50's and my mom always wore a clean dress, freshly ironed apron, and her red lipstick everyday. Her home was immaculate and she was a busy wife/mother/sister/daughter/ active PTA member/scout leader, etc., and always looked put-together and self-assured. I really think there's something to this!
When people make comments, I always tell them that "I have all these cute clothes I never wear so I decided to wear some today!" People usually agree with me and some even say I've inspired them to do the same. This way is much friendlier and way less awkward.
Hello Jennifer, I’ve been waiting all morning to see this! I love dressing with my best clothes each day and not leaving beautiful pieces hanging to gather dust. I was thinking about this as I cleaned yesterday, I felt good cleaning in my best, doing the best I can with everything I do. I believe we carry ourselves and feel better when we have that mentality. Regarding yoga pants, most women don’t realize what they look like in those kind of pants or how their underwear shows through a lot of them. I wish each person would bend over and have a picture taken for them to see what everyone else sees. My friend’s husband did this and she was horrified. Making videos, it’s easy to get a front row seat as to how we really look and has helped me choose my wardrobe accordingly. I appreciate your encouragement for other women who WANT to improve in this area. The way you worded this was wise🌹
Nikki, it is so true! And as you know I still find myself wearing things that need to be altered and looked at from all angles, haha. Thanks for watching!
I have always been told that I dress up too much. And that I always look put together. There for awhile it was a huge topic when I showed up to places. I turned into the center of attention. That was not my goal. I was taught at an early age "That you will never be able to get that first impression back." My mother's words of wisdom. I'm not going to lie, but I went to the store to try to find more casual clothing. And to be honest I wasn't being true to myself. So, I'm going to be the best version of myself every day and dress in what makes me feel great. Ie. Dresses and skirts. Thank you for making me feel that it is okay to want to look presentable!
Lynnette, I tried jeans last year and couldn't do it, so I understand not being true to yourself. There is a beauty to a person who is dressed authentically to their style, not the trends. Thanks for your sharing.
Oh, Lynette, I am so glad you went back to dressing true to yourself. When I was raising my children there was a woman who came to our park days (we homeschooled the children) who was very "put together." She was tasteful, classic, dramatic, and very colorful. She was more dressed up than any of us, but I loved seeing her so beautiful and comfortable with who she was. I am never disappointed to see a woman who is dressed up! Beauty is uplifting and sloppiness is downer. Keep on dressing Lynette style! :)
Jennifer, I live on a ranch in Montana and so most of my clothing is casual -- jeans and a T-shirts that are presentable -- but I do sometimes wear my jersey dresses at home. When I watched this video this morning, I immediately changed out of my Levis and T and put on a jersey dress. It's finally going to be warm here today -- 70 degrees! So why not? My hubby came in to take me feeding cows with him (mostly riding around in a pick-up truck) and when he saw me he said, "You probably don't want to go with me," but I said, "Yes, I do!" I pulled on my cowgirl boots and went out the door with him! Thank you for further inspiring me and others to just go ahead and wear your clothes -- even the nice ones! We won't be enjoying them if they just hang there in the closet. Happy Resurrection Day, dear one!
Jennifer, this is another awesome video from you! Since reading your books a couple years ago, I always look presentable whether I'm staying home or running to the grocery store. Thanks to my precious Mom, I always never leave the house without lipstick either, LOL! Because of you, I use my grandmother's beautiful china that she probably never used. I use it in memory of her!! Thank you for your precious gifts to us all here on UA-cam!! ❤️
As a soon to be 30 yr old young lady, I look up to you for your poise and elegance. I appreciate you for upholding standards. Also I love reveling in my femininity.
So refreshing! I have a friend, she is 70, and she told me she used to wear her gloves and put a hat on when she went shopping when she was young. She is still very well dressed and always wears heels!
Thanks for what you said in the beginning about jeans. I sometimes feel left out in these talks because I just don’t love dresses all the time. I’m physically not as comfortable-I think I just like my legs covered, lol. But even for a pants girl, I like to step it up - switch the T-shirt for a blouse; wear loafers, sandals or flats instead of flip flops, chinos or linen pants instead of jeans sometimes. When I moved back to that level of dressing, I started to feel more like myself again.
Deborah Hanna I can relate to what you are saying. Even though I do find dresses very pretty, I just feel more myself in trousers. I also believe there are many presentable trousers out there: chinos, smart pants, linen pants, cropped or cigarette pants, dark navy skim jeans (no rips, of course!), white pants/or jeans also look very chique, or even jodhpurs style. Paired with a belt, white shirt or blouse or a black roll-neck and a (navy) blazer, that is a very polished look. I find it also more practical for the day to day, especially in the colder weather I live in. Anyway, I would love if Jennifer could, perhaps, do a little look book for stylish pants outfits. Thank you 🌷
Hi, Jennifer! My name is Margarida, I am from Lisbon, Portugal, I have a one year old son and I am currently pregnant with twins. As you can imagine I will need all the help I can get, so I decided to read your three books and I must say I absolutely loved them! They say exactly what I feel about life in general and they have given me the strength and the motivation to keep on going and face what the future holds for me with more calm and class. I just wish more people would read them and watch your videos. I have been a viewer of you channel for some time now and I will follow you wherever you go because your words make me so happy. By the way, looking forward to reading your Connoisseur Kids book! Take care and thank you! :)
I watch all your videos but have never commented before...been a bit shy I think. I have been following your advice....cleared all the junk from my wardrobe and realised I really only wore a few items anyway..... just the things that made me feel good. I now have a small wardrobe of clothes that all go together and it’s a joy getting dressed. No searching for something to wear every day. I live in England where Spring has suddenly sprung! I reached for a dress today and got lots of compliments from my husband. All I did was my ironing but I felt good. Thank you, Jennifer, you are a breath of fresh air and an inspiration.
Excellent video and topic. I dress up after exercising and gardening each morning. I found out some years ago that when I went shopping and was dressed up the sales people respected me more and gave me the attention...food for thought. I prefer dresses or skirts in the hot and humid summer as they are actually cooler than slacks or jeans. Every woman needs a full length mirror at home she can use every day to see how she looks. I always dress "up" for shopping, church, visiting dining (no matter how casual) and even when I am at home. I feel better, look better and get more accomplished. And yes I use a full coverage apron I purchased on Etsey . I have received many compliments while I am out from total strangers....I know the men I see appreciate it. My husband loves that I respect myself and take care of myself. He likes it that I look good....he is proud of me. I always make sure I have bathed, makeup on and hair fixed before leaving home....and don't forget fragrance. Women in the US have become sloppy in their dress......time for a change. Thank you so much for your books. I enjoyed reading all of them. Enjoy your videos.
I am so grateful to know there are at least 182 of you ladies out there who dress smartly. The expression 'dressing up' seems strange, for an evening out perhaps but looking smart isnt dressing up. And looking smart and well presented shouldn't be reserved for every other part of your life outside of your home. I'm so appreciative you, Hennifer, are bringing this message to the masses. Perhaps a little example of Duchess Kate might be a good example. She wears appropriate clothing to suit her activity. One of the most observed women of our time.
I completely agree. After going through a harsh winter in Northwest MT, we are finally getting some warmer weather. Today I put on a long flowy skirt & blouse with a flowery pattern in shade of blue. I was just doing things at home and going grocery shopping, but it made me really happy. Since it's still not that warm, and it's always windy, I have a tank top under my blouse, a cardigan, and running tights under my skirt. I was really glad for those tights when my skirt blew up to my waist at one side while I was putting groceries in the car. ;)
Oh thank you! I was born in the 50's so imagine how this is for me. I dress up to grocery shopping. We often say to each other when we notice an unused item being saved, "Is that for when the Queen comes?" It's our way of reminding each other to use our best things.
I am a larger plus-sized lady and dresses and skirts just don't fit me well nor are they comfortable to wear ("chub rub" is serious). I am no longer working but I still have many of the nice pants and blouses I wore when I was working. Most days I'm in lounge clothes, and, yes I have been guilty of throwing on some leggings and a t-shirt to run to the grocery store. I am going to try to dress up more in my former work clothes. I have noticed that when I'm put together and presentable I stand straighter and have a more positive outlook on my day. Thanks for the video and encouragement.
