Only a Super Empath Can Break The Narcissist
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- Опубліковано 21 січ 2021
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Ding ding ding! Seconds out round one! It is the Super Empath versus the Narcissist. Will the narcissist end up broken?
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Narcissists are already broken there’s no need to waste energy on their downfall. No need to get revenge, their own behaviour ensures their outcome in life
You made much of a sense,in your comment dear.
Karma will be on their asses for life
Sheesh ur right
I sya this who is ones own eenemy he doesn't need another one.
Well said.
The narcissist uses offense.
The empath uses healthy defense.
Super Empath is another name for a healed, self-realized, humble, egoless, healthy empath with high self-esteem who will not allow nonsense and delusion to affect their center of peace. If you are an empath and you do the self-work to heal from all trauma, you become a super empath.
😳😲 insightful..............
Well put
So they say.
we use truth.....
Amen🙏
just got to this level so this resonates completely
The super empath is super because they were raised by a narc caretaker. We learned how you work! We can flip the table undetected.
Εxactly!
Yes, we evolve within the Stockholm when we’re kids! Superpower
Agreed
That’s exactly right!
Yes 🙌 true
The no contact kills them. I can feel it and I enjoy it just a little bit😌
you're exhibiting a narcissistic tendency but that is normal as a defensive response to your abuser, I had to learn to resist the urge to enjoy it
I enjoyed it many times, becoming an actual Buddhist made my controlling Islamic parents flip hahahaha so much silence =)))))
I agree samatha Jane , no contact drives them crazy bc it makes them feel they lost control over you. They want to be the to dismiss you but when u do it to them ~ oh boy, the phone don’t stop ringing! Why? Bc narcissist are co dependent people who feel they need to control and reject you then take you back ect. So yea for once it feels good that your not being hurt or controlled by a narcissist ❤️
It is safer to just give a real clear look, like i've always seen you, & your b.s. doesn't fly with me anymore. Then, let them leave you. Which they will. Once they know you see them as they are. Much easier & cleaner.
You can handle the narcissist with this. When he doesnt respect you tell him i will stop contact with you. This drives him crazy.
Me tooooo. Bahahaha
The best revenge, is no revenge, and silence from that moment onwards.
True story, unless reporting them as bad management seems like the compassionate thing to stop them from messing with others less able to cope. Reporting them to Housing Authority and or County, and the Owner should also be reported had they never checked in on their tenants welfare. They take advantage covertly of anyone alone, without a witness. It's all about brain fuckery that they use for emotional bullying leading to hurting you for their fuel.
Revenge is petty. Vengeance is fleeting, weak, and harms you too. Justice, or ensuring you are safe and happy, is what matters.
Two likes !!!
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Truth to a narc is like daylight to a vampire.
Well said.
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And garlic😄
This is why they’ve always hated me. I love what’s right and true and they can sense it.
Narcs are vamps
No need for revenge. Being a narcissist is tragic enough. I feel sorry for the narcissist, but I am not trying to change him, or reward him with my presence.
No need to feel anything for them.
A NARCISSIST IS SIMPLY A WALKING DEAD PERSON! SO SAD HOW THEY HAVE EVEN DISILLUSIONED THEMSELVES. Don’t waste your time or energy, RUN!!!!
Amen to that
Revenge just keeps you entangled - why would you want that? You are escaping a predator, FFS. You wouldn't "seek revenge" against a T-REX!
I snap 4 months ago and left my narc husband of 33 years of hell, I’m finally finding peace and freedom
Really? They don’t use everyone you love to crush you? I am so happy for you. Thirty years for me, with no hope of escape.
Please please Read John in the Bible.
Me too. Freedom is wonderful.
I am going through this right now. It’ll be two months on the 14th of March. After 32 years of being with him and 29 years of marriage.
😁🙏👏
I never entertained an argument. Because of that, the arguments stopped once they were instigated. Any abuse from him was met by silence from me. He marveled at this once. In the end, once I realized the pattern and that he was a narcissist, in a symbolic form - without words- I let him know I loved him then I went no contact. Now, I am free. I never wanted to “break” him or assassinate him. Why would I want that? He was obviously already broken. I realized the kindest thing I could do was to walk away.
Good for you !!!
Oh my goodness!
Yes! Already broken!
I can't look back, nothing to see nothing more to say to him.
I agree
The Narc will constantly hoover on you for doing so....until he hits your week spot/ moment
A super empath can be strategic, which is why they can take on narcissists.
That's when empaths become dangerous. We're extremist. We're extremely nice...once we get tired run for the hills.
When 2 super empaths unite against a monster narc... the evil narc had better run to hell to hide.
Right!!
@@mrsmallpinky9041 I love the book the Art of War by Sun Tzu
It's easy to call them out when your empath.
Narcissists are usually very negative and they get bored easy so when people aren't trying to impress them it repels them and with an empath which i am i can see through it.
They gaslight a lot to get people to alter there behavior it's a form of control and some times gaslighting them back or acting boring makes them irritated because they can't read you this way.
Sometimes they will leave. If you know there triggers too.
They hate being put on the spot but they can certainly dish it out. Empaths have a deeper thought process so narcissists don't always get the upper hand with empaths.
Sometimes they hate this so they will move on to a new target. That's easier to manipulate.
I don't want narc to suffer...just want peace. Which requires no contact
If you have no children, then it's possible. I always think of narcissist as men. I forget there are good men who are being abused too. No other word fits better than abused.
@@shereehudnall4220 I had to realise and accept the fact that other women can also be toxic...that I had to walk away from those “friendships”, as well.
A lot of us had an abusive upbringing and was targeted in a narcissistic family without even knowing it until we awoken and broke free !
It´s not about breaking them, it´s all about drawing the line and tell them "NOT with ME, buddy! Not with me! " It´s self-defense. Whatever it takes: whether it´s fighting back in an aggressive or passive-aggressive manner or just running away. We have clear tipping points or Supernova triggers, this is when enough is enough, this happens BEFORE we would break-down. So it´s a natural self-defense mechanism against fading and breaking down. We don´t break the narcs, we protect ourselves from breaking.
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Amen little sister ❤️
Yes!
NARCS they are a waste of time and life (you have the power) to give the NARC them the permanent INFJ door slam. Then its over!!!!!!!!!
Exactly Prim
It's not only about drawing a line, it is also about retaking the ground that the Narcissist took.
True. Thank u. 😊
The narcissist never took any ground. You gave it to him.
Yes!
The only way to do that is complete disengagement.
@@SabrinaDacosta- That is not correct. Victims should act up and leave immediately if possible instead of hanging around and making excuses. As soon as they are aware, that is.
Because in many cases victims don't even know what is happening to them since they don't know what they are dealing with. And thus, they fall into a trap which is not easy to get out of.
Other people don't have a choice. Not all narcs are partners. Sometimes they are bosses or neighbours.
Or parents.
Super empaths do not go on a crusade against the narc, the narcs are extra careful with them. some super empath has access to supernatural help and guidance . The breaking of the Narc by the super empath comes in the form of a highly intense impact of enlightenment or revelation towards the life of the narc, this can happen with a super empath who is highly self aware, prayerful or gifted. These two people (operating in light and dark energies) forfil a purpose and learn allot in their meeting each other. The narc is not the only one with a powerful influence and they soon find that out when engaging with an super empath, light always concours darkness!
YES!
Yes!
@leah campbell, you seem smart, mind if I ask you a few questions? I'm new to this channel and have never heard the term contagion empath before. I looked up the definition, but I'm curious if this is a skill that can be developed?
💚 Beautifully Said! 💯🙏
Yes yes YES!
Anyone who has survived narcissistic abuse is stronger than most people. The fact is, it is not possible to “break” a narcissist, nor should anyone want to.
Not true at all. Don't listen to this invisible guy behind a keyboard with zero credits. A super empath can crush a narcissist like a bread crumb. They have so much self worth and fun personality that people around them highly value and desire, a narcissist can never truly be over with them or cause them to suffer by devaluing/abandoning them. They are like sugar to an ant. For the narcissist, it's like an impossible mission that they're trying to accomplish. They're like kryptonite to Superman.
I promise that you can break a narcissist. I’ve done it. Well, God did actually. I followed God and truth. This broke them completely
"Nor should anyone want to." Really? Why not, Jesus of Nazareth?
We do not break narcs, they are already broken, not realising that, only when, we show them their failure, that breaks them again.
An empath can defeat a narcissist, so you are partly right. But they can only do it by learning and understanding narcissism, and that will only come thanks to HG's work
I remember the moment I looked at him and realized “I’m stronger than you.” Of course the moment I said it he started denying and justifying. It didn’t matter. I saw the truth and at the same moment I knew he would never see it. I walked away. He will break himself. I have better things to do.
U did exactly the same. Left everything accomplished over 40 yr marriage, but, NEVER LOOKED BACK. STILL KEEPING NO CONTACT AFTER 3 yr divorce 🙏🏼🥰
Me too it’s the only way
The narcissist said something that really made me come to the conclusion that there was nothing I could do to salvage the relationship.Usually I complained, tried to reason but this time, I didn't react at all. He must have seen something change in me because they voluntary apologized for the first time in their life.
We took shrooms when we first started dating and he told me I was the strongest person he ever met while breaking down crying . I brought up that he said that when we were sober, and he goes “Oh I just said that because I knew it would make you happy” It was obvious to me he didnt even remember saying it, he just couldnt believe he said that to me while vulnerable and high.
@@sandrablake5199 Same Sandra.Walked away after 7yr married,12yrs total relationship.Karma is his .
A super empath is in a minority within the minority of the truly empathic people on earth. They are in tune with a higher level of conscious awareness and live beyond the 5 senses that most human beings live by. If you're someone that goes around telling people you're a super empath then it's unlikely you're not there yet.
Yeah..seeking approval is not necessary when your intent is good..
Please, give us proofs, evidence!
🙂 well said 💗🙏
Well said !
I agree Asad.
Theyre already broken... when you truly understand that they’re doomed ... you learn to detach and let go... I mostly feel grateful for my time suffering with these ppl because the situations forced me to look at and change my own flawed ways.. I’m wiser stronger and much less motivated by my emotions and instead I use logic now .. narcissistic relationships are like being tested by fire.. your own impurities will be burned away you will be so much closer to your true self.. your highest self after you gain your bearings n do the healing work
Chi chi, I am grateful how wondrous the Universe actually is. Your message is a gift, a last nudge and resonance with my inner Higher Self. Intellectually and intuitively I knew what was happening within my relationship......but my childhood wounding and attachement and identification to it, kept me stuck. I left this 6 year unhealthy relationship and committed myself to heal and change my own flawed patterns. It feels like listening to my twinsister. I am happy for you that you are a more wiser and stronger woman. You can be a healing guide/mentor and sharing your knowledge. Blessings🙏🌈🧚♀️⚘🍀
@@ludwinahouben913 blessings to you as well dear!! Your time has come so it seems... remember you deserve happiness and prosperity!!! 🙏 💕 ❤️ doing what is best for ourselves does not equal selfishness!! It’s high time to live with us in mind ☺️
@@ludwinahouben913 how did you heal childhood trauma and attachment
Omg. Spot on
Sounds Biblical ❤️
I realized I didnt need him in my life. He wasn't worth my time or energy. He could never be fixed, just a mean and evil man. I learned my lesson and walked away.
Exactly! Realized it also.
This is the beginning of being set free. When you’re no longer willing to play the games
A Narc is someone who doesn’t deserve us. It’s up to us to understand this, otherwise we will try to confirm why we deserve this
Mine called himself Mean, Cruel and Nasty while smiling. Now I realize he was telling on himself because that is exactly what he is and he is proud of it I guess.
Same here.
Empathy, for a Super Empath, has an off switch. Narcissistic dysfunction does not. And the most amusing mouse to watch is the one who thinks they designed the maze, all the while not knowing that the Super Empath has been moving walls, creating secret passages, and silently putting into place the opportunities for the narcissist to self-immolate. Good times.
Yep you named it. He learned the hard way.....I'm still chill.....he's not lol thank God I live alone with my 2 dogs, they are the best! So is my neighbour lol
Ooooh yes
@@mrsmallpinky9041 It's a pen name.
I guess I am a super. Sad situation. No winning for anyone, I am out, safely, smoothly. He knows why.
But the whole relationship feels awful.
Your pic resembles my upper mid range X. And you are an anger negative person...and definitely not a Dr...terrible facade.
If for the slight chance you are a Doc that’s just f*ing scary.
But I will ask the Ultra here and now...
What is this guy? And why do you allow him to continue posting comments?
My boundaries fill him with rage. He tried to visit today it lasted not even 5 min. He is learning that Hoover's won't work.....have a great day I said as he walked away calling me bipolar saying I'm 12 and need medicine lmao. I did not get upset, I had zero emotion, was more amusing then anything.....I saw the 5 yr old stomp off.....toodles lol
😂🤣😂🤣
Love it... Lol 👌🏽🤣💪🏾🤣
That comment made my day
I've seen that 5yr old too lol. Now knowing what he is, a whole lot of things make complete sense to me lol.
No contact is strenth.