I do try to look presentable always - or at least most of the time. 😉 As a stay-at-home mama of back-to-back babies, I’ve had plenty of pajama days. I actually just had a couple pajama days in a row as I recovered from a miscarriage. 😕 Though no one would expect anything from me today, I had the urge this afternoon to freshen up and surprise my husband upon his return home. I took a bath, did my hair and makeup, and put on a maxi dress (then rested, because that was exhausting!). My husband was delighted to see me looking refreshed, and we actually ended up going out on a spontaneous dinner date. It’s wonderful how taking care of our outward appearance can affect our spirits so positively. 😊
I agree with you completely. As someone who tries to dress appropriately at all times, I can attest that everything you say is true! A few comments about my experience: At home, I feel 100% more productive and happy, when dressed in either a dress, or a skirt, leggings, and nice top. I work out 5-6x per week, and there are strategies around that as well, so that I don't just keep my exercise clothes on. At work, I am daily told how nice I look, which actually can be somewhat embarrassing since I am one who doesn't like attention but I feel it is vitally important that I am a role model. Colleagues who were dressing down, now are dressing more appropriately. And finally, it's all about wearing an apron!! It is easy to think when coming home at the end of the day, that you don't want to get your clothes dirty when cooking dinner, so why not just put your pjs on? But I have looked nice all day for others, wouldn't I want to look nice for my family? I work now, but home schooled for 20 years and I have tried (with challenges!) to live this way over the years. Thank you for bringing this important message to everybody, especially younger viewers!! I have found it to be a key for my overall happiness.
I love dressing up everyday. I walk taller and mind my posture when I do. I am also more productive when I do because keeping a good posture helps with my migraines.
I had a hard time switching over to dressing nicer after so many years schlepping around in sweatpants. As a homemaker with 3 little kids, its easy to fall into that mindset of feeling like your role doesn't warrant nice "work" attire. Oddly enough, now that I'm changing this, noone in my life has said anything negative at all. I'm also finding I'm treated with great respect and kindness by men when I wear dresses and skirts. I think they are assuming by my more feminine outfits that they won't get shut down if they offer to open a door for me. Love it!❤❤❤
Love this video, Jennifer! I tried your challenge last week (of dressing up for no reason) and it was so fun. I fully planned to stay home the entire day and had zero plans. But then I ended up going to the grocery store, the coffee shop, and I had two people drop in on me throughout the day! I felt fully prepared for anything that came my way, and was so thankful I looked nice when my plans changed that day. I also ended up cleaning the house quite a bit, and simply popped on a cute apron and it was fine. 😁 when I do dress nicer, even a cute jersey dress in the summer, I have people tell me I look so nice and ask me where I’m going. I tell them “nowhere” , and say that I wear the dress because it’s just as comfortable as pajamas, but I look nicer! ❤️
Cotton knit dresses are a staple of my 10 Item wardrobe for spring and summer! I just ordered 4 new last week, and I've worn one each day this week, and I just LOVE them! Dressing up each day has seriously revolutionized my productivity each day, just like you mentioned in your video! I started this practice about three years ago after reading your first Madame Chic book.
I traded in summer shorts and shirts for Lilly Pulitzer casual dresses 7 years ago…it’s great. Comfortable, easy and as I go from house to errands, I don’t have to change or think about where I’m going. It’s interesting how many friends commented on how nice I looked, asked where i was going, etc. I definitely felt better.
I was totally thinking about your advice about this topic this morning as I was getting ready. I had an appointment I was feeling so anxious about. I dressed up really nicely in my favorite outfit, took my time getting ready and it helped me feel so much better heading to that appointment. ☺️
I home schooled my children and when we began I would either stay in my jammies or gym-type clothes. Then one day I looked in the mirror and thought, "This is what my children have to look at....how not motivating." So from that point on I started getting dressed, and putting more effort in my appearance first thing in the morning. My next comment is that we retired to a small, rural town where almost no one dresses up. Its been hard to not fall into that mode to run errands....post office, library, Tractor & Supply :) I not only still dress up, but will add that scarf or statement necklace. I stick out like a sore thumb, but I enjoy it, and who knows, maybe I'm influencing someone in some small way.
Absolutely, Shiryon. I also dress up to be inspiring for my son to value himself and teach him to always look presentable (he is 4). I have seen firsthand on my husband how his mother’s influence has made him a very stylish man who is properly dressed and takes care of himself always. I want my son to be like that too. Pair it with elegant and kind behaviour, of course. Currently, we are in lockdown because of the pandemic plus we live in the mountains in the middle of nowhere, I still do my make up and dress up because of my son and because of myself too. The only thing I won’t do is to ruin my expensive shoes during our walks outside in the dust and stony road. I still need to figure that one out. 😃🌷
Ok, you’ve convinced me. I’ll try to get out of my jeans, yoga attire or sweatpants more often. But you know what, I ALWAYS wear an apron when I’m cooking or cleaning, always, no matter how worn out my outfits are, I will always be seen cooking and cleaning with a pretty apron on.
What you say is true! I scaled back my wardrobe after I saw your Ted talk and read your books. I haven’t quite made it to 10 items but it is very small and manageable. When someone compliments my appearance, someone else usually cuts in saying, “Well, Wendy always dresses nice!” and I think it is so funny because I put very little effort into getting ready every day. I would say practically no effort! Anytime someone compliments me and asks where I’m going so dressed up, I usually answer by thanking them and telling them that I just love wearing that dress or shirt or whatever it is I’m wearing because I’m being very truthful! Thank you for sharing the 10 item wardrobe with us for all these years! You have been so inspiring!!!
Thank you for continuing to share this message, Jennifer! I've always been one to "overdress" and you're right the comments do come on occasion. Wearing something pretty and planned out makes me feel prepared and, as you said, productive! The comments I receive are usually kind and encouraging. I just wish all women would discover this secret world of feeling beautiful, purposeful, and valuable every day!
Hi Jennifer! Thank you for this video. I can testify that once you start dressing up for no reason you do go through the phase of having the attention on you that you don't necessarily ask for, and then the people in your life come to expect it and appreciate that you are putting effort in. They dub you as the stylish friend even if you are just wearing a dress. Dresses are so simple, it's an outfit that practically puts itself together. I also love when someone says "but Sara, I don't like pants... yoga pants feel like I'm not wearing any pants, it's so comfortable"... You literally don't need to wear pants when you wear a dress and you still look presentable 😅 Thank you for your books and videos, especially about this topic. Over the years you have helped me figure out how to transition from a college student to a mature young woman simply by choosing to dress well and I'm so grateful! 💗
Thank you for your video, Jennifer! I love to dress up myself, but I realized that I started to do it less and less in the recent year and when I sat down and thought about it I've found out it has a lot to do with the changes in my life. A year ago I moved from Poland to the US, California and despite my late 20's went back to college. People here don't dress up as much, college students specifically, so my change is probably caused by the very humane urge to fit in and not stand out as much among those 18 year olds. But as you said, you don't feel good when wearing workout clothes all day long, I caught myself being less productive when I'm in my sweats. I'm willing to change that and start wearing my pretty blouses to classes. I miss them!
I went to a private school from 6-12th grades. We were required to wear a uniform and we were required tok iron the skirt, the oxford shirts, and the vest. My Mom made me responsible for both washing and ironing it and I learned to iron at a young age. This video is a reminder that I need to do better about being presentable every day instead of saving all of my nice things for a future event.
Hi Jennifer, this video is such an encouraging call to all mommies out there who want to become more elegant and poised. Yes, your children are looking at you and want to learn good things from their mommy. And any mommy wants her children to look up to her and learn only good things from her. How would you like to be remembered by your child? “ is an important question and a good incentive to dress better, behave better and cultivate a meaningful lifestyle. Wonderful, you are so truly inspiring!
I so agree! I worked on my wardrobe to make sure I had things that fit correctly, worked with my body type and reflected my style. And then I made outfits whether it was a more athliesure look or going out look. I can’t tell you how many complements I get and how great I feel. There are so many dresses out there now days that it is easy to find a flattering one at a great price point. People are stunned when you have on a dress that fits well and you wear it with a smile. Thanks for your videos.
Yes! I feel so frumpy in the boxy t-shirt and jeans I see so many mothers wearing where I live. I reserve those clothes for heavy duty yard work or house painting. I take my job as a homeschooling mother seriously, so I dress appropriately for that job. As you said, it helps me get into the right mindset of doing my work for the day. I always insist that my children get dressed every day, too. No school work in pajamas!
The funny thing is that dresses are very comfortable to me, that's all I wear! More comfortable than yoga pants I think and I was a yoga teacher. It makes me feel good about myself as I go throughout my day. Thanks Jennifer ❤
My entire wardrobe is made up of exclusively dresses, hung in my choice of random order and worn from left to right as they hang! No more choices to make about what top goes with what bottom. I can always add a pair of yoga pants underneath if I am doing activities that call for some additional modesty under the dress. What FREEDOM!! Now, I am going to add an intention for the day as I am putting on my dress. Thanks to Vaneka for that idea!
Yay for dressing up!! One thing I’m kind of afraid of is to just blend in with everyone else around me. I LOVE to dress femininely and girly every day and not feel out of place or apologetically, instead of being in yoga pants. Being elegant and chic should ALWAYS be in style.
I have become a denim and t shirt person over the years, i am a mom of three, l do like to dress up as i did years back, this is a great motivation for me, watched with joy ❤️👍
Since coming across your book “Lessons from Madame Chic” my attitude to wearing my clothes has changed. I, too, used to only wear my best clothes when out and wear my older clothes at home. Since discovering the 10 item wardrobe and your philosophy of always looking presentable I now can’t wait to get dressed in the morning and choose what to wear. When cleaning, I wear and apron over my clothes and, as I don’t use bleach, I never have any trouble of my clothes getting ruined. And if, after wearing them a lot, they do get ruined then I’ll buy some more. I have had to throw away jumpers that I had hardly worn because they’d been eaten by moths. I kept them for best and did not enjoy them. Now, I wear everything I have and enjoy them.
This is just the type of videos I want.. thank u Jennifer for the video.. I have started dressin well at home n it feels soo good.. I had searched a lot for such videos in the past but neva found any .. plz make more n more videos on such topics .sometimes I feel like wearing old pajamas n tshirts but then I think of ua videos n change my mind n dress well n feel the best.. U inspire us thank u soo much.. luv ya ❤❤❤
I love my stretchy knit dresses. I pair them with a cardi or jacket, or just wear alone. I also love jeans and a top. They make so many pretty tops these days that wear like a tee shirt, but have more interest and style to them like a blouse. There are also very comfortable and pretty shoes that are also practical-like Skechers or Clarks. You can find ballet flats or sandals that are comfortable like sneakers but have more style to them. These items make up the majority of my wardrobe!
I have been reading your books and have found new inspiration to wear all my nice things. I do wear vintage and vintage inspired clothes to church, but was not doing it daily. I taught an art class at my kids school last week. Several people commented that I was crazy for teaching art in a skirt and sweater. I loved it.
I recently saw a documentary on Netflix about the queen at 90 years old and I thought of you right away when I heard the two young princes making comments about how surprised they were to see everyone so dressed up! (They were watching videos of their family from the past.). I thought, “ Jennifer was right! It’s even worse than we thought! Even the Royals are accustomed to this casual society!!!” 😂😂😂
I rarely dress up at any time, much less every day... After I discovered your channel a couple of years ago, I decided to wear a dress, a nice pair of shoes, fixed my hair in a nice updo, and wore makeup that took more than 5 minutes. As I was grocery shopping, I felt like men took more notice and greeted me. Then I had a woman actually look at me, make a face, and make a very audible "UGH!"... I don't know what that was about... I could have gotten offended but chose to flash her a friendly smile instead.
You are beautifying the world, several ladies at a time, Jennifer! I agree with you that one is much more productive when dressed nicely for the day. I have found it interesting that so many women go shopping for clothes, but while they are shopping they often are not dressed so nicely. I like some of the replies your listeners have ready for those who ask why they are dressed up. We are an older couple and we are very frequently, especially my husband who wears a suit and tie to weddings and funerals, complimented on how "regal" we look. Our granddaughter told us recently that her friends comment on how striking and "presidential' we look. We do not dress much differently from what we did over 50 years ago when we were single! I recall when folks dressed up to fly. It is so energizing to see a woman or man who is dressed well. While I was on jury duty a while back, after the first day, I decided to dress up more. We had to walk in front of observers in the court and we were in a position of judging someone, so I felt we needed to respect our "job." It was so fun to notice that others, men and women, began to dress up more for the remainder of the trial. Keep on raising the bar, dear Jennifer.
Jennifer, I was that woman! Then I read all your Madame Chic books and they helped me change how I viewed my wardrobe. They did exactly what you said, helped me be feminine and chic but in a way perfectly suited to me. All in ten items! ❤️ I do get comments often about where I’m going dressed up - but I’m getting used to them. It is an awkward phase! And I also have found it’s make me more productive overall - it’s amazing how what you wear speaks in such a powerful way to the rest of your life. Not even just to others but to yourself! So glad you shared your lessons from Madame chic! - Kristen
Hi Jennifer, I have struggled with this only recently In the last few years. We retired to a rural farming community, raising cows. Lots of dust and dirt and I find myself not wanting to wear anything nice. I've watched your channel for a few years now and enjoy what you have to say.
I love dressing up boeing stay at home mum! My wardrobe is pretty large, I have much more than 10 dresses ;) but I do wear them all! And I do my make up almost every day. I am glad to see I am not the only person to do it :)
Hey Jennifer I love your videos I dont have a 10 item wardrobe but I do wear lots of dresses and skirts and have always loved dressing nice and people always have asked me too where am I going today and I say no where just dressing nice just makes me feel great I’m now 54 and my daughter Loves dresses and skirts as well she is 27 I love feeling feminine you definitely have a different mindset when you are put together for sure 😊💕
Jennifer, I have been a fan for a couple of years now, starting with your books and then your channel. I watched this video this morning, as I needed some inspiration to feel my best. I took your advice and wore a simple dress, cardigan and cute white sneakers to grocery shop. I received a few compliments from fellow shoppers, which was nice. What I loved most about trying this is that it cost me nothing! It did not come in a bottle or I did not have to run out to grab the latest thing. I stayed in this outfit all day while I did my chores and cooked, and I felt so elegant, yet very comfortable. I also listened to a Hauser cello concert while I cooked. Thank you for being such a breath of fresh air and reminding us to put a little “lovely” back in our day. Merci!
I found that looking presentable actually helped me gain confidence. I was wearing these comfy clothes but it was to hide how I felt in my own skin. Being self aware and taking the time to get yourself ready has made a huge difference in my morning and my day. Your ted talk started a personal journey for me, thank you so much! :)
I just love your channel, Jennifer! I agree, on those days that I don't dress my best, I don't feel as motivated--and of course, that is the day someone will drop in or come to the door! I am loving the current challenge that you are doing. It has been inspiring me in so many ways and I look forward to the monthly check ins for the challenge! I hope you'll continue these challenges. They are wonderful!
I'm so excited for my Spring clothing! I've finally decided to include those nicer items into regular rotations along with dresses. I love the way I feel in dresses but then suddenly clam up out and about and feel like everyone is looking at me. Whether they are or not it's not about them right. Gonna go for it!
This reminds me of the show Hart of Dixie. It’s set in Alabama, and all the main characters are in dresses or slacks all the time. They looked very 1950s in the first season but got more youthful yet put together in the other 3 seasons.
I absolutely love this topic and your message. I agree completely. I was never one to wear sweatpants or jeans every day but after reading your books I did begin to dress more consciously and it does make a difference! I’ve had friends and family come over to my house and ask me where I was going that day because I look so nice and I just smile and say “I’m just dressed for life!” Now they all associate me with dressing nicely for life and for whatever comes my way. I feel better and I do accomplish more and look presentable in all situations. It’s a great way to be.
I started dressing up in my daily life about four years ago. It took a few months to really get used to it, but overall, I feel more put together, more confident, and ready to face anything in a day. I rarely hang out in tights and a shirt (I only have a few feminine T-shirt’s) and I can honestly say, I prefer it this way!
I'm currently wearing my favorite polka dot dress to work on a day we're allowed to wear jeans and a hoodie. I felt great coming into work this morning! On a side note have you ever considered creating a Facebook group for us like minded folk to collaborate? Just a thought. Happy Easter!
I have found after i shower, if i wear a dress and fix my hair, add some earrings, lipstick and fragrance that i don't need any other makeup to feel good and even receive compliments. I can achieve all of that in 30 minutes and be ready my entire day..whatever that may bring..
I work out in the morning, and after change to something beautiful, that blouse I love or dress that hangs perfect over me, my closet now have item that I love to wear always, you have change my way I look at clothes my wardrobe has meaning, have beautiful apron to go over my clothes, love your book.
Yes, I totally agree with you. I get very tired of seeing messy dressed people. I don’t exactly dress up everyday but I don’t wear sweats or look frumpy. I tried to wearing sweat paints and a big tee shirt or staying in my pjs once in awhile but i just couldn’t do it because I don’t dress like that anymore.
Someone was selling their high end well made dresses on Facebook. She was selling them for $10 a piece in perfect condition. They were not my style with the A-line flowy skirts and vibrant colors, but for the price I couldn't pass them up. Boy, do I get a lot of compliments when I wear those dresses. I feel amazing and free when I wear them.
Thank you for this video, Jennifer. I do struggle with this and I already commented on your chic assignment video that I do all the other things, like reading, listening to classical music, seeking out the arts, painting, learning new things all the time, taking care of the house, cooking home made meals. It all comes naturally to me and I love it but dressing up for no occasion is a struggle. I work from home and I spend my days in exercise clothes. I wouldn’t wear them outside of the house but I do wear them at home most of the time. I’m trying to break this habit but I find it really challenging especially since I moved to England to a house with poor heating and no insulation. I just put layers and layers of clothes, sometimes even a house robe on top of it all because I am always so cold. I had situations when the neighbours knocked on my door and I was too ashamed to open the doors. It does not feel good. I really must do something about it and the first step is to stop buying clothes that are pretty but do not keep me warm because I will never wear them anyway.