You are 100% accurate. We do not want to break them, fix them, or accommodate them. But once we realize and very quickly that something is not right, we do stand back at a safe distance and watch in utter fascination and bewilderment that anyone could think and live as they do. And sometimes we get hurt in the process and then we have no choice but to leave the situation least we become as damaged as them and completely jaded.
So true, Sally.
I know right! I feel fascinated like I'm staring at a gory accident from which I cannot rip my gaze even though I'm horrified!
All I can say is I'm so thankful God made me the way he did. Thanks
What Narcissists don't realize is we own them. Narcs cannot exist without us. We have all the power. God bless.
Big deal.
Like owning a million dollar home with only 1-2% equity
If only you (type) weren’t so god damn stupid, then maybe you could truly make that claim
@@X11CHASE many "self aware" (self-declared) empaths are in fact narcissistic.
That's true, we work for them, have joy for them, solve the problems and so on. They are miserable, not having strength to solve the problem. Never
Y’all give these narcs way too much credit they’re weak scary incompetent individuals they DO NOT WANT confrontation all bark no bite!!!!!!
Agreed they are cowards. Get right up in their face.
Truth, they are just shitty humans that make it all ok in thier head. They justify themselves just like they put themselves above everyone else.
That depends on what they did
Yeah no bite..narcmother screamed at me and insulted me and i made a mini step towards her and ask: do you wanna beat me up again? She got startled and looked really scared and walked away. She is just a bully.
Their hot shit until you call them out on their bull shit! They can’t stand it when you call them out. I’m glad the crazy bitch is out of my life.
I am an INFJ-A empath of some sort who was raised to be a people pleaser. After several years of marriage (which I am still in) that has caused me emotional damage, I have found life-changing help from my therapist who has helped me discern the cause of my people pleasing and learn to set boundaries. I am very thankful for people on UA-cam such as yourself who have helped me understand so much more about the narcissists around me. For example, I now understand many of the motives of narcissists as well as why I draw figurative lines in the sand with these people. Having several religious narcissists in my life, I also particularly appreciate your videos regarding this aspect. Thank you for sharing your unique perspective.
Literally, smile & agree with everything they say. It'll burn them up inside. One word answers. Telling them "no" . Remind them that there's comes a time when they have dealt all of their cards and now it's your turn to shuffle the deck.
Super empaths can hurt in silence that’s the best way never let them see you sweat💯
Right-!!! That was me
i purposely show that hurt for faith in showing the damage they cause. If they want to weaponize what i confide in them, i'll show them they can feel bad about it too. I don't regret anything so far, I am closing in on cutting my losses, but if there is hope for her to change because she wants to, i would like to say i gave it my all and for good reasons. I've only just realized its even narcissism, i know the type of setting i have to create to remove ways out of the conversation.
@@p_tiffanii i think i misunderstood in reading when i typed my reply. Sorry ill delete it now
I call our kind "narcissist assassins." And an assassin never brags about how they are an assassin. That defeats the point. We just want to quietly slay those that must be slayed, and quietly go about our day. No one needs to know who we are. We just do as we do. ;) Love your videos so much
Thank you!
Omerta.
I learned from someone really wise that “only a fool tells everything he knows.” There’s no need to tell everyone what you are or what you know.The person who wrote that is HG Tudor. I agree, and I follow this wholeheartedly.
Haha true... Narcissist...
You hunt narcissists? Um ok
No...narcissists hunt me ;)
When I mirrored their behavior, I realized that I brought pain. It did not set well for me. I just want to walk away and not continue in a destructive behavior. I wish and pray that one day he will find peace in his life.
Well, I did it! The Malignant Narcissist never saw it coming until his false pride was broken after I quickly and unceremoniously dumped him. He had no clue I figured out he’s a Narcissist and that he had a fling with a woman in another state. BahBye! I deserve better! Three years No Contact! 😂
😇👣🙌narc/SUPER EMPATH🤣👤💑🙌👣💞
🤗EX♡CELL♡IENT👣🙌💯EMPATHS💯👣🙌😇
That's me : showing compassion, wanting to heal his childhood wounds. I am pure love when it comes to him. Like a mother towards her child. When he goes too far, my rage is unleashed. He doesn't know how to love. It's sad.
I know..
Its the way they are..... round and round and round . We must see it and exit.
I am not pure love. I am more though love 😉🤣
I TOLD THE NARC I DIDNT WANNA PLAY THIS GAME NO MORE AND TOLD HIM TO GO BACK TO THE PLAYGROUND 💙
This made me smile 😃
I said same statement .
Told him..this is a game..
Same here. "GAME OVER!"
It is easy to break a narc....just stop giving them your attention and energy. They will go somewhere else.
yes, the easiest way to get out
This is so true. I did not want to fight or bring the narc to her knees. I just wanted to save myself.
I got my child out and then I got me out. Just before I left when there was just me and the narc he started to rage at me and so I let him have my rage full force..It ended up the narc backing down, saying he was sorry and until I left a few days later he kept away from me and locked himself in the spare bedroom every night when he came home from work. I left and have not seen him since. Even our divorce was straight forward. He knows to stay away from me..15 years free and my son and me are very happy and very healthy.
I had a similar experience. He told me he was going to buy a new truck. I said " I bet it will be red just like the new truck we bought years ago". He looked at me an sneered "I hate the color red!" I came undone. I yelled you MF I'm a red head that you have been married to for almost 40 years!!! He backed down. If I'd had a weapon, I would be in jail right now. It was a complete slap in the face.
@@shereehudnall4220 The super empath base state is self defense... but they are not absolutely limited as the narcissist presumes.
That wasnt a narc. A narc will never leave
Lol
Wow, I love your High energy beautiful Soul. Much love and Abundance forever.
How do I deal with narcissists? I stay away. ... Because it’s all about them. 🚩
Empaths, chilldren of God', stay empaths in a confrontation with a narcisist. Love is your power. Don't confront them in a narcissistic way, because you can' t be as evil as they are. You know you can' t...so, don' t try.
Bullshit. To send a soldier into battle without weaponry is to waste them.
@@drlarrymitchell Empaths are not soldiers of death, they are soldiers of life.
Watch the story of "Monkey Magic". Tripitaka is the super empath. She doesn't live by the sword, unless utterly necessary and only to fight for survival.
Empaths are the world's healers. They heal the sick and that includes the Narcs when they are ready.
Monkey is the Narc. But, he follows Tripitaka because he admires her pureness, which he doesn't possess, and Monkey yearns to understand her ways.
Monkey is only allowed to go along with Tripitaka on her quest for Good if he learns to constrain himself. This is helped along by a spiritually protective halo that Tripitaka placed upon his head, which gives him an electric shock throughout his body when he gets overly zealous to go into killer mode.