Hi Jennifer, I love your channel! I have a funny story about dressing up. My stepfather joined a country club quite a few years ago. He joined not long before my birthday and we all thought it would be fun to have dinner there on my birthday. So, my parents, a friend, and I all went straight from our office jobs wearing what we thought was proper attire. As we were walking to the door of the club I heard a lady call us snobs. The hostess gave us a funny look. When we got to the dining room we understood. Everyone was surprisingly casual. Teens looked like they had just come from gym class and adults looked like they had been doing yard work. We had never been in a country club before, so all we knew was what we'd seen on TV. I never expected to be labeled a snob by a country club member. I learned to always call and check the dress code. 😂😂😂
I had someone once get defensive because I was wearing a button down shirt and dress pants when I pick up my daughter from an activity. She was in her pajamas and she said to me, "I change as soon as I get home from work." in a bit of a rude tone. I hadn't said a single word to her or even look at her.
You are a wise young woman. I grew up in a home where we always dressed up. Then I married and moved to Eugene, OR. I was ostracized for wearing dresses. The nickname for our town was Bluejean Oregon. I’m glad to wear dresses...and have a better day when I do. Thanks!
Hi Jennifer, I felt so good when I heard you say dressing up makes you productive and confident. I’ve decided I will start tomorrow to sort out my closet for my ten-item wardrobe. Thank you for your advice! Happy Easter to you too x
Several years ago, I decided that the current trends were made to show off a teenage body, and were not created for my forty-something body, (besides the fact that I prefer modesty.) I started wearing colorful wraparound skirts from India with a solid colored, well-made shirt and comfy leggings beneath my skirts. (Yes, I'm a Madame Bohemienne!) :) The funny part was how many people have since complimented me on my "look." My "LOOK"...??? This is just me being me, regardless of what everyone else is doing! I spend less on my skirts than most people seem to spend on their jeans, and my outfits are every bit as comfortable as walking around in leggings, without the embarrassment of feeling like I am always one wrong move away from a "wardrobe malfunction."
I was a tom boy growing up. Femininity wasn’t cultivated in me until I got married and my husband shopped with me and encouraged me to expand my wardrobe. Even then I had limits. I couldn’t stand to put on anything with flowers or lace etc. Now, 12 years later, you were the one to help finish the job of finding, embracing and loving my femininity. I’d see you in your lovely clothes and find myself craving to try out a floral top! My wardrobe is so different now and I love it! I feel glowy and beautiful. I’ve worked hard to keep at my 5 minute make up routine and I’m such a better parent for it. When you dress chic you want to talk chic and keep your dignity. Right now my biggest struggle is the weather. I’m an expat in an extremely hot and humid climate but also one with extremely modest expectations. When I go out, I make sure I’m dressed well and appropriately and just suck up how much I’m sweating. However, at home I want to be comfortable. If I’m too hot I get crabby. I wear skinny jeans and a nursing tank all the time because of that. But I long to set the presentable example for my kids all the time and bc I just feel lovelier with my dress over my jeans. At least if someone comes to my door all I have to do is throw on my nice too or dress I leave hanging by the door to cover up.
I don't wear dresses because I really don't like them. I love wearing nice jeans and a nice blouse. And you are an inspiration to dress us as beautiful as we can for the love of us and the love of our family. (before your videos I used to wear only my sport clothes) 😘hugs from Costa Rica 🌴
I have been in such a style rut since having a baby a few months ago. I just packed away the last of the maternity shirts (that I haven't been wearing anyway). I've been wearing nursing tank tops or t-shirts with bulky cardigans and leggings because it's been cold and gray and we haven't been going anywhere so I just feel frumpy. I just ordered a spring-y nursing friendly dress and my plan is to keep the momentum going this week after the cute Easter clothes tomorrow.
Thanks for the encouragement. I've been practicing the 10 item wardrobe (thanks to you) for several years now but lately I have been wanting to dress more feminine with more dresses. I live in the mountains so it's challenging in winter but I'm working on it. 😘
People did not have the massive amount of clothing that we have today. And I am not that old! LOL My mom had some old jeans and a t shirt to clean, paint, garden, etc, in...but she NEVER went out of the house without cleaning up, nice clothes, a red lip and earrings!
Happy Easter. I believe in dressing up for work and looking appropriate for an activity. Feeling good in what you wear. Sweats for cleaning, I’m ok with that.
This philosophy is wonderful and it has changed my perspective on dressing and yes the joy and energy it brings trickled down to other areas of my life . Thank you , love your books but at home might be my favorite . 😍
Not sure how I missed this video when it came out, I thought I'd seen all over your videos! LOL I am a daily dress or skirt wearer, but the last few weeks I've been positively living in my jeans! Usually with a nicer blouse, but some days not. I don't know what has come over me, but I just can't bear to think about anything but the jeans and top uniform right now.
I remember in the 80s there was a huge craze in the UK for shell suits!! Anyone remember them?? 😂😂 I used to be a “jeans and jumper” girl but I loved the dresses from the fifties! Huge circle dresses etc. Well my friend encouraged me to buy some dresses and actually wear them! I was very self conscious to begin with! I’d do the school run and think everyone was watching me! Well, I kept going and now it is the norm to see me in dresses styled from the forties, fifties, sixties or seventies... I love them all and don’t care what people think any more! I haven’t worn jeans for over three years. If I can do it, anyone can!
You are right, my mother in the 60s, 70s and 80s always wore dresses, skirts and tailored trousers every day. An apron was worn all times in the home unless we had visitors. I to this day always wear an apron in the home and this is a direct learned behavior from watching my Mum.
Hi Jennifer. I have been trying 10item word robe since I read your book. It has become so much easier for me to chose what to wear everyday. Today I chose my favorite J. crew blouse and black pants, and cardigan for parents day of my son’s school. I even gets comments like “you don’t look like you have newborn baby” from other moms. I actually had my 3rd child 2 month ago. That made me feel great. BUT one of the mom whispered me “you are probably wearing your cardigan inside out.” I actually was wearying cardigan inside out!! So embarrassing...
Another thought that I had is that often people don't want to wear their nicer clothes, because they aren't comfortable. Having things that feel good on you and you feel good about wearing makes you want to wear the nicer things.
Thank you for watching. I hope you have a lovely weekend. Happy Easter! For more, visit my corresponding blogpost dailyconnoisseur.blogspot.com/2019/04/dressing-up-for-no-reason-ten-item.html Also, please note: whenever I discuss this topic, people tend to get upset and offended. If that's you, just remember that some women are in a place where this message speaks to them and others aren't. That's OK! I hope we can all support each other on whatever journey we are on. This is one of my passions so I speak up about it. Thanks, as always, for your support. Love, Jennifer
I wear dresses or smart trousers everyday for work. One of my colleagues mentioned that she'd like to wear smarter clothes to work but was too embarrassed because people would say 'why are you so dressed up?' I told her it only takes a couple of days and people stop commenting. Just take the plunge and wear all those nice dresses you've got in your wardrobe. She did, and guess what? She got promoted!
I dress up every day and I certainly don’t apologize for it. I think that when people make comments about us ladies who dress up it’s because they feel uncomfortable about the way they look. But what they don’t realize is we dress up for ourselves not for them, and we don’t necessarily worry about what they’re wearing. Dressing up as my rebellion against the casual dumbing down in our society. It is my statement that I refuse to conform to the norms of slovenliness and lack of formality and respect. I don’t care if people think I’m old fashion either
Well said Colleen! I agree and do the same. Aren't the compliments nice? I am sure that you get that too. I love being recognized for making the effort to dress well just for me.
Agree 100 % !!!!!!!!
Oh I could not agree more love.
I dress up every day and I find that people automatically assume I’m more capable, more of a leader and they listen to what I have to say. It definitely commands more respect and leads to having more people turn to me for my help or advice. People assume you are capable and have everything together when you look like someone who can “Adult”
Darby King-Maillot ditto!!
ditto
I was born in Los Angeles in the 50's and my mom always wore a clean dress, freshly ironed apron, and her red lipstick everyday. Her home was immaculate and she was a busy wife/mother/sister/daughter/ active PTA member/scout leader, etc., and always looked put-together and self-assured. I really think there's something to this!
When people make comments, I always tell them that "I have all these cute clothes I never wear so I decided to wear some today!" People usually agree with me and some even say I've inspired them to do the same. This way is much friendlier and way less awkward.
That is such a great response!!
I love this response
That's brilliant!! I love this idea! Thanks for sharing.
Even though my area is casual, I still wear dresses all the time and put myself together- it makes me feel good. 🌸
I should dress up as well even though not many people do this where I live!
Hello Jennifer, I’ve been waiting all morning to see this! I love dressing with my best clothes each day and not leaving beautiful pieces hanging to gather dust. I was thinking about this as I cleaned yesterday, I felt good cleaning in my best, doing the best I can with everything I do. I believe we carry ourselves and feel better when we have that mentality. Regarding yoga pants, most women don’t realize what they look like in those kind of pants or how their underwear shows through a lot of them. I wish each person would bend over and have a picture taken for them to see what everyone else sees. My friend’s husband did this and she was horrified. Making videos, it’s easy to get a front row seat as to how we really look and has helped me choose my wardrobe accordingly. I appreciate your encouragement for other women who WANT to improve in this area. The way you worded this was wise🌹
This made me laugh out loud. It's so true!!
Inspired by Nikki I enjoyed watching your cleaning video yesterday. You looked like a joyful Cinderella cleaning her palace.
Nikki, it is so true! And as you know I still find myself wearing things that need to be altered and looked at from all angles, haha. Thanks for watching!
the Daily Connoisseur yes, I have to re-evaluate certain pieces all the time!
@@marielle2066 I love her channel! I'm a new subscriber! :) What a wonderful community! Blessings!
I have always been told that I dress up too much. And that I always look put together. There for awhile it was a huge topic when I showed up to places. I turned into the center of attention. That was not my goal. I was taught at an early age "That you will never be able to get that first impression back." My mother's words of wisdom. I'm not going to lie, but I went to the store to try to find more casual clothing. And to be honest I wasn't being true to myself. So, I'm going to be the best version of myself every day and dress in what makes me feel great. Ie. Dresses and skirts. Thank you for making me feel that it is okay to want to look presentable!
Lynnette, I tried jeans last year and couldn't do it, so I understand not being true to yourself. There is a beauty to a person who is dressed authentically to their style, not the trends. Thanks for your sharing.
Yes! I can really relate to this. It's not my intention to draw attention to myself but in the casual society, it naturally happens if you dress up.
Gina g beautifully said... I completely agree!
Oh, Lynette, I am so glad you went back to dressing true to yourself. When I was raising my children there was a woman who came to our park days (we homeschooled the children) who was very "put together." She was tasteful, classic, dramatic, and very colorful. She was more dressed up than any of us, but I loved seeing her so beautiful and comfortable with who she was. I am never disappointed to see a woman who is dressed up! Beauty is uplifting and sloppiness is downer. Keep on dressing Lynette style! :)
Jennifer, I live on a ranch in Montana and so most of my clothing is casual -- jeans and a T-shirts that are presentable -- but I do sometimes wear my jersey dresses at home. When I watched this video this morning, I immediately changed out of my Levis and T and put on a jersey dress. It's finally going to be warm here today -- 70 degrees! So why not? My hubby came in to take me feeding cows with him (mostly riding around in a pick-up truck) and when he saw me he said, "You probably don't want to go with me," but I said, "Yes, I do!" I pulled on my cowgirl boots and went out the door with him! Thank you for further inspiring me and others to just go ahead and wear your clothes -- even the nice ones! We won't be enjoying them if they just hang there in the closet. Happy Resurrection Day, dear one!
.....I LOVE THAT ! . ..My middle daughter wears her Cowgirl boots so much, even with dresses that look fabulous with those boots!
@@texasstardust6010 I lovvvvvve cowboy boots
Jennifer, this is another awesome video from you! Since reading your books a couple years ago, I always look presentable whether I'm staying home or running to the grocery store. Thanks to my precious Mom, I always never leave the house without lipstick either, LOL! Because of you, I use my grandmother's beautiful china that she probably never used. I use it in memory of her!! Thank you for your precious gifts to us all here on UA-cam!! ❤️
Thank you so much. I always appreciate your comments.
As a soon to be 30 yr old young lady, I look up to you for your poise and elegance. I appreciate you for upholding standards. Also I love reveling in my femininity.
Thank you very much!
So refreshing! I have a friend, she is 70, and she told me she used to wear her gloves and put a hat on when she went shopping when she was young. She is still very well dressed and always wears heels!
Thanks for what you said in the beginning about jeans. I sometimes feel left out in these talks because I just don’t love dresses all the time. I’m physically not as comfortable-I think I just like my legs covered, lol. But even for a pants girl, I like to step it up - switch the T-shirt for a blouse; wear loafers, sandals or flats instead of flip flops, chinos or linen pants instead of jeans sometimes. When I moved back to that level of dressing, I started to feel more like myself again.
Deborah Hanna I can relate to what you are saying. Even though I do find dresses very pretty, I just feel more myself in trousers. I also believe there are many presentable trousers out there: chinos, smart pants, linen pants, cropped or cigarette pants, dark navy skim jeans (no rips, of course!), white pants/or jeans also look very chique, or even jodhpurs style. Paired with a belt, white shirt or blouse or a black roll-neck and a (navy) blazer, that is a very polished look. I find it also more practical for the day to day, especially in the colder weather I live in. Anyway, I would love if Jennifer could, perhaps, do a little look book for stylish pants outfits. Thank you 🌷
Hi, Jennifer! My name is Margarida, I am from Lisbon, Portugal, I have a one year old son and I am currently pregnant with twins. As you can imagine I will need all the help I can get, so I decided to read your three books and I must say I absolutely loved them! They say exactly what I feel about life in general and they have given me the strength and the motivation to keep on going and face what the future holds for me with more calm and class. I just wish more people would read them and watch your videos. I have been a viewer of you channel for some time now and I will follow you wherever you go because your words make me so happy. By the way, looking forward to reading your Connoisseur Kids book! Take care and thank you! :)
You are The Jennifer; changing the world one dress at a time!
Wearing my a-line dress with my apron on putting my dishes away while watching you.
I watch all your videos but have never commented before...been a bit shy I think. I have been following your advice....cleared all the junk from my wardrobe and realised I really only wore a few items anyway..... just the things that made me feel good.
I now have a small wardrobe of clothes that all go together and it’s a joy getting dressed. No searching for something to wear every day. I live in England where Spring has suddenly sprung! I reached for a dress today and got lots of compliments from my husband. All I did was my ironing but I felt good. Thank you, Jennifer, you are a breath of fresh air and an inspiration.
Thank you, Rosie Lee! I appreciate your comment!
Excellent video and topic. I dress up after exercising and gardening each morning. I found out some years ago that when I went shopping and was dressed up the sales people respected me more and gave me the attention...food for thought. I prefer dresses or skirts in the hot and humid summer as they are actually cooler than slacks or jeans. Every woman needs a full length mirror at home she can use every day to see how she looks. I always dress "up" for shopping, church, visiting dining (no matter how casual) and even when I am at home. I feel better, look better and get more accomplished. And yes I use a full coverage apron I purchased on Etsey . I have received many compliments while I am out from total strangers....I know the men I see appreciate it. My husband loves that I respect myself and take care of myself. He likes it that I look good....he is proud of me. I always make sure I have bathed, makeup on and hair fixed before leaving home....and don't forget fragrance. Women in the US have become sloppy in their dress......time for a change. Thank you so much for your books. I enjoyed reading all of them. Enjoy your videos.
I am so grateful to know there are at least 182 of you ladies out there who dress smartly. The expression 'dressing up' seems strange, for an evening out perhaps but looking smart isnt dressing up. And looking smart and well presented shouldn't be reserved for every other part of your life outside of your home. I'm so appreciative you, Hennifer, are bringing this message to the masses. Perhaps a little example of Duchess Kate might be a good example. She wears appropriate clothing to suit her activity. One of the most observed women of our time.
I completely agree. After going through a harsh winter in Northwest MT, we are finally getting some warmer weather. Today I put on a long flowy skirt & blouse with a flowery pattern in shade of blue. I was just doing things at home and going grocery shopping, but it made me really happy. Since it's still not that warm, and it's always windy, I have a tank top under my blouse, a cardigan, and running tights under my skirt. I was really glad for those tights when my skirt blew up to my waist at one side while I was putting groceries in the car. ;)
Oh thank you! I was born in the 50's so imagine how this is for me. I dress up to grocery shopping. We often say to each other when we notice an unused item being saved, "Is that for when the Queen comes?" It's our way of reminding each other to use our best things.
As a former coworker used to tell me YOU NEVER KNOW WHO YOU ARE GOING TO MEET -- so dress to impress -- even if it's just for yourself.
I am a larger plus-sized lady and dresses and skirts just don't fit me well nor are they comfortable to wear ("chub rub" is serious). I am no longer working but I still have many of the nice pants and blouses I wore when I was working. Most days I'm in lounge clothes, and, yes I have been guilty of throwing on some leggings and a t-shirt to run to the grocery store. I am going to try to dress up more in my former work clothes. I have noticed that when I'm put together and presentable I stand straighter and have a more positive outlook on my day. Thanks for the video and encouragement.