Hence the story of the Empaths versus Narcs, Good versus Evil. Light versus Darkness.
It's a NeverEndingStory with a glimmer of hope
Note: Should all Empaths finally throw the towel in, the world will go back to complete chaos as in the beginning. Everyone will be fighting to the death and there will be no point in life.
God is the life-giver and Satan is the life-destroyer. Choose your side carefully.😇😈
@@MsTrillionairess I dont know about though besides being a super empath I'm also a Gemini just as comfortable being bad as being good 😒
I can, lets be real, many can.
@@MsTrillionairess I wasted so much time on revenge all because of my family and I still feel that I could have played dirtier.
A super empath's supply if you will comes from justice and decency. We have the discernment and knowledge to destroy, but it would ultimately destroy us. Therefore, we won't dare let it happen.
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The best revenge is success! Go and stay NO CONTACT and live your best life. Thanks HG Tudor for finding a way to create an understanding of this symbiotic relationship between empath and narcissist. You are a great Teacher!
When I affirmed my loyalty to a higher power and rejected my alliance and loyalty to the narcissist, I set myself free. The empath’s relationship with the narcissist is symbolic of the empath’s internal battle with their own demon within - which is their burning desire to be special and to be the chosen one - but the narcissist will never choose you - nor does any other human out there have the ability or the responsibility to choose you - this is where the empath must reclaim their own life affirming power and independence.
Well said
Thank you.I just lived through this,thankfully 1x,then 6 months later.,2x another for 5 months.then said F.off,then 5.5 months later,I went backwards and ran into him,again in the full moon.last Oct,then fell into cognitive dissince and he used substances,I said yes,only 2 x a month,sometimes 1x.last month,and call that he had possibly died,from his Apt mgr.Was cynical in response,then said well,I do care,the would call me back I had biggest SuperNova of 3,Easter Monday.and he showed up and said "u was in jail for a day,all his darkest side upfront .
I have nothing else to say.
' Felt what a lot I learnt,and lucky to be Alive,esp my own choices too
I have never married,well engaged 2-3 x,common law w fiance,
Boyfriend's n livers for sure..and chose at 22n 23 not to have children,due to 2 Diametrically opposed teenage parents,who hated each other,married for 2 years, battled for 49?!
and both Narcissist,yet opposite values,Court case at 7 yrs old
Began running n trying to escape by 12,from the Mother.
Ok NOW.
I am grateful for many travels,famous people,etc,the Mother led me too,she also worked for Vice President if CBS Records,and Universal Studios.
Yikes.Hollywood in the 70's.
Funny how all the memories,I can finally string into some kind of Linear timeline California is calling me NOW.
Have a Lot if Compassion for the State,after everything that happened 3 million acres burned Riots,looting,killing if all kinds last year,And Trump derangement,and Covid.
Whheew.
Would like to come down,ince Border opens..
Ok Got it,it's been a process of the last "peice"
I like this
Thank you, I never considered this point until reading your words. It speaks truth to my heart, THANK YOU!!!!
The silent treatment is a killer for the narc.
I threw every thing she used against me. Back at her. And got away. I'm proud of being "the one that got away", and I get stalked.
Me too! Escaped in 2019. Got rid of everybody who was playing both sides. And NOW I'm still being stalked and surveillanced by the narc themself since I cut off all their tentacles. Lol I'm enjoying this new found freedom and control of my life! But I mustn't get drunk off my own ego slip up and get ensnared all over again. I'm so woke!
@@T.Alexis926 😂
Why it is better to let them leave, if possible. Then, no stalking.
Keep up the fight. God bless.
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That´s not necessarily the case. Once they´ll lose their primary source they might get back to you.
Silence is golden.
And duct tape is silver... Works just as well and they might like it.
My reaction during the Super Nova, was exactly that. ''Wait a minute, this isn't right, this is toxic I'm in a toxic situation, this person's not who I thought - I need to get out''. That exact ''defensive'' stance that HG's talking about. My ''natural'' tendency was not to break (or fix) the person - back then I didn't even understand narcissism, but to disengage. If I had known more, I would have healed quicker, easier and implemented a full, strict no contact, sooner.
I asked the narc "who the fuck are you? I dont know you. You dont know me. We are just intimate strangers!"
@@jeniferbass7484 yup. That's exactly what i told my ex narc. Who tf are you? Me and him had the best sex in the world but afterward barely a word passes between us.he would just silent treatment me until our next night of sex. I was really stupid to put up with that mess. Sexing a man that barely talked to me. Only about his work mostly. I didn't know that man . so i stopped the sex and letting him act like he lived with me and that stopped the relationship. He was only using me for what i supplied to him. Stability, a lil family he could control. Food. Access to my car like i was his personal uber. Living with me and my boys like he was the man of our already established and smoothly operating home. A place to drink and smoke comfortably. What it finally took for me to goso was i got a tooth pulled and he went home to his moms house and acted like if i couldn't come pick him up he couldn't get home to me to take care of me. I couldn't believe he would leave me by myself all hurt up with stitches on strong pain meds leaving my 2 young boys to take care of themselves and me for a week. He just kept calling and i kept ignoring his calls and texts. Then he turned to rage telling me how i didn't love him cause i wouldn't get off my ass to come get him. The light bulb went on inside this super empath head! Enough. That was the straw that broke this patient camels back. I advised him that even though i was broke down i wouldn't be sick for long and once i was well to not even think about sniffing back around me. He thought i had no money and all the bills were due and i needed him. But my God blessed me with me and kids stimi checks weeks ago! I didn't tell him that cause last 3 times i got my check he was right here reaping all my children's blessings though manipulative tactics. He even borrowed one of my checks and never have me my babies money back. So now hes half living out his momma house and his broke down truck in front her house. Not my intentions to make the man a bum but he should never have tried to play me over the last year. I didn't know anything about narcissism a year Ago and now I'm an expert on the subject. I at first loved him enough to help him see what he was and how to overcome this behavior but now i don't care why he's like he is or if he gets better. I Finally see all his problems and issues are just that.his own problems that have nothing to do with me. Love you friend.stay up and thanks for commenting and listening.
Sounds like an empath with a healthy self esteem and good boundaries.
I broke my narcissist and he’s now facing a 20 year sentence. Karma, what can we say?
Bravo
I got the heck out. By the grace of God. No way ima put up with the nonsense for any length of time. It was hard, but around month 2 when I stumbled across HG and tons of reading material, in horror, everything finally made sense. Heartbreaking and soul crushing as it was, it's been soo worth it!
Having the strength and freedom to walk away is the only power an empath needs to break a narcissist.
Being an empath (as determined by HG) I don't want to fight the narcissist. 12 years of no contact reduced my emotional thinking to a level where I think: "Why on earth should I want to deal with this mid-range narcissist, even if it is the only family-member I have left? She is just an empty shell".
The super can cause lots of chaos and unsettling of the narc even though temporary. They know not to mess with us again.
That was my experience.
I am an INFJ personality type which is also very rare. I am naturally intuitive, and naturally empathetic. I am very sensitive other peoples feelings, but if I am pushed by a Narcissistic person, I defend myself. I stand my ground, and I defend the weak, and vulnerable. I don't allow others to be bullied by the Narcissist. After very long periods of Narcissistic abuse, I can ghost a person like flipping a switch. I cut off the Narcissistic supply. I never go back. In time the Narcissistic person ends up feeling a loss. They are deeply triggered by all the warnings I gave them, and the things I said. It causes them to self reflect even of to limited extent. What they do with it is their choice.
yes yes yes when you stand in your power and hold up a mirror with detachment
@Agape Love
How do you know they feel a loss and self reflect???
Seriously curious ..
Just ghosted the Malignant Covert I was with for over 7 years. ...
Hello fellow INFJ!!
I am a T, HSP Plus ♋️ Cancer!
I outted him publicly to everyone he knew in an 11 page letter WITHOUT using the word narcissist!
He told my friend exactly this "I have never been more embarrassed OR humiliated in my whole life!"
I told him he would have an unforgettable 60th birthday AND he did!!
🤭🤭🤭💪💪💪🥰🥰
that is really interesting. i wonder how our personality works with being an empath. i an enfp. now i want to look into this.
I am an INFJ also x well said - I 100% agree. I was trained at an early age by a malignant narcissist and her son whom I married. I started off as co - dependant and then found my superpower. It came at a high price but moved me to becoming a super empath and when I figured out I was an INFJ all became clear to me.
The narcissist itself is the only person that can break themselves and unfortunately it’s an extremely slow process that may sometimes takes years to happen. Just get on with your life and let them do it to themselves. The narcissist is always looking to gain an upper hand so will only be caught out by surprise. Sometimes by its own lies and will lose friends over time.
A few days before I left, he used his specialty with me one night at 3 o'clock. Sitting in his car parked somewhere in the neighborhood on a parking lot, launching garbage in my head about how bad a person I was and how good a man he was to let me stay. I knew he would go on for hours like he used to, so I said to him that I was going put down the phone, I wouldn't turn it off, so if he wanted to he could keep talking, but I had to go to the bathroom. When I came back he was still talking, so I told him, he could continue talking if he liked to, but I would put the phone down to go and get myself a hot cup of tea. When I came back he was still talking so I said to him: " You know what? I'm not obligated to listen to all your crapp, so if you want to you can talk as long as you like, but no one will listen. At least he stopped for that night
A narcisstic injury caused by a superempath is like a lion who breaks his teeth while trying to bite a turtle.
My ex narc always said I was the sweetest of all his girls🙄😐🤔😣i always thought: so i am a stupid idiot who doesn’t stand up for myself and don’t run away.
I never got angry, or called him names and never fought back. I kept the peace and didn’t say anything.
Now I think I am stupid and really a very codependent idiot who never ran away. I was addicted to him, I couldn’t let him go. But finally I am free for two years. No contact, nothing.
No way I let any narc enter my life again.
Lmao the narcisit breaks itself 🤣. We send them into that emotional turmoil and lasting mental fuckup😂
But that’s like stepping on a spider; a spider can’t help what it is.
They are already in emotional turmoil..
They do it for attention
Empaths know they are ABOVE narcissists. We sometimes stay only because we genuinely feel bad.We want to help them overcome, but their pride does not allow such behaviour. Their inferiority complex is so big you can feel it. Narcissists never end relationships on good terms. Just like a child they are angry and want revenge.
I let a lesser narcissist stay in my house. That is where I got my first taste of blatant narcissistic devaluation. Back then I thought he was dumb and warned him not to behave that way with others. I've had run ins with Mid rangers as well. They never even tried to devalue. The most effective devaluation came from a greater narc. His relentless abuse made me look up this topic.
Ok
If someone is still thinking about revenge 6 months later then I'd think they are still emotional over it.
U R absolutely right👊🏻. We r just super hangers on🤪. We endure waaay too much from a Narc before we are nearly completely broken 😞
Super Empath = Clairsentient, one the the most unrecognised “Clairs”.
yes
Yes!!!
I knew literally nothing about narcissism when I confronted an ex friend. However reflecting on the words I used, manipulative, smoke and mirrors and draining people dry it's no wonder she looked like I'd just stabbed her in the head. The mask was finally off. Thank goodness I came across HG's work soon after, not only to help me come to terms with it all, but strengthen my no contact regime. After several failed hoovers she packed up her circus and moved away. 🎪 🙄
Best thing is to leave that person forever. That narc will never change, and their “attacks”will always happen. It doesn’t matter how much he or she tells you they will change. The narc will always drag you back into that “battle”, slowly and surely destroying your soul. Leave them forever and don’t ever look back. Please do this for yourself, and save yourself. Get away from them and their emotional/mental abuse! There are many more wonderful and beautiful souls out there in the world, that would love to be with you and treasure every moment.
Well for ONE thing, my narc would NEVER tell me they’d change. They thought they were perfect. Hated my smoking so I promised to quit if we would go to counseling. Flat out told me that would NEVER happen-us going to counseling. Ok. But yes I am planning to be away as much as possible (work) just for happiness sake👍❤️🌸
Thank you HG.
I recognise myself in this description: my primary aims are to maintain my safety, maintain my dignity, maintain my calm and self-control.
This is my game plan with any Narcissist.
This is what Jesus coaches us to do too, and I find that very reassuring.
My ex would always tell me I was too Independent. I would tell him that is the same thing as telling me he could not control me.
You have a sharp and witty mind❤️
@@tmo.48 Thank you. That is nice to hear. You have a great day.
Yes, I’ve been told that numerous times, as well as being too stubborn. He almost made it sound like a negative quality and probably meant it as an attempt to cut me down. Bruh, you got nothin!
5 year restraining order is the way to go. You'll NEVER "break" a narcissist, because they already have a back up plan and another life to run their tornado through. To "break" a narcissist you must leave them and leave them for good.
Yeah but what happens after this timeframe, I suspect my psychopath will come back for me after that, he's still stalking my place and stalking by proxy!
Think I saved another woman a horrible tragedy. He won't ever hurt another woman with his fake BS again. That's my justification for 5 years of pure he'll. Now it's his turn to figure out how to discard me and not be the victim. Ha. I'm loving it.