I do try to look presentable always - or at least most of the time. 😉 As a stay-at-home mama of back-to-back babies, I’ve had plenty of pajama days. I actually just had a couple pajama days in a row as I recovered from a miscarriage. 😕 Though no one would expect anything from me today, I had the urge this afternoon to freshen up and surprise my husband upon his return home. I took a bath, did my hair and makeup, and put on a maxi dress (then rested, because that was exhausting!). My husband was delighted to see me looking refreshed, and we actually ended up going out on a spontaneous dinner date. It’s wonderful how taking care of our outward appearance can affect our spirits so positively. 😊
Oh, Jesse, I'm so sorry. I've been through that too. Sending love for healing xx
@@TheDailyConnoisseur Thank you, Jennifer.
I agree with you completely. As someone who tries to dress appropriately at all times, I can attest that everything you say is true! A few comments about my experience: At home, I feel 100% more productive and happy, when dressed in either a dress, or a skirt, leggings, and nice top. I work out 5-6x per week, and there are strategies around that as well, so that I don't just keep my exercise clothes on. At work, I am daily told how nice I look, which actually can be somewhat embarrassing since I am one who doesn't like attention but I feel it is vitally important that I am a role model. Colleagues who were dressing down, now are dressing more appropriately. And finally, it's all about wearing an apron!! It is easy to think when coming home at the end of the day, that you don't want to get your clothes dirty when cooking dinner, so why not just put your pjs on? But I have looked nice all day for others, wouldn't I want to look nice for my family? I work now, but home schooled for 20 years and I have tried (with challenges!) to live this way over the years. Thank you for bringing this important message to everybody, especially younger viewers!! I have found it to be a key for my overall happiness.
I love dressing up everyday. I walk taller and mind my posture when I do. I am also more productive when I do because keeping a good posture helps with my migraines.
You are a great role model for your daughter!
@@TheDailyConnoisseur learning from the best, Dear ;)
Wonderful Jennifer! I am cleaning today wearing a dress with an apron. 👗 💕
Lovely! xx
I had a hard time switching over to dressing nicer after so many years schlepping around in sweatpants. As a homemaker with 3 little kids, its easy to fall into that mindset of feeling like your role doesn't warrant nice "work" attire. Oddly enough, now that I'm changing this, noone in my life has said anything negative at all. I'm also finding I'm treated with great respect and kindness by men when I wear dresses and skirts. I think they are assuming by my more feminine outfits that they won't get shut down if they offer to open a door for me. Love it!❤❤❤
Love this video, Jennifer! I tried your challenge last week (of dressing up for no reason) and it was so fun. I fully planned to stay home the entire day and had zero plans. But then I ended up going to the grocery store, the coffee shop, and I had two people drop in on me throughout the day! I felt fully prepared for anything that came my way, and was so thankful I looked nice when my plans changed that day. I also ended up cleaning the house quite a bit, and simply popped on a cute apron and it was fine. 😁 when I do dress nicer, even a cute jersey dress in the summer, I have people tell me I look so nice and ask me where I’m going. I tell them “nowhere” , and say that I wear the dress because it’s just as comfortable as pajamas, but I look nicer! ❤️
Cotton knit dresses are a staple of my 10 Item wardrobe for spring and summer! I just ordered 4 new last week, and I've worn one each day this week, and I just LOVE them! Dressing up each day has seriously revolutionized my productivity each day, just like you mentioned in your video! I started this practice about three years ago after reading your first Madame Chic book.
Wonderful! I so love to hear this! Thank you!
I loved seeing your comment. I read your blog and watch your UA-cam channel as well. I’d love to see your 10-item wardrobe for this spring/summer.
That's a great idea, @@Flourgirl4. I was thinking about doing a video for my 10-item wardrobe, now I'll do one, for sure!
I traded in summer shorts and shirts for Lilly Pulitzer casual dresses 7 years ago…it’s great. Comfortable, easy and as I go from house to errands, I don’t have to change or think about where I’m going. It’s interesting how many friends commented on how nice I looked, asked where i was going, etc. I definitely felt better.
I was totally thinking about your advice about this topic this morning as I was getting ready. I had an appointment I was feeling so anxious about. I dressed up really nicely in my favorite outfit, took my time getting ready and it helped me feel so much better heading to that appointment. ☺️
It is 80 today in Texas. Wore a dress to pick up my 50lbs of dog food. People at the store asked me if I had job interview! HAHAHA!
I home schooled my children and when we began I would either stay in my jammies or gym-type clothes. Then one day I looked in the mirror and thought, "This is what my children have to look at....how not motivating." So from that point on I started getting dressed, and putting more effort in my appearance first thing in the morning. My next comment is that we retired to a small, rural town where almost no one dresses up. Its been hard to not fall into that mode to run errands....post office, library, Tractor & Supply :) I not only still dress up, but will add that scarf or statement necklace. I stick out like a sore thumb, but I enjoy it, and who knows, maybe I'm influencing someone in some small way.
I love this
Absolutely, Shiryon. I also dress up to be inspiring for my son to value himself and teach him to always look presentable (he is 4). I have seen firsthand on my husband how his mother’s influence has made him a very stylish man who is properly dressed and takes care of himself always. I want my son to be like that too. Pair it with elegant and kind behaviour, of course. Currently, we are in lockdown because of the pandemic plus we live in the mountains in the middle of nowhere, I still do my make up and dress up because of my son and because of myself too. The only thing I won’t do is to ruin my expensive shoes during our walks outside in the dust and stony road. I still need to figure that one out. 😃🌷
"to dress for a successful day".....thanks for the inspiration
Ok, you’ve convinced me. I’ll try to get out of my jeans, yoga attire or sweatpants more often. But you know what, I ALWAYS wear an apron when I’m cooking or cleaning, always, no matter how worn out my outfits are, I will always be seen cooking and cleaning with a pretty apron on.
What you say is true! I scaled back my wardrobe after I saw your Ted talk and read your books. I haven’t quite made it to 10 items but it is very small and manageable. When someone compliments my appearance, someone else usually cuts in saying, “Well, Wendy always dresses nice!” and I think it is so funny because I put very little effort into getting ready every day. I would say practically no effort!
Anytime someone compliments me and asks where I’m going so dressed up, I usually answer by thanking them and telling them that I just love wearing that dress or shirt or whatever it is I’m wearing because I’m being very truthful! Thank you for sharing the 10 item wardrobe with us for all these years! You have been so inspiring!!!
Thank you for continuing to share this message, Jennifer! I've always been one to "overdress" and you're right the comments do come on occasion. Wearing something pretty and planned out makes me feel prepared and, as you said, productive! The comments I receive are usually kind and encouraging. I just wish all women would discover this secret world of feeling beautiful, purposeful, and valuable every day!
Hi Jennifer! Thank you for this video. I can testify that once you start dressing up for no reason you do go through the phase of having the attention on you that you don't necessarily ask for, and then the people in your life come to expect it and appreciate that you are putting effort in. They dub you as the stylish friend even if you are just wearing a dress. Dresses are so simple, it's an outfit that practically puts itself together. I also love when someone says "but Sara, I don't like pants... yoga pants feel like I'm not wearing any pants, it's so comfortable"... You literally don't need to wear pants when you wear a dress and you still look presentable 😅 Thank you for your books and videos, especially about this topic. Over the years you have helped me figure out how to transition from a college student to a mature young woman simply by choosing to dress well and I'm so grateful! 💗
Thank you for your video, Jennifer! I love to dress up myself, but I realized that I started to do it less and less in the recent year and when I sat down and thought about it I've found out it has a lot to do with the changes in my life. A year ago I moved from Poland to the US, California and despite my late 20's went back to college. People here don't dress up as much, college students specifically, so my change is probably caused by the very humane urge to fit in and not stand out as much among those 18 year olds. But as you said, you don't feel good when wearing workout clothes all day long, I caught myself being less productive when I'm in my sweats. I'm willing to change that and start wearing my pretty blouses to classes. I miss them!
I went to a private school from 6-12th grades. We were required to wear a uniform and we were required tok iron the skirt, the oxford shirts, and the vest. My Mom made me responsible for both washing and ironing it and I learned to iron at a young age. This video is a reminder that I need to do better about being presentable every day instead of saving all of my nice things for a future event.
Hi Jennifer, this video is such an encouraging call to all mommies out there who want to become more elegant and poised. Yes, your children are looking at you and want to learn good things from their mommy. And any mommy wants her children to look up to her and learn only good things from her. How would you like to be remembered by your child? “ is an important question and a good incentive to dress better, behave better and cultivate a meaningful lifestyle. Wonderful, you are so truly inspiring!
I so agree! I worked on my wardrobe to make sure I had things that fit correctly, worked with my body type and reflected my style. And then I made outfits whether it was a more athliesure look or going out look. I can’t tell you how many complements I get and how great I feel. There are so many dresses out there now days that it is easy to find a flattering one at a great price point. People are stunned when you have on a dress that fits well and you wear it with a smile. Thanks for your videos.