@@candicecarpenter4170: Call the cops on them.
You do have to get far away. After divorce he would show up at workplace and cause trouble. Had to get kids away. Was afraid for them as well as myself. Luckily had a decent job and moved very far away. Found out he died a few years back. Some of the nightmares have diminished since I found that out.
@@candicecarpenter4170 You renew it in court before it expires. That’s what I did. Call the court six months before it expires and get guidance on the steps you need to take to renew before it expires. Explain to the Court in your renewal papers your fears and reiterate the things he has done, even attaching your original Petition showing the behavior that earned him an RO in the first place. I did this and now have a RO good to 2099. ALSO: always report to the police EVERY violation (i.e., keep your foot on the gas). My ex violated the initial temp and permanent RO a lot at first but bc i reported so often to the police, the city attorney went after him in criminal court (call them and light a fire under them too if you need to too), did a bit of home detention and jail time, and eventually was threatened with a prison sentence if he continued to violate. This is what it took to get his teeth out of me, and move on. I still always keep my eyes open bc i know he hates me to the core because I was able to gain the upper hand. One thing I have learned is you must not ever underestimate someone who has nothing to lose-you must always stay 10 paces ahead of them/stay vigilant and be organized and ready for any scenario.
It's hard to fight with a false self, a fake person, a liar, manipulative who do not want to change for the better but want us to accept what they are doing...narc want to cheat in peace, lack of empathy and a selfish one. He feels that he is entitled to cheat all the time and for many different women...a user...absolutely evil person.
That's it, want to cheat in peace
This!!!
This video is so accurate and describes my bout with former friend and his flying monkeys. I felt like such a stud shutting down his attempts at gas lighting with logic and his own words and otherwise being unaffected by his efforts. While I successful in my revenge against all of them thats success was achieved by quitting while I was ahead and eventually going no contact. It was the hardest decision to make because I wanted to destroy him completely and I desired nothing more. It was also the most sensible because the things I had to subject myself to in order to achieve total destruction would surely bury me along with my target.
The lesson here for all empaths is that we should not be focusing on destroying the narcissist but rather his/her attempts at manipulation and control.
Stop agreeing with everything they say.
Stop reacting to everytime the poke.
Stop being afraid to be happy around them.
Stop making their emotions your responsibility. Its ok for them to feel the way they feel as it is ok for you to feel the way they feel.
Take nothing they say personally. They are barely even people in the first place. They are infact dead souls that roam the earth and suck the life from loving people so they themselves can feel alive.
The goal is not to deliver a stake to it's heart but instead never to invite a vampire in, in the first place.
I actually researched: 'Are some people soulless?' after dealing with a narc girlfriend for seven years.
Great comment
I knew at 5 when I could FEEL others feelings and put them into thought forms like telepathy something was different for me. We don't BREAK the narcissist. We PUSH OUT OUR ENERGY FIELD SO THEY FEEL THEIR OWN FEELINGS. A narcs MO is to DETACH and NOT FEEL. Making them feel their own pain field usually does the trick. 😉
They only feel rage jealousy and hatred
Yeah they only feel those feelings in this comment but also they usually rape in spirit or physical. Your never safe with them. Ever.
Brilliant. We are their horror mirror.
I withdraw from people because of my feeling what they feel. It gets too much. I stay alone as much as possible. I enjoy my dogs.
@@granny58 Don't forget insecurity; massive insecurity.
Why is it, that when I walk down the street in NYC, gazing upon the thousands of faces bolstering expressions, anywhere from angry / annoyed to arrogant / ultra cocky or any other constructed over dramatic expression and lock eyes with that individual, they immediately look away or down at the ground in fright, shame and sometimes horror. NEVER has anyone ever maintained their stare and continued on with their false self projection.. Sometimes, on an extremely “rare” occasion, someone actually smiles with their eyes or gives a gesture of acknowledgment but as I’ve stated, it’s extremely rare. It’s always the exaggerated, overtly trendy, stereotypical persona (which are the masses) that immediately disengages from visual contact or social interactions with me. The theme then becomes immaculately clear. The pattern emphatically emerges with resounding recognition. We (human beings) have been social engineered into some version or mixture of Cluster B personality disorders i.e. Histrionic, Borderline, Antisocial / Psychopathic, Narcissistic and Machiavellian. The majority 99% of humanity has been, not only genetically modified but mentally and spiritually manipulated into being representatives of the “false self” / ego, the social engineered, inauthentic, hybrid, human drone, feeling worthless, lacking self awareness, self validation, authenticity, independent thought and serenity. I have allowed myself / granted myself permission to transcend and evolve beyond the constructs of narcissism and empathy into alignment with SOURCE ENERGY... This is the “Anti Narcissism Frequency” beyond constructs.
Sometimes we can tap into 'cold empathy' to either disengage or fight our corner. It is not a comfortable feeling. I would rather not be around a narcissist to begin with. But needs must.
I believe my narc dad when he has said..I have no regrets, I don't forget anything, I won't change
And this will be terminating his dark spirit, where he will have nothing to regret, nothing to forget and nothing to change... he will be nothing, he won't exist, and be just a footpath that everyone uses for their convenience to walk upon... without a shed of thought for the footpath.
Usually super empaths will only feel the most painful SADNESS because a narcissist can never love
So true, a super empath will not want to hurt a suffering soul, if he or she does, then this defeats the object of being a super empath. Wishing well the narcissist and saying goodbye be happy and thanks for this experience making the super empath a mega super empath 😉 and lucky for the super empath who can recognize their own narcissistic traits to understand a narcissist. Really enjoyed your analogy. Namaste 🙏
Correct. We do have narcissistic qualities
Trying to break a narcissist is like punching a knife over and over.
Also for the empath test, a “super empath” is unlikely to boast about being empathic. If it was admitted, it would be subtle or reflective. Boasting is for narcissists.
We will have a boundary stand off because we don’t like to be controlled or backed into a corner. I always say I have pride and ego just like the next person. I will cut you off and go into hiding after I let you know what I see. The eyes don’t lie but the mouth do💯
yes doing it right now
Not a super empath. . . I admit to being co dependent and I am working on blunting that trait.
I suggest the book ‘Chained’, always available on Amazon. It’s a must read for any empath that is a Codependent, or who has an element of Codependent in their School make up.
@Monica Murray Thank you.
Years of working a high stress, high danger and very physically demanding job. I took that shot in my Jacuzzi tub after getting home from a 52 day long work week of 12 hr shifts in -40 degree weather.
@@narcsitereader3844 I am aware of that book and have had it recommended before. I have yet to check it out but if I happen to come across it at my book store I shall take a look at it. I dont want to over do it on the "Self help" and trade one bad habit for another.