Yes! I feel so frumpy in the boxy t-shirt and jeans I see so many mothers wearing where I live. I reserve those clothes for heavy duty yard work or house painting. I take my job as a homeschooling mother seriously, so I dress appropriately for that job. As you said, it helps me get into the right mindset of doing my work for the day. I always insist that my children get dressed every day, too. No school work in pajamas!
Yes! I love this!
The funny thing is that dresses are very comfortable to me, that's all I wear! More comfortable than yoga pants I think and I was a yoga teacher. It makes me feel good about myself as I go throughout my day. Thanks Jennifer ❤
My entire wardrobe is made up of exclusively dresses, hung in my choice of random order and worn from left to right as they hang! No more choices to make about what top goes with what bottom. I can always add a pair of yoga pants underneath if I am doing activities that call for some additional modesty under the dress. What FREEDOM!! Now, I am going to add an intention for the day as I am putting on my dress. Thanks to Vaneka for that idea!
Yay for dressing up!! One thing I’m kind of afraid of is to just blend in with everyone else around me. I LOVE to dress femininely and girly every day and not feel out of place or apologetically, instead of being in yoga pants. Being elegant and chic should ALWAYS be in style.
I have become a denim and t shirt person over the years, i am a mom of three, l do like to dress up as i did years back, this is a great motivation for me, watched with joy ❤️👍
Since coming across your book “Lessons from Madame Chic” my attitude to wearing my clothes has changed. I, too, used to only wear my best clothes when out and wear my older clothes at home. Since discovering the 10 item wardrobe and your philosophy of always looking presentable I now can’t wait to get dressed in the morning and choose what to wear. When cleaning, I wear and apron over my clothes and, as I don’t use bleach, I never have any trouble of my clothes getting ruined. And if, after wearing them a lot, they do get ruined then I’ll buy some more. I have had to throw away jumpers that I had hardly worn because they’d been eaten by moths. I kept them for best and did not enjoy them. Now, I wear everything I have and enjoy them.
This is just the type of videos I want.. thank u Jennifer for the video.. I have started dressin well at home n it feels soo good.. I had searched a lot for such videos in the past but neva found any .. plz make more n more videos on such topics .sometimes I feel like wearing old pajamas n tshirts but then I think of ua videos n change my mind n dress well n feel the best.. U inspire us thank u soo much.. luv ya ❤❤❤
I love my stretchy knit dresses. I pair them with a cardi or jacket, or just wear alone. I also love jeans and a top. They make so many pretty tops these days that wear like a tee shirt, but have more interest and style to them like a blouse. There are also very comfortable and pretty shoes that are also practical-like Skechers or Clarks. You can find ballet flats or sandals that are comfortable like sneakers but have more style to them. These items make up the majority of my wardrobe!
I have been reading your books and have found new inspiration to wear all my nice things. I do wear vintage and vintage inspired clothes to church, but was not doing it daily. I taught an art class at my kids school last week. Several people commented that I was crazy for teaching art in a skirt and sweater. I loved it.
I recently saw a documentary on Netflix about the queen at 90 years old and I thought of you right away when I heard the two young princes making comments about how surprised they were to see everyone so dressed up! (They were watching videos of their family from the past.). I thought, “ Jennifer was right! It’s even worse than we thought! Even the Royals are accustomed to this casual society!!!” 😂😂😂
That is so funny!
I rarely dress up at any time, much less every day... After I discovered your channel a couple of years ago, I decided to wear a dress, a nice pair of shoes, fixed my hair in a nice updo, and wore makeup that took more than 5 minutes. As I was grocery shopping, I felt like men took more notice and greeted me. Then I had a woman actually look at me, make a face, and make a very audible "UGH!"... I don't know what that was about... I could have gotten offended but chose to flash her a friendly smile instead.
You are beautifying the world, several ladies at a time, Jennifer! I agree with you that one is much more productive when dressed nicely for the day. I have found it interesting that so many women go shopping for clothes, but while they are shopping they often are not dressed so nicely. I like some of the replies your listeners have ready for those who ask why they are dressed up. We are an older couple and we are very frequently, especially my husband who wears a suit and tie to weddings and funerals, complimented on how "regal" we look. Our granddaughter told us recently that her friends comment on how striking and "presidential' we look. We do not dress much differently from what we did over 50 years ago when we were single! I recall when folks dressed up to fly. It is so energizing to see a woman or man who is dressed well. While I was on jury duty a while back, after the first day, I decided to dress up more. We had to walk in front of observers in the court and we were in a position of judging someone, so I felt we needed to respect our "job." It was so fun to notice that others, men and women, began to dress up more for the remainder of the trial. Keep on raising the bar, dear Jennifer.
Jennifer,
I was that woman! Then I read all your Madame Chic books and they helped me change how I viewed my wardrobe. They did exactly what you said, helped me be feminine and chic but in a way perfectly suited to me. All in ten items! ❤️
I do get comments often about where I’m going dressed up - but I’m getting used to them. It is an awkward phase!
And I also have found it’s make me more productive overall - it’s amazing how what you wear speaks in such a powerful way to the rest of your life. Not even just to others but to yourself! So glad you shared your lessons from Madame chic!
- Kristen
This is great, Kristen. Comment of the week! :)
Hi Jennifer, I have struggled with this only recently In the last few years. We retired to a rural farming community, raising cows. Lots of dust and dirt and I find myself not wanting to wear anything nice. I've watched your channel for a few years now and enjoy what you have to say.
This has been such a mind shift for me, and I love the change I see in my daily life/mindset. 💖💖
Life’s too short not to wear your best clothes. Place appropriate, of course.
I love dressing up boeing stay at home mum! My wardrobe is pretty large, I have much more than 10 dresses ;) but I do wear them all! And I do my make up almost every day. I am glad to see I am not the only person to do it :)
Hey Jennifer I love your videos I dont have a 10 item wardrobe but I do wear lots of dresses and skirts and have always loved dressing nice and people always have asked me too where am I going today and I say no where just dressing nice just makes me feel great I’m now 54 and my daughter Loves dresses and skirts as well she is 27 I love feeling feminine you definitely have a different mindset when you are put together for sure 😊💕
Jennifer, I have been a fan for a couple of years now, starting with your books and then your channel. I watched this video this morning, as I needed some inspiration to feel my best. I took your advice and wore a simple dress, cardigan and cute white sneakers to grocery shop. I received a few compliments from fellow shoppers, which was nice. What I loved most about trying this is that it cost me nothing! It did not come in a bottle or I did not have to run out to grab the latest thing. I stayed in this outfit all day while I did my chores and cooked, and I felt so elegant, yet very comfortable. I also listened to a Hauser cello concert while I cooked. Thank you for being such a breath of fresh air and reminding us to put a little “lovely” back in our day. Merci!
I found that looking presentable actually helped me gain confidence. I was wearing these comfy clothes but it was to hide how I felt in my own skin. Being self aware and taking the time to get yourself ready has made a huge difference in my morning and my day. Your ted talk started a personal journey for me, thank you so much! :)
I just love your channel, Jennifer! I agree, on those days that I don't dress my best, I don't feel as motivated--and of course, that is the day someone will drop in or come to the door! I am loving the current challenge that you are doing. It has been inspiring me in so many ways and I look forward to the monthly check ins for the challenge! I hope you'll continue these challenges. They are wonderful!
I'm so excited for my Spring clothing! I've finally decided to include those nicer items into regular rotations along with dresses. I love the way I feel in dresses but then suddenly clam up out and about and feel like everyone is looking at me. Whether they are or not it's not about them right. Gonna go for it!
This reminds me of the show Hart of Dixie. It’s set in Alabama, and all the main characters are in dresses or slacks all the time. They looked very 1950s in the first season but got more youthful yet put together in the other 3 seasons.
I absolutely love this topic and your message. I agree completely. I was never one to wear sweatpants or jeans every day but after reading your books I did begin to dress more consciously and it does make a difference! I’ve had friends and family come over to my house and ask me where I was going that day because I look so nice and I just smile and say “I’m just dressed for life!” Now they all associate me with dressing nicely for life and for whatever comes my way. I feel better and I do accomplish more and look presentable in all situations. It’s a great way to be.
I started dressing up in my daily life about four years ago. It took a few months to really get used to it, but overall, I feel more put together, more confident, and ready to face anything in a day. I rarely hang out in tights and a shirt (I only have a few feminine T-shirt’s) and I can honestly say, I prefer it this way!
I'm currently wearing my favorite polka dot dress to work on a day we're allowed to wear jeans and a hoodie. I felt great coming into work this morning! On a side note have you ever considered creating a Facebook group for us like minded folk to collaborate? Just a thought. Happy Easter!