@@lookupyourredemptiondrawsn7285 I guess the 1st step in solving a problem is recognizing it exists.
I wish you luck and good vibrations in your journey. Nothing but support for you, you got this.
You all crack me up and make my heart happy at the same time 🤣❤️
Once you realize being w/ a narcissist is not conducive to your purpose then it a wake up call. Each and every day you spend time texting, talking, or communicating somehow brings about wasted time that you can never get back. You deserve better no matter what!
"Narcissists" are already broken. The trick is to avoid being injured by the inevitable acts of revenge which will drive the narcissist after they realise they cannot operate in your presence and that you will expose them socially over and over again. In fact only the "super-empath" can identify and survive such needless war.
Dealt with it for 46 years! Like a champ. Still in it.
That's it aye, avoiding letting them know what truely hurts ya and then strategically removing yourself from their life
I pity the broken pathway that a narcissist must take in life to feed itself at the expense of others. Once discovered, a lifetime of narcissism can only garner the total and complete disdain of those it wronged for so long.
It is disgusting to call a human being an it. I believe narcissism is an evil demon that needs deliverance.
No one can break a narcassist. There is nothing to break. No 'super empath' would ever be with a narcassist without knowing exactly what they were getting into.
No need to break them, just stop them. They will break from inside out: melting down, collapse, IMPLOSION.
An ULTRA will become a black hole(such an event it is unlikeky to happen since HG Tudor said he is always full of fuel).
Empaths only have solar explosions. Inside of empaths there is peace, self awereness, joy.
However, as HG Tudor observed an empath can become a supernova!🤗
Which makes me feel super stupid. But I am learning so much❤️
Why would you date a narc knowing what they are..sorry I disagree
I believe that I broke my ex, who was diagnosed with NPD. I didn't do it deliberately. I did however decide to change the course of my life, not allowing the narcissist to be privy to my plan. In a methodical manner I led the narcissist down a path of hope, then, when the time was right, I covertly implemented my decision, leaving him blindsided.
He went into a complete narcissistic collapse. And when I say collapse, I mean I took him all the way to rock bottom!!! It was a brutal fall.
Then when he tried to even the score, I had vanished like a vapor. I threw him into such a tailspin that he grabbed the first supply he could find and married her.
He had to trap her in his web, so she can't ever escape, the way I did.
Every time I think about his marriage, I smile to myself because I know that I caused that.
Meanwhile, I moved forward and am leading my very best life ever, narc free!
It's glorious and I'm free.
I started mirroring all the narcissists in my life....then when I had my fill I finished the torture by ghosting everyone. I changed my number relocated and posted my happy life on social media....now these soulless bastards can eat their hearts out🙂being happy without the narc kills them. I'm a Gemini I have a sweet twin with a giving nature that's always taken advantage of and a demonic twin that's always under estimated that destroys everything in her path🤫😎😘
I did that too. I have been amazed about how wonderful life has been without them, and I'm grateful for my knowledge so I can keep other narcs out of my life. Many have tried since then. 13 years! It just keeps getting better!
@@ruthbates9549 I've encountered more narcs it's quite disgusting and disturbing knowing these demons really exist in human flesh....they get crafty in the deceit department. I've learned to be narcissistic back at them. I enjoy to see them suffer know narcs actually have feelings and you can hurt them it's satisfying. Yes agreed life is much more beautiful when you lay the dead to rest. Narcs are the true epiphany of the living dead.
The fact that I’m a Gemini too is epic. Idc the best revenge is mirroring them and dropping them like bad habit. I’ll play the nice sweet cheerleader until I see you are misusing your authority. I don’t play that controlling stuff. Once my twin has awaken to them, I keep that same energy towards them FOREVER. No more nice me.
I am a Pisces fishes swimming in different directions, must be confusing especially as I tend to be a bit of a hermit most times
@@sylvialaney4138 I enjoy Pisces. I myself like my own company more at times
Incredible! Thank you HG Tudor! It shows that my instincts and long years of therapy in order to put myself together, completely unaware I had been broken by my parental narcissists and completely co-dependant of my former partner, I have finally reached towards the level of my self acceptance high enough to “smell” a narcissist early enough to defend myself or disengage. And your videos I found not a long time ago, help me to sharpen my instincts now. I can now choose better to see what is necessary to use, if NOSO may not be applicable immediately.
I am a super empathy that spent 7 yrs being crushed by a narc boyfriend.l was broken even when l finally stood up to him.l found my strength and crushed him back.Not something l enjoy but l was empowered and l took myself back! Feels great.l dropped in on him 5 yrs later to find l was in control.l am still in control and sadly it feels brilliant! This will never happen again!Enuff is nuff!
I hope you reach the point where you don't have anything to prove.
Great for you I’m very proud of you. I know it probably wasn’t easy for you to do it but that’s great.
I didn’t care about revenge but only wanted the suffering to stop and be free again. As long I give her energy, she wins.
Great video! I just found out that I am a SUPER empath now, who has been evolved from an empath... Sadly but true, this upgrade almost cost me my sanity but I did it, no one can mess with me now. Set strong BOUNDARIES and stick to them. Don't get involved in any games. Narcs enjoy negative and emotional reactions. Don't be their fuel supply... Treat them with SILENCE....SWEET SILENCE...As a NO response is the most strong and profound response there is. PERIOD
Ya but what empath ever sets out to break anyone ?? Duh the strategy is for self protection
Because we HAD to
As a super empath I spend my good energy elsewhere...
My father was a sociopathic narcissist. There was no “breaking” him, only breaking the way I interacted with him. Agree with him or disagree with him, it was all fuel to him. His sociopathy meant he was very difficult if not impossible to manipulate - he had no emotional connection to anyone beyond what they could provide for him. He was able to keep me under control while I was a minor and financially dependent on him, but once I finished school and no longer lived with him I was able to break free - that’s the only way of breaking a narcissist - disengage from them. I would visit my dad and once he started falling into his old habits I would stand up, thank him for the visit and leave. Sometimes I was there for over an hour, sometimes I didn’t even get past the front hallway before turning and leaving. People don’t change, and narcissists can’t be broken - it’s who they are. It’s up to the people who fuel them to recognize this and disengage because it’s only by changing the nature of the relationship with the narcissist that you can break free from them.
Perhaps your father was a psychopath not a sociopath.
I had incredible guilt going no contact with my mother..which in turn caused me so much pain because of how much control I realized she had. After so many years of ignorance I couldn’t stand the emotional pain she continued to inflict and the sense of conditional love…
I am learning to no longer allow my guilt or intense emotions to contort my proper logical decisions.
I have to remind myself that I have and had to protect myself. It was not a selfish form of behaviour, but self preservation. My soul was no longer whole because of how much she had taken from me.
My healing truly began when I implemented no contact and stayed true to it.
The pain doesn’t really go away but it gets lighter as the freedom of the iron grip clasp is no longer…
Yes don't give control ignore
True... They don't try to break the narcissist.. Not their nature... They learn to dance around them.
I used my life's mantra with my narc. "If you contend with a fool, you shall become a fool." Then I walked away.
I woke up crying in a panic sleeping next to him the first ever time. And the second. Felt trapped. I knew subconsciously from day 1. Always trust your intuition. Couldnt get to me anymore so amped up to Physical stalking stage now. Wish me luck.
GODS BLESSINGS on you❤️
Leave him.
Prayers!
They always say the one with less emotions is the one who is in control of the relationship. Bang on when it comes to narcissists. This is why being emotionally detached, having no heart and viewing their partners as objects to use always gives them the upper hand. You are the one who has to always come begging for their love and attention. They think they won? I beg to differ. I know I have won. Why? Because I was strong enough to stand up to him. They may think I am weak but it takes a great deal of strength to not succumb to the sick control and manipulation tactics of a mentally ill person. I showed him I was a formidable opponent, or he would not have discarded me. If I was just his pathetic puppet, I would still be involved with a narcissist. I always asked him which side of you will I see today? And I always asked him to be himself, not who I wanted him to be. I often questioned who was he? I knew him but really didn't. He always changed. And had the worst temper tantrums. If I had my own opinions and challenged his opinions or his IMAGE of himself, he would blow up. He hated when I spoke the truth about him. You could see how he would start to break down as I brought up every uncomfortable truth about this monster, which he did not want to hear. He held onto his fantasy persona for dear life. His only defense against me was walking out, passive aggressive behavior, silent treatment, anger, laughing at me, minimizing, ridiculing me, changing the subject or full on assault against my character. He seemed to always want to change me. I would not let him. It was a very adversarial relationship. That is not love. And he claimed to love me almost everyday. But abuse is not love. Love is not about power. Love is not selfish, egotistical or self serving. Narcissists prey on people. They choose people like me who see the good in others. Who are giving. Who try hard. Who love hard. And that is what we are supposed to do in relationships. So, if you were a victim of this type of opportunistic predator, do not feel bad. They chose you because on some level, they envy you. For all the goodness in your heart. They will never have that. Pity them. They envy that you are a loving person who has the ability to securely attach to another person. That what comes naturally to you they will never be able to feel. The narcissist knows this alright, at some very deep level, whether they admit it or not. And likely the latter. My narcissist always made me beg for his attention and affection. I would chase him all the time when he pulled away. He loved me with all he had and the next moment he ignored me like I did not exist. It is as if he had an on/off switch. But in fact, it is because he never really cared. He only pretended to care. Most of us wise up to their game and that is when we are discarded. Because we now see the pathetic person before us, not the fake person they fooled us into thinking they were. No more ego boost. No more adoration or admiration. Bye bye supply. We see all their flaws and remind them of why they are not good enough. That is the last thing they want. And along comes someone new, whom they were grooming all along, and will fool, just like they fooled us. But rest assured, that person won't be fooled for long. In fact, probably less time than we did. Why? Because we are the ones who really fell in love with them. And it doesn't matter what anyone says, the narcissistic supply from the person who loved you is the greatest of all and will be unmatched.
That’s sad, it makes you feel like you should stay because it wasn’t their fault for being born that way. Once we know who (or what) they are it’s like leaving someone that has developed ms or some other crippling ailment. Till death do us part obviously didn’t mean anything to my narc because HE divorced ME. And yet I see how he is and still feel compassion even though I strictly have to act like cardboard around him. I still haven’t left but have opened my eyes with all this available knowledge on the subject. I may just keep on with the cardboard act yet I covertly dream of being without all their negativity 🤐
Spot on!
The narcissist puts on a mask, plays a role to protect his weak inner self. Deep down he knows though that he´s a weak person.
Narcissists are able to feel emotions but avoid them since they´re afraid to get hurt. But once in a while they open up and let their guards down if only for a very short time. And as an empathic person you can feel when it´s real, when for once they don´t act.......it will touch your heart........
And I agree with you 100%:
Although the narcissist subconsciousIy believes that he is not loveable at all he also knows which person really and truly loved him. And the narcissist will suffer and miss you a lot because as you stated "the narcissistic supply from the person who really loved you is the greatest of all and will be unmatched".
We can’t break an narcissist we can only disengage and move different 💯
HG, thank you for this video. The first time I ever encountered a narcissist in my social circle was when I got married and met my sister in law. The exertion of control began immediately after marriage. She was crossing boundaries SO hard. She made her teen daughter dress in bridal colours, her family did all of the performances, demanded.... no.... demanded all 3000 wedding photos. I curated 400 amazing ones for her but she was furious that she couldn't own every single wedding photo, even the bad ones. That's when I put my foot down, and a whooollllle family drama started. This is month 2 of our marriage. She cut us out from Mother's Day. That was the first Mother's day our husbands (2 brothers) weren't able to celebrate with their Mom together in 20 years. Same with Father's Day. I asked them politely for 3 months for a private family meeting (just the 4 of us) to talk this out, they always agreed but kept their distance. Finally, I called them out on it... "you keep agreeing to a family meeting but it's not happening, we just want to talk everything out." Then they reluctantly agreed. My sister in law was basically punishing the whole extended family for me gently and politely creating a minor boundary against her assertion of control. They had no leg to stand on in the family meeting, so things went back to normal. Both couples apologized (yes, including my husband and I, even though we did not have to). Family gatherings resumed for birthdays and holidays which is the only time I ever talk to her. It's been 5 years now. We keep it simple. Just small talk. I stopped trying to be friends with her immediately after that episode because I realised how dangerous she is. Whenever she pries, I politely divert the conversation. I feel really bad for her children, though. Her daughter is SUPER brilliant.... I mean... top of her class... top of everything... always. Very sweet. But as soon as she turned 18 and moved into a university dorm, she rebelled against her parents control so hard it was almost hard to witness. She's still top of her game, but it's like.... SHE is now creating boundaries against their control now. The younger son is quiet and sensitive. I feel very sorry for whichever girl he ends up marrying because that bride will have a narc Mother in Law who will never let her son go, and will always try to assert control on her son and his bride's life, even down to how they raise their own children. And the son is so quiet and shy, he will certainly let his Mother railroad both of them all the time. The bride will have no defence.
As a child of a narcissist, I feel like it will never end, not unless my narcissistic parent will pass away.