It is my hope that we can all start a movement that will take hold and give other ladies the courage to dress up if they want to
I have found after i shower, if i wear a dress and fix my hair, add some earrings, lipstick and fragrance that i don't need any other makeup to feel good and even receive compliments. I can achieve all of that in 30 minutes and be ready my entire day..whatever that may bring..
Aprons are LIFE!!!!
I work out in the morning, and after change to something beautiful, that blouse I love or dress that hangs perfect over me, my closet now have item that I love to wear always, you have change my way I look at clothes my wardrobe has meaning, have beautiful apron to go over my clothes, love your book.
Wish I could find your book in Spanish for my Latin speaking friends. In the mean time I talk to them a lot about your books. Such a blessing!
Yes, I totally agree with you. I get very tired of seeing messy dressed people. I don’t exactly dress up everyday but I don’t wear sweats or look frumpy. I tried to wearing sweat paints and a big tee shirt or staying in my pjs once in awhile but i just couldn’t do it because I don’t dress like that anymore.
Someone was selling their high end well made dresses on Facebook. She was selling them for $10 a piece in perfect condition. They were not my style with the A-line flowy skirts and vibrant colors, but for the price I couldn't pass them up. Boy, do I get a lot of compliments when I wear those dresses. I feel amazing and free when I wear them.
I hope you and your family have a wonderful Easter 🌼🌹
Happy Easter, DeAnna!
Thank you for this video, Jennifer. I do struggle with this and I already commented on your chic assignment video that I do all the other things, like reading, listening to classical music, seeking out the arts, painting, learning new things all the time, taking care of the house, cooking home made meals. It all comes naturally to me and I love it but dressing up for no occasion is a struggle. I work from home and I spend my days in exercise clothes. I wouldn’t wear them outside of the house but I do wear them at home most of the time. I’m trying to break this habit but I find it really challenging especially since I moved to England to a house with poor heating and no insulation. I just put layers and layers of clothes, sometimes even a house robe on top of it all because I am always so cold. I had situations when the neighbours knocked on my door and I was too ashamed to open the doors. It does not feel good. I really must do something about it and the first step is to stop buying clothes that are pretty but do not keep me warm because I will never wear them anyway.
Hi Jennifer, I love your channel! I have a funny story about dressing up. My stepfather joined a country club quite a few years ago. He joined not long before my birthday and we all thought it would be fun to have dinner there on my birthday. So, my parents, a friend, and I all went straight from our office jobs wearing what we thought was proper attire. As we were walking to the door of the club I heard a lady call us snobs. The hostess gave us a funny look. When we got to the dining room we understood. Everyone was surprisingly casual. Teens looked like they had just come from gym class and adults looked like they had been doing yard work. We had never been in a country club before, so all we knew was what we'd seen on TV. I never expected to be labeled a snob by a country club member. I learned to always call and check the dress code. 😂😂😂
I had someone once get defensive because I was wearing a button down shirt and dress pants when I pick up my daughter from an activity. She was in her pajamas and she said to me, "I change as soon as I get home from work." in a bit of a rude tone. I hadn't said a single word to her or even look at her.
They just naturally feel defensive because they know...
You are a wise young woman. I grew up in a home where we always dressed up. Then I married and moved to Eugene, OR. I was ostracized for wearing dresses. The nickname for our town was Bluejean Oregon. I’m glad to wear dresses...and have a better day when I do. Thanks!
Thank you darling! Happy Easter to you and your lovely connoisseur family!
Thank you so much for your books and video's. They inspire me like nothing before. Greetings and Happy Easter from the Netherlands.
Hi Jennifer, I felt so good when I heard you say dressing up makes you productive and confident. I’ve decided I will start tomorrow to sort out my closet for my ten-item wardrobe. Thank you for your advice!
Happy Easter to you too x
Several years ago, I decided that the current trends were made to show off a teenage body, and were not created for my forty-something body, (besides the fact that I prefer modesty.) I started wearing colorful wraparound skirts from India with a solid colored, well-made shirt and comfy leggings beneath my skirts. (Yes, I'm a Madame Bohemienne!) :) The funny part was how many people have since complimented me on my "look." My "LOOK"...??? This is just me being me, regardless of what everyone else is doing! I spend less on my skirts than most people seem to spend on their jeans, and my outfits are every bit as comfortable as walking around in leggings, without the embarrassment of feeling like I am always one wrong move away from a "wardrobe malfunction."
I will do that right now! Love and thank you from Denmark :)
Funny the ads that played before and after your video was for fabletics. 😂
I enjoy your videos!
I noticed that. Ha!
I was a tom boy growing up. Femininity wasn’t cultivated in me until I got married and my husband shopped with me and encouraged me to expand my wardrobe. Even then I had limits. I couldn’t stand to put on anything with flowers or lace etc. Now, 12 years later, you were the one to help finish the job of finding, embracing and loving my femininity. I’d see you in your lovely clothes and find myself craving to try out a floral top! My wardrobe is so different now and I love it! I feel glowy and beautiful. I’ve worked hard to keep at my 5 minute make up routine and I’m such a better parent for it. When you dress chic you want to talk chic and keep your dignity.
Right now my biggest struggle is the weather. I’m an expat in an extremely hot and humid climate but also one with extremely modest expectations. When I go out, I make sure I’m dressed well and appropriately and just suck up how much I’m sweating. However, at home I want to be comfortable. If I’m too hot I get crabby. I wear skinny jeans and a nursing tank all the time because of that. But I long to set the presentable example for my kids all the time and bc I just feel lovelier with my dress over my jeans. At least if someone comes to my door all I have to do is throw on my nice too or dress I leave hanging by the door to cover up.
I don't wear dresses because I really don't like them. I love wearing nice jeans and a nice blouse. And you are an inspiration to dress us as beautiful as we can for the love of us and the love of our family. (before your videos I used to wear only my sport clothes) 😘hugs from Costa Rica 🌴
I have been in such a style rut since having a baby a few months ago. I just packed away the last of the maternity shirts (that I haven't been wearing anyway). I've been wearing nursing tank tops or t-shirts with bulky cardigans and leggings because it's been cold and gray and we haven't been going anywhere so I just feel frumpy. I just ordered a spring-y nursing friendly dress and my plan is to keep the momentum going this week after the cute Easter clothes tomorrow.
Thanks for the encouragement. I've been practicing the 10 item wardrobe (thanks to you) for several years now but lately I have been wanting to dress more feminine with more dresses. I live in the mountains so it's challenging in winter but I'm working on it. 😘
People did not have the massive amount of clothing that we have today. And I am not that old! LOL My mom had some old jeans and a t shirt to clean, paint, garden, etc, in...but she NEVER went out of the house without cleaning up, nice clothes, a red lip and earrings!
Happy Easter. I believe in dressing up for work and looking appropriate for an activity. Feeling good in what you wear. Sweats for cleaning, I’m ok with that.
This philosophy is wonderful and it has changed my perspective on dressing and yes the joy and energy it brings trickled down to other areas of my life . Thank you , love your books but at home might be my favorite . 😍
Not sure how I missed this video when it came out, I thought I'd seen all over your videos! LOL
I am a daily dress or skirt wearer, but the last few weeks I've been positively living in my jeans! Usually with a nicer blouse, but some days not. I don't know what has come over me, but I just can't bear to think about anything but the jeans and top uniform right now.
I remember in the 80s there was a huge craze in the UK for shell suits!! Anyone remember them?? 😂😂
I used to be a “jeans and jumper” girl but I loved the dresses from the fifties! Huge circle dresses etc. Well my friend encouraged me to buy some dresses and actually wear them! I was very self conscious to begin with! I’d do the school run and think everyone was watching me! Well, I kept going and now it is the norm to see me in dresses styled from the forties, fifties, sixties or seventies... I love them all and don’t care what people think any more! I haven’t worn jeans for over three years. If I can do it, anyone can!
You are right, my mother in the 60s, 70s and 80s always wore dresses, skirts and tailored trousers every day. An apron was worn all times in the home unless we had visitors. I to this day always wear an apron in the home and this is a direct learned behavior from watching my Mum.
Getting a late start this Monday morning, but I’m headed upstairs to put on a dress!
Hi Jennifer. I have been trying 10item word robe since I read your book. It has become so much easier for me to chose what to wear everyday. Today I chose my favorite J. crew blouse and black pants, and cardigan for parents day of my son’s school. I even gets comments like “you don’t look like you have newborn baby” from other moms. I actually had my 3rd child 2 month ago. That made me feel great. BUT one of the mom whispered me “you are probably wearing your cardigan inside out.” I actually was wearying cardigan inside out!! So embarrassing...
Another thought that I had is that often people don't want to wear their nicer clothes, because they aren't comfortable. Having things that feel good on you and you feel good about wearing makes you want to wear the nicer things